Interesting topic, because I find your channel and your work 100% perfect. Your editing, way of speaking, intelligence. I watch your videos, and when the animations come in, I think, "How did he do that? I have no idea or skill to do such a thing." So it's kind of disheartening to know that my best doesn't even come close to 20% of what you deliver. I feel limited, and often even think I'm stupid, even though I'm a teacher and author of Physics books here in Brazil. How can we improve to achieve something close to Ali Abdaal's standard?
Thank you Ali. Really good video... One thing that has helped me tremendously is to free myself from wanting to control the opinion of others. Also, I have come in contact with my inner critics and trained them to treat me better... totally life-changing. The work I did was inspired from Jay Earley and the Internal Family system... but not only. If you read this comment and you a perfectionnist, try IFS as well. ❤ There is so much I could say about the topic... I could write a series of books. 😂 Perctionism is a vampire draining the joy out life. Everyone deserves to break free from its grip.
Blame school for being a perfectionist... they literally punish you for failure and don't let you correct yourself after making a mistake, but punish you instead.
So glad I did not go to your school, my school for how little attendance I had, encouraged you not punished you, for not being a perfectionist. Mostly home schooled due to having a lot of surgery as a child.
@@celtpro Every school that fails you and leaves that failure as a mark of your end result is punishing you for failure and want you to be a perfectionist. In the real world when you fail, you try again the moment you fail, with the knowledge you got from failing and with reading and learning on the spot afterwards. This doesn't apply only to surgeons, pilots and similar professions that actually require perfectionism.
Agreed. That much more so for those who put pressure on themselves to go to highly competitive programs to follow. Really messes with you, while also serving you in confusing ways. It’s not easy to unwind the good from the bad when it’s now a habit to view all output in that way, too.
@@dodgerea8639 The worst part is that the education system produces weak, stupid useless people in 12-20 years and wastes their youth, goes doubly so for STEM, ask me how I know.
Never too late you can start it now, you dont need to be perfect at start , you learn how to be more perfect after you upload your video and understand the mistake of your work Hope you to achieve sucess🌸🙏
Feel this. I just started something and I hope it works out. But now I'm somewhere in between "I love doing this" and "I hate myself for not starting earlier"
I came across this video, and realized that I am facing this problem all of my time. I try to be perfect in every aspect rather than embracing myself and just start doing what I want to do.
Perfectionism feels like the bane of my existence. This is why I currently don't have a job. This is not the perfect job, the perfect CV, the perfect salary... I'm not lazy, but this silly fear of not finding the best solution from the get go is really stunting my progress. Thank you for this dose of realization. 🙏👍
That's such an important topic. I used to be such a perfectionist and put so much pressure on myself that I simply wouldn't look for help, in fear of disappointing the people who said they were proud of me or inspired by my hard work, which lead me to burning out, feeling isolated and overworked. I took some steps to try to fix my perfectionism and imposter syndrome and I made progress but there's still quite a way to go.
..I have been battling random anxiety due to thinking I have to be high standards , in a short period.....this is the video I needed....“ progress over perfection "😢😢
So many of us struggle with that feeling of anxiety in striving for excellence, you're not alone. You don't have to be anything than exactly what you are, then from there you will naturally start to progress because there is more self-acceptance!
I have watched at least a hundred videos on perfectionism in my journey to letting go. This is definitely the best I’ve seen. Thanks for all the hard work, much appreciated 😊
Thank you for making this video about perfectionism. I have been in the perfectionism trap in the past trying to be the best. I'm recovering from my anxiety and depression and it's been going well that I can say I'm more comfortable in making mistakes and accepting them as learning opportunities.
Ali, thanks so much for creating these videos! I was a perfectionist my whole life which pulled me backwards both academically and professionally. I decide to make a change today and tell myself that something is better than nothing.
Feeling myself as someone who is in the perfectionism trap and I think I am definitely at the part where I am feeling guilty. You publishing this video has helped by verbalising the way I feel..... I am about to just start what I have been avoiding. Thank you Ali.
SO much power in finally leaning into what you resist. I like to say that the Perfectionist Paradox is "what you avoid, you create more of" so it's finally time to lean into what we avoid!
I'm so glad I watched this video today. all my life i was crazy about being perfect, when i was studying id try to "perfectly" understand things and make pretty notes. it ultimately led to burnout and procrastination and then depression. i never even knew that perfectionism was holding me back! today i do, all thanks to you! beautiful content. so so SO thankful for the internet today🙏
This same issues almost made me miss the beautiful opportunity of baby steps. Picked up my channel this year and it's been a beautiful experience 😊. I'm not getting the traction that I want yet, but I'm so glad that i started. I'm learning so much along the way, and just remember that if there's no beginning because you're seeking perfection, there will also be no ground where you will even have to make an improvement 😊. There's actually so much beauty in imperfect things, because you will have the option of improving it and getting better someday 😊.
