ENTITLED DATES That Need To Be Called Out - REACTION
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The whole "not kissing me" thing, reminded me of an IG reel I just saw recently, that if you don't understand consent, get a cat, they'll teach you consent REALLY fast. 😂
🤣 they sure will!
Lol not all of them I have 2, the younger one will let me kiss him hundreds of times & hug him (I'm like a 5 year old who loves animals) he'll whine that's about it, my other cat I don't push too much he actually acts like a cat his brother is more like a dog lol
The guy who emailed a date after 3 months and was ugly to her: the only appropriate response to this would have been, "who is this?"
oh that would have been epic
Or “Boy please”
The “I will give you a month and reach back out” really got me. The best response “I don’t remember you and please don’t bother to reach out” also people like this should be reported and removed from dating sites
That's a good one. My brain responded "I'm good ✌️"
3months and she never messaged him she likely found his arrogance repulsive a woman offering to pay is a way of saying I don't want to see you again they don't want an entitled guy to pay because they feel like they are owed something. signs of him being a hole on date shows through the not laughing he was likely not funny her coming off snobbish anyone sitting with a jerk is going to have a look of disgust towards them. Her being prude prude is really a bad thing but chances are she might not be he just was repulsive.
It is unacceptable to expect (or ask) your date to buy your kids dinner. Sorry. It is not your dates responsibility to arrange for your kids to eat. This behavior is why so many people try to avoid dating people with kids. What a bizarre thing to ask someone you just met to do.
Yep, that was extremely weird.
Honestly even if they had known each other a long time, what a weird thing to do unless they’re also his kids 😂
@@owatagusiam44 Definitly, except if he is somehow involve in their lifes too but otherwise that's just so weird 😂
When I was 10, my mom took me along on her first date. She told the guy she couldn't get a sitter and was hoping he'd back off because of that... He didn't, so he took us to a really expensive seafood restaurant. I already didn't like the guy he smelt weird and I didn't like his vibe. (I'd been heavy into meditation at that point already because I was a weird kid so he didn't pass the vibe check). So the only thing on the menu I liked was a steak but it had to come with shark... And it was the most expensive item on the menu, he said that was ok. (Tbh I have no idea what my mom or he ordered I have no memory or it). My mom already didn't care for the guy so I was a nightmare on their date and demanded that I get to take my drinking glass home... He bought it .. like who does that?!? It was the weirdest thing I have ever experienced in my life and they ended up getting married but it was a terrible marriage and even worse of a divorce. I honestly would never participate in anything like that again. So my advice would be, if you don't want to date a dude just be honest. Kids should not come on a date, especially when they know they were the excuse not to go.
@@crystalh450 so my single (at the time) mother, with a 9 year old boy was selfish for dating while single? She should’ve died alone or waited until she was too old to have another child I guess? Her ex-husband and father of her son cheated on her twice (she forgave him the first time) and then after the second time he left her for another woman and told his son he had no interest in a relationship with him never paid a dime for him his entire life. *She’s* the selfish one for having the courage to move on and find another partner? Well I sure am glad my angel of a father didn’t think like you cause I wouldn’t be here and he loves my half brother like his own and paid for everything including his college. I get that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but maybe some opinions just really shouldn’t be shared 😬
The dude that complained about all her faults then offered to go on another date was trying to break her down to the point she'd go out with him again. I don't know if he did it on purpose, or if it was unconscious, but he hoped, somewhere, that she would be so beaten down that even he looked like a winner. I hope in the name of heaven she blocked him...
Isn’t there some bro pick-up book that explicitly advocates this technique?
Unfortunately yes
@@kendallcaminiti-hess2243 Definitely, he had all the screws loose and thought he was a big deal. But no, he’s the city clown
I think you meant subconscious and not unconscious, although he may have been unconscious when attempting to be so smart.
"you really hurt my feelings when you didn't kiss me, but also, you don't have enough self confidence" 😂
I'm german, so I live in Germany. I had a boyfriend from the UK and when he came to visit me, I felt so bad that he paid for food or train tickets and stuff like this since he paid for plane tickets to come and see me. So I do not understand how people can be like that, to just expect their partner (most times the guys) to pay for everything and be pissed if they get asked to pay for a freaking sandwich!
Never feel bad about your boyfriend paying for everything. Paying might make him happy. But you could explain to him that paying for him once in a while would make you happy.
@@dalesplitstone6276 we basically create weak men ourselves and complain later that they're no real men left in the world.
@@AnastasiaAisling sorry, how does pay for your share would make someone weak? Is that what you're saying or i¿m misinterpreting you
@@Readmore462 feeling bad and sorry for the man who had to take an enormous sacrifice to pay for food and plane tickets (as if it was not his own wish and choice) instead of just accepting it with gratitude. Yes, it does make a man weak.
