I can relate…..high functioning alcoholic….but then I retired and moved to the Keys….then drank even more. I know this isn’t anything to brag about I’ve been sober for 6 days and life sober is so much better 👊🏽🛎️
your liver is happy for the 6 days of alcohol free. you do not have to do the ERNEST HEMINGWAY ALCOHOL THING BECASUE YOU ARE IN THE KEYS. YOU COULD JUST NJOY THE SUNSHINE & BEING ALIVE WITHOUT ALL THE BOOZE...JUST A THOUGHT!
I drank and drugged for 45 years. I quit one month and two days before my 60th birthday. It's been 6 years sober and clean, this month. I'm so very proud of you!!! You are a badass woman!!!
Sober 21 years here, I am now 58. I agree with the issue that quitting does not instantly make your life better. The issues and problems you avoided by dulling your senses with alcohol are still there when you quit. You just become more aware of those issues. You also find you have little to occupy your time, you realize the last few decades of your life were all about drinking or preparing for the next time you drink. It takes time to get your crap in order and develop new connections and hobbies. Going sober was the best thing i ever did, but it took me a few years to appreciate that. Best wishes to you.
15 yrs now. Started my journey in 1983. I often wonder where my life would have been if I had stayed the course. No regrets however. It took what it took.
Stopping is hard but totally worth it. Turned 70 this year and after drinking since my teens I decided I’d had enough of alcohol controlling my life. Haven’t touched a drop in nearly 18 months and the benefits have been nothing short of amazing. The only thing that’s disappointing is I didn’t come to my senses and stop much earlier. Didn’t do AA or anything, I just realised I have a lot to live for and killing myself early through drinking was the best incentive for giving it up. Best wishes to those trying to stop, it’s more than worth the effort 👍
I'm 32 yrs sober, thanks to Jesus, many stops and starts, rehab, AA. But what did the most for me was the rehab and the meetings, because as you say Julie, we have to do more than stop drinking, we have to learn to live sober - really live. there is so much support in the meetings and you never know when one little phrase is going to hit you right between the eyes and stay with you forever, coming back time and again to help you. when i relapsed 6 wks after rehab, i began going to AA and said "i won't ever come in here drinking, but i am still drinking and can't stop - i hope it's ok for me to be here" the response i got was, "honey, that's just because you're an alcoholic, keep comin back." ppl didn't try to tell me the obvious (to quit drinking) they just shared their experiences, strengths and wisdom. and i soaked it up like a sponge. one year later, i hit my bottom and was finally able to surrender the bottle to Jesus. He took it from there and relieved me of my obsession to drink two days later. I'm now on hospice for copd and lung cancer and i can not wait to see my lord and savior, Jesus Christ. @peterinburlington, i love what you said. we need to recover out loud!! thank you Julie for this video ; )
I was diagnosed as an alcoholic by a counselor. He recommended AA. I thought AA was a cult. After about 3 months sober and miserable I went to my first meeting. It was the first time I had hope in a long time. I’m coming up on my 42 year AA birthday. Best thing I ever did.
It kind of is a cult. I never participated in prayer or religious exercises in rehab. I had one counselor tell me, in front of yje group, "if you don't find god, you're guaranteed to fail". The audacity. If he wasn't elderly.... In any event, if it worked for you, congrats.
I have a friend who is 70 and just got her 12 years sober pin. I remember the first time she admitted she had gone to AA. I did not even know she drank! I actually could not blelieve it. And at the time she told me she hated the meetings haa in the begining everyone was crazy. I am only laughing because she basically was resisting. But I am so proud of her today. She stuck to it. I actually thought at one point she had given up. And I loved that she proudly showed me her pin. And today she talks only of how wonderful the meetings are and she still goes. Happy 42 AA birthday coming up. hugs
@@ald.3387 Use the group as a higher power. It’s hard to understand God so don’t feel like the Lone Ranger. Most AAs have trouble understanding God including me.
Yeah AA certainly isn't a cult. I can understand the issues that some find with the higher power when they think of it as God. But all this means is a power greater than yourself - my higher power personally is not God. Not that there is an issue with those whose higher power is God.
Now I understand why stopping drinking for the last 16 months seemed to have caused more anxiety. When you stop drinking your problems will not magically disappear, you have to learn other, healthier coping mechanisms.
No they will not disappear, in fact when you aren't self medicating, your problems come creeping back out except now you also have withdrawals and cravings and are literally carrying 3 demons on your back!! Congratulations, friend, and great job loving yourself!!❤
Being a high functioning alcoholic is what kept me going with it. For 30 years. I was gradually losing control, and then totally lost control by the end, culminating in getting fired from my job (for being drunk repeatedly), totaling my car in a blackout, and breaking my neck. No matter how convinced anyone is that s/he is in control, *no one* is in control of an addiction. Coming up on 10 years sober.
Well sugar and Carb....NO difference..from alcohol...Meat and fat cut all addictions...so go clean for real..alcohol and sugar and carb addictions is same...good luck. Been sugar free 4 years..alcohol free 30 years...
I disagree that it’s a disease. ALS is a disease, Parkinson’s is a disease, being an alcoholic isn’t. I’m an alcoholic, but I became one by making stupid, irresponsible, selfish decisions.
I HAD NO IDEA you were one of us! Years ago you helped me honor my friends death in a respectful compassionate way. I was a medical advocate for several friends and family, yet I learned more from your vids than anything. When I was my friends medical advocate during the last year of his life, I saw your video short that showed the death gurgle and you explained what was going on, why it was a loving gesture NOT to administer water or meds at this time.Having seen the dying process before with family, I'd pushed the nursing staff to help, but because of you, I was educated enough to just be present and hold his hand while he was doing the gurgle and making sounds (that had frightened me before, but now understood were a part of the dying process) I was able to just be present for him, and say the things he needed to hear in a quiet respectful manner. After that, I told him it was okay to go, that we'd welcome him visiting us in spirit form, but that it was time for him to release and soar. VERY different from how I would've reacted without your vids. It was all about him this time, and that is thanks to you.
That’s just it, ppl like us cannot control it. We have to learn why we use and work through that, usually trauma. Addiction is a symptom of an underlying issue.
Thank you for this!! I’m 32, and I quit drinking a week ago. This is the first time I’ve ever taken it seriously, I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I’ve been going to AA and it’s been extremely helpful. I’m determined to live a new, better life ❤️
Wonderfully happy for you!! Yay you! Keep busy, drink plenty of water, set a healthy schedule for yourself that includes meetings every day (even online!), put affirmations where you can see them often. I was hesitant to believe in myself in early sobriety, so affirmations in my own handwriting bothered me. I still use lots & lots of strong words cut from magazines or cards. Take care, stay safe & keep your power & sparkle!
I am 45 y/o and just under 5 months sober after having used drugs and alcohol consistently since I turned 21 y/o. My life, even on my worst sober days, is immeasurably better than my drinking and using days. Keep up the good work and stay inspirational--this video has had a profoundly positive impact on me in my journey!
Hi Julie, that was brave to come on and tell us your story. I am not an alcoholic but I was married to one. He never did seek help and we are now divorced. I just wanted to come on and say WELL DONE, thank you so much for sharing. Xx
Being in close proximity to an alcoholic can be harder than being one- you don't stifle your feelings with alcohol and have to deal with not only your partner's behaviors, but your own feelings/ guilts, etc. Congratulations on surviving a tough road!❤
Thx for sharing. I'm married to one. It's hard. He won't get help. My son is about to be 21. I try really hard to educate him. Have thought about going to Al anon meeting...
My alcoholic ex died a few weeks ago. He'd spent months in hospital being detoxed for the second time. He was released a couple of times and both times he went for a couple of wines, fell and went back to hospital. Even at the end he couldn't admit his drinking was a problem. It was a very painful end for him because he literally poisoned every organ. I wished he'd have gone to AA
There was a reason why I was drawn to your clips. I have worked hospice and recovering since 1983. Thank you for sharing and it will help others realize it is much more prevalent than many will ever know. 💯❤
Thank you for sharing and raising awareness about alcoholism and addiction. To anyone who needs to hear this, recovery is possible and there are plenty of folks willing to support you during recovery!
so proud of you......i started at 69 yrs of age....took a DUI and totalled car....now 4 years sober. hope is always there...one day at a time. thank you for sharing- one day at a time...glad you got tools for sober living! never alone
My father was an incredibly high functioning alcoholic. He worked 3 jobs for years on end. One was as a Philadelphia, Pa. Firefighter. There are bars where police go and ones where firefighters go. I believe they start drinking to function with the things they experience in the line of duty. It's heartbreaking 💔 R.I.P. DAD, I LOVE YOU ❤️
Thanks for loving your father despite all. So many people would have hated their fathers for drinking alcohol excessively, although highly functioning and caring for them financially an otherwise. Some outside influences do make many people become Alcoholics. If your father had told some people the reasons why he was drinking alcohol, they would have said he was manipulative, for blaming some people or influences for the problems which he caused himself.
Your reasons were external influences. You are absolutely correct. Yet, some ignorant people, even, Professionals, will say you are manipulative because you blame other people for the cause of your alcoholism. Problems at my work and marriage made Alcoholic and depressed. After changing my place of work, things began to get better. A little change in my partner's habit also helped me a lot. Now, I am sober.