Im glad I found this video when I did. Yesterday was one of the worst days I have had in nearly a decade, and a great deal of that pain was from my perfectionism. I spent almost my entire work day yesterday just sitting at my desk and ruminating rather than working. I always beat myself up when I make mistakes and I spiral into negative thoughts fairly easily. I feel like I constantly let myself and others down.
To get started I much prefer focusing on the input (e.g. I will spend the next 1 hour researching the topic, bookmarking resources and putting interesting findings on this random doc/ppt) than the ideal output, and if it's outside my comfort zone, I will tell myself "let's do it, and if I'm not good at it (yet) then let's do it badly"
Thank you for making this video. I really beat myself up on something in my work yesterday that did not go as I expected it to go. This put me more at ease.
Haven’t watched the full video yet, but this has been my whole life, even though I’ve recognised it in the past I still struggle to start because I don’t want to fail. Thank you for the solutions I know will be in this video!
This is an incredible video Ali! I guess to summarize, getting rid of perfectionism is to allow ourselves to get motivated to "do the work" and not work so hard to the point of burn out. And ultimately, the key to success is to simply put in the effort - day by day, week by week. Amazing lesson.
This is so important for me to hear! I am trying to work towards my dream job and it is so true that failing is such a great learning process! My soccer coach would tell me that success teaches us nothing, but failure teaches us and helps us grow! I still need to step outside my comfort and go forward! Thanks Ali! ❤️ I really needed this today!
Ali, Thank you so much for your study and insights. And thank you for presenting it in a way that I can apply it to my own self. I live in Australia and am in my mid 60s. I’m working on my Feel Good Productivity in the workplace. … There’s a follow-on title for you. For me this means managing a hyper-critical supervisor. The more she is picks on me, the perfectionist and slower I’ve become, and I’m now considering reporting her to my manager, as some of my colleagues have done.
I had this problem 4-5 years ago, when i was trying to start my youtube channel, but when I realized that i will never start, this year it was my year to start my channel whatever it takes. 💪
I was facing difficulty watching your videos 😢. Because all of your videos were in English. But this video I watched in Hindi😮. I think this is a new feature on RUclips but this is helpful for me.
I loved the part of the video dedicated to Buddhism, thank you. I have been interested by this eastern religion/philosophy for several years, and as an occidental citizen (Spanish to be precise 😄), I found the book "Don't Take your Life Seriously" by Ajahn Sumedho superb. Have a good weekend everyone!
By obsessing over the 'perfect' result, we often overlook the value of the process - the learning, the growth, and even the mistakes that ultimately shape us. By focusing only on the destination, we rob ourselves of the joy and wisdom that comes part and parcel with the journey.
Pragmatism is the way to go. I am a pretty perfectionism with my work and I try very hard to be more pragmatic about it. It is not easy but extremely important
This video was literally all I needed. Cannot relate more with each and every word you spoke in the video. I am personally facing this situation and was scrambling to handle it. This video came as a ray of light! Thank you!
Great video but I also wanted to mention that I read your book. It is the book I needed! So many other productivity books have big ideas, lofty goals, or are just outright condescending. This book was a breath of fresh air. It is so practical, realistic, and relatable! It has actually helped and improved my productivity. I will definitely read it again regularly. Well done Ali! 👏🏾
This really resonated with me, everything in this video and all the tips given in the video were actually the key to my liberation from perfectionism. It had become a loop in my life and was actually was what held me back all the more. It took me so much to go from all or nothing, to something is better than nothing. It is okay sometimes to just be. Also it becomes really suffocating when you're just focused on making something perfect that it steals creativity and joy from it, and you become the hamster on a wheel. Also you are NOT your accomplishments you're just you, society may not like that true, but unless it causes anyone intentional harm, it is okay to be just that. Another tip is to reward yourself a lil something after you're done with a task so that it makes it a Lil more enjoyable to begin. Also, really grateful for this video, I wish it had released before but I'll return to it everytime I need🌊
I know how distressing it is to be a perfectionist. We are people with a hypercritical mindset, low self worth, and an Obsessive Compulsive Personality (not to be mistaken with OCD). We painstakingly scrutinise trivial details and often miss the bigger picture. Ruminating over high quality in turn drains our minds and delays the outcome. The purpose is missed and most times we ourselves are not happy with the outcome because there is no more happy hormone left to access the reward ! One thumb rule to always remember - ‘quantity over quality’! Get the job done with mediocrity which is still better than never getting it done in time.
