What’s even more messed up is I have a strong feeling he’s been planning this for awhile. The only reason to file in Florida is because they have some of the strictest child custody/support laws in the country. I kow at least one woman who moved there after getting pregnant so she could file for child support under Florida laws. They don’t even live there. He knew exactly what he was doing and probably has been planning to do it for awhile. All he needed to do was own property in Florida (which most celebrities do due to tax incentives) for 6 months and claim it as his primary residence and he can file in Florida even if he doesn’t actually live there.
The only way it should be done is either for survival purposes because you don't have any other choice but to ask each other for help till you get on your feet or because you have kids together and you want to combine the incomes so the children grow up more comfortably any other reason is stupid unless you just know for 100 percent sure that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with I'm sure it happens but it's extremely rare and it's nothing like in those teen drama movies were they find each other in high school. You will go through at least 10-30 of them before you find one that you can tolerate and even then you still got to worry about people being nosy about your relationship so you wind up having to go places seperately just to keep people out of your business.
Yep! Florida doesn’t play when it comes to child support. I was HR at a fertilizer plant in FL in the early 2000s. We needed to hire an engineer. I put an ad out and then went on vacay. When I came back they had hired someone. When I met this dude, it instantly knew he was off and so did the other women. I decided to check il his references anyway. When I mentioned his name both HR people said, “Oh no.” Legally, HR people can only verify start/end dates and salary. I told some the guys who knew folks at the other fertilizer plants and they jumped on board to get the tea as they got bad vibes from the dude too. In the meantime creeper dude started sexually harassing one of the ladies in accounting and the front seat temp who I had just talked to about becoming a permanent employee. Both ladies ended up leaving because of this dude. The management were so far up this dude’s ass for some reason and even fired the accounting woman’s male boss because he had the audacity to stand up for his former employee. I promise, I’m getting to the child support part. The guys who worked in the plant were pissed about the two ladies having to make their exit and that this dude was getting away with it, so they made a point be out front when we remaining ladies got to work and to walk us out when we got off work. Creeper dude would often use his car to block the ladies he was harassing. Oh, and I had to one one one sexual harassment trading where he apologized for giving me more work to do but was such a f*ing misogynistic sociopath that he couldn’t grasp the harm he done to these women. The guys also started reporting HR’ry offenses this dude was committing. One time he came in with white powder on his nose and shirt. I made immediate arrangements for him to go get a mandatory drug test. He ran to cry to the President of the company and his enabler told him he didn’t have to go. Turns out he stolen a lot of stuff from both of his previous jobs and instead of pressing charges, the companies “let” him quit in the condition that he returned everything. The president’s secretary decided to pay for a complete background check and a PI out of her own pocket. She found out he had given a some one else’s social security number. Now that’s considered lying on your application. I gleefully began the termination paperwork. The weak ass President intervened again and told him to give him to give me his real social. Welp, here comes the state of Florida. As soon as I entered his number, I get a call from the state. They let me know he had significantly overdo child support and that his wages were going to garnished! They also let me know that his ex-wife was going to be calling to get health insurance information as according to the divorce decree he was suppose to be paying for that too for the kids. When the ex-wife called, she told me that she had been trying to find him for years. She had had two kids with him and he adopted her kid from her first marriage. I let her know when the garnishments would start. In Florida, the money goes to the state and then they make the payments to the parents who are owed. I dropped her insurance information in FedEx so she could get it the next day. I also included a little note with his current phone number and home address. I told EVERYBODY except for creeper dude and the upper management enablers and we all waited for the next payday. Florida took his whole damn check except for $300!!!! It was glorious. He stormed into my office and I just smiled and told him to take it up with the state of Florida as it was out my hands. He then noticed the increase in the health insurance deduction. I told that according to your divorce decree, I pulled out the letter from the State of a Florida, I just had to add his three kids to his insurance. He ran to cry to the President, I then let him know I had spoken and mailed information to his ex-wife. President said, “Well we should let HIM take care of that.” I said, “Well, clearly we can’t since she’s been trying find him for three years.” Here’s the kicker, this dude had a whole, new brand new wife and a 1 year old AND baby on the way and she had NO IDEA he had even been married before or that he had other kids. He had her call me, I guess to garner some sympathy and he hadn’t told her anything. He was so narcissistic, I guess he thought I wouldn’t tell her. Florida sucks as a state in so many ways BUT you will get your child support. Make no mistake.
@@tabkaliOthis is a very good example of a narcissist. Thank you. Ps- It's the weak enablers that should also be charged/responsible for narcissists crimes. Enablers are terrible people
she was a young fan girl, she loved the jonas brothers as a kid. the whole thing is so sad, she was on a hit show at the height of her fame he tied her down, after getting with him her career has taken a back foot for family, his has been resurrected
@@ToniaAlex13 he doesn't have this current scandal looming over him, never had a reputation as a hyperactive sx and substance addikt, I don't know if she moved to the UK for him like she did for Russell something she unenthusiasticly shared in an interview at the time and she's older and wiser now.
The dumb thing is they are wealthy enough that the kids can live 50/50 in 2 countries. She is potentially going to get traumatized by this man through the court system until those kids are 18.
I know it seems like a joke but short men are statistically more likely to be violent and psychotic. By not a small margin, either. Definitely true for all the short men I've known, they at the very least have aggression issues. It's a red flag for sure.
My sperm donor is short and he is hell, idk why anyone would date him. My bio mom and my step mom both have trauma from dealing with him. God bless his current girlfriend, even I had to run away from him.
They seem to go one of two ways. Either they deal with it and become awesome - some of the most fun interactions I've had with men have been with short men, or they become extremely bitter and stay insecure.
YES!! YES!! There is no such thing as "love at first sight"... Now LUST at first sight on the other hand is very real. Please please please y'all, be careful who you "love" by doing some introspection!!
It happens. Some people feel a much deeper connection when they meet their partner for the first time. It isn't about what they look like, sometimes you just know that the person you have been waiting for all your life is infront of you. It's much like that video of Taylor Swift's song willow, it's about the soul connection, you feel a pull all your life and finally feel like you have found that person. It's surreal, otherworldly and you have to experience it to believe it. I am happy I found that in my life. It's not as superficial as lust. I didn't even sleep with my guy for the first 6 years of our relationship because I wanted to wait, yet passion and emotions were still strong. Having said that, I don't think that was the case for these two, it seems like they never thought their relationship through, it was a very spur of the moment thing, much like their wedding and now their divorce. Very immature.
I know nothing about this couple but to think that you're saying or absolutely true. Women need to be much more strategic about their life and family planning. I was just saw a burbnbougie video with she and another woman who were talking about how men who are married are considered more trustworthy and actually end up making way more money than single man. From my perspective, in the mind of a narcissist would be a perfect reason to get a woman to marry you and get her pregnant so she'd stay.
That's exactly what narcissists do. Most narcissists have children. The narrative that childless people are selfish is disgusting. Most people who don't want children are selfLESS people. They don't want children because they could never put them through unsafe/hurtful situations they themselves went through.
