7 Tips for Christian Dating

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  • Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024

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  • @jadealexander8233
    @jadealexander8233 4 года назад +482

    1. Date someone running towards the same cause as you
    2. Initiate with Clarity (clarity your intentions)
    3. Date with autonomy (lead with morality instead of desires)
    4. Date with purity
    5. Date graciously
    6. Community
    7. Date patiently

    • @peggz223
      @peggz223 3 года назад

      🙏

    • @growthgrowth1087
      @growthgrowth1087 3 года назад

      🙏🏾

    • @MenacingThreat
      @MenacingThreat 3 года назад

      Spoilers(;

    • @GentlemenJack109
      @GentlemenJack109 3 года назад +1

      Im in a relationship with a puppet and it’s Been going amazing. We listen to love songs together and we just cuddle up and kiss. Our relationship is so romantic. I’m objectumsexual which means I have a romantic Attraction and feelings of love and commitment to a object. Im in love with a puppet and her name is Sandra jakoby, I love her so much, she beautiful and amazing. God approves of it to.

    • @wildshaper2085
      @wildshaper2085 3 года назад +1

      @@GentlemenJack109 confronting your heart is often difficult. I myself sin and fall short of the glory of God, as with everybody else in the world. While many struggle with addiction, lies, hatred, disobeying parents etc. Others struggle sexually. Dating an object is not Gods way or nature. In the recent years people have tried changing, twisting, misinterpreting and reinterpreting Gods word. But that will ultimately never change his judgment or ways. Our hearts are at many times deceitful and that is why we must trust God and not lean with our own understanding. I am also not here to judge you but to remind you that He will sooner or later judge you based off of your actions and believes. God wants you to follow him and his ways. Having lustful fantasies with an object is not what He has planned for you

  • @lolasantiago9788
    @lolasantiago9788 4 года назад +544

    I am currently single. But recently about a few months ago me and this boy that goes to my church, he happens to be the pastors son, I noticed that I was starting to see him in a different way. And at the moment I thought I was crazy but I felt like God was telling me that that’s who I’m going to marry or that that’s who he wants me to marry. And I thought that for a few months and I prayed and prayed about it and ask God to take those thoughts away if it wasn’t for his glory or it wasn’t what he wanted for me. And one day I went to go visit my mom because I currently live with my dad and she said she wanted to talk to me about something. Mind you, I’ve never ever ever mentioned this boy to my mom. And for a long time I was praying to God to show me and sign if he really is the one for me. And my mom wanted to have a talk with me and she said the following “I don’t know if I’m crazy or if this is all in my head but I feel like God really, really wants me to tell you this. I think that you and the pastors son are meant to be more then just friends. I think that you guys will do extraordinarily things for the lord and he wants you to know that.” At the moment I was so shook and I started to cry. I was so overwhelmed with emotions because the thought I have been having taht I thought were from God but I wasn’t sure so I just kept denying it, it ended up being true. And once I got back home he said that he urgently needed to talk to me about something. And he said the following “I know this is going to sound crazy, and I know that this is completely out of the blue. But I truly feel that this is what God is telling me. I think that God wants us to be more then friends. Maybe husband and wife one day.” And at that moment I started to cry and cry. He said that he have been praying about it for about 5 months and the answer has never seemed so clear. And I have been praying about it for about the same amount of time. We talk about things and for now we are just friends. We are both very very young, he is 17 and I am 16. And for now we want to focus on God and have God be the main focus of our life. Because we don’t want to have to be in a committed relationship at such a young age. We want our relationship with the lord to be as solid as can be before we decide to go further into our relationship. This dating video really helped me see some views on what I should work on and what I should consider once me and this guy start dating. So thank you so much for this video and so sorry for the long story.

    • @janellee250
      @janellee250 4 года назад +48

      Lola Santiago great testimony and I pray the Lord keeps pouring truth into you and that, at your age you absolutely are right in that right now your focus should be on his word and prayer for guidance. You’re in my prayers too.

    • @lolasantiago9788
      @lolasantiago9788 4 года назад +6

      Janel Lee Thank you 🙏🏼

    • @delancey3181
      @delancey3181 4 года назад +13

      Wow lucky I’m 16 and I’ve never dated or had boys liked me I think I’m never gonna date

    • @teecee6655
      @teecee6655 4 года назад +4

      ❤❤❤

    • @juri8999
      @juri8999 4 года назад +3

      God bless you. You have a beautiful soul ❤️

  • @maria.gabriela.
    @maria.gabriela. 4 года назад +410

    I haven't even started the video, but i have to say: Sutton, your hair looks gorgeous!

    • @nateandsutton
      @nateandsutton  4 года назад +18

      Maria Gabriela Aw thank you! It’s getting out of control! Haha I gotta get it thinned out/cut soon!

    • @chantelpowell3693
      @chantelpowell3693 4 года назад +4

      @@nateandsutton No! It's so beautiful, what are your thoughts on uncut hair? 1 Corinthians 11

    • @Mint-kj9kw
      @Mint-kj9kw 4 года назад

      @@chantelpowell3693 That's religious. I'm an on fire Spirit Christian and I shaved my head recently...

    • @stephanieknowles3854
      @stephanieknowles3854 4 года назад +1

      @@nateandsutton right Sutton's hair is so long and it looks absolutely gorgeous I wouldn't do anything to it but just keep letting it grow

    • @piudanielaiuliana3960
      @piudanielaiuliana3960 4 года назад

      Chantel Daigrepont ssdsd

  • @meganlouiseoregan397
    @meganlouiseoregan397 4 года назад +103

    '' God is the one who completes you'' Amen
    💜🙌

  • @miri29
    @miri29 4 года назад +344

    Thank you Nate and Sutton, I am 23, italian, and vergin. In Italy, girls have sex and boyfriends at 16-18. During teenage years, I felt so wrong and weird, I wasn't able to find a guy that I liked who liked me back. And all those rejections were God's protection! Now I wouldn't want those kinds of people I was attracted to, THANK GOD for protecting me.
    I wasn't Christian, now I am and it all makes more sense with this video too.
    Thank you!

