Downsize Your Life: Why Less is More | Rita Wilkins | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

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  • @geoffowen4158
    @geoffowen4158 6 лет назад +346

    Don't go to the shop!!!!! Do something else. Go swimming. Go for a walk. Visit your neighbours. Check on the elderly. Be kind to yourself. Save your money. Money is useful. Clutter isn't.

    • @AnnaSzabo
      @AnnaSzabo 3 года назад +23

      Amen! Amen! Amen!!!!
      I’m moving out of a 2BRD 2BA in Atlanta to a smaller city to save on rent. I sold EVERYTHING and have cash instead of stuff. I’m so free!!!!!!

    • @katrinm9286
      @katrinm9286 2 года назад +15

      So true. One should teach this in school.

    • @jelizabethpetrie6656
      @jelizabethpetrie6656 2 года назад +7

      My best times playing with my kids, my dogs & working the garden. Better than a vacation.

    • @softtrain-1550
      @softtrain-1550 2 года назад +1

      @@AnnaSzabowhat do you have now?

    • @dinaschirripa95
      @dinaschirripa95 4 месяца назад

      HAHAHAH FULLY SPOT ON RIGHT

  • @charliewilkins8888
    @charliewilkins8888 3 года назад +106

    I was raised that you live below your means. Reward yourself once in a while but never be extravagant. And always have emergency money.... I follow that plan today.

    • @jakejake7289
      @jakejake7289 3 года назад +1

      Yes! This outlook has served me well also.

    • @luisitotv7699
      @luisitotv7699 3 года назад +2

      Is that you Dave Ramsey?

  • @FatallyYours230
    @FatallyYours230 7 лет назад +762

    Did this a while back, got rid of 95% of my stuff and I am so much more happier, minimalism is the key to a stress free happy environment!

    • @rozenart5768
      @rozenart5768 6 лет назад +15

      ANDY WRIGHT how did you start it? How did you get rid of stuff?! I need help I could just walk out of my house and leave it all behind but there’s my husband... Please give me some ideas!!!

    • @morningmom6
      @morningmom6 6 лет назад +4

      ANDY WRIGHT Was it difficult for you? Any tips? Tia!

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 6 лет назад +3

      ANDY WRIGHT controlled clutter for bartering in hard times.

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 6 лет назад +2

      Simply Julie I hope you gave it to the homeless shelters.

    • @Nate1975
      @Nate1975 6 лет назад +6

      yes, i am going through 'its still too much' and i am down to 20 items and i keep on wanting to get rid of more

  • @heathsavage9459
    @heathsavage9459 6 лет назад +840

    My partner and I recently decided to sell our house and move to rural Spain, where we will teach English online and run three rooms on Air B&B. No more early morning commute, fighting for parking space, arriving home on a Friday exhausted and cranky, and living for the (short!) weekend. It's a gamble, but we will live mortgage-free, grow our own food, and spend more time together in the fresh open air.

    • @Wookieeoidia
      @Wookieeoidia 6 лет назад +3

      may i ask where you found that type of work online? I have looked at a few sites but cannot find a real opportunity to do this

    • @GenghisCalm692
      @GenghisCalm692 6 лет назад +9

      That's inspiring and brave

    • @TSunshineful
      @TSunshineful 6 лет назад +6

      I want to do that but have no clue how to start

    • @pragawa
      @pragawa 5 лет назад +7

      Wishing you joy.
      Love from India.

    • @Cate7451
      @Cate7451 5 лет назад +7

      Road Runner road runner start by just researching what does it cost to rent an air b&b. Talk to some who do it. It's probably moe of a time commitment than you would think. Downsize and sell all you can. Take courses in running a business. Hire a lawyer, agent who deals with business abroad. Go to Spain and check things out.🙂

  • @64ytb
    @64ytb 6 лет назад +54

    We want so much, we need so little. -Enlightened master Sri Chinmoy.

  • @villavictoria4615
    @villavictoria4615 6 лет назад +821

    We buy stuff that we don’t need, with money that we don’t have, to impress people that we don’t like👆 less is more indeed

    • @NewEarthBlog
      @NewEarthBlog 5 лет назад +13

      That is not true of everyone.

    • @linanicolia1994
      @linanicolia1994 5 лет назад +24

      I don't think we buy to impress but we buy because we like what we see and we want it....that simple. Stuff owns us......

    • @MrChrisGER
      @MrChrisGER 5 лет назад +9

      Fight Club

    • @lavenderhearts101
      @lavenderhearts101 5 лет назад +3

      Well said.

    • @chrisdurgin1209
      @chrisdurgin1209 5 лет назад +6

      George Carlin stuff look it up

  • @danalissy5811
    @danalissy5811 4 года назад +103

    When we downsize, we become the... nightmare of economists/consumerists ! In other words, we become truly FREE !

    • @globalmuffin2
      @globalmuffin2 4 года назад

      free from what?

    • @jeannesjoberg8656
      @jeannesjoberg8656 4 года назад +8

      Yes agree, free from stuff that weighs us down and never satisfies our heart’s emptiness. We all NEED God.

    • @scottsmith2613
      @scottsmith2613 4 года назад +1

      Dana Lissy You’re very correct. Where you from? I’d like to know you.

    • @scottsmith2613
      @scottsmith2613 4 года назад +3

      Jeanne Sjoberg God is the greatest .

  • @prashant199219
    @prashant199219 5 лет назад +57

    Just incredible. The less you own the more happiness you will possess.

  • @ionascholtz1036
    @ionascholtz1036 2 года назад +6

    She's older and wiser. It takes many years to get to this profound understanding. I decided this 20 years ago and it is a great feeling.