The real issue is foreign women need to be careful about marrying USA men. A man is a man, but other countries have socialized their males differently. If I marry a man from a different country, I plan on getting citizenship in his country long before kids come into the equation. (Which I don’t even want, one and done.) No plans on coming back to the USA after that.
I get the absolute worst vibes just from Joe Jonas's pictures. Something about just an image of him is SO unnerving to me. Does anyone else feel this way??
I have lived in three different other countries and I have met so many women who are trapped with a men and can’t go back to their country because of children. They old told me the same: have children in your own country. And exactly that’s why I went back to my country because I don’t want to be trapped in other laws from others country as a mother… thank you for talking about this!
Girl! Right before you brought up the shorter men thing I thought about Tom Cruise! Not because he's short, but because I recall that Tom Cruise made shady legal decisions regarding his divorces. Absolutely awful what Joe Jonas is putting Sophie through.
I know this a woman who has been engaged these past 16 years, since then they've had two disabled children who are both under 13 and she has become a full time carer to her elderly MIL, whilst working. The ring is actually embedded in her finger, it's ugly too.
Even out-of-state marriages aren't safe if you don't have Sophie’s resources. I was raised in the Assemblies of God church, the same as Joe Jonas. So much was triggered when the story broke that he was filing for custody alongside images of her just trying to enjoy a girl's night out. Every time I’d try to go to my mom's or anywhere safe over state lines with my kids, my ex & inlaws would threaten me with kidnapping charges. These were not empty threats, these people are terrifying bullies who believed they were doing the lord’s work protecting the sanctity of our marriage. This went on for years until I had to finally leave without my kids and not a cent because he controlled everything. He served me with divorce papers that stated he’d get full custody knowing I did not have the resources to return to fight it. Leaving without my kids, losing them in the divorce, while struggling financially laid the perfect groundwork for his smear campaign. Aside from control, full custody gets him the tax credits, the food stamps, approved for less expensive better housing, etc. and the second I slightly improve my financial situation no doubt he’ll try for child support. It also strengthens his false narrative that he’s the better parent in the eyes of the court. My kids and I have remained extremely close, they know the truth because they are living it. They are also silenced because they've learned the hard way it's not safe to do otherwise. There is nothing more dangerous than a therapist who is not trauma-informed because they’ll confidently bring in the abusive parent to work it out in a group setting and then those kids and/or co-parent are fucked the moment they are out of the session. Meanwhile, the therapist has been charmed and the false narrative strengthened. I'm back in the same city as my children parenting them because, at the end of the day, this was never about him wanting to be their parent and actually do anything. Any time I step out of line by his terms, he’ll do something dramatic like take me to court insisting my visits should be supervised. They’re baseless claims that in the end, go nowhere…but they waste time, energy, and resources, and give him a public platform to go on record and share my past trauma and just straight-up lie on record. So I fall back in line. At this point restoring my reputation, or support system feels pointless, I just want to be with my kids, and as long as I don't challenge him he lets me…because he hates parenting himself. Once every few years I'll get brave enough to share like this but eventually delete it because I never know to what extent I'm being monitored.
Holy shit, I’m so sorry. This is why I’m so sick of men lying and whining about getting screwed in court, they never do, the system is built for them and by them.
I am so sorry you are going through that.❤ He sounds like such a messed up man. Take care of you, make sure you have some resources that help you calm down and regulate daily, if you can go to therapy. You need as much support as you can get. You'll get through it and I am sure the bond with your kids is going to stay strong. And your kids will grow up but he will be miserable forever.
As a semi Jonas Brothers fan and someone who used to love Game of Thrones I was a little happy that they got together but was bummed that Sophie wasn’t doing anything in terms of film. However given the drama she had to deal with because people hated her character (for no good reason in my opinion) I thought maybe she was taking a break but after your video(s) about Ryan Reynolds, Bruce Willis, etc. it’s got me like 🤔🤔🤔
You are such an underrated content creator. You always speak so much truth. I like that even if your experiences are different from what you talk about you still understand and convey the point do well. It shows deep emotional maturity. Nowadays a lot of people can only speak on what they know and nuance is lost. I'm not dating anyone currently but I've said for awhile I want to leave the U.S. and relocate elsewhere. You've given me a lot to keep in mind so I can do that in the future
When a man says, "I need you to love yourself before I can commit to you." He is a narcissistic man baby who needs a mommy to baby him. Because he doesn't want to take care of her, he wants to be pampered.
Your video about the potential drama with their kid(s) actually made me think of this Lifetime movie starring Taraji P Henson and all the drama she had to deal with to get her kid back from another country and how the child’s father was using their son to control her. It was based off of a true story it was crazy.
Love your content and honesty 💜.I wish I had it before I got married to a narc, but I’m happy younger women and codependent women have it now and for the future.
This might be a video series: Living with a man verses marriage (within U.S. states) - Still have a wedding, just not be legally, financially tied together - Have any legal agreements (signed) about children, medical events, etc? -Thanks for your videos!
@@MelanieHamlettEva Mendez wanted to stay childfree and here comes her husband Ryan Gosling. They have two kids and she hasn’t filmed a movie since. These men disgust me
When I was little I saw the Sally Fields movie “Not without my daughter” you will never want to marry a foreigner after watching this scared me to death
I had no idea the french law was like that but then again they are like that with states too if you want to move and divorced spouse who also has a right to see their kids you can't just pack up and go. Having kids with someone is being with them for at least 18 years in some way or another. It's especially dangerous to think a guy from a muslim country or India is "just different" and "modern" and "not like his family" when he's dating a western woman, that will all change when you are the wife and his family dictated how the wedding had to go, then he starts thinking you should dress and behave a certain way and if you leave his ego will not be able to take that well. If you have kids, he can take them to his country and you'll never see them again because as soon as they are there, the courts there say they belong with him, no matter if he ditches them with illeterate grandma in the country who will abuse them and marry them of as a child, you have no rights to them as a shamed divorced woman.
@@darknightmare7281 Yeah there was a case here where the father arranged a violent kidnapping of a little girl here in thetherlands, took her to India, all the courts agree (that took years in India) that the mother had custody but the girl is still not back and the father isn't even raising her I think. They really just dump the kids with the grandmother to spite the ex wife. They do not love or care at all about the actual children and their futures. And it happens so often people have to know this is the deal with inter cultural marriage. Men raised in a sexist society are dangerous.
The Jonas brothers have did Demi Lovato dirty. They encouraged her to eat watermelon cakes, and attached themselves to her career during their low point almost a decade ago. She talked about it.
@@ToniaAlex13 they were encouraging her to eat that to replace meals, a drug addict needs to have nutritious meals like everyone else. The cakes were in her documentary just watermelon and icing
Matthew McConaughey just 'explained' his Mother calling Camilla Alves by his ex-girlfriend's names was so MIL could trigger Camilla Alves to 'fight back' and gain MIL respect. Can you do a take on that one?
