Courtney, at this point TikTok is just people telling on themselves. It's best to just be happy that you have a much more healthier relationship then them.
It's better to use this as study material and learn about the people to stay away from. I go in with honesty and if they have to play games it's not worth my time.
Modern women and feminists can be pretty damn horrible the lack of morals and the worse part is they think they are a prize I have no desire dating a narcissist period.
Courtney, I really appreciate you...and that's not even being a simp about it. I've tried discussing topics as covered in this video, and as sad as it is to admit, I've lost friendships because of it. Me flat out telling men to stop being weak, needy, and pointing out their simp-like behaviors has literally lead to heated arguments and bridges burned. I've even talked about these same exact topics with women (granted I was biting my tongue) in hopes they would understand that men are becoming aware, and these behaviors will not be tolerated. THANK YOU for being someone who has a social media following, is in a position of power, and is choosing to make a difference by exposing the truth of females to men. The majority of us NEED this content as we were never taught about it when we were young. I really appreciate your efforts, thank you Courtney!
Watching Courtney's reactions to this makes me sad. It's obvious that toxicity disgusts her, but it looks like it actually hurts her emotionally and physically. You a real one courtney.
Just think of the potential of this world if people could cut the crap and act right. Everything else, economies, technologies, probably even world peace, would follow on from that I think
One tip I think most guys overlook is, you don't need social media or social media obsessed people in your life. It's fun, but shouldn't be so possessive.
Ohh my, we not starting off this year taking Ls guys. The worst part is these girls get on tik tok and social media talking about us. Sadly do some of these girls just want the validation and free attention but you can spot them fairly easy because they'll never wanna meet up.So Courtney is right, see things for what they are not what you want them to be. Anyways i wish you a lovely weekend and be safe 🙏🏽♥️💫
Those women that called you a prude did so because they want every other woman to have the same behavior so they feel that their own behavior is justified. Possibly deep down they don’t like what they’re doing and are doing it to fit in to society at large. Most people don’t think for themselves and instead just follow whatever is the norm is in society or whatever group they are a part of.
Yeah your channel Courtney has taught me much, reminded me i do well and proper things, and has also inspired me to learn more about fashion, body language, and even mentality. Found a new channel last Friday: Entrepreneurs in Cars. A red pill channel hoping to prevent heart ache by grounding facts both genders may not know nor wanna hear. You both are all i trust and i appreciate your work, Courtney! Keep growing that reach!
If you get to this comment, Courtney, I'd like to see a future video on hypergamy, as i know you've sort of touched on it, yet many men here might need to learn about it so that they get motivated to always always always better themselves
It’s absolutely amazing when a woman is beautiful and dresses modestly. Modest dressing means minimizing form fitting clothing, and definitely avoid showing cleavage. A woman’s beauty should only be seen by her husband. Most women are unaware that dressing immodestly when you’re attractive, has the unintended effect of strongly affecting men (arousals), and we have no control over this. So, strong men simply minimize their exposure to immodest women, and this is why immodest women constantly complain about “where are all the good men at”, because they attract all the bad men with no self control. Excellent dressing, Courtney!
Courtney - there are a lot of guys out there who are very lonely, and they are convinced the only way to cure their loneliness is to appease girls like the ones you highlighted. Myself, I don't get it - girls like that would drive me crazy. I respect myself too much to put up with b.s. like that!
Yep. As I’ve gotten older I realise that I value my health, peace and sanity too much to throw it away by inviting unnecessary drama from women like that into my life. They have absolutely nothing to offer that makes it worth it. I seriously don’t care what they look like. I think they’re vile. I take a friendly, genuine, considerate, easy going women over those types every time.
Courtney, thank you for giving advice from these videos over the past couple years truly! Story: i met a girl at college the study lasts 3 years we got a chemistry for 1 month right away at somepoint i told her that i want to take her out on a date, she said in response that very sweet of you but i have an bf for 1 year. I said alright cool so i immediately cut her off then she said "soo how about you how many exes do you have" what are your goals all that ect, she be trying to get more information about me, she even send me a video showing herself off at her bedroom alongside asking me to go with her to look at her how she dress, while she said i dont hang with other guys. We spoke in private couple times at college I told her that I wanted to take distance from her she refuses and said really why just because you gave me something. I have to remove you from snapchat because of my bf permission but we can always talk on other social media apps. I didn't continue the conversation between us instead I went on a different topic about college stuff. Couple weeks later her boyfriend arrived at our college showing his expression of being threatened by me but didnt do anything towards me but instead gave me a sign of an warning She use me for attention thirst trap for her own benefits when her bf can't give her or whatsoever. What do I get in return NOTHING The conclusion is that she doesn't really stand on her own decisions and her goal is to get me and her boyfriend to hold on both lines
I like the part when you Courtney says: "If you have to say it, you are orobably not..." Exactly! We do not need to say to the world that we are smart, if we know we are. Actions talk! This is so rare today, because there is confusion on the web about being self promoter etc... Really so obvious!
@@jaimisonmante5250 it is not the same. Makeup is about beauty. You do not say anything with makeup: we men sometimes overcomplicate this thing. Makeup is just to provide emotions. A little bit like art. It is a good feeling for who is wearing it, and good feeling for who is watching it. And as you say: it is also about highlighting, accentuing something that you already have. What Courtney was referring to is more about habits and inner qualities/skills. I think it is different.
More and more it seems like there’s a lot of actors and actresses in the world and people forget what being real is. The people that are honest, respectful and kind hearted etc..get labeled in negative ways and seen as weak. Nobody seems to trust anyone and it’s not hard to see why though it doesn’t have to be this way. It’s always what can I get or what can they do for me mentalities. It’s A shitty way to treat others and shitty way to live!
