Let’s talk about book tok. |overhyped books?, is tik tok toxic?|
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I completely agree!!! As someone who is older with a full-time job and responsibilities, the books I choose to read are my safe space! I refuse to let negative tik toks make me feel bad about how I choose to enjoy reading
Yes!!! When you had a long day, there is nothing better than to be transported in to a different World. I used to feel ashamed of admitting what books I was reading and what I was watching on TV, until a few yrs ago my coworkers and I had an honest conversation, and we all admitted to watching and reading "less ambitious" things, and we decided to F it and do what feels good for us and our mental health. When you start talking about it, it is surprising how many people (from executives to students) need that type of escape. Thank you, Destiny, for always talking about how we can read what we want and how much we want, I think that is really beneficial especially for younger audience.❤❤
Agreed. I realized the change..the older i am the more picky what book that i want to read. Yesterday, i go to bookstore with my dad and spending 2 hours just only find 1 book that i really want to read...my dad was pissed lol.
I believe that the reason TikTok is so toxic is because of how young the most users are, RUclips users are usually more mature.
I don’t understand people like this. You read a book you’re a reader. No one is better than anyone based on the books they are reading
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This might sound daft but I honestly think the reason why booktok seems more toxic is because of the age range. Tiktok is primarily used by children/young teens, and lets be real kids just have no chill lmao. I’m not saying there aren’t any children on booktube or vice versa but I think you can clearly feel the imbalance in age and maturity of these two communities.
I totally see where you’re going with this. A lot do the booktok creators are older teens-adults but many of their followers seem to be younger-older teens with very little understanding of what their comments & criticisms actually do to people. So I can 100% see what you mean by this.
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something else i don't like about booktok is that they are BRUTAL with spoilers
specifically: the video everyone uses with the girl hitting the piñata. just skip every single one you see
100% agree booktok can be so toxic for slating books one person loves and another doesn’t, even if i dislike a book i will not deliberately comment about it it’s simply a difference in opinion 💕
booktok has become so toxic, like why are we putting down authors and shaming people for liking specific books? people have different tastes??? it was honestly so sad seeing people hate on alex and lightlark, and go as far as to leave 1 star reviews on her book without EVEN READING IT?!! i can't even imagine how she's feeling rn :( like why are we putting so much energy to "cancel" her when we could be addressing and calling out actual problematic authors who have a very concerning history🤔🤔
I deleted TikTok a few months ago because it was so toxic, so I get my book recs from RUclips and I agree, it is such a nicer community. ❤️ ALSO can’t wait for you to read ACOMAF… it’ll make you love rhysand even more !
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People on tiktok in general are so negative and love a good “why ___ is problematic and you’re a piece of shit for liking it”
I totally agree booktok used to be so fun and a space to share what everyone enjoyed reading and then over the last year it has just become more and more toxic. Everyone should be able to enjoy the books they want to read without feeling shamed or what not like what’s been happening on booktok recently.
You should try a video where you go to the bookstore and pick up books you've never heard of but chose because they seem intriguing to you (without looking up reviews or star ratings) Loved the video!!
The dragging of Alex Aster, discovered that happening and was shocked. Putting a career on the line because they wanted to jump on the train of 'hating,' without reading the book or letting the author redeem herself.
i wanted to speak on that but felt like i wasn’t fully educated on the situation, from what i do know all i can say is, wow.
I haven’t even read the book but the way everyone rushed to Goodreads before it was even released to bomb her with negative reviews is genuinely so sad. If I was an author I’d be so upset 😭
@@naaat3278 No honestly. From what I’ve heard on the situation, (which isn’t a lot) she’s a young author who needed some educating but in no way does she deserve the severe amount of
hate she’s receiving. It’s genuinely so sad to see a bunch of people who consider themselves part of the bookish community bashing someone who put their work out there for people to see. :(
Runs to TT to see what the heck “shifting is.” Now I’m down another rabbit hole 😆
This is why I am VERY selective in regard to social media. I have Pinterest, Goodreads (I guess this counts...???), and RUclips. I only comment on BookTube videos, because I feel welcomed and included. I really appreciate you talking about this topic. The fact that people are made to feel shame for a hobby that they love is disgusting. For some people, that makes people afraid to continue their hobbies and that's what is so sad to me. They end up losing parts of themselves.
People preach about being yourself, but when you try, you are shot down if you don't align with them. Social Media has made society as a whole toxic.
Personally my problem with Colleen Hoover is that some of the portrayals of situations, like SA specifically, are romanticized, which trickles down into people being sort of uncritical of those aspects. I’m not saying that those scenes/relationships shouldn’t be in the books, but the way they’re handled I feel like isn’t great, which is mostly why I dislike coho books.
