I am 83 years and in very bad health. My husband passed away a year and a half ago I live along. I miss him so much. I had a heart attack several months after he passed. Lord has kept me here for a reason. I just don't know the reason because I am suffering, and very lonely, my husband went gentle, he didn't fight death he embraced it. I pray that I can go in the same manner he did.
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy in the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and wants a personal relationship with you. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
I'm so sorry for your loss and for the decline in your health. Do you have any children or family that live close? Please reach out locally to maybe a counsel on aging program to see if you can get someone to come by. I don't want you to be alone 😢
Like you, I trust God that He can use your suffering for His glory just as He did with Jesus on the cross. My mother just died and she too had a very weak heart. My takeaways from watching my mother: I need to make sure to make it clear that I don’t want to drink unless it is clear that I do. Same for eating. And lastly, if my heart gets weak and my blood oxygen goes down, do not increase the flow of oxygen in a mask and extend my suffering. Once oxygen is no longer helping you get up and out of bed, it isn’t helping you. See you soon as we look forward to being with our Savior.
This is so important. Thank you for raising this issue. Some have no one at death which makes it so much harder. Others assume they do, but dying alone for whatever reasons is a growing dilemma in society.
@@dllpublic158i have zero family like a lot of others. I have friends but good grief who wants to ask a friend to come watch you die?! How rude or thoughtless is that?!
Perhaps you could employ a death doula. I know in my organisation in Uk there are subsidies available for those on low / no income and some will volunteer their services. They can help you to put plans in place and walk alongside you on the journey.
My husband was on Hospice . It was a godsend. I was prepared and so was he. I made the bedroom a sanctuary. With some flowers and a votive. He was semi unconscious. I slept with him in our bed. He quietly slipped away. I feel there will be an all embracing love at the other side of the veil. ❤ I became a dedicated volunteer for Hospice for 12 years and facilitated bereavement groups after I processed my own loss. I will be 89 soon.i am not afraid of death. Thank you nurse Julie ! ❤❤
I just went thru this with my wife of 39 years. 10 years from first diagnosis, two semi rare cancers withe no available treatments. We made it ten years, she was 65. As it progressed rapidly after covid, we started the hard conversations including legal and finance. She was denided respite care and that was a blessing, she came home and wanted to die at home. I was the primary care for seven months and with a limited home hospice support i had to learn it all, cleaning, pallatiove care she knew her body and so did I, very important because you are the advocate! I learned all the signs and effects of organ failure. The most important thing i can say is keep up with the mental asspect... I spent the last 7weeks of her life 24/7... But every day i would say i love you, the dogs, horses and me will be fine and if you want to go its ok. On her last day i said i love you and she barely said i love you to. Home hospice os not easy but very special and i would not have it any other way.
@@shelleybrandon2825 thank you Shelly for you kind comment. I wrote this after she died. The Last Dance, Farewell my love We all know we are going to die We don't know when where or why When bestows upon you You tell yourself lies Life will show you the path without ties Acceptance will come, not as you think it to be Light will shine on you to see Take healing in your time Everything will be fine Embrace your new journey Keep hold that it's worthy I now say goodbye and let you go I loved you then, now and forever this you know Good by my love Marc Everett Emerson
What a loving man. Your amazing. To die at home is often the best if someone like yourself can do the hard job to care for a dying wife. Not many do. My regards for the blessing you where to your wife in her last months, may you meet again. Ret nurse Norway
i am 63, i have parkinsons for 20 years going 21, my very loving husband passed peacefully last year, i am alone now, i pray for a peaceful and quick death, i thank you for all the information
Hi 👋 I am 59 have Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia I'm in the middle phase now and live wth a husband who is a narcissist. It's scary to not have anyone to share your fears with in your own home and it's even scarier to think about nursing facility but someone told me that if you have an advocate you will be safer in the facility
@@Michael-fs7su I have a daughter and she knows what my situation is but oddly enough her husband is the same So it's up to me to pray about the best decision moving forward 🙏 Thank you for caring
@@toryberchI had to advocate for my brother and then again 7 months later for my mother. They need a floor elderly people. Those really young nurses didn’t know anything about dealing with elderly people. Then the NP in the rehab facility kept telling her she couldn’t go home during holidays because people were all at home with their families. She was so anxious (we didn’t realize she was already her process, only approved HALF a Valium to help her sleep! I can’t imagine had I not been there to advocate for her.
My mom passed this morning at 3:00am. Because of your videos my brother and I were able to be prepared and had already had her plans set up for when she passed. She was 88 and had dementia. I wanted to tell you “Thank you”.
I have always said to friends I am going to see friends and family" that have moved on," and that gives me peace of mind knowing they will be waiting. My best friend came to me in a dream about a month after he passed. I was in a beautiful forest with the brightest leaves and browns. a bright light approached me on the path, and as it got close to me, I saw my friend as a young man when we were in college. He smiled, and assured me "everything is OK, and I will see you again." He put his hand out to shake hands. Just as our hands were one, there was a bright flash of light almost like an explosion. I woke up and felt a great level of comfort and peace of mind. 😇🥰
This is beautiful I have see my family who have passed away if it were not for my children I would like to go because life gets harder with age My faith keeps me going I know the Christ is here to help me he sends good people my helpers I live a prayerful life I have no friends I can’t get to church my husband has dementia
@milels6917 oh, my. I was the primary caregiver/person in charge for my mother, then older brother, then father, all within an 8 month period. I learned so much about the dieing process. It was ment a lly, emotionally a ND physically challenging and I had to temporarily give up most of my law practice. I am so grateful to my husband who gave me so much support. A ll 3 of my relatives had hospice: my Mom in her home, my brother and then father in a wonderful hospice facility. The night my mother was actively dieing I called hospice 4 times and no one came to help us. My Dad was in denial and didn't think Mom would die. I knew. The best thing about the experience is that I got to tell a ll three that I loved them right close to the end
I am not afraid of death, I am afraid of the suffering that accompanies the last moments, months or years of life. If I end up in a lot of pain, I want to go to a country where voluntary death is allowed. That's what I understand by a peaceful death, a death without pain. Someday human beings will progress enough to realize the right of every human being to make the decision of when to die. We humans take the lives of animals that are suffering greatly, and we adults also deserve the same compassion.
I am 56 with long covid and preparing myself. I don’t have much, but made what I do have easy for my son (17) to be ok for a bit. This suffering has been intense for 4 years and there are no answers at all. But I fought hard and now I am weak. I just wish those around me would see, I can’t hold on much longer. This video was what I needed to hear, it inspired me to accept help. I was so independent and this has been the hardest thing thus far. But now that I don’t really have much of A choice, I’m allowing my heart to be open and allowing those that want to help ….. help. Sounds so silly but it’s real. A friend just brought over a shower chair. I accepted. Another brought food…. I accepted. It made them happy and it also made me feel so loved. The iron curtain is coming down and it’s time to allow people in. 💕
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@@wanderer44-xr5si Christ lives in my heart. Thank you for your sweet response 🩷. I feel the energy. One day at a time and knowing that I and my Father are one makes that delightful. Truly ☮️
It's not an iron curtain but a thin veil! I had a near death experience in 1988 & I didn't want to come back but at the last instant before I was all the way through to the other side, I couldn't leave my 2 small children & husband, plus other beloved family members. I was a medical miracle because it wasn't anything the hospital did that healed me instantly!! They took pictures of me there at the University of Alberta Hospital the day I was finally allowed to go home. Had been in hospital for 3 mths with an undiagnosed illness which reduced me to 93 lbs, hardly any hair & it was a tough haul but many beautiful and supernatural experiences the while time I was there. I'm grateful to still be here at 62 and I was only 26 when that happened. I've never forgotten that time & it helps to know that it's the most beautiful and peaceful feeling with that warm, soft and pure love I felt with that light that's so alive!!!!
My mom is 85 and is preparing herself, she has heart failure which is getting worse, she has said many times that she wants to go to sleep and not wake up and that would be a lovely way to go. Right now she is hanging on because she is busy with her greenhouse and growing some tomatoes and cucumbers. Even though gardening is now a struggle, she plods on making her huge garden look beautiful. She has been telling me the names of plants as well as her pet names for them to remember those who have since passed who gave them to her.
My wife had a peaceful death. After 2 weeks in the hospital, she became more and more unresponsive. Shortly after she was taken off the ventilator she spoke and told us we were loved and then a few hours later she went through the process you have shown in your videos and died after 12 hours.
I just got a phone call from my mother’s hospice nurse this morning that she is rapidly declining & that death will most likely be soon. She has lived a very healthy life until she had a stroke in December (the day after her 100th birthday), but she has struggled with severe anxiety her whole life. Her anxiety has been out of control since the stroke & she was in & out of rehab three times until the decision was made in March to enter hospice. For the last week she has been mostly unresponsive &, although this is so hard, I’m glad she’s finally relieved of her anxiety. I’m 75 years old & grateful, not only for the years I’ve had my mother, but also for this channel & Nurse Julie letting me know what to expect in the days, weeks, or months ahead. Thank you.