Courtney Ryan, it is more and more spoken that body count matters a lot both physically, emotionally and mentally. I do like your intentions on this video, it’s not only women, men also allow this behavior but most of them don’t know it. This video helps a lot male gender to be able to decide better and be better leader.
Actions speak louder than words! So much truth to that. If the actions are there they won’t even have to say it you’ll just know. And see things for what they are not what your wanting them to be another great piece of advice! Thanks Courtney!
One thing I appreciate about Courtney is she presents some of these very important topics SO well. I enjoy watching her videos even on topics I'm quite confident I have down because she has such a good grasp on how relationships and everything that comes with them works. As a side note I find it says a lot when she goes from the usual calm and relaxed to a deep sigh! Great video!
I appreciate your pragmatic attitude about walking away with calm dignity. Drama serves no purpose as there's no lasting reward at the end. If you know you're right, a secure person feels no need to prove it to someone else. Exchanging drama is nothing more than two insecure people trying to self-elevate their sense of worth at the other person's expense. Real self-elevation comes from self-improvement and needs no validation. The time wasted in drama exchanges would be better suited to spending time learning or doing something to improve yourself.
I want to say that while I usually don't follow dating advice from people who don't have some kind of credentials in psychology/ couples therapy on YT... your opinions are so on point. It's refreshing. And hilarious.
Well said Courtney! If most men & women have the same mindset on you, i believed the divorced cases will be reduced a lot more. More families will be happy & have good moral values.
We’re living in a world where lonely dudes are blowing a thousand dollars on jars of e-girl farts… it’s safe to say it’s burning. Thanks for working so hard to put it out, a rational force in an irrational place.
@@markquinn1216 Then you tell me why they follow all those TikTok girls and send them money. Instead of criticizing or ostracized me, answer my question and enlighten me.
Live your life to the fullest. Don’t waste it. We all make mistakes, but beating yourself up over things that happen in the past will solve nothing. Take failure as a lesson. Not a disappointment. Put yourself back to work. Level up and put in the work.
This girl caught my eye at a meeting so I asked her for lunch. After lunch we went to my house, had a good time talking and laughing, set up another meeting, she hugged me twice and three days later she dropped me like a hot rock. I keep wondering if our fun time was merely an interview for another stud to fill her barn. Later she came up to me when I was relaxing in the sun with a cigar and a coffee, she started yelling at me and I finally waved her off and told her to go away. She walked away and came back and said, "You can't wave me off like I''m a fly!" I told her to go away again and she left. That's how I felt.
Once more great job calling out BS for what it is. Calling out bad behavior and calling for healthy behaviors. Also big props for being honest too and admitting you've had your own mistakes like snooping through a phone. We'll all mess up, but if we can learn from those mistakes we'll be better people in the long run. Keep it up.
TikTok is a catalog of what not to do to be a great person in a relationship. Literally do the opposite for almost everything and you'll keep your sanity
I wish people would look at dating like a consumer market: Say people complain about XYZ supermarket having 3 checkout lanes open, but they still shop there. XYZ’s execs won’t care. BUT if people actually STOP SHOPPING, they WILL care. Same applies to dating. You can talk about how you dislike d-bags or gold diggers, but if you keep sleeping with them and/or giving them money, you are rewarding their behavior. If you “stop shopping”, then it may change.
I wish I could know what kind of household environment , what type of schooling , what kind of parent's personalities contributed to making such an amazing girl like you Courtney esp in this time full of toxic garbage . Keep up the good work . I am one of your fans .
Makes alot of sense actually. Alot of ladies seem to be attracted to either superior looks or superior resources. Some ladies out there will share a man if they have to. Most dating seems toxic these days. Part of me thinks that people should quit trying to buy the flashy thing and look for substance. Full admission. I took a lady on a date once who told me you're great but I just wish you were taller. I ended the date there and politely walked away. People are way to insecure these day.
I'm actually disgusted that some girls are willing to sacrifice their dignity by sharing a man, disgraceful. And you should've told that girl something about herself too before you walked away
@@Lou-jf4rl Sure it is. If you don't take the newspaper to a dog when it shits on your floor, it's going to keep shitting on your floor. If you want to make these dumb hos think twice about their shitty behavior, you have to put them in their place. "Well, that septum ring makes you look like a farm animal. I don't date farm animals." THEN walk away, and don't look back. This may be very un-Courtney-like, but I do wholesomely believe in throwing salt on open wounds, kicking people while they are down, and creating cautionary tales for those who come later as to why I will be respected. Those who would be repelled by such things are unworthy to begin with.
Women are not animals and you shouldn't hit a dog like that. What you put out in the world comes back to you aka karma. I refuse to mirror someone's terrible actions.
The first one is a perfect example of understanding when a woman is there to meet you for a relationship or if she is just for sale. As for the guy side of it are you out there looking like you're wanting to find a woman for sale or find a woman to build a relationship with. It's important to ask this question because the first example shows the Stark difference of the two.
Hello Courtney Ryan I've started watching your videos lately, I do have one thing that I want to tell you, is that you are such a WISE WOMAN, you talk with wisdom. Thanks for being on my youtube feed,
The snooping and creeping can be a red flag for the one that is being creeped on as well. I had this awhile back and had to eventually break up with them.
There's a lot of manipulation going on from people to other people. Incredibly irritating! I see this every day. From giving dating advice to many other things in general.
I think you should do a video on trust. Yeah relationships are built on trust but it can't just be given blindly, which is why, in my opinion at least, it's not too terrible an idea to, say, want a prenup before marriage (or in some cases, a paternity test). Idk, what do you think Courtney? As always, awesome content!
