Hi dude I got this problem with me where I can't remember things that are taught me in previous 15 to 20 min during my lecture Though I tried my best to focus on lecture... Still this thing happens to me Can u suggest me how to handle the situation BTW thank u.... Ur videos really helps me a lot
TLDR: I discovered kind of accidentally that I work very well and very hard for 1 hour and 50 minutes. I had set a 2 hour timer one day prior to a meeting. I stopped working because I was bored and discovered I was 10 minutes off of 2 hours. Coincidentally, I did the same thing a few days later. Exact same result: my brain said I'm done at 1 hour 50 minutes. I now set a 2 hour timer, stop automatically 10 minutes before it goes off and take that as a break. I also work from home as an independent contractor with --- luckily --- four clients. I rotate through all four clients each day and devote a half hour at the beginning and end of my day for organization, planning and pep talks, so I work more or less 8 hours a day, just in odd chunks. In between two hour segments, I'll go do laundry, make lunch, walk, do other household chores. I count those as side quests and find they last just as long as it takes to make a cup of coffee or heat up lunch. The ADHD have-to-get-it-done-before-something-ends kicks in and I take full advantage of it. I also take a nap occasionally -- which lasts just about 2 hours. It's created a very odd side effect feeling there are more than seven days in a week though. Some days seem very expansive, like I'm surprised to find it's still Tuesday, rather than days later, because I've done a whole bunch of 'things' and see progress, but I haven't yet given up on any one thing. There are other days where I just stay in bed and don't bother 😺
I appreciate this revelation. Thanks for showing how it works when you let yourself stop when you can't anymore. It seems so much more productive than struggling to continue when your mind has checked out.
@@Metqa I'm happy my weird ways are helpful. I have been trying -- and mostly succeeding -- to be very consistent with this. Part of it working, I think, is I know when I can take a break, many breaks. It's a mini-reward every two hours. And on days when I'm really struggling, I do push myself with some mind tricks. Like saying "it's only an hour" and then "oh, hey, that was okay. Now it's less than an hour. Easy peasy." There are some days with many, many little pep talks, but they are fewer than before. It's helped me understand when I can push myself -- and more importantly, how to push myself if I need to to meet a due date -- and when it's just time to give up and do something else. Or sleep. And because I am not concise: I have sleep-in Tuesdays. Not sure why that day -- probably b/c I work weekends and nights mostly -- I just stay in bed until I don't want to. It's another reward, so to speak, and having it semi-scheduled, I don't feel guilty when it happens. I have some chronic pain issues and one day a week with ice or heat and rest is usually a good thing anyway. And if I'm feeling pain-free and productive, then it's a win-win and I get more stuff done.
I’m probably a more conceptual learner. Once I get the larger breakthrough on something, anything, it instantly becomes much more interesting which is when I watch videos and make visual aids for myself
Same!!! I like to be good at something. I noticed that I don’t like hard things and everything is hard in the beginning. But I have been doing intentionally hard things recently and I love it!!!!
This vid, above all others I’ve watch from him, explains soooooo much to me…. My “superpower” is how fast I learn and how easy it is for me to retain it. BUT, if I’m forced to learn something (ie: required college course), I’ve learned how to “cram & dump.” I can shove stuff into my head for very short term regurgitation, then it just “evaporates.” I think in pictures. Doesn’t matter how the info is presented, if I HAVE to know it (it’s serious) or I’m interested, I easily constrict a picture. Once the picture is there, it’s forever.
@@le13579different colors for different topics. I also used them for different needed lists. To do list, grocery list, what I want to grow in my garden this year list, etc. Some days I make a compilation list of what needs to occur over the next couple of days, all color blocked by topics. Keeps me interested in it.
I haven’t taken a break or lunch at work in over 2years. I and a store manager and have been working harder to delegate through my assistant and supervisors to keep from shouldering everything myself. It’s hard for me to utilize others to get work done.
✨ Summary: - People with ADHD often struggle with consistency due to a brain wired for novelty and interest rather than importance. - Traditional productivity advice, which emphasizes trying harder, doesn't work well for ADHD brains. - Starting new tasks gives a dopamine boost, but motivation wanes when novelty fades, typically around week 3. - Three strategies can help maintain long-term consistency without anxiety and shame: 1. Play to Your Strengths: Recognize ADHD brains have peaks and valleys in abilities. Focus on strengths and outsource weaknesses to achieve better results. 2. Find Your Preferred Processing Modality: Identify your preferred ways of learning (visual, verbal, tactile, etc.) to keep tasks interesting and sustainable. 3. Work in Sprints: Use short bursts of work (e.g., Pomodoro Technique) to align with how ADHD brains operate best. Incorporate breaks to maintain novelty and prevent burnout.
I seem to need to know everything about a subject-when I'm fully knowledgeable about it, I get a sick feeling and don't want to even look at it. I got hooked on PC's late 1980s, the internet 1990's, iPhones early 2000, Blockchain technologies and now AI - I've been very successful in my working life as an IT and business consultant. I semi-retired during covid lock downs and published 17 business/self-help books 2020 - then outsourced the translations into Spanish. I'm totally absorbed in turning those books into online courses now. It is ALL absorbing. I love the process. My wife told me about ADHD... It seems I have most of the traits. I'm in my 60s and am working through it.
Genuine question, how? I showed it to an ADHD friend and they laughed and said no ADHD person would ever watch it because of the length and monotonous content.
