That’s good to hear so many people in todays world spend so much time on social media and detach themselves to the real world experiences that they miss out on social media is bad for you’re health mentally this is why I stopped using these apps because they become so addictive
"What you allow is what is going to continue." Powerfull truth. I feel the same way about mental, and emotional abuse, until you are willing to walk away, you have some responsibility for your situation.
Some many people have that issue of getting out of relationships because the fear of starting over, but comes a time your well being is more important. Happy New Year
That's the sunk cost fallacy at work. At that point you either accept the bitter disappointment of staying in; or you pull out of it, adjust expectations, and try again. As much as Courtney and Shaylee don't like it; it's as true in business as it is in relationships.
@@davidjackson6475 Exactly! They're thinking like Females. The older I get the more I understand that everything is relational with people. Shaylee is not understanding matters from a Man's Perspective.
I did pull out of my last relationship of almost 3 years at the beginning of 2020, although it was a really tough decision, it was the best I could do for both of us. I guess that's what they mean when they are telling you to man up... Only the timing sucked, it's 2022 now and I've only had just so much time where you could actually go on dates lol
I used to agree with you but I think it has a great function. I saw an ad titled "when you see your crush on TikTok." Well, if I saw my crush on that app, doubtful she'd be my crush much longer.
As a 41 year old man, i choose to remain single in 2021/22. Humanity is a mess at the moment, i am focused on my mission and purpose, "awake/aware"where i place my attention and who i choose to share my energy with. As a man my time and attention is valuable to me and it will not be wasted.
Cheers, 43 here and I chose single life a long time ago. In a way you could say i saw this coming. As you say, my time is valuable, waste not want not.
@@ShadowCthulhu excellent choice mate, same here never married, no children.....had lots n lots of women want to dig their nails into my back over the years n entrap me down, stayed strong n true to my purpose n goals! No woman will ever just come n take my time n energy cause society and it's laws make it so! NO NO NO
Courtney you doing great job 💙 I wanna add up These things making people single °~° 1.Defenses. Most people have been hurt in interpersonal relationships. ... 2.Unhealthy Attractions. ... 3.Fear of Intimacy. ... 4.Pickiness. ... 5.Low Self-Esteem. ... 6.Fear of Competition. ... 7.Isolation and Routine. ... 8.Rule-making. 9.self obsession
About that last girl, it's disgusting how they use guys for money and wear it like a badge, and might even brag about it to their girlfriends as well. Then their girlfriends praise them for doing that. It's sickening.
dude its us male enabling this behavior,if we man had standards and are choosy we would not be shooting our shoots everywhere in order to get laid with as many woman as possible
It's nice to see Shaylee here again and it was funny watching her breakdown the toxicness of tik tok. It's crazy that even in 2022; people still be on that shady shit. Yes all of your advice applies to both genders. This is perfect reaction video for the new year. Those people have no chill especially one who said the guy would go bald was extra pity haha 😂 The guy in green video filter spoke some truth. A lot of guys do settle with bad girls because of low self value and i personally don't see a relationship as a business and i think you can find love at any age. There's no time limit on that. Anyways i wish you a successful New Year my friend 🙌🏽🥂💖
I've never understood why some women get a kick out of having lots of guys chase them because they are leading them on. That has to be alot of work and be stressful after a while right? Plus that reputation will follow you when word gets around. Go hiking or play volleyball or video games or something. Less work, more fun and nobody gets hurt.
because women love attention. It's literally how they arrive at their own value relative to other women in terms of SMV. i.e. How much attention from guys do I get compared to XXX?
Being a single person is just too awesome.😁 The World is huge compared to the size of a human being and I want to see it all as a solitary person. I meet women everywhere but I'm always honest with them and tell them I choose to remain single. Some don't seem to like it but others appreciate my honesty and that's apparently very attractive to them besides my other personal traits, behaviors, qualities. Nothing wrong with learning a bit for from Mrs. Ryan regardless of choosing to be single or not.
I second that! …And I agree with them. Having integrity is very important… It’s really not worth it messing around with these women, or men that are unstable - why waste your time and energy on them? You would be better off being with a woman, or man that is of Quality - someone that will have your back, and vice versa. In the end, you’ll be a lot happier, and live a much more productive life - trust me! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I stay single because I cant seem to find a woman who isn't convinced that the 'garden tool phase' is some right of passage that every girl needs to go through. That's literally it.
I’m glad Courtney and Shaylee talked about getting off social media after you have had a breakup. When most of us breakup the dumped usually hold on to everything between social media, there phone number, pictures Ect while wallowing in what could have been and holding on to a hope that maybe they’ll come back but the truth is there most likely not so I think it’s important even though it hurts to just get rid of everything that reminds you of them and move on by working on yourself for a bit. Then try again later with someone else.
I have no problem cutting my losses but how do you know when you are rightly ending something or just giving up because you hit a bump in the road. P.S. I am very socially retarded and emotionally unintelligent.
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 That is both an art, and a science. When you keep seeing the same problems repeat themselves, when you're feeling less happy, and more sheer exhaustion, or if friends and family are commenting on how unhappy you seem to be... those are all signs that it's time to end things. However, it is your life, so only you can make the final call if you think you're still getting something out of the relationship.
I believe you have to be happy with yourself first, if you're fortunate to meet a girl? You both add to the relationship & are a pillar of support through good times & bad. In other words, hard work.
Do appreciate all your great advice. Explaining a relationship in business terms is not the greatest but it does make it easier to understand. But it comes down to what is the cost of your time and emotional effort that you're willing to put into it. It's more than what you seem
'Love bombing' is absolutely a problem, but it also gets mislabeled by damaged people who don't give other people chances a lot. It isn't love bombing when someone is trying to put effort in and you keep rejecting it. It's still ultimately on that person to respect themselves and walk away, but the other person isn't the primary issue in that dynamic.
I am 61, single healthy wealthy never married no children or bad habits. I am tired of being the ATM. Lived with one girl 20 year's. Two others 3.5 year's each. Four others less than one year. Not the first one ever paid a part of any bill. They saved up their money, when flush, took off. Then, regretted it and wanted back. Not happening! Now, I enjoy lot's of women in their 20's and 30's. I am not looking for long term at this point in my life, just pleasure for now. Life is easier.
