Anxiously Attached & Preoccupied? This is Why You're obsessed!

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Welcome to Lessons in Attachment! If you have an anxious attachment style, you know the struggle of feeling obsessed and preoccupied with someone you like. Have you ever heard of 'outside-in orientation'? It's a common tendency among people with anxious attachment.
In this episode, Carly Ann discusses some of the reasons behind this obsession and preoccupation you experiencer.
Discover how this mindset leads to neglecting and self-abandoning the most important relationship of all-the one with yourself. Tune in to learn how to break free from these patterns and nurture a healthier connection with yourself and others.
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[@Supsup7777]

So I started dating a guy a month ago. We are both in our 40's and marriage minded. Neither one of us have been married. I am hugely triggered right now. He is only making one day a week for me on the weekend.. but it seems like it's after his other plans were made with friends. Feels like I get the scraps. I wanted to meet up once during the week. It would be an hour drive for both of us. He lives and works like 90 miles from me but has another house that is an hour for me. We could meet there once per week but it does not seem like he wants to make that effort. I know I am triggered... but also I am not sure if he is just not the right guy for me. Or if this is both that and the anxious attachment... or if it is only my anxious attachment. And if its the later... do I use it to heal... not that I would drag him into my healing. I would like to heal on my own without bringing him into it all that much. I have been very direct. But I am obsessing about what he is not doing and it hurts. Makes me want to walk away. Thoughts?

[@basi934]

This is literally the situation I’m in at the moment with my on/off again BF of almost 2 years. I keep walking away but then I’m not sure if it’s me overreacting and we get back together. But then he never tries to modify his behavior in any way. He is a classic avoidant and I am so exhausted at this point. I’m coming to the place where I’m asking myself if I would be ok staying with him like this because he isn’t changing.