@@DodieSa Also if you watch it with headphones, the music in the background really helps "scratch" your brain. It's not quite binaural audio, but it's just mellow enough. Kinda like putting on some LoFi when you have a task to do.
@@DodieSa To give you a context we are the similar and different in the same time, similar mecanism but different context, support, age, culture, health, so the "no ADHD person" is a big bullshit shortcut...😅. Exemple, there is a huge difference in focus if you see a video because you're interested in the subject or someone throw it at you while you're focus on something else and don't want to even bother "wink", depend also of the time of the day if you see it when you're high on low on dopamine when I know it's not the best moment I keep it for later. Well, if you're not a doomscrolling junky with burned dopamine receptor ofc :D Btw did he really watched it or just looked at the total time and said that without a second thought? It's something that we struggle on some stuff but it doesn't mean we are total victim of it and can't or shouldn't try, just need to accept our brain functionning and work around it, I'd say not harder but (in our way) smarter 😄 Like everyone we can be lazy for real at time and that's okay. And yes his editing is ADHD Friendly I'm looking at this on low dopamine, sometime I lose focus I just come back to the last time stamp or keep it for later Again we are all different 🤷♂So while we have common mecanism that he explain very well, generality is ironically not ADHD Friendly
When he said week three ... My jaw dropped because i juuust figured this out via tracking and was thinking about how to leverage that info to my advantage
Oh btw, you are the reason I got diagnosed a few months ago but also the reason why I didn't become depressed during the hardest years of my life because I found out (from one of your TikTok) that I have ADHD a few years back Thanks for your work!
I’m primarily an experience-learner. Experience is the best teacher and might be supported by other types of learning, like verbal, visual and auditory. Information without the experience doesn’t have the same value for me
Im a butterfly or chameleon. I bounce through all the learning styles. The one that is most effective for me wasn't mentioned. That's teaching the information. I wanted to learn shibori fabric dyeing. Too boring. So I offered to teach a class. I learned so I could teach others. My 1st project was my class sample, made the night before class, of course. Great class, good results. I did the same thing for paper marbling. One of my students became a professional paper marbler. I never touched it again.
There are three Buddhist ways of watching television. It's essentially the same way, but it looks different at different stages of practice. First, you watch TV with the sound off. For about half an hour a day, your favourite shows. When the thought arises that something important and interesting is being said on TV, you become aware of it the moment it occurs and thus neutralise it. At first you'll cringe and switch on the sound, but gradually you'll get used to it. The main thing is not to feel guilty when you can't help yourself. It happens to everyone at first, even llamas. Then you start watching TV with the sound on but the picture off. And finally, you start watching the TV switched off. This is actually the main technique, and the first two are preparatory.
I work in a call center where sprints isn’t possible. I hate this job, but I’m stuck since it pays better than anything around here. I have to work at the times when my brain is the most energized and focused. So depressed.
Make sure that you schedule time each day, outside of work, to do an activity that you enjoy e.g. jigsaws, workout whatever. It helps to keep the depression monster away. Maybe find a way to see the ridiculousness of your plight? Develop a call centre bingo card based on customers or bosses, and see if you can tick all the boxes? It's easy to say from my parents basement but nothing is forever.
And here I am trying to muster up the willpower to go get the icecream from the fridge because I got tired of all my other snacks that are scattered around me on the couch...
Great stuff again !!! It so makes sense ....I do not have so many problems doing my work in the Office ( I am a clinical psychologist), because my Job is full of variety, every day is different, every hour is different....and I am helping the clients with their issues , and they are giving me very good Feedback, which is very fulfilling.....What I find challenging are my everyday household Tasks at home.....as soon that comes into my mind I find myself feeling almost immediately complete tired and exhausted. The same occurs with having to write long reports on my clients ....my eyes get so tired doing so.....
Same same. I guess I picked the right job (social worker with people with disabilities - never boring, always challenges) - but recently I don't find any energy to do household chores and paperwork.. its terrible...
You can hire someone for many of your home tasks. House cleaning or maintenance, yard care, dog walkers, home meal prep delivery, laundry service. Ordering your groceries online and doing curbside pickup on the way home. Lots of home tasks can be outsourced.
Nobody, in my opinion, is able to be so simple and clear and true anb deep explaining what happen in adhd brain as you do. Thanks to your video Im absolutly going through a lot of AHA moments that I din't expected. Yes the hustle notion simply doesn't t work BUT worst it causes frustration and very bad low frequency emotions , a demage fo r the whole person. I started a couple of month ago the procedure for diagnosis, but to be honest I'm starting believing how my brain really works thanks to video like this. I subscribe.
This one was fantastic! Thank you. The “firebreak” is something I’ve been doing for about 7 months now without even realizing it. I always go on a bike ride during my lunch break and have no idea where I’m going. I let the impulsiveness take the wheel (handlebars?) and end up seeing new places while also getting the mental boost from the exercise. That sometimes puts me in dicey situations with traffic, and/or being away from work longer than I should be..😅 but I also come back from the physical sprint ready for another mental “sprint” in the least novel environment imaginable.. on the phone in a cubicle.😂
Thank you for highlighting and visualizing the proclivities of our mind while we're trying to wrangle it. The firebreaks always felt like indulgences rather than re-ignition. Legitimizing it trickles down progress for our tasks. Thank you, my friend.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I love the idea of outsourcing areas of weakness. Could you do a video on examples of outsourcing or resources for resources that has help you? That would be helpful.
