I’m 51 and made a man wait. It was sooo hard because I felt he was my last chance. But then I found out he was living with and had a family with his 30 year old fiancé. You really saved me on that one, T! Thanks
My boyfriend, now ex, asked me if i'll marry him in 6 months I said ok and I told him that no bed activities or peach cobbler lol, only after wedding, so he dumped me the next day morning after asking me AGAIN if I'm sure about it😂Good riddance! I'm a queen not a prostitute! thank you Tony!!!🙏🙏🙏
Tony is so right. Meet Up was invaluable for me. I joined 3 groups in my age range when I moved to a new city and I made many new friends and connections organically. Some other things I did when I moved to a new city were to get a membership to my local museum (I’m an artist) and attend their social gatherings. I also joined other professional groups like coffee and contact, a meditation group and a local church. I opened my circle of friends and professional contacts which later led to romantic connections as well.
Powerful insights. As a woman who dated and later married in ny 50s I should have followed my gut and brain as Tony presented here. I love Ed slowly until the engagement but I did not make him work until marriage. I am now divorced after 14 years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I made him lazy and he lost his "hunter" instict. He left because I remembered who I was. But by then it was too late for the marriage. What a lesson. Thank God now in my 60s I know better and have no time or interest in games men play. More importantly I no longer play myself. Great session today TG! No spirit of "care to differ here".
I’m so happy to read this! I am an artist myself! I make jewelry and draw and never thought about this! I’m happy this worked for you! I think I will give it a try!
And they don’t even seem to be worried where their next is coming from. How do men not worry about that? Are there really that many dysfunctional women out there that believe someone is better than no one? WOW!
Tony's 💯💯 right! The older we get and stay alone or isolated from others, we become more cynical, cranky, suspicious and the less we take constructive criticism. I try to get out and get into social events like latin dancing and I absolutely love it. It makes get out of your comfort zone and open your mind to others. And if you do not have a pleasant energy, you will not be asked to dance. There are definitely no excuses to be better and achieve excellence. Most of all, be love! Thank you Tony for your wisdom! This was definitely a wonderful video.
So RIGHT! YES INDEED! U ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE ! LIVE LIFE ! GOD WILL SEND U SOMEONE ON HIS GIVEN RIGHT TIME! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE! GOD LOVES U! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! AND OTHERS WILL LOVE U BACK!
Tony I was backing up my car into a parking spot when you sighed and said it took 30 minutes for us to get to this point. I laughed so hard I almost hit a car🤭
Thank you Tony! I am 50 and needed to hear everything you said. I work like I am still 30. Just hustling with no social life and saying I dont have time and I am tired. Yeah, time to adjust❤❤
Meet-ups is the absolute best. I used it for travel, festivals, concerts, writing and book club groups. Best networking group. Also, TONY is right. Say nothing about abstinence. Your actions will show.
Tony in some cases with older women they have dealt with so much trauma it has left them shell shocked.I’m over 50, a successful, degreed woman. I thank God for a sound mind and a pleasant personality. I’m healing after a 10 year toxic relationship. I’ll b ready to get back out there when the time is right. Thank you Tony!!
@@mymakersdaughter6041 I ordered mines too. My sister who just turned 50 last year and have no children either missed out on her t-shirt due to being sold out, so hopefully Tony will have more soon.
@@antoinettesherrod1895 what if u have children and don't Have NO TIME TO TEACH A GROWN MAN WHO ACTS LIKE A GROWN BOY ! THIS IS SOMETHING THAT HE SHOULD ALREADY BEEN TAUGHT . NO TIME 2 RAISE A GROWN MAN U SHOULD ALREADY KNOW ABOUT A GROWN WOMAN ! WE STRONG GROWN WOMEN AND DON'T HAVE NO TIME FOR GAMES! U SHOULD HAVE BEEN TAUGHT RIGHT! SO RIGHT YES INDEED! SHOW U RIGHT!
We're on the same page sista....I just let go of my 2 yr toxic relationship. I'm 51 and I'm beyond excited to be single, free, happy and have a peace of mind. This dude would start arguments with me every single week. It became too overwhelming. Honestly, I'll probably never get in another relationship. I'm happy being solo
I’m 30 and I’m taking in this information. “You did right before God and there is a reward for that. He did wrong before God and there is repercussions for that” I felt that! 💎💎💎
Tony, thank you so much for this video. I remember asking you to do a part 3 on a series for older women and I remember you saying, "Aint no way...because y'all..." and I started laughing and I already knew it would be a long time coming (if at all) we would get your advice again. I implore all older ladies watching this...please DO NOT act a fool in the comments. We need all the advice this young man can give us! Thanks again, Tony! God Bless You, the Queen, and your sons.
I remember that and was pleasantly surprised to see the notification pop up. I have watched it several times now concerned Tony might just put it up for a bit then remove it. NO MORE THUMBS DOWN, PLEASE WHOEVER IS DOING THAT OR CONSIDERING IT! WE'VE BEEN WAITING A LONG TIME FOR THIS!!! (The humour was such a great added bonus!)
I’m 54 and attracting 65 to 74 year olds in my church! I’m not trying to be a nurse maid. I want an active man like myself. And I am not trying to be a consolation prize for when you can’t find someone else or you lonely either! That’s what Christian women have to deal with. The pool is so small.
I am listening to TG and he's right on point. My Archbishop had a meeting with the single women of our church to hear our questions on relationships. He and his wife listened and he couldn't believe the men that were out there. He finally said "You are dealing with men who want mommas not a wife." Point Blank PeriodT!
You are definitely speaking the truth about, not letting a man know what is your game plan about being abstinence until marriage. Because you will definitely become a challenge. Instead of being loved, respected and trying to figured out. A man jumps right in on how he's going to get you in bed. He forgets all about you both getting to know each other. That's out the window!!!! If you're not strong!!! You best to believe you are about to be tried on every end and angel. Please don't give in make him out of a lier and you will be so proud of yourself!!!!! Thank you Mr.Tony Gaskin for keeping it so real!!!! P.S. when you are getting to know a man. PLEASE DON'T TELL HIM ANYTHING ABOUT BEING ABSTINENCE. BECAUSE YOU DEFINITELY BECOME A TEST!!!!! NOTHING ELSE!!!!
