Fakeness in Utah?! | with Kristyn
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- Опубликовано: 8 июл 2024
- Kristyn Morgan joins us today to talk about living an authentic life and keeping things real. She talks about how people connect with genuine so being genuine is paramount to connection. Thank you so much for joining us on Saints Unscripted, Kristyn!
0:00 - Introduction
1:28 - Kristyn starts posting on Instagram
2:30 - Utah is different :)
3:05 - Wishing for perfection
5:00 - Social media is changing and authenticity is embraced
5:40 - Hate on Instagram
7:50 - How to embrace differences
9:40 - Kaitlyn gets a Subaru; Kristyn talks about her 15-passenger van
11:07 - Fakeness in Utah?
12:34 - People connect with genuine
13:30 - Loneliness in Utah
16:53 - Real friend meet ups
19:00 - Kristyn’s daughter opens up about coming home from her mission
22:25 - How to be more authentic
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My wife told me when we first got married, a little over 15 years ago, she said she would never move to Utah because Utah Mormons are weird. She served her mission in the Provo Utah mission back in the late 90's. She felt that the Utah Mormons were just a bit fake. Well, a little over 4 years ago, she come to me and said that she felt we needed to start looking for jobs in Utah. We prayed together and we both felt that yes, the Lord is wanting us in Utah, and long story short, we are now living in Eagle Mountain transplanted from north Texas.
I've moved a lot and discovered over time that if you want a friend, you need to be a friend.
You want to spend time with friends? Invite them over or out somewhere.
These interactions create friendships.
It's harder for introverts like me, but as you practice hard things, they become easier over time.
So true! I moved a lot growing up too and quickly made friends in school by being a friend but when it was time for me to go on my own into a YSA branch, that was the advice my mom gave me. You want a friend so you go and be the friend!
I agree with you. Also, as you said, it's hard for introverts to take the initiative. It's difficult, when I'm hoping someone speaks to me, that I should speak up first.
Thank you for sharing this. I really feel that when we show up for church on Sunday, that's when we need to absolutely be our real true self. People are looking for love and connection and a place to feel welcome. And sometimes it doesn't feel that way. Here is a clip from a song by Casting Crowns, "Does anybody hear her" ...
"Does anybody hear her?
Can anybody see?
Or does anybody even know she's going down today?
Under the shadow of our steeple
With all the lost and lonely people
Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me
Does anybody hear her?
Can anybody see?"
This song has always resonated with me. As disciples of Christ, we should always be on the lookout for those who are in need, those who are drowning, those who need extra encouragement, those who need to be told that they matter.
I stopped looking for connection or a place to feel welcome at Church, and that was when I turned my faith crisis around and renewed my conversion.
As a result, I feel more genuine affection for and joy with precisely the people that bothered me back when I was wishing that I could feel welcome.
@@TrebizondMusic-cm6fp So you're saying people should not be welcoming?
@@joncharlotteschoen No.
This is why I love my Las Vegas ward- everyone is so real. We’ve opened up about mental health, addictions, faith crisis, etc etc all in church! No one passes judgement- it’s amazing ❤ I don’t know if I could ever live in Utah bc I would never live up to the standard 😂 love what you’re doing and the message you’re spreading 🙏
I served a Mission in Utah. Members raised in the Church, especially in heavily member saturated areas, adopt “Mormon Culture” into their life without realizing it. The point is there is a difference between doing something because that’s what you’ve been taught and raised to do and doing something because that’s what YOU want to do. Not because everyone is doing it.
I've noticed "being real" often translates to being negative and complaining which is unfortunate
I don't live in Utah. I am a lifelong member. When I was in my 20's some guy in my ward got upset with me because I didn't think that "Utah Mormons" were different. Their culture might be a little different but if they follow the prophet we are all the same to me.
How dare you be so accepting?!
@@emosongsandreadalongs ha ha, I'll have to work on that.😅
I think some Christians, not just Mormons, put on the happiest face possible not because they are "fake" but because that's how they deal with life. It's a coping mechanism and nothing wrong with that. I try to be that way honestly.