@oedeko3020 That's wonderful news! Bravo! ❤️💯 I am so happy you found your way out! Yes, it's true. They even had their own bars in our neighborhood. One where the cops drank and one where the firefighters drank. I saw my Dad after many horrifying experiences. He was so broken. One, he found a little boy dead, hiding behind a sofa after a fire. One when his coworker was killed trying to save a woman from a highrise fire. There were countless more. But, you get what I'm saying.
@oedeko3020 I knew why he started drinking. He would yell out in his sleep from nightmares of the horrors he experienced. Yelling out to other firefighters and people. It broke my heart.
Thank you for sharing Julie. My name is Brad and I'm an alcoholic. Jan 4th was 14 years sober, hoping to make 15, and many more. Like you, I was a high functioning alcoholic. What opened my eyes, was I got arrested a couple times (all dismissed), and started getting injured from doing stupid things, all while drunk. Started my journey to shut the nagging up from my wife (still married), quickly realized I needed to do it for myself. Spent 5 days In medical detox, and 60 days in a treatment facility. Thirty more days going to meetings every day, sometimes twice a day. Got really grounded in my sobriety. My wife has now known me longer sober than when I was drinking. Thanks again.❤
I remember as a young soldier I would clean my room, press my uniform, spit shine my boots to a mirror finish, all while drinking, then go out and finish the night. The next day I would be hungover so bad but I would look the part of this perfect soldier. Pressed, shined, immaculate. I was favored by leadership. New soldiers were told to follow my lead. And so it continues
I was influenced by the Moms drink wine club to cope with parenthood. It was starting to affect all aspects of my life and I was a high functioning alcoholic. I attended an AA meeting and I have been sober for five years. Congratulations on your sobriety.
Congratulations to you😊. Well done. In my community (in Nova Scotia, Canada) most women tend to treat wine as an excuse to drink more. They think nothing of it, it’s like Kool-ade to them. Some of these women know can sit down in an afternoon and finish off two bottles. I don’t understand how wine has become such a social crutch for so many and not one of them think there’s anything wrong with that. I’m not a prude, I just don’t drink much at all; maybe at social events (a couple of coolers or something).
Maybe add some more meetings, small ones are nice to get acquainted & for personal instruction about the steps. It might enhance the sobriety you already have, and by now you've surely developed some skills of your own that you are welcome to share too. They need you and you need them!
@@andreasalmonson7295You are describing my dearest friend of over 50 yrs. For many , many yrs we had little to no contact due to circumstances and my own addictions but having moved 3 yrs ago to be close to her as well as my children, i have seen just how much wine she consumes every day. It is so discouraging to me because i went through alcohol, drug, etc horrors of my own, and lied about it for 11 years to everyone, i can see right through her feeble explanations, excuses as to why she does it. However i won't back down and recently she has severely cut back and even stopped smoking! Im so proud of her😊 Thank you for sharing!❤
I am the poster boy for society's idea of an alcoholic; prison, multiple DUI, abandoned family, homeless for several years, unemployable etc, etc, etc. I've been around AA for 25 years now and have been sober for the last 15+. The previous 10 years were in and out because I wouldn't completely surrender to the fact that I couldn't win. But when I did accept that truth then it started working for me. Imagine that. Do the work and it works. I no longer have those life problems that I created for myself and am doing great. I'm proud of you. Keep it up.
September 14 is my 12th AA birthday. I got into heavy drinking when all the kids (4) left home and then my mom and dad died. I was in my late forties early fifties. I finally quit at 63 and am now 75
17 years clean and sober after 41 years out of control. I'm a retired healthcare professional, and I still rely on going to meetings to stay sober. We are never cured. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing your story Julie. Each and every person in recovery has something of value to share that can help another suffering alcoholic - in a way no one else can. I started my journey in recovery March 11, 1991. I celebrated 33 years sober this year. Never in my wildest dreams could I have foreseen the gifts and blessings of recovery. To be able to look back and know I got sober for my 9-month old daughter ("kept coming" and stayed sober for myself) and was able to raise her as a sober mom is EVERYTHING! I've been married for 40+ years to a man who has supported my journey and who joined me on this path of sobriety. Under circumstamces that too often break marriages and families apart, we became stronger and have built an amazing life. To know that I truly did what I set out to - staying sober all these years - to be a good mom and worthy partner is a gift beyond measure. A day at a time has worked for 33+ years and I am deeply grateful for this gift.
God bless you! My cousin turned her life around too. Her siblings still want nothing to do with her from past behavioral antics even after 5 yrs of sobriety and changing her life for the good. But I have embraced her.
It is very hard to forget the pain and issues an addict has caused in our lives! For us loved ones we don’t get to get intoxicated and forget…. We are sober and remember it all very clearly. And sometimes the issues people have go far beyond their addictions; for me someone I know is just down right nasty rather they’re sober or not… and with their sobriety they think they have earned their place in my life while they still didn’t heal every other aspect of themselves. Sobriety is not the end all be all to pain people cause others.
Bless you for helping your cousin when her siblings wouldn't. It's brought tears to me that you're so loyal and I hope you get so many blessings for your kind heart and soul ❤
Thank you for talking about recovery so often in your videos. I've been sober 37 years. It changed my entire life. I was able to raise my daughter who suffered from cystic fibrosis till she died at 25 after a double lung transplant without relapsing thanks to the program and later volunteered for hospice. All these things started because of learning and growing through the 12 steps. You're doing amazing work!
I was a highly functioning alcoholic. I held a job. I rarely missed work, and I traveled when it was required. I hid my drinking really well, until I became seriously ill. I almost died. I have been sober for a year now, and I am participating in a 12-step program. There are others out there like me who need help, but, unfortunately, the stigma of being an alcoholic prevents them from seeking help. Thank you for sharing your video. I hope it helps others!
Loved This! Thank you for this! I have stopped and started drinking .. I’m on day 56… I am positive I’m an alcoholic. Very tired , trying to find my way! It’s a Process!
Beth, find some meetings and go! Even online meetings exist, AA is everywhere. Your body is still detoxing but you'll feel better inside & out before long. Lots of people find themselves on a "pink cloud" (joyous & giddy) at about 90 days, when your brain & body have rested and cleansed. Don't let that happiness you deserve send you down the wrong track of celebration! Make some sober friends or at least people who gather for non-drinking events and spend time together. Best wishes!
Thanks for sharing your wonderful testimony! I also began my sober life when I was 33. My 70th birthday is coming up soon and I can tell you I've been eternally grateful for every one of those sober days. God Bless.
Thanks Julie for sharing. I’m in the same place right now that you were in after quitting. I quit bc my daughter asked me to. It’s been a few years and you’re right. I’m sad, lonely and depressed but now sober and alone. The job in EMS is not helpful right now but I fight through the same intrusive thoughts that I’m sure you had as well. Restarted in my counseling 2 weeks ago and probably not a minute too late. Thanks for Sharing your story. I promise you that it isn’t wasted here. Congrats on you’re amazing journey. I’m so glad to have found your content and I share it as much as possible at work bc our resources are limited and there are so many new and young ppl in EMS that aren’t prepared mentally for what we see and experience. 🙏🏼🕯❤️🩹💐🙏🏼
What it took for me to stop drinking: I had a TIA and AFIB.I continued to work until the chest pain became unbearable.When I went to see my primary care doctor,I was taken by ambulance to the hospital.Two days in cardiac ICU and another 5 days for tests and observation.I asked the doctor how long would I live if I continued drinking.He said 5 years.At the time I was working 2 jobs,had a girlfriend on the side (she was a nurse,lol!) and drinking about 20 beers a day (more on the weekends).I stopped right then and there,at age 46.Sober since 1/23/2004.I don't miss drinking at all.No AA meetings at all, just a little talk with Jesus.
Been alcohol (vodka, over a fifth a night) sober since January 2012. Switched to sleeping pills that day to sleep. Abusing sleeping pills...like from 12 a night(stayed up for hours because of the high) to about 6 then to zero. Quit sleeping pills two months ago. I'm proud of myself. Forever an addict, difference is now, I acknowledge it, accept it and put it to bed. All by myself❤️ Anyone reading this who is struggling, recovery is possible and a beautiful thing🙌🏻💯
15 yrs ago I got help and have been in recovery since I was also a high functioning alcoholic this was an amazing video you really hit all the points perfectly thank you and congratulations on your recovery I'm proud of you.
I was a high functioning alcoholic for 33 years. I went to school, I went to work and did a good job, I never drove, etc. But, I knew and admitted that I had a problem and wanted to quit, but couldn't. I was terrified my church family would find out. I turned to God for help and overcame alcohol and willingly told my church family so the "cat is out of the bag" and received so much love and support. Almost 4 years sober, life is great and there's no turning back. Sober life is good!
Hi julie. this was your BEST video. I am so happy for you. you found a way of life that you didn’t know existed. I loved your story and i believe you will help many out there with our problem reach out and make a choice that will give them a life they never dreamed possible your channel helps the dying and those trying to live with them but today you reached the LIVING and that will be your great 12th step gift. i will be 9 years in Oct. sober since my first meeting. i am 70 year old male in LA and THANK GOD for our program. take care
I found you because my mom went on hospice due to alcoholism. She was so functional that we had no idea alcohol was even part of her diet. The doctors finally convinced her, on her death bed, to finally disclose it. She still minimized it - even though her liver was failing. She was also a nurse. The alcohol took her life. It’s surprising how many people are high functioning addicts.