I am 65 and in generally good health, my husband is 4 years older and has multiple health issues. We had built our “ dream home” in the mountains of NC but realized it was going to be too much to live our lives out in so we moved closer to family in Fla. and moved into a 1 story, no steps home renovated the master bath to a walk in shower with a seat and enough room for a shower chair if needed and grab bars. Changed out the old toilets for raised to be easier and generally made this our home to grow old ( God willing😊) in. I feel very blessed to be able to have done all these changes before we got too old. I watched my parents in a 3 story townhouse struggle as they aged and it was a real life lesson for me. Your common sense advice is always on point and very much appreciated! Keep up the good work and congrats on your BESTSELLER book 📖 ❤❤❤
I’m 68 with quite a few chronic health conditions, but I’m compos mentis and that’s what counts for me! My husband is 65 in September and still works. We recently downsized, like you, to a smaller property so that when one of us dies the other can manage the house easily. Yes, a large garden was nice, but very time consuming and took a lot of effort. Let’s hope we all have peaceful lives and a peaceful ending as well ❤
❤❤we love our home floor plan but looking at renovation plans now in our late 50’s that will enable us to care for a completely disabled loved one at home!!❤ One floor, changing regular shower/garden tub into a walk in/roll in shower! Have a large formal living/dining area that will easily fit a hospital bed and additional equipment if needed. I’m a nurse determined to never let any of my family members be placed in LTC!! If you’ve actually taken care of family at home post hospital and have any suggestions they are much appreciated!🙏🙏
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
Thank you!!!!! Thank you! I cared for my mom with the help and love from home hospice. She had an incredibly peaceful death. Her diagnosis was quick and everything happened so god damn fast. She was in hospice for 26 days. I spent 24/7 with her. We talked about everything. I knew exactly what she wanted and I honored that. I know at first her diagnosis was a shocker to her. She had still been working, memory better than anyone. She was also a very private person, and didn’t want people worrying about her. I relocated back East to care for her. As traumatic as it was to accept that my mother/ best friend was dying. I was all in to make the last time of her life here on Earth the very best. She died 2/17/24. The day before her 80th birthday. I am struggling. But I tell myself a 100 times a day that she is at peace, no more pain. Plus I have gotten signs from her.i am just selfish and she was a constant in my daily life that I just want her here. I miss her tremendously! My heart is completely broken. But i am so very honored that i was able to go take care of her and be there. She truly was a perfect person. ❤
I’m so sorry and I am going through the same thing x 2. My mom fell in January and my mom and dad had just finished their wills and their DNR’s, bought cemetery plots and both caskets and gravestone, all finished, so she thought she could relax and enjoy living in their newly renovated home, but sadly that wasn’t God’s plan. I am the eldest of sis, female and the Honeymoon Baby, born exactly 7 days after my mom’s 20th birthday. We talked about everything and we planned on spending our birthdays together in May, she had their caretakers fix my old bedroom up so cute for me, hippie boho gypsy, my mom knew me so well and I knew her better than anyone else, except my husband and kids. She told me in November that we were almost better best friends then mom and daughter, which we were, we but I remember my feelings, I thought,but didn’t say, but I need you as my mom, I didn’t want her upset. She was doing really well, but she was getting warn out caring for my dad, who is deaf and he has dementia/Altziemers, and they were put on at home hospice. Shem my mom fell in January and cracked or broke her femur, my sisters and our only brother were all there and my sisters took her to the ER, she was in so much excruciating pain that they couldn’t do a Cat Scan or MRI, because she couldn’t handle being touched or carried, the doctor put a Fentanyl patch on her & we had to move our parents to a 24/7 hospice care home, near them in Riverside, California, because none of us 6 adult kids live in California, we are spread out to the East Coast up to Washington, next to Canada, so we couldn’t stay there and take care of them. I have been disabled since 2005 from several bad accidents at my workplace. My husband and I arrived in Riverside, about a week after they were moved there. Mom told me not to touch her below the neck, except we could and did hold hands. She was in excruciating pain and I knew from Nurse Julie what I was seeing, my mom was dying and she begged me to stay with her till the end, which I did, watching over my mom and monitoring her food and liquids, she didn’t even want food,, in mid March she refused all food and liquids, and of course I wanted her to have a peaceful death, I knew on Saturday the 16th of March, she had entered the Active Dying phase, she managed to tell me how beautiful I am and how much she loved me, on Friday March 15th, my brother grabbed 1 of my sisters and drove straight to the hospice on Sunday the 17th. Mom passed so peacefully at 7:03pm on March 19th. I thought I was prepared, but I truly wasn’t, the grief has been so difficult, the only thing that makes it ok, is we have our 3rd grandchild due any day, so it’s the circle of life. In May, mine and mom’s birth month, we went to Riverside and visited my dad and I took flowers to moms grave 3 times, but the pain and grief just doesn’t stop, my dear sweet sister in law, told me May 18th, the day before we left for California, that it took a year or two to move through her grief at her parents deaths.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@jimrebr I am so very sorry that you too have been through this. All I can say is it sucks. I cant describe it any other way. Its such a blessing that you were able to be with your wonderful mom in those final days. It also is so painful! I replay those 26 days in my head everyday, thinking… if i did this, would she be here? If i did this? its like a cruel joke our minds play on us…. The pain of facing each day knowing we won’t hear their voices, hold their hands, kiss them, laugh with them, cry with them. Gut wrenching. my mom also had a fentanyl patch… I remember thinking .. holy crap, she is the strongest human i know and the fact that she needed this, and it definitely brought her the pain relief she needed. I held her hand everyday and begged and pleaded with God to heal her. ( silently) The last week she was alive . I begged God to take her, she had accepted she was dying shortly after finding out her diagnosis. I told her I just wanted her here forever, she told me she would never leave me. She was right. I feel her with me, she gives me signs. But i still cry everyday. sometimes for just a few minutes. Other days on and off all day. I wish this was something none of us have to experience. Im also so fortunate and honored that I was with her. Like my husband reminds me, “ you were the last one to hold her hand, kiss her, tell her you loved her” she was at peace and knew it was ok to go. 💕😘 Prayers and hugs to you on this emotional journey!💕
@@susanfitzpatrick3369 I am trying to find a way to respond, I have been crying daily, not long, I just miss my mom constantly and I want to talk with her constantly and I keep having to remind myself she isn’t here, but speak to her, I still do, because I know she can’t hear me and she is always close. I still have her voice in my head. I am praying for Susan!!!❤️
When is our society going to get over this thing about denying us the ability to exit on our own terms? I am alone with no spouse and no children, and while I am in good health now, I know we all deteriorate sooner or later unless we get hit by a bus or the equivalent. I do not wish to be a burden. When my time comes I want to be able to exit painlessly on my own terms. But we have this underlying idea that suffering before death is something necessary. It comes from a religious framework that not all of us have and should not be imposed on everyone. I have no desire to grab every possible minute here or to be a burden on anyone. If I know death is inevitable, I want to go as quietly and painlessly as possible.
I'm almost in the same boat. I have a spouse but he is not in good health. If he were to go, I'd be pretty much alone. No children or family to speak of, no close friends, either. I agree with everything you said.
@@Bluebird19-ll8su I was widowed 11 years ago. My husband was unable to regain consciousness after a stroke without going into constant seizures. I had to make "The Decision" and he was able to leave this world quietly on palliative sedation. It is hard but with determination building a new life is possible. It won't look like the old one, and it might not even be partnered, but it is possible to live a good life after widowhood. I hope your situation does not come to that.
@@jillcnc Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry to hear about your husband- that must have been a difficult time. Yes, I believe it is possible to live a good life after widowhood. (To be honest, one of my biggest fears would be finances. That is scary to think about, in all honesty). But one day at a time, and cross each bridge when you come to it.
Hi Julie. I’m 47 and I have debilitating nerve pain from a spinal cord injury. I have been given the green light in Switzerland for VAD. It’s brought me such peace. I’m a PA ortho trauma and eas also a body builder I’m bed bound I can’t accept living on pain meds for the rest of my life in bed. So I’m grateful for this gift
My brother in law had a peaceful passing. He deteriorated rapidly after a week of being in hospital. He was too ill to be moved to a hospice. We had to quickly get our heads around it as he never told anyone that his cancer had spread. We found out a week prior to him passing away. I’d experienced enough death to know what to expect. Your videos also helped me a great deal. Thank you for helping me cope ❤❤
I am 81 and watching all your videos trying to learn what to expect as a Christian I know I am going to be with my Lord but I wanted to know all I could.
I just bought your book. Dementia. My dad is dying from Parkinson’s and Vascular Dementia. So far, it hasn’t been peaceful. He’s on hospice, but sometimes, he fights my mom and brother when they’re changing his diaper. Things are really hard right now. And some terminal conditions are not easy. Dementia is one of them.
Thanks to you I no longer fear dying and death. I'm 73 and in relatively good health. I've set up what I want done should something happen unexpectedly. My loved ones know my wishes, i.e. organ donation, DNR etc. And this is all thanks to you Julie. ❤
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
Judging by the first family you talked about, it sounds like the plan for a peaceful death starts by living a good life. His family was willing to be there for him and comfort him.