God this stuff is why the dating world is such a nightmare. Courtney you’re a breath of fresh air and I wish there were more women like you. Just normal LOL!! No mind games no manipulative BS just straight forward & with class & with a good head on her shoulders who knows what she wants. May I ask if you might do a video on why some women cheat & monkey branch into another relationship before ending her relationship with you? I loved my ex but she did that to me last year & she did it over months. It was emotional torture, I knew there had to be someone else but I couldn’t prove it, I only found out after the breakup what the truth was. Been no contact for 5 months and no I’d never take her back, but it still boggles me how someone who claimed for 1.5 yrs to love you so much & want to get married live together etc could turn on you so hard & betray so deeply with zero remorse or care for how deep she hurt you. I just wish I could watch her new relationship blow up in her face. With my luck they’ll get married tho haha. Thx Courtney
Everything you say is on point. Finding the right person is fine and makes sense; the thing is though, you've always had men interested in you. Therefore you can be selective and know what you're worth. Most men don't get any interest that they don't pursue, so when they find someone who has a slight bit of interest. they have to stick around, otherwise it's back to being alone. I wasn't good enough for what I wanted, so walked away, but most men can't do that, don't have hobbies & interests that they really like. I think this is something you can't ignore and need to try to understand more. Women are in demand and Men are in Supply for the most part. It's the way it is.
Hi Courtney and everyone! I’ll be honest with you guys, my confidence is at an all time low for the past few months. I’m a Personal Trainer at a gym and I was told yesterday that I failed my probation period at my gym and I only have 1 week left. Before Christmas, I was let go from my Football/Soccer team and was on the bench most of the time. As guys, we’re told to walk it off and look for new opportunities. It still hurts and doubt does creep up on the mind 😔
Take time with your emotions bro, don't brush them off and acknowledge how you're feeling. It's okay to feel hurt by those things not working out. I think the most important thing is realising what you can learn from those experiences while also detaching them from your self worth. Hope that helps 🙏🏿
What was the reason you were given that made them let you go? Seriously curious as to why and keep ya head up buddy. That just opens up a better opportunity.👊🏼
I say they called you lame and boring because they probably felt empty, awkward and full of regret inside. Constant hook ups with random people kill you inside. For men or women, after fist couple of times it is no longer feel thrilling or exiting, just another way to kill boredom and pass some time.
I think both men and women need to communicate better in those situations with people that are sleeping with people early. It definitely sounds like they need to learn to set boundaries or communicate what they want/need and if they aren't willing to commit to that, then its time to leave
It's amazing how some of these people are comfortable posting how repulsive they are and don't feel any shame. It's not even like they're trying to teach something (or anything good). It's simply wanting positive reinforcement for negative behavior...second hand embarrassment smh
The vast majority of guys have no options. Their choice is to simp, or be completely invisible. If you're an average guy who refuses to simp, she just says, "Fine. You're dead to me. End of story. Enjoy your life as an incel." Because she knows by looking at you, that you have no options. As far as telling guys here not to cheat? Most guys who watch this channel, are watching it because women they express interest in, don't want them back and they would like to find a way to slide to the other side of that. The guys who need to hear the "don't cheat" message, aren't watching this channel. They're busy perusing the 500 matches they got on Tinder this week.
Ouch, you put that pretty well I’d say. I do ok with women but I don’t do nearly as ‘well’ as my roommate who was cheating on his girlfriend with multiple beautiful women. I abhor cheating and the kind of women he was bringing home aren’t exactly my type but I can’t help but be jealous of the abundance he gets just for his good looks. The girl he’s dating is really pretty and super nice, I feel bad for her. Really don’t know what to do in this situation to be honest.
No you do have options, but the thing is that who you may want may not want you. Same for girls sometimes you are not your type's type. Instead of dating the girl that works at Vicky S, ask out the girl that works at Macy's. Instead of the 8 try the 6. date a girl with glasses, or is pudgy. Date someone that is not what society deems as the "Hot girl". You don't have to simp, you choose to simp. Go ahead be dead to her, she wasn't worth your life force to begin with. Why would you simp for someone so mean and hateful? But if people wouldn't cheat then you don't have to try and get them back. There is a lid to every pot my friend, don't give up.
I always say I feel bad for guys dating now, as social media 10 years ago wasn’t what it is today. That said, I’ve never hooked up with a girl I met online/social media, but the chance you’re gonna find someone on those apps is close to none, unless you have something on the surface level that can attract those surface level girls. Most the people on those apps aren’t looking for serious relationships and if they are, they’re probably damaged in some way that has led them to think an app is going to produce a fruitful relationship. I mean the success rate for meaningful relationship on those apps is probably less than 5% lol As a man you need to take a good self evaluation of yourself, be honest, and work on what your inadequacies are. If you want a relationship with anyone, you need to provide something in the social hierarchy that is of importance and, trust me, looks so not matter when it comes to this. Working out(taking care of yourself), find yourself a healthy hobby, find something you’re passionate about, working towards a strong career are all places to start and you will attract the opposite sex in those endeavors along the way. Whether it’s just trying to be part of the “hook-up” cultural or finding a real relationship, you need to add value to yourself and in turn it will establish confidence in yourself. Now I recommend avoiding the superficial lifestyle of hooking/picking-up lol For real though, it isn’t going to make you happy nor is it something that leads to meaning in life. Just focus on yourself and you will attract & mean women along the way of making yourself better because you’ll meet “that” girl at school, the gym, a store, a job etc etc But either way gotta be honest with yourself and see what you offer right now and what you would value in another person or what you would want that other person to value. Yeah, some guys can get women based on their looks, but that only last so long because women at a certain age realize that things like security & personality matter more than surface level appearances. I know it’s easy to say this shit and talk about it, but trust me, there’s reason why people say it because there is truth in it. Also, this issue that young adults are having stems a lot from this idea of “accepting people for who they are no matter what” mentality and if someone doesn’t accept that then it’s not you fault and this isn’t how the world works. Like stated before, if someone has nothing to offer in the Social hierarchy and society, like no job, no aspirations, goals, personality, or they have terrible habits then yes it is absolutely your fault and not that persons who doesn’t want to be with you lol Tl:dr - Work on bettering yourself and everything will follow
@@PussInBoot414 Go for quality not quantity. One of these days he's gonna screw with a girl who has issues and she could wreck his life. Stay away from that.