  • @CarmenShenk
    @CarmenShenk 4 года назад +39

    We loved our tiny house, and now we love our small house. Getting rid of stuff and embracing a more minimalist approach has been great for us! I enjoyed her message!

  • @eugenefromaustralia4644
    @eugenefromaustralia4644 5 лет назад +15

    Thank you Rita, so true; it's not rocket science. I walk the Caminos in France, Spain and Portugal and for months at a time only have 7-8kgs of essentials on my back. The sense of freedom - less is best. I have also totally de-cluttered my home and my shed!! Yes it is life-changing and I am happier now than ever before.

  • @OldMeanGeezer
    @OldMeanGeezer 6 лет назад +323

    You don't OWN things! Things OWN YOU!

    • @ruthmaryrose
      @ruthmaryrose 5 лет назад +3

      Kevin Loving Exactly!! Next time you see something you think you absolutely have to have think about that. Or I’ll pretend I’m in a museum where I can only look and not touch.

    • @NewEarthBlog
      @NewEarthBlog 5 лет назад

      Not if you like your things, but in a detached way, meaning you don't feel you can't do without them.

    • @DavidSmith-gj2dm
      @DavidSmith-gj2dm 5 лет назад

      Although most advertisers while use the concept of “it will make you better than your peers “ , it’s a delusion that most of us will not admit to .but applies none the less .

    • @Bogeyman19DidNotScareMyAss
      @Bogeyman19DidNotScareMyAss 4 года назад

      Kevin Loving I like caps lock too

    • @YogaWithBri
      @YogaWithBri 4 года назад +2

      Ooo I’ve never heard this but I like.✊🏼

  • @mamashiraz
    @mamashiraz 4 года назад +11

    YES. 👏 I’ve been sorting clothes and gave 6 bags away to an organization that helps the homeless and I feel so good! My environment is cleaner, less clutter and feels lighter. Feels free!! ❤️

  • @DanaDobsonPR
    @DanaDobsonPR 6 лет назад +114

    Rita's story inspires me to simplify my life and keep what matters.

    • @ajohonly3721
      @ajohonly3721 4 года назад

      Dana Dobson love your first name Miss Dana

    • @scottsmith2613
      @scottsmith2613 4 года назад

      Dana Dobson True. Where you from?

  • @mariekatherine5238
    @mariekatherine5238 6 лет назад +39

    I had a three room apartment in a pre-war building in Manhattan. Every closet was packed, bookshelves overflowing, working 14+ hours day for its upkeep and maintenance. After cleaning a deceased relative’s home and selling it, I decided not to put anyone else through it. I still live in Manhattan, but in a single room made into a mini studio. It suits me fine. I work 45-48 hour weeks and rediscovered the joy of my job. Best move ever!

    • @spenser9908
      @spenser9908 3 года назад +2

      I'm thinking of doing the same by swopping me 3-bedroom house for a 1-bedroom flat so I can work less and have more time and freedom to try other things.

    • @befree9579
      @befree9579 2 года назад

      @@spenser9908 How did it go?

  • @anitavirginillo
    @anitavirginillo 2 года назад +3

    Been a minimalist for over 20 years and I love it!!!!

  • @sandrawinfrey5176
    @sandrawinfrey5176 5 лет назад +13

    Six sets of dishes just to use poolside and I never had a pool party. Divorce downsizing was a reality check and ultimate relief. Years later still developing 💆🏽‍♀️🇹🇹 invited people to take any of the expensive things I collected and were now in my way

  • @truelily7
    @truelily7 6 лет назад +454

    Are most of you commenting from middle class childhood homes? I was not. We lived below poverty level and I live below it now that I am elderly. I know stuff doesn't Make you happy but I enjoy the things I have acquired over time. I spent most of my life on low income and sometimes welfare. I was not very happy when just trying to make ends meet. Poverty is not fun. I have a very strong spiritual path so I do accept whatever comes my way, And I am happy but life is a struggle to just keep utilities on and food on the table and medical. I need dental work done into the thousands and there is no way. This lady is well dressed and has her own company. Most of my clothes are thrift shop. All I am saying is it is much different when you have always been middle class or above. I notice that many with this philosophy have never been poor financially.

    • @returnofthereasoner3200
      @returnofthereasoner3200 6 лет назад +84

      Truelily7, I can so identify with what you are saying. It is much easier to downsize and let things go when you have the means to replace/re-buy those items if and when that becomes necessary. I am in the same boat with you and am paddling furiously just to stay afloat. Wishing you all the best.

    • @devlevine2782
      @devlevine2782 6 лет назад +78

      I can relate to what Youre saying. People have no idea what its like to be poor.

    • @jimsmith9853
      @jimsmith9853 6 лет назад +50

      Your correct.
      The rich hanging out on the other side of the tracks for a while is as old as time.
      They can go back any time they want and that makes all the difference.
      Many do when "slumming" loses its fun factor.
      Then they can tell of their "Adventure" at the cocktail parties and get points for knowing the struggles of the downtrodden.

    • @belssage
      @belssage 5 лет назад +47

      I was thinking the same. I was born with a life-threatening illness and struggle with health care and, of course, poor health. I did downsize and live simply. Not because I needed a change, but because it is the only way. I'm 55 with over 8.5 years of higher education and I'm required (by law) to disclose my illness prior to being hired. I can also be denied employment because of my illness and have been. My illness is neither contagious nor does it affect my ability to do my job. Denied disability. So I've lived in poverty the majority of my life as well. Still interested in hearing others stories.

