In my opinion, if someone is ghosting you, then they are doing you a favour. Clearly, this person isn't mature enough to be honest and upfront about their emotions. Even if you got into a relationship with them, somewhere down the line they are going to do a similar thing to you anyway.
True that. As a guy who has been out of the dating game for decades, I have way more respect for the women who were upfront with me. I did not always like what they told me, but they had the courage to lay it on the line. However, we cannot control other people. We can only control ourselves.
Great perspective. Ghosting is 100% about the ghoster's issues even if modern society will tell you the opposite. You can certain do things that turn off women but anyone who responds to you saying "I am interested in you" by cutting you out of their life completely has issues and you dodged a huge bullet.
Once I realized that I was the one always initiating the conversation whenever we met, and she never spoke to me until I spoke first, I decided to stay quiet but polite. Now instead of constantly trying to think of things to say I can get her out of my mind and move on! Always value your self respect 👍😘
1). She’s not into you. 2). She’s busy. 3). Boring conversations. 4). She’s playing hard to get. 5). You said something weird. 6). She’s talking to someone else.
"She´s busy" "Sorry, I was busy" , nobody is too busy to send a text that takes 5sec to do, it´s an excuse. "saying something "weird", it´s only weird if the other person makes it weird, there shouldn´t be any tip toeing of what to say or not to say, unless it´s extreme. It´s a given that she´s talking to multiple guys....
Courtney thank you for mentioning the whole waiting 24-48hr if a situation with a girl warrants that follow up text kinda action. If a girl stops responding; i stop replying. If she ain't showing high interest; it's best to keep it moving. I agree with you that we should meet more than one girl just in case one doesn't act right. No double texting, and no feeling sad. I definitely been left on read or a girl starts acting weird so i understand how hurtful that is. No girl is ever that busy. So always maintain your self worth guys. Have a great day 😁✌🏼💫
My friends asked me how do you know so much about girls Outer me- yah because i'll talk with so many girls😎 Inner me- thank you so much Courtney 😅😁😁 you are the best😘😍😍
I don't think Courtney's trying to run for the Most Ghosted Person of the Year Award. She is just trying to relay that she understands that being ghosted really sucks.
Just remember this if you text a girl wait for her to respond. If she never responds then never message her back. If someone likes you they will respond to you eventually
This is a simple answer. If she isn't responding, she isn't attracted to you. If it was Sean O Pry or Chris Hemsworth texting her, it would be less than a second for a response. People need to deal with reality and stop coping.
If I cant meet them in person, its not worth it to actualy texting. Thats why I dont even try to connect in social media. Deleted everything Except RUclips
Yeah....I think a co worker who appears to have feelings 4 me is just playing with my head. It hurts, but moving on and not saying ANYTHING to her is my best healthy option. What's funny is the old me, would bug her, message her, tell her my feelings for her. It hurts like mad, when you fancy someone and it just doesn't make it to the next step. Thanks for this video. Y'all are helping me do things so unlike my other ways, that kept me stuck. I think I will find some privacy, shed a few tears, and feel the hurt and keep going forward. Not look back
Im addicted to your videos, you give harsh truths in such an eloquent classy way and your channel is just so positive and non toxic. A breath of fresh air
Im the type of person when Im interested in someone, I prefer to put all my attention into them. Thats how it was done before online dating/social media came around. Now there's this advice about having to date multiple people at one time which really isnt fair to the others you aren't truly interested in, but are keeping around so that you don't over pursue the one you want. If everyone had the mindset and choosing 1 person and giving them a genuine chance, they'd be much more happier.
I have often made the mistake of "putting all my eggs in one basket." Thank you Courtney for the great advice. I wish I had realized some of this a lot sooner.
unfortunately this just happened to me. was talking to this girl for about two weeks or so and things seemed to be going really well, she'd call me often and we had interesting conversations, then about 10 days ago she stopped calling or replying. i just thought maybe she's busy so i left it at that. sent her a text a couple days later and so far nothing. what really stung is how well things seemed to be going and how direct and upfront she claimed she was, and how if i ever made her uncomfortable she would have no problems pointing it out. well, clearly not. honestly i just think she was bored and wanted some attention. got her fix from me and decided to ignore me when she got bored. time to unfriend her on fb and delete her contacts i guess. don't need to be seeing updates on my feed from someone who has made up her mind on not talking to me.
It happens 😮unfortunately I have been there. Really liked her but work was more important. Bummer everything seemed like smooth sailing and than. ☠👻 guess I Courtney stayed move on. But I thought years of friendship would keep us together. Hard to figure out. Sometimes just have to let it go and redirect your love and time 😔💔🙄
Thank-you so much for existing and being you, Courtney. Your presence makes this world a better place and more beautiful. 💛 1. She isn't into you. They won't put effort to talk to you. Don't double, or triple text her, let her go. A receptive woman would put effort to talk to you. Not everyone would like you. 2. She's busy. Being available 24/7 is itself a red flag. Wait for 24-48 hours, even after that she doesn't reach out, probably a red flag. 3. Boring convo. One word responses, don't do that. Show authentic interest and assess if somebody is doing the same. Common interests, and things you like or not. 4. She's playing hard to get - immature, insecure, not ready for a healthy relationship display this behaviour. 5. You said something weird. Something weird to her; something controversial, something sexual, made her feel uncomfortable. Don't get defensive, be respectful and communicate effectively and make her feel at ease and agree to disagee. 6. She's talking to someone else even after initial screening out (process after assessing multiple people to narrow down). A receptive woman would always put energy, effort, would reciprocate the effort you are putting. Find such women!
