Yeah. It’s surprising how fast you can build FB up again with only the people you trust and want on there. You aren’t missing out on anything at all if you delete your FB
"God didn't bring me and Sutton together until I was prepared." Straight wisdom right there. People get caught up in wanting relationships now, not realizing that God's making us wait so that we can work on being the best version of ourselves for that special person.
I don't think I believe this. What does the best version of yourself mean? And when is that? The moment you think you're your best version of yourself, something will come along and show you your flaws. And I don't say that from a place of cynicism. I think you meet someone and you work with who you both are with where you're both at. You can stay single to work on becoming your best self all you want but then you meet someone and that stuff becomes undone. You can wait till you've dealt with that sin or that attitude or earned enough money or advanced in your career or WHATEVER...then life happens and you discover more about yourself. There is no right time. You both meet. With all your hopes, excitement, lust and fantasies. Plus all of your wounds and garbage. Then together, your navigate this UNCHARTED territory called a new relationship.
I'm realizing that now ..I just went through a divorce and I wanted it so bad to be life long but it was very unhealthy. But I'm learning you're not in control God is you just have to obey God and listen
Based on your comment, I’m going to marry someone REALLY fabulous because I’m 57, and still haven’t found Mr. Right!!! 😢😅 I was 47 in the picture with my twins, having gratefully gotten out of marriage to a person who WASN’T ready!! I just wish they had a father. 😢
Omg, if my man got mad about me calling him ding dong we wouldn't be together. It's a word that I use all the time, but not in a mean or bad way. I also thought I was the only person who used that word lol I've never heard anyone call someone a ding dong. Lol u guys are cute.
Andreea Popescu A man who truly loves God & was already celibate for himself & God is who u should look for. If he already loves God & follows his commands u won’t believe how much he’ll honor u
I know. A husband should be willing to lay his life down like Christ gave his life for the church and he is clinging on to a FB account where it puts him in jeopardy of seeing naked women. That’s really selfish and not what Jesus would do-AT ALL. It’s because he’s young.. as he matures and marriage makes him less selfish hopefully he will see that is just completely unacceptable. That wouldn’t slide with most married women-Christian or otherwise.
Your wife is absolutely right!!! From a girl who’s been married 26 years. That is a golden rule in our relationship that we don’t nurture relationships from the opposite sex whether that is talking in a serious way with anyone other than your spouse. That is a great way to safeguard your heart and your marriage
I completely agree with deleting social media! I've deleted my personal accounts because there is just so much debauchery and toxicity on it and it's also a distraction and an open door for darkness to enter. Not worth it! Guard your eye and ear gates, always
On our wedding day (we got married at our local beach) the forecast said rain all day, but it didn't rain until literally midnight. He made sure that we had perfect weather all day. So amazing the "little" things God will do for us!
What he says: "Hey another naked girl popped up on my facebook...but I really don't want to delete and restart my account. What she hears: "Hey another naked girl popped up on my facebook, but the insecurity and lack of safety it's making you feel in our marriage, isn't a big enough deal for me to delete and restart my account. Result = a slow and steady loss of trust and respect. ouch!
@@dontliveinfear.7640 Not professionally, but I have mentored quite a few people. I know my comment was pretty blunt/straight forward but he just wasn't getting why it was such a big deal. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is
@@cearax3 I think he mentioned once that before he and Sutton were together he was into pornography. As far as other women now, I agree. Someone once told me that if a person in a relationship does anything that hurts their partner, they are wrong and need to right that wrong immediately. I agree, especially with his past, he should delete his FB and IG and start over. My opinion? These are triggers for him. JMO
Delete facebook and start over with only friends you know. It seems like the enemy is taking an advantage of your current facebook set up to attack your marriage.
You guys are great !! Yes we’re with you Sutton , delete that Facebook. My husband and I also decided not to talk to people of the opposite sex just because emotional connections can happen accidentally, Satan is so crafty. My home church leader , who’s much older than me, only talks to me or counsels me with my his wife and my husband present just to be safe. Wish you two the best !!
So you're going to ignore 50 percent of the population for the rest of your life? That doesn't sound healthy or rational. Good luck with a marriage built on distrust of each other
Was kinda weird, him saying that. Like, I would lose respect if my father, a married man, were reaching out to other females. Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. The lack of boundaries today is incredible. This marriage won't last long without the proper use of boundaries, and the guy trying to break those while his wife abides by them. Idk, this was weird, tbh. Please be more serious about guarding your marriage for your child's sake, at least.
Sarah Tucker I didn’t say ignoring the opposite sex , I meant just not trying to reach out privately or continuing a private conversation unless completely necessary for school or work purposes, etc. Everyone has a boundary of what works for them and each person knows their own heart, my husband and I have been in different situations and have seen Satan try to ruin our marriage in different ways and we decided that this boundary is best for us and I encourage it for others.
Nancee Suber our church actually talked about that one time and they said if you can’t come to an agreement about the seat up or down then you should both close the lid that way you are both having to adjust and it’s not just one person getting their way 😉
Nate and Sutton thats good i like that idea. I really hate when the boyfriend visits and i have to keep putting down the seat. And i hate pee on the floor too especially when i go in to the toilet in bare feet!!