Julie, I admire and love you so much for your informative and honest videos. As a 40 year paramedic and educator and more recently a part time coroner, I truly understand self medicating. I hope your vulnerability will bless others.
I'm shocked hearing this from you because I fear this is what is happening to my daughter. Yet, while being shocked, I'm also encouraged that there is hope for my daughter. Thank you so much for sharing. I wish I could give you a hug for being so authentic. I've so admire you in your profession and the true love and concern that you have for humanity. Thanks again!
Take your daughter to an AA meeting, and get yourself to Al-Anon. She'll likely be shocked to see people who look really normal who are also not able to drink because it wrecks parts of their lives. She'll hear things that might make her think about her own behavior. Maybe buy her some books and plant the seed of sobriety. It's wonderful yet sad that you are seeing her painful life; you can love her at every step, but they're her steps to take, just never stop loving her & she'll come around. Your unconditional love will be a powerful base upon which she can continue to thrive.Best wishes!
Hi. I'm Tim, and I am a high-functioning alcoholic. I took me years to understand that although I had problems many years ago that I was an alcoholic. It was only when I started working in rrcovery and attended group meetings that I realized that I AM an alcoholic... not was, not used to be. I love this & I will share it!
I really appreciate you for sharing this..similar to my own story. I'm a retired RN, knew for several years I had "a problem " with drinking so got to where I'd drink at home alone as I'd embarrassed myself on several occasions. Quit at age 64 and purposely set date od December 30 in 2017 to stop. It was just before New Years Eve which made me feel at least some degree of control. I'd tried to quit before but thus time I gave it all to God and told him that was all I felt that I could manage and I needed His help. It wasn't easy but I knew my triggers and adapted to avoid them. I can truly say I am not tempted at all to have alcohol, nor do I tempt fate, so to speak. I'm so grateful to be free from it!
Thank you for sharing. While I don’t drink or take drugs, I’ve seen it affect the lives of people I love. I come from the philosophy of it’s not how much you drink, but WHY you drink. If you see yourself in this, please get help. You are worthy to be sober❤
That's beautiful nurse Julie. I am also a recovering addict. I have been clean /sober for 24 years now ❤. My addiction started at age 12 with alcohol. By age 15 i was the youngest person ever to attend my areas AA meetings, by age 21 i started using illegal drugs, by age 25 i started using pills and narcotic medication given by doctors and was doctor shopping to support my habit. By age 35 i had given all of that up and then became addicted to shopping. And now i can proudly say i have Kept all of my addictive habits at bay since 2000 :) i am proud of myself and hope to never venture down that path again
Thank you for sharing. I don't know about others, but the music in the background made it very hard for me to concentrate on what you were saying. I appreciate that you felt comfortable in sharing that with us. Thanks
Congratulations on your sobriety,Julie.I"m sure you"ve been thinking about sharing this for along time.I finally got sober in February,1984.Went to thousands of meetings,till july,1993 Very active in the program.Never happier in my whole life.Started doubting things in my life.Starting hanging out with the wrong people(in the program).Picked up a drink in 93,with a old classmate and it changed my whole life for the worse.Many bad things have happened since then but I"m ok..Meeting makers make it.W"ere never cured,we have a daily repreive based on our choices.Thanks for this vid
Thank you for sharing your experience with alcohol and your road to recovery. I am an alcoholic and was high functioning. Self-employed so I was my own boss (worst enemy) and finally at age 45, I quit. THEN my world caved in and I suffered with severe depression because I was no longer self medicating. It’s a constant struggle, but worth it. 🙏🏻 IT IS DOABLE 😊
It's funny because when you quit drinking and using, you became what I turn into when I drink. When I'm sober i become the opposite which is the real me, Thank God. Thank You for sharing.
Wow, your words really hit home with me! And congratulations to YOU!! You should feel so proud, as well as your helping others along their own paths. I myself, quit drinking about 30 years back with a private substance abuse counselor who was amazing. The first six to eight months on my dry journey, I felt on top of the world, walking on clouds. But it's interesting hearing you talk. It seems over time the high of being sober wears off, and bumps in the road are still going to be there and you have to learn how to adjust. It certainly doesn't end the minute you drop a bad habit. Now I'm in my late 60s and still have some down days, but as far as turning back to booze, NO thank you! So, it's a battle you play with yourself really for the rest of your life. But, not to discourage others out there. I would NEVER go back to that life style. You just find a good councelor, therapist, maybe some meds and good friends surrounding yourself with. Famous last words from my gal, "find something to invest yourself in, that you love as much, if not more, than the bottle!" and that has been my awakening!! Sorry this is so long winded. :) I thank you for this post!
1 is too many and 1000 isn't enough. I asked a friend to pray for me last night. I relapsed after years of sobriety. Right afterwards your channel popped up on RUclips. I believe God did that so I would see this video Step 3 is the key. Can't stay sober without God ( Higher power). Thank you for sharing your story.🙏
Congratulations. I’m the LPN at a residential treatment facility. The men there come from many different backgrounds. The youngest ones were in their late teens and the oldest ones were in their 70s. Some graduate and remain sober others are repeat clients. The big thing is they seek help. I would encourage anyone who has a problem to look for help. We are there.
In your line of work, this is completely understandable. I would cope any way I possibly could in your shoes. Both sides of my family have high functioning alcoholics in it, so I can relate to everything you’re saying here. My dad was one my whole life and I had no idea until I was an adult and my brother in law pointed out that he smelled like booze. I thought that was just how my dad smelled, but now I saw that he was always secretly drinking vodka when he was home. My mom didn’t even know after 25 years. It was like a smack upside the head.
Julie, what a breath of fresh air to hear you tell your story! I am so glad you found recovery! Next month I will be sober 41 yrs bc of 12 step program & God. I am grateful for the life I have been given. Alcoholism took my brother, sister & father all when they were young. Thank God, there is a better way.❤👏👏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏾🕊
Thank you for sharing. My 31yr old son passed in February from ciirrhosis. He had autoimmune hepatitis and was an alcoholic. I to believe that I am a functioning alcoholic. I use it to ease my pain and to forget. I have tried to stop and will for a little bit but always go back. Again thank you for showing me there is hope and another way.
Try to see what you can add to your life, instead of focusing on what you need to take away. Add coffee with friends, going on walks, taking an art class, trying an AA meeting, etc. Talking in a women’s AA meeting can be very therapeutic and can be a way to make friends who don’t judge, offer hope and understand. I believe there are online meetings over zoom as well 💛
🎉 Thank you for all you just shared . I've been sober by God's grace for over 35 years .I never forget what my life was like before I got sober .I am proof you can keep your sobriety You have to want it more than anything My sobriety is my success in life .
Finally, someone who reflects my story. When I quit, I watched a ton of RUclips videos, listened to podcasts, read articles... they all said how glorious you feel after getting sober. You sleep better, feel more energy, lose weight, and feel happier. Well, ha! None of that happened. I was so disappointed. Why not drink if nothing is better? I have no desire to go to meetings. Just glad I heard this video.
My friend 12 years ago went to try with reluctance AA meetings. She fought it hard thought it would never help. Today she is very proud to be sober and completely loves all the sober people that go to continue to support....that she was so thinking they were just crazy. Its a small family to her now. It might be worth a try. Never say never. I love her and so glad she went or she would not be here today. hugs
Wow Julie, my best friend and I are talking about this literally now! She is an alcoholic, I'm an addict, both high functioning and I've also just lost my husband suddenly. She and I have been saying there has to be happiness and joy in our lives but we haven't experienced that in....we'll I can't remember! Every day my first thought is I have to quit but then I need to numb! I'm at the point where I don't care if I wake up and shockingly when I reached out to my doctor's office telling the receptionist that, she said she would get my doctor to call me back that day....I'm still waiting for the call 9 days later. You are an inspiration and I so get where you are coming from and I hope I can find a solution soon. I have booked an appointment with mental health for next week. I hope this is the beginning of a different life. Thank you for your honesty. Cathy
Funny you said that. One hour ago I just finished an intake appointment for therapy! I will ask my doctor about that medicine but I’m m in Canada so not sure if it’s available here. Thank you for reaching out!
this is probably one of the most thought-provoking RUclips I’ve ever watched. Hearing you (who I have watched for years as a hospice nurse) introduce yourself as an alcoholic shines, a completely different light on the disease. Your description of it being anxiety based is so interesting. thank you.
Thankyou for sharing this!!!! I can relate- and really appreciated your story…at 45 stopped 21 years ago-still learning how to deal with life and its challenges without alcohol****I’m grateful I still have this option
I was a high functioning alcoholic as well but eventually things started to fall apart and I became desperate for sobriety. Out of desperation, I decided to go to AA. After a fitful start I got serious about the 12 step program and now I've been sober for 37 years. Now, what i think is a long term effect of alcoholism, I've been diagnosed with dementia. There is no program for this. Thanks for sharing Julie!