110% disagree about ghosting someone. Ghosting someone is just ignorant and immature and speaks to having low character and integrity regardless of how long you have been talking to someone, it used to be called, common courtesy, treating someone with some decency and effective communication. Take care🍻🇨🇦
I've never liked the term 'Ghosting.' I've never enjoyed communication that's not in person, & have always had difficulty connecting w/ others (which I recognize, thanks to Counseling). I'm not mad or upset w/ anyone, I just enjoy doing things on my own. It's nothing personal.
A girl I was talking to didn’t respond back to me so I took it as a loss and moved on. Over a month later a mutual friend between us asks me why I stopped talking to her. She later responds to me in FB: “are we cool”? I responded: “as ice”. I don’t get it. I moved on.
Things that will work, will work. Things that don't, don't. Embrace it and keep life simple. The path of the least resistance is where your energy should flow whether in life or in this intricate modern dating arena.
It does matter why because we are people too and if someone is being disrespectful that is not ok. Also if I did something wrong I want to learn from it and grow into a better person. You should always give the person to do the right thing approach them and get closure and expect them to communicate like a mature person that helps her and it helps you.
I appreciate you giving two very specific examples of having "said something weird". A lot of people make EVERYTHING weird these days, and bad advice from my peers had made me think anything I ever say can come across as weird at any time to any one.
I learn not to have expectations. I just be understanding be a better person for it. Everyone is going through things. Only thing you can do is hope they will reply.
Thank you for this Courtney! It sucks that we have to play these silly mind games at this age. Women should be honest up front just as much as they expect men to be as well. Much appreciate your word on these topics.
Opinions welcome: So I was chatting with a woman on Bumble for about a week and we moved to texting on the phone. After a few days of texting I asked her what's a good time to call her (I wanted to ask her out on a date for the upcoming weekend). That was on a Wednesday. Friday rolled around with no response. In the afternoon I texted her and basically called off the whole thing, in a polite "Best of luck" way. Did I walk off too quickly? Seems to me that if she was interested she would have replied in those two days rather than feeding me silence. I feel like I made that right call and avoided wasting my time, what do you all think?
I wonder how long you kept her number after you said ‘best of luck’. I also wonder what her response would have been to you afterwards, that could have been a tell tale sign too. If she doesn’t say something to you after 2 days, there’s nothing to work with on your behalf. Just a different perspective.
Why not just reply when you've got the rest of your day's stuff done or when you have a bit of time free in the day? Like you would for a friend? These rules are just manipulative and you'll just attract a manipulative woman playing such games.
It’s very difficult to tell #4 and 5. I usually give it a few tries, “3 strikes your out”. And well at first it feels like your heart got ripped out, but keep in mind even though you got let down, you still have the capability to speak the lady of your choice so don’t give up keep lookin 💯
Ur right that men shouldn’t get defensive but sometimes at that point including myself we don’t care to have a thing with the woman and we like to speak our mind before the communications done to get it off our chest
Courtney, you're killin it right now! Thank you for being real, honest, and down to earth with us. Your content is phenomenal and I believe you have the perfect tone of voice and demeanor to give advice to people struggling w/ their confidence. Keep up the hard work! A++++++
They will get back to you if they are interested. Remember if she just texts you only while at work , and not on her off time or on the Weekend. Your just convenient. Don't be put into the Friendzone. Block them and move on. Good video young lady. Your one of the smart ones!! Take care 👍👌💯🙏🙏
Yeah, I get constant sexual innuendo and I just basically ignore. If people have that impression of me, and I haven't said or done anything, I don't want to be talking to them so that's definitely true.
Great video. I would also add if a girl is tasking a while to text you she doesn't like you, is bored because her real man is busy and not giving her any attention right now.
Great advice on things so that you don't take things too personally. It's a bit easier to move on quickly and not lose your composure and doubt yourself when you do have a more big picture reminder. Great content Courtney thanks
Rejection is better than Regret. The average guy watching this video will probably swipe 500 times to get 1 match (online dating). Even then you have to make sure your first message is perfect to catch her eye over the 100 other messages she got last night.
I've got the opposite issue. Met a woman a few weeks ago. On New Years Eve day she wrote me a long email saying why it wasn't going to work out and that we should just be friends. I wrote here back and thanked her for letting me know and wishing her luck. Left it at that. Since that time she's written me twice. I've just deleted the messages. Not worth it.
Well what's worse is getting ghosted by a friend, she just won't reply and have no idea what I done wrong if any, she did hook up with an old guy friend and is with him, but didn't think that would get in the way of my friendship with her, and to think I spent 2 days helping her in the hospital, and slept outside the hospital on a bench for her ungreatful ass. 6 years of knowing them, even friends will use you and dump you when your no longer needed. This is why humans suck.
dayamn i dunno what it is, but i am so binging courtney's vids like crazy i must have spent like 4 hours non stop watching and enjoying your vids for the past three days...i think ive become literally obsessed with your channel! Courtney you do great and phenomenal job! I like that! Teddy must be definitely proud I can tell you that! i think i have literally watched courtney ryan video # 25 now and i started from vid 1 to vid 25....your vids have an intriguing charisma and def grabs your attention that's for sure.
I just got a response on snap after being left on read after saying "I've got $173k I need to spend before September for tax reasons...what should I do?" Now she wants to be engaging and flirty 😂😂😂 Its such a joke
Tell her to meet you at a public place where she’d have to drive for about an hour and either don’t show up Or show up, drive by and give her the finger and drive away
Just had that happened to me. Been knowing a girl for about 3 weeks. Hot and heavy at first. She’s a single mom of 3 so I knew she was busy but constantly getting left in read for a day or two. I took my bag and just left take the L and move on. Better opportunities ahead. New to your videos but I am loving them ❤
Great Video.. I think the reason more guys are going MIGTOW. I got myself a dog & opted to stay single. Society is so messed up now that good solid longer term relationships are hard to find.