Excellent video and information. Every time I mention death, dying and planning my funeral, my family cringes I feel it is very important not to leave them with all of those plans and decisions when they are least likely to be able to make the clear decisions. I want to spare them from have to go shopping for a casket, a vault, etc.
I have already made and paid (not cheap) for my burial. Direct burial with no embalming, cheap wood casket. If anyone wants to do a memorial service that's on them, not me. BTW, after you pay for your arrangements they give you a wallet card to carry on you. You should also let family and friends know you have done this.
I went through Hospice training several years ago, mainly to support my dearest friend after diagnosed with ALS. I gave it up when he died. i THANK you so very much for your advice, insights, experiences, wisdom, intuitiveness, compassion, etc. Not only are you an inspiration, but you, (maybe unknowingly) set all our minds at ease about our own immortality. thank you, you are a rare gem and an old soul to us all. I turn 71 in a few days, and you inspire me to get back into it, so thank you.
Ordered on audio! My husband and I are in our 60s with medical challenges. Thanks for your reassurance. Both my parents died in hospice care and it was a relief that their passing was gentle and seemed pain- free.
Nice guidance for everyone. Getting close to the end now, much of what you're saying is what we preparers are doing. First, you have to come to terms with your mortality...as you adjust mentally..the rest follows.
I’m in my 30s so I’m not expecting to die anytime soon, but I’m already prepared for when it happens. My wife works with medically donated bodies in a research facility, so we talk about death a lot. I also am a recovering heroin addict and had a few close calls before I quit 6 years ago. I’ve learned through all I’ve been through to go with the flow and live in the moment, so your videos have taught me a lot and have made me realize how prepared I am now at 33. I should be very much ready when the time comes in the ( hopefully very distant future) I’ll be completely at ease and ready to die.
MY DAD REMINDED ME EVERY YEAR TO NOT LET HIM.GET OLD SITTING IN A WHEELCHAIR WITH DROOL.RUNNING DOWN HIS MOUTH WHEN HE HAD SIMPLE OPERATION BUT IN HOSPITAL GOT SEVERE TYPE PNUEMONA HE HAD MADE HIMSELF DNR AND I HONORED THAT SOME COUSINS DIDNT UNDERSTAND I SAID DADS LIVED WITH INTEGRITY LET HIM DIE WITH INTEGRITY. IT HELPED ME AN DAD ENORMOUSLY IM NOW 80 USING A WALKER HOPE STAY IN MY HOME TIL PASS THX TONS HUGE REMINDER ABOUT HOSPICE....IM ON MY OWN
You are wonderful, Julie. I think God placed you here on RUclips for this purpose; to help SO MANY PEOPLE not fear death. You are a comfort. Thank you! ❤
I’m a hospice nurse and had my dad on hospice 2 years after a stroke. The last week of his life was beautiful. We were all with him for that week and we told stories about him, the good and bad. My sister, mom and I saw the change and we were able to hold his hands and love him as he took his last breath. It was very calm and peaceful ❤
The most influential book I ever read was, The Denial of Death. We are the only creatures cursed with the knowledge of our own demise. So much of our dysfunction and unhappiness revolves around trying to submerge that reality as far into the subconscious as possible.
I am so grateful that you are sharing all of your knowledge and love, to help people have a better, more peaceful death. Thank you, Nurse Julie. Many years ago, my dad was dying, I left my husband and 4 sons and went to be there. My mom, sister and I were with him when he died. Thanks to a nurse who saw he needed help, she suctioned liquid from him and he went peacefully and we were with him. I knew, I would do something with that experience, and 10 years later I was a counseling intern at Hospice.
I just bought my third book! I gave the first 2 books to family of residents in my mothers memory care facility, whos loved one took turns for the worst unexpectedly ( although caregiving these days at memory care facilities absolutely sucks). The 3rd one is for me to read to prepare for my 93 year old mothers departure once she is ready to go. I have a wonderful inpatient hospice facility I will move her to once she qualifies. My goal is to make her death beautiful and her transition seamless. It has been a long hard journey for her to get here ( 13th year of dementia). Thank you for sharing your wisdom on the subject.
My dad passed beautifully and peacefully last May. 🥹 After a devastating diagnosis he chose MAiD ( Medical Assistance in Dying 🇨🇦). This gifted us with meaningful intentional time with him: no words left unsaid 💙. We held him until his final breath and affirmed our love as he passed into eternity. His wishes were fulfilled and he did not suffer. Bittersweet…..🙏
I'm in my late 60s' and take care of both my parents. Mom 94, on palliative care, dad, 96, bedbound and on hospice. I'm spending 5-6 hours at their home, 7 days a week. These videos are so very helpful. Thank you Julie.
Thank you for this channel. It showed up in my feed and I am glad. 4 years ago my parents died within 3 weeks at home and in a palliative hospital before Covid fortunately . I spent his last night with my father in the clinic and he was very agitated which was scary. I wish I had known about this. He was able to say good bye with looks and touches of love but it was hard that he could not speak any more in the end and was breathing with so much effort. Your descriptions were true and I wish we had known before. I subscribe and thank you from Germany
Julie, I love what you're doing. It iyour calling. calling. My mother passed away, many years ago, Ina hospice facility. It was a loving experience for most of my family, but not so much for one member, the one who couldn't let go and face the change. It seems the more adaptable we are in life, our coping skills seem to to strengthen. Thank you, and all the hospice caregivers out there. You're angels.❤❤❤
GOD bless you. You will never know the powerful POSITIVE impact that you have had on your viewers. You are truly an Angel among us. Your videos are powerful, enlightening, compassionate and straight to the point...Death can be very scary for most folks...YOU, give it depth, perspective, information and love...WE are blessed to have you
I remember as a tween (60 some years ago) having a nurse come to my Camp Fire Girls group and talk about menstruating and coming home with a booklet to read over later. Lots of booklets, lots of interesting lectures since then. Now I'm learning about another milestone, stepping across the rainbow! Thank you, Julia, for these videos!
My grandfather died of lung cancer. The whole family nursed him at home and he was taking oral painkillers until his last day, when he became unable to swallow the pills. The doctor was called to administer IV pain meds, but took too long to get there. My grandfather, the manliest most stoic man I have ever known, died screaming in pain.
I have powdered tablets when IV meds weren't available and swallowing them wasn't an option, it's gritty but better than nothing. I'm sorry he passed in such distress!
Thank you Julie. You are the best in talking about hospice thingy. You have and will be helping many many people facing death. I am pretty sure your name is on that book of life for heaven. Blessings from LA.
My father in-law is in his last weeks of life 😞your videos are such a gift and so much education.Even though I have been a professional caregiver for 15 years you are a blessing to myself and my partner in this time where after caring for him for the past 2 years you really are making such a difference in our life as we feel empowered too give him the best death possible 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼thank you thank you thank you nurse Julie ❤️
The thing that worries me about death is not really the physical pain side of things but more the mental and emotional side! Any advice or thoughts on this? Your videos are Amazing! May God/the universe bless you!🙏🤗🌟
Thank you Julie, I finished reading your book yesterday and the timing has been perfect. She is in assisted living and I found a good one. I am relieved of caring for her basic needs. This is hard and sad but it is ok, I believe when you say our bodies know how to die. Your book is required reading for my family so I can exit in peace. God be with you always.
My husband and I have made prearrangements for our death we already purchased our plot at the cemetery, our headstone, opening and closing of the gravesite twice. The only thing we need to do is cremations of our earthly bodies. For the most part we are set to go. Oh and the most important part is excepting & acknowledging that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, that is number one. I am heaven bound.
Thank you. This was so comforting. I'm terminally ill and have been planning. I have my songs picked and soon I'll be living near my grandson. I recently came to the conclusion that I no longer can take 100% care of myself all the time. I can still live independently but I need close family nearby. I'm not so much planning my death but my transition.
Julie, i just want to thank you, my mother died this Monday, and because i have watched and listened to you, i was more clear to understand what was happening, and in truth it hurts and i have tears, i feel more at ease, and got to be there as she took her last breath, Thankyou ❤️
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
Thank you Julie. You have confirmed what I have felt for years, especially after watching my husband die. I have learned a lot from your videos and am now going to order your book so that my family can read it. You are an angel!
Julie....you are so wonderful. Love your videos. You are doing God's work. Death is a portal. We will all be called home someday. Al I can say is...folks need to embrace it. Death is heavenly. Thank you.