@@crystalh450 bruh if a man is capable of paying for his woman all the time it's the opposite of weakness
I had a date with a guy I shared a mutual friend with (also a guy). On the date, we went to a very expensive restaurant....where he pushed me to pick the more expensive dishes, appetizers, dessert, drinks. After the date we were walking around downtown in the city, it was near the holidays so there were pretty decorations and lights, so it was very nice. I wanted to pop into a shop to use the restroom and as we walked past one of the counters I noticed some leather cashmere lined gloves that really caught my eye. They were $300. In the 90s. I just looked that up and that's about $680 in todays money, they were ridiculously expensive gloves. He asked if I wanted them, I of course said no, but for the rest of the night all he did was bring up buying me these gloves. He was so persistent that it became really awkward and I ended up ending the night sooner as a result. I thought he was trying to show off and it rubbed me the wrong way. Fast forward a few days and I was telling our shared friend about the weirdness on the date....he told me that the guy told him he apparently had some sort of idea in his head that if he spent a certain amount of money on a date that in his mind he was somehow "owed" sex in return. So he wasn't showing off, he was trying to get to his artificial price that, in his mind, guaranteed I would sleep with him! Yeah, I never went out with him again.
Bullet dodged.
That happened to me several times before. In fact, not simply with guys, a LOT of people who do me favours actually do it to create a power imbalance. It can be for a lot of reasons (ask something is return, feeling better about themselves, blur boundaries so they can insert themsleves I to your life), sometimes they are not even aware of it.
And it's sad, but now I systematically decline when someone wants to help me unless absolutely I trust them.
Eewwww! You definitely dodged a bullet! My question though is what did your mutual friend think about this?
@@lise7538 I never understood this. One of the best parts of helping someone is that you don't get anything in return for it. You just do it to be nice, and that makes it more special. But you're right, nobody helps these days without expecting something :(
@@karencotlar2023 He was surprised and unhappy about it. That was why he told me.
Regarding the guy who sent the (months later) list of corrections to the woman he went on one date with, it's high time that he, and others like him, be named and shamed. That's the only way that kind of behaviour can be stopped. Man, woman, whatever... screenshot the conversations, put their Tinder profile and photo up for everyone to see, along with the 'chat'.
It should be done without comment to avoid allegations of slander/libel, Let him/her be roasted by their own words. And wouldn't it be fun if someone from their workplace saw it?
One thing I do not understand is the fact that people will write the most awful things on the internet and yet you're not allowed to share it with their name in it or else you get in trouble. It's already public so why is it so prohibited. Their's absolutely no logic in that.
I actually feel the problem with society today is the idea that when someone acts like an asshat, the proper thing to do is call them out on the internet and shame him on an international level. He was a dick, so let's destroy his life?
NO children! the proper thing to do is just ignore him and move on with your life. if I got such a list, I would take it as confirmation that we are not a match , block him without response and keep it moving.
"he offended me so I must destroy him now!" what are you? 12?
@@theoverunderthinker That is the kind of guy who wreaks havoc wherever he goes, a toxic bully fully capable of destroying a fragile person’s life. I will shame him with pleasure and hope he learns how to treat people. If that makes me “12”, or petty, I’m fine with that.
@@condar419 "I will shame him with pleasure and hope he learns how to treat people" that was total bullshit. you just like hurting people because it makes you feel powerful.
I am sure the gal who received the email was not crushed; it just confirmed that he was a bad person to date. women are not that fragile and whatever you post online won't change him for the better.
so if you work your magic and what? make him lose his job? you think that would make him treat women better? or worse?
I would put it that YOU are the toxic bully and you likely scour the "interwebs" looking for victims to destroy. basically, like Twitter.
as far as I am concerned, you are two of a kind. or maybe you are worse because you cloak yourself in righteousness like you are standing up for the oppressed and the fragile.
not sure why either of you would want to waste that energy, it might be more productive to put your energy into finding a good relationship than punishing someone you already know you are not a match with!
you know, like adults do.
I would have listed his faults back in the same way and instead of ending”if you change I’ll give you a chance” end with “I have no F’s to give.”
That one guy embodies the definition of INCEL. Ladies, you do NOT walk away from him, you RUN and in some instances, change your phone and move with no forwarding address.
What is INCEL?
@@susanbissell6319 INCEL stands for Involuntary Celibate and is a group of males that are wildly misogynistic. Remember a couple of summers ago when that guy rented a van in Toronto and ran over a bunch of women on Yonge Street? He was an INCEL. If you ever come across one, get away from him as fast as you can.
@@susanbissell6319 " a person (usually a man) who regards himself or herself as being involuntarily celibate and typically expresses extreme resentment and hostility toward those who are sexually active"
When I dated, I always insisted on paying half the bill; that way, they couldn't use "I paid for the meal, so get your knickers off".
@@ViolosD2I - it was also "I can pay my way, and will do so" - I'm sort of paranoid about being, or being seen as, a freeloader.
later on, yeah, he can pay for a meal, provided that I pay for the next one.
Married now, but I went out with this guy back in the day that had the craziest mentality. We went on 3 Sunday football dates (I'm not a fan but was trying to bond) and a few others. I bought a jersey and tried to connect with his friends. After a month I finally made a move and tried putting my hand on his knee and leaning into his shoulder. That night he said I was moving to fast for him and that was it. Really confusing, so glad I'm out of the dating game
I kissed a guy on the cheek after a couple months of dating and he said it was going too fast bless him 😂
I can't imagine what trying to date in 2022 is like, especially for a 40something like me. I would probably just stay single if my current relationship ended for any reason.
😹😹😹 Tf lol I'm so sorry
Maybe he was attracted to your mind instead of your body also he may have been a virgin or possibly a God fearing man, either way you probably have up on a really decent guy. Glad your happy now!