Nate and Sutton not to mention when you flush with the lid up all that stuff flies around the bathroom and onto your tooth brush!!! If that is not reason enough to close the lid idk what else you need
1. Nate delete your Facebook account. 2. Sutton, let Nate know where you are going when you leave the house. 3. Nate, you have to forsake all others (those female friends) that is how you honor Sutton.
Awww Sutton you are more than enough! If you want to talk to other people, you guys should find a small group or community of people you connect with and have them over. Of you guys get in fights always because you are with each other every second try something new and expand yourselves in meeting new people. God can speak through friends in so many ways and it’s beautiful!
This is so relatable. The TV situation for sure. We did away with social media while dating and I think it has benefited us greatly. We just got married in May so we are working through our first year. :)
Nate and Sutton, you are brilliant!!! Thank you for this video 😊 I deactivated Facebook a few years ago. Some people said I’m not logical and impractical because that’s the way to stay connected to friends. I disagree on this, there are emails and other ways of communication that does not involve unnecessary contents that Facebook (or instagram) has. I agree with Sutton! *raised both hands* In my husband prayer list I also wrote down “not social media enthusiast”. So glad to hear (and to read) that there are other people with the same opinion on this issue!❤️ (and yes preparation over promise! By quitting Facebook is one of them)
Y’all are so genuine and intentional with each other and in sharing the love of Jesus and what He’s done and is doing through y’all! I’m grateful for y’all and for your channel! 💗✨
The way you described how showing honor looks like kind of opened my eyes. Thank you! Never really thought what showing honor actually means and how I should love like that.
I think when you are in a relationship with your husband /wife, you should feel so satisfied by only having their company and so fulfilled that you don't need a "friend" of the opposite gender. I think Sutton is 100% right. Always remember when fighting with your spouse it is important not to be against each other you two are on the same team with a common goal of being happy together and so both parties should be willing to compromise and usually it should be the person who is doing something which makes the other unhappy no matter how minor they think it is especially if it's something that doesn't really matter like Facebook.
What. Are you people serious? What’s wrong with a friend of the opposite sex? Ya’ll are so sexually repressed this seems unfathomable but out here in the real world it’s quite healthy to have lots of friends of both genders regardless of relationship status. You guys really ditch all your friends when you get in a relationship? So unhealthy co dependent and toxic. Just WOW.
I think that it's amazing that you guys want to be open about these fights, and that Nate aims to actively work on himself so that the fights wouldn't occur in the first place. My sister has her FB and her husband deleted his because of similar fights... my brother in law said that after he deleted his social media... their relationship soared and their marriage strengthened :))
I love that you guys uploads twice a week! It’s so fun listening to you guys while I clean or work on homework. Have you guys considered doing a podcast?
I love how he sits on the toilet in the middle of the night just to avoid her yelling at him for missing. Now that’s true compromise. The love is real!!❤️
I feel so blessed coming across your videos. I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and we haven’t stopped talking about our faith in God for the past 3 days. We have started to pray together over the phone and sharing that kind of conversation to your partner brings so much bliss. On a side note, Nate has strong resemblance with Jesus in akiane’s Prince of peace painting❤️
I deleted my Facebook from high school and started over. Also being that divorce rates are so high I wouldn’t talk to other guys or girls just because it opens the door to start confiding in that friend and then could lead to catching feelings...so for this one I’m with Sutton:)
Stacy Moore I’m with her too on the “talking” with other girls. It’s a big no. I’ve been married 19 years please take this advice guys and girls. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m in my forty’s in a second marriage. I’m learning and laughing whit your videos. I wanted everything to perfect in my first marriage that I never had patience at all whit him. I blamed him for everything but now I recognize that I screwed up as well. After 5 years of marriage, I became a single mother of two 😩, struggling for 10 years but God is faithful and never let me down. I’m married for second time but this time I’m putting myself in God’s hands every day so I’ll be lead by him to love my husband in good and bad until God call us to his presence.
Your videos help me so much! Would you please make more advice videos about the struggles of finding a christian partner and how to deal with the frustration of waiting for God's timing? I love seeing all the happy christians couples, it's just hard not knowing if it's going to happen for me.
Dont wanna get to in depth but my husband came with baggage i didnt know about, having anger because his dad wasnt in his life and it only showed up wen we had our son....anyway things are looking up and ive seen God answering prayers. But i agree with Nate at the end in his little talk to guys.....all i can say is God bless yall!!!!!! 🙏💜🙏💜🙏
YES! Love the PSA about honoring women. I wish there were more men who felt and acted that way. Women are meant to be loved and honored, not consumed and disrespected.
I’m getting married on October 12th 2019 and my fiancé Josh is surprising me where we are going for our honeymoon! We are going somewhere warm and i need a passport!! First time out of the US
Thank you for being so open and honest! Your video gives a good glimpse of what so many couples deal with nowadays. Loved the "honoring" and "learning the apology language" parts. ❤ As for Facebook stuff and friends of the opposite sex, tread very carefully! Way better to let go of a page, or a few old numbers, and start over than to cause unnecessary pain or strife in your marriage. You can't put a price on the comfort peace or trust bring to a relationship... it's too precious! 🙏❤ And so are you guys.
