I’ve been living in Thailand 2 years and ALL relationships with Thai women will ALWAYS be about BAHT ! It’s the culture! Whoever says differently I don’t know what Thailand they talking about but can’t be this Thailand I live in ? ALSO I’ve dated the “ educated “ types as well and they mostly ALL have school debt and work ALOT of hours that wouldn’t be worth the money to a person from the USA or if they own a business they owe the bank some crazy amount so you end up having to financially help them as well ! Long story short if you don’t mind paying you will be fine here but don’t think you will find the girl who’s “ special “ or “ different “ ! NOTHING you can say or do for her will have more influence then providing for her family
Thirty five years ago met a Thai woman when on holiday - she was ex military and owned a restaurant and lived in Germany. Bought her own house in Thailand and was on holiday. Father was a full colonel in the Thai army and she did 5 years in military school and 5 year as a combat soldier. Not the usual Thai. She knew lots of high up police - having trained many of them when they were in the Army. Well, we kept meeting up for 5 years and got married. Dad was so pleased he gave us the heavy gold wedding ring and no Sin Sod. Wife said if you want to live in Thailand no need a job as I'll run a business. But decided to go the the UK and we have been together ever since.
@@Rodderz1 Well seven years ago I met my wife, not from a rich family but they're doing ok. She's a university graduate and now a teacher. No sin sot and never been asked for anything by the family. My wife is good with money and a monthly budget well do ok on a budget of about 15,000 baht. Anything over that we save. Plenty of us have found a girl that is "special," and "different. Maybe it is about who the man is. Sure if he's 55, fat. bald, has done the bar girl scene and has some level of drinking problem I can believe he'll only move in the circles of troublesome women. For the rest of us, the nice traditional girls without baggage aren't that difficult to find. You just have to look somewhere other than bars and dating websites.
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I never cease to be shocked by people who are somehow surprised that prostitutes are a bit dishonest and are only in it for the money. Are they under the impression that Thai women look for love by becoming a prostitute?
lol like it’s a choice when it’s family persuasion surrounded by terrible salaries. It’s not as clear cut as you think really. I don’t mean to offend you but it’s reality.
@@mrfunnynames1742 You obviously believe their sob stories. Unemployment and cost of living a both ridiculously low in Thailand. There is plenty of money around for those willing to work for it.
@@WilsonWilson33 riiiiggt if there was then it wouldn’t be the sexual tourist central bank n the world then. They are not son stories they ar life stories whether you like them or not. I’m sure we all made bad choices in our lives.
@@mrfunnynames1742 No, they are sob stories. Or do you think it is just a coincidence they all have a similar tale to tell? They see working in a bar as a fast track to wealth, that's all. Much like western girls with only fans accounts, selling sex is seen as a quick way to make money.
@user-vj6pw9my8xyeah don't matter where you are from, it's all about what you as a man can provide. They wait at the finish line, and pick the winners..or losers for that matter.
Nah I'm married to one. She has made more money than I make throughout our marriage and it all goes into the same account. Are they wired to hoard money and watch every penny? Sure. But they all don't use foreigners for cash. Guys that say this are usually trying to turn a bar girl into their little gizmo.
I have a thai wife and just got married in 2023. I have known her for 8 years and do speak a good amount of Thai. Even now I am still learning things about Thai women and the culture. The biggest thing foreigners need to understand is that when a thai woman says "Take care of me" it means financially and not emotionally. Money is king in thailand and honestly after the Corona Virus pandemic Thai's are squirrling away as much money as possible and are making it by doing whatever and however they can (escorting). Lastly I would add to what Dan is saying for advice. Find some good friends that are Thai. Thai have circles of friends and if you can get included in that group you are in and they will protect you from a lot of the bullshit normal farangs have to deal with.
I talked online with this lady, speaks perfect english, works from her phone and she said she been 18 years with her ex THAI and no kids. Never been with farang. Bullshit ahahah
I am in the exception boat .... so far😮 Paying attention to your warnings. The few I have chosen to connect with pay their way however very clear you have to pay for your way which is certainly fair. I did run away from the obvious gold diggers looking to be saved as you would never know if they loved you or your money. Having fun 😊
Dan, I’ve asked before if you would do a video on what some of these bar girls have unfortunately experienced with some deranged farang men. Many of these girls have experienced some pretty sick stuff. It would be good to raise our awareness of what can happen to these bar girls because these demented men make it more difficult and costly on us and make all of us guys look bad.
Yes unfortunately a lot of ladies do go through some really bad sht, many years and a lot of bad feedback of what can and no doubt still happens to some ladies. I can give you a few examples, and I don,t want to go to deep into some things because some of the stories are pretty bad. Just the way some men are is way off the mark. I,ve had at least 10 ladies tell me they been punched or slapped around the head or kicked while they are down. To treat a lady like that just shows you're a pretty piss weak man, and it isn't only the foreigners who are bad, many ladies leave their Thai men because of the same reason or worse, I,ve met a who have been glassed across the face. Sad when they could be the most pretty thing walking. Look some Thai ladies no doubt have big mouths, and can get themselves in a situation. Although no one deserves to be treated like a mongrel dog. I just think any bloke that hits a lady is a weak person, just my opinion, I,ve stayed with many ladies over a 30 year period, yes I,ve been pissed off with a few but I,ve never punched or hit them. Cheers.
Those same guys treat women in the west exactly the same. There are women in the west who go through hell with men, but no one cares. You feel bad for bar girls who are essentially prostitutes, they choose that life. They could go to school and get decent jobs like everyone else. But it is easier to exploit eager white men.
Ever been to Nana entertainment plaza or Nana hotel? Well, many year ago, working in the Middle East on mega bucks, my boss used to go out with Miss Nana. This is before the Nana complex was built. Had 4 paid trips a year. Miss Nana would send a limo with dark windows, ask what I liked to drink and how many ladies I wanted. Happy days. Oh, before the toll roads it took 1 to 2 hours to get from the airport.
I agree to large extent with you Dan. Men dating Thai women should simply always keep in mind that Thailand is in many ways still a developing country. This is certainly true for its economy with many low-skilled jobs. Some economists also call this kind of economy a survival economy, which is a very accurate term in my opinion, because the behaviour of almost all local people in Thailand is first and foremost centred around the financial needs (money) needed to survive. As I don't want to experience severe struggles of mere existing myself I have decided that I do not want to live with my Thai girlfriend in Thailand and she is now preparing herself to come over to Europe. Of course this will set other new challenges for us, but I am more than willing to face them together.
I love the stories Dan , makes me feel like less of a mug for getting caught up in the lies , but I coped on and called out the bullshit , took very good care of a girl I was mad about but never let it get out of hand and ended it when I seen the light . To all the men watching this that have never been to Thailand , be very careful lads on your first trip as you are their prey
Thanks for the video Dan. I agree with what you say however one major difference with Thailand is that unlike most western countries there is no Government support for single women or for the elderly. In the West the government has taken on the role that was once provided by men and this has enabled the entire "strong western woman, don't need a man" situation. It's the reason western women have lost their femininity and don't appreciate a good man anymore. If a man wants a good traditional woman he needs to be prepared to play the traditional role of being the provider. I don't think you can have it both ways But yes, of course don't try to have a relationship with a bar girl. I know of lots of successful relationships with honest, good Thai women. But, yes it is their responsibility to support their ageing parents as unlike in the west there's not the pension or government support, it just stands to reason. Good luck everyone.
They prefer it this way..no govt could support them...they are enmeshed and possess narcissistic traits. Are very corrupt..they need consequences..and education..men that make babies and flee need to pay half to support his kids..same for ladies be equally responsible..and teach children its not their job to serve their parents for life or having to support them at 40 to 50. That they arr not responsible for their parents offsprings needs retirement and so on.their needs to be consequences for their scamming also. No good thai man are interested in these women..they are toxic and irresponsible..the reasons low salary so many uneducated desperate for jobs willing to take anything..keeping thr wage low...plus they are not productive..and only take instruction and limited.