@@pablodelsegundo9502 37 year old female who finds being single preferable to internet dating for sure
This is hilarious. I got hold of one of those “how to make any woman sleep with you,” books a number of years back. And this is literally textbook “how to get a second date out of a bad first date.” This is proven more by the fact that he mentioned the size of his bank account.
A well known actress in her 80s,wrote a book about when she was just starting out. She would go on dates. She and her actress friends called it "dating for dinners". It was a common practice back then. The expectation of the guy paying was much more socially defined. It has never occurred to me to go out with a guy just to get a free dinner. That is audacity. What if he had audacity and expected more than a handshake at the door? That dinner would be too expensive for me.
I dated a guy for a few months that I was crazy about. Everything seemed to be super great, we did most things together and spent time with each other's families. We had good conversations and both admitted that we were very infatuated with each other. One night I called him after work to just see how his day had been, and suddenly he just let loose on me a laundry list of things he's been keeping track of in his head that he doesn't like about me and my family. One thing being that my mother wasn't a fan of the restaurant we went to that he recommended, and another being that I should be able to look at him and know when he's ready to leave (this specifically incident was when I hung around 15 minutes after church one day talking to another member - bf at the time was the pastor). It came out of nowhere, and he wanted me to agree with him that I needed to change, but after listening to him I realized his list of things that were wrong with me weren't actually faults of mine. The next day I told him I didn't agree with the things that he said and it upset me, and because I didn't agree he broke up with me. It tore me up because in the prior couple of months none of these things had ever been mentioned, let alone the fact that a couple of days before this conversation he told me that he told his father that he didn't want to be with anyone else. He told my sister that he just didn't think I was up to being a "Pastor's wife."
All of that to say, it really reminded me of the girl who was ghosted and the guy came back to her with crazy demands! When a guy loves you, he loves you for who you are and encourages you to be even better by walking beside you! I've been in a very loving relationship for a year and a half now with someone who's shown me that loving someone isn't demanding them to be what you want or they'll leave, it's being there for the long haul and the ups and downs! Never settle for less, and don't let anyone try to bully you into being what they want! That incident took a toll on me for a year and a half and caused me a lot of fear at the beginning of my current relationship, but know that when it's the right person the fear fades and you feel free to fully be yourself! And don't ever date someone who takes themselves too seriously, you need someone who you can laugh with, not that you walk on eggshells around!
That's my TedTalk - that one girl's story struck a cord with me for sure!!!
If I were a young person dating again today,I think it is important to speak up and clear up these petty issue before the date.I would say up front," I think it's important that we each pay our own expenses and in the date,that this removes a tense issue that possibly interferes with us getting to know each other ." How the prospective date responds will tell you volumes ..
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Exactly.
I went out with a woman once- when I asked her out and she accepted, she let me know that she wanted to pay for her own dinner. I didn’t mind at all.
My fiancé and I also had all the big talks about our core beliefs, opinions, and values up front. If your just casually dating I don't think it's that important to do this. But when you are seriously look to enter a long term relationship I think it's a good way to go. I watched so many friends and family members get caught up in relationships that were never going to work because their core beliefs were just way too different. Not that it's a bad thing to be different from your partner but those core beliefs really matter. They got so caught up in the relationship and sparkle that they tried to stay together anyways and it always ended badly. I think when you are seriously dating it's better to have those big tasks up front and figure out if you still want to pursue that relationship. I also think it is good to just casually date. It helps you figure out what your life and don't like and what you can live with forever.
I can’t wait to go on a date after gaining self confidence. Unfortunately, I’ve been such a doormat despite being pretty. You really do have to stand up for yourself and not change for anyone!
I think if anyone responded to the “dictation” ad, they would be reported as missing 3 days later. What a creep!
Exactly my thought. There is no way you don’t get red flags from that wording alone; even if you are not physically harmed, I can anticipate some mental abuse and angry displays of power from that guy.
I think the guy saw the movie "Secretary" a few too many times. ruclips.net/video/GZXpL6djYis/видео.html
The rest of the message was awful, but I think he meant for dictating letters or documents. Like, that his crazy ideal assistant would write what he says so he doesn’t have to type it.
@@fantasymagic97 I think he meant DICKtation 🌚
Dictation was a thing...about 40 yrs ago. I'm quite sure technology has come up with other methods for office correspondence. What a weirdo.
When me and my hubby first started dating in 2011, neither of us had a job. Money was hard to come by and we were really poor. Sometimes dates were just walking around Citywalk or staying at my house or going to McDonald's and just talking. Because of financial stresses still ongoing, sometimes I pay for the dates, which my hubby feels bad for. Hopefully once we move into a new place, we won't be struggling as much. There's always more to the relationship than money. Money may help, but it's heart and personality that matters ALWAYS .
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@@Sidehustle_chick thank you ☺️
Wish money wasn’t so stressful. I hope you are able to move to your new place soon!
My husband once told me about a girl he dated a while back. He knew it was over when en route to her parents’ house for dinner, she told him “Don’t tell my dad about your autism; I don’t want him to think you’re weak!”
Bonus points on her name actually being Karen.
Oh that’s dirty. She messed up
I hope he put her straight in the bin
@@cl8wnm5n Yup, but her loss is my gain :)
@@addicted2mako 🤣
HOW DARE SHE
We are not weak. You, not correcting your father on his outdated and terrible opinion, or standing up for your partner, are weak. *middle finger into oblivion*
Spotting red flags got the back of my head as I walked away called a bitch many times. I'm okay with that. It's why I always insisted on having my own transportation.