I can give you a few. Hiring a house cleaner or yard care person. Having an automated sprinkler system installed in your yard. Hiring an indoor plant care person. Subscribing to one of the meal prep services, like Hello Fresh, so preportioned ingredients ship to your door. Using a dog walker. Ordering groceries online for either home delivery or curbside pickup. Using AI where applicable in your business life or home. Asking Alexa! Having any prescriptions set up for automatic home delivery. Some are free, some are pricey, but that should get you thinking about possibilities.
Nik! You are truly a God-send man! Thank you so much for your channel! I’m learning so much about myself. Broke down in tears yesterday morning finally realizing that nothing is wrong with me, I just think and see the world differently! Thank you so much! Keep up the great work!
Tip. If you have a slow laptop/computer, either max out the memory AND get an SSD for it or get rid of it. Waiting plus one and a half minutes for a page to load not only drives our type insane,but the diversion factors is crazy. I end up with a million tabs, and nothing solved. Trying to start a new AI related business has been crazy with this thing. Anywho Web3, chatgpts, and cryptocurrencies have been the time drainer so i can get something off the ground. New SSD and 8gb are on the way. Glad i found this channel. I'm constantly all over the place learning everything that pops up in RUclips. Forcing myself to get set financially in the meta verse. Ditch the slow computer, we think too much to be bottlenecked by loading pages....squirrel!😂😂
This video was sooooo helpful to me! Thank you for sharing this knowledge! In the future, could you please pleasee make a video on ADHD and maladaptive daydreaming and how to stop daydreaming so much?
@@colleendemaio We need to make sure in our breaks we should never do activities that gives a lot of pleasure than the work. I would recommend doing random workouts during the breaks. I also use a smart watch with pomodoro app in it, which helps me get powerful cues to do the work as I start.
This video is amazing. 🎉 Firebreaks! This has been the missing piece for me. I do 25 minute intervals, but could never get back into it. It was painful. I would watch people do 45 minute intervals, take a 5 minute break and get back to work. I always wondered what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I do that? Now I get up and do something totally different and come back when ready. I just have to make sure I don’t scroll or do something too dopamine intensive. Or else I won’t have any left for more studies. 😅 Thanks and subscribed!
@@j.p.4658For english I learnd the most in school, than I learnd by watching youtubevideos and started reading on reddit and websides of topics that I liked in english. Now I nerly only watch youtube in english becaue there are so much better videos than in german. Now im at the level were I have fun to comunicate with people in english. Going into another country whould be pretty interessting to improve my english. I think its the fact that I learnd it more subcontuestly and by using it in practice by listening and reading instead of theoretic learning that has made it easy for me to learn. Wanting to watch the yoububevideos without constanly reading the subtitels gave me the motivation
@@j.p.4658A Video is also good for visual lerning because the video in the background often supports the thinks that are said. While the inuition subcontuestly connects the words and sentences to the picture to generate a logical meaning. But I still have problems with grammar
@@ISFPorINFPRobin For grammar I'd suggest Apps on your smartphone that are like games. Duolingo, Apps where you have a blank space in the sentence and you choose to put the word in the correct form, tests.
I cannot try harder. It gives me a headache and shuts my brain down. Instead I will rest for an hour. Usually I get energy later in the day after supper. I have protein and this helps.
I’m a design draftsperson and my job involves a lot of 3D modelling and problem solving which I excel at. It also involves a lot of monotonous tasks like placing symbols all over sheets to represent certain pipe sizes etc. The day I started outsourcing these monotonous tasks to our juniors I started to enjoy work so much more and perform better because I didn’t always have that nagging in the back of my head.
Audio learning and kinetic, which considering the methodology of my US educational experience was 'sit still, stay quiet, and read your assignment' which is impossible unless I love the topic it's no wonder I failed English with all those boring classical literature requirements about how much life sucked in 18th century Europe, looking at you Les Mis, but give me a modern classic that was about science or some of Shakespeare's satirical works and I could deconstruct it for hours.
I suspect it's related to an issue with differentiating between what I have to do, what I want to do and what other people want me to do. I'm fine slugging away at something - it's when other people make me feel guilty for not going bigger or faster.. That's when the wheels come off.
You did something consistently for 4 years?!?! Are you sure you're ADHD?!? I mean... I brush my teeth more than 4 years but the mint wakes me up. And that refreshment excites and comforts me daily. It frames my day.
Telling me from the beautiful Marjan forest in Split (lived there for a bit!!) that breaks make things new again. Yeah mind blown! Thank you for this video. so so usedful.
you are helping me a lot by the way. thank you very much i have more than 8 hobbies and skills but i can't committed to one single hobby to make money. i was frustrated and my self esteem was getting low. but now Thank God Your videos opened my Eyes and changed my perspective
Hello, I am an add girl. I love your videos, and you give me an inspiration and a lot of hope for a better life. As you know, our kind of people have to make a lot of effort to concentrate on a mission. At this moment, my mission is to understand your videos and apply you're going ideas. But, I can't do it easily because I have a big obstacle, and it's the music in the background of the videos. In my mind, I know that the words are more important, but I can hear the music so much stronger. My problem is that I dont know what to relate to first, is it to the music or to your words. If you won't mind, please remove the music from the background. I'm begging you. Many thanks in advance.