Hi Julie! You know, I´m gonna be 66 this Aug. 19th and I´m alone with my two doggies. I do have a sister and two sons but I´ve been put into "estrangement" by them, so very little contact if any. What I did a few years ago was prepare a letter with very specific instructions for if / when I become either unable to communicate (say by stroke) or die. I put it in an envelope and placed it where everyone can see. Preparing is everything! P.S. I also recorded my voice with a post-mortem joke. The sound of my voice as if I were pounding from inside the casket saying "Hey! It´s tight in here! Let me out! Hahahaha
Nurse Julie, you speak the truth! My friend who was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer, she really prepared herself and family for her death. She was very open with conversations about her death. One day, she and friends planned to go to lunch but before we had to attend catholic Mass at her church even if you weren't catholic. She said, "I want you all to attend my funeral here in this church, know where where it is!" She talked about death, as matter of fact. One day, when we visited her at home, she was rather excited to show use her funeral urn to be used for her ashes. She loved jigsaw puzzles, and completed a puzzle for each of her close family members to frame and display. She was an awesome person and a retired hospice nurse, I worked with who really lived her life till she died. She was a blessing, and prepared for her death❤
My family did this for my mother. We tied up her trust paperwork, let friends come say goodbye and stayed in room/bed around the clock until she transitioned. The whole process took 3 weeks. It was a beautiful ending. No fighting afterwards either!
Thank you for this special video. I’m almost 72 and my husband 77 and it could be possible I’m left behind. I don’t have a family (I haven’t heard or seen my two daughters for 22 years). I’ll be alone dying. But I know I’ll die if someone is there or not. The idea with the boat on an ocean is beautiful. I’ve sometimes thought about it when I couldn’t sleep or lying on a soft cloud and the ocean is beneath me and I’m just drifting away. I won’t fight, I’ve lived my life and when the time comes I’ll just go alone the same way I once came.
Im going through palliative care with my Dad... I cant thank you enough Julie for this most valuable information about something that some many find it hard to talk about. Thank u for doing what you do and helping me a lot through this time
I’m In England and I’ve just ordered your book, it sounds as if it might be really helpful to me. I’m 67 and also find comforting the people and pets that have gone before me. I would love to see them again, but am happy just to be the same dust that they are.
Amen 🙏 DENIAL is a killer. Some 20 veterans neighbors and friends here at Patriot Place have left feet first, expired or to the hospital. PRIDE is up there, too. So many bad ☠. I'm empowered by my health choices and your channel. Age 69.🤞🙏
Thank you so much for your guidance It made this process as peaceful as possible We were able to be with him and say the right things thanks to your guidance I will forever be grateful for you being there for us I relied on everything you said to do Thanks again
I appreciate your videos as my mom is in this process. The communication to us as a family is very poor so we're fumbling along learning this as we go. Thank you.
Cant afford your book , I live on a fixed income and every penney matters but thank you for some great info. I did find 2 Dr's to help me with Death with dignity here in VT, I have just started Hospice. Thank you for all you do.
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
When, Where who knows cept GOD. I am blood bought and born again in JESUS so no issues on the passing from this body / life when Jesus says " Come Home Shannon". I know people who went out laughing and yelling " Its beautiful here beautiful" and swosh gone❤
My son was the caregiver for his father for the last 10 years of his life. We had been divorced for years. In the last year or so he had dementia and unfortunately the end was not peaceful. My son was somewhat traumatized by the bad ending and worried that he hadn't done enough for his dad. He did a great job and I keep telling him that. Two years later he is moving on with life and I am glad.
Thankyou for sharing this. I have been planning for death and learning all that I can. My husband and I are both fighting illness. Im at peace and ready to see Jesus. I trying to help others prepare too. ❤
Yes, i did to my dad. He was with some alzheimer's, and also in a pseudocomatose state because of liver and pancreatic cancer. I told him many nice things he deserved to hear. I think he did. I found it very difficult to tell him as emotions would make me cry and I tried to control myself. It was a bit scary and profoundly sad but I am so glad I told him all those nice things. I would have taken years to tell him all the nice things I wanted him to hear. So I was left a bit with a "I should have told him more".. but then I recall the years of Alzheimer's how many times I told him how much I loved him. I wish yes I visited him even more, but I am glad I did as often as I could find energy and financial means to do so (as I lived in another country). I still love him. i wish to lead my life in a way at least I will be remembered as a person who loved others, as my father was capable of doing.
Thanks, Julie. Your information has helped me. Hospice is now helping me. My physical life is getting closer to the finish. After a period of sleep, there will be a Resurrection. Something to look forward to! Be comforted, yourself, when it's your turn. Warm greetings, Great Gram Dara Schneider
You are not alone "Jehovah God "will be there every step of way !! Pray and accept Jehovah God as your Savior and call on him!! Trust me you will go peaceful my spirit told me to tell you this!! Most of us don't won't to go but we leave this Earth to be in Paradise like Jesus told The thief on th Cross!! May u your journey be smooth and peaceful!! Praying for you 🙏🏾
Excellent content and presentation of almost every piece of knowledge that we need to face our own death or the death of loved ones. Thank you, Julie, you are a saint👏👏👏
Thank you, I really appreciate this. Something I need to work on. So afraid of death , I want to outlive my cats. Not sure about burial issues. I’m 70, young. 😢😢❤❤😊
This is outstanding! I want to see a greater death acceptance in our society. Makes it so much easier for everyone. A friend of mine was handed a book the day before she died. If we have an understanding of the whole death process during the entirety of our lives, then we and our loved ones will be in a more understanding frame of mind when the time comes.
Hi Julie! My dear family members who have passed before me have all waited until we left their side and then they died peacefully with the exception of my father and fortunately my sister was with him. Is this something that’s common as well? I’ve always wondered. this is the first video I’ve seen you do and I will continue to watch more because, I worked in healthcare for 30 years and I agree with everything you’ve said and I have encouraged family members to do these things prior to passing. Thank you for sharing!
You are one of the people in this world who are bringers of peace. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this work that you are doing, so well and so compassionately. 🙏🏻
This is great advice! My mom is in Hospice, and will probably pass this week. What you describe in being prepared is on point. My mom never planned for this, and always did everything herself so Hospice has been difficult for her and she is fighting it all the way.
Julie, this is such an important video. Being organized and prepared eases the way for us. I will be writing my obituary soon. Everything else is organized. Thank you very much.
A peaceful death = when one knows they are a good person and have a clear conscience with little regrets. Surrounded by someone whom they matter to with compassion and love.
Since I will most likely go first due to medical issues; I have helped my husband ease into life without me and told him my wishes. We have documents that will back all of this up. He gets upset easily so I am trying to ease his burden as to what to do and how to do it. I have watched several of your videos and greatly appreciated the one as to a as painless death as possible. Thank you.
What would you add for Alzheimer's / dementia deaths? My mom has always been bold in the face of adversity and planning for her death was a no-brainer. First thing she did when I came home was take me to the lawyer to create plans. But very soon it was clear that she, like her mother and siblings, was likely to be felled by Alzheimer's. She is still very much herself (yep, even in late stages), but with *greatly* diminished capacity and living mostly in the decades of her youth. She's been on hospice 3 times in the last 6 years, but this time seems like the "real" time. How do I help her? I absolutely adore her, I NEVER want to lose her, ... but ... I want to give her the best death I can. Just like she gave me the best life she could.
I am 83 years and in very bad health. My husband passed away a year and a half ago I live along. I miss him so much. I had a heart attack several months after he passed. Lord has kept me here for a reason. I just don't know the reason because I am suffering, and very lonely, my husband went gentle, he didn't fight death he embraced it. I pray that I can go in the same manner he did.
Wishing you all the best. May your hopes be fulfilled.
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy in the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and wants a personal relationship with you. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
I'm so sorry for your loss and for the decline in your health. Do you have any children or family that live close? Please reach out locally to maybe a counsel on aging program to see if you can get someone to come by. I don't want you to be alone 😢
Hugs and prays.
Like you, I trust God that He can use your suffering for His glory just as He did with Jesus on the cross. My mother just died and she too had a very weak heart. My takeaways from watching my mother: I need to make sure to make it clear that I don’t want to drink unless it is clear that I do. Same for eating. And lastly, if my heart gets weak and my blood oxygen goes down, do not increase the flow of oxygen in a mask and extend my suffering. Once oxygen is no longer helping you get up and out of bed, it isn’t helping you. See you soon as we look forward to being with our Savior.
Julie, could you please talk about people without a family and friends.
Thank you.
This is so important. Thank you for raising this issue. Some have no one at death which makes it so much harder. Others assume they do, but dying alone for whatever reasons is a growing dilemma in society.
That's exactly what I was thinking about commenting.
Yes please Julia. What about for those of us utterly alone.
@@dllpublic158i have zero family like a lot of others. I have friends but good grief who wants to ask a friend to come watch you die?! How rude or thoughtless is that?!
Perhaps you could employ a death doula. I know in my organisation in Uk there are subsidies available for those on low / no income and some will volunteer their services. They can help you to put plans in place and walk alongside you on the journey.
Im 60, on hospice for lung failure. I will encourage my daughter to hear your words. Thank you Julie.
Peace and ease to you @carolthompson8159
❤ a very big hug🤗 from the netherlands. Just for being you😘
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@@carolthompson8159 sending all my love to you and your daughter. ❤️❤️
Peaceful blessings prayed for you, hun.💜🙏
My husband was on Hospice . It was a godsend. I was prepared and so was he. I made the bedroom a sanctuary. With some flowers and a votive. He was semi unconscious. I slept with him in our bed. He quietly slipped away. I feel there will be an all embracing love at the other side of the veil. ❤ I became a dedicated volunteer for Hospice for 12 years and facilitated bereavement groups after I processed my own loss. I will be 89 soon.i am not afraid of death. Thank you nurse Julie ! ❤❤
You sound awesome
Goooood luck…….