If there was something I could convince young girls of, it would be complete school so you can get a job and have your own money so if things go south you can move out and be OK. Being trapped with no education or money is how men get control and threaten you with living on the street if you leave them. But they're "in love" and won't listen, ugh.
@@gl15col Yes! I always thought If I don't have Taxi money (I'm older) but in modern terms.. Uber money... and the ability to pay for the WHOLE dinner bill (in case the guy takes off), then I shouldn't be dating. You never know, the guy could dine and dash. You could get stuck somewhere, breakup or get into a fight?
I don't get how some girls seem totally accustomed to men paying for everything. I'm disabled and my bf is right now the sole earner and I hate hate HATE it. He doesn't mind paying for things, but it bugs me to all get out. I can't wait for my SSI to go through
@Abigel_____22 🍑 reported lmmfao
I'm currently in that situation. I understand exactly how you feel. I feel like I'm consuming more than contributing and that just isn't right in my eyes. Best of luck to you!
Good luck ! Shouldn't be too long mine was about 5 months total
@@kendallcaminiti-hess2243 exactly
The average wait is 2 years depending on the case load. Must have attorney.
Yeah that one dude who decided to basically rip apart his date by “suggesting” things that she can do in order to be more appealing to him should be stood in front of a room and have a bunch of strangers rip him apart for An hour to see how it feels. Dudes like that make me feel ashamed that I’m a male and have to deal with assholes like this treating women in a completely disrespectful and appalling fashion and then being guilty by association. Truly disgusting behavior
The audacity that people called that guy “cheap”, knowing that he paid for everything up until he asked for his date to pay for a sandwich. If the roles were reversed, those same people would be like “YAS QUEEN!” 🙄
Double standard
Name calling is one thing, but it's the best way to weed out those gold diggers and leaches
Yeah, I always paid for my half at first. Because I felt like what if this doesn't go anywhere? We should he be out money just because I'm a girl? Totally just a personal opinion not anything I'm trying to push on other people.
@@wifeofsauron1658 I do this too. I don't want guy to pay for me unless we are in relationship. It sometimes creates weird situations, but I feel awkward to let someone pay for me on first date, when I am not sure if I want to see him again.
It's quite ironic how these girls will call a guy cheap for not paying for one thing, but they're the ones expecting someone else to pay for them
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whoa, wait a minute. He wants her to tone down her makeup for a natural look, and then asks her to get more filler???
And asked her to fake tan because he didn't like how pale she was
fake tan, hair extensions too
It's more of the same "look effortlessly sexy" expectation we see so much in advertising and media. Women are expected to look beautiful and perfect and nubile at all times, but don't you ever dare wear any "unnatural" hair colors or fun makeup because then you're expressing yourself, which suggests you might have your own thoughts and ideas and preferences, like a real person. And you're not here to be a real person - you're just here to look sexy for the Men. 🙄
Yup makes perfect sense to me 🤡 🤣
He probably thinks that the drawings of females in comic books are realistic.
I went on a date with a guy. It went ok. When it was time to pay, I said I would pay for my own. He said he would gladly cover it, I said thanks. Told him good night and headed to my place. The next day I get a text demanding to pay him back. I ask why he changed his mind, he said he was expecting "more" from the date. I blocked him. The audacity.
The audacity indeed. Expecting everything for doing the literal bare minimum 😤
Yep. That's why I always paid for everything back in my dating days. Don't give them a chance to use it against you. I would meet them at a food court I would pay for their food and my food and even movies and other things. Then I walked away with no worries. So if you're going to date ladies, bring enough money for two sometimes LOL
Being able to receive dictation was a duty of secretaries up until about the '80s when technology started taking over. You had to know shorthand to take what was being said, compile it into a format like a business letter, and then mail or deliver said letter. To me, this suggests the guy is probably an old fart.
A good secretary was priceless. They had to not only know how to write correctly but also know the business with all its insider and special knowledge. They are extremely rare now regardless of what they may be called.
Retired admin here - I was adept at speedwriting, 'took dictation', and worked with a gentleman who used a Dictaphone - beginning in 2010. He was previously a LE detective, it was how he & his assistant had always worked, so we worked that way as well. Quite efficiently, too.
Thank you! The rest of the ad was off, but I was listening to her reaction thinking, “No, that’s pretty reasonable and not nearly as sinister as you think!” Maybe it was just the context that made it seem bad.
Yeah I was like, doesn’t “receive dictation” just mean you write stuff down? It was a bit confusing to see it being taken as the main negative.
It can also be used as a double entendre and from the rest of it I’m pretty positive that’s how it was being used.
I never understood expecting someone to pay entirely for a date, trying to forget that he's my (ex) lol when we first started dating we just went for long walks around a natural park and talked for ages. No money, no lavish expenses - just us and conversation. I didn't need nor want anything more so these always baffle me 😂 thank you Charlotte for making me laugh once again 😘
It COMPLETELY makes sense for the times it was created in. Women didn't really work and if they did it would be at a fraction of a man's wage. These were times when Women didn't leave their parents homes till they were married etc.... times were VERY different. But yes......it doesn't really make sense now but many women still like to be treated in the old ways. LOL. I don't think it's unreasonable for the person who asked YOU out on the first date to pay though.