I deleted my message thread because i was angry, why can’t girls just be straight forward? She said that she wanted to see me back in august, we texted off and on for months and even talked on Facetime twice
Hello Courtney, I love your content. I appreciate the applicable and trustworthy advice. It has been very relevant in my life. Please continue your amazing work. You have been a positive influence on many women, and couples while being a wholesome guide for men.
I usually stop texting a girl, if she doesn't reply , up until maximum 5-6 hrs. If i send her message, and she replies after 7-8 hrs i just leave her on seen, or not responding. Makes me feel good when i do it, plus i know if it's worth it or not.
As far as not calling someone out for rude behavior (and this goes for men who are rude to women, as well), don't you think it's good to politely point out their rude behavior to them and then move on, so that maybe, just maybe, they'll reflect upon themselves and not act this way to someone else? Otherwise, if you just walk away "like a gentleman" (as you say) and don't call them out, they think their rude behavior is appropriate and will continue to do it to others who don't deserve it
All your videos are pretty spot on, it’s confusing with some things but it makes sense. You really know your stuff Courtney, and I really appreciate it. Helping us lost men out there to help find our way! 💪🏽💯 I’m more old school as thats the way I was raised, so understanding all this can be quite complex. I seem to do a lot right, and a lot wrong with certain things, I still haven’t figured everything out. Appreciate you🙏🏽
I truly liked everything you said here Ryan. I am very happy there’s you an incredible young lady who always giving us amazing advice. I wish I had the correct or exact words to express
I’m not convinced dating apps work, I only ever swipe right on like a couple of people and I’m iffy on those and I never match with them. Plenty of hot girls flirt with me irl, but I get picky and wonder if they are my type and I’m often just too tired to flirt back much.
In my case, it's definitely because she's mad at me. I was texting this girl I really like last night, was being my normal verbose, contrarian self and crossed a line I shouldn't have. Sometimes it's a fine line between trying to be funny and trashing the things she likes.
All this is fine. Well suffering from same situation, the last reason might be the key to me being ghosted. But don't let your heart become hard nd cold just because of a bad interaction. Love always resides in soft corners. Life is beautiful when it's simple. 😌
I had this happen many years ago. I called a girl I liked 3x after Valentines Day, (once a week for 3 weeks). She did not return my calls. I was crushed. She did call me 2 months later, but it was never the same after that. She was pissed because I stopped calling. Do you believe that? I had moved on with another woman anyway, but I really cared more for the first one.
Omg! #3 nailed it! I had to quit texting this guy back because I was the only one driving the conversation. We went out on a few dates and he never asked me anything--either in person or via messages or text. It WAS pulling teeth. I told him I was done. I now have a string of messages from him that are literally just "Hi" "Hello" and that's it.
Why she's not texting ME back: The number she gave me goes to a Google Voice account she only logs into once every 3 months so it doesn't get auto-deleted. 🤣
Some of the main issues with dating these days is because people are talking to multiple people at once. So the whole 'don't put all your eggs in one basket' thing, isn't something that should be promoted.
with online dating, there is a good chance that a girl or guy is talking to other potential dates at the same time. At some point you have to narrow it down to one person. It's best if you first start messaging someone online that you continue to keep other options open until you and your date confirm the status of the blossoming relationship.
I feel like not putting your eggs in one basket is okay, but I genuinely believe that some people speak to so many people and try keep up so many conversations that they just end up being blunt and are difficult to talk to for that reason, they are bored and have no energy for any conversation.
#2. She's busy. That's AWESOME!! One of the best things is when my friends are TOO BUSY to give dishonest feedback about how valuable MY spare time is. Biggest turnoff? "I'm bored, lol, come entertain me and buy me food." Bored? Go learn something exciting to YOU, then get a career in that field, make money, and buy your own dinner to entertain yourself and support local business. Maybe then I'll join for lunch at a conference. Bored people have boring lives. Take ownership. Be busy, not a busybody. Be someone, not just with someone.
Insightful work! Thank you! 🙂 As for your last reason, I would've wanted you to say "No worries if she likes another guy than you. The sun shines for everyone including you. Keep up your hard work."
The "busy" excuse only goes so far. If someone is so busy that she can't respond to me within half a day (even if it's simply to say, "Hi! I got your message, but I wasn't able to get back to you today due to blahs, blahs, blah. But I just wanted to at least acknowledge your message. I'll call you back asap tomorrow."), then she's not worth my efforts even if she truly does like me.
I can't help but think this video has been made after the comment section of the video from yesterday 😅 Great video Courtney and great explanation in the beginning, where you state that it sucks it's like this, but it's the way it is 🙌
Haha I filmed it before I released that one but it was definitely the perfect follow up video! I would rather tell you guys what you need to hear and people get upset rather than just sit here and tell you what you want to hear. That’s not constructive! Thanks for watching 🥰
The girl I’ve been talking and meeting up with suddenly went cold after I told her I was in a car accident. I sent a paragraph long text explaining what happened after she asked how. I sent a couple more texts after that when she didn’t reply and then it’s been silent for about 10 days now. This is a girl who I was hanging out and having fun with and I’m just so confused right now. Trying not to bombard her phone and I even left a voice message saying it’s ok if she doesn’t want to talk and I hope she’s doing ok.
