SHOULD MARRIED COUPLES HAVE SINGLE FRIENDS? - EP 12 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW
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Ali I’m reading the comments and looks like the people want you to do more in the modesty department when setting up the panel. Is this something you can look into? Thank you
Whaaaaaat ??? Gathering with girls you don't know and aren't your family and you say you're a Muslim and you invite people to Islam , bro you're making a lot of Bidaa and shit out of Islam , please stop being stupid , you must stop talking about Islam
*Ali, those couches are too small to place three male and three female guests because as you can see that they are hardly sitting on those couches and they look very uncomfortable, therefore, you should get two larger and bigger couches that have wider space to sit and to stretch plus their should be handrails or hand resting thing between each guest so that your guests can place their hands on it. There should also be a table in the centre so that your guest can place water bottles and cups of tea or coffee on it in order to be dehydrated and to stay fresh and active.*
Such friends are useless. A good friend doesn't interfere in your mariage and only gives good advices.
Answer is simple- whether single or not, just as the Prophet SAW advised, look for righteous companions whom you know wish the best for you.
Listen to a friends advise or even a family member doesn’t mean you have to take action.
Women end up depressed alone and suffer if they start losing friends
ma sha Allah
@@piqueny8872 who told you bro
@@malefemanle many of my females cousins left there social life focusing on there Marriage. Ending up depressed and alone
While there husbands held on to there with
Bachelor life they still have sports events ,bro only vacations bro only lunches dinner day trips ect they have both worlds
While the couz has nobody to simply conversation with
social media is not the only way to converse.
Everything you mentioned sisters can do too without media.
The lady on the right is getting triggered, there are some divorced women that would project their own bad experiences on others and that’s a fact. Not all divorcees are healed darling so chill out and stop getting so triggered and using it so personally
why you getting trigggered fam
You can only get healed if you get married again and live happily.
Doesn't everyone base their opinions on their life experiences?? She might not base her ideas on just her life but what she's witnessed from family and friends..
Her life experiences were not good and make her unable to see properly the world around her@@esthellakomerl8084
The sister in pink expressed her opinions in such a graceful way. She looked at different scenario's and laid it out neutrally. Shame on the other women who were triggered..who also happened to be divorced. Shame on you ladies. Discuss in grace and do not be triggered because of your personal situation.
I agree 💯. She just mentioned with reference to the texts that this could be a projection too, and jealousy might not be the reason or the only reason as well. (Or it could be too one can only speculate). She literally just gave a reason as to why someone would be so invasive. Was very irritating to see triggered reactions. React with grace if you have a different opinion. It seems like everyone else got what the sister in pink was trying to say except the other two sisters.
100% it was so embarrassing to see these 2 grown women go full out on an emotional rant why it just CANT be a divorced women
Sister how do you know? It could be a divorced women 🤷♀️
don't say shame on them. that's bad
@@malefemanlewhy not? If it’s the truth then you must say it. Most of the time these “women” act like base creatures aka bitches if they disagree. Most of the time these women on the show are disgraceful.
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The sister in pink was the only female who answered Ali's question. The other 2 were triggered divorcees who attacked the sister in pink diverted in topic. They said they are healed but clearly got triggered. What triggers you needs to be healed. Women don't get along with women, too many illogical emotions. And they are "physiotherapists" and so called "mentors", what a negative image. I'd never trust and go to such emotional "therapists". Speak from your degree not your own personal emotions.
Yes, agreed, so sad the sister is pink was just expressing an opinion which was valid....
I had a friend tell me the exact thing, she called me randomly when I was at work just to tell me “ dont have a baby with your husband, wait 4 yrs because he might not be the right person” she also told me some rumours that were made about me and implied that she believed them so I distanced myself from her, a year later I saw her in target while I was pregnant and she verbally assaulted me.. We weren’t even close friends
, just a friend from school and a neighbour..I definitely think it was jealousy because she had a forced arranged marriage and I have a love marriage..Alhamdullilah my husband is a great father, moral of the story be mindful of those kind of friends who turn on you after a blessing or a milestone in your life.
