My brother died of colorectal cancer at the age of 44. A few days before his death, he developed a fistula near his rectum that was allowing what seemed to be his broken down insides exit his body. It seemed and smelled much different than bowel. And it just continued to come out. We would get him cleaned up and turn around to need to again. It’s a smell I’ll never forget. But I’m glad I was there to help my sister-in-law take care of him. He took care of me for years. He was pretty much grown when I came along. He helped raise me with my mom after my dad left us. He was the best big brother who went above and beyond the call of a brother.
My mom died in hospice. Unfortunately we weren’t there when she died. We got there about 2 hours after her death. She was noticeably cooler. The hospice people did a wonderful job cleaning her up for us to see her. They even washed her hair. I know her soul had left and we were seeing just her lifeless body, but it was comforting to see her clean in a peaceful repose. I look forward to seeing her and Dad again.
I missed my dad's passing in hospital from cancer. A few weeks later my mother died from cancer but I witnessed her passing she was very grey in colour
I was with my dad when he passed last year. I leaned in to give him one last hug and say goodbye. My face was against his face and I felt the cooling, like his blood draining from the top of his head down his body and he was getting cold and heard his last breath slowly leaving his body. My dad gave me my first breath and then he gave me his last breath.
I was with my mom (87 years old) when she died at home. It was extremely peaceful. Within seconds after exhaling her last breath, her skin started to cool (forehead and face). No messes thank God. The second she passed...It was just like in the movies... I had dozens of visions of her bathing me in the kitchen sink as a baby, dancing around the room with me as a toddler, baking Christmas cookies and putting out the little glass bottles of Coke for Santa... then I realized I was orphaned and I was now the elder of the family. Time seems to go by so fast. At least I was fortunate to reach the age of 60 when she passed.
My Dad passed while I was asleep. But I woke up in the middle of the night for no reason. Being a spiritual person, I believe it was his soul telling me he had passed. I gave him his meds at 10pm, told him I loved him and went to bed. At 2:15am I woke up and went to check on him he had passed. He was still pretty warm. I spent some time with him telling him I loved am and what a great Dad he was. He still looked pink. I called the hospice nurse and his best friend, his next door neighbor. She was wonderful. Being a nurse and having been with my Mom when she passed I knew he was close to death. I feel so fortunate to have been with both my parents when they died
my mom passed in the hospital when I was sleeping at home. I had a dream I was trying to prevent her removing her catheter and woke up. She had done the same the night before when I was there. Immediately heard the phone ring and found out she had just died in the hospital.
So sorry for your dogs passing had the same experience a few weeks ago with my sweet 18 old mollie (cat). She looked peaceful, too. I have to believe all of gods creations will be together in the afterlife.
Im so sorry for your loss.... i was blessed... when my sweet dog passed, his soul actually passed through me!!!! It felt ancient and intelligent.... i was so surprised i stopped crying that second!!! Im so grateful.... we'll see our loved ones again!!!
My Mom just passed today, I was glad I watched 1 of your videos a year or so ago that explained the tell tale signs of someone near death, the past few days my Mom was showing several of the signs you talked about! She is no longer in pain & I'm happy about that part of it! Thank You
The day before my mom died in the nursing home she told her doctor that she just had the best dream. Where she was going she was going to be okay and it was beautiful. She passed peacefully the following day, listening to a hospice nurse softly strumming hymns on her guitar. Mom so loved music, so this seemed such a perfect way to pass. I still have overwhelming feelings some days, but I just remember her words, "Im going to be ok." And that makes me smile.
I’m a volunteer for Hospice, all I do is play old hymns for patients… I have yet to be with a dying patient… but I’m ready to help them through the transition from earthly life to Heavenly life!
Orthodox Jewish burial is the original green burial, being the standard practice for at least 1,000 years. The body is buried within 24 hours after death in a plain coffin (unfinished wood or even cardboard) devoid of metal. The coffin placed in a grave without a concrete vault (law permitting) in direct contact with the soil. Depending on the type of soil, weather and climate, within a year, the body and the coffin have completely disintegrated.
My husband had Cystic Fibrosis and had a lung transplant 22 years ago. I met him 6 months after his transplant. Two weeks ago he went into lung failure and it was decided that he'd receive palliative care. They removed the breathing tube. Within 6 minutes he was gone. He went peacefully. I was able to hold his hand and tell him I loved him, which helped me with closure/acceptance. By watching many of your videos, I knew that my husband had a good death. He appeared comfortable and he did not dye alone. Thank you for educating me on facing death in a positive way.
My dad asked just a few weeks before he died that we donate his body to a medical school for science purposes. That to me was a beautiful, lasting gift to medical students that could continue to learn from him. Nurse Julie, please can you do such a video one day of what medical schools do with donated bodies? Thank you for your informative RUclips channel. I learn so much from you.
My husband just passed in March. He had Parkinson's and related dementia. He didnt have tremors but he did have stiffening of the muscles in his arms and legs but specifically in his neck. It was like his head and neck were always leaning forward. It looked terribly uncomfortable but he said it didn't hurt. We had only been home from the hospital less than 2 hrs when they called that the nurse had gone in and found that he had passed. I know he waited for his daughter and I to not be there. They asked if we wanted to come view the body and we said of course. I am so very glad we did. He had endured a difficult 9 days in hospital. But when we got there he looked so at peace. His neck muscles had relaxed and for the first time in several years he looked comfortable. I was glad to witness that. I was also glad, for him, that all his struggles were over. The physical detriments and the dementia were no longer ruining his life. His neuro had said one time it was a battle he couldn't win. But he was wrong, he did win the battle and left here totally at peace. ❤
Every post, every comment you make is on point. Absolutely no false information. This is why anyone who has questions about death and dying should follow you.
Thanks Julie for sharing all of this information which is NOT easy to hear. I was with my mom in the hospital when she was 81 and near death and unconscious. I was holding her hand and suddenly, her hand held my hand so tightly like a vise grip and then it suddenly relaxed and she had passed on. It was like she wanted to hold on to me for as long as she could before letting go and entering her Eternal Life. This happened on August 27, 2007 but it still seems like only yesterday. I LOVE you mom and MISS YOU every day! 😇
Just downloaded and listened to your book today...Thank you for all your candid information...My Loved One is 96 and is on HOSPICE..she has lived with us for almost 3 years now and we can see the end is going to be sooner than later...It is hard to express how much of a positive impact our hospice team has made in our lives..It is just my husband and I who do all the care...there has been no one else until hospice. We now feel we are part of a village of wonderful people who help us...Bless you all who do hospice care as a career :)
My husband died peacefully with me after diagnosed with 11 lesions in his brain. I was taking care of him 24/7. I most definitely went through a lot of trauma through this experience. You really assisted me through the process and help me to understand. I want to thank you for sharing your experience and expertise.❤
Both my parents died in hospice care. I can’t say enough about how caring and supportive this organization is. They are a special kind of people. I only wish I could be as helpful and supportive for others like they are, but I don’t have the strength emotionally. Thank you all for helping so many families dealing with this phase of life…..❤
My husband died 10 years ago. I always wondered. 87 years young. 30 years different in ages. My 3rd. Marriage. Together 13 years. I loved this man with almost all of my heart. The lord above, first. Myfirst 2 divorces, didn't hurt that much. I still miss him. Thank you Julie.❤
I lost my husband. He was only 45 yrs old. We were married 23 years, but together since we were young teenagers. Our 5 children were ages 6 to 23 when he passed. Some losses you never get over. He was my world. If it wasn't for our children, I would have joined my husband in a heart beat.
Indeed...My Dad told me my Mom (at home in hospice, pretty much unconscious on Methadone)...had a huge bowel movement. I knew she had hardly eaten much in weeks. I looked at my sister (2 nurses here) and said, "I know you know what I'm thinking..." she just nodded...sometimes the evacuation starts ahead of death. It wasn't long at all after that. Thank you for helping people understand that which they don't. XO
Dear Julie thank you for me understanding what my mother was going threw when she died It will be 12yrs this OctR up all of everyone's Family n Friends❤❤❤❤❤
I had a similar experience with my mom. She passed away the following day. No heavy breathing or death rattle. Just peaceful last breaths. It was comforting to know she was finally at peace ❤Julie provides an invaluable service to prepare families for the end. Much is not pleasant but informative.
When my mom had passed, i was with her, but she had not eaten and solid foods for a couple weeks because she was on a ventilator. I was so heart broken when she finally passed that i didnt even notice anything like fluids coming out of her body. Either way, death does suck but it is part of life. And when my father had passed he had a heart attack in his room. He didn't stiffen up but they did say he was when they came to get him to take him to the mortuary. Death does suck. Just live your life to the fullest. Be well my friends 🧡
Thanks, good to see someone acknowledge that death does suck! Bothered me my whole life knowing it's always looming over... to me, it almost made life pointless since we're all just dying anyways. But I know my view isn't common 😊
My Wife was on Hospice for 3 months and your videos help me know what to look for and not be surprise when things happen. Your are great at your job and our nurses were great.
I was able to lay in the bed with my best friend close enough to be a sister as she was taken off life support. She Cheyenne stocked (sp) for 45 minutes after the vent was taken off. It was me her mom, stepdad, step sister, and cousins in her ICU room. She was disabled from premature birth and drugs her birth mother took. She had cerebral palsy and that was how we met I have cerebral palsy as well. Her mom and I removed her feeding tube, Suprapubic catheter and all her IV lines before we left (they said it was OK) we didn’t want her going to the after life with all the tubes hanging out. Gosh I miss her it’s been 9 years now fuck how has it been 9 years already?
I can’t say enough about how wonderful hospice was when my mother was dying. She had lung cancer & dementia, but they did everything to make her happy in her last months, she wanted a dog, they brought in a therapy dog and they found someone to bring in a keyboard & sing WWII songs with her. But the sweetest thing is after she died, they sent me a stuffed animal that looked like the therapy dog & after12 years I still have it.
Nurse Julie, so appreciate your Channel and the End of Life Education you provide. I am a Hospice Chaplain and have been for almost 9 years. My Dad entered Hospice almost two weeks ago and died just shy of a week. The Hospice I work for cared for him and my family and allowed me the space I needed to just be a daughter. It has not been an easy road, but I so appreciate the care he received and that he was able to die at home, surrounded by love and laughter. There are a number of beautiful things we got to experience with him in his final days on earth and they carry us now through this. Many life lessons. My prayer for my Dad was to die gently and peacefully and he did. We could not have done it without hospice. It has been quite the experience for me personally to be on this side of things and I know will help me to have an even greater appreciation and compassion for what our families are going through.