Accurate video. Date a bar girl and you can expect problems. However, there are regular Thai women who would make an excellent partner. You just need to be careful, go slow and be on the lookout for the obvious signs of trouble (she gets too intimate too quickly, asks for money, tells you sob stories about how poor she is, etc.). If she has a good job, she has likely been through a pretty extensive background check. Women everywhere are hypergamous and want a man who can provide security and a better life. Thai women are no different. Just don't seriously date the first one you meet.
I have a Thai fiancé now. Yes money is a huge issue. She is a poor Buriram woman that works in Bangkok cleaning condos. She has asked me to finance an online business and I have as well as pay her rent. I do need to see if she comes through on all this before marrying her. We will see. I do have a lot invested in her financially and emotionally. I’m 60 and have been married twice. In my experience money is ALWAYS an issue in relationships with women. Most women in every country want you to be able to support them in all countries.
Jeez how many red flags do you need, poor Buriram, cleans condos, online business, pay her rent. Wake up and smell the coffee, she is dirt poor and expects you to finance her online business, what’s next, buy land, build house, pay sin sot, monthly salary, ffs even blind Freddy can see where this is going.
Your channel, Dan, and your subscribers` comments, really make me want to stay single. I have been single since 2020, after my husband passed away, but reading these comments, and hearing the stories here, I get terrified of dating anyone again. If you guys are coming into a relationship with this mindset, a relationship has no chance. I may be naive, but in my world, there are plenty of good, independant ladies in Thailand, you guys are just looking at all the wrong places. And don`t look for a supermodel, look for that lady with a brain, passion in her eyes and a big heart. Outside beauty is worth nothing, and will mostly get you in trouble, but inside beauty is were you will find happiness. Don`t think with your dick. Personally I don`t care about money, never have. Many of us are independent, have a decent life as it is, but want a life with love, passion and good family values, and that is rare to find in Thailand, with Thai men. That is just the way it is. I am sorry for all you guys who have been hurt by a Thai lady, but please don`t judge us all for your bad experiences. Lots of good, successful stories are out there too, they are just not posted here.
I agree with you. I met quite some (seemingly) decent Thai ladies online that say they are happy with a simple life and who seem to be not very materialistic. Unfortunately many men focus too much on the outside, though in my experience many Thai women are great potential partners because of what they carry inside them. Their lack of English speaking makes it sometimes difficult to connect on a deeper level though.
Great post. I agree 100%. There are great Thai women out there, probably more than in the west. You just need to look in the right places, be patient, and be willing to learn about Thai language and culture. I have a great Thai gf and will never consider dating in the west again.
I agree with you, many old western men come to thailand thinking they are irresistable to young attractive thai women then are angry when they find out the truth and they lash out and say all thai woman are dishonest. This is very a ignorant approach to take, instead learn about the culture and the language to understand the people. Peope are the same all over the world - good/bad, intelligent/ignorant, mature/immature. We should judge the person not the people. I'm happy with my partner so a good relationship is possible with a little understanding and patience on the part of both partners.
This is actually funny and shows how ingrained people can be. I live in Maui and know some house cleaners. Believe about 55. From Thailand. He wants to move back and retire on their savings. She doesn’t want to and wants to work more to have more money. He’s content with the slow simple life. She wants more and more money…. Goes to show by one example that it’s born in them and doesn’t go away and the more they get accustomed to a “better life” the more they can never go back. Such is life
I’m 38 been with my thai wife since we were 18. House, son.. pretty normal life I’ve never had money she’s never had money and we still don’t have much now 🤷♂️
I’ve been married to a Thai lady for 12 years. We live and met in Australia. She comes from a good family and is a workaholic. She pays half of the home loan. But doesn’t want to spend any money after that. She expects me to pay for everything else and she saves her money. I also feel she doesn’t respect me. I know I will get divorced one day. I didn’t think she would turn into the person she has
Here is what I know: - They will call and message you when you’re working and expect to have a long talk. - But when they are at work, they can’t talk because of work. Something doesn’t compute. Lack of empathy or self centeredness perhaps.
Dan, I did damn near the same thing as these Thia women in Guam in the 1980s. I was a Jungle Hiking Tour Guide. Every week, new plane loads of Japanese girls would land and sign up for the tour. I had every girls name, hotel, and room number. I would take them on the tour, repeling into caves with them, gaining trust. Playing beach volleyball, then Duty Free shopping. Later, I would just show up in the hotel clubs and act surprised to see them again after the tour. I would bring a couple of my friends and everyone had a good time. I would host barbecue in my bungalow and cook for them. I would occasionally fly to Japan and act like I was only there overnight. The next day, I would call a different girl. I was a dog !!! Now I'm going to be 60 next month. When I go to Thailand, I feel like I deserve everything that happens as I was once a player. It's funny how things change. Now, I am finally ready for serious relationships this late in life. I used to really think I was something. Now I regret things I told these women and all the lying. Karma Baby Karma !!!
I had a strange experience. I was processing my annual Marriage extension and required the mormal immigration to my home. A senior female officer came to visit - she got into a deep conversation with me saying she was single and lived with her mother, asking me about how long I had been in Thailand and showed great interest in my background and the type of women I liked, she also stated that I was looking good and many ladies would be interested in me. After she departed my wife laughed and said she is after you - she is not interested in the visa extension ONLY you.
I almost prefer the transactional nature of relationships in Southeast Asia. I’m a young man, but developed an app and made a shit ton of money, I still work as a freelance software engineer, so money isn’t an issue. Going into a relationship with rules and expections is nice. This is how much your family gets, this is the life we have. If you cheat, eff around etc then it’s gone. And in all honesty most girls I’ve dated under those pretenses we were both quite happy.
Sorry to add a bit it blows my mind how many older men are so starstruck on the idea of love. Love is a flimsy emotion, that can sway by the day whereas contractual relationships often form large amounts of trust, and you really end up enjoying each others company. Because the shit you fought over stops being an issue. Relationships are always about expectations. Whether you pull her out of a bar or a village set those early, and kick her to the curb if they’re not met. Easy as that.
Hi Dan . I'm an asian guy from Malaysia. I find your viewers/subscribers stories fascinating. I noticed these girls are drawn to westerners or Aussies. Is it because westerners are more sympathetic or gullible ? Or is it because well yeah Thailand is cheap if you convert to USD etc . Well i do frequent the thai bars in my country but i wont be sympathetic to them as it's just a biz exchange. And believe me. All their stories is basically the same. Well These girls fetches more money monthly compared to any normal men in my country 😂 while working at bars in my country. Yes mostly from Isan. Feels like most women in the bar or entertainment industry are from there 😂 Anyways keep up the great stories. 🙏
All women worldwide are forever evolving. We know that too. We are continuously changing, due to experiences. Its normal to want to better yourself. So guys, give the money and accept the reality that goes with it. The more you give, the more is going to change. Money changes people. Money and success changes a man too. It makes them feel there is more they might be missing out on. So they might cheat, because money isnt everything. Money cannot buy you love, never ever.
Dan, I would like to know why you chose Thailand and not the Philippines to settle down and find the love of your life? I want to get a perspective from a western guy like you as I fail to understand the buzz around Thailand. Philippines also offers the same depending on where you decide to settle down. Appreciate if you can make a video on this.
OK, here goes. I will soon be retiring and will probably move to Asia. Thailand is top of my list (having lived there a couple of times) but Phils is also in the frame. I prefer the relationships Filipinas tend to have, however, I see the Phils as a very poor, dirty, undeveloped country. I've read accounts of poor internet connectivity (which I use to make my living) and transport and infrastructure. There is also travel; Thailand had land connections to Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, China, all very near. If you want to experience something different from the Phils you always have an international flight as your starting point. These things considered together make me prefer Thailand for living, but maybe if I could find a good Filipina to join me in Thailand that might be the ideal!
Hi Dan I feel John has a very mature grasp of this situation from his letter, also some great comments from you and your viewers. I Feel a lot of men see it as black and white which doesnt do it justice and this video shows there are many layers to the issue. Try to put yourself in their shoes. Cheers.