Mr.Gaskins soooo perfect"Walk it Not Talk it" those are the best words I have heard in a long time. If we show a person who we are, they will see who we are, no need to Talk who we are..BE THE PERSON WE ARE, NOT TALK THE PERSON WE SAY WE ARE. THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! GOD BLESS!
Listen twice as much as you speak🗣, you need to listen, tips from TG! The more you can listen that helps develop your personality, this is so true! Speak on it Tony Gaskins! We can’t get offended at the truth we just can’t! Blessings Tony to you and the Queen🙏🏾
2nd comment....TONY!!! You had me hollering from laughing so hard with this video BUT I luv it. I have watched ALOT of your vids and this is one of the realest I've watched! I'm younger than 55+ BUT you spoke sooooooo much truth! Some men will do this, try you until the wedding night! Dating try to go there, engagement try to go there, and all the way up until the wedding will try to go there! I have male friends this age and they have told me they will ABSOLUTLEY do this. So all you speak is pure truth TG! I'm happy you made this vid. Again, I got a little ways to go before I'm in the 55+ community but I've received ALOT of gems. Thank you sir and keep up the GREAT work! :)
If I may humbly submit a caveat to a statement Tony said regarding not working the overnight shift. As a 55+ woman working in Healthcare, I totally agree with ceasing working the overnight shifts. Overnight nights are terrible for women of ALL ages! I actually work rotating shifts. I’m working on giving up the overnight shift myself. However working overnight and or the second shift affords you the time and opportunity to go to the networking events chamber of commerce meetings etc where you will find the Professional men Tony talks about. Tony is correct that a different level of men work out before noon. So that’s why it’s important to have a business or job that will give you the flexibility to be in those spaces. Thank you Tony!!💜🙏🏽
Had I not listened to Tony’s videos, I probably would have fell right back in my old trap. But it me only two weeks instead of six months! That’s money in the bank! Thank you Mr. Gaskins!
I still can breathe. God really use you today sir. Keep on allowing the holy spirit to lead you. This word is no accident needed to hear this to leave a toxic relationship today . I still can breathe. God bless you. Listening from Canada
Thank you Tony for looking out for us 50 and above; you are so appreciated for your wisdom beyond your years. I'm definitely using all the wisdom you have taught since listening to you a little over a year. 🙏🙌☝️
I'm so glad you got to this topic. I'm recently separated and have been thinking about the future, in terms of being with a man who is not asking me for sex before marriage. I'm 58 and have many young men who approach me and they're not in their 50s, they're 45 or younger, I hate it. But they see me as a much younger woman. It makes me want to hide honestly
Sis ,don’t hide your light under a bushel. I’m 59 with the same issue. Today I had a doctor I work with approach me,thought I was 44. I enjoy being fabulous, widowed 1 year waiting on God’s match. Embrace your grace 😉
Hi ladies...Im 51 and the early 20 yr olds on me...but like you said when you fit and put together they think you are younger....or they want them new Jordan's 😂😂😂...jus kidding but embrace your beauty sis 👍
Great video, as usual Tony! Just to be clear, a woman 50-55 did not grow up with Sam Cooke. They are the New Edition, Prince, Al B. Sure! era... New Jack Swing, OK.
@@MichElle-py8lk Nah, I think you read it wrong. I let various people read it and they understood it. None of them, including myself, saw absolutely anything negative with my post.
TG, I appreciate this wisdom for women our age. I almost skipped it with the title “55+”...but I watch all of your videos anyway because I know there’s always something to learn. At 46 yrs old, you have cracked me up and shared some great wisdom at the same time. Thank you much!
Thank you for this excellent video. I am 57 and widowed and need to hear the truth about relationships in my age category. I am listening and learning. Also, whoever said 50s is the new 30s needs to be slapped.
Thank Mr Gaskin. Thanks for taking the time to tell us what our fathers, brothers, or any other man ever told us. With this information we are no longer easy prey .
I’m 52 years, single and never been married. I had always carried myself with self respect in which I never move in desperation, lack and always in keeping with my standards. I’m a work in progress. I’m still improving, learning, self love, self care and building on the 3 B’s (Brain, Brand & Body) You’re right Tony you have to go where there’s better quality of men. I just had this conversation with my single girlfriends. We have to get out there..!!! Not going to meet Destiny or Mr Right cooped up in the house. I have been complacent especially since the pandemic 😷 because of working from home since March 2020 and not getting out much because the fear of Covid but with special precautions I need to join that high end gym and sign for the meet up group..!!! Great idea!!! Thanks Tony. Tony, I ❤️ the shirts 👕 Gone bout yo business and Point Blank Periododd. Where can I purchase these shirts? Again, Many Thanks for You and Your Wisdom!!! God Bless!!!🙏🏽✨
If you had to list 3 reasons, or 3 things that contributed to singleness? Not saying you are not enjoying this time , just some lessons or tips for younger ladies. Thanks in Advance.
I wasn't ready to hear the same thing my Mama has told me the past few years. I'm not 55 but this dropped in my spirit for real. Blessings to you TG.🙏🏾
I feel like this advice is sufficient for us women under 50... Could just be me. After this season I need to upgrade my gym status, I'm slippin Tony! smh lol
You can't quit teaching. I had been telling potential suitors upfront that I had no intention of sleeping with anyone that I was married to (trying to be transparent), but I definitely understand what you're saying. I was faithfully married 20 years, divorced 8 years ago, dated 3 different guys. I got off the 2 websites after 3 years (Interracial and Widowers) because the guys really seem only interested in a hook-up. I'm taking your advice on the MEET UP, and I'll look into the gyms (been going to the ones on the military posts). I get lots of compliments about my appearance, people think I'm in my 40s. I've been told that I overthink things, and I've learned to stop trying to fix things for guys. Real men don't need or want you to do that, that's something they take pride in doing 💯
Good lessons....I wish that you could do more of these 50+ dating 4and men and your money for 50+ also...I have been divorced and single for over 10 years...I was married for 18...now 50 years old...I don't have a 9 to 5 work life...I'm an RN...also pursuing some academic and professional goals...its the nature of the profession which men do not understand...healthcare isn't an easy profession...its all confusing...I just find it easier and more confortable to be single...less judgements...which is sad...sigh!