Literally talking to friends and my therapist right now about understanding that I never really understood "love." Said all but my most recent relationship was just codependence and anxious attachment. A lot learned in my single time this year
I don't know how I came to this channel but, OMG, you are spot on! It's so refreshing to hear a woman lay out the truth and the stakes of romance for women. YES, the consequence of getting married or not getting married are VERY high for women. I wish this was made clear for young people.
Thank you so much for your comment. You're more than welcomed in that space (before you get too perplexed, I'm Melanie's Husband and moderator.) and your words and thoughts are helping this channel a lot, so dont forget to subscribe and share to any people who can need Mel's voice. 🙏😊💕💕💕
Intentional => International? I thought maybe it meant arranged marriage from the title 😅 but then I realized it might have been autocomplete. 5:30 Don't ever get too excited about a man. Yeah, it doesn't make sense. Why would you put a man on a pedestal? Because we are conditioned to. Also, getting jealous about someone else's man is putting men on a pedestal. No need to be jealous.
I was a huge fangirl of the Jonas Brothers as a preteen. Like I had all the albums and even enjoyed their most recent one. The Jonas Brothers are currently on a world tour. Hearing this story put a bad taste in my mouth so I opted out of seeing them. They still have a strong fandom. I just KNOW that Joe is going to make this very hard for Sophie and break her down. I just KNOW he's going to make her decide, either you stay in the US to see your kids or you choose to go back to England and spend whatever amount you have to commute to the US until they're 18. I don't want to put my money toward that.
I married a man from another country and moved to him... and ive heard stories from other women that did the same. I've yet to see a success story that wasnt posted on the internet.
the major red flag here was them breaking up before marriage/during their engagement? right before engagement? yeah :/ not good. and i know exactly what you mean when you say love at first sight isn’t real. i agree. it’s usually same frequency or energy at first sight. this has happened to me only once and it 3/4 yrs ago was when i was like 20 in college and there was this boy who sat at the front of the class and i was in the back. every time i had this class i’d look at the back of his head with this strange level of magnetism or attraction and i didn’t even know his name or face for the longest time just this random feeling of being drawn toward this person. mind you i’m introvert avoidant! and there was no way i had any intention EVER to talk to or meet this man 😵💫🤣 one day we had to do group projects and he was in my group and we just stared at eachother and couldn’t stop smiling and laughing for NO REASON. y’all it was that corny ish you hate to see but it’s truly genuine and you can’t control it. the reason i say this is real is because we never got into a relationship. i could tell he was sad when the semester ended and we parted ways coz i made no move to make it clear i was reciprocating. that was me being a coward. but it truly was like a soul mate experience? idk but it did not feel lusty it was purely familiarity, comfort but we were not IN love with eachother. it’s more like you see the potential for it because there’s this palpable feeling of that being completely possible. i hope i get a chance to experience it again later in my life when i’m truly ready for love.
I believe even before they were dating he was over 18 and he used to go to the set of Game of Thrones to see her and she was like 13 or 14 at the time. So when they went on their first date it’s not like they didn’t know each other.
At one point in my life I had a crush on a short guy. Not sure if he reciprocated, didn't really matter. He would text me every day for a year but never asked me out, anything. Also little days passed without him whining about women not liking short men. In the retrospect, I dodged a bullet
How did you end up in France? I want to end up on a small island off Ireland with 2 goats and people who speak Irish so I don't know what they're saying. I grew up in a screaming yelling family and I'm co dependent as hell.
@@DiamondsRexpensive Melanie can end up anywhere she wants because she's been working very hard on herself and on being able to do that. Maybe watch a bit more of her content and you'll understand that moving to another country is not an easy move. #biasaren'thelpingatall
Florida heavily favors 50/50 custody. Or, they tend to side with the mom, but idk how that plays out in international situations. That said, co-parenting can be a good thing. She'll have the freedom to revive her career while the children are with their dad. Hopefully, their dad is a decent guy. It seems like the end of the world, but having the kids full time is designed to pigeonhole the woman.
Reminds me of Jemima Khan. She went overboard with contorting herself to fit into a box "good enough" to be Imran Khan's wife. They say the split was amicable and she's got custody of the kids but don't think she ever really healed coz her latter dating portfolio are filled with loser XYs. Have only met one short men who was a'ight but he was not short coz of lack of height but just "naturally" as a dwarf. They're just overall "smaller" vs lack of height growth. The others who are height-short tho... the Napoleonic complex was definitely strong in them. This is a bummer about Joe Jonas. His brother, Nick, who's married to Priyanka Chopra is said to be a really supportive partner. According to Priyanka, she was tempted to centre him from the word go but he was always getting her to prioritise her work and interests and to never lose sight of all the hard work she's done in her career. Really a case of nature vs nurture. They're all brothers growing up in the same household but not all bros end up the same.
I think we should start normalizing moms leaving the kids with the dad and starting over like men do. Give them exactly what he's asking for. Cut your losses, learn and leave! And I'm saying this as a mother.
Hi melanie this is unrelated but did you eventually learn french to live in france or are you okay without it? I want to move away from my toxic family to a french speaking city(montreal) but i worry i will struggle..
Everything in life worth having is worth working for. What you are describing is a struggle. When I was still a student I learned something I think more people should know. Going somewhere you don’t speak the language, the amount of effort new speakers have with the intention of use and the struggle to decide what you hear helps new language steep into the brain faster and more effectively then just studying alone. Just 2 weeks of daily effort living in a place where you didn’t know the language is equal to a full semester of language learning in college. If this is something you want, that you think is healthy for you mind, body, and soul, then embrace the struggle with acclimating to somewhere new, because if that shift helps you shake of toxicity that is eroding your life, in the end that effort will yield powerful rewards. I hope you find all the happiness and stability life has to offer no matter where you go.
@@NorthMountainFairy thank you for your response. I would absolutely love to live there and get away for my health but I just wonder if I will be able to get away without being fluent
Hey! From the opposite point of view, I'm french and english wasn't that hard to learn, 2/3 of english come from french. Also, according to wikipedia: "Montreal is one of the most bilingual cities in Quebec and Canada, with 58.5% of the population able to speak both English and French.", so no worries. 😊
@@AlanSmithee789I don’t remember who it was, but in one of my linguistic classes years ago I heard of a linguist who once described English as a sub-dialect of French because it has absorbed sooooo many French words. Like a lot. I mean 300 years of occupation is bound to have massive and lasting social impacts. And in language in particular, because societies tend to elevate the languages and dialects of the ruling class, whoever that is. And English is such a hard language to learn because it’s a sponge language that has absorbed a so many words from so many languages. Sorry for the rant. I’m fully a language nerd so it does not take much for me to go off.
She did a video recently where she talked about the struggles with learning french. Montreal would be a lot more forgiving for english speakers. You do find sexism and racism very much present there, and some jobs require you to speak french. The old white men that are landlords do discriminate. If you are a white woman with a degree, it is easier. But it is a beautiful city! One struggle is getting a job close to where you work and not having a big commute. Think about what you want long term in your life and build yourself up towards that. I don't know where you are in your life, but for me getting a degree and job in tech gave me a lot of power. I was no longer dependent on anyone else and I had freedom. I stopped being obsessed about getting married (being dependent). Create a position of power for yourself and build towards your happiness and future! ❤ I am rooting for you!