What Thai women are like: $$$$$$. What Thai women think about foreign men: $$$$$$$$$. What Thai women want: $$$$$$$$. Relationships with Thai women: $$$$$$$$. Brilliant choice, guys. 😊
I've got a happy story to share but it would be way too sappy for this audience! I think most of the people here want their low opinions of Thai women confirmed.
@@WilsonWilson33bad news sells I come to hear about the crazy on both sides of this fence sure blame the woman 🤦🏾♀️ seriously these guys need to look in a mirror and know when to stop say no blah blah I also have a story that won’t sell 🤣🤣
In 2024, We're ALL equal except women have the legal system in their back pocket to weaponize against men. In 2024, men MUST make untraditional adjustment for self preservation. In 2024, ALL women including Filipinas MUST provide their own financial security. In 2024, if she and her family can't financially sustain themselves on their own, she can be somebody else's woman = problem. In 2024, PREACH THAT!!! ✌️
A nice, normal, good looking, subservient girlfriend who has a job and love's you for who you are and doesn't expect to have their quality of life exponentially elevated. Right? 🤪 Forgive my cynicism. ... Now for a reality check. Your analysis is about as accurate as it gets. It doesn't matter how good and generous of a man you consider yourself to be you have a set of challenges facing you that few overcome. Expat Veteran of 15 years in Isan. You will think you've got the psychology, the culture and the personal experience to have it all figured out. It's a different set of challenges in Isan, but it's only a different spin on the global issues of economics (Currency Exchange) and what you are potentially willing to deal with in a relationship where the advantage of power is to those who have the resources to walk away from their investment. "Don't be naive!" 🙏
When you say the best place to go in Thailand , outside the Tourist locations'. Any Suggestions ? I agree . Thailand is an amazing place to visit ! I went 7 times many years ago - Married ,at the time and Pure Tourist I am thinking to go again soon, But don't want the Pattaya scene tbh . Any suggestions appreciated ! Always wanted to go to Chiang Mai . Is it the same ?
Most cities in Thailand have a small bar scene that can be easily avoided. The exception being Pattaya, there is no escape from it in that city so don’t go if that’s not what you require.
@@thaitalkwithdan Thank you and thanks for your Channel Dan 😀, I feel well informed, but looking for an Adventure & see what happens 🤪 i remember the Thais I met in the 90s . Beautiful people , so a bit of an eye opener watching your vids . Carry on helping people understand
Booze, jet lag, loneliness it's a lethal mixture. Especially the beer goggles. Look at the many videos walking through party areas. Honestly, taking a cold sober look without the beer etc, is there even one really attractive Thai girl working in the bar/massage scene? Well, maybe there's one or two. But you're from entirely different planets; she's working in a grim, low wage low skill job and you're on holiday looking for fun with thousands in your pocket and a Beemer parked at the airport back home.
I've seen quit a few. But most are just average looking at every Soi 6 video I can find. Most girls are what I would consider cute. Every once in a while I see a real stunner, but thats away from Soi 6 and there is a good bet said Stunner has multiple sponsors and would not be worth the time to talk to.
Understanding Thai women? An impossible task, As 97% of Thais are in some sort of debt, you will encounter some pretty desperate 'money hunters'. Just pay for play and get away! There are some really good ones out there for sure --but finding one? Like looking for a diamond on a beach covered in broken glass! Good luck!
No i don't agree with this. Still in 2024, throughout the world, a woman never marries a man who is considered to be inferior to her. Even a single mom with 3 kids doesn't do that. Furthermore, wherever you are, you should have a lot of money to date a much younger woman. Nobody can honestly deny this. The problem here is some people expect Thai women to be different. Why should they?
Clearly, you have never been to America. I have known many women to marry men that were very beneath them from an educational and financial perspective. It usually ends badly as a result. But the marriages do happen. But definitely not going to happen in any part of Asia. Love does not pay the bills and put food on the table.
its far more lucractive to work as a freelance or bar girl, compared to other legitimate occupations, but this card is overplayed big time, i have had long discussions with middle aged thai sex workers, one in particular has over 25 years in the sex industry in thailand and in europe,she has put her children through university,bought and paid for two houses, for her its been a very positive experience , and the argument that she only did it for the money is not completely true, its always great making big money, she freely admits that she loves the excitment of the sex , she says if you love sex like she does , why not make a career out of it,she accepts that no man will ever take her seriously in terms of a long term relationship, everything comes at a price, everyone has to chose what they are prepared to pay, her clients are mostly older men, she doesnt need a man to support her, she provides a service that she is well paid for
It can be very hard to find out if she tell the thruth...I know one for 8 years .allways take her out from the bar...we have a good time together..she look good. And I had many stunners in Thailand...it seems like she is a bit more hooked up on me now...this is in a small town in Essan..and I guess the number of men who take her out its very limited...older men..after a long time I have feelings for her...I should not but..its not easy...when you like a person...
got to admit all this relationship stuff can be entertaining almost to the point of serving as a hobby, hmmm, for some of us it is the sole hobby and can be destructive and or dysfunctional many are escaping relationships in their home countries so why so eager to find new ones here?.
Considering how hard it can be for rural Thai women to earn a decent living, they certainly waste a lot of money on gambling, supporting deadbeat relatives or boyfriend, and sometimes drugs
Relationships between men and women are transactional regardless of nationality, especially nowadays. You said it yourself Dan, women in the West that are financially independent don’t look for or really want men the same as other countries. I agree with everything you say about Thai women, but let’s not kid ourselves and think Western women are any different. Why are farangs bewildered when Thai women ask for money or to pay? lol 😅
This is funny..im on one of my apps this morning and guess what....it was a Thai woman! I mentioned i watch 'Thai talk with Dan' how bad thailand is...she didnt like that! Hah! Im acting dumb saying ..i know Thailand very well because of Dan. She got offended cause i was asking are u Lady Boy? Bar girl? Pattaya girl? They leave men poor! Im just having fun with pissing off this girl. She claims shes a doctor and comes from a high class background. My response was...well if your rich why are u online looking for men? I said...Im rich because i Stay Away from bar girls! Lol
You’re about money…hence your channel same as the other 300+ Thai bloggers that sadly need to share their sad stories as ‘advice’ for sad fallangs. Remember you left your wife, sacked your UK staff because you needed to find yourself in Thailand and you are now the expert….wtf?
That's a bit harsh Kevin, sounds horrific when you state it like that 😅😅 there is a lot more to my story than just that but I understand that you need to vent right now so I'll leave you to do your worst 👍👌
No in the West women want more money now than ever, women are hypergamous and want resources pretty much everywhere. Men are leaving the West to find women in other areas due to the value they get in a relationship for the money. Now that said when a guy comes to a new country he has no idea how the women operate and can get into trouble. So just be okay with spending some money as no relationship a Western can have today will not involve money at home or abroad. Just be smart about it always keep most of your money separate and protected, only spend what you want to have the life you can afford and desire.
Traditional Western Family = male is the provider and female looks after the house and family.........therefore he is financially supporting the family...does that make him a simp? Therefore, please explain the difference between a traditional Western relationship and the relationship where a Western male financially supports his Asian partner? And don't tell me that the difference is that the Asian female will leave the Western male if he no longer has access to financial support for his family........as my bet is that most Western women will leave their partner as well if he will not or cannot financially support his family. PS - Filipina and their habits are very similar to Thais......if you go looking for a partner in a Red-Light district in any country....what do you expect the end result may be?
@@thaitalkwithdan Hi Dan, I am an Australian, I have spent a lot of time in the Philippines. I am a FIFO worker (Fly In Fly Out), so I do 2 weeks work and then 2 weeks holidays in Phils - 13 cycles per year.......I have been doing this for 15 years, except for the two Covid years.
I’m from Ireland but I am Australian citizen living here 13 years , I’ve had Thai girlfriend in the past , looking back now I paid for everything and when I brought her shopping wouldn’t get a thanks , I’m no with a philipina I met in Melbourne just back from a holiday she treated me for my birthday , cooks , cleans and when I’m ill stays up all night and nurtures me . Your chances of getting that in Thailand is 0.01 % . I’m not telling you to go Philippines to find a decent woman , maybe I got lucky . But that’s my experience best of luck mate
Every Thai Bar girl you meet as a Thai boyfriend and is married to her mum. If there English is not perfect then there not educated so why bother. Up your game guys and get educated girl from good family.