One day we went fishing, we noticed one on the other side of the lake because we seen his or her feet, didn't think anything about it til a family came and asked if we'd seen anyone, we said yes directly across on the other side of the lake, then minutes later we heard a scream, we ran to see what had happened and a man passed away while fishing, since I was the only one experienced in CPR they asked me to help, but when I felt for a pulse I knew it was way to late, rigamortis had already set in I politely told them there's nothing I can do, his wife understood saying he had a bad heart and probably only had a short time left thus she let him go fishing, his children were to heartbroken, think that was the last time I ever went fishing, so we stayed another 6 hours waiting police and everyone to arrive, I felt bad for the family but thought he died doing what he loved to do
It's called "rigor mortis", it's great to be a little medically educated, glad you tried to help. And how you could see their feet from the other side of the lake, that part was like word salad.
@myredpencil well that's what I tried to typed , I'm well aware of rigor now tell that to Google correct that shouldn't even be correcting shit since I have it off but apparently it listens like politicians do
@myredpencil well hell we are at the lake a whole 2 minutes before all this ,I'll be sure next time to take my crippled ass and get to pushing my wheelchair around the entire lake to scan it since someone who doesn't know shot about that day told me to, happy now geezus
@lauramartinez7057 thank you, bless your heart for the kind words, guess I still feel guilty that there was nothing I could do, everyone I went fishing with was ready to go, but I'm a paraplegic so it took me longer to get ready, perhaps if I was faster maybe I would have been there in enough time to at least tried, feel so bad he must have been there all alone, I know your right but my circumstance now I doubt I'll get that chance, but again thank you for the kind words
Despite being an RN myself for many many years and often dealing with the dying and their families, I was unexpectedly surprised by feelings of anxiety, when confronted with the final hours of my mother actively dying. It was the death rattle that caused me terrible anxiety. I knew what it was but, I wanted to suction her, clear her airway… do something and of course there is nothing to be done. I prayed, “ God, you said you would not give us more than we can bear and I can’t bear this.” I left the room and it was very early morning, 3:30am or so, and I called and talked to her hospice nurse, who was very gracious. When I returned to her room, God spoke to my heart and clearly said, “Don’t worry about your mother. Her mind and her spirit are already with me.” From that moment I felt complete peace. She passed quietly a few hours later with my only sibling and myself at her bedside. I hope my experience will comfort someone else. And thank you for this video! I learned from it and appreciate the work you do.
I really appreciate having you to guide me as I helped my mom finish living. She passed on Monday evening, alone with me like she & I wanted. I'm grateful to have been so comfortable with her that handling her body felt natural, I knew she wasn't in there. But I was able to say farewell to some precious parts of her physical being as well as feeling like I had managed her care well🥲Thank you, Julie, I have been telling people how much your videos helped me get through.💜
I'm 62 years old and I never had anyone explain the physical process of death before. and you did it so well. Thank you, Nurse Julie. -- What happens to the spirit is explained fully in the Bible. People who don't know what happens to the spirit or soul after the body dies should definitely do their own due diligence. It's more important than most people realize and it lasts forever and ever and ever. Don't put it off, dear ones. There is only one God and He desires that you be saved.
I want to be composted. The last time I checked, human composting has been legaized in 6 states. A great channel by a mortician is Caitlin Doughty. She's very knowlegable and has the same desire to inform people about death topics as Hospice Nurse Julie. Thank you for taking the time, Julie. I wish I'd found your channel before my Mom died. I would've been far more prepared and less traumatized by the experience.
worst thing is going to the funeral and seeing a box suspended on the ground realizing that your parent is in the box. That's when it hit me. I was inconsolable when I saw that.
Your videos are so helpful, thank you for making them. My husband of 46 years has 2 different types of mesothelioma and one is very aggressive. In January the doctors told him that he may have a year to live. This is so heartbreaking. We've raised 2 of our grandkids since birth and now have one at home. Time goes by so quickly and something like this came very quickly. We've been trying to preparing a will and I'm trying to downsize tremendously. I'm just not ready to lose my best friend.
My husband passed away at home with hospice. I was with him. He started getting cold less then half hour after . My husband was 52 and he passed from congestive heart failure. He donated his body to science so it took about 2 and a half hours before he was taken from our home. My family and I got to say our goodbyes before they took him. We all got a little alone time to sit and say all the things we wanted. Not glad that he had to go so soon. But very glad we had hospice. His nurse, who was an angel, was the best thing to come into his life like she did. That was 7 and a half yrs ago and I still talk to her. And she remembers his death date and checks on me that day
Sorry for your lose and the story hit me where i,m 51 and bout died with saddle pulmanory blood clots what my doc. said but i,m still here...I plan on donating my body as well to help others like your Husband did...Your story stuck out and I wanted to reply....sounds like your husband was a generous man doing that and thats what I,m gonna do...Prayers for you and family and hope you are making it ok .Take care..Chris from East Tn.
Thank you so much! I spoke to my father the day before he died. When he died the next day I went to the nursing home and hugged him, to me it felt like he gave out his last breath 😢it felt like he was relieved when I got there to tell him that we will be ok 😭me and his grandkids will be just fine. I miss him and my mama so much
Mom passed 6 weeks ago in Hospice care, from Alzheimer’s. Thank you for your videos! They helped me understand what was happening to mom, and what to expect. Keep up the good work! You make a difference!
Was there from death to next day, mum couldn’t let go . I seen a process . 8pm he passed , next morning as I touched him he was stiff and that’s when I accepted my dad was gone , a sweet pungent scent coming from his mouth , that made me back away a little I didn’t wanna leave the room I didn’t want him to be alone as we waited for the undertakers 😢 he really educated me about death . it’s so so hard to see your dad but he’s not there anymore. His 1st yr anniversary is next week I’m still processing everything .we were told he had few month to live with lymph node advanced cancer. No time to process anything during home care. He passed peacefully with no pain at home
You are doing the greatest service to all of mankind. We don’t know death like our ancestors did. There is a disordered fear of the unknown. So many thanks from me and all I will share your information with, who won’t watch because of fear. I really appreciate you.❤
I saw my husband today in hospice and I can tell he is finally getting closer to death. He has been in hospice for 3 years but moved to center 4 months ago as I could no longer care for him and the home hospice didn't have the medications he needed. Today he told me there are shadows of people walking around his room, said he can't see details but he knows it is people. So now he thinks his room is haunted. I wont be there when he dies but will be afterwards as I asked to be called soon so I can come up. Thank you for this information.
I worked Ada private duty nurse in nursing home patient would not leave his wife she would hang over him so when she left I whispered to him u can go now all ur family are fine u go and rest ur job is done we all Love u❤️he did pass before my shift ended went to heaven peacefully no struggles squeezed my hand closed his eyes 💕
Julie, your videos have made me move from fear of my parents dying to being comfortable with it. It also gives me education that I need as their time is nearing. my dad - 96 - is in a sleeping all day stage in his life and I don't know why, but I am comfortable with it. all other family members are wake him up, he is sleeping too much, he won't sleep tonight, but he does. I am totally not afraid, and now I will be sad but will have the understanding of what is happening along the way which I am very grateful to have learned from you.
Thank you. If you shoot something similar in the future, if you talk about color changes I think that might be helpful. We were surprised how quickly our loved one’s color changed/yellowed after she died. The forewarning I got from your channel was so helpful!
Thank you for bringing this up. Same thing happened when my dad died. He turned yellowish right away and when I turned on the light and saw him, I was surprised to see how he looked so different.
My friend who died of bile duct cancer (cholangiocarcinoma) was getting jaundiced in her last hours, but after death - in less than an hour - her skin became very dark and kind of leathery even though in life she was very fair.
@notasushifan thank you so much. I believe the darker color was basically severe jaundice after she passed and her body was no longer processing at all - even the little bit that it was in her last days.
I don't know how to explain my reaction but after all my sisters, brother, spouses and grandkids left the ICU. Only her significant other of 49 yrs. and I were in the room. I was on my knees holding my Mom's hand and telling her how much I Loved her. I was lightly stroking her cheek and thinking... How did she keep her skin so soft like a baby?. The doctors had told us that we could bring her home the next day as she was doing better after they took her off some of the many meds they had her on. We were sooo happy because different doctors at that same hospital were giving us mixed reports. One would come in and say they'd be surprised if she made it through the night. Then the next doctor on shift in the A.M. said she could either go home or back to a regular hospital room. We were told she's feisty and a fighter, with rehab she could have up to a year longer. ( She's also German, born in Berlin, met Dad while he was in the US Air Force, stationed there. She moved here in 1961 and had to learn a new language and life at 22.) But not even 5 min. after the family all left because visiting hrs were ending and only 1 member could remain over night with her, which was myself that night. We all thought she was sound asleep. Nope. She opened her eyes, which by the way, looked perfectly normal, looked me in the eyes and quietly said, " I'm so sorry. I don't really want to go." She closed her eyes and I watched the spot in her neck that had been going up and down, immediately just stop. It felt like time was standing still. Her man said her name and looked at me so sadly and saw the frozen fear in my face. He started yelling her name over and over. (Thinking of this is making me cry.) I put my other hand, not holding hers, on his 91 yr. old delicate head with snow white hair and said robot like ( that's what it felt like), and said to him... "She's gone." He said her name so loud it freaked me out. I left her side to call my brother to get everyone to come back. For some reason he was angrily yelling at me. He hadn't even made it home and was still in heavy traffic. I told him Mom's gone. My brother asked if I had called the nurse or Doctor. I didn't have to. I guess he heard the loud wailing. I turned around and the mail nurse that was checking her pulse said. " I'm sorry". That's when it felt real for some reason. Even tho' I had looked up at the big clock in her room, the second I felt her spirit leave, and it was 6:08 pm. I walked back to her side and said to her, " Nooo, Mommy don't go." and busted out in silent tears so thick that I couldn't see anymore. But I held her hand so tightly, not wanting the moment to end, because I'd see her physically no more. It felt like seconds only, that the family members, all returned. In reality it was 25 to thirty minutes. My crying had subsided but I still held her hand. I stared into her face and noticed all the lines on her face has disappeared. Her hand didn't feel feverish anymore. It was cold. Her mouth had dropped open and it was frothing with white bubbles. I took a Kleenex and tried to wipe it away but it kept coming back worse. At that moment the Dr. Walked in. I looked at his face and he had a sympathetic look in his eyes. He probably thought I was the biggest weirdo because I turned and grabbed him. He hugged me back like I was a kid. ( I'm 63). I'm sure I embarrassed him but he'll never know how much that means to me. The others all have each other. I only returned from far away because one of my sisters called and said they were calling into the airport for a ticket, come quick. Sorry I got carried away and you all got a novel. The small point I'd like to make to some of you is that even if you've watched these and other videos, because I have, it's not always lovely. And I worked hospice a short time and saw others pass and it felt nothing like this. I thought I'd be steeled and mature enough to handle it. Apparently not. Seeing her face change color and look like it did reminded me of the little lizards that shedded their skin and ran off. It wasn't my Mom anymore laying there. It was more like an alien because her face was morphing into something I couldn't recognize. The fact that she passed in a hospital under physicians care and family by her side feels beautiful to me. I feel sad for any soul that suffers in an accident or unnatural way. My Mom is beautiful. Her spirit is beautiful. Death to me is NOT beautiful. I don't care if others think it is. I know what I experienced with all my senses and it was frightening and painful to witness. I know we all have to do it. I just can't lie and say I find it beautiful. P.S. I prayed for strength, to God, at Chapel and away from her side. I guess I need to night and day now. Because it hasn't gotten any easier. She's still with me and I'm with her. Just not physically. I Love You so much Mom. Never be sorry, just rest in peace, till God joins us together again. ❤🌹 ( Last time I held her hand was 7/21/24 @ 6:08pm. 😇 🌿 Thank you if you happened to read this. I hope your losses are less painful. God Bless
started to watch your clips about two months ago when my 99 yo mother placed in hospice; very educational info you provided; I could see my mother's progress described in the videos; thus I sort of prepared myself for each stage mentally. thanks for making them. My mom passed away peacefully one month ago; very clean and easy when she took her last breath. She didn't have the vision or the death reach or the rattle breathing noises. Perhaps, because she didn't have any chronic illness prior to her passing. Fortunately for me, I was with her along with my sibling when she passed. I held her hand two hours all the way till the end. Sensing that she had reached the final hour, i called almost all her grand and great grand children from all over the world; one by one; and put the phone next to her ear for them to say they loved her and to thank her for being their grandma; short and quick. We had the funeral a week ago. I had been exhausted planning the event; but now, I finally can really mourn her passing; and finding way to fill the void of missing her. Still too raw for me. I miss her deeply.
