31 years later, my sister, who was my MOH, still talks about how I was such a bridezilla for my wedding. I literally have no idea what she is talking about because I let my mother plan everything for my wedding. Turns out, all the other bridesmaids (also sisters, and some friends) talk about how my sister, the MOH, acted like a bridezilla even though it wasn't her wedding. Huh, guess my memory is better than I thought. lol
Yea I feel that but it was my sister it was my aunt. I am usual super hyper and my sister didn’t like that about me when we where kids I put grew little bit of that and can control myself now. Since I am older sister I wanted her to have her special day. My aunt thought something was wrong and got my mom to asked me multiple time what was wrong to the point where it got annoying. My mom can go over the top too, and since she was trying to get my other little sister who is 4 under control. She was emotional and thought something was wrong with me. I kept explaining that I am trying to respect my sister for her wedding. Yea never again. If I ever get married it going to be simple and calm.
@@CheyenneGainer I don't understand all of your story. I get the feeling that you are a caring person. You seem like the type of kind person who is always trying to make others happy. Who's wedding was it? The people you talk about are you(eldest/second eldest?) your sister(older/younger?), other sister(4years old), Mom, and aunt. Maybe it was your eldest sister's wedding. Your sister didn't like it when you were hyper. You tried to keep calm during a wedding. Weddings are very stimulating and exciting. You were trying to supress your stimulated hyper-ness. You were hiding your discomfort. Your aunt thought you were uncomfortable. Your mother was distracted watching your younger sister, who was 4. Your mother later caught on and thought you were uncomfortable. You will never again supress your hyper tendencies because of the uselessness of trying to keep up a calm front. Correct?
My mom does that. Project her behavior on to me as if I did it. I’m usually calm and collected no matter what, she becomes a monster under the slightest whiff of stress then acts like it was me/everyone else when it’s done. Fortunately others have witnessed this and take her less seriously when she retells her stories
@@AnnaMorimoto Kinda sorry for the confusion, it was older younger sisters wedding, I am the oldest out of the three. I am 24, the other two are 22 and 4. My aunt who is my moms best friend likes to make simple problems blown out of proportion and my mom feeds off that too to a degree, if something goes wrong she goes in a emotional wreck sometimes. Since I was not acting like myself for the sake of my little sister wedding, Me and my 22 year old sister are complete opposites. All my siblings have different dads but same mom and I act more like my mom but I am trying to control my emotions and child like behavior, 22 year old sister acts more like her dad calm and collected/more mature. As kids I have always embarrassed her with my child like behavior/not acting like my age cause around that time I didn't want to grow up and it kinda put a wedge between us, but has we got older and the divorce hit between my mom and her dad we kinda began patching things up, and when are little sister was born who is 4 now we have gotten closer, so to show respect I try to control myself for her wedding since it was her day, while my aunt kept telling my mother something was wrong since I was acting out of character, I kept saying I was fine and nothing was wrong but my mom was stressed out from trying to keep my 4 year old sister in check along with the fact she and my aunt cooked most of the dinner for the wedding, so she started to get upset and crying thinking I was lying, But once I explained that wasn't the case they finally left me alone, I love my family I do but sometimes they can go a bit over board with simple things.
Years ago, a bride I read about had a small church wedding(immediate family and friends). The couple booked the biggest park for the reception and invited the whole town. People brought extra food, soft drinks, and game equipment. Everyone had a great time since it was relaxed and so low-key. The bride and groom said no gifts and that they just wanted to share the day with their neighbors.
This is why I want the most intimate and simplest wedding ever. I'd rather invest on my marriage than waste resources and energy for an extravagant wedding.
Agreed. I married my husband at the courthouse and had the reception at the bar we both worked at. Lol. We were only 23 at the time, so 🤷. We've been married 23 years next month, and are still happy together. Not having a huge wedding didn't effect our relationship in the least. In two years we plan to have a smallish voe renewal ceremony, where we will wear fancier clothes than we did the first time but we're still not doing in in a huge or ostentatious way. We're basically using it as an excuse for all of our family and friends to get together in semi formal dress, and for me to be able to wear a fancy dress for the first time in my life lol. We're using friends and their businesses, and for our "honeymoon" the wedding party ad our sons are all going on a ghost hunt at the haunted hotel where we're having the ceremony.
I'm pretty sure there's a correlation between money spent on weddings and divorce rates. With results being the more extravagant/expensive and more people there are, the faster the divorce happens. I believe it!
I never did get married, but I had told my parents forever, that if I did get married I did NOT want any ceremony but standing in front of a justice of the peace. If they wanted to spend money on something for me and new husband, I'd take help with a down payment on a house.
A friend showed me a MOH speech from a wedding he had attended in Alberta where the MOH started out well and ended up in a rant about how she should’ve married the groom and how she had loved him for longer than the bride, etc, etc. There was stunned silence until one of the bridesmaids got up and punched the MOH in the face and a free for all ensued. Ahhh…only in Alberia.
"The bridesmaid was poisoning me!" THEN GO TO A HOSPITAL, GET A TEST DONE AND HAVE THAT EVIL WOMAN ARRESTED FOR ATTEMPTED MANSLAUGHTER! Seriously, even kids know that if someone's hurting you or causing you harm, you let others know! This chick needs to be taken to court and sued for that stunt!
@@TheTewjr exactly because my first thought was “shouldn’t that crazy bih be in jail?” Atp I’m hoping that was a troll post because how could you not care to report that you were actively being POISONED?? If that crazy girl was bold enough to slowly poison you, which again is a criminal act because the outcome could’ve caused your death, how could you not press charges or have a conscience about her potentially doing it to someone else that you could’ve prevented by having her ass thrown in jail? The op’s nonchalantness about something that serious is super weird.
Re. the half-sister story, I think people sometimes treat parental relationships more like jealous RELATIONSHIP relationships, and that's weird as hell. The sister was adamant that there could only be ONE Mother of the Bride. That her sister could not accept the stepmother unless she replaced her own mother. Babe, it doesn't work like that.
My former best friend was supposed to be my maid of honor. She gushed how amazing my fiancé was and wanted me to help her find someone like him for her. Cue 2 weeks before the wedding she starts acting weird and being flaky and my fiancé was kind of acting weird too but I was really naive so didn’t catch on. Night before my wedding she ghosts me so I replace her with my sister. We have the wedding (it was small) and I found out later my fiancé/husband never signed the marriage license, I signed but had to rush to the restroom and he said he signed while I was in. Well after we had our honeymoon and I was back at work a coworker and I headed to a new restaurant for takeout while on lunch. While we were waiting to put in our order in I saw my coworker giving someone a dirty look and when I went to see what she saw I noticed my best friend and my husband (well what I thought was my husband) kissing and holding hands in the restaurant. I tried to leave without being seen but my coworker yelled hello to them letting them know they were caught. I ended things and was lucky he didn’t sign the marriage license (he was having a toenail removed and was on his dads insurance but would’ve ended when we got married. He would’ve been on my insurance then and 100% covered. My former best friend said it was my fault for not finding someone for her so she took mine and he said I worked too much (he quit his job because he got written up for harassment). Here’s the kicker, she got pregnant by him and he joined the military but dishonorably discharged for being arrested for trying to solicit an underage prostitute online (she said she was 13/14) that turned out to be an undercover cop. He spent time in prison and now a registered sex offender and she had 5 kids by 5 guys and living off her parents. I’m ,arrived and have been with 3 kids. I don’t think I dodged a bullet, I dodged a grenade.
She sounds clingy and jealous. Not your fault if she doesn't want to make an effort to find her half, it's something she should be working upon finding one if she wanted that really bad. Why would you find her one , I mean people don't owe people for their ego. Clearly she doesn't like boundaries but butting in.
I asked my sister to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. Two weeks after asking her, she call and told me, " she could not be in my wedding because I was getting married in a church and I'm a non believer." I could have cared less where I got married, but it was important to my husband, we do it in a church. After she said what she said, I did remind her, she got married wearing white, in a catholic church, after living with her fiancé for over a year and "not having sex."
This was hysterical! Got one for you: At the reception, the best man came up to me and said, “I didn’t give you all a wedding gift. It’s common knowledge that guests have a year to give a gift, and I don’t think ya’ll will make it that long.” We were married for 24 years (together for 28). He never did give us a gift.
We went to the courthouse to get married, then had a reception at a restaurant that did group "family style" parties. No fuss over the legal portion of the ceremony. No fuss over the reception because the restaurant took care of all of it. Then we went funnel cloud chasing on our way home because there were funnel clouds all over the place, but none ended up touching down so no damage was done. It was a great day. I wish we could have encouraged a few more people to take photos with their phones or something, cause ours were put away. But overall, low key is best. The restaurant group party meant we could still invite about 35 family and friends (this was before Covid), but in a very low effort and no drama setting. If you don't want fuss and drama but you still want to have friends and family celebrate with you, I highly recommend looking up restaurants that do group parties in your area.
We did a similar thing. We had a ceremony at City Hall, then had a buffet-style reception the following day at a restaurant. My sister-in-law was my one and only bridesmaid, and all I asked was that she wear a red dress. I let her pick the style. My mother-in-law helped us book the restaurant and order the invitations and cakes. We all made the table decor ourselves - there was a lot of hot glue! My mother-in-law also paid for my red dress (that I wore on the wedding day, I believe it was only about $60) and a friend of her's gave me a white dress that I wore to the reception. We just went to our regular hairdresser to get our hair done and I did my own makeup. One of my SO's friends volunteered to be our photographer as his gift to us. Weddings can be stressful, but not if your loved ones help out, you all try to have as much fun as possible, and they don't have to be expensive. It was still a great day for us.
The restaurant served homemade pie as part of the group dinner dessert. I also got a few gluten free cookies from a trusted baker for a couple cousins who are gluten free.
The half-sister/MOH story: look at their ages. OP is 27, half-sis is 26. Unless OP’s mom and dad divorced immediately after her birth and he met and slept with the stepmom within three months, half-sis is an affair baby. Not that any of it is relevant to the story, but it may play some kind of part-that kind of history doesn’t entirely go away.
I mean, OP’s mom and dad were not necessarily married (or even together). ooor maybe OP herself is the affair baby and dad/stepmom worked it out somehow 🤷🏻♀️ but yes, I see how the super close ages could indicate some previous conflict
Mmm I thought that age gap was a little sus as well. But they sister still had no right to try and excluder her sisters mom that she was raised by even if she did also get raised by her step mom. Its not rude and clearly step sis has some issues with being a half sister or maybe the parents relationship as a whole
Just so you know, not all DIL hate their MIL. My MIL is a goddess! I love her to bits! She has been such a gift to me the past 18 years I have known his family and I thank my lucky stars I won the lottery when it comes to extended family.
@@Dobviews - to turn an old saying, "good news is no news" - no one really wants to hear about normal people behaving normally, whether it's MiLs, brides, teachers or police officers. They want to hear about insane people being insane.
@@Dobviews - I wasn't intending to offend; just pointing out that a lot of people prefer disasters to triumphs. I don't happen to be one of them. If that makes me "a puddle of hate" in your book, you should read other books.
Oof, that half-sister story hit hard. I remember the first (and last) time my sister called me half-sister. She's older, but we were both adults at the time. She was angry with me about something that didn't actually happen and wasn't listening to any explanations. Then she accused me of something horrible and very insulting. For the first time, I stood up for myself and refused to apologize for something I hadn't done "just to keep the peace" and asked for an apology of my own for the insult. She pulled the half-sister crap. She kind of died to me in that moment because she is one of those who are super intense about "family" like she's a Toretto or something, but the first time i stand up for myself, im "JUST a half-sister". It was the last time she said it to me, because I went NC until she was willing to own her shittiness in that moment; she never has.
I'm just so sorry. That is awful. I am from a blended family, and my family is blended as well. I couldn't imagine one of the kids saying something so hurtful. I wouldn't know what to say if one of my sisters said this to me. I'm just really sorry 😢
I had a bridesmaid drop out of the wedding and my life, thankfully plenty of months beforehand. Found out from some mutuals that she was salty that the 'funny' friend was getting married first and that she had 'grown past' high school friends. (We were 22 at the time and I got engaged at 17). I'm glad she wasn't in my wedding
My favorite cousin had a huge wedding in the 1980s. Although we were very close since we were babies, she did NOT ask me to be MOH and I was so relieved! She knows me well. I was one of 6 bridesmaids, and I requested to be placed furthest from center stage since I'm a painfully shy introvert. She paid for all her bridal party dresses (they were pretty!), and did NOT have a tacky bachelorette party, but she, the MOH, and I went bar hopping and drove around the Ft. Worth Stockyard area in her MOH's work van with her huge pet MaCaw parrot, who loudly screeched profanity out the window at folks. I wish we had video! The Stockyards are famous for the bar and music scene and there are always tourists walking down the streets. We would pull up to a group, they would see this gorgeous bird because the windows were down, and just about the time they would comment on what a beautiful bird he was, out of his beak came, "EFF you, c*ck-shucking, mother-cluckers!" (but with language not allowed on RUclips). 😂 We were still sore the next day from laughing, and we had to stop talking about the experience the day of the wedding because it got us all laughing again and it was ruining our makeup. I just talked to my cousin on the phone last week, for over 2 hours (we live 1500 miles apart). 30+ years later, we were still cracking up over that bird!
Oh, the ghosting story is soo close to home for me. I had a very small wedding, like 25 people. I didn't have a bridal party mostly because I don't have a lot of friends. I asked one of my oldest childhood friends to be my maid of honor, she said yes. She wasn't really overwhelmed with duties, all she had to do is go with me to our hotel the evening prior, help me get ready for the photoshoot on the day of the wedding and that's mostly it. During the preparations she was sending me pics of how her outfit was coming up (it was a themed steampunk wedding) and TWO DAYS before the wedding things go like this: first she askes me if my hair lady could do her hair as well, I checked with her and said yes, she stopped returning my calls or answering my messages after that. Fully disappears, through my mother who called her mom we get a weird reply that my maid of honor supposedly caught a stomach flu and won't attend. This was on the day before the wedding. I had to reschedule some things and we were fine, but it surely was disappointing and sad that she wasn't there, and she still wouldn't answer my calls. The best man did a lot of her work, bless him (every bride needs a gay best man, I tell ya). She wrote me a message with congrats for my wedding, never called. And started ghosting me. I went on my honeymoon still hoping we could fix this. Bought her souvenirs. When I returned I tried to reach her, asking to meet and sort things out. It's been six years since I've stopped trying. I'm to this day so confused. I could understand if this was some random person, but it was my close friend, we knew each other for over 20 years. WTF? And yeah, that friendship is over.
That could be jealousy or envy of your so called bestfriend or that she has grown out of the friendship and wanted to end it but to save her reputation, she probably why ghosted you. The fact you mention, the part , where she ghosted you the day before wedding could have been a resonable excuse since you reached out to check her and her being irresponsive shows that she probably had bad intentions for you . Quantity of friendship doesn't matter but the quality of you amd your friends in your friendship speaks volume of relations and bondings among all.
You know, a Justice of the peace wedding at the courthouse is just as binding and a lot less stressful. I've heard a lot of nightmare wedding stories, a lot fewer "it all went as planned and was wonderfull" stories. When I got engaged my sister and step-mother tried to take over all the planning, I was actually told they were doing me a favor in doing it. I shut it down immediately. Then my mother-in-law tried the same thing, again, I shut it down. We ended up getting married in my mother-in-law's livingroom with just a preacher and a couple of friends, total 8 people.Less stress, resulting in a 43 year marriage and three kids. It doesn't have to be traumatizing at all, just depends on how much crap a couple is willing to put up with.