    • @annikajohnson2100
      @annikajohnson2100 5 лет назад +32

      I absolutely see your point here and I think it really is something we need to take into consideration when we discuss all these “downsizing” “living with less”ideas. Most discussions like these never taken in to consideration people who are poor financially and don’t have the means to rebuy. I believe you should have possessions and take great pride in them but they shouldn’t control you life. At least to me as someone who has grown up in a middle-low class home this mindset seems particularly aimed toward middle and upper class for a reason. The amount of stuff people accumulate when they have excess money is insane, and to me humans simply don’t need that much to survive. I can’t say I’m ever going to be a minimalist but there is definitely some truth is having less just because you don’t want to be wasteful and have things you never use. To have food, clothes, makeup, cds or whatever in mass amounts is bad for the environment and not a necessity if you never use them. That is the main reason why I am watching this video. As nice as it seems living in a mansion doesn’t make sense for one person middle upper class (myself included) just need to think more consciously about what we buy. Materialism isn’t everything and contributes to pollution and urban sprawl among other things. Sorry for the long post, I never post comments especially ones this lengthy. Just thought you brought up an interesting point and wanted to add on. Thanks 🐞🐞🐞
      edit: I’m not saying I agree with everything she says here but she makes a few good points

  • @ejc5105
    @ejc5105 4 года назад +5

    I live in a 435 square foot apartment and have no desire for a bigger place. I absolutely love where I'm located. I have a short trip to work, my climbing gym is a minute walk away, groceries and restaurants are within walking distance, and my family is pretty close by. My utilities are cheap, I have everything I need and want, I don't stress over my few possessions, and I'm very financially secure. Other friends and family members have huge homes, or a lot more nice things than me, but I can't say with conviction that any of them are actually happier. They seem often spiritually unfulfilled and saddled with financial stress.

  • @susanbehring3401
    @susanbehring3401 6 лет назад +11

    My daughter was in the Peace Corps for 2 years in Gambia and she is the same now. I learned a lot from her.

  • @mspoetminor
    @mspoetminor 5 лет назад +45

    I've been practicing being a minimalist for a year. Love it!

  • @LyfUninterrupted
    @LyfUninterrupted 5 лет назад +7

    We did this and couldn’t be happier. Sold our 3000 square foot home and most of our stuff. We are now living full-time in our motorhome and enjoying a life unencumbered by all the trappings or a “normal” life.

  • @helengore8655
    @helengore8655 5 лет назад +10

    In 2016 I was forced to downsize - and I thought the worst! I am now living the life I love being able to afford to travel and do stuff I enjoy because I have freed up my money! Less is more for sure and I am now going to do some designing for my future life. Forget shopping - live with less and live happy!

  • @rosiecruz5926
    @rosiecruz5926 6 лет назад +8

    I'm working on decluttering my life now, that includes apartment, debts, and unhealthy things in life. Tough journey for someone that was a shopaholic!

  • @juliannacalifornia
    @juliannacalifornia 2 года назад +3

    I did the same. But after I gave everything away, i bought a new hightop van, decked it out, and now i live and travel in 68 square feet on wheels. Im gloriously happy.

  • @kimhazelwood5337
    @kimhazelwood5337 6 лет назад +43

    'Stuff' never makes you happy. Love, sharing, life experiences, interaction with others is what makes us as a species feel most fulfilled.

    • @globalmuffin2
      @globalmuffin2 4 года назад

      love is a fairy tale and experiences e.g. trips are overpriced.

    • @scottsmith2613
      @scottsmith2613 4 года назад

      Kim Hazelwood You very correct. Where you from? I’d like to know you.

  • @Maddie-fb2fl
    @Maddie-fb2fl 6 лет назад +5

    It's not what we possessed outside our heart but it's what we possessed inside your heart. Much love Rita. ❤🌹

  • @PHDinMeTV
    @PHDinMeTV 6 лет назад +7

    Keeping affection for things but losing attachment to things helps in this process. 🌸

  • @chuckhines459
    @chuckhines459 4 года назад +4

    I lived in Kenya for a year and knew so many people that had nothing but were always happy.

    • @mungimichael3131
      @mungimichael3131 3 года назад

      Come to Uganda, im already to take you around

  • @marih3286
    @marih3286 2 года назад +1

    I faced the same challenge. I first moved into my smaller home taking only the bare necessities. I sold items online and through a Consignment shop. I gave away tons to charity and I still had 3 large storage units! It took 1.5 years to clear them out, (covid-related, weather-related delays), but I finally broke free. My simpler life is much more rewarding.

  • @wonthefight
    @wonthefight 5 лет назад +23

    I am slowly but surely getting rid of the excess in my home. It's not easy, but I'm determined.

    • @AprilJoi5
      @AprilJoi5 2 года назад

      How did it go? Are you still in transition?

  • @rajulshah768
    @rajulshah768 4 года назад +5

    I wanted to don his for a long time. And then, a financial catastrophe pushed me to it. I am at peace with my downsized stuff and living in a small apartment at my own terms. Thanks for your words!!👍👍🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @Noor-jw2tn
    @Noor-jw2tn 5 лет назад +17

    "Can anyone relate?"No! My teenage daughter 20 years ago said one day." Mum, I never see you buy clothes " to which I replied" I don't have money to buy myself clothes. " Sounds sad and it was to a degree. But things never owned me, and I was never weighed down by them. I probably live on 05% of what this women now lives on. I love my life. Ps. I now have more than I have ever had. X

  • @im7175
    @im7175 Год назад +1

    What a beautiful message to those in NEED of additional support with overflowing shortage of closet space, making a CONSCIOUS decision to pass on your goods to ppl who are much more in NEED of your surplus of requirements. I really appreciate the thought process of GIVING, to BLESS another. Especially helping the less fortunate in society.we've got no control in the SPIRITUAL gifts that may cross our PATHS. It's much more than a NEW clothes garment, answered with a all clear from our DOCTORS...is our REAL wealth. A GIFT of good HEALTH we may receive fr above, from our OWN good DEEDS 🕊️

  • @sudeshnaghoshal1511
    @sudeshnaghoshal1511 4 года назад +9

    Thank you Ma'am for this inspiring speech. I started downsizing my needs 3 to 4 yrs back and now it has become a part of my life.