Tell you what they really think and feel? What they really think and feel today may be very different compared to what they really think and feel tomorrow. 😆
were innocent victims. Be aware There waiting to pounce ,, keep sharp And its such fun here and well chilled if you have a few shillings ,,be in control of yourself and don’t act like a fool ,,,and know/learn the societal truth re Thai culture ,,after all its an amazing ancient civilisation,,,Pay the fee ,take the service Learn the language ,, There yours when there with you ,,fair enough Make friends ,,Happy happy in Thailand na ja had 46 years of it ,,,sabai a jai all best wishes
Hey Dan I'm curious how do regular thai folks really feel when they see foreigners with young and beautiful thia women and can foreign men be In danger simply because if it?
A lot of these bar girls have naively and foolishly got pregnant at a young age to irresponsible young men back home. This isn’t a Thai phenomenon just young people perhaps without good role models making bad life choices. My Thai wife’s brother is father to a child that he openly admits is not his. The mother is barely able to support her other 3 kids, so he took on the responsibility of taking 100 % care of “his” daughter out of the goodness of his big heart. We cannot therefore generalize that all Thai men are irresponsible when it comes to being a father, though I sometimes question whether there is something in the family dynamic that could lend itself to forming the character of a Thai man. Im referring to my own observations of Thai women parenting their little princes….
Usually it’s the grandparents raising them, the Thai expression you are looking for is luk tewada, for these entitled brats, in other parts of Asia they call them Little Emperors
Before you go into that "what thai women are like" topic, try to specify "how farang are". Is it even possible? Hope it helps... Plus i only know farang who go to work for money. That thai women go to bar where hey work (for money), how's it even weird or unusual? Go figure... cheers
If you compare with western women, you may spend same amount of money (or get same damage to your finances), but get far better experience while it last.
I think it is a little unfair to constantly attack the working thai girl in bars. A lot of men come to Thailand to look for a traditional woman and that means supporting her like you would 50 years ago as woman did not have working opportunities like they do today. If men choose to date girls in bars and you expect them to see you exclusively you are then taking away her only source of income. So you put her in a difficult position as yes she is probably supporting a child and parents back in Isan. So if you want her to stop that lifestyle its only reasonable to compensate her the loss of earnings to be with you. Would you give up your job and income for a western girl because she wants you to move to her city with no prospects of earning money there I think not. So why do we put that expectation on a girl in a bar? I do generally agree that money is a massive influence here and affects many decisions by girls. But you have to navigate that part if you want to date in Thailand. I also think the mentality of many girls is like that of a teenager in terms of intellect the education and logical reasoning just doesnt seem to exist with many girls. Be safe out there, the words of love is war definitely applies in Thailand. Yes I live in Bangkok and have been coming here for over 20 years and have dated many types of girls here.
@gum6y1 you’re being humane in your writing here, & I -for one-appreciate that. Men & women of all professions are human beings. We all have feelings, we all were babies at one time, and we all have an ending wether we choose to think about it or not. I recently watched a video about a drug-addicted man in NYC. A commentor had actually done a lot to help that addict out. He publicly told anyone watching via the comments section: “he hasn’t actually quit drugs, he lied to me, he manipulated, he stole., etc.” He tattle-taled. He told the donating public uncomfortable truths. He exposed that guy, but everything he typed was true. Was that unfair ? I don’t think so. All of that caused me to think seriously & ponder for quite a while. Most of us have the capacity to feel empathy for an addict: it’s the lying, stealing, & screwing people over that we seriously dislike. There is a parallel with Dan’s videos about people who seek payment for their physicality. It’s a tough choice to enter into sex work because it has SERIOUS downsides. & in some places the girls don’t get a choice. If a bar-girl receives clients, most of us humans are alright with that [ presupposing she has agency, and can choose ]. When a person in that line of work lies and manipulates, THAT’S the part we don’t like. That’s where Dan comes in with his cautionary tales.
I think that’s impossible really! If your a man in your 40s plus your more than likely to get a woman 25 plus whose had plenty of time for bar work or a “love life” of sorts the same as in the west and the way that foreigners can’t own land in Thailand leaves you highly likely to lose it! The best is if you just have money sent into the country from a pension or property rented out not in Thailand. That way you have value to the woman if you’re still alive and stops her working in cahoots with Thai police boyfriends in order for you to join a “flying club” and them benefit from your death from land payouts.!
I’ve been living in Thailand 2 years and ALL relationships with Thai women will ALWAYS be about BAHT ! It’s the culture! Whoever says differently I don’t know what Thailand they talking about but can’t be this Thailand I live in ? ALSO I’ve dated the “ educated “ types as well and they mostly ALL have school debt and work ALOT of hours that wouldn’t be worth the money to a person from the USA or if they own a business they owe the bank some crazy amount so you end up having to financially help them as well ! Long story short if you don’t mind paying you will be fine here but don’t think you will find the girl who’s “ special “ or “ different “ ! NOTHING you can say or do for her will have more influence then providing for her family
they are programmed by their parents to be automatons
🤖 👾 robots, row baht 😮
Thirty five years ago met a Thai woman when on holiday - she was ex military and owned a restaurant and lived in Germany. Bought her own house in Thailand and was on holiday. Father was a full colonel in the Thai army and she did 5 years in military school and 5 year as a combat soldier. Not the usual Thai. She knew lots of high up police - having trained many of them when they were in the Army. Well, we kept meeting up for 5 years and got married. Dad was so pleased he gave us the heavy gold wedding ring and no Sin Sod. Wife said if you want to live in Thailand no need a job as I'll run a business.
But decided to go the the UK and we have been together ever since.
@@steve1711 that was way way back in the good old days, sad to say days like that are gone 😞
@@Rodderz1 Well seven years ago I met my wife, not from a rich family but they're doing ok. She's a university graduate and now a teacher. No sin sot and never been asked for anything by the family. My wife is good with money and a monthly budget well do ok on a budget of about 15,000 baht. Anything over that we save.
Plenty of us have found a girl that is "special," and "different. Maybe it is about who the man is. Sure if he's 55, fat. bald, has done the bar girl scene and has some level of drinking problem I can believe he'll only move in the circles of troublesome women. For the rest of us, the nice traditional girls without baggage aren't that difficult to find. You just have to look somewhere other than bars and dating websites.
Did you guys know who the superhero of Thailand is? It’s BAHTman
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OMG! I still love the Batman song music! I find the Thai Asian ladies so pretty - however, once they talk!!! So annoying! La la la la la la la Batman! 😮😊😮😮😂🎉🎉🎉
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Number One!!!!
And Robbing 😅
I never cease to be shocked by people who are somehow surprised that prostitutes are a bit dishonest and are only in it for the money. Are they under the impression that Thai women look for love by becoming a prostitute?
lol like it’s a choice when it’s family persuasion surrounded by terrible salaries. It’s not as clear cut as you think really. I don’t mean to offend you but it’s reality.
@@mrfunnynames1742 You obviously believe their sob stories. Unemployment and cost of living a both ridiculously low in Thailand. There is plenty of money around for those willing to work for it.
@@WilsonWilson33 riiiiggt if there was then it wouldn’t be the sexual tourist central bank n the world then. They are not son stories they ar life stories whether you like them or not. I’m sure we all made bad choices in our lives.
It will be like the west eventually don’t worry old boy
@@mrfunnynames1742 No, they are sob stories. Or do you think it is just a coincidence they all have a similar tale to tell? They see working in a bar as a fast track to wealth, that's all. Much like western girls with only fans accounts, selling sex is seen as a quick way to make money.
Only thing Thai women is after is your money and if and when you run out of money or stop supplying money , they are onto the next victim
That would be the prostitutes. Normal Thai women aren't that like that at all.
only bar girls bro...don't know why foreigner want bar girls
@user-vj6pw9my8xyeah don't matter where you are from, it's all about what you as a man can provide. They wait at the finish line, and pick the winners..or losers for that matter.