Please make a video about what you wish you would have known, or advice you would have given your younger self. Just starting my journey with faith, and I look to you as such an incredible example!
Totally delete Facebook and make a new one it’s even better because now you’ll know for sure who you accepting. Also I personally wouldn’t like my future husband talking to other girls or wanting to know the life of other women. I’ll I can do is pray for your relationship and have talk to your life personally. God Bless you two and thank you for making this videos and being so open about everything it is really appreciated!
But surely this means your relationship is built on distrust and insecurity? My wife and I talk open and honestly if one of us gets jealous about other friends or new people we meet. Then we can address what's making us feel insecure to work on making our marriage stronger. We pray to God and ask that he helps us to overcome these irrational thoughts which aren't usually based on reality
I've been experiencing a period of thunderstorm in my life, and you guys' message have been a beam of light. Im serious, so thank you so much - its been really really great for me yours videos and sharing in my walk to pursue purity and being set free of all my past :)
I kinda loved when Nate said he forgives/forgets, so he couldn’t think of anything Sutton does 😊 that’s definitely a guy thing. We women aren’t intentionally tallying everything you do, we just feel like everything is connected and we process information that way... I liked that Nate was really vulnerable sharing that Sutton hurt his feelings when she left abruptly without saying she’d be back. Instead of laughing, she should soothe his anxiety ❤️ that’s a legit need. This is a beautiful couple. I appreciate the honesty of this video. It’s so real!
I rarely scroll. I quit accepting friend requests on Facebook. Turned our t.v. off three years ago. My parents taught us to respect our future spouses.
I think it is normal to talk or look at other man and woman if you are in a relationship. I mean you trust each other enough to not cheat or whatever. If you really like/ love your partner, you would not be interested in someone else, in that way. It will make you more confident if you allow your partner to do so. Lovely chanel!
This is a hugeee confirmation for me. I am engaged and my fiancé and I will sometimes have this fight. Some of my friends/peers claim that I am self conscious and make me feel like a crazy person for thinking that we should veer our eyes from inappropriate things. Glad to hear we are not the only couple who has these fights, also thanks for not making me think I’m crazy 😬
To help with the issue of peeing on the floor, I recommend installing a toilet bowl light that has a light sensor. One can be found on Amazon for less than $30
married 7years here!we don't really fight but use the silent treatment too often.while dating I called him crazy and he was offended!and yea guys don't remember stuff:)
U guys show little miracles God does relating to ur marriageThere’s more miracles to come if u protect it from every angle (dont do anything so that someone exposes u on RUclips be blameless). Imagine how u can share u the fruits of keeping minds pure and honoring them! Ur guys advice about out doing the other in kindness has made my marriage so much sweeter.
Ya'll are soo cute! Totally, agree about preparing for marriage. Asking you all to please pray divine protection and peace for those of us potentially dealing with Hurricane Dorian in the Sunshine State. Tfs
I love your videos!! You guys are such a beautiful couple and I am encouraged by your love for the Lord and how you live for Him ♥️ P.S. I’m with Sutton. Delete Facebook.
Love your videos and your authenticity! I like this quote, “You can’t argue with a humble person.” I would delete Facebook and start over with only your male friends. I don’t think married couples need to have friendships with the opposite sex (unless you’re always meeting together as a couple). Trust is fragile and it’s the foundation of any healthy marriage so I believe it’s important to put safeguards around social media use. (I am speaking from personal experience.)
I genuinely love how vulnerable and honest you both are! Thank you Nate and Sutton for sharing, loving and remaining open to learn and unlearn. So inspired by your marriage and will keep praying you up❤️
Prepare for your marriage! Yes! Soo good, in that prep stage now lol very thankful for it tho! Going through inner healing and learning more about relationships, friendships, and communication...learning a lot! So good to set yourself up for success and honor! Amen
Yes, seriously. Just make a new Facebook. Your heart, mind, and marriage, and Sutton's heart, mind and sanity (among other things) are worth SO so much more than the simple effort of just quickly making a new Facebook.
Happy wife, happy life. She is always right even when she is not. If she wants you to put the seat down or sit when peeing then do it. If you treat your woman good she will treat you good. May God bless you both.😁
What’s wrong with friends that aren’t the same gender? Shouldn’t we love everyone equally and not disclude them because of the possibility that they might tempt us.
Once again thank you Nate and Sutton. Thanks for the tip. HONOR, and the illustration you gave just made it more clear how simple is to Honor my spouse. Be blessed much.. LOVE FROM RWANDA😘😇
Love you guys! My husband, Chris, and I will be married for 9 years this year, with our little baby on the way in November. Still, I find your advice so profound and wise because it is based on Scripture. Keep up the wonderful way you are ministering to and mentoring other people. You are a true inspiration! Blessings and love in Christ. Yolande, South Africa
Never heard of the apology language - thanks for sharing about that! For some people, simply saying "sorry" is genuinely enough. So no wonder couples can remain in conflict bc the apology wasn't received well.