Congrats Jeannie you're my kind of AA. I was a bottom feeder too. Been sober since 4/27/09. This truly is the easier, softer way. I'm proud of you. Keep it up one day at a time.
@@fredhoy6697 and congrats to you too! Sometimes a low bottom is a blessing because when you get Sober life is amazing. The old timers used to say that if you came in with a wristwatch you weren’t done until you lost it ❤️
I've been clean from drugs for 45 yrs and I have been sober from alcohol for 32 yrs. I thank my dad and my sister for getting me into rehab. I thank the people at the rehab, the people at the AA & NA meetings for helping me learn how to cope with life without drugging and drinking. I wouldn't be here today without all those wonderful people.
Congratulations to all that have stayed sober. Just remember the people destroyed in the wake of your addiction. My father was a drunk. I couldn’t have friends over much growing up because I was afraid of how he’d come home. He didn’t come home for days sometimes. He would fall in the street. He would soil himself. But through it all we hid the shame very well. No one knew. As adults we went to his apartment everyday to clean up and leave hot meals. He finally died of sorosis alone on the floor of his apartment. The police officers I worked with had to respond to the call. There’s recovery month, how about a month for the children and family of these people who’s lives were ruined
@@Oontaka Sorry for your troubles. Maybe it was better to grace his last wife with the worst of his alcoholism. If there is such a thing. Everyone forgets us, the people that are affected by their bad behavior. They get accolades For their sobriety but we get a life time of shell shock and PTSD from Their bad behavior.
My former husband drank when were dating. He never showed signs of being drunk though. Many years later, I learned that was the first stage of alcoholism. We were married, had two kids, had nice houses, good jobs but alcohol for him was always in play and now he gets drunk. After cheating on me twice, I said enough and we divorced after 30 years of marriage. By now, the kids are adults, I'm 55 years old and he marries the woman he cheated on me with. He passed in 2019. Never stopped drinking and never hit this "rock bottom" that people said he needed to hit in order to get his life together. I did not expect to be divorced ever. I'm almost 70 and retired now. Life can be lonely, but I'm doing OK by the grace of God.
@@vickidiodato9834 I do not need help. I’m good. My sisters and I do not drink do not do drugs married well and have great families. It’s a choice. Being a drunk or drug addict is not a sickness it’s a choice. The only people that say it’s a sickness are the drunks and druggies that try and make excuses for they’re selfish behavior Have a nice day
We adopted my granddaughter. Her mother was an addict and she was born highly addicted to heroine. I lost every friend in my world. I was angry and lonely. I went to a kinship meeting which is much like AA and found people who understood. They are still my people. We still go to meetings to listen to each other and be together. So grateful for the people God put in my life.
I am an alcoholic too. I quit drinking and taking drugs 7 years ago. It's a huge decision to make and a difficult one to stick to at first. I am so pleased for you and wish you all the best. You should be so proud of yourself. I've been there, I know it's not always easy. Well done xx
You’ll never no how much of an inspiration you are nurse julie, I love all your videos and this one made me cry (as many of your videos do) god bless you from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺
Julie, You Are Courageous! I continue to learn from you! Thank You from my heart for being a mentor. Just quit alcohol & "herb" recently. I am a 70-yr-old CNA, who has also worked in hospice. ❤❤❤❤
You're amazing! Thank you for sharing your story. I have no idea why i found your channel but I've been following you for months, I love your energy and now I know why. I'm 6.5 years sober. My son was an addict but he chose a gun to his head as his solution. I was sober at that time and actually witnessed his suicide. I understood his pain and was never mad at him. I started drinking again that night on the way home from the hospital. I stayed out for 5 years hoping the drugs and alcohol would kill me. I finally surrendered to a Higher Power I was so angry at and came back into the rooms of 12 step. I'm now a licensed chemical dependency counselor. It truly is a family disease. Thank you for sharing, you are a bright light. God bless you as you trudge the road of happy Destiny. ❤
Blessings to you for your courage and transparency in sharing your story. You will likely help more people than you may ever know. I love that you talked about your preconceived notions about what an alcoholic is....many people have the same idea, that you have to be rolling out of bed in the morning and chugging scotch or have a life in complete shambles and be falling down drunk before noon, when there are so many 'high functioning' people with that exact affliction. This horrible illness can happen to anyone, and perhaps more likely to happen with smart and sensitive people....anyone who has ever attended a meeting can tell you what a vast array of people also attend...smart, good, kind, capable, accomplished people. I hope that we will continue to explode the myth about what alcoholism actually is and what it looks like. Thank you for your deep kindness and for sharing your personal truth. Subscribed.
Thank you for sharing I'm very proud of the woman you are you're awesome and I'm an old lady now so you're just awesome and thank you for sharing your you will help a lot of people and you won't even know it
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate a person like you telling this to people you don’t even know. I need the hope. You are a beacon of hope. Thank you🫶
Just celebrated 38 years of sobriety and while life still throws you curveballs, it seems the well from which I draw strength is deeper. Living with pure joy is priceless and I am eternally grateful 🦋🐬
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73 years old and 3 years sober. Better late than never!
@johnbelin4201 hell yeah! Our bodies are amazing at recovering still time to enjoy the benefits of embracing you and your health!
Never too late my mum is 78 still struggling 😪.
Don't look back keep going free ✨️
Congratulations!
@@johnbelin4201 wow💪😄
Bless your heart sir, I admire your courage. I believe in you. Thank you so much for inspiring me.🙂
I can relate…..high functioning alcoholic….but then I retired and moved to the Keys….then drank even more. I know this isn’t anything to brag about I’ve been sober for 6 days and life sober is so much better 👊🏽🛎️
@@Ironboots123 It's a LOT to "brag," or feel great, about! We'll done! You've got this!
your liver is happy for the 6 days of alcohol free. you do not have to do the ERNEST HEMINGWAY ALCOHOL THING BECASUE YOU ARE IN THE KEYS. YOU COULD JUST NJOY THE SUNSHINE & BEING ALIVE WITHOUT ALL THE BOOZE...JUST A THOUGHT!
@@Ironboots123 keep it up. Go to aa meetings, it’s very important for long term sobriety! It definitely gets better.
I drank and drugged for 45 years. I quit one month and two days before my 60th birthday. It's been 6 years sober and clean, this month.
I'm so very proud of you!!! You are a badass woman!!!
@@louisesumrell6331 And so are You!⭐️
Way to go!!❤❤
Good for you! Congratulations!
Good for you, wow!!🎉🎉🎉
Way to go, I'm proud of you!
Sober 21 years here, I am now 58. I agree with the issue that quitting does not instantly make your life better. The issues and problems you avoided by dulling your senses with alcohol are still there when you quit. You just become more aware of those issues. You also find you have little to occupy your time, you realize the last few decades of your life were all about drinking or preparing for the next time you drink. It takes time to get your crap in order and develop new connections and hobbies. Going sober was the best thing i ever did, but it took me a few years to appreciate that. Best wishes to you.
17 yrs ago I was a high functioning drug addict...then I wasn't...17 yrs clean. Well done Julie!!! Thanks for sharing.
15 yrs now. Started my journey in 1983. I often wonder where my life would have been if I had stayed the course. No regrets however. It took what it took.
Way to go sister!❤❤❤
Love ya ❤❤❤
Congratulations on your sobriety ❤🎉
37 yrs and still at it. Best life ever! Congrats Julie🎉
Stopping is hard but totally worth it. Turned 70 this year and after drinking since my teens I decided I’d had enough of alcohol controlling my life. Haven’t touched a drop in nearly 18 months and the benefits have been nothing short of amazing. The only thing that’s disappointing is I didn’t come to my senses and stop much earlier. Didn’t do AA or anything, I just realised I have a lot to live for and killing myself early through drinking was the best incentive for giving it up. Best wishes to those trying to stop, it’s more than worth the effort 👍
I celebrated 12 years sober last month. I couldn’t have done it without AA. Congratulations to you.
@@scottk0623 And a Big congratulations to you!
Congratulations for a real tough job!!❤
Congratulations 🎉❤
December 15,1981
Hit my bottom at 28 years old. AA saved my life...
@@KathleenAlex-ic3kc 💕Happy 43 anniversary xo
I first met you when I searched for help with my mom in hospice.. and now you are helping me. thank ou
I am coming up on 35 years sober thanks to a 12 step program. Thank you Julie. We need to recover out loud.
Congratulations!😊
I'm 32 yrs sober, thanks to Jesus, many stops and starts, rehab, AA. But what did the most for me was the rehab and the meetings, because as you say Julie, we have to do more than stop drinking, we have to learn to live sober - really live. there is so much support in the meetings and you never know when one little phrase is going to hit you right between the eyes and stay with you forever, coming back time and again to help you. when i relapsed 6 wks after rehab, i began going to AA and said "i won't ever come in here drinking, but i am still drinking and can't stop - i hope it's ok for me to be here" the response i got was, "honey, that's just because you're an alcoholic, keep comin back." ppl didn't try to tell me the obvious (to quit drinking) they just shared their experiences, strengths and wisdom. and i soaked it up like a sponge. one year later, i hit my bottom and was finally able to surrender the bottle to Jesus. He took it from there and relieved me of my obsession to drink two days later. I'm now on hospice for copd and lung cancer and i can not wait to see my lord and savior, Jesus Christ. @peterinburlington, i love what you said. we need to recover out loud!! thank you Julie for this video ; )
Congratulations 🎉❤
Congratulations 🎉❤
Congratulations very proud of you 👏 🥰
I was diagnosed as an alcoholic by a counselor. He recommended AA. I thought AA was a cult. After about 3 months sober and miserable I went to my first meeting. It was the first time I had hope in a long time. I’m coming up on my 42 year AA birthday. Best thing I ever did.