I actually know a lot of guys who get very emotionally attached to women after they sleep with them the first time. Most are simps though sadly or just needy.
Guys and girls, any person you are seriously considering as a "potentially relationship" you need to look at their social media, bc most of them wont even hide who they are...
i'm a man and i felt emotional connection to every girl i sleped with. Except one time that i won't go into detail, but point is: sex isn't just a moment, it lingers.
TikTok is Toxic.I enjoy anything dance relating I happen to view but all this relationships stuff I come across is just terrible or just plain link bait. I’m older, yes. I can’t imagine teenagers and 20 something’s getting their dating relationship advice from TikTok. If you’re in you’re 20’s and doing toxic behavior you are part of the problem. What comes around goes around. Be the person you want to attract in your life.
" If you have to tell people that you are a high value male - you're not ! " I wholeheartedly agree . . . yet: we see videos on " How to be a High Value Male" if one needs to be told to do it: it is not part of your own character. If one must be instructed to be honest, loyal, reliable, courteous . . . etc. . . those are not your own core values, and you simply adopt the appearance of the 'High Value' individual.
There is a wise saying in the Diamond District around 47th Street in Midtown Manhattan. Trust in business is just like virginity; once you lose it, there is no way in hell that you will ever get it back.
You are a very honest person! I love that about you! Accepting and owning up to your mistakes! Integrity and honesty 👏 👌 Values are very important!! Great video!
"Stop being a freaking cheater." Well said, Courtney.
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@@nateo200 it was in the script. Teddy will be paying alimony when he’s older.
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Courtney, at this point TikTok is just people telling on themselves. It's best to just be happy that you have a much more healthier relationship then them.
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It's better to use this as study material and learn about the people to stay away from. I go in with honesty and if they have to play games it's not worth my time.
Modern women and feminists can be pretty damn horrible the lack of morals and the worse part is they think they are a prize I have no desire dating a narcissist period.
Imagine ever downloading tiktok...
@@CourtneyRyan and you have followers on Instagram.
" I wish we could all just be normal". Courtney, I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment, as I'm sure countless of your subscribers do as well.
Courtney, I love how you point out the garbage that society tries to portray as normal, or cool, or whatever, and tell it like it really is.
Courtney, I really appreciate you...and that's not even being a simp about it. I've tried discussing topics as covered in this video, and as sad as it is to admit, I've lost friendships because of it. Me flat out telling men to stop being weak, needy, and pointing out their simp-like behaviors has literally lead to heated arguments and bridges burned. I've even talked about these same exact topics with women (granted I was biting my tongue) in hopes they would understand that men are becoming aware, and these behaviors will not be tolerated. THANK YOU for being someone who has a social media following, is in a position of power, and is choosing to make a difference by exposing the truth of females to men. The majority of us NEED this content as we were never taught about it when we were young. I really appreciate your efforts, thank you Courtney!
Thank YOU, Jeffrey! 🥰
Watching Courtney's reactions to this makes me sad. It's obvious that toxicity disgusts her, but it looks like it actually hurts her emotionally and physically. You a real one courtney.
This is so true, Courtney is an example for all women..
Just think of the potential of this world if people could cut the crap and act right.
Everything else, economies, technologies, probably even world peace, would follow on from that I think
One tip I think most guys overlook is, you don't need social media or social media obsessed people in your life. It's fun, but shouldn't be so possessive.
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'Let's not be toxic. Let's be mature and kind.'
Words of wisdom.
Courtney, you are wise beyond your years. Your delivery is non-judgmental which makes your message more effective.
Ohh my, we not starting off this year taking Ls guys. The worst part is these girls get on tik tok and social media talking about us. Sadly do some of these girls just want the validation and free attention but you can spot them fairly easy because they'll never wanna meet up.So Courtney is right, see things for what they are not what you want them to be. Anyways i wish you a lovely weekend and be safe 🙏🏽♥️💫
Those women that called you a prude did so because they want every other woman to have the same behavior so they feel that their own behavior is justified. Possibly deep down they don’t like what they’re doing and are doing it to fit in to society at large.
Most people don’t think for themselves and instead just follow whatever is the norm is in society or whatever group they are a part of.
Yeah your channel Courtney has taught me much, reminded me i do well and proper things, and has also inspired me to learn more about fashion, body language, and even mentality. Found a new channel last Friday: Entrepreneurs in Cars. A red pill channel hoping to prevent heart ache by grounding facts both genders may not know nor wanna hear. You both are all i trust and i appreciate your work, Courtney! Keep growing that reach!
