RELATIONSHIP CHAT : HE'S CHRISTIAN, I'M MUSLIM - HELP!
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- PART ONE : Multicultural & mixed religion relationships are common today, but still throw up so many questions/struggles/situations. Shakeel Romero and I discuss the topic briefly & next week I will touch on as many different barriers/solutions as possible to hopefully help you analyse/assess your situation more deeply! Xx
Just to clear up: interracial marriages are completely fine in Islam but interfaith usuallyyyy isn't.
True, but most families would rather their child didn't marry out the culture/ race.
S TN same in Christianity
saltusg actually interfaith is allowed. A Muslim man can marry a woman from the books ie Jews and Christians, but a Muslim woman is only allowed to marry a Muslim man.
leee baps actually a Muslim women can marry a person of the book as well. But seems a lot of people don't agree with that now.
love is love haha no she's not. A Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man
If you ask God and pray that he reveal if the person you are with is meant for you...then let God take care of the rest.
Thats what i was thinking but my boyfriend rn is muslim and he says that no matter what circumstances hes in he refuses to give up his religion. I haven't tried to force him into anything i just said to ease into Christianity or be open to the thought of it. It didnt end well an we ended up fighting a lot. We discussed things like having kids in the future and he said that he was open to both of us sharing our religions an teachings with our children an letting them decide on it. But im just worried that one day he will get upset over them choosing Christianity and possibly do something to put them in harms way weather that's physical or emotional. Please provide me with advice on this someone?
@@hannahbanana1726 sometimes (and let’s not even put religion in the mix for a moment) if your other half is not willing to be open to other things or compromise for the most part you might want to take a step back. You can’t always be a YES girl. I’ve learned this the hard way and I know it’s probably something you might not want to hear. I’m with a Muslim man and he makes me secure in my opinions and what I want out of the relationship. He is respectful towards my faith and I am to his. Now what does that mean for our children in the future is something totally different but like I said before if there is no compromise then the relationship will not thrive in a healthy way.
Crazy how that works. After being ghosted in my last “relationship” I took a year off away from dating or even thinking about boys. I prayed and prayed for God to let me meet a guy who is nice, sweet, knows what he wants, doesn’t fool around, you know the guy that your parents would absolutely love. Welp earlier this year he delivered and did not disappoint. Thing is he is Muslim and tbh I knew God sent him my way. So i think regardless of faith he knew this man can provide for me and care for me as I waited and prayed for.
@@nancyy6312 hey, sis, how are you doing these days? Did you really get together with that fine Muslim guy and how did it go, are you still together, what are your insights now, etc? Greetings...also - been missing Tias videos
@@AmericanDreamer funny reading back on it now. Red flags were everywhere and no longer with the person. All lies and excuses. Set your standards high and never settle
As a child from a interfaith marriage - DONT DO IT !
Tee C why?
because i followed my dads religion n later (at 16) became a muslim and this caused conflict between me and my father. its just easier and better for the child to be in a home with one religion unless both parents are liberal and dont follow their religion as much
I was brought up with my mum . I'm mixed raced / mixed religious parents. My mum is agnostic but lucky she taught me about Islam growing up . But it definitely is so difficult to know growing up what religion was right for me. But later became Muslim if it wasn't for her teaching me about it young I wouldn't have known about Islam
Thought I was the only mixed child who changed to one of their parents religion. lol guys the struggle (betrayal, ''you chose him'' ''you chose her'')
love is love
I still don't get it how people can become muslims knowing what the founder of islam Mohammed was doing and also knowing what quran and hadiths are teachings including comands to fight and kill non-muslims, not to take Jews and Christians as friends etc. Especially im shocked that there are still black muslims knowing that Mohammed himself had black slaves and that islam established slavery in Africa long time even before America was discovered....Oh... actually I think I have the answer to my question.... It is so because actually people don't know Mohammed, quran and hadiths
The one thing that has stood out to me and has been on my mind for hours while watching this video is WHY IS IT AS HUMANS WE ALWAYS LOOK FOR WHAT DIVIDES US THAN WHAT UNITES US ? 🤔
Muslims have no God,only muhammad.
The comment section is so interesting.
Tell me about it! Smh
The rain is so calming
Going into a relationship thinking about changing the other faith is twisted really. If that matter so much leave them be and find someone else to love.
I've been there & its not easy. 'What religion will our kids be?' etc. Love is powerful, but sometimes religious incompatibility will fester and resurface as resentment later down the line , especially if one party has converted for Love & not God. Important to communicate what your expectations are before the relationship gets too deep, but also to remember that you accepted your partner as you met them and therefore can't expect them to change. Great video Tia :)x
Lois Samantha I love this comment's sentiment. Thank you Lois!
this is so true. my dad is Muslim from Morocco and my mum is Christian but mixed Swiss, Jamaican but born here. from my experience it's not good unless there's understanding before kids come in to the picture. most men become more religious when they have children especially girls. we were raised Muslim but it causes many problems n the kids deal with the differences and arguments.
Why not teach them both religions and let them make their own choice when they are older?
hazel eyes absolutely. I'm not saying it can't be done. It just takes 2 people who are tolerant ,willing to compromise and who see beauty in other religions . I think it's hard to show a neutral stance as a parent who is actively practising their faith. Inconsistencies between 2 religions may be confusing for a child. This is why I think you need to have conversations early on :)
hazel eyes thats what m parents did. They taught us about both catholicism and islam and let us choose when we are old enough. 1 sister chose christianity us three chose islam. But we are respectful and appreciative of all cultures and religions because we grew up in a mixed home. There was no room for hate, ignorance or intolerance of different cultures and backrounds so it was a blessing in a way too.
I feel like British people are so much more knowledgeable about Islam than Americans or Canadians, I like that they tackled this issue very respectfully
dont worry bout it That's not true at all.
That’s a very uneducated comment.
-Canadian girl who has a lot of knowledge about Islam :)
I agree, when comparing Americans (I live in the U.S) no offense..
A. B. That’s an interesting non-true fact. Lol. I’m a Canadian born Pakistani currently living in UK and have come across so so many non practicing Muslims, many whom don’t even believe in God or care to pray. Many fail to acknowledge the religion altogether... and those who know probably only know as much as I do.
Stella viura Your comment shows how “smart” you are...
*****You’re. It’s you’re, not “ur”
If you’re going to ATTEMPT to insult someone at least use proper grammar
I literally never comment on RUclips, but I just have to say Tia, you are such a refreshing voice in what really is a sea of monotony on this platform. I appreciate the thought provoking discussions you have - the authenticity always keeps me thoroughly engaged! On the topic, I'm a Muslim revert who has been with a born Muslim for a few years. From my own perspective, love and chemistry are amazing and shouldn't be undermined. But for us, having shared values and beliefs (religion being the major but not the only one), has made our journey a lot easier than the relationships we've both been in where that wasn't the case. In saying that, everyone relates differently and we can't all follow a one size fits all format. If you feel having differing beliefs do not hinder the growth of your relationship but instead add to it, then that is your right to live your truth.
Laei Kissel couldn't agree more! Tia is sooo well spoken!
I LOVE THIS COMMENT. Thank you so much for sharing your reality with me ( and youtube) Xxxx
Laei Kissel
You are not a muslim revert unless you were born muslim and then left islam and went back to it. Otherwise you a muslim convert!
Abdullah Hussein from what I understand you are considered a revert because we are born in submission to Allah by default, and stray during the course of our life. So I call myself a revert as I am reverting back to my original state. Jazaakallahu khair.
Laei Kissel
This islamic statement is in its nature very xenophobic and racists as it is depriving people of their identities! On top of that it is very inconsistent: simply, how someone born in a jungle be born muslim if they even don't know that something like islam exists?!