  • @razashah4878
    @razashah4878 6 лет назад +27

    Once a wise man was asked that why we hate DEATH. He replied that We have exhausted all our efforts in decorating this world and have nothing for next world. So we dont want to shift from this world to next world.
    Someone asked Mola Ali asws that what gives strength to our body. He asws replied FOOD. Than he was asked that what gives strength to our spirit. He asws again replied FOOD. People said hows that possible? Mola ALI asws replied that when u put food in your mouth it gives strength to your body and when you put food in someone else mouth then it gives strength to your SOUL.

  • @acrazydream9408
    @acrazydream9408 6 лет назад +73

    I've been letting go and cleansing and I am loving the experience. I'm releasing.

    • @greyferguson9319
      @greyferguson9319 6 лет назад +5

      A Crazy Dream ,
      So have I! I donate, consign, and give away. What a great feeling. . .decluttering and helping others too.

    • @globalmuffin2
      @globalmuffin2 4 года назад

      @@greyferguson9319 since when throwing your work away is a great feeling?

    • @globalmuffin2
      @globalmuffin2 4 года назад

      @@Julie-ev5js One can't right past wrongs. yes. well said. problem with giveaways is that they usually land on landfields. it would be wise to use something until it becomes unusable. this is the only way of saving the planet.

  • @neetikhanna558
    @neetikhanna558 5 лет назад +17

    I can relate
    Even I am drowning in my stuff and want to downsize
    I have seen this video a number of times
    Well said
    Choose to live with less

  • @cbruman2
    @cbruman2 Год назад +2

    Yes! Thank you for this talk. I too lived in a huge house but recently downsized to a small condo. I am still adjusting to the smaller space but overall feel much freer.

  • @trishachamberlain5692
    @trishachamberlain5692 6 лет назад +11

    Same here. I taught EASL in Jamaica. Poverty was overbearing when I first got there, but the people, at THAT time we're loving, caring, and a pleasure to be around; and they had NOTHING! My waste was more than they had. Changes your LIFE! I'm happy in my two very loosely furnished unit......I WANT for nothing but have all I NEED! Great talk. Thank you.

    • @greyferguson9319
      @greyferguson9319 6 лет назад +1

      Trisha Chamberlain ,
      My husband found the same thing when he went to Guatemala on a missions trip, and son also when he went to the Dominican republic. People they met didn't have much, but appreciated what they did have.

  • @peachesb-georgia1125
    @peachesb-georgia1125 5 лет назад +2

    That was the first thing I did...got rid of more than three-quarters of the clothes I had in my closets... really expensive stuff too...dresses that cost over $300 and suits more than$700... etc and etc...true I can't wear a 4 or a 6 anymore... but that's not the point...I only buy what I absolutely need... been on several mission trips... had to pay my own way...more generous now and I am much happier... have a wonderful son and a beautiful granddaughter...I am blessed and so thankful for where I am and what I have... be blessed...

  • @francismausley7239
    @francismausley7239 6 лет назад +2

    I became a Minimalist in a spiritual rebirth in 1967 and it goes on. True seekers should "Put away all covetousness and seek contentment..." "He should be content with little, and be freed from all inordinate desire." ~ Abdul-Baha, Baha'i Writings

  • @linb7932
    @linb7932 6 лет назад +7

    I admire this lady. She's an inspiration to all.

  • @alyahamzah3605
    @alyahamzah3605 6 лет назад +47

    I think its all about perspective.
    I used to want to live in a smaller space with minimal stuff, and that was exactly what I did..but now that I am older, I realise that what I really want and is actually to have less stuff but more space because as with most Asian cultures, my life very much revolves around my family. The family does not just consist of the nucleus family but also ageing parents, aunties and uncles, cousins and their children, as well as neighbours and friends.
    So its not really practical to live in a small 'jewel box' where family and friends are not able to comfortably visit and congregate.
    In my culture, it is still normal for relatives to come unannounced from out of state and its good manners to offer them a few days stay in your home.
    So small living spaces that cater just for 1 or 2 individuals does not really work for communities that have a great emphasis on maintaining family ties.
    I guess its great to live in a small space when you dont have parents wanting to stay overnight or a battalion of nephews and nieces who will visit you.

    • @LucyPooh777
      @LucyPooh777 2 года назад +1

      Amen to that sister 👍 Sometimes perspective of bigger space is not necessarily more or less stuff. But for more family members and friends who visit & to have enough space for all of us to commune, in particular aging parents and uncles, who as you said is typical of our Asian culture.

    • @TheresaTV1
      @TheresaTV1 2 года назад +1

      I agree. My goal is to get rid of the clutter so I can enjoy the space more.

    • @elizabethwilk9615
      @elizabethwilk9615 2 года назад +2

      Same here. We are of a Mediterranean culture and we like hanging out with family - close and extended and also love having friends. My aging parents are included in all. We love that and of course space helps.

  • @ladyblue3255
    @ladyblue3255 4 года назад +4

    Good for you. I'm working on it. I given away alot of stuff within last couple of years. I feel better and more air comes out in my living room and the other room as well. Thank you.