If you get to this comment, Courtney, I'd like to see a future video on hypergamy, as i know you've sort of touched on it, yet many men here might need to learn about it so that they get motivated to always always always better themselves
I’m so glad! Thanks for being here Joseph 🥰
It’s absolutely amazing when a woman is beautiful and dresses modestly. Modest dressing means minimizing form fitting clothing, and definitely avoid showing cleavage. A woman’s beauty should only be seen by her husband. Most women are unaware that dressing immodestly when you’re attractive, has the unintended effect of strongly affecting men (arousals), and we have no control over this. So, strong men simply minimize their exposure to immodest women, and this is why immodest women constantly complain about “where are all the good men at”, because they attract all the bad men with no self control. Excellent dressing, Courtney!
Courtney - there are a lot of guys out there who are very lonely, and they are convinced the only way to cure their loneliness is to appease girls like the ones you highlighted. Myself, I don't get it - girls like that would drive me crazy. I respect myself too much to put up with b.s. like that!
Yep. As I’ve gotten older I realise that I value my health, peace and sanity too much to throw it away by inviting unnecessary drama from women like that into my life. They have absolutely nothing to offer that makes it worth it. I seriously don’t care what they look like. I think they’re vile. I take a friendly, genuine, considerate, easy going women over those types every time.
I fart around girls all the time.
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Courtney, thank you for giving advice from these videos over the past couple years truly!
Story:
i met a girl at college the study lasts 3 years we got a chemistry for 1 month right away at somepoint i told her that i want to take her out on a date, she said in response that very sweet of you but i have an bf for 1 year. I said alright cool so i immediately cut her off then she said "soo how about you how many exes do you have" what are your goals all that ect, she be trying to get more information about me, she even send me a video showing herself off at her bedroom alongside asking me to go with her to look at her how she dress, while she said i dont hang with other guys.
We spoke in private couple times at college I told her that I wanted to take distance from her she refuses and said really why just because you gave me something. I have to remove you from snapchat because of my bf permission but we can always talk on other social media apps. I didn't continue the conversation between us instead I went on a different topic about college stuff.
Couple weeks later
her boyfriend arrived at our college showing his expression of being threatened by me but didnt do anything towards me but instead gave me a sign of an warning
She use me for attention thirst trap for her own benefits when her bf can't give her or whatsoever.
What do I get in return NOTHING
The conclusion is that she doesn't really stand on her own decisions and her goal is to get me and her boyfriend to hold on both lines
I like the part when you Courtney says: "If you have to say it, you are orobably not..." Exactly! We do not need to say to the world that we are smart, if we know we are. Actions talk! This is so rare today, because there is confusion on the web about being self promoter etc... Really so obvious!
Just what I wanted to say and you have already posted it; this is something that I have observed so much.
So like wearing makeup then? If you're attractive, it will be obvious, you won't have to accentuate it....
@@jaimisonmante5250 it is not the same. Makeup is about beauty. You do not say anything with makeup: we men sometimes overcomplicate this thing. Makeup is just to provide emotions. A little bit like art. It is a good feeling for who is wearing it, and good feeling for who is watching it. And as you say: it is also about highlighting, accentuing something that you already have. What Courtney was referring to is more about habits and inner qualities/skills. I think it is different.
First. Another day, another Courtney Ryan video. This is like the countdown to Christmas except there’s no end in sight.
Mental cake we can have, and eat it too
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@@LatimusChadimus agreed!
So sweet comment! Good to see there are emotional guys out there!
@@CourtneyRyan I have to take a dump.
More and more it seems like there’s a lot of actors and actresses in the world and people forget what being real is. The people that are honest, respectful and kind hearted etc..get labeled in negative ways and seen as weak. Nobody seems to trust anyone and it’s not hard to see why though it doesn’t have to be this way. It’s always what can I get or what can they do for me mentalities. It’s A shitty way to treat others and shitty way to live!
Courtney Ryan, it is more and more spoken that body count matters a lot both physically, emotionally and mentally.
I do like your intentions on this video, it’s not only women, men also allow this behavior but most of them don’t know it. This video helps a lot male gender to be able to decide better and be better leader.
If you're not ready for a relationship, wanna screw around, just be up front about it!
Agreed!
@@CourtneyRyan the reason I've gotten better with this is because I've learned to establish what I want/don't want, what I'm looking for, etc.
@@CourtneyRyan do you wish society went back to having public social bathrooms like in Ancient Rome?
Actions speak louder than words! So much truth to that. If the actions are there they won’t even have to say it you’ll just know. And see things for what they are not what your wanting them to be another great piece of advice! Thanks Courtney!
One thing I appreciate about Courtney is she presents some of these very important topics SO well. I enjoy watching her videos even on topics I'm quite confident I have down because she has such a good grasp on how relationships and everything that comes with them works. As a side note I find it says a lot when she goes from the usual calm and relaxed to a deep sigh! Great video!
I appreciate your pragmatic attitude about walking away with calm dignity. Drama serves no purpose as there's no lasting reward at the end. If you know you're right, a secure person feels no need to prove it to someone else. Exchanging drama is nothing more than two insecure people trying to self-elevate their sense of worth at the other person's expense. Real self-elevation comes from self-improvement and needs no validation. The time wasted in drama exchanges would be better suited to spending time learning or doing something to improve yourself.
I've just turned thirty-seven and will probably be single for the next billion years.
I’d rather be single than date anybody like the girls in this video! Lol
My guy go to the phillipines
@@gmoneygamer, Say what!??
@@Rick_Cleland no seriously they are so red pill over there
Enjoy!
I want to say that while I usually don't follow dating advice from people who don't have some kind of credentials in psychology/ couples therapy on YT... your opinions are so on point. It's refreshing. And hilarious.
Well said Courtney! If most men & women have the same mindset on you, i believed the divorced cases will be reduced a lot more. More families will be happy & have good moral values.