    • @Waldemarvonanhalt
      @Waldemarvonanhalt 4 года назад +4

      That's really disappointing to hear about Italy. You might want to associate with those that have a preference for the Extraordinary form of the Mass. I think there might be some good men in those circles.

    • @miri29
      @miri29 4 года назад +5

      @@Waldemarvonanhalt if I understood well (i am not english) you say that in Italy there are also some good men different from the mass. Am I right? If yes, I completely agree with you! I am a good girl and there are also good boys, sure, I have no doubt about that. But who I was before subconsciously chose another kind of people. I didn't know what Love is, so I had so many toxic "relationships". But now I am open to Love and I don't want that unuseful patterns anymore) , thanks to me and obviously thanks to Jesus 🥰

    • @Waldemarvonanhalt
      @Waldemarvonanhalt 4 года назад +3

      @@miri29 I think you would enjoy reading or listening to Fulton Sheen, "Three to get married". I think there might be an Italian translation.

    • @miri29
      @miri29 4 года назад +4

      @@Waldemarvonanhalt i am going to search. Thank you so much 😊

    • @rachelmcclain5367
      @rachelmcclain5367 4 года назад +5

      I have had that same experience. Two years later I realized that, and that was awesome

  • @annedeborah5926
    @annedeborah5926 4 года назад +167

    Nate:"they were horrible."
    Sutton:"they could be watching our video."
    NATE:"THEY BETTER!!!"
    Me:🤯😂😂🙆‍♀️

  • @jinkyrosell8459
    @jinkyrosell8459 4 года назад +153

    28 and waiting for God’s perfect time. 💛💛

  • @zacharymiklos1792
    @zacharymiklos1792 4 года назад +292

    Not gonna lie, the way you guys smile and interact with each other is literally so inspiring. It makes all your videos even more powerful. Just wanted to say that you guys fill me with such hope - I trust that one day I too will find what you guys share together. Thanks for all that you do.

    • @nateandsutton
      @nateandsutton  4 года назад +13

      Zachary Miklos Aw thank you so much! We pray you find that too! 🙏🏽💛

    • @isabellesaad8506
      @isabellesaad8506 4 года назад +6

      literally so true. We love you Nate and Sutton!

    • @miaramona6257
      @miaramona6257 4 года назад +2

      Ditto!!!

  • @lucyscheidler9639
    @lucyscheidler9639 4 года назад +134

    I’m 18, and I’m not a virgin. I thought that I owed my boyfriend (now my ex) sex, and I was too scared to have that conversation with him. I want the next time I have sex to be on my wedding night, and if a man doesn’t understand that, then he’s not the right man. If any young woman or man out there is reading this and feels like their SO is pressuring them to have sex (or even be intimate in any way), please know that you deserve better than that. Just because so many people have sex, doesn’t mean that you have to as well. I wish I had heard this when I was in that position.

    • @juanitasampson
      @juanitasampson 4 года назад +6

      Lucy Scheidler omg thank you so much ♥️

    • @angelinabean2932
      @angelinabean2932 4 года назад +4

      I never comment but thank you! I am literally in the same boat as you and I 100% understand what you're saying/where you're coming from!

    • @eddahwambui4596
      @eddahwambui4596 4 года назад +3

      Feels like you are telling my exact story.

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 3 года назад +4

      Learned this the hard way too

    • @starrjohnson1327
      @starrjohnson1327 3 года назад +2

      I'm dating a guy who says he's a Christian. We've been going on dates but he just asked me when was the last time I was intimate. I told him I don't talk about that. He says he wants to get married but I'm not interested. He also keeps trying to grab my body parts! I'm trying to break things off.

  • @SuubiNamubiru
    @SuubiNamubiru 4 года назад +85

    This is so crazy, I just watched the "How to date" sermon from Passion City Church Washington D. C twice this past week. And I was more excited about your video this week than I usually am 😅 God is speaking, thank you for letting Him use you 🙏❤️

    • @janessarobertson2909
      @janessarobertson2909 4 года назад +3

      Suubi Namubiru this video is based off of Ben Stuart’s “Single, Dating, Engaged, Married” series

    • @SuubiNamubiru
      @SuubiNamubiru 4 года назад

      Yes, it is :) I've only watched until the third sermon though :/

    • @carinvaneldik1896
      @carinvaneldik1896 4 года назад +1

      @@SuubiNamubiru It's totally worth it to watch the other sermons too!

    • @sakhilentshangase1271
      @sakhilentshangase1271 4 года назад +2

      I have been listening to Ben Stuart for the past 2 months or so and yeah, pretty amazing guy.

    • @SuubiNamubiru
      @SuubiNamubiru 4 года назад

      @@carinvaneldik1896 Will do :)

  • @caribaez5711
    @caribaez5711 4 года назад +66

    1) date prayerfully
    2) date with intentions; tell them your intentions. Be clear. Speak with clarity.
    3) date with autonomy; date with morality.
    4) date with purity; assess why you want to be with that person. It is not the sex that will make you see if you two are right for one another.
    5) date graciously. Be kind to yourself and the other person.
    6) community; don’t isolate yourselves but get together with a prayer/ any group whom will help to let you know if both are good for one another.
    7) date patiently; be wise and pray as you are dating somebody.
    God creates your story and He loves you. Don’t compromise until you know the truth and they match up with what God intends you to be.