I don't know how many people even have an idea of this issue. I aced my first set of exams. I didn't attempt the next semester because i wasn't prepared enough (the high standards). I have attended everyday of the 3 years, never wrote the exams because i didn't study enough to ace again. Wasted that 3 years. Mental health issues said "Hi". So yeah listen to him, don't make the mistakes i have made. Just do it❤
Amazing video. I’m trying hard not to be a perfectionist, but I find it hard to convince myself, and I procrastinate a lot because of perfectionism. As an Asian, though my parents are always supportive and they never put too much pressure on me, I still feel I have to be perfect. Looking at my friends, it seems like everyone has achieved something in their lives while I’m still struggling to find the right career path for me. Honestly sometimes I feel quite left behind
Currently procrastinating on updating my CV for my upcoming job interview that has been set for nearly 2 weeks now. 3 more days to go and I feel this massive dread of not being good enough and to withdraw my job application just to get out of this feeling. I was on the fence so I decided to watch this video. So at least I started to get my laptop out and start to write things down.... and I am still on the fence. One hand I am grateful for the opportunity to even be offered an interview for a government job (quite a big deal where I come from), but on the other hand, it was too much pressure and I don't think I want it anymore....
00:15 📚 Perfectionists like Percy react negatively to feedback, seeing it as failure, unlike healthy strivers like Harry who appreciate constructive criticism. 01:50 💼 Perfectionism doesn't guarantee increased productivity or success; high achievers like Serena Williams and Steve Jobs show no correlation between perfectionism and performance. 03:02 📉 Perfectionists often react poorly to setbacks, leading to decreased effort and procrastination, hindering performance. 04:13 😔 Perfectionism stems from a sense of deficit, setting impossibly high standards, leading to a cycle of failure, shame, and increased standards. 06:46 🌱 Imposter syndrome is common among perfectionists, fueled by socially prescribed standards and societal pressure. 08:11 🎯 Lowering the bar and setting reasonable standards can combat procrastination and prevent burnout associated with perfectionism. 11:56 🌀 Surrendering to failure and embracing imperfection, as in Wabi-Sabi philosophy, can help break the cycle of perfectionism. 13:49 📉 Reframing failure as a normal part of the learning process can help overcome perfectionism and fear of failure. 14:46 🚀 Stepping out of your comfort zone regularly challenges perfectionist tendencies, fostering growth and confidence. 16:11 📝 Sketching out goals and embracing discomfort can help combat perfectionism by fostering progress over perfection. 16:24 💡 Having rigid, lofty goals can be problematic, leading to potential failure for no apparent reason. 17:07 📏 Open-ended, exploratory goals can sometimes be more effective than specific, SMART goals, especially for beginners or those struggling with perfectionism. 17:51 🎯 Utilizing "nice goals" (NE term, Input based, Controllable, and Energizing) can be beneficial, especially for combating perfectionism and getting started with tasks.
I was just watching part time youtuber academy and then i thought i have to have the perfect lighting and upgrade my camera and then i found you have uploaded this video!! Thank you so much Ali for your advice and push you give us !
Instead of waiting to get a good camera, recording system etc, like I've been waiting for all these years, I've recently completed my 75days. 75 videos challenge. I posted each video every day. Some of them were good and some of them weren't. Doing this challenge put me in a place to push my self and record, edit post my videos each and every day no matter what and now it takes only couple of minutes to do that. It became a part of my routine. I used to plan everything and put them a side, wanted everything to be perfect which eventually lacked consistency. Though, my videos aren't perfect for me they are to others and I posted consistently for all these days.
At 10:53, when Ali said: "What does good enough mean to you?". We see a clip of a dirty laptop screen. I wonder if that was intentional by the editor, since a shot like this is obviously not perfect. I liked it from a filmmaking perspective :)
This is a wonderful video. It is not very specific yet value adding and that makes it very relatable, be it for a student or a working individual or a at home individual. Thank you! Definitely a video worth watching multiple times to get the most benefits out of.