Touched my heart 💖
@@yvonnebirch6026 your beautful
What a beautiful beautiful person you are, you know that, right?
I just went thru this with my wife of 39 years. 10 years from first diagnosis, two semi rare cancers withe no available treatments. We made it ten years, she was 65. As it progressed rapidly after covid, we started the hard conversations including legal and finance. She was denided respite care and that was a blessing, she came home and wanted to die at home. I was the primary care for seven months and with a limited home hospice support i had to learn it all, cleaning, pallatiove care she knew her body and so did I, very important because you are the advocate! I learned all the signs and effects of organ failure. The most important thing i can say is keep up with the mental asspect... I spent the last 7weeks of her life 24/7... But every day i would say i love you, the dogs, horses and me will be fine and if you want to go its ok. On her last day i said i love you and she barely said i love you to. Home hospice os not easy but very special and i would not have it any other way.
You are exceptional
@@shelleybrandon2825 thank you Shelly for you kind comment. I wrote this after she died.
The Last Dance,
Farewell my love
We all know we are going to die
We don't know when where or why
When bestows upon you
You tell yourself lies
Life will show you the path without ties
Acceptance will come, not as you think it to be
Light will shine on you to see
Take healing in your time
Everything will be fine
Embrace your new journey
Keep hold that it's worthy
I now say goodbye and let you go
I loved you then, now and forever this you know
Good by my love
Marc Everett Emerson
I am so sorry. The was extremely lucky to have you for a husband, just know how much she thanks you for being there with and for her 🥰
Your wife was so blessed to have you as her husband. I'm sure she felt so loved and truly cared for. Also safe and protected surrounded by your love.💜
What a loving man. Your amazing. To die at home is often the best if someone like yourself can do the hard job to care for a dying wife. Not many do. My regards for the blessing you where to your wife in her last months, may you meet again. Ret nurse Norway
i am 63, i have parkinsons for 20 years going 21, my very loving husband passed peacefully last year, i am alone now, i pray for a peaceful and quick death, i thank you for all the information
✝️ 🙏
Hi 👋 I am 59 have Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia I'm in the middle phase now and live wth a husband who is a narcissist. It's scary to not have anyone to share your fears with in your own home and it's even scarier to think about nursing facility but someone told me that if you have an advocate you will be safer in the facility
@toryberch…my prayer for you is a resolution to your situation that brings peace into your heart. ♥️ 🕊️✝️
@@Michael-fs7su I have a daughter and she knows what my situation is but oddly enough her husband is the same
So it's up to me to pray about the best decision moving forward 🙏
Thank you for caring
@@toryberchI had to advocate for my brother and then again 7 months later for my mother. They need a floor elderly people. Those really young nurses didn’t know anything about dealing with elderly people. Then the NP in the rehab facility kept telling her she couldn’t go home during holidays because people were all at home with their families. She was so anxious (we didn’t realize she was already her process, only approved HALF a Valium to help her sleep! I can’t imagine had I not been there to advocate for her.
My mom passed this morning at 3:00am. Because of your videos my brother and I were able to be prepared and had already had her plans set up for when she passed. She was 88 and had dementia.
I wanted to tell you “Thank you”.
Friend, I am sorry for your mom's passing. I am thankful that you found some peace in Nurse Julie's videos. She is awesome and we share her blessings
I have always said to friends I am going to see friends and family" that have moved on," and that gives me peace of mind knowing they will be waiting. My best friend came to me in a dream about a month after he passed. I was in a beautiful forest with the brightest leaves and browns. a bright light approached me on the path, and as it got close to me, I saw my friend as a young man when we were in college. He smiled, and assured me "everything is OK, and I will see you again." He put his hand out to shake hands. Just as our hands were one, there was a bright flash of light almost like an explosion. I woke up and felt a great level of comfort and peace of mind. 😇🥰
This is beautiful I have see my family who have passed away if it were not for my children I would like to go because life gets harder with age My faith keeps me going I know the Christ is here to help me he sends good people my helpers I live a prayerful life I have no friends I can’t get to church my husband has dementia
@milels6917 oh, my. I was the primary caregiver/person in charge for my mother, then older brother, then father, all within an 8 month period. I learned so much about the dieing process. It was ment a lly, emotionally a ND physically challenging and I had to temporarily give up most of my law practice. I am so grateful to my husband who gave me so much support. A ll 3 of my relatives had hospice: my Mom in her home, my brother and then father in a wonderful hospice facility. The night my mother was actively dieing I called hospice 4 times and no one came to help us. My Dad was in denial and didn't think Mom would die. I knew. The best thing about the experience is that I got to tell a ll three that I loved them right close to the end
Those are visits, not just dreams. How very special and uplifting, knowing what’s awaiting you when it’s YOUR time. God bless. 🙏
I am not afraid of death, I am afraid of the suffering that accompanies the last moments, months or years of life. If I end up in a lot of pain, I want to go to a country where voluntary death is allowed. That's what I understand by a peaceful death, a death without pain. Someday human beings will progress enough to realize the right of every human being to make the decision of when to die. We humans take the lives of animals that are suffering greatly, and we adults also deserve the same compassion.
I am 56 with long covid and preparing myself. I don’t have much, but made what I do have easy for my son (17) to be ok for a bit.
This suffering has been intense for 4 years and there are no answers at all. But I fought hard and now I am weak.
I just wish those around me would see, I can’t hold on much longer.
This video was what I needed to hear, it inspired me to accept help. I was so independent and this has been the hardest thing thus far. But now that I don’t really have much of A choice, I’m allowing my heart to be open and allowing those that want to help ….. help.
Sounds so silly but it’s real. A friend just brought over a shower chair. I accepted. Another brought food…. I accepted.
It made them happy and it also made me feel so loved.
The iron curtain is coming down and it’s time to allow people in.
💕
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@@danamarie7993 God bless you .And please except all the help you can get , God's blessings.
@@wanderer44-xr5si Christ lives in my heart. Thank you for your sweet response 🩷. I feel the energy. One day at a time and knowing that I and my Father are one makes that delightful. Truly ☮️
@@danamarie7993 Amen! So happy to hear that. See you in heaven one day. God bless you
It's not an iron curtain but a thin veil! I had a near death experience in 1988 & I didn't want to come back but at the last instant before I was all the way through to the other side, I couldn't leave my 2 small children & husband, plus other beloved family members. I was a medical miracle because it wasn't anything the hospital did that healed me instantly!! They took pictures of me there at the University of Alberta Hospital the day I was finally allowed to go home. Had been in hospital for 3 mths with an undiagnosed illness which reduced me to 93 lbs, hardly any hair & it was a tough haul but many beautiful and supernatural experiences the while time I was there. I'm grateful to still be here at 62 and I was only 26 when that happened. I've never forgotten that time & it helps to know that it's the most beautiful and peaceful feeling with that warm, soft and pure love I felt with that light that's so alive!!!!
My mom is 85 and is preparing herself, she has heart failure which is getting worse, she has said many times that she wants to go to sleep and not wake up and that would be a lovely way to go. Right now she is hanging on because she is busy with her greenhouse and growing some tomatoes and cucumbers. Even though gardening is now a struggle, she plods on making her huge garden look beautiful. She has been telling me the names of plants as well as her pet names for them to remember those who have since passed who gave them to her.
Cherish every moment with her so beautiful she’s looking after the garden.
My wife had a peaceful death. After 2 weeks in the hospital, she became more and more unresponsive. Shortly after she was taken off the ventilator she spoke and told us we were loved and then a few hours later she went through the process you have shown in your videos and died after 12 hours.
I just got a phone call from my mother’s hospice nurse this morning that she is rapidly declining & that death will most likely be soon. She has lived a very healthy life until she had a stroke in December (the day after her 100th birthday), but she has struggled with severe anxiety her whole life. Her anxiety has been out of control since the stroke & she was in & out of rehab three times until the decision was made in March to enter hospice. For the last week she has been mostly unresponsive &, although this is so hard, I’m glad she’s finally relieved of her anxiety. I’m 75 years old & grateful, not only for the years I’ve had my mother, but also for this channel & Nurse Julie letting me know what to expect in the days, weeks, or months ahead. Thank you.