Big fan of Courtney saying don’t limit your options when the likelihood is I’ve never had multiple options Heck I’d settle for one match on tinder atm let alone two
this is happening to me right now this video is necessary the information you're giving is important your videos really speak to me in a powerful way and I'm taking it all in consideration thank you Courtney thank you Courtney thank you Courtney keep them coming God bless you
Well I can absolutely relate with you about the 2nd point you told.Its because even after my last relationship experience I've realised that if the partners are texting and calling each other all day despite having feelings for each other.Then that feeling is obsession and not love and obsession is always toxic 💀
Great point about talking to more than 1 girl at a time, until you narrow it down. Case in point.... I've got 4 kid, do you think I really care if one doesn't like me or does poorly in school? .. NO!!!.. I've got 3 others to fall back on!!!:-)
You are so right Courtney about playing hard to get being stupid for girls to do. It's different if the girl actually is hard to get even though she really likes the guy deep down. This can be that she has " conflicted intentions." In other wards she might have a huge crush on a guy but not show it because she's scared or shy to be in a relationship, due to having a tragic past event with someone else. People like that need serious counseling and the problem is they don't know where to go or who can help them alot of times except in today's world now there are RUclips channels for that like everything else that work much better than that. The Landmark coaching organization is another good tool or Avenue for that too since they counsel and coach people on their past experiences and trauma. However when a girl just plays hard to get to test the guy or doesn't want to seem too needy or obsessed that's not right and alot of guys like me would just ignore her thinking she doesn't like me anyway, then we both miss out.
This chick I talked to online said she wouldn't want to meet but wants to get to know eachother and then said I ask too many questions lol. I asked how do I get to know you then and she never responded.
Ghosting is an answer. At the first sign of ghosting - move on. Don't seek "closure," who cares why she isn't interested in you. She's giving you nothing, so why would you even be interested?
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes absolutely agree. It's something for everyone to take into consideration. Love your approach to the subject and us guys needed.
Being ghosted is not a negative but a positive. Instead of racking your head trying to figure out why, just move on, she or he has already given the reason for disinterest.
Video: Why she doesn’t respond? Ad before video: Wanna know why shes ghosting you? Me: Bruh. Jokes aside, if she doesnt respond, or ghosts, just walk away. It will suck but it does get better. Great video Courtney.
Courtney,could you do a video about whether it matters what type of vehicle a man drives or not? Also,could you state what type of vehicles a man looks great in and ones he doesn’t whether they’re expensive or affordable?
I was cut off once when I mentioned I loved Lene Marlin's music.... Glad though. I loved her first album..and her follow-up material. So, as us Brits say..."ON YER BIKE DARLING". No regrets.
Lol this is why I don't trust social media when it comes to contacting women. Ghosting is super offensive and childish in my book. At least in real life, I can get a reaction, or a real answer if a woman agrees to hangout with me or not. That will let me know if I want to continue or not instead of waiting for weeks to get a direct yes or no answer from here.
Ok so have to comment on this one. Kind of a sad story to tie into this. There was a girl I was talking to from Walgreens. We got out of touch cause life happened. I saw her after a couple of months and starting talking again. I happen to have a free night and was planning to do something like bowling or go to the movies and asked her if she would like to come, if she didn’t have to work. No response. A day or two later I was at her store getting a snack for work. I saw her and nodded. Next thing I know sneaking a peak to see her she is pointing at me from across the room and her coworker is walking away laughing. Sooo needless to say haven’t texted her back. Didn’t like the vibe of seeing the coworker walking away laughing. And she never still gave me an answer a week and a half later.
In my opinion, if someone is ghosting you, then they are doing you a favour. Clearly, this person isn't mature enough to be honest and upfront about their emotions. Even if you got into a relationship with them, somewhere down the line they are going to do a similar thing to you anyway.
True that. As a guy who has been out of the dating game for decades, I have way more respect for the women who were upfront with me. I did not always like what they told me, but they had the courage to lay it on the line. However, we cannot control other people. We can only control ourselves.
Ghosting is about the ghoster. I was ghosted by a woman I had dated for the better part of a year.
Rejection it's God's protection.
You're right 😏
Great perspective. Ghosting is 100% about the ghoster's issues even if modern society will tell you the opposite. You can certain do things that turn off women but anyone who responds to you saying "I am interested in you" by cutting you out of their life completely has issues and you dodged a huge bullet.
Once I realized that I was the one always initiating the conversation whenever we met, and she never spoke to me until I spoke first, I decided to stay quiet but polite. Now instead of constantly trying to think of things to say I can get her out of my mind and move on! Always value your self respect 👍😘
I've noticed when that happens. It's frustrating. And I do notice and appreciate the women that initiate conversation.
Many things aren't equal but everyone gets the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We make time for the things we truly want.
Brilliant comment, mate.
See whether she does it consistently or not...if she consistently not replying, she does not like you.
Best comment i've seen in a while. I might use this line.
Well said, Scotty.
1). She’s not into you.
2). She’s busy.
3). Boring conversations.
4). She’s playing hard to get.
5). You said something weird.
6). She’s talking to someone else.
"She´s busy" "Sorry, I was busy" , nobody is too busy to send a text that takes 5sec to do, it´s an excuse.
"saying something "weird", it´s only weird if the other person makes it weird, there shouldn´t be any tip toeing of what to say or not to say, unless it´s extreme.
It´s a given that she´s talking to multiple guys....
Courtney thank you for mentioning the whole waiting 24-48hr if a situation with a girl warrants that follow up text kinda action. If a girl stops responding; i stop replying. If she ain't showing high interest; it's best to keep it moving. I agree with you that we should meet more than one girl just in case one doesn't act right. No double texting, and no feeling sad. I definitely been left on read or a girl starts acting weird so i understand how hurtful that is. No girl is ever that busy. So always maintain your self worth guys. Have a great day 😁✌🏼💫
You said it best 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@@CourtneyRyan thank you! Also that color you wore in this video suits you very well. I appreciate the good vibes 😊👍🏼🌼
To be honest, you are the only youtuber whose videos are actually helpful and practically applicable. Thanks a lot :)
Aww I’m glad to hear it. Thank you ☺️
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Fact. I think it's that she has a much deeper understanding of people and what is truly healthy, and then she can articulate it. Smart lady.
Check out some Owen Benjamin then, as well
Apollonia Ponti, Matt Artisan, 33 secrets, DariusM, YourWingmam
My friends asked me how do you know so much about girls
Outer me- yah because i'll talk with so many girls😎
Inner me- thank you so much Courtney 😅😁😁 you are the best😘😍😍
😂 I love it!!