It's just feels so scammy Nik. I hit the wrong button got booted from the webinar and when I went back in you told me it was still live and restarted.😂
I actually didn't like that either, but joined as there's 30 days money back guarantee and nearly 4 months later and several wins incl passing a car driving theory test with all right answers or loosing 10kg of fat, I'm very happy I ignored the 'scammy' feeling of the 'event' and learned that there's another way rather than just to struggle.. All the best to you and everyone wondering if they should join or not🙂
Start something new Find easy ways Know your strengths and go after that than weaknesss(classic adhd strengths-priblem solving,enthusiasm, creativity,resilience,humor, intuition) Learning style-intrest
At the age of 45, I've become more of a marathon with firebreaks type of guy. No more sprints, stress, pressure: the job will.get.done. And that feeling of closure afterwards...priceless
Watching and listening to this video has really opened my eyes to my son's world. He struggles at school, with focus, but other times of the day in school, he can do fantastically. I would like to show him this video, but i am wondering if you could also do a school friendly, simpler version. As i know my son gets frustrated with himself over not being able to start things..he gets stuck! 😔 thank you for your content 👏👍😊
Some strategies that have helped me: do 5 things. Only five things (or 10, you choose). OR 10 minutes. So 5; items of dishes, or 10 minutes of homework. Setting a timer to see how much you can get done in 10 minutes. Also, fail faster. I can get so hung up on wanting to do a good job that I can't start. Plan to fail. Start out with the goal of failing. It gets you over the starting hump.
If you have adhd and you know some hack to manage it, feel free to comment it here, cuz we adhd ppl prefer reading comments than pay attention to what actually in the video 😅.
I am trying to understand my brain, because my thinking style is compartmentalizing my feelings and converting into language, thinking linguistically and can think in pictures extremely clear, but sometimes my brain function is so bad that I have trouble talking. I am diagnosed autistic as a little kid but I also relate a lot to adhd which I have a feeling people may assume that I maybe a hypochondriac for mental disorders though I am careful of saying that I have something.
Yeah, tell me about that when you have to write a document for which you have to take input from different emails and a contract on a topic that you despise.
“You have permission to ask for help on your weaknesses” is true… unless you ask for help and get told “no.” That’s been my experience; numerous times. So then what? I’m usually left floundering on my own, which usually ends in burnout
Verbal and conceptual totally; the problem with visual is that if you study really specialistic stuff (phisics, medicine) you won't find no Netflix or RUclips content that match your needs
Depends on the things i need to learn...if it is a college course, i learn visually, i retain the page number where the info i need is located, the position on the page, the color is written with etc. And it helps alot if i write the info, not just reading it from a book, because i retain info while i write😅 If i need to learn to use a program, for example, i learn by doing...intuitive...maybe watching a tutorial but i just look for the little info i need in that moment, like where is the button that does that thing, so i always skip thru tutorials and watching at 2x speed (i love it when there are chapters) 😂 The problem with the sprint is that once i take a break, i freeze and i am not capabale of starting again😅
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Hi dude
I got this problem with me where I can't remember things that are taught me in previous 15 to 20 min during my lecture
Though I tried my best to focus on lecture... Still this thing happens to me
Can u suggest me how to handle the situation
BTW thank u.... Ur videos really helps me a lot
And i got ADHD too.... As ur test (quiz) says
TLDR: I discovered kind of accidentally that I work very well and very hard for 1 hour and 50 minutes. I had set a 2 hour timer one day prior to a meeting. I stopped working because I was bored and discovered I was 10 minutes off of 2 hours. Coincidentally, I did the same thing a few days later. Exact same result: my brain said I'm done at 1 hour 50 minutes.
I now set a 2 hour timer, stop automatically 10 minutes before it goes off and take that as a break. I also work from home as an independent contractor with --- luckily --- four clients. I rotate through all four clients each day and devote a half hour at the beginning and end of my day for organization, planning and pep talks, so I work more or less 8 hours a day, just in odd chunks.
In between two hour segments, I'll go do laundry, make lunch, walk, do other household chores. I count those as side quests and find they last just as long as it takes to make a cup of coffee or heat up lunch. The ADHD have-to-get-it-done-before-something-ends kicks in and I take full advantage of it. I also take a nap occasionally -- which lasts just about 2 hours.
It's created a very odd side effect feeling there are more than seven days in a week though. Some days seem very expansive, like I'm surprised to find it's still Tuesday, rather than days later, because I've done a whole bunch of 'things' and see progress, but I haven't yet given up on any one thing.
There are other days where I just stay in bed and don't bother 😺
I appreciate the advice. I'll try a timer method and see how it works.
This helps. Thanks for posting.
I appreciate this revelation. Thanks for showing how it works when you let yourself stop when you can't anymore. It seems so much more productive than struggling to continue when your mind has checked out.
@@Metqa I'm happy my weird ways are helpful. I have been trying -- and mostly succeeding -- to be very consistent with this. Part of it working, I think, is I know when I can take a break, many breaks. It's a mini-reward every two hours.
And on days when I'm really struggling, I do push myself with some mind tricks. Like saying "it's only an hour" and then "oh, hey, that was okay. Now it's less than an hour. Easy peasy."
There are some days with many, many little pep talks, but they are fewer than before. It's helped me understand when I can push myself -- and more importantly, how to push myself if I need to to meet a due date -- and when it's just time to give up and do something else. Or sleep.
And because I am not concise: I have sleep-in Tuesdays. Not sure why that day -- probably b/c I work weekends and nights mostly -- I just stay in bed until I don't want to. It's another reward, so to speak, and having it semi-scheduled, I don't feel guilty when it happens. I have some chronic pain issues and one day a week with ice or heat and rest is usually a good thing anyway. And if I'm feeling pain-free and productive, then it's a win-win and I get more stuff done.