THANK YOU!!!! it isn’t just “hating” on colleen hoover and her books, it’s that there are serious problems with them! these things (romanticizing abuse and SA) are a common theme in her books, and never change. that’s why she is the problem just as much as her book are bad.
fallon I don’t share your opinion at all so it’s still just your opinion. and you can’t say there’s something ‘wrong’ with her books, just state it as YOUR opinion and move on.
@@saardcv your response is exactly what i mean when i say her books are harmful. to restate- i did say that she romanticizes abuse and SA constantly. but she as an author and her books are praised so much that people just look past it and don’t see it as a problem. what i’m getting from you is that you don’t see how harmful romanticizing abuse and SA is, especially labeling it as romance. it’s not just an opinion, if you don’t see how disgusting that is there’s something wrong.
@@saardcv I think that it’s just important to see and understand the issues lay in the books portrayal of situations which are objectively harmful. In the original version of November 9 there was a pretty explicit SA scene of the two mcs, which coho did remove but never made a real apology for, which to me shows that she doesn’t take things of that nature seriously in certain circumstances. I’m not saying a person can’t like her books, but there’s a lot which should be examined more critically by the reader imo.
@@fallon9178 now I don’t think colleen hoover meant to romanticise it for the sake of making it seem less harmful. I personally think she did a great job portraying the pov of a victim of SA and I assume she wanted to show the reader how manipulated the victims are and reading lily’s pov we see this romanticised version and fall for it. I feel like it’s a great way to draw a readers attention to the problem though I think some think could’ve been done better and I generally don’t lover her writing style. Again this is simply my opinion and I tolerate yours but I think just labelling it bad without further analysing the wished effect on the reader is stupid.
Your videos are so comforting ur literally like my fav booktuber
This video spoke to me so much! I don’t like a lot of books that are hyped up on booktok so when I read a booktok book and I don’t like it sometimes I rate the books higher because of the hype. I’m so glad you made this video and spoke about this!❤️
I love your honesty ❤️
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I’m not coho fan personally, I’ve read ugly love and thought it was fine.I’m in interested in reading verity and heartbones in the future. But, I don’t think anyone should try to say someone isn’t a reader because they don’t read the most literary, and like serious books. Just because you only read “easy reads” doesn’t dismiss the fact that you’re reading. I love easy, fun books.I only mostly read romance but that doesn’t mean anything. People can be so elitist about books, and think they’re better because of the type of books they read!
100% agree girl!! This is a big reason why I always gravitate towards booktube rather than booktok. I just feel like with booktube, there's way more positivity. I don't get why there's so much negativity and bashing of others reading preferences and questioning people as readers for their choice of books!
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hi destiny! i don’t usually comment but i just wanted to tell you i absolutely love your videos! your personality, books, everything is amazing! you are an amazing person!
I actually agree with you about booktok! I have had several ppl post videos basically saying if you like this book you have bad taste. Or the trend where if they see someone recommend a specific book they know they don't have good taste. When all they have to say was this book wasn't for me.
i love how you worded everything and i agree! i’ve seen a lot of really mean stuff about people who read coho lately and i personally love her 😭😭
for real. I’m with Des on the fact that going back to it, I’m not a big fan of Ugly Love, however, I love a lot of her work and she got me back into reading. Her work may not be for everyone, but the amount of hate people get within random comment sections for liking her writing is totally extreme and unnecessary.
I personally do not like the books I’ve read by Colleen Hoover, but I could never imagine belittling someone and saying they aren’t readers for reading her books. Reading is something so beautiful and an escapism for many. I don’t understand how people will sit there and bash others for doing something they love. It was good hearing your thoughts Destiny!!! 🤍
Hope your having a good day des xx
definitely needed this video today, it’s been rough
I’ve had covid and I’ve been binging destiny’s vids waiting for her to post again I’m so happy!
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@@harikasribooktalks Thank you so much I’m already feeling better I’m reading a lot to take my mind off of it. Again thank you have a great day
I post booktok videos and I agree with you completely!! I hate seeing tiktoks in my feed of people putting people down for enjoying popular books and it makes me feel so bad for posting about and enjoying those books :( but I just try my best to ignore it and post positive stuff anyway!
I haven’t had any negative experiences with reading until booktok and it’s so sad that it’s making this space “controversial”:( thank you for making this video❤️
I agree!! A video on Lauren Asher books would be cool!
I would really love it if you made a video talking about the addicted/Calloway series!!
Yesss I’ve been waiting for a new video!!