We are however all born humans! I was born muslim, but I left islam and am a proud follower of Jesus/Isa Messih. I am a Chrsitian convert and this was my choice. You are a muslim convert. There a our choices that are influencing our life.
However I have to admit that I find it very naive and ignorant to convert to islam in times of easily accessible knowledge where poeple can finally read quran and hadiths. How a book commanding to kill non-muslims, commanding not to take Jews and Christians as friends and to charge Jews and Christians discriminating jizya be a book from God?! How can be it be a true religion while commanding to kill those who are leaving islam?! How Mohammed can be the "best example to humanity" considering his life described among others in hadiths: launching wars, killing people, attacking and robing Meccan caravans, forcing a Jewish women into a marriage the same day he killed her whole family, marrying his adoptive sons wife, having multiple wives and sex slaves, having black slaves and establishing slavery among black people long before even America was discovered..
I had no religion, my other half is Muslim, I was friends with him for a few months and in that time I realised how fascinating and spiritual Islam was, I researched quite carefully about it, I made friends who were reverts and also Muslims - I'm now married to him and we have a beautiful baby boy. If you look beyond the stereotypes and research yourself, Islam is so beautiful Subhaan'Allah
Also, my other half is Bengali and his culture is amazing
Wow beautiful thanks for sharing with us Islam indeed is a beautiful religion
You get the biggest reward in the after life wow your comment made me smile :')
Actually Islam is the least spiritual religion on earth it's like having an imaginary dictator controlling your life. It's a political ideology I feel sad when I hear that people think in such a fallacious way about Islam cz Muslims make it look beautiful but it's not. Especially Westerners who do not speak Arabic. A prophet who married a six year old and had sex with her at the age of nine, and had eleven wives he goes to Medina and starts ordering his men to raid caravans of Mecca. Then he dies and his companions start killing his family members. Every important figure in Islam was killed by poison or by the sword by a fellow muslim. Come on! You know in Islam you can't refuse to have sex with your husband, and he's allowed to hit you if you don't behave.
Alesha Rahman And I'm CHRISTIAN and I will Marry to Muslim girl .
She loves me and I love her ..
SHE IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME NOW .
I LOVE HER EYES 😻
Pater Noster wow you really have islam wrong why don't you read the Quran properly for yourself instead of listening to Islam hating preachers an taking their word and following what they say like a sheep. Our prophet never slept with a minor back then people were way mature not like these days it was the norm back then look at your bible first Mary married a 90 year old Joseph wen she was around 13 to 14 that's way worse. Also never can the husband force his wife to have sex and beat her how can you beat someone when you can't leave hurt the women and you cant hit her on her face and you can't leave a mark / bruise wtf do you call that beating you must be an uneducated idiot lol you haters make me laugh you know absolutely nothing about our religion and claim to know everything get lost man go read your bloody bible go worship your 3 in 1 gods 1+1+1 =3 not 1 you dumb twat. Go back to school and do your gcse again cause you Christians definitely failed!!!!!
Culture gets mixed with religion, major problem
I think a lot of non-Muslims do not understand why its so hard for a Muslim to marry a non-Muslim. For most Muslims, its not even something they would consider because of inevitable future conflict. And this is not in a mean/excluding way. As a Muslim, you want your children to be raised on Islamic principles and you want to have an Islamic household. You want everyone to pray and practice Ramadan, believe in the oneness of God. Do you know how difficult that is when you have a partner of the opposite faith who is teaching your child otherwise? Idk, its just not for most of us really. I think it would be way easier if it was like a Atheist/Non-orthodox/non-practising couple because I find that they will be less practicing in day to day life, so it would be easier. Like for example, Muslims believe that believing in a higher power other than Allah is 'shirk' (aka the worst sin that you can possibly commit), so marrying someone who for example believes that Jesus/Vishnu/etc is God (or believes in multiple gods) would just be so difficult to come to terms with. Ofcourse, it still happens but generally with non-religious/practicing Muslims. If you are a practising Muslim, it's just makes sense to marry someone from your own religion.
Spot on
Maia perfectly put.
Maia just perfect! Couldn't say it better :) May Allah SWT bless you for spreading haq in the right well mannered way!
Maia Less practicing? I am Hindu, practicing but I also have very strict rules. My ex was a Muslim and he was great, actually had an easier time than me. We ended after 6 years as my family was strict. So it's not only Islam. Anyways, things can work even if Orthodox as people can integrate two if they wish to.
Sunethra K I dont know about people from other faiths but for us muslim girls who Love Islam more than anything would never even think about marrying someone outside our religion. To us it's either religion ot the other person, nothing in between because our religion doesnt allow that, that's it. Might be difficult for non-muslims to understand that but this is how it is.
As a Muslim women, I could never see myself marrying someone who isn't Muslim but culture is not something I would worry about, I would marry anyone of any race but my religion is the most important to me. I think that's same with other faiths too.
@путин idiot recheck your definition of racist
@путин She clearly said she would marry any race so she is very unlikely to be racist.. You can't be throwing around accusations without any good evidence.
Muslim woman can’t marry a non Muslim man unless he converts to Islam.
@путин bro, you didn't understand her, im a muslim dude i can marry a christian/jew woman as long as they beleive in one god, but i won't leave my religion
i dont have a faith
Loved this! I was raised by a Buddhist Father and a Christian Mother. I would say I believe in a God but not a specific religion. I was with a Muslim man for 3 years. It was very difficult but his family accepted me nearer to the end of our relationship. He cheated on me in the end 😩🙈😂 Unfortunately, as mentioned in the video, religion doesn't always directly correlate to somebodies morals and actions!
Ah man. Im sorry to hear about the cheating.. I agree I think mostly they don't correlate! Xx
I’m in a similar situation my family is Muslim and my girlfriend is Buddhist. Could I talk to you somehow I’d like to ask some advice from you and hear your story
I'm Christian and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years who is Muslim. At the start we went through a lot of struggles with my parents who do not think it can work based on our different religions to the point where my parents have said that they would no longer accept me if we where to get married. However his family are fully supportive of are relationship to the point where they do not expect me to convert to being a Muslim if we are to get married if it's not a personal choice of mine. We love each other and respect each other's religion and are both very open minded. We have always said that if we were to get married we would have both religious weddings and if we were to have kids they would be able to choose what faith they would like to follow. It's all down to the two people in the relationship and the respect they have for each other. yes it is difficult when one side of the family does not agree/support the relationship based on religion but at some point if the two people in the relationship believe it can work, see it to be long term and truly love each other I just think that has to be more important than the parents rejection on the relationship just simply based on religion and not on the person personally . After being with my boyfriend for 3 years I can say that it is not as difficult with my parents as it was at the start of relationship but I'm sure opinions on my family side will come up again if we decide to get married.
chantel musoke update??
I am a Muslim man and my girlfriend is a Christian woman and she recently broke up with me because of the uncertainty of our future. We are extremely in love but the difficulties of how to raise our children was very hard on her. Her family also didn’t approve so much where as my family is very supportive (not trying to disrespect her family). My family are immigrants to America and her family has been here for generations. I very much believed that we could make it work and we just had to take it one step at a time but in the end she didn’t want to have to deal with all these situations. No telling what the future has in store for the both of us but it just sucks that this is still our reality in such a diverse day in age. Especially in America one of (if not) the most diverse place in the world. Nonetheless I wish everyone else who are in these situations nothing but success in your relationships and your future with your partner.
I can relate to this 100% but I was wondering if you and you boyfriend ever argue over which religion the kids should get baptized in?
Also I know that religions don’t allow you to do certain things, how do you deal with that?
Both Christians and Muslims believe life after death and those who don't believe their way will go to hell fire 🔥 and will abide so is my question is how you can share a life with someone whom you believe they will be burned in fire....!!!.