Yeah sometimes it comes come a part of jealousy epically in women most of the when they have a bad issue they go over spreading the negativity to other women just to put her down
Can’t wait to watch this
First thoughts though is women have to be more careful about this then men. Your single friend will sabotage your marriage if she’s jealous cause she’s insecure as heck. I’ve heard many stories and it’s awful. Women are wild, especially if they are older and see women younger then them getting married. Careful out there brothers and sisters
Yes very true
@@MilitantAntiAtheism Your username already indicates that this may be a troll account. Muslims don't worship Muhammad (PBUH), they only claim that he is the last prophet of god. Muslims aren't allowed to worship anyone besides Allah, you can look it up, it's common knowledge.
@@MilitantAntiAtheismlmao , what have you been smoking?😂😂🤦♂️😭
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Very true
That's why I don't have any close friends. Lol its a shame because it would be nice to have good friends. Jealousy, overstepping the boundary is draining. Went out for dinner with a person who kept wanting to be my friend but then decided she's not a good friend. She was trying to tell me what I feel and think. Plant seeds of doubts. It was emotionally taxing.
I don’t think it’s that complicated. Friends are people your supposed to have fun and laugh with. They’re not supposed to be people u vent to. Perhaps get support from yes but therapy is for deep stuff and there is people to get advice re marriage.
I'm a single man. I don't even call the wives of my friends and refuse to meet them alone even for small stuff, aside from emergencies. I don't have any thoughts of that kind about them, but still. Who knows what will come to my and her mind if shaytan gets us in our weak moments?
I had once a female friend of mine say when we were alone, "i wish i knew you before him". She was not a wife yet, but the girlfriend of a friend of mine who planned marrying her. I was like full stop and shocked. That was in university and i distanced myself from her immendiately.
So, just to be safe, no; don't have a friend of the opposite gender. And even a single friend of the same gender can bring toxic opinion into your relationship, so be careful.
Married people can be toxic, too. It's up to you to pick better friends.
I couldn't be more disgusted to hear that this even happens, Astaghfirullah. I am a revert and I have to say that NEVER in my life before Islam would a friend - single or otherwise - EVER dream of telling a bride what she should or should not do on her wedding night. This is crazy... in fact it's beyond crazy... it's downright interfering, inappropriate in the extreme and RUDE!
It is NO-ONE'S business what a husband and wife decide to do on their wedding night. If this is not haram.... it should be (sorry, I feel strongly about this)
Absolutely.. Doesn't make sense to me.. I'm from the previous generation.. We were subtly 'advised' by elders to have intimate relation with the spouse as soon as possible after nikaah.. Avoiding the husband in my times was not an option.. Because we understood one of the purposes of marriage is to have children.. And children were not considered a burden but a huge blessing..
Reverts are amazing because you chose Islam just like the Sahabas. My comment has nothing to do with the video, I just like to show my respect for reverts whenever I see or meet them. May Allah continue to bless you
I felt sorry for the sister in pink. She had a really important point and made a lot of sense but the other sisters were too defensive and made it about an attack on them rather than seeing the context.
Why would the sister say 'they explained it to me...' obviously that means they said a similar thing when she was getting married and she is using her experience to give advice.
I was thinking exactly the same.
Agreed, i felt bad too, we must look at both perspectives even though the advice she gave was a far fetched
The sister was sharing some beneficial gems mashaAllah, she is also very well spoken. It's unfortunate that the other 2 sisters went on attack mode.
I 100 percent agree....it's the divorcees man literally they got triggered
I agree with the sister in pink because I too have experienced a divorcee friend trying to warn me in similar ways to divorce my husband and alhumdaulillah I've shut the door to our friendship and my marriage is fine now, her point wasn't a generalisation, women in general get triggered by their own experiences in life they feel the need to justify themselves when in actual fact this wasn't an attack on the sister on the right - women find it hard to leave their own feelings and experiences to one side and hold a 'general' discussion...hence why most of us start by saying 'In my personal experience/I think'...