Would you ever make a video trying a completely different genre? (horror, sci fi, etc) I would selfishly be curious to know your thoughts on a completely different genre since your romance tastes aligns so well with mine!
Generally on tik tok there is a wide age range of about 14-early 20s. So when you think about it of course I would read different types of books and have different opinions on a book at 18 compared to a 14 year old because of my maturity level. When I was 14 I would read cute YA rom coms or YA fantasy’s now I tend to read more dark steamy romances. Which there’s nothing wrong about but when people on booktok deem a book as childish or to light and fluffy, yeah it might be for them but the younger audience on booktok might absolutely love that book because it’s more of their maturity level. But that doesn’t give people the right to make someone feel bad about liking or disliking a book or force an opinion. We are all different we all have different opinions and that’s perfectly fine. People need to just respect peoples opinions. I think people need to realise that the people on Tik tok and social media are real people. It unsettles me how much disrespect and inconsideration people have for others these days.
destiny said what needed to be said 💖
I’m listening to addicted to you on audible as trying to get the books in the uk has been tough, ngl I’m enjoying it 😊
Also agree, just because people like a book doesn’t mean you need to love it or even like it! So I agree with you there x
I loved, It End With Us and Verity. Getting more of her books obsessed
Love your videos soso much destiny. Thank you for always making my day
I love your perspective with book tok
Out of all the authors in the world I just think it is an interesting case study how CoHo has taken over Booktok. She owns it, it is her lol.
I would love to hear more of your thoughts on the addicted/Calloway series and the shatter me series!! I’ve been debating on reading the series for awhile!
Literally been called and stupid and basic on booktok for enjoying popular romance books. It’s so unbelievably annoying. My taste in books or my enjoyment of a “basic book” does not even come CLOSE to defining who I am as a person. To judge a person you have quite literally never met or spoken to based on a completely harmless book they like is something I will never understand. And ffs when will people ever grow out of the “you’re basic” insult????
I would love an addicted Calloway sister series video !
I'd love more ranking videos!
I’m so glad you brought this topic up ! Ngl I deleted TikTok due to how toxic it can be now and days and when I heard that people are really bullying others for READINGGGG! Literally reading ! A simple hobby that’s been around for decades. And even to the point they are slandering ppl for reading coho and calling her basic just does something to my poor readers heart. If you don’t like to read coho books then that’s fine but don’t bash someone for not having the same interest as you . Like y’all are upset that people are finding love in reading rather then wanting to spend their time on a screen for hours ?
I would also think that while people are bashing coho for being “overrated” or “overhyped” I’m just glad mrs coho is in her bag ! Idk I feel like as an author I would love to be overhyped to the point everyone left and right are buying my books
Thank you for speaking on this ! ❤️❤️ this is why I love you ! Booktok is a diff world and I hope people realize that it’s not ok to comment on peoples interest in a rude way
Love your content!! Just ordered the same prints you just got for your reading corner from Etsy :) thanks for sharing!
I had the same thoughts as you about Every Summer After. I read it pretty soon after Love and other words (which I enjoyed) that I had to ask myself if I was reading the same book twice.
You should do a guide to the addicted/calloway series!!
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i stopped using TikTok a while ago and started watching RUclips more. I just find that RUclips is way more uplifting and people don’t argue and judge people over every little thing 😭
I personally understand people having strong feelings about the books they like. Every popular book is gonna have people that don’t like it, or that love it. But I don’t stand for people insulting the person that said that opinion. It’s not a big deal. I love colleens books. Some people don’t that’s fine, but they shouldn’t like be so harsh about it.
I appreciate your content and your honestly
-It Ends With Us: I loved this book so much. I think one of the reasons it is SO popular and SO hyped is simply because of the subject matter it deals with, mixed with her writing style. I think so many women and girls can relate to Lily and it feels as though Colleen has described exactly what it is like to be in an abusive relationship. I think the people who are like really supporting this book are maybe ones who have gone through it and are feeling that emotional feeling like “people finally know my story” without them having to say “I’ve been through this too” personally, that’s why I loved it so much!
-Ugly Love: I initially read this and it was a page turner and I even cried during certain parts. However looking back I realized that there was literally no character development on Tate and I wondered how either of them could even be falling in love because it seemed like their whole time spent together was so superficial. I thought Miles was an ass for how he treated her but in the end I even liked him more than her because we had more character development on him. Tate is literally one dimensional and her whole personality is just getting Miles to love her back.
Spoiler maybe: The only time I felt like I got to know Tate a little more was when she showed up in November 9 and we got to see how caring she is.
I loved this video so much!!
