Chris! pay up buddy. I'm an out shape rather barbarian egg faced human in America and believe you owe me some of your Pretty, Deep brown eyed, Statue of David physic Privilege. A check simply won't do! And No I'm not comparing myself to you, I'm making fun of me and you. I've been working hard brother from a much much lower status spot then you .. but again that's my fault ..I was once the king of all that i saw.. and Hubris Came .. the Piper Did Call... I'm putting in alot of work .. I'm not perfect or as ready as one would like me to be .. but history Waits for no man .. or women for that matter.. I believe i have cracked a big societal nut no ones been able to quite figure out .,.. at least in the US .. it's about the homeless crisis and how to reverse it .. here is a video i put out today mostly for my Facebook family and friends, but I think it's a good measure of where I'm at... ruclips.net/video/23XtnDnL6mc/видео.html i know this is breaking a once cardinal rule about the internet but ...I'm desperate .. you should have me on as a guest +1 509-818-6005 The names Cameron Vessey
Chris a taste of my fix.. Many a late night commercial, new aspiring book or author might say “forget everything you know about Blank”. Because their about to blow you away with a whole new way to look at an old problem. Check out my new mouse trap. But as I often do, I must take a different approach, as I tell you to check out this Mouse trap Escape tool. Take everything you know about habits, From Jocko to Books on self-discipline, from self-help to psychological research take it all …and try to imagine what a human being older then 20 years old would look like, act like, be capable of or what they wouldn’t be capable of if you wiped them clean of every single habit they’ve been forming since birth .. then place them into society. This human can be of normal intelligence, of privileged genetics’, and well educated. This human can also have avoided any psychosis inducing trauma throughout his or hers life. As well-adjusted of a say 25 to 40 year old as one might imagine. Then thoroughly wipe them clean of any habits they might normal of developed over the same period of life. Take minute. Physical habits, emotional habits, greeting people with a hello, avoiding cracks in the road. Putting their shoes on in the morning, wiped clean of every habit you can think of and oh so many that you haven’t. And place them into society for a week. For a month .. how would they fair? Could they maintain their patience when cashiers bagging the potatoes in another plastic bag even though they come in a bag already? How often would they just start running to safety like a deer in a grassy field sensing possible danger? After a long week of putting forth effort to do so many little things how exhausted would they be? One might even think they were suffering from depression. Tired, lethargic, no direction.. What if a perfectly healthy human who was suffering from a habit chalk board that had been wiped clean were everything is far more of an effort then normal was given anti depressants .. Take every thing you know about habits, motivation, daily routines, effort, mental health .. and now look at a chronically homeless person as if every habit they’ve spent a life time developing have been erased completely off their habit chalk board.. What would you recommend as a doctor or a counselor or a loved one now? What would your expectations for this person be for the next 30 to 90 to 180 days ? What responsibility’s could they really be given ? When getting dressed in the morning with out outside stimulus becomes a major chore. This is just the first part in my self-proclaimed ground breaking discovery as to why the homeless crisis is just getting worse … is it worth a chat ? I hope so! Please Dr. Peterson .. I believe I’ve cracked one of the biggest nuts our society has been struggling with over the past 15 to 20 years .. I’m 46 years old .. when I was high school dropout and my grandmother forced me to get my GED I did an IQ test at the Spokane community college were I took the GED test the last grade I had completed was 7th grade .. I was 17 and scored a 135 .. I believe I have figured something profound and deeply simple .. and away of fixing it ..RIGHT NOW..TODAY..
oops this was a request i gave Dr. Peterson that we all can agree might be to busy to undertake .. Chris your the man your the scoop getter .. you ..could be the one!
I discovered JBP 3 years ago Since then I’ve lost over 100lbs, Mentally & emotionally I am in a stable and increasingly secure place, No longer suicidal, I am writing and am going to start school this year to be a special education teacher, I am currently going through a divorce where for 18 years I suffered every type of abuse you can name and I have my moments where things get unbearable but bc of JP I am getting through it in a very healthy way. I don’t know if you see this comment but that’s a small list of so much I am grateful to you for JP. I had no one in life to help me in positive ways and I took on those lectures and videos hours on hours and it’s done so much in my life I have your books and can’t wait to get the new one 👍🏼
6 Important Guidelines in Life -When you are Alone, mind your Thoughts. -When you are with Friends, mind your Tongue. -When you are Angry, mind your Temper. -When you are with a Group, mind your Behavior. -When you are in Trouble, mind your Emotion. -When God starts blessing you, mind your EGO. Post navigation.
@@Mishimized Grow up. Substitute "the Universe" or whatever else you want. God is the name many give to the great other - the sum-total of all that is not you.
@@Crunch630 totally agree, when he was only recently back, I was still a bit worried because he seemed shaky, but now that he has gained the power of the tesseract he can go back to telling America's @ss to go clean his room.
Am i the only one getting the long Jordan Peterson speeches/lectures on the "next video" feed all the time lately? Not complaining too much, i really like the guy, but i feel like youtube algorithm has been favouring him to about the same degree they do to mainstream news for at least three months now.
@@yossarian7617 -- Yes it does. He said reduce your "movements" forward to achievable increments. The point is if you try to take giant leaps all the time instead of achievable increments you won't move forward at all.
1. Every ideal/goal is a judge - can be crushing 2. Stop comparing yourself to others 3. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday - compounds 4. Who would you like to be? What's stopping you from becoming that? 5. Instead of punishing yourself from as a consequence of perceived distance you reward yourself for incremental movement forward
Much of my young life, as an alcoholic and drug user,(1964-1984), born in 1948, was all about comparing my insides to everybody else's outsides, that is to say I always thought everybody else had it together but not me, and so I wanted their life. Look at that guy hes got the women, the car, the money, the style, yada yada yada... Now being over 30 years clean and sober I must say that for many many years I have never come across anybodies life that I want... This is major progress for me...