Love this video 😍 I can totally relate to these moments you've been through, me and my fiance just got engaged but we've had some couple of fights like this, I also had the tendency to just get up and leave and it made him really sad and angry because he felt like I was giving up on us, and I try not to do that anymore, instead we try to take a deep breathe and talk to each other about how we feel and what has bothered us and how we can fix this for the future while maintaining eye contact because it really helps and reminds us that we don't fight against each other, but together against a problem ❤️
No matter how much interest you have in talking to someone else, it’s not worth fighting with your spouse. Cause your spouse is with you your whole life. And that other person is just someone random you used to know in your past.
DELETE FACEBOOK and start over
Yeah. It’s surprising how fast you can build FB up again with only the people you trust and want on there. You aren’t missing out on anything at all if you delete your FB
133 people agree😂
Delete it, Nate!!! Listen to your wife!!
absolutelyy
You two are so cute together!!! Love the way you look at and smile at each other.
Have you tried vidangel?
"God didn't bring me and Sutton together until I was prepared." Straight wisdom right there. People get caught up in wanting relationships now, not realizing that God's making us wait so that we can work on being the best version of ourselves for that special person.
I don't think I believe this. What does the best version of yourself mean? And when is that? The moment you think you're your best version of yourself, something will come along and show you your flaws. And I don't say that from a place of cynicism. I think you meet someone and you work with who you both are with where you're both at. You can stay single to work on becoming your best self all you want but then you meet someone and that stuff becomes undone.
You can wait till you've dealt with that sin or that attitude or earned enough money or advanced in your career or WHATEVER...then life happens and you discover more about yourself. There is no right time. You both meet. With all your hopes, excitement, lust and fantasies. Plus all of your wounds and garbage. Then together, your navigate this UNCHARTED territory called a new relationship.
Thank you so much
I'm realizing that now ..I just went through a divorce and I wanted it so bad to be life long but it was very unhealthy. But I'm learning you're not in control God is you just have to obey God and listen
Based on your comment, I’m going to marry someone REALLY fabulous because I’m 57, and still haven’t found Mr. Right!!! 😢😅 I was 47 in the picture with my twins, having gratefully gotten out of marriage to a person who WASN’T ready!!
I just wish they had a father. 😢
@@jccarty1477 Uh-oh, all your wisdom and logic just complicated, and maybe ruined, Nate’s comment! 😮 …now we have to consider another possibility! 😮
other couples’ fights: “they cheated on me”
sutton and nate’s fights: “she called me a ding dong”
Evelyne Y 😂😂
😂😂😂
Yelitza Ortiz 😂 the horror!
Omg, if my man got mad about me calling him ding dong we wouldn't be together. It's a word that I use all the time, but not in a mean or bad way. I also thought I was the only person who used that word lol I've never heard anyone call someone a ding dong. Lol u guys are cute.
So true!!
I heard once a thing that might help someone here: ‘it’s better to lose an argument than a person.’
God bless from Croatia!
Great advice. Simular advice from my mom, "pick your fights wisely."
Bok i tebi! :)
I am also from Croatia! From Zagreb!
Big kisses from Croatia, Zagreb❤️
Pozdrav iz Splita
Delete Facebook. Not worth the agony plus you have a beautiful marriage to protect from outside influences.
I just discovered you guys a few days ago and now I really want to save myself for marriage :)
Yung Ryn Yayy 🙌🏼 you won't regret it!
best decision you will ever make! 2 years celibate and i don't regret it
Yes sis! Do it, it’ll be hard but worth it
Andreea Popescu A man who truly loves God & was already celibate for himself & God is who u should look for. If he already loves God & follows his commands u won’t believe how much he’ll honor u
sameeee
If Nate has 5000 friends on Facebook, Sutton can’t sit there and sort through all of them. Start over bro!
Books Not Detention haha it is A LOT!
It’s a wonderful advice from your wife. Pls take it.🙏
I know. A husband should be willing to lay his life down like Christ gave his life for the church and he is clinging on to a FB account where it puts him in jeopardy of seeing naked women. That’s really selfish and not what Jesus would do-AT ALL. It’s because he’s young.. as he matures and marriage makes him less selfish hopefully he will see that is just completely unacceptable. That wouldn’t slide with most married women-Christian or otherwise.
Amen!
"the secret to a happy marriage: two good forgivers" - Ruth Graham . Always loved her and her husband's words of wisdom
Delete, Delete, Delete. The enemy is trying (and already has) to cause problems in your marriage. Simple.
Your wife is absolutely right!!! From a girl who’s been married 26 years. That is a golden rule in our relationship that we don’t nurture relationships from the opposite sex whether that is talking in a serious way with anyone other than your spouse. That is a great way to safeguard your heart and your marriage
Thank you for being vulnerable. I can tell that regardless of the fights, you guys are madly in love with one another.