My family are mixed with Christianity and Muslim. My believes is that we serve the same God we just have different regulations and ways of praising God
Rachel Bada thank you ! You explained it all
Rachel Bada although that would be nice to have. Unfortunately they're many differences between the religion however their are similar aspects
Rachel Bada Agreed!
I agree, I'm Christian and the guy I'm talking to is a Buddhist. I was so confused so I started looking up these videos
Hello Rachel Bada Living peaceful among eachother it is what i would wish for the whole world we live in, but can i ask you are you a Muslim or a Christian?
You know this too both religions are almost similar except this Jesus is God and is Mohammed the last prophet? these two cases is what makes the difference.
I find it's always the person who is less rigid in their belief who will end up compromising/sacrificing more. Resent will inevitably result. Find someone who is the same level of chill as yourself 😂
Tia great insight as always.
Panda Eyes the same level of chill haha, I love that. I'm not making a judgement either way, simply interested in the conversation & enjoying hearing peoples views, so thank you for sharing yours! X
Amen 🙌🏼
I agree with Shakeel. Honestly speaking, it's 'easier' to marry within the same faith... Families tend to be more accepting of another race as supposed to another faith entirely. It depends also, is your family conservative or liberal in either faith... this would determine the success of accepting the other partner. Personally for me, I married within my faith, which is Christianity, and if I were Muslim, I would marry a Muslim man, I believe God would give you the perfect Muslim, or Christian, Jew or whatever. God is not the author of confusion and He will give you a partner following your same faith (or at least willing to convert to either religion) so you could build together. so if this is going to cause havoc, chaos and division, then I don't see the point in getting in to it. Great video as always Tia x
Chanel Ambrose Bible says you have to be equally yoke I read. Mixed religions are actually a no no in Christianity.
Saving/ me unequally yoke has nothing to do with religion instead it has to do with spirituality both must be a believer of God.
Shenice Robley sure..
liberal means when you dont follow religions.
Chanel Ambrose totally agree👍👍👍👍👍
my gran aunt and grand uncle they are both of different faiths, she christian and he muslim. the marriage worked, he loved and respected his wife so much he said its up to her if she wants to change religion. she made sure to show the same love and respect at times she covered her hair up and when she spend time with his family did the same. they also gave the same decision to their kids what religion they felt was right for them to pick.
i feel anything is possible as long as the man and woman both have the understanding and respect for each other, it can work.
People need to understand that once you commit a intimate relationship with someone, with a different ethnicity/religion than you etc. Just know that "THAT" is the package that comes with it. Keep in mind that you adore/love that significant other for who they are, and that their etnicity/religion is what comes with it.
If your principles/morals/religion are very precious by heart, but you two are different, and it crashes with the other. Try finding the balance, or compromise to keep that relationship going. Its about giving and taking.
Obviously there will always be a bigger picture, and peoples decisions/paths in life are not the same. Different story backrounds/ difficulties may unforsantly dominate the surface.
I completely agree with you when you say who you choose to love shouldn't be anyone else's concern but your own!
Its not your parents/relatives/friends who will be with/marry that person.
They can advise you on what they think, but at the end of the day it should be your ownnnnn decision who you decide to be with as it is your life and you need to follow your own path which is separate from anyone else
I think the mistake some people make is thinking of Christianity as a religion, it's a lifestyle. If you think of it that way then it's difficult to get with someone who doesn't agree or participate in the way you live your life. I think what ends up happening is that people compromise their faith and beliefs in some way in order to make it work which is wrong
Love Sam could you expand in terms of Christianity as a lifestyle? How would someone loving someone they believed created them have an impact on how someone of no faith or a different faith get in the way?
+Chloe I'm sorry but I don't quite understand the second part of your question. Would you mind rephrasing it please so I could try to answer it for you?
Love Sam I'm asking how a Christian loving God would make loving someone else who doesn't difficult? Maybe examples of what you are referring to?
+Chloe Ahhh ok I understand you now. Let's use a different scenario so maybe you could understand where I'm coming from. Let's say you have a child and this child is your life and let's say the person you 'love' doesn't love and neither do they accept your child. Could you love someone like that? And if the answer is yes, the real question is SHOULD you get with someone like that? If you tried to make it work you would have to compromise your love for your child and value this said person above your child. This would make you unhappy. Do you get what I mean?
Love Sam I would think that's a scenario that is hard to connect to religion. A child is something you are responsible for and have created through choice and action; Therefore I would assume that the love itself is different from loving God. As someone who was once a Christian, I see it like this; as long as there is no hate towards the other person's religion or love for a God, there's no reason why you can't accept it. Just like the fact that I am not a Christian (and I might date someone who is a Christian) but my family is, I accept their beliefs and they accept mine and we can still happily live under the same roof and love each other. It's something we can discuss openly and understand each other's points of view and why we have different points of view because we have something in common; we love each other.
I find that the problem with this sort of topic is that people that are not very religious (or have no religion) find it hard to understand people where religion is extremely important to them.
I could never marry someone out of my religion, how can I love someone who doesn't share the same love that I have for my religion? Religion is my life and it's a part of everything I do in life.
Instead of using religion as an example, let's use a different scenario. Say if you are the type of person that wants to go travelling around the world during your life. And you meet someone who doesn't want that and would rather stay at home. Do you think in the long run it is wise for you to marry that person?
There will inevitably be issues further down the line, you either live separate lifestyles doing the things you love (which sounds very lonely) or you find someone who shares the same love you have for the thing you do and you travel the world together!
Of course this also depends on how religious you are, and if you think your piety will remain the same throughout your life. A lot of people become more devoted to their religion as they get older. Which will of course effect their relationship.
This is a great snalogy. Thsnks for contributing
Amy Lewis people with no religion can absolutely understand. I could not be with a religious person because it's incredibly important to me that my children are not brainwashed and make their own decisions in regard to religion.
Dalai Mami True dat.
Dalai Mami lol brainwashed...yeah u totally understand
Dalai Mami Brainwashed.....how original. A little respect wouldn't hurt
I am a Christian woman and I am dating a man who isn't religious at all. It is a struggle for me because our lifestyles are different. I do love him very much and at the same time do not know how to handle these differences, especially if we decide to raise a family together.
Lillie Fiori hopefully part two of this video will be of some help to you Lillie!! Xxx
Lillie Fiori Just leave babe... I'm sure the Holy Spirit beeeen talking to you.
When the other part is not religious, trust me that is better if he has a different faith. At least he wouldn't mind at all I guess. My boyfriend lives thinking about God and he loves God so much. I'm not religious but I don't mind him living in his Christianity, plus if we will ever have kids I won't mind if he wants to raise them as Christians. I will teach them how to be nice person despite of the faith, and yheir dad will teach them how to be good Christians I believe...
Being not religious doesn't mean being against who has a belief.
Lillie Fiori Leave him if he holds you back from your faith. Don't be unevenly yolked
Lillie Fiori your in a dangerous boat my dear, please be careful, we are conscious of something called sin, and we all know that scripture tells us he who continues to sin a salve of sin and of the devil.. he may not even care if he's going around lying and fornication and watching things he shouldn't.
This was such a well educated, well spoken, thought out discussion. You truly hit all the points. Thank you.
From a Christian perspective, the bible touches on unequally yoked relationships. We shouldn't follow our emotions, but God's will and being in a relationship with someone that is not from the same faith as you may distract you on your walk with Christ. Really and truly I believe that God will only put a person in your life so that you can grow together spiritually and I can't imagine that to be possible with someone that isn't from the same religion. That's just what I think anyway.