Well done, what a growth experience! Been there to some degree myself, not an easy process to discover and work through by yourself, Dr Peterson's books and podcasts are so valuable these days, bringing it out into the open and helping you work through your thoughts.
I've never come across anybody's life that I want. Recovering alcoholic but never wanted some else's life. Don't get that. You have yourself, no one else, bottom line.
The adults who were in our lives when were children influenced our expectations implicitly and explicitly, for good or ill, and usually both. We may think our expectations change as we get older and become our own, but the dye has been cast. We will always be trying to please someone else if we don't recognize what's going on and do the difficult work of charting and setting out on our own course.
"I think that's one of the challenges we have in the modern era because social media shows us the highlight reel of everybody else's life, but we get to watch our own failings from a front row seat. We realize how far away from our own potential we are, but nobody else actually knows that. You are only ever competing against yourself. "
Of all life's problems, this is the one that crushes my soul. I was given so many gifts, told I have those gifts over and over, and wasted my entire life up to late middle age, ultimately on addiction and the total annulment of life's riches. Those gifts were as nothing compared to the negative core beliefs that were instilled within me. To begin from scratch with a broken body and mind, heavy with regret, is not an easy thing to do, no matter how many tools and insight there are available.
Facts! When I was in prison I went through the initial intense withdrawal for opioids (mainly dope). Although, when I was released I still suffered from PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome). I sought clinical help and the director noticed potential in me that I could not see for myself. So he took me under his wing and told me "Jake, first take one day at a time, and then when you overcome individual days, take it week by week, and then month by month. Eventually, you'll look back and realize that you've been clean for years". He was suggesting that I take incremental steps like JBP describes. Well, let's just say that I've been clean ever since I took his advice, over 11 years ago. I say this, not to brag. The main thing I wish anyone takes away from my story, is that you too can defeat whatever seemingly unshakable demon that torments your soul.
The trick is to pick a goal that is realistic, durable, andachieveable. That way you can derive a lot of gratification from the process of getting there!
The lobster stuff he talks about is rubbish! and also the Atheists believe we are descended from monkeys( evolutionary Biologists ones) even bigger garbage than we are related to lobsters. I know you wil come down on me hard for this post, but had to be said when you mentioned Lobsters. Most of what he teaches is helpful! must say, but Lobsters Nah!
I used to struggle with depression. But as I've got older I try to see the 'glass as half full'. Cliche I know, but I've become a firm believer that something is better than nothing and even the worst experience can have positives and still be a 'ride.' You only grieve because you had something special.
Thanks. Your comment here actually helped me. Sometimes I think seeing the good - even if it is only little - is just me excusing how I've failed to "make it" and isn't "truthful". But then I realise that all such negativity produces no good fruit, so I am may as well choose to be thankful for the good there is.
Well, it's not bad to feel that way guys. But, what matters is, you should know that's not it all. Failure doesn't define you unless you give up. Long as you're alive and have something burning inside, go for it, and have a crack at it everyday. Keep on improving yourself while learning from the mistakes that you'll be making along the way. Have a nice day!
Nobody cares about how you feel or think so you might as well be happy. Be your own best friend and choose the best things for yourself in life without feeling remorse, guilt, or shame. Those are nonsense feelings that serve no one good. And don't be worried about other people and what they think, you can always use them to your own advantage as you should because that is what most people do anyway. Life is short, opportunities are few so make the best out of it and go for yours. Nobody cares if you live or die so just do whatever you want.
I’m so thankful this man is back and doing videos and talking. He is an inspiration and he helps so many young men essentially see through the fog. He’s a truly good man and I’m just so glad he’s doing ok again and is back to enriching others lives with his wisdom.
Learning that progression is made in incremental steps has transformed my life in so many ways. Because of what we are exposed to every day I was always under the impression that I need to do and have everything and it all needs to happen and be gotten right now, all the while being so overwhelmed with not being where I wanted to be that I made no progress at all. Progress is also not measured by how well you perform - you can't expect yourself to perform better and better each day, rather, each days' efforts compound; for example, three days from now you will have 3 days of effort more added to your work than you did today and that is what makes you better, not that you got more work done than you did yesterday. Otherwise, you can 'not work yourself' into last week in terms of progress and that's greatly demoralising. P.S, great interview, Dr Jordan looks much better in this interview than when he first came back, really great to see!
@@FirstLast-gk6lg I’m not a dietitian but I’d recommend the Mediterranean diet. It’s high in omega 3 and other important nutrients that help. Just a recommendation lad
Having just discovered this channel I have to say: These were some fantastic questions posed by the interviewer. I am well aware of the value Jordan's responses carry, but asking the right questions and providing the right context really elevates their quality to the next level. Excellent job!
@@Luna-co7wn Age discrimination (where I'm from 30 and under the employer get government funding for hiring you). So once past 30, if you don't have the skill sets already, or unless you are immigrant status, it's really hard. Luckily I can ride a disability cheque forever but not many can.
Well he practically was on deaths door for a while now he seems to have gained a new love of life and has realized he can't do much about the naysayers so he just focuses on what he can do something about instead of wasting all his life force bickering with people intent on misunderstanding him. Can't keep a good man down they say. He's proof now for his followers you can make a comeback from rehab and attempted character assassination too so leading by example.
My word! This touched me so deeply. I knew you shouldn't compare yourself to others, especially based on social media. Easy to say but something else entirely when you're feeling all small and setback. "You watch the highlight reel of other people's success on social media but have the front row seat to all your failures and limitations..." most of which, you alone know about. "No one else has the same set of opportunities and limitations as you." Yours is a unique situation. "They", are really not out there judging you, it's just you. Don't be an unfair judge, don't be unkind. Take your daily steps forward no matter how small. Have faith and patience. This video answered some questions I didn't know I was asking and that's a step forward. It's exciting!