I am 65 and in generally good health, my husband is 4 years older and has multiple health issues. We had built our “ dream home” in the mountains of NC but realized it was going to be too much to live our lives out in so we moved closer to family in Fla. and moved into a 1 story, no steps home renovated the master bath to a walk in shower with a seat and enough room for a shower chair if needed and grab bars. Changed out the old toilets for raised to be easier and generally made this our home to grow old ( God willing😊) in. I feel very blessed to be able to have done all these changes before we got too old. I watched my parents in a 3 story townhouse struggle as they aged and it was a real life lesson for me. Your common sense advice is always on point and very much appreciated! Keep up the good work and congrats on your BESTSELLER book 📖 ❤❤❤
I’m 68 with quite a few chronic health conditions, but I’m compos mentis and that’s what counts for me! My husband is 65 in September and still works. We recently downsized, like you, to a smaller property so that when one of us dies the other can manage the house easily. Yes, a large garden was nice, but very time consuming and took a lot of effort. Let’s hope we all have peaceful lives and a peaceful ending as well ❤
❤❤we love our home floor plan but looking at renovation plans now in our late 50’s that will enable us to care for a completely disabled loved one at home!!❤ One floor, changing regular shower/garden tub into a walk in/roll in shower! Have a large formal living/dining area that will easily fit a hospital bed and additional equipment if needed. I’m a nurse determined to never let any of my family members be placed in LTC!! If you’ve actually taken care of family at home post hospital and have any suggestions they are much appreciated!🙏🙏
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
I believe this is one of the top 10 channels on youtube. Everyone should see it.
Thank you!!!!! Thank you! I cared for my mom with the help and love from home hospice. She had an incredibly peaceful death. Her diagnosis was quick and everything happened so god damn fast. She was in hospice for 26 days. I spent 24/7 with her. We talked about everything. I knew exactly what she wanted and I honored that. I know at first her diagnosis was a shocker to her. She had still been working, memory better than anyone. She was also a very private person, and didn’t want people worrying about her. I relocated back East to care for her. As traumatic as it was to accept that my mother/ best friend was dying. I was all in to make the last time of her life here on Earth the very best. She died 2/17/24. The day before her 80th birthday. I am struggling. But I tell myself a 100 times a day that she is at peace, no more pain. Plus I have gotten signs from her.i am just selfish and she was a constant in my daily life that I just want her here. I miss her tremendously! My heart is completely broken. But i am so very honored that i was able to go take care of her and be there. She truly was a perfect person. ❤
I’m so sorry and I am going through the same thing x 2. My mom fell in January and my mom and dad had just finished their wills and their DNR’s, bought cemetery plots and both caskets and gravestone, all finished, so she thought she could relax and enjoy living in their newly renovated home, but sadly that wasn’t God’s plan. I am the eldest of sis, female and the Honeymoon Baby, born exactly 7 days after my mom’s 20th birthday. We talked about everything and we planned on spending our birthdays together in May, she had their caretakers fix my old bedroom up so cute for me, hippie boho gypsy, my mom knew me so well and I knew her better than anyone else, except my husband and kids. She told me in November that we were almost better best friends then mom and daughter, which we were, we but I remember my feelings, I thought,but didn’t say, but I need you as my mom, I didn’t want her upset. She was doing really well, but she was getting warn out caring for my dad, who is deaf and he has dementia/Altziemers, and they were put on at home hospice. Shem my mom fell in January and cracked or broke her femur, my sisters and our only brother were all there and my sisters took her to the ER, she was in so much excruciating pain that they couldn’t do a Cat Scan or MRI, because she couldn’t handle being touched or carried, the doctor put a Fentanyl patch on her & we had to move our parents to a 24/7 hospice care home, near them in Riverside, California, because none of us 6 adult kids live in California, we are spread out to the East Coast up to Washington, next to Canada, so we couldn’t stay there and take care of them. I have been disabled since 2005 from several bad accidents at my workplace. My husband and I arrived in Riverside, about a week after they were moved there. Mom told me not to touch her below the neck, except we could and did hold hands. She was in excruciating pain and I knew from Nurse Julie what I was seeing, my mom was dying and she begged me to stay with her till the end, which I did, watching over my mom and monitoring her food and liquids, she didn’t even want food,, in mid March she refused all food and liquids, and of course I wanted her to have a peaceful death, I knew on Saturday the 16th of March, she had entered the Active Dying phase, she managed to tell me how beautiful I am and how much she loved me, on Friday March 15th, my brother grabbed 1 of my sisters and drove straight to the hospice on Sunday the 17th. Mom passed so peacefully at 7:03pm on March 19th. I thought I was prepared, but I truly wasn’t, the grief has been so difficult, the only thing that makes it ok, is we have our 3rd grandchild due any day, so it’s the circle of life. In May, mine and mom’s birth month, we went to Riverside and visited my dad and I took flowers to moms grave 3 times, but the pain and grief just doesn’t stop, my dear sweet sister in law, told me May 18th, the day before we left for California, that it took a year or two to move through her grief at her parents deaths.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@jimrebr I am so very sorry that you too have been through this. All I can say is it sucks. I cant describe it any other way. Its such a blessing that you were able to be with your wonderful mom in those final days. It also is so painful! I replay those 26 days in my head everyday, thinking… if i did this, would she be here? If i did this? its like a cruel joke our minds play on us…. The pain of facing each day knowing we won’t hear their voices, hold their hands, kiss them, laugh with them, cry with them. Gut wrenching. my mom also had a fentanyl patch… I remember thinking .. holy crap, she is the strongest human i know and the fact that she needed this, and it definitely brought her the pain relief she needed. I held her hand everyday and begged and pleaded with God to heal her. ( silently) The last week she was alive . I begged God to take her, she had accepted she was dying shortly after finding out her diagnosis. I told her I just wanted her here forever, she told me she would never leave me. She was right. I feel her with me, she gives me signs. But i still cry everyday. sometimes for just a few minutes. Other days on and off all day. I wish this was something none of us have to experience. Im also so fortunate and honored that I was with her. Like my husband reminds me, “ you were the last one to hold her hand, kiss her, tell her you loved her” she was at peace and knew it was ok to go. 💕😘 Prayers and hugs to you on this emotional journey!💕
@@susanfitzpatrick3369 I am trying to find a way to respond, I have been crying daily, not long, I just miss my mom constantly and I want to talk with her constantly and I keep having to remind myself she isn’t here, but speak to her, I still do, because I know she can’t hear me and she is always close. I still have her voice in my head. I am praying for Susan!!!❤️
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When is our society going to get over this thing about denying us the ability to exit on our own terms? I am alone with no spouse and no children, and while I am in good health now, I know we all deteriorate sooner or later unless we get hit by a bus or the equivalent. I do not wish to be a burden. When my time comes I want to be able to exit painlessly on my own terms. But we have this underlying idea that suffering before death is something necessary. It comes from a religious framework that not all of us have and should not be imposed on everyone. I have no desire to grab every possible minute here or to be a burden on anyone. If I know death is inevitable, I want to go as quietly and painlessly as possible.
I'm almost in the same boat. I have a spouse but he is not in good health. If he were to go, I'd be pretty much alone. No children or family to speak of, no close friends, either. I agree with everything you said.
@@Bluebird19-ll8su I was widowed 11 years ago. My husband was unable to regain consciousness after a stroke without going into constant seizures. I had to make "The Decision" and he was able to leave this world quietly on palliative sedation. It is hard but with determination building a new life is possible. It won't look like the old one, and it might not even be partnered, but it is possible to live a good life after widowhood. I hope your situation does not come to that.
@@jillcnc Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry to hear about your husband- that must have been a difficult time. Yes, I believe it is possible to live a good life after widowhood. (To be honest, one of my biggest fears would be finances. That is scary to think about, in all honesty). But one day at a time, and cross each bridge when you come to it.
Hi Julie. I’m 47 and I have debilitating nerve pain from a spinal cord injury. I have been given the green light in Switzerland for VAD. It’s brought me such peace. I’m a PA ortho trauma and eas also a body builder
I’m bed bound
I can’t accept living on pain meds for the rest of my life in bed. So I’m grateful for this gift
@@Human0906_ I don’t know you but my heart is with you. Peace and embraces.
@@Human0906_ God be with you always
Sending much love and prayers
Sending much love and prayers
@@Human0906_ God be with you always
My friend died of cancer. A day before He died, He told his wife, "Jesus came to this room but He didn't ask me to go with Him." He died in peace.
My brother in law had a peaceful passing. He deteriorated rapidly after a week of being in hospital. He was too ill to be moved to a hospice. We had to quickly get our heads around it as he never told anyone that his cancer had spread. We found out a week prior to him passing away. I’d experienced enough death to know what to expect. Your videos also helped me a great deal. Thank you for helping me cope ❤❤
I can only hope that when my time comes, someone as beautiful as you is there.
When I was young , I thought I would never grow old / die...... the vanity of youth ....everyday we decay .
I am 81 and watching all your videos trying to learn what to expect as a Christian I know I am going to be with my Lord but I wanted to know all I could.
I just bought your book.
Dementia. My dad is dying from Parkinson’s and Vascular Dementia. So far, it hasn’t been peaceful. He’s on hospice, but sometimes, he fights my mom and brother when they’re changing his diaper. Things are really hard right now. And some terminal conditions are not easy. Dementia is one of them.
I’m so sorry! I can only imagine how hard this is for you and your family. You’re in my thoughts 🩷
Thanks to you I no longer fear dying and death. I'm 73 and in relatively good health. I've set up what I want done should something happen unexpectedly. My loved ones know my wishes, i.e. organ donation, DNR etc. And this is all thanks to you Julie. ❤
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
My dad and husband both were very brave. They didn’t show fear. I hope I’m as brave.
