Sober 21 years here, I am now 58. I agree with the issue that quitting does not instantly make your life better. The issues and problems you avoided by dulling your senses with alcohol are still there when you quit. You just become more aware of those issues. You also find you have little to occupy your time, you realize the last few decades of your life were all about drinking or preparing for the next time you drink. It takes time to get your crap in order and develop new connections and hobbies. Going sober was the best thing i ever did, but it took me a few years to appreciate that. Best wishes to you.
I drank and drugged for 45 years. I quit one month and two days before my 60th birthday. It's been 6 years sober and clean, this month. I'm so very proud of you!!! You are a badass woman!!!
I started drinking alcohol 18 years ago as a teenage, spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Predroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
15 yrs now. Started my journey in 1983. I often wonder where my life would have been if I had stayed the course. No regrets however. It took what it took.
I was a high functioning alcoholic for 33 years. I went to school, I went to work and did a good job, I never drove, etc. But, I knew and admitted that I had a problem and wanted to quit, but couldn't. I was terrified my church family would find out. I turned to God for help and overcame alcohol and willingly told my church family so the "cat is out of the bag" and received so much love and support. Almost 4 years sober, life is great and there's no turning back. Sober life is good!
I'm 32 yrs sober, thanks to Jesus, many stops and starts, rehab, AA. But what did the most for me was the rehab and the meetings, because as you say Julie, we have to do more than stop drinking, we have to learn to live sober - really live. there is so much support in the meetings and you never know when one little phrase is going to hit you right between the eyes and stay with you forever, coming back time and again to help you. when i relapsed 6 wks after rehab, i began going to AA and said "i won't ever come in here drinking, but i am still drinking and can't stop - i hope it's ok for me to be here" the response i got was, "honey, that's just because you're an alcoholic, keep comin back." ppl didn't try to tell me the obvious (to quit drinking) they just shared their experiences, strengths and wisdom. and i soaked it up like a sponge. one year later, i hit my bottom and was finally able to surrender the bottle to Jesus. He took it from there and relieved me of my obsession to drink two days later. I'm now on hospice for copd and lung cancer and i can not wait to see my lord and savior, Jesus Christ. @peterinburlington, i love what you said. we need to recover out loud!! thank you Julie for this video ; )
I was diagnosed as an alcoholic by a counselor. He recommended AA. I thought AA was a cult. After about 3 months sober and miserable I went to my first meeting. It was the first time I had hope in a long time. I’m coming up on my 42 year AA birthday. Best thing I ever did.
It kind of is a cult. I never participated in prayer or religious exercises in rehab. I had one counselor tell me, in front of yje group, "if you don't find god, you're guaranteed to fail". The audacity. If he wasn't elderly.... In any event, if it worked for you, congrats.
I have a friend who is 70 and just got her 12 years sober pin. I remember the first time she admitted she had gone to AA. I did not even know she drank! I actually could not blelieve it. And at the time she told me she hated the meetings haa in the begining everyone was crazy. I am only laughing because she basically was resisting. But I am so proud of her today. She stuck to it. I actually thought at one point she had given up. And I loved that she proudly showed me her pin. And today she talks only of how wonderful the meetings are and she still goes. Happy 42 AA birthday coming up. hugs
@@ald.3387 Use the group as a higher power. It’s hard to understand God so don’t feel like the Lone Ranger. Most AAs have trouble understanding God including me.
Yeah AA certainly isn't a cult. I can understand the issues that some find with the higher power when they think of it as God. But all this means is a power greater than yourself - my higher power personally is not God. Not that there is an issue with those whose higher power is God.
Now I understand why stopping drinking for the last 16 months seemed to have caused more anxiety. When you stop drinking your problems will not magically disappear, you have to learn other, healthier coping mechanisms.
No they will not disappear, in fact when you aren't self medicating, your problems come creeping back out except now you also have withdrawals and cravings and are literally carrying 3 demons on your back!! Congratulations, friend, and great job loving yourself!!❤
Well sugar and Carb....NO difference..from alcohol...Meat and fat cut all addictions...so go clean for real..alcohol and sugar and carb addictions is same...good luck. Been sugar free 4 years..alcohol free 30 years...
I disagree that it’s a disease. ALS is a disease, Parkinson’s is a disease, being an alcoholic isn’t. I’m an alcoholic, but I became one by making stupid, irresponsible, selfish decisions.
I was influenced by the Moms drink wine club to cope with parenthood. It was starting to affect all aspects of my life and I was a high functioning alcoholic. I attended an AA meeting and I have been sober for five years. Congratulations on your sobriety.
Congratulations to you😊. Well done. In my community (in Nova Scotia, Canada) most women tend to treat wine as an excuse to drink more. They think nothing of it, it’s like Kool-ade to them. Some of these women know can sit down in an afternoon and finish off two bottles. I don’t understand how wine has become such a social crutch for so many and not one of them think there’s anything wrong with that. I’m not a prude, I just don’t drink much at all; maybe at social events (a couple of coolers or something).
Maybe add some more meetings, small ones are nice to get acquainted & for personal instruction about the steps. It might enhance the sobriety you already have, and by now you've surely developed some skills of your own that you are welcome to share too. They need you and you need them!
@@andreasalmonson7295You are describing my dearest friend of over 50 yrs. For many , many yrs we had little to no contact due to circumstances and my own addictions but having moved 3 yrs ago to be close to her as well as my children, i have seen just how much wine she consumes every day. It is so discouraging to me because i went through alcohol, drug, etc horrors of my own, and lied about it for 11 years to everyone, i can see right through her feeble explanations, excuses as to why she does it. However i won't back down and recently she has severely cut back and even stopped smoking! Im so proud of her😊 Thank you for sharing!❤
I am the poster boy for society's idea of an alcoholic; prison, multiple DUI, abandoned family, homeless for several years, unemployable etc, etc, etc. I've been around AA for 25 years now and have been sober for the last 15+. The previous 10 years were in and out because I wouldn't completely surrender to the fact that I couldn't win. But when I did accept that truth then it started working for me. Imagine that. Do the work and it works. I no longer have those life problems that I created for myself and am doing great. I'm proud of you. Keep it up.
That’s just it, ppl like us cannot control it. We have to learn why we use and work through that, usually trauma. Addiction is a symptom of an underlying issue.
September 14 is my 12th AA birthday. I got into heavy drinking when all the kids (4) left home and then my mom and dad died. I was in my late forties early fifties. I finally quit at 63 and am now 75
Stopping is hard but totally worth it. Turned 70 this year and after drinking since my teens I decided I’d had enough of alcohol controlling my life. Haven’t touched a drop in nearly 18 months and the benefits have been nothing short of amazing. The only thing that’s disappointing is I didn’t come to my senses and stop much earlier. Didn’t do AA or anything, I just realised I have a lot to live for and killing myself early through drinking was the best incentive for giving it up. Best wishes to those trying to stop, it’s more than worth the effort 👍
My father was an incredibly high functioning alcoholic. He worked 3 jobs for years on end. One was as a Philadelphia, Pa. Firefighter. There are bars where police go and ones where firefighters go. I believe they start drinking to function with the things they experience in the line of duty. It's heartbreaking 💔 R.I.P. DAD, I LOVE YOU ❤️
Thanks for loving your father despite all. So many people would have hated their fathers for drinking alcohol excessively, although highly functioning and caring for them financially an otherwise. Some outside influences do make many people become Alcoholics. If your father had told some people the reasons why he was drinking alcohol, they would have said he was manipulative, for blaming some people or influences for the problems which he caused himself.
Your reasons were external influences. You are absolutely correct. Yet, some ignorant people, even, Professionals, will say you are manipulative because you blame other people for the cause of your alcoholism. Problems at my work and marriage made Alcoholic and depressed. After changing my place of work, things began to get better. A little change in my partner's habit also helped me a lot. Now, I am sober.
@oedeko3020 That's wonderful news! Bravo! ❤️💯 I am so happy you found your way out! Yes, it's true. They even had their own bars in our neighborhood. One where the cops drank and one where the firefighters drank. I saw my Dad after many horrifying experiences. He was so broken. One, he found a little boy dead, hiding behind a sofa after a fire. One when his coworker was killed trying to save a woman from a highrise fire. There were countless more. But, you get what I'm saying.
@oedeko3020 I knew why he started drinking. He would yell out in his sleep from nightmares of the horrors he experienced. Yelling out to other firefighters and people. It broke my heart.
