The pros and cons of being an older father

[@MrK67017]

I was 51 when I had my first and only child. Now nearly 4 she's healthy and beautiful. I'm honored to be her dad and I'm glad I waited. I trust God in all things and have the greatest faith that He will provide what I need to be the best dad I can be.

[@williamjames4031]

K. D. Thanks for sharing your personal testimony.

[@observerdude9809]

K. D. Why did you have s child at that age and not at a younger age?

[@kozscarface1798]

disgusting

[@ironknee9513]

That's great man. Hope you're still doing well. Spirts be with you.

[@Schoeben7925]

K. D. My husband is 52 this year and we are on our third child. He is a great dad ❤️

[@good7415]

I am 41 my partner is 70 and we are expecting for the first time!

[@user-bq7hh5gr5f]

You are crazy, you partner can die in few years. Find a younger man.

[@olliedwards8069]

@@user-bq7hh5gr5f Don’t tell others how to live their life.

[@edgar22452]

Ewwwwww

[@foryoutube7504]

@@olliedwards8069 oh stfu. theyve made a valid point. freak off.

[@ashajeremiahqw8775]

@@edgar22452 stop hater

[@andymurday4538]

Having an old age parent is the best advantage that a child can have, as the child has a parent who has maturity, a more rounded personality, and has the life experience and wisdom that a child can draw upon as they grow up.

[@tyrranicalt-rad6164]

Agreed ...I used to tutor elementary children and I realized the more intellectually and socially developed children had parents in their 30s & 40s compared to kids who's parents had them in their teens and early twenties.

[@fernandgarcia3686]

Agree, I hope to become a father.

[@user-hn1bq3sy9b]

Bull! older parents are the worst! bull!!!

[@irinalola2663]

Yeah and becoming an orphan is great

[@jamesstarstalker1669]

Yes yes yes! I'm 15 and my friends are in shock when I tell them my dad is 68 and my mom is 50. My dad is still going strong and he's taught me many great lessons.

[@name4506]

My Dad was 48-49 when he had me and my mom was 36.
He died almost 12 years ago.
My mom is alive and healthy.
Wouldn't recommend older fatherhood if you can have kids younger. But if you're 50 and you still have a chance to have kids and haven't been able to yet, go for it.

[@arcticwind1368]

Moose
Sorry for asking,but how old was your father when he passed away?
Because i am 15 and my dad is 66 ,his health is good,but i am worrying if he won't see me becoming a doctor as i promised him :(

[@kozscarface1798]

DISGUSTING.....

[@Pihlaaa]

Agree
My mom was 30 and my dad 53 when they had me.
He passed away when I was 9 years old.

[@andymurday4538]

I'm the same as you. My Dad was 48 and my Mum 34 when they had me. Having an older parent can an advantage for a child as they have someone who would have more life experience, maturity and wisdom that the child can draw from.

[@chloeoniell5819]

Name same my dad was 48 but he’s alive he had heart disease but it’s better hopefully won’t get worse

[@philaman1972]

It's a personal decision and there are many factors that go into this. For example, some men may meet the right partner later in life. Also, some men may get divorced and meet someone they wish to have (more) children. Anyhow, parenthood is a huge undertaking and all aspects of it should be thought through before having children, particularly at an older age.

[@ladybhive1210]

I agree with the part of finding love at a later age. And after a divorce, some men may want to have children.

[@firstnamelastname4249]

There are a health risks comes with siring offspring at an older age

[@janhansen6195]

I am 58 years old now and my wife is 33, we just had a baby girl she is 3 mounts old now and nothing is wrong with her at all. l have children from before and l am also a gran dad to 3 kids, and my daughter 26 also just had a daughter and she is a good friend to my new wife also. l find myself having a great life l love being a father again and now l have time for the baby also much more than l had with my older kids, because then it was only work and work for me. And my new baby keeps me young in heart and all the ways l need to be for her now, and that is all that is important in life anyway, to love your children no matter your age

[@swissinfo]

Thanks for sharing and all the best to your family!

[@liveandletlive9660]

Lucky you yeah . May god bless you and all kids and your full family be united for ever and ever . Keep me in your prayers if you can

[@good7415]

My partner is 70 and granddad to 2, we just had a healthy baby and i am 42😊

[@earlysda]

@@good7415 That's Good!

[@walterhighwood3209]

So in a nutshell, children from an older father may have higher risks of getting Down Syndromes, Schizophrenia or Autism, but they will have more chance for a longer life expectancy, right ? 🤔

[@jamesstarstalker1669]

I hope to be a father at least at age 50 so my kid can live to be ancient.

[@avocado773]

I have an old dad but I don't have any of them

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

Not true. That's if women bare children in 40s and up.

[@hellokitchic]

@@avocado773 Same. My father was 45 or 46. Im doing great!!!