The incremental gain he talks about in your life reminds me of first starting to lift weights. I did a popular program called Starting Strength, where you just start with the bar. If you can do that you add 5lbs the next time, and if successful 5lbs the next, and so on. If you fail you remove 25% of the weight and start the process over. In a surprisingly short amount of time you can achieve your goal, as long as you are disciplined.
Chris Williamson is a beast. It's one thing to have JB Peterson over, but he knows just what questions to ask to get the guest talking - really talking.
Your struggles develop your strengths. You wouldn't be who you are without your heartaches, and you wouldn't appreciate the good times without the bad times to compare them to. My 2 cents.
@@Luna-co7wn didn't try very hard, felt like I only went because everyone should go to college, now realizing my poor gpa and whatnot has cost me a lot of potential careers. I only went to the college I did because my parents wanted too and offered to help me pay for it so I said "why not"? Its a liberal arts college but I went for a cs degree so they have no pipeline or alumni base to give me any career help. My parents were hoping I think that id stop cs and try for law school but it never appealed to me.
It's especially bizarre to see young people in their 20s comparing each other in the most specific of ways and i see it often. One is 23 and he's crowing that the other is making 4% less money at age 25 while the other is angsty because he's 22 but the other two were already [meaningless title of a job position] and he wants to be 7% more by the time he's this and that. Holeeeee shit they have no idea how utterly nonsensical and pointless and foolish nothingness that is. 1000 peculiar twists and turns will happen 1000 times in their lifetimes up and down, one launched to poverty to be launched back up, another will be on fire for a minute, later 1000 XYZs will move the sandbox around and so on and so on. They go on like it matters so specifically and it's really just weird.
@KobeR JP mentioned in a previous video that, in previous generations, 15-18 was the most awkward period in a person's life. Think Catcher in the Rye or any 80's coming of age movie. But in recent decades, 18-25 year olds have felt the most stress, thanks to a combination of delayed marrying, college debt, hyper competitive job markets, and skyrocketing housing costs. It's funny but I feel way more "teenage angst" now than I ever did in high school. Just the joys of growing up I suppose!
When you're middle-aged and you notice that you're still nowhere near your true potential... Hell, at least I'm leaps and bounds wiser than what I was back in my early twenties. It's pretty much the most valuable asset I can think of.
30 but at a 20 year old stage of development but its even worse for me. I feel like I have to go harder than the twenty year olds to compete with their exact specific lifestyles. it is information overload to the extreme and I find it very difficult to focus on an object in front of me for even 5 min. Sometimes my attn span bounces so much, a gnat on crack would be like dude chill.
Very inspirational conversation ! Jordan, I don't know if you'll read my comment but one of the effets of your lectures is also to take people out of nihilism and relativism ! And it's an amazing benefit for us, it gave us faith in life ! It's been the case for me and all of my friends who were in this case ! Thanks a lot for everything ! Much Love !
Thanks for the reminder Jordan- I am doing better than yesterday so I will be a little better tomorrow- have been in a particularly bad bout of depression.
I liked one video I saw where he said "people don't get less afraid, but they get braver." Fear holds you back, even if you write what you're afraid of down or what you need to do to overcome that obstacle. I think I saw somewhere that before you get into an argument with someone (partner, your children, or stranger) you ask the person "problem solve or empathize/comfort ?" "Incremental steps compound" - That's a good one.
@Dr. Jordan Peterson Though i have mad respect for jordan peterson this reply is from an account that originated feb 28th of this year and so i feel like this isnt actually jordan responding to me but thats ok he is a busy man but im not about to believe jordan is reading me horoscopes about a chaotic woman with a mirror hindering me thats not science at all its not even hyperbole its sounding like someone trying to use petersons image to sucker funds out of me and telling me to send money to orphans in Nigeria when there are orphans in the US and we still haven't cleaned our room on the issue so why would peterson recommend i go clean someone else's room especially considering i cant find a single mention of him supporting this group online at all if you wanted me to see this as a real thing you should have approached it as the charity directly not as peterson prophesizing some voodoo woman with a mirror at me and promising me chain letter outcomes no offense if your 13 ppl talking about this group on fb are legitimate and your organization is legitimate but as far as i can tell your not being legitimate by using petersons name and acting like a scammer
Two guys I love with a passion. Thanks fellas for talking alout what we all think. Who could not find these talks interesting. How freakin good is it to see Jordan back..literally warms my heart.
i listen to jordan peterson a lot, i have been doing it for the last 4 years, read his books and all that, watched him live and everything and everyone associates me with him, when my friends hears the name jordan peterson they think of me because i talk about him a lot. The problem and question is my life is miserable, my situation is tragic , i tell the truth rather than lie, i have a very strong character, but most things i don't think i really implement it in my life, like i still compare myself to others and i cry about it so hard because i failed unviersity, i still keep going and trying, but like everyone graduated, have a job, financially stable and i'm 10 times backwards. Why have i not implemented jordan petersons teachings even tho i've listened to him for so many years, watched all his videos and all that, does it mean i dont truly understand or what? If i did implement his teachings i wouldnt end up in my situaition i am today.
This is what those who compare themselves to others; "We're better than..." A lot of humanity fail to realize how hurtful their words are to lead people to crumble even after their ongoing efforts.
awesome video.. "social media showing only the highlight of everyone lives when we see our own failures in the front row seat" was very interesting, good set of words. Was feeling bit down this month and it start when i return heavy on social media, we need to be more vigilant.. thanks !!
The greatest goal for some of us is simply not to be a burden to society. I can only manage one fulltime job, I make less than 100k a year. I know this makes me pathetic in most people's eyes but it's just the best I can do, a lot of therapy got me to this. Thanks Doc.
@@Minty_Fresh8 well Bro, you are young Yet , just enjoy it the life Nigga, when you are over 45 or 50 , you're going to want be in your 30's, so live dude..., And happens the sime with the people of 80's they want to be 50 age again , it's a bad mindset that almost 99 percent the people has...