Love that…less stressful and just as binding! On the alter, my husband had to ask our priest if he could kiss the bride cause Monsignor kissed me first and wouldn’t let the hug go…he was a sweet guy
My parents got married at city hall (our country's version of a courthouse wedding), and they have an incredibly happy marriage. When I was younger, I wanted the big, frilly, traditional wedding. But now that I'm in my 30s, all I want is a city hall wedding just like theirs 😊
My sister - who has a talent for it - was our wedding planner and that saved me so much stress! She's respectful and got our input on everything... So it can go either way :)
My MOH, who I had been friends with for 15 years, did me dirty. First she accused me of only ever talking about the wedding (I barely talked about it with her as my fiance and I did all the planning together), when we went bridesmaid dress shopping she spent the whole day talking about what she was going to do for her wedding (she didn't even have a partner at the time), then the one thing that I trusted her to plan (my hens night) she didn't plan, then on my wedding day she made a scene during the reception about how she was so worried she would never get married, she never prepared a MOH speech, she told me during my reception that I wasn't going to be her MOH (something we'd planned since we were little), then months later I found out from one of my bridesmaids (who had ended up filling in the MOH role because she's amazing) that my MOH had been badmouthing me to others calling me a bridezilla - again, my fiance and I had planned the whole wedding together which was a simple DIY wedding. She ended up cutting me out and ghosted me a few months after the wedding. Ran into her older sister years later who then confronted me and accused ME of ghosting HER. Yeah, glad we're not friends anymore, she never treated me like one anyway I realise now, I just wish I'd realised it before my wedding.
Your friend sounds like my ex friend. Super jealous and a narcissist. We should be glad to have them out of out lives! Everything is a competition to them.
I got married this past May, I had invited my “friend” to the wedding and she arrived almost an hour after the ceremony and photos, I wasn’t even in the wedding dress anymore. She shows up in full makeup, hair done and everything then proceeded to ask why we hadn’t waited for her…she knew exactly what time the wedding would start and she wasn’t on time. She blamed me for her missing my wedding and caused this dramatic scene in front of literally everyone. I’m no longer friends with her and I’m living my best life. Literally narcissism at it’s finest, I have no time for it. 🤷🏻♀️ DEFINITELY glad she missed the whole thing because she was never a true friend.
That's crazy. I hv gotten rid of a toxic narcissistic "friend" like that. I told her "You may be the leading lady in your own story but-make no mistake- you are NOT the lead character in my life! " Seriously walking around thinking that you are the most important in everyone else's lives is just insane. Good riddance to bad rubbish 💯
Been married twice. First wedding had a small wedding party, it was fine, but I realized when thinking about my second wedding I didn't want to repeat all of that. About half the size of the first wedding, no bridal party, no speeches for people to cry through, no first dance (we did karaoke together!), no bouquet or garter toss, short ceremony. I just wanted to throw a party and get married in it. It was the funnest wedding I've ever been to and the day was stress free from the start. Absolutely perfect. Highly recommend to step outside the box for the big day.
I’ve been married twice too. The first one was a big wedding. When it was time to plan the second one, I told my fiancé that I didn’t need a big wedding. He said that he wanted a big one because he was so excited. We planned the big wedding, but it was 2020 and we ended up getting married in a friend’s backyard with just our family and very close friends in attendance. We thought it was perfect and wished we had planned it that way from the start. We decided to have a reception on our anniversary since we had already bought a lot of the things. That was fun and we got to have the big celebration he had been looking forward to.
I'd love for us to have karaoke at our wedding reception but the thing is...I'm the only one who can sing. I know that sounds conceited but it's true. My family values music a lot, I always grew up with music playing in the kitchen while grandma cooked dinner and music playing in the bathroom while mom got ready for work. But I'm the only one who's actually musically talented. And my boyfriend's family is not musical at all. Sure they like music but it doesn't mean as much to them as it does to us. And none of them can sing either. So if we had karaoke I'm not sure anyone would actually have any fun.
Sooo true about everything you said Charlotte! Especially about coming to a decision about who you're keeping in your life moving forward. People seem to show their true colours at weddings!
When I got married I obviously chose my best friend as the MOH. Two weeks before the wedding she met up with me to tell me she can’t be in it anymore because she doesn’t support my marriage. FF 18 yrs later, she’s still single and my hubby and I have 3 kids and still together.
These stories are the reason I changed my mind about being an event planner, weddings are usually the most prestigious events but also the most stressful especially when something goes very very wrong
Me and my friend arranged a night out & last minute she cancelled because she had nothing to wear, I thought it was a shitty excuse but I didn't make a big deal about it.. A couple of hours later she posted a picture of herself ready to go out & I felt like being petty so I liked the picture, she then deleted it and uploaded a new one.. She didn't speak to me again after that and I have no idea what her problems was.. I know its not a wedding story but the story about the bridesmaid ghosting really reminded me of that.. I didn't see her that often but I loved her to death and we even used to say we were soulmates. It honestly is so hurtful when someone who's supposed to be your friend does that to you
I hate all these friend-drama. Be it between two friends or between certain people of a group, or one or more being pushed out of a group for no reason. Like, why you do that?! As freaking adults? Like if its so bad, just go talk to the other people like "yo not your fault but for some reason I don't want to hang out maybe we outgrew each other". That sucks, but why do people always have to create that much drama and hurt "friends" so deeply. Just no.
If she could do that to you out of nowhere with no explanation it kinda sounds like she wasn’t truly the close friend you thought she was and you may have missed some red flags along the way. In hindsight can you think of any examples of red flags you may have missed?
@@iAquarius202 It was one of them friendships where we wouldn't see each other for ages and when we did see each other it would be like no time had passed, we wasnt in each others company enough for me to notice any red flags, if that makes sense.. She was abit self absorbed at times but isn't everyone? I think she knew I caught her out lying & she had to much of a big ego to admit she was wrong and apologise or even just offer me an explanation.. She clearly didn't value our friendship as much as I thought she did.. Good riddance I say, I don't need people like that in my life anyway
I hate stuff like that! A few years ago a friend (we'll call her Emma) told our group she wouldn't be able to make it to our friend Jenny's Bachelorette party two months away because of a family emergency. We said no problem, we'll see you at the wedding. Around the same time as the Bachelorette party, Emma posted pictures of her and some other friends on a trip to Atlantic City... Emma was also engaged. At Jenny's wedding, Emma told us they were doing a small ceremony with just some family members. But when Emma posted photos, we saw some of those same friends at the ceremony. Needless to say Jenny and I don't talk to Emma anymore.
I lost a good friend of over 10 years over a bridesmaid dress. I was one of her bridesmaids. She told us that our dresses should be whatever we wanted, but they needed to be lime green (Ew, I know). Then when her sister, who was also a bridesmaid) decided to have a custom dress made for it; my friend told us that we needed to have the same dress, same fabric, and style done too. The thing is, her sister lived in the middle east while the rest of us lived in Puerto Rico, so it was a bit difficult to find the same fabric and color to match her. Since I didn't have the budget to have someone make me a dress (btw, the wedding was in Florida, so I needed to pay for the flight, hotel, and expenses), I found a store that had the exact style, color, and fabric that she wanted but at an affordable price. I showed it to my friend, and she loved it and told me to go for it, so I bought it. The next day, the now-turned bridezilla decided to rant in the bridesmaid's group chat, about how I got a dress without her approval and that I was so unhelpful (I went to Florida to help her find things for her wedding, but I guess she forgot about that) with the AUDACITY to get a dress that was not custom made. We found out that she talked to her sister and mom, who decided to tell her how evil I was for buying a store-bought dress. At this point, we were organizing her bachelorette party, so we called her a few times to let her know the plans; she treated us like shit and even hung up the phone on us when we tried to also talk about the damn dress because we couldn't find the fabric she wanted. Half of us were tired of her shit, but we did the party (at her house), she never thanked us for it, not even looked at us, and it was so awkward that the next day half of us told us we weren't coming and she even insulted me before blocking me everywhere. Her wedding ended up with only her sister, one friend and another girl who she didn't even like as their bridesmaids, all with different dresses, none of them were Lime green (NOT EVEN HER SISTER'S DRESS WHO WAS THE CUSTOM MADE, it ended up being a super metallic gold dress lol) A friendship of around 12 years was done because of a damn dress. They're no longer together.
I had a tiny wedding, and ZERO people standing up with my husband and myself. My mother and my aunt were the ONLY people who helped me, and I LOVED my beautiful wedding day! And the best part, our wedding didn't make us go into debt! Celebrating 20 years on Aug 9th 💛💞💛💞
"I will have a very small wedding with one million of you there" - Charlotte 🙂 . Definitely we will be there Charlotte . No main character syndrome symptoms from us potatoes we promise 😁 .
I will dress in a gown and heels and celebrate from afar, drinking wine from the bottle on my porch and dancing like I was 30 again. Thanks for all the laughs Charlotte
I had an idea of who I wanted to be my bridesmaids whenever I got married ( before I even met my husband). So when the time came I was excited to ask these girls for the honor of celebrating this day with me. They all had been part of very important times in my life. One of them (a friend from school) was happy and honored and didn't give me any trouble until the day she had to go get her measurements for her dress. I gave her the address several days ahead and we spoke that morning, no problem. However, later that day my aunt (who will be making all of our dresses) called me to ask if my Friend said she would be late. I said no, but I will ask. I thought she got lost. I texted her, called her, I even tried to get in touch with her mom. Nothing, no response. I kept trying to get in touch several days later until finally her mom told me she was isolated because she had contact with a COVID patient. I understood and asked to be informed when she could go back out so we could reschedule. I never got a response from her again. Her Mom said she was probably busy and eventually stopped answering me also. However she (my friend) would like all my pictures on social media and look at all my stories. So I guessed she was doing this on purpose. I never understood what went wrong. So I replaced her and moved on. I'm now happily married.
I remember the days prior to getting married being asked why was I so calm about everything. Didn't freak over the details, went low key for decorations - honestly I didn't care about the small/big details, just that I'd be surrounded by the people I loved including my sister in law who was my MOH and looked STUNNING in her dress 🙂. I might not be in that relationship any more but I'll always prefer small, intimate with people I trust over these messes of a wedding. Having been put on a four week absence due to current health conditions, I live for our wonderful Charlotte's videos - thank you 😊🥰
Oh man! My aunt makes funerals all about her... And was surprised to not be invited to my wedding. I've seen enough Charlotte Dobre videos to know better. 😄
My aunt (father's sister) tried so hard to make a scene at my father's funeral. So I feel you...can't believe how "family" can be so pathetic. Not to mention I never spoke to her ever again!
My Best friend was getting married to another one of my childhood friends and I was super excited for them. The bride's maid of honor was a cousin that I dated while we were in college. The MOH hated me even though she broke it off many years prior. Nothing I did was ever good enough for the wedding in her eyes. I was a groomsman what was I supposed to do for a wedding. I was not even the best man. My only responsibilities were to take care of the Groom and get him to the Altar. But I stepped up and paid for the open bar, which I did as a gift to my friends. I even paid for brunch, champagne and juices for the bride and her party on the morning of the wedding. I did not know the bride was pregnant and was not able to drink any alcohol. She yelled at me at the reception and told me my gifts were pointless since it had no real benefit to the couple getting married. I told her that I paid $5000 for the bar. I reminded her that the breakfast that she and her friends enjoyed was another $1000 dollars. And what really pissed her off was when I told her that the Dom Perignon that she nicked from the Couple's table and drinking at the time was $300. It could have been saved for another time when the bride wasn't pregnant.
Wow!! That's so generous and saved the couple so much money they probably put towards their child and medical bills. Sounds like the MOH was still bitter about your breakup and still likes you but acts like a solid b word as a result. 😂
I feel for the bridesmaid regarding the dress. I got mine from a 2nd hand store and it was 2-3 sizes to big. I paid for dry-clean and tailoring. When I received the dress it was too small (I was a size 1 at the time) The tailor said she used her 14 year old daughter as a model for the measurements because the pins were lost in transport. I ended up buying a new dress (full price). Nonsense.
I had a super small wedding. 50 people (including the bridal party), no drama, no stress. My bridal party included my 2 sisters, my bff of 15 years and my stepdaughter. I planned the whole thing with my florist and I just asked my bridal party to show up, get their hair and makeup done and have fun. It was a blast and I wouldn’t change it for anything.
I totally had a bridesmaid that looked absolutely miserable in all of the wedding pictures that she was in, and I think that is literally one of the most selfish things somebody can do! I just don’t understand why someone would purposely ruin what should be lovely memories of someone’s wedding day! Of course this bridesmaid also treated the staff at the dress store extremely rudely, to the point that I constantly felt that I should go behind her and apologize, all because she had to pay a few extra dollars for a bigger size dress. I believe that was also behind her attitude at the wedding, that she was the biggest bridesmaid. But I didn’t care what size she was; I picked her as a bridesmaid because I loved her and considered her one of my very best friends! Shouldn’t that count for something?!🥴
@@nela3986 Wow, unbelievable! It’s just amazing how incredibly selfish some people can be! I’m so sorry that you had to experience that; you didn’t deserve it! But I’m glad you made your peace with it and moved on in a way that puts yourself and your mental health and happiness first!💜
Sorry, but people don't owe you specific emotions. You can't control people to the point that you get to choose if they feel joy or not. Someone not smiling during your event is "the most selfish thing somebody can do"? If your wedding and your memories for a lifetime can be ruined by someone not smiling, they were pretty fragile to begin with. People are allowed to have things going on in their lives and on their minds other than your weddings. And to be honest, even from your perspective, it sounds like it was probably warranted. You don't sound very thoughtful or supportive the way you talk about how she was bigger than everyone else and had to pay extra money due to her size. People shouldn't even have to pay any money for a dress you are making them buy. That's a ridiculous custom.
It counts for everything. Sometimes you find out who your true friends are. My maid of honor & a bridesmaid dropped out of my wedding 2 weeks before my wedding. The bridal shop were wonderful as I had to ask 1 friend to be my maid of honor & another to be a bridesmaid. They agreed. The dresses were altered at warp speed & it all turned out great. That was 42 years ago. My wedding was a blast & we had to extended it an hour because no one wanted to leave. People still say it was the best wedding ever. Their loss. Haven't seen or spoken to them since.
I'm sorry the pictures didn't end up great, but you can't always fake feeling good on a photo. I've had severe depression, and at that time, all photos with my friends at parties I literally look like I'm gonna kill myself in the hour, when it actually was when I was feeling the best through the disorder. I really was enjoying myself (as much as I could being depressed), and I thought I was smiling on those photos. Turn out not at all. You can't always put on a poker face when you don't feel good as a whole. It can kinda explain the rudeness to staff. While it is still rude, for her it might have been them confirming how she didn't fit in (probably NOT her first time confronted with it either) and might have brought up how she felt about her body at the time. The dress probably was uncomfortable for her to wear. I think you couldn't have known with planing a wedding and all, but talking to her about why she reacted a certain way might have been the solution. Maybe her not being a bridesmaid would have made her more comfortable because not in the spotlight ? But I don't know instead of lamenting on wedding photos I would try to know if she is okay ?