It kind of is a cult. I never participated in prayer or religious exercises in rehab. I had one counselor tell me, in front of yje group, "if you don't find god, you're guaranteed to fail". The audacity. If he wasn't elderly....
In any event, if it worked for you, congrats.
I have a friend who is 70 and just got her 12 years sober pin. I remember the first time she admitted she had gone to AA. I did not even know she drank! I actually could not blelieve it. And at the time she told me she hated the meetings haa in the begining everyone was crazy. I am only laughing because she basically was resisting. But I am so proud of her today. She stuck to it. I actually thought at one point she had given up. And I loved that she proudly showed me her pin. And today she talks only of how wonderful the meetings are and she still goes. Happy 42 AA birthday coming up. hugs
@@ald.3387 Use the group as a higher power. It’s hard to understand God so don’t feel like the Lone Ranger. Most AAs have trouble understanding God including me.
Great story, Julie. Thanks much for your honesty and for sharing!
Yeah AA certainly isn't a cult. I can understand the issues that some find with the higher power when they think of it as God. But all this means is a power greater than yourself - my higher power personally is not God. Not that there is an issue with those whose higher power is God.
Now I understand why stopping drinking for the last 16 months seemed to have caused more anxiety. When you stop drinking your problems will not magically disappear, you have to learn other, healthier coping mechanisms.
No they will not disappear, in fact when you aren't self medicating, your problems come creeping back out except now you also have withdrawals and cravings and are literally carrying 3 demons on your back!! Congratulations, friend, and great job loving yourself!!❤
Congratulations 🎉❤
Expectations can be a huge bummer. I get what Nurse Julie is saying.
You probably have had high anxiety all of your life. I drank all of the time and sugar is a high also. IT took me a few years to figure that out.
Amen🙏🏻
Being a high functioning alcoholic is what kept me going with it. For 30 years. I was gradually losing control, and then totally lost control by the end, culminating in getting fired from my job (for being drunk repeatedly), totaling my car in a blackout, and breaking my neck. No matter how convinced anyone is that s/he is in control, *no one* is in control of an addiction. Coming up on 10 years sober.
@@kadster65 💕💕💕💕💕💕
❤ Boy, are you opening doors for so many who suffer from alcoholism but also for clearing up so many misunderstandings about this disease. Thank you.
Thank you 💕💕💕💕
Well sugar and Carb....NO difference..from alcohol...Meat and fat cut all addictions...so go clean for real..alcohol and sugar and carb addictions is same...good luck.
Been sugar free 4 years..alcohol free 30 years...
I disagree that it’s a disease. ALS is a disease, Parkinson’s is a disease, being an alcoholic isn’t. I’m an alcoholic, but I became one by making stupid, irresponsible, selfish decisions.
@@timburton9514 A bad choice it is. Then the disease takes over. There are many forms of diseases.
I totally disagree with that statement.
24 years sober, by the grace of God.
You wouldn’t be the blessing you are without having gone through the fire.
Thank you
You are amazing, Julie! Thank you for being so real and sharing your journey.
I HAD NO IDEA you were one of us! Years ago you helped me honor my friends death in a respectful compassionate way. I was a medical advocate for several friends and family, yet I learned more from your vids than anything. When I was my friends medical advocate during the last year of his life, I saw your video short that showed the death gurgle and you explained what was going on, why it was a loving gesture NOT to administer water or meds at this time.Having seen the dying process before with family, I'd pushed the nursing staff to help, but because of you, I was educated enough to just be present and hold his hand while he was doing the gurgle and making sounds (that had frightened me before, but now understood were a part of the dying process) I was able to just be present for him, and say the things he needed to hear in a quiet respectful manner. After that, I told him it was okay to go, that we'd welcome him visiting us in spirit form, but that it was time for him to release and soar. VERY different from how I would've reacted without your vids. It was all about him this time, and that is thanks to you.
Congratulations to you and everyone getting this under control!
That’s just it, ppl like us cannot control it. We have to learn why we use and work through that, usually trauma. Addiction is a symptom of an underlying issue.
@@BrandyinIndy Amen🙏🏻
Control is an illusion
The thing is, we didn’t do anything. The 12 steps and HP came through
I have been a nurse for 43 years and still work full time. I got sober July 4th 1997 through AA. Thank you for sharing your story. We are miracles!
Love that word “miracle” ❤
Thank you for this!! I’m 32, and I quit drinking a week ago. This is the first time I’ve ever taken it seriously, I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I’ve been going to AA and it’s been extremely helpful. I’m determined to live a new, better life ❤️
You are going to feel amazing! Ridding your life of alcohol is the best thing ever❤
Wonderfully happy for you!! Yay you! Keep busy, drink plenty of water, set a healthy schedule for yourself that includes meetings every day (even online!), put affirmations where you can see them often. I was hesitant to believe in myself in early sobriety, so affirmations in my own handwriting bothered me. I still use lots & lots of strong words cut from magazines or cards. Take care, stay safe & keep your power & sparkle!
@@myredpencil thank you!!! 🙏 ❤️✨
Keep it up! You have courage. You will love your new life😊
You can do this!! Lean on your support network and take it one step at a time. 👍🏼👍🏼
I am 45 y/o and just under 5 months sober after having used drugs and alcohol consistently since I turned 21 y/o. My life, even on my worst sober days, is immeasurably better than my drinking and using days. Keep up the good work and stay inspirational--this video has had a profoundly positive impact on me in my journey!
Hi Julie, that was brave to come on and tell us your story. I am not an alcoholic but I was married to one. He never did seek help and we are now divorced. I just wanted to come on and say WELL DONE, thank you so much for sharing. Xx
Being in close proximity to an alcoholic can be harder than being one- you don't stifle your feelings with alcohol and have to deal with not only your partner's behaviors, but your own feelings/ guilts, etc. Congratulations on surviving a tough road!❤
@@CountessKek thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
Thx for sharing. I'm married to one. It's hard. He won't get help. My son is about to be 21. I try really hard to educate him. Have thought about going to Al anon meeting...
Perhaps Al-anon could help you after what you’ve been thru.
My alcoholic ex died a few weeks ago. He'd spent months in hospital being detoxed for the second time. He was released a couple of times and both times he went for a couple of wines, fell and went back to hospital. Even at the end he couldn't admit his drinking was a problem. It was a very painful end for him because he literally poisoned every organ. I wished he'd have gone to AA
There was a reason why I was drawn to your clips. I have worked hospice and recovering since 1983. Thank you for sharing and it will help others realize it is much more prevalent than many will ever know. 💯❤
Thank you for sharing and raising awareness about alcoholism and addiction. To anyone who needs to hear this, recovery is possible and there are plenty of folks willing to support you during recovery!
so proud of you......i started at 69 yrs of age....took a DUI and totalled car....now 4 years sober. hope is always there...one day at a time. thank you for sharing- one day at a time...glad you got tools for sober living! never alone
My father was an incredibly high functioning alcoholic.
He worked 3 jobs for years on end. One was as a Philadelphia, Pa. Firefighter.
There are bars where police go and ones where firefighters go.
I believe they start drinking to function with the things they experience in the line of duty.
It's heartbreaking 💔
R.I.P. DAD, I LOVE YOU ❤️
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Thanks for loving your father despite all. So many people would have hated their fathers for drinking alcohol excessively, although highly functioning and caring for them financially an otherwise. Some outside influences do make many people become Alcoholics. If your father had told some people the reasons why he was drinking alcohol, they would have said he was manipulative, for blaming some people or influences for the problems which he caused himself.
Your reasons were external influences. You are absolutely correct. Yet, some ignorant people, even, Professionals, will say you are manipulative because you blame other people for the cause of your alcoholism. Problems at my work and marriage made Alcoholic and depressed. After changing my place of work, things began to get better. A little change in my partner's habit also helped me a lot. Now, I am sober.
@oedeko3020 That's wonderful news! Bravo! ❤️💯 I am so happy you found your way out!
Yes, it's true. They even had their own bars in our neighborhood. One where the cops drank and one where the firefighters drank.
I saw my Dad after many horrifying experiences. He was so broken.
One, he found a little boy dead, hiding behind a sofa after a fire. One when his coworker was killed trying to save a woman from a highrise fire.
There were countless more.
But, you get what I'm saying.
@oedeko3020 I knew why he started drinking. He would yell out in his sleep from nightmares of the horrors he experienced. Yelling out to other firefighters and people.
It broke my heart.
I did not get sober until I was 55 and now have 27 years. I very happy you found recovery. Keep spreading the message. Many out there need help.
Thank you for sharing Julie.
My name is Brad and I'm an alcoholic.