Poor attitude from the second divorced woman in the middle. 'I am in that situation...' Wouldn't want advice/therapy from her, too easily triggered needs to perhaps see a therapist herself. Far right seemed more innocent in her comments but also triggered for no reason.
Love the way smile to jannah kept his eyes down all the way subbanallah ❤️
I love that guy he’s smart articulate on point I hope he’s on the panel all the time you can tell he’s practicing god bless
he's a good kid
One thing I always tell my married friend is that once you share a negative experience from your spouse, you as his wife may and will forgive him, but others will remain with this negative perception of him and possibly judge his character.
I have a friend who vents to me about her relationship and Alhamdillah, I’m proud to say that I only give advice based on Islamic reasons. However, I always recommend my friend to try keeping things to herself because unless she plans on leaving him, she shouldn’t expose him.
Absolutely! The friends just want details and pick apart your husband. Not their business. ❤
I don't think there's anything to do with being single. You even find married women giving bad advice like that. That's just a bad friend who happened to be single.
BREVVVVV why do those sisters take it in such a victimized manner when the pink clothed sister brought up such an amazing point.
Only advise was don’t get pregnant on the wedding night!
You don’t fully know what they are like yet
Don’t want to be pregnant divorced singles parent with a crazy ex for 18 years!
I like the way the brother in the black hat thinks please bring him in more mashallah very sensible
I think the friend is giving advice based on what women of this generation are told, as in the non-muslims. They give this advice to women who date men, so they don’t use them just for intimacy and then leave. The problem is you can’t apply kufr advice to muslims brothers and sisters, especially marriages. Dating is haram anyway, so this situation shouldn’t even occur. If you’ve gone through all these steps to get married, is that not proof enough that they are serious? Also, this advice can low key just be straight up manipulation💀 Like the women trying to gain power over the man, and I think it stems from the fear women have of being used, mistreated etc in relationships. It’s like how feminism was created in response to genuine misogyny, and then red pill was formed in response to feminism. Either gender just trying to one up the other by gaining power of the others and being the one in control, for the fear that the other is going to do that to them.
Yess! "Hurt people hurts people "
@@btb554 exactly nah u just summarised my whole paragraph in one sentence😭
@@zaynabb Without your paragraph, my comment wouldn't have made much sense. You explained everything beautifully. Oftentimes, in these channels, people discuss feminism being the reason for young men and Muslim men getting influenced by the red pill. Which is true, of course. But no one really discusses the reason why some Muslim women get influenced by feminism.
my thought as well
I agree with the “you’re already married, so nothing to fear” thing, but there are people/ cultures that treat nikaah as an engagement & then break it off (divorce) before the walima. In this case, even though intimacy is allowed, it’s the woman that has a lot to lose through sleeping with him. So the friend could’ve been referring to that in her message.
The girls probably advise them not to give it up so her husband doesn't think she's desperate and gagging for it. Give her time to get to know him and build an emotional connection too (side note: I did not advise anyone that). JUST trying to understand why girls would advise that.
A good friend will never dictate what you should do, a great friend will listen and would do their best to guid you, have your back, support you, remind you of allll the positive things, so you can see the picture clearly to make the right decision without feeling bad or pressured, Allah knows best.
Well said
"Single women keep women single"
Not really. You're generalising based on some. Based on that the same can also be said about single male friends too
Jazakallah kairan brither ali, i always following your channel from Afghanistan. It helps more and more Alhamdullah.
Maa shaa allah, allahuma barik for our sister her jilbab is graceful
Jilbab is "stunning" yet they're sitting opposite non mahrams in close proximity discussing sex with your spouse and how it should be private and not discussed with friends? Literally hijab means more than a piece of cloth you're wrapped in! I hope the irony isn't lost on you.
@@AJ-il1lm8ph7z would you not like to see improvement in your sisters hijab rather than nothing at all? Just because I’m highlighting one aspect of her hijab that’s improved, doesn’t mean I approve of this whole ordeal. I used to watch Ali Dawah a lot back then but his content isn’t the same anymore, May allah make us all steadfast.
