paraplegic answers questions you’re too afraid to ask wheelchair users: spinal cord injury

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  • Опубликовано: 9 янв 2025

Комментарии • 51

  • @SaturnsSnack
    @SaturnsSnack 3 месяца назад +20

    I’m not paraplegic but I’m going through a difficult time and your strength was very inspiring.

  • @mimz1173
    @mimz1173 10 месяцев назад +37

    I’ve had reconstructive surgery in my pelvic region including bowels and I really need the handicap stall sometimes because if I need to go I NEEEEED to go, like yesterday. And I would rather not soil or pee myself in public. So thanks to the people out there recognizing both visible and invisible disabilities! 🙏🏼❤️ you are amazing ❤

  • @lillywonka2248
    @lillywonka2248 3 года назад +25

    Thank you for doing this video, it was very informative. It's people like you who make society more comfortable talking about disabilities instead of just awkwardly trying to figure out how to navigate this sensitive situation.

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +10

      Haha yes or just avoiding them at any or all costs because they’re not sure what they should do! 😂

  • @RK-fz7qc
    @RK-fz7qc 10 месяцев назад +13

    I agree, You definitely should never shame someone seemingly ablebodied for using a handicap amenity of any sort! I have cerebral palsy and periventricular leukomalaysia, but I happen to not need the disabled stall. But I do need and use disabled seating on public transport if nothing else is available. I cannot stand on a moving bus and have severe chronic pain. Once, on a very bad day for me- I was in more severe pain that day due to the cold weather, I got on a full bus and sat in the disabled seat. A 60-ish yo woman got on and demanded the seat bec I’m “young and healthy” and I refused. I got labeled “disrespectful and part of an entitled generation” by all the surrounding people, which I quietly tried to ignore. They all shut up when I got up at my stop and limped off the bus. It was absolutely humiliating and I still get angry and embarrassed when I think about it. Don’t judge if you don’t know.

    • @Fruit430Journey-mn2qy
      @Fruit430Journey-mn2qy Месяц назад

      I'm sorry this happened to you. Yes, it's so difficult not to feel judged

  • @hannavignolo6454
    @hannavignolo6454 3 месяца назад +9

    car accidents are awful. I'm sorry that happened :(

  • @ThePhilosophicalOne
    @ThePhilosophicalOne 3 месяца назад +5

    God bless you, young lady. You have a lot of wisdom.

  • @mikekhan4149
    @mikekhan4149 3 года назад +22

    I am curious how you keep such a positive attitude. How do you not keep yourself from being so upset...you are so new to your injury I'm curious how you cope mentally.

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +31

      I’m not positive all the time, I think the last time I cried about something related to my injury was last night! But a lot of times I just have to trust that there’s a reason this has happened! And I know there’s a lot of other people other there going through the same things, it’s just that not all of them make videos about it 😂

    • @mikekhan4149
      @mikekhan4149 3 года назад +5

      @@ParaTara Thanks for sharing what you are...i honestly feel these are going to help. :)

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +11

      @@mikekhan4149 thank you! That actually means a lot 🤍

    • @irenedavo3768
      @irenedavo3768 3 месяца назад

      Music is annoying!

    • @eamylord
      @eamylord 2 месяца назад

      ​@@ParaTarayou are inspirationnal and so strong, you change people on the good side, I love youuuu ❤
      From France, thanks a lot !

  • @satanmessenger361
    @satanmessenger361 Месяц назад

    It's always good to have a sense of humour and be aware of fellow disabled people around you, and you are right about people it's not ok to bend down to speak to anybody slowly it's really not ok some people are badly educated about disability I have gone through it myself the way I dealt with it I asked not to do because it's not necessary

  • @MichaelRedding-z9o
    @MichaelRedding-z9o 2 месяца назад

    Great Q & A, I’m not an SCI patient but am disabled for other reasons and wish more people had your good sense / sensitivity to people who will never be able to walk normally again. Some people just don’t understand and think they are helping

  • @MultiSimon1993
    @MultiSimon1993 3 года назад +12

    Very interesting and informative video :) Can you show us what your daily life is like as a paraplegic? Like things you have to adapt to and still struggle with

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +7

      Yeah, probably! Thank you for the idea!

    • @MultiSimon1993
      @MultiSimon1993 3 года назад +2

      @@ParaTara You're welcome :) There are so many things you could demonstrate

  • @Hozay1228
    @Hozay1228 9 месяцев назад +8

    Ma’am, you have a beautiful soul, I thank our lord Jesus you are still with us. The world needs you.
    Also, thanks for the info.

  • @CharlieRomeoKiloSix5
    @CharlieRomeoKiloSix5 2 месяца назад +1

    If I have to go and all of the other stalls are occupied, I’ll use the handicap stall 10/10 times. Without thinking twice about it.