Jan 4th was 14 years sober, hoping to make 15, and many more.
Like you, I was a high functioning alcoholic.
What opened my eyes, was I got arrested a couple times (all dismissed), and started getting injured from doing stupid things, all while drunk.
Started my journey to shut the nagging up from my wife (still married), quickly realized I needed to do it for myself. Spent 5 days In medical detox, and 60 days in a treatment facility. Thirty more days going to meetings every day, sometimes twice a day. Got really grounded in my sobriety.
My wife has now known me longer sober than when I was drinking.
Thanks again.❤
I remember as a young soldier I would clean my room, press my uniform, spit shine my boots to a mirror finish, all while drinking, then go out and finish the night. The next day I would be hungover so bad but I would look the part of this perfect soldier. Pressed, shined, immaculate. I was favored by leadership. New soldiers were told to follow my lead. And so it continues
I was influenced by the Moms drink wine club to cope with parenthood. It was starting to affect all aspects of my life and I was a high functioning alcoholic. I attended an AA meeting and I have been sober for five years. Congratulations on your sobriety.
Congratulations to you! 😊✌❤
@@allison471 Thank you
Congratulations to you😊. Well done.
In my community (in Nova Scotia, Canada) most women tend to treat wine as an excuse to drink more. They think nothing of it, it’s like Kool-ade to them. Some of these women know can sit down in an afternoon and finish off two bottles. I don’t understand how wine has become such a social crutch for so many and not one of them think there’s anything wrong with that. I’m not a prude, I just don’t drink much at all; maybe at social events (a couple of coolers or something).
Maybe add some more meetings, small ones are nice to get acquainted & for personal instruction about the steps. It might enhance the sobriety you already have, and by now you've surely developed some skills of your own that you are welcome to share too. They need you and you need them!
@@andreasalmonson7295You are describing my dearest friend of over 50 yrs. For many , many yrs we had little to no contact due to circumstances and my own addictions but having moved 3 yrs ago to be close to her as well as my children, i have seen just how much wine she consumes every day. It is so discouraging to me because i went through alcohol, drug, etc horrors of my own, and lied about it for 11 years to everyone, i can see right through her feeble explanations, excuses as to why she does it. However i won't back down and recently she has severely cut back and even stopped smoking! Im so proud of her😊
Thank you for sharing!❤
I am the poster boy for society's idea of an alcoholic; prison, multiple DUI, abandoned family, homeless for several years, unemployable etc, etc, etc. I've been around AA for 25 years now and have been sober for the last 15+. The previous 10 years were in and out because I wouldn't completely surrender to the fact that I couldn't win. But when I did accept that truth then it started working for me. Imagine that. Do the work and it works. I no longer have those life problems that I created for myself and am doing great. I'm proud of you. Keep it up.
What a great success story. Good on you for saving your own life. Well done & I wish you all the best going forward 😊
You are amazing, and a warrior!! :) You are an inspiration to others.. Thank you so much for sharing your story~* 💚
September 14 is my 12th AA birthday. I got into heavy drinking when all the kids (4) left home and then my mom and dad died. I was in my late forties early fifties. I finally quit at 63 and am now 75
sending you a hug if you'd like a hug 🫂
Happy 12th birthday! I’m so proud of you!
I am 63 and battling. Thanks for the encouragent. ❤
Retired ICU Head Nurse. Totally high-functioning. 27 years sober, and it just gets better and better. Keep trying; you've got this.
17 years clean and sober after 41 years out of control. I'm a retired healthcare professional, and I still rely on going to meetings to stay sober. We are never cured. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for listening - I'm glad you're here
Thank you for sharing your story Julie. Each and every person in recovery has something of value to share that can help another suffering alcoholic - in a way no one else can. I started my journey in recovery March 11, 1991. I celebrated 33 years sober this year. Never in my wildest dreams could I have foreseen the gifts and blessings of recovery. To be able to look back and know I got sober for my 9-month old daughter ("kept coming" and stayed sober for myself) and was able to raise her as a sober mom is EVERYTHING! I've been married for 40+ years to a man who has supported my journey and who joined me on this path of sobriety. Under circumstamces that too often break marriages and families apart, we became stronger and have built an amazing life. To know that I truly did what I set out to - staying sober all these years - to be a good mom and worthy partner is a gift beyond measure. A day at a time has worked for 33+ years and I am deeply grateful for this gift.
God bless you! My cousin turned her life around too. Her siblings still want nothing to do with her from past behavioral antics even after 5 yrs of sobriety and changing her life for the good. But I have embraced her.
It is very hard to forget the pain and issues an addict has caused in our lives! For us loved ones we don’t get to get intoxicated and forget…. We are sober and remember it all very clearly.
And sometimes the issues people have go far beyond their addictions; for me someone I know is just down right nasty rather they’re sober or not… and with their sobriety they think they have earned their place in my life while they still didn’t heal every other aspect of themselves.
Sobriety is not the end all be all to pain people cause others.
Bless you for helping your cousin when her siblings wouldn't. It's brought tears to me that you're so loyal and I hope you get so many blessings for your kind heart and soul ❤
I love to see more content creators being open about their sobriety journey! I’m nearly 4 years sober…the program saved my life! ❤
Thank you for talking about recovery so often in your videos. I've been sober 37 years. It changed my entire life. I was able to raise my daughter who suffered from cystic fibrosis till she died at 25 after a double lung transplant without relapsing thanks to the program and later volunteered for hospice. All these things started because of learning and growing through the 12 steps. You're doing amazing work!
Just because my brother died an active alcoholic, doesn't mean I have to drink. Deaths, births, marriage, none of it gets better with a drink. 😅
I was a highly functioning alcoholic. I held a job. I rarely missed work, and I traveled when it was required. I hid my drinking really well, until I became seriously ill. I almost died. I have been sober for a year now, and I am participating in a 12-step program. There are others out there like me who need help, but, unfortunately, the stigma of being an alcoholic prevents them from seeking help. Thank you for sharing your video. I hope it helps others!
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This! Thank you for this! I have stopped and started drinking ..
I’m on day 56… I am positive
I’m an alcoholic. Very tired , trying to find my way! It’s a
Process!
Beth, find some meetings and go! Even online meetings exist, AA is everywhere. Your body is still detoxing but you'll feel better inside & out before long. Lots of people find themselves on a "pink cloud" (joyous & giddy) at about 90 days, when your brain & body have rested and cleansed. Don't let that happiness you deserve send you down the wrong track of celebration! Make some sober friends or at least people who gather for non-drinking events and spend time together. Best wishes!
Please try AA. What she said about people being willing to help is true. You'll be amazed. We'd love to have you.
Thanks for sharing your wonderful testimony! I also began my sober life when I was 33. My 70th birthday is coming up soon and I can tell you I've been eternally grateful for every one of those sober days. God Bless.
@@sspencer9972 Greeting Spence I too sobered up at age 33, and I am approaching 70 years old. Is you soberity date Jan 6th. mine is Jan 6 1988
Thanks Julie for sharing. I’m in the same place right now that you were in after quitting. I quit bc my daughter asked me to. It’s been a few years and you’re right. I’m sad, lonely and depressed but now sober and alone. The job in EMS is not helpful right now but I fight through the same intrusive thoughts that I’m sure you had as well. Restarted in my counseling 2 weeks ago and probably not a minute too late. Thanks for Sharing your story. I promise you that it isn’t wasted here. Congrats on you’re amazing journey. I’m so glad to have found your content and I share it as much as possible at work bc our resources are limited and there are so many new and young ppl in EMS that aren’t prepared mentally for what we see and experience. 🙏🏼🕯❤️🩹💐🙏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You have done amazingly well. ❤
@@deborahjackwl5631 Thanks for saying so, I appreciate it.
I just passed 12 years sober thanks to a 12-step program. Thank you so much for sharing your story, Julie!
What it took for me to stop drinking: I had a TIA and AFIB.I continued to work until the chest pain became unbearable.When I went to see my primary care doctor,I was taken by ambulance to the hospital.Two days in cardiac ICU and another 5 days for tests and observation.I asked the doctor how long would I live if I continued drinking.He said 5 years.At the time I was working 2 jobs,had a girlfriend on the side (she was a nurse,lol!) and drinking about 20 beers a day (more on the weekends).I stopped right then and there,at age 46.Sober since 1/23/2004.I don't miss drinking at all.No AA meetings at all, just a little talk with Jesus.
Great job!!!!❤
Congratulations on 20 years!
My neighbor died at 46 due to complications from alcoholism. He was a really great guy and like a father figure to me! Congrats on your sobriety!
I don't drink, never have. No substances at all. But that's got to be so expensive! How does anyone afford it?
Amen!
Recovery is 5% putting that drink/drug down & 95% changing everything about the way you live life. Change! 💯💯
Exactly- Everything Must change ❤
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Wonderful explanation of alcoholism. I have a nephew who is struggling with alcoholism and pray he will also get help.