Just watched your video on beating perfectionism with Professor Curran's insights! It was super enlightening and totally resonated with me. Thanks for sharing those awesome tips! Can't wait to put them into action! 💪😊
It's a struggle. For me, I hold myself to high standards simply because forgiveness is just artificial. To have room for mistakes, another must be able to help provide that room.. it just doesn't come naturally, let alone do people do it willingly. Having gone through needing to drop out of a program of choice in college by my parents' command for not doing as well in my first semester, it's hard to believe that a mistake isn't the end of the world. Forgiveness comes at a cost, so unless someone is willing to provide or somehow you land in an area where your mistakes can easily be correctable, no approach to learning is viable. Then again, maybe I'm just too laser focused on the negatives here.
Making a conscious decision to celebrate small achievements no matter how insignificant it may seem can also be a step in right direction alongside stepping out of one's comfort zone.
My sports coaching degree experience makes me question why more people don't take the degree.... self-help/learning science seems to always fall back to the sports studies I read in my first year. The concept of periodization is what I am thinking about throughout most of this video. PS: Looking forward to hearing back about the PTYA student supporter application 👀
When I work on new menu items, it's never perfect the first time. We would go through dozens and dozens of iterations before landing on one that is "good enough".
Thank you for great job! Really interesting and educational video. If be honest, this video opened my eyes on term “perfectionism”, because all my life I thought it’s something positive and correct. But reality is another and our distorted perception makes a lot of problems for us… problems, that we don’t notice. I guess the main problem starts from school with stupid marks system, from childhood with old education methods. But later this problems transfer in other parts of our life and it makes it realy more difficult
I love your book! I am a reading tutor for children ages 3 and up and I talk about parent mindset around learning all the time and how children thrive when they learn through play. I will be doing a series on your book on my IG and facebook community, on how they can implement the principles in your book to their child's education.
Tbh, starting a youtube channel with a perfect kit has much more compounded effect than starting scrappily! It's not often acknowledged but i've checked multiple genres and concluded youtube rewards high quality!
✍Check out my journalling hub here: go.aliabdaal.com/21Y7ag
Interesting topic, because I find your channel and your work 100% perfect. Your editing, way of speaking, intelligence. I watch your videos, and when the animations come in, I think, "How did he do that? I have no idea or skill to do such a thing." So it's kind of disheartening to know that my best doesn't even come close to 20% of what you deliver. I feel limited, and often even think I'm stupid, even though I'm a teacher and author of Physics books here in Brazil. How can we improve to achieve something close to Ali Abdaal's standard?
Thank you Ali. Really good video... One thing that has helped me tremendously is to free myself from wanting to control the opinion of others. Also, I have come in contact with my inner critics and trained them to treat me better... totally life-changing. The work I did was inspired from Jay Earley and the Internal Family system... but not only. If you read this comment and you a perfectionnist, try IFS as well. ❤
There is so much I could say about the topic... I could write a series of books. 😂 Perctionism is a vampire draining the joy out life. Everyone deserves to break free from its grip.
لمست شي احنا بنحسه يوميا شكرا لك ساعدتنا كثيرر
Just amazing, thank you.
I have started uploading videos to my channel since watching your advice about starting
Blame school for being a perfectionist... they literally punish you for failure and don't let you correct yourself after making a mistake, but punish you instead.
Thi-hi-hi-hi-hissss!!
So glad I did not go to your school, my school for how little attendance I had, encouraged you not punished you, for not being a perfectionist. Mostly home schooled due to having a lot of surgery as a child.
@@celtpro Every school that fails you and leaves that failure as a mark of your end result is punishing you for failure and want you to be a perfectionist.
In the real world when you fail, you try again the moment you fail, with the knowledge you got from failing and with reading and learning on the spot afterwards.
This doesn't apply only to surgeons, pilots and similar professions that actually require perfectionism.
Agreed. That much more so for those who put pressure on themselves to go to highly competitive programs to follow. Really messes with you, while also serving you in confusing ways. It’s not easy to unwind the good from the bad when it’s now a habit to view all output in that way, too.
@@dodgerea8639 The worst part is that the education system produces weak, stupid useless people in 12-20 years and wastes their youth, goes doubly so for STEM, ask me how I know.
"I need the perfect camera, perfect mic, perfect lighting before i start my youtube channel". ended up starting my channel 3 years too late
Never too late you can start it now, you dont need to be perfect at start , you learn how to be more perfect after you upload your video and understand the mistake of your work
Hope you to achieve sucess🌸🙏
Yeah I can relate, cause it’s been the same for me. Though I started with shorts last month, but am still struggling with being consistent 🫣
Better late than never!