Love at first sight is lust nothing else. Infatuation not love. Sure it can grow into love depending on the circumstances but most men confuse these two always talking about love during a first date....no you are infatuated
I’m also Gen X and never watched GOT or listened to the Jonas brothers… had no idea you are married to a person from another country… interesting… and I get the children aspect..
You didn't miss anything with game of thrones, it was awful just like the books. Everyone was all excited for the finale, and I, having read all the books, told them "Don't get excited it's going to suck, y'all". They got mad at me for telling them, then the next day, they were mad at me for being right. They weren't even all xy. 🤣
Je n’ai aucun complexe à dire que les hommes français sont pour la plupart de gros prétentieux satisfaits et ingrats, et radins. Pas ton homme, Melanie, et bien sûr pas tous, mais on peut faire une generalité. Btw you talk about love but how would you describe it??
i'm old and i've never had the problems with french men younger american women are describing. of course patriarchy exists here too but not like in the us.
@@cranberrybe j’ai 40 ans et je n’ai jamais vu une seule amie femme ne pas avoir de pb avec les francais, d’ailleurs pour beaucoup elles se marient avec des étrangers et les mecs français partent à l’étranger pour y trouver des femmes pauvres qui leur coutent moins cher.
En tant qu'homme français et mari de Melanie, j'ai envie de répondre. 😉 (Maybe Mel has a different perspective on that??) Mais oui, j'entend le point de vue sur le côté prétentieux et parfois ingrat de la culture française et de ses hommes. Moins sûr par contre, à propos du coté satisfait et radin, en tout cas, ce n'est pas le cas de 90% des hommes français que je connais... 😅 Une ou un sociologue pourrait clairement trancher avec plus de clairvoyance et d'acuité sur ce sujet, tout en questionnant le principe des généralités et / ou des clichés. Dans tous les cas, merci pour ton commentaire, cela fait progresser la chaine, je transmets ton questionnement à Melanie pour son avis sur la question. 🙏❤😊
I think love at first sight might be real. When I first met my platonic friends I liked them instantly, and we’re still friends 20 years later. So why not with a romantic connection?
I think she's enjoying living here. It's not easy everyday but I think I can talk for Mel (I'm her husband) and say that life feels pretty safer here than in US. 👍😊
Women are crazy, she had money and the means to have those kids on British soil why didnt she? All she had to say was she wanted to be with her mother or family and go stay with them before her third trimester have the kid there and stay a couple months then come back to America she would have saved her self so much trouble now. They couldn't have held British citizens hostage and he has the means to come see his kids if he wants to.
@@AnthonyBuisson-ug5iv no not at all, but i should have clarified better. I mean women are crazy with the amount of trust they just put into men. Maybe i am just paranoid but i dont trust poeple that much i am sorry I always try to cover myself in case the worst happens and poeple don't turn out to be who they reperented themselves to be. And i keep seeing so many other women put their trust in men when it most of the time ends in dispoinement. She could have easily protected her self and her kids better with him non the wiser but she trusted him so much and that trust was misplaced. Sadly kids are often the inoccent ones to pay the price. Had those kids been born on british soil with her as their mother she would've stood more of a chance of having them, I watched too may show about peoeple fight custody battles for kids in foreign countries.
@@AnthonyBuisson-ug5iva lot of women seem to be crazy though , I can't fathom the idiotic decisions they make when it comes to men,decisions that do not benefit them whatsoever
@@purplelove3666 😂just read the comments instead of playing stup1d, it's not that hard to get, ted Bundy was a Nice guy, in fact all 4busers are Nice with their v1ctims so they can manipulate them, stop v1ctim blaming
What’s even more messed up is I have a strong feeling he’s been planning this for awhile. The only reason to file in Florida is because they have some of the strictest child custody/support laws in the country. I kow at least one woman who moved there after getting pregnant so she could file for child support under Florida laws. They don’t even live there. He knew exactly what he was doing and probably has been planning to do it for awhile. All he needed to do was own property in Florida (which most celebrities do due to tax incentives) for 6 months and claim it as his primary residence and he can file in Florida even if he doesn’t actually live there.
The only way it should be done is either for survival purposes because you don't have any other choice but to ask each other for help till you get on your feet or because you have kids together and you want to combine the incomes so the children grow up more comfortably any other reason is stupid unless you just know for 100 percent sure that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with I'm sure it happens but it's extremely rare and it's nothing like in those teen drama movies were they find each other in high school. You will go through at least 10-30 of them before you find one that you can tolerate and even then you still got to worry about people being nosy about your relationship so you wind up having to go places seperately just to keep people out of your business.
Yep! Florida doesn’t play when it comes to child support. I was HR at a fertilizer plant in FL in the early 2000s. We needed to hire an engineer. I put an ad out and then went on vacay. When I came back they had hired someone. When I met this dude, it instantly knew he was off and so did the other women. I decided to check il his references anyway. When I mentioned his name both HR people said, “Oh no.” Legally, HR people can only verify start/end dates and salary. I told some the guys who knew folks at the other fertilizer plants and they jumped on board to get the tea as they got bad vibes from the dude too. In the meantime creeper dude started sexually harassing one of the ladies in accounting and the front seat temp who I had just talked to about becoming a permanent employee. Both ladies ended up leaving because of this dude. The management were so far up this dude’s ass for some reason and even fired the accounting woman’s male boss because he had the audacity to stand up for his former employee.
I promise, I’m getting to the child support part. The guys who worked in the plant were pissed about the two ladies having to make their exit and that this dude was getting away with it, so they made a point be out front when we remaining ladies got to work and to walk us out when we got off work. Creeper dude would often use his car to block the ladies he was harassing. Oh, and I had to one one one sexual harassment trading where he apologized for giving me more work to do but was such a f*ing misogynistic sociopath that he couldn’t grasp the harm he done to these women. The guys also started reporting HR’ry offenses this dude was committing. One time he came in with white powder on his nose and shirt. I made immediate arrangements for him to go get a mandatory drug test. He ran to cry to the President of the company and his enabler told him he didn’t have to go. Turns out he stolen a lot of stuff from both of his previous jobs and instead of pressing charges, the companies “let” him quit in the condition that he returned everything. The president’s secretary decided to pay for a complete background check and a PI out of her own pocket. She found out he had given a some one else’s social security number. Now that’s considered lying on your application. I gleefully began the termination paperwork. The weak ass President intervened again and told him to give him to give me his real social.