....but then there's female hOrMOnEs... roller-coaster 🎢
I’m probably a more conceptual learner. Once I get the larger breakthrough on something, anything, it instantly becomes much more interesting which is when I watch videos and make visual aids for myself
Same!!! I like to be good at something. I noticed that I don’t like hard things and everything is hard in the beginning. But I have been doing intentionally hard things recently and I love it!!!!
I always finish what I start bc I count quitting as finishing
You should be a motivational speaker, that was inspiring 😂
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I like this
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Hahahahaha yes!! It’s all about perspective 😂
This vid, above all others I’ve watch from him, explains soooooo much to me…. My “superpower” is how fast I learn and how easy it is for me to retain it. BUT, if I’m forced to learn something (ie: required college course), I’ve learned how to “cram & dump.” I can shove stuff into my head for very short term regurgitation, then it just “evaporates.” I think in pictures. Doesn’t matter how the info is presented, if I HAVE to know it (it’s serious) or I’m interested, I easily constrict a picture. Once the picture is there, it’s forever.
Well "cram & dump" is what most neurotypical people do as well, that's why they say "it's simple"
I always enjoyed using coloured pens for writing notes or summarising study.
@@le13579different colors for different topics. I also used them for different needed lists. To do list, grocery list, what I want to grow in my garden this year list, etc. Some days I make a compilation list of what needs to occur over the next couple of days, all color blocked by topics. Keeps me interested in it.
"I think in pictures" this talks straight to my hippocampus 😂
You said week three and my life flashed in front of my eyes😳
Edit: breaks mean I'm never coming back🤦♂️
That's also my problem with breaks, they can easily tunr into taking the rest of the day off lol
I haven’t taken a break or lunch at work in over 2years. I and a store manager and have been working harder to delegate through my assistant and supervisors to keep from shouldering everything myself. It’s hard for me to utilize others to get work done.
✨ Summary:
- People with ADHD often struggle with consistency due to a brain wired for novelty and interest rather than importance.
- Traditional productivity advice, which emphasizes trying harder, doesn't work well for ADHD brains.
- Starting new tasks gives a dopamine boost, but motivation wanes when novelty fades, typically around week 3.
- Three strategies can help maintain long-term consistency without anxiety and shame:
1. Play to Your Strengths: Recognize ADHD brains have peaks and valleys in abilities. Focus on strengths and outsource weaknesses to achieve better results.
2. Find Your Preferred Processing Modality: Identify your preferred ways of learning (visual, verbal, tactile, etc.) to keep tasks interesting and sustainable.
3. Work in Sprints: Use short bursts of work (e.g., Pomodoro Technique) to align with how ADHD brains operate best. Incorporate breaks to maintain novelty and prevent burnout.
i love u
I seem to need to know everything about a subject-when I'm fully knowledgeable about it, I get a sick feeling and don't want to even look at it. I got hooked on PC's late 1980s, the internet 1990's, iPhones early 2000, Blockchain technologies and now AI - I've been very successful in my working life as an IT and business consultant. I semi-retired during covid lock downs and published 17 business/self-help books 2020 - then outsourced the translations into Spanish. I'm totally absorbed in turning those books into online courses now. It is ALL absorbing. I love the process. My wife told me about ADHD... It seems I have most of the traits. I'm in my 60s and am working through it.
The editing on this is EXTREMELY ADHD friendly, thank you.
Genuine question, how? I showed it to an ADHD friend and they laughed and said no ADHD person would ever watch it because of the length and monotonous content.
@@DodieSa changes images and tone of voice quite frequently, which makes it easy to stay engaged without working too hard.
@@DodieSa Also if you watch it with headphones, the music in the background really helps "scratch" your brain. It's not quite binaural audio, but it's just mellow enough. Kinda like putting on some LoFi when you have a task to do.
@@DodieSa To give you a context we are the similar and different in the same time, similar mecanism but different context, support, age, culture, health, so the "no ADHD person" is a big bullshit shortcut...😅.
Exemple, there is a huge difference in focus if you see a video because you're interested in the subject or someone throw it at you while you're focus on something else and don't want to even bother "wink", depend also of the time of the day if you see it when you're high on low on dopamine when I know it's not the best moment I keep it for later.
Well, if you're not a doomscrolling junky with burned dopamine receptor ofc :D
Btw did he really watched it or just looked at the total time and said that without a second thought?
It's something that we struggle on some stuff but it doesn't mean we are total victim of it and can't or shouldn't try, just need to accept our brain functionning and work around it, I'd say not harder but (in our way) smarter 😄
Like everyone we can be lazy for real at time and that's okay.
And yes his editing is ADHD Friendly I'm looking at this on low dopamine, sometime I lose focus I just come back to the last time stamp or keep it for later
Again we are all different 🤷♂So while we have common mecanism that he explain very well, generality is ironically not ADHD Friendly
When he said week three ... My jaw dropped because i juuust figured this out via tracking and was thinking about how to leverage that info to my advantage
Same here !!! It’s week 3 on a major project and I feel like crawling out of my skin with boredom 😢😅
Oh btw, you are the reason I got diagnosed a few months ago but also the reason why I didn't become depressed during the hardest years of my life because I found out (from one of your TikTok) that I have ADHD a few years back
Thanks for your work!
Great for you!
🙏This is what I do it for. Thank you for letting me know. You're awesome.