I still struggle with this for shooting videos, but slowly getting more comfortable with imperfection and just doing
Feel this. I just started something and I hope it works out. But now I'm somewhere in between "I love doing this" and "I hate myself for not starting earlier"
You're not alone brother
I came across this video, and realized that I am facing this problem all of my time. I try to be perfect in every aspect rather than embracing myself and just start doing what I want to do.
Perfectionism feels like the bane of my existence. This is why I currently don't have a job. This is not the perfect job, the perfect CV, the perfect salary... I'm not lazy, but this silly fear of not finding the best solution from the get go is really stunting my progress. Thank you for this dose of realization. 🙏👍
That's such an important topic. I used to be such a perfectionist and put so much pressure on myself that I simply wouldn't look for help, in fear of disappointing the people who said they were proud of me or inspired by my hard work, which lead me to burning out, feeling isolated and overworked. I took some steps to try to fix my perfectionism and imposter syndrome and I made progress but there's still quite a way to go.
0:00 - Introduction
1:33 - The Productivity Paradox
3:39 - The Perfectionism Trap
6:21 - Imposter Syndrome
8:08 - Set Reasonable Standards
11:51 - Surrendering
13:37 - Set Failure As Success
14:46 - Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone
16:18 - Sketch Your Goals
..I have been battling random anxiety due to thinking I have to be high standards , in a short period.....this is the video I needed....“ progress over perfection "😢😢
So many of us struggle with that feeling of anxiety in striving for excellence, you're not alone.
You don't have to be anything than exactly what you are, then from there you will naturally start to progress because there is more self-acceptance!
I have watched at least a hundred videos on perfectionism in my journey to letting go. This is definitely the best I’ve seen. Thanks for all the hard work, much appreciated 😊
Thank you for making this video about perfectionism. I have been in the perfectionism trap in the past trying to be the best. I'm recovering from my anxiety and depression and it's been going well that I can say I'm more comfortable in making mistakes and accepting them as learning opportunities.
Ali, thanks so much for creating these videos! I was a perfectionist my whole life which pulled me backwards both academically and professionally. I decide to make a change today and tell myself that something is better than nothing.
Feeling myself as someone who is in the perfectionism trap and I think I am definitely at the part where I am feeling guilty. You publishing this video has helped by verbalising the way I feel..... I am about to just start what I have been avoiding. Thank you Ali.
SO much power in finally leaning into what you resist. I like to say that the Perfectionist Paradox is "what you avoid, you create more of" so it's finally time to lean into what we avoid!
I'm so glad I watched this video today. all my life i was crazy about being perfect, when i was studying id try to "perfectly" understand things and make pretty notes. it ultimately led to burnout and procrastination and then depression. i never even knew that perfectionism was holding me back! today i do, all thanks to you! beautiful content. so so SO thankful for the internet today🙏
This same issues almost made me miss the beautiful opportunity of baby steps.
Picked up my channel this year and it's been a beautiful experience 😊.
I'm not getting the traction that I want yet, but I'm so glad that i started. I'm learning so much along the way, and just remember that if there's no beginning because you're seeking perfection, there will also be no ground where you will even have to make an improvement 😊. There's actually so much beauty in imperfect things, because you will have the option of improving it and getting better someday 😊.
After watching this, I realized how much perfectionism exists in different aspects of my life and I really have to try to get rid of it.✌️
Perfectionist here, need to start implementing these into my life. Thanks, Ali!
Im glad I found this video when I did. Yesterday was one of the worst days I have had in nearly a decade, and a great deal of that pain was from my perfectionism. I spent almost my entire work day yesterday just sitting at my desk and ruminating rather than working. I always beat myself up when I make mistakes and I spiral into negative thoughts fairly easily. I feel like I constantly let myself and others down.
But even watching this video made me do some kind of upward social comparison.. It's hard not to feel like a failure
Thank you Ali, as a perfectionist, this vid is helping me to overcome the constant need to be perfect.
Your editor is amazing this video is so satisfying
To get started I much prefer focusing on the input (e.g. I will spend the next 1 hour researching the topic, bookmarking resources and putting interesting findings on this random doc/ppt) than the ideal output, and if it's outside my comfort zone, I will tell myself "let's do it, and if I'm not good at it (yet) then let's do it badly"
Very helpful. after so many years, i just realized that i fall under perfectionist category. this Video was an eye opener
Thank you for making this video. I really beat myself up on something in my work yesterday that did not go as I expected it to go. This put me more at ease.
Haven’t watched the full video yet, but this has been my whole life, even though I’ve recognised it in the past I still struggle to start because I don’t want to fail.
Thank you for the solutions I know will be in this video!