I’m a nurse also and i work nights. I had a guy say to me that it would be easy to cheat on me because of my work schedule. I mean who does that and why would I continue to entertain you. Go on bout your business dude.
@@genxx2724 lol...yeah...they like it in theory...then they see its not glamarous like they think...and as you get older you lose patience with people and the games...many nurses are single and/or divorced...especially after 40...
Tony, I listened to and get the message of this video!! I really appreciate that you referred to the writer as a young lady. For all the women 55+ we thank you for saying those words!! You have no idea how much it means...I don't need to say more. I know you understand where I'm coming from. Blessings and peace to you and your family!!🙏🙏😇😇
Tony this was good and like you said it is the principles that truly will be the guide. The title of this video could be 35+, 45+ and the results could be the same. I had forgotten all about meet up groups and during this pandemic I think that may be a good way to connect with people. I don't even think I want to date but I do want to be a little more active. I should be enjoying life more!
hi Toni, I know in my heart everything you teach is right. Wish I could have had this knowledge when I was young, thank you Brother for being here now--you are needed more than ever. God bless.
I’ve wasted enough time on the wrong person . It’s time to move forward and meet new people . That’s what’s in store for me in 2021 if the LORD’S will .
Amen This was such a good video. It has so many blessings in it. Time can really sneak up on you. I advise every woman to never stop getting out in it,doing things they enjoy. I am part of the Blessed Tribe which cost me 1.99 a month. If we can't afford to give Tony anything else we all can afford to give this man $24.00 a year. Thank God for all the Love Tony gives us! Fyi: I don't know Tony at all but what I do know his what he teaches us will save your life.
Hey. Tony, thanks for this video. You had me in tears it took you 30 minutes. And things you were saying is absolutely truth😅😅😅😅Lord Jesus. I make sure when I do my future lives I look presentable😄😄😄😄. But I am 55 and not ready to date no time soon. Divorce is final on 2/16; if God don't block it again for the 4th time. The first 3x it was the Pandemic now it looks like the snowstorm. But I am nervous to go back out when the time do come. But thanks for sharing this video. Will save this video for future reference.
Omg ,I'm cracking up,🤣🤣🤣. People got to let whatever hair they have down.🤣🤣🤣 You have great points and great information for us 55 plus women especially with going to the gym and excellent place to even meet people who care about their bodies,which works hand in hand with the brain being healthy. Love your information 👍
You're right Tony. I never met a man who said, " Please put your clothes back on! I am not that kind of man." Ha!Ha! Since I am 73, I made my dating pool wider by going younger and as a Caucasian I crossed ethnic boundaries. At least there were more men to choose from if they want to date an older woman and have a serious relationship and are not just looking to fulfill a fantasy of sleeping with an older woman.They (most of the time) let you know right out the gate that they are looking to fulfill a fantasy. And that is usually in the initial messaging, so I am not wasting valuable time with either bored married guys or younger single guys looking to score.But, that is my experience with online dating as an older woman.
This is one of the best dating advice for my age! So glad God lead me to your channel and I understand why God kept me single in this period of my life. Because there's so much learning and growing I need to do. I found it in many of your videos. Reading your book now!
@Tony Gaskins, thanks for this timely word. As a woman that is about to become 55 years old, I did not think I would still be single. I will take your advice, in order to change my single status.
Okay thank you Tony 🙏🏽🥰 I am going to try it. I have been 100% abstained sexually for 15 years. It wasn't planned this way and I don't even touch myself. It's a long story but I had come out of a really bad long term relationship and said I would never give myself to a man who isn't my husband ever like that again. Then I went through a lot of personal things and didn't want to be in a relationship while trying to heal and building a great business and meeting men who were simply not worth it and now we're in a pandemic. I am willing to join Meetup Groups and start them too. I will join an expensive gym. You have once again give some sound advice and wisdom for dating 55 and above which is my demographic.
I'm 54yrs young thanks for your beautiful mind I've been working from 17 years old three jobs during the summer two jobs during the winter I am now financially secured but still single and spirit free it's on the bottom of my bucket list marriage I believe I just don't know how to approach it I've been told that I am very intimidating can you please discuss more about this 55 and older I'm listening lakes close mouth shut
Note to self! Another jewel to add to my repeat list. The lengths some men will go to conquer the "goal" is astonishing. 😬All the way up to marriage? 🤔
Tony, you are truly a blessing from God! We are all grateful for your presence. Keep on ‘streaming’ from God whatever he chose for you to speak and lecture on. Blessings to you and the family.
Wow wow wow ! ! This must be Godly wisdom! I was sure this is one question you won't be able to answer adequately. My Lord and my God ! You amaze me time with no end ! Empowering a person the way you did Tony! Lord, I give you all the praise! You take credit for all that is good in my life. Thank You Lord for leading me to this channel. Yes, I'm sixty and from South Africa yet the wisdom shared here is so so relevant!
LOL if the women are getting a little crazy when they age it's because some of these men have drove them crazy over the years. I've seen it to where women can act a little awkward as they get older but I promise you there are some women I've seen specially like in my family where by men drove them to be crazy, crazy over the years. My mom has dementia and Alzheimer and she has relapses where she talks out of her mind about my father and about how he left her and the bad things he done to her and it's coming back out through her subconscious and she doesn't even know she's mentioned it. Nevertheless, thank you Tony for sharing this message.