Thank you for sharing and raising awareness about alcoholism and addiction. To anyone who needs to hear this, recovery is possible and there are plenty of folks willing to support you during recovery!
I remember as a young soldier I would clean my room, press my uniform, spit shine my boots to a mirror finish, all while drinking, then go out and finish the night. The next day I would be hungover so bad but I would look the part of this perfect soldier. Pressed, shined, immaculate. I was favored by leadership. New soldiers were told to follow my lead. And so it continues
I am 45 y/o and just under 5 months sober after having used drugs and alcohol consistently since I turned 21 y/o. My life, even on my worst sober days, is immeasurably better than my drinking and using days. Keep up the good work and stay inspirational--this video has had a profoundly positive impact on me in my journey!
17 years clean and sober after 41 years out of control. I'm a retired healthcare professional, and I still rely on going to meetings to stay sober. We are never cured. Thank you for sharing your story.
Congrats Jeannie you're my kind of AA. I was a bottom feeder too. Been sober since 4/27/09. This truly is the easier, softer way. I'm proud of you. Keep it up one day at a time.
@@fredhoy6697 and congrats to you too! Sometimes a low bottom is a blessing because when you get Sober life is amazing. The old timers used to say that if you came in with a wristwatch you weren’t done until you lost it ❤️
Thank you for sharing Julie. My name is Brad and I'm an alcoholic. Jan 4th was 14 years sober, hoping to make 15, and many more. Like you, I was a high functioning alcoholic. What opened my eyes, was I got arrested a couple times (all dismissed), and started getting injured from doing stupid things, all while drunk. Started my journey to shut the nagging up from my wife (still married), quickly realized I needed to do it for myself. Spent 5 days In medical detox, and 60 days in a treatment facility. Thirty more days going to meetings every day, sometimes twice a day. Got really grounded in my sobriety. My wife has now known me longer sober than when I was drinking. Thanks again.❤
Thanks for sharing your wonderful testimony! I also began my sober life when I was 33. My 70th birthday is coming up soon and I can tell you I've been eternally grateful for every one of those sober days. God Bless.
Thank you for this!! I’m 32, and I quit drinking a week ago. This is the first time I’ve ever taken it seriously, I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I’ve been going to AA and it’s been extremely helpful. I’m determined to live a new, better life ❤️
Wonderfully happy for you!! Yay you! Keep busy, drink plenty of water, set a healthy schedule for yourself that includes meetings every day (even online!), put affirmations where you can see them often. I was hesitant to believe in myself in early sobriety, so affirmations in my own handwriting bothered me. I still use lots & lots of strong words cut from magazines or cards. Take care, stay safe & keep your power & sparkle!
Thank you for talking about recovery so often in your videos. I've been sober 37 years. It changed my entire life. I was able to raise my daughter who suffered from cystic fibrosis till she died at 25 after a double lung transplant without relapsing thanks to the program and later volunteered for hospice. All these things started because of learning and growing through the 12 steps. You're doing amazing work!
I was a highly functioning alcoholic. I held a job. I rarely missed work, and I traveled when it was required. I hid my drinking really well, until I became seriously ill. I almost died. I have been sober for a year now, and I am participating in a 12-step program. There are others out there like me who need help, but, unfortunately, the stigma of being an alcoholic prevents them from seeking help. Thank you for sharing your video. I hope it helps others!
Hi Julie, that was brave to come on and tell us your story. I am not an alcoholic but I was married to one. He never did seek help and we are now divorced. I just wanted to come on and say WELL DONE, thank you so much for sharing. Xx
Being in close proximity to an alcoholic can be harder than being one- you don't stifle your feelings with alcohol and have to deal with not only your partner's behaviors, but your own feelings/ guilts, etc. Congratulations on surviving a tough road!❤
Thx for sharing. I'm married to one. It's hard. He won't get help. My son is about to be 21. I try really hard to educate him. Have thought about going to Al anon meeting...
My alcoholic ex died a few weeks ago. He'd spent months in hospital being detoxed for the second time. He was released a couple of times and both times he went for a couple of wines, fell and went back to hospital. Even at the end he couldn't admit his drinking was a problem. It was a very painful end for him because he literally poisoned every organ. I wished he'd have gone to AA
Loved This! Thank you for this! I have stopped and started drinking .. I’m on day 56… I am positive I’m an alcoholic. Very tired , trying to find my way! It’s a Process!
Beth, find some meetings and go! Even online meetings exist, AA is everywhere. Your body is still detoxing but you'll feel better inside & out before long. Lots of people find themselves on a "pink cloud" (joyous & giddy) at about 90 days, when your brain & body have rested and cleansed. Don't let that happiness you deserve send you down the wrong track of celebration! Make some sober friends or at least people who gather for non-drinking events and spend time together. Best wishes!
I had structured my life around drinking. I was a bar manager and a musician. This led me to the logical outcome: I was a mess. I finally managed to get help and get sober. That was 12/18/93. I spent the first 9 months of my sobriety working in a bar. It was tough but it toughened me up. I can honestly say that I am truly happy, joyous and free.
God bless you! My cousin turned her life around too. Her siblings still want nothing to do with her from past behavioral antics even after 5 yrs of sobriety and changing her life for the good. But I have embraced her.
It is very hard to forget the pain and issues an addict has caused in our lives! For us loved ones we don’t get to get intoxicated and forget…. We are sober and remember it all very clearly. And sometimes the issues people have go far beyond their addictions; for me someone I know is just down right nasty rather they’re sober or not… and with their sobriety they think they have earned their place in my life while they still didn’t heal every other aspect of themselves. Sobriety is not the end all be all to pain people cause others.
Bless you for helping your cousin when her siblings wouldn't. It's brought tears to me that you're so loyal and I hope you get so many blessings for your kind heart and soul ❤
so proud of you......i started at 69 yrs of age....took a DUI and totalled car....now 4 years sober. hope is always there...one day at a time. thank you for sharing- one day at a time...glad you got tools for sober living! never alone
What it took for me to stop drinking: I had a TIA and AFIB.I continued to work until the chest pain became unbearable.When I went to see my primary care doctor,I was taken by ambulance to the hospital.Two days in cardiac ICU and another 5 days for tests and observation.I asked the doctor how long would I live if I continued drinking.He said 5 years.At the time I was working 2 jobs,had a girlfriend on the side (she was a nurse,lol!) and drinking about 20 beers a day (more on the weekends).I stopped right then and there,at age 46.Sober since 1/23/2004.I don't miss drinking at all.No AA meetings at all, just a little talk with Jesus.
I found you because my mom went on hospice due to alcoholism. She was so functional that we had no idea alcohol was even part of her diet. The doctors finally convinced her, on her death bed, to finally disclose it. She still minimized it - even though her liver was failing. She was also a nurse. The alcohol took her life. It’s surprising how many people are high functioning addicts.
Hi. I'm Tim, and I am a high-functioning alcoholic. I took me years to understand that although I had problems many years ago that I was an alcoholic. It was only when I started working in rrcovery and attended group meetings that I realized that I AM an alcoholic... not was, not used to be. I love this & I will share it!
Thanks Julie for sharing. I’m in the same place right now that you were in after quitting. I quit bc my daughter asked me to. It’s been a few years and you’re right. I’m sad, lonely and depressed but now sober and alone. The job in EMS is not helpful right now but I fight through the same intrusive thoughts that I’m sure you had as well. Restarted in my counseling 2 weeks ago and probably not a minute too late. Thanks for Sharing your story. I promise you that it isn’t wasted here. Congrats on you’re amazing journey. I’m so glad to have found your content and I share it as much as possible at work bc our resources are limited and there are so many new and young ppl in EMS that aren’t prepared mentally for what we see and experience. 🙏🏼🕯❤️🩹💐🙏🏼
Been alcohol (vodka, over a fifth a night) sober since January 2012. Switched to sleeping pills that day to sleep. Abusing sleeping pills...like from 12 a night(stayed up for hours because of the high) to about 6 then to zero. Quit sleeping pills two months ago. I'm proud of myself. Forever an addict, difference is now, I acknowledge it, accept it and put it to bed. All by myself❤️ Anyone reading this who is struggling, recovery is possible and a beautiful thing🙌🏻💯
It's funny because when you quit drinking and using, you became what I turn into when I drink. When I'm sober i become the opposite which is the real me, Thank God. Thank You for sharing.