@@laila970 ameen and Assalamu alaikum sister, I’m sorry if I came off that way, the hijab isn’t supposed to be stunning in terms of beauty in appearance. To clarify I meant stunning as in I’m literally amazed (stunned lol) by woman starting to embrace Allahs rulings more and more. May allah bring this sister and us all closer to Allah. As a niqabi sister I also get comments on beauty but it’s usually from girls I’m close with, and I get excited when I see other sisters developing a more modest style of clothing and compliment them on it too as a means of encouragement. Also regarding people who insult you don’t even listen to them or give a second thought. I learned the hard way that no matter what you do they’ll never be pleased. People tell me I’m too young and to uncover myself but who are they in front of the most high? May allah give you the best sister, you seem sincere barakallahu feek. :)
ALLAH IS THE MOST GRATEST ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤❤❤ ❤
My spouse hung out with ONLY single men. Men who are up all night playing video games. And he certainly acted like a single man which is why we are now divorced.
That's on him, not his single friends.
@@MartinMalmy no one blamed his friends ???
Women will share everything with their friends, that’s why you need to know the type of person your potential is, you need to keep things amongst your selves, unless if someone is genuinely getting abused
Wearing hijab and make up at the same time does not make sense to me
Lady in green is upset that the one in pink made a comment about divorced women, but she herself has no problems saying all women are "like this" and crave drama. Plz speak for yourself. Not all women crave or like drama. I cant stand it.
Abu Sa’eed (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Among the most evil of people before Allaah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who is intimate with a woman and she with him, then he spreads her secret.” Narrated by Muslim, 1437.
People have different paths in life. Am i going to stop being friends with my friend of 10 years just because i got married earlier than she did?
I genuinely think it’s a silly question.
Friendships are harder to make as you get older I’m not going to dump my friend just because she isn’t married at the same time as me. That’s just silly.
Not trying to be rude. But single friends give terrible advice specially if it's single female friend.
Always stay away from single friends brothers and sisters
Do you mean that after you get married you block all your single friends? Even if you were friends since childhood? And after they got married you unblock them? Did any of your friends get married and tell you to stop contacting them because you were single?
May Allah bless our brothers and sisters of ummah with Jannah ❤
Aameen summa Aameen ❤
Single or married friend does not matter, they should be on the deen and of the same gender.
wah wah kya comment bhai
Why is it so difficult for the women to give unbiased professional opinions without getting triggered. Especially the older one who is a counselor. You can’t say that even as a divorcee you only give great advice to women because that’s subjective, good advice to you might be destructive to a different marriage unit. Jumping on the girl who was eloquently sharing her thoughts about divorcees in general was disreputable.
lol
Im not sure why Ali keeps bringing up 9k and gold its coming across as he thought he's buying the girl for sex, very strange!
Any woman who has anxieties and fears re abandonment knows this isn’t jealousy. It’s literally just fear that men leave or change up after getting intimacy. That’s where it comes from - fear. And all she was telling her friend was to wait until a Walimah is done which is when the marriage feels official. There’s people who actually divorce before walimah happens fyi so not a completely crazy idea although islamically not right to make a man wait that long after nikkah. Personally, I’d mix both into one as having a big walimah causes problems that could lead to fall out.
The friend was wrong to interfere like that but to call it jealousy is quite honestly a poor analysis. I thought the women would see the ovbious but only 1 of them did. Sounds like they’re getting lost in the keys blame women culture instead of being level headed about it
No one hates women like fellow women😐😐😐Audhubillah
I have mother all her friends are married she doesn't have single female friend because single women make other women single.
Smart mother. Has she ever commented on this topic to you as well?
Thats not true. Thats jahil ignorant people that think divorced women will brainwash their friends. It shows your mother belongs in the cave ages.
Not really. You're generalising based on some. Based on that the same can also be said about single male friends too
@@btb554 men are not women so no.