We can agree on this 100% my dear. I was raised Christian and became Muslim and I would never marry a Christian man because of that. I believe that sin is sin and that we must stop sinning and seek God and clearly that is not what the Bible preaches. saved by grace is a negative principle for me because I believe we must work for our salvation and remeber God 24/& I also respect the laws regarding food, clothes and hair and I have never cut my hair since I became Muslim. I beieve in the laws of the isralites and sadly Christians done so marrying one would be the worst decision. My perspective is that I want to worship God like Abraham and that involved taking out the middle man or idols and marrying idol worshippers will also have the same effect. I would only marry a Muslim man and a specific kind, not a secular shia
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Because of the length rule that was given to women especially because hair must be kept a certain length. I only cut the one I am 100% sure I should leave not there eg pubic hair but when it comes to the one on my head it is never touched by a razor, scissor or such.
I also had that hairstyle (yes the Rihanna ,Miley Cyrus, mohawk thing) and I rounded the edges of my head because I saw people doing it even in church and that was when I cut my hair bald the day before I reverted/converted and gave myself a new start from the evil of my past and decided to follow all dietary, hygiene laws etc. I feel like it keeps me safe from sin by staying away from things that promote it like haircuts which are evil eg that one...
beykim premadona I understand where you're coming from and you've touched on something a lot of christians use as an excuse to sin. Just because we (christians) have been saved by grace does not mean we can continue to disregard God's commandments. Receiving God's grace also comes with a renewing of the mind, a change of heart and actions. So even though we don't 'earn' grace, as children of God we automatically work for it. We do this by living a godly life, loving others and having a heart for God. I think this is what some christians miss when looking at the concept of grace. Another way to look at it is the bond between a parent and a child. A parent automatically loves their child and provides the best for them because they are a part of them. A child has done nothing to earn this but to belong to that family. Their parent may tell them to do something and a child can be disobedient, but it doesn't mean they love them any less. They still provide for them. I see God that way. I can be disobedient and He is a just God so I believe He will deal with me accordingly but He doesn't love me any less and because of that He gives me the best life possible.
beykim premadona the reason why salvation is not earned is because God wants us to come him just the way he are. When we give our life to Christ we are being humble and telling ourselves that we need Christ to change us because we are sinners and we are sorry for everything that we've done. As long as we are sincere about it, just like that we are saved. However, from then on we must see a change in ourselves from before and after... because we've made a commitment to honour God in all the days of our life.
Amen
hey
my family has had Christian and muslim in the family for almost 100 years. we refuse to Disrespect either. i am Catholic.
but my muslim cousins are my family and I LOVE them. my auntie has been married to muslim for 32 years and she is still of catholic. they have 4 children and its never a problem.
whoever thinks its a problem IS THE PROBLEM
Thankyou so much for posting this video, it couldn't have appeared on my homepage at a better time! I'm currently dating a muslim guy and have been for the past year, I am a Christian with a christian family, so this has created many issues on both sides! We work every day to compromise and love each other and it sometimes for both of us it feels like a lonely and isolated place to be! Its so comforting to know that these are struggles and challenges that others face and to hear the opinions of you both....thankyou!
Sara Dawson oh wow! I'm so happy to hear that this came at a time you needed it! I really hope you guys stand any tests that come your way in terms of religion/culture & build something unshakeable! Xx
I'm East African and I fucking hate the racism within east african communities against other african/blacks. Its disgusting period. We are as black as can be, so why do we think we are any better. It honestly breaks my heart. My all black brothers and sisters I love you.
Tell me about it, its disgusting tbh
Absolutely love this video and the way you get the opinions and views across. Perfectly summarised as well Tia ❤️
We are in an interracial marriage but are both Muslim, with Simon being a revert to Islam.
Even with marrying a revert, it was a huge learning curve, as we started to figure out what is truly Islam and what is actually culture.
There are good and bad people from every culture and religion. What I do love about England is the diversity. Who is anyone to judge what is right and wrong. As you said Tia, the most important thing is good morals and respect towards others and their decisions!
The problem always occurs when people force their beliefs on others.
Islam is a very beautiful compassionate religion but sadly many Muslims misinterpret their own faith and let many cultural things get in the way and disguise it as religious demands etc . Love and peace to all
What your saying is so true. It is completely wrong to mix culture with Islam.
As Sunni Muslims we are supposed to lives according to
Qu'ran, Sunnah and Hadith(the Seerah of the life The Prophet(pbuh).
When The Prophet(pbuh) prophesized that there would be innovations(bi'daah-unlawful cultural practices after his death, he didn't say they would be allowed in Islam but that they were one of the signs of Qiyamah.
No culture gonna save anyone on DOJ or in the Aakirah.
Only our worship for Allah's sake, our deeds, how we treated others, what we did with the knowledge Allah gave us and how we answer what we did in our youth, following Sunnah and learning from the Seerah( Authentic Hadith) Narrarations from the Sahabas that heard words directly from the Prophet(pbuh) where he taught us so many things about a broad range of topics to help us strenghen our Iman. May Allah(SWT) allow all of us to be amongst those that will be very near the Holy Prophet(pbuh) when he goes down in Sujood to Allah(SWT) just outside the gates of paradise and then asks Allah(SWT) if he can intercede on our behalf, When Allah(SWT) says yes and The Prophet(pbuh) starts the intercession for us May we be forgiven all our sins and be given permission to be in Rasulullah(S.A.W.'S) company in paradise along with all the other Prophets'(Allayhissalam) and all the Sahabas, Ameen.
Islam is not only the worst religion, it's the worst ideology man ever created. It's a plague.
I was born and raised in a Muslim country by Muslim parents. I moved
To a western country and actually live there on my own for few years now... I am dating a non Muslim guy and my mom doesn't know about it. I told my sisters but none of them agree or like to meet my boyfriend. I have never felt "very Muslim" never prayed regularly, I fast during Ramadan more for cultural reasons than religious reasons. The reason I'm scared has nothing to do with Islam or Allah. It's only the fear to hurt my mom as it will have a negative impact on her image in the family and her friends. I am in a very hard situation in my life right now and I try to do my best in order to stay focused and strong. I have mixed feelings between putting my happiness first and thinking about my mom. I do not wish my situation on any one. I do not wish to anyone to be from a so stupidly (excuse me for the word but this is how I feel about it) conservative culture like mine!
Zira Humble you will regret later. You could have used that time to find out the perfect Muslim instead.
Hey sister.
I think it’s time for you to reflect on what is most important in life. I urge you to go back to your foundations in Islam and to build a connection with Allah. Ask Allah for guidance. If that doesn’t work, then do whatever your heart tells you.
I just want you to know that Islam isn’t just rules and that without connecting with Allah, Islam is a shell without any significance. Allah is the most merciful, most gracious, and is extremely loving. Try to use Allah as a source for comfort than as a remnant of your broken relationship with your parents.
Zira Humble it depends how religious you are and if you don't feel strongly about it then good luck with this guy. A word of warning though - don't compromise your values for him unless you want to because it can really hurt you in the end. But if you have the strength of mind I think inter racial relationships are inevitable and will become a lot more common in the UK in 20 years time.
I was in the same boat sister 💖
I'm so glad you both discussed this. We need more openness to even just talk about these things that most people don't.
It's a shame that in 2017 we can't just move forward and embrace our differences as it's what makes us special. I know so many people who battle the issue of interfaith relationships. Great video by the way
DAMN this is the best video on RUclips I've watched in ages. I was literally engaged from start to finish. So many perspectives
NinjaTea 0161 thank you so much!