Welp, here comes the state of Florida. As soon as I entered his number, I get a call from the state. They let me know he had significantly overdo child support and that his wages were going to garnished! They also let me know that his ex-wife was going to be calling to get health insurance information as according to the divorce decree he was suppose to be paying for that too for the kids. When the ex-wife called, she told me that she had been trying to find him for years. She had had two kids with him and he adopted her kid from her first marriage. I let her know when the garnishments would start. In Florida, the money goes to the state and then they make the payments to the parents who are owed. I dropped her insurance information in FedEx so she could get it the next day. I also included a little note with his current phone number and home address. I told EVERYBODY except for creeper dude and the upper management enablers and we all waited for the next payday. Florida took his whole damn check except for $300!!!! It was glorious. He stormed into my office and I just smiled and told him to take it up with the state of Florida as it was out my hands. He then noticed the increase in the health insurance deduction. I told that according to your divorce decree, I pulled out the letter from the State of a Florida, I just had to add his three kids to his insurance. He ran to cry to the President, I then let him know I had spoken and mailed information to his ex-wife. President said, “Well we should let HIM take care of that.” I said, “Well, clearly we can’t since she’s been trying find him for three years.” Here’s the kicker, this dude had a whole, new brand new wife and a 1 year old AND baby on the way and she had NO IDEA he had even been married before or that he had other kids. He had her call me, I guess to garner some sympathy and he hadn’t told her anything. He was so narcissistic, I guess he thought I wouldn’t tell her. Florida sucks as a state in so many ways BUT you will get your child support. Make no mistake.
I'm from FL and the courts are a nightmare for women
@@tabkaliOthis is a very good example of a narcissist. Thank you.
Ps- It's the weak enablers that should also be charged/responsible for narcissists crimes. Enablers are terrible people
she was a young fan girl, she loved the jonas brothers as a kid. the whole thing is so sad, she was on a hit show at the height of her fame he tied her down, after getting with him her career has taken a back foot for family, his has been resurrected
She looks so wrecked. She has no idea what's happening to her. He's trying to steal her babies
Seems like the moment she went back to work, he ramped up the drama. I pray she's able to win custody of her children.
He did the same with Gigi, she was 13 and he was an adult, the fact he always dates kids who are Also fans making a huge power unbalance says a lot
He didn't tie her down, they got married, don't act like she couldn't say no
@@purplelove3666 😑here You are again, ton of comments doing the same sht, like i said 4busers can lie, theyre Nice to manipulate their v1ctims
Katie Perry lucked out not having a child with Russell Brand.
Really dodged a whole train with that.
Never understood their union. She dodged a sling shot rock 🤭
But Orlando bloom who she has a child with is also British
@@ToniaAlex13 he doesn't have this current scandal looming over him, never had a reputation as a hyperactive sx and substance addikt, I don't know if she moved to the UK for him like she did for Russell something she unenthusiasticly shared in an interview at the time and she's older and wiser now.
I was so surprised that he said no to 20 million since they didn’t have a prenup.
The dumb thing is they are wealthy enough that the kids can live 50/50 in 2 countries. She is potentially going to get traumatized by this man through the court system until those kids are 18.
She's already traumatized by him
I know it seems like a joke but short men are statistically more likely to be violent and psychotic. By not a small margin, either. Definitely true for all the short men I've known, they at the very least have aggression issues. It's a red flag for sure.
That doesn’t surprise me. I’ve heard enough stories from tall women who’ve flat out refused to date short dudes again for that reason
My sperm donor is short and he is hell, idk why anyone would date him. My bio mom and my step mom both have trauma from dealing with him. God bless his current girlfriend, even I had to run away from him.
@@stephe1506omggg 😵💫🤣🤣 happy u escaped that gremlin!
@@MelanieHamlett All of the road-rage I've faced in my life has been from short men too! Angry little guys.
They seem to go one of two ways. Either they deal with it and become awesome - some of the most fun interactions I've had with men have been with short men, or they become extremely bitter and stay insecure.
"You can't afford to make decisions out of love." 🔥🔥🔥🔥
That's an entire sermon.
YES!! YES!! There is no such thing as "love at first sight"... Now LUST at first sight on the other hand is very real. Please please please y'all, be careful who you "love" by doing some introspection!!
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It happens. Some people feel a much deeper connection when they meet their partner for the first time. It isn't about what they look like, sometimes you just know that the person you have been waiting for all your life is infront of you. It's much like that video of Taylor Swift's song willow, it's about the soul connection, you feel a pull all your life and finally feel like you have found that person. It's surreal, otherworldly and you have to experience it to believe it. I am happy I found that in my life. It's not as superficial as lust. I didn't even sleep with my guy for the first 6 years of our relationship because I wanted to wait, yet passion and emotions were still strong.
Having said that, I don't think that was the case for these two, it seems like they never thought their relationship through, it was a very spur of the moment thing, much like their wedding and now their divorce. Very immature.
Limerence is not love. Wish I knew that before…
Do a background check first too.
He always dates kids, he dated Gigi when he was an adult and she was 13, so i hate he has kids and he "take care of them"
"The law" is created by men for men to uphold patriarchy.
I know nothing about this couple but to think that you're saying or absolutely true. Women need to be much more strategic about their life and family planning.
I was just saw a burbnbougie video with she and another woman who were talking about how men who are married are considered more trustworthy and actually end up making way more money than single man. From my perspective, in the mind of a narcissist would be a perfect reason to get a woman to marry you and get her pregnant so she'd stay.
Yes! 💯💯💯 they get raises, They get SO much social capital from being married. I gotta go see that video!
That's exactly what narcissists do. Most narcissists have children.
The narrative that childless people are selfish is disgusting. Most people who don't want children are selfLESS people. They don't want children because they could never put them through unsafe/hurtful situations they themselves went through.
I believe they met when she was 19 or 20 - so yeah she was “in looooove” with him like a teenager loves.
That's pretty young and also if you've never fallen in love the first time can be very very powerful no matter your age
The real issue is foreign women need to be careful about marrying USA men. A man is a man, but other countries have socialized their males differently. If I marry a man from a different country, I plan on getting citizenship in his country long before kids come into the equation. (Which I don’t even want, one and done.) No plans on coming back to the USA after that.
Your point isn't clear. Can you elaborate?
Yes, I have been stuck abroad for the past 8 years because I can't take my daughters out without his permission and I won't leave them.
Im so sorry 🥹💕
@@MelanieHamlett Thank you!
I get the absolute worst vibes just from Joe Jonas's pictures. Something about just an image of him is SO unnerving to me. Does anyone else feel this way??
You’re definitely not the only one. I could never get into the Jonas Brothers as a teen girl because of him.
The Jonas brothers are creepy.
I have lived in three different other countries and I have met so many women who are trapped with a men and can’t go back to their country because of children. They old told me the same: have children in your own country. And exactly that’s why I went back to my country because I don’t want to be trapped in other laws from others country as a mother… thank you for talking about this!
Girl! Right before you brought up the shorter men thing I thought about Tom Cruise!
Not because he's short, but because I recall that Tom Cruise made shady legal decisions regarding his divorces.
Absolutely awful what Joe Jonas is putting Sophie through.
I know this a woman who has been engaged these past 16 years, since then they've had two disabled children who are both under 13 and she has become a full time carer to her elderly MIL, whilst working. The ring is actually embedded in her finger, it's ugly too.