Elegant Anne very true ☝🏼
I completely agree with deleting social media! I've deleted my personal accounts because there is just so much debauchery and toxicity on it and it's also a distraction and an open door for darkness to enter. Not worth it! Guard your eye and ear gates, always
Elena Bee RUclips is still social media, you know?
On our wedding day (we got married at our local beach) the forecast said rain all day, but it didn't rain until literally midnight. He made sure that we had perfect weather all day. So amazing the "little" things God will do for us!
What he says: "Hey another naked girl popped up on my facebook...but I really don't want to delete and restart my account.
What she hears: "Hey another naked girl popped up on my facebook, but the insecurity and lack of safety it's making you feel in our marriage, isn't a big enough deal for me to delete and restart my account.
Result = a slow and steady loss of trust and respect. ouch!
Dang, are you a therapist?
@@dontliveinfear.7640 Not professionally, but I have mentored quite a few people. I know my comment was pretty blunt/straight forward but he just wasn't getting why it was such a big deal. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is
Agreed!! Amazing to me that after four years he still didn’t come to that conclusion...
@@yomomma3345 I really like Nate and Sutton, but I get the feeling that he has a BIG problem with lusting after women.
@@cearax3 I think he mentioned once that before he and Sutton were together he was into pornography. As far as other women now, I agree. Someone once told me that if a person in a relationship does anything that hurts their partner, they are wrong and need to right that wrong immediately. I agree, especially with his past, he should delete his FB and IG and start over. My opinion? These are triggers for him. JMO
I'm with Sutton. Start over!!!!
Delete facebook and start over with only friends you know. It seems like the enemy is taking an advantage of your current facebook set up to attack your marriage.
Yes! Exactly. Don't give the Devil a foothold.
That's exactly how he works.
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Absolutely! The enemy hates covenant!!
delete facebook and then don't get another one, that's better advice. i got rid of fb almost 2 years ago one of the best decisions ever
Yes, it’s just Facebook, gotta decide what’s more important..
Yes Facebook can be evil. U r not crazy. But godly. Praise God.
You guys are great !! Yes we’re with you Sutton , delete that Facebook. My husband and I also decided not to talk to people of the opposite sex just because emotional connections can happen accidentally, Satan is so crafty. My home church leader , who’s much older than me, only talks to me or counsels me with my his wife and my husband present just to be safe. Wish you two the best !!
luda sychenko totally agree!
So you're going to ignore 50 percent of the population for the rest of your life? That doesn't sound healthy or rational. Good luck with a marriage built on distrust of each other
@@sfrancies87 Agree with you. I have male friends and my man doesn't mind or worry because we love and trust each other
Was kinda weird, him saying that. Like, I would lose respect if my father, a married man, were reaching out to other females. Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. The lack of boundaries today is incredible. This marriage won't last long without the proper use of boundaries, and the guy trying to break those while his wife abides by them. Idk, this was weird, tbh. Please be more serious about guarding your marriage for your child's sake, at least.
Sarah Tucker I didn’t say ignoring the opposite sex , I meant just not trying to reach out privately or continuing a private conversation unless completely necessary for school or work purposes, etc. Everyone has a boundary of what works for them and each person knows their own heart, my husband and I have been in different situations and have seen Satan try to ruin our marriage in different ways and we decided that this boundary is best for us and I encourage it for others.
When Nate said “I get sad when she leaves” I said our loud -“aw that’s cute” and then Sutton said it immediately after 😂
Can you both do a video for beginners in their walk with Jesus?
Addy Dodd great idea!
I would love this!
Yessss!
Yes we will
I think that's a great suggestion!
Ive been married for 40 years and I love my husband but we still fight about him peeing on the floor and toliet and putting the lid down.... ughhhhh!
Nancee Suber our church actually talked about that one time and they said if you can’t come to an agreement about the seat up or down then you should both close the lid that way you are both having to adjust and it’s not just one person getting their way 😉
Nate and Sutton thats good i like that idea. I really hate when the boyfriend visits and i have to keep putting down the seat. And i hate pee on the floor too especially when i go in to the toilet in bare feet!!
Nate and Sutton not to mention when you flush with the lid up all that stuff flies around the bathroom and onto your tooth brush!!! If that is not reason enough to close the lid idk what else you need
@@mariebrett2179 Do you have a son/son's? Just wait. There will be pee everywhere. LOL
Honestly ... just delete the Facebook
I love your vulnerability telling the public these private things. Yah Speed
🙋🏽🙋🏽🙋🏽to the Facebook thing or just take time out of the day to unfriend evvvvverybody that you do not know
Awesomeness 👏🏼👏🏼
If I did that I never would have met my future wife. She’s a random add on FB
Michael J. Pasley he already have a wife so it’s good! 😆
1. Nate delete your Facebook account.
2. Sutton, let Nate know where you are going when you leave the house.
3. Nate, you have to forsake all others (those female friends) that is how you honor Sutton.
@@DarqueDesires honestly delete? And have no friends? That's ridiculously unhealthy
The part about showing love by giving honor and preparing for marriage were monumental for me. Thank you!