  • @joblake3646
    @joblake3646 6 лет назад +2

    This is so inspirational, why do we think stuff/things- she helps me see what life is about. I want to go to the Congo, maybe Senegal. Downsizing is the key, and grew the company. I pray to live with less for more.
    I want to use my mind and heart to get into control and disrupt my life for good.

  • @mov1ngforward
    @mov1ngforward 6 лет назад +24

    Bravo! Travel has an incredible way of showing us what really matters. I went from 2000 sf to 605 sf...and I kept the best of the best. My posessions went far and wide and I still get rid of things, some have sentimental value but I don't want that particular memory any longer. I replace clothes or items when broken or worn out and I no longer buy multiples.
    I always wondered how overwhelmed Candy Spelling felt in that large house of hers with a gift wrapping room !!
    I admire you for asking for help. I couldn't and it took me took much longer...but it's done now. My best to you! 👏

  • @rachelgong9739
    @rachelgong9739 6 лет назад +9

    I was fully attracted by her talk and the way she presented.

  • @sharonwalters6135
    @sharonwalters6135 5 лет назад +1

    This is all good. And I so agree. I think one of the most important element that you missed was the time to spend with God and being prepared 4 living forever with him. We cannot exclude him from any part of our life.

  • @atis9061
    @atis9061 5 лет назад +5

    Excellent. Good for her! This is a new health movement, the movement of minimalism.

  • @priyankasarvaiya7150
    @priyankasarvaiya7150 6 лет назад +40

    I also downsized. I found my happiness. I realized that i was filling that void with useless stuff which never made me happy.
    It would collect dust. Cleaning is easier. My home looks peaceful and clutterfree.

    • @MotherMuse
      @MotherMuse 6 лет назад +2

      priyanka sarvaiya So great for you!! 💗
      Work in progress for me! xo

  • @alnoove9064
    @alnoove9064 6 лет назад +3

    Good luck Rita, all the best and thanks for your thoughts.

  • @charissemarei4272
    @charissemarei4272 4 года назад +2

    Inspiring, Impactful, Life-Changing! To remove the 'stuff' from physical spaces also rejuvenates the body, the mind, and brings forth new freedom. Thank you, Rita, for sharing your remarkable story and to be living the life you speak of. Hats off to you!

  • @piairawan
    @piairawan 6 лет назад +5

    This kind of thing stuck in my mind the last few years,downsizing life,make it simple and more time to travel and enjoy other part of world ,thanks for the video 🙏🏻❤️

  • @waynestewart1054
    @waynestewart1054 6 лет назад +3

    Same thing happened to me went on a mission trip in 98 came back changed my perspective started investing in real estate and retired at 53

  • @Mio-kh5oe
    @Mio-kh5oe 6 лет назад +4

    This is a great talk. Downsizing is my goal to achieve until 65(I am now 51). I wish I could realise my goal. When my mother died, there was so many staff that I had to get rid of. She used to buy expensive clothes and pairs of shoes. It made her probably be fulfilled for a certain moment. My dad was travelling around the world on business. Therefore, she felt alone. Shopping had been compensating for her lonely feeling. Without our notice, she had debts. She bought expensive staff without telling my dad and borrowed money from a loan shark. When I look back at the time, when she was alive, she did not seem to be very happy to own things. As I knew it and I had to get rid of her staff after her death, I was becoming more aware of downsizing with controlling consumption behaviour. And my dad was diagnosed with dementia 10 years later after her death who passed away last year. Their big nice house turned into a dilapidated house. My dad was not able to remember any of staff that he owned. The only things that I took from there were my sweet memory of our happpy family days. Making the balance between downsizing, consumption behaviour and mental happiness is at the end the key of our life to achieve.

    • @MarshmilloJB
      @MarshmilloJB 2 года назад +1

      I just read this and I know it’s been 3 years, but I’m glad you took the memories of happy family days. Those are all that matter, in the end

  • @michellemoore0970
    @michellemoore0970 6 лет назад +9

    I just downsized from a 1200 square feet home to an 800 square feet home and it feels really great!

  • @katrichards6541
    @katrichards6541 5 лет назад +3

    Going thru this awareness right now, decluttering will downsize my home, yards etc

  • @israelphoenix
    @israelphoenix 6 лет назад +64

    I wish companies understood this principle. You can't get more productivity out of eternally exhausted employees.

    • @soglossytv9794
      @soglossytv9794 6 лет назад +1

      Oh amen,couldn't have said it better my self.

    • @angiebutler227
      @angiebutler227 6 лет назад

      Tiny Home Georgia, Amen!!!! You are soooo telling the truth.

    • @marycasper6514
      @marycasper6514 5 лет назад

      Tiny Home Georgia "AMEN" again from CASPER your friendly ghost writer ((>:)

  • @usaputhawong8706
    @usaputhawong8706 5 лет назад +3

    Me too, I try to eat one meal a day, not buy anymore clothes, things which no need in life. I find it more happy I am.

  • @DrFeliciaClark
    @DrFeliciaClark 5 лет назад +3

    Just love your message Rita!!! It is inspiring me right now today to get rid of stuff I am keeping only because it looks good, "belongs" in a furnished home or was given to me with an obligation to keep it for an undefined long period of time. It feels good to release. Thanks for the inspiration.