It just comes from the times when women weren’t allowed to own anything or have their own money. We need to move past that, seeing as we no longer have that model of society.
I told my daughter when dating some of my best dates were very low key. Going out for ice cream and just talking is great. I like that she’s taken my advice.
I never let a man I do not feel comfortable with or attracted to pay for my order. If a man is only talking about how great he is and how everyone including his exes are stupid for underestimating him or I just find that he cannot have an intellectual conversation to save his life, I wait for the meal to be over and ask for my bill separate.
The only exception was a cute faced little man that couldn't stop saying how feminism ruined women because now they are allowed to talk and it was getting to their head and how a wife shouldn't be allowed to exist the house without permission, because all female dogs cheat...etc...etc. And this was a FIRST DATE, so I waited for my tiramisu (because I wasn't going to skip on perfection just for 1 jerk) ate it quickly excused myself, went to the front (the restrooms were also conveniently behind the till), payed the whole bill, told the staff to inform him in 10 to 15 min and left. I can't even imagine the face on Mr breadwinner when they informed him that I had left. But then again I hate confrontation.
@@crystalh450 I agree. My date offered to pay. I was in college and he was working but I had my money and also offered to pitch in. Of course he refused but, my mom taught me to always have my money, cause sometimes guys use the fact that they bought you food to demand other things from you. I was fortunate though and married him.
I haven’t even looked at comments, nor been through more than 3min of this but I gotta say I am so agreeing with Charlotte. I also have a habit of trying to pay for at least a portion of my own stuff on a first date or whatever just to show I’m not a soul sucking mooch that view a relationship as a bank account 🙄 my last and longest relationship involved me taking the man role basically, and then I found someone who loves me for real and is very good about splitting the difference cuz I hate letting him pay it all anyways!!
How long have you been together by now?
“You have insulted me in every possible way and have nothing further to say….I must ask you to leave immediately….goodnight” Elizabeth Bennett
LOL! I'm in the process of reading this book now!
Hi Charlotte! Long time subscriber, first time commenter. I met a guy for drinks once after work, and he offered to buy to go dinners for my son as well as myself. Of course I asked why he would do that. He replied that he asked for my time, and wanted to thank me. He got that second date 😉.
I never understood why people don't share expenses while dating, I think it's something that should be obvious? I personally don't drive, so when my boyfriend comes to pick me up I either pay for the date or help with the gas and we always slipt bills.... So weird people are expecting someone to pay for everything
MAYBE the First date (2 or 3), if the guy was trying to impress you... but dating (exclusively) that's where I agree with you BOTH investing and paying for things. It's only fair. If I planned a date then I would pay... same if he planned the date then he would pay.
I don't understand it either. It's such an oldfashioned thing to let guys pay. I'd understand if one person doesn't have any money at all (hopefully only at the moment).
My first real date was a mess because in the middle he was like "do you want to pay for it or I could pay for it?". Didn't help that we were not teenagers anymore. I didn't have an opinion to that at the time so I also answered awkwardly :D and it kinda killed the mood.
It would be best to clear the air in the beginning: Everyone just says what they want to or can pay and that's it.
That's definitely something that needs to be discussed frankly on the first or second date.
Waiting til on the "date" to spring weird sh*t is SHADY AS HELL!!! That's why people need to TALK & find out what's in store BEFORE MEETING! If they discussed paying for dates BEFORE they even met, they could've decided whether they wanted to proceed or not. Same for the woman asking the guy to buy her kids food. People are icky. 🥴🤪
Shady as hell expecting somebody to make all the effort and pay for everything.. its BS expecting a man to pay for everything..
I wanted to give you a perspective from a single mom. I've been a single mom since day one and I have a three digit income like not really any. Recently I started going on dates try to find love so I'm not single forever lol I would never ever ask any person on any date whether it was the first second or 50th date I would never ask them to buy meals or anything for my child. That person didn't create my child. It's disrespectful, entitled, and immature to ask someone to pay for a child that isn't theirs. Even if he offered to pay in the first few dates for my child I would decline because I don't want the relationship to start off on a bad note like that... like you're spending all this money on me and my child it just looks like I'm only there to get a free ride. I don't want that I want a person to see that I'm able to take care of my child and myself which I've been doing for 8 years just fine. I really dislike women like that because it gives a bad name to other single mothers
On my third date with this awesome guy (he paid for everything on all three dates), we both were broke and had a little chat about going to do stuff that was free on some of our next dates. He still paid for lovely dates with me when he could. We've been married 10 years now ❤
*edit* I loved every date, expensive or free. Still do.
Oh my gosh Charlotte, I went out with a guy when I was 18, all night he just kept telling me how lucky I was to get to go out with him. Yes he was a very good looking guy. But eww!!! Never went out with him again!!!
7:53 If someone talked to me like this, all I would respond with after reading the humor part would be "Your existence is the joke😂"
I’m so glad I’m not a young woman dealing with todays internet/social media/app dating. I loved being a young woman during the 60’s.
Yes. Same here. But in the 70's.
Have a cool day.
I was dating in the 70's, and I don't see how you can know someones real character through a screen. It's hard enough to know who's a nut case and who's nice in person...