Get so excited when you guys upload new videos 🥰🥰
Awww Sutton you are more than enough! If you want to talk to other people, you guys should find a small group or community of people you connect with and have them over. Of you guys get in fights always because you are with each other every second try something new and expand yourselves in meeting new people. God can speak through friends in so many ways and it’s beautiful!
Shiri C yeah that’s a great idea! 💛💛
The Lord led me to delete people on my Instagram who keep posting inappropriate content. So I get what you guys both mean
This is so relatable. The TV situation for sure. We did away with social media while dating and I think it has benefited us greatly. We just got married in May so we are working through our first year. :)
Sarah Lara so smart!!
Nate and Sutton, you are brilliant!!! Thank you for this video 😊 I deactivated Facebook a few years ago. Some people said I’m not logical and impractical because that’s the way to stay connected to friends. I disagree on this, there are emails and other ways of communication that does not involve unnecessary contents that Facebook (or instagram) has. I agree with Sutton! *raised both hands* In my husband prayer list I also wrote down “not social media enthusiast”. So glad to hear (and to read) that there are other people with the same opinion on this issue!❤️ (and yes preparation over promise! By quitting Facebook is one of them)
N P thank you that's so nice! So glad you enjoyed :))
Y’all are so genuine and intentional with each other and in sharing the love of Jesus and what He’s done and is doing through y’all! I’m grateful for y’all and for your channel! 💗✨
Leslie Parsley thank you! 💛💛
I want to never dishonor a woman again! thank you for your videos they help me to get back the vision for a christian Relationship
Love the transparency!!
The way you described how showing honor looks like kind of opened my eyes. Thank you! Never really thought what showing honor actually means and how I should love like that.
Mimy58585 awesome! We’re happy that helped! 💛
Oh my sweet little Sutton! Love seeing the wisdom and laughter flow from your pores. :)
Advice from Dad aww thanks dad 🥰🥰
You're an amazing Father!
You all are allowing God to do BIG & AMAZING things in & through you. Thank you for being obedient 💛
I think when you are in a relationship with your husband /wife, you should feel so satisfied by only having their company and so fulfilled that you don't need a "friend" of the opposite gender. I think Sutton is 100% right. Always remember when fighting with your spouse it is important not to be against each other you two are on the same team with a common goal of being happy together and so both parties should be willing to compromise and usually it should be the person who is doing something which makes the other unhappy no matter how minor they think it is especially if it's something that doesn't really matter like Facebook.
Soné Hattingh yes, totally agree! We had that fight in our dating days and have since come to a compromise that we’re both happy with! 🙏🏽💛
100% agree, it maybe looks ''fine'' just talk or chat with opposite gender ,but by doing it often, it will be the broken piece in marriage.
What. Are you people serious?
What’s wrong with a friend of the opposite sex?
Ya’ll are so sexually repressed this seems unfathomable but out here in the real world it’s quite healthy to have lots of friends of both genders regardless of relationship status. You guys really ditch all your friends when you get in a relationship? So unhealthy co dependent and toxic. Just WOW.
I think that it's amazing that you guys want to be open about these fights, and that Nate aims to actively work on himself so that the fights wouldn't occur in the first place. My sister has her FB and her husband deleted his because of similar fights... my brother in law said that after he deleted his social media... their relationship soared and their marriage strengthened :))
I love that you guys uploads twice a week! It’s so fun listening to you guys while I clean or work on homework. Have you guys considered doing a podcast?
Angel Bateman we are trying our best! And that's a good question...we haven't yet but who knows what God has in store!
Yes, start over Nate. It’ll feel great!
I love how he sits on the toilet in the middle of the night just to avoid her yelling at him for missing. Now that’s true compromise. The love is real!!❤️
Oh my gosh
You guys always hurt my cheeks!
Because I am happy and smile throughout the whole thing!
Y'all adorable!
The both of you are so honest.......... And we love it
Princess Valdez 💯
I feel so blessed coming across your videos. I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and we haven’t stopped talking about our faith in God for the past 3 days. We have started to pray together over the phone and sharing that kind of conversation to your partner brings so much bliss. On a side note, Nate has strong resemblance with Jesus in akiane’s Prince of peace painting❤️
I deleted my Facebook from high school and started over. Also being that divorce rates are so high I wouldn’t talk to other guys or girls just because it opens the door to start confiding in that friend and then could lead to catching feelings...so for this one I’m with Sutton:)
Stacy Moore I’m with her too on the “talking” with other girls. It’s a big no. I’ve been married 19 years please take this advice guys and girls. ❤️❤️❤️
Stacy Moore I’m with you on the “talking” with other girls. It’s a big no. I’ve been married 19 years please take this advice guys and girls. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m in my forty’s in a second marriage. I’m learning and laughing whit your videos. I wanted everything to perfect in my first marriage that I never had patience at all whit him. I blamed him for everything but now I recognize that I screwed up as well. After 5 years of marriage, I became a single mother of two 😩, struggling for 10 years but God is faithful and never let me down. I’m married for second time but this time I’m putting myself in God’s hands every day so I’ll be lead by him to love my husband in good and bad until God call us to his presence.