"We're different and that's okay." Quote of the year. And it's only January.
We’re living in a world where lonely dudes are blowing a thousand dollars on jars of e-girl farts… it’s safe to say it’s burning. Thanks for working so hard to put it out, a rational force in an irrational place.
Why are they doing that
@@wyleecoyotee4252 I have no idea.
Lmao 🤣
@@wyleecoyotee4252 Iike most women, you are totally clueless to the plight of men in 2022.
@@markquinn1216
Then you tell me why they follow all those TikTok girls and send them money.
Instead of criticizing or ostracized me, answer my question and enlighten me.
“see what is in front of you and not what you want something to be” BIG facts
Live your life to the fullest. Don’t waste it. We all make mistakes, but beating yourself up over things that happen in the past will solve nothing. Take failure as a lesson. Not a disappointment. Put yourself back to work. Level up and put in the work.
Any man who must say "I am the king" is no true king.
-Tywin Lannister, Game of Thrones
Wishing everyone all the best in 2022 ❤️
I stopped committing to women because I’m tired of being cheated on
Courtney, where do I need to go to meet a girl like you? Very rare these days.
These reactions vids are so refreshing, specially when I start to fall back into believing some of the messages from these clips 😪
I’m so glad! ❤️
This girl caught my eye at a meeting so I asked her for lunch. After lunch we went to my house, had a good time talking and laughing, set up another meeting, she hugged me twice and three days later she dropped me like a hot rock. I keep wondering if our fun time was merely an interview for another stud to fill her barn. Later she came up to me when I was relaxing in the sun with a cigar and a coffee, she started yelling at me and I finally waved her off and told her to go away. She walked away and came back and said, "You can't wave me off like I''m a fly!" I told her to go away again and she left. That's how I felt.
Once more great job calling out BS for what it is. Calling out bad behavior and calling for healthy behaviors. Also big props for being honest too and admitting you've had your own mistakes like snooping through a phone. We'll all mess up, but if we can learn from those mistakes we'll be better people in the long run. Keep it up.
Yeah, let’s not be toxic, let’s go be mature and healthy!!! I wonder how many people actually know what that entails… 🙄
Social media has ruint dating and relationships. I don't think there is any coming back from it.
TikTok is a catalog of what not to do to be a great person in a relationship. Literally do the opposite for almost everything and you'll keep your sanity
I wish people would look at dating like a consumer market:
Say people complain about XYZ supermarket having 3 checkout lanes open, but they still shop there. XYZ’s execs won’t care. BUT if people actually STOP SHOPPING, they WILL care.
Same applies to dating.
You can talk about how you dislike d-bags or gold diggers, but if you keep sleeping with them and/or giving them money, you are rewarding their behavior.
If you “stop shopping”, then it may change.
Admissions about your past give you big cred today. Good job once again Courtney.
Tik tok has really exposed the septic tank that is the dating pool for both genders
Indeed. 👊👊👏👏👏
That’s why I will never hop on the TikTok bandwagon. These videos just make me die inside
I wish I could know what kind of household environment , what type of schooling , what kind of parent's personalities contributed to making such an amazing girl like you Courtney esp in this time full of toxic garbage . Keep up the good work . I am one of your fans .
You have self worth and self respect. So many don’t. Those people are internally broken. Self destructive behavior is a form of self hate.
Makes alot of sense actually. Alot of ladies seem to be attracted to either superior looks or superior resources. Some ladies out there will share a man if they have to. Most dating seems toxic these days.
Part of me thinks that people should quit trying to buy the flashy thing and look for substance.
Full admission. I took a lady on a date once who told me you're great but I just wish you were taller. I ended the date there and politely walked away. People are way to insecure these day.
I'm actually disgusted that some girls are willing to sacrifice their dignity by sharing a man, disgraceful. And you should've told that girl something about herself too before you walked away
@@homiesenatep Not worth my time to sling mud. Me getting up and walking out should be enough of a message.
@@Lou-jf4rl Sure it is. If you don't take the newspaper to a dog when it shits on your floor, it's going to keep shitting on your floor. If you want to make these dumb hos think twice about their shitty behavior, you have to put them in their place. "Well, that septum ring makes you look like a farm animal. I don't date farm animals." THEN walk away, and don't look back. This may be very un-Courtney-like, but I do wholesomely believe in throwing salt on open wounds, kicking people while they are down, and creating cautionary tales for those who come later as to why I will be respected. Those who would be repelled by such things are unworthy to begin with.
Women are not animals and you shouldn't hit a dog like that. What you put out in the world comes back to you aka karma. I refuse to mirror someone's terrible actions.
Characters of a woman that I want :
God first
Good mindset
Matured enough
Independent
And
Can harmonize with me 🗣️🎤🎶💞
❤️❤️
The guy who was getting the wifi password from the router that's so creepy. Talk about trust issues.
I’m really glad that you’re speaking on these things that go on.
I appreciate your honesty about you creeping through your relationships’ phones. Like your growth.
I‘m glad to see people so young but thinks and speaks so mature. You are beautiful without being arrogant and very honest - great job 👏
It’s in the script written by her father.
Excellent vid! I’ve encountered most of these IRL myself. I know guys who do this crap too. Every segment was on point. Thank you
The voice of rational and ethical thinking
The first one is a perfect example of understanding when a woman is there to meet you for a relationship or if she is just for sale. As for the guy side of it are you out there looking like you're wanting to find a woman for sale or find a woman to build a relationship with. It's important to ask this question because the first example shows the Stark difference of the two.