@@JechtNH Not as well as I could. A few weeks ago, I cut down on fast food, fried food, and sugar. Sticking to a sleep schedule. Started working out in the morning(that was main thing, I think. I got lazy and stopped working out... :-/ ) Thanks for asking right questions :)
The Apostle Paul "I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through Christ who gives me strength." - Phil 4:11-13
If you're in a competitive field, you'll be compared to other people for as long as you remain in that field. Chances are, despite what Jordan preaches in this video, you will be compared to others your entire life even if you're not in a competitive industry. Now, that's a bit different than comparing yourself as a person to other people as a person, but skills you have or lack like leadership will definitely be subject to comparison between you and others. I agree that one should not compare themselves in their entirety to other people in their entirety, but my point is this: There are people who get upset when they are compared to others in any way by someone. Those people should grow up and face the reality that they will likely be compared to others for the rest of their lives.
Anytime I have compared myself to other people, I have felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon! 🏃♂🏃🏃♀
An incremental step that Jordan could take towards his mental health is to distinguish what his father got that he did not want, and what Walt wanted that he did not get (from his parents).
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Chris! pay up buddy. I'm an out shape rather barbarian egg faced human in America and believe you owe me some of your Pretty, Deep brown eyed, Statue of David physic Privilege. A check simply won't do! And No I'm not comparing myself to you, I'm making fun of me and you. I've been working hard brother from a much much lower status spot then you .. but again that's my fault ..I was once the king of all that i saw.. and Hubris Came .. the Piper Did Call... I'm putting in alot of work .. I'm not perfect or as ready as one would like me to be .. but history Waits for no man .. or women for that matter.. I believe i have cracked a big societal nut no ones been able to quite figure out .,.. at least in the US .. it's about the homeless crisis and how to reverse it .. here is a video i put out today mostly for my Facebook family and friends, but I think it's a good measure of where I'm at... ruclips.net/video/23XtnDnL6mc/видео.html i know this is breaking a once cardinal rule about the internet but ...I'm desperate .. you should have me on as a guest +1 509-818-6005 The names Cameron Vessey
Chris a taste of my fix.. Many a late night commercial, new aspiring book or author might say “forget everything you know about Blank”. Because their about to blow you away with a whole new way to look at an old problem. Check out my new mouse trap. But as I often do, I must take a different approach, as I tell you to check out this Mouse trap Escape tool. Take everything you know about habits, From Jocko to Books on self-discipline, from self-help to psychological research take it all …and try to imagine what a human being older then 20 years old would look like, act like, be capable of or what they wouldn’t be capable of if you wiped them clean of every single habit they’ve been forming since birth .. then place them into society.
This human can be of normal intelligence, of privileged genetics’, and well educated. This human can also have avoided any psychosis inducing trauma throughout his or hers life. As well-adjusted of a say 25 to 40 year old as one might imagine. Then thoroughly wipe them clean of any habits they might normal of developed over the same period of life. Take minute. Physical habits, emotional habits, greeting people with a hello, avoiding cracks in the road. Putting their shoes on in the morning, wiped clean of every habit you can think of and oh so many that you haven’t. And place them into society for a week. For a month .. how would they fair? Could they maintain their patience when cashiers bagging the potatoes in another plastic bag even though they come in a bag already? How often would they just start running to safety like a deer in a grassy field sensing possible danger? After a long week of putting forth effort to do so many little things how exhausted would they be? One might even think they were suffering from depression. Tired, lethargic, no direction.. What if a perfectly healthy human who was suffering from a habit chalk board that had been wiped clean were everything is far more of an effort then normal was given anti depressants ..
Take every thing you know about habits, motivation, daily routines, effort, mental health .. and now look at a chronically homeless person as if every habit they’ve spent a life time developing have been erased completely off their habit chalk board.. What would you recommend as a doctor or a counselor or a loved one now? What would your expectations for this person be for the next 30 to 90 to 180 days ? What responsibility’s could they really be given ? When getting dressed in the morning with out outside stimulus becomes a major chore. This is just the first part in my self-proclaimed ground breaking discovery as to why the homeless crisis is just getting worse … is it worth a chat ? I hope so! Please Dr. Peterson .. I believe I’ve cracked one of the biggest nuts our society has been struggling with over the past 15 to 20 years .. I’m 46 years old .. when I was high school dropout and my grandmother forced me to get my GED I did an IQ test at the Spokane community college were I took the GED test the last grade I had completed was 7th grade .. I was 17 and scored a 135 .. I believe I have figured something profound and deeply simple .. and away of fixing it ..RIGHT NOW..TODAY..
oops this was a request i gave Dr. Peterson that we all can agree might be to busy to undertake .. Chris your the man your the scoop getter .. you ..could be the one!
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😂😂
I discovered JBP 3 years ago
Since then I’ve lost over 100lbs,
Mentally & emotionally I am in a stable and increasingly secure place,
No longer suicidal,
I am writing and am going to start school this year to be a special education teacher,
I am currently going through a divorce where for 18 years I suffered every type of abuse you can name and I have my moments where things get unbearable but bc of JP I am getting through it in a very healthy way.
I don’t know if you see this comment but that’s a small list of so much I am grateful to you for JP. I had no one in life to help me in positive ways and I took on those lectures and videos hours on hours and it’s done so much in my life I have your books and can’t wait to get the new one 👍🏼
Great job, Alyssa. Keep going.
Stay blessed
Congrats Alissa... I'm so proud of you... Keep going! (I've never posted anything like this before lol, so I trully mean it)
I am also proud of you Alyssa.I want to have a friend like you
Congratulations! :)
"Incremental improvement repeated is virtually unstoppable." - JP
Long term investment
-Red Skull
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True. If you can make incremental improvements.
Add daily journaling and the increments become meaningful.
6 Important Guidelines in Life
-When you are Alone, mind your Thoughts.
-When you are with Friends, mind your Tongue.
-When you are Angry, mind your Temper.
-When you are with a Group, mind your Behavior.
-When you are in Trouble, mind your Emotion.