Courtney 5/5 videos you're doing great 🔥🔥🔥
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@@CourtneyRyan You should recommend him her channel.
I really like that she is sooo honest. She doesnt hold back the truth!
"I've been ghosted once before." You're great but guys get ghosted once every couple days
Hahaha if you are not getting ghosted you are not trying lol
True, I have been ghosted twice in the last 3 weeks. That's sick.
I don't think Courtney's trying to run for the Most Ghosted Person of the Year Award. She is just trying to relay that she understands that being ghosted really sucks.
Not me. Maybe it's an age thing, maybe I'm going for more reasonable women.
Shit I got ghosted 4 days ago. I thought the issue she had with me was done with, but apparently not
Just remember this if you text a girl wait for her to respond. If she never responds then never message her back. If someone likes you they will respond to you eventually
I learn it the hard way.
It’s really simple... let them ghost you... if they like you or have any interest they will come back and if they don’t just move into the next
This is a simple answer. If she isn't responding, she isn't attracted to you. If it was Sean O Pry or Chris Hemsworth texting her, it would be less than a second for a response. People need to deal with reality and stop coping.
True that
If I cant meet them in person, its not worth it to actualy texting. Thats why I dont even try to connect in social media. Deleted everything
Except RUclips
If nobody got me I know Courtney got me! Can I get an AMEN?
AMEN
Amen! Courtney just wants us to be at our best 😊👊🏼
Amen!!
Amen to that!
AMEN👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Yeah....I think a co worker who appears to have feelings 4 me is just playing with my head.
It hurts, but moving on and not saying ANYTHING to her is my best healthy option.
What's funny is the old me, would bug her, message her, tell her my feelings for her.
It hurts like mad, when you fancy someone and it just doesn't make it to the next step.
Thanks for this video. Y'all are helping me do things so unlike my other ways, that kept me stuck.
I think I will find some privacy, shed a few tears, and feel the hurt and keep going forward.
Not look back
Im addicted to your videos, you give harsh truths in such an eloquent classy way and your channel is just so positive and non toxic. A breath of fresh air
Im the type of person when Im interested in someone, I prefer to put all my attention into them. Thats how it was done before online dating/social media came around. Now there's this advice about having to date multiple people at one time which really isnt fair to the others you aren't truly interested in, but are keeping around so that you don't over pursue the one you want. If everyone had the mindset and choosing 1 person and giving them a genuine chance, they'd be much more happier.
Definitely agree. And at my age in a small town, it'd be a miracle if I even found 2 women I'm interested in at the same time!
I have often made the mistake of "putting all my eggs in one basket." Thank you Courtney for the great advice. I wish I had realized some of this a lot sooner.
Courtney is the big sister we all needed growing up.
unfortunately this just happened to me. was talking to this girl for about two weeks or so and things seemed to be going really well, she'd call me often and we had interesting conversations, then about 10 days ago she stopped calling or replying. i just thought maybe she's busy so i left it at that. sent her a text a couple days later and so far nothing. what really stung is how well things seemed to be going and how direct and upfront she claimed she was, and how if i ever made her uncomfortable she would have no problems pointing it out. well, clearly not. honestly i just think she was bored and wanted some attention. got her fix from me and decided to ignore me when she got bored. time to unfriend her on fb and delete her contacts i guess. don't need to be seeing updates on my feed from someone who has made up her mind on not talking to me.
It happens 😮unfortunately I have been there. Really liked her but work was more important. Bummer everything seemed like smooth sailing and than. ☠👻 guess I Courtney stayed move on. But I thought years of friendship would keep us together. Hard to figure out. Sometimes just have to let it go and redirect your love and time 😔💔🙄
@@g.banderas1242 Similar happened with me, she must've been Casper's sister
Same thing just happened to me a few days ago smh I think it’s very immature and cowardly
Thank-you so much for existing and being you, Courtney. Your presence makes this world a better place and more beautiful. 💛
1. She isn't into you. They won't put effort to talk to you. Don't double, or triple text her, let her go. A receptive woman would put effort to talk to you. Not everyone would like you.
2. She's busy. Being available 24/7 is itself a red flag. Wait for 24-48 hours, even after that she doesn't reach out, probably a red flag.
3. Boring convo. One word responses, don't do that. Show authentic interest and assess if somebody is doing the same. Common interests, and things you like or not.
4. She's playing hard to get - immature, insecure, not ready for a healthy relationship display this behaviour.
5. You said something weird. Something weird to her; something controversial, something sexual, made her feel uncomfortable. Don't get defensive, be respectful and communicate effectively and make her feel at ease and agree to disagee.
6. She's talking to someone else even after initial screening out (process after assessing multiple people to narrow down).
A receptive woman would always put energy, effort, would reciprocate the effort you are putting. Find such women!
110% disagree about ghosting someone.
Ghosting someone is just ignorant and immature and speaks to having low character and integrity regardless of how long you have been talking to someone, it used to be called, common courtesy, treating someone with some decency and effective communication.
Take care🍻🇨🇦
I agree. Just respect people enough to tell them how it is. It is horrible to really like someone, just to be strung along.
It's easy to say ghosting says more about the person but it still hurts like a MF. It makes someone feel not worth it or likable
Facts I’ve been ghosted and if you are going to ghost don’t give the person your number it’s simple
@@omotayosatuyi252 💯%
Can’t wait to see this after my meeting, it can be frustrating when someone’s not responding, but it’s important not to get phased by it!
100% ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan ❤️
I've never liked the term 'Ghosting.' I've never enjoyed communication that's not in person, & have always had difficulty connecting w/ others (which I recognize, thanks to Counseling). I'm not mad or upset w/ anyone, I just enjoy doing things on my own. It's nothing personal.