This is an incredible video Ali! I guess to summarize, getting rid of perfectionism is to allow ourselves to get motivated to "do the work" and not work so hard to the point of burn out. And ultimately, the key to success is to simply put in the effort - day by day, week by week. Amazing lesson.
Gracias Ali por traducir tus videos al español ya que tiene un gran impacto en mi vida y la mayoría de la comunidad hispanohablante ❤
This is so important for me to hear! I am trying to work towards my dream job and it is so true that failing is such a great learning process! My soccer coach would tell me that success teaches us nothing, but failure teaches us and helps us grow!
I still need to step outside my comfort and go forward! Thanks Ali! ❤️ I really needed this today!
that's so beautiful to hear! there is so much freedom in allowing ourselves to fail.
Keep going!
This is the best video you have ever created. Thank you 🙏
Being in this circumstance and exhausting myself, today I asked God for help and surprisingly this useful video popped up.
Ali, Thank you so much for your study and insights. And thank you for presenting it in a way that I can apply it to my own self.
I live in Australia and am in my mid 60s. I’m working on my Feel Good Productivity in the workplace. … There’s a follow-on title for you.
For me this means managing a hyper-critical supervisor. The more she is picks on me, the perfectionist and slower I’ve become, and I’m now considering reporting her to my manager, as some of my colleagues have done.
I absolutely love this. thank you so much Ali!!
Thank you so much Ali, this video is gold
Thank you so much for this video. I needed it
This video is aimed at me. Too many nuggets in this video, I am definitely rewatching to take notes.
Your examples in your video are so good 😍😍👌👌👌thank you so much for your awesome videos🙏🙏🙏🌸🌸
Heya !! Do have interest in mehndi art ??🦋☺️❤️
The Fear Setting exercise is absolutely brilliant. I always do this with clients over goal setting.
I had this problem 4-5 years ago, when i was trying to start my youtube channel, but when I realized that i will never start, this year it was my year to start my channel whatever it takes.
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GO FOR IT!
I liked the video even before watching it. Nobody talks about this topic but everyone needs to know this.
Thanks Ali, this was super helpful.
You’re a Legend.
Thank you for making audio in differents language, as a French I'm so happy !!!
Savez vous comment écouter en anglais si on le souhaite, depuis la France ?
Ali just spoke to me directly 😢
Absolutely amazing timing, I was getting crippling anxiety just now
Thank you Ali and team. You’ve encapsulated lots of helpful tips in a practical and accessible way.
this video came out at the perfect time, thank you so much ali!
Same here! No coincidence! Very accurate & inspiring content from Ali!
This vídeo is so necessary, can’t wait to watch the full episode, and understand from a specialist what defines a perfectionist
perfectionism can be one h*ll of a drug! and one that we don't even know we're on.
Great interview with Thomas! It’s really interesting to listen to other point of view
I was facing difficulty watching your videos 😢. Because all of your videos were in English. But this video I watched in Hindi😮. I think this is a new feature on RUclips but this is helpful for me.
I loved the part of the video dedicated to Buddhism, thank you. I have been interested by this eastern religion/philosophy for several years, and as an occidental citizen (Spanish to be precise 😄), I found the book "Don't Take your Life Seriously" by Ajahn Sumedho superb. Have a good weekend everyone!
By obsessing over the 'perfect' result, we often overlook the value of the process - the learning, the growth, and even the mistakes that ultimately shape us. By focusing only on the destination, we rob ourselves of the joy and wisdom that comes part and parcel with the journey.
Just what I neede to stop worrying and start preparing for my Biology exam on Monday, Thank You Ali!!🙂
Another CBSE student 😂
@@yumshin ICSE Dah...
@@Gokulanandas_714 my bad btw what's with your username ?
@@yumshin what's wrong with it?
@@Gokulanandas_714 your name is Goku?
Pragmatism is the way to go. I am a pretty perfectionism with my work and I try very hard to be more pragmatic about it. It is not easy but extremely important
Thank you Ali .You taught me to think differently .Though span of life is limited but there is no shortage of reasons to live well 😊
Much needed video!! Thank you Ali:)❤
This video was literally all I needed. Cannot relate more with each and every word you spoke in the video. I am personally facing this situation and was scrambling to handle it. This video came as a ray of light! Thank you!