Relationships are transactional to most men, and to most women it’s emotional. It’s not whether men are right and we are wrong, we’re not alike and we’re not supposed to be. We have to know ourselves well enough to understand that we are giving each other something very important from ourselves to them whether the other person understands 💯 or not. I totally sympathise with guys who become disheartened when the woman they’re dating walks out on them. Men roll the dice with women and are at a higher risk of losing themselves and missing out! This is not taking away from the good women who do the right thing, OR the women who’ve been hurt in similar circumstances. Thanks, Courtney and Shaylee! I’m enjoying this duo set up. Pretty cool! 💞
Them telling me they understand all these memes, tik Tok n snapchat references just tells me they was like this at a point and have the knowledge and skills to do it again once it's in there favor to do so
Hey Courtney! Do you think if daughters had better relationships with their fathers, that it would mitigate the majority of the enabling of poor choices being made by both men and women? BTW: I like Shaylee - she's proof there's "hope" still for marriage material in this country...
Absolutely, YES. There's an awful lot of young women who have Daddy issues. It often manifests itself in these women wanting a man to spoil them, pay their bills, and take care of them. They are not really looking for a partner. They are looking for a father.
I have two daughters who are now young adults. They have been my priority since day 1. They have a father, they don't need to look for one. Not that they don't struggle sometimes, like all adults do, but making poor relationship choices is not something they struggle with. Proud of both of them.
Ugh! It's not cute when one can't be bothered to care, whether or not there are a slew of people who are more compatible and nothing's going anywhere. And sad, but true that most settle cause they feel that if they leave the relationship, they gotta start over...dangerous way of thinking
People that have tons of dating options are rarely loyal and most( not all)are looking for someone better. Women are objects of beauty. Men objects of money and resources. Superficial and shallow standards are the normal expectations. This is why more single people are alone than ever before.
Another banger of a video. And I’m about my girl. Just saying this in reference to that Tik Tok about Men’s words not matching their actions. I tell my girl that I’m always there for her because I actually am. It’s so simple. I don’t get guys who play manipulative games by lying to their girls. That’s so sad
1:30 That girl on Tiktok is wrong. I will never be bald nor will I ever get fat. I will keep lifting weights and staying in shape until the day I die. Love the content as always Courtney. I'm glad to see that you're doing more vids with your friends. These are always fun and it's nice to hear another person's opinion too. :)
That girl on Tiktok will one day wake up to realize that she has become older, less attractive, and no longer relevant on social media. Then she will have to develop some empathy ... and a personality, though most people hit a "wall" in their 30's. She'll probalby understand when people stop liking videos of her twerking.
Yep, as long as a guy stays fit he remains attractive far longer than a woman. After around 25 it's all downhill for a woman. Not saying she can't still be attractive but she's past her peak years. Then she has the wall and loss of fertility to deal with in mid to late 30s. Men meanwhile are only growing in value through these years, and the old tadpoles are still working too!
@@jleano609 For the most part, yes. Although women can do a lot to remain attractive for a long period of time just as I can as a man. In that woman's case, what you described will very likely turn out to be the case. Plus in the end, what good is outer beauty if you are ugly as sin on the inside?
@@zombieslayer7759 no woman can outrun basic biology and male attraction cues. A friend of mine aged 57 has just wifed and put a baby in a 35yo girl. There is no UNO reverse on that dynamic. Men win out in the end IF we stay attractive.
A woman that post pictures of her self in bikinis and what not has no right to complain if their guy like pictures of other women in bikinis or what not.
Re: the guy in the green lit room and what he said about sunk costs keeping him in the relationship, I think - the message to leave only applies while they haven't gotten married, and had kids; - given how fluid (changing based on emotions in western society) and effort oriented (it takes little efforts e.g. acts of service/ quality time/ good communication) to sustain, I think guys in that situation need to confirm if the relationship truly isn't worth the commitment (the partner might still have some good qualities that deserve staying for) vs. they just don't feel that "in love" to the person at the time, since it takes more than lovey feelings to make a loving relationship work (as I'm sure previous generations who did marriage right would attest)
Yeah, I really identify with the green guy for some reason. Despite "feminism," women really do expect men to invest a lot of resources and money into relationships -getting the check for dinners, activities, etc. From here on out, I'll be having 1st dates at Taco Bell, although, because I am a gentleman, I will insist on carrying the tray.
Business Go Chapter 13 on relationships the internet has become an infectious disease of bad manners, bad social skills and bad advice. Also false unrealistic expectations.
I see a lot of these videos and have to say that people have forgotten how to be friends. In the beginning when things are new and the romance is at its peak things are great. After a few years life gets real. This is when a couple learns the most about each other. When the going gets tough, the tough couples work together and find solutions together as a team. I speak from 27 years of commitment and dedication to the wife I would have done anything for in this life. Had it not been for cancer we would still be together sharing life. Money is nice but I would have done anything to have her for longer than we had. What people should be looking for is that special individual that will hold their hand until the end of this life. The one that will be there no matter what. The one that will make any sacrifice for them in the end. Dignity, Respect and Civility. People call this being a SIMP. I am along in years but know that real relationships are based on Friendship, Love and Romance.
Heh, life is much healthier without social media! In our household we have only one FB account .. and it is for our dog ;) although .. my son uses it when his piano classes are for reason or other switched to remote. Before pandemic i used YT mostly for DIY and technical information. Unfortunately, lockdowns and absence of other entertainment changed it. Happy new year! (btw YT autocorrect/predict is evil ..)
I invest in certain parts of certain markets, yet my most favorite investment is Sunday leg days. Set a new barbell clean PR today and i only have one high-intensity day each week for longevity. It is easier to put in 2hrs or more into training when you don't have to get ready for work at some point
I guess with your saying that Some people put more attention and energy on a buch of other people who they find atractive vs one person that actually cares about them.... you hit the nail right on the head 👍
Social media detox is actually super important for your mental health. Just seeing random stories on IG can totally screw you over, especially if you view them non intentionally
Courtney, I understand your message regarding the IG thing. I just want to explain the difference between a woman guys would JUST sleep with and a woman guys would marry. Guys aren’t necessarily saying they would date the women in the picture they’re liking. Hope that makes sense.