  • @limabeans6125
    @limabeans6125 4 года назад +21

    “Better to marry than to burn with passion” that cracked me up🤣👏🏾

    • @drrydog
      @drrydog 3 года назад

      that's pretty dumb logic tho... bro

    • @Seedbat
      @Seedbat 8 месяцев назад

      literally 1 corinthians 7:9 😂

  • @saniaeve5297
    @saniaeve5297 4 года назад +35

    Was literally talking about this topic today with people as I'm a young person in Christ. Marriage and dating always fascinated me before I came to Christ but now that I've grown I'm excited about the topic but I wanna do it the right way. The Godly way!

  • @krystalthewriter6031
    @krystalthewriter6031 4 года назад +117

    Can't wait to I start dating again so I can do it correctly now lol...

  • @ctn4646
    @ctn4646 4 года назад +9

    Thanks guys! I'm Crying right now, because I realize now that as a virgin, God has in a way dragged me away lol from previous suitors that turned out to have different mindsets when it came to dating and relationships. Your channel gives this Christian girl hope that one day God will present me with someone who shares that common mindset and belief system. I'm praying!

  • @valeriacaycedomore1647
    @valeriacaycedomore1647 4 года назад +150

    I’m the only one that is reading the comments while listening to the video?? lol. I love you guys, and I’m so happy that God is using your relationship to teach others so many incredible things. Sending blessings❤️.

  • @evelyn_jenn
    @evelyn_jenn 4 года назад +21

    16:44 I needed to hear that. God is working so beautifully.. he uses simple words from you guys to encourage me 🤍

  • @llamalem
    @llamalem 3 года назад +2

    I am now dating a friend who said that he loved me since yr 2 and when I left the school in yr4 he thought he'd never see me again because I moved so far away. When I came back last year he was so happy and confessed that he liked me. I'd never dated anyone (or even had a crush) before him so I was waiting to see if I liked him, we started dating this year. He is a Christian and so nice and amazing to me, he asks if I'm comfortable with holding hands or hugging and never steps over the line. I'm glad that he persisted with dating me because he loves me so much and now I love him. 😊❤

  • @victoriaashley__
    @victoriaashley__ 4 года назад +33

    Sutton, I LOVE that you said, "When you're confident in your relationship with God, He takes away the desperation and anxiety that comes with dating." Speaking from experience, that is something I find SOOO true for life in general.

  • @xpatzy
    @xpatzy 4 года назад +4

    “Clarity is kindness.” 💥💥

  • @hirtzlifechristianblogs9285
    @hirtzlifechristianblogs9285 4 года назад +158

    It’s important for both of us to know who we are in Christ and that we are complete in Him. “A 3 chord strand is not easily broken.” He has to be the center of my relationship.
    -The Hirtz Life Show🎥📺🙌🏼
    (Age 32 and waiting 🙋🏻‍♂️lol)

    • @jpgaming9816
      @jpgaming9816 4 года назад +2

      Hirtz Life: Christian Blogs Well Hirtz I must say, if that’s you in your profile pic then you lookin good for 32

    • @roseghale2675
      @roseghale2675 4 года назад +2

      Age=31 still waiting
      We have to trust our god .becz he knows desires of our heart.in this single season we have to get more closer to GOD..
      Yes no compromise. Becz god has some for us beyond our imagination..🙌🏼🙌🏼

    • @hirtzlifechristianblogs9285
      @hirtzlifechristianblogs9285 4 года назад

      @@jpgaming9816 Haha, thanks! I appreciate that! lol.
      -The Hirtz Life Show 🎥📺🙌🏼

    • @hirtzlifechristianblogs9285
      @hirtzlifechristianblogs9285 4 года назад +1

      @@roseghale2675 Amen! That is some good advice!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼

    • @roseghale2675
      @roseghale2675 4 года назад +1

      Your wel come Hirtz...🤗🤗
      We all are in christ we have to encourage to each other.
      Becz we are going in same
      Page...
      And Iron sharpen Iron🙏🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @robchen5040
    @robchen5040 4 года назад +3

    This video reminded me of Ben Stuart's amazing series on relationships: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. Thank you Nate and Sutton for showing me (a lil 17 year old Christ follower) what a true, Christ-centered relationship looks like.

  • @shannongeisler141
    @shannongeisler141 4 года назад +4

    Last summer I was talking to a guy and though I pretty quickly realized it wasn’t going to work, I really appreciated that he initiated clarity! I never questioned how he was feeling or how he saw things going because he made it known to me. I had never had a guy be that forward with me and it was a game changer!

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 года назад

      Well you merry me 🌷🌷
      Seriousely i am intrested i sm proud single bow meet me 😍😍😍😍❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @gracieerickson9630
    @gracieerickson9630 4 года назад +1

    I just read all these points in Ben Stuart’s book Single. Dating. Engaged. Married. SO GOOD!

  • @AlyssaMattix
    @AlyssaMattix 4 года назад +9

    I absolutely love you guys and y’all have been such an inspiration to me as a fellow Christian RUclipsr!! I admire how you make sure that God’s love and glory is shown in every video!

  • @Sayuki0713
    @Sayuki0713 4 года назад +12

    Yes!!! I have been rewatching your videos. I love your channel.