Great video but I also wanted to mention that I read your book. It is the book I needed! So many other productivity books have big ideas, lofty goals, or are just outright condescending. This book was a breath of fresh air. It is so practical, realistic, and relatable! It has actually helped and improved my productivity. I will definitely read it again regularly. Well done Ali! 👏🏾
This was such a good video and deeply resonates with me! Thank you for this video! I love the idea of "good enough"
This really resonated with me, everything in this video and all the tips given in the video were actually the key to my liberation from perfectionism. It had become a loop in my life and was actually was what held me back all the more. It took me so much to go from all or nothing, to something is better than nothing. It is okay sometimes to just be. Also it becomes really suffocating when you're just focused on making something perfect that it steals creativity and joy from it, and you become the hamster on a wheel. Also you are NOT your accomplishments you're just you, society may not like that true, but unless it causes anyone intentional harm, it is okay to be just that.
Another tip is to reward yourself a lil something after you're done with a task so that it makes it a Lil more enjoyable to begin.
Also, really grateful for this video, I wish it had released before but I'll return to it everytime I need🌊
Perfectionism is good just for when you are Famous enough!
Thanks Ali Abdaal ❤
This is the video I need!
Saw the notification and clicked so fast
Mn..me too this the video I needed
I Just created video about this
I know how distressing it is to be a perfectionist. We are people with a hypercritical mindset, low self worth, and an Obsessive Compulsive Personality (not to be mistaken with OCD). We painstakingly scrutinise trivial details and often miss the bigger picture. Ruminating over high quality in turn drains our minds and delays the outcome. The purpose is missed and most times we ourselves are not happy with the outcome because there is no more happy hormone left to access the reward !
One thumb rule to always remember - ‘quantity over quality’! Get the job done with mediocrity which is still better than never getting it done in time.
You are so cool! Thank you for sharing so vulnerable experiences and knowledge😊❤
❤ God I love ali's approach to action. It's not the distination that matters, it's the journey to the distination.
You continue to inspire me in my RUclips journey! Thank you so much!
Thank you for this Ali. This video was what I needed…Ah so stoked to take action on this 💯🙏
I don't know how many people even have an idea of this issue.
I aced my first set of exams. I didn't attempt the next semester because i wasn't prepared enough (the high standards). I have attended everyday of the 3 years, never wrote the exams because i didn't study enough to ace again. Wasted that 3 years. Mental health issues said "Hi".
So yeah listen to him, don't make the mistakes i have made.
Just do it❤
Amazing video. I’m trying hard not to be a perfectionist, but I find it hard to convince myself, and I procrastinate a lot because of perfectionism. As an Asian, though my parents are always supportive and they never put too much pressure on me, I still feel I have to be perfect. Looking at my friends, it seems like everyone has achieved something in their lives while I’m still struggling to find the right career path for me. Honestly sometimes I feel quite left behind
Currently procrastinating on updating my CV for my upcoming job interview that has been set for nearly 2 weeks now. 3 more days to go and I feel this massive dread of not being good enough and to withdraw my job application just to get out of this feeling. I was on the fence so I decided to watch this video. So at least I started to get my laptop out and start to write things down.... and I am still on the fence. One hand I am grateful for the opportunity to even be offered an interview for a government job (quite a big deal where I come from), but on the other hand, it was too much pressure and I don't think I want it anymore....
Listening to audible version of your latest book! 🎧
Hope you like it!
00:15 📚 Perfectionists like Percy react negatively to feedback, seeing it as failure, unlike healthy strivers like Harry who appreciate constructive criticism.
01:50 💼 Perfectionism doesn't guarantee increased productivity or success; high achievers like Serena Williams and Steve Jobs show no correlation between perfectionism and performance.
03:02 📉 Perfectionists often react poorly to setbacks, leading to decreased effort and procrastination, hindering performance.
04:13 😔 Perfectionism stems from a sense of deficit, setting impossibly high standards, leading to a cycle of failure, shame, and increased standards.
06:46 🌱 Imposter syndrome is common among perfectionists, fueled by socially prescribed standards and societal pressure.
08:11 🎯 Lowering the bar and setting reasonable standards can combat procrastination and prevent burnout associated with perfectionism.
11:56 🌀 Surrendering to failure and embracing imperfection, as in Wabi-Sabi philosophy, can help break the cycle of perfectionism.
13:49 📉 Reframing failure as a normal part of the learning process can help overcome perfectionism and fear of failure.
14:46 🚀 Stepping out of your comfort zone regularly challenges perfectionist tendencies, fostering growth and confidence.
16:11 📝 Sketching out goals and embracing discomfort can help combat perfectionism by fostering progress over perfection.
16:24 💡 Having rigid, lofty goals can be problematic, leading to potential failure for no apparent reason.