Embedded in her finger???? 😮😮😮
@@DiamondsRexpensive she's a lot heavier than she was when they met but it's like some metaphor.
Engaged For that long?, are both of them stupid?
I learned this lesson from _Sleeping w/ The Enemy._ *NO* in every language on this _planet!_
Even out-of-state marriages aren't safe if you don't have Sophie’s resources. I was raised in the Assemblies of God church, the same as Joe Jonas. So much was triggered when the story broke that he was filing for custody alongside images of her just trying to enjoy a girl's night out. Every time I’d try to go to my mom's or anywhere safe over state lines with my kids, my ex & inlaws would threaten me with kidnapping charges. These were not empty threats, these people are terrifying bullies who believed they were doing the lord’s work protecting the sanctity of our marriage. This went on for years until I had to finally leave without my kids and not a cent because he controlled everything. He served me with divorce papers that stated he’d get full custody knowing I did not have the resources to return to fight it. Leaving without my kids, losing them in the divorce, while struggling financially laid the perfect groundwork for his smear campaign. Aside from control, full custody gets him the tax credits, the food stamps, approved for less expensive better housing, etc. and the second I slightly improve my financial situation no doubt he’ll try for child support. It also strengthens his false narrative that he’s the better parent in the eyes of the court. My kids and I have remained extremely close, they know the truth because they are living it. They are also silenced because they've learned the hard way it's not safe to do otherwise. There is nothing more dangerous than a therapist who is not trauma-informed because they’ll confidently bring in the abusive parent to work it out in a group setting and then those kids and/or co-parent are fucked the moment they are out of the session. Meanwhile, the therapist has been charmed and the false narrative strengthened. I'm back in the same city as my children parenting them because, at the end of the day, this was never about him wanting to be their parent and actually do anything. Any time I step out of line by his terms, he’ll do something dramatic like take me to court insisting my visits should be supervised. They’re baseless claims that in the end, go nowhere…but they waste time, energy, and resources, and give him a public platform to go on record and share my past trauma and just straight-up lie on record. So I fall back in line. At this point restoring my reputation, or support system feels pointless, I just want to be with my kids, and as long as I don't challenge him he lets me…because he hates parenting himself. Once every few years I'll get brave enough to share like this but eventually delete it because I never know to what extent I'm being monitored.
I'm so sorry that you're going through. Praying that your circumstances improve!!
Praying for you and your children. ❤
Holy shit, I’m so sorry. This is why I’m so sick of men lying and whining about getting screwed in court, they never do, the system is built for them and by them.
I am so sorry you are going through that.❤ He sounds like such a messed up man. Take care of you, make sure you have some resources that help you calm down and regulate daily, if you can go to therapy. You need as much support as you can get. You'll get through it and I am sure the bond with your kids is going to stay strong. And your kids will grow up but he will be miserable forever.
Eighteen and out. They'll come to you as they're able. He can't treat them as his property forever. Stay strong, Mama.
As a semi Jonas Brothers fan and someone who used to love Game of Thrones I was a little happy that they got together but was bummed that Sophie wasn’t doing anything in terms of film. However given the drama she had to deal with because people hated her character (for no good reason in my opinion) I thought maybe she was taking a break but after your video(s) about Ryan Reynolds, Bruce Willis, etc. it’s got me like 🤔🤔🤔
they say the butterflies and that "wild energy" is the demons the person has calling to you 😂
Makes so much sense 😂
You are such an underrated content creator.
You always speak so much truth. I like that even if your experiences are different from what you talk about you still understand and convey the point do well. It shows deep emotional maturity. Nowadays a lot of people can only speak on what they know and nuance is lost.
I'm not dating anyone currently but I've said for awhile I want to leave the U.S. and relocate elsewhere. You've given me a lot to keep in mind so I can do that in the future
Wow thank you so much for saying this 😭😭😭💕💕💕💕
When a man says, "I need you to love yourself before I can commit to you." He is a narcissistic man baby who needs a mommy to baby him. Because he doesn't want to take care of her, he wants to be pampered.
Your video about the potential drama with their kid(s) actually made me think of this Lifetime movie starring Taraji P Henson and all the drama she had to deal with to get her kid back from another country and how the child’s father was using their son to control her. It was based off of a true story it was crazy.
This is so common actually. It’s shockingly common !
Thats why i never wanted to marry a person out of the country ever again
Love your content and honesty 💜.I wish I had it before I got married to a narc, but I’m happy younger women and codependent women have it now and for the future.
Thank you and I’m sorry. 💕💕That’s why I make this stuff. To help women who didn’t have this information like I didn’t.
This might be a video series: Living with a man verses marriage (within U.S. states) - Still have a wedding, just not be legally, financially tied together - Have any legal agreements (signed) about children, medical events, etc? -Thanks for your videos!
DC (and I guess some states) allow legal domestic partnerships. I think that it's a a great alternative to getting legally married
@@afriendabroad2083 Thanks for your reply!
Halle Berry had to deal with this too with her previous exs and her kids.
Yes! I’ve been meaning to mention her in a video. I need to read up more on her situation so I can . Thank you
@@MelanieHamlettEva Mendez wanted to stay childfree and here comes her husband Ryan Gosling. They have two kids and she hasn’t filmed a movie since. These men disgust me
When I was little I saw the Sally Fields movie “Not without my daughter” you will never want to marry a foreigner after watching this scared me to death
I had no idea the french law was like that but then again they are like that with states too if you want to move and divorced spouse who also has a right to see their kids you can't just pack up and go. Having kids with someone is being with them for at least 18 years in some way or another.
It's especially dangerous to think a guy from a muslim country or India is "just different" and "modern" and "not like his family" when he's dating a western woman, that will all change when you are the wife and his family dictated how the wedding had to go, then he starts thinking you should dress and behave a certain way and if you leave his ego will not be able to take that well. If you have kids, he can take them to his country and you'll never see them again because as soon as they are there, the courts there say they belong with him, no matter if he ditches them with illeterate grandma in the country who will abuse them and marry them of as a child, you have no rights to them as a shamed divorced woman.
You are absolutely right .
@@darknightmare7281 Yeah there was a case here where the father arranged a violent kidnapping of a little girl here in thetherlands, took her to India, all the courts agree (that took years in India) that the mother had custody but the girl is still not back and the father isn't even raising her I think. They really just dump the kids with the grandmother to spite the ex wife. They do not love or care at all about the actual children and their futures.
And it happens so often people have to know this is the deal with inter cultural marriage. Men raised in a sexist society are dangerous.
The Jonas brothers have did Demi Lovato dirty. They encouraged her to eat watermelon cakes, and attached themselves to her career during their low point almost a decade ago. She talked about it.
What's wrong with watermelon cake??
@@ToniaAlex13 they were encouraging her to eat that to replace meals, a drug addict needs to have nutritious meals like everyone else. The cakes were in her documentary just watermelon and icing
Learning so much from you Melanie. You're an oracle for women. I wont have kids but in a foreign country right now and protecting my womb at all cost.