Its so crazy how many different corners of booktok there is cuz a lot of these books ive almost never seen on booktok
I love the court of thorn and roses and I’m not a fantasy reader the second one is so good and right now I’m on the third book
I think that stuff circulates faster on TikTok. In ugly love there is one quote( you probably know the one) that went around TikTok. I think without reading a coho book and only seeing ugly love (or one other book by her) being so popular, it’s a negative experience already for a potential reader.
The only thing I’ve ever seen on Booktok about coho, is just what you said. It’s more immature writing. I personally love it. I read Sarah dessen books growing up.
I prefer RUclips! I feel like I find more book recs that I might normally not read or hear about
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we need addicted ranking video destiny. And I love you girl
I agree w ur opinions on every summer after I hated the plot twist but I did enjoy it but it def wasn’t as good as love and other words to me
I so need to read The Court of Thorns and Roses ~Series~ I'm not a fantasy lady so much...however I really enjoyed the Crescent City ~Series~ I also enjoyed It Ends with Us... I really don't care what people say about these books... It's what makes me feel something when I read them.. I also need to "Get On" the Addicted ~Series~... I'm so behind... Love your videos! ❤
I also need to read ACOTAR, as I’m not a fantasy girl either. I’m also behind on Addicted/Calloway don’t worry girl! ❤️
If people can't handle opinions that are different from theirs, they shouldn't be on the Internet. At the end of the day, just read what you want!
I love your channel Destiny! Can you create a Shatter Me reading vlog video? I’m not sure if I should read that series so it would be amazing to get your opinion on it! I completely agree with you about Booktok. It seriously is toxic! Thank you for this video! It should definitely help this negativity.
Can you do a reading vlog of the heartstopper series
Twitter is just as bad for hating Colleen hoover! People will do anything to put down other people for liking something
I wanna get into the addicted/Calloway sister series but the hype scares me lol
I read book 2 & 3 of the off campus series and I LOVED them haha
People just have different tastes - that’s normal if we all liked the same things we’d have less books to read
I DNF’d it ends with us I just couldn’t do it! I loved her other books maybe someday is my favorite!
I gave IEWU 3/5⭐️. The last 100ish pages were the only good parts in my opinion. It felt like a messy wattpad story with too many time jumps and I really disliked the letters to Ellen as a way to tell Lily and Atlas’s story. I agree that it’s wayyy overhyped. If you dnf’d it i’d try to go back and read what’s left bc it does end up being a good ending
Yes finally another Destiny post! I love all of your videos girl
the sad part is that it’s so common to romanticize abuse, SA, misogyny, etc, so people don’t see it right away and then don’t listen when people bring up why these books are problematic. her books are deeply harmful and just plain bad.
Yes this is definitely true. There’s no need to shame people for liking Colleen Hoover however it’s extremely important to bring up the problematic messages in her books and the toxic love interests she writes about. Especially since the majority of her audience is young teenagers
@@anna-vo2zu Oh yeah I was not saying that it was okay to shame people for liking Colleen. People like whoever they want.
@@anna-vo2zu yeah! there’s no way to control what people choose to read, and i see a lot of adults complaining that teenagers shouldn’t be reading her books because most of them are adult. i am a teenager and i’ve grown out of young adult so i don’t read it as much anymore. not only that, but when people hype up a book especially on a platform like tiktok who’s users are mainly teenagers, they’re going to read these books with toxic relationships that are labeled as romance, and are going to think that’s how it should be.
finaaallllly a video des
I fully agree with you it comes to Ugly Love. I really wanted to love it but I had problems with the fact Miles haven't been in a relationship in years so what had made Tate sooo special. They never went on dates and we barely know their personalities. Ended up giving it a 3 star. Just because I didn't like the book didn't mean I don't like the author. And by the way I love your content and I'm to see to you addressing this topic.
Agreed. It was an "easy read" for me, finished it in about 5 hours but the way Tate and Miles were obsessed with each was too much. They need other hobbies. But I have also enjoyed other Coho books more.
pleaaasssee finish acotar!!! i love it soo much it gets better after the first one
I basically don't buy anything recommended by booktokers. Had bought a few and they were immatured, badly written and full of typos. I had literally never read such bad books. It was so surprising how these books could be so 'hyped and liked'. I can only assume they were all paid publicities.
Nowadays even books covers have written 'sensation on tiktok'. Thanks for the heads up lol.
also agree 100% with the whole just because you don’t like a book doesn’t mean you don’t like the author as a person. books don’t have feelings, we can say we don’t like them lol
I would looovvveeee to see your opinions on Taylor Jenkins Reid’s books. I’ve recently become obsessed!😻
Seeing negative videos on booktok really makes me feel horrible, like feel guilty for enjoying the book! Especially when people hate on Colleen or hate on people who read a lot of hyped books. Like I have a bad taste for liking popular “basic” books. I really have to force myself to scroll past and not get effected by the video.