@@cooljool1 Sure, but men do the same. There are men who influence their friends to cheat, who talks badly about their wives behind their backs, etc. So, I'm aware that men and women are different. But both of them are capable of bad behaviour.
Personally you can’t tell your single friend’s anything about your marriage because they will get jealous from you and talk to you about something stupid what this woman is saying about her married friend, know one can tell me anything about my marriage is between me and my husband, it’s danbi and haram what go’s down in the bedroom haram and danbi,
Why do women always bring up love as if they love men unconditionally?
Marriage isn't built on unconditional love. If you want unconditional love, you have your parents
Good question!
Marriage in islam is built on taqi-yya and wife beating 😂
@@laila970 Women love opportunistically men love idealistically.
May Allah protect innocent Muslim family😔in Pakistan
And other innocent family😔 too.
Pakistan stop kidnapped and killed innocent family😔
Funny how the sisters who claim they have ‘healed’ from their divorces etc are the very ones who have clearly been triggered, and I’m sorry but out right rude.
The fitna begins with programmes such as this. May Allah guide you All.
Ali had the nerve to call people who call him out on this concept and accuse people of "slandering"..🙄
my only critique to brother ali is that please fix the seating arrangement, the way everyone is sitting especially the brothers is honestly so awkward to look at and my back hurts just from looking because it doesnt even look comfortable the way they are sitting loll
Pick your friends very carefully. Be extremely careful who you let near you.
Sorry but the sister in the jilbab is getting way too offended about the "divorce" comment when it has nothing to do with putting divorced women down but just trying to understand where the friend is coming from. It DOES sound like the friend had a negative experience (whether it be a relationship or marriage or whatever) with a man where she believes having intercourse too early ruined the outcome.
I watch it for a laugh lol
Triggered divorcee females ganging up on the non divorcee. They took it personal
"O you who have believed, obey Allāh and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you. And if you disagree over anything, refer it to Allāh and the Messenger, if you should believe in Allāh and the Last Day. That is the best [way] and best in result" Quran 4:59 Check what the Quran and sunnah say about this instead of debating this. First find what the quran and sunnah have to say about this then try explain the wisdoms behind what it says.
Sister in pink please don’t feel some type of way. Mashallah to you ❤
It's always the divorced woman that becomes a relationship coach and project their negative experiences onto others. Those two sisters disagreeing because of their personal experiences are doing the exact same thing the girl did to her newlywed friend.
This was a good one allahumma barik!
Sometimes their mum's influencing a lot of her thinking and actions. Which is hell. I've seen it too many times.
The future of Islam in Britain:
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un
Nice video brother may Allah bless you❤
SOMETIMES divorced women try to save marriages because they do not want the same to happen to thier friend..
Ofc not they love that yu divorce
rly great guests !!!!!!!! all the guests on this episode
Very important topic barakalahufikoum 👏🏻
I don't really have friends. My family takes up most of my time.
Salaam. Can I suggest like a curtain or a partition between the brothers and sisters.
Muslim, 1437, “One of the greatest trusts before Allaah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who was intimate with his wife and she with him, then he spread her secret.” What is meant by “one of the greatest trusts” is one of the greatest betrayals of trust.
The wife needs to establish boundaries. The friend bares 0 fault here, if you don't want to be friends with the friend. Then drop her and move on. The wife is the one that's married. She needs to not spread the info about the private life. As a single woman. I'm never ever going to care about something till u ask for my advice and reel me into it.
I respect my husband so I do not confide in anyone but him. There is no reason to talk to anyone else but your partner about your marriage. That's just common sense. Who else can fix the problems but you both???
🤩 all these men sitting with sisters no Mehrem present joke ting
Are they living together after the nikkah? Or are they using nikkah to just hang out then go back to their parents houses, then do walimah later? If they are using it to just hang out, then I understand why the friend is concerned. If they are living together and not waiting on any “rukhsati,” then ignore the friend
Bro why did she say, "it's always about the women, what about the men??" Are you serious rn?! 😂😂 This is a convo about something completely different and they're projecting... Subhanallah, May Allah Guide our Sisters
@AliDawa
Brother, please allow me to correct you, so you don't misguide others.