I like your videos, it helps me to look at myself and fix my own toxic traits and get better for my future husband. Thank you
Hello Courtney Ryan
I've started watching your videos lately,
I do have one thing that I want to tell you, is that you are such a WISE WOMAN, you talk with wisdom.
Thanks for being on my youtube feed,
That girl really said go be toxic? LOL Any girl be toxic with me will be dropped in 30 seconds.
That one about the WiFi is illegal to do without permission, especially if it’s done remotely.
I love Courtney, one of the realest channels out there, also very humble
The snooping and creeping can be a red flag for the one that is being creeped on as well. I had this awhile back and had to eventually break up with them.
There's a lot of manipulation going on from people to other people. Incredibly irritating! I see this every day. From giving dating advice to many other things in general.
Such as Courtney’s channel
@@Filthy_Larry Not her dating advice. I know when I see bad dating advice
@@orlinchirinos1981 that’s what I was implying.
Great reaction video keeping caution in the wind while dating. I am all for the right attraction. Courtney has earned my respect.
I think you should do a video on trust. Yeah relationships are built on trust but it can't just be given blindly, which is why, in my opinion at least, it's not too terrible an idea to, say, want a prenup before marriage (or in some cases, a paternity test). Idk, what do you think Courtney? As always, awesome content!
Courtney this is one of your best!😎
God this stuff is why the dating world is such a nightmare. Courtney you’re a breath of fresh air and I wish there were more women like you. Just normal LOL!! No mind games no manipulative BS just straight forward & with class & with a good head on her shoulders who knows what she wants. May I ask if you might do a video on why some women cheat & monkey branch into another relationship before ending her relationship with you? I loved my ex but she did that to me last year & she did it over months. It was emotional torture, I knew there had to be someone else but I couldn’t prove it, I only found out after the breakup what the truth was. Been no contact for 5 months and no I’d never take her back, but it still boggles me how someone who claimed for 1.5 yrs to love you so much & want to get married live together etc could turn on you so hard & betray so deeply with zero remorse or care for how deep she hurt you. I just wish I could watch her new relationship blow up in her face. With my luck they’ll get married tho haha. Thx Courtney
Everything you say is on point. Finding the right person is fine and makes sense; the thing is though, you've always had men interested in you. Therefore you can be selective and know what you're worth. Most men don't get any interest that they don't pursue, so when they find someone who has a slight bit of interest. they have to stick around, otherwise it's back to being alone. I wasn't good enough for what I wanted, so walked away, but most men can't do that, don't have hobbies & interests that they really like. I think this is something you can't ignore and need to try to understand more. Women are in demand and Men are in Supply for the most part. It's the way it is.
Hi Courtney and everyone!
I’ll be honest with you guys, my confidence is at an all time low for the past few months.
I’m a Personal Trainer at a gym and I was told yesterday that I failed my probation period at my gym and I only have 1 week left. Before Christmas, I was let go from my Football/Soccer team and was on the bench most of the time.
As guys, we’re told to walk it off and look for new opportunities. It still hurts and doubt does creep up on the mind 😔
It is part of being a Man. You will be fine get RP ASAP.
Take time with your emotions bro, don't brush them off and acknowledge how you're feeling. It's okay to feel hurt by those things not working out. I think the most important thing is realising what you can learn from those experiences while also detaching them from your self worth. Hope that helps 🙏🏿
What was the reason you were given that made them let you go? Seriously curious as to why and keep ya head up buddy. That just opens up a better opportunity.👊🏼
Glad people like Courtney and Corey Wayne are out here helping people mature.
How is them being two girls in one cup helping others mature?
You can just see how Courtney progressively gets more and more annoyed with these people 😂
It’s hard for her to look in the mirror. She should stick to watching cartoons.
2:11 “Ahhh I wish we could all just be normal”
**sigh** me too kid …. me too
I say they called you lame and boring because they probably felt empty, awkward and full of regret inside.
Constant hook ups with random people kill you inside. For men or women, after fist couple of times it is no longer feel thrilling or exiting, just another way to kill boredom and pass some time.
I think both men and women need to communicate better in those situations with people that are sleeping with people early. It definitely sounds like they need to learn to set boundaries or communicate what they want/need and if they aren't willing to commit to that, then its time to leave
It's amazing how some of these people are comfortable posting how repulsive they are and don't feel any shame. It's not even like they're trying to teach something (or anything good). It's simply wanting positive reinforcement for negative behavior...second hand embarrassment smh
Second-hand embarrassment=vergüenza ajena
Kinda like Courtney.
The vast majority of guys have no options. Their choice is to simp, or be completely invisible. If you're an average guy who refuses to simp, she just says, "Fine. You're dead to me. End of story. Enjoy your life as an incel." Because she knows by looking at you, that you have no options.
As far as telling guys here not to cheat? Most guys who watch this channel, are watching it because women they express interest in, don't want them back and they would like to find a way to slide to the other side of that. The guys who need to hear the "don't cheat" message, aren't watching this channel. They're busy perusing the 500 matches they got on Tinder this week.
Ouch, you put that pretty well I’d say. I do ok with women but I don’t do nearly as ‘well’ as my roommate who was cheating on his girlfriend with multiple beautiful women. I abhor cheating and the kind of women he was bringing home aren’t exactly my type but I can’t help but be jealous of the abundance he gets just for his good looks. The girl he’s dating is really pretty and super nice, I feel bad for her. Really don’t know what to do in this situation to be honest.
No you do have options, but the thing is that who you may want may not want you. Same for girls sometimes you are not your type's type. Instead of dating the girl that works at Vicky S, ask out the girl that works at Macy's. Instead of the 8 try the 6. date a girl with glasses, or is pudgy. Date someone that is not what society deems as the "Hot girl". You don't have to simp, you choose to simp. Go ahead be dead to her, she wasn't worth your life force to begin with. Why would you simp for someone so mean and hateful? But if people wouldn't cheat then you don't have to try and get them back. There is a lid to every pot my friend, don't give up.