Your videos help me so much! Would you please make more advice videos about the struggles of finding a christian partner and how to deal with the frustration of waiting for God's timing? I love seeing all the happy christians couples, it's just hard not knowing if it's going to happen for me.
Helen Cala yes we will make more!!
9:30-1. Tell the person you're with you need a break
2. Tell them when you'll be back
3. Come back and talk it out
Dont wanna get to in depth but my husband came with baggage i didnt know about, having anger because his dad wasnt in his life and it only showed up wen we had our son....anyway things are looking up and ive seen God answering prayers. But i agree with Nate at the end in his little talk to guys.....all i can say is God bless yall!!!!!! 🙏💜🙏💜🙏
YES! Love the PSA about honoring women. I wish there were more men who felt and acted that way. Women are meant to be loved and honored, not consumed and disrespected.
Refusing to delete his facebook full of naked women even after four years of Sutton asking him to do so,...... Wouldn't say that was honoring his wife
I’m getting married on October 12th 2019 and my fiancé Josh is surprising me where we are going for our honeymoon! We are going somewhere warm and i need a passport!! First time out of the US
Hana Novinger ahh so exciting!!
Aww i hope you have the best time! God bless you! Thats so soon!!! : D
Where’d you go
Ted Cruz He took me to Aruba
Thank you for being so open and honest! Your video gives a good glimpse of what so many couples deal with nowadays. Loved the "honoring" and "learning the apology language" parts. ❤ As for Facebook stuff and friends of the opposite sex, tread very carefully! Way better to let go of a page, or a few old numbers, and start over than to cause unnecessary pain or strife in your marriage. You can't put a price on the comfort peace or trust bring to a relationship... it's too precious! 🙏❤ And so are you guys.
Please make a video about what you wish you would have known, or advice you would have given your younger self. Just starting my journey with faith, and I look to you as such an incredible example!
Totally delete Facebook and make a new one it’s even better because now you’ll know for sure who you accepting. Also I personally wouldn’t like my future husband talking to other girls or wanting to know the life of other women. I’ll I can do is pray for your relationship and have talk to your life personally. God Bless you two and thank you for making this videos and being so open about everything it is really appreciated!
But surely this means your relationship is built on distrust and insecurity? My wife and I talk open and honestly if one of us gets jealous about other friends or new people we meet. Then we can address what's making us feel insecure to work on making our marriage stronger. We pray to God and ask that he helps us to overcome these irrational thoughts which aren't usually based on reality
I've been experiencing a period of thunderstorm in my life, and you guys' message have been a beam of light. Im serious, so thank you so much - its been really really great for me yours videos and sharing in my walk to pursue purity and being set free of all my past :)
I kinda loved when Nate said he forgives/forgets, so he couldn’t think of anything Sutton does 😊 that’s definitely a guy thing. We women aren’t intentionally tallying everything you do, we just feel like everything is connected and we process information that way... I liked that Nate was really vulnerable sharing that Sutton hurt his feelings when she left abruptly without saying she’d be back. Instead of laughing, she should soothe his anxiety ❤️ that’s a legit need. This is a beautiful couple. I appreciate the honesty of this video. It’s so real!
your reasons for fighting are your reasons plus it helps us all feel a little less crazy
I rarely scroll. I quit accepting friend requests on Facebook. Turned our t.v. off three years ago. My parents taught us to respect our future spouses.
Waiting for 26 years and will still wait. Lets see when my time will come. You guys are pure example of LOVE. Adorable ❤
DELETE FACEBOOK AND START OVER! OR at least delete all people you don't know! My hubby and I only have friends we know.
God they're so in love...it hurts 😭❤
Preach! Don’t dishonor the woman!❤️
I can’t believe you guys don’t have 100,000 subscribers! God is working so many good things through your channel!
Juliana G aw thank you!! 💛💛
Real... for a marriage we have to be very submissive. You guys are doing well 🙌🏼 thanks for teaching us
I think it is normal to talk or look at other man and woman if you are in a relationship. I mean you trust each other enough to not cheat or whatever. If you really like/ love your partner, you would not be interested in someone else, in that way. It will make you more confident if you allow your partner to do so. Lovely chanel!
This is a hugeee confirmation for me. I am engaged and my fiancé and I will sometimes have this fight. Some of my friends/peers claim that I am self conscious and make me feel like a crazy person for thinking that we should veer our eyes from inappropriate things. Glad to hear we are not the only couple who has these fights, also thanks for not making me think I’m crazy 😬
Lol Sutton couldn't even begin to grow an aggressive bone in her body....... Such a doll................
Idk if it's wierd but watching ur channel makes me feel like a new born baby
To help with the issue of peeing on the floor, I recommend installing a toilet bowl light that has a light sensor. One can be found on Amazon for less than $30
married 7years here!we don't really fight but use the silent treatment too often.while dating I called him crazy and he was offended!and yea guys don't remember stuff:)
Good topic and great solutions. But please include Oaklan in all your videos💕. He’s such a cutie
U guys show little miracles God does relating to ur marriageThere’s more miracles to come if u protect it from every angle (dont do anything so that someone exposes u on RUclips be blameless). Imagine how u can share u the fruits of keeping minds pure and honoring them! Ur guys advice about out doing the other in kindness has made my marriage so much sweeter.