Nah I'm married to one. She has made more money than I make throughout our marriage and it all goes into the same account. Are they wired to hoard money and watch every penny? Sure. But they all don't use foreigners for cash. Guys that say this are usually trying to turn a bar girl into their little gizmo.
@@howtomoderate Yeah my wife for 20 years is Filipina. Good Family cousin of Ayala which is one of the leading families in Here in Manila.
I have a thai wife and just got married in 2023. I have known her for 8 years and do speak a good amount of Thai. Even now I am still learning things about Thai women and the culture. The biggest thing foreigners need to understand is that when a thai woman says "Take care of me" it means financially and not emotionally. Money is king in thailand and honestly after the Corona Virus pandemic Thai's are squirrling away as much money as possible and are making it by doing whatever and however they can (escorting). Lastly I would add to what Dan is saying for advice. Find some good friends that are Thai. Thai have circles of friends and if you can get included in that group you are in and they will protect you from a lot of the bullshit normal farangs have to deal with.
Getting Thai friends, and in normal Thai circles, is great advice and can be applied anywhere
Gratulation that u find a good thai wife 🎉❤🎉😊
One of your best videos yet, Dan. John definitely has his stuff together here.
I agree.
I talked online with this lady, speaks perfect english, works from her phone and she said she been 18 years with her ex THAI and no kids. Never been with farang. Bullshit ahahah
It's possible. I know a music teacher who speaks perfect English who has been married to a Thai man since her teens and is now a thirty something.
lies@@WilsonWilson33
The very best video you have done to date, Dan. Very informative and to the point. Thanks
I am in the exception boat .... so far😮
Paying attention to your warnings.
The few I have chosen to connect with pay their way however very clear you have to pay for your way which is certainly fair.
I did run away from the obvious gold diggers looking to be saved as you would never know if they loved you or your money.
Having fun 😊
It's the same deal with most western women. It's too risky financially for marriage.
At 18 years old with 80% of your brain below your waist marriage has appeal. Now older marriage seems like paper work and liability.
Dan, I’ve asked before if you would do a video on what some of these bar girls have unfortunately experienced with some deranged farang men. Many of these girls have experienced some pretty sick stuff. It would be good to raise our awareness of what can happen to these bar girls because these demented men make it more difficult and costly on us and make all of us guys look bad.
Yes unfortunately a lot of ladies do go through some really bad sht, many years and a lot of bad feedback of what can and no doubt still happens to some ladies. I can give you a few examples, and I don,t want to go to deep into some things because some of the stories are pretty bad.
Just the way some men are is way off the mark.
I,ve had at least 10 ladies tell me they been punched or slapped around the head or kicked while they are down.
To treat a lady like that just shows you're a pretty piss weak man, and it isn't only the foreigners who are bad, many ladies leave their Thai men because of the same reason or worse, I,ve met a who have been glassed across the face. Sad when they could be the most pretty thing walking.
Look some Thai ladies no doubt have big mouths, and can get themselves in a situation.
Although no one deserves to be treated like a mongrel dog.
I just think any bloke that hits a lady is a weak person, just my opinion, I,ve stayed with many ladies over a 30 year period, yes I,ve been pissed off with a few but I,ve never punched or hit them. Cheers.
Those same guys treat women in the west exactly the same. There are women in the west who go through hell with men, but no one cares. You feel bad for bar girls who are essentially prostitutes, they choose that life. They could go to school and get decent jobs like everyone else. But it is easier to exploit eager white men.
Just like any prostitute anywhere in the world, negative experiences with men are the norm.
Ever been to Nana entertainment plaza or Nana hotel? Well, many year ago, working in the Middle East on mega bucks, my boss used to go out with Miss Nana. This is before the Nana complex was built. Had 4 paid trips a year. Miss Nana would send a limo with dark windows, ask what I liked to drink and how many ladies I wanted. Happy days. Oh, before the toll roads it took 1 to 2 hours to get from the airport.
I agree to large extent with you Dan. Men dating Thai women should simply always keep in mind that Thailand is in many ways still a developing country. This is certainly true for its economy with many low-skilled jobs. Some economists also call this kind of economy a survival economy, which is a very accurate term in my opinion, because the behaviour of almost all local people in Thailand is first and foremost centred around the financial needs (money) needed to survive. As I don't want to experience severe struggles of mere existing myself I have decided that I do not want to live with my Thai girlfriend in Thailand and she is now preparing herself to come over to Europe. Of course this will set other new challenges for us, but I am more than willing to face them together.
All the best in the future.
Spot on Dan 👍
Sounds like John has got his head screwed on, nice to hear for a change.
Good show Dan. Stay cool 😎 kind and generous.
All the best for 2024 👌
I love the stories Dan , makes me feel like less of a mug for getting caught up in the lies , but I coped on and called out the bullshit , took very good care of a girl I was mad about but never let it get out of hand and ended it when I seen the light . To all the men watching this that have never been to Thailand , be very careful lads on your first trip as you are their prey
Great attitude to leading a happy life.
Thanks for the video Dan. I agree with what you say however one major difference with Thailand is that unlike most western countries there is no Government support for single women or for the elderly.
In the West the government has taken on the role that was once provided by men and this has enabled the entire "strong western woman, don't need a man" situation. It's the reason western women have lost their femininity and don't appreciate a good man anymore.
If a man wants a good traditional woman he needs to be prepared to play the traditional role of being the provider. I don't think you can have it both ways
But yes, of course don't try to have a relationship with a bar girl. I know of lots of successful relationships with honest, good Thai women. But, yes it is their responsibility to support their ageing parents as unlike in the west there's not the pension or government support, it just stands to reason.
Good luck everyone.
They prefer it this way..no govt could support them...they are enmeshed and possess narcissistic traits. Are very corrupt..they need consequences..and education..men that make babies and flee need to pay half to support his kids..same for ladies be equally responsible..and teach children its not their job to serve their parents for life or having to support them at 40 to 50. That they arr not responsible for their parents offsprings needs retirement and so on.their needs to be consequences for their scamming also. No good thai man are interested in these women..they are toxic and irresponsible..the reasons low salary so many uneducated desperate for jobs willing to take anything..keeping thr wage low...plus they are not productive..and only take instruction and limited.
Accurate video. Date a bar girl and you can expect problems. However, there are regular Thai women who would make an excellent partner. You just need to be careful, go slow and be on the lookout for the obvious signs of trouble (she gets too intimate too quickly, asks for money, tells you sob stories about how poor she is, etc.). If she has a good job, she has likely been through a pretty extensive background check. Women everywhere are hypergamous and want a man who can provide security and a better life. Thai women are no different. Just don't seriously date the first one you meet.
Very nice comment ALL women definitely are the same in some way or another
In the end, these guys are only customers, not boyfriends.
I have a Thai fiancé now. Yes money is a huge issue. She is a poor Buriram woman that works in Bangkok cleaning condos. She has asked me to finance an online business and I have as well as pay her rent. I do need to see if she comes through on all this before marrying her. We will see. I do have a lot invested in her financially and emotionally.
I’m 60 and have been married twice. In my experience money is ALWAYS an issue in relationships with women. Most women in every country want you to be able to support them in all countries.
Jeez how many red flags do you need, poor Buriram, cleans condos, online business, pay her rent. Wake up and smell the coffee, she is dirt poor and expects you to finance her online business, what’s next, buy land, build house, pay sin sot, monthly salary, ffs even blind Freddy can see where this is going.
it is 100% about money i'm dating a thai girl now of almost 7 month.. and it is always about money money. i have problem .. another problem..
Your channel, Dan, and your subscribers` comments, really make me want to stay single. I have been single since 2020, after my husband passed away, but reading these comments, and hearing the stories here, I get terrified of dating anyone again. If you guys are coming into a relationship with this mindset, a relationship has no chance. I may be naive, but in my world, there are plenty of good, independant ladies in Thailand, you guys are just looking at all the wrong places. And don`t look for a supermodel, look for that lady with a brain, passion in her eyes and a big heart. Outside beauty is worth nothing, and will mostly get you in trouble, but inside beauty is were you will find happiness. Don`t think with your dick.