Judging by the first family you talked about, it sounds like the plan for a peaceful death starts by living a good life. His family was willing to be there for him and comfort him.
In our family we have each other's DNR docs. We went though this when my father died 40 years ago. We remember how glad we had those docs back then.
Excellent video and information. Every time I mention death, dying and planning my funeral, my family cringes I feel it is very important not to leave them with all of those plans and decisions when they are least likely to be able to make the clear decisions. I want to spare them from have to go shopping for a casket, a vault, etc.
I have already made and paid (not cheap) for my burial. Direct burial with no embalming, cheap wood casket. If anyone wants to do a memorial service that's on them, not me. BTW, after you pay for your arrangements they give you a wallet card to carry on you. You should also let family and friends know you have done this.
I went through Hospice training several years ago, mainly to support my dearest friend after diagnosed with ALS. I gave it up when he died. i THANK you so very much for your advice, insights, experiences, wisdom, intuitiveness, compassion, etc. Not only are you an inspiration, but you, (maybe unknowingly) set all our minds at ease about our own immortality. thank you, you are a rare gem and an old soul to us all. I turn 71 in a few days, and you inspire me to get back into it, so thank you.
Ordered on audio! My husband and I are in our 60s with medical challenges. Thanks for your reassurance. Both my parents died in hospice care and it was a relief that their passing was gentle and seemed pain- free.
Hi Debbie, how's your day going with you?
Nice guidance for everyone. Getting close to the end now, much of what you're saying is what we preparers are doing. First, you have to come to terms with your mortality...as you adjust mentally..the rest follows.
Hi Carol, how's your day going with you?
I’m in my 30s so I’m not expecting to die anytime soon, but I’m already prepared for when it happens. My wife works with medically donated bodies in a research facility, so we talk about death a lot. I also am a recovering heroin addict and had a few close calls before I quit 6 years ago. I’ve learned through all I’ve been through to go with the flow and live in the moment, so your videos have taught me a lot and have made me realize how prepared I am now at 33. I should be very much ready when the time comes in the ( hopefully very distant future) I’ll be completely at ease and ready to die.
MY DAD REMINDED ME EVERY YEAR TO NOT LET HIM.GET OLD SITTING IN A WHEELCHAIR WITH DROOL.RUNNING DOWN HIS MOUTH WHEN HE HAD SIMPLE OPERATION BUT IN HOSPITAL GOT SEVERE TYPE PNUEMONA HE HAD MADE HIMSELF DNR AND I HONORED THAT SOME COUSINS DIDNT UNDERSTAND I SAID DADS LIVED WITH INTEGRITY LET HIM DIE WITH INTEGRITY. IT HELPED ME AN DAD ENORMOUSLY IM NOW 80 USING A WALKER HOPE STAY IN MY HOME TIL PASS THX TONS HUGE REMINDER ABOUT HOSPICE....IM ON MY OWN
You are wonderful, Julie. I think God placed you here on RUclips for this purpose; to help SO MANY PEOPLE not fear death. You are a comfort. Thank you! ❤
I’m a hospice nurse and had my dad on hospice 2 years after a stroke. The last week of his life was beautiful. We were all with him for that week and we told stories about him, the good and bad. My sister, mom and I saw the change and we were able to hold his hands and love him as he took his last breath. It was very calm and peaceful ❤
The most influential book I ever read was, The Denial of Death. We are the only creatures cursed with the knowledge of our own demise. So much of our dysfunction and unhappiness revolves around trying to submerge that reality as far into the subconscious as possible.
I am so grateful that you are sharing all of your knowledge and love, to help people have a better, more peaceful death. Thank you, Nurse Julie. Many years ago, my dad was dying, I left my husband and 4 sons and went to be there. My mom, sister and I were with him when he died. Thanks to a nurse who saw he needed help, she suctioned liquid from him and he went peacefully and we were with him. I knew, I would do something with that experience, and 10 years later I was a counseling intern at Hospice.
Julie, you've helped so many. Thank you so much. You are an angel.🤗
you are such a WONDERFUL SPIRIT Julie.. I thank you for the videos, and all that you do.
Thank you for all you do. This is a really valuable channel and I hope all the people who need to see this find it.
I just bought my third book! I gave the first 2 books to family of residents in my mothers memory care facility, whos loved one took turns for the worst unexpectedly ( although caregiving these days at memory care facilities absolutely sucks). The 3rd one is for me to read to prepare for my 93 year old mothers departure once she is ready to go. I have a wonderful inpatient hospice facility I will move her to once she qualifies. My goal is to make her death beautiful and her transition seamless. It has been a long hard journey for her to get here ( 13th year of dementia). Thank you for sharing your wisdom on the subject.
My dad passed beautifully and peacefully last May. 🥹
After a devastating diagnosis he chose MAiD ( Medical Assistance in Dying 🇨🇦).
This gifted us with meaningful intentional time with him: no words left unsaid 💙.
We held him until his final breath and affirmed our love as he passed into eternity.
His wishes were fulfilled and he did not suffer.
Bittersweet…..🙏
I hear ya..🙏🏼🩵🙏🏼🩵🙏🏼
I'm in my late 60s' and take care of both my parents. Mom 94, on palliative care, dad, 96, bedbound and on hospice. I'm spending 5-6 hours at their home, 7 days a week. These videos are so very helpful. Thank you Julie.
Thank you for this channel. It showed up in my feed and I am glad. 4 years ago my parents died within 3 weeks at home and in a palliative hospital before Covid fortunately . I spent his last night with my father in the clinic and he was very agitated which was scary. I wish I had known about this. He was able to say good bye with looks and touches of love but it was hard that he could not speak any more in the end and was breathing with so much effort. Your descriptions were true and I wish we had known before. I subscribe and thank you from Germany
Julie, I love what you're doing. It iyour calling. calling. My mother passed away, many years ago, Ina hospice facility. It was a loving experience for most of my family, but not so much for one member, the one who couldn't let go and face the change. It seems the more adaptable we are in life, our coping skills seem to to strengthen. Thank you, and all the hospice caregivers out there. You're angels.❤❤❤
GOD bless you. You will never know the powerful POSITIVE impact that you have had on your viewers. You are truly an Angel among us. Your videos are powerful, enlightening, compassionate and straight to the point...Death can be very scary for most folks...YOU, give it depth, perspective, information and love...WE are blessed to have you
I remember as a tween (60 some years ago) having a nurse come to my Camp Fire Girls group and talk about menstruating and coming home with a booklet to read over later. Lots of booklets, lots of interesting lectures since then. Now I'm learning about another milestone, stepping across the rainbow! Thank you, Julia, for these videos!
Thank you for sharing all the information!
My grandfather died of lung cancer. The whole family nursed him at home and he was taking oral painkillers until his last day, when he became unable to swallow the pills. The doctor was called to administer IV pain meds, but took too long to get there. My grandfather, the manliest most stoic man I have ever known, died screaming in pain.
I’m so sorry about his death, may God comfort you. I hope he has found peace on the other side of the veil…❤
I'm so sorry to hear what you all went through. May you be at peace now and always.
I have powdered tablets when IV meds weren't available and swallowing them wasn't an option, it's gritty but better than nothing. I'm sorry he passed in such distress!
Thank you Julie.
You are the best in talking about hospice thingy.
You have and will be helping many many people facing death.
I am pretty sure your name is on that book of life for heaven.
Blessings from LA.
My father in-law is in his last weeks of life 😞your videos are such a gift and so much education.Even though I have been a professional caregiver for 15 years you are a blessing to myself and my partner in this time where after caring for him for the past 2 years you really are making such a difference in our life as we feel empowered too give him the best death possible 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼thank you thank you thank you nurse Julie ❤️
The thing that worries me about death is not really the physical pain side of things but more the mental and emotional side! Any advice or thoughts on this? Your videos are Amazing! May God/the universe bless you!🙏🤗🌟
I hear you! 😥♥️
This makes so much sense.
That must have been so comforting for that man to have his family respond in such a loving, accepting way. 🥰
Thank you Julie, I finished reading your book yesterday and the timing has been perfect. She is in assisted living and I found a good one. I am relieved of caring for her basic needs. This is hard and sad but it is ok, I believe when you say our bodies know how to die. Your book is required reading for my family so I can exit in peace. God be with you always.
My husband and I have made prearrangements for our death we already purchased our plot at the cemetery, our headstone, opening and closing of the gravesite twice. The only thing we need to do is cremations of our earthly bodies. For the most part we are set to go. Oh and the most important part is excepting & acknowledging that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, that is number one. I am heaven bound.
Hi Roberta, how's your day going with you?
Thank you. This was so comforting. I'm terminally ill and have been planning. I have my songs picked and soon I'll be living near my grandson. I recently came to the conclusion that I no longer can take 100% care of myself all the time. I can still live independently but I need close family nearby. I'm not so much planning my death but my transition.
Julie, i just want to thank you, my mother died this Monday, and because i have watched and listened to you, i was more clear to understand what was happening, and in truth it hurts and i have tears, i feel more at ease, and got to be there as she took her last breath, Thankyou ❤️
I want you with me when I go. I’m ready but in great health. At 83. And from long life guess it will be a while. Thank you so much for your info.