  • @priscillapolizzi6906
    @priscillapolizzi6906 4 года назад +23

    You two have such a gift of inspiration! You inspire me so much and I’m so glad to be able to listen to your message! 🤍

    • @nateandsutton
      @nateandsutton  4 года назад +3

      Priscilla Polizzi aww thank you that is a big encouragement to us 🙏🏼

  • @yanelysacosta1632
    @yanelysacosta1632 4 года назад +4

    I'm only halfway through the video, but I just wanted to say that I really needed this. Thank you guys for imparting your wisdom and such perfect timing. God bles you both in your marriage, family and in this awesome ministry that God has given you. 😊😇

  • @katwhaley793
    @katwhaley793 4 года назад +66

    Thank y’all so much for being such a good role model for everyone! I’m 18 and waiting for marriage. I haven’t had a boyfriend in a couple years and waiting is hard. I’ve had to learn that I can’t go out trying to find someone I have to wait for God to show me who he has made for me. I love y’all so much!!

    • @AlyssaMattix
      @AlyssaMattix 4 года назад +9

      Kat Whaley I just wanted to say that I totally understand what you are going through. I am 21 right now. Before this last year, I was trying to take things into my own hands instead of giving it to God. Like you said, once I stepped out of my own way and waited on God’s timing that’s when He sent my now husband to me. Continue praying and walking with Christ. He’s got you! Hope you had a great Sunday!

    • @katwhaley793
      @katwhaley793 4 года назад +5

      Alyssa Mattix I really appreciate that!! So happy for you! Gods timing not mine!!!

    • @taizachvrchwhite735
      @taizachvrchwhite735 4 года назад +6

      That is great you know this at 18! At that age I learned to not rush into a relationship (even a Godly one). It is important to first seek God about a person who is interested in you. And meanwhile you can seek God on his plan for your future. He will make it known to you. God's plans are best and his timing is perfect. I too am single (22 yrs & almost single a decade lol) but I now know God will give me a husband someday.

    • @conniek1039
      @conniek1039 4 года назад +4

      Kat Whaley hey Kat, I’m also 18 and I’ve been single for 3 years and I’ve been struggling a lot lately with having patience, but I’m trying my best to trust God’s timing and prepare myself for marriage 😍
      Oh and it doesn’t help that I have a new crush every couple days 😩😂

  • @michaeln5837
    @michaeln5837 4 года назад +37

    Hey Nate and Sutton, I just wanted to thank you for making this video. I have not even watched it, haha, but in the last few days, I have always been thinking about Dating as a Christian. I'm 20 years old and I've been single for my whole life but I am praying for my future wife because I know that God has someone in store for me. God is so real and he is listening to us all the time, why else would you upload a video about what I was thinking of the last couple of days. Thank you and God bless you!!

    • @fee892
      @fee892 2 года назад

      I pray you'll find the perfect wife

  • @maxizinehowell-paul1866
    @maxizinehowell-paul1866 4 года назад +8

    I adore how Nate keeps looking at his wife almost after even statement
    So cute

  • @dianasalgado3226
    @dianasalgado3226 4 года назад +4

    I love Nate and Sutton’s videos!! I’m not currently looking to date at the moment, but these tips are so helpful and I will definitely take them to heart! 😊 Thank you so much for the videos guys! I appreciate the advice! You guys are making a huge difference! God bless you both! (And Oaklan too! 😄)

  • @lailaheiress1274
    @lailaheiress1274 4 года назад +9

    I look forward to your videos every Sunday💕 thank you for staying consistent❗️

  • @carmenmorris580
    @carmenmorris580 4 года назад +14

    Sutton your hair has gotten insanely long! You’re so beautiful

  • @micheallaattiogbe3879
    @micheallaattiogbe3879 3 года назад +2

    God bless you guys so much..... I just discovered your channel yesterday and I love your messages through your videos 🙏🙏🙏..... I pray more Grace in your walk with God🙏🙏🙏..... Shalom

  • @Evergreenforest33
    @Evergreenforest33 4 года назад +15

    I have been praying so hard on breaking my sexual ties it’s so hard and that’s where I could use the most help we have done so much together and experienced so much in life together also I’m so confused like you explained

    • @faith_fashion_Fitness08
      @faith_fashion_Fitness08 4 года назад +7

      The more you look for GOD and HIS word, you Will get through it, i speak for my experience, i got to a point where i did not want to fail GOD and my self anymore. The verse that helped me be free!! James 4:7
      Summit to GOD ,Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
      Pray, fast and read the Word of GOD for liberation. GOD bless

    • @jdek88
      @jdek88 4 года назад +3

      Ezekiel 36:26

  • @jam1369
    @jam1369 4 года назад +35

    Great advice! There is a right way to date. Having a close relationship with the Lord first is best. He will always lead you the right way. He will definitely let you know if the person you are dating is not the one.

    • @mariyasnizhko916
      @mariyasnizhko916 4 года назад +2

      Amen!!!! God always has the best prepared for us!!!

  • @samuelokereke2938
    @samuelokereke2938 4 года назад

    Man, I remember Nate before the jaw surgery. You were big source of encouragement to go get mine done. Just wanted to thank you man.

  • @mariyasnizhko916
    @mariyasnizhko916 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for being the voice of God that people can hear!!! This is so needed!!! I hope many people can implement these suggestions and create a beautiful union!! May God continue to use you and this platform to reach so many more people!! May you always have Holy Spirit inspiration!!

  • @kevienadixon1664
    @kevienadixon1664 4 года назад +4

    Y'all are too cute and wise. Love you Nate and Sutton!!

    • @nateandsutton
      @nateandsutton  4 года назад +2

      Keviena Dixon we love you 💛💛

  • @karimabighosn4264
    @karimabighosn4264 4 года назад +3

    I was lierally waiting for your upload .... and i love it great advice and content . I hope you would download twice or more a week because of how inspiring you are

  • @brittanymccandless2534
    @brittanymccandless2534 4 года назад +1

    Really appreciated this video. Thanks for sharing.