I commented on one of your videos before but I want to tell you how important your videos are. Families have so many questions when they have a loved one going through the dying process. As a matter of fact, I have a good friend who’s husband was in hospice and in last stages and I referred her to your videos
This is why I see my mom wants to die in her sleep…..and I agree. I don’t want see this, nor want my children to see me or other loved one’s like “this”.
My dad passed away in hospice 10 months ago, exactly 25 months after my mom passed away. He went to hospice on October 18th, 2023. Wednesday. Thursday l had a very, very strong feeling that he was going to pass on that Saturday, the 21st. I stayed there with him the whole time. At 4: 04 a .m, Saturday, the 21st, he was gone. Sometimes I don't know how much longer I can take the pain of not having them here. It doesn't get any easier. I pray for better days to come and take this pain away, but nothing works. Antidepressants, grief counseling,one on one counseling, talking to friends. I am emotionally and mentally exhausted. 😢
@@jenbeans9576 You are carrying a very heavy weight of grief. Please, be gentle with yourself. You became an orphan quickly, unfortunately your losses are so large that you haven't finished grieving one before losing another. please take care of you. One day at a time. There is no easy way, * wish there was.
My mother passed away in bed, with me present and a hospice worker very near. I had no idea about these breathing rhythms. I thought I wasn’t caring properly for her. Hospice explained yet I felt guilty for not helping. It sounds weird but it’s been 10 years. We were extremely close, and I never want to experience that kind of sadness again. I’ll see her again, and we can talk and smile about it.
My son found his friend dead, but he had been dead for about 2 weeks. The condition of the was awful, but because he had a nasal problem, he couldn't smell anything. When he came home, the odour of the death was on his clothing. It was extremely pungent, and I made him stip off his clothes and take a shower. The clothes were bagged and put in the bin. That smell was truly awful
Please don’t be afraid. Read the book of John in the Bible. It really helped me along with Julie’s videos. There is life after death. It will be a glorious one if we believe in the only one who can save us, Jesus Christ.
Death brings emptiness a void. After all its hard to see your dear ones who were talking to you just a few minutes or hour and now no more. Its hard to accept and move on in life. Guess time is the healer.
Police forensic investigators use body temp to determine time of death. The pooling of blood, or lividity, can tell them if a homocide victim was killed there or somewhere else and moved. I appreciate your videos. I’m a caretaker for my 92 year old mother. My daughter asked me why I watch them. Well, Grandma can go any time now and I need to be prepared.
I saw a person who was charging the police, running down the stairs to attack them... they shot him and one of his legs was stiff and raised up in the air higher than the other leg.
Julie, I just want you to know how much I appreciate you, a lot. I started watching you a couple of years ago in 2022. My husband died in 2022 and I learned so much with watching you. Thank you for doing this. It has and still does mean a lot. ❤
This all happened to my mother as I was with her when she passed. She even appeared to sit up and throw up, so I held a plastic pan up to her mouth. This was unsettling because I had no idea such things could happen.
I talked to a Sociology professor about the classes he taught. He said he taught a class on death and dying. My first reaction was recoil, but then I said, who would take that? He said nurses and sociology majors. Made sense. He said he taught that a person picks a date in the future to die, then lives fully to that date.I probably do not remember every detail he said perfectly, but I like it. LIVE! A counselor told me that some people live, some people are busy dying slowly. I'm choosing to live. Hello life!
I was there when my mother passed. She was getting cool to the touch slowly. She passed at home so when the mortuary folks showed up, they suggested we leave the room while they got her to the gurney. I’m glad they did. My dad died in the Covid mess. They treated him as an object and they would not touch him! They were in hazmat suits to boot! We had to put his suit coat on him and rig had set in already. Not a great day.
I love the "green burial" option. It seems new, but it's probably one of the oldest ways of handling dead bodies. The body is buried in the ground in a biodegradable shroud (or not) and in the course of several weeks, it vanishes back into the earth.
Thank you nurse Julie, I was with my Mom actively dieing, her 02 declined, and immediately as she passed she stiffened we could not close her mouth. I'm grateful you explained the rigor possibilities. Very grateful for your channel and your gifts.
Tell him about Heaven and about God, and that when we die, God is calling us back to see Him there. Tell your child that you will still see him, even if he can no longer see you while he is here. These are facts.
@@heidimisfeldt5685my parents made me scared to death of God when they told me he took my Grandfather because he wanted him up in heaven with him. After being told that, I proceeded to wet the bed every night for years because I thought God was at the end of my hallway, waiting to snatch me up too. Please be careful how you word stuff to children.
My friends ex husband died from OD and wasn't found for 2 days. Her son's were coming and she couldn't let them see their dad that way. She cleaned him and everything up. Said it took super human strength but she did it. And he was overweight to begin with.
My husband became cooler and cooler as well as a little clammy in the last few hours of his life. Thank you for your videos. They’ve helped me to understand what happened when at the time of happening the last thing I wanted to hear was what was happening physically to his body! You’re helping to normalize death.
I was with my dad when he passed in long term care. The first thing the nurses showed me minutes after he passed was how the blood pooled down, exactly as you said. They explained much of what you said here, thank you for sharing this with others so they know what to expect.
I only worked hospice care/dementia as a CNA for two years back in 2019-2021. I was hardly turned 18 when I was hired. I didn't do too many post mortum care procedures, but I'll never forget the three I have done, especially my first. It was unexpected. An elderly woman fighting a nasty parasitic infection in her legs. She was old, that's for sure, so I don't know if the infection is what killed her per se. She was fine just an hour prior, I assisted repositioning her in her bed so the nurse could change her dressings and got her comfortable. When dinner time came rolling around, and as we were bringing out trays to residents in their rooms, I caught her in the corner of my eye in the door frame. I don't know how I knew. I did a double take. It was her eyes... Or the fact they were closed, how peacefully still and at rest she was. I stood there a moment, processing. She wasn't breathing, I noticed, as I saw no sign of her chest rising and falling. I quickly went to my nurse, and she came to check and properly confirm. Sure enough, she was gone. I didn't know her well. She wasn't cogent enough to converse much. One of my tutor CNAs, bless her I miss her so much, got me and one of my high school friends, who recently got hired. She showed us the supplies we needed, took us in the room, closed the door, pulled the curtain, had everything ready, and put music on for us (it wasn't loud). I will never get the smell of death out of my mind, nor the sight of her eyelids becoming translucent and her skin yellowish and pale, and how stiff she became. We did what we needed. We stayed calm, and she was very proud for us holding it together, especially for our first time and considering how new we were. The second woman, who I did get to know, we knew she was on her way out. She stopped eating over time and had given up, honestly. Hospice care is forever something I'm grateful for being able to do. Again, I was very composed. I don't know how or why I was/am able to shut my emotions off so easily like that, but I am grateful for it. Perhaps it's the fact I have learned to disassociate in traumatic moments over the course of my childhood, or ADHD, or simply because I knew I had to hold it together for their sake. I think it's a mix of it all. The last man was a gentleman. A kind soul losing what was left of him due to dementia. His legs, and even his arms, contracted 24/7, and so he wore braces to assist the best we could for him. Even in his state, he'd always sing. He loved music, preformed in choir I believe. He was so incredibly stiff, I am not sure if it was simply rigor mortis, or the sheer amount of strain his muscles were under from constantly contracting. Despite that, I was glad he was finally at peace. He sometimes recognized me and would smile when I'd talk and be at eye level. A Devil Went Down to Georgia was a favorite song of his, I'd play it and other songs for him on his CD player while I preformed care. One last thing, is I remember one resident, he was a high school coach in the past at the very high school I went to. The night he passed, we knew already he was going to any moment now, but that night when I said goodnight to him and got home, in my dreams I saw him. I am not spiritual, but I do think I knew he was going that night, and he was saying goodbye to me. The next morning, when I came in his bed was empty. I've had many dreams of my residents, usually them peacefully walking the halls and not facing any pain or displeasure over their age or disabilities. I hope they're all at peace like I envisioned. (If anyone has read this far or even just skimmed, genuinely, thank you. I hope this doesn't get lost to obscurity in the comment section.)