Personally I don`t care about money, never have. Many of us are independent, have a decent life as it is, but want a life with love, passion and good family values, and that is rare to find in Thailand, with Thai men. That is just the way it is.
I am sorry for all you guys who have been hurt by a Thai lady, but please don`t judge us all for your bad experiences. Lots of good, successful stories are out there too, they are just not posted here.
even the average girl working at 7-11 looks like a supermodel to me so I'm gucci
@@schrodingerscat3912 😂😂
I agree with you. I met quite some (seemingly) decent Thai ladies online that say they are happy with a simple life and who seem to be not very materialistic. Unfortunately many men focus too much on the outside, though in my experience many Thai women are great potential partners because of what they carry inside them. Their lack of English speaking makes it sometimes difficult to connect on a deeper level though.
Great post. I agree 100%. There are great Thai women out there, probably more than in the west. You just need to look in the right places, be patient, and be willing to learn about Thai language and culture. I have a great Thai gf and will never consider dating in the west again.
I agree with you, many old western men come to thailand thinking they are irresistable to young attractive thai women then are angry when they find out the truth and they lash out and say all thai woman are dishonest. This is very a ignorant approach to take, instead learn about the culture and the language to understand the people. Peope are the same all over the world - good/bad, intelligent/ignorant, mature/immature. We should judge the person not the people. I'm happy with my partner so a good relationship is possible with a little understanding and patience on the part of both partners.
This is actually funny and shows how ingrained people can be. I live in Maui and know some house cleaners. Believe about 55. From Thailand. He wants to move back and retire on their savings. She doesn’t want to and wants to work more to have more money. He’s content with the slow simple life. She wants more and more money….
Goes to show by one example that it’s born in them and doesn’t go away and the more they get accustomed to a “better life” the more they can never go back.
Such is life
I’m 38 been with my thai wife since we were 18. House, son.. pretty normal life I’ve never had money she’s never had money and we still don’t have much now 🤷♂️
Agree…it’s just about the money and what you can do for them.
It's always about money. The only difference is how much.
Family comes first as well and tragedy is endless.
Despite that, there are good Thai women.
True words... Happy new year Dan
it isnt about thai women its about women in general they all have the same program
same program different country- 😂
Agenda........................thats what you meant to say.
I'd never expect a crypto reference on your channel but here we are. Bank man fryed😂
I’ve been married to a Thai lady for 12 years. We live and met in Australia. She comes from a good family and is a workaholic. She pays half of the home loan. But doesn’t want to spend any money after that. She expects me to pay for everything else and she saves her money. I also feel she doesn’t respect me. I know I will get divorced one day. I didn’t think she would turn into the person she has
Here is what I know:
- They will call and message you when you’re working and expect to have a long talk.
- But when they are at work, they can’t talk because of work.
Something doesn’t compute. Lack of empathy or self centeredness perhaps.
- But when they are at work, they can’t talk because of work.
That's when they're with their "Brother"
Dan, I did damn near the same thing as these Thia women in Guam in the 1980s. I was a Jungle Hiking Tour Guide. Every week, new plane loads of Japanese girls would land and sign up for the tour. I had every girls name, hotel, and room number. I would take them on the tour, repeling into caves with them, gaining trust. Playing beach volleyball, then Duty Free shopping. Later, I would just show up in the hotel clubs and act surprised to see them again after the tour. I would bring a couple of my friends and everyone had a good time. I would host barbecue in my bungalow and cook for them. I would occasionally fly to Japan and act like I was only there overnight. The next day, I would call a different girl. I was a dog !!! Now I'm going to be 60 next month. When I go to Thailand, I feel like I deserve everything that happens as I was once a player. It's funny how things change. Now, I am finally ready for serious relationships this late in life. I used to really think I was something. Now I regret things I told these women and all the lying. Karma Baby Karma !!!
Great Video Dan 😊.
Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Thanks Dan. Your vlogs are awesome tools for visiting folks.
HNY!
I reckon you do a great job Darny boy, theres no flies on you Darny, keep up the great clips matey!
It’s like understanding Filipinas 🤣
Filipinas are after the money and greencard. I am a filipino. They have no shame of saying those stuff.
As always spot on Dan
I had a strange experience. I was processing my annual Marriage extension and required the mormal immigration to my home. A senior female officer came to visit - she got into a deep conversation with me saying she was single and lived with her mother, asking me about how long I had been in Thailand and showed great interest in my background and the type of women I liked, she also stated that I was looking good and many ladies would be interested in me. After she departed my wife laughed and said she is after you - she is not interested in the visa extension ONLY you.
I almost prefer the transactional nature of relationships in Southeast Asia. I’m a young man, but developed an app and made a shit ton of money, I still work as a freelance software engineer, so money isn’t an issue. Going into a relationship with rules and expections is nice. This is how much your family gets, this is the life we have. If you cheat, eff around etc then it’s gone. And in all honesty most girls I’ve dated under those pretenses we were both quite happy.
Sorry to add a bit it blows my mind how many older men are so starstruck on the idea of love. Love is a flimsy emotion, that can sway by the day whereas contractual relationships often form large amounts of trust, and you really end up enjoying each others company. Because the shit you fought over stops being an issue. Relationships are always about expectations. Whether you pull her out of a bar or a village set those early, and kick her to the curb if they’re not met. Easy as that.
Dan, do not tell me you like the English women now 😅😅😂😂 don't tell me that, don't.
Good work Dan ! Keep it up … stories make me feel like a lucky man 😂
Understanding women, thai or otherwise, is a complete waste of time. 55555
Ha ha , yes, you said it man.....plain and simple, dont even try !!
Hi Dan . I'm an asian guy from Malaysia. I find your viewers/subscribers stories fascinating. I noticed these girls are drawn to westerners or Aussies. Is it because westerners are more sympathetic or gullible ? Or is it because well yeah Thailand is cheap if you convert to USD etc .
Well i do frequent the thai bars in my country but i wont be sympathetic to them as it's just a biz exchange. And believe me. All their stories is basically the same. Well These girls fetches more money monthly compared to any normal men in my country 😂 while working at bars in my country. Yes mostly from Isan. Feels like most women in the bar or entertainment industry are from there 😂
Anyways keep up the great stories. 🙏
All women worldwide are forever evolving. We know that too. We are continuously changing, due to experiences. Its normal to want to better yourself. So guys, give the money and accept the reality that goes with it. The more you give, the more is going to change. Money changes people. Money and success changes a man too. It makes them feel there is more they might be missing out on. So they might cheat, because money isnt everything. Money cannot buy you love, never ever.
Understanding Thai women 🤣
Good luck with that one
Here is the major ingredient
CASH 💰
Dan, I would like to know why you chose Thailand and not the Philippines to settle down and find the love of your life? I want to get a perspective from a western guy like you as I fail to understand the buzz around Thailand. Philippines also offers the same depending on where you decide to settle down. Appreciate if you can make a video on this.
Is it better in your experience? If so how? :)
OK, here goes. I will soon be retiring and will probably move to Asia. Thailand is top of my list (having lived there a couple of times) but Phils is also in the frame. I prefer the relationships Filipinas tend to have, however, I see the Phils as a very poor, dirty, undeveloped country. I've read accounts of poor internet connectivity (which I use to make my living) and transport and infrastructure. There is also travel; Thailand had land connections to Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, China, all very near. If you want to experience something different from the Phils you always have an international flight as your starting point. These things considered together make me prefer Thailand for living, but maybe if I could find a good Filipina to join me in Thailand that might be the ideal!
@@dextercool Yes, having a Filipina gf or wife is better, for me at least, because English is their 2nd language so communication is easier.
@@aussiesam01 good idea 👍
@@sathisk makes sense!
Happy new year Dan 🎉🎉
Every newbie needs to listen to this vid to save themself ❤ ache. Keep them coming Dan
You have so much talent! I think you should talk to Chris Williamson! You guys do a podcast together!