*12 Simple Self Improvement Principles For Strong Women in 2022* 1. Drink more water 2. Eat whole foods 3. Practice daily gratitude 4. Pick up a book 5. Daily walks outside 6. Listen to a TED Talk 7. Forgive someone 8. Stop following Kardashians and build something for yourself 9. Join a group of supportive individuals 10. Stop nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) 11. Quit addictions - social media, binge eating, drinking, etc 12. Congratulate yourself for this growth Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list!
Some guys are saying,"women age like milk and men age like wine." She is upset, and trying to counteract that thought process. Men do get gray, or white, or bald...but, they can stay healthy and fertile for much longer than woman can stay fertile and attractive. Older men are more likely to be established in a company and career, but older women established in a career much of the time are planning their escape or have given up on having a family. It is sad when you ask out a great person and the response is not "I am madly in love with my better half!" Or "I am flattered but have found the love of a lifetime!" Instead you get,"I couldn't do that to my kids," or, "I have been with this person for 5 years and am to invested to walk away."
Hey Courtney, first of all, wishing you and Teddy a very Happy New Year! I love your content as always and keep up the good work. Have you watched Coach Corey's video entitled "Why Women Never Mean Anything They Say"? I think it will make a great discussion video in your channel on helping guys to read between the lines of what women really mean in their words and do you agree on women using extreme tests like a 'fake breakup' to see how much their man care about them instead of proper communication? I am looking forward to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you!
Yep. This channel answers why pretty well. Im a fan of it. It makes me glad to be free from all of this nonsense. Being who I am I know a lot of people, and I've seen SO much foul in my lifetime. TikTok just adds to my observations.
Miss Courtney - first YT video with Miss Shaylee. Looking forward to more. Regarding timeline - I am nearly 55 (maybe have stated that 27 times in the last couple of hours) and I am FINALLY investing in me. Lots of damage. Lots of bad relationships (I know someone very smart who - correctly - states that I am the common denominator in all of those "bad" relationships). Taking the time now to invest in myself. The dating door is closed for me. Until further notice! LOL. Funny, ain't nobody knocking on that door! Maybe a reason for that, right? If I might ask, what do you think - in general, since this is a WIDE OPEN topic - about Jordan Peterson and his books (thinking about "12 Rules for Life" and "12 More Rules for Life")?
That red sweater guy was 100% dead on correct. A relationship basically is a company. Because men, guess what? You're not only investing yourself into a woman, you're actually applying to be a part of a woman's life. Men are expendable in relationships because women have SO many options. Just like in the business world, everyone can be replaced. I've seen so many women say, I'm taking applications for my next boyfriend (LOL.) Your first, second and third dates are job interviews, and here's the best part: you're actually PAYING for that woman's time. You're not just paying for parking LOL. Even when they agree to let you into their life, you still have to WORK your ass off to STAY in her life, or as I like to call it, EMPLOYED. Or you get pink-slipped. A girlfriend, fiancé or wife ends up being your boss at home, because you always have to impress them, meet their every needs, wants, and more, answer all of their penetrating questions perfectly, handle their shit tests, and produce financially.
I saw another redpill channel from a psychologist who talks about this. Studies have shown women are turned off by what you just said "investments". It's weak and beta and they feel you are crazy and pushing a relationship and will back away. The reason he said while women fall for dirt bags is they don't invest in women so they invest in the man. The more a woman tries to please her man, make dinner for him, tell him she loves him the more she falls under his spell. I forgot the name of the channel but he a psychologist. So act busy and be scarce and create value. Stop texting and applying for her graciness as you act like a bitch she will treat you as one. Be assertive and not give a crap and she will be applying for you. The other beta simps will vanish away as she will be chasing you
That's a terrible mindset for success with women. You've got to flip that script by building your value and learning some game so you can date attractive girls with LOWER SMV than you. That way THEY are the ones qualifying to YOU and chasing you for the relationship. That's the only way for long term success for the guy and the girl.
@@jleano609 That is not good enough. With dating apps even 5s have 2 dozen simps at all times begging for a date. One of them will make 6 figures and be over 6 feet tall. What you need to do is have her invest in you. Have her do things for you and switch the application to you by being scarcely available and not buying her expensive gifts but have her do the same. Chicks dig jerks because they have to do the chasing and investing to gain their attention. Once you mention what you want and have her make dinner, please you in bed, have her buy something like a glass of wine you like she will dump the other dudes and focus on you
@@timothygibney159 we’re basically talking about the same thing, but you can only stand out in first instance by being the high value guy who doesn’t pedestalize her, doesn’t blow up her phone and limits his time and attention. That separates you straight away from the thirsty simps so unless she’s just an attention whore you’ll rise above the others and you can switch the script on her. And as you say a woman will do all sorts of things for a dominant man, basically take on that feminine submissive role. Do it right and you don’t even have to be a jerk, just a guy with a solid frame, standards and boundaries. Your job then is to simply stay attractive and dominant. Actually that’s the hard part as she gets used to you over time.
Courtney great video, you should react to some romcoms that are about how the other sex thinks, for example "he is just not that into you" or "crazy and stupid love"
Unless the person is still trying to contact you there should not be a reason to block them. That’s immature people who tend to do that. Assuming the person they broke up with isn’t bothering them like I said. As for the thing about free drinks it is what it is. Often girls just go to promoter tables at clubs that got the alcohol for free
Yeah I agree. Unless the ex is straight up harassing you, blocking (even temporarily) is a bit extreme. I can get unfollowing, because in that case you're not completely cutting them out, just hiding most, or all of their posts from your feed. There will pretty much always be plenty of desperate guys out there sadly. I used to be one of them, and I know plenty who still are. It is what it is indeed...
I liked every tip you gave. One thing I disagree with is your point on the fact that a relationship is not a business transaction. A relationship is a trial run to a partnership in marriage. Marriage in itself is a business contract because you both equally share your assets. It's very rare to see a girl actually invest equally in a relationship. I'm not saying all women are like that. But today it's very common with a lot of women.
@@CourtneyRyan My point is that people are always going to be wanting and desiring more, even the people hurt by it. Acting on it when it's wrong is the problem.