  • @Sophesi
    @Sophesi 5 лет назад +5

    We knew once the kids were all done with college, we were going to downsize. The house was 3300 sq feet Over the course of two years, I began consigning all of our stuff they sold 70% of our stuff. The remaining stuff went to a pet charity Our new house is perfect for us in so many ways life is better with less stuff and it is truly the ultimate freedom

  • @smallfootprint2961
    @smallfootprint2961 6 лет назад +135

    I did it. It took several years because I had to re decide, every time I got through what I thought was the goal, to go further. Eventually, I knew I was going to sell my house and seriously downsize. Then it all went in to high gear and now I'm in my small space and love it. I'm not sure, I'm home, though. I've been resting and, getting acquainted with my surroundings/the area. I have time. Life is a series of decisions. Moving here is just one decision. Downsizing is a 'spiritual' experience. Thank you for sharing some of your experience.

    • @mamabear8565
      @mamabear8565 6 лет назад +9

      small footprint I've been on my minimalizim journey for about 6 months now. Over & over I purge & re-purge. It helps to designate a container of sorts for a particular group of items. If it doesn't fit in that container, either something already in it has to go or the thing I'm trying to fit in there has to go. We won't even get into how many various robes I had. I found a 3 hook shelf. I now have 3 robes. A terry cloth bath robe, a fleece house robe, & a satin summer house coat for say answering the door when I'm not decent. Still a lil excessive. But. I love & use them all of them. And they all have a home on that hook shelf.

    • @karlyg8170
      @karlyg8170 6 лет назад +3

      small footprint

    • @collettecaraway2759
      @collettecaraway2759 6 лет назад +5

      Think I'm next

    • @lisanicholls2706
      @lisanicholls2706 5 лет назад +4

      yes clutter +stuff weighs you down and holds you back.
      accumulated junk really, worthless stuff really.
      I need to declutter.
      How do we get it anyway...... stuff......
      What we need, live, travel.

  • @LACahn
    @LACahn 6 лет назад +35

    What a powerful message. Daring and wonderful to redesign and downsize your life for more happiness.

  • @KyriaNunNuit
    @KyriaNunNuit 5 лет назад +46

    I hope she thought of those villagers, too, when she was downsizing and giving away to those who need and sent a bit of her redundant overabundance their way as well. What really gave those villagers the strength to survive in their extreme poverty without despairing was their sense of community; their ability to love and care for each other and to share the little they had.

    • @ericab9050
      @ericab9050 2 года назад +1

      I'm sure her boy is taking care of the villagers😇

  • @cliffordl.2943
    @cliffordl.2943 5 лет назад +1

    I love this story. I love that you are making more money and working less. I am so happy for you. God bless.

  • @nasreenpardiwala3179
    @nasreenpardiwala3179 6 лет назад +68

    Wish world leaders would take a similar trip to countries like Syria, and downsize the destruction and havoc one section of humanity is unleashing on another.Yes downsizing of greed,hate and violence would be the redemption.Peace to all.

  • @kalusuganaquasea5427
    @kalusuganaquasea5427 4 года назад +2

    I Love it, thankfully Im awake now I live my life in a peaceful way, living in the Island is everything. No shopping

  • @sureshkothari8329
    @sureshkothari8329 4 года назад +2

    In one of my visits to a remote village in Uttrakhand I found people living on frugal means but found them to be peaceful and happy & enjoying every small moment of happiness.

  • @nathanielcarreon5634
    @nathanielcarreon5634 5 лет назад +21

    Things dont make us any happier after you reach a certain point or level.

  • @marshafisch
    @marshafisch 5 лет назад +3

    I think some of the posts on hear need to "LISTEN TO THE SIMILARITIES AND NOT THE DIFFERENCES". I can find myself in and out of this women's story. We have a lot NOT in common but we also have a lot IN common. I loved her story about her "fathers clock" - finding a new home for that must have been difficult! As she said, it was even painful to do so! I ask myself... Am I willing to walk through some pain to have a better - simplified - freer life? But she was willing to go to any length to find the peace and serenity she was looking for - she desired. I say... GOOD JOB! It is my desire to learn from other peoples mistakes... other peoples wisdom... take what works for me and leave the rest. Sometimes... if we just listen... we can ALWAYS learn something. To poo - poo - her words and life's experiences is really sad.

  • @choosetoshine2610
    @choosetoshine2610 6 лет назад +43

    I, too, living on this new journey! I love it! It's total freedom.

  • @lizbrian5288
    @lizbrian5288 6 лет назад +45

    I used to own a 3,700 square foot house on a half acre lot. After 2 moves, I own a 1,542 square foot home on .06 acres. I owe nothing on my home, or 6 year old car. I carry no credit card debt. My life now is so much simpler. I am retired so I do whatever I like - volunteer, travel, play Bridge. I now live in south Florida, but I miss Southern Rhode Island, where I lived for 15+ years. I struggle with the urge to buy a small home there, even though I can afford it because I know that buying a second home will add a lot of complication to my life. In future years, I plan to rent for 2-3 months each summer in Southern Rhode Island. It’s much simpler that way.

    • @patriciabrennan5518
      @patriciabrennan5518 6 лет назад

      F

    • @keepitsimpleydb6151
      @keepitsimpleydb6151 4 года назад

      Sounds like a good plan!

    • @jakejake7289
      @jakejake7289 3 года назад

      Good plan. Mine is the same. Have one small home base in Michigan. Rent one part of the year in different warm parts of the country during the winter.

  • @nachis3
    @nachis3 6 лет назад +7

    I had started to declutter about 3 years ago as I kept hearing the Lord telling me to get my house in order. Then last year around this time my home flooded with hurricane Harvey and I had water in there 8 days. We lost so much but now my home is remodeled and I love it now because I don't have much and I don't want much more. How liberating. Thank you God. So much freedom.