I’m primarily an experience-learner. Experience is the best teacher and might be supported by other types of learning, like verbal, visual and auditory. Information without the experience doesn’t have the same value for me
Honestly thinking about it and having someone else saying it are two completely different things. Thank you
I do this exact same thing too! But I didn’t even realize it until I read your comment! Thank you 😊
Im a butterfly or chameleon. I bounce through all the learning styles. The one that is most effective for me wasn't mentioned. That's teaching the information. I wanted to learn shibori fabric dyeing. Too boring. So I offered to teach a class. I learned so I could teach others. My 1st project was my class sample, made the night before class, of course. Great class, good results. I did the same thing for paper marbling. One of my students became a professional paper marbler. I never touched it again.
There are three Buddhist ways of watching television. It's essentially the same way, but it looks different at different stages of practice. First, you watch TV with the sound off. For about half an hour a day, your favourite shows. When the thought arises that something important and interesting is being said on TV, you become aware of it the moment it occurs and thus neutralise it. At first you'll cringe and switch on the sound, but gradually you'll get used to it. The main thing is not to feel guilty when you can't help yourself. It happens to everyone at first, even llamas. Then you start watching TV with the sound on but the picture off. And finally, you start watching the TV switched off. This is actually the main technique, and the first two are preparatory.
What the heck 😂 but I might just try this
Woah. That blew my mind. I'm going to try it.
I love how you've added that specific ADHD relief music that'll keep us interested in the video.
Smart.
I work in a call center where sprints isn’t possible. I hate this job, but I’m stuck since it pays better than anything around here. I have to work at the times when my brain is the most energized and focused. So depressed.
I feel you there, my job is similar. It allows me to work from home so that's why I stay even though I loathe it.
Make sure that you schedule time each day, outside of work, to do an activity that you enjoy e.g. jigsaws, workout whatever. It helps to keep the depression monster away.
Maybe find a way to see the ridiculousness of your plight? Develop a call centre bingo card based on customers or bosses, and see if you can tick all the boxes?
It's easy to say from my parents basement but nothing is forever.
And here I am trying to muster up the willpower to go get the icecream from the fridge because I got tired of all my other snacks that are scattered around me on the couch...
Great stuff again !!! It so makes sense ....I do not have so many problems doing my work in the Office ( I am a clinical psychologist), because my Job is full of variety, every day is different, every hour is different....and I am helping the clients with their issues , and they are giving me very good Feedback, which is very fulfilling.....What I find challenging are my everyday household Tasks at home.....as soon that comes into my mind I find myself feeling almost immediately complete tired and exhausted. The same occurs with having to write long reports on my clients ....my eyes get so tired doing so.....
Same same.
I guess I picked the right job (social worker with people with disabilities - never boring, always challenges) - but recently I don't find any energy to do household chores and paperwork.. its terrible...
I find as soon as I do anything I don't want to do I get tired !
You can hire someone for many of your home tasks. House cleaning or maintenance, yard care, dog walkers, home meal prep delivery, laundry service. Ordering your groceries online and doing curbside pickup on the way home. Lots of home tasks can be outsourced.
Nobody, in my opinion, is able to be so simple and clear and true anb deep explaining what happen in adhd brain as you do. Thanks to your video Im absolutly going through a lot of AHA moments that I din't expected. Yes the hustle notion simply doesn't t work BUT worst it causes frustration and very bad low frequency emotions , a demage fo r the whole person. I started a couple of month ago the procedure for diagnosis, but to be honest I'm starting believing how my brain really works thanks to video like this. I subscribe.
sprinting instead of jogging is the most valuable analogy on this topic I've ever seen. Literally this!!!
Firebreak! I’ve done a version of this but never planned them. Love the name of this strategy - Thank you!
This one was fantastic! Thank you. The “firebreak” is something I’ve been doing for about 7 months now without even realizing it. I always go on a bike ride during my lunch break and have no idea where I’m going. I let the impulsiveness take the wheel (handlebars?) and end up seeing new places while also getting the mental boost from the exercise. That sometimes puts me in dicey situations with traffic, and/or being away from work longer than I should be..😅 but I also come back from the physical sprint ready for another mental “sprint” in the least novel environment imaginable.. on the phone in a cubicle.😂
Glad it resonated Sam!
Thank you for highlighting and visualizing the proclivities of our mind while we're trying to wrangle it. The firebreaks always felt like indulgences rather than re-ignition. Legitimizing it trickles down progress for our tasks. Thank you, my friend.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I love the idea of outsourcing areas of weakness. Could you do a video on examples of outsourcing or resources for resources that has help you? That would be helpful.
I can give you a few. Hiring a house cleaner or yard care person. Having an automated sprinkler system installed in your yard. Hiring an indoor plant care person. Subscribing to one of the meal prep services, like Hello Fresh, so preportioned ingredients ship to your door. Using a dog walker. Ordering groceries online for either home delivery or curbside pickup. Using AI where applicable in your business life or home. Asking Alexa! Having any prescriptions set up for automatic home delivery. Some are free, some are pricey, but that should get you thinking about possibilities.
Nik! You are truly a God-send man! Thank you so much for your channel! I’m learning so much about myself. Broke down in tears yesterday morning finally realizing that nothing is wrong with me, I just think and see the world differently! Thank you so much! Keep up the great work!