Courtney always beautiful and giving the right advice!! Love the way she talks, there’s nothing more attractive than a well spoken woman!! But I must say your friend in my eyes is perfect 😍 !! With all due respect !! Can’t help myself pretty women are my weakness !!!
Most men age like fine wine! We peak in all aspects as we get older. Our peaks are different from girls or women. The older i get the sexier i feel I look forward to my new age. #menneedtoworkforabundance
Thank you for the video, do you have any videos on the topic of how to move on from a long-term relationship and the pain of loss? Thank you in advance. Happy New Year, and may this year be a year of Miracles for you.
I mean, she’s physically attractive from what I can see, make up not to my taste mind you. And she seems smart and deliberative in her thinking. But a keeper? Based on a few YT videos? That’s basically zero evidence. You’ve got to date a girl 18-24 months to even arrive at the point of seriously considering putting her in that category. If you’re already wifing a girl up in your mind based on what evidence we have here that’s a serious projection based on extreme scarcity mindset and lack of frame. You might want to think on what it should take for a girl to qualify to you for LTR, and it should be more than a pulse and that her hair smells nice.
What I have found to be more common between female "friends" is the following dynamic: One woman will play the victim; even though what's happening to her is either her fault or she's being overly dramatic to make an excuse to leave a guy to "put his head in a guillotine." Then the other friend who has some sort of long-standing issues of resentment with men from her past and has nothing good to say about him or men in general will enable her pathology to persist. Then she cheats on him out of spite with however many guys she pleases and/or they then devise some scheme to act out their spite and resentment to get him falsely arrested or put in jail. None of these things are markers of an adult. They're markers of pathological female children that never grew up and are acting out their resentment and jealousy towards men. Women never just leave, they always hold a grudge. Always. Women saying: "its never too late" is a lie. It is at some point. At some point commitment is a right of passage as an adult. Make a decision. Commitment isn't something that only men are bound to land women can just do whatever the hell they want for the rest of their lives. Work through it, be an adult. If the relationship is bad: leave. If the relationship is bad and you were the source of the problems, understand what accountability is and change your bad behaviors. At some point your happiness as a woman isn't the only thing that should keep that relationship together. "I'm not happy." Well, you know what, YOU not being happy is primarily a YOU problem. Yeah, leave him I guess but, are you ever going to be happy enough or are you just going to blame men for YOU not being happy? Indecisive trepidation is a mind killer for women and if the problem persists into your thirties you likely will never be happy and only blame men for the problems that you created that men had nothing to do with.
I agree. Having integrity is very important… It’s really not worth it messing around with these women, or men that are unstable - why waste your time and energy on them? You would be better off being with a woman, or man that is of Quality - someone that will have your back, and vice versa. In the end, you’ll be a lot happier, and live a much more productive life - trust me! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Going 7 years with no social media 😄 ( no Facebook/ Or InstaSnap/ or Tiktok ✋ Life is great 😊
Me too i only use LinkedIn and youtube
That’s good to hear so many people in todays world spend so much time on social media and detach themselves to the real world experiences that they miss out on social media is bad for you’re health mentally this is why I stopped using these apps because they become so addictive
"What you allow is what is going to continue." Powerfull truth. I feel the same way about mental, and emotional abuse, until you are willing to walk away, you have some responsibility for your situation.
Some many people have that issue of getting out of relationships because the fear of starting over, but comes a time your well being is more important. Happy New Year
That's the sunk cost fallacy at work. At that point you either accept the bitter disappointment of staying in; or you pull out of it, adjust expectations, and try again. As much as Courtney and Shaylee don't like it; it's as true in business as it is in relationships.
Indeed. 🙏🙏🙏
@@davidjackson6475 Exactly! They're thinking like Females. The older I get the more I understand that everything is relational with people. Shaylee is not understanding matters from a Man's Perspective.
Is boring to start all over again at least for me
I did pull out of my last relationship of almost 3 years at the beginning of 2020, although it was a really tough decision, it was the best I could do for both of us. I guess that's what they mean when they are telling you to man up... Only the timing sucked, it's 2022 now and I've only had just so much time where you could actually go on dates lol
I wish more women were like you two. Seriously.
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They're most likely not talking about you.
Don't believe too much.
Remember. They make money doing this😎
*_TikTok_* is _literally_ The Devil! *THE DEVIL!!*
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Well it is a chinese app.
@@Strive1324L Yup, the Chinese Communist Party.
I used to agree with you but I think it has a great function. I saw an ad titled "when you see your crush on TikTok." Well, if I saw my crush on that app, doubtful she'd be my crush much longer.
HOLY SPIRIT ACTIVATE
Dating can be really expensive. 🤣 I get the business analogy.
Haha right 😂
You can reduce the financial drain of some these restaurants by sharing the meal with your partner.
As a 41 year old man, i choose to remain single in 2021/22.
Humanity is a mess at the moment, i am focused on my mission and purpose, "awake/aware"where i place my attention and who i choose to share my energy with. As a man my time and attention is valuable to me and it will not be wasted.
Cheers, 43 here and I chose single life a long time ago. In a way you could say i saw this coming. As you say, my time is valuable, waste not want not.
@@ShadowCthulhu excellent choice mate, same here never married, no children.....had lots n lots of women want to dig their nails into my back over the years n entrap me down, stayed strong n true to my purpose n goals! No woman will ever just come n take my time n energy cause society and it's laws make it so! NO NO NO
Same here 43 and single . My only issue with this choice is just feeling lonely sometimes .
@@AJ-ju5dn there are a few great women out there. Problem is to find same 😂
Bruh, culture is on the decline. Everybody is just bouncing around. Just enjoy the dumpster fire that is modern culture
Getting a girlfriend is like a fairytale I can only see them when I'm sleeping
me too...
Courtney you doing great job 💙
I wanna add up These things making people single °~°
1.Defenses. Most people have been hurt in interpersonal relationships. ...
2.Unhealthy Attractions. ...
3.Fear of Intimacy. ...
4.Pickiness. ...
5.Low Self-Esteem. ...
6.Fear of Competition. ...
7.Isolation and Routine. ...
8.Rule-making.