Also if I could read every book I would but that’s very expensive and time consuming. So of course I’m gonna read a book that a lot of people are hyping up more than a book I haven’t heard about.
@@hoperebecca28 i agree with you, I feel so guilty when people say something is wrong with people who read colleen hoover, I feel like something is wrong with me or something and the thing is i won't stop reading her books because they are so hyped up and i wanna know the hype
@@snothandothwala2062 exactly! Also as long as I still enjoy her books I’m not going to stop! What’s important is our own opinion and how a book made us feel! As much as we follow people on book tube and booktok, we can only determine if we like a book ourselves!
Booktube and booksta are definitely superior book socials.
I think it all comes down age and maturity. Quite a lot of the TikTok audience is such a younger demographic.
I agree with almost all your book thoughts. There was only one I disagree on and it sally rooney, I really enjoy her writing. But that’s okay, we’re adults who can have different taste. But the rest of your book thoughts were spot on to my thoughts.
Hi destiny, ily
I loved the first book of The Summer I Turned Pretty and I've watched the show and I really liked it and I have just started reading the 2nd book in the series.
I liked the show and loved the first book in the series as well, however, the 2nd book was quite boring to me and the third was messy. This is completely opinion based tho!! Lmk what you think of the 2nd and 3rd, I’d like to get different perspectives on them!:)
@@emmisouliere5456 I will let you know!
@@claireduckworth7659 okay! I hope you like them:)
@@emmisouliere5456 Thanks! I did really like the first one and I am currently on chapter 5 of the 2nd book!
@@emmisouliere5456 I agree with this!! The 2nd book was ok to me but the third massacred all of the characters imo. But the show is so mf good!!!
does she have an in depth love and other words video? I am confused bc the plot twists seemed kinda similar yet different.
I have a really bad habit with just buying booktok books. I would say about 8 books on my bookshelf are not booktok and the rest are
RAN to this video when I saw the title because I never see people talk about how toxic tik tok is so thank you for talking about it 🫶🏼
I will never understand ppl who gate keep…reading...????
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Did you read zodiac academy yet it's so much fun and such a great book
The Colleen hate came on STRONG AND FAST I was shocked like just read something else 🤷♀️
Like I can understand some of the criticism as there's been many books of hers I haven't enjoyed but there's been a few that I've loved and I'm excited for It Starts With US!
I will say as a 28 year old I've found a lot more books I love from RUclips creators because some of the ya books on tik tok are just written a little too young for me. But I love using both in tandem for recommendations.
I feel so bad when people are mean to people who read colleen hoover. Like fr it's not that serious. Let people read what they want. Just because you read a different author doesn't make you superior. Just like you wouldn't be mean to someone for liking country music over rap, etc. We as the book community need to share the love we have for books, we need to get together and love each other over our mutual love for books.
Lolol I feel like the hating game was so slow 😭😭😭 I read the first 50-80 pages and felt like I was drowning in boredom
But I really liked the Spanish deception
1. I think that’s funny
2. Again to your point - people like different things and you shouldn’t hate on someone because of that
can someone please tell me why i cant get the old addicted to you cover to match perfectly with the rest of the series and why are they so expensive when you order from australia :(
Doe anyone know what the name of her website is? Btw ily destiny! Also completely agree
On Amazon there is two different covers for the first book of the addicted series. I’m not sure if I should get the original one with the more cursive looking writing or the other one that says it has like exclusive content? If that makes sense
I know what you’re talking about!! I would stick with the original cursive covers because the exclusive content ones aren’t out for every book I don’t think. If you like constatant covers and matching content then do that, if you don’t care then I’d say get whatever appeals to you, I’m waiting to order addicted/calloway because I can’t find the new edition cover of Some Kind of Perfect yet!
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Have you read The Great Alone or The Nightingale?
As a 19 year old I saw all the hype around The summer I turned pretty series I decided I should try it, so I got it on audible. And let me just say, that’s one of my lowest rated books of the year, Belly was so immature and come on… Belly really. And I felt like the writing itself was immature, so I could definitely see 14-16 year olds enjoying it. So I was like idk maybe they get better but then I started reading some reviews and was like yeah ok nope not happening .
can you do a video reading the slammed series by colleen
finally someone else who doesn’t think the spanish love deception was great! i gave it a 2 stars, i really did not enjoy lina, i felt like she was way too immature
Hi should I get the dirty air series or the twisted series
dirty air!
Soooooo when can we except you to read the rest of Acotar?👀