Tip. If you have a slow laptop/computer, either max out the memory AND get an SSD for it or get rid of it. Waiting plus one and a half minutes for a page to load not only drives our type insane,but the diversion factors is crazy. I end up with a million tabs, and nothing solved. Trying to start a new AI related business has been crazy with this thing. Anywho Web3, chatgpts, and cryptocurrencies have been the time drainer so i can get something off the ground. New SSD and 8gb are on the way. Glad i found this channel. I'm constantly all over the place learning everything that pops up in RUclips. Forcing myself to get set financially in the meta verse. Ditch the slow computer, we think too much to be bottlenecked by loading pages....squirrel!😂😂
This video was sooooo helpful to me! Thank you for sharing this knowledge! In the future, could you please pleasee make a video on ADHD and maladaptive daydreaming and how to stop daydreaming so much?
Man, this is pure gold. Congrats from Brazil!
My problem with Pomodoro is that my breaks are becoming longer than my work. Instead of a 5 minute break it became a 1 hour break. tf
Same! I wander off during my "five minute break" and never come back
Same i hate myself for this
Try increasing the work time in between rest
@@colleendemaio We need to make sure in our breaks we should never do activities that gives a lot of pleasure than the work. I would recommend doing random workouts during the breaks. I also use a smart watch with pomodoro app in it, which helps me get powerful cues to do the work as I start.
Your videos are very informative with concepts that actually make sense to me. Best wishes from San Francisco!
If I brake...I cant get restarted. I have to keep going.
This video is amazing. 🎉 Firebreaks! This has been the missing piece for me. I do 25 minute intervals, but could never get back into it. It was painful. I would watch people do 45 minute intervals, take a 5 minute break and get back to work. I always wondered what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I do that? Now I get up and do something totally different and come back when ready. I just have to make sure I don’t scroll or do something too dopamine intensive. Or else I won’t have any left for more studies. 😅 Thanks and subscribed!
Conceptual, Intuetiv, visual and the most kinestetic. Learning to drive is just such a fun thing to do for me.
Same here. How to learn a new language then?
@@j.p.4658For english I learnd the most in school, than I learnd by watching youtubevideos and started reading on reddit and websides of topics that I liked in english. Now I nerly only watch youtube in english becaue there are so much better videos than in german. Now im at the level were I have fun to comunicate with people in english. Going into another country whould be pretty interessting to improve my english.
I think its the fact that I learnd it more subcontuestly and by using it in practice by listening and reading instead of theoretic learning that has made it easy for me to learn. Wanting to watch the yoububevideos without constanly reading the subtitels gave me the motivation
@@j.p.4658A Video is also good for visual lerning because the video in the background often supports the thinks that are said. While the inuition subcontuestly connects the words and sentences to the picture to generate a logical meaning. But I still have problems with grammar
@@ISFPorINFPRobin For grammar I'd suggest Apps on your smartphone that are like games. Duolingo, Apps where you have a blank space in the sentence and you choose to put the word in the correct form, tests.
I cannot try harder. It gives me a headache and shuts my brain down. Instead I will rest for an hour. Usually I get energy later in the day after supper. I have protein and this helps.
I found this video interesting and I realized I already had it on my watch later list 😅😂
So true. I learn by observation and repetition. Lose concentration after a few hours.
I’m a design draftsperson and my job involves a lot of 3D modelling and problem solving which I excel at. It also involves a lot of monotonous tasks like placing symbols all over sheets to represent certain pipe sizes etc. The day I started outsourcing these monotonous tasks to our juniors I started to enjoy work so much more and perform better because I didn’t always have that nagging in the back of my head.
Audio learning and kinetic, which considering the methodology of my US educational experience was 'sit still, stay quiet, and read your assignment' which is impossible unless I love the topic it's no wonder I failed English with all those boring classical literature requirements about how much life sucked in 18th century Europe, looking at you Les Mis, but give me a modern classic that was about science or some of Shakespeare's satirical works and I could deconstruct it for hours.
I suspect it's related to an issue with differentiating between what I have to do, what I want to do and what other people want me to do. I'm fine slugging away at something - it's when other people make me feel guilty for not going bigger or faster.. That's when the wheels come off.
Your consistent effort to provide high quality content regardless of your ADHD is fantastic as for me.
I am an auditory learner, a dialogical learner, and a kinetic learner - which is learning through story.
You did something consistently for 4 years?!?! Are you sure you're ADHD?!? I mean... I brush my teeth more than 4 years but the mint wakes me up. And that refreshment excites and comforts me daily. It frames my day.
Are YOU SURE YOUR ADHD
Bro, this is such a great channel! Thanks so much. Needed this
4:06 I have no one to ask for help, I'll repeat again, I have no one to ask for help 😅
I learn best through movement and inuition, but like to use all channels😊
Absolutely true 💯 thank you for this video!
"Race car engine with bicycle brakes" 😂😂😂😂😂
Telling me from the beautiful Marjan forest in Split (lived there for a bit!!) that breaks make things new again. Yeah mind blown! Thank you for this video. so so usedful.
conceptual and visual
so i rotate in and out things to make them feel fresh but have realised I need to schedule rest in there
You had me at "stop trying" 😃
HOLY S...I think I have the same problem....I've been trying to achieve success for so long and have never been able to get something done.
you are helping me a lot by the way. thank you very much i have more than 8 hobbies and skills but i can't committed to one single hobby to make money. i was frustrated and my self esteem was getting low. but now Thank God Your videos opened my Eyes and changed my perspective
I really can't stop until I finish no matter what I do. Stay Uncommon!
Subscribed! Thanks for explaining how I've been holding myself back.
This video is truly a remarkable piece of work. indeed.
New subscriber here: I'm loving this video editing, your voice, and background music! It helps keep me focused!
Love you ❤ and your content SO much, Nik.
You’ve helped me understand myself and be more productive.