1 is too many and 1000 isn't enough. I asked a friend to pray for me last night. I relapsed after years of sobriety. Right afterwards your channel popped up on RUclips. I believe God did that so I would see this video Step 3 is the key. Can't stay sober without God ( Higher power). Thank you for sharing your story.🙏
Finally, someone who reflects my story. When I quit, I watched a ton of RUclips videos, listened to podcasts, read articles... they all said how glorious you feel after getting sober. You sleep better, feel more energy, lose weight, and feel happier. Well, ha! None of that happened. I was so disappointed. Why not drink if nothing is better? I have no desire to go to meetings. Just glad I heard this video.
My friend 12 years ago went to try with reluctance AA meetings. She fought it hard thought it would never help. Today she is very proud to be sober and completely loves all the sober people that go to continue to support....that she was so thinking they were just crazy. Its a small family to her now. It might be worth a try. Never say never. I love her and so glad she went or she would not be here today. hugs
I'm shocked hearing this from you because I fear this is what is happening to my daughter. Yet, while being shocked, I'm also encouraged that there is hope for my daughter. Thank you so much for sharing. I wish I could give you a hug for being so authentic. I've so admire you in your profession and the true love and concern that you have for humanity. Thanks again!
Take your daughter to an AA meeting, and get yourself to Al-Anon. She'll likely be shocked to see people who look really normal who are also not able to drink because it wrecks parts of their lives. She'll hear things that might make her think about her own behavior. Maybe buy her some books and plant the seed of sobriety. It's wonderful yet sad that you are seeing her painful life; you can love her at every step, but they're her steps to take, just never stop loving her & she'll come around. Your unconditional love will be a powerful base upon which she can continue to thrive.Best wishes!
That's beautiful nurse Julie. I am also a recovering addict. I have been clean /sober for 24 years now ❤. My addiction started at age 12 with alcohol. By age 15 i was the youngest person ever to attend my areas AA meetings, by age 21 i started using illegal drugs, by age 25 i started using pills and narcotic medication given by doctors and was doctor shopping to support my habit. By age 35 i had given all of that up and then became addicted to shopping. And now i can proudly say i have Kept all of my addictive habits at bay since 2000 :) i am proud of myself and hope to never venture down that path again
Hi julie. this was your BEST video. I am so happy for you. you found a way of life that you didn’t know existed. I loved your story and i believe you will help many out there with our problem reach out and make a choice that will give them a life they never dreamed possible your channel helps the dying and those trying to live with them but today you reached the LIVING and that will be your great 12th step gift. i will be 9 years in Oct. sober since my first meeting. i am 70 year old male in LA and THANK GOD for our program. take care
Julie, You Are Courageous! I continue to learn from you! Thank You from my heart for being a mentor. Just quit alcohol & "herb" recently. I am a 70-yr-old CNA, who has also worked in hospice. ❤❤❤❤
I was a high functioning alcoholic as well but eventually things started to fall apart and I became desperate for sobriety. Out of desperation, I decided to go to AA. After a fitful start I got serious about the 12 step program and now I've been sober for 37 years. Now, what i think is a long term effect of alcoholism, I've been diagnosed with dementia. There is no program for this. Thanks for sharing Julie!
Thank you for sharing. I don't know about others, but the music in the background made it very hard for me to concentrate on what you were saying. I appreciate that you felt comfortable in sharing that with us. Thanks
You’ll never no how much of an inspiration you are nurse julie, I love all your videos and this one made me cry (as many of your videos do) god bless you from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺
Thank you for sharing your story Julie. Each and every person in recovery has something of value to share that can help another suffering alcoholic - in a way no one else can. I started my journey in recovery March 11, 1991. I celebrated 33 years sober this year. Never in my wildest dreams could I have foreseen the gifts and blessings of recovery. To be able to look back and know I got sober for my 9-month old daughter ("kept coming" and stayed sober for myself) and was able to raise her as a sober mom is EVERYTHING! I've been married for 40+ years to a man who has supported my journey and who joined me on this path of sobriety. Under circumstamces that too often break marriages and families apart, we became stronger and have built an amazing life. To know that I truly did what I set out to - staying sober all these years - to be a good mom and worthy partner is a gift beyond measure. A day at a time has worked for 33+ years and I am deeply grateful for this gift.
15 yrs ago I got help and have been in recovery since I was also a high functioning alcoholic this was an amazing video you really hit all the points perfectly thank you and congratulations on your recovery I'm proud of you.
We adopted my granddaughter. Her mother was an addict and she was born highly addicted to heroine. I lost every friend in my world. I was angry and lonely. I went to a kinship meeting which is much like AA and found people who understood. They are still my people. We still go to meetings to listen to each other and be together. So grateful for the people God put in my life.
Congratulations. I’m the LPN at a residential treatment facility. The men there come from many different backgrounds. The youngest ones were in their late teens and the oldest ones were in their 70s. Some graduate and remain sober others are repeat clients. The big thing is they seek help. I would encourage anyone who has a problem to look for help. We are there.
Great story. 74 years old and 37 years sober. I too was a high functioning alcoholic until I wasn't. When I bottomed, it came quick and deep. This 37 seven year journey in sobriety has been remarkable. The highest highs and some pretty bad lows, but through it all it never matched those lowest times as a practicing addict and alcoholic. I am filled with gratitude everyday and most days joy and optimism.
Thank you for sharing. My 31yr old son passed in February from ciirrhosis. He had autoimmune hepatitis and was an alcoholic. I to believe that I am a functioning alcoholic. I use it to ease my pain and to forget. I have tried to stop and will for a little bit but always go back. Again thank you for showing me there is hope and another way.
Try to see what you can add to your life, instead of focusing on what you need to take away. Add coffee with friends, going on walks, taking an art class, trying an AA meeting, etc. Talking in a women’s AA meeting can be very therapeutic and can be a way to make friends who don’t judge, offer hope and understand. I believe there are online meetings over zoom as well 💛
Thank you for sharing your experience with alcohol and your road to recovery. I am an alcoholic and was high functioning. Self-employed so I was my own boss (worst enemy) and finally at age 45, I quit. THEN my world caved in and I suffered with severe depression because I was no longer self medicating. It’s a constant struggle, but worth it. 🙏🏻 IT IS DOABLE 😊
Thank you for sharing. While I don’t drink or take drugs, I’ve seen it affect the lives of people I love. I come from the philosophy of it’s not how much you drink, but WHY you drink. If you see yourself in this, please get help. You are worthy to be sober❤
Wow, your words really hit home with me! And congratulations to YOU!! You should feel so proud, as well as your helping others along their own paths. I myself, quit drinking about 30 years back with a private substance abuse counselor who was amazing. The first six to eight months on my dry journey, I felt on top of the world, walking on clouds. But it's interesting hearing you talk. It seems over time the high of being sober wears off, and bumps in the road are still going to be there and you have to learn how to adjust. It certainly doesn't end the minute you drop a bad habit. Now I'm in my late 60s and still have some down days, but as far as turning back to booze, NO thank you! So, it's a battle you play with yourself really for the rest of your life. But, not to discourage others out there. I would NEVER go back to that life style. You just find a good councelor, therapist, maybe some meds and good friends surrounding yourself with. Famous last words from my gal, "find something to invest yourself in, that you love as much, if not more, than the bottle!" and that has been my awakening!! Sorry this is so long winded. :) I thank you for this post!
In your line of work, this is completely understandable. I would cope any way I possibly could in your shoes. Both sides of my family have high functioning alcoholics in it, so I can relate to everything you’re saying here. My dad was one my whole life and I had no idea until I was an adult and my brother in law pointed out that he smelled like booze. I thought that was just how my dad smelled, but now I saw that he was always secretly drinking vodka when he was home. My mom didn’t even know after 25 years. It was like a smack upside the head.
Just celebrated 38 years of sobriety and while life still throws you curveballs, it seems the well from which I draw strength is deeper. Living with pure joy is priceless and I am eternally grateful 🦋🐬
I really appreciate you for sharing this..similar to my own story. I'm a retired RN, knew for several years I had "a problem " with drinking so got to where I'd drink at home alone as I'd embarrassed myself on several occasions. Quit at age 64 and purposely set date od December 30 in 2017 to stop. It was just before New Years Eve which made me feel at least some degree of control. I'd tried to quit before but thus time I gave it all to God and told him that was all I felt that I could manage and I needed His help. It wasn't easy but I knew my triggers and adapted to avoid them. I can truly say I am not tempted at all to have alcohol, nor do I tempt fate, so to speak. I'm so grateful to be free from it!