I remember listening to my grandma talk about dating in the 40s. Idk if it was just her and her friends, but it sounded like you just casually dated five guys at once until you found the one you liked best. Grammy was out here writing perfumed letters to four soldiers. Only one of them called her out on it - my grandfather. He called her as soon as he got back from WWII and were together for the rest for their lives.
They didn’t have social media. They actually went places and did things. This “talking phase” that’s all texting is impossible for me. Unless you’re already friends/interested, it does nothing to make you like me more. Let’s make plans and meet in person.
This is why I’m single AF.
You must all be white women lol I don't think any other race could say that unfortunately
@@rahimadreama23 guilty, grew up small town USA
I was at my local, years ago, and I was wearing a very bold, red lipstick, which complemented the red sweater-dress that I had on. I'm standing at the bar chatting with the bartender, a man that I spent a lot of time with. So another regular, who I recognized but didn't know, comes up to me and tells me that he doesn't like the colour of my lipstick. I simply smiled pretty, and said, "Then I guess you shouldn't wear it then." I don't know what he expected me to do, or say. I'm sure most women have had this sort of experience, or have had men say crude things to you as they pass. I had a guy call me a slut as he passed me in Dollarama a few weeks ago. I was really annoyed, and frankly, perplexed. Sometimes the crappie men overshadow the good men. We must salute the good, kind, loving men, like Charlotte's lovely new beau, or the man who is both my good friend and ex husband, Happy Birthday RLK! SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE GOOD GUYS AROUND THE WORLD! 🙌
More of this, we need to celebrate the men who are excellent! Yes there are some people who are crap but to anyone who thinks all men are awful, I'd suggest finding some new friends!
The fake phone call with Spidey was seamless. Pro editing Charlotte!
A man told me I wouldn’t look good with short hair and that he would stop talking to me if I cut it. So I went and shaved my head 😂😂😂 I now am bald and he still try’s to talk to me. Cracks me up every time I see his name pop up.
You don’t just see red flags you HEAR them too!! That’s a super power! Haaa was that Tom Cruise’s face?!😂 ❤️
Hi Charlotte. I discovered your channel a couple months ago and I must say I’ve been thoroughly entertained. You are hilarious
The after date rejection email list guy is straight up psychotic. He should be held on a 5150.
I went on a date with a guy who had a 110 point list of things his perfect woman had (I was 18, this was 1998). They included everything from being a virgin to correctly identifying 80s rock songs on the radio. Apparently I had hit enough of them that I needed to meet his mom. I thought I was about to be dead or in jail so I asked to call my parents once we got there. His mom gave him the "nod" and he said he needed to show me something and led me to his room which apparently was in the basement. I was getting ready to beat the living shit out of him when he opened a door to reveal the greatest Jean-Claude Van Damme collection in history. He even had a life sized cutout. He asked if I knew who that was. I did. He then proceeds to do the worst martial arts I've seen. We went back upstairs and my dad was outside and the dates tells me I failed on having male friends and liking to dance but was otherwise perfect so he might call me again. I replied "No can do, Chuck Norris says JCVD hits likes a bitch".
🤣🤣🤣 Why was this so funny?!!
I think it's a good thing when people know what they want in a romantic partner. I had a list as well, but mine only had two points that were a must.
@@youniverse6841 after I was in the car with my dad I laughed too. I was pretty scared in the house but as soon as I was safe it was funny.
@@Wwydn Im just glad your dad came when he did! Im sure it was a scary situation but the last bit of Chuck Norris got me lol
@@jenni8982 Sure, but if you get too many points on that list and if those points are picky and ridiculous then you'll find yourself alone. I had the worst in an ex of mine, abusive in every sense of the word. When I married my husband, it was clear that the one thing I needed was safety. He didn't have to be tall, extremely attractive, religious or have a great job. I just... there is so much macho in this world, so much emphasis on manly alpha male bullshit, so much pressure for them to be in charge and hard. I needed soft. A soft place to be and a soft heart that would never allow him to hurt me.
It's an extreme example, but at the heart my lesson was that there are so many good men in the world who may not hit someone's list. I took the appearance of what I thought I wanted, but at the core it was rotted. Just get to know any partner well and don't rush into anything! We can be truly happy with many different people, but only if we get to know them first.
All of this is the exact reason I do not put myself out there and would rather be alone than let random ass men judge me from behind their screens.
The guy who wanted all the “changes” seems like the controlling type of guy that’s probably an abuser.
The first date I always try to make it a coffee date, its super inexpensive and I can cut it short if I’m not feeling it. Honestly the first meet up isn’t even really a date, it’s just to meet the person and see if there is an attraction. After that then the fun activities start and I start to consider those actual dates with all the expectations and standards etc (its a gradual process, you can’t just expect everything in one go).
So glad I’m married and not in the dating pool. Sounds wild out there.
I just got divorced and I’m not interested in the dating scene anymore… I’m done! I’m 40, if I didn’t find “THE ONE” by now I’m not going to find him in this day and age… 🤦♀️
@@juliattavarez4211 you totally still can! If you don't wanna date anymore that's totally understandable and not something to be ashamed of. But my grandparents met at 73, and got married at 76, and it was the sweetest thing! They died happy and together. Just thought I'd let you know anythings possible 😁 have a great day:)
*’I know what I want and I’m not scared of being alone in order to wait for it’*
Resonated
I'm in a fighting mood today too Charlotte.