17:07 📏 Open-ended, exploratory goals can sometimes be more effective than specific, SMART goals, especially for beginners or those struggling with perfectionism.
17:51 🎯 Utilizing "nice goals" (NE term, Input based, Controllable, and Energizing) can be beneficial, especially for combating perfectionism and getting started with tasks.
I was just watching part time youtuber academy and then i thought i have to have the perfect lighting and upgrade my camera and then i found you have uploaded this video!! Thank you so much Ali for your advice and push you give us !
Love the editing, it's so satisfying
Instead of waiting to get a good camera, recording system etc, like I've been waiting for all these years, I've recently completed my 75days. 75 videos challenge. I posted each video every day. Some of them were good and some of them weren't. Doing this challenge put me in a place to push my self and record, edit post my videos each and every day no matter what and now it takes only couple of minutes to do that. It became a part of my routine. I used to plan everything and put them a side, wanted everything to be perfect which eventually lacked consistency. Though, my videos aren't perfect for me they are to others and I posted consistently for all these days.
At 10:53, when Ali said: "What does good enough mean to you?". We see a clip of a dirty laptop screen. I wonder if that was intentional by the editor, since a shot like this is obviously not perfect. I liked it from a filmmaking perspective :)
As always Thanks Ali.
Asalamualikum warehmatullah ,ramzan mubark brodrs nd sisters
This is a wonderful video. It is not very specific yet value adding and that makes it very relatable, be it for a student or a working individual or a at home individual. Thank you! Definitely a video worth watching multiple times to get the most benefits out of.
So insightful and so true. Thank you!
Thanks for making such eye opening videos.
Thankyou so much for such an informative video
Just watched your video on beating perfectionism with Professor Curran's insights! It was super enlightening and totally resonated with me. Thanks for sharing those awesome tips! Can't wait to put them into action! 💪😊
It's a struggle. For me, I hold myself to high standards simply because forgiveness is just artificial. To have room for mistakes, another must be able to help provide that room.. it just doesn't come naturally, let alone do people do it willingly. Having gone through needing to drop out of a program of choice in college by my parents' command for not doing as well in my first semester, it's hard to believe that a mistake isn't the end of the world. Forgiveness comes at a cost, so unless someone is willing to provide or somehow you land in an area where your mistakes can easily be correctable, no approach to learning is viable.
Then again, maybe I'm just too laser focused on the negatives here.
This is gold, for me at least. Much needed. ❤️🌸
It was really helpful thank you im still dealing with perfectionism but i hope i get somewhere by getting along with it!
Making a conscious decision to celebrate small achievements no matter how insignificant it may seem can also be a step in right direction alongside stepping out of one's comfort zone.
ok mr. ali swagged tf out abdaal
This was insightful. Thanks for sharing Ali👏🏾
My sports coaching degree experience makes me question why more people don't take the degree.... self-help/learning science seems to always fall back to the sports studies I read in my first year.
The concept of periodization is what I am thinking about throughout most of this video.
PS: Looking forward to hearing back about the PTYA student supporter application 👀
Appreciate your work and dedication ❤.
Thanks a lot for making this video. I waited for it
I love to see a video about Ramadan from your channel as a Doctor and productivity expert 😍
I love how “perfectionsim trap” is spelled in this video about perfectionism.
When I work on new menu items, it's never perfect the first time. We would go through dozens and dozens of iterations before landing on one that is "good enough".
هذا رائع اللغة و طريقة الحديث انسان مثقف و محترم و كاريزما ما شاء الله عليك ❤
Thank you for great job! Really interesting and educational video. If be honest, this video opened my eyes on term “perfectionism”, because all my life I thought it’s something positive and correct. But reality is another and our distorted perception makes a lot of problems for us… problems, that we don’t notice. I guess the main problem starts from school with stupid marks system, from childhood with old education methods. But later this problems transfer in other parts of our life and it makes it realy more difficult
I love your book! I am a reading tutor for children ages 3 and up and I talk about parent mindset around learning all the time and how children thrive when they learn through play. I will be doing a series on your book on my IG and facebook community, on how they can implement the principles in your book to their child's education.
Much needed video rn for me...Thank you Ali
Okay I'm going to get back to study. Thanks for this motivation Ali!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Perfectionism definitely hinders my growth. I struggle with putting something out when I KNOW I COULD do better 😣
feels like you made this video for me. Thank you
Tbh, starting a youtube channel with a perfect kit has much more compounded effect than starting scrappily! It's not often acknowledged but i've checked multiple genres and concluded youtube rewards high quality!
Liked for the blanket sweater