Im exhausted...I too over 50...my partner cheated on me yesterday... I feel I've become better from past hurts and trying to remain positive to go forward only for it to happen again.. When do we stop hurting each other.?
@Coach G.H. Pauling Thank you so much...13 years in ..I'm just Devastated.. He was remorseful ..still though He made a choice and somewhere I have find positive in this ..it's just unfair ...I appreciate your message...
@@sem7pre Sis, I am so sorry. That is 💔! I am 55 and I’m also exhausted!!!! I’m have trepidation about getting out there again. It’s rough out there🤦🏾♀️
@@mymakersdaughter6041 Thank you Sis... It's troubling..I'm not perfect but it doesn't warrant cheating on me .... happy Valentine's to me ..I guess at least he admitted it and maybe I should acknowledge that ..however we grown how are we here and now I gotta feel pain that I'm left to clean up and the people who love me are to console me..And still I'm going to remain positive and Believe in love ..it's just painful ..
@@mymakersdaughter6041 Thank you Sis I receive that in Jesus name.. I pray for you as well ... That we stay encouraged in these rough times ... love is supposed to be wonderful...
WOW.... This video, to us Older Women...was just what I needed to hear. Thank You, Tony, for being honest and straight forward. GOD and His Word never change... Not even when we are different ages. You are a great encourager.. Please keep teaching. May God Bless You, Your Wife, Children, and This Ministry. And, Yes, It IS A Ministry. Be safe. Stay well. NYV in North Carolina.
I’m 51 and made a man wait. It was sooo hard because I felt he was my last chance. But then I found out he was living with and had a family with his 30 year old fiancé. You really saved me on that one, T! Thanks
My boyfriend, now ex, asked me if i'll marry him in 6 months I said ok and I told him that no bed activities or peach cobbler lol, only after wedding, so he dumped me the next day morning after asking me AGAIN if I'm sure about it😂Good riddance! I'm a queen not a prostitute! thank you Tony!!!🙏🙏🙏
yep
Peach cobbler? I've never in my 47 yrs heard a woman call their vag "peach cobbler"🥴
Hallelujah 🙌
What a loser, he thought he had you 😂😂😂
@@goldenlifelove7251 You must be new.
“A man is who he needs to be in order to be with you.” TG
Dr. Elaine, I should've known it was you Amen. It was that part for me
@@janieh3950
Girl, I felt that.
@@Dr.Elaine1 So did I!
This is a profound truth
@@Dr.Elaine1 me too... I was like whew! This is something I was not expecting, but it made soooooo much sense.
I'm 47 and done. Not bitter..just done. Love seeing Tony helping women avoid the same mistakes I made. Helps me heal.
Me too. Men today 😏.
@@sharskyes4557
I feel you..I do.
I ignored all warnings and red flags...I picked the same demons in different people...I own it. I'm free.
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Don’t tell it, live it - - that’s great advice!
Right....how you carry yosef will tell it all.
SO RIGHT YES INDEED! AMEN ! HALLELUJAH!
Tony is so right. Meet Up was invaluable for me. I joined 3 groups in my age range when I moved to a new city and I made many new friends and connections organically. Some other things I did when I moved to a new city were to get a membership to my local museum (I’m an artist) and attend their social gatherings. I also joined other professional groups like coffee and contact, a meditation group and a local church. I opened my circle of friends and professional contacts which later led to romantic connections as well.
Powerful insights. As a woman who dated and later married in ny 50s I should have followed my gut and brain as Tony presented here. I love Ed slowly until the engagement but I did not make him work until marriage. I am now divorced after 14 years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I made him lazy and he lost his "hunter" instict. He left because I remembered who I was. But by then it was too late for the marriage. What a lesson. Thank God now in my 60s I know better and have no time or interest in games men play. More importantly I no longer play myself. Great session today TG! No spirit of "care to differ here".
I’m so happy to read this! I am an artist myself! I make jewelry and draw and never thought about this! I’m happy this worked for you! I think I will give it a try!
Great Feedback!! Thankyou for sharing❤
Hmmmm...Interesting. Am going to take your advice along with Tony’s! Gotta get out more!🤔😊
I love MEETUPS too! Glad you are having a great time!
I dated a 56 year old I am 41. He was full of games, and had no ambition. Total waste of time.
See....thats what Im saying....shame
The great thing is you didn’t marry him! Yayyyy!
And they don’t even seem to be worried where their next is coming from. How do men not worry about that? Are there really that many dysfunctional women out there that believe someone is better than no one? WOW!
Tony, I love how you broke this down. Mouth is sealed 🤐 and won't be expressing my abstinence to no one but God! Thank you🥰
Right....that aint no one business
Tony's 💯💯 right! The older we get and stay alone or isolated from others, we become more cynical, cranky, suspicious and the less we take constructive criticism. I try to get out and get into social events like latin dancing and I absolutely love it. It makes get out of your comfort zone and open your mind to others. And if you do not have a pleasant energy, you will not be asked to dance. There are definitely no excuses to be better and achieve excellence. Most of all, be love! Thank you Tony for your wisdom! This was definitely a wonderful video.
So RIGHT! YES INDEED! U ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE ! LIVE LIFE ! GOD WILL SEND U SOMEONE ON HIS GIVEN RIGHT TIME! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE! GOD LOVES U! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! AND OTHERS WILL LOVE U BACK!
Tony I was backing up my car into a parking spot when you sighed and said it took 30 minutes for us to get to this point.
I laughed so hard I almost hit a car🤭
Hahaha
😂😂😂
Thank you Tony! I am 50 and needed to hear everything you said. I work like I am still 30. Just hustling with no social life and saying I dont have time and I am tired. Yeah, time to adjust❤❤
Meet-ups is the absolute best. I used it for travel, festivals, concerts, writing and book club groups. Best networking group. Also, TONY is right. Say nothing about abstinence. Your actions will show.
Tony in some cases with older women they have dealt with so much trauma it has left them shell shocked.I’m over 50, a successful, degreed woman. I thank God for a sound mind and a pleasant personality. I’m healing after a 10 year toxic relationship. I’ll b ready to get back out there when the time is right. Thank you Tony!!