I really appreciate that you highlight the text you're reading, it's so much more relaxed for me.
If a guy already paid for the first 3 dates when he asked her to pay, I don't think you can call them cheap
2:29 OMGWTAFLookoutshesgottagun!!!!
Yeah, I flinched..
At this point I'm in for everything 😂. I met with my therapist and brought up watching Charlotte's videos.
They asked if it's helpful.
Yes, definitely yes. I probably have a Phd on entitled karens 😂.
@David stay safe and happy my friend.
#164
Thanks Okïl! And on my birthday no less! I love this community!!!!
@@davidguidry657 Hey! It's your Birthday! Wishing you a happy and beautiful day ahead my friend.
@@okilroth4250 thank you, bestie!!
Just found your channel a week ago and I’m obsesssssssssed SO funny, entitled people need to be laughed at
What a great way to start my day! Thx Charlotte!
GAWWWWWD!! You kill me!!!! LMFAO! I love these videos. Please keep them coming!!
My ex-sister-in-law has been getting back into dating recently and she had one guy she was messaging ask if he could come over that night. She had already mentioned to him that she lives with her mother and co-sleeps with her 4 year old so I'm not sure what he was expecting them to do 😬
Best birthday gift I’ve gotten so far today but 50 is shaping up really nicely! Love your stuff Miss Charlotte!
Happy birthday!
@@TheStipple thanks bestie!
Thank you for regularly reminding me that it's not too bad to be single
6:10 LMFAO when I saw this filter that I took a screenshot and made it profile picture on tiktok 🤣🤣🤣
I was with someone for two years where I had more money than he did (he didn’t have a job at the time). We were both in our early twenties. I pretty much paid for everything all the time. He would occasionally pay or get me something for my birthday and other holidays. For whatever reason he thought and still thinks that he spoiled me. 🧐
Happy to see you happy. Life can be good. Make good memories. Have fun
So the man that says make up is unnatural also wants the woman to get hair extensions & fillers 🙄.
I guarantee if a woman turns up for a date with him & isnt wearing make up he would say she looks rough(or similar) & should make more effort.
Ffs. 😡
No, see, he wants her to wear makeup. He just doesn't want to be able to TELL she's wearing makeup. He wants to be able to pretend that she's some perfect fantasy woman who looks effortlessly perfect and beautiful all the time and is only interested in him and listens to every word he says and laughs at all his jokes. She can't wear fun makeup or hair colors because that would mean she's expressing herself, which would ruin the fantasy for him 🙄
@@coolkumquats Of course yes my mistake. Like the stories iv heard of women making sure they wake up before their partner so they apply their make up thus he never has to see her actual face. 😡
Most men have no real idea about make up & really believe those stupid make up looks designed to look like no make up is being worn even though they have 5+ products on. Absolutely ridiculous.
Dont get me started on photo shop & filters.
@4:25 that has to be the BEST use of Tobey Maguires lines ever LMFAOROFL
I'm sitting at home and sick at the moment. Thanks for your videos, they always make me laugh. 🙂
I love charlottes *gently vibing* dance at the end!
I actually did cut my hair shorter after a guy touched my hair in school ( without consent ) and said long haired turned him on. I have always been the type to try different things to see how I liked it. Came in the next day he was absolutely in shock and asked "What did you do?!" I am pretty sure he cried after the interaction. ( This was over ten years ago. )
Lmao 🤣 Tom Cruise face got me rollin'
I love you Charlotte ❤️
How exciting it is to be present at the birth of a new phobia! The list @ 5:29 essentially is 'advising' the other person to change themselves completely for a subsequent date. This has to be a newly found level of petty.
Lmao the bully maguire phone call had me rolling 😂😭
Don’t let your boyfriend do your tattoos. I had a boyfriend (who was a beginning artist) do my tree.
Tattoo by boyfriend= $20 and dinner
Looking at it every day for 7 years after breakup = priceless
Covering up that monster= $450
Bahahaha absolute gold Charlotte thank for the giggles 😂🇦🇺💜🇮🇹
The guy who asked girl to pay for one sandwich. Good for him! I personally don't like men paying for all my stuff . There is 50% 50% or at least 60% 40% for money things there is no reason a woman can't pay her own or pay for her man from time to time. You know show the men that they actually mean something to us and they not just here as our wallets and free ride in life. Ladies do better!
Also the lady who asked the dude for meals for her kids. Dude your the reason why people hate us single mom's! I can honestly say I have never and would never ask a man to buy my kids food when on a date! Wtf .
Charlotte your effects are hysterical!
Love the video ❤️❤️ Fun Fact: currently there is a woman going viral for suing her date for $10,000. He didn’t show up and she sued him for perjury and intentionally infliction of emotional distress (the date the gentleman missed fell on her deceased mother’s birthday I believe).
I caught a glimpse of the ridiculous woman you’re talking about. I didn’t think it was real… until I watched it 🤦♀️😂
@@juliattavarez4211 she sued multiple people and major corporations. She might have lost her mind but she’s real 😂😂
Sounds like he dodged a crazy gold digger who uses people to get by
@@meganroberts8721 agreed
Well, unless he was on the witness stand in court when he promised to date her, I don't think "perjury" is going to fly.