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
Thank you Julie. You have confirmed what I have felt for years, especially after watching my husband die. I have learned a lot from your videos and am now going to order your book so that my family can read it. You are an angel!
Julie....you are so wonderful. Love your videos. You are doing God's work.
Death is a portal. We will all be called home someday. Al I can say is...folks need to embrace it. Death is heavenly. Thank you.
Hi Julie! You know, I´m gonna be 66 this Aug. 19th and I´m alone with my two doggies. I do have a sister and two sons but I´ve been put into "estrangement" by them, so very little contact if any. What I did a few years ago was prepare a letter with very specific instructions for if / when I become either unable to communicate (say by stroke) or die. I put it in an envelope and placed it where everyone can see. Preparing is everything! P.S. I also recorded my voice with a post-mortem joke. The sound of my voice as if I were pounding from inside the casket saying "Hey! It´s tight in here! Let me out! Hahahaha
Nurse Julie, you speak the truth!
My friend who was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer, she really prepared herself and family for her death. She was very open with conversations about her death. One day, she and friends planned to go to lunch but before we had to attend catholic Mass at her church even if you weren't catholic. She said, "I want you all to attend my funeral here in this church, know where where it is!"
She talked about death, as matter of fact. One day, when we visited her at home, she was rather excited to show use her funeral urn to be used for her ashes.
She loved jigsaw puzzles, and completed a puzzle for each of her close family members to frame and display. She was an awesome person and a retired hospice nurse, I worked with who really lived her life till she died.
She was a blessing, and prepared for her death❤
Hi Cheryl, how's your day going with you?
My family did this for my mother. We tied up her trust paperwork, let friends come say goodbye and stayed in room/bed around the clock until she transitioned. The whole process took 3 weeks. It was a beautiful ending. No fighting afterwards either!
Thank you for this special video. I’m almost 72 and my husband 77 and it could be possible I’m left behind. I don’t have a family (I haven’t heard or seen my two daughters for 22 years). I’ll be alone dying. But I know I’ll die if someone is there or not. The idea with the boat on an ocean is beautiful. I’ve sometimes thought about it when I couldn’t sleep or lying on a soft cloud and the ocean is beneath me and I’m just drifting away. I won’t fight, I’ve lived my life and when the time comes I’ll just go alone the same way I once came.
Oh, I hope you are OK, I don't know what happened with your daughters but I do hope you can have peace 😥💓
Im going through palliative care with my Dad... I cant thank you enough Julie for this most valuable information about something that some many find it hard to talk about. Thank u for doing what you do and helping me a lot through this time
Have you ever seen a death from PML or MS related complications? If so, would you please consider making a video about them? Thank you. ❤
You are very soothing. Just bought your book. Thank you.
I’m In England and I’ve just ordered your book, it sounds as if it might be really helpful to me. I’m 67 and also find comforting the people and pets that have gone before me. I would love to see them again, but am happy just to be the same dust that they are.
This is a tremendously encouraging and insightful video. I wish everyone would watch it. Thank you, Julie!
You are fantastic. I wish there were more caregivers like you!!
Amen 🙏 DENIAL is a killer. Some 20 veterans neighbors and friends here at Patriot Place have left feet first, expired or to the hospital.
PRIDE is up there, too. So many bad ☠.
I'm empowered by my health choices and your channel. Age 69.🤞🙏
A beautiful educational video !❤
Thank you so much for your guidance
It made this process as peaceful as possible
We were able to be with him and say the right things thanks to your guidance
I will forever be grateful for you being there for us
I relied on everything you said to do
Thanks again
I appreciate your videos as my mom is in this process. The communication to us as a family is very poor so we're fumbling along learning this as we go. Thank you.
this world needs more angels like you. i hope you know how much we all need your help.
I love U nurse Julie,you are so animated and easy to understand...thank you
Cant afford your book , I live on a fixed income and every penney matters but thank you for some great info. I did find 2 Dr's to help me with Death with dignity here in VT, I have just started Hospice. Thank you for all you do.
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
When, Where who knows cept GOD. I am blood bought and born again in JESUS so no issues on the passing from this body / life when Jesus says " Come Home Shannon". I know people who went out laughing and yelling " Its beautiful here beautiful" and swosh gone❤
I am 60 and having will and power of attorney set up. I am in good health but pre-planning.
So have I, at 66 years of age.
My son was the caregiver for his father for the last 10 years of his life. We had been divorced for years. In the last year or so he had dementia and unfortunately the end was not peaceful. My son was somewhat traumatized by the bad ending and worried that he hadn't done enough for his dad. He did a great job and I keep telling him that. Two years later he is moving on with life and I am glad.
Hi Pat, how's your day going with you?
Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom with compassion and honesty. Keep up the great work!!! 🙏👍🏼💞
Thankyou for sharing this. I have been planning for death and learning all that I can. My husband and I are both fighting illness. Im at peace and ready to see Jesus. I trying to help others prepare too. ❤
Yes, i did to my dad. He was with some alzheimer's, and also in a pseudocomatose state because of liver and pancreatic cancer. I told him many nice things he deserved to hear. I think he did. I found it very difficult to tell him as emotions would make me cry and I tried to control myself. It was a bit scary and profoundly sad but I am so glad I told him all those nice things. I would have taken years to tell him all the nice things I wanted him to hear. So I was left a bit with a "I should have told him more".. but then I recall the years of Alzheimer's how many times I told him how much I loved him.
I wish yes I visited him even more, but I am glad I did as often as I could find energy and financial means to do so (as I lived in another country).
I still love him. i wish to lead my life in a way at least I will be remembered as a person who loved others, as my father was capable of doing.
Thanks, Julie. Your information has helped me. Hospice is now helping me. My physical life is getting closer to the finish. After a period of sleep, there will be a Resurrection. Something to look forward to! Be comforted, yourself, when it's your turn. Warm greetings, Great Gram Dara Schneider
I’m 60, single, with no family, and in poor health. Death terrifies me since I will die alone.
You are not alone "Jehovah God "will be there every step of way !! Pray and accept Jehovah God as your Savior and call on him!! Trust me you will go peaceful my spirit told me to tell you this!! Most of us don't won't to go but we leave this Earth to be in Paradise like Jesus told The thief on th Cross!! May u your journey be smooth and peaceful!! Praying for you 🙏🏾
Excellent video and information. Every time I mention death, dying, or planning
Excellent content and presentation of almost every piece of knowledge that we need to face our own death or the death of loved ones. Thank you, Julie, you are a saint👏👏👏
Thank you, I really appreciate this. Something I need to work on. So afraid of death , I want to outlive my cats. Not sure about burial issues. I’m 70, young. 😢😢❤❤😊
This is outstanding! I want to see a greater death acceptance in our society. Makes it so much easier for everyone. A friend of mine was handed a book the day before she died. If we have an understanding of the whole death process during the entirety of our lives, then we and our loved ones will be in a more understanding frame of mind when the time comes.
Hi Julie! My dear family members who have passed before me have all waited until we left their side and then they died peacefully with the exception of my father and fortunately my sister was with him. Is this something that’s common as well? I’ve always wondered. this is the first video I’ve seen you do and I will continue to watch more because, I worked in healthcare for 30 years and I agree with everything you’ve said and I have encouraged family members to do these things prior to passing. Thank you for sharing!
Love all your videos. This one was especially helpful. Great job!
You are one of the people in this world who are bringers of peace. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this work that you are doing, so well and so compassionately. 🙏🏻
This is great advice! My mom is in Hospice, and will probably pass this week. What you describe in being prepared is on point. My mom never planned for this, and always did everything herself so Hospice has been difficult for her and she is fighting it all the way.
Julie, this is such an important video. Being organized and prepared eases the way for us. I will be writing my obituary soon. Everything else is organized. Thank you very much.
A peaceful death = when one knows they are a good person and have a clear conscience with little regrets. Surrounded by someone whom they matter to with compassion and love.
What a helpful commentary! Thank you for this sensitive, direct talk . Very helpful!
Since I will most likely go first due to medical issues; I have helped my husband ease into life without me and told him my wishes. We have documents that will back all of this up. He gets upset easily so I am trying to ease his burden as to what to do and how to do it. I have watched several of your videos and greatly appreciated the one as to a as painless death as possible. Thank you.
Julie, THAT was the best video, IMHO, that I have seen. It was real, it was honest, it was well presented! Thank you!
What would you add for Alzheimer's / dementia deaths?
My mom has always been bold in the face of adversity and planning for her death was a no-brainer. First thing she did when I came home was take me to the lawyer to create plans. But very soon it was clear that she, like her mother and siblings, was likely to be felled by Alzheimer's. She is still very much herself (yep, even in late stages), but with *greatly* diminished capacity and living mostly in the decades of her youth. She's been on hospice 3 times in the last 6 years, but this time seems like the "real" time. How do I help her? I absolutely adore her, I NEVER want to lose her, ... but ... I want to give her the best death I can. Just like she gave me the best life she could.