Same here 51 years old, no children and don't have time for "Grown Boys".
@@antoinettesherrod1895 I’m 55, no kids and I don’t have time to raise a grown 👦🏾. Waiting for my t-shirt to arrive in the mail!
@@mymakersdaughter6041 I ordered mines too. My sister who just turned 50 last year and have no children either missed out on her t-shirt due to being sold out, so hopefully Tony will have more soon.
@@antoinettesherrod1895 what if u have children and don't Have NO TIME TO TEACH A GROWN MAN WHO ACTS LIKE A GROWN BOY ! THIS IS SOMETHING THAT HE SHOULD ALREADY BEEN TAUGHT . NO TIME 2 RAISE A GROWN MAN U SHOULD ALREADY KNOW ABOUT A GROWN WOMAN ! WE STRONG GROWN WOMEN AND DON'T HAVE NO TIME FOR GAMES! U SHOULD HAVE BEEN TAUGHT RIGHT! SO RIGHT YES INDEED! SHOW U RIGHT!
We're on the same page sista....I just let go of my 2 yr toxic relationship. I'm 51 and I'm beyond excited to be single, free, happy and have a peace of mind. This dude would start arguments with me every single week. It became too overwhelming. Honestly, I'll probably never get in another relationship. I'm happy being solo
Tony 50s is not Sam Cook, it's more like Boyz to Men, Teddy Riley, Mary J Blige, etc. I know it sounds old, but it's not THAT old. Lol
Haaaaaaaaaa Thank you
😂😂😂😂...You right....but I still love Sam Cooke
I’m 34 and I swear this is for all ages Tony! Conspiracy theories omg guilty lol.
I love conspiracies but I swear I don't act like that though. 😂
But they're not conspiracy theories if they are true! haaaaaaaaaaa
I’m 30 and I’m taking in this information. “You did right before God and there is a reward for that. He did wrong before God and there is repercussions for that”
I felt that! 💎💎💎
Tony, thank you so much for this video. I remember asking you to do a part 3 on a series for older women and I remember you saying, "Aint no way...because y'all..." and I started laughing and I already knew it would be a long time coming (if at all) we would get your advice again. I implore all older ladies watching this...please DO NOT act a fool in the comments. We need all the advice this young man can give us! Thanks again, Tony! God Bless You, the Queen, and your sons.
@Coach G.H. Pauling and they will be the ones losing in the end...he can't help everyone...and some people don't want to be helped
@Coach G.H. Pauling Help the ones who want it 🙋🏾♀️ and the others can keep it moving because ain’t no one got time for the silliness!!!
I remember that and was pleasantly surprised to see the notification pop up.
I have watched it several times now concerned Tony might just put it up for a bit then remove it.
NO MORE THUMBS DOWN, PLEASE WHOEVER IS DOING THAT OR CONSIDERING IT! WE'VE BEEN WAITING A LONG TIME FOR THIS!!! (The humour was such a great added bonus!)
Shoot, I am only 28 y/o but I am still here taking notes! 😂 🙌🏽✍🏽💎
Tony always has Lessons and Laughter. Invest in yourself. Get that "elite gym" membership. Meet those quality men. Be intentional.
“If you live it, you don’t have to talk it!” - Tony Gaskins
“ Listen twice as much as you speak!”👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Men become way more engaged when we let them do most of the speaking because it’s so rare. 💕
I’m 54 and attracting 65 to 74 year olds in my church! I’m not trying to be a nurse maid. I want an active man like myself. And I am not trying to be a consolation prize for when you can’t find someone else or you lonely either! That’s what Christian women have to deal with. The pool is so small.
😂😂😂😂 not a "Nurse"...grl Im dead 😂😂😂
So true
Or one foot in the grave and have the nerve not wanting to date women in their age group.
You know what I constantly repeat to myself sis, there aren't many, but you only need one 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Keep going. Blessings💜
I am listening to TG and he's right on point. My Archbishop had a meeting with the single women of our church to hear our questions on relationships. He and his wife listened and he couldn't believe the men that were out there. He finally said "You are dealing with men who want mommas not a wife." Point Blank PeriodT!
Lol!!!! Some people are too sensitive but the truth is the truth.
"Too old to not have his life in order" hahah, so true... that's a statement to live by when single and older...
AMEN! HALLELUJAH! YES INDEED! SO RIGHT!
The grave closesr than the birthing canal 💀🤣😂🤣 Tony always got some good lyrics 🔥🔥
You are definitely speaking the truth about, not letting a man know what is your game plan about being abstinence until marriage. Because you will definitely become a challenge. Instead of being loved, respected and trying to figured out. A man jumps right in on how he's going to get you in bed. He forgets all about you both getting to know each other. That's out the window!!!! If you're not strong!!! You best to believe you are about to be tried on every end and angel. Please don't give in make him out of a lier and you will be so proud of yourself!!!!! Thank you Mr.Tony Gaskin for keeping it so real!!!!
P.S. when you are getting to know a man. PLEASE DON'T TELL HIM ANYTHING ABOUT BEING ABSTINENCE. BECAUSE YOU DEFINITELY BECOME A TEST!!!!! NOTHING ELSE!!!!
Mr.Gaskins soooo perfect"Walk it Not Talk it" those are the best words I have heard in a long time. If we show a person who we are, they will see who we are, no need to Talk who we are..BE THE PERSON WE ARE, NOT TALK THE PERSON WE SAY WE ARE. THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! GOD BLESS!
Thank you Mr. Tony Gaskins and your wife y'all are truly saving lives! Blessings and abundance to you and your family!