Hi Dan
I feel John has a very mature grasp of this situation from his letter, also some great comments from you and your viewers. I Feel a lot of men see it as black and white which doesnt do it justice and this video shows there are many layers to the issue. Try to put yourself in their shoes. Cheers.
Spot on !
I love gold but never in my life have I ever brought a girl gold anything. Gold is an asset and I only buy to as a hedge in certain market conditions.
What Thai women are like: $$$$$$. What Thai women think about foreign men: $$$$$$$$$. What Thai women want: $$$$$$$$. Relationships with Thai women: $$$$$$$$. Brilliant choice, guys. 😊
Best wishes Dan for 2024.. all still going well for me here in bkk 😊. Update you with story soon ok since I been here since early March 23..😅
Time to take the tree down Dan.
😂 it's going this evening 😁👌
I bet if you asked viewers to bring in their good stories of thai women relationships and marriages you will find alot of good
I've got a happy story to share but it would be way too sappy for this audience! I think most of the people here want their low opinions of Thai women confirmed.
@@WilsonWilson33bad news sells
I come to hear about the crazy on both sides of this fence sure blame the woman 🤦🏾♀️ seriously these guys need to look in a mirror and know when to stop say no blah blah
I also have a story that won’t sell 🤣🤣
In 2024,
We're ALL equal
except women have
the legal system
in their back pocket
to weaponize against men.
In 2024,
men MUST make
untraditional adjustment
for self preservation.
In 2024,
ALL women
including Filipinas
MUST provide their own
financial security.
In 2024,
if she and her family
can't financially sustain
themselves on their own,
she can be somebody else's woman = problem.
In 2024,
PREACH THAT!!!
✌️
@@WallyDawg
F*CK history.
There's always some dumb idea about reading history.
It's 2024!
F*CK them!!!
Men are the victims if anybody is!!!
@@WallyDawg
Wow...
F**K history.
There's always some d_u_m_b idea about reading history.
It's 2024!
F**K them!!!
Men are the victims if anybody is!!!
A nice, normal, good looking, subservient girlfriend who has a job and love's you for who you are and doesn't expect to have their quality of life exponentially elevated. Right? 🤪 Forgive my cynicism. ... Now for a reality check. Your analysis is about as accurate as it gets. It doesn't matter how good and generous of a man you consider yourself to be you have a set of challenges facing you that few overcome. Expat Veteran of 15 years in Isan. You will think you've got the psychology, the culture and the personal experience to have it all figured out. It's a different set of challenges in Isan, but it's only a different spin on the global issues of economics (Currency Exchange) and what you are potentially willing to deal with in a relationship where the advantage of power is to those who have the resources to walk away from their investment. "Don't be naive!" 🙏
When you say the best place to go in Thailand , outside the Tourist locations'. Any Suggestions ? I agree . Thailand is an amazing place to visit ! I went 7 times many years ago - Married ,at the time and Pure Tourist I am thinking to go again soon, But don't want the Pattaya scene tbh . Any suggestions appreciated ! Always wanted to go to Chiang Mai . Is it the same ?
I personally love Mae Hong Son, Chiang Rai & Khao Yai but I like peace and quiet 😁
If you like biking or driving, the costal road down to Songkla is nice.
Most cities in Thailand have a small bar scene that can be easily avoided.
The exception being Pattaya, there is no escape from it in that city so don’t go if that’s not what you require.
@@thaitalkwithdan 👍
@@thaitalkwithdan Thank you and thanks for your Channel Dan 😀, I feel well informed, but looking for an Adventure & see what happens 🤪 i remember the Thais I met in the 90s . Beautiful people , so a bit of an eye opener watching your vids . Carry on helping people understand
Great ❤
Booze, jet lag, loneliness it's a lethal mixture. Especially the beer goggles. Look at the many videos walking through party areas. Honestly, taking a cold sober look without the beer etc, is there even one really attractive Thai girl working in the bar/massage scene? Well, maybe there's one or two. But you're from entirely different planets; she's working in a grim, low wage low skill job and you're on holiday looking for fun with thousands in your pocket and a Beemer parked at the airport back home.
I've seen quit a few. But most are just average looking at every Soi 6 video I can find. Most girls are what I would consider cute. Every once in a while I see a real stunner, but thats away from Soi 6 and there is a good bet said Stunner has multiple sponsors and would not be worth the time to talk to.
LUV my beemer bro !
@@spartanx169x....or something else between her legs...lol...cheers🍷🇨🇦
Understanding Thai women? An impossible task, As 97% of Thais are in some sort of debt, you will encounter some pretty desperate 'money hunters'. Just pay for play and get away! There are some really good ones out there for sure --but finding one? Like looking for a diamond on a beach covered in broken glass! Good luck!
No i don't agree with this. Still in 2024, throughout the world, a woman never marries a man who is considered to be inferior to her. Even a single mom with 3 kids doesn't do that. Furthermore, wherever you are, you should have a lot of money to date a much younger woman. Nobody can honestly deny this. The problem here is some people expect Thai women to be different. Why should they?
Clearly, you have never been to America. I have known many women to marry men that were very beneath them from an educational and financial perspective. It usually ends badly as a result. But the marriages do happen. But definitely not going to happen in any part of Asia. Love does not pay the bills and put food on the table.
its far more lucractive to work as a freelance or bar girl, compared to other legitimate occupations, but this card is overplayed big time, i have had long discussions with middle aged thai sex workers, one in particular has over 25 years in the sex industry in thailand and in europe,she has put her children through university,bought and paid for two houses, for her its been a very positive experience , and the argument that she only did it for the money is not completely true, its always great making big money, she freely admits that she loves the excitment of the sex , she says if you love sex like she does , why not make a career out of it,she accepts that no man will ever take her seriously in terms of a long term relationship, everything comes at a price, everyone has to chose what they are prepared to pay, her clients are mostly older men, she doesnt need a man to support her, she provides a service that she is well paid for
I thi k i mite be going through this wright now . I am from canada and she want to come and get a visa and stay with me
Dan, what's with the sunglasses.
It can be very hard to find out if she tell the thruth...I know one for 8 years
.allways take her out from the bar...we have a good time together..she look good. And I had many stunners in Thailand...it seems like she is a bit more hooked up on me now...this is in a small town in Essan..and I guess the number of men who take her out its very limited...older men..after a long time I have feelings for her...I should not but..its not easy...when you like a person...
Don't be a simp, she is not different
@@jsnow6925 I think you are wright...she same when they first are in the bar they can not change...its easy money
@@nightravenonline Once that line is crossed something changes, save yourself the heartache before you get in too deep
got to admit all this relationship stuff can be entertaining almost to the point of serving as a hobby, hmmm, for some of us it is the sole hobby and can be destructive and or dysfunctional many are escaping relationships in their home countries so why so eager to find new ones here?.
Dan...you are an angel...
you had saved so many people ...
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i like pay as you go just make it in the uk first god bless and buy yourself gold befor her ..
Sounds too good to be true
Considering how hard it can be for rural Thai women to earn a decent living, they certainly waste a lot of money on gambling, supporting deadbeat relatives or boyfriend, and sometimes drugs
Escapism
Relationships between men and women are transactional regardless of nationality, especially nowadays. You said it yourself Dan, women in the West that are financially independent don’t look for or really want men the same as other countries. I agree with everything you say about Thai women, but let’s not kid ourselves and think Western women are any different. Why are farangs bewildered when Thai women ask for money or to pay? lol 😅
This is funny..im on one of my apps this morning and guess what....it was a Thai woman! I mentioned i watch 'Thai talk with Dan' how bad thailand is...she didnt like that! Hah!
Im acting dumb saying ..i know Thailand very well because of Dan. She got offended cause i was asking are u Lady Boy? Bar girl? Pattaya girl? They leave men poor! Im just having fun with pissing off this girl. She claims shes a doctor and comes from a high class background. My response was...well if your rich why are u online looking for men? I said...Im rich because i Stay Away from bar girls! Lol
Nice one,keep the charade up mate,I stand behind anybody who pulls one over these skanky,lying devious,shallow insecure divas! Please give updates.