  • @sanhara2747
    @sanhara2747 2 года назад +2

    I just moved from 2,500 sq ft house to 35 ft RV. What an experience

  • @jeffinetlyjeffbi9770
    @jeffinetlyjeffbi9770 4 года назад

    I had a friend (passed away) whos brother went to South America with intention to drill oil Wells... Somewhere in that quest he drilled a water well for a small community, the people held him high! he never went without. The very act of giving others clean water is awesome, that saved lives made quality of life better... As a former water well driller i can tell you i drilled Wells that now supply Las Vegas with water.. that's awesome! My point is the little things in life are the most important.

  • @Vesper_Songs
    @Vesper_Songs 3 года назад

    I downsized too a number of years ago and could not be happier with the decision. I love living in my 1,100 square foot condo and I don't miss any of the stuff I got rid of. I have more time, more money, fewer worries, less stress and less work.

  • @sarahmcgee6269
    @sarahmcgee6269 5 лет назад

    I can truly, truly identify with what she's saying. My husband and I worked many years, bought a BIG house, beautiful furniture, cars and trucks, and lots of clothes. We retired and changed our life!!!!! NOW, we live very simple. We got rid of"everything, it took 2 years to get rid of all that "stuff", including the house and moved to another State (in an apartment). We now live VERY simple, no fancy furniture or clothes (or cars). We have one car, a small apartment, and PEACE OF MIND, and we've never been happier.

  • @francismausley7239
    @francismausley7239 4 года назад +2

    Can't get enough spirit in my life... "Be content with little." "Put away all covetousness and seek contentment; for the covetous hath ever been deprived, and the contented hath ever been loved and praised.” ~ Baha'i Faith

  • @prizantsproducts4u
    @prizantsproducts4u 6 лет назад +2

    Oh, Praise God! What a wonderful and blessed story. I was there in 2010 from sickness (now cured via Jesus the supreme healer!) I lost everything, but I had previous prayed to the L-rd for a simpler life, and BOOM, he sure did. I was jobbed (you know Job from the Bible) lost everything! At the time I was wondering L-rd what is going on but then I found it to be a blessing in disguise! G-d bless you dear lady, you did find happiness! You know it is NOT the stuff! Store up treasures in heaven! Matthew 6:19 & 20 G-d bless!

  • @svetlanak7804
    @svetlanak7804 4 года назад +1

    I decided to switch to minimalism , was so inspired to educate myself and start a new life and after watching all these videos realized I already am one without knowing I am))))) and I posess much less then them after decluttering, what americans find an act of heroism and a topic for a 15 minutes talk we, the rest of the world, find just a common sence. People talk proudly on youtube about 50 things they live without after switching to minimalism and I realize I have never ever used those , as well as my parents and friends, like paper towels and devices for cutting food. I have a knife, just one, and 3 books, and their 40 piece capsule wardrobes after down sizing are even bigger then normal wardrobes of Russians and Italians.

  • @53cateye1
    @53cateye1 6 лет назад +2

    So grateful I backpacked from wealthy Australia in my twenties to several impoverished countries for a year. Life long lessons were learned and have never been forgotten.

  • @tracieogrady5049
    @tracieogrady5049 6 лет назад +22

    There more happiness in giving than receiving.

  • @VidConMom
    @VidConMom 5 лет назад

    My hero!!! Currently a 15 dumpster is in the driveway of our 4 bedroom 2.5 bath Philly suburban home. We are slowly downsizing. Hope to find our peace soon ☮️

  • @isabellazielinski6695
    @isabellazielinski6695 4 года назад

    This video provides great insight into the consumerism our world runs on.

  • @kawaii_princess_castle
    @kawaii_princess_castle 6 лет назад +9

    The simplest your life is, the happiest you are. More time, more freedom, more play less work.

  • @starwish2468
    @starwish2468 6 лет назад +65

    I understand what you are saying about other cultures. But I found in my travels, that those other cultures often SHARE resources and items. OUR culture does not, as a common practice. So there IS a cultural difference in downsizing.

    • @jacquelinemcgrathcurtis2787
      @jacquelinemcgrathcurtis2787 5 лет назад +4

      starwish246 in those other cultures they have very little and they still give and give the shirts off their backs. I don’t have much and if I can and also when someone approaches me for help I help it get the things that people need. I see it as if I was in a bind I would hope someone would assist me. If we all put ourselves in other people’s shoes and have empathy than we all have a understanding of what struggles each of us have.

    • @kherise
      @kherise 5 лет назад +1

      Yeah but even with that, poverty brings a lot of social problems too: poor education, unwanted children from very young mothers, delinqincy, you cannot think is a wonderful world where there is less of everything

  • @thumbprint7150
    @thumbprint7150 6 лет назад +4

    Thank you for this. Very impressive to reduce so much and I was glad to hear you say it took a year because it is a painful and surely faltering faltering process. You were fortunate to have such dedicated helpers too.

  • @originaltube5794
    @originaltube5794 4 года назад +3

    I love it Rita! You have hit the mark so perfectly here! Great to work with you this past week and i think your message is profound! Keep up the good work on the Best life!

  • @arlingtonguy54
    @arlingtonguy54 6 лет назад +88

    It’s not quantity or lack of that makes you happy or burdened, its attachment to those things. Just drop your attachments to people places and things to find peace. There are a lot of very poor people that have very little that are miserable.

    • @marymacdonald1651
      @marymacdonald1651 6 лет назад +3

      arlingtonguy54 Drop your affections for persons, also?

    • @Tony32
      @Tony32 6 лет назад +10

      Exactly, just like there's rich people who enjoy the heck out all the stuff they got.

    • @arlingtonguy54
      @arlingtonguy54 6 лет назад +10

      Mary Macdonald Drop your attachments not your affection

    • @jeanettenaumiec7784
      @jeanettenaumiec7784 6 лет назад +6

      arlingtonguy54 I dropped my attachment to eating meat.