Listen twice as much as you speak🗣, you need to listen, tips from TG! The more you can listen that helps develop your personality, this is so true! Speak on it Tony Gaskins! We can’t get offended at the truth we just can’t! Blessings Tony to you and the Queen🙏🏾
2nd comment....TONY!!! You had me hollering from laughing so hard with this video BUT I luv it. I have watched ALOT of your vids and this is one of the realest I've watched! I'm younger than 55+ BUT you spoke sooooooo much truth! Some men will do this, try you until the wedding night! Dating try to go there, engagement try to go there, and all the way up until the wedding will try to go there! I have male friends this age and they have told me they will ABSOLUTLEY do this. So all you speak is pure truth TG! I'm happy you made this vid. Again, I got a little ways to go before I'm in the 55+ community but I've received ALOT of gems. Thank you sir and keep up the GREAT work! :)
If I may humbly submit a caveat to a statement Tony said regarding not working the overnight shift. As a 55+ woman working in Healthcare, I totally agree with ceasing working the overnight shifts. Overnight nights are terrible for women of ALL ages! I actually work rotating shifts. I’m working on giving up the overnight shift myself. However working overnight and or the second shift affords you the time and opportunity to go to the networking events chamber of commerce meetings etc where you will find the Professional men Tony talks about. Tony is correct that a different level of men work out before noon. So that’s why it’s important to have a business or job that will give you the flexibility to be in those spaces. Thank you Tony!!💜🙏🏽
I’m not 55, but I will be taking the lesson and wisdom from this. Thanks.❤️
Me too
Same!
Same!! It really helped 😃
I’ll be 45 in March! I see men in their 50’s still playing games all the time! I need a new scenery ! 🤦🏽♀️
@J Designer lol..omg!! That's scary!
Had I not listened to Tony’s videos, I probably would have fell right back in my old trap. But it me only two weeks instead of six months! That’s money in the bank! Thank you Mr. Gaskins!
I still can breathe. God really use you today sir. Keep on allowing the holy spirit to lead you. This word is no accident needed to hear this to leave a toxic relationship today . I still can breathe. God bless you. Listening from Canada
I left after 37 years. so happy I cry.
Telling a man you are being absetinenent is like putting red meat in front of a Rottweiler.
Isn’t that the truth!
It really is....Im not telling you jack.
😂😂😂😂😂say it now.
Great point! It’s not his business! He’ll see it as a conquest. And if you go back on your word he’ll never believe anything you say ever again.
Lol 😂😂😂😂
Thank you Tony for looking out for us 50 and above; you are so appreciated for your wisdom beyond your years. I'm definitely using all the wisdom you have taught since listening to you a little over a year. 🙏🙌☝️
I'm so glad you got to this topic. I'm recently separated and have been thinking about the future, in terms of being with a man who is not asking me for sex before marriage. I'm 58 and have many young men who approach me and they're not in their 50s, they're 45 or younger, I hate it. But they see me as a much younger woman. It makes me want to hide honestly
Lol girl that’s means you look damn good!! But I get it
@@beautifultay669 I'm an young looking mature woman and I'm athletic, 😊
Sis ,don’t hide your light under a bushel. I’m 59 with the same issue. Today I had a doctor I work with approach me,thought I was 44. I enjoy being fabulous, widowed 1 year waiting on God’s match. Embrace your grace 😉
@@ThePhoinix33 thanks for sharing 🙏💃
Hi ladies...Im 51 and the early 20 yr olds on me...but like you said when you fit and put together they think you are younger....or they want them new Jordan's 😂😂😂...jus kidding but embrace your beauty sis 👍
Great video, as usual Tony! Just to be clear, a woman 50-55 did not grow up with Sam Cooke. They are the New Edition, Prince, Al B. Sure! era... New Jack Swing, OK.
Wow you don't have to be so aggressive about that 🙄
@@MichElle-py8lk Not being aggressive at all. You're highly sensitive.
@@MichElle-py8lk I was actually being sarcastic.
@@m1ssbeehave erm not sensitive. Your message just came out aggressive but if you’re being sarcastic what am I’m to argue 🤷🏿♀️
@@MichElle-py8lk Nah, I think you read it wrong. I let various people read it and they understood it. None of them, including myself, saw absolutely anything negative with my post.
I've never listened to a RUclips video this intensely. Give thanks.
My generation needed this! So entertaining, brutally honest, and on point!
Thank you very much, Tony!
Be blessed!!
You broke this down PERFECTLY 😊 Finely noted ✏📄
TG, I appreciate this wisdom for women our age. I almost skipped it with the title “55+”...but I watch all of your videos anyway because I know there’s always something to learn. At 46 yrs old, you have cracked me up and shared some great wisdom at the same time. Thank you much!
@Coach G.H. Pauling absolutely!!!!🙌🏼
You don't need to be an open book with someone you just met. Where's the mystery at? The less said the better.
Amen! HALLELUJAH! Yes INDEED!
Especially when they won’t be around for long anyway! I get it now!
Thank you for this excellent video. I am 57 and widowed and need to hear the truth about relationships in my age category. I am listening and learning. Also, whoever said 50s is the new 30s needs to be slapped.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tony said 55+ you can still get this work with all due respect 🤣😭😭😭 This my channel perrrriood!
Ok! 55+ video! Look forward to this 💯👏🏼🎉. Look at God!! Always on time!
Mr. Tony, I will be listening to this 3 more times because you DROPPING GEMS💎 WOW!!!
Thank Mr Gaskin. Thanks for taking the time to tell us what our fathers, brothers, or any other man ever told us. With this information we are no longer easy prey .
I’m 52 years, single and never been married. I had always carried myself with self respect in which I never move in desperation, lack and always in keeping with my standards. I’m a work in progress. I’m still improving, learning, self love, self care and building on the 3 B’s (Brain, Brand & Body) You’re right Tony you have to go where there’s better quality of men. I just had this conversation with my single girlfriends. We have to get out there..!!! Not going to meet Destiny or Mr Right cooped up in the house. I have been complacent especially since the pandemic 😷 because of working from home since March 2020 and not getting out much because the fear of Covid but with special precautions I need to join that high end gym and sign for the meet up group..!!! Great idea!!! Thanks Tony.