9.self obsession
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I think you forgot only one and that is self-worship and/or selfishness. Besides that, good list man. :)
@@zombieslayer7759 thanks bro yes it was not coming in mind that time while writing it 😋
About that last girl, it's disgusting how they use guys for money and wear it like a badge, and might even brag about it to their girlfriends as well. Then their girlfriends praise them for doing that. It's sickening.
That's their mating strategy. Our job is to pay their bills so they can have a baby. So they seek 6 figure men as the best dating options
dude its us male enabling this behavior,if we man had standards and are choosy we would not be shooting our shoots everywhere in order to get laid with as many woman as possible
What's disgusting is that a lot of guys do this. You can't blame the thief when the victim hands over their money voluntarily.
makes me think that ted bundy wasnt such a bad guy afterall
It's nice to see Shaylee here again and it was funny watching her breakdown the toxicness of tik tok. It's crazy that even in 2022; people still be on that shady shit. Yes all of your advice applies to both genders. This is perfect reaction video for the new year. Those people have no chill especially one who said the guy would go bald was extra pity haha 😂 The guy in green video filter spoke some truth.
A lot of guys do settle with bad girls because of low self value and i personally don't see a relationship as a business and i think you can find love at any age. There's no time limit on that. Anyways i wish you a successful New Year my friend 🙌🏽🥂💖
Agreed, Georgio! Happy new year & thanks for being here 🥰
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@@CourtneyRyan How to know what a woman bring$ to the table$ without a$king directly?
I've never understood why some women get a kick out of having lots of guys chase them because they are leading them on. That has to be alot of work and be stressful after a while right? Plus that reputation will follow you when word gets around. Go hiking or play volleyball or video games or something. Less work, more fun and nobody gets hurt.
because women love attention. It's literally how they arrive at their own value relative to other women in terms of SMV. i.e. How much attention from guys do I get compared to XXX?
@@jleano609 I think the same. They compete among themselves first.
Being a single person is just too awesome.😁 The World is huge compared to the size of a human being and I want to see it all as a solitary person. I meet women everywhere but I'm always honest with them and tell them I choose to remain single. Some don't seem to like it but others appreciate my honesty and that's apparently very attractive to them besides my other personal traits, behaviors, qualities.
Nothing wrong with learning a bit for from Mrs. Ryan regardless of choosing to be single or not.
cope
you the man paul
You two make a great team. You should do these as often as possible. Blessings in the New Year.
Thank you Dale! ❤️
I second that! …And I agree with them. Having integrity is very important…
It’s really not worth it messing around with these women, or men that are unstable - why waste your time and energy on them?
You would be better off being with a woman, or man that is of Quality - someone that will have your back, and vice versa.
In the end, you’ll be a lot happier, and live a much more productive life - trust me!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I stay single because I cant seem to find a woman who isn't convinced that the 'garden tool phase' is some right of passage that every girl needs to go through. That's literally it.
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whats garden tool phase?
A hoe is someone who sleeps around
@@adityamakwana612 girls sleeping around with high sexual body counts
@@QMS9224 agreed, especially having lived in Los Angeles my entire life
Shaylee is so cold and funny with her "No one feels bad for you" comment, well said!
I’m glad Courtney and Shaylee talked about getting off social media after you have had a breakup. When most of us breakup the dumped usually hold on to everything between social media, there phone number, pictures Ect while wallowing in what could have been and holding on to a hope that maybe they’ll come back but the truth is there most likely not so I think it’s important even though it hurts to just get rid of everything that reminds you of them and move on by working on yourself for a bit. Then try again later with someone else.
Thank you shaylee for your sence of integrity, very encouraging.
Yeah you’re right. It’s never too late to lose your home, your kids, your money, your job.
The business analogy is dead on. Men don't want to admit we failed so we hope things turn around. They hardly ever do, though.
Right 🥲
It's called a sunk cost fallacy. Just move on.
I have no problem cutting my losses but how do you know when you are rightly ending something or just giving up because you hit a bump in the road.
P.S. I am very socially retarded and emotionally unintelligent.
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 That is both an art, and a science. When you keep seeing the same problems repeat themselves, when you're feeling less happy, and more sheer exhaustion, or if friends and family are commenting on how unhappy you seem to be... those are all signs that it's time to end things. However, it is your life, so only you can make the final call if you think you're still getting something out of the relationship.
Shaylee provides a paired, but unique perspective. Her comments were well thought out. A good match.
I believe you have to be happy with yourself first, if you're fortunate to meet a girl? You both add to the relationship & are a pillar of support through good times & bad. In other words, hard work.
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Well put Donald Duck!
@@Rafael-Alejandre thanks mate
Happy with yourself first? I am so screwed...
@@FreakinfreakInfreaki as along you continue to wake up and see the next day it’s never too late , baby steps lead to big changes
Do appreciate all your great advice. Explaining a relationship in business terms is not the greatest but it does make it easier to understand. But it comes down to what is the cost of your time and emotional effort that you're willing to put into it. It's more than what you seem
'Love bombing' is absolutely a problem, but it also gets mislabeled by damaged people who don't give other people chances a lot. It isn't love bombing when someone is trying to put effort in and you keep rejecting it. It's still ultimately on that person to respect themselves and walk away, but the other person isn't the primary issue in that dynamic.
I am 61, single healthy wealthy never married no children or bad habits. I am tired of being the ATM.
Lived with one girl 20 year's. Two others 3.5 year's each. Four others less than one year. Not the first one ever paid a part of any bill. They saved up their money, when flush, took off. Then, regretted it and wanted back. Not happening!
Now, I enjoy lot's of women in their 20's and 30's. I am not looking for long term at this point in my life, just pleasure for now. Life is easier.
Relationships are transactional to most men, and to most women it’s emotional. It’s not whether men are right and we are wrong, we’re not alike and we’re not supposed to be. We have to know ourselves well enough to understand that we are giving each other something very important from ourselves to them whether the other person understands 💯 or not. I totally sympathise with guys who become disheartened when the woman they’re dating walks out on them. Men roll the dice with women and are at a higher risk of losing themselves and missing out!
This is not taking away from the good women who do the right thing, OR the women who’ve been hurt in similar circumstances.