A girl I was talking to didn’t respond back to me so I took it as a loss and moved on. Over a month later a mutual friend between us asks me why I stopped talking to her. She later responds to me in FB: “are we cool”? I responded: “as ice”. I don’t get it. I moved on.
That is bizarre 😒 sounds like she wanted attention
Things that will work, will work. Things that don't, don't. Embrace it and keep life simple. The path of the least resistance is where your energy should flow whether in life or in this intricate modern dating arena.
It does matter why because we are people too and if someone is being disrespectful that is not ok. Also if I did something wrong I want to learn from it and grow into a better person. You should always give the person to do the right thing approach them and get closure and expect them to communicate like a mature person that helps her and it helps you.
I appreciate you giving two very specific examples of having "said something weird". A lot of people make EVERYTHING weird these days, and bad advice from my peers had made me think anything I ever say can come across as weird at any time to any one.
I learn not to have expectations. I just be understanding be a better person for it. Everyone is going through things. Only thing you can do is hope they will reply.
Thank you for this Courtney! It sucks that we have to play these silly mind games at this age. Women should be honest up front just as much as they expect men to be as well. Much appreciate your word on these topics.
"Only one reason: She doesn't like you!" - Courtney
Pretty much. I'm surprised the video isn't 5 seconds long.
Opinions welcome: So I was chatting with a woman on Bumble for about a week and we moved to texting on the phone. After a few days of texting I asked her what's a good time to call her (I wanted to ask her out on a date for the upcoming weekend). That was on a Wednesday. Friday rolled around with no response. In the afternoon I texted her and basically called off the whole thing, in a polite "Best of luck" way. Did I walk off too quickly? Seems to me that if she was interested she would have replied in those two days rather than feeding me silence. I feel like I made that right call and avoided wasting my time, what do you all think?
You made the right call.
You did well for yourself
I wonder how long you kept her number after you said ‘best of luck’. I also wonder what her response would have been to you afterwards, that could have been a tell tale sign too.
If she doesn’t say something to you after 2 days, there’s nothing to work with on your behalf. Just a different perspective.
@@MrIllusionEyes That all happened some time ago. I've since met a keeper (The rare and elusive unicorn). She's about 95% rose and 5% thorn.
You did the right thing!
I always follow the rule of 24 hours to answer back. We need to value our time, guys and gals.
Yes absolutely agree with you. Time is precious. 🙏
Same here
I din't know that rule.
Why not just reply when you've got the rest of your day's stuff done or when you have a bit of time free in the day? Like you would for a friend? These rules are just manipulative and you'll just attract a manipulative woman playing such games.
@@00dfm00 What I mean is that I give them 24-48 hours to answer back, mostly because if they don't say anything in that time, they won't reply at all.
It’s very difficult to tell #4 and 5. I usually give it a few tries, “3 strikes your out”. And well at first it feels like your heart got ripped out, but keep in mind even though you got let down, you still have the capability to speak the lady of your choice so don’t give up keep lookin 💯
Ur right that men shouldn’t get defensive but sometimes at that point including myself we don’t care to have a thing with the woman and we like to speak our mind before the communications done to get it off our chest
I like this video much better than the previous one. You framed it in a much more positive and sympathetic way. Keep up the good work.
Courtney, you're killin it right now! Thank you for being real, honest, and down to earth with us. Your content is phenomenal and I believe you have the perfect tone of voice and demeanor to give advice to people struggling w/ their confidence. Keep up the hard work! A++++++
Thank you so much! ❤️
They will get back to you if they are interested. Remember if she just texts you only while at work , and not on her off time or on the Weekend. Your just convenient. Don't be put into the Friendzone. Block them and move on. Good video young lady. Your one of the smart ones!! Take care 👍👌💯🙏🙏
There's one reason. She's not interested! She's got a ton of options and doesn't need you
This is a good one.. simple as that.
Yeah, I get constant sexual innuendo and I just basically ignore. If people have that impression of me, and I haven't said or done anything, I don't want to be talking to them so that's definitely true.
Great video. I would also add if a girl is tasking a while to text you she doesn't like you, is bored because her real man is busy and not giving her any attention right now.
Great advice on things so that you don't take things too personally. It's a bit easier to move on quickly and not lose your composure and doubt yourself when you do have a more big picture reminder. Great content Courtney thanks
Rejection is better than Regret. The average guy watching this video will probably swipe 500 times to get 1 match (online dating). Even then you have to make sure your first message is perfect to catch her eye over the 100 other messages she got last night.
I've got the opposite issue. Met a woman a few weeks ago. On New Years Eve day she wrote me a long email saying why it wasn't going to work out and that we should just be friends. I wrote here back and thanked her for letting me know and wishing her luck. Left it at that. Since that time she's written me twice. I've just deleted the messages. Not worth it.
Well what's worse is getting ghosted by a friend, she just won't reply and have no idea what I done wrong if any, she did hook up with an old guy friend and is with him, but didn't think that would get in the way of my friendship with her, and to think I spent 2 days helping her in the hospital, and slept outside the hospital on a bench for her ungreatful ass. 6 years of knowing them, even friends will use you and dump you when your no longer needed. This is why humans suck.
dayamn i dunno what it is, but i am so binging courtney's vids like crazy i must have spent like 4 hours non stop watching and enjoying your vids for the past three days...i think ive become literally obsessed with your channel! Courtney you do great and phenomenal job! I like that! Teddy must be definitely proud I can tell you that! i think i have literally watched courtney ryan video # 25 now and i started from vid 1 to vid 25....your vids have an intriguing charisma and def grabs your attention that's for sure.