  • @rohiththomas1716
    @rohiththomas1716 3 года назад

    It's such a blessing to see you guys Nate and Sutton, you lives shows me what God is doing for HIS faithful, such an inspiration, thank you guys, and all glory to God

  • @mariaangelicamalabanan9953
    @mariaangelicamalabanan9953 4 года назад +25

    I'm 21, still a virgin .. believe in purity before marriage coz this is the best gift that I could ever give to my husband.

  • @ginarodermund2274
    @ginarodermund2274 4 года назад +2

    You're glowing guys I pray for your babies and for your marriage
    I pray that it not only looks like it's a good one but that it really is one behind the scenes😍❤
    Never forget to focus on jesus and the truth 💕💕💕which I know you're doing

  • @CarmenH-e3l
    @CarmenH-e3l 4 года назад +29

    Guys I really loved this. I have lived a lustful past and 100% it was harder to cut off the attachment if we had already been intimate. I found myself staying even when I felt like the person was so wrong for me. God intended for us to have sex but within marriage because that soul tie is so hard to break. He doesn't want us to feel that pain. What a Great God we serve. And also thank yall for being the light on social media.

  • @camerynbowers6132
    @camerynbowers6132 4 года назад +1

    look forward to your videos every sunday !! great content, thank you

  • @melissacalderon1515
    @melissacalderon1515 4 года назад +9

    Finding the right person it’s not always going to look simple, sometimes it takes you getting out of your comfort zone and asking God to give you the wisdom and discernment to choose the right person, and to give you the confidence to open up and meet people because you never know what God has in store but you can’t don’t want a put pressure so much on yourself, just stay true who you are and the right person will see that

  • @patrycjamagdalena7659
    @patrycjamagdalena7659 4 года назад +38

    If I only had someone to date with... I'll be 22 this year and nobody has ever been interested with me 😅 To be honest I'm already sick of being sick of loneliness lmao! But if it's God's plan, I have nothing to complain about. He knows what's the best for me even if I sometimes can't understand it. Just let God lead your life ❤️

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 года назад

      Well you relationship with me 🌷🌷
      I am proud single meet me 😍😍❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @taizachvrchwhite735
      @taizachvrchwhite735 4 года назад +5

      Hi I felt the same. I thought it would be God's will for me to be single. I will be 23. Keep praying about it. Two years ago I thought I would be serving God for life without a life partner. Now after hardships (breaking hearts) and much prayer I know God's plans for me. Keep praying about your future God will show you his will and plans.

    • @miaselah5511
      @miaselah5511 4 года назад +7

      Sometimes God can cover the eyes of the ones who aren't for you, because you're too special to ruin what He has in mind for you. He makes you invisible until the right person comes, I've seen it so many times! Just stay calm, keep moving forward in life and when the time comes, your paths will cross.

    • @psychologistnjerindaru
      @psychologistnjerindaru 4 года назад +4

      If you are sick of being lonely, watch the 'Relationship series' by Pst Todd of Transformation church.
      Trust me you will love it.

    • @patrycjamagdalena7659
      @patrycjamagdalena7659 4 года назад +5

      Wow thank you all so much! I didn't expect that anyone will respond, just wanted to share my feelings. Your support means a lot to me. Whatever happens, God's with me so I will never be alone :)

  • @maziegarza6272
    @maziegarza6272 4 года назад +2

    OMG!!!! This video was so good! Thank you for the amazing encouragement and insights on how to day well!

  • @isabelbaumgartner1578
    @isabelbaumgartner1578 4 года назад +57

    I read in a book (Defining Decade by Meg Jay--10/10 recommend!!) that couples think that living together is a good way to test whether they'd work out as a married couple (seems logical). However, studies have shown that it is actually not a good way to test this because of what psychologist call the sliding effect. Most couples live together because they had already been sleeping over at each other's places so it would be more convenient to just live together. They just casually decide to live together; there's no serious commitment involved. People always rationalize that if they wanted to get out of the current situation, it would be easy because they're not married to the other person. (This is also flawed thinking. Obviously, moving out is much easier than getting divorced, but moving out is still much more difficult than just breaking up with someone.) Because couples *slide* into a situation that requires commitment without the actual commitment, they are more likely to drag their feet in getting married or they might *slide* into getting married without thinking of how much of a commitment it is. Don't quote me on this because I don't have the book in front of me. You can google "the sliding effect" for more informed information, though.

    • @jadealexander8233
      @jadealexander8233 4 года назад

      I read the book too!!!🙌🏽🤗

    • @stephm6028
      @stephm6028 4 года назад

      I read the book too! So good!

    • @thegiftofgabby5581
      @thegiftofgabby5581 4 года назад

      I highly recommend that book! Made a lasting impact on me. Especially that part!! Most couple who cohabitate prior to marriage don’t get married or get divorced at a higher rate.

    • @Jesus.saved.me2000
      @Jesus.saved.me2000 2 года назад

      This method is something I never understood. I could never do this, I've seen how bad it can get from living with housemates that are couples. It just doesn't work!!

  • @paufemza.8026
    @paufemza.8026 4 года назад +4

    I really curious about your thoughts on submission in marriage. Unless I’m mistaken, I don’t think you have addressed this yet. I checked. Thanks. Love your videos.