-When God starts blessing you, mind your EGO. Post navigation.
When you are a social media platform, mind your business.
When you are piqued, mind your 'P's and 'Q's.
When you are awake, be mindful.
Very well written, thank you, and well done....
you lost me at God.
@@Mishimized Grow up. Substitute "the Universe" or whatever else you want. God is the name many give to the great other - the sum-total of all that is not you.
@@Mishimized you must be very shallow. I feel sorry for you genuinely.
I'm so glad that RUclips is recommending me recent Jordan Peterson videos again! Like the good ol' days.
seriously right?!
@@the8u9 He's back. It finally clicked in this video that he's speaking like he used to - an enormous blessing.
@@Crunch630 totally agree, when he was only recently back, I was still a bit worried because he seemed shaky, but now that he has gained the power of the tesseract he can go back to telling America's @ss to go clean his room.
Am i the only one getting the long Jordan Peterson speeches/lectures on the "next video" feed all the time lately?
Not complaining too much, i really like the guy, but i feel like youtube algorithm has been favouring him to about the same degree they do to mainstream news for at least three months now.
@@ZingoBananaa The algorithm shows you what it thinks you'll click.
We watch our own failures from a front row seat. That quote really hit hard.
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"You can have whatever ideal you want as long as you're willing to reduce your movement forward to achievable increments." Dang that is brilliant.
That’s Tattoo worthy
Moving forward and achievable increments are synonymous. That sentence doesn't make any sense, not even at a grammatical level.
@@yossarian7617 -- Yes it does. He said reduce your "movements" forward to achievable increments. The point is if you try to take giant leaps all the time instead of achievable increments you won't move forward at all.
Yeah but some people don't set goals or have the same ideals as others. "Self improvement is madturbation" Tyler Durden.
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Red Skull at it again. Love this guy. Keep preaching Red Skull.
Well, he looks like he burned in a son a bit. Adds to cool character - love it!!!
Ha ha, that's funny...I don't think JP is big on irony
More like Lobster Alpha
Hail Lobster😭
@@murphymerryliz The shirt looks great too - I ordered three. A bit of a spit in the eye to Marvel- but all for charity.
Jordan articulates what has otherwise always felt like mere instinct or ‘gut’ feelings and opinions. Great question btw.
Jordan is simply common sense
Which unfortunately is not very common
@@SkeeNnN ...anymore
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very well said
1. Every ideal/goal is a judge - can be crushing
2. Stop comparing yourself to others
3. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday - compounds
4. Who would you like to be? What's stopping you from becoming that?
5. Instead of punishing yourself from as a consequence of perceived distance you reward yourself for incremental movement forward
"Compare yourself to who you were yesterday"
- Magical Nazi Red Skull
his face is looking kinda red lol
@@jj342 He is evolving into lobster.
😂😂😂😂🤪👌👍
Yeah, but age isn't kind. In many ways I'm worse and weaker than I used to be.
@@someonesomeone25 But maybe wiser and meaner.
Much of my young life, as an alcoholic and drug user,(1964-1984), born in 1948, was all about comparing my insides to everybody else's outsides, that is to say I always thought everybody else had it together but not me, and so I wanted their life.
Look at that guy hes got the women, the car, the money, the style, yada yada yada...
Now being over 30 years clean and sober I must say that for many many years I have never come across anybodies life that I want... This is major progress for me...
Well done, what a growth experience! Been there to some degree myself, not an easy process to discover and work through by yourself, Dr Peterson's books and podcasts are so valuable these days, bringing it out into the open and helping you work through your thoughts.
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I've never come across anybody's life that I want. Recovering alcoholic but never wanted some else's life. Don't get that. You have yourself, no one else, bottom line.
The adults who were in our lives when were children influenced our expectations implicitly and explicitly, for good or ill, and usually both. We may think our expectations change as we get older and become our own, but the dye has been cast. We will always be trying to please someone else if we don't recognize what's going on and do the difficult work of charting and setting out on our own course.
As my brother sits in jail, I hope he realizes this sooner than later, no one knows what they are doing
I just reminisced on how great it was to have Jordan around a couple of years ago and just realized how great it is for him to be back.
We love you JBP. Wonderful to see you so vital.
I'm so glad Jordan is up and about again. We need him now more than ever!
Really? What's wrong? He is not God or anything.
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@@johnkuipers7829 Maybe he admires him in a way? I don't want to be cocky but we all have someone we look up to.
@@johnkuipers7829 it would serve you well to be kinder, don’t be horrible dude.
It brings to mind the Three Great Delusions:
I am better.
I am worse.
I am the same.
Whence "the three great delusions"? e.g. Zen saying?
John Lennon espoused the fourth...
@@grosbeak6130 Straight vanilla Buddhism dude.
The one consistent I like is "I am"
@@rogalski86 I am...enough
"I think that's one of the challenges we have in the modern era because social media shows us the highlight reel of everybody else's life, but we get to watch our own failings from a front row seat. We realize how far away from our own potential we are, but nobody else actually knows that. You are only ever competing against yourself. "
Jordan Peterson lookin good again. Love ya, and God bless you sir.
Bro why select the god hand as your profile picture
@@itsjusachannel6852 freedom of choice
@@itsjusachannel6852 its absolute chaos man, berserk falls in line with the existentialism philosophy
@@Arockersfantasy I know, because its truly GOATed. I mean there are only a few mangas out there, which can actually tackle extentialism
Of all life's problems, this is the one that crushes my soul. I was given so many gifts, told I have those gifts over and over, and wasted my entire life up to late middle age, ultimately on addiction and the total annulment of life's riches. Those gifts were as nothing compared to the negative core beliefs that were instilled within me. To begin from scratch with a broken body and mind, heavy with regret, is not an easy thing to do, no matter how many tools and insight there are available.
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on the other hand I just read the latest novel by an author who is now 80. He only had one sort- of kind- of a best seller but he is still writing.