My sister had the best wedding! They decided early on that they were going to avoid as much drama as possible by only asking us siblings to stand with them during the ceremony. Each pair of siblings was assigned a color (my brother and I had navy blue) and I was allowed to pick whatever dress I wanted as long as it was floor length. The wedding wasn't even that small, there were over 100 people and it was pretty fancy, but it was the most chill wedding I've been a part of. We even got to sit down during part of the ceremony so we didn't have to stand the whole time! Most of their friends made comments along the lines of "I wish we had done that for our bridal party" or "That's what I should do for my wedding." If I ever get married, I hope I can be as down-to-earth as my sister.
I took so much guidance from Charlotte's wedding video, really helped me out. Minus some last minute bridal meltdowns from me it all went off without a hitch. Meltdown was over the officiants ceremony script that he wanted to change last second and I almost imploded since we had gone over it like 5 times. He's my best friend though so it worked out
When I got engaged, I had 2 MOHs because I considered them both my best friend at the time, and couldn't choose between them. Then 4 months before the wedding, one of them decided she didn't want to be my friend anymore and dumped me after 8 years of friendship 🤷♀ That was fun. Made me feel terrible for not choosing the other one to be my sole MOH in the first place. It all worked out for the best. Made me so much more appreciative of the people I had standing with me :)
Removing the biological mother of the bride from the wedding is so odd, if you really wanted your own mom to be included you wouldn't exclude the actual mother, you would have them both there. It's quite obvious that either the MoH or step mother doesn't like the biological mother of the bride.
I have your videos on a loop because they're some comfort for me and it's so fun listening to the older ones where you say, "if I get married" and things like that knowing you're engaged. 🥰🥰🥰 I hope you know how much we cheer for you.
For my wedding I had it in Mexico where the majority of my mom’s family lives. I had cousins and aunts help and they were all wonderful. I have only known them for 4 years or so and I will forever be grateful. We all very much enjoyed the 9 hour party 😃
I’ve always wanted the smallest, most intimate wedding possible and after watching all of these videos from you about wedding fiascos, I stand by that 👍🏻🥂
I need Charlotte as my daughter-in-law. I have 3 sons and such hope they meet a girl like Charlotte. Funny, sweet, sincere, smart, (I can't say she's hot, cause that would be creepy 😉), and she seems to have morals. Parents did an outstanding job raising such a sweet shining star. I love ya, Charlotte 😍. Thanks for always making me laugh.
3:50 - idk who needs to hear this but 'everyone else is mad at you/talking bad about you/hates you, but I'm sticking up for you' is a classic manipulator tactic. It isolates you from the others and makes it so you only trust that one person (who is usually actively spreading negative stuff about you to everyone else). As soon as you hear this line from someone, compare notes with the group! Manipulators count on us being to embarrassed or hurt to check in with the others but honestly if the others were really upset then talking to them directly would be the right course of action anyway.
When I was younger, I had all these dreams of having a huge bridal party full of my closest friends. I watched all my friends and acquaintances have that and I was always so jealous because I didn’t have a ton of friends because I prefer small intimate groups or one-on-ones. I had three bridesmaids who were my friends (they didn’t know each other at all) and a fourth bridesmaid who was my sister in law. They were all wonderful, not only to me but to each other. I planned all the wedding and the shower and the bachelorette but that’s just cause I’m a control freak 😆 plus I didn’t want to burden anyone and my parents paid for it to help my girls out. Looking back, I don’t regret my small bridal party at all. I had an amazing time and all of them are still in my life if not closer than before. Moral of the story: Weddings aren’t popularity contests. You don’t need to have 12 bridesmaids to prove anything to anyone, especially not Instagram. A small intimate group of people you know will be in your life even after the wedding is just as good, maybe even better depending on your personality. There’s nothing wrong with a big wedding party, but it does increase the chance of drama or clashing personalities. Make it *your* day, not how you think your day *should* be because of what other people did or want for theirs.
That’s amazing ❤️ I used to think mine would be small due to being an introvert but then my circle grew and well I’m going to be having 12 wonderful ladies by my side and idk if we will all stay close in the future but I know for sure is I love and value each one of them ☺️
I have a friend who’s daughter is getting married in September. I’ve decided to go, even though it’s a 12 hour drive from my house. We have supported each other throughout our friendship of 32 years. Through weddings and funerals and other life milestones. The only problem is that my mother is trying to get me to not go. Mind you, I’m 59 years old! Since I’ve told her about it, she continues to bring up reasons that I shouldn’t go. Gas prices, car trouble, expense of hotel etc. It’s really annoying. I’ve avoided talking to her about it, because it’s just too much. The reason is simple. She’s afraid of everything. Although I’ve done things like this before by myself. Lots of times. It’s like she thinks I’m still 12 years old or something. It’s kind of put a damper on the whole thing. But I’m still going! Can’t wait!
The only drama I had before my wedding was 3 weeks before I broke my foot. I went and returned my heals and bought ballet slippers and walked down the aisle holding on to my dad. Most guests had no idea until I sat at the reception with my foot up on a chair.
So my partner and I are planning a destination wedding. I just keep watching your bridezilla videos to ground me on how to make sure I’m coming off with as many no pressure vibes as possible! Also, as a former Winnipeger who’s lived in England for years, your VERY Canadian accent always puts a smile on my face!
So glad you posted this. A always wanted to put my story in the comments but it was a bridsmaid not a bridezilla. I had a wedding where I did 90% myself. I made my own invites and husband and I sent them out. I made my own bouquets and boutineirs. We did every meeting. Only thing was for the groomsmen to get fitted and bridesmaids to pick a dress in this one shade of blue. Didn't have to be the same dress, not same shape, could be different lengths. Just had to be bought in the one color. This way they could grind something that was affordable too. I think each dress was around $100 so not bad. I had one complain about wearing a dress, when all she e er did was wear dresses, just didn't like any material. Then told me after ceremony they were going to change. They weren't getting stuck in it all night. All the others talked to her and she gave up and wore the dress. During photos complained the whole time about how long it took. Complained when we stopped for food which I paid for, complained about going to 2 different places for photos. Ya she left mid phots. I have a whole bunch where she's not in them. Ps this bridesmaids was my sister. Made I got married first.
My sister's MOH was going through opiate withdrawals during the ceremony. A very green experience. My husband was standing with me at the back and after she came back out of the restroom she asked, "What do I do? Do I go back up or what?" My husband replied, "You are the MOH, your place is up there standing with your friend."
Charlotte, I hope that you marry the most wonderful and loving man of your dreams, and have an absolutely fabulous wedding. Sweetheart, you deserve only the very best.
Videos like these make me so glad for the bridesmaids I have chosen- we share memes, laughs, and fun ideas in our group chats and are doing an escape room for the bachelorette since none of us are heavy drinkers. Weddings do bring out the crazy, we just try to make it a good crazy!
We had the brilliant idea to plan our wedding in about 2 weeks - everyone who wanted to come (family and close friends) was invited, but because it was short notice it was self-limiting. We ended up paying only for my husband’s suit, which he wears still today. Because all the elements were cheap and easy, a lot of our family and friends were delighted to pay for something small. Clearance dress, dinner for 12, and doughnuts as our wedding cake. It was spontaneous feeling and people still talk about how much fun they had.
I got ghosted before one of my former best friend's wedding. She actually dropped the whole group of us (we were a group of 4 best friends). The extra shifty party was that she kept telling us we'd be invited/invites were in the mail. Like, if you're gonna drop us, be upfront.
I was “un asked” to be a brides maid and MoH by the two people in my life who asked me. I had questioned the reason for the one who asked me to be MoH because we were not that close, the one who asked me to be a brides maid is still one of my lifelong best friends. There was a lot of drama surrounding the MoH gig, which was completely perpetrated by the bride (at one point I thought I was losing my mind because what was going on was so unreasonable) and I was fine with being let go of the responsibility. I was hurt when my dear friend told me that she did not need me to be one of her brides maids, but she hoped I would still come to the wedding. I was hurt, but I also understood that, because of my life circumstances at the time, it was unreasonable to expect that I could do anything but just come to the wedding on time. No real harm done, in the long run. Because of all of this, I just had my sister be my Maid of Honor and invited my goddaughter to be a junior bride’s maid. If she ended up not showing (she and her mom were coming in from out of state,) there would be no problem. The dear friend of mine was there, the other woman was not, and absolutely not welcome to be there. It was nice and the only drama was that my uncle and 98 year old grandma, who had driven over 500 miles to be there, were 1/2 hour late to the ceremony and I had to calm my dad down because he and his brother have never gotten along. It all turned out fine. Funny bit of drama from my mom, though…since the wedding was held up (and my husband was already standing at the front of the church) my mom came back to where I was and frantically asked me if anyone had told my husband that I was there?!? I told her that he must assume I am there. She reminded me that sometimes brides leave grooms at the altar and he may be worried. I reminded her that we were already married at the courthouse a few months prior and asked her where she thought I would be other than at the church? This ceremony, legally, was completely unnecessary. It is a rite of passage for us to share with our family and friends.
11:20 so true! I had a best friend for 30+ years...it ended 3 months ago. I went to her wedding, she never came to mine (🚩). I went to her home, she never came to mine (🚩). I supported her for many years, and recently when I needed support...she was not there (🚩). And so many more 🚩 along the years! I got married 18 years ago...I still don't know why I waited so long to get rid of her!
Don't let these stories scare you! I had a wonderful wedding, my sister was MOH, I had an 8-month pregnant brides maid, my sister-in-law as a brides maid, my fiancee's best friend as a brides maid and my childhood best friend. Listening to these stories, things could have gone so wrong. But all these ladies were classy, loved each other and us and it was amazing. It can be done!
You had an eight-month pregnant woman as a bridesmaid?! You are very brave. We don't have bridesmaids culture where I am from but I would never make an eight-month pregnant lady be my bridesmaid. An honored guest sure but no not bridesmaid. I would be worried the entire time if she fell, fainted or suddenly went into labor. Weddings are already stressful. If something happened to her, more problems will ensue.
@@btsarmyforever3816 I didn't make her 😆 I asked her if she would like to be and she happily accepted. She loved it! She loved getting dressed up and spending the time with us. She had her son a month later. We love looking at the wedding photos and telling my God-son he was "at our wedding" 🥰
@@jenn8179 Aww that's very sweet of u. But seriously u are very brave lol. I would have fainted from worry if I had a guest so late into pregnancy, much less a braidsmaid! "What if someone bumped into her" "What if she got food allergy" "what if she went into labor!" Like I would def be too worried. I am glad u had a fun wedding!
So, my husband and I got married in secret and my mom found out thanks to one of his uncle’s posting “Welcome to the Family” right on my Facebook page when we had Facebook. So a month later, we had a ceremony and my step monster at the time wouldn’t let me dad come to the ceremony whatsoever. My Own Mother was so happy about that and even said that she wished my stepdad, who she was only dating at the time, could’ve walked me down the aisle. Needless to say, EVERYONE who heard her say that literally ignored her and tried to keep me away from her as much as possible. Especially since I was 6 months pregnant at the time.
My day is ALWAYS more funnier because of this Channel. I'm so addicted to this channel. Charlotte's reactions and jokes are the best. She deserves even more success!!!❤️
I had a friend who first introduced me to my now husband, and when I was planning our wedding (four years later) I guess she assumed that since she had introduced us, she would be our MOH. The problem was that during those four years my friend had shown a tendency to make herself the center of attention wherever she went. She wasn't nasty or mean, but she did tend to try to outshine everyone around her. I debated asking her to be my MOH or even just a bridesmaid, but I *really* didn't want her hogging all the attention on my day. Instead I asked her to greet everyone coming into the church and have them sign the guest book. She didn't say anything but I was pretty sure she was disappointed. I probably should have told her why I didn't pick her for a bridesmaid, but I didn't want to deal with the drama. Her fiance was the best man so she and he both were invited to the rehearsal dinner, which was an informal buffet at a chain restaurant. After rehearsal we told everyone the name of the restaurant where we were meeting and we all jumped in our cars and drove over there. But my friend and her fiance mistakenly went to the restaurant across town instead of the one closest to us. By the time we figured out the mistake and got them back on track, she was convinced that I was trying to ditch her on purpose. When they arrived at the restaurant she got out of the car and started yelling at me across the parking lot that I didn't want her in the wedding party because she was fat (her words, not mine). She was so awful that my dad even asked if I wanted him to ask her to leave. I didn't, and she eventually settled down, but our friendship definitely cooled off after that. She definitely proved that not having her in the wedding party was a good call.
I’m getting married in 3 weeks. After we got engaged I asked my childhood friend to be my bridesmaid. She accepted, but expected to be MOH. The reason I haven’t asked her for that role is because while we were really close at one time, since she’s got together with her bf (around 2yrs before me and my FH got together) she basically forgot about my existance and was a shitty friend, never available. Anyway, a few months after our engagement, and her becoming my bridesmaid they get engaged. We book our venue first, with a date, which she’s aware, then they proceed to book their wedding in 2 weeks before ours. Also, when I asked her to be my bm, I literally told her all the style I liked, as a BM she knew my colours etc. She then proceeds to book VERY similar stuff for her wedding. I send out my electronic save the dates, 2 days later oh here’s theirs (very similar again)…What sucks is that I was hoping that by making her my bm, our friendship would get stronger again, but as she was busy planning her own wedding, she’s had zero contribution to mine (not that I need much help, but some interest would be nice) and by copying my style I became reluctant to share stuff with her. And then the few times we’ve talked she’s giving me unsolicited advice, things “I should be aware of” when organising the wedding…like are you kidding me, other than date I’m ahead of you in every step…
My worst bridesmaid story wasn't really about her. It was about her mother. We live in an area where covid wasn't really too much of a concern and people lived kinda far apart, so everyone went about their daily lives like normal. We had a month of lockdown initially in March of 2020, but that was it. My wedding was in October of that year. I asked a friend to be a bridesmaid. She said yes. Then her mom told her she wasn't allowed to because of covid. Which was understandable if you are like immunocompromised ig. I was pretty understandable. I ended up asking her if she was sure a few months later, to which she replied that she talked it out with her mom and that she did want to be a bridesmaid again. So I got the dress, shoes, bridesmaid gift, with the assumption that she was going to be at my wedding. Then the night before my wedding, she broke down in tears saying that her mom had been telling her he couldn't go even though she really wanted to. I felt really bad for her and I said it was no big deal. She offered to pay me back for the dress and the shoes, and since I was so tight on money at the time I took her up on it a couple of weeks after my wedding. The total amount for everything was around 120, but I decided 100 was enough since I knew everybody in my circle was not super financially stable. What I got was an incredibly angry long text from her mother about how I was "taking advantage of her kindness" and "how I was a bad friend for putting her in this situation in the first place" and "how I was putting everyone at risk" (despite us being in a low risk area). So my friend never paid me back despite being the one who offered. I never got an apology from her mother, and I only got an apology from her a year after the wedding. She talked about how going to college helped her realize that her mother was kind of nuts. She and I made up, but it's soured our relationship a lot for a whole year. She died recently, and I can't help but think about how our relationship could have been better if her mother didn't poke her head into her business and cause her and I lots of grief. Keep in mind everybody in this friend group was 18 to 20 at this time.
@@poppykelly2619 Thanks. Each day is getting better and I'm glad we ended on good terms. It's definitely made me appreciate the people in my life more.