  • @aideoropeza5545
    @aideoropeza5545 4 года назад +11

    Thank you for the advice!! ❤️ I recently began dating someone. And we both know our intentions. We have clarified where we want to take our relationship to. I also made it clear that I am saving myself for marriage and he respects that. I think what we may be struggling with is patience. Our relationship has developed fast in just a couple weeks. We already know that a forever is possible for with us as long as we put God always first. But, we are both still young, and I think although we seem to be focusing on our goal we may need to focus more on the process of getting there. It’s nice dreaming about our future together but I’m realizing that we should take a step back and ask, “okay, this is what we want. How will we achieve it?”
    Idk. But this was a nice reflection about my dating life rn. I really enjoyed the advice thank you so much❤️❤️ I look up to guys and you guys inspire me to have a relationship similar to you guys. A relationship that is full of love and is God fulfilling. I want to ask for your prayers. I pray that God guides me in my relationship and so that it turns into something beautiful. ❤️

  • @annamontgomery7643
    @annamontgomery7643 4 года назад +17

    "Starting today, don't give it away" lol best saying ever, great video guys :)

  • @elysepryor3728
    @elysepryor3728 4 года назад +16

    Thanks guys for talking about how important it is to not compromise.. that is huge. I needed to hear that!

  • @kimmieann316
    @kimmieann316 3 года назад +6

    Going forward I’m only dating with purity ...I feel like this journey will pay off in the end with the results and also having God the center of my future marriage. I’m actually excited about this journey.

  • @tommy11sixorozco9
    @tommy11sixorozco9 4 года назад +16

    "Dating is a path that leads to a promise that leads to a lifelong pursuit. You shouldn't pursue a person, you should pursue marriage with a person and you should pursue Jesus ultimately and then spend the rest of your life pursing in marriage." - David Marvin (Watermark Community Church)

    • @ramonmuniz4950
      @ramonmuniz4950 4 года назад +1

      Tommy 1•1•Six Orozco I’m 22 years old and a virgin is that a bad thing?

    • @tommy11sixorozco9
      @tommy11sixorozco9 4 года назад

      @@ramonmuniz4950 no that is good, sex was designed for the covenant between two people in their lifetime. We were created to have sex with only one person, and that is our spouse (assuming you are not called to a life of singleness)

    • @fee892
      @fee892 2 года назад

      So true, God bless you

  • @rebelgirl6252
    @rebelgirl6252 4 года назад +49

    *"I'm 13 and i need a mate!"*
    I remember that phase. It was rough, and i thought it would never end.

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 года назад +1

      I love
      Love
      Love
      U u u u forever really 😍😍😍❤❤❤
      I like u do u merry with me i am proud very 😚loveing 😙very 💏romantic 💏i sm single meete now

    • @Goat.Cheese
      @Goat.Cheese 4 года назад +6

      @@MuhammadImran-ln4fz wut

    • @kevienadixon1664
      @kevienadixon1664 4 года назад

      @@MuhammadImran-ln4fz hey, are you okay? I've seen you post these kind of comments several times throughout the comment section of this particular video.....

    • @rachelmcclain5367
      @rachelmcclain5367 4 года назад +3

      I feel like society should maybe normalize this is make it easier for people to wait, or get married earlier

    • @PGOuma
      @PGOuma 3 года назад +2

      I was SUCH a cringey 13 year old 😩

  • @GameProClashOfClans
    @GameProClashOfClans 6 месяцев назад

    Love you guys for this ! 🖤

  • @jpgaming9816
    @jpgaming9816 4 года назад +1

    Thank you!! Sending this to friends!!

  • @camilliecollins9486
    @camilliecollins9486 4 года назад

    This is sooooo good! Thank y'all for bringing this to the people!

  • @Porteranchero
    @Porteranchero 4 года назад +22

    I’m still weak when he said “retweet”😂

  • @kimmieann316
    @kimmieann316 3 года назад

    And yes I am looking for a kind and genuine man❤️

  • @The0103050
    @The0103050 3 года назад

    thanks to this beautiful husband and wife for precisely telling what God wants in a dating and marriage.

  • @Breatheintomeandmakemereal
    @Breatheintomeandmakemereal 4 года назад +5

    Sorry, this is such a long comment.
    I have always believed that marriage is between one man and one woman. A few years ago God started to go deeper or undo what I had always heard growing up.
    Matthew 19:9, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." The number of times I have heard pastors say "except for adultery". It does not say that. It says, "except for sexual immorality."
    1 Corinthians 6:16, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, 'The two will become one flesh."
    1 Corithians 7:11, "But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." It says to reconcile, not remarriage.
    I was listening to American Family Radio a couple of years ago and they had a sermon playing. I was able to catch this part, "Baptism is the wedding ring to the Christian life. It doesn’t make you saved. So to put on a wedding ring when you’re not Married, it doesn’t mean anything. You wear a wedding ring to show that you are Married. It doesn’t make you Married. Baptism does not save you. Baptism lets the world know that you are saved, that you belong to Jesus Christ.” - Pastor Jeff Schreve
    Can you imagine what The Church would be like, would look like if we stopped using society's defintion of marriage and started using God's?
    I think in high school I knew that this was inside of me, but I didn't know it or had the words to it until after, but I actually detest casual dating. It's purposeless and it just seems selfish.
    I cannot stress enough how important it is to pray about relationships. Pray before, pray during, pray about marriage. Make sure you are receiving confirmations from God. People will lie and tell you what you want to hear. One of my best friends in high school told me a story that her "boyfriend" in jr high had lied to her about being a Christian. I don't know how she found out that he wasn't.
    And in a time where the verse "judge not lest you be judged" is so misused, you cannot go wrong with praying.