Thank you for sharing. 32yo I'm 36yrs sober. I'm here to tell you if you stop doing what kept you sober you will start getting thirsty again ❤ service work did it for me.
Thankyou for sharing this!!!! I can relate- and really appreciated your story…at 45 stopped 21 years ago-still learning how to deal with life and its challenges without alcohol****I’m grateful I still have this option
Congratulations on your sobriety,Julie.I"m sure you"ve been thinking about sharing this for along time.I finally got sober in February,1984.Went to thousands of meetings,till july,1993 Very active in the program.Never happier in my whole life.Started doubting things in my life.Starting hanging out with the wrong people(in the program).Picked up a drink in 93,with a old classmate and it changed my whole life for the worse.Many bad things have happened since then but I"m ok..Meeting makers make it.W"ere never cured,we have a daily repreive based on our choices.Thanks for this vid
Wow Julie, my best friend and I are talking about this literally now! She is an alcoholic, I'm an addict, both high functioning and I've also just lost my husband suddenly. She and I have been saying there has to be happiness and joy in our lives but we haven't experienced that in....we'll I can't remember! Every day my first thought is I have to quit but then I need to numb! I'm at the point where I don't care if I wake up and shockingly when I reached out to my doctor's office telling the receptionist that, she said she would get my doctor to call me back that day....I'm still waiting for the call 9 days later. You are an inspiration and I so get where you are coming from and I hope I can find a solution soon. I have booked an appointment with mental health for next week. I hope this is the beginning of a different life. Thank you for your honesty. Cathy
Funny you said that. One hour ago I just finished an intake appointment for therapy! I will ask my doctor about that medicine but I’m m in Canada so not sure if it’s available here. Thank you for reaching out!
WOW! Thanks for sharing! I too am a high functioning alcoholic. I'm 46 with no real problem's yet but, I know they are coming if I dont get help! I want to be there for my grandchildren...
@@hospicenursejulieI hit rock bottom after my third DUI. Luckily the judge gave me the Diversion Program. Had to move to Nevada, my best friend Scout(Queensland BorderCollie mix). Rebuilding my life from the bottom up. Scout is allowed to attend meetings with me occasionally. About 18 months into a three year program. Life has value again. Learning about healthy boundaries and self worth together helps build a secure psyche. Recovery can happen. I am a faithful subscriber to your channel. You are helping so so many viewers with this specific video. You bring intellect and compassion to the YT family. Your content brings hope, every single video brings hope. Continue being yourself. Your compassion is contagious.
Hubby has been drinking excessively (blackout - and beyond) for almost all of our 44 years of marriage. I consider him high functioning alcohol abuser - owns/operates successful business, very hard worker, loner, uses alcohol to cope with life rather than dealing with issues. It's taking a toll on his health.
@@krisr7736 How do you cope? I left after 8 years. Although, my story is true, I am being a bit sarcastic. I think everyone has their own story and timeline towards this affliction. It's not easy.
@@angelabraun4055 yes, I began attending ala-non about a year ago. There isn't one close to us, so I attend sporadically. YT/Spotify ala-non and AA speakers have been a huge help!
I honor your quitting the dependency on alcohol. It took me 35 yrs to stop, been sober 17 yrs only to have been diagnosed with Cirrhosis & Chronic liver disease in past 2 yrs. Oh well, still glad i stopped. You keep it up sharing about it & helping others.
I've been clean from drugs for 45 yrs and I have been sober from alcohol for 32 yrs. I thank my dad and my sister for getting me into rehab. I thank the people at the rehab, the people at the AA & NA meetings for helping me learn how to cope with life without drugging and drinking. I wouldn't be here today without all those wonderful people.
Good for you quitting your addiction early in life! I was diagnosed with Lupus in my mid 20's. I gave up and went on opiates and descended into a 30+ year addiction to morphine. I took 120 mg daily from the time I was 30 until I was 60. In 2 months time I weaned myself off opiates completely, along with quitting a 15 year addiction to Valium. I've been clean since January 28, 2023 and I'm never going back. Although I'm very thin, I am much healthier without the narcotics.
My husband has been in that 12 Steps program for 2 years. It saved him and our marriage. I'm so happy it helped you too, and you can now help others the way you do. Thank you for sharing this with us! ❤❤❤
I am an alcoholic too. I quit drinking and taking drugs 7 years ago. It's a huge decision to make and a difficult one to stick to at first. I am so pleased for you and wish you all the best. You should be so proud of yourself. I've been there, I know it's not always easy. Well done xx
73 years old and 3 years sober. Better late than never!
@johnbelin4201 hell yeah! Our bodies are amazing at recovering still time to enjoy the benefits of embracing you and your health!
Never too late my mum is 78 still struggling 😪.
Don't look back keep going free ✨️
Congratulations!
@@johnbelin4201 wow💪😄
Bless your heart sir, I admire your courage. I believe in you. Thank you so much for inspiring me.🙂
Sober 21 years here, I am now 58. I agree with the issue that quitting does not instantly make your life better. The issues and problems you avoided by dulling your senses with alcohol are still there when you quit. You just become more aware of those issues. You also find you have little to occupy your time, you realize the last few decades of your life were all about drinking or preparing for the next time you drink. It takes time to get your crap in order and develop new connections and hobbies. Going sober was the best thing i ever did, but it took me a few years to appreciate that. Best wishes to you.
I drank and drugged for 45 years. I quit one month and two days before my 60th birthday. It's been 6 years sober and clean, this month.
I'm so very proud of you!!! You are a badass woman!!!
@@louisesumrell6331 And so are You!⭐️
Way to go!!❤❤
Good for you! Congratulations!
Good for you, wow!!🎉🎉🎉
Way to go, I'm proud of you!
I started drinking alcohol 18 years ago as a teenage, spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Predroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
17 yrs ago I was a high functioning drug addict...then I wasn't...17 yrs clean. Well done Julie!!! Thanks for sharing.
15 yrs now. Started my journey in 1983. I often wonder where my life would have been if I had stayed the course. No regrets however. It took what it took.
Way to go sister!❤❤❤
Love ya ❤❤❤
Congratulations on your sobriety ❤🎉
37 yrs and still at it. Best life ever! Congrats Julie🎉
I was a high functioning alcoholic for 33 years. I went to school, I went to work and did a good job, I never drove, etc. But, I knew and admitted that I had a problem and wanted to quit, but couldn't. I was terrified my church family would find out. I turned to God for help and overcame alcohol and willingly told my church family so the "cat is out of the bag" and received so much love and support. Almost 4 years sober, life is great and there's no turning back. Sober life is good!
I am coming up on 35 years sober thanks to a 12 step program. Thank you Julie. We need to recover out loud.
Congratulations!😊
I'm 32 yrs sober, thanks to Jesus, many stops and starts, rehab, AA. But what did the most for me was the rehab and the meetings, because as you say Julie, we have to do more than stop drinking, we have to learn to live sober - really live. there is so much support in the meetings and you never know when one little phrase is going to hit you right between the eyes and stay with you forever, coming back time and again to help you. when i relapsed 6 wks after rehab, i began going to AA and said "i won't ever come in here drinking, but i am still drinking and can't stop - i hope it's ok for me to be here" the response i got was, "honey, that's just because you're an alcoholic, keep comin back." ppl didn't try to tell me the obvious (to quit drinking) they just shared their experiences, strengths and wisdom. and i soaked it up like a sponge. one year later, i hit my bottom and was finally able to surrender the bottle to Jesus. He took it from there and relieved me of my obsession to drink two days later. I'm now on hospice for copd and lung cancer and i can not wait to see my lord and savior, Jesus Christ. @peterinburlington, i love what you said. we need to recover out loud!! thank you Julie for this video ; )
Congratulations 🎉❤
Congratulations 🎉❤
Congratulations very proud of you 👏 🥰
I first met you when I searched for help with my mom in hospice.. and now you are helping me. thank ou
I celebrated 12 years sober last month. I couldn’t have done it without AA. Congratulations to you.
@@scottk0623 And a Big congratulations to you!
Congratulations for a real tough job!!❤
Congratulations 🎉❤
December 15,1981
Hit my bottom at 28 years old. AA saved my life...