Tony, I ❤️ the shirts 👕 Gone bout yo business and Point Blank Periododd. Where can I purchase these shirts? Again, Many Thanks for You and Your Wisdom!!! God Bless!!!🙏🏽✨
If you had to list 3 reasons, or 3 things that contributed to singleness? Not saying you are not enjoying this time , just some lessons or tips for younger ladies. Thanks in Advance.
I wasn't ready to hear the same thing my Mama has told me the past few years. I'm not 55 but this dropped in my spirit for real. Blessings to you TG.🙏🏾
I feel like this advice is sufficient for us women under 50... Could just be me. After this season I need to upgrade my gym status, I'm slippin Tony! smh lol
You can't quit teaching. I had been telling potential suitors upfront that I had no intention of sleeping with anyone that I was married to (trying to be transparent), but I definitely understand what you're saying. I was faithfully married 20 years, divorced 8 years ago, dated 3 different guys. I got off the 2 websites after 3 years (Interracial and Widowers) because the guys really seem only interested in a hook-up. I'm taking your advice on the MEET UP, and I'll look into the gyms (been going to the ones on the military posts). I get lots of compliments about my appearance, people think I'm in my 40s. I've been told that I overthink things, and I've learned to stop trying to fix things for guys. Real men don't need or want you to do that, that's something they take pride in doing 💯
I'm so glad I came across this video.I'm 55 and have been single for 3 years.God bless you🙏❤
Good lessons....I wish that you could do more of these 50+ dating 4and men and your money for 50+ also...I have been divorced and single for over 10 years...I was married for 18...now 50 years old...I don't have a 9 to 5 work life...I'm an RN...also pursuing some academic and professional goals...its the nature of the profession which men do not understand...healthcare isn't an easy profession...its all confusing...I just find it easier and more confortable to be single...less judgements...which is sad...sigh!
I’m a nurse also and i work nights. I had a guy say to me that it would be easy to cheat on me because of my work schedule. I mean who does that and why would I continue to entertain you. Go on bout your business dude.
@@genxx2724 they see dollar signs and someone who can recognize the s/s of a stroke or MI.
@@genxx2724 lol...yeah...they like it in theory...then they see its not glamarous like they think...and as you get older you lose patience with people and the games...many nurses are single and/or divorced...especially after 40...
Tony, I listened to and get the message of this video!! I really appreciate that you referred to the writer as a young lady. For all the women 55+ we thank you for saying those words!! You have no idea how much it means...I don't need to say more. I know you understand where I'm coming from. Blessings and peace to you and your family!!🙏🙏😇😇
Tony this was good and like you said it is the principles that truly will be the guide. The title of this video could be 35+, 45+ and the results could be the same. I had forgotten all about meet up groups and during this pandemic I think that may be a good way to connect with people. I don't even think I want to date but I do want to be a little more active. I should be enjoying life more!
Thank you Tony. You just broke it down as to how to be absent to sex without telling him. I don't won't to be played.
hi Toni, I know in my heart everything you teach is right. Wish I could have had this knowledge when I was young, thank you Brother for being here now--you are needed more than ever. God bless.
I'm 68 and this was the best advice I've
ever heard thank you 😊...
I’ve wasted enough time on the wrong person . It’s time to move forward and meet new people . That’s what’s in store for me in 2021 if the LORD’S will .
This was an awesome video Tony. Thank you for taking the time to make this for the 55+ group. I am 59.
“It’s time to be living that full life”-👊🏼🔥🔥🔥 speakkk-uhhh💯💯💯
Amen
This was such a good video. It has so many blessings in it. Time can really sneak up on you. I advise every woman to never stop getting out in it,doing things they enjoy. I am part of the Blessed Tribe which cost me 1.99 a month. If we can't afford to give Tony anything else we all can afford to give this man $24.00 a year. Thank God for all the Love Tony gives us! Fyi: I don't know Tony at all but what I do know his what he teaches us will save your life.
I just turned 55 in January 🙌🏾
I love that this advice is applicable to all age groups. Thank you Tony.
Hey. Tony, thanks for this video. You had me in tears it took you 30 minutes. And things you were saying is absolutely truth😅😅😅😅Lord Jesus. I make sure when I do my future lives I look presentable😄😄😄😄.
But I am 55 and not ready to date no time soon. Divorce is final on 2/16; if God don't block it again for the 4th time. The first 3x it was the Pandemic now it looks like the snowstorm. But I am nervous to go back out when the time do come. But thanks for sharing this video. Will save this video for future reference.
Oh I can't wait to get off work to listen to this one, all are good and filled with wisdom...Thank Coach Tony, BLESSED TRIBE
Thank you for this video. I will be 50 in May and I need all the advice I can get. Well appreciate.
Ur gorge ❤
@@khocolateable like fr😍
50?? Really!! Wow you look so young!!
@@khocolateable Thank you
Queens know your value.
Respect yourself.
What makes a guy care. When you don't care.
Perfect information for mature women. Thank you
Omg ,I'm cracking up,🤣🤣🤣. People got to let whatever hair they have down.🤣🤣🤣 You have great points and great information for us 55 plus women especially with going to the gym and excellent place to even meet people who care about their bodies,which works hand in hand with the brain being healthy. Love your information 👍
It’s too bad the 55+ men will not listen to this. If they did, they could find themselves being better men or at least an understanding.
@@sonjadf47 For sure👍👍👍
You're right Tony. I never met a man who said, " Please put your clothes back on! I am not that kind of man." Ha!Ha!
Since I am 73, I made my dating pool wider by going younger and as a Caucasian I crossed ethnic boundaries. At least there were more men to choose from if they want to date an older woman and have a serious relationship and are not just looking to fulfill a fantasy of sleeping with an older woman.They (most of the time) let you know right out the gate that they are looking to fulfill a fantasy. And that is usually in the initial messaging, so I am not wasting valuable time with either bored married guys or younger single guys looking to score.But, that is my experience with online dating as an older woman.