  • @sierradrolet4106
    @sierradrolet4106 4 года назад +12

    First thought as soon as the video started: “daannnggg Sutton’s hair looks GORGEOUS😍😍😍”

  • @nicolemarzka3532
    @nicolemarzka3532 4 года назад +10

    I love this video, I’m 15 and a Christian and I’ve been looking for a relationship but it’s hard when so many people just want sex and think that when you date that’s what your supposed to do. I’ve always felt like that is for a married couple. Seeing y’alls relationship gives me hope in finding someone in the future. Love you guys💜

    • @haliejesuschildandvessel7786
      @haliejesuschildandvessel7786 3 года назад

      Im going to be fifteen in 5 days!! And your so right!! Im totally not looking for a relationship but I want to be ready if/when God says it's time. I always want to have God at the center of any relationship. Right now God is just silent in that area and I know God has it all in his hands!! Trust in God and know he has everything in control!! He knows what's best for you and what you need in EVERY situation and time in your life!!

    • @travistlock
      @travistlock 3 года назад +2

      Don’t bother dating till your out of high school... you’ll save yourself from many things!

  • @kaulanabechtold5981
    @kaulanabechtold5981 4 года назад

    You guys are so amazing! I love your content it’s truly helping me a lot. God bless y’all ♥️

  • @abbytubbs4510
    @abbytubbs4510 4 года назад +1

    Thanks for another great video! love you guys!

  • @spencerbixby7819
    @spencerbixby7819 4 года назад +5

    Check out Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s wedding sermon. He’s famous for one that he wrote while imprisoned by the Nazis.. That “not wanting to text” mood though... It’s not exactly wrong. I’m more of a phone call kind of guy. I barely text my Mom. It’s also important to give grace to people and stick around long enough to get to actually know them. The most important, is that marriage is a commitment; One of the the biggest commitments one can make. And it’s nobody’s decision to make but your own. I’m of the mind that expecting God to give you a wife on a silver platter, and do the heavy lifting for you is not exactly correct. And our Christian dating culture is full of talk about it. I would expect that God, having sacrificed his only Son, would prefer us to learn what it’s truly like to lay down our lives for another person and commit to them, despite our own fear and misgivings. Just because something doesn’t “feel right” at any given moment doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
    As someone that’s looking towards marriage, I can tell you that not everything is rainbows and unicorns: I’m excited, but there have also been moments of anxiety, and I think that’s pretty natural. Imagine being a woman, and being given over to a complete stranger by your father 🙄 Choosing a husband or wife today is tame compared to how it used to be.

  • @meghanodonovan8020
    @meghanodonovan8020 4 года назад +6

    I'm 15 and waiting for marriage and I feel like it's so hard because it seems like there's such a 'limited selection' of guys to 'choose from' but i really really want a Christian guy but it's do hard to be patient and so many of my friends are in relationships and the amount of non-virgins nearly outweigh the virgins in my year

    • @Mae-rr5ye
      @Mae-rr5ye 3 года назад

      You're stronger than you think. The Bible urges us that the most important thing we must do is to be watchful and prayerful, so always pray for discernment spiritually and naturally. You were made for big things, Jesus says greater things than he did we will do. Heal the sick and make the blind see,press into Jesus because you'll meet ur guy when you're running your race cuz he'll *already* be running his. You're not alone, Im 21 and being pure body,soul,mind,and spirit has saved me a world of heartache and confusion. No one is perfect but It's so worth it ! Don't compromise your integrity or boundaries. Don't waste your waiting like a lot of ppl do, they wind up broken and in pieces, just take a look around u and see through the facade. Run your race with zeal and with passion. He honors those who honor Him and God is faithful. The Bible says, God is not slow as some men see slow instead he is patient waiting on us to come to repentance, God is waiting on u and me to do what we were called to do. Press into God and he will press into you and show u everything u need to know pray for discernement and that God ready you not only for just ur marriage and relationships but that he expose what your purpose is and when u find out why you were put here run after it with all you've got .Wish u all the best!

  • @maddiedurbin2350
    @maddiedurbin2350 4 года назад +19

    I loved every part of this video!! I was a little confused when Sutton said “date as fast as you can, but slow as you must.” I was wondering if y’all could explain that more??

    • @emmadunham7992
      @emmadunham7992 4 года назад +9

      I understood she meant the goal is marriage, and it is a good thing to get married. When you‘re confident that the person you are with is “the one,” don’t put it off (putting it off will probably be harder and more tempting.) But don’t be rash and naive in making that decision, so take the time you need to make the decision to get married. I hope I got my point across. I’m sorry for the long paragraph.🙂

  • @helloworld1272
    @helloworld1272 4 года назад +6

    I really want a boyfriend to help keep me holy but also to do things with. Like going to the park. Doing it by yourself is not that fun.

    • @haliejesuschildandvessel7786
      @haliejesuschildandvessel7786 3 года назад +1

      God is with you

    • @travistlock
      @travistlock 3 года назад

      Understandable but sometimes going on long walks by yourself or whatever your doing is really peaceful

  • @laurengallo4855
    @laurengallo4855 4 года назад +7

    Love this! I just watched "How to Date" by Passion City Church (podcast) and its the same thing y'all taught!

  • @scottbrandon9390
    @scottbrandon9390 3 года назад +1

    Dating is "fun" as Sutton says, when you're under age 31. After that, dating is a whole other story. Many people have one marriage under their belt, and may have kids. Plus singles over age 30 tend to be more jaded due the hurdles life throws at them. If you leave it much past 30, you also have to contend with people who are more set in their ways. Plus the Christian single "weirdness" factor is higher if people are over 30. You may have to go through a lot of weird people to find a mate.

    • @ankaxyz2051
      @ankaxyz2051 3 года назад

      I think nowadays it's hard to find a mate even under age of 30. Try to join some christian group, start a hobby, be around people (yeah I know it's hard during covid). You'r not alone, many girls are in the same situation :)

  • @116Swimmer
    @116Swimmer 4 года назад +5

    Love the topics you touched on :) Great job! I would of loved if you could talk about long-distance Christian dating at some point!