Thank you for your comment! Maybe Meredith is Melanie??
Anyway, thank you for bringing another light on that subject, 🙏😉
@@AnthonyBuisson-ug5iv fixed haha thx
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Matthew McConaughey just 'explained' his Mother calling Camilla Alves by his ex-girlfriend's names was so MIL could trigger Camilla Alves to 'fight back' and gain MIL respect. Can you do a take on that one?
😮Ewwww. WHAT?!?!?! Yikes!!!
That sounds sick. Apparently MM DID know about it as it was a family ritual, a kind of test.
Oh wow.... That's so so so so messed up.
And she kept referring Camilla as the wrong nationality too. But he says "iT's A fAMiLy rItUAl!"
Literally talking to friends and my therapist right now about understanding that I never really understood "love." Said all but my most recent relationship was just codependence and anxious attachment. A lot learned in my single time this year
Dang, hope Sophie is ok 🔮
I don't know how I came to this channel but, OMG, you are spot on! It's so refreshing to hear a woman lay out the truth and the stakes of romance for women. YES, the consequence of getting married or not getting married are VERY high for women. I wish this was made clear for young people.
Thank you so much for your comment. You're more than welcomed in that space (before you get too perplexed, I'm Melanie's Husband and moderator.) and your words and thoughts are helping this channel a lot, so dont forget to subscribe and share to any people who can need Mel's voice. 🙏😊💕💕💕
Intentional => International?
I thought maybe it meant arranged marriage from the title 😅 but then I realized it might have been autocomplete.
5:30 Don't ever get too excited about a man.
Yeah, it doesn't make sense. Why would you put a man on a pedestal? Because we are conditioned to. Also, getting jealous about someone else's man is putting men on a pedestal. No need to be jealous.
Omg! Thank you! Fixed the title 🤦🏻♀️
I was a huge fangirl of the Jonas Brothers as a preteen. Like I had all the albums and even enjoyed their most recent one. The Jonas Brothers are currently on a world tour. Hearing this story put a bad taste in my mouth so I opted out of seeing them. They still have a strong fandom. I just KNOW that Joe is going to make this very hard for Sophie and break her down. I just KNOW he's going to make her decide, either you stay in the US to see your kids or you choose to go back to England and spend whatever amount you have to commute to the US until they're 18. I don't want to put my money toward that.
French law gives rights to the father even if he’s in prison. I was shocked the day I read that!
4:45 😂😂😂😂 “ oh my god this is exciting because it’s going to be terrifying”
I married a man from another country and moved to him... and ive heard stories from other women that did the same. I've yet to see a success story that wasnt posted on the internet.
hear hear, younger women! this is so true! and don't think it is different even if you are not married. inform yourselves before you have babies.
the major red flag here was them breaking up before marriage/during their engagement? right before engagement? yeah :/ not good. and i know exactly what you mean when you say love at first sight isn’t real. i agree. it’s usually same frequency or energy at first sight. this has happened to me only once and it 3/4 yrs ago was when i was like 20 in college and there was this boy who sat at the front of the class and i was in the back. every time i had this class i’d look at the back of his head with this strange level of magnetism or attraction and i didn’t even know his name or face for the longest time just this random feeling of being drawn toward this person. mind you i’m introvert avoidant! and there was no way i had any intention EVER to talk to or meet this man 😵💫🤣 one day we had to do group projects and he was in my group and we just stared at eachother and couldn’t stop smiling and laughing for NO REASON. y’all it was that corny ish you hate to see but it’s truly genuine and you can’t control it. the reason i say this is real is because we never got into a relationship. i could tell he was sad when the semester ended and we parted ways coz i made no move to make it clear i was reciprocating. that was me being a coward. but it truly was like a soul mate experience? idk but it did not feel lusty it was purely familiarity, comfort but we were not IN love with eachother. it’s more like you see the potential for it because there’s this palpable feeling of that being completely possible. i hope i get a chance to experience it again later in my life when i’m truly ready for love.
I believe even before they were dating he was over 18 and he used to go to the set of Game of Thrones to see her and she was like 13 or 14 at the time. So when they went on their first date it’s not like they didn’t know each other.
This doesn't sound right!
@@matxalenc8410 I could be wrong on this one, but I thought I heard it from one of the celebrity gossip channels.
@@celestedemure9800 No. I mean it sounds a little groomy!
@@matxalenc8410 oh yes, that was my thinking when I heard that channel mention it
At one point in my life I had a crush on a short guy. Not sure if he reciprocated, didn't really matter. He would text me every day for a year but never asked me out, anything. Also little days passed without him whining about women not liking short men.
In the retrospect, I dodged a bullet
How did you end up in France? I want to end up on a small island off Ireland with 2 goats and people who speak Irish so I don't know what they're saying. I grew up in a screaming yelling family and I'm co dependent as hell.
😆 I hope you get your dream. The goats sound great.
She is American. She can end up anywhere she wants. No biggie.
@@DiamondsRexpensive Melanie can end up anywhere she wants because she's been working very hard on herself and on being able to do that. Maybe watch a bit more of her content and you'll understand that moving to another country is not an easy move. #biasaren'thelpingatall
Tbh Im going to need women to be smarter. Look at the custody laws if you are a migrant.
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Joe jonas looking like a sussy queen... Is all I'm gonna say.😂
Florida heavily favors 50/50 custody. Or, they tend to side with the mom, but idk how that plays out in international situations. That said, co-parenting can be a good thing. She'll have the freedom to revive her career while the children are with their dad. Hopefully, their dad is a decent guy. It seems like the end of the world, but having the kids full time is designed to pigeonhole the woman.
but also hollywood too this is also pr to mk the woman look bad and the man look good.
She is SO right.
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No, they are not! Thank you for this video.
Reminds me of Jemima Khan. She went overboard with contorting herself to fit into a box "good enough" to be Imran Khan's wife. They say the split was amicable and she's got custody of the kids but don't think she ever really healed coz her latter dating portfolio are filled with loser XYs.
Have only met one short men who was a'ight but he was not short coz of lack of height but just "naturally" as a dwarf. They're just overall "smaller" vs lack of height growth. The others who are height-short tho... the Napoleonic complex was definitely strong in them.
This is a bummer about Joe Jonas. His brother, Nick, who's married to Priyanka Chopra is said to be a really supportive partner. According to Priyanka, she was tempted to centre him from the word go but he was always getting her to prioritise her work and interests and to never lose sight of all the hard work she's done in her career. Really a case of nature vs nurture. They're all brothers growing up in the same household but not all bros end up the same.
You guys remember Not Without My Daughter?
I think we should start normalizing moms leaving the kids with the dad and starting over like men do. Give them exactly what he's asking for. Cut your losses, learn and leave! And I'm saying this as a mother.
Hi melanie this is unrelated but did you eventually learn french to live in france or are you okay without it? I want to move away from my toxic family to a french speaking city(montreal) but i worry i will struggle..
Everything in life worth having is worth working for. What you are describing is a struggle. When I was still a student I learned something I think more people should know.