I am so glad that I stumbled upon your RUclips video which I have learnt alot about the dying process and the telltale sign of an active dying person..Recalling back 4 years ago, my late dad passed away and we saw tears running down his cheeks..Was thinking dad must be missing us alot and not ready yet to move to the other side of the world but after watching some of your videos I now knew why...Without this knowledge, I think I will still be carrying the guilt of not doing enough to save my dad..My dad was 81 years old when he passed away...
0:56 60% of the time it works every time... I wish I had found your videos before my Mom passed. But her hospice nurses were, like all of them, just wonderful. I don't know how you do it. I was able to mention them to a friend whose father was close to his end and I think they helped him. 6:50 Yes, it is so important to not only know what the person wants, but to make as many of the arrangements before hand as you can. For Mom, everything had already been arranged, we just needed to make a couple phone calls and the wheels started turning. There was just the paperwork that can't be done till after anyway. These videos are so helpful, thank you.
My husband died of a brain aneurysm. He was on the job site. I arrived less than two hours later and his body was like frozen meat. It was so frozen so that was only a couple of hours.
I noticed with both my sister and my mother a "dense" feeling in the skin of their arm/hand almost immediately after taking that last breath. I suppose that it was when the blood stopped flowing in and out of that area? Each was on hospice care and died in the hospital. And missed so very dearly 😢 I love your channel, thank you.
I love your videos Ms. Julie. One of my goals is to be a Hospice Nurse with Hospice of NorthWest Ohio next year. I’m set to start volunteering there this October, and I’m so excited.! I’ve always believed in comfort over cure when a person is at the end stages of life. Videos like yours provide clarity, information, and knowledge that I don’t get in clinicals. (At this time my school doesn’t partner with any hospice facilities) Thank You!❤
I maintained a Iron Lung when I worked in a local hospital, I was part of the team that performed scheduled maintenance of the patient as well as the Iron Lung, during this time I noticed the patients skin was black from the neck down as he was paralyzed from the neck down.
I wish, Julie, that I could have had access to all your videos back in 2001. (You were probably a baby then!) My mother was passing after a broken hip and many complications. I would have responded differently to things had I known. You are such a credit to your profession. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. ❤
My Dad age 93 lost his soul mate, my Mother 12yrs before he passed. There wasn't a day that went by that he he didn't miss her. She died 2 days before their 63rd anniversary. On his death bed in a drug coma he was failing but wouldn't let go. I'm the oldest of 3 and his name sake. I took his head in one hand and his hand in the other. I said Pop you have lived a good life, raised 3 boys and have a ton of grand kids. Your soul mate is waiting for you on the other side. Go to her and be at peace. Let go Pop just let go your work on earth is completed now go find your happiness as you have earned it. Now it might have been my imagination but I like to think it was real. I felt him squeezing my hand and when I looked at him there was a tear in the corner of his left eye by his nose. I squeezed his hand back and leaned over to kiss his forehead and felt him expel his last breath. The man had not moved in days since they drugged him, but he squeezed my hand, shed a tear and died peacefully. Never stop talking to your loved one until they take that last breath. I swear no matter how many drugs they are on, your voice allows them to pass on in peace. RIP My Father ,my friend, my mentor, my teacher, my hero and Idol. Taught me right from wrong, and good from evil. Taught me how to build fast race cars and engines, Taught me to always put my wife and kids first. To my Mother she loved me unconditionally. She taught me about God and respect for others. Always said before you laugh or make fun of someone put yourself in their shoes and how you would feel. One day something happened in Alabama with the civil rights movement. Some Black kids got the hell beat out of them just for being black. Something was said I don't remember exactly but I remember her response like it happened yesterday. She said when you. Cut yourself what color is your blood? Then she said as we were watching a black & white TV what color is the blood of those Colored People's blood? (back then in the 50s 60s weren't called black mostly colored or nigro) I said black looking at the TV. She said no that's just the TV. They bleed red just like we do and every other human. We are all Brothers and sisters. Though we all look different on the outside, take the skin off and we are all the same. I remember that conversation as a young boy in the late 50s and never forgot it. Because of that lady I grew up with an open mind and compassion for everyone until they cross me. I don't hold a whole race responsible like some people do, just the individual. I have been in fights defending friends of mine and I'm proud of that. My Mother believed in her heart that we are all equal and passed that on to me. When I was in Vietnam She wrote a letter everyday. She was a quiet gentle lady. Her family was her life. RIP Mom We weren't by any means well off but my Dad put his family first always. Now I'm the Old Man of my family. At almost 74 I realize why my Dad wasn't as good at tuning a set trip carbs or dual Quads on a car any more. Why before he quit racing his couldn't shift as fast and his ET in the same car was going up. Why we talked about putting an automatic behind the old Hemi. One never thinks as their Dad as an Old Man. We called them the Old man but it was more of a respect thing. If it wasn't for him the flathead motor would be a mystery. I learned a lifetime of secrets from my Dad. When he died a treasure trove of engine knowledge died also. He passed as much as he could on to me. He was a Warrior who fought in WWII. HE was a man who lived a simple life. To him a good time was sitting around the shop drinking a beer and talking about cars and engines. That's what I got from the old timers. Now I'm the Old timer and except for the beer we still find a little group of us at the shop shooting the shit and bragging usually about shit that didn't happen. Once In a while a young kid will stop by with an hot rod or muscle car that their Dad or Uncle had left them not a clue what to do with it. Life has been good just going too fast. Why I wrote this here I have no clue. Something just came over me and I started writing. I'll leave it here a couple days if no one comments I'll take it down. God Bless 🇺🇸 America and all her different cultures found nowhere else on Earth. FAST CARS ARE MEANT TO BE DRIVEN NOT JUST LOOKED AT.✌️
Don’t take it down! I enjoyed it very much. It will be very inspirational to a lot of people I’m sure! I was thinking of my mom when reading your comment and to this day don’t know when she died, or where. I was her favorite she used to tell me 😢 RIP mom 🙏
Huge thank you to you for your videos, gave me some idea of what to expect after my grandma's, very late diagnosis of late stage pancreatic cancer. She had less than a week from her diagnosis to her death, and im glad i knew a little more about the process, thanks to you
❤ I've discovered a dead person front seat of car on a hit August day and was shocked. The man had silver hair and while on the phone with his ex-wife I let out a scream... " Oh, my God. Head black. Oh, my God...". It took a while to make out the face surrounded by silver hair and deep purple is not what I expected. He was in the car probably 12- 18 hours when he expired. It was a shock and the odor ( when undertaker opened car) permeated into the air quickly. A horror of odor.
As a Beleiver in Jesus Christ...dieing in this world is just a stepping stone to the Lord above and we all will have to die thanks to sin. Being a beleiver and those you lose that are beleivers makes it normal and just the next stepping stone...You do a great job on here doing what you do....Like in Elleciaties....Solomon said it is good to go to funerals and be around death cause like a fish in the sea....you get caught in the net out of the blue and that is it. Great you tell people like it is on alot of things including this!
My brother died of colorectal cancer at the age of 44. A few days before his death, he developed a fistula near his rectum that was allowing what seemed to be his broken down insides exit his body. It seemed and smelled much different than bowel. And it just continued to come out. We would get him cleaned up and turn around to need to again. It’s a smell I’ll never forget. But I’m glad I was there to help my sister-in-law take care of him. He took care of me for years. He was pretty much grown when I came along. He helped raise me with my mom after my dad left us. He was the best big brother who went above and beyond the call of a brother.
You are a wonderful, loving sister.❤
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Cass1. You are the sister who went above and beyond.
God bless you. What a good sister
@@carolb1871 Thank you and God bless you as well! ❤️
My mom died in hospice. Unfortunately we weren’t there when she died. We got there about 2 hours after her death. She was noticeably cooler. The hospice people did a wonderful job cleaning her up for us to see her. They even washed her hair. I know her soul had left and we were seeing just her lifeless body, but it was comforting to see her clean in a peaceful repose. I look forward to seeing her and Dad again.
Some people wish to die alone, or not near their families.
Saw it a few times as a hospital nurse.
@@kathidori8504 yes, they wait until the relatives leave the room. This happened to my dad in 2009.
I missed my dad's passing in hospital from cancer. A few weeks later my mother died from cancer but I witnessed her passing she was very grey in colour
I was with my dad when he passed last year. I leaned in to give him one last hug and say goodbye. My face was against his face and I felt the cooling, like his blood draining from the top of his head down his body and he was getting cold and heard his last breath slowly leaving his body. My dad gave me my first breath and then he gave me his last breath.
@lillywildflower I'm sorry 😞 for your loss. That was such a heartwarming ❤️ thing to say.
I was with my mom (87 years old) when she died at home. It was extremely peaceful. Within seconds after exhaling her last breath, her skin started to cool (forehead and face). No messes thank God. The second she passed...It was just like in the movies... I had dozens of visions of her bathing me in the kitchen sink as a baby, dancing around the room with me as a toddler, baking Christmas cookies and putting out the little glass bottles of Coke for Santa... then I realized I was orphaned and I was now the elder of the family. Time seems to go by so fast. At least I was fortunate to reach the age of 60 when she passed.
@@davidpalmer7175 beautiful ❤️ that made me feel like crying
Me too.. 😿
@@davidpalmer7175 I'm sorry for your loss. Touching words
Sorry for your loss.Best to have your loved one moved to a mortuary asap .And or funeral directors .
Sounds so harsh ..May those RIP .GOD BLESS US ALL
My Dad passed while I was asleep. But I woke up in the middle of the night for no reason. Being a spiritual person, I believe it was his soul telling me he had passed. I gave him his meds at 10pm, told him I loved him and went to bed. At 2:15am I woke up and went to check on him he had passed. He was still pretty warm. I spent some time with him telling him I loved am and what a great Dad he was. He still looked pink. I called the hospice nurse and his best friend, his next door neighbor. She was wonderful. Being a nurse and having been with my Mom when she passed I knew he was close to death. I feel so fortunate to have been with both my parents when they died
Yes you were.......
@lauriewhite5589 such a blessing!! ❤️
my mom passed in the hospital when I was sleeping at home. I had a dream I was trying to prevent her removing her catheter and woke up. She had done the same the night before when I was there. Immediately heard the phone ring and found out she had just died in the hospital.
thats really special, thanks for sharing
After we euthanized my very old Lab, I noticed how relaxed she looked free of all the aches and pains.