It's ONLY permissible for us a to marry the people of the book from the old testament, meaning with those who also believe that all messengers, including Issa (Jesus) and Muhammad (peace be upon them all) were sent by God.
It's NOT permissible for us to marry those who follow their changed scriptures, because they don't take them as messengers, but rather they believe that i.e. Issa (Jesus) was god in the flesh.
You're misguiding people. They don't have to believe in Prophet Muhammad pbuh for us to marry them, there's no rule that says that. And in regard to marrying Christian women who believe Jesus is God, most scholars say it's allowed since the Christians during Prophet Muhammad's time still believed in Jesus as God so it's still accepted to marry them. However it's a grey area since some scholars say it's not allowed but most say it's allowed but disliked if they believe Jesus is God as it could potentially fall under shirk depending on their interpretations. But in regard to Jewish women, there's no grey area. Overall, there's no conditions to marrying Jewish or Christian women otherwise Allah would have said them
@@j86485 Careful Now...
Quran 2:221
Do not marry polytheistic women until they believe; for a believing slave-woman is better than a free polytheist, even though she may look pleasant to you. And do not marry your women to polytheistic men until they believe, for a believing slave-man is better than a free polytheist, even though he may look pleasant to you. They invite ˹you˺ to the Fire while Allah invites ˹you˺ to Paradise and forgiveness by His grace. He makes His revelations clear to the people so perhaps they will be mindful.
Quran 5:72
Those who say, “Allah is the Messiah, son of Mary,” have certainly fallen into disbelief. The Messiah ˹himself˺ said, “O Children of Israel! Worship Allah-my Lord and your Lord.” Whoever associates others with Allah ˹in worship˺ will surely be forbidden Paradise by Allah. Their home will be the Fire. And the wrongdoers will have no helpers.
Quran 5:51
O you who have believed, do not take the Jews and the Christians as allies. They are [in fact] allies of one another. And whoever is an ally to them among you - then indeed, he is [one] of them. Indeed, Allāh guides not the wrongdoing people.
Ever wonder why the Prophet warned that the majority will end up in Hell-Fire?
Hadith
It was narrated from Awf bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah said:
The Jews split into seventy-one sects, one of which will be in Paradise and seventy in Hell.
The Christians split into seventy-two sects, seventy-one of which will be in Hell and one in Paradise.
I swear by the One Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, my nation will split into seventy-three sects, one of which will be in Paradise and seventy-two in Hell.”
It was said: “O Messenger of Allah, who are they?” He said: “The main body.”
Ibn Majah, 3992
Any woman that doesn’t refer to the Quran and Hadith
In her first urges
I will not accept her hand nor would I see her as credible
Whenever giving or taking advice keep ALLAH subhaanahu ta aala the Quran and Sunnah in mind and only give beneficial advice and we ask Allah subhaanahu ta aala to make us all a source of goodness blessings mercy for each other and all the muslim ummah in general Aameen thumma Aameen 🤲💝👍✌️🤝👍☝️🤲💯💎
Harami Ali dawah bringing females to his podcast
The conversation of the text is referring to before valima, it means rukhsati is not done.
it seems sister was projecting and trying to protect her friend. It doesn't necessarily mean she's jealous alhu alam I didn't interpret the message that way. The advice was wrong ,however may have been coming from a good place.
@alidawah brother. Can you do an episode on emotional expression for men in marriage?
I think our unmah needs a conversation on expression of emotions for men in marriage.
There's no excuse, the girl.is wrong. Any person who feels right saying something like that is just not a good person. It's not a boundary thing. Is a deep trench in the sand that the person crossed. Anyone like this will eventually end up in the NFL (no friends league)
Alhamdulilah!