Thanks, Courtney and Shaylee! I’m enjoying this duo set up. Pretty cool! 💞
@Courtney Ryan pin this🙏🏾😭
Them telling me they understand all these memes, tik Tok n snapchat references just tells me they was like this at a point and have the knowledge and skills to do it again once it's in there favor to do so
I love this partnership video! You gals are great!💖💖💖
i like being single its lonely but its worth it
Lonely but peaceful
Hey Courtney! Do you think if daughters had better relationships with their fathers, that it would mitigate the majority of the enabling of poor choices being made by both men and women? BTW: I like Shaylee - she's proof there's "hope" still for marriage material in this country...
Absolutely, YES. There's an awful lot of young women who have Daddy issues. It often manifests itself in these women wanting a man to spoil them, pay their bills, and take care of them. They are not really looking for a partner. They are looking for a father.
I have two daughters who are now young adults. They have been my priority since day 1. They have a father, they don't need to look for one. Not that they don't struggle sometimes, like all adults do, but making poor relationship choices is not something they struggle with. Proud of both of them.
It’s 2022!!! Why the hell are we putting up with people that treat us like that? As Coach Cory Wayne says, the bus comes every 15 mins.
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13:55 this right here is the most attractive thing I've heard all week! Preach!🙏🏼
Ugh! It's not cute when one can't be bothered to care, whether or not there are a slew of people who are more compatible and nothing's going anywhere.
And sad, but true that most settle cause they feel that if they leave the relationship, they gotta start over...dangerous way of thinking
Very!
People that have tons of dating options are rarely loyal and most( not all)are looking for someone better. Women are objects of beauty. Men objects of money and resources. Superficial and shallow standards are the normal expectations. This is why more single people are alone than ever before.
Another banger of a video. And I’m about my girl. Just saying this in reference to that Tik Tok about Men’s words not matching their actions. I tell my girl that I’m always there for her because I actually am. It’s so simple. I don’t get guys who play manipulative games by lying to their girls. That’s so sad
1:30 That girl on Tiktok is wrong. I will never be bald nor will I ever get fat. I will keep lifting weights and staying in shape until the day I die. Love the content as always Courtney. I'm glad to see that you're doing more vids with your friends. These are always fun and it's nice to hear another person's opinion too. :)
That girl on Tiktok will one day wake up to realize that she has become older, less attractive, and no longer relevant on social media. Then she will have to develop some empathy ... and a personality, though most people hit a "wall" in their 30's. She'll probalby understand when people stop liking videos of her twerking.
Yep, as long as a guy stays fit he remains attractive far longer than a woman. After around 25 it's all downhill for a woman. Not saying she can't still be attractive but she's past her peak years. Then she has the wall and loss of fertility to deal with in mid to late 30s. Men meanwhile are only growing in value through these years, and the old tadpoles are still working too!
@@mokrulgobline9403 I could not agree more with you sir. 🙌🏻
@@jleano609 For the most part, yes. Although women can do a lot to remain attractive for a long period of time just as I can as a man. In that woman's case, what you described will very likely turn out to be the case. Plus in the end, what good is outer beauty if you are ugly as sin on the inside?
@@zombieslayer7759 no woman can outrun basic biology and male attraction cues. A friend of mine aged 57 has just wifed and put a baby in a 35yo girl. There is no UNO reverse on that dynamic. Men win out in the end IF we stay attractive.
3:45 to 4:45 was me in my last ten year relationship to a tee. thank you for showing this on your channel. something clicked in my brain. thank you
Hey I just found this video & I got to admit I could listen to Courtney’s voice for hours!
A woman that post pictures of her self in bikinis and what not has no right to complain if their guy like pictures of other women in bikinis or what not.
Re: the guy in the green lit room and what he said about sunk costs keeping him in the relationship, I think
- the message to leave only applies while they haven't gotten married, and had kids;
- given how fluid (changing based on emotions in western society) and effort oriented (it takes little efforts e.g. acts of service/ quality time/ good communication) to sustain, I think guys in that situation need to confirm if the relationship truly isn't worth the commitment (the partner might still have some good qualities that deserve staying for) vs. they just don't feel that "in love" to the person at the time, since it takes more than lovey feelings to make a loving relationship work (as I'm sure previous generations who did marriage right would attest)
Yeah, I really identify with the green guy for some reason. Despite "feminism," women really do expect men to invest a lot of resources and money into relationships -getting the check for dinners, activities, etc. From here on out, I'll be having 1st dates at Taco Bell, although, because I am a gentleman, I will insist on carrying the tray.
37 this month and been single for 5 years for a reason, can't seem to find anyone on my wave length
Makes sense!
Saaaame
Business Go Chapter 13 on relationships the internet has become an infectious disease of bad manners, bad social skills and bad advice. Also false unrealistic expectations.
Enjoyable watch ladies like the new duo keep up the good work.
In life, always have the faith that you can be greater than the fear that you can't!
I see a lot of these videos and have to say that people have forgotten how to be friends. In the beginning when things are new and the romance is at its peak things are great. After a few years life gets real. This is when a couple learns the most about each other. When the going gets tough, the tough couples work together and find solutions together as a team. I speak from 27 years of commitment and dedication to the wife I would have done anything for in this life. Had it not been for cancer we would still be together sharing life.
Money is nice but I would have done anything to have her for longer than we had.
What people should be looking for is that special individual that will hold their hand until the end of this life. The one that will be there no matter what. The one that will make any sacrifice for them in the end. Dignity, Respect and Civility.
People call this being a SIMP. I am along in years but know that real relationships are based on Friendship, Love and Romance.
I like videos with Shaylee! Smart and pretty lol. Great advice as always, Courtney!
Heh, life is much healthier without social media!
In our household we have only one FB account .. and it is for our dog ;) although .. my son uses it when his piano classes are for reason or other switched to remote.
Before pandemic i used YT mostly for DIY and technical information. Unfortunately, lockdowns and absence of other entertainment changed it.
Happy new year!
(btw YT autocorrect/predict is evil ..)
When you see your adventure see your journey you know your path
Y'all are too cute. Easy on the eyes, as my mom used to say. Good advice.