I’m now (attempting) to write a novel thanks to Dr Peterson’s advise. And it all started with me ‘cleaning my room’.
Good on you
"Aim high but reward yourself for small incremental improvements."
5:41 Thanks, that's exactly the advice that was needed.
Facts! When I was in prison I went through the initial intense withdrawal for opioids (mainly dope). Although, when I was released I still suffered from PAWS (post acute withdrawal syndrome). I sought clinical help and the director noticed potential in me that I could not see for myself. So he took me under his wing and told me "Jake, first take one day at a time, and then when you overcome individual days, take it week by week, and then month by month. Eventually, you'll look back and realize that you've been clean for years". He was suggesting that I take incremental steps like JBP describes.
Well, let's just say that I've been clean ever since I took his advice, over 11 years ago. I say this, not to brag. The main thing I wish anyone takes away from my story, is that you too can defeat whatever seemingly unshakable demon that torments your soul.
This advice is so simple and yet it took me so long to fully learn. Celebrating the small wins has changed my life.
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Incremental improvement repeated every day is unstoppable. Rewarding yourself for the move forward is crucial. Thank you.
The trick is to pick a goal that is realistic, durable, andachieveable. That way you can derive a lot of gratification from the process of getting there!
"If I take one more step, it'll be the furthest from 'ome I've ever been."
Gosh I really love this lobster villain
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 crack me up
The lobster stuff he talks about is rubbish! and also the Atheists believe we are descended from monkeys( evolutionary Biologists ones) even bigger garbage than we are related to lobsters. I know you wil come down on me hard for this post, but had to be said when you mentioned Lobsters.
Most of what he teaches is helpful! must say, but Lobsters Nah!
@@PaulOReilly712 Nothing he teaches is useful. He's a classic bullshit artist.
@@PaulOReilly712 u r right man. We all just listening to BS. Nothing he speak is truth. His name is probably not Jordan
I used to struggle with depression. But as I've got older I try to see the 'glass as half full'. Cliche I know, but I've become a firm believer that something is better than nothing and even the worst experience can have positives and still be a 'ride.'
You only grieve because you had something special.
Thanks. Your comment here actually helped me. Sometimes I think seeing the good - even if it is only little - is just me excusing how I've failed to "make it" and isn't "truthful". But then I realise that all such negativity produces no good fruit, so I am may as well choose to be thankful for the good there is.
Well, it's not bad to feel that way guys. But, what matters is, you should know that's not it all. Failure doesn't define you unless you give up. Long as you're alive and have something burning inside, go for it, and have a crack at it everyday. Keep on improving yourself while learning from the mistakes that you'll be making along the way.
Have a nice day!
The last line was pure facts
Nobody cares about how you feel or think so you might as well be happy. Be your own best friend and choose the best things for yourself in life without feeling remorse, guilt, or shame. Those are nonsense feelings that serve no one good. And don't be worried about other people and what they think, you can always use them to your own advantage as you should because that is what most people do anyway. Life is short, opportunities are few so make the best out of it and go for yours. Nobody cares if you live or die so just do whatever you want.
@@True38 FAX!!
I’m so thankful this man is back and doing videos and talking. He is an inspiration and he helps so many young men essentially see through the fog. He’s a truly good man and I’m just so glad he’s doing ok again and is back to enriching others lives with his wisdom.
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This man, man. Unbelievable wealth of wisdom!
Fair to say he changed the way i perceive life.
Learning that progression is made in incremental steps has transformed my life in so many ways. Because of what we are exposed to every day I was always under the impression that I need to do and have everything and it all needs to happen and be gotten right now, all the while being so overwhelmed with not being where I wanted to be that I made no progress at all. Progress is also not measured by how well you perform - you can't expect yourself to perform better and better each day, rather, each days' efforts compound; for example, three days from now you will have 3 days of effort more added to your work than you did today and that is what makes you better, not that you got more work done than you did yesterday. Otherwise, you can 'not work yourself' into last week in terms of progress and that's greatly demoralising.
P.S, great interview, Dr Jordan looks much better in this interview than when he first came back, really great to see!
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"I'd pick young and poor, 'cause you can't buy youth." Powerful stuff.
that just hit me so hard, I repeated it 15 times !
I am getting old
@@LKRaider same man it really doesn't feel good. Like literally my body feels like shit lol
Add virgin to the list.
@@FirstLast-gk6lg I’m not a dietitian but I’d recommend the Mediterranean diet. It’s high in omega 3 and other important nutrients that help. Just a recommendation lad
Having just discovered this channel I have to say: These were some fantastic questions posed by the interviewer.
I am well aware of the value Jordan's responses carry, but asking the right questions and providing the right context really elevates their quality to the next level. Excellent job!
"You can't buy youth" that really hit me
I’m 29 and I feel my youth flying out the window...it’s been tough. I miss being identified with potential
@@Drcowboyfunk007 I'm 39. I can't even get hired now.
SpanishFly EVH why ?
@@Luna-co7wn Age discrimination (where I'm from 30 and under the employer get government funding for hiring you). So once past 30, if you don't have the skill sets already, or unless you are immigrant status, it's really hard. Luckily I can ride a disability cheque forever but not many can.
Wait till you're 58. Grim realization how fast time flies and not to waste it
1st rule for life:
Discover and explore Jordan Peterson 🙏🏼❤️
Jordan has the best life improvement advise. Breaking down habits and then eliminating them one by one, while measuring the progress. Simply amazinh
I discovered JP in 2018. I can't tell you how much my life improved since then. Literally, I can't tell you. I can write a whole book about it.
It's so GOOD to see Jordan looking so energetic and alive! I love this guy!
Well he practically was on deaths door for a while now he seems to have gained a new love of life and has realized he can't do much about the naysayers so he just focuses on what he can do something about instead of wasting all his life force bickering with people intent on misunderstanding him. Can't keep a good man down they say. He's proof now for his followers you can make a comeback from rehab and attempted character assassination too so leading by example.