-from a very late adult diagnosed ADHDer.
Hello, I am an add girl. I love your videos, and you give me an inspiration and a lot of hope for a better life. As you know, our kind of people have to make a lot of effort to concentrate on a mission. At this moment, my mission is to understand your videos and apply you're going ideas. But, I can't do it easily because I have a big obstacle, and it's the music in the background of the videos. In my mind, I know that the words are more important, but I can hear the music so much stronger. My problem is that I dont know what to relate to first, is it to the music or to your words. If you won't mind, please remove the music from the background. I'm begging you. Many thanks in advance.
It's just feels so scammy Nik. I hit the wrong button got booted from the webinar and when I went back in you told me it was still live and restarted.😂
I actually didn't like that either, but joined as there's 30 days money back guarantee and nearly 4 months later and several wins incl passing a car driving theory test with all right answers or loosing 10kg of fat, I'm very happy I ignored the 'scammy' feeling of the 'event' and learned that there's another way rather than just to struggle..
All the best to you and everyone wondering if they should join or not🙂
Start something new
Find easy ways
Know your strengths and go after that than weaknesss(classic adhd strengths-priblem solving,enthusiasm, creativity,resilience,humor, intuition)
Learning style-intrest
At the age of 45, I've become more of a marathon with firebreaks type of guy. No more sprints, stress, pressure: the job will.get.done. And that feeling of closure afterwards...priceless
I iddentify me more with the one that is verbal and conceptualize and also the visualization like you
You are describing me very well!!!
Thank you! Sounds promising 👌🏻
Giving a bonus/dopamine in an ADHD video for staying until the end must be criminal lol.
Dobar dan! And thanks!
Subbed after seeing your Britta short 😁👍
Watching and listening to this video has really opened my eyes to my son's world.
He struggles at school, with focus, but other times of the day in school, he can do fantastically.
I would like to show him this video, but i am wondering if you could also do a school friendly, simpler version. As i know my son gets frustrated with himself over not being able to start things..he gets stuck! 😔 thank you for your content 👏👍😊
Some strategies that have helped me: do 5 things. Only five things (or 10, you choose). OR 10 minutes. So 5; items of dishes, or 10 minutes of homework. Setting a timer to see how much you can get done in 10 minutes. Also, fail faster. I can get so hung up on wanting to do a good job that I can't start. Plan to fail. Start out with the goal of failing. It gets you over the starting hump.
Thank you for this advice.@@susansauceda9879
Let’s clean up the diet and start from there
Good for you it’s happen on week 3. Mine early at week 2 or 1&1/2😂
If you have adhd and you know some hack to manage it, feel free to comment it here, cuz we adhd ppl prefer reading comments than pay attention to what actually in the video 😅.
I created an offshore schedule to help me with this 21 on 7 days off
I think visually and by askiing questions and doing things physically.
But I think maybe everyone is that way?
9:38 Apparently, the stunning view associated with the concept of "break" made me cry... Maybe I need one actually
I love that you have a pomodoro body doubling video! I’m going to check it out!
I am trying to understand my brain, because my thinking style is compartmentalizing my feelings and converting into language, thinking linguistically and can think in pictures extremely clear, but sometimes my brain function is so bad that I have trouble talking. I am diagnosed autistic as a little kid but I also relate a lot to adhd which I have a feeling people may assume that I maybe a hypochondriac for mental disorders though I am careful of saying that I have something.
The content and the editing was a banger. Anyone know what music is used??
Thank you. I learned a lot that will help me going forward.
I might be more of a conceptual learner that understands through bigger pieces. I also need visual aids otherwise i can’t watch the video 😂
Can you make a video about adhd medication? 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Great advice. Scheduling like this is easy when you are a RUclipsr. I’m a public school teacher. I’m stuck
I watch this 5 mins. after it posted
I saw it at 3 minutes after it posted. Nice timing. :)
Soooo perfectly explained. Thank you.
Yeah, tell me about that when you have to write a document for which you have to take input from different emails and a contract on a topic that you despise.
Good luck watching this video in full. NO I WILL !
Kinesthetic, Visual, Conceptual ❤
Love this❤..thank you so much..I'll try not to work harder about this😅
I found the best channel today😊thanks
“You have permission to ask for help on your weaknesses” is true… unless you ask for help and get told “no.” That’s been my experience; numerous times. So then what? I’m usually left floundering on my own, which usually ends in burnout
Thank you so much !!! It helps a lot 🙏🏻🙏🏻💞💞💞
Verbal and conceptual totally; the problem with visual is that if you study really specialistic stuff (phisics, medicine) you won't find no Netflix or RUclips content that match your needs
Depends on the things i need to learn...if it is a college course, i learn visually, i retain the page number where the info i need is located, the position on the page, the color is written with etc. And it helps alot if i write the info, not just reading it from a book, because i retain info while i write😅 If i need to learn to use a program, for example, i learn by doing...intuitive...maybe watching a tutorial but i just look for the little info i need in that moment, like where is the button that does that thing, so i always skip thru tutorials and watching at 2x speed (i love it when there are chapters) 😂
The problem with the sprint is that once i take a break, i freeze and i am not capabale of starting again😅
Love the camera analogy 3:40
Love your videos helps a lot
NOVELTY DOPAMINE! I kept wondering why i couldnt JUST stick with something!
Danke dir 🙏🏾 wirklich 🙏🏾
I noticed that I am able to complete tasks in the morning after that my brain goes to sleep. 😴😴😴
I do it same way😊😊❤