I'm a Christian, and I would never marry a Muslim. Not because I am ignorant to their beliefs nor because I hold any prejudices against them but simply because I believe marriage is the foundation to build the rest of your life with someone. Majority of marriages produce children and I would love to raise my children in a Christian household. If my spouse is a Muslim evidently there would be conflicting religious views which would cause confusion in a child in what religion they believe to belong to. Could they be both Christian and Muslim because mummy is a Christian and daddy is a Muslim? Realistically, the answer to that is no. I would want them to follow Christ although I understand that ultimately it is their decision what they choose. Long story short for ME the thought of wedding someone outside of my religion requires a compromise of my beliefs to some extent and would effect the way I would like my child to be raised. I feel so selfish admitting this ngl but for some reason I thought to share this. Also I'd like to point out how wavey her Skepta shirt is lool
xxRandomCxx . In the quran god says the closest people to muslims are the christians. Our god in quran is god of abraham. We love jesus he is alive n will come back. He was born miraculously. So how can you say that never marry muslim.
Samsul Alom because our God in the bible Jehova tells us not to marry someone from another religion. That won't work.
Ava Ava yes but we love jesus and beleive in the pure god of abraham with no impurities. God will not forgive you if you say things that god did not say. Like he is like this or like that. Referring god to a man is an unforgivable sin in the quran thats why quran was sent to tell the christians what really happened to jesus n not to say 3 trinity
Samsul Alom that's why you are a muslim and i a Christian. Don't tell me what your god tells you, im only listening to mine God
Samsul Alom because it is her decision the Muslim book says the closest to Muslims are Christians does not mean it was said in our book we need to agree to marry anyone and was also never stated in the bible who we are close to. It says do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers so that’s it
I'm sorry this might be inappropriate but he's looking like a snack lol.
LOOOOL Stephanee! He is my little brother but peanut butter crunch fi di ladies dem lol
stephanee s a snack??...
Crysus Bu, It means she wants to fuck him. A snack(something you eat). She wants to take a bite.
Girlllll I know. I’m a Muslim and I wanna marry some guy who isn’t Muslim but damn I might just get myself a light snack ;)
@@barackobama9038 you do know you cant marry a man who isnt a muslim lol. 😂😂 unless your not really religious and an agnostic
I am a Muslim Turkish woman and my boyfriend is a Christian Ghanian man. We never had a problem with religion or race also we have the same values. I believe that as long as we both love each other and respect each other nothing is going to be a problem.
Edit: I broke up with the guy last year. Then after some religious researches, I'm a deist right now and I'm so much happier being this way 😸 I never thought my comment would get those kind of replies guys calm down 😸😸
Zeynep Demirci Ur kids will end up non Muslim lol and their abode will be jahanam
786Ranger shut up
Welcome to modernity. And love. You are a winner.
Turkish people aren't even religious. They are quite atheist in my opinion
Zeynep Demirci I feel very sad when I hear about a so called Muslim lady in a relationship or so called marriage with a non Muslim. I think it's disgusting.
I am so in love with the vibe you have Tia and the vibe you have with the people around you when you do these talks. Just lovely people all'round. So much respect, intellect and empathy. Much love ❤✌ from the Netherlands 😙😙
Thank you angel! xx
In my experience it's a clash of cultures (and tradition as you said) as opposed to religion. A lot of religions share core values and morals, in my opinion it's a difference of culture that causes issues. It saddens me that religion keeps people in love apart. It's such an amazing amazing thing. Interesting to hear both of your opinions and reading all of the comments x
Celine760 i think if both partners were raised in western society- this is their mutual cultural, regardless of parents culture/traditions which does makes it hard to get your family on your side but a lot of it is close mindedness, IMO being very strict/passionate about your religion is a greater influence on your lifestyle and will be harder to cooperate with your partner unless you are both not very practicing
Tia I just wanted to thank you for being so respectful when talking about religions. Some people speak disrespectfully in the name of freedom of speech but you still get your points across and discuss important issues without disrespecting anyone, and I love you for that.
I know this video speaks about how to introduce your partner after falling in love but I wanna back up a bit just like the brother in this video did. I am a muslim (Arab) girl born in England and raised in Scotland. Islam teachings try to protect both men and women form falling into this situation because religiously speaking you are taught not to have 'boy/girl friendships' with the opposite gender to begin with. I know is really hard and you sometimes feel socially secluded especially living in the west but thats the price you pay for living in the west. I have guy friends from uni/work and we get along very well but that is where the friendship ends. As a muslim man/woman you should know your boundaries. You know that you cannot have a long-term relationship with them so you are mentally prepared not to look for anything further. I know it is really hard believe me and I am all for love (I am as romantic as they get) but the harder it is and the more you try the better spouse Allah sends you at the end. My brother and sister went through the same story as me and they are both happily married now and they consider their spouses to be there best friends (me is still waiting for prince charming). Thats the beauty of it... there is no way you would struggle and protect yourself for Allah's sake and he let you down at the end.. he will send your best friend to you, you just have to be patient. Love and respect
I totally agree with Shakeel that the two FAMILIES also have to be compatible, in order to make it a successful relationship. If your mother in law hates you for your religion/race, it can only lead you to disaster tbh
Slightly off tangent, but I love the way Tia correctly pronounces both "Muslim" and "Pakistan(i)" 😂
Yesss same! So refreshing to hear a non-muslim pronounce it properly without making it sound like "muzlim"
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Ess Peaa hahahaha alhamdulillah
aww tia your personality is so beautiful so down to earth and real - love how open you are snd your understanding on religions cultures etc
I am so glad you two are the people who made a video about this topic. This was deep but very informative for me & my personal life. So thank you to both of you for touching on this topic.
Sonia Jewela thank you for such a lovely comment!! Next week I'm going to go waaay more in-depth with the things I think cause the main issues with this topic .. xxx
Just to clear somethings up...Muslim men can only marry women of the Abrahamic faiths (judaism, christianity or islam)...and on top of that not any woman from them, there is a specific criteria.
What criteria is that? Just curious
MorrocanZween Someone who actually practices the teachings of her religion.
Aida Ismail many Muslim men unfortunately marry non-practising christian women without a second thought, causing huge rifts in their families and always iv seen this end in divorce
sattttt of course you can do whatever you want, but if you're a practicing Muslim, then you submit to God
you CAN DO whatever you want, you are completely ABLE TO sin, but you'll be punished for it if you don't repent.
Fascinating discussion . Marriages need full support from the elders , family , friends and community. Going against the tide is a very hard road to travel. When a fish marries a bird where do they live ?
Dionne DeSouza wow.. I really like the finishing sentence.. but we aren't fish, or birds.. we're humans..
Tia Ward thank you for your reply . Hoping you will do a meet and greet or some type of event . I'll definately be there xx
Wow it's so refreshing to see a video like this up on RUclips. Didn't realise it was such a popular issue. Slyly gonna drop a compliment on how cute Shakil is too while I'm at it 😂
honestly as a whole I think the whole idea of having to date and marry from the same religion to be accepted by family is such a dated tradition and adds such pressure and stress. we are all one and deserve to feel love regardless of our beliefs. it's such a shame that there is that divide and it feels like alot of it is from families and parents. As the younger generation begin to understand the power of love I think this will eventually die out. what do.we want to teach our children of the future? I know I want to teach mine that love comes in many forms shapes and sizes. religion can be so beautiful in sharing traditions and values that's something both sides of different should embrace on all levels as isn't the end result to love and be loved. 💖💖💖💖💖
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What a humanly, beautiful way of thinking..need more beautiful human like you💞. I also come to realization that thinking about difference (race, religion) cause more suffering than to think just as a human being living a short life. Keeping in mind that life is short, i just want to decide what is best for myself, not by others (family, government).
No wonder the younger generation are divorcing at an alarming rate!
It was refreshing to hear both of you discuss the topic and see how you thought about it! As a Muslim myself I just think don't go there, like it may sound harsh but I would never put myself in a situation where I could potentially develop feelings for someone who is not Muslim as it's just wouldn't work out for me and I wouldn't want to do that to my parents as I know it would not go down well. Some people may disagree with me but I feel that my religion comes before anything in the world. Also, I actually wouldn't want to be in a relationship/marry someone who is not Muslim... I feel that there would be a huge disconnect between us both.
