I am curious why is it that if women don't like living in a state of perpetual fear, why do they live in big cities where crime (including murder and rape) is 10x-20x worse than in suburbs or small towns?
I understand what you are saying, but the issue is not women vs. men, its romantic relationships are not worth your time. in the end, at some point, you will get hurt, and i dont know other people but i don't like to feel the pain of that, so i think being alone its the best way to go.
I can understand that, especially after you've been hurt before. Does being alone feel good to you? I only ask because a lot of people feel like they don't have much choice. It is possible to heal from past relational wounds and learn to connect in new ways (and often with people who are capable of healthier relationships) so that you can enjoy romantic relationships without the hurt. It's a process, and it usually involves unwiring codependent patterns that most of us grow up with, and exploring our self esteem, childhood traumas and other internal experiences... so I'm not saying it is easy! It's hard work, and scary at times, and it's certainly fair to choose to be alone instead. For some people that is the most satisfying and comfortable choice, and they often find connection in places other than romantic relationships.
@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach I'm learning to be alone again. Your content helped me to overcome and accept my new reality, but listening to a lot of experts in the topic i feel like the most logical conclusion (if you dont want to feel hurt again) is to remain single and not to look up for a romantic relationship because at the end most likely statistically speaking you will end up breaking up again. But by all means, i like your videos, like i said, you helped me a lot.
@@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach I have not much choice bc single women in my age (45 plus) are so much mentally troubled. It is really hard to find a normal healthy woman. All of them have severe mental or attachment issues. Almost 100%. Literally impossible.
The gentleman from PsychHacks says that many men start taking the red pill (learning what women value, how they make mating choices, and how it differs from men) but then choke on it. You’d need to get to the point that you understand what is motivating the 80/20 and just accept that. Why get angry at a squirrel because it climbs trees? In the end, you just have to build a life that you find meaningful, and hopefully that includes the relationships that we all need.
People have better relationships after divorce because they understand better what they need and want and don’t repeat mistakes. They are older wiser and more inclined to make it work out of necessity. The need to have a companion later in life. These are variables this video overlooks.
No way. Totally wrong. People are way worse after divorce. The relationships and marriages last a way shorter than the marriage started as young. Check the statistics. I am 49, divorced and discovered that women in my age are really massively mentally troubled. No exceptions, btw.
I love you said there is now woo woo energy stuff. This is why you are an amazing Coach for men.
Superb post. Thank you!
Very naive post.
"Most men live lives of quiet desperation" - Thoreau
I am curious why is it that if women don't like living in a state of perpetual fear, why do they live in big cities where crime (including murder and rape) is 10x-20x worse than in suburbs or small towns?
I understand what you are saying, but the issue is not women vs. men, its romantic relationships are not worth your time. in the end, at some point, you will get hurt, and i dont know other people but i don't like to feel the pain of that, so i think being alone its the best way to go.
I can understand that, especially after you've been hurt before. Does being alone feel good to you?
I only ask because a lot of people feel like they don't have much choice. It is possible to heal from past relational wounds and learn to connect in new ways (and often with people who are capable of healthier relationships) so that you can enjoy romantic relationships without the hurt. It's a process, and it usually involves unwiring codependent patterns that most of us grow up with, and exploring our self esteem, childhood traumas and other internal experiences... so I'm not saying it is easy! It's hard work, and scary at times, and it's certainly fair to choose to be alone instead. For some people that is the most satisfying and comfortable choice, and they often find connection in places other than romantic relationships.
@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach
I'm learning to be alone again. Your content helped me to overcome and accept my new reality, but listening to a lot of experts in the topic i feel like the most logical conclusion (if you dont want to feel hurt again) is to remain single and not to look up for a romantic relationship because at the end most likely statistically speaking you will end up breaking up again. But by all means, i like your videos, like i said, you helped me a lot.
@@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach I have not much choice bc single women in my age (45 plus) are so much mentally troubled. It is really hard to find a normal healthy woman. All of them have severe mental or attachment issues. Almost 100%. Literally impossible.
The gentleman from PsychHacks says that many men start taking the red pill (learning what women value, how they make mating choices, and how it differs from men) but then choke on it. You’d need to get to the point that you understand what is motivating the 80/20 and just accept that. Why get angry at a squirrel because it climbs trees? In the end, you just have to build a life that you find meaningful, and hopefully that includes the relationships that we all need.
Red pill is about hating and despising women by the loser men. The Taraban is just cashing in from it.
Ok, this video is just brilliant, and it's kind of a shame that you directed it towards divorced/separated men, because it applies to *everyone*.
Very naive video.
People have better relationships after divorce because they understand better what they need and want and don’t repeat mistakes. They are older wiser and more inclined to make it work out of necessity. The need to have a companion later in life. These are variables this video overlooks.
What it also overlooks is that only 20% of post-divorce relationships survive longer than 2 years
No way. Totally wrong. People are way worse after divorce. The relationships and marriages last a way shorter than the marriage started as young. Check the statistics.
I am 49, divorced and discovered that women in my age are really massively mentally troubled. No exceptions, btw.