"Giggity Slave" 🤣🤣🤣
I would honestly be very inconfortable if a man payed for absolutely everything everytime we do on a date, on top of picking me up everytime. That would lead to a great imbalance in our future relationship
***It was "Uncomfortable" and not "Inconfortable", as one person so KINDLY pointed out in the comments. I am french, and "inconfortable" is the french translation for "unconfortable", I tend to make the mistake because it looks and sounds similar. My sincerest apologies to the person who was clearly traumatized by my less than perfect use of the English language.
Literally something me and my boyfriend talked about like 3 mins ago 😂
I agree. I would be so uncomfortable
I know. I was uncomfortable with mu girlfriend always paying, so I had a talk with her, and we agreed that, when she asked me out she would pay, and when I asked her out, I would pay.
If you are going to post anything....
Learn how to spell. (UNCOMFORTABLE)
@@loraneilson1698 I am french, so I make spelling mistakes from time to time when posting in English. I am open to constructive criticism of course, that is how I learn. But your comment was not constructive, simply mean spirited.
I hope people show you more respect if you ever try to learn a foreign language.
You showed up, I'm entertained. Love you Charlotte.
Very much neckbeard energy with the one where he emailed her all her faults .
🤣🤣🤣🤣
You had me rolling on the floor with this one.....THE AUDACITY!!!!! YIKES!!!
I was married for 37 years and now widowed since December 2019. I would not know the first thing about dating in 2022. But then I’d be honest if I ever were to date someone and let them know I have no clue about proper dating etiquette in 2022. And hopefully they will be honest and we’d figure it out together with humor and laughter.
I bloody love your reactions to stuff... Keep up the great work...
True story, discovered that past year.
Moved to Japan, here men are supposed to show their income on dating apps.
One of my husband's friend had a date, the girl stopped him right away, asked how much he earned even before he opened his mouth to say hello 😱 He answered, she walked out without a word.
Guys are expected to pay for everything here. No car, no money = no girlfriend... 😳
I GOT THAT HOODIE!! WOO HOO!! CANT WAIT!! Also lovveee the Petty people show!! Chefs kiss!
I feel embarrassed when people offer to pay for my food. I can't imagine expecting someone else to pay for it. Like no!
I could see that
The one guy asking for a "Live in assistant, free rent" lol. Reminds me of the movie The Secretary.
I went on a date a few years ago. He paid I invited him into my place we talked had a drink then he left. I woke up to a message from him requesting I etransfer him half the bill cost of the date because he didn't get anything sexually from me when I invited him in my apartment 🤣🤣🤣 I just blocked him n moved on
Just the offer is honestly appreciated.
The tattoo on dating site is completely true, I had a person telling me 'they would flirt with me so I would fall in love with them and give them a free tattoo' then they kept asking for free tattoos on my instagram tattoo page for like 3 months and there are so many other examples like this too... these people don't even settle for discounts they straight up want free
These entitled dates videos are one of my favorites from you Charlotte LOL
Yay!! Love you Charlotte❤
Love that last one.
My husband almost always paid for dates when we dated but I spent SO much money on him too- little gifts, things I felt he needed and birthdays were hundred of dollars in gifts and things. We both made money. 🤷🏽♀️ Now I'm a SAHM for now, and he supports us. ❤️
Same.
What does SAHM mean ?
@@NaomiMisora1000 stay-at-home mom
@@apl2606 thanks 👍
Heya Charlotte thanks for the vids they pick my mood up every day thank you so much ❤️❤️
All of these people who expect to have their significant others be their meal ticket and just give them a full ride are blowing me away! Even if I have a feeling that someone is going to pay for me, I always make sure to have enough money to pay for myself just in case of an emergency or if I want something extra that they aren’t willing to buy. It’s THEIR money, and they get to choose what they spend it on. When I first started hanging out with my boyfriend, I offered a couple times to pay for myself, because we were still getting to know each other I didn’t really know where I stood with him so I didn’t want him to feel like he had to take on the expense for me if we were not serious . Plus I was so used to being independent that I was always prepared to pay for myself. If he insisted on paying because he wanted to treat me, I would put my money away and make sure to let him know I was appreciative . I don’t think he’s ever had a girlfriend that wanted to go Dutch on things with him because the first time I offered to pay for HIS portion of the date, he looked a little shocked but told me later it was really cool that I did that for him. It made me feel really good to be able to show him I was willing to put in the effort to make him feel special. We don’t have a lot of money between us but I don’t want to make him feel like he’s the person that needs to be carrying the weight. If someone notices they are going to be used and expected to pay your way all the time, of course they lose interest because it comes off as one sided.
Love the edits funny af 😂
Long time sub, I’ve been watching your videos every day for over a year! Thanks for being my internet bestie ❤️
Re watching this today, is that Mike on the phone?! LOL dirt in your eye 😂
That child of a man ( maybe, might just be a teenager ) who wrote a long list after a few months.
Made me angry, while I laughed about how insane it was writing that to someone and not thinking at any point before sending it, that it might not be good.
There are so many idiots on this earth, and gender does not exclude, they come in all forms.
Best you can do is to avoid them.
I feel bad for people who have to suffer them, but if those people keep getting together with people that act in such a way, then the fault is as much with them.
Its easy to forget what is actually important in the people you hang out with. So people tend to hang out with idiots over and over and over.
Another one! Loved these. The nerve of some people.