    • @Hypatia52
      @Hypatia52 6 лет назад +3

      Whereas, I'd say attachment to inanimate objects is the problem. I relish my attachment to my brother, although when he dies, it will be much sadder than he and I were clashing all the time. But some things do give joy and that's my choice and I'm good with that--my framed Otsuka print. The big fireplace in my tiny house. The silly coffee mug that my friend of 50 years gave me when I turned 60. But most people have way too much stuff.

  • @corinnegeras5975
    @corinnegeras5975 4 года назад +1

    Going to do this. Just putting it off, but you've inspired me. Thanks.

  • @turkrane12
    @turkrane12 6 лет назад +55

    More is less, today i live a simple life, ride my bicycle, spend very little money and am happier than i have ever been.
    No tv, vegetarian, just a simple me.

    • @elizabethnorman8365
      @elizabethnorman8365 6 лет назад +5

      Mike Turco it’s amazing what a trained mine can do every night watching the box ! I’m finding out there’s living going on outside the box🙂 I’m very proud of you as a person for taking that step you did . It must of been so refreshing in your mind

    • @markwhittaker6866
      @markwhittaker6866 5 лет назад

      Wonderful stuff.
      Stay blessed.

    • @rijalulfikri9109
      @rijalulfikri9109 4 года назад

      sounds like you want some approval i guess?

  • @dianazamoras
    @dianazamoras 4 года назад +1

    One of the Condos in the world! 😍😍

  • @rosafrances9889
    @rosafrances9889 6 лет назад +10

    I did it years ago and I am also happier!

  • @dianaboughner7977
    @dianaboughner7977 6 лет назад +14

    Consumerism is a very time consuming and addicting way of life that we have been brainwashed into doing. Minimalizing is a wonderful thing to do if it is what you need to do to feel more freedom and globally balanced materially. There are families and individuals who are not ready for this phase in their lives due to many issues including two vehicles, sports equipment, hobby equipment, farming equipment, kitchen cooking equipment, and the list goes on. It is much easier for single or retired persons to make the downsizing to minimalization a reality.

    • @saints82
      @saints82 6 лет назад +2

      Diana Boughner You make a lot of sense Diana

    • @LisSimpleLife
      @LisSimpleLife 6 лет назад

      Diana Boughner th

    • @LisSimpleLife
      @LisSimpleLife 6 лет назад

      Diana Boughner has a pyy llama

    • @darinakalinova2180
      @darinakalinova2180 5 лет назад

      Well yes and no. I have absolutely not a bad feeling of I sit next and knit pullover on one of my knitting machines or make a dress or pair of summer trousers for my partner. I love all my kitchen equipment as it makes life easier. I am refusing to by cake for 6 persons for 25 eur or woollen pullover for 100 eur. Minimalism is ok to prevent storing things you never use. Minimalism is not about to stop living. I am not going to give up on my hobbies and cooking and baking passions just to be minimal. I am working full time whole my life, having said that I will work another at least 22 years before I can retire. I want to have fun in my life and hobbies help me. I do not want to come home at 6pm and sit and watch TV. I believe that minimalism is extreme same as overconsumption. Just balance what you have get rig of old and broken each year. All is ok.

  • @elizabethk3238
    @elizabethk3238 6 лет назад +13

    I made the same decision after volunteering in Ghana for a year in 2011.

  • @jodiejo1609
    @jodiejo1609 2 года назад

    I am going through my house today. I moved from a 4000 sq fr house to an apartment. I have TWO huge storage units that I pay 500 for a month. My son came In my room and mentioned ‘my stuff’. I’m not a hoarder. At least I do not think so. I went back in my mind and realized that my dad had died and then my sister. I have tons of their things. I also had back surgery and am now disabled. I gave up on life. It IS mental. I still cry missing my Jina. Been three years. Even though I have given many things away I believe that I hold on to everything and put off ‘feeling’….
    Today and this month my goal is to give away 75 percent!
    God bless you all.

  • @normadavid1239
    @normadavid1239 4 года назад +31

    I once was lost
    But now I found
    Was blind
    But now I see

  • @mytinyretirement
    @mytinyretirement 6 лет назад +21

    I can so relate. We're wanting to retire and are going tiny in order to do so. It is SO hard to brutally go through your belongings.

    • @kafizola5695
      @kafizola5695 6 лет назад +3

      My Tiny Retirement Take it a day at a time and it will happen.

    • @mamabear8565
      @mamabear8565 6 лет назад +2

      My Tiny Retirement Put things you really struggle with that is excess, in a box. Leave it there for 1 month. Have someone else help you with the next part. Without you watching, tell them what's in that box you must absolutely keep. They take those things out & give them back to you. The rest you forgot about, they donate for you. :)

    • @worldwanderer-f7v
      @worldwanderer-f7v 6 лет назад +3

      My Tiny Retirement we did it, and started traveling 6 months ago with 2 carry ons, because travel makes up happy. It is liberating!

    • @mytinyretirement
      @mytinyretirement 6 лет назад +4

      That's part of our plan. Our tiny house (our cabin) in Maine will be where we "summer" and we're hoping to travel around the south during the winters. I haven't decided yet if I'm excited or scared to death. But I know it's the answer for us. But shedding the belongings, wow. It's cathartic.

    • @elizabethnorman8365
      @elizabethnorman8365 6 лет назад +1

      Mama Bear good advice 👍🏼

  • @Kotyk_Murkotyk
    @Kotyk_Murkotyk 6 лет назад +5

    I'll believe in your happiness, when you give away while having very little.