I wish other people could be this understanding and respectful when talking about these topics.
going through this right now I'm the christian(Born again christian) and she's a muslim and i'll get it out the way for those who might call me out, yes I know its wrong but I lover her too much I really do, but if you have faith and believe changes it can happen so here we go.. so met this amazing beautiful woman through mutual friends on facebook but at the time I already shut my feelings out for anyone so we were just friends... then as time went by we became a thing, became ldr but due to me being at the school at the time I didn't have a proper job to properly save up to go see her, but regardless we built this trust/dreams/ and learn to love each unconditionally even though we're so far apart as time went by, later on our 2 years and a half being together we finally met. Oh boy it was the most amazing experience ever she was exactly how Imagined her to be in real life with her personality being exactly the same.
Unfortunately we had to say our goodbyes, for now. later on the same year she visited me and my family welcomed her with open arms. My mom is a pastor I grew up in a christian family though my parent's were never a believer to begin with before having me, they experienced the presence of God that is why they became born again Christians. As she spent time with me I told her that will probably have a talk with my parent's regarding our difference and so we did. I'm not gonna go into details but my parents fully respected her decision and did not force her to become a christian nor tell her that Islam is wrong and just respected her and my decisions as long as we are both happy. But before all of this, in the begin of our relationship my parents were against it and I fought for her and over time my mom learned to accept it and just wants me to be happy. After that conversation it really got her and me thinking because but I don't think she realize how serious this was on her part(we were together all this time but her being a muslim she had to hide my identity to her mom and her siblings) so I told her that if anything you're probably the one that's gonna break up with me if she isn't able to fight for me like I did for her I wanted to be honest on how I felt that is why I said that, but I knew that she can do it, she can overcome this differences we have, she has a choice to choose her own path for it is her own life to choose what makes her happy so she reassured me that I'm in this with you because we love each other dearly.
After our second meet up she went back to to go on with her life and focus on school while I'm back at work focusing on my job. We still were together happy, yet the talk about her family knowing about me at some point because we have been together for 3 yrs still comes around when we have our conversations. As days goes by she got more stress with her university studies and this wall we have to over come if we were to be together forever really made her more stressed and depress but I didn't realize it because I was so busy with work and she was so busy with school that I had thought we were are just tryna get over the busy phase of the year and spend more time together again. Busy holidays are finally over and I'm planning my next trip for this year of 2019 to spend more time together. weeks of not skyping/or call on the phone we finally had a few minutes to finally talk and spend some time with each other and catch up on things. I was so happy and she was too, but then she told me that the last week before her christmas break started She finally told her mom.
As expected her mom was against it and they were fighting almost everyday for a whole week from what she told me, her mom hated that first of all I'm a christian second of all I'm not a Muslim and third.. I'm not of their culture/race and this is unrealistic. But even so I was happy that she finally knows about me though I knew at that moment that her mom finding out is the next big step for our relationship no more lock doors. She then got caught up in her emotions that day, suddenly asking me questions like what's the solution to this? what can we do? I think I'll just break up with you? its the best for us, just hitting me with bullets of nonstop questions and venting out I felt overwhelmed I couldn't come up with what to really say because that day I was just really looking forward to spend time with her... so then she just broke up with me just like that after 3 yrs of amazing relationship she threw me under the bus telling me all of a sudden " I chose my religion because I realize that I was just daydreaming and this is unrealistic" I was so devastated(still am) because why would u ever accept my love and then just say something like that to me, we were in this together not to daydream but to make our dreams come through, and so for the first time this is what it finally feels like to be "HEARTBROKEN"
I still love her I really do and this breakup just makes no sense to me because we love/loved each other unconditionally and this really gets you messed up as man.I understand it must of been hard for her specially as a muslim woman who can't marry a none muslim unless you're strong willed enough to questions this contradicting rules and follow your own path and that hopefully someday God will manifest into your life spiritually, mentally and physically, all I can do now is have my faith strong and pray that she will overcome this and if she is truly happy with me like she said she is then God will allow her back into my life and also I'm sorry but this is just my opinion I think it is complete nonesense that a muslim man can marry any woman as long as they believe in God but a muslim woman can't but then again my love for her is so strong that I'm even willing to convert for her just to be wit her but she doesn't want that because me converting won't solve her problem either with what her mom wants when really it should be what she wants it her own happiness in the end of the day. There needs to be a change in this world in terms of freedom with who we want to spend our lives with its 2019 times are changing yet so many is locked behind the rules of nature and just accept it as it is because that is where they are born into.
I read all of it broke my heart so much 🥺🥺🥺 hope ur doing okay 🥺❤️
Great video tia loved it, would you be able to do a video about friendships e.g toxic friends and how to identify when someone's negative and doesn't have your best interests xx
211greengirl 100% on my list!!!
Apologies if I'm getting a little sidetracked but I honestly just don't get where the idea that "Somalis aren't black" came from, it's such a joke. Somalia is part of Eastern Africa, the Horn of Africa to be exact. Just because Somali people or people from the Horn of Africa (e.g. Ethiopia, Eritrea and Djibouti etc) aren't "dark skinned" as compared to our Western and central African brothers and sisters, it doesn't mean they aren't black or African. I'm a Londoner of Kenyan-Somali heritage and the last time I checked, I thought I was a black African 😂😂
Sadiq Issa damn fkn straight! I really never got why Somalis think they are not black. Do they find it offensive?
Abel Your name is Abel, you're not Somali so don't speak for us looool. Yes we are a Somali, BUT we are also black. We're not white, were not yellow, we're not green. WE ARE BLACK! There's nothing wrong with being black loool sort yourself out.
Im somali, this isn't my real name and i can speak for myself.
You can keep calling yourself by the identity white suppremacists gave you but don't try to force it down on others.
Abel Quick question, what colour are we again? People don't get offended when we call them white because that is their skin tone so there's no harm in saying that. It's just common sense.
Im dating a non muslim.. but we are in long distance relationship. He is Hispanic. We met before while he was traveling in my country. I only realised im in love with him after he left. We made plan to meet again but due to this pandemic we can't. Its been 2 years ago since the first time i met him we are still in contact but its not easy. We really hope we will meet again in the future after this virus get undercontrol. We never discussed about religion or marriage. But he knows im muslim and know my boundaries. He respects that. The first time in my life he's the first men i can feel connected. He's the first men that make me feel love and beloved. We only gonna discuss about the future(marriage & religion) after we meet again. From there we can decide what to do. For me no matter how much i love him, im ready to let him go if he can't accept islam as the way of life. But i don't want to force him to accept islam because of me. I want him to accept it because he want to. Im not a very religious but i would love to learn more with him beside me.. but i cannot imagine my life without islam. We are in our middle 20s there still plenty of time. We take this slowly and we support each other passion now. Im happy seeing him love doing what he love . Sometimes i found myself praying to god if he is for me bring us closer and if he's not take him from me slowly. Please pray for my happiness.
@Chik DelRey I'm a christian an in a relationship with a guy who is saying the same thing as you. They dont wanna give up their religion to come in conclusions with mine. And i can totally understand why bc it is something that he's grown up with his whole life an something that he's learned. I get how that might be hard for you and im so sorry to hear that. Do you have any advice on how i can make my relationship last with my boyfriend without converting to islam? (with all do respect) Do you think we will survive the relationship even through marriage?
@@hannahbanana1726 im not sure how to answer that. But for me what i mean by saying i can't imagine myself without islam. Its more about love. I know that human is not perfect and i should not depending or attached on a person more than it should. Allah was there for me when im struggling with my life. I know im struggle to practice HIS command but i believe Allah never judge me and throw me or abandoned me if i pray with my heart and ask him help. There is calm there i can never get from any human. Everything is not permanent except the love of god. We muslim believe there is heaven and hell. If 2 people love eachother for the sake of god ,insha'Allah (with Allah permission) we get to reunite with our love one in heaven. :) . Im not a really religious (not wearing hijab all the time and, not reading quran everyday ect. ) .