Literally one of the reasons i divorced my ex, was because he shsred intimacy details with others
Daym that's sad bro
11:20 in my opinion if this person giving you this mich personal advice than its means you already broke the barrier you should be keeping it from the beginning of friendship with that person don't ever become too personal or too close to your friends that you share everything of your life with that person
Why some of our muslim brothers are so zealous about getting 4 wives when they can’t take care or do justice to one wife? Isn’t Allah says in the glorious Qur’an “if you know you can do justice among “the orphans” then do so but if you fear that you won’t be able to do so then marry only one (wife)Also Ali said men are created to be polygamous where does he got this from? Quran or Ahadith
Sometiems i feel like the men in the podcstss ignore the bad muslim men who have bad intentions before going to marriage. So a women protecting herself like this may not be the worst option. For example i know someone who was given 10k mehr and had a huge wedding and like a 3k ring. However he asked for a divorce just after 4 months. Saying his 'heart' has closed and that he dosent love her anymore. So in this case now, watching this go down i feel concerend about intimacy in the very beginning of a marrige if he can leave me in 4 months (hypothetically speaking). 😅
Exactly. The problem is brothers usually give advice from the perspective of how women should make it easy for them when they're the one seeking out a woman to marry. However, they would not dare give the same advice if it's their own sister, daughter, or female relative in general. You hear brothers say a lot that they'll make sure that the man won't try to play their sister or daughter. However, we're supposed to assume something positive about them because they paid mahar. Since when did paying mahar proof that the man will be serious 1,5,10 years down the road, or he'll know what to do when conflict arises? It's like saying a woman will be a good wife or is serious because she wants to be intimate with her husband. They're ignoring the fact that people agree to things without knowing what they're getting themselves into. This is a logical fallacy.
@@luluah1198 The brother was spoken by many male relatives about how his reasoning is illogical and isn’t right. However he has still refused. We even tried to arrange a sheikh to come and speak but he still refuses. So therefore there isn’t much she can do about it anymore but just accept and try to move on. (There is more to the story but it’s quite personal 😊)
‘Sometimes I punch her’😂 is think Ali dawah is sooo savage/funny 🤣🤣
Is this a halal joke?
7:47 wallahi the tention the silence here speaking a lot everybody is shocked
Women who get divorced I don't feel much pity for them due to their behavior in and out of marriage
Great conversation, who qualifies to give advice?
Advice is influence which if adhered to can cause great harm as those who are traumatised are spreading their toxicity.
They who were right were probably some feminist who gave some advice and said see, women don't need no man 😂, we were right
,, We are divorcees and we are healed'' I can see it, ya haiatyy...😅
They don't make you do a course in Indonesia before marriage
bro shakeels a top lad
Ali, I don't think the incident that you are quoting here has got anything to do with the sister being single. That's just a bad friend who happened to be single. From the clip I understand that you don't even know the whole picture/facts about this case. You only have a few text messages shared between two people. You will find many married people meddling in other people's married lives and giving enough bad advice. According to your logic, should they also stop having married friends? We don't see anyone going after married people for that. Why don't you ever talk about the struggles that single muslims are going through? They are already being isolated and forgotten by society and their married family/friends. Now you are promoting the same here.
You have alluded to (not necessarily in this video) that single people are being selfish because they choose to be unmarried and do not share their life with anyone else. So I ask you, are you not promoting married people to also be selfish by discarding their single friends. Not all singles are feminists (I see you have tagged feminism in this video). Not all single people are single by choice. Various circumstances put them in that position. You have no idea about the struggles singles go through, especially if they are female. I am talking about married friends/family cutting off communications, as if the single person has suddenly become haram company for them, being an easy target to place the blame for everything that goes wrong in their married lives (you are doing the same here), having to check themselves constantly in social situations to make sure they don't speak to the wrong person or say a wrong thing, not being invited to social gatherings because married women suspect that the singles will steal their husbands, belittled and making to be felt that singles hold a lesser social status just because they are unmarried, no body calling or messaging to find out how the singles are doing.
You don't suddenly be holy just because you are married. At the end of the day we are all equal in Allah's eyes and we will be judged by our actions, not by our marital status.