I just got a response on snap after being left on read after saying "I've got $173k I need to spend before September for tax reasons...what should I do?" Now she wants to be engaging and flirty 😂😂😂
Its such a joke
Tell her to meet you at a public place where she’d have to drive for about an hour and either don’t show up Or show up, drive by and give her the finger and drive away
🤟🤟🤟Give her this after driving for an hour
Just had that happened to me. Been knowing a girl for about 3 weeks. Hot and heavy at first. She’s a single mom of 3 so I knew she was busy but constantly getting left in read for a day or two. I took my bag and just left take the L and move on. Better opportunities ahead. New to your videos but I am loving them ❤
Single mom of 3? She is doing you a favor. Run and dont look back.
Stay away from the single moms, they’re only good for one thing.
@@racebannon96 that depends on how many dads there are...she could be riding the Alimony Express, or it could be one dad and it just didn't work out.
Great Video.. I think the reason more guys are going MIGTOW. I got myself a dog & opted to stay single. Society is so messed up now that good solid longer term relationships are hard to find.
I deleted my message thread because i was angry, why can’t girls just be straight forward? She said that she wanted to see me back in august, we texted off and on for months and even talked on Facetime twice
Hello Courtney, I love your content. I appreciate the applicable and trustworthy advice. It has been very relevant in my life. Please continue your amazing work. You have been a positive influence on many women, and couples while being a wholesome guide for men.
I usually stop texting a girl, if she doesn't reply , up until maximum 5-6 hrs. If i send her message, and she replies after 7-8 hrs i just leave her on seen, or not responding. Makes me feel good when i do it, plus i know if it's worth it or not.
You have a wonderful way of telling it like it is.thank you for your honest but gentle manner.😊
As far as not calling someone out for rude behavior (and this goes for men who are rude to women, as well), don't you think it's good to politely point out their rude behavior to them and then move on, so that maybe, just maybe, they'll reflect upon themselves and not act this way to someone else? Otherwise, if you just walk away "like a gentleman" (as you say) and don't call them out, they think their rude behavior is appropriate and will continue to do it to others who don't deserve it
All your videos are pretty spot on, it’s confusing with some things but it makes sense. You really know your stuff Courtney, and I really appreciate it. Helping us lost men out there to help find our way! 💪🏽💯 I’m more old school as thats the way I was raised, so understanding all this can be quite complex. I seem to do a lot right, and a lot wrong with certain things, I still haven’t figured everything out. Appreciate you🙏🏽
Courtney my G, a few weeks ago you was at like 50k subscribers now at 86k. You're killing it keep it up! 100k soon!
Thank you so much! ❤️
I truly liked everything you said here Ryan. I am very happy there’s you an incredible young lady who always giving us amazing advice. I wish I had the correct or exact words to express
🥰🥰🥰 thanks for being here!
I’m not convinced dating apps work, I only ever swipe right on like a couple of people and I’m iffy on those and I never match with them. Plenty of hot girls flirt with me irl, but I get picky and wonder if they are my type and I’m often just too tired to flirt back much.
In my case, it's definitely because she's mad at me. I was texting this girl I really like last night, was being my normal verbose, contrarian self and crossed a line I shouldn't have. Sometimes it's a fine line between trying to be funny and trashing the things she likes.
It is a strange feeling when in spite of one's best efforts one is not only not appreciated but criticized mercilessly. 😢
All this is fine. Well suffering from same situation, the last reason might be the key to me being ghosted. But don't let your heart become hard nd cold just because of a bad interaction. Love always resides in soft corners. Life is beautiful when it's simple. 😌
If she likes u she will talk to u…no matter how busy she is…
If u like someone u wanna hear from them and talk to them
Courtney your channel is one of my favorites! Lots of helpful tips and opinions
I had this happen many years ago. I called a girl I liked 3x after Valentines Day, (once a week for 3 weeks). She did not return my calls. I was crushed.
She did call me 2 months later, but it was never the same after that. She was pissed because I stopped calling. Do you believe that?
I had moved on with another woman anyway, but I really cared more for the first one.
Omg! #3 nailed it! I had to quit texting this guy back because I was the only one driving the conversation. We went out on a few dates and he never asked me anything--either in person or via messages or text. It WAS pulling teeth. I told him I was done. I now have a string of messages from him that are literally just "Hi" "Hello" and that's it.
It’s simple she’s a 6, you’re a 6, she talks to you until a 7 comes along.
Actually, you do owe each other honesty. Ghosting wastes peoples time and leaves them wondering where they stand.
Why she's not texting ME back: The number she gave me goes to a Google Voice account she only logs into once every 3 months so it doesn't get auto-deleted. 🤣
Some of the main issues with dating these days is because people are talking to multiple people at once. So the whole 'don't put all your eggs in one basket' thing, isn't something that should be promoted.
with online dating, there is a good chance that a girl or guy is talking to other potential dates at the same time. At some point you have to narrow it down to one person. It's best if you first start messaging someone online that you continue to keep other options open until you and your date confirm the status of the blossoming relationship.
Agreed ☺️
You have great advice - always backs up my thinking or shows me what I need to do. You're a great help.
Thanks Courtney !
Glad to hear it and happy to help 😊 thanks Aaron!
I feel like not putting your eggs in one basket is okay, but I genuinely believe that some people speak to so many people and try keep up so many conversations that they just end up being blunt and are difficult to talk to for that reason, they are bored and have no energy for any conversation.
#2. She's busy. That's AWESOME!! One of the best things is when my friends are TOO BUSY to give dishonest feedback about how valuable MY spare time is. Biggest turnoff? "I'm bored, lol, come entertain me and buy me food."
Bored? Go learn something exciting to YOU, then get a career in that field, make money, and buy your own dinner to entertain yourself and support local business. Maybe then I'll join for lunch at a conference. Bored people have boring lives. Take ownership. Be busy, not a busybody. Be someone, not just with someone.
She's not interested...until she messages you...then ghosts you...then messages you again...then ghosts you...then messages you again.