@@KathleenAlex-ic3kc 💕Happy 43 anniversary xo
I was diagnosed as an alcoholic by a counselor. He recommended AA. I thought AA was a cult. After about 3 months sober and miserable I went to my first meeting. It was the first time I had hope in a long time. I’m coming up on my 42 year AA birthday. Best thing I ever did.
It kind of is a cult. I never participated in prayer or religious exercises in rehab. I had one counselor tell me, in front of yje group, "if you don't find god, you're guaranteed to fail". The audacity. If he wasn't elderly....
In any event, if it worked for you, congrats.
I have a friend who is 70 and just got her 12 years sober pin. I remember the first time she admitted she had gone to AA. I did not even know she drank! I actually could not blelieve it. And at the time she told me she hated the meetings haa in the begining everyone was crazy. I am only laughing because she basically was resisting. But I am so proud of her today. She stuck to it. I actually thought at one point she had given up. And I loved that she proudly showed me her pin. And today she talks only of how wonderful the meetings are and she still goes. Happy 42 AA birthday coming up. hugs
@@ald.3387 Use the group as a higher power. It’s hard to understand God so don’t feel like the Lone Ranger. Most AAs have trouble understanding God including me.
Great story, Julie. Thanks much for your honesty and for sharing!
Yeah AA certainly isn't a cult. I can understand the issues that some find with the higher power when they think of it as God. But all this means is a power greater than yourself - my higher power personally is not God. Not that there is an issue with those whose higher power is God.
Now I understand why stopping drinking for the last 16 months seemed to have caused more anxiety. When you stop drinking your problems will not magically disappear, you have to learn other, healthier coping mechanisms.
No they will not disappear, in fact when you aren't self medicating, your problems come creeping back out except now you also have withdrawals and cravings and are literally carrying 3 demons on your back!! Congratulations, friend, and great job loving yourself!!❤
Congratulations 🎉❤
Expectations can be a huge bummer. I get what Nurse Julie is saying.
You probably have had high anxiety all of your life. I drank all of the time and sugar is a high also. IT took me a few years to figure that out.
Amen🙏🏻
24 years sober, by the grace of God.
You wouldn’t be the blessing you are without having gone through the fire.
Thank you
❤ Boy, are you opening doors for so many who suffer from alcoholism but also for clearing up so many misunderstandings about this disease. Thank you.
Thank you 💕💕💕💕
Well sugar and Carb....NO difference..from alcohol...Meat and fat cut all addictions...so go clean for real..alcohol and sugar and carb addictions is same...good luck.
Been sugar free 4 years..alcohol free 30 years...
I disagree that it’s a disease. ALS is a disease, Parkinson’s is a disease, being an alcoholic isn’t. I’m an alcoholic, but I became one by making stupid, irresponsible, selfish decisions.
@@timburton9514 A bad choice it is. Then the disease takes over. There are many forms of diseases.
I have been a nurse for 43 years and still work full time. I got sober July 4th 1997 through AA. Thank you for sharing your story. We are miracles!
Love that word “miracle” ❤
I was influenced by the Moms drink wine club to cope with parenthood. It was starting to affect all aspects of my life and I was a high functioning alcoholic. I attended an AA meeting and I have been sober for five years. Congratulations on your sobriety.
Congratulations to you! 😊✌❤
@@allison471 Thank you
Congratulations to you😊. Well done.
In my community (in Nova Scotia, Canada) most women tend to treat wine as an excuse to drink more. They think nothing of it, it’s like Kool-ade to them. Some of these women know can sit down in an afternoon and finish off two bottles. I don’t understand how wine has become such a social crutch for so many and not one of them think there’s anything wrong with that. I’m not a prude, I just don’t drink much at all; maybe at social events (a couple of coolers or something).
Maybe add some more meetings, small ones are nice to get acquainted & for personal instruction about the steps. It might enhance the sobriety you already have, and by now you've surely developed some skills of your own that you are welcome to share too. They need you and you need them!
@@andreasalmonson7295You are describing my dearest friend of over 50 yrs. For many , many yrs we had little to no contact due to circumstances and my own addictions but having moved 3 yrs ago to be close to her as well as my children, i have seen just how much wine she consumes every day. It is so discouraging to me because i went through alcohol, drug, etc horrors of my own, and lied about it for 11 years to everyone, i can see right through her feeble explanations, excuses as to why she does it. However i won't back down and recently she has severely cut back and even stopped smoking! Im so proud of her😊
Thank you for sharing!❤
I am the poster boy for society's idea of an alcoholic; prison, multiple DUI, abandoned family, homeless for several years, unemployable etc, etc, etc. I've been around AA for 25 years now and have been sober for the last 15+. The previous 10 years were in and out because I wouldn't completely surrender to the fact that I couldn't win. But when I did accept that truth then it started working for me. Imagine that. Do the work and it works. I no longer have those life problems that I created for myself and am doing great. I'm proud of you. Keep it up.
Congratulations to you and everyone getting this under control!
That’s just it, ppl like us cannot control it. We have to learn why we use and work through that, usually trauma. Addiction is a symptom of an underlying issue.
@@BrandyinIndy Amen🙏🏻
Control is an illusion
The thing is, we didn’t do anything. The 12 steps and HP came through
I did not get sober until I was 55 and now have 27 years. I very happy you found recovery. Keep spreading the message. Many out there need help.
September 14 is my 12th AA birthday. I got into heavy drinking when all the kids (4) left home and then my mom and dad died. I was in my late forties early fifties. I finally quit at 63 and am now 75
sending you a hug if you'd like a hug 🫂
Happy 12th birthday! I’m so proud of you!
I am 63 and battling. Thanks for the encouragent. ❤
Stopping is hard but totally worth it. Turned 70 this year and after drinking since my teens I decided I’d had enough of alcohol controlling my life. Haven’t touched a drop in nearly 18 months and the benefits have been nothing short of amazing. The only thing that’s disappointing is I didn’t come to my senses and stop much earlier. Didn’t do AA or anything, I just realised I have a lot to live for and killing myself early through drinking was the best incentive for giving it up. Best wishes to those trying to stop, it’s more than worth the effort 👍
My father was an incredibly high functioning alcoholic.
He worked 3 jobs for years on end. One was as a Philadelphia, Pa. Firefighter.
There are bars where police go and ones where firefighters go.
I believe they start drinking to function with the things they experience in the line of duty.
It's heartbreaking 💔
R.I.P. DAD, I LOVE YOU ❤️
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Thanks for loving your father despite all. So many people would have hated their fathers for drinking alcohol excessively, although highly functioning and caring for them financially an otherwise. Some outside influences do make many people become Alcoholics. If your father had told some people the reasons why he was drinking alcohol, they would have said he was manipulative, for blaming some people or influences for the problems which he caused himself.
Your reasons were external influences. You are absolutely correct. Yet, some ignorant people, even, Professionals, will say you are manipulative because you blame other people for the cause of your alcoholism. Problems at my work and marriage made Alcoholic and depressed. After changing my place of work, things began to get better. A little change in my partner's habit also helped me a lot. Now, I am sober.
@oedeko3020 That's wonderful news! Bravo! ❤️💯 I am so happy you found your way out!
Yes, it's true. They even had their own bars in our neighborhood. One where the cops drank and one where the firefighters drank.
I saw my Dad after many horrifying experiences. He was so broken.
One, he found a little boy dead, hiding behind a sofa after a fire. One when his coworker was killed trying to save a woman from a highrise fire.
There were countless more.
But, you get what I'm saying.
@oedeko3020 I knew why he started drinking. He would yell out in his sleep from nightmares of the horrors he experienced. Yelling out to other firefighters and people.
It broke my heart.
Recovery is 5% putting that drink/drug down & 95% changing everything about the way you live life. Change! 💯💯
Exactly- Everything Must change ❤
Thank you for sharing and raising awareness about alcoholism and addiction. To anyone who needs to hear this, recovery is possible and there are plenty of folks willing to support you during recovery!
I remember as a young soldier I would clean my room, press my uniform, spit shine my boots to a mirror finish, all while drinking, then go out and finish the night. The next day I would be hungover so bad but I would look the part of this perfect soldier. Pressed, shined, immaculate. I was favored by leadership. New soldiers were told to follow my lead. And so it continues
You are amazing, Julie! Thank you for being so real and sharing your journey.