This is one of the best dating advice for my age! So glad God lead me to your channel and I understand why God kept me single in this period of my life. Because there's so much learning and growing I need to do. I found it in many of your videos. Reading your book now!
@Tony Gaskins, thanks for this timely word. As a woman that is about to become 55 years old, I did not think I would still be single. I will take your advice, in order to change my single status.
Listen twice as much as you speak ... GOT IT
“Please pull up your pants, sit up straight and let’s continue watching Netflix.”
Where? On Planet Pluto?
😅😅, he crazy!!
@@keehumphrey5284 All the way 😜
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Stop. 😂😂😂
It's not happening ever!
Okay thank you Tony 🙏🏽🥰 I am going to try it. I have been 100% abstained sexually for 15 years. It wasn't planned this way and I don't even touch myself. It's a long story but I had come out of a really bad long term relationship and said I would never give myself to a man who isn't my husband ever like that again. Then I went through a lot of personal things and didn't want to be in a relationship while trying to heal and building a great business and meeting men who were simply not worth it and now we're in a pandemic. I am willing to join Meetup Groups and start them too. I will join an expensive gym.
You have once again give some sound advice and wisdom for dating 55 and above which is my demographic.
No wonder I never meet anyone at my gym I been going to the wrong gym all along. 🤣🤣
Right!!!
GOD WILL SEND U SOMEONE ON HIS GIVEN RIGHT TIME!
I'm 54yrs young thanks for your beautiful mind I've been working from 17 years old three jobs during the summer two jobs during the winter I am now financially secured but still single and spirit free it's on the bottom of my bucket list marriage I believe I just don't know how to approach it I've been told that I am very intimidating can you please discuss more about this 55 and older I'm listening lakes close mouth shut
You're so right, you have to get exposure! Get out there and be around lots of people!
Wow!! Ill be 49 in a few months and been single for a while! Thanks so much for these jewels of knowledge
Good message. I'm 42 and what you said about the mind is so true!! I gotta get out more 😩😂.
Thanks Tony, I'm 55 also and taking heed to what you are saying.
Tony- 🧐 I am a new subscriber 55+ God is truly amazing.
I am 77 well I agree with you 100%. You have really helped me. Cause even at my age hey.
Plus I preach. Thank you for helping women.
Another jewel. I got a lot of “meat” out of this video. When I think I’m ready for dating, I LEARN some new, and VITAL INFORMATION.
Do God! Continue to help us. I appreciate these coaching sessions. Bring that🔥!
Great video, words of wisdom. Had me laughing a lot too.
I’m getting on Meet Up today 💪🏾
Hey Glamrocs, did you do Meetup yet? Wanted to know how was your experience 🤫
@@topazgraham2643 Not yet ....I’ve been so busy
@@Glamrocs I year ya sis...Definitely going to join this Spring😊
Note to self!
Another jewel to add to my repeat list. The lengths some men will go to conquer the "goal" is astonishing. 😬All the way up to marriage? 🤔
Tony, you are truly a blessing from God! We are all grateful for your presence. Keep on ‘streaming’ from God whatever he chose for you to speak and lecture on. Blessings to you and the family.
I'm so glad that I listened to this video brother Tony. It hit right where it needed to and I appreciate you for that Thank you so much
Wow wow wow ! !
This must be Godly wisdom!
I was sure this is one question you won't be able to answer adequately.
My Lord and my God ! You amaze me time with no end ! Empowering a person the way you did Tony!
Lord, I give you all the praise! You take credit for all that is good in my life.
Thank You Lord for leading me to this channel. Yes, I'm sixty and from South Africa yet the wisdom shared here is so so relevant!
LOL if the women are getting a little crazy when they age it's because some of these men have drove them crazy over the years. I've seen it to where women can act a little awkward as they get older but I promise you there are some women I've seen specially like in my family where by men drove them to be crazy, crazy over the years. My mom has dementia and Alzheimer and she has relapses where she talks out of her mind about my father and about how he left her and the bad things he done to her and it's coming back out through her subconscious and she doesn't even know she's mentioned it. Nevertheless, thank you Tony for sharing this message.
Jesus
Tony, you’re just awesome. No Matter what you say. I just love how you say it. Point. Blank. Periodddddd
I absolutely love my Life time gym. Nothing compares to it!!!
Im exhausted...I too over 50...my partner cheated on me yesterday... I feel I've become better from past hurts and trying to remain positive to go forward only for it to happen again.. When do we stop hurting each other.?
@Coach G.H. Pauling Thank you so much...13 years in ..I'm just Devastated.. He was remorseful ..still though He made a choice and somewhere I have find positive in this ..it's just unfair ...I appreciate your message...
@@sem7pre Sis, I am so sorry. That is 💔! I am 55 and I’m also exhausted!!!! I’m have trepidation about getting out there again. It’s rough out there🤦🏾♀️
@@mymakersdaughter6041 Thank you Sis... It's troubling..I'm not perfect but it doesn't warrant cheating on me .... happy Valentine's to me ..I guess at least he admitted it and maybe I should acknowledge that ..however we grown how are we here and now I gotta feel pain that I'm left to clean up and the people who love me are to console me..And still I'm going to remain positive and Believe in love ..it's just painful ..
@@sem7pre I’m sure it is😢. Praying God’s comfort and peace over you beloved!
@@mymakersdaughter6041 Thank you Sis I receive that in Jesus name.. I pray for you as well ... That we stay encouraged in these rough times ... love is supposed to be wonderful...
The answer is.. “yes no maybe” 😭😭😭😭
WOW.... This video, to us Older Women...was just what I needed to hear. Thank You, Tony, for being honest and straight forward. GOD and His Word never change... Not even when we are different ages.
You are a great encourager.. Please keep teaching. May God Bless You, Your Wife, Children, and This Ministry.
And, Yes, It IS A Ministry.
Be safe. Stay well.
NYV in North Carolina.
I am the 56year old woman that is cracking up 🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thank you Tony! You are preaching the truth!!!!!