The truth is single people need the company of married people. They should not be forgotten and isolated. I don't think Islam ever promotes this. They should be included in the lives of the married people. The networks that the married people have could help the singles find a suitable spouse. Married family/friends should check on their single friends from time to time, to make sure they don't fall into haram. It is the responsibility of each person whether they are married or not to ensure that their personal boundaries and islamic framework are not crossed when doing so. This will only help the Islamic community to move forward in the current perverted world.
So I ask, why not for once you also talk about the Islamic social responsibilities married people have towards their single friends/family?
If you have a problem with your spouse then ask a pious wise imam
Being a muslim from india i don like a discussion of another woman.
single women keep women single
A pathetic friend
Good video advice, everyday my husband comes home, he just wants dinner and sex. My friends said you need to get rid of that Muslim; you should go shopping & hang out with us. Ok, we’ll talk ladies; when we return from vacation. If I’m happy who can say anything?🇸🇦🇺🇸🤷🏻♀️It’s only the couple’s business what happens wedding night.
Inchallah, I will have all my future 4 wives to have discussions like that
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@@luluah1198 inshallah
is this show not promoting free mixing? in fact is it not much worse than free mixing? for hours men and women are sitting in front of each other and discussing matters that dont really require any opinions on because our great scholars and imams have given their their opinions on the same matters. Bro Ali Please get back to old school dawah instead of all this showbiz stuff
25:19 what the heck brother did not did a nikah, it means he is not married but I don't blame him he do not have knowledge, may Allah guide him
Aameen
I haven’t Muslim for long brother. I’m still learning
@@GlassmindProjectmay Allah make it easy for you brother. We are all students of this beautiful religion.
@@GlassmindProject no worries brother may Allah bless you actually in Islam if a muslim not did a nikah Islamic marriage than their even if they did court marriage or any government legal marriage than their marriage is not valid in front of Allah, so I would suggest you to do nikah as soon as possible, I hope you understand may Allah bless you and preserve you ❤️
Srry to say but listening to sisters givs us nothing to learn but what the brothers tell sounds reasonable evrytym n we get to learn smthing at the end of the show.😮
Where you live this ain’t top boy 😂😂😂
This conversation was so focused on "oh she'll be brainwashed by her homegirls". Yet, these brothers often times break their own marriages all on their own. They're dismissive. They believe the only responsibility they have in a marriage is money, as even the brothers in this video kept saying.
I say this as a sister who is introverted and doesn't share anything with sisters regarding a man. I've had many sisters share with me their martial problems, and what shocked me is they're all going through the same problems. It is because their husbands will not deal with conflict within their marriages that they'll share their problems with you.
As a woman, you have never felt the wrath of loneliness until you can't do anything because he won't allow it, and he won't do anything either. So its not because women don't want a solution, its just men don't even have a solution to begin with. They'll cover their incompetency with "oh she doesn't want a solution"😂😂😂These are the same people who tell us they got solutions, want to lead and know what they want.
Honestly, sisters need to face the music, and brothers need to stop thinking they can throw money at every problem in a marriage.
Islam is the solution.
You just validated the topic of the discussion !!!!!!
@@curiouscat5229 I didn't "validate" anything. You brothers seem to be looking for "proofs" and "aha moments". You're not ready to have a real conversation.
@@Adam-fc2lf I agree brother.
@@-glitch-8195 I agree! Since a lot of muslims come from non-western cultures, they are never taught to have an open communication. Let alone consider the wife's feelings. I've seen that too many times. From the outside their look like good pious men, but in the house they are the biggest shaytaan. That's why it's women who usually get a divorce. The wife is both the husband, wife, breadwinner, cleaner, cook, entertainer, teacher... that's why most divorced wife see marriage as something they can literally fulfill themselves (minus the sexual acts).
I don’t really bother in what my wife friends do in their lives. However, there are some wife’s would talk about their husband on what they do. This has effect on my wife, they know what they are doing and seeking validation or bragging. I understand saying good things about ur husband but these comments can put unrealistic.
30:15 Funniest moment ive seen in all of the podcasts so far 😂