So sorry for your dogs passing had the same experience a few weeks ago with my sweet 18 old mollie (cat). She looked peaceful, too. I have to believe all of gods creations will be together in the afterlife.
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So sorry for your dogs passing I just lost my ferret 3 weeks ago I had to put him down
Beautiful comment. May she rest in peace.
Im so sorry for your loss.... i was blessed... when my sweet dog passed, his soul actually passed through me!!!! It felt ancient and intelligent.... i was so surprised i stopped crying that second!!! Im so grateful.... we'll see our loved ones again!!!
I saw my Mom about an hour after she passed. She was at home, in her bed. She looked so at peace and seemed to have a smile on her face.
My Mom just passed today, I was glad I watched 1 of your videos a year or so ago that explained the tell tale signs of someone near death, the past few days my Mom was showing several of the signs you talked about! She is no longer in pain & I'm happy about that part of it! Thank You
Sincere condolences.
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😢
Condolences to you .
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So sorry. Praying you will be surrounded in peace.
The day before my mom died in the nursing home she told her doctor that she just had the best dream. Where she was going she was going to be okay and it was beautiful. She passed peacefully the following day, listening to a hospice nurse softly strumming hymns on her guitar. Mom so loved music, so this seemed such a perfect way to pass. I still have overwhelming feelings some days, but I just remember her words, "Im going to be ok." And that makes me smile.
That is so sweet
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I’m a volunteer for Hospice, all I do is play old hymns for patients… I have yet to be with a dying patient… but I’m ready to help them through the transition from earthly life to Heavenly life!
@@billwest5330 wow
Orthodox Jewish burial is the original green burial, being the standard practice for at least 1,000 years. The body is buried within 24 hours after death in a plain coffin (unfinished wood or even cardboard) devoid of metal. The coffin placed in a grave without a concrete vault (law permitting) in direct contact with the soil. Depending on the type of soil, weather and climate, within a year, the body and the coffin have completely disintegrated.
I've been to that type of burial.
Muslims do the same.
That’s what I want, but it’s not yet an option in my state.
@@skwarubwa7083 Muslim burials are the same
I'm going green, in a mushroom coffin. Seems natural.
My husband had Cystic Fibrosis and had a lung transplant 22 years ago. I met him 6 months after his transplant. Two weeks ago he went into lung failure and it was decided that he'd receive palliative care. They removed the breathing tube. Within 6 minutes he was gone. He went peacefully. I was able to hold his hand and tell him I loved him, which helped me with closure/acceptance. By watching many of your videos, I knew that my husband had a good death. He appeared comfortable and he did not dye alone. Thank you for educating me on facing death in a positive way.
@@russelldavis6405 I’m so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry for your loss
My dad asked just a few weeks before he died that we donate his body to a medical school for science purposes. That to me was a beautiful, lasting gift to medical students that could continue to learn from him. Nurse Julie, please can you do such a video one day of what medical schools do with donated bodies? Thank you for your informative RUclips channel. I learn so much from you.
I want to do that too great request ❤
My husband just passed in March. He had Parkinson's and related dementia. He didnt have tremors but he did have stiffening of the muscles in his arms and legs but specifically in his neck. It was like his head and neck were always leaning forward. It looked terribly uncomfortable but he said it didn't hurt. We had only been home from the hospital less than 2 hrs when they called that the nurse had gone in and found that he had passed. I know he waited for his daughter and I to not be there.
They asked if we wanted to come view the body and we said of course. I am so very glad we did. He had endured a difficult 9 days in hospital. But when we got there he looked so at peace. His neck muscles had relaxed and for the first time in several years he looked comfortable. I was glad to witness that. I was also glad, for him, that all his struggles were over. The physical detriments and the dementia were no longer ruining his life. His neuro had said one time it was a battle he couldn't win. But he was wrong, he did win the battle and left here totally at peace. ❤
And just wait until you see how healthy he is when you see him again!!!! Much love ❤
Yes indeed, thank you so much ♡ @@MultiTuttut
Nurses are the true heroes in our society, doctors think they are, but nurses always prove themselves as being the best; Thank You nurses !!!
I agree. One of my daughters is an RN on an oncology floor.
Doctors and nurses are both hero’s, they care for the sick and save lives, two very special professions
Every post, every comment you make is on point. Absolutely no false information. This is why anyone who has questions about death and dying should follow you.
Thanks Julie for sharing all of this information which is NOT easy to hear. I was with my mom in the hospital when she was 81 and near death and unconscious. I was holding her hand and suddenly, her hand held my hand so tightly like a vise grip and then it suddenly relaxed and she had passed on. It was like she wanted to hold on to me for as long as she could before letting go and entering her Eternal Life. This happened on August 27, 2007 but it still seems like only yesterday. I LOVE you mom and MISS YOU every day! 😇
Just downloaded and listened to your book today...Thank you for all your candid information...My Loved One is 96 and is on HOSPICE..she has lived with us for almost 3 years now and we can see the end is going to be sooner than later...It is hard to express how much of a positive impact our hospice team has made in our lives..It is just my husband and I who do all the care...there has been no one else until hospice. We now feel we are part of a village of wonderful people who help us...Bless you all who do hospice care as a career :)
Blessings and angels all around you, it's so great having others to care for you as well during this time.
@@myredpencilYou're right.
My husband died peacefully with me after diagnosed with 11 lesions in his brain. I was taking care of him 24/7. I most definitely went through a lot of trauma through this experience. You really assisted me through the process and help me to understand.
I want to thank you for sharing your experience and expertise.❤
Both my parents died in hospice care. I can’t say enough about how caring and supportive this organization is. They are a special kind of people. I only wish I could be as helpful and supportive for others like they are, but I don’t have the strength emotionally. Thank you all for helping so many families dealing with this phase of life…..❤
My husband died 10 years ago. I always wondered. 87 years young. 30 years different in ages. My 3rd. Marriage. Together 13 years. I loved this man with almost all of my heart. The lord above, first. Myfirst 2 divorces, didn't hurt that much. I still miss him. Thank you Julie.❤
I lost my husband. He was only 45 yrs old. We were married 23 years, but together since we were young teenagers. Our 5 children were ages 6 to 23 when he passed. Some losses you never get over. He was my world. If it wasn't for our children, I would have joined my husband in a heart beat.
@@betsybabf748 Sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace.
@@betsybabf748It seems like those who we love the most always die. It's so sad. Sorry for your loss. You have to be strong for your kids.
@@betsybabf748I am so sorry for your lost !!! Please take care.❤❤❤🙏
Indeed...My Dad told me my Mom (at home in hospice, pretty much unconscious on Methadone)...had a huge bowel movement. I knew she had hardly eaten much in weeks. I looked at my sister (2 nurses here) and said, "I know you know what I'm thinking..." she just nodded...sometimes the evacuation starts ahead of death. It wasn't long at all after that. Thank you for helping people understand that which they don't. XO
Dear Julie thank you for me understanding what my mother was going threw when she died It will be 12yrs this OctR up all of everyone's Family n Friends❤❤❤❤❤
I had a similar experience with my mom. She passed away the following day. No heavy breathing or death rattle. Just peaceful last breaths. It was comforting to know she was finally at peace ❤Julie provides an invaluable service to prepare families for the end. Much is not pleasant but informative.
When my mom had passed, i was with her, but she had not eaten and solid foods for a couple weeks because she was on a ventilator. I was so heart broken when she finally passed that i didnt even notice anything like fluids coming out of her body. Either way, death does suck but it is part of life. And when my father had passed he had a heart attack in his room. He didn't stiffen up but they did say he was when they came to get him to take him to the mortuary. Death does suck. Just live your life to the fullest. Be well my friends 🧡
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Thanks, good to see someone acknowledge that death does suck! Bothered me my whole life knowing it's always looming over... to me, it almost made life pointless since we're all just dying anyways. But I know my view isn't common 😊
@@squirrellvr79 💔Just LIVE! 🥺❤️
@@debprice8869You're right, live your best life everyday. I always live my best life because I know I won't be here one day.
Who ever lives their life to the fullest?
My Wife was on Hospice for 3 months and your videos help me know what to look for and not be surprise when things happen. Your are great at your job and our nurses were great.
I was able to lay in the bed with my best friend close enough to be a sister as she was taken off life support. She Cheyenne stocked (sp) for 45 minutes after the vent was taken off. It was me her mom, stepdad, step sister, and cousins in her ICU room. She was disabled from premature birth and drugs her birth mother took. She had cerebral palsy and that was how we met I have cerebral palsy as well. Her mom and I removed her feeding tube, Suprapubic catheter and all her IV lines before we left (they said it was OK) we didn’t want her going to the after life with all the tubes hanging out. Gosh I miss her it’s been 9 years now fuck how has it been 9 years already?
I can’t say enough about how wonderful hospice was when my mother was dying. She had lung cancer & dementia, but they did everything to make her happy in her last months, she wanted a dog, they brought in a therapy dog and they found someone to bring in a keyboard & sing WWII songs with her. But the sweetest thing is after she died, they sent me a stuffed animal that looked like the therapy dog & after12 years I still have it.
I was holding my parents in my arms as they took their last breath. I feel beyond honoured to have been there for them 💔
Hello 👋...Pretty lady.🌹.How are you doing and the weather conditions like
Nurse Julie, so appreciate your Channel and the End of Life Education you provide. I am a Hospice Chaplain and have been for almost 9 years. My Dad entered Hospice almost two weeks ago and died just shy of a week. The Hospice I work for cared for him and my family and allowed me the space I needed to just be a daughter. It has not been an easy road, but I so appreciate the care he received and that he was able to die at home, surrounded by love and laughter. There are a number of beautiful things we got to experience with him in his final days on earth and they carry us now through this. Many life lessons. My prayer for my Dad was to die gently and peacefully and he did. We could not have done it without hospice. It has been quite the experience for me personally to be on this side of things and I know will help me to have an even greater appreciation and compassion for what our families are going through.
One day we went fishing, we noticed one on the other side of the lake because we seen his or her feet, didn't think anything about it til a family came and asked if we'd seen anyone, we said yes directly across on the other side of the lake, then minutes later we heard a scream, we ran to see what had happened and a man passed away while fishing, since I was the only one experienced in CPR they asked me to help, but when I felt for a pulse I knew it was way to late, rigamortis had already set in I politely told them there's nothing I can do, his wife understood saying he had a bad heart and probably only had a short time left thus she let him go fishing, his children were to heartbroken, think that was the last time I ever went fishing, so we stayed another 6 hours waiting police and everyone to arrive, I felt bad for the family but thought he died doing what he loved to do
It's called "rigor mortis", it's great to be a little medically educated, glad you tried to help. And how you could see their feet from the other side of the lake, that part was like word salad.