I always say I feel bad for guys dating now, as social media 10 years ago wasn’t what it is today. That said, I’ve never hooked up with a girl I met online/social media, but the chance you’re gonna find someone on those apps is close to none, unless you have something on the surface level that can attract those surface level girls. Most the people on those apps aren’t looking for serious relationships and if they are, they’re probably damaged in some way that has led them to think an app is going to produce a fruitful relationship. I mean the success rate for meaningful relationship on those apps is probably less than 5% lol As a man you need to take a good self evaluation of yourself, be honest, and work on what your inadequacies are. If you want a relationship with anyone, you need to provide something in the social hierarchy that is of importance and, trust me, looks so not matter when it comes to this. Working out(taking care of yourself), find yourself a healthy hobby, find something you’re passionate about, working towards a strong career are all places to start and you will attract the opposite sex in those endeavors along the way. Whether it’s just trying to be part of the “hook-up” cultural or finding a real relationship, you need to add value to yourself and in turn it will establish confidence in yourself. Now I recommend avoiding the superficial lifestyle of hooking/picking-up lol For real though, it isn’t going to make you happy nor is it something that leads to meaning in life. Just focus on yourself and you will attract & mean women along the way of making yourself better because you’ll meet “that” girl at school, the gym, a store, a job etc etc But either way gotta be honest with yourself and see what you offer right now and what you would value in another person or what you would want that other person to value. Yeah, some guys can get women based on their looks, but that only last so long because women at a certain age realize that things like security & personality matter more than surface level appearances. I know it’s easy to say this shit and talk about it, but trust me, there’s reason why people say it because there is truth in it. Also, this issue that young adults are having stems a lot from this idea of “accepting people for who they are no matter what” mentality and if someone doesn’t accept that then it’s not you fault and this isn’t how the world works. Like stated before, if someone has nothing to offer in the Social hierarchy and society, like no job, no aspirations, goals, personality, or they have terrible habits then yes it is absolutely your fault and not that persons who doesn’t want to be with you lol
Tl:dr - Work on bettering yourself and everything will follow
@@Cryemoar Well said. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@PussInBoot414 Go for quality not quantity. One of these days he's gonna screw with a girl who has issues and she could wreck his life. Stay away from that.
I really enjoyed your take on all of these videos. The traditional way to go is honestly a solution to most of these problems
I actually know a lot of guys who get very emotionally attached to women after they sleep with them the first time. Most are simps though sadly or just needy.
Great video Courtney. Because of this, I am ending things with a girl that has been manipulating me. Thank you so much for your advice.
Guys and girls, any person you are seriously considering as a "potentially relationship" you need to look at their social media, bc most of them wont even hide who they are...
Ain’t that the truth. One time I put on my Facebook a video of me killing a bear with a flame thrower. I cooked it and then ate it. Great stuff.
“It doesn’t matter what happened” lol; thank you, Courtney.
Unreal. These girls should be jailed for theft and exploitation.
They’re not issues, women are just upset because the game is flipped on them. Don’t hate the player, hate the game…….
Your reactions are so heart felt. You genuinely care, its beautiful.
This girl definitely understand men. Finally a normal woman. Great video.
When someone tells me they use TikTok a lot it instantly becomes a red flag in my head and I can't help but feel that way lol.😅
"On a date with a beautiful girl and you're on Bumble.... sick... from me to you stop doing that" 😂 over here dying.... Courtney is a Queen.
i'm a man and i felt emotional connection to every girl i sleped with. Except one time that i won't go into detail, but point is: sex isn't just a moment, it lingers.
I'll always have mad love and respect for Courtney
people need to keep in mind actions speak louder than words
TikTok is Toxic.I enjoy anything dance relating I happen to view but all this relationships stuff I come across is just terrible or just plain link bait. I’m older, yes. I can’t imagine teenagers and 20 something’s getting their dating relationship advice from TikTok. If you’re in you’re 20’s and doing toxic behavior you are part of the problem. What comes around goes around. Be the person you want to attract in your life.
My favorite quote that incapsulates people saying their 'alpha' or 'high value', "Any man who must say 'I am the King,' is no true king."
Never cheat on someone who's better looking than your wife. If you get caught you might get away with it if she's ugly
Love how you say “ it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter what happened” as you turn off the video in disgust 😂
" If you have to tell people that you are a high value male - you're not ! "
I wholeheartedly agree . . . yet: we see videos on " How to be a High Value Male" if one needs to be told to do it: it is not part of your own character. If one must be instructed to be honest, loyal, reliable, courteous . . . etc. . . those are not your own core values, and you simply adopt the appearance of the 'High Value' individual.
You are a great example for other women to follow. Keep up the good work
The sound of Courtney's Sigh ... I felt that .... looked up the etymology of the word Normal...it hit even harder....
She had her cell phone in her V and it was set on vibrate.
There is a wise saying in the Diamond District around 47th Street in Midtown Manhattan. Trust in business is just like virginity; once you lose it, there is no way in hell that you will ever get it back.
Thank you for this video, and I would never condone gold diggers or sugar mommas and dads.
Hahaha “It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what happened.”
You are a very honest person! I love that about you! Accepting and owning up to your mistakes! Integrity and honesty 👏 👌 Values are very important!! Great video!
U r a good lady, I hope girls these days should learn from u, a high value is needed for everyone, bcoz toxicity should go down