I have boundaries with my bf Like i told him i don't do sex out of marriage (i want it to be special,i want to see if he can respect my choices while knowing i love him so much). If we muslim married with a converted partners. We have a big responsibility towards our partners to help him learn more about islam . If we abandoned our partners and they leave islam after divorce or during that. We will be questions about that in judgement day. i suggest you can follow Yasmin Mogahead talk. (Reclaim your heart book writer). Its easy to understand from her .she used profound way to explain bthings.
In this relationship we just support each other passion. We respect eachother way of life there's no forcing (like drink alcohol and other stuff). I explained to him why i don do it . Communication and showing vulnerability is very important to understand eachother. Never assume. You need to ask alot of questions and find way how to compromise things. I don't know your boyfriend.so i can't tell if marriage will survive for you. Only you can find out. perhaps you can understand lilbit about islam first and discuss things with him.
I have this advantages to build the emotional connection first because we are long distance relationship. I saw he's effort with our plan on meeting eachother again. There is still more to learn.
For me if he convert into islam i will definitely marry him even i know how hard its going to be in terms of culture , language, family . I hope it helps you a little bit. I pray the best for you sister.
@ Chik DelRey Thank you so much for your advice it's very kind of you to do something like that for a stranger who hardly knows you. You seem like a very loving person and i am very respectful towards your religion. Sadly me and my boyfriend just broke up today. Him and his mom had a discussion about giving him consent to be in a relationship with me and his mother had said no for 2 reasons, 1) Because we are 3 years apart 2) Because we have different cultures, religion and backgrounds. I had tried to tell him to talk to his mother about letting me stay with him if i converted to islam because i love him THAT much, but sadly she said there was too much of a difference and that the differences would bring trouble in the future if we were to get married. I loved him a lot and honestly am heartbroken but im faithful that time will heal my heart and that i'll soon find the guy who is meant for me. I'm still happily a christian but this is a experience that i can share for others if they have came close to the same experience. Thank you for sharing you're experience aswell. I hope you and you're boyfriend the best. If two people love each other i hope that they can learn to accept one another in all ways. If me and my boyfriend broke up I at least know that i gave it my all and tried to prevent us from falling apart. Again thank you in regards for trying to help us.Hopefully further on down the road me and you both will have found the right people.
Forget religion, we live in a day and age where some families wont even accept someone from the same religion, same background because they belong to a different tribe, its ridiculous. I used to think your parents will want what makes YOU happy, but when you meet someone you connect with and you're ready to get married they completely destroy your relationship based on their OPINION. This is the reality of 'parents' today, as a result many feel depressed, lost, confused etc.
I agree 👍
Thanks for covering this Tia its such an eye opener for everyone I wish you could do a video with habiba so that you could have her perspective on this issue
Rahma Nurah Thank you Rahma! Habiba would be a fab person to speak to on this for sure xx
Or with Dina
Cristina A yeah why not dina I love that women
Yes please! Do it with Dina 🤗
Dina could provide way more perspective than habiba, considering she's married. Dina please!
This is new to me. I didn't know a Muslim man can marry a non-Muslim and the non-Muslim need not convert. I always thought that both had to be Muslim to marry.
Love this Tia. Love the discussion. Love the respect you both have for each other xx
I'm a Christian and I've been in a relationship with my Muslim boyfriend for a year now and i can honestly say that he's my best friend, nobody helps me grow more spiritualy, even though we're different faiths we believe in the same God and to us thats all that matters. We do worry sometimes how it will work down the line but that's because we want it to work. I believe it's a blessed relationship with God in our hearts being guided. I loved this video though, I often wish there was like an interfaith couple on TV or something lol
Congratulations Caitie ❤
How's it going
are you marry to him and how is going on .please tell me i have same bord
The Bible says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2nd Corinthians 6:14) It's a tricky one, dating someone of a different faith group because you can't serve two masters, one will have to back down, or bow down in this case. Just remember, God is not the author of confusion xxxx
Tobi Oyedele Amen brother I'm glad somebody's preaching the truth you're supposed to have long hair it's a Godly womans glory she's got short hair then she talking about she half Hindu read Deuteronomy 7 and then come back and talk to me....its apparent she's a follower of Christ by name Only
UNCD Inc too right mate.
Tobi Oyedele but it was paul saying that and his thoughts on marriage and woman are questionable
Actually we need both light and dark. Most beautiful things can only exist with coexistense of opposites. Like starry night sky. If there is too much light, stars cannot be seen, but dark sky only makes them seem even brighter and more beautiful.
Not necessarily the Bible recommends that yes you marry someone within same faith but if you do it isn’t a sin...the Bible says the believing wife or husband may save the unbelieving by there faith and prayers and if the unbelieving spouse still refuses then leave the relationship because you can’t force anyone to accept your faith or belief ...so technically it isn’t impossible
I'm Muslim. My dads Somali ( African) and my mums Chilean ( Latina) both were muslim- my mum converted. i have christian and muslim family and im mixed. Im pro interracial relations but interfaith ones i feel are too difficult as a muslim
Zoe Wright That is such an interesting mix
Zoe Wright Catholic aren't the true CHRISTIAN , because they knel to statue , it's nothing to do with Christianity
I grew up a catholic Muslim. Mum is Venezuelan Dad is Trinidadian so I get it we fasted during lent and Ramadan. The biggest thing they taught us was respect for others regardless of their religion
Zoe Wright Mashallah beautiful mix :)
Hey I’m Somali! Quick question, how did your parents meet? I’ve never met a mixed Somali that was half latina.
I'm vibing with these new vids tia!! I fell in love with shakeel watching him ...I've had 5 of his kids already daymmmmm
LOVED this. Been following Shakeel for ages but wow, gained even more respect for him now and of course you, Tia❤️❤️❤️
I couldn't marry a non-Muslim man. Islam is such an integral part of my life, how can a Christian man fit into that?
It can be possible if you try.
@@ch36799 Nice try islamophobe anti muslim hypochristian.
@@ch36799 Now she can try to find a way? To go out of Islam is what you meant, right? Dipshit
This is probably one your best videos tia!!!!. I can't tell you how much this is relevant to relationships in today's society.. big help! x
I think I was supposed to see this for a reason. Thank you.
Obsessed with your beauty and intelligence 😩❤️❤️❤️
The reason why a muslim man can marry outside his religion is because the kids will surely be muslim too, and will carry out the religion. But if a muslim woman marries outside her religion her kids will be whatever religion the man is. And in islam thats not okay at all.
Arsema.k
What you said is purely from an islamic perspective, that children of a muslim man are muslims... this however not true as religion is what you believe internally and not how people call you according to their religious beliefs. I know a few mixed families where the man is muslim and the women is christian and the children i later life decided to be christians.
yea im just answering based on the Quran and what from what actual muslims have told me. Ofcoure the children have a choice on what religion they want to end up being apart of as they get older.
Arsema.k Yeah but sister but to get to jannah what ever faith no problem but the main reason to get a ticket to paradise it is important the kids are Muslims the main thing is the Dunya then after this life angel will be send by God and question do you believe in one God and who is Muhammed so would you let your kids just blind follow other religions ? :) haha sorry for my language but the is a test and Inshalla it will go good
Also, Islam gives women rights that a nonmuslim man wouldn't have to uphold.