"You reduce the magnitude of the move forward, until you hit the point where you will actually do it." Click click click.
Extremely valuable piece of content for someone who has been comparing themselves to others rather than who they were yesterday
This man figured out! Jordan Peterson is one of the top 10 best people I've studied
My word! This touched me so deeply.
I knew you shouldn't compare yourself to others, especially based on social media. Easy to say but something else entirely when you're feeling all small and setback.
"You watch the highlight reel of other people's success on social media but have the front row seat to all your failures and limitations..." most of which, you alone know about.
"No one else has the same set of opportunities and limitations as you."
Yours is a unique situation.
"They", are really not out there judging you, it's just you.
Don't be an unfair judge, don't be unkind.
Take your daily steps forward no matter how small. Have faith and patience.
This video answered some questions I didn't know I was asking and that's a step forward. It's exciting!
Lots of quotables from Chris, even in the presence of the great man himself, respect brotha!
The incremental gain he talks about in your life reminds me of first starting to lift weights. I did a popular program called Starting Strength, where you just start with the bar. If you can do that you add 5lbs the next time, and if successful 5lbs the next, and so on. If you fail you remove 25% of the weight and start the process over. In a surprisingly short amount of time you can achieve your goal, as long as you are disciplined.
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“I’ll pick young and poor because you can’t buy youth” Thank you prof Peterson, these words were like a balm to my heart ♥️
I still need to make money though 😂
Ur the luckiest Person .well go for it🤣🤣🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️
Chris Williamson is a beast. It's one thing to have JB Peterson over, but he knows just what questions to ask to get the guest talking - really talking.
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I really needed to hear this today. Thank you to Chris and Jordan.
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I don’t care what others say. Mr peterson is one of the most important public intellectual of the 21st century.
I did nothing to help myself, but at least my english improved a little just by listening to him, it's something I guess.
Should've have gotten this advise when I was in freshman college. Could've save me a lot of heartaches.
Your struggles develop your strengths. You wouldn't be who you are without your heartaches, and you wouldn't appreciate the good times without the bad times to compare them to. My 2 cents.
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Yeah I'm watching this rn as a senior in college graduating in 2 weeks and feeling like I blew college
Greg Beigel why ?
@@Luna-co7wn didn't try very hard, felt like I only went because everyone should go to college, now realizing my poor gpa and whatnot has cost me a lot of potential careers. I only went to the college I did because my parents wanted too and offered to help me pay for it so I said "why not"? Its a liberal arts college but I went for a cs degree so they have no pipeline or alumni base to give me any career help. My parents were hoping I think that id stop cs and try for law school but it never appealed to me.
I needed to watch this, I forget how wise Jordan Peterson's teaching are imperative for everyone's path in life
It's especially bizarre to see young people in their 20s comparing each other in the most specific of ways and i see it often. One is 23 and he's crowing that the other is making 4% less money at age 25 while the other is angsty because he's 22 but the other two were already [meaningless title of a job position] and he wants to be 7% more by the time he's this and that. Holeeeee shit they have no idea how utterly nonsensical and pointless and foolish nothingness that is. 1000 peculiar twists and turns will happen 1000 times in their lifetimes up and down, one launched to poverty to be launched back up, another will be on fire for a minute, later 1000 XYZs will move the sandbox around and so on and so on. They go on like it matters so specifically and it's really just weird.
As a 24 year old who creates a lot of self anxiety comparing himself to others, this comment was very helpful
@KobeR JP mentioned in a previous video that, in previous generations, 15-18 was the most awkward period in a person's life. Think Catcher in the Rye or any 80's coming of age movie. But in recent decades, 18-25 year olds have felt the most stress, thanks to a combination of delayed marrying, college debt, hyper competitive job markets, and skyrocketing housing costs. It's funny but I feel way more "teenage angst" now than I ever did in high school. Just the joys of growing up I suppose!
When you're middle-aged and you notice that you're still nowhere near your true potential...
Hell, at least I'm leaps and bounds wiser than what I was back in my early twenties. It's pretty much the most valuable asset I can think of.
30 but at a 20 year old stage of development but its even worse for me. I feel like I have to go harder than the twenty year olds to compete with their exact specific lifestyles. it is information overload to the extreme and I find it very difficult to focus on an object in front of me for even 5 min. Sometimes my attn span bounces so much, a gnat on crack would be like dude chill.
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Reward yourself for going forward
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Encourage yourself for improvement and reward yourself
I'm suffering from my own self Judgment but thanks to this Video with Dr. Peterson, now i felt inspired.
Jordan is the freakin embodiment of what he exposed here and it's so satisfying and inspiring to watch, i am thankful.
Very inspirational conversation ! Jordan, I don't know if you'll read my comment but one of the effets of your lectures is also to take people out of nihilism and relativism ! And it's an amazing benefit for us, it gave us faith in life ! It's been the case for me and all of my friends who were in this case ! Thanks a lot for everything ! Much Love !
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Thanks for the reminder Jordan- I am doing better than yesterday so I will be a little better tomorrow- have been in a particularly bad bout of depression.
"Every ideal is a judge"
No wonder why Freud came up with the Ideal Self, then the Super Ego often described as Tyrannical
How fortunate do you feel to have interviewed the man who had such a big influence on your life?
And thrive at it!
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What a critical conversation for all of us not at the top.
"Nobody else knows that"
That is such a good observation, thank you :)
People only see what you show them
I liked one video I saw where he said "people don't get less afraid, but they get braver." Fear holds you back, even if you write what you're afraid of down or what you need to do to overcome that obstacle.
I think I saw somewhere that before you get into an argument with someone (partner, your children, or stranger) you ask the person "problem solve or empathize/comfort ?"
"Incremental steps compound" - That's a good one.
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Jordan is the epitome of nuance.