  • @gwenking6983
    @gwenking6983 4 года назад +5

    THIS WAS SO HELPFUL. Absolutely needed to hear all of that thank you guys so so much you are both gifts from God and may he bless you both and your family and your home💗💗💗

  • @mariasmith8207
    @mariasmith8207 4 года назад +4

    i'm a Catholic and I totally agree with everything you guys said. Good on you guys!! xx

  • @ashleyprice3095
    @ashleyprice3095 4 года назад +4

    Guys-seriously, your best video yet. Truth!! Also would want the actually verses you referenced! It’s looking like I need to study more of Proverbs. Keep it up. Thank you!

  • @12Messenger
    @12Messenger 4 года назад +7

    If the girl I'm dating knows I know how to stick my apartment key in the door than there should be no worry if I know how to match the puzzle pieces later on

  • @justincarter2500
    @justincarter2500 Год назад +1

    Amen!!! Y'all better PREACH!!! Love you guys!😁😁😁

  • @fee892
    @fee892 2 года назад +1

    I'm 20 and from Northern Germany, honestly don't know how to find a faithful man here. Seems there are only atheists where I live... But I trust God will guide me

  • @rosanaprice8793
    @rosanaprice8793 4 года назад +1

    Love you guys, but why did you not say it's sin in God's eyes to live together and there is consequences, to your future generations as word says? I am 63 single now 21 years not by choice was married once to my kids Dad had sex before marriage and then after divorce lived with a man younger. I sit here and watch now the familiar behaviors carried on from the sins of the mothers and fathers. Yes, now forgiven, but they did not listen and have carried on the opened doors and are suffering for it all and wondering why? Tried to share but was not received. I wish I had known what I know now life would of been so different for us all!

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss 3 года назад +2

    Aw y'all are so sweet and cute together. This video was really authentically and transparently produced and I can feel the genuine love between you. Thanks for sharing your experience. Peace + Blessings.💜🙏🏻✝️

  • @rgustavo1r1
    @rgustavo1r1 3 года назад +1

    I fell for this girl that's a growing Christian, im not really into it right now but would like to be and like the idea of growing in it together. How do I go on about this?
    She wants me to move to her area and attend her church but not date me, is it worth the leap for me to move to another state to grow in a church in hopes of growing with her?

  • @kingdavidakinyemi
    @kingdavidakinyemi 2 года назад

    love this video!

  • @jackie.mendoza
    @jackie.mendoza 4 года назад +7

    My husband and I did it totally wrong and we definitely want to teach my kids the right way.

    • @mieshaburley8466
      @mieshaburley8466 4 года назад +1

      So good! So great that you're aware of where you missed it and that you're gonna teach your kids to do it differently!! 💕💕💕

    • @Goat.Cheese
      @Goat.Cheese 4 года назад +1

      If you're married and happy, then how did you do anything "wrong"? Sounds like it turned out right to me

  • @jessieprescott1535
    @jessieprescott1535 4 года назад +2

    I feel like some people make way too many rules and expectations for dating. Just date. Relax and simply enjoy it.

  • @meganaread8245
    @meganaread8245 4 года назад +5

    Recommending you guys to ALL my friends!

  • @marienichelson2450
    @marienichelson2450 4 года назад +3

    Hello! My name’s Marie, I’m a new subscriber and just wanted to say I really enjoy watching your videos! They’re super helpful. I’m so glad I found some people who have most (if not all) of the Christian relationship belief’s that I have. ❤️ Thanks for posting videos! God bless y’all. 😘

  • @gaming4grace895
    @gaming4grace895 2 года назад

    It seems so rare to come across people who don't prioritize sex nowadays... :/ Let alone come across a man like that while he also shares my views and beliefs within Christianity. But then again, it's a tiny speckle of time we live this lifetime, compared to the eternity in the Kingdom of God, so if I don't meet someone... Well, God and Jesus come first anyway!

  • @camserrano5273
    @camserrano5273 4 года назад +2

    Loved to see you both Nate and Sutton!
    Your Love story is truly Gods design!
    It's still shine and be seen to the both of u😍
    Thanks for the Godly tips.
    God bless u!

  • @stevieleegorostiza335
    @stevieleegorostiza335 4 года назад +3

    I loved this video y’all did great!!! My 15-year-old girl and I’m a Christian and I love watching your advice videos you have definitely helped me out a lot !!! Keep it up 👍

  • @paddyauth
    @paddyauth 2 года назад +1

    Love how non-judgemental u guys are about if ur not a virgin

  • @rekaroman9403
    @rekaroman9403 4 года назад +4

    not only non-v watching, us the teens who want to prepare for dating correctly and Godly are here too😅

  • @daisysmith7907
    @daisysmith7907 4 года назад +3

    You are such a great example. Ty for this video it really is great godly advice! Love you guys! I’m single in my 60’s looking forward to a husband!

  • @SantaFe19484
    @SantaFe19484 4 года назад +1

    I'm a virgin (as of 2020) watching this video!

  • @iWh15tl3
    @iWh15tl3 4 года назад +2

    I believe in God's Omnipotency and how He is a perfect Matchmaker.

  • @claremccarthy8209
    @claremccarthy8209 4 года назад +1

    u sound like the narrator from the Bible Project RUclips Channel

    • @cobrafn2682
      @cobrafn2682 4 года назад

      wow, I just realised he does!

  • @samuelokereke2938
    @samuelokereke2938 4 года назад +2

    I am also encouraged by your relationship with Sutton. I pray for God's love and Grace to increase in your lives. I know that someday I will share my testimony of finding amazing love.