@hero awesome. Gosh that must have been stressful for both you and your friend. I believe you handled the experience with class, integrity and compassion for your friend. It must have been hurtful and stressful for you. I must admit I am curious…. How did your friend die so recently? Was she always ill? Thank you for sharing your story.
@@heroawesome8495 Thank you for responding. What a senseless and tragic death. I hope you and your husband are living your life to the fullest. Stay well 🙂
I'm actually looking forward to Charlotte's wedding's live stream or something because our potato queen said it herself, she's gonna have the tiniest wedding with a million of us potatoes!
7:10 reminds me of Phyllis's wedding in The Office where Michael was trying to be in every single photo with the wedding party, and the photographer cleverly got him to stand to the side instead so he wasn't in the shot, lol
I was a bridesmaid in my aunts wedding to my uncle. We had a surprise bridal shower for her, as it is a tradition in my family. One of the bridesmaids wanted to go away the weekend her bridal shower was with her boyfriend. Note: the bridal shower was already planned and a ton of people were coming. The bridesmaid was mad cause she didn’t want to go, and yelled at my aunt saying she was “raining on her parade” because her bridal shower was that weekend, ruining the surprise. My family then had to reschedule the entire bridal shower, and everyone had to change their plans because one selfish bridesmaid was mad that she decided to make plans WAY AFTER the surprise bridal shower date was decided. She was kicked out of the wedding.
I was a MOH at my best friend’s (since literally almost birth) wedding and my college roommate (and maid of honor at my own wedding the year previously) and someone who I also considered a best friend was doing the flowers. She had a small business and had done mine and my bridesmaids bouquets the year previously. (Although looking back she really only “did” my bouquet as I wanted the bridesmaids to just hold a few sprigs of baby’s breath). ANYWAY. I went to the meeting where they decided on flowers together, color palettes, types of flowers, example bouquets and table arrangements, whole nine yards. Everything was amazing. Day of the wedding we’re all getting ready, my makeup is done so I go to check on everything as a good MOH. We had gotten our bouquets and things seemed good. Some were wilting a bit but nobody was upset. BUT The flowers in the reception hall were a wreck. The flowers were like teal and purple and pink. (Their colors were burgundy, forest green, cream) AND my old roommate had LEFT to “go do another wedding”. The bride’s mom, dad, stepdad, and stepmom, spent hundreds of dollars at Hobby Lobby trying to get decent stuff that at least remotely matched their colors. They had gotten these specific tall vases for the arrangements they had agreed upon but nothing was good anyway let alone what they wanted. We spent quite awhile fixing it all. The bride was so upset, understandably! And THEN the florist/ex-roommate messages the bride to TELL HER THE BILL AMOUNT!!!! ALL OF THIS IS STILL BEFORE THE WEDDING!!! I had to take her phone to prevent a full meltdown and called and texted her from my own phone to *politely* ask that she at least not bother the bride today, this mess can be figured out next week. We fought over text for a bit regarding the tackiness of texting the bride in her wedding day and then argued some more in the days following. She made lots of excuses about not getting the flowers she’d ordered from her supplier when I know damn well she simply left it until too late and had to improvise and conveniently didn’t communicate ANY of these supposed struggles with anybody remotely involved with the wedding. We no longer speak. The mother and stepmom of the bride handled the nastiness what the payment of the bill would look like. (I sincerely hope they at least did not pay for more than the bouquets but did not pry further). I am still best friends with the bride years later and to this day the absolute only regret I have about my own wedding is that I didn’t choose her as my MOH at that time.
All these videos and my experience attending weddings set me up for mine in a good way. A simple ceremony with an Ordained Minister, in my backyard, 6 close friends and no one else. Then, the next day a party with everyone, at a restaurant I rented with a selected menu, BYOB and a nice cake and had the party there. Some friends of my wife helped to decorate the place and we had a raucous good time. The ceremony, the important part, was too small to get stressed over. The party, was low key with no expectations, so it was better than I expected, pardon the pun. I know the Wedding is supposed to be the big day, but I really think when people try to make it big, it instead becomes a yoke around the neck dragging everything down. Instead, distill it down to the essence, exchange the vows in a nice setting, and have a celebration with friends and family after.
When I was in college we had a small group of 4 that were BFFs, J, A, S and I. J & A were roommates as well. When J got engaged she asked A to be her bridesmaid. A proceeded to have a meltdown at the wedding and then didn't even show up to the reception. Because of all the drama, I decided then and there I wouldn't have bridesmaids. I had a very simple wedding and had the best time! Instead of wasting money on a wedding we went to Europe for our honeymoon and bought a new bedroom set. BEST DECISION I COULD HAVE MADE!
One of my male wedding party attendants (we’re a same sex married couple and didn’t have best man/groomsmen or MoH/bridesmaids, just wedding party attendants on both sides depending on who had the closer friendship with whom) that I’ve known for literally two decades and we are still friends to this day, was so excited when he shared that he’d asked his crush, this awesome woman we both knew, to be his date to our wedding- and she said yes. 👏🏼 It was only when we got to the reception that I was able to look for her, and spotting him, asked him where she was so I could say hi. He looked at me confused, then this horrified look came over his face and he said “I forgot to pick her up”😳I was shocked and mortified, and immediately told him he was a fckface for that 😂 he said “this is really bad huh?” 🤦🏼♀️I proceeded with guilting him on how she was probably sitting at home in a nice outfit, hair and makeup done, hungry cause she was going to eat at the reception, just….waiting…for…him. I told him to call her and apologize. NOW. And ask her if he could still come and get her. He said ok, but in actuality he later told me he was so embarrassed and ashamed about just forgetting her like that, that he never called. And she never spoke to him again. And I don’t blame her! She’s married now with two children. And is still amazing and beautiful and awesome. Ugh Phil, you messed up so hard….fckface 😂
It seems to me that these brides need to not be afraid to stand up for themselves and pull the problem person from the wedding party at the 1st sign of trouble. What’s so hard about that? 🤷🏾♀️
Y’all, I’m currently planning my wedding and when I tell you weddings have a way of creating or bringing up drama, I MEAN IT! For awhile, I actually hated the thought of my own wedding day because of the drama that emerged in my family. I’m feeling much better now, but future brides beware!!! No matter what, I’m counting down the days till October 16, 2022!
Congrats! I hope everything goes well, I too am counting down for December 10th. Super nervous but more excited than anything. Things may not go as planned or picture perfect but I know it will be a special day to look back at.
Congratulations. My boyfriend told me upfront he would propose after 3 years and we've been together for 1. I'm counting down the days until our 3 year anniversary. Maybe he won't do it on the day but when the day comes we will at least be close. I can't wait to marry him.
My daughter had an amazing fun laid back wedding including the BEST photo of her literally best over laughing ( beautiful candid shot ) groom n preacher laughing with audience . A joke to happen at end of vows happened early due to miscommunication and it was funny . She did not have any bridal party nor did he to cut drama mostly but as well as cost. We did all the wedding planning with her future in-laws and decorations. One a florist did all of that as their gift and was amazing and beautiful. His grandmother made the cake and I made wreaths ( I did as side job ) for decorating as well. It was the best wedding I have ever been to because so relaxed
These stories honestly make me not want to have a wedding or to just go the route of my bridesmaids and MOH be adoptable dogs from a local shelter/ rescue. Seems like that would be less aggravating than putting up with any of this nonsense and at least there is a possibility of getting a dog or two a home.
You do know bridesmaids and MOH are not compulsory? (I didn't have any) Just like huge wedding is not compulsory. You can have your family/friends help arrange stuff. Help you with dress and other stuff that needs helped with. Hair and makeup outsourced to pro. You can have small wedding with close family and close friends and get married in city hall or place of religion.
@@duckeh1952 I'm aware. I have already gotten married where it was just basically signing the papers. I've since divorced. Basically I was saying if I were to marry again I dont think I would want a wedding due to the aggravation people go through sometimes just to have one. I like the idea of having adoptable dogs at my wedding as it stands for who I am as a person. (I advocate alot for animal rescue) so if my husband wanted big wedding where he had a few groomsmen and a best man I would just opt for dogs on my side. Hopefully that clears up what I was trying to say. I'm well aware a big wedding or a wedding at all isnt necessary but some people want one and it's not just my decision of course.
My friend was getting married and at the time I was in the middle of a very difficult pregnancy. I said I would go (not in the wedding party) but I did warn them that I'd be in my third trimester by then, and my Dr was already talking about the high possibility of bed rest. Sure enough, the day before her wedding I was hospitalized. I sent word as soon as I could and mailed them my card and a very generous cheque. She hasnt spoken to me since. Didn't check in to make sure me and baby were ok. Ignored my apology messages. It's been 7 years
3:26 reminds me of the time pretty much my entire friend group basically ousted two of our friends because they all felt the couple got engaged too quickly. They'd only been together for a few months but had actually known each other for much longer. They all were basically saying "i dont support it bc i wouldnt do it that soon". I felt like the odd one saying congrats to them and telling our friends that its their life, not ours. Well their hilariously petty selves got court married the next week out of spite since they all said they wouldn't attend anyway. They've been married almost 2 years now and I'm their best friend lol Edit: the couple was in their mid 30s when this happened and had known each other and the rest of the friend group since the start of college around 18 and 19.
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I was pretty frustrated with a girlfriend who was much more concerned about the fact she wasn't going to be MOH, than excited for me and my now husband. She didn't even say "congratulations" for awhile, but she sure as hell let me know she felt let down because we decided to just elope. We're still friends, but there's definitely a little mark there for sure.
Its time to acknowledge that asking someone to be in your wedding, is asking a huge favor. It costs a lot of money, you have to be prepared, and have to show up on time, and are on call for any problems that may arise. If you’re a real friend, you say yes without question, and you do your job to support your friend. All that said, dudes fuck with each other all the time......but NOT like this. A little drunk, a little rowdy? Sure. But holy fuck, dudes never sabotage shit for hundreds of people.....too much work.
The one near the end where the woman played up the party decorations, then showed up with scraps of kids party decorations reminds me of a situation my former group of friends had one year for a New Years Eve party. Nothing big, just a simple group gathering. We all agreed to dress a little nicer than normal, nothing fancy just nicer than our normal clothes. We decided to change things up and have the gathering at a different house. The person whose house we normally had gatherings at flipped out, saying that she had worked so hard on decorations, and everything was already up and ready to go. Okay, fine, we'll have it at her house. Cut to that night, again, we had all agreed to dress nicer than normal. She refused to follow this. When we walked in, we all expected to see balloons, and incredible decorations everywhere. All we saw were a few computer printouts taped to the mirrors in the dining room. None of us could believe that someone her age (she was 10 years older than us) had basically thrown a tantrum simply because she didn't want to have a group gathering somewhere else. Story #2. When I was in college I had to do a thesis presentation in order to graduate. This is normal thing for people in the art department. For my presentation I had designed several figure skating dresses and sewed each of them. I lined up 4 friends/models to wear them. They didn't have to say anything, just stand there in the dress. One of the girls had been there for my previous presentation, so she knew the drill. She agreed to come back and was up for it. She ghosted me. Luckily one of the other girls had a friend who was willing to step in. The presentation went great and everyone loved it. a day or so later the friend who ghosted me tried to explain what happened. I told her it was too late for her excuses and never spoke to her again.
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31 years later, my sister, who was my MOH, still talks about how I was such a bridezilla for my wedding. I literally have no idea what she is talking about because I let my mother plan everything for my wedding. Turns out, all the other bridesmaids (also sisters, and some friends) talk about how my sister, the MOH, acted like a bridezilla even though it wasn't her wedding. Huh, guess my memory is better than I thought. lol
I love that!
Yea I feel that but it was my sister it was my aunt. I am usual super hyper and my sister didn’t like that about me when we where kids I put grew little bit of that and can control myself now. Since I am older sister I wanted her to have her special day. My aunt thought something was wrong and got my mom to asked me multiple time what was wrong to the point where it got annoying. My mom can go over the top too, and since she was trying to get my other little sister who is 4 under control. She was emotional and thought something was wrong with me. I kept explaining that I am trying to respect my sister for her wedding. Yea never again. If I ever get married it going to be simple and calm.
@@CheyenneGainer I don't understand all of your story. I get the feeling that you are a caring person. You seem like the type of kind person who is always trying to make others happy.
Who's wedding was it? The people you talk about are you(eldest/second eldest?) your sister(older/younger?), other sister(4years old), Mom, and aunt.
Maybe it was your eldest sister's wedding. Your sister didn't like it when you were hyper. You tried to keep calm during a wedding. Weddings are very stimulating and exciting. You were trying to supress your stimulated hyper-ness. You were hiding your discomfort. Your aunt thought you were uncomfortable. Your mother was distracted watching your younger sister, who was 4. Your mother later caught on and thought you were uncomfortable. You will never again supress your hyper tendencies because of the uselessness of trying to keep up a calm front. Correct?
My mom does that. Project her behavior on to me as if I did it. I’m usually calm and collected no matter what, she becomes a monster under the slightest whiff of stress then acts like it was me/everyone else when it’s done. Fortunately others have witnessed this and take her less seriously when she retells her stories
@@AnnaMorimoto Kinda sorry for the confusion, it was older younger sisters wedding, I am the oldest out of the three. I am 24, the other two are 22 and 4. My aunt who is my moms best friend likes to make simple problems blown out of proportion and my mom feeds off that too to a degree, if something goes wrong she goes in a emotional wreck sometimes. Since I was not acting like myself for the sake of my little sister wedding, Me and my 22 year old sister are complete opposites. All my siblings have different dads but same mom and I act more like my mom but I am trying to control my emotions and child like behavior, 22 year old sister acts more like her dad calm and collected/more mature. As kids I have always embarrassed her with my child like behavior/not acting like my age cause around that time I didn't want to grow up and it kinda put a wedge between us, but has we got older and the divorce hit between my mom and her dad we kinda began patching things up, and when are little sister was born who is 4 now we have gotten closer, so to show respect I try to control myself for her wedding since it was her day, while my aunt kept telling my mother something was wrong since I was acting out of character, I kept saying I was fine and nothing was wrong but my mom was stressed out from trying to keep my 4 year old sister in check along with the fact she and my aunt cooked most of the dinner for the wedding, so she started to get upset and crying thinking I was lying, But once I explained that wasn't the case they finally left me alone, I love my family I do but sometimes they can go a bit over board with simple things.
Years ago, a bride I read about had a small church wedding(immediate family and friends). The couple booked the biggest park for the reception and invited the whole town. People brought extra food, soft drinks, and game equipment. Everyone had a great time since it was relaxed and so low-key. The bride and groom said no gifts and that they just wanted to share the day with their neighbors.
I love this 🥺
@@jessleigh4622 I've heard that people who were there are still talking about how great that party/reception was.
@@CindersVale I bet! This is so cool and if I'm ever lucky enough to get married I'll have to consider doing this!
Awwww.
This is so sweet
This is why I want the most intimate and simplest wedding ever. I'd rather invest on my marriage than waste resources and energy for an extravagant wedding.
Because you have priorities.