Thank GOD for Jordan Peterson
@Dr. Jordan Peterson Though i have mad respect for jordan peterson this reply is from an account that originated feb 28th of this year and so i feel like this isnt actually jordan responding to me but thats ok he is a busy man but im not about to believe jordan is reading me horoscopes about a chaotic woman with a mirror hindering me thats not science at all its not even hyperbole its sounding like someone trying to use petersons image to sucker funds out of me and telling me to send money to orphans in Nigeria when there are orphans in the US and we still haven't cleaned our room on the issue so why would peterson recommend i go clean someone else's room especially considering i cant find a single mention of him supporting this group online at all if you wanted me to see this as a real thing you should have approached it as the charity directly not as peterson prophesizing some voodoo woman with a mirror at me and promising me chain letter outcomes no offense if your 13 ppl talking about this group on fb are legitimate and your organization is legitimate but as far as i can tell your not being legitimate by using petersons name and acting like a scammer
Two guys I love with a passion. Thanks fellas for talking alout what we all think. Who could not find these talks interesting. How freakin good is it to see Jordan back..literally warms my heart.
All suffering comes from identifying yourself with something you are NOT. time is the greatest punishment as a result of this.
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your first line is profound. can you explain the second sentence in depth?
@@kachekijaanlega1st line is not correct
Such a rich idea Peterson has shared. The potential and the power of it is so empowering.
Social Media ruins a lot of people's lives because of the constant comparison with others.
"Make sure to subscribe, it makes me really happy, p e a c e",
the realest sentence that chris has ever said.
Small incremental steps bring confidence, small steps, small victories, small rewards, and repeat. Don't compare with others, focus on you.
JBP saved my life. I wish the profound insights I received from his two books and his talks upon every human I meet.
Chris Williamson really nailed it on these questions...
Incremental improvements is eventually unstoppable
Have read Jordans books and watched him for hours on you tube I always learn something valuable
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i listen to jordan peterson a lot, i have been doing it for the last 4 years, read his books and all that, watched him live and everything and everyone associates me with him, when my friends hears the name jordan peterson they think of me because i talk about him a lot. The problem and question is my life is miserable, my situation is tragic , i tell the truth rather than lie, i have a very strong character, but most things i don't think i really implement it in my life, like i still compare myself to others and i cry about it so hard because i failed unviersity, i still keep going and trying, but like everyone graduated, have a job, financially stable and i'm 10 times backwards. Why have i not implemented jordan petersons teachings even tho i've listened to him for so many years, watched all his videos and all that, does it mean i dont truly understand or what? If i did implement his teachings i wouldnt end up in my situaition i am today.
Really good point about social media, and comparing ourselves against the very best outward image of others.
I learnt this method a couple of years ago .... Life changing 🙂
How refreshing! How clear! What an excellent explanation!! Love Mr. jourden. He explains like no other!! Very clear well explained!
Oh my goodness. We got a glimpse of Prime Dr. JBP!!! 🙏🏽
So long as you move forward...absolutely golden 🏆
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Such a great episode! One to relisten to and keep revisiting. I love your podcasts with Jordan AND Mikhaila so much!
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This is one of your absolute best podcasts to date, great job mate
👏🏾 this guy really knows how to simplify things that complicate peoples lives
Red skull is really making me rethink my life, probably why so many joined hydra.
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Great question. Ty to Chris for asking it.
We need him now more than ever
This is what those who compare themselves to others; "We're better than..." A lot of humanity fail to realize how hurtful their words are to lead people to crumble even after their ongoing efforts.
awesome video.. "social media showing only the highlight of everyone lives when we see our own failures in the front row seat" was very interesting, good set of words. Was feeling bit down this month and it start when i return heavy on social media, we need to be more vigilant.. thanks !!
I needed to hear this today.
if you compare yourself to another individual, then you are only holding yourself back, as you are the only Ideal you will ever be
The greatest goal for some of us is simply not to be a burden to society. I can only manage one fulltime job, I make less than 100k a year. I know this makes me pathetic in most people's eyes but it's just the best I can do, a lot of therapy got me to this. Thanks Doc.
100k? how many people do you think earn more than that? not many
My mother allways compaired me to others saying I was not as good.
this channel really deserves it all
jordan peterson is so awesome, dudes my hero.
Incremental improvement repeated is virtually unstoppable.
"I'd pick young and poor, 'cause you can't buy youth." -Red Skull.
You can't buy wisdom either and that is usually a function of time.
Scrolled down for this. I was much healthier and happier in my 20's when I was young and poor vs now. In 30's and making average income.
@@Minty_Fresh8 well Bro, you are young Yet , just enjoy it the life Nigga, when you are over 45 or 50 , you're going to want be in your 30's, so live dude..., And happens the sime with the people of 80's they want to be 50 age again , it's a bad mindset that almost 99 percent the people has...
@@Minty_Fresh8 are you eating well and exercising? 20s vs 30s shouldnt be THAT much different
@@JechtNH Not as well as I could. A few weeks ago, I cut down on fast food, fried food, and sugar. Sticking to a sleep schedule. Started working out in the morning(that was main thing, I think. I got lazy and stopped working out... :-/ ) Thanks for asking right questions :)
The Apostle Paul
"I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through Christ who gives me strength."
- Phil 4:11-13
If you're in a competitive field, you'll be compared to other people for as long as you remain in that field. Chances are, despite what Jordan preaches in this video, you will be compared to others your entire life even if you're not in a competitive industry. Now, that's a bit different than comparing yourself as a person to other people as a person, but skills you have or lack like leadership will definitely be subject to comparison between you and others. I agree that one should not compare themselves in their entirety to other people in their entirety, but my point is this: There are people who get upset when they are compared to others in any way by someone. Those people should grow up and face the reality that they will likely be compared to others for the rest of their lives.
Anytime I have compared myself to other people, I have felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon! 🏃♂🏃🏃♀
An incremental step that Jordan could take towards his mental health is to distinguish what his father got that he did not want, and what Walt wanted that he did not get (from his parents).