  • @saburwolf2792
    @saburwolf2792 2 месяца назад +1

    This is a Very Good Video, You are right about the word "crippled". It has a real negative vibe which causes people to have their spirts broken and go through a state of depression. Believe me, i know it's like to go through the negative vibes and go through the depression. But it doesn't mean i can give up that easily. I managed to come out strong, and sometimes i go through the emotions. But that doesn't stop from achieving my goals. For you(with very much respect🙏✊✌) you really came out strong, and done the impossible. Even though it sucks being in that situation, but you can still do the impossible. Do things that no other person can do. Always be proud of who you are. You have my full support💪💪💪💪✌✌✌✌✊✊✊✊♥♥❤❤. Keep Striving and Stay Positive. You Got This👍👍👍👍💯💯💯💯

  • @oworld4057
    @oworld4057 26 дней назад

    I hardly want to drive a car half the time anymore.

  • @juliatoledo4703
    @juliatoledo4703 10 месяцев назад +6

    About the second question, unless there are a language barrier(the standing person or the wheelchair user have some level of deafness, or there is a very loud sound nearby that you need to get closer to the wheelchair user to hear them and vice versa) or you of the two is trying to show some image or video or something in this matter, I think it's unnecessary to bend down.

  • @ololh4xx
    @ololh4xx 2 месяца назад +1

    the biggest question was not asked .. up until now : is it possible for you to feel anything *DOWN THERE*, meaning : your special nether regions ... can you get excited? Can you race to the finish-line?

    • @ThisIsMissCris
      @ThisIsMissCris 2 месяца назад +1

      I was wondering that too... 😶

    • @strength350
      @strength350 Месяц назад +1

      I have a complete SCI at t11-12 as well. Complete is the operative word. There is no function or sensation below the injury. That includes "down there".

    • @ololh4xx
      @ololh4xx Месяц назад

      @@strength350 thank you for your reply ... one additional question, if you want to answer it : did your accident also "deactivate" your sex drive? If it didnt : how do you manage to cope?

  • @zhangxulei9657
    @zhangxulei9657 3 года назад +5

    I am also a spinal cord injury patient , I broke my neck 2 months ago now i have started to walk.

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +5

      Oh that’s dope, I’m so happy to hear that!!

    • @zhangxulei9657
      @zhangxulei9657 3 года назад +3

      @@ParaTara Believe that everything is possible!

  • @T11paraplegic
    @T11paraplegic 3 года назад +3

    I'm also a T 11

  • @Charles-lane277
    @Charles-lane277 8 месяцев назад +1

    Were you driving when the car accident happened or were you a passenger?

  • @zackarymartin8796
    @zackarymartin8796 3 месяца назад

    U are a fighting some people don't realize how strong people are when some one go throw what u been throw

  • @medicopter117ism
    @medicopter117ism 3 года назад +10

    Hi How old are you. (My disability is called Cerebral palsy) Take care and good luck 😍

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +5

      I’m 17 but I was 16 when I was injured! Thank you!

    • @RK-fz7qc
      @RK-fz7qc 10 месяцев назад +1

      Hey, I’ve got CP too! And something called periventricular leukomalaysia

    • @irenedavo3768
      @irenedavo3768 3 месяца назад

      @@ParaTarawe do not use handicapped word refers to cap in hand! Begging!

  • @angelabasset4960
    @angelabasset4960 9 месяцев назад +1

    Just wondering how were you paralyzed?

    • @bigkmoviesandgames
      @bigkmoviesandgames 8 месяцев назад +1

      0:07

    • @j-m0n3y89
      @j-m0n3y89 3 месяца назад

      She got into a car accident. Idk who was at fault, but this is why u don’t fuck around while ur behind the wheel.

  • @LiaMac12
    @LiaMac12 10 месяцев назад +1

    Hey girl! Love your videos and love that you shared all this stuff.
    As a fellow Christian, I think it would be beautiful if you could share your testimony around your faith with respect to the accident. I know a lot of people struggle with faith and life-changing injuries. ❤❤

  • @obi1324
    @obi1324 Месяц назад

    You are cool!

  • @CherrrrBear
    @CherrrrBear 8 месяцев назад

    Where did she go? Why did she stop making videos?

    • @jboj8430
      @jboj8430 8 месяцев назад +4

      I'm pretty sure she focuses on Short content now. You can view them on her page under Shorts.

  • @Terrell3839
    @Terrell3839 3 года назад

    Can u show how u transfer

    • @ParaTara
      @ParaTara  3 года назад +2

      I might do that video soon! Hold on!

  • @Ritaki2017
    @Ritaki2017 3 месяца назад

    ❤❤