Agreed. I married my husband at the courthouse and had the reception at the bar we both worked at. Lol. We were only 23 at the time, so 🤷. We've been married 23 years next month, and are still happy together. Not having a huge wedding didn't effect our relationship in the least. In two years we plan to have a smallish voe renewal ceremony, where we will wear fancier clothes than we did the first time but we're still not doing in in a huge or ostentatious way. We're basically using it as an excuse for all of our family and friends to get together in semi formal dress, and for me to be able to wear a fancy dress for the first time in my life lol. We're using friends and their businesses, and for our "honeymoon" the wedding party ad our sons are all going on a ghost hunt at the haunted hotel where we're having the ceremony.
I'm pretty sure there's a correlation between money spent on weddings and divorce rates. With results being the more extravagant/expensive and more people there are, the faster the divorce happens. I believe it!
I never did get married, but I had told my parents forever, that if I did get married I did NOT want any ceremony but standing in front of a justice of the peace. If they wanted to spend money on something for me and new husband, I'd take help with a down payment on a house.
Perfect approach to something that’s important and precious to you! 😁
A friend showed me a MOH speech from a wedding he had attended in Alberta where the MOH started out well and ended up in a rant about how she should’ve married the groom and how she had loved him for longer than the bride, etc, etc. There was stunned silence until one of the bridesmaids got up and punched the MOH in the face and a free for all ensued. Ahhh…only in Alberia.
I feel sorry for the bride and groom, but that actually made me lol~
@@Nil_Sama Alberta is the Alabama or Arkansas of Canada…lol
oh man lol
@@luketimewalker it WAS hilarious…lol
Whut?!?!? 😮😮😮
"The bridesmaid was poisoning me!"
THEN GO TO A HOSPITAL, GET A TEST DONE AND HAVE THAT EVIL WOMAN ARRESTED FOR ATTEMPTED MANSLAUGHTER!
Seriously, even kids know that if someone's hurting you or causing you harm, you let others know! This chick needs to be taken to court and sued for that stunt!
Yeah it was confusing how she was so nonchalant and careless about that. Like wth??
Forget suing. What about criminal charges???
@@TheTewjr exactly because my first thought was “shouldn’t that crazy bih be in jail?” Atp I’m hoping that was a troll post because how could you not care to report that you were actively being POISONED?? If that crazy girl was bold enough to slowly poison you, which again is a criminal act because the outcome could’ve caused your death, how could you not press charges or have a conscience about her potentially doing it to someone else that you could’ve prevented by having her ass thrown in jail? The op’s nonchalantness about something that serious is super weird.
@@iAquarius202 I know. I am pissed thinking this could be a real monster out there. Imagine if he cheats? Him and the other woman are dead.
Not all poisonings are lethal. Could be laxatives or something. Still illegal though.
Re. the half-sister story, I think people sometimes treat parental relationships more like jealous RELATIONSHIP relationships, and that's weird as hell. The sister was adamant that there could only be ONE Mother of the Bride. That her sister could not accept the stepmother unless she replaced her own mother.
Babe, it doesn't work like that.
My former best friend was supposed to be my maid of honor. She gushed how amazing my fiancé was and wanted me to help her find someone like him for her. Cue 2 weeks before the wedding she starts acting weird and being flaky and my fiancé was kind of acting weird too but I was really naive so didn’t catch on. Night before my wedding she ghosts me so I replace her with my sister. We have the wedding (it was small) and I found out later my fiancé/husband never signed the marriage license, I signed but had to rush to the restroom and he said he signed while I was in. Well after we had our honeymoon and I was back at work a coworker and I headed to a new restaurant for takeout while on lunch. While we were waiting to put in our order in I saw my coworker giving someone a dirty look and when I went to see what she saw I noticed my best friend and my husband (well what I thought was my husband) kissing and holding hands in the restaurant. I tried to leave without being seen but my coworker yelled hello to them letting them know they were caught. I ended things and was lucky he didn’t sign the marriage license (he was having a toenail removed and was on his dads insurance but would’ve ended when we got married. He would’ve been on my insurance then and 100% covered. My former best friend said it was my fault for not finding someone for her so she took mine and he said I worked too much (he quit his job because he got written up for harassment). Here’s the kicker, she got pregnant by him and he joined the military but dishonorably discharged for being arrested for trying to solicit an underage prostitute online (she said she was 13/14) that turned out to be an undercover cop. He spent time in prison and now a registered sex offender and she had 5 kids by 5 guys and living off her parents. I’m ,arrived and have been with 3 kids. I don’t think I dodged a bullet, I dodged a grenade.
Woah! That’s heartbreaking. I’m glad that you’ve dodge a grenade.
It was a blessing in disguise
She sounds clingy and jealous. Not your fault if she doesn't want to make an effort to find her half, it's something she should be working upon finding one if she wanted that really bad. Why would you find her one , I mean people don't owe people for their ego. Clearly she doesn't like boundaries but butting in.
Holy. She is like a godsent. Saved your life by sacrificing her own i guess...
You dodged a nuclear bomb
Less of a grenade, and more of a Mother of All Bombs. Nuclear if attempted murder had been involved somewhere 😨
I asked my sister to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. Two weeks after asking her, she call and told me, " she could not be in my wedding because I was getting married in a church and I'm a non believer." I could have cared less where I got married, but it was important to my husband, we do it in a church. After she said what she said, I did remind her, she got married wearing white, in a catholic church, after living with her fiancé for over a year and "not having sex."
To some women, just so long as they do not have THAT form of sex that might result in getting pregnant then they are (technically) "virgins".
wait so she didn't want to go to a church ceremony because YOU are non-believer?
Uhhh...
@@matematicarka They consider it an insult. Like you're cherrypicking
@@RavenSutcliffeyou mean like the sister who made the comment did… some christians/catholics are the biggest hypocrites on earth.
This was hysterical! Got one for you: At the reception, the best man came up to me and said, “I didn’t give you all a wedding gift. It’s common knowledge that guests have a year to give a gift, and I don’t think ya’ll will make it that long.” We were married for 24 years (together for 28). He never did give us a gift.
Well that's just an a**hole for ya. I apologize for having to meet such a "best man"
@@nela3986 Oh yes. He’s still, now my ex’s, best friend. I never told the hub. He wouldn’t believe me over his longtime bff.
@@ShesAnalyticaloh so much wrong with this......
We went to the courthouse to get married, then had a reception at a restaurant that did group "family style" parties. No fuss over the legal portion of the ceremony. No fuss over the reception because the restaurant took care of all of it. Then we went funnel cloud chasing on our way home because there were funnel clouds all over the place, but none ended up touching down so no damage was done.
It was a great day. I wish we could have encouraged a few more people to take photos with their phones or something, cause ours were put away. But overall, low key is best. The restaurant group party meant we could still invite about 35 family and friends (this was before Covid), but in a very low effort and no drama setting. If you don't want fuss and drama but you still want to have friends and family celebrate with you, I highly recommend looking up restaurants that do group parties in your area.
Did you have a cake? Sounds really nice.
100% the way to do it. Good for you two!! We had the reception at a buffet. Everyone got to eat something they liked!
We did a similar thing. We had a ceremony at City Hall, then had a buffet-style reception the following day at a restaurant. My sister-in-law was my one and only bridesmaid, and all I asked was that she wear a red dress. I let her pick the style. My mother-in-law helped us book the restaurant and order the invitations and cakes. We all made the table decor ourselves - there was a lot of hot glue! My mother-in-law also paid for my red dress (that I wore on the wedding day, I believe it was only about $60) and a friend of her's gave me a white dress that I wore to the reception. We just went to our regular hairdresser to get our hair done and I did my own makeup. One of my SO's friends volunteered to be our photographer as his gift to us. Weddings can be stressful, but not if your loved ones help out, you all try to have as much fun as possible, and they don't have to be expensive. It was still a great day for us.
The restaurant served homemade pie as part of the group dinner dessert. I also got a few gluten free cookies from a trusted baker for a couple cousins who are gluten free.
A buffet would be amazing!
The half-sister/MOH story: look at their ages. OP is 27, half-sis is 26. Unless OP’s mom and dad divorced immediately after her birth and he met and slept with the stepmom within three months, half-sis is an affair baby. Not that any of it is relevant to the story, but it may play some kind of part-that kind of history doesn’t entirely go away.
I mean, OP’s mom and dad were not necessarily married (or even together). ooor maybe OP herself is the affair baby and dad/stepmom worked it out somehow 🤷🏻♀️ but yes, I see how the super close ages could indicate some previous conflict
half sis still needed to back off and stop trying to erase her mom
Yeah sounds like the step mom wanted to just get rid of the mom and the fact her husband was with someone else all in one day.
That’s how it is with me and my half sister who is a year and seven days younger than me
Mmm I thought that age gap was a little sus as well. But they sister still had no right to try and excluder her sisters mom that she was raised by even if she did also get raised by her step mom. Its not rude and clearly step sis has some issues with being a half sister or maybe the parents relationship as a whole
You should do Monster-in-Law stories next!
I'd love to hear some crazy wedding stories involving mother-in-law
I second this!
Just so you know, not all DIL hate their MIL. My MIL is a goddess! I love her to bits! She has been such a gift to me the past 18 years I have known his family and I thank my lucky stars I won the lottery when it comes to extended family.
@@Dobviews - to turn an old saying, "good news is no news" - no one really wants to hear about normal people behaving normally, whether it's MiLs, brides, teachers or police officers. They want to hear about insane people being insane.
YES!!!!!
@@Dobviews - I wasn't intending to offend; just pointing out that a lot of people prefer disasters to triumphs. I don't happen to be one of them.
If that makes me "a puddle of hate" in your book, you should read other books.
Oof, that half-sister story hit hard. I remember the first (and last) time my sister called me half-sister. She's older, but we were both adults at the time. She was angry with me about something that didn't actually happen and wasn't listening to any explanations. Then she accused me of something horrible and very insulting. For the first time, I stood up for myself and refused to apologize for something I hadn't done "just to keep the peace" and asked for an apology of my own for the insult. She pulled the half-sister crap. She kind of died to me in that moment because she is one of those who are super intense about "family" like she's a Toretto or something, but the first time i stand up for myself, im "JUST a half-sister". It was the last time she said it to me, because I went NC until she was willing to own her shittiness in that moment; she never has.
Well done on standing your ground, it's the only way to deal with people like that
that's how toxic people are. Thayre nice as as they get what they want. as soon you cant' be controled they loose it big time.
I'm just so sorry. That is awful. I am from a blended family, and my family is blended as well. I couldn't imagine one of the kids saying something so hurtful. I wouldn't know what to say if one of my sisters said this to me. I'm just really sorry 😢
I had a bridesmaid drop out of the wedding and my life, thankfully plenty of months beforehand. Found out from some mutuals that she was salty that the 'funny' friend was getting married first and that she had 'grown past' high school friends. (We were 22 at the time and I got engaged at 17). I'm glad she wasn't in my wedding
My favorite cousin had a huge wedding in the 1980s. Although we were very close since we were babies, she did NOT ask me to be MOH and I was so relieved! She knows me well.
I was one of 6 bridesmaids, and I requested to be placed furthest from center stage since I'm a painfully shy introvert. She paid for all her bridal party dresses (they were pretty!), and did NOT have a tacky bachelorette party, but she, the MOH, and I went bar hopping and drove around the Ft. Worth Stockyard area in her MOH's work van with her huge pet MaCaw parrot, who loudly screeched profanity out the window at folks. I wish we had video!
The Stockyards are famous for the bar and music scene and there are always tourists walking down the streets. We would pull up to a group, they would see this gorgeous bird because the windows were down, and just about the time they would comment on what a beautiful bird he was, out of his beak came, "EFF you, c*ck-shucking, mother-cluckers!" (but with language not allowed on RUclips). 😂
We were still sore the next day from laughing, and we had to stop talking about the experience the day of the wedding because it got us all laughing again and it was ruining our makeup.
I just talked to my cousin on the phone last week, for over 2 hours (we live 1500 miles apart). 30+ years later, we were still cracking up over that bird!
That must’ve been fun. Pictured the Parrot with Gals in the vans. 🦜🚐😆
I love this so much! What a great party!
crying hahahah
This is one of the greatest things I've ever heard 😂
Can that bird be my bestie? 😂
Oh, the ghosting story is soo close to home for me. I had a very small wedding, like 25 people. I didn't have a bridal party mostly because I don't have a lot of friends. I asked one of my oldest childhood friends to be my maid of honor, she said yes. She wasn't really overwhelmed with duties, all she had to do is go with me to our hotel the evening prior, help me get ready for the photoshoot on the day of the wedding and that's mostly it. During the preparations she was sending me pics of how her outfit was coming up (it was a themed steampunk wedding) and TWO DAYS before the wedding things go like this: first she askes me if my hair lady could do her hair as well, I checked with her and said yes, she stopped returning my calls or answering my messages after that. Fully disappears, through my mother who called her mom we get a weird reply that my maid of honor supposedly caught a stomach flu and won't attend. This was on the day before the wedding. I had to reschedule some things and we were fine, but it surely was disappointing and sad that she wasn't there, and she still wouldn't answer my calls. The best man did a lot of her work, bless him (every bride needs a gay best man, I tell ya). She wrote me a message with congrats for my wedding, never called. And started ghosting me. I went on my honeymoon still hoping we could fix this. Bought her souvenirs. When I returned I tried to reach her, asking to meet and sort things out. It's been six years since I've stopped trying. I'm to this day so confused. I could understand if this was some random person, but it was my close friend, we knew each other for over 20 years. WTF? And yeah, that friendship is over.
She probably went through a mental breakdown and isolated herself.
That’s really sad. I am sorry that happened to you
That could be jealousy or envy of your so called bestfriend or that she has grown out of the friendship and wanted to end it but to save her reputation, she probably why ghosted you.
The fact you mention, the part , where she ghosted you the day before wedding could have been a resonable excuse since you reached out to check her and her being irresponsive shows that she probably had bad intentions for you .
Quantity of friendship doesn't matter but the quality of you amd your friends in your friendship speaks volume of relations and bondings among all.
being ghosted by a friend can be worse than breaking up
@@luketimewalker yes especially after a 40 year friendship.
You know, a Justice of the peace wedding at the courthouse is just as binding and a lot less stressful. I've heard a lot of nightmare wedding stories, a lot fewer "it all went as planned and was wonderfull" stories. When I got engaged my sister and step-mother tried to take over all the planning, I was actually told they were doing me a favor in doing it. I shut it down immediately. Then my mother-in-law tried the same thing, again, I shut it down. We ended up getting married in my mother-in-law's livingroom with just a preacher and a couple of friends, total 8 people.Less stress, resulting in a 43 year marriage and three kids. It doesn't have to be traumatizing at all, just depends on how much crap a couple is willing to put up with.
Love that…less stressful and just as binding! On the alter, my husband had to ask our priest if he could kiss the bride cause Monsignor kissed me first and wouldn’t let the hug go…he was a sweet guy
My parents got married at city hall (our country's version of a courthouse wedding), and they have an incredibly happy marriage. When I was younger, I wanted the big, frilly, traditional wedding. But now that I'm in my 30s, all I want is a city hall wedding just like theirs 😊
My sister - who has a talent for it - was our wedding planner and that saved me so much stress!
She's respectful and got our input on everything... So it can go either way :)
Oh, but simple and inexpensive all the way!!
Yeah, I agree, that’s what my parents did. I had them sealed in the LDS temple after they both passed.