My Cup of Cocoa that makes us so happy to hear!!
Happy y’all commented cuz I tried ur trick of imagining my husband was a fav celeb and outing went good (surprising since I was tired but went good)
My Cup of Cocoa Yayy that's so awesome you tried it out!
Nate and Sutton I did ur advice is so practical! Also the beginning is surprising and hilarious the same as the thumb nail (last comment)👍🏼
Hi Nate and Sutton!! I'm Sintyke, and I'm a Brazilian christian girl. Thanks for all your wisdom videos, they've helped me soo much!
Ya'll are soo cute! Totally, agree about preparing for marriage. Asking you all to please pray divine protection and peace for those of us potentially dealing with Hurricane Dorian in the Sunshine State. Tfs
fdoctor 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I love your videos!! You guys are such a beautiful couple and I am encouraged by your love for the Lord and how you live for Him ♥️ P.S. I’m with Sutton. Delete Facebook.
I raised my hand when Sutton said start over on facebook
Yes, can't wait to see the swimming with sharks video!!! ;)
You guys would be great youth pastors! 😉😂
Edie Lauer aww thank you 🙏🏼
Love your videos and your authenticity! I like this quote, “You can’t argue with a humble person.” I would delete Facebook and start over with only your male friends. I don’t think married couples need to have friendships with the opposite sex (unless you’re always meeting together as a couple). Trust is fragile and it’s the foundation of any healthy marriage so I believe it’s important to put safeguards around social media use. (I am speaking from personal experience.)
I genuinely love how vulnerable and honest you both are! Thank you Nate and Sutton for sharing, loving and remaining open to learn and unlearn. So inspired by your marriage and will keep praying you up❤️
Social media is a bed of temptation...delete it. It's already hurt your marriage.
I feel like Nate is so bad with his words sometimes like 😂😂😂
Awesomeness I won't disagree 🤣
I feel like it’s a guy thing 😂
Awesomeness lol YES! When he mentioned the thing about wanted to "talk to other girls," I was just like, "where is he going with this?" 😆
Prepare for your marriage! Yes! Soo good, in that prep stage now lol very thankful for it tho! Going through inner healing and learning more about relationships, friendships, and communication...learning a lot!
So good to set yourself up for success and honor! Amen
It's so refreshing to get to know a couple that Christ brought together. Love you guys.
So good! I love the honor points! 🙌🏼🙌🏼Also, I didnt know about the apology languages. Ill look it up!💯🤙🏼
Yes, seriously.
Just make a new Facebook.
Your heart, mind, and marriage, and Sutton's heart, mind and sanity (among other things) are worth SO so much more than the simple effort of just quickly making a new Facebook.
Happy wife, happy life. She is always right even when she is not. If she wants you to put the seat down or sit when peeing then do it. If you treat your woman good she will treat you good. May God bless you both.😁
Not true. A real Christian relationship involved both parties being willing to admit when they are wrong and take responsibility for their actions.
I loved how you talked about honor! That is so wise 🤠
Yeah don't believe in separate friends of the opposite sex, that is playing with fire.
What’s wrong with friends that aren’t the same gender? Shouldn’t we love everyone equally and not disclude them because of the possibility that they might tempt us.
Once again thank you Nate and Sutton. Thanks for the tip. HONOR, and the illustration you gave just made it more clear how simple is to Honor my spouse.
Be blessed much.. LOVE FROM RWANDA😘😇
Higiro Bruce you're so welcome and thank you for watching!!
This couple just recommended by RUclips n I literally fall inlove on this couple
Love these vids! Feel like your vlogs will be great! :)
Love you guys! My husband, Chris, and I will be married for 9 years this year, with our little baby on the way in November. Still, I find your advice so profound and wise because it is based on Scripture. Keep up the wonderful way you are ministering to and mentoring other people. You are a true inspiration! Blessings and love in Christ. Yolande, South Africa
Never heard of the apology language - thanks for sharing about that! For some people, simply saying "sorry" is genuinely enough. So no wonder couples can remain in conflict bc the apology wasn't received well.
Evelina Lemon yep! Idk where we’d be without them!
"You know i dont keep record of wrongs..."
"I just think you have abad memory."
I cackled.
I like how BOTH of u actually make efforts to protect the purity in ur marriage when it comes to TV and social media
#RelationshipGoals
Love this video 😍 I can totally relate to these moments you've been through, me and my fiance just got engaged but we've had some couple of fights like this, I also had the tendency to just get up and leave and it made him really sad and angry because he felt like I was giving up on us, and I try not to do that anymore, instead we try to take a deep breathe and talk to each other about how we feel and what has bothered us and how we can fix this for the future while maintaining eye contact because it really helps and reminds us that we don't fight against each other, but together against a problem ❤️
you guys are so wholesome and absolutely adorable
No matter how much interest you have in talking to someone else, it’s not worth fighting with your spouse. Cause your spouse is with you your whole life. And that other person is just someone random you used to know in your past.