Been alcohol (vodka, over a fifth a night) sober since January 2012. Switched to sleeping pills that day to sleep. Abusing sleeping pills...like from 12 a night(stayed up for hours because of the high) to about 6 then to zero. Quit sleeping pills two months ago. I'm proud of myself. Forever an addict, difference is now, I acknowledge it, accept it and put it to bed. All by myself❤️
Anyone reading this who is struggling, recovery is possible and a beautiful thing🙌🏻💯
15 yrs ago I got help and have been in recovery since I was also a high functioning alcoholic this was an amazing video you really hit all the points perfectly thank you and congratulations on your recovery I'm proud of you.
I was a high functioning alcoholic for 33 years. I went to school, I went to work and did a good job, I never drove, etc. But, I knew and admitted that I had a problem and wanted to quit, but couldn't. I was terrified my church family would find out. I turned to God for help and overcame alcohol and willingly told my church family so the "cat is out of the bag" and received so much love and support. Almost 4 years sober, life is great and there's no turning back. Sober life is good!
Hi julie. this was your BEST video. I am so happy for you. you found a way of life that you didn’t know existed. I loved your story and i believe you will help many out there with our problem reach out and make a choice that will give them a life they never dreamed possible
your channel helps the dying and those trying to live with them but today you reached the LIVING and that will be your great 12th step gift. i will be 9 years in Oct. sober since my first meeting. i am 70 year old male in LA and THANK GOD for our program. take care
Thank you sssooooo much!
I found you because my mom went on hospice due to alcoholism. She was so functional that we had no idea alcohol was even part of her diet. The doctors finally convinced her, on her death bed, to finally disclose it. She still minimized it - even though her liver was failing. She was also a nurse. The alcohol took her life. It’s surprising how many people are high functioning addicts.
@Jessica-to8rk that is so heartbreaking, what a shock! So sorry this happened to you.
Wow! 🤯🙏🏻💕
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Thank you for sharing your journey ❤ addiction can sneak up on anyone and I admire that you're teaching us how you beat it, step by step.
So true. I took Tylenol with codeine after an operation. I took it 2×, but I liked the feeling. It's easy to get hooked.
Julie, I admire and love you so much for your informative and honest videos.
As a 40 year paramedic and educator and more recently a part time coroner, I truly understand self medicating.
I hope your vulnerability will bless others.
I'm shocked hearing this from you because I fear this is what is happening to my daughter. Yet, while being shocked, I'm also encouraged that there is hope for my daughter. Thank you so
much for sharing. I wish I could give you a hug for being so authentic. I've so admire you in your profession and the true love and concern that you have for humanity. Thanks again!
Take your daughter to an AA meeting, and get yourself to Al-Anon. She'll likely be shocked to see people who look really normal who are also not able to drink because it wrecks parts of their lives. She'll hear things that might make her think about her own behavior. Maybe buy her some books and plant the seed of sobriety. It's wonderful yet sad that you are seeing her painful life; you can love her at every step, but they're her steps to take, just never stop loving her & she'll come around. Your unconditional love will be a powerful base upon which she can continue to thrive.Best wishes!
Hi. I'm Tim, and I am a high-functioning alcoholic.
I took me years to understand that although I had problems many years ago that I was an alcoholic. It was only when I started working in rrcovery and attended group meetings that I realized that I AM an alcoholic... not was, not used to be.
I love this & I will share it!
Thanks for sharing your story and your experiences working in palliative care and hospice. 28 years here; best decision I ever made 🥰
I tried to quit multiple times but couldn't overcome the withdrawal symptoms.
It's been 6 months after my mushroom therapy, I feel more in control!! alcohol free.
I was skeptical, but psilocybin mushrooms helped me quit alcohol after 20 years.
After one mushroom experience, I lost the desire to drink. It's been 3 years since my last drink.
Did you use a specific protocol or dosage?
I did a guided session with a therapist, 3.5g of psilocybin mushes. The experience was profound.
You are so Brave! Thanks for sharing your story!
I really appreciate you for sharing this..similar to my own story. I'm a retired RN, knew for several years I had "a problem " with drinking so got to where I'd drink at home alone as I'd embarrassed myself on several occasions. Quit at age 64 and purposely set date od December 30 in 2017 to stop. It was just before New Years Eve which made me feel at least some degree of control. I'd tried to quit before but thus time I gave it all to God and told him that was all I felt that I could manage and I needed His help. It wasn't easy but I knew my triggers and adapted to avoid them. I can truly say I am not tempted at all to have alcohol, nor do I tempt fate, so to speak. I'm so grateful to be free from it!
Thank you for sharing.
While I don’t drink or take drugs, I’ve seen it affect the lives of people I love. I come from the philosophy of it’s not how much you drink, but WHY you drink. If you see yourself in this, please get help. You are worthy to be sober❤
@@Jean2235177 well said! It's heartbreaking to see what alcohol does to ppl and their families.
That's beautiful nurse Julie. I am also a recovering addict. I have been clean /sober for 24 years now ❤. My addiction started at age 12 with alcohol. By age 15 i was the youngest person ever to attend my areas AA meetings, by age 21 i started using illegal drugs, by age 25 i started using pills and narcotic medication given by doctors and was doctor shopping to support my habit. By age 35 i had given all of that up and then became addicted to shopping. And now i can proudly say i have Kept all of my addictive habits at bay since 2000 :) i am proud of myself and hope to never venture down that path again
Thank you for sharing. I don't know about others, but the music in the background made it very hard for me to concentrate on what you were saying. I appreciate that you felt comfortable in sharing that with us. Thanks
I like you even more now!! I'm sober and clean 11 years.
Congratulations on your sobriety,Julie.I"m sure you"ve been thinking about sharing this for along time.I finally got sober in February,1984.Went to thousands of meetings,till july,1993 Very active in the program.Never happier in my whole life.Started doubting things in my life.Starting hanging out with the wrong people(in the program).Picked up a drink in 93,with a old classmate and it changed my whole life for the worse.Many bad things have happened since then but I"m ok..Meeting makers make it.W"ere never cured,we have a daily repreive based on our choices.Thanks for this vid
Thank you for sharing your experience with alcohol and your road to recovery. I am an alcoholic and was high functioning. Self-employed so I was my own boss (worst enemy) and finally at age 45, I quit. THEN my world caved in and I suffered with severe depression because I was no longer self medicating. It’s a constant struggle, but worth it. 🙏🏻 IT IS DOABLE 😊
It's funny because when you quit drinking and using, you became what I turn into when I drink. When I'm sober i become the opposite which is the real me, Thank God. Thank You for sharing.
Wow, your words really hit home with me! And congratulations to YOU!! You should feel so proud, as well as your helping others along their own paths. I myself, quit drinking about 30 years back with a private substance abuse counselor who was amazing. The first six to eight months on my dry journey, I felt on top of the world, walking on clouds. But it's interesting hearing you talk. It seems over time the high of being sober wears off, and bumps in the road are still going to be there and you have to learn how to adjust. It certainly doesn't end the minute you drop a bad habit. Now I'm in my late 60s and still have some down days, but as far as turning back to booze, NO thank you! So, it's a battle you play with yourself really for the rest of your life. But, not to discourage others out there. I would NEVER go back to that life style. You just find a good councelor, therapist, maybe some meds and good friends surrounding yourself with. Famous last words from my gal, "find something to invest yourself in, that you love as much, if not more, than the bottle!" and that has been my awakening!! Sorry this is so long winded. :) I thank you for this post!
Awesome and congratulations Julie!
1 is too many and 1000 isn't enough. I asked a friend to pray for me last night. I relapsed after years of sobriety. Right afterwards your channel popped up on RUclips. I believe God did that so I would see this video Step 3 is the key. Can't stay sober without God ( Higher power). Thank you for sharing your story.🙏
I'll pray for you, too. The Lord will send you the help that you need.
Congratulations. I’m the LPN at a residential treatment facility. The men there come from many different backgrounds. The youngest ones were in their late teens and the oldest ones were in their 70s. Some graduate and remain sober others are repeat clients. The big thing is they seek help. I would encourage anyone who has a problem to look for help. We are there.
I’m soooo glad you found a way out of the horrible disease of addiction! 20 years sober, here. Sobriety has given me a life beyond my wildest dreams!
In your line of work, this is completely understandable. I would cope any way I possibly could in your shoes. Both sides of my family have high functioning alcoholics in it, so I can relate to everything you’re saying here. My dad was one my whole life and I had no idea until I was an adult and my brother in law pointed out that he smelled like booze. I thought that was just how my dad smelled, but now I saw that he was always secretly drinking vodka when he was home. My mom didn’t even know after 25 years. It was like a smack upside the head.
Julie, what a breath of fresh air to hear you tell your story! I am so glad you found recovery! Next month I will be sober 41 yrs bc of 12 step program & God. I am grateful for the life I have been given. Alcoholism took my brother, sister & father all when they were young. Thank God, there is a better way.❤👏👏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏾🕊
Thank you for sharing. My 31yr old son passed in February from ciirrhosis. He had autoimmune hepatitis and was an alcoholic. I to believe that I am a functioning alcoholic. I use it to ease my pain and to forget. I have tried to stop and will for a little bit but always go back. Again thank you for showing me there is hope and another way.