I am 45 y/o and just under 5 months sober after having used drugs and alcohol consistently since I turned 21 y/o. My life, even on my worst sober days, is immeasurably better than my drinking and using days. Keep up the good work and stay inspirational--this video has had a profoundly positive impact on me in my journey!
17 years clean and sober after 41 years out of control. I'm a retired healthcare professional, and I still rely on going to meetings to stay sober. We are never cured. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for listening - I'm glad you're here
I was a very low functioning alcoholic. Missing work, jails etc. been sober since 2006 ❤
Awesome job what a testimony ❤❤❤
And that is what counts. wonderful 💕💕💕
Congrats Jeannie you're my kind of AA. I was a bottom feeder too. Been sober since 4/27/09. This truly is the easier, softer way. I'm proud of you. Keep it up one day at a time.
@@fredhoy6697 and congrats to you too! Sometimes a low bottom is a blessing because when you get Sober life is amazing. The old timers used to say that if you came in with a wristwatch you weren’t done until you lost it ❤️
Congratulations
Thank you for sharing Julie.
My name is Brad and I'm an alcoholic.
Jan 4th was 14 years sober, hoping to make 15, and many more.
Like you, I was a high functioning alcoholic.
What opened my eyes, was I got arrested a couple times (all dismissed), and started getting injured from doing stupid things, all while drunk.
Started my journey to shut the nagging up from my wife (still married), quickly realized I needed to do it for myself. Spent 5 days In medical detox, and 60 days in a treatment facility. Thirty more days going to meetings every day, sometimes twice a day. Got really grounded in my sobriety.
My wife has now known me longer sober than when I was drinking.
Thanks again.❤
Thanks for sharing your wonderful testimony! I also began my sober life when I was 33. My 70th birthday is coming up soon and I can tell you I've been eternally grateful for every one of those sober days. God Bless.
Thank you for this!! I’m 32, and I quit drinking a week ago. This is the first time I’ve ever taken it seriously, I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I’ve been going to AA and it’s been extremely helpful. I’m determined to live a new, better life ❤️
You are going to feel amazing! Ridding your life of alcohol is the best thing ever❤
Wonderfully happy for you!! Yay you! Keep busy, drink plenty of water, set a healthy schedule for yourself that includes meetings every day (even online!), put affirmations where you can see them often. I was hesitant to believe in myself in early sobriety, so affirmations in my own handwriting bothered me. I still use lots & lots of strong words cut from magazines or cards. Take care, stay safe & keep your power & sparkle!
@@myredpencil thank you!!! 🙏 ❤️✨
Keep it up! You have courage. You will love your new life😊
You can do this!! Lean on your support network and take it one step at a time. 👍🏼👍🏼
I like you even more now!! I'm sober and clean 11 years.
Thank you for talking about recovery so often in your videos. I've been sober 37 years. It changed my entire life. I was able to raise my daughter who suffered from cystic fibrosis till she died at 25 after a double lung transplant without relapsing thanks to the program and later volunteered for hospice. All these things started because of learning and growing through the 12 steps. You're doing amazing work!
Just because my brother died an active alcoholic, doesn't mean I have to drink. Deaths, births, marriage, none of it gets better with a drink. 😅
I was a highly functioning alcoholic. I held a job. I rarely missed work, and I traveled when it was required. I hid my drinking really well, until I became seriously ill. I almost died. I have been sober for a year now, and I am participating in a 12-step program. There are others out there like me who need help, but, unfortunately, the stigma of being an alcoholic prevents them from seeking help. Thank you for sharing your video. I hope it helps others!
Hi Julie, that was brave to come on and tell us your story. I am not an alcoholic but I was married to one. He never did seek help and we are now divorced. I just wanted to come on and say WELL DONE, thank you so much for sharing. Xx
Being in close proximity to an alcoholic can be harder than being one- you don't stifle your feelings with alcohol and have to deal with not only your partner's behaviors, but your own feelings/ guilts, etc. Congratulations on surviving a tough road!❤
@@CountessKek thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
Thx for sharing. I'm married to one. It's hard. He won't get help. My son is about to be 21. I try really hard to educate him. Have thought about going to Al anon meeting...
Perhaps Al-anon could help you after what you’ve been thru.
My alcoholic ex died a few weeks ago. He'd spent months in hospital being detoxed for the second time. He was released a couple of times and both times he went for a couple of wines, fell and went back to hospital. Even at the end he couldn't admit his drinking was a problem. It was a very painful end for him because he literally poisoned every organ. I wished he'd have gone to AA
I just passed 12 years sober thanks to a 12-step program. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Julie!
Loved
This! Thank you for this! I have stopped and started drinking ..
I’m on day 56… I am positive
I’m an alcoholic. Very tired , trying to find my way! It’s a
Process!
Beth, find some meetings and go! Even online meetings exist, AA is everywhere. Your body is still detoxing but you'll feel better inside & out before long. Lots of people find themselves on a "pink cloud" (joyous & giddy) at about 90 days, when your brain & body have rested and cleansed. Don't let that happiness you deserve send you down the wrong track of celebration! Make some sober friends or at least people who gather for non-drinking events and spend time together. Best wishes!
Please try AA. What she said about people being willing to help is true. You'll be amazed. We'd love to have you.
I had structured my life around drinking. I was a bar manager and a musician. This led me to the logical outcome: I was a mess. I finally managed to get help and get sober. That was 12/18/93. I spent the first 9 months of my sobriety working in a bar. It was tough but it toughened me up. I can honestly say that I am truly happy, joyous and free.
God bless you! My cousin turned her life around too. Her siblings still want nothing to do with her from past behavioral antics even after 5 yrs of sobriety and changing her life for the good. But I have embraced her.
It is very hard to forget the pain and issues an addict has caused in our lives! For us loved ones we don’t get to get intoxicated and forget…. We are sober and remember it all very clearly.
And sometimes the issues people have go far beyond their addictions; for me someone I know is just down right nasty rather they’re sober or not… and with their sobriety they think they have earned their place in my life while they still didn’t heal every other aspect of themselves.
Sobriety is not the end all be all to pain people cause others.
Bless you for helping your cousin when her siblings wouldn't. It's brought tears to me that you're so loyal and I hope you get so many blessings for your kind heart and soul ❤
so proud of you......i started at 69 yrs of age....took a DUI and totalled car....now 4 years sober. hope is always there...one day at a time. thank you for sharing- one day at a time...glad you got tools for sober living! never alone
What it took for me to stop drinking: I had a TIA and AFIB.I continued to work until the chest pain became unbearable.When I went to see my primary care doctor,I was taken by ambulance to the hospital.Two days in cardiac ICU and another 5 days for tests and observation.I asked the doctor how long would I live if I continued drinking.He said 5 years.At the time I was working 2 jobs,had a girlfriend on the side (she was a nurse,lol!) and drinking about 20 beers a day (more on the weekends).I stopped right then and there,at age 46.Sober since 1/23/2004.I don't miss drinking at all.No AA meetings at all, just a little talk with Jesus.
Great job!!!!❤
Congratulations on 20 years!
My neighbor died at 46 due to complications from alcoholism. He was a really great guy and like a father figure to me! Congrats on your sobriety!
I don't drink, never have. No substances at all. But that's got to be so expensive! How does anyone afford it?
Amen!
I found you because my mom went on hospice due to alcoholism. She was so functional that we had no idea alcohol was even part of her diet. The doctors finally convinced her, on her death bed, to finally disclose it. She still minimized it - even though her liver was failing. She was also a nurse. The alcohol took her life. It’s surprising how many people are high functioning addicts.
@Jessica-to8rk that is so heartbreaking, what a shock! So sorry this happened to you.
Wow! 🤯🙏🏻💕
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Wonderful explanation of alcoholism. I have a nephew who is struggling with alcoholism and pray he will also get help.
Hi. I'm Tim, and I am a high-functioning alcoholic.
I took me years to understand that although I had problems many years ago that I was an alcoholic. It was only when I started working in rrcovery and attended group meetings that I realized that I AM an alcoholic... not was, not used to be.
I love this & I will share it!