Muslims Like Us You are a bit confused I think.The reason you even know what Islam is ,is because people kept it pure to its truest essence when things become diluted they do not stand the test of time so the whole I'll do it my own modern 21st century way is not founded upon any principle except deviation or needing to justify things you do or do not need to do but with some affiliation to Islam.
that christian hindu and muslim mix did come out really nice
I consider myself a spiritual being. I acknowledge and respect ALL religions and believe that there is some truth to all religion, but ultimately I believe in one Higher Power/God.
This whole concept of living to please your parents and their approval is something that I personally will never conform to. This is your YOUR life with your own personal journey and purpose. The only thing that I owe my parents in this life is to be the decent and respectful human being that they raised me to be. Ultimately this is MY life and I will answer to God for my life choices and decisions, not them!
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I was seeing a Muslim Indian woman and her dad obviously liked me (I'm successful English professional in management consultancy) - race no issue me been white and her Indian (both families no issue with that), her dad said I had good genetics, smart (hold a MBA leading university), sound financial base and he too was keen except condition of marriage was I converted to Islam - my parents were ok with her as long as she was not overly Islamic orthodox. That was the problem. There was no way in the world I would live my life following an ideology I do not believe is true - far from it. She was keen for me to convert to. Many times I held by my tongue on her so called reasons for Islam - her view how Quran was word of god. I could have broken every claim down in clear rationality but felt that would not help her as regardless it made her happy believing in it she was born into it. In the end was best we kept good friends and we are still great friends to this day and collaborate on business.
Wow can someone please appreciate the fact how beautiful this two humans are Inside as outside as well 😍✨✨✨✨
The interesting thing is that marrying a Christian is a sin in Islam, but vice versa in Christianity.
As a person who studied different religions for many years, I suggest not to do that! you may think love doesn't require any condition, but in reality, it takes you nowhere in the end. even if you love each other so much.
Liked the video before it even started 🙌🏾
This is the most engaging, emotionally intellectual discussion of interfaith and intercultural relationships I have seen in YEARS on RUclips. I love the fact that in the first few minutes you started with - go to the leaders of your religious community and ask them what their knowledge is on this topic. This conversation was so REAL! I am glad that both of you decided to step out and make this video!
beautiful to hear that there is such diversity in your family Tia!
As a Christian man who is with a Muslim girl it is going good and great for me there is no conflict only if you have a secular mind it can work be secular like most people in Syria are which is where my wife and her family is from so they are very accepting.
More people need to speak about this, its very important!
My wife was a Muslim. She was forced Islam as a child and didn't know any different. Now she's a free spirit, sort of speak. Her family disowned her at first. Until her mother came crawling back asking her for forgiveness. Now I'm white, ginger haired, agnostic scouser. It shouldn't matter what you're beliefs are, women and men can marry out of their faith. It's the parents that make it difficult over the Muslim women. Going by only from what I've seen with my wife's, family. Because it's THEIR faith and not the couples faith. Everyone has their own beliefs and shouldn't be universal. We've since had 5 children, first ever 5 kids with a tan and red hair hair lol. Both families are all reunited. The children are not forced religion and told it's fact when it's uncertain, morally and ethically right. Because there is floors in every religion. But yeah taboo topics. Like you said. It's nobodies business other then the individuals. It's a new age. Soon we will all be brown. Unless you're royalty.
Loved this video Tia! Big up to you for touching on these taboo subjects. Please do a video on the Sikh caste system. So many marriages these days are still judged on the basis of the caste of one person, even though they both belong to the same religion! Keep this going, you're helping and inspiring a lot of people xxx
I agree with Shakeel...if your faith is the most important thing in your life, its best to marry someone of that faith because when kids come into the picture there wont be a conflict as to what faith they are raised in.
My father is Muslim and my mother an atheist and we have no problems regarding that. I myself do Ramadan, pray but on the other hand dress like I want and am living after mixed principles I just think it depends on the couple and how those persons are able to communicate and handle the situation
I've been having trouble sleeping, it's 4am here and I'm glad I was awake! Your insight is refreshing Tia xx
Mariam El-Masry eeeek what's on your mind?! Xxx
I was actually just thinking you should recollab with Habiba and get a Muslim woman's perspective especially since she comes from parents with an interracial marriage xx
Car interior is super clean 👀👌🏽
The rain was actually calming. Thank you both X
my father is Ugandan and my mother is Portuguese so they are from different cultures but my mum is Christian and my father is Muslim so they are also of different religion and it did not work at all so i understand the going with the hart thing the problem at times is that it still isnt enough and i think thats so sad
THANK YOU! This was so helpful, just being able to hear you 2 speaking your opinions and giving your advice on this controversial topic. . . So many folks make it seem like something so taboo, & that it shouldn't be spoken on, but it is just so real. It's something that we, especially the younger generation are facing more than ever before, because so many of us are mixed or are being raised & brought up around so many different cultures! Is that part 2 still coming Tia?
I feel like all the religious stuff is blocking a lot of blessings/unions that could be a beautiful thing, but y’all let your minds takeover and when you’re thinking too much about stuff it sometimes messes things up. Basically love who you wanna love and do what you wanna do. Peace.
Religions were created to teach spirituality, which, at the end of the day, deals with how you should treat everyone. And all religions have some form of "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" aka the Golden Rule. So it's really about teaching values. A person can have the same values as you ( don't lie, cheat, steal, etc) without sharing a religion. Your religion isn't really who you are, it's just what you chose to believe and what group you chose to attach yourself to. But like he said, two people of the same religion can have different morals and character, while two people from different religions can have the same character. That's what really matters.
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. Im indian but an atheist and he is african but christian. We are madly in love and both our close families have accepted us as a couple. Our relationship works and we make eachother happy. We get stared at a lot when we go out together which is super sad! None of peoples business get over it. Its our life our relationship. Life is way too short to worry about what other people think. Be you and be happy.
that is really great to hear! Especially glad your families are accepting. However, I think the problems usually arise when you start having children, and decide what religion they should follow. A lot of interfaith marriages that I have come across go down hill after having children. But hopefully you two will make it work! Best of luck :)
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No one should care but you. Your point of view is nice. Lots of love and success
Going to be off-topic, but that guy is ma shaa Allaah.. are there more guys like him in London? Because if so, I have to pay a visit.. #noshameinmygame
I actually love this video.. So many truths that are important to share and think about. As a Christian, I completely agree with Shakeel; it's hard but sometimes you need to be cautious and make difficult but wise decisions for the sake of peace/according to your household. Thank you so much Tia X
Renee Morris thank you Renee for taking the time to watch & comment! Xx
I'm a child from an interracial, interfaith marriage. Growing up religion was hard, both of my parents wanted me to be of their faith. But, I wouldn't change it. I was able to learn about both religions and make my decision as an adult. I'm not going to lie, it was hard. No matter what, the religion thing will always be there, once you get married it will still be there. You have to compromise if you really love each other. As I child, I came from a really loving home. Nothing is impossible, just some things are more improbable than other things. Only you know your family and your morals. Do what is best for you.
Reyna Glover what are ur parents religions ?
This is sooooo interesting.. Love love that your creating the space to have these conversations... It really highlights the issues that come up day to day for mixed cultures/faiths..
To my opinion (interfaith wise), 1) when you marry someone, you marry the family. So if you don't hit it off with your possible future in-laws, I'd think about it. 2) Figure out what your religion/faith means to you, and then to your love interest as well. From there, I think you can tell whether or not you want that person more than your spiritual growth. I'm not saying you'll stop growing spiritually altogether, but you won't be as free to build each other up if you don't use the same building blocks. 3) Don't date someone thinking you can change them. You'll make both of you miserable.
Love how you tackled this so respectfully Tia....thank you....xx
I always look forward to these! Another brilliant topic you've explored, Tia. My last relationship ended very early on due to a difference in religious beliefs. A true learning experience.
Such an interesting discussion that's hardly touched upon. Really enjoyed watching!