My MOH, who I had been friends with for 15 years, did me dirty. First she accused me of only ever talking about the wedding (I barely talked about it with her as my fiance and I did all the planning together), when we went bridesmaid dress shopping she spent the whole day talking about what she was going to do for her wedding (she didn't even have a partner at the time), then the one thing that I trusted her to plan (my hens night) she didn't plan, then on my wedding day she made a scene during the reception about how she was so worried she would never get married, she never prepared a MOH speech, she told me during my reception that I wasn't going to be her MOH (something we'd planned since we were little), then months later I found out from one of my bridesmaids (who had ended up filling in the MOH role because she's amazing) that my MOH had been badmouthing me to others calling me a bridezilla - again, my fiance and I had planned the whole wedding together which was a simple DIY wedding. She ended up cutting me out and ghosted me a few months after the wedding. Ran into her older sister years later who then confronted me and accused ME of ghosting HER. Yeah, glad we're not friends anymore, she never treated me like one anyway I realise now, I just wish I'd realised it before my wedding.
Your friend sounds like my ex friend. Super jealous and a narcissist. We should be glad to have them out of out lives! Everything is a competition to them.
I got married this past May, I had invited my “friend” to the wedding and she arrived almost an hour after the ceremony and photos, I wasn’t even in the wedding dress anymore. She shows up in full makeup, hair done and everything then proceeded to ask why we hadn’t waited for her…she knew exactly what time the wedding would start and she wasn’t on time. She blamed me for her missing my wedding and caused this dramatic scene in front of literally everyone. I’m no longer friends with her and I’m living my best life. Literally narcissism at it’s finest, I have no time for it. 🤷🏻♀️ DEFINITELY glad she missed the whole thing because she was never a true friend.
That's crazy. I hv gotten rid of a toxic narcissistic "friend" like that. I told her "You may be the leading lady in your own story but-make no mistake- you are NOT the lead character in my life! " Seriously walking around thinking that you are the most important in everyone else's lives is just insane. Good riddance to bad rubbish 💯
Been married twice. First wedding had a small wedding party, it was fine, but I realized when thinking about my second wedding I didn't want to repeat all of that. About half the size of the first wedding, no bridal party, no speeches for people to cry through, no first dance (we did karaoke together!), no bouquet or garter toss, short ceremony. I just wanted to throw a party and get married in it. It was the funnest wedding I've ever been to and the day was stress free from the start. Absolutely perfect. Highly recommend to step outside the box for the big day.
I wish more weddings had karaoke!
I’ve been married twice too. The first one was a big wedding. When it was time to plan the second one, I told my fiancé that I didn’t need a big wedding. He said that he wanted a big one because he was so excited. We planned the big wedding, but it was 2020 and we ended up getting married in a friend’s backyard with just our family and very close friends in attendance. We thought it was perfect and wished we had planned it that way from the start. We decided to have a reception on our anniversary since we had already bought a lot of the things. That was fun and we got to have the big celebration he had been looking forward to.
I'd love for us to have karaoke at our wedding reception but the thing is...I'm the only one who can sing. I know that sounds conceited but it's true. My family values music a lot, I always grew up with music playing in the kitchen while grandma cooked dinner and music playing in the bathroom while mom got ready for work. But I'm the only one who's actually musically talented. And my boyfriend's family is not musical at all. Sure they like music but it doesn't mean as much to them as it does to us. And none of them can sing either. So if we had karaoke I'm not sure anyone would actually have any fun.
@@truthseeker9249 Karaoke is not about musical talent. It's for fun...
@@imakefoodhappen it is but it's more fun when you can sing
Sooo true about everything you said Charlotte! Especially about coming to a decision about who you're keeping in your life moving forward. People seem to show their true colours at weddings!
When I got married I obviously chose my best friend as the MOH. Two weeks before the wedding she met up with me to tell me she can’t be in it anymore because she doesn’t support my marriage. FF 18 yrs later, she’s still single and my hubby and I have 3 kids and still together.
Did that BFF perhaps want to be with you or your husband? Because I’ve seen those situations a few times.
She was probably secretly in love you and didn’t want to come out of the closet.
@@monstermcboo7282 Read your comment after posting mine. 😆 Agree.
damn, what made her not want to support the marriage? sorry if it's personal
It's ok to be single, it's not a character flaw or a competition. It's not ok to be judgy about your friend's marriage. Those are two separate things.
These stories are the reason I changed my mind about being an event planner, weddings are usually the most prestigious events but also the most stressful especially when something goes very very wrong
Me and my friend arranged a night out & last minute she cancelled because she had nothing to wear, I thought it was a shitty excuse but I didn't make a big deal about it.. A couple of hours later she posted a picture of herself ready to go out & I felt like being petty so I liked the picture, she then deleted it and uploaded a new one.. She didn't speak to me again after that and I have no idea what her problems was.. I know its not a wedding story but the story about the bridesmaid ghosting really reminded me of that.. I didn't see her that often but I loved her to death and we even used to say we were soulmates. It honestly is so hurtful when someone who's supposed to be your friend does that to you
I hate all these friend-drama. Be it between two friends or between certain people of a group, or one or more being pushed out of a group for no reason. Like, why you do that?! As freaking adults? Like if its so bad, just go talk to the other people like "yo not your fault but for some reason I don't want to hang out maybe we outgrew each other". That sucks, but why do people always have to create that much drama and hurt "friends" so deeply. Just no.
If she could do that to you out of nowhere with no explanation it kinda sounds like she wasn’t truly the close friend you thought she was and you may have missed some red flags along the way. In hindsight can you think of any examples of red flags you may have missed?
@@iAquarius202 It was one of them friendships where we wouldn't see each other for ages and when we did see each other it would be like no time had passed, we wasnt in each others company enough for me to notice any red flags, if that makes sense.. She was abit self absorbed at times but isn't everyone? I think she knew I caught her out lying & she had to much of a big ego to admit she was wrong and apologise or even just offer me an explanation.. She clearly didn't value our friendship as much as I thought she did.. Good riddance I say, I don't need people like that in my life anyway
I hate stuff like that! A few years ago a friend (we'll call her Emma) told our group she wouldn't be able to make it to our friend Jenny's Bachelorette party two months away because of a family emergency. We said no problem, we'll see you at the wedding. Around the same time as the Bachelorette party, Emma posted pictures of her and some other friends on a trip to Atlantic City...
Emma was also engaged. At Jenny's wedding, Emma told us they were doing a small ceremony with just some family members. But when Emma posted photos, we saw some of those same friends at the ceremony. Needless to say Jenny and I don't talk to Emma anymore.
I lost a good friend of over 10 years over a bridesmaid dress. I was one of her bridesmaids. She told us that our dresses should be whatever we wanted, but they needed to be lime green (Ew, I know). Then when her sister, who was also a bridesmaid) decided to have a custom dress made for it; my friend told us that we needed to have the same dress, same fabric, and style done too. The thing is, her sister lived in the middle east while the rest of us lived in Puerto Rico, so it was a bit difficult to find the same fabric and color to match her.
Since I didn't have the budget to have someone make me a dress (btw, the wedding was in Florida, so I needed to pay for the flight, hotel, and expenses), I found a store that had the exact style, color, and fabric that she wanted but at an affordable price. I showed it to my friend, and she loved it and told me to go for it, so I bought it. The next day, the now-turned bridezilla decided to rant in the bridesmaid's group chat, about how I got a dress without her approval and that I was so unhelpful (I went to Florida to help her find things for her wedding, but I guess she forgot about that) with the AUDACITY to get a dress that was not custom made. We found out that she talked to her sister and mom, who decided to tell her how evil I was for buying a store-bought dress.
At this point, we were organizing her bachelorette party, so we called her a few times to let her know the plans; she treated us like shit and even hung up the phone on us when we tried to also talk about the damn dress because we couldn't find the fabric she wanted. Half of us were tired of her shit, but we did the party (at her house), she never thanked us for it, not even looked at us, and it was so awkward that the next day half of us told us we weren't coming and she even insulted me before blocking me everywhere.
Her wedding ended up with only her sister, one friend and another girl who she didn't even like as their bridesmaids, all with different dresses, none of them were Lime green (NOT EVEN HER SISTER'S DRESS WHO WAS THE CUSTOM MADE, it ended up being a super metallic gold dress lol) A friendship of around 12 years was done because of a damn dress. They're no longer together.
I had a tiny wedding, and ZERO people standing up with my husband and myself. My mother and my aunt were the ONLY people who helped me, and I LOVED my beautiful wedding day! And the best part, our wedding didn't make us go into debt! Celebrating 20 years on Aug 9th 💛💞💛💞
First story: sorry that you had to go through that, but there's nothing like a REAL queen to help out in the wedding; her loss! Love ya Charlotte!
Absolutely! 💝 real queen's will find there own tribe that appreciate them for their awesomeness 👌
Seriously! Could you imagine being close friends with Charlotte and NOT asking her to be MOH??? What was that chick thinking??
"I will have a very small wedding with one million of you there" - Charlotte 🙂 . Definitely we will be there Charlotte . No main character syndrome symptoms from us potatoes we promise 😁 .
I will dress in a gown and heels and celebrate from afar, drinking wine from the bottle on my porch and dancing like I was 30 again. Thanks for all the laughs Charlotte
I had an idea of who I wanted to be my bridesmaids whenever I got married ( before I even met my husband).
So when the time came I was excited to ask these girls for the honor of celebrating this day with me. They all had been part of very important times in my life. One of them (a friend from school) was happy and honored and didn't give me any trouble until the day she had to go get her measurements for her dress. I gave her the address several days ahead and we spoke that morning, no problem. However, later that day my aunt (who will be making all of our dresses) called me to ask if my Friend said she would be late. I said no, but I will ask. I thought she got lost. I texted her, called her, I even tried to get in touch with her mom. Nothing, no response. I kept trying to get in touch several days later until finally her mom told me she was isolated because she had contact with a COVID patient. I understood and asked to be informed when she could go back out so we could reschedule.
I never got a response from her again. Her Mom said she was probably busy and eventually stopped answering me also. However she (my friend) would like all my pictures on social media and look at all my stories. So I guessed she was doing this on purpose.
I never understood what went wrong. So I replaced her and moved on. I'm now happily married.
I remember the days prior to getting married being asked why was I so calm about everything. Didn't freak over the details, went low key for decorations - honestly I didn't care about the small/big details, just that I'd be surrounded by the people I loved including my sister in law who was my MOH and looked STUNNING in her dress 🙂. I might not be in that relationship any more but I'll always prefer small, intimate with people I trust over these messes of a wedding.
Having been put on a four week absence due to current health conditions, I live for our wonderful Charlotte's videos - thank you 😊🥰
Charlotte, have you done how narcissists behaved at funerals? Omg, my mother was absolutely terrible at my husband's funeral! 🙄
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s passing. I hope things are going a little better for you now.
As a young widow, I absolutely need to hear this story (and also, sorry you're in this shitty club with me)
@@ThisIsKassia Aww...I'm so sorry. I couldn't even imagine. Peace and love to you girl. Hope you're doing okay ✌
Oh man! My aunt makes funerals all about her... And was surprised to not be invited to my wedding. I've seen enough Charlotte Dobre videos to know better. 😄
My aunt (father's sister) tried so hard to make a scene at my father's funeral. So I feel you...can't believe how "family" can be so pathetic. Not to mention I never spoke to her ever again!
My Best friend was getting married to another one of my childhood friends and I was super excited for them. The bride's maid of honor was a cousin that I dated while we were in college. The MOH hated me even though she broke it off many years prior. Nothing I did was ever good enough for the wedding in her eyes. I was a groomsman what was I supposed to do for a wedding. I was not even the best man. My only responsibilities were to take care of the Groom and get him to the Altar.
But I stepped up and paid for the open bar, which I did as a gift to my friends. I even paid for brunch, champagne and juices for the bride and her party on the morning of the wedding. I did not know the bride was pregnant and was not able to drink any alcohol. She yelled at me at the reception and told me my gifts were pointless since it had no real benefit to the couple getting married.
I told her that I paid $5000 for the bar. I reminded her that the breakfast that she and her friends enjoyed was another $1000 dollars. And what really pissed her off was when I told her that the Dom Perignon that she nicked from the Couple's table and drinking at the time was $300. It could have been saved for another time when the bride wasn't pregnant.
Spending thousands of dollars for their wedding sure sounds like your gifts had a real benefit to the couple getting married
Wow!! That's so generous and saved the couple so much money they probably put towards their child and medical bills. Sounds like the MOH was still bitter about your breakup and still likes you but acts like a solid b word as a result. 😂
I feel for the bridesmaid regarding the dress. I got mine from a 2nd hand store and it was 2-3 sizes to big. I paid for dry-clean and tailoring. When I received the dress it was too small (I was a size 1 at the time) The tailor said she used her 14 year old daughter as a model for the measurements because the pins were lost in transport. I ended up buying a new dress (full price). Nonsense.
I had a super small wedding. 50 people (including the bridal party), no drama, no stress. My bridal party included my 2 sisters, my bff of 15 years and my stepdaughter. I planned the whole thing with my florist and I just asked my bridal party to show up, get their hair and makeup done and have fun. It was a blast and I wouldn’t change it for anything.
I totally had a bridesmaid that looked absolutely miserable in all of the wedding pictures that she was in, and I think that is literally one of the most selfish things somebody can do! I just don’t understand why someone would purposely ruin what should be lovely memories of someone’s wedding day! Of course this bridesmaid also treated the staff at the dress store extremely rudely, to the point that I constantly felt that I should go behind her and apologize, all because she had to pay a few extra dollars for a bigger size dress. I believe that was also behind her attitude at the wedding, that she was the biggest bridesmaid. But I didn’t care what size she was; I picked her as a bridesmaid because I loved her and considered her one of my very best friends! Shouldn’t that count for something?!🥴
@@nela3986 Wow, unbelievable! It’s just amazing how incredibly selfish some people can be! I’m so sorry that you had to experience that; you didn’t deserve it! But I’m glad you made your peace with it and moved on in a way that puts yourself and your mental health and happiness first!💜
Sorry, but people don't owe you specific emotions. You can't control people to the point that you get to choose if they feel joy or not. Someone not smiling during your event is "the most selfish thing somebody can do"? If your wedding and your memories for a lifetime can be ruined by someone not smiling, they were pretty fragile to begin with. People are allowed to have things going on in their lives and on their minds other than your weddings. And to be honest, even from your perspective, it sounds like it was probably warranted. You don't sound very thoughtful or supportive the way you talk about how she was bigger than everyone else and had to pay extra money due to her size. People shouldn't even have to pay any money for a dress you are making them buy. That's a ridiculous custom.
@@imakefoodhappen wow, way to blow that out of proportion, while also ignoring any positive comments I wrote.🙄
It counts for everything. Sometimes you find out who your true friends are. My maid of honor & a bridesmaid dropped out of my wedding 2 weeks before my wedding. The bridal shop were wonderful as I had to ask 1 friend to be my maid of honor & another to be a bridesmaid. They agreed. The dresses were altered at warp speed & it all turned out great. That was 42 years ago. My wedding was a blast & we had to extended it an hour because no one wanted to leave. People still say it was the best wedding ever. Their loss. Haven't seen or spoken to them since.
I'm sorry the pictures didn't end up great, but you can't always fake feeling good on a photo. I've had severe depression, and at that time, all photos with my friends at parties I literally look like I'm gonna kill myself in the hour, when it actually was when I was feeling the best through the disorder. I really was enjoying myself (as much as I could being depressed), and I thought I was smiling on those photos. Turn out not at all. You can't always put on a poker face when you don't feel good as a whole. It can kinda explain the rudeness to staff. While it is still rude, for her it might have been them confirming how she didn't fit in (probably NOT her first time confronted with it either) and might have brought up how she felt about her body at the time.