@myredpencil well that's what I tried to typed , I'm well aware of rigor now tell that to Google correct that shouldn't even be correcting shit since I have it off but apparently it listens like politicians do
@myredpencil well hell we are at the lake a whole 2 minutes before all this ,I'll be sure next time to take my crippled ass and get to pushing my wheelchair around the entire lake to scan it since someone who doesn't know shot about that day told me to, happy now geezus
You should go fishing again. That man wouldn’t want you to not return because of him.
@lauramartinez7057 thank you, bless your heart for the kind words, guess I still feel guilty that there was nothing I could do, everyone I went fishing with was ready to go, but I'm a paraplegic so it took me longer to get ready, perhaps if I was faster maybe I would have been there in enough time to at least tried, feel so bad he must have been there all alone, I know your right but my circumstance now I doubt I'll get that chance, but again thank you for the kind words
I was watching a young father on here he was 35 he just died of Cancer. So very sad, he really fought so hard to live.
😢 that fight is so hard to watch
My mom is 89 and healthy but There will be a time! I love being informed!
Despite being an RN myself for many many years and often dealing with the dying and their families, I was unexpectedly surprised by feelings of anxiety, when confronted with the final hours of my mother actively dying. It was the death rattle that caused me terrible anxiety. I knew what it was but, I wanted to suction her, clear her airway… do something and of course there is nothing to be done. I prayed, “ God, you said you would not give us more than we can bear and I can’t bear this.” I left the room and it was very early morning, 3:30am or so, and I called and talked to her hospice nurse, who was very gracious. When I returned to her room, God spoke to my heart and clearly said,
“Don’t worry about your mother. Her mind and her spirit are already with me.”
From that moment I felt complete peace. She passed quietly a few hours later with my only sibling and myself at her bedside.
I hope my experience will comfort someone else. And thank you for this video! I learned from it and appreciate the work you do.
@@janehinderlie6824Thank you for sharing your experience. It's good to be close to God. He talks to us in difficult situations.
I really appreciate having you to guide me as I helped my mom finish living. She passed on Monday evening, alone with me like she & I wanted. I'm grateful to have been so comfortable with her that handling her body felt natural, I knew she wasn't in there. But I was able to say farewell to some precious parts of her physical being as well as feeling like I had managed her care well🥲Thank you, Julie, I have been telling people how much your videos helped me get through.💜
Condolences. And you sound like an awesome daughter.
I'm 62 years old and I never had anyone explain the physical process of death before. and you did it so well. Thank you, Nurse Julie. -- What happens to the spirit is explained fully in the Bible. People who don't know what happens to the spirit or soul after the body dies should definitely do their own due diligence. It's more important than most people realize and it lasts forever and ever and ever. Don't put it off, dear ones. There is only one God and He desires that you be saved.
I want to be composted. The last time I checked, human composting has been legaized in 6 states. A great channel by a mortician is Caitlin Doughty. She's very knowlegable and has the same desire to inform people about death topics as Hospice Nurse Julie. Thank you for taking the time, Julie. I wish I'd found your channel before my Mom died. I would've been far more prepared and less traumatized by the experience.
worst thing is going to the funeral and seeing a box suspended on the ground realizing that your parent is in the box. That's when it hit me. I was inconsolable when I saw that.
Your videos are so helpful, thank you for making them. My husband of 46 years has 2 different types of mesothelioma and one is very aggressive. In January the doctors told him that he may have a year to live. This is so heartbreaking. We've raised 2 of our grandkids since birth and now have one at home. Time goes by so quickly and something like this came very quickly. We've been trying to preparing a will and I'm trying to downsize tremendously. I'm just not ready to lose my best friend.
My husband passed away at home with hospice. I was with him. He started getting cold less then half hour after . My husband was 52 and he passed from congestive heart failure. He donated his body to science so it took about 2 and a half hours before he was taken from our home. My family and I got to say our goodbyes before they took him. We all got a little alone time to sit and say all the things we wanted. Not glad that he had to go so soon. But very glad we had hospice. His nurse, who was an angel, was the best thing to come into his life like she did. That was 7 and a half yrs ago and I still talk to her. And she remembers his death date and checks on me that day
Sorry for your lose and the story hit me where i,m 51 and bout died with saddle pulmanory blood clots what my doc. said but i,m still here...I plan on donating my body as well to help others like your Husband did...Your story stuck out and I wanted to reply....sounds like your husband was a generous man doing that and thats what I,m gonna do...Prayers for you and family and hope you are making it ok .Take care..Chris from East Tn.
Thank you so much! I spoke to my father the day before he died. When he died the next day I went to the nursing home and hugged him, to me it felt like he gave out his last breath 😢it felt like he was relieved when I got there to tell him that we will be ok 😭me and his grandkids will be just fine. I miss him and my mama so much
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Mom passed 6 weeks ago in Hospice care, from Alzheimer’s. Thank you for your videos! They helped me understand what was happening to mom, and what to expect. Keep up the good work! You make a difference!
Thanks Julie! You help us so much! I have' t listened as much since my husband passed but you are so informative and helpful and so understandable!
Can’t tell you how much your channel teaches me and provides me comfort.
Thank you, Julie, for some valid signposts on the road to this life's end journey. Much appreciated. It's nothing to fear.
Talking about death in this way is so helpful in reducing my fear of it. Thank you for your videos!
Was there from death to next day, mum couldn’t let go . I seen a process . 8pm he passed , next morning as I touched him he was stiff and that’s when I accepted my dad was gone , a sweet pungent scent coming from his mouth , that made me back away a little I didn’t wanna leave the room
I didn’t want him to be alone as we waited for the undertakers 😢 he really educated me about death . it’s so so hard to see your dad but he’s not there anymore. His 1st yr anniversary is next week I’m still processing everything .we were told he had few month to live with lymph node advanced cancer. No time to process anything during home care. He passed peacefully with no pain at home
You are doing the greatest service to all of mankind. We don’t know death like our ancestors did. There is a disordered fear of the unknown. So many thanks from me and all I will share your information with, who won’t watch because of fear. I really appreciate you.❤
I saw my husband today in hospice and I can tell he is finally getting closer to death. He has been in hospice for 3 years but moved to center 4 months ago as I could no longer care for him and the home hospice didn't have the medications he needed. Today he told me there are shadows of people walking around his room, said he can't see details but he knows it is people. So now he thinks his room is haunted. I wont be there when he dies but will be afterwards as I asked to be called soon so I can come up. Thank you for this information.
I worked Ada private duty nurse in nursing home patient would not leave his wife she would hang over him so when she left I whispered to him u can go now all ur family are fine u go and rest ur job is done we all Love u❤️he did pass before my shift ended went to heaven peacefully no struggles squeezed my hand closed his eyes 💕
I was an EMT and a medical Assistant before retiring, and I just want to say, you do great work, Julie. Thank you!
Very thorough. Thank you Julie.
Julie, your videos have made me move from fear of my parents dying to being comfortable with it. It also gives me education that I need as their time is nearing. my dad - 96 - is in a sleeping all day stage in his life and I don't know why, but I am comfortable with it. all other family members are wake him up, he is sleeping too much, he won't sleep tonight, but he does. I am totally not afraid, and now I will be sad but will have the understanding of what is happening along the way which I am very grateful to have learned from you.
Thank you. If you shoot something similar in the future, if you talk about color changes I think that might be helpful. We were surprised how quickly our loved one’s color changed/yellowed after she died. The forewarning I got from your channel was so helpful!
Thank you for bringing this up. Same thing happened when my dad died. He turned yellowish right away and when I turned on the light and saw him, I was surprised to see how he looked so different.
My friend who died of bile duct cancer (cholangiocarcinoma) was getting jaundiced in her last hours, but after death - in less than an hour - her skin became very dark and kind of leathery even though in life she was very fair.
@@suep9445 Very sorry to hear about your friend. That is very interesting about how she turned a darker color after death. Thank you for sharing.
@notasushifan thank you so much. I believe the darker color was basically severe jaundice after she passed and her body was no longer processing at all - even the little bit that it was in her last days.
I don't know how to explain my reaction but after all my sisters, brother, spouses and grandkids left the ICU. Only her significant other of 49 yrs. and I were in the room.
I was on my knees holding my Mom's hand and telling her how much I Loved her.
I was lightly stroking her cheek and thinking...
How did she keep her skin so soft like a baby?.
The doctors had told us that we could bring her home the next day as she was doing better after they took her off some of the many meds they had her on.
We were sooo happy because different doctors at that same hospital were giving us mixed reports.
One would come in and say they'd be surprised if she made it through the night. Then the next doctor on shift in the A.M. said she could either go home or back to a regular hospital room.
We were told she's feisty and a fighter, with rehab she could have up to a year longer. ( She's also German, born in Berlin, met Dad while he was in the US Air Force, stationed there. She moved here in 1961 and had to learn a new language and life at 22.)
But not even 5 min. after the family all left because visiting hrs were ending and only 1 member could remain over night with her, which was myself that night. We all thought she was sound asleep.
Nope. She opened her eyes, which by the way, looked perfectly normal, looked me in the eyes and quietly said,
" I'm so sorry. I don't really want to go."
She closed her eyes and I watched the spot in her neck that had been going up and down, immediately just stop.
It felt like time was standing still.
Her man said her name and looked at me so sadly and saw the frozen fear in my face.
He started yelling her name over and over.
(Thinking of this is making me cry.)
I put my other hand, not holding hers, on his 91 yr. old delicate head with snow white hair and said robot like ( that's what it felt like), and said to him... "She's gone."
He said her name so loud it freaked me out.
I left her side to call my brother to get everyone to come back.
For some reason he was angrily yelling at me. He hadn't even made it home and was still in heavy traffic.
I told him Mom's gone.
My brother asked if I had called the nurse or Doctor. I didn't have to. I guess he heard the loud wailing. I turned around and the mail nurse that was checking her pulse said. " I'm sorry".
That's when it felt real for some reason.
Even tho' I had looked up at the big clock in her room, the second I felt her spirit leave, and it was 6:08 pm.
I walked back to her side and said to her,
" Nooo, Mommy don't go." and busted out in silent tears so thick that I couldn't see anymore.