Thanks Julie for sharing. I’m in the same place right now that you were in after quitting. I quit bc my daughter asked me to. It’s been a few years and you’re right. I’m sad, lonely and depressed but now sober and alone. The job in EMS is not helpful right now but I fight through the same intrusive thoughts that I’m sure you had as well. Restarted in my counseling 2 weeks ago and probably not a minute too late. Thanks for Sharing your story. I promise you that it isn’t wasted here. Congrats on you’re amazing journey. I’m so glad to have found your content and I share it as much as possible at work bc our resources are limited and there are so many new and young ppl in EMS that aren’t prepared mentally for what we see and experience. 🙏🏼🕯❤️🩹💐🙏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You have done amazingly well. ❤
@@deborahjackwl5631 Thanks for saying so, I appreciate it.
Been alcohol (vodka, over a fifth a night) sober since January 2012. Switched to sleeping pills that day to sleep. Abusing sleeping pills...like from 12 a night(stayed up for hours because of the high) to about 6 then to zero. Quit sleeping pills two months ago. I'm proud of myself. Forever an addict, difference is now, I acknowledge it, accept it and put it to bed. All by myself❤️
Anyone reading this who is struggling, recovery is possible and a beautiful thing🙌🏻💯
It's funny because when you quit drinking and using, you became what I turn into when I drink. When I'm sober i become the opposite which is the real me, Thank God. Thank You for sharing.
1 is too many and 1000 isn't enough. I asked a friend to pray for me last night. I relapsed after years of sobriety. Right afterwards your channel popped up on RUclips. I believe God did that so I would see this video Step 3 is the key. Can't stay sober without God ( Higher power). Thank you for sharing your story.🙏
Thanks for sharing your story and your experiences working in palliative care and hospice. 28 years here; best decision I ever made 🥰
Finally, someone who reflects my story. When I quit, I watched a ton of RUclips videos, listened to podcasts, read articles... they all said how glorious you feel after getting sober. You sleep better, feel more energy, lose weight, and feel happier. Well, ha! None of that happened. I was so disappointed. Why not drink if nothing is better? I have no desire to go to meetings. Just glad I heard this video.
My friend 12 years ago went to try with reluctance AA meetings. She fought it hard thought it would never help. Today she is very proud to be sober and completely loves all the sober people that go to continue to support....that she was so thinking they were just crazy. Its a small family to her now. It might be worth a try. Never say never. I love her and so glad she went or she would not be here today. hugs
I'm shocked hearing this from you because I fear this is what is happening to my daughter. Yet, while being shocked, I'm also encouraged that there is hope for my daughter. Thank you so
much for sharing. I wish I could give you a hug for being so authentic. I've so admire you in your profession and the true love and concern that you have for humanity. Thanks again!
Take your daughter to an AA meeting, and get yourself to Al-Anon. She'll likely be shocked to see people who look really normal who are also not able to drink because it wrecks parts of their lives. She'll hear things that might make her think about her own behavior. Maybe buy her some books and plant the seed of sobriety. It's wonderful yet sad that you are seeing her painful life; you can love her at every step, but they're her steps to take, just never stop loving her & she'll come around. Your unconditional love will be a powerful base upon which she can continue to thrive.Best wishes!
That's beautiful nurse Julie. I am also a recovering addict. I have been clean /sober for 24 years now ❤. My addiction started at age 12 with alcohol. By age 15 i was the youngest person ever to attend my areas AA meetings, by age 21 i started using illegal drugs, by age 25 i started using pills and narcotic medication given by doctors and was doctor shopping to support my habit. By age 35 i had given all of that up and then became addicted to shopping. And now i can proudly say i have Kept all of my addictive habits at bay since 2000 :) i am proud of myself and hope to never venture down that path again
Hi julie. this was your BEST video. I am so happy for you. you found a way of life that you didn’t know existed. I loved your story and i believe you will help many out there with our problem reach out and make a choice that will give them a life they never dreamed possible
your channel helps the dying and those trying to live with them but today you reached the LIVING and that will be your great 12th step gift. i will be 9 years in Oct. sober since my first meeting. i am 70 year old male in LA and THANK GOD for our program. take care
Thank you sssooooo much!
Julie, You Are Courageous! I continue to learn from you! Thank You from my heart for being a mentor. Just quit alcohol & "herb" recently. I am a 70-yr-old CNA, who has also worked in hospice. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your journey ❤ addiction can sneak up on anyone and I admire that you're teaching us how you beat it, step by step.
So true. I took Tylenol with codeine after an operation. I took it 2×, but I liked the feeling. It's easy to get hooked.
I'm retired military been in AA, 10 years sober now my dry date was when I was 37 I'm happy you addressed this topic
Bless you for this message. I understand being a dry drunk is miserable. I'm in Al-Anon.
Al anon helped me more than anything else .
@@jldisme Same here! Al-Anon has been life saving for me.
I never knew what a dry drunk was until someone explained it to me.
@@adelerodriguez2432 what is a dry drunk please
I love to see more content creators being open about their sobriety journey! I’m nearly 4 years sober…the program saved my life! ❤
You are so Brave! Thanks for sharing your story!
I was a high functioning alcoholic as well but eventually things started to fall apart and I became desperate for sobriety. Out of desperation, I decided to go to AA. After a fitful start I got serious about the 12 step program and now I've been sober for 37 years.
Now, what i think is a long term effect of alcoholism, I've been diagnosed with dementia. There is no program for this.
Thanks for sharing Julie!
Thank you for sharing. I don't know about others, but the music in the background made it very hard for me to concentrate on what you were saying. I appreciate that you felt comfortable in sharing that with us. Thanks
You’ll never no how much of an inspiration you are nurse julie, I love all your videos and this one made me cry (as many of your videos do) god bless you from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺
Awesome and congratulations Julie!
Thank you for sharing your story Julie. Each and every person in recovery has something of value to share that can help another suffering alcoholic - in a way no one else can. I started my journey in recovery March 11, 1991. I celebrated 33 years sober this year. Never in my wildest dreams could I have foreseen the gifts and blessings of recovery. To be able to look back and know I got sober for my 9-month old daughter ("kept coming" and stayed sober for myself) and was able to raise her as a sober mom is EVERYTHING! I've been married for 40+ years to a man who has supported my journey and who joined me on this path of sobriety. Under circumstamces that too often break marriages and families apart, we became stronger and have built an amazing life. To know that I truly did what I set out to - staying sober all these years - to be a good mom and worthy partner is a gift beyond measure. A day at a time has worked for 33+ years and I am deeply grateful for this gift.
15 yrs ago I got help and have been in recovery since I was also a high functioning alcoholic this was an amazing video you really hit all the points perfectly thank you and congratulations on your recovery I'm proud of you.
We adopted my granddaughter. Her mother was an addict and she was born highly addicted to heroine. I lost every friend in my world. I was angry and lonely. I went to a kinship meeting which is much like AA and found people who understood. They are still my people. We still go to meetings to listen to each other and be together. So grateful for the people God put in my life.
Congratulations. I’m the LPN at a residential treatment facility. The men there come from many different backgrounds. The youngest ones were in their late teens and the oldest ones were in their 70s. Some graduate and remain sober others are repeat clients. The big thing is they seek help. I would encourage anyone who has a problem to look for help. We are there.
Great story. 74 years old and 37 years sober. I too was a high functioning alcoholic until I wasn't. When I bottomed, it came quick and deep. This 37 seven year journey in sobriety has been remarkable. The highest highs and some pretty bad lows, but through it all it never matched those lowest times as a practicing addict and alcoholic. I am filled with gratitude everyday and most days joy and optimism.
Thank you for sharing. My 31yr old son passed in February from ciirrhosis. He had autoimmune hepatitis and was an alcoholic. I to believe that I am a functioning alcoholic. I use it to ease my pain and to forget. I have tried to stop and will for a little bit but always go back. Again thank you for showing me there is hope and another way.
Try to see what you can add to your life, instead of focusing on what you need to take away. Add coffee with friends, going on walks, taking an art class, trying an AA meeting, etc. Talking in a women’s AA meeting can be very therapeutic and can be a way to make friends who don’t judge, offer hope and understand. I believe there are online meetings over zoom as well 💛
Thank you for sharing your experience with alcohol and your road to recovery. I am an alcoholic and was high functioning. Self-employed so I was my own boss (worst enemy) and finally at age 45, I quit. THEN my world caved in and I suffered with severe depression because I was no longer self medicating. It’s a constant struggle, but worth it. 🙏🏻 IT IS DOABLE 😊
Thank you for sharing.