The dress probably was uncomfortable for her to wear. I think you couldn't have known with planing a wedding and all, but talking to her about why she reacted a certain way might have been the solution. Maybe her not being a bridesmaid would have made her more comfortable because not in the spotlight ? But I don't know instead of lamenting on wedding photos I would try to know if she is okay ?
My sister had the best wedding! They decided early on that they were going to avoid as much drama as possible by only asking us siblings to stand with them during the ceremony. Each pair of siblings was assigned a color (my brother and I had navy blue) and I was allowed to pick whatever dress I wanted as long as it was floor length. The wedding wasn't even that small, there were over 100 people and it was pretty fancy, but it was the most chill wedding I've been a part of. We even got to sit down during part of the ceremony so we didn't have to stand the whole time! Most of their friends made comments along the lines of "I wish we had done that for our bridal party" or "That's what I should do for my wedding." If I ever get married, I hope I can be as down-to-earth as my sister.
I took so much guidance from Charlotte's wedding video, really helped me out. Minus some last minute bridal meltdowns from me it all went off without a hitch. Meltdown was over the officiants ceremony script that he wanted to change last second and I almost imploded since we had gone over it like 5 times. He's my best friend though so it worked out
When I got engaged, I had 2 MOHs because I considered them both my best friend at the time, and couldn't choose between them. Then 4 months before the wedding, one of them decided she didn't want to be my friend anymore and dumped me after 8 years of friendship 🤷♀ That was fun. Made me feel terrible for not choosing the other one to be my sole MOH in the first place. It all worked out for the best. Made me so much more appreciative of the people I had standing with me :)
Removing the biological mother of the bride from the wedding is so odd, if you really wanted your own mom to be included you wouldn't exclude the actual mother, you would have them both there.
It's quite obvious that either the MoH or step mother doesn't like the biological mother of the bride.
Well the sisters are only a year apart. The stepmother stayed with her half little sisters’ dad. There’s probably so much past drama.
It really is very odd, it makes zero sense to do something like that. She acted like the girl’s mother didn’t even exist.
Stepmom was the Homewrecker, Family Destroying Affair Partner. That’s clear as day! Stepmom & Cheater Adultery baby would not be welcome.
It likely they want to pretend the dad didn’t cheat and remarried to stepmom 😂
I have your videos on a loop because they're some comfort for me and it's so fun listening to the older ones where you say, "if I get married" and things like that knowing you're engaged. 🥰🥰🥰 I hope you know how much we cheer for you.
For my wedding I had it in Mexico where the majority of my mom’s family lives. I had cousins and aunts help and they were all wonderful. I have only known them for 4 years or so and I will forever be grateful. We all very much enjoyed the 9 hour party 😃
we have the best weddings here 🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽
I’ve always wanted the smallest, most intimate wedding possible and after watching all of these videos from you about wedding fiascos, I stand by that 👍🏻🥂
I need Charlotte as my daughter-in-law. I have 3 sons and such hope they meet a girl like Charlotte. Funny, sweet, sincere, smart, (I can't say she's hot, cause that would be creepy 😉), and she seems to have morals. Parents did an outstanding job raising such a sweet shining star. I love ya, Charlotte 😍. Thanks for always making me laugh.
3:50 - idk who needs to hear this but 'everyone else is mad at you/talking bad about you/hates you, but I'm sticking up for you' is a classic manipulator tactic. It isolates you from the others and makes it so you only trust that one person (who is usually actively spreading negative stuff about you to everyone else). As soon as you hear this line from someone, compare notes with the group! Manipulators count on us being to embarrassed or hurt to check in with the others but honestly if the others were really upset then talking to them directly would be the right course of action anyway.
When I was younger, I had all these dreams of having a huge bridal party full of my closest friends. I watched all my friends and acquaintances have that and I was always so jealous because I didn’t have a ton of friends because I prefer small intimate groups or one-on-ones. I had three bridesmaids who were my friends (they didn’t know each other at all) and a fourth bridesmaid who was my sister in law. They were all wonderful, not only to me but to each other. I planned all the wedding and the shower and the bachelorette but that’s just cause I’m a control freak 😆 plus I didn’t want to burden anyone and my parents paid for it to help my girls out. Looking back, I don’t regret my small bridal party at all. I had an amazing time and all of them are still in my life if not closer than before.
Moral of the story: Weddings aren’t popularity contests. You don’t need to have 12 bridesmaids to prove anything to anyone, especially not Instagram. A small intimate group of people you know will be in your life even after the wedding is just as good, maybe even better depending on your personality. There’s nothing wrong with a big wedding party, but it does increase the chance of drama or clashing personalities. Make it *your* day, not how you think your day *should* be because of what other people did or want for theirs.
That’s amazing ❤️ I used to think mine would be small due to being an introvert but then my circle grew and well I’m going to be having 12 wonderful ladies by my side and idk if we will all stay close in the future but I know for sure is I love and value each one of them ☺️
CC you nailed it. It's an instagram fuckfest
I have a friend who’s daughter is getting married in September. I’ve decided to go, even though it’s a 12 hour drive from my house. We have supported each other throughout our friendship of 32 years. Through weddings and funerals and other life milestones.
The only problem is that my mother is trying to get me to not go. Mind you, I’m 59 years old! Since I’ve told her about it, she continues to bring up reasons that I shouldn’t go. Gas prices, car trouble, expense of hotel etc. It’s really annoying. I’ve avoided talking to her about it, because it’s just too much.
The reason is simple. She’s afraid of everything. Although I’ve done things like this before by myself. Lots of times. It’s like she thinks I’m still 12 years old or something.
It’s kind of put a damper on the whole thing. But I’m still going! Can’t wait!
This counts as a verbal contract that we are all invited to Charlotte's wedding. ( I call dibs on being the flower girl! 😆)
When you make your stunning entrance, can I suggest you use "The Bad Girl's Song" from Michael Flatley's "Lord of the Dance" as your processional??
No I want to be.
😂 in a pretty little dress 🎉
The only drama I had before my wedding was 3 weeks before I broke my foot. I went and returned my heals and bought ballet slippers and walked down the aisle holding on to my dad. Most guests had no idea until I sat at the reception with my foot up on a chair.
So my partner and I are planning a destination wedding. I just keep watching your bridezilla videos to ground me on how to make sure I’m coming off with as many no pressure vibes as possible! Also, as a former Winnipeger who’s lived in England for years, your VERY Canadian accent always puts a smile on my face!
So glad you posted this. A always wanted to put my story in the comments but it was a bridsmaid not a bridezilla. I had a wedding where I did 90% myself. I made my own invites and husband and I sent them out. I made my own bouquets and boutineirs. We did every meeting. Only thing was for the groomsmen to get fitted and bridesmaids to pick a dress in this one shade of blue. Didn't have to be the same dress, not same shape, could be different lengths. Just had to be bought in the one color. This way they could grind something that was affordable too. I think each dress was around $100 so not bad. I had one complain about wearing a dress, when all she e er did was wear dresses, just didn't like any material. Then told me after ceremony they were going to change. They weren't getting stuck in it all night. All the others talked to her and she gave up and wore the dress. During photos complained the whole time about how long it took. Complained when we stopped for food which I paid for, complained about going to 2 different places for photos. Ya she left mid phots. I have a whole bunch where she's not in them.
Ps this bridesmaids was my sister. Made I got married first.
Karma worked on your side, Charlotte. Your man is a keeper.
By the way, I just love your editor's editing.
My sister's MOH was going through opiate withdrawals during the ceremony. A very green experience. My husband was standing with me at the back and after she came back out of the restroom she asked, "What do I do? Do I go back up or what?" My husband replied, "You are the MOH, your place is up there standing with your friend."
"I'll just have a very very small wedding with one million of you there." Flamingo grabber can be maid of honor and baby shark can be ring bearer!
Charlotte, I hope that you marry the most wonderful and loving man of your dreams, and have an absolutely fabulous wedding. Sweetheart, you deserve only the very best.
Videos like these make me so glad for the bridesmaids I have chosen- we share memes, laughs, and fun ideas in our group chats and are doing an escape room for the bachelorette since none of us are heavy drinkers. Weddings do bring out the crazy, we just try to make it a good crazy!
We had the brilliant idea to plan our wedding in about 2 weeks - everyone who wanted to come (family and close friends) was invited, but because it was short notice it was self-limiting. We ended up paying only for my husband’s suit, which he wears still today. Because all the elements were cheap and easy, a lot of our family and friends were delighted to pay for something small. Clearance dress, dinner for 12, and doughnuts as our wedding cake. It was spontaneous feeling and people still talk about how much fun they had.
Came for the content, stayed for Charlotte's absolutely gorgeous hair!
I love the petty and sass 🤣
Oh and that was very sweet of you, everything you did for her. It's unfortunate she didn't appreciate it.
I'm stunned you did so much, after she didn't have you as a bridesmaid, why?
@@golddragonette7795 Because I was a doormat and needed urgently to be liked by everybody...
@@franketa76 the lovelier the person, the longr it can take to realise someone is horrible for no reason
@@golddragonette7795 ❤️
These stories remind me how fortunate we were with our wedding events/participants. Thank you!
I got ghosted before one of my former best friend's wedding. She actually dropped the whole group of us (we were a group of 4 best friends). The extra shifty party was that she kept telling us we'd be invited/invites were in the mail. Like, if you're gonna drop us, be upfront.
I was “un asked” to be a brides maid and MoH by the two people in my life who asked me. I had questioned the reason for the one who asked me to be MoH because we were not that close, the one who asked me to be a brides maid is still one of my lifelong best friends. There was a lot of drama surrounding the MoH gig, which was completely perpetrated by the bride (at one point I thought I was losing my mind because what was going on was so unreasonable) and I was fine with being let go of the responsibility. I was hurt when my dear friend told me that she did not need me to be one of her brides maids, but she hoped I would still come to the wedding. I was hurt, but I also understood that, because of my life circumstances at the time, it was unreasonable to expect that I could do anything but just come to the wedding on time. No real harm done, in the long run.
Because of all of this, I just had my sister be my Maid of Honor and invited my goddaughter to be a junior bride’s maid. If she ended up not showing (she and her mom were coming in from out of state,) there would be no problem. The dear friend of mine was there, the other woman was not, and absolutely not welcome to be there. It was nice and the only drama was that my uncle and 98 year old grandma, who had driven over 500 miles to be there, were 1/2 hour late to the ceremony and I had to calm my dad down because he and his brother have never gotten along. It all turned out fine.
Funny bit of drama from my mom, though…since the wedding was held up (and my husband was already standing at the front of the church) my mom came back to where I was and frantically asked me if anyone had told my husband that I was there?!? I told her that he must assume I am there. She reminded me that sometimes brides leave grooms at the altar and he may be worried. I reminded her that we were already married at the courthouse a few months prior and asked her where she thought I would be other than at the church? This ceremony, legally, was completely unnecessary. It is a rite of passage for us to share with our family and friends.
11:20 so true!
I had a best friend for 30+ years...it ended 3 months ago.
I went to her wedding, she never came to mine (🚩).
I went to her home, she never came to mine (🚩).
I supported her for many years, and recently when I needed support...she was not there (🚩).
And so many more 🚩 along the years!
I got married 18 years ago...I still don't know why I waited so long to get rid of her!
Don't let these stories scare you! I had a wonderful wedding, my sister was MOH, I had an 8-month pregnant brides maid, my sister-in-law as a brides maid, my fiancee's best friend as a brides maid and my childhood best friend. Listening to these stories, things could have gone so wrong. But all these ladies were classy, loved each other and us and it was amazing. It can be done!
You had an eight-month pregnant woman as a bridesmaid?! You are very brave. We don't have bridesmaids culture where I am from but I would never make an eight-month pregnant lady be my bridesmaid. An honored guest sure but no not bridesmaid. I would be worried the entire time if she fell, fainted or suddenly went into labor. Weddings are already stressful. If something happened to her, more problems will ensue.
@@btsarmyforever3816 I didn't make her 😆 I asked her if she would like to be and she happily accepted. She loved it! She loved getting dressed up and spending the time with us. She had her son a month later. We love looking at the wedding photos and telling my God-son he was "at our wedding" 🥰
@@jenn8179 Aww that's very sweet of u. But seriously u are very brave lol. I would have fainted from worry if I had a guest so late into pregnancy, much less a braidsmaid! "What if someone bumped into her" "What if she got food allergy" "what if she went into labor!" Like I would def be too worried. I am glad u had a fun wedding!
I look forward to these videos every day. They're hilarious. Also Charlotte you can be in my bridal party. I need to find someone first...
Thanks for inviting us to your wedding Charlotte!
So, my husband and I got married in secret and my mom found out thanks to one of his uncle’s posting “Welcome to the Family” right on my Facebook page when we had Facebook. So a month later, we had a ceremony and my step monster at the time wouldn’t let me dad come to the ceremony whatsoever. My Own Mother was so happy about that and even said that she wished my stepdad, who she was only dating at the time, could’ve walked me down the aisle. Needless to say, EVERYONE who heard her say that literally ignored her and tried to keep me away from her as much as possible. Especially since I was 6 months pregnant at the time.
You make my sad days a little better. Thank you Charlotte
My day is ALWAYS more funnier because of this Channel. I'm so addicted to this channel. Charlotte's reactions and jokes are the best. She deserves even more success!!!❤️
I had a friend who first introduced me to my now husband, and when I was planning our wedding (four years later) I guess she assumed that since she had introduced us, she would be our MOH. The problem was that during those four years my friend had shown a tendency to make herself the center of attention wherever she went. She wasn't nasty or mean, but she did tend to try to outshine everyone around her. I debated asking her to be my MOH or even just a bridesmaid, but I *really* didn't want her hogging all the attention on my day. Instead I asked her to greet everyone coming into the church and have them sign the guest book. She didn't say anything but I was pretty sure she was disappointed. I probably should have told her why I didn't pick her for a bridesmaid, but I didn't want to deal with the drama.
Her fiance was the best man so she and he both were invited to the rehearsal dinner, which was an informal buffet at a chain restaurant. After rehearsal we told everyone the name of the restaurant where we were meeting and we all jumped in our cars and drove over there. But my friend and her fiance mistakenly went to the restaurant across town instead of the one closest to us. By the time we figured out the mistake and got them back on track, she was convinced that I was trying to ditch her on purpose. When they arrived at the restaurant she got out of the car and started yelling at me across the parking lot that I didn't want her in the wedding party because she was fat (her words, not mine). She was so awful that my dad even asked if I wanted him to ask her to leave. I didn't, and she eventually settled down, but our friendship definitely cooled off after that.
She definitely proved that not having her in the wedding party was a good call.