But I held her hand so tightly, not wanting the moment to end, because I'd see her physically no more.
It felt like seconds only, that the family members, all returned. In reality it was 25 to thirty minutes. My crying had subsided but I still held her hand.
I stared into her face and noticed all the lines on her face has disappeared. Her hand didn't feel feverish anymore. It was cold.
Her mouth had dropped open and it was frothing with white bubbles.
I took a Kleenex and tried to wipe it away but it kept coming back worse.
At that moment the Dr. Walked in.
I looked at his face and he had a sympathetic look in his eyes.
He probably thought I was the biggest weirdo because I turned and grabbed him. He hugged me back like I was a kid.
( I'm 63). I'm sure I embarrassed him but he'll never know how much that means to me.
The others all have each other. I only returned from far away because one of my sisters called and said they were calling into the airport for a ticket, come quick.
Sorry I got carried away and you all got a novel.
The small point I'd like to make to some of you is that even if you've watched these and other videos, because I have, it's not always lovely.
And I worked hospice a short time and saw others pass and it felt nothing like this.
I thought I'd be steeled and mature enough to handle it. Apparently not. Seeing her face change color and look like it did reminded me of the little lizards that shedded their skin and ran off. It wasn't my Mom anymore laying there. It was more like an alien because her face was morphing into something I couldn't recognize.
The fact that she passed in a hospital under physicians care and family by her side feels beautiful to me. I feel sad for any soul that suffers in an accident or unnatural way. My Mom is beautiful. Her spirit is beautiful. Death to me is NOT beautiful. I don't care if others think it is. I know what I experienced with all my senses and it was frightening and painful to witness.
I know we all have to do it. I just can't lie and say I find it beautiful.
P.S. I prayed for strength, to God, at Chapel and away from her side.
I guess I need to night and day now. Because it hasn't gotten any easier.
She's still with me and I'm with her. Just not physically.
I Love You so much Mom. Never be sorry, just rest in peace, till God joins us together again. ❤🌹 ( Last time I held her hand was 7/21/24 @ 6:08pm. 😇 🌿
Thank you if you happened to read this.
I hope your losses are less painful. God Bless
My deepest condolences to all of you who have lost a love one… 🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️
Hello 👋...Pretty lady.🌹.How are you doing and the weather conditions like
The pooling of blood is a tremendous help for forensic scientists in determining on how a person died
started to watch your clips about two months ago when my 99 yo mother placed in hospice; very educational info you provided; I could see my mother's progress described in the videos; thus I sort of prepared myself for each stage mentally. thanks for making them.
My mom passed away peacefully one month ago; very clean and easy when she took her last breath. She didn't have the vision or the death reach or the rattle breathing noises. Perhaps, because she didn't have any chronic illness prior to her passing. Fortunately for me, I was with her along with my sibling when she passed. I held her hand two hours all the way till the end. Sensing that she had reached the final hour, i called almost all her grand and great grand children from all over the world; one by one; and put the phone next to her ear for them to say they loved her and to thank her for being their grandma; short and quick. We had the funeral a week ago. I had been exhausted planning the event; but now, I finally can really mourn her passing; and finding way to fill the void of missing her. Still too raw for me. I miss her deeply.
Birth and death can be messy, and some of the in-between is too.
If you are lucky enough to be healthy- I pray 🙏 you make the most of everyday ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You said that very wisely. You make me smile. 🎉
So True...each day is a blessing in this evil world.
I commented on one of your videos before but I want to tell you how important your videos are. Families have so many questions when they have a loved one going through the dying process. As a matter of fact, I have a good friend who’s husband was in hospice and in last stages and I referred her to your videos
Thanks for this video. My father died on August 2nd of this year so this video was very informative .
So sorry for your loss.
It's odd that I find your vids soothing. I'm surprised I can even watch these. Something sweet about you.
This is why I see my mom wants to die in her sleep…..and I agree. I don’t want see this, nor want my children to see me or other loved one’s like “this”.
Hello 👋...Pretty lady.🌹.How are you doing and the weather conditions like
Thanks again, Julie! Love you, honey! Michelle in Boston. 💖💖💕
My dad passed away in hospice 10 months ago, exactly 25 months after my mom passed away. He went to hospice on October 18th, 2023. Wednesday. Thursday l had a very, very strong feeling that he was going to pass on that Saturday, the 21st. I stayed there with him the whole time. At 4: 04 a .m, Saturday, the 21st, he was gone. Sometimes I don't know how much longer I can take the pain of not having them here. It doesn't get any easier. I pray for better days to come and take this pain away, but nothing works. Antidepressants, grief counseling,one on one counseling, talking to friends. I am emotionally and mentally exhausted. 😢
I'm so sorry for your loss of both your parents. God bless and take one hour at a time.
Jesus Christ is the only way to heaven only savior only healer only answer 💌✝️♾️
@@ramonarassi So True and the only answer.
@@jenbeans9576 You are carrying a very heavy weight of grief. Please, be gentle with yourself. You became an orphan quickly, unfortunately your losses are so large that you haven't finished grieving one before losing another. please take care of you. One day at a time. There is no easy way, * wish there was.
@@elizabethlarivee9770 Thank you
My mother passed away in bed, with me present and a hospice worker very near. I had no idea about these breathing rhythms. I thought I wasn’t caring properly for her. Hospice explained yet I felt guilty for not helping. It sounds weird but it’s been 10 years. We were extremely close, and I never want to experience that kind of sadness again. I’ll see her again, and we can talk and smile about it.
My son found his friend dead, but he had been dead for about 2 weeks. The condition of the was awful, but because he had a nasal problem, he couldn't smell anything. When he came home, the odour of the death was on his clothing. It was extremely pungent, and I made him stip off his clothes and take a shower. The clothes were bagged and put in the bin. That smell was truly awful
As a former assistant funeral director, I approve this video.
I ordered your book because I'm so afraid of death and I love your videos. They help, so I'm sure the book will be amazing.
Please don’t be afraid. Read the book of John in the Bible. It really helped me along with Julie’s videos. There is life after death. It will be a glorious one if we believe in the only one who can save us, Jesus Christ.
Death brings emptiness a void. After all its hard to see your dear ones who were talking to you just a few minutes or hour and now no more. Its hard to accept and move on in life. Guess time is the healer.
I know! It’s like when it hits you that you’re just a shell or a vessel. When it shuts down, it’s just a slab of meat.
I really appreciate your channel and content. Thank you for caring for those at end of life; the world needs compassion like yours.
Police forensic investigators use body temp to determine time of death. The pooling of blood, or lividity, can tell them if a homocide victim was killed there or somewhere else and moved. I appreciate your videos. I’m a caretaker for my 92 year old mother. My daughter asked me why I watch them. Well, Grandma can go any time now and I need to be prepared.
I saw a person who was charging the police, running down the stairs to attack them... they shot him and one of his legs was stiff and raised up in the air higher than the other leg.
No kidding ?
You're joking
I always heard the term “croak” as a indication of death, when my wife died I was with her and she actually did “croak” as her lungs emptied
Julie, I just want you to know how much I appreciate you, a lot. I started watching you a couple of years ago in 2022. My husband died in 2022 and I learned so much with watching you. Thank you for doing this. It has and still does mean a lot. ❤
This all happened to my mother as I was with her when she passed. She even appeared to sit up and throw up, so I held a plastic pan up to her mouth. This was unsettling because I had no idea such things could happen.
I'm sure you've never experienced it before.
I talked to a Sociology professor about the classes he taught. He said he taught a class on death and dying. My first reaction was recoil, but then I said, who would take that? He said nurses and sociology majors. Made sense. He said he taught that a person picks a date in the future to die, then lives fully to that date.I probably do not remember every detail he said perfectly, but I like it. LIVE!
A counselor told me that some people live, some people are busy dying slowly. I'm choosing to live. Hello life!
Thank you for the information. I'm glad I won't have to clean up the mess I've made once in my life.
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I was there when my mother passed. She was getting cool to the touch slowly. She passed at home so when the mortuary folks showed up, they suggested we leave the room while they got her to the gurney. I’m glad they did. My dad died in the Covid mess. They treated him as an object and they would not touch him! They were in hazmat suits to boot! We had to put his suit coat on him and rig had set in already. Not a great day.
I'm so sorry that happened to your father. Covid is a horrible word!! Lost friends to it😢
Patricia I'm sure you'll never forget that day. I'm sorry for your loss.
Sorry for all your losses and what you went threw...The good Lord above is all we have for peace and comfort..take care.
I love the "green burial" option. It seems new, but it's probably one of the oldest ways of handling dead bodies. The body is buried in the ground in a biodegradable shroud (or not) and in the course of several weeks, it vanishes back into the earth.
Thank you nurse Julie, I was with my Mom actively dieing, her 02 declined, and immediately as she passed she stiffened we could not close her mouth. I'm grateful you explained the rigor possibilities. Very grateful for your channel and your gifts.
Hello 👋...Pretty lady.🌹.How are you doing and the weather conditions like
thanks for your videos. I'm recovering from very painful radiation therapy for throat cancer and am so grateful to you for doing these videos.
I've recently read your book, Thank you for writing it.
Thank you for your compassion. God bless you ❤️🙏🏻✝️
I saw my mum about 45 mins after she passed away. She was still warm. But after a while I could tell she had a bowel movement xxx
Many thanks for explaining and for all you do. I want to be informed, to know.
530pm. How can death be explained to a 3-year-old? I don't want him to feel abandoned, to think I ran away, left him.
The Sad Dragon and The Invisible String are 2 books I found helpful for my 3 and 5 year old nieces.
Tell him about Heaven and about God, and that when we die, God is calling us back to see Him there. Tell your child that you will still see him, even if he can no longer see you while he is here. These are facts.
@@heidimisfeldt5685my parents made me scared to death of God when they told me he took my Grandfather because he wanted him up in heaven with him. After being told that, I proceeded to wet the bed every night for years because I thought God was at the end of my hallway, waiting to snatch me up too. Please be careful how you word stuff to children.
My friends ex husband died from OD and wasn't found for 2 days. Her son's were coming and she couldn't let them see their dad that way. She cleaned him and everything up. Said it took super human strength but she did it. And he was overweight to begin with.
My husband became cooler and cooler as well as a little clammy in the last few hours of his life.
Thank you for your videos. They’ve helped me to understand what happened when at the time of happening the last thing I wanted to hear was what was happening physically to his body! You’re helping to normalize death.