I invest in certain parts of certain markets, yet my most favorite investment is Sunday leg days. Set a new barbell clean PR today and i only have one high-intensity day each week for longevity. It is easier to put in 2hrs or more into training when you don't have to get ready for work at some point
Hope you had a wonderful New Year Courtney ❤🌹
You too John! ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan Thanks Courtney!
I guess with your saying that
Some people put more attention and energy on a buch of other people who they find atractive vs one person that actually cares about them....
you hit the nail right on the head 👍
Social media detox is actually super important for your mental health. Just seeing random stories on IG can totally screw you over, especially if you view them non intentionally
1:18 I will quote Roger Waters - Amused to Death on this one: "What is the shelf life of a teenage queen?"
Have a very Happy New Year Courtney! God bless. 🙏
Two intelligent and beautiful women giving great advice = me subscribing.
Sunday morning 02 January 2022. Thanks, Courtney.
1:15 LOLOLOLOL orrr its you getting one year closer to the wall and menopause while he is approaching his prime. Hilarious
Courtney, I understand your message regarding the IG thing. I just want to explain the difference between a woman guys would JUST sleep with and a woman guys would marry. Guys aren’t necessarily saying they would date the women in the picture they’re liking. Hope that makes sense.
That is true but it is disrespectful to lead with lust.
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I agree.
Hell yeah fourth heart in a row from Courtney
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*12 Simple Self Improvement Principles For Strong Women in 2022*
1. Drink more water
2. Eat whole foods
3. Practice daily gratitude
4. Pick up a book
5. Daily walks outside
6. Listen to a TED Talk
7. Forgive someone
8. Stop following Kardashians and build something for yourself
9. Join a group of supportive individuals
10. Stop nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!)
11. Quit addictions - social media, binge eating, drinking, etc
12. Congratulate yourself for this growth
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list!
Love when you have Shaylee in the vids w u, thx for your advice Courtney 🥰🥰
thank you!
@@shayleej94 Np 😉
I almost called on this if you didn't correct yourself but yes, both need to have integrity!
Some guys are saying,"women age like milk and men age like wine." She is upset, and trying to counteract that thought process. Men do get gray, or white, or bald...but, they can stay healthy and fertile for much longer than woman can stay fertile and attractive. Older men are more likely to be established in a company and career, but older women established in a career much of the time are planning their escape or have given up on having a family.
It is sad when you ask out a great person and the response is not "I am madly in love with my better half!" Or "I am flattered but have found the love of a lifetime!" Instead you get,"I couldn't do that to my kids," or, "I have been with this person for 5 years and am to invested to walk away."
Hey Courtney, first of all, wishing you and Teddy a very Happy New Year! I love your content as always and keep up the good work. Have you watched Coach Corey's video entitled "Why Women Never Mean Anything They Say"? I think it will make a great discussion video in your channel on helping guys to read between the lines of what women really mean in their words and do you agree on women using extreme tests like a 'fake breakup' to see how much their man care about them instead of proper communication? I am looking forward to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you!
Yep. This channel answers why pretty well. Im a fan of it. It makes me glad to be free from all of this nonsense. Being who I am I know a lot of people, and I've seen SO much foul in my lifetime. TikTok just adds to my observations.
Happy new year to you two
You too! ❤️
nice video, great partnership. Happy new year
Courtney - you and Shaylee make a great team - next time can you show us girls who we would like to introduce to our Mom? ; )
Miss Courtney - first YT video with Miss Shaylee. Looking forward to more. Regarding timeline - I am nearly 55 (maybe have stated that 27 times in the last couple of hours) and I am FINALLY investing in me. Lots of damage. Lots of bad relationships (I know someone very smart who - correctly - states that I am the common denominator in all of those "bad" relationships). Taking the time now to invest in myself. The dating door is closed for me. Until further notice! LOL. Funny, ain't nobody knocking on that door! Maybe a reason for that, right? If I might ask, what do you think - in general, since this is a WIDE OPEN topic - about Jordan Peterson and his books (thinking about "12 Rules for Life" and "12 More Rules for Life")?
Shaylee is the perfect blend of hot and cute at the same time, while Courtney is full cuteness with her relaxing voice 🥺
nah. she sounds like a manipulator!
Nope, the problem is that good guys are being blocked by girls who are salty.
i agree. heres also another truth, im a good man but im not a nice guy.
Superwoman and wonder woman thanks guys
Great job! Love the video.
That red sweater guy was 100% dead on correct. A relationship basically is a company. Because men, guess what? You're not only investing yourself into a woman, you're actually applying to be a part of a woman's life. Men are expendable in relationships because women have SO many options. Just like in the business world, everyone can be replaced. I've seen so many women say, I'm taking applications for my next boyfriend (LOL.) Your first, second and third dates are job interviews, and here's the best part: you're actually PAYING for that woman's time. You're not just paying for parking LOL. Even when they agree to let you into their life, you still have to WORK your ass off to STAY in her life, or as I like to call it, EMPLOYED. Or you get pink-slipped. A girlfriend, fiancé or wife ends up being your boss at home, because you always have to impress them, meet their every needs, wants, and more, answer all of their penetrating questions perfectly, handle their shit tests, and produce financially.
I saw another redpill channel from a psychologist who talks about this. Studies have shown women are turned off by what you just said "investments". It's weak and beta and they feel you are crazy and pushing a relationship and will back away. The reason he said while women fall for dirt bags is they don't invest in women so they invest in the man.
The more a woman tries to please her man, make dinner for him, tell him she loves him the more she falls under his spell. I forgot the name of the channel but he a psychologist. So act busy and be scarce and create value. Stop texting and applying for her graciness as you act like a bitch she will treat you as one. Be assertive and not give a crap and she will be applying for you. The other beta simps will vanish away as she will be chasing you
That's a terrible mindset for success with women. You've got to flip that script by building your value and learning some game so you can date attractive girls with LOWER SMV than you. That way THEY are the ones qualifying to YOU and chasing you for the relationship. That's the only way for long term success for the guy and the girl.