The loneliness also comes from all the activities gone in the church. We used to do so many activities with relief society. We would just meet and talk around a quilt that we would tie as a group. We would have craft activities, home activities, and we could connect. Guess what, I wear pants to church. I’ve gotten past the judgement. I look like an elephant in dresses and hate them.
its also interesting to see enemies of the church never hold themselves to the standards they hold members to
Interesting discussion a little over halfway through about the difficulty of making deeper connections within ward families. Ive felt this way most my life. Being genuine is important to me. But i realized over time that im genuine because i feel a need for connection based on trauma ive experienced. But there are those who experience trauma that have trust issues and dont feel comfortable being vulnerable. Anyhow, relationships are complex. Consider extroverts vs introverts, etc. I think building trust is essential to deeper relationships. Also, relationships take time. Ive found that many arent ready immediately for deeper relationships. But those ive known longer and with whom i keep connecting have let their walls down eventually. Its like we plant seeds of friendship, nurture them with trust, kindness, and giving our time, and eventually the relationships grow into a tree with strong roots, producing fruit.
Love you Kristyn! Miss you! You touched on so many points that were spot on! When you are comfortable with yourself, you find your people. When we lived in Utah in the 90's, it was a shock to me but we found our tribe and we loved our friends.
Good morning. In trying to keep it real, I'm going to start asking myself before I begin my prayers to my Heavenly Father, if my heart is in the right place. To often my prayers feel flippant, or sometimes even forced. If my heart is in the right place, and am genuine, and sincere, I can ask Heavenly Father for those things that will help me and others be genuine and authentically themselves. ❤
Being a content creator on RUclips while also being LDS brings its own sets of problems 😊 it’s not been easy for me and i only make diy nail art content so i can’t imagine having a channel like this can be trying. Love your channel though good job
Good guest. Being very generous and open to Utah people, even when the hosts take every opportunity to bag on utah people and church members (not the first video)
"Utah."
There's the Wasatch Front:
-which you can subdivide into Weber-Davis; Salt Lake; and Utah counties. There are different cultural moods prevailing in each. Even in Utah County there are differences: Provo, still reeling from its Cinderella transformation into hipsterville a decade ago, the "Silicon Slopes," the mushrooming condo-consumer complexes on the ruins of Geneva Steel, and all the places in between. In this megalopolis there is much more cultural and ethnic diversity than outdated stereotypes take into account. Odd, that...
There are hinterlands, dotted with Pioneer towns in decline: descendants of their founders fled to the big cities.
There are the touristy southern areas which are being gentrified: locals getting squeezed out to create playgrounds for wealthy newcomers who love the natural beauty and vie for the real estate with the best views of it.
I live in northern Utah County: lots of infrastructure, dense population, rapid growth, swaths of older neighborhoods still remaining with historic houses, *gardens and fruit trees* (there's a bit of the local culture that ought to be better preserved!), and - thank God - more culturally conservative (for now) than north of the point, where a pied piper with a pride progress flag could lead a crowd off a cliff.
Is there a lot of "inauthentic" display on Sunday, trying to fit in with expectations? Wherever two or three human beings are gathered together you'll have that. But my ward is a good one. There is genuine concern for each others' well-being, even with the higher turnover of the starter apartment blocks surrounded by the post-war bungalows. There's sincerity for those with eyes to see it: letting go of first impressions of how someone spoke to you during a few seconds in the hallway between meetings.
Making connections, sinking roots: that is indeed costly labor that we're not used to reckoning. Excellent points about redefining what we mean by connection. We're heirs to multiple layers of American rootlessness (consider: in Germany, families may have lived in the same town for *centuries* ). Not least of that is the consumerist attitude that making friends, "finding your tribe," means finding people with whom you have as much as possible in common: as if people and relationships were customizable with a menu of options for our maximum satisfaction.
But what the Pioneers wrought, even if chronologically shallow, has depth enough that I'm glad and, yes, proud to plant my feet on it and claim it as my heritage.
😲🤯
I enjoyed this. I love the quote from Elder Uchtdorf, don't judge me because I sin differently from you.
Dude. Stanley is not just a Utah thing. These ppl in Kansas are all over Stanleys too. Jr high kids can’t drink unless it’s from a Stanley. This too shall pass. I’ve lived plenty in and outside of Utah. Both in and out have their amazing strengths. I miss me some Utah severely at times but wow, there’s some unwarranted attitude about Utah culture. Come try it in the middle of nowhere. Come see. I dare ya 😆
Ummm…I have lived in Utah most of my life and only recently heard about Stanley Mugs. I don’t do the lashes, though I have thought about it so I wouldn’t have to do makeup. Lol but they are so expensive!
I don’t think these things are specific to Utah. I think they came with transplants. lol
Nothing against transplants at all. I just think that cracking jokes about Utah with these things doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. There are plenty of other things that are funny about us. Lol
Oh look it's the complain about Utah channel.