I was with my dad when he passed in long term care. The first thing the nurses showed me minutes after he passed was how the blood pooled down, exactly as you said. They explained much of what you said here, thank you for sharing this with others so they know what to expect.
I only worked hospice care/dementia as a CNA for two years back in 2019-2021. I was hardly turned 18 when I was hired. I didn't do too many post mortum care procedures, but I'll never forget the three I have done, especially my first. It was unexpected. An elderly woman fighting a nasty parasitic infection in her legs. She was old, that's for sure, so I don't know if the infection is what killed her per se. She was fine just an hour prior, I assisted repositioning her in her bed so the nurse could change her dressings and got her comfortable. When dinner time came rolling around, and as we were bringing out trays to residents in their rooms, I caught her in the corner of my eye in the door frame.
I don't know how I knew. I did a double take. It was her eyes... Or the fact they were closed, how peacefully still and at rest she was. I stood there a moment, processing. She wasn't breathing, I noticed, as I saw no sign of her chest rising and falling. I quickly went to my nurse, and she came to check and properly confirm. Sure enough, she was gone.
I didn't know her well. She wasn't cogent enough to converse much. One of my tutor CNAs, bless her I miss her so much, got me and one of my high school friends, who recently got hired. She showed us the supplies we needed, took us in the room, closed the door, pulled the curtain, had everything ready, and put music on for us (it wasn't loud). I will never get the smell of death out of my mind, nor the sight of her eyelids becoming translucent and her skin yellowish and pale, and how stiff she became. We did what we needed. We stayed calm, and she was very proud for us holding it together, especially for our first time and considering how new we were.
The second woman, who I did get to know, we knew she was on her way out. She stopped eating over time and had given up, honestly. Hospice care is forever something I'm grateful for being able to do. Again, I was very composed. I don't know how or why I was/am able to shut my emotions off so easily like that, but I am grateful for it. Perhaps it's the fact I have learned to disassociate in traumatic moments over the course of my childhood, or ADHD, or simply because I knew I had to hold it together for their sake. I think it's a mix of it all.
The last man was a gentleman. A kind soul losing what was left of him due to dementia. His legs, and even his arms, contracted 24/7, and so he wore braces to assist the best we could for him. Even in his state, he'd always sing. He loved music, preformed in choir I believe. He was so incredibly stiff, I am not sure if it was simply rigor mortis, or the sheer amount of strain his muscles were under from constantly contracting. Despite that, I was glad he was finally at peace. He sometimes recognized me and would smile when I'd talk and be at eye level. A Devil Went Down to Georgia was a favorite song of his, I'd play it and other songs for him on his CD player while I preformed care.
One last thing, is I remember one resident, he was a high school coach in the past at the very high school I went to. The night he passed, we knew already he was going to any moment now, but that night when I said goodnight to him and got home, in my dreams I saw him. I am not spiritual, but I do think I knew he was going that night, and he was saying goodbye to me. The next morning, when I came in his bed was empty. I've had many dreams of my residents, usually them peacefully walking the halls and not facing any pain or displeasure over their age or disabilities. I hope they're all at peace like I envisioned.
(If anyone has read this far or even just skimmed, genuinely, thank you. I hope this doesn't get lost to obscurity in the comment section.)
I am so glad that I stumbled upon your RUclips video which I have learnt alot about the dying process and the telltale sign of an active dying person..Recalling back 4 years ago, my late dad passed away and we saw tears running down his cheeks..Was thinking dad must be missing us alot and not ready yet to move to the other side of the world but after watching some of your videos I now knew why...Without this knowledge, I think I will still be carrying the guilt of not doing enough to save my dad..My dad was 81 years old when he passed away...
Thank you Julie for your service to mankind.
Thank you for being here
You both were blessed to have each other. Blessings 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks Julie
0:56 60% of the time it works every time... I wish I had found your videos before my Mom passed. But her hospice nurses were, like all of them, just wonderful. I don't know how you do it. I was able to mention them to a friend whose father was close to his end and I think they helped him.
6:50 Yes, it is so important to not only know what the person wants, but to make as many of the arrangements before hand as you can. For Mom, everything had already been arranged, we just needed to make a couple phone calls and the wheels started turning. There was just the paperwork that can't be done till after anyway.
These videos are so helpful, thank you.
My husband died of a brain aneurysm. He was on the job site. I arrived less than two hours later and his body was like frozen meat. It was so frozen so that was only a couple of hours.
I noticed with both my sister and my mother a "dense" feeling in the skin of their arm/hand almost immediately after taking that last breath. I suppose that it was when the blood stopped flowing in and out of that area? Each was on hospice care and died in the hospital. And missed so very dearly 😢
I love your channel, thank you.
@@7AmericanMade yep they feel like a rubber doll
I love your videos Ms. Julie. One of my goals is to be a Hospice Nurse with Hospice of NorthWest Ohio next year. I’m set to start volunteering there this October, and I’m so excited.! I’ve always believed in comfort over cure when a person is at the end stages of life. Videos like yours provide clarity, information, and knowledge that I don’t get in clinicals. (At this time my school doesn’t partner with any hospice facilities)
Thank You!❤
I maintained a Iron Lung when I worked in a local hospital, I was part of the team that performed scheduled maintenance of the patient as well as the Iron Lung, during this time I noticed the patients skin was black from the neck down as he was paralyzed from the neck down.
I wish, Julie, that I could have had access to all your videos back in 2001. (You were probably a baby then!) My mother was passing after a broken hip and many complications. I would have responded differently to things had I known. You are such a credit to your profession. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. ❤
My Dad age 93 lost his soul mate, my Mother 12yrs before he passed. There wasn't a day that went by that he he didn't miss her. She died 2 days before their 63rd anniversary. On his death bed in a drug coma he was failing but wouldn't let go. I'm the oldest of 3 and his name sake. I took his head in one hand and his hand in the other. I said Pop you have lived a good life, raised 3 boys and have a ton of grand kids. Your soul mate is waiting for you on the other side. Go to her and be at peace. Let go Pop just let go your work on earth is completed now go find your happiness as you have earned it. Now it might have been my imagination but I like to think it was real. I felt him squeezing my hand and when I looked at him there was a tear in the corner of his left eye by his nose. I squeezed his hand back and leaned over to kiss his forehead and felt him expel his last breath. The man had not moved in days since they drugged him, but he squeezed my hand, shed a tear and died peacefully.
Never stop talking to your loved one until they take that last breath. I swear no matter how many drugs they are on, your voice allows them to pass on in peace.
RIP My Father ,my friend, my mentor, my teacher, my hero and Idol. Taught me right from wrong, and good from evil. Taught me how to build fast race cars and engines, Taught me to always put my wife and kids first. To my Mother she loved me unconditionally. She taught me about God and respect for others. Always said before you laugh or make fun of someone put yourself in their shoes and how you would feel. One day something happened in Alabama with the civil rights movement. Some Black kids got the hell beat out of them just for being black. Something was said I don't remember exactly but I remember her response like it happened yesterday. She said when you. Cut yourself what color is your blood? Then she said as we were watching a black & white TV what color is the blood of those Colored People's blood? (back then in the 50s 60s weren't called black mostly colored or nigro) I said black looking at the TV. She said no that's just the TV. They bleed red just like we do and every other human. We are all Brothers and sisters. Though we all look different on the outside, take the skin off and we are all the same. I remember that conversation as a young boy in the late 50s and never forgot it. Because of that lady I grew up with an open mind and compassion for everyone until they cross me. I don't hold a whole race responsible like some people do, just the individual. I have been in fights defending friends of mine and I'm proud of that. My Mother believed in her heart that we are all equal and passed that on to me. When I was in Vietnam She wrote a letter everyday. She was a quiet gentle lady. Her family was her life. RIP Mom We weren't by any means well off but my Dad put his family first always.
Now I'm the Old Man of my family. At almost 74 I realize why my Dad wasn't as good at tuning a set trip carbs or dual Quads on a car any more. Why before he quit racing his couldn't shift as fast and his ET in the same car was going up. Why we talked about putting an automatic behind the old Hemi. One never thinks as their Dad as an Old Man. We called them the Old man but it was more of a respect thing. If it wasn't for him the flathead motor would be a mystery. I learned a lifetime of secrets from my Dad. When he died a treasure trove of engine knowledge died also. He passed as much as he could on to me. He was a Warrior who fought in WWII. HE was a man who lived a simple life. To him a good time was sitting around the shop drinking a beer and talking about cars and engines. That's what I got from the old timers. Now I'm the Old timer and except for the beer we still find a little group of us at the shop shooting the shit and bragging usually about shit that didn't happen. Once In a while a young kid will stop by with an hot rod or muscle car that their Dad or Uncle had left them not a clue what to do with it. Life has been good just going too fast.
Why I wrote this here I have no clue. Something just came over me and I started writing. I'll leave it here a couple days if no one comments I'll take it down.
God Bless 🇺🇸 America and all her different cultures found nowhere else on Earth.
FAST CARS ARE MEANT TO BE DRIVEN NOT JUST LOOKED AT.✌️
Don’t take it down! I enjoyed it very much. It will be very inspirational to a lot of people I’m sure! I was thinking of my mom when reading your comment and to this day don’t know when she died, or where. I was her favorite she used to tell me 😢 RIP mom 🙏
Huge thank you to you for your videos, gave me some idea of what to expect after my grandma's, very late diagnosis of late stage pancreatic cancer. She had less than a week from her diagnosis to her death, and im glad i knew a little more about the process, thanks to you
❤ I've discovered a dead person front seat of car on a hit August day and was shocked. The man had silver hair and while on the phone with his ex-wife I let out a scream... " Oh, my God. Head black. Oh, my God...". It took a while to make out the face surrounded by silver hair and deep purple is not what I expected. He was in the car probably 12- 18 hours when he expired. It was a shock and the odor ( when undertaker opened car) permeated into the air quickly. A horror of odor.
As a Beleiver in Jesus Christ...dieing in this world is just a stepping stone to the Lord above and we all will have to die thanks to sin. Being a beleiver and those you lose that are beleivers makes it normal and just the next stepping stone...You do a great job on here doing what you do....Like in Elleciaties....Solomon said it is good to go to funerals and be around death cause like a fish in the sea....you get caught in the net out of the blue and that is it. Great you tell people like it is on alot of things including this!
I love how you educate us. However, I know we will no longer FEEL decomposition, but it still creeps me out! I wish I could get past that😢