@@jleano609 That is not good enough. With dating apps even 5s have 2 dozen simps at all times begging for a date. One of them will make 6 figures and be over 6 feet tall. What you need to do is have her invest in you. Have her do things for you and switch the application to you by being scarcely available and not buying her expensive gifts but have her do the same. Chicks dig jerks because they have to do the chasing and investing to gain their attention. Once you mention what you want and have her make dinner, please you in bed, have her buy something like a glass of wine you like she will dump the other dudes and focus on you
@@timothygibney159 we’re basically talking about the same thing, but you can only stand out in first instance by being the high value guy who doesn’t pedestalize her, doesn’t blow up her phone and limits his time and attention. That separates you straight away from the thirsty simps so unless she’s just an attention whore you’ll rise above the others and you can switch the script on her. And as you say a woman will do all sorts of things for a dominant man, basically take on that feminine submissive role. Do it right and you don’t even have to be a jerk, just a guy with a solid frame, standards and boundaries. Your job then is to simply stay attractive and dominant. Actually that’s the hard part as she gets used to you over time.
@@jleano609 Why in the world would anyone want to date someone with a lower SMV than me? That is a terrible mindset. You lose.
Great job simple wisdom and true!
Courtney great video, you should react to some romcoms that are about how the other sex thinks, for example "he is just not that into you" or "crazy and stupid love"
Unless the person is still trying to contact you there should not be a reason to block them. That’s immature people who tend to do that. Assuming the person they broke up with isn’t bothering them like I said.
As for the thing about free drinks it is what it is. Often girls just go to promoter tables at clubs that got the alcohol for free
Yeah I agree. Unless the ex is straight up harassing you, blocking (even temporarily) is a bit extreme. I can get unfollowing, because in that case you're not completely cutting them out, just hiding most, or all of their posts from your feed.
There will pretty much always be plenty of desperate guys out there sadly. I used to be one of them, and I know plenty who still are. It is what it is indeed...
The one who did the 'when your flirting has gone too far and they fall in love', that's ZoZoRoe.
She's hilarious and often does satire
I liked every tip you gave. One thing I disagree with is your point on the fact that a relationship is not a business transaction. A relationship is a trial run to a partnership in marriage. Marriage in itself is a business contract because you both equally share your assets. It's very rare to see a girl actually invest equally in a relationship. I'm not saying all women are like that. But today it's very common with a lot of women.
It's like super crazy disrespectful if you drive a Honda Civic and you're looking at hot, exotic sports cars on the streets or even online!
….. I think comparing a situation with a car and a human being is not the best take lmao
@@CourtneyRyan My point is that people are always going to be wanting and desiring more, even the people hurt by it. Acting on it when it's wrong is the problem.
Courtney always beautiful and giving the right advice!! Love the way she talks, there’s nothing more attractive than a well spoken woman!! But I must say your friend in my eyes is perfect 😍 !! With all due respect !! Can’t help myself pretty women are my weakness !!!
Most men age like fine wine! We peak in all aspects as we get older. Our peaks are different from girls or women. The older i get the sexier i feel I look forward to my new age. #menneedtoworkforabundance
im 40 and still eye down women 18+
Wow two beautiful ladies 💖💖
Thank you for the video, do you have any videos on the topic of how to move on from a long-term relationship and the pain of loss? Thank you in advance. Happy New Year, and may this year be a year of Miracles for you.
Sad we live in a society that does not really value honesty.
for real
Liked, saved and sharing it. Good post 🍻
There's an evil part of me that would reply with "You have a job, right?" if a girl asked me to buy her a drink.
OMFG All I can say is I am SO glad I'm single, and loving it! Ha ha!
im glad i have the covid. i should walk into my gym and spread the disease
Lol!!! "Butt hurt"
Excellent advice.
0:58 revelation!
Shaylee is a keeper. She is what a guy feels very happy that he met
I mean, she’s physically attractive from what I can see, make up not to my taste mind you. And she seems smart and deliberative in her thinking. But a keeper? Based on a few YT videos? That’s basically zero evidence. You’ve got to date a girl 18-24 months to even arrive at the point of seriously considering putting her in that category. If you’re already wifing a girl up in your mind based on what evidence we have here that’s a serious projection based on extreme scarcity mindset and lack of frame. You might want to think on what it should take for a girl to qualify to you for LTR, and it should be more than a pulse and that her hair smells nice.
I am done buying drinks... Too many "women" ghost after a couple of drinks (a date) and they give no signs of not having a good time.
Relationships are not companies hmmmm... so why am I constantly used as a tool?
Great video ladies!
What I have found to be more common between female "friends" is the following dynamic:
One woman will play the victim; even though what's happening to her is either her fault or she's being overly dramatic to make an excuse to leave a guy to "put his head in a guillotine."
Then the other friend who has some sort of long-standing issues of resentment with men from her past and has nothing good to say about him or men in general will enable her pathology to persist.
Then she cheats on him out of spite with however many guys she pleases and/or they then devise some scheme to act out their spite and resentment to get him falsely arrested or put in jail.
None of these things are markers of an adult. They're markers of pathological female children that never grew up and are acting out their resentment and jealousy towards men.
Women never just leave, they always hold a grudge. Always.
Women saying: "its never too late" is a lie.
It is at some point.
At some point commitment is a right of passage as an adult.
Make a decision.
Commitment isn't something that only men are bound to land women can just do whatever the hell they want for the rest of their lives.
Work through it, be an adult.
If the relationship is bad: leave. If the relationship is bad and you were the source of the problems, understand what accountability is and change your bad behaviors.
At some point your happiness as a woman isn't the only thing that should keep that relationship together.
"I'm not happy."
Well, you know what, YOU not being happy is primarily a YOU problem. Yeah, leave him I guess but, are you ever going to be happy enough or are you just going to blame men for YOU not being happy?
Indecisive trepidation is a mind killer for women and if the problem persists into your thirties you likely will never be happy and only blame men for the problems that you created that men had nothing to do with.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. If you're in a stable relationship be happy, don't try to change it.
I agree. Having integrity is very important…
It’s really not worth it messing around with these women, or men that are unstable - why waste your time and energy on them?
You would be better off being with a woman, or man that is of Quality - someone that will have your back, and vice versa.
In the end, you’ll be a lot happier, and live a much more productive life - trust me!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
Stop The Validation and Look at the Signs and Energy vs Non Energy, go with Your Gut