I’m getting married in 3 weeks. After we got engaged I asked my childhood friend to be my bridesmaid. She accepted, but expected to be MOH. The reason I haven’t asked her for that role is because while we were really close at one time, since she’s got together with her bf (around 2yrs before me and my FH got together) she basically forgot about my existance and was a shitty friend, never available. Anyway, a few months after our engagement, and her becoming my bridesmaid they get engaged. We book our venue first, with a date, which she’s aware, then they proceed to book their wedding in 2 weeks before ours. Also, when I asked her to be my bm, I literally told her all the style I liked, as a BM she knew my colours etc. She then proceeds to book VERY similar stuff for her wedding. I send out my electronic save the dates, 2 days later oh here’s theirs (very similar again)…What sucks is that I was hoping that by making her my bm, our friendship would get stronger again, but as she was busy planning her own wedding, she’s had zero contribution to mine (not that I need much help, but some interest would be nice) and by copying my style I became reluctant to share stuff with her. And then the few times we’ve talked she’s giving me unsolicited advice, things “I should be aware of” when organising the wedding…like are you kidding me, other than date I’m ahead of you in every step…
You are a delight, Kiddo. You help keep this 68 yr old lady young!
My worst bridesmaid story wasn't really about her. It was about her mother. We live in an area where covid wasn't really too much of a concern and people lived kinda far apart, so everyone went about their daily lives like normal. We had a month of lockdown initially in March of 2020, but that was it. My wedding was in October of that year. I asked a friend to be a bridesmaid. She said yes. Then her mom told her she wasn't allowed to because of covid. Which was understandable if you are like immunocompromised ig. I was pretty understandable. I ended up asking her if she was sure a few months later, to which she replied that she talked it out with her mom and that she did want to be a bridesmaid again. So I got the dress, shoes, bridesmaid gift, with the assumption that she was going to be at my wedding. Then the night before my wedding, she broke down in tears saying that her mom had been telling her he couldn't go even though she really wanted to. I felt really bad for her and I said it was no big deal. She offered to pay me back for the dress and the shoes, and since I was so tight on money at the time I took her up on it a couple of weeks after my wedding. The total amount for everything was around 120, but I decided 100 was enough since I knew everybody in my circle was not super financially stable. What I got was an incredibly angry long text from her mother about how I was "taking advantage of her kindness" and "how I was a bad friend for putting her in this situation in the first place" and "how I was putting everyone at risk" (despite us being in a low risk area). So my friend never paid me back despite being the one who offered. I never got an apology from her mother, and I only got an apology from her a year after the wedding. She talked about how going to college helped her realize that her mother was kind of nuts. She and I made up, but it's soured our relationship a lot for a whole year. She died recently, and I can't help but think about how our relationship could have been better if her mother didn't poke her head into her business and cause her and I lots of grief. Keep in mind everybody in this friend group was 18 to 20 at this time.
I’m sorry for your loss.
@@poppykelly2619 Thanks. Each day is getting better and I'm glad we ended on good terms. It's definitely made me appreciate the people in my life more.
@hero awesome. Gosh that must have been stressful for both you and your friend. I believe you handled the experience with class, integrity and compassion for your friend. It must have been hurtful and stressful for you. I must admit I am curious…. How did your friend die so recently? Was she always ill? Thank you for sharing your story.
@@wolfgirl3081 she passed away in the military in an accident due to military negligence.
@@heroawesome8495 Thank you for responding. What a senseless and tragic death. I hope you and your husband are living your life to the fullest. Stay well 🙂
I so love your imitation of precious girl voices!!!
I'm actually looking forward to Charlotte's wedding's live stream or something because our potato queen said it herself, she's gonna have the tiniest wedding with a million of us potatoes!
7:10 reminds me of Phyllis's wedding in The Office where Michael was trying to be in every single photo with the wedding party, and the photographer cleverly got him to stand to the side instead so he wasn't in the shot, lol
I was a bridesmaid in my aunts wedding to my uncle. We had a surprise bridal shower for her, as it is a tradition in my family. One of the bridesmaids wanted to go away the weekend her bridal shower was with her boyfriend. Note: the bridal shower was already planned and a ton of people were coming. The bridesmaid was mad cause she didn’t want to go, and yelled at my aunt saying she was “raining on her parade” because her bridal shower was that weekend, ruining the surprise. My family then had to reschedule the entire bridal shower, and everyone had to change their plans because one selfish bridesmaid was mad that she decided to make plans WAY AFTER the surprise bridal shower date was decided. She was kicked out of the wedding.
I was a MOH at my best friend’s (since literally almost birth) wedding and my college roommate (and maid of honor at my own wedding the year previously) and someone who I also considered a best friend was doing the flowers. She had a small business and had done mine and my bridesmaids bouquets the year previously. (Although looking back she really only “did” my bouquet as I wanted the bridesmaids to just hold a few sprigs of baby’s breath). ANYWAY. I went to the meeting where they decided on flowers together, color palettes, types of flowers, example bouquets and table arrangements, whole nine yards. Everything was amazing.
Day of the wedding we’re all getting ready, my makeup is done so I go to check on everything as a good MOH. We had gotten our bouquets and things seemed good. Some were wilting a bit but nobody was upset. BUT The flowers in the reception hall were a wreck. The flowers were like teal and purple and pink. (Their colors were burgundy, forest green, cream) AND my old roommate had LEFT to “go do another wedding”. The bride’s mom, dad, stepdad, and stepmom, spent hundreds of dollars at Hobby Lobby trying to get decent stuff that at least remotely matched their colors. They had gotten these specific tall vases for the arrangements they had agreed upon but nothing was good anyway let alone what they wanted. We spent quite awhile fixing it all. The bride was so upset, understandably! And THEN the florist/ex-roommate messages the bride to TELL HER THE BILL AMOUNT!!!! ALL OF THIS IS STILL BEFORE THE WEDDING!!! I had to take her phone to prevent a full meltdown and called and texted her from my own phone to *politely* ask that she at least not bother the bride today, this mess can be figured out next week. We fought over text for a bit regarding the tackiness of texting the bride in her wedding day and then argued some more in the days following. She made lots of excuses about not getting the flowers she’d ordered from her supplier when I know damn well she simply left it until too late and had to improvise and conveniently didn’t communicate ANY of these supposed struggles with anybody remotely involved with the wedding. We no longer speak. The mother and stepmom of the bride handled the nastiness what the payment of the bill would look like. (I sincerely hope they at least did not pay for more than the bouquets but did not pry further). I am still best friends with the bride years later and to this day the absolute only regret I have about my own wedding is that I didn’t choose her as my MOH at that time.
All these videos and my experience attending weddings set me up for mine in a good way. A simple ceremony with an Ordained Minister, in my backyard, 6 close friends and no one else. Then, the next day a party with everyone, at a restaurant I rented with a selected menu, BYOB and a nice cake and had the party there. Some friends of my wife helped to decorate the place and we had a raucous good time. The ceremony, the important part, was too small to get stressed over. The party, was low key with no expectations, so it was better than I expected, pardon the pun.
I know the Wedding is supposed to be the big day, but I really think when people try to make it big, it instead becomes a yoke around the neck dragging everything down. Instead, distill it down to the essence, exchange the vows in a nice setting, and have a celebration with friends and family after.
When I was in college we had a small group of 4 that were BFFs, J, A, S and I. J & A were roommates as well.
When J got engaged she asked A to be her bridesmaid. A proceeded to have a meltdown at the wedding and then didn't even show up to the reception. Because of all the drama, I decided then and there I wouldn't have bridesmaids. I had a very simple wedding and had the best time! Instead of wasting money on a wedding we went to Europe for our honeymoon and bought a new bedroom set. BEST DECISION I COULD HAVE MADE!
One of my male wedding party attendants (we’re a same sex married couple and didn’t have best man/groomsmen or MoH/bridesmaids, just wedding party attendants on both sides depending on who had the closer friendship with whom) that I’ve known for literally two decades and we are still friends to this day, was so excited when he shared that he’d asked his crush, this awesome woman we both knew, to be his date to our wedding- and she said yes. 👏🏼
It was only when we got to the reception that I was able to look for her, and spotting him, asked him where she was so I could say hi. He looked at me confused, then this horrified look came over his face and he said “I forgot to pick her up”😳I was shocked and mortified, and immediately told him he was a fckface for that 😂 he said “this is really bad huh?” 🤦🏼♀️I proceeded with guilting him on how she was probably sitting at home in a nice outfit, hair and makeup done, hungry cause she was going to eat at the reception, just….waiting…for…him. I told him to call her and apologize. NOW. And ask her if he could still come and get her. He said ok, but in actuality he later told me he was so embarrassed and ashamed about just forgetting her like that, that he never called. And she never spoke to him again. And I don’t blame her!
She’s married now with two children. And is still amazing and beautiful and awesome. Ugh Phil, you messed up so hard….fckface 😂
I love reading all of these "bonus" stories!!
The story where the guys best friend that's a girl getting drunk and ruining moments sounds like she might have been in love with him 😅
Literally just did a little skip squeal and happy dance when you said 1 Million of us ✨🥳✨ I wanna see it in reality 💗
It seems to me that these brides need to not be afraid to stand up for themselves and pull the problem person from the wedding party at the 1st sign of trouble. What’s so hard about that? 🤷🏾♀️
I laughed out loud, when you read the one with the poisoning. Your voice 🤣 the editing!
Y’all, I’m currently planning my wedding and when I tell you weddings have a way of creating or bringing up drama, I MEAN IT! For awhile, I actually hated the thought of my own wedding day because of the drama that emerged in my family. I’m feeling much better now, but future brides beware!!! No matter what, I’m counting down the days till October 16, 2022!
Congrats! I hope everything goes well, I too am counting down for December 10th. Super nervous but more excited than anything. Things may not go as planned or picture perfect but I know it will be a special day to look back at.
Congratulations. My boyfriend told me upfront he would propose after 3 years and we've been together for 1. I'm counting down the days until our 3 year anniversary. Maybe he won't do it on the day but when the day comes we will at least be close. I can't wait to marry him.
@@truthseeker9249 You never know! My fiancé proposed on our 3 Year anniversary😂
@@phynixhuhn-simmons90 Congratulations. Fingers crossed.
My daughter had an amazing fun laid back wedding including the BEST photo of her literally best over laughing ( beautiful candid shot ) groom n preacher laughing with audience . A joke to happen at end of vows happened early due to miscommunication and it was funny . She did not have any bridal party nor did he to cut drama mostly but as well as cost. We did all the wedding planning with her future in-laws and decorations. One a florist did all of that as their gift and was amazing and beautiful. His grandmother made the cake and I made wreaths ( I did as side job ) for decorating as well. It was the best wedding I have ever been to because so relaxed
These stories honestly make me not want to have a wedding or to just go the route of my bridesmaids and MOH be adoptable dogs from a local shelter/ rescue. Seems like that would be less aggravating than putting up with any of this nonsense and at least there is a possibility of getting a dog or two a home.
You do know bridesmaids and MOH are not compulsory? (I didn't have any) Just like huge wedding is not compulsory.
You can have your family/friends help arrange stuff. Help you with dress and other stuff that needs helped with. Hair and makeup outsourced to pro.
You can have small wedding with close family and close friends and get married in city hall or place of religion.
@@duckeh1952 I'm aware. I have already gotten married where it was just basically signing the papers. I've since divorced. Basically I was saying if I were to marry again I dont think I would want a wedding due to the aggravation people go through sometimes just to have one. I like the idea of having adoptable dogs at my wedding as it stands for who I am as a person. (I advocate alot for animal rescue) so if my husband wanted big wedding where he had a few groomsmen and a best man I would just opt for dogs on my side. Hopefully that clears up what I was trying to say. I'm well aware a big wedding or a wedding at all isnt necessary but some people want one and it's not just my decision of course.
Aww!! We'll definitely be there for your wedding, Charlotte!!
My friend was getting married and at the time I was in the middle of a very difficult pregnancy. I said I would go (not in the wedding party) but I did warn them that I'd be in my third trimester by then, and my Dr was already talking about the high possibility of bed rest. Sure enough, the day before her wedding I was hospitalized. I sent word as soon as I could and mailed them my card and a very generous cheque. She hasnt spoken to me since. Didn't check in to make sure me and baby were ok. Ignored my apology messages. It's been 7 years
I bet she cashed the cheque though.
@@daisy9910 you better believe she did
You never fail to make me smile
3:26 reminds me of the time pretty much my entire friend group basically ousted two of our friends because they all felt the couple got engaged too quickly. They'd only been together for a few months but had actually known each other for much longer. They all were basically saying "i dont support it bc i wouldnt do it that soon". I felt like the odd one saying congrats to them and telling our friends that its their life, not ours. Well their hilariously petty selves got court married the next week out of spite since they all said they wouldn't attend anyway. They've been married almost 2 years now and I'm their best friend lol
Edit: the couple was in their mid 30s when this happened and had known each other and the rest of the friend group since the start of college around 18 and 19.
what is "ousted" ?
@@matematicarka it basically means forced out- so what im saying is two friends from my friends circle were forced out
I recently discovered your channel, and it is TERRIFIC! You make me laugh so much. Cannot wait to see what else you have for us! Love and hugs from Texas!
I'm not sure how it is now but 30 years after my marriage I totally appreciate everyone who cared enough for me to be a wedding guest.
Charlotte Charlotte Charlotte my best type of Charlottes out there. Love you gurl you are the Charlotte.
I was pretty frustrated with a girlfriend who was much more concerned about the fact she wasn't going to be MOH, than excited for me and my now husband.
She didn't even say "congratulations" for awhile, but she sure as hell let me know she felt let down because we decided to just elope. We're still friends, but there's definitely a little mark there for sure.
I love your wedding related videos. Not sure why, but they never get old. Love you bestie, keep up the great content!
Its time to acknowledge that asking someone to be in your wedding, is asking a huge favor. It costs a lot of money, you have to be prepared, and have to show up on time, and are on call for any problems that may arise. If you’re a real friend, you say yes without question, and you do your job to support your friend.
All that said, dudes fuck with each other all the time......but NOT like this. A little drunk, a little rowdy? Sure. But holy fuck, dudes never sabotage shit for hundreds of people.....too much work.
I didn’t have any bridesmaids, my brother was standing as my witness and my husband friend was his. I had blast, my wedding was fun thanks to them xx
The one near the end where the woman played up the party decorations, then showed up with scraps of kids party decorations reminds me of a situation my former group of friends had one year for a New Years Eve party. Nothing big, just a simple group gathering. We all agreed to dress a little nicer than normal, nothing fancy just nicer than our normal clothes. We decided to change things up and have the gathering at a different house. The person whose house we normally had gatherings at flipped out, saying that she had worked so hard on decorations, and everything was already up and ready to go. Okay, fine, we'll have it at her house. Cut to that night, again, we had all agreed to dress nicer than normal. She refused to follow this. When we walked in, we all expected to see balloons, and incredible decorations everywhere. All we saw were a few computer printouts taped to the mirrors in the dining room. None of us could believe that someone her age (she was 10 years older than us) had basically thrown a tantrum simply because she didn't want to have a group gathering somewhere else.
Story #2. When I was in college I had to do a thesis presentation in order to graduate. This is normal thing for people in the art department. For my presentation I had designed several figure skating dresses and sewed each of them. I lined up 4 friends/models to wear them. They didn't have to say anything, just stand there in the dress. One of the girls had been there for my previous presentation, so she knew the drill. She agreed to come back and was up for it. She ghosted me. Luckily one of the other girls had a friend who was willing to step in. The presentation went great and everyone loved it. a day or so later the friend who ghosted me tried to explain what happened. I told her it was too late for her excuses and never spoke to her again.
Well now, if that last remark wasn’t signposting, 😄 love you Char! You’ll make a drop dead gorgeous bride 👰🏻♀️