Insightful work! Thank you! 🙂
As for your last reason, I would've wanted you to say "No worries if she likes another guy than you. The sun shines for everyone including you. Keep up your hard work."
The "busy" excuse only goes so far. If someone is so busy that she can't respond to me within half a day (even if it's simply to say, "Hi! I got your message, but I wasn't able to get back to you today due to blahs, blahs, blah. But I just wanted to at least acknowledge your message. I'll call you back asap tomorrow."), then she's not worth my efforts even if she truly does like me.
Dude that busy talk is BS. Everyone has time to respond a one liner or two. I can’t stand people like so.
@@highaltitude787 amen!!
I can't help but think this video has been made after the comment section of the video from yesterday 😅
Great video Courtney and great explanation in the beginning, where you state that it sucks it's like this, but it's the way it is 🙌
Haha I filmed it before I released that one but it was definitely the perfect follow up video! I would rather tell you guys what you need to hear and people get upset rather than just sit here and tell you what you want to hear. That’s not constructive! Thanks for watching 🥰
The girl I’ve been talking and meeting up with suddenly went cold after I told her I was in a car accident. I sent a paragraph long text explaining what happened after she asked how. I sent a couple more texts after that when she didn’t reply and then it’s been silent for about 10 days now. This is a girl who I was hanging out and having fun with and I’m just so confused right now. Trying not to bombard her phone and I even left a voice message saying it’s ok if she doesn’t want to talk and I hope she’s doing ok.
I can totally relate to the say something weird point. I think you know someones a keeper if they point it out to you.
Big fan of Courtney saying don’t limit your options when the likelihood is I’ve never had multiple options
Heck I’d settle for one match on tinder atm let alone two
this is happening to me right now this video is necessary the information you're giving is important your videos really speak to me in a powerful way and I'm taking it all in consideration thank you Courtney thank you Courtney thank you Courtney keep them coming God bless you
Yep! I will have to keep this in mind. Thank you.
THIS WAS GOOD,THANK YOU 😊😊
Well I can absolutely relate with you about the 2nd point you told.Its because even after my last relationship experience I've realised that if the partners are texting and calling each other all day despite having feelings for each other.Then that feeling is obsession and not love and obsession is always toxic 💀
Great point about talking to more than 1 girl at a time, until you narrow it down. Case in point.... I've got 4 kid, do you think I really care if one doesn't like me or does poorly in school? .. NO!!!.. I've got 3 others to fall back on!!!:-)
You are so right Courtney about playing hard to get being stupid for girls to do. It's different if the girl actually is hard to get even though she really likes the guy deep down. This can be that she has " conflicted intentions." In other wards she might have a huge crush on a guy but not show it because she's scared or shy to be in a relationship, due to having a tragic past event with someone else. People like that need serious counseling and the problem is they don't know where to go or who can help them alot of times except in today's world now there are RUclips channels for that like everything else that work much better than that. The Landmark coaching organization is another good tool or Avenue for that too since they counsel and coach people on their past experiences and trauma.
However when a girl just plays hard to get to test the guy or doesn't want to seem too needy or obsessed that's not right and alot of guys like me would just ignore her thinking she doesn't like me anyway, then we both miss out.
This chick I talked to online said she wouldn't want to meet but wants to get to know eachother and then said I ask too many questions lol. I asked how do I get to know you then and she never responded.
I wished her a happy birthday and she didn't even respond.
Am i the problem here?
Absolutely not. Her loss!
Amen her loss
Don't talk to her anymore. No response is a response. Keep it moving to the next girl man 👊🏼
Ghosting is an answer. At the first sign of ghosting - move on. Don't seek "closure," who cares why she isn't interested in you. She's giving you nothing, so why would you even be interested?
Thanks so much for the info . I texted a girls 3 week ago for a date . She said yes but she hasn’t replied back yet so I moved on .🎉
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes absolutely agree. It's something for everyone to take into consideration. Love your approach to the subject and us guys needed.
Importing is always an option, many in up-and-coming countries may appreciate you more. Plus they don't expect the one to (insert verbs)
Being ghosted is not a negative but a positive. Instead of racking your head trying to figure out why, just move on, she or he has already given the reason for disinterest.
Video: Why she doesn’t respond?
Ad before video: Wanna know why shes ghosting you?
Me: Bruh.
Jokes aside, if she doesnt respond, or ghosts, just walk away. It will suck but it does get better.
Great video Courtney.
Exactly 👏🏼
RUclips be spying on you
Yeah it does suck. Specially if put more into the relationship. Walking way is difficult but you can use your time wisely. ☯️
Courtney,could you do a video about whether it matters what type of vehicle a man drives or not? Also,could you state what type of vehicles a man looks great in and ones he doesn’t whether they’re expensive or affordable?
You know what, youc an be one of the voices in psych to go🙂🇵🇭
I was cut off once when I mentioned I loved Lene Marlin's music....
Glad though. I loved her first album..and her follow-up material.
So, as us Brits say..."ON YER BIKE DARLING".
No regrets.
Lol this is why I don't trust social media when it comes to contacting women. Ghosting is super offensive and childish in my book. At least in real life, I can get a reaction, or a real answer if a woman agrees to hangout with me or not. That will let me know if I want to continue or not instead of waiting for weeks to get a direct yes or no answer from here.
Ok so have to comment on this one. Kind of a sad story to tie into this. There was a girl I was talking to from Walgreens. We got out of touch cause life happened. I saw her after a couple of months and starting talking again. I happen to have a free night and was planning to do something like bowling or go to the movies and asked her if she would like to come, if she didn’t have to work. No response. A day or two later I was at her store getting a snack for work. I saw her and nodded. Next thing I know sneaking a peak to see her she is pointing at me from across the room and her coworker is walking away laughing. Sooo needless to say haven’t texted her back. Didn’t like the vibe of seeing the coworker walking away laughing. And she never still gave me an answer a week and a half later.