Try to see what you can add to your life, instead of focusing on what you need to take away. Add coffee with friends, going on walks, taking an art class, trying an AA meeting, etc. Talking in a women’s AA meeting can be very therapeutic and can be a way to make friends who don’t judge, offer hope and understand. I believe there are online meetings over zoom as well 💛
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Thank you for all you just shared . I've been sober by God's grace for over 35 years .I never forget what my life was like before I got sober .I am proof you can keep your sobriety You have to want it more than anything My sobriety is my success in life .
Congratulations, Julie. Thank you for sharing your story. You are an incredible person❣️🎊🎉🫶
She sure is....
Finally, someone who reflects my story. When I quit, I watched a ton of RUclips videos, listened to podcasts, read articles... they all said how glorious you feel after getting sober. You sleep better, feel more energy, lose weight, and feel happier. Well, ha! None of that happened. I was so disappointed. Why not drink if nothing is better? I have no desire to go to meetings. Just glad I heard this video.
My friend 12 years ago went to try with reluctance AA meetings. She fought it hard thought it would never help. Today she is very proud to be sober and completely loves all the sober people that go to continue to support....that she was so thinking they were just crazy. Its a small family to her now. It might be worth a try. Never say never. I love her and so glad she went or she would not be here today. hugs
Wow Julie, my best friend and I are talking about this literally now! She is an alcoholic, I'm an addict, both high functioning and I've also just lost my husband suddenly. She and I have been saying there has to be happiness and joy in our lives but we haven't experienced that in....we'll I can't remember! Every day my first thought is I have to quit but then I need to numb! I'm at the point where I don't care if I wake up and shockingly when I reached out to my doctor's office telling the receptionist that, she said she would get my doctor to call me back that day....I'm still waiting for the call 9 days later. You are an inspiration and I so get where you are coming from and I hope I can find a solution soon. I have booked an appointment with mental health for next week. I hope this is the beginning of a different life. Thank you for your honesty. Cathy
I'm so glad you're here Cathy 💕💕💕- sending you love and support
I’m sorry that you reached out to your doctor and they haven’t responded. Please hang in there and consider changing doctors if you can. 🙏🏻
Ask your doctor about naltrexone, it helps with dopamine in the brain. Also reading the big book and going to meetings could be super helpful!
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Funny you said that. One hour ago I just finished an intake appointment for therapy! I will ask my doctor about that medicine but I’m m in Canada so not sure if it’s available here. Thank you for reaching out!
this is probably one of the most thought-provoking RUclips I’ve ever watched. Hearing you (who I have watched for years as a hospice nurse) introduce yourself as an alcoholic shines, a completely different light on the disease. Your description of it being anxiety based is so interesting. thank you.
Thankyou for sharing this!!!! I can relate- and really appreciated your story…at 45 stopped 21 years ago-still learning how to deal with life and its challenges without alcohol****I’m grateful I still have this option
In a few weeks, I'll be at 21 years totally sober. It's wonderful. Life gets tougher, but I can handle it better without alcohol.
I was a high functioning alcoholic as well but eventually things started to fall apart and I became desperate for sobriety. Out of desperation, I decided to go to AA. After a fitful start I got serious about the 12 step program and now I've been sober for 37 years.
Now, what i think is a long term effect of alcoholism, I've been diagnosed with dementia. There is no program for this.
Thanks for sharing Julie!
I was a very low functioning alcoholic. Missing work, jails etc. been sober since 2006 ❤
Awesome job what a testimony ❤❤❤
And that is what counts. wonderful 💕💕💕
Congrats Jeannie you're my kind of AA. I was a bottom feeder too. Been sober since 4/27/09. This truly is the easier, softer way. I'm proud of you. Keep it up one day at a time.
@@fredhoy6697 and congrats to you too! Sometimes a low bottom is a blessing because when you get Sober life is amazing. The old timers used to say that if you came in with a wristwatch you weren’t done until you lost it ❤️
Congratulations
Bless you for this message. I understand being a dry drunk is miserable. I'm in Al-Anon.
Al anon helped me more than anything else .
@@jldisme Same here! Al-Anon has been life saving for me.
I never knew what a dry drunk was until someone explained it to me.
@@adelerodriguez2432 what is a dry drunk please
I've been clean from drugs for 45 yrs and I have been sober from alcohol for 32 yrs. I thank my dad and my sister for getting me into rehab. I thank the people at the rehab, the people at the AA & NA meetings for helping me learn how to cope with life without drugging and drinking. I wouldn't be here today without all those wonderful people.
Congratulations Julie! You're an amazing woman 😊❤
Congratulations to all that have stayed sober. Just remember the people destroyed in the wake of your addiction. My father was a drunk. I couldn’t have friends over much growing up because I was afraid of how he’d come home. He didn’t come home for days sometimes. He would fall in the street. He would soil himself. But through it all we hid the shame very well. No one knew. As adults we went to his apartment everyday to clean up and leave hot meals. He finally died of sorosis alone on the floor of his apartment. The police officers I worked with had to respond to the call. There’s recovery month, how about a month for the children and family of these people who’s lives were ruined
@@Oontaka Sorry for your troubles. Maybe it was better to grace his last wife with the worst of his alcoholism. If there is such a thing. Everyone forgets us, the people that are affected by their bad behavior. They get accolades
For their sobriety but we get a life time of shell shock and PTSD from
Their bad behavior.
My former husband drank when were dating. He never showed signs of being drunk though. Many years later, I learned that was the first stage of alcoholism. We were married, had two kids, had nice houses, good jobs but alcohol for him was always in play and now he gets drunk. After cheating on me twice, I said enough and we divorced after 30 years of marriage. By now, the kids are adults, I'm 55 years old and he marries the woman he cheated on me with. He passed in 2019. Never stopped drinking and never hit this "rock bottom" that people said he needed to hit in order to get his life together. I did not expect to be divorced ever. I'm almost 70 and retired now. Life can be lonely, but I'm doing OK by the grace of God.
You got that right!!!!!!! They forget the ones that suffered in the wake of their addiction.
@@elledriver6849 They are SICK, not doing it on purpose. Also, it can be/is generational. Please get help for YOUR trauma living with an alcoholic.
@@vickidiodato9834 I do not need help. I’m good. My sisters and I do not drink do not do drugs married well and have great families. It’s a choice. Being a drunk or drug addict is not a sickness it’s a choice. The only people that say it’s a sickness are the drunks and druggies that try and make excuses for they’re selfish behavior Have a nice day
We adopted my granddaughter. Her mother was an addict and she was born highly addicted to heroine. I lost every friend in my world. I was angry and lonely. I went to a kinship meeting which is much like AA and found people who understood. They are still my people. We still go to meetings to listen to each other and be together. So grateful for the people God put in my life.
I am an alcoholic too. I quit drinking and taking drugs 7 years ago. It's a huge decision to make and a difficult one to stick to at first. I am so pleased for you and wish you all the best. You should be so proud of yourself. I've been there, I know it's not always easy. Well done xx
The 12 steps are an awesome philosophy for life
You’ll never no how much of an inspiration you are nurse julie, I love all your videos and this one made me cry (as many of your videos do) god bless you from Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺
Congrats Julie, one day at a time!
Julie, You Are Courageous! I continue to learn from you! Thank You from my heart for being a mentor. Just quit alcohol & "herb" recently. I am a 70-yr-old CNA, who has also worked in hospice. ❤❤❤❤
I am grateful for your videos, Julie, thank you.❤
You're amazing! Thank you for sharing your story. I have no idea why i found your channel but I've been following you for months, I love your energy and now I know why. I'm 6.5 years sober. My son was an addict but he chose a gun to his head as his solution. I was sober at that time and actually witnessed his suicide. I understood his pain and was never mad at him. I started drinking again that night on the way home from the hospital. I stayed out for 5 years hoping the drugs and alcohol would kill me. I finally surrendered to a Higher Power I was so angry at and came back into the rooms of 12 step. I'm now a licensed chemical dependency counselor. It truly is a family disease. Thank you for sharing, you are a bright light. God bless you as you trudge the road of happy Destiny. ❤
Thank you Julie, you are an amazing person and I love you ❤
You have helped and will continue to help many many people. Myself included.
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Blessings to you for your courage and transparency in sharing your story. You will likely help more people than you may ever know. I love that you talked about your preconceived notions about what an alcoholic is....many people have the same idea, that you have to be rolling out of bed in the morning and chugging scotch or have a life in complete shambles and be falling down drunk before noon, when there are so many 'high functioning' people with that exact affliction. This horrible illness can happen to anyone, and perhaps more likely to happen with smart and sensitive people....anyone who has ever attended a meeting can tell you what a vast array of people also attend...smart, good, kind, capable, accomplished people. I hope that we will continue to explode the myth about what alcoholism actually is and what it looks like.
Thank you for your deep kindness and for sharing your personal truth. Subscribed.
Thank you for sharing I'm very proud of the woman you are you're awesome and I'm an old lady now so you're just awesome and thank you for sharing your you will help a lot of people and you won't even know it
I can’t tell you how much I appreciate a person like you telling this to people you don’t even know. I need the hope. You are a beacon of hope. Thank you🫶
Having a spiritual recovery is the ONLY way out of our powerlessness….. You Rock Jules
Just celebrated 38 years of sobriety and while life still throws you curveballs, it seems the well from which I draw strength is deeper. Living with pure joy is priceless and I am eternally grateful 🦋🐬