While I don’t drink or take drugs, I’ve seen it affect the lives of people I love. I come from the philosophy of it’s not how much you drink, but WHY you drink. If you see yourself in this, please get help. You are worthy to be sober❤
Wow, your words really hit home with me! And congratulations to YOU!! You should feel so proud, as well as your helping others along their own paths. I myself, quit drinking about 30 years back with a private substance abuse counselor who was amazing. The first six to eight months on my dry journey, I felt on top of the world, walking on clouds. But it's interesting hearing you talk. It seems over time the high of being sober wears off, and bumps in the road are still going to be there and you have to learn how to adjust. It certainly doesn't end the minute you drop a bad habit. Now I'm in my late 60s and still have some down days, but as far as turning back to booze, NO thank you! So, it's a battle you play with yourself really for the rest of your life. But, not to discourage others out there. I would NEVER go back to that life style. You just find a good councelor, therapist, maybe some meds and good friends surrounding yourself with. Famous last words from my gal, "find something to invest yourself in, that you love as much, if not more, than the bottle!" and that has been my awakening!! Sorry this is so long winded. :) I thank you for this post!
The 12 steps are an awesome philosophy for life
In a few weeks, I'll be at 21 years totally sober. It's wonderful. Life gets tougher, but I can handle it better without alcohol.
In your line of work, this is completely understandable. I would cope any way I possibly could in your shoes. Both sides of my family have high functioning alcoholics in it, so I can relate to everything you’re saying here. My dad was one my whole life and I had no idea until I was an adult and my brother in law pointed out that he smelled like booze. I thought that was just how my dad smelled, but now I saw that he was always secretly drinking vodka when he was home. My mom didn’t even know after 25 years. It was like a smack upside the head.
Just celebrated 38 years of sobriety and while life still throws you curveballs, it seems the well from which I draw strength is deeper. Living with pure joy is priceless and I am eternally grateful 🦋🐬
Congratulations Julie! You're an amazing woman 😊❤
I really appreciate you for sharing this..similar to my own story. I'm a retired RN, knew for several years I had "a problem " with drinking so got to where I'd drink at home alone as I'd embarrassed myself on several occasions. Quit at age 64 and purposely set date od December 30 in 2017 to stop. It was just before New Years Eve which made me feel at least some degree of control. I'd tried to quit before but thus time I gave it all to God and told him that was all I felt that I could manage and I needed His help. It wasn't easy but I knew my triggers and adapted to avoid them. I can truly say I am not tempted at all to have alcohol, nor do I tempt fate, so to speak. I'm so grateful to be free from it!
I am grateful for your videos, Julie, thank you.❤
Thank you for sharing. 32yo I'm 36yrs sober. I'm here to tell you if you stop doing what kept you sober you will start getting thirsty again ❤ service work did it for me.
Congratulations, Julie. Thank you for sharing your story. You are an incredible person❣️🎊🎉🫶
She sure is....
I’m soooo glad you found a way out of the horrible disease of addiction! 20 years sober, here. Sobriety has given me a life beyond my wildest dreams!
Thankyou for sharing this!!!! I can relate- and really appreciated your story…at 45 stopped 21 years ago-still learning how to deal with life and its challenges without alcohol****I’m grateful I still have this option
March 9 1988 for me. I have a new life. You described it very well. Thank you.
Congratulations on your sobriety,Julie.I"m sure you"ve been thinking about sharing this for along time.I finally got sober in February,1984.Went to thousands of meetings,till july,1993 Very active in the program.Never happier in my whole life.Started doubting things in my life.Starting hanging out with the wrong people(in the program).Picked up a drink in 93,with a old classmate and it changed my whole life for the worse.Many bad things have happened since then but I"m ok..Meeting makers make it.W"ere never cured,we have a daily repreive based on our choices.Thanks for this vid
5 years clean here. We Do Recover 🙏🏻❤️💪🏼
Congrats Julie, one day at a time!
God Bless you for sharing !! 12-28-05 my sobriety date. 12 step program. 🙏🙏🙏🙏💕
Wow Julie, my best friend and I are talking about this literally now! She is an alcoholic, I'm an addict, both high functioning and I've also just lost my husband suddenly. She and I have been saying there has to be happiness and joy in our lives but we haven't experienced that in....we'll I can't remember! Every day my first thought is I have to quit but then I need to numb! I'm at the point where I don't care if I wake up and shockingly when I reached out to my doctor's office telling the receptionist that, she said she would get my doctor to call me back that day....I'm still waiting for the call 9 days later. You are an inspiration and I so get where you are coming from and I hope I can find a solution soon. I have booked an appointment with mental health for next week. I hope this is the beginning of a different life. Thank you for your honesty. Cathy
I'm so glad you're here Cathy 💕💕💕- sending you love and support
I’m sorry that you reached out to your doctor and they haven’t responded. Please hang in there and consider changing doctors if you can. 🙏🏻
Ask your doctor about naltrexone, it helps with dopamine in the brain. Also reading the big book and going to meetings could be super helpful!
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Funny you said that. One hour ago I just finished an intake appointment for therapy! I will ask my doctor about that medicine but I’m m in Canada so not sure if it’s available here. Thank you for reaching out!
WOW! Thanks for sharing! I too am a high functioning alcoholic. I'm 46 with no real problem's yet but, I know they are coming if I dont get help! I want to be there for my grandchildren...
Both of my grandafathers and three of my cousins are recovering alcoholics. They are recovering well.
Julie, I’m glad you’re alive and sober. 👏👏👏👏👏
Me tooooo
@@hospicenursejulieI hit rock bottom after my third DUI. Luckily the judge gave me the Diversion Program. Had to move to Nevada, my best friend Scout(Queensland BorderCollie mix). Rebuilding my life from the bottom up. Scout is allowed to attend meetings with me occasionally. About 18 months into a three year program. Life has value again. Learning about healthy boundaries and self worth together helps build a secure psyche. Recovery can happen. I am a faithful subscriber to your channel. You are helping so so many viewers with this specific video. You bring intellect and compassion to the YT family. Your content brings hope, every single video brings hope. Continue being yourself. Your compassion is contagious.
Hubby has been drinking excessively (blackout - and beyond) for almost all of our 44 years of marriage. I consider him high functioning alcohol abuser - owns/operates successful business, very hard worker, loner, uses alcohol to cope with life rather than dealing with issues. It's taking a toll on his health.
Get him to watch this ;)
How do you cope? I'm on year 24
Al-anon meetings and the book would be super helpful for you! You could meet a group of people who understand & offer encouragement 💛
@@krisr7736 How do you cope? I left after 8 years. Although, my story is true, I am being a bit sarcastic. I think everyone has their own story and timeline towards this affliction. It's not easy.
@@angelabraun4055 yes, I began attending ala-non about a year ago. There isn't one close to us, so I attend sporadically. YT/Spotify ala-non and AA speakers have been a huge help!
Thank you for sharing this Julie. I am so sick of drinking! You did give me hope. ❤
I honor your quitting the dependency on alcohol. It took me 35 yrs to stop, been sober 17 yrs only to have been diagnosed with Cirrhosis & Chronic liver disease in past 2 yrs. Oh well, still glad i stopped. You keep it up sharing about it & helping others.
Having a spiritual recovery is the ONLY way out of our powerlessness….. You Rock Jules
I've been clean from drugs for 45 yrs and I have been sober from alcohol for 32 yrs. I thank my dad and my sister for getting me into rehab. I thank the people at the rehab, the people at the AA & NA meetings for helping me learn how to cope with life without drugging and drinking. I wouldn't be here today without all those wonderful people.
Good for you quitting your addiction early in life! I was diagnosed with Lupus in my mid 20's. I gave up and went on opiates and descended into a 30+ year addiction to morphine. I took 120 mg daily from the time I was 30 until I was 60. In 2 months time I weaned myself off opiates completely, along with quitting a 15 year addiction to Valium. I've been clean since January 28, 2023 and I'm never going back. Although I'm very thin, I am much healthier without the narcotics.
CONGRATULATIONS to YOU! You've been on one crazy ride!
My husband has been in that 12 Steps program for 2 years. It saved him and our marriage. I'm so happy it helped you too, and you can now help others the way you do. Thank you for sharing this with us! ❤❤❤
I am an alcoholic too. I quit drinking and taking drugs 7 years ago. It's a huge decision to make and a difficult one to stick to at first. I am so pleased for you and wish you all the best. You should be so proud of yourself. I've been there, I know it's not always easy. Well done xx