Going somewhere you don’t speak the language, the amount of effort new speakers have with the intention of use and the struggle to decide what you hear helps new language steep into the brain faster and more effectively then just studying alone.
Just 2 weeks of daily effort living in a place where you didn’t know the language is equal to a full semester of language learning in college.
If this is something you want, that you think is healthy for you mind, body, and soul, then embrace the struggle with acclimating to somewhere new, because if that shift helps you shake of toxicity that is eroding your life, in the end that effort will yield powerful rewards.
I hope you find all the happiness and stability life has to offer no matter where you go.
@@NorthMountainFairy thank you for your response. I would absolutely love to live there and get away for my health but I just wonder if I will be able to get away without being fluent
Hey! From the opposite point of view, I'm french and english wasn't that hard to learn, 2/3 of english come from french. Also, according to wikipedia: "Montreal is one of the most bilingual cities in Quebec and Canada, with 58.5% of the population able to speak both English and French.", so no worries. 😊
@@AlanSmithee789I don’t remember who it was, but in one of my linguistic classes years ago I heard of a linguist who once described English as a sub-dialect of French because it has absorbed sooooo many French words. Like a lot.
I mean 300 years of occupation is bound to have massive and lasting social impacts. And in language in particular, because societies tend to elevate the languages and dialects of the ruling class, whoever that is. And English is such a hard language to learn because it’s a sponge language that has absorbed a so many words from so many languages.
Sorry for the rant. I’m fully a language nerd so it does not take much for me to go off.
She did a video recently where she talked about the struggles with learning french. Montreal would be a lot more forgiving for english speakers. You do find sexism and racism very much present there, and some jobs require you to speak french. The old white men that are landlords do discriminate. If you are a white woman with a degree, it is easier. But it is a beautiful city! One struggle is getting a job close to where you work and not having a big commute. Think about what you want long term in your life and build yourself up towards that. I don't know where you are in your life, but for me getting a degree and job in tech gave me a lot of power. I was no longer dependent on anyone else and I had freedom. I stopped being obsessed about getting married (being dependent).
Create a position of power for yourself and build towards your happiness and future! ❤ I am rooting for you!
😮😢omg it's true about short guys
it's not that women prefer tall men because of the fact they're tall, moreso because of short men's insecurity. sex begs think begging is leading.
I barely survived a 6 hour plane ride i highly doubt i can survive camp/van life 😂😅
Not a party to the Hague Convention is a big deal
Never thought about that
Love at first sight is lust nothing else. Infatuation not love. Sure it can grow into love depending on the circumstances but most men confuse these two always talking about love during a first date....no you are infatuated
King baby 😂
Ive realized that i have little T from men. I think every woman does.
I did not know that you were in FRANCE 🇫🇷
Too COOOOOOL!!! :::
I’m also Gen X and never watched GOT or listened to the Jonas brothers… had no idea you are married to a person from another country… interesting… and I get the children aspect..
3:33 i felt that oh my God 😅
You didn't miss anything with game of thrones, it was awful just like the books. Everyone was all excited for the finale, and I, having read all the books, told them "Don't get excited it's going to suck, y'all". They got mad at me for telling them, then the next day, they were mad at me for being right. They weren't even all xy. 🤣
Don't do it! Don't even move to another city. Don't even move into his house and don't let him move into yours!
Je n’ai aucun complexe à dire que les hommes français sont pour la plupart de gros prétentieux satisfaits et ingrats, et radins. Pas ton homme, Melanie, et bien sûr pas tous, mais on peut faire une generalité. Btw you talk about love but how would you describe it??
i'm old and i've never had the problems with french men younger american women are describing. of course patriarchy exists here too but not like in the us.
@@cranberrybe j’ai 40 ans et je n’ai jamais vu une seule amie femme ne pas avoir de pb avec les francais, d’ailleurs pour beaucoup elles se marient avec des étrangers et les mecs français partent à l’étranger pour y trouver des femmes pauvres qui leur coutent moins cher.
En tant qu'homme français et mari de Melanie, j'ai envie de répondre. 😉 (Maybe Mel has a different perspective on that??)
Mais oui, j'entend le point de vue sur le côté prétentieux et parfois ingrat de la culture française et de ses hommes. Moins sûr par contre, à propos du coté satisfait et radin, en tout cas, ce n'est pas le cas de 90% des hommes français que je connais... 😅
Une ou un sociologue pourrait clairement trancher avec plus de clairvoyance et d'acuité sur ce sujet, tout en questionnant le principe des généralités et / ou des clichés.
Dans tous les cas, merci pour ton commentaire, cela fait progresser la chaine, je transmets ton questionnement à Melanie pour son avis sur la question. 🙏❤😊
What about men who want to only marry petite women? Let’s say 5 ft.,4in. and under.
What is the name of the fb group,is it wrong that i want to read those posts and learn more?
I think love at first sight might be real. When I first met my platonic friends I liked them instantly, and we’re still friends 20 years later. So why not with a romantic connection?
I didn’t know you live in France ! Do you like living there ?
I think she's enjoying living here. It's not easy everyday but I think I can talk for Mel (I'm her husband) and say that life feels pretty safer here than in US. 👍😊
i didnt understand one bit
I feel so sorry for you... What part do you want to be described or explained more, for your understanding?
Me french : Oh "tasse et couvercle à 0.72€ " - Oh wait, I can read that ? oH THATS FRENCH ! XD
Gen X...famous for not caring about much of anyone or anything...heck yeah!
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The term “shut up” has been around for a few decades at least. It’s not a new phenomenon.
Women are crazy, she had money and the means to have those kids on British soil why didnt she? All she had to say was she wanted to be with her mother or family and go stay with them before her third trimester have the kid there and stay a couple months then come back to America she would have saved her self so much trouble now. They couldn't have held British citizens hostage and he has the means to come see his kids if he wants to.
It is always weird and confusing to read a comment that starts with "Women are crazy" on this channel...
Are you lost or just provocative?
@@AnthonyBuisson-ug5iv no not at all, but i should have clarified better. I mean women are crazy with the amount of trust they just put into men. Maybe i am just paranoid but i dont trust poeple that much i am sorry I always try to cover myself in case the worst happens and poeple don't turn out to be who they reperented themselves to be. And i keep seeing so many other women put their trust in men when it most of the time ends in dispoinement. She could have easily protected her self and her kids better with him non the wiser but she trusted him so much and that trust was misplaced. Sadly kids are often the inoccent ones to pay the price. Had those kids been born on british soil with her as their mother she would've stood more of a chance of having them, I watched too may show about peoeple fight custody battles for kids in foreign countries.
@@AnthonyBuisson-ug5iva lot of women seem to be crazy though , I can't fathom the idiotic decisions they make when it comes to men,decisions that do not benefit them whatsoever
@@purplelove3666 😂just read the comments instead of playing stup1d, it's not that hard to get, ted Bundy was a Nice guy, in fact all 4busers are Nice with their v1ctims so they can manipulate them, stop v1ctim blaming