You’re about money…hence your channel same as the other 300+ Thai bloggers that sadly need to share their sad stories as ‘advice’ for sad fallangs. Remember you left your wife, sacked your UK staff because you needed to find yourself in Thailand and you are now the expert….wtf?
BS advice….
That's a bit harsh Kevin, sounds horrific when you state it like that 😅😅 there is a lot more to my story than just that but I understand that you need to vent right now so I'll leave you to do your worst 👍👌
Men have paid Hell Adam Paid for that Apple 🍎
No in the West women want more money now than ever, women are hypergamous and want resources pretty much everywhere. Men are leaving the West to find women in other areas due to the value they get in a relationship for the money. Now that said when a guy comes to a new country he has no idea how the women operate and can get into trouble. So just be okay with spending some money as no relationship a Western can have today will not involve money at home or abroad. Just be smart about it always keep most of your money separate and protected, only spend what you want to have the life you can afford and desire.
Hows the monetization going ?
Traditional Western Family = male is the provider and female looks after the house and family.........therefore he is financially supporting the family...does that make him a simp?
Therefore, please explain the difference between a traditional Western relationship and the relationship where a Western male financially supports his Asian partner?
And don't tell me that the difference is that the Asian female will leave the Western male if he no longer has access to financial support for his family........as my bet is that most Western women will leave their partner as well if he will not or cannot financially support his family.
PS - Filipina and their habits are very similar to Thais......if you go looking for a partner in a Red-Light district in any country....what do you expect the end result may be?
What country are you from ?
@@thaitalkwithdan Hi Dan, I am an Australian, I have spent a lot of time in the Philippines.
I am a FIFO worker (Fly In Fly Out), so I do 2 weeks work and then 2 weeks holidays in Phils - 13 cycles per year.......I have been doing this for 15 years, except for the two Covid years.
A real woman is working and is equal with the men its year 2024 now and not 1950 like it is in Philippines @@kadachiman7234
I’m from Ireland but I am Australian citizen living here 13 years , I’ve had Thai girlfriend in the past , looking back now I paid for everything and when I brought her shopping wouldn’t get a thanks , I’m no with a philipina I met in Melbourne just back from a holiday she treated me for my birthday , cooks , cleans and when I’m ill stays up all night and nurtures me . Your chances of getting that in Thailand is 0.01 % . I’m not telling you to go Philippines to find a decent woman , maybe I got lucky . But that’s my experience best of luck mate
Thai bar girls are totally selfish and very shallow.
Every Thai Bar girl you meet as a Thai boyfriend and is married to her mum. If there English is not perfect then there not educated so why bother. Up your game guys and get educated girl from good family.
Tell you what they really think and feel? What they really think and feel today may be very different compared to what they really think and feel tomorrow. 😆
Go over sleep with as many as you can. Dont get fanny struck and you would be ok.
were innocent victims. Be aware There waiting to pounce ,, keep sharp And its such fun here and well chilled if you have a few shillings ,,be in control of yourself and don’t act like a fool ,,,and know/learn the societal truth re Thai culture ,,after all its an amazing ancient civilisation,,,Pay the fee ,take the service Learn the language ,, There yours when there with you ,,fair enough Make friends ,,Happy happy in Thailand na ja had 46 years of it ,,,sabai a jai all best wishes
Hey Dan I'm curious how do regular thai folks really feel when they see foreigners with young and beautiful thia women and can foreign men be In danger simply because if it?
A lot of these bar girls have naively and foolishly got pregnant at a young age to irresponsible young men back home. This isn’t a Thai phenomenon just young people perhaps without good role models making bad life choices.
My Thai wife’s brother is father to a child that he openly admits is not his. The mother is barely able to support her other 3 kids, so he took on the responsibility of taking 100 % care of “his” daughter out of the goodness of his big heart.
We cannot therefore generalize that all Thai men are irresponsible when it comes to being a father, though I sometimes question whether there is something in the family dynamic that could lend itself to forming the character of a Thai man. Im referring to my own observations of Thai women parenting their little princes….
Usually it’s the grandparents raising them, the Thai expression you are looking for is luk tewada, for these entitled brats, in other parts of Asia they call them Little Emperors
Never date a mother or a bar girl, their priority is only money.
Understanding THAI WOMEN🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thai women love Western men. Really.
Thailand is like a box of chocolates. You never know which one has nuts.😂😂😂
Before you go into that "what thai women are like" topic, try to specify "how farang are". Is it even possible? Hope it helps... Plus i only know farang who go to work for money. That thai women go to bar where hey work (for money), how's it even weird or unusual? Go figure... cheers
How romantic my girlfriend only books one month contracts in bars and does a little freelancing ? That must be keeper ?
I may be wrong but I didn’t think there was any such thing as a Thai women that doesn’t want money
I don't even know your except that you as Dan!
What means "flagged" ? Für mich sind die meisten ( nicht alle ! ) Teufel 😈. Ein Teufel in einer Maske einer süssen hübschen Frau. ❤
All those men coming to Thailand better get their costumes on 'cause they are known as "Baht-Man" 😅
So in a nutshell she has a free condo to do boomboom plus she worked abroad in the adult industry.😅 nice
What does RUclips flag your videos for ? Misinformation ? LOL. You're always discrete and appropriate. Just wondering.
The whole country is a brothel.
If you compare with western women, you may spend same amount of money (or get same damage to your finances), but get far better experience while it last.
Isaan women not Thai women
Exactly
I think it is a little unfair to constantly attack the working thai girl in bars. A lot of men come to Thailand to look for a traditional woman and that means supporting her like you would 50 years ago as woman did not have working opportunities like they do today. If men choose to date girls in bars and you expect them to see you exclusively you are then taking away her only source of income. So you put her in a difficult position as yes she is probably supporting a child and parents back in Isan. So if you want her to stop that lifestyle its only reasonable to compensate her the loss of earnings to be with you. Would you give up your job and income for a western girl because she wants you to move to her city with no prospects of earning money there I think not. So why do we put that expectation on a girl in a bar? I do generally agree that money is a massive influence here and affects many decisions by girls. But you have to navigate that part if you want to date in Thailand. I also think the mentality of many girls is like that of a teenager in terms of intellect the education and logical reasoning just doesnt seem to exist with many girls. Be safe out there, the words of love is war definitely applies in Thailand. Yes I live in Bangkok and have been coming here for over 20 years and have dated many types of girls here.
@gum6y1 you’re being humane in your writing here, & I -for one-appreciate that. Men & women of all professions are human beings. We all have feelings, we all were babies at one time, and we all have an ending wether we choose to think about it or not. I recently watched a video about a drug-addicted man in NYC. A commentor had actually done a lot to help that addict out. He publicly told anyone watching via the comments section: “he hasn’t actually quit drugs, he lied to me, he manipulated, he stole., etc.” He tattle-taled. He told the donating public uncomfortable truths. He exposed that guy, but everything he typed was true. Was that unfair ? I don’t think so. All of that caused me to think seriously & ponder for quite a while. Most of us have the capacity to feel empathy for an addict: it’s the lying, stealing, & screwing people over that we seriously dislike. There is a parallel with Dan’s videos about people who seek payment for their physicality. It’s a tough choice to enter into sex work because it has SERIOUS downsides. & in some places the girls don’t get a choice. If a bar-girl receives clients, most of us humans are alright with that [ presupposing she has agency, and can choose ]. When a person in that line of work lies and manipulates, THAT’S the part we don’t like. That’s where Dan comes in with his cautionary tales.
I think that’s impossible really! If your a man in your 40s plus your more than likely to get a woman 25 plus whose had plenty of time for bar work or a “love life” of sorts the same as in the west and the way that foreigners can’t own land in Thailand leaves you highly likely to lose it! The best is if you just have money sent into the country from a pension or property rented out not in Thailand. That way you have value to the woman if you’re still alive and stops her working in cahoots with Thai police boyfriends in order for you to join a “flying club” and them benefit from your death from land payouts.!