[@ladybhive1210]

I was thinking if Hanspeter sons have children he would be both father and grandfather 😀

[@1SmokingLizard]

This puts the con in con(dom) that should be used if your gonna get it on in your golden years. Having kids too late may not be the best move as the child's risk of growing up fatherless increases.

[@jamesstarstalker1669]

Oh don't worry when I have my first kid around age 50, I will make sure their daddy lives until at least they graduate college.

[@ladybhive1210]

@@jamesstarstalker1669 😆 I hear ya!

[@CharleyChioma]

I’m 27 and my bf is 57. I really want to have kids, but he has to think about it. It breaks my heart that we may end up breaking up over this 😣 He has had 2 failed marriages and has 2 adult daughters from his first marriage. My dad was 46 when he had me and died 9 years later. My bf is in way better shape than my dad ever was. He is the greatest man I’ve ever dated. Perhaps selfish, but I hope he doesn’t give up on his dream of having a successful, loving family.

[@edgar22452]

Why don't u get with a man your age?

[@CharleyChioma]

@@edgar22452 Me and this guy broke up. I’m now talking to a 30-year-old. We’ll see. I don’t discriminate on age. Just happened that way.

[@foryoutube7504]

youre crazy. i think you have daddy issues.

[@nikhilmahajan4808]

@@CharleyChioma no discrimination as long as they have money 😇

[@MLedZeppelinZoSoA]

@@CharleyChioma that was quick

[@Tacoman1967]

I had my daughter at 47. Im 57 and we are "best friends".

[@anthonyp291]

I'm 40 wife 42 and having new child

[@bruhbruhbruh6407]

Awesome, how did it go?

[@Hello-zf5lq]

My mom had her third child when she was 44 with a guy who was ten years younger and the child was healthy and ok..

[@Hello-zf5lq]

@@neptiadesign if you haven't had kids before, and with the older dad - you might have a sickly, premature, or autistic child.. but it's not guaranteed, you might have a healthy child as well - you won't know unless you try!

[@user-hn1bq3sy9b]

everyone talk~ wow being a parent when old, yeah! live your life and that crap!
i'm almost 40, my woman is early 20, and we planning to have 5 children.
My best friend back in USA had his kid at 25, and he had the energy, stamina and strange to keep up and play with his kid, now look at me, almost 40, tired, wondering if they will be healthy, you never know, luckily i keep fit as well as my woman, but i tell you, chasing around kids, is a hassle worst playing around, my girlfriends older sister leave there kid with us, so we can learn parenting, i do okay, she is perfect, but i'm exhausted after a Sunday afternoon of playing soccer outside, he come back and plays on my Racing simulator at 3 years old... i'm passing out with my Ramune in the back. Have kids early! don't regret! finish you school and get a job, make enough for a down payment of a house and a nice used car! and start having a family!

[@marymann3232]

It all depends. Had my son at 19 and l feel l was a bad mum as didn't give him any attention. Was clueless about babies and my mum and brother were the ones to take over. It's best to have a child when older so your all ready for it xx

[@user-hn1bq3sy9b]

@@marymann3232 so that means your a single mother or your husband was a weak father?

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

Easier said than done. I can't even find my soulmate so I don't ever see it happening for me. I'm 41 and if I couldn't do it then, it'll never happen anytime too soon.

[@holyempressw8531]

@@SinisterScoundrel6562 men hit the grave since they like to say women hit the wall

[@PlumbNutz]

Actually being born and becoming a human is the greatest miracle on earth, the odds that a particular sperm fertilized a particular egg and you were born has to be a billion to one. You don't get to choose how old your parents are. If your parents had children when they were younger that child would not have been you.

[@trench663]

I’m 53, my gf is 38..I’ve a daughter (28 yoa) from previous marriage. We are seriously discussing having a child. I can’t say I am overly thrilled by the idea but what am I to do with the rest of my life? Of course my Mom and sister would love it but most people I’ve asked say “ don’t do it”

[@harrycoffeynield6941]

I’ve just had my first child at 52. His mother is 36. Lovely child. If you can love them and do your best better than being brought up as a child by somebody that doesn’t. Your choice.

[@trench663]

Harry Nield congratulations man. I was a fairly decent dad to my daughter and at this stage of my life would do even better with another. I’ve just recently quit smoking(and WILL NEVER SMOKE again) and in decent shape so I feel lots of life left to give..encouraging to hear about you and yours.

[@harrycoffeynield6941]

Trench thanks. Anything can happen to anyone at any age. I had some serious panic and worries. Getting a bit better now as I look at older father videos. If I’m honest I wish I’d done it twenty years ago. But I don’t think I’d be in the same position financially. Main thing is you do your best by the child.

[@harrycoffeynield6941]

Trench First time for me. But the anxiety is an issue I must admit. Lots of worries. But I guess if you live to be in your 80s not too bad. Who knows. Nobody knows. My cousins dad died when they were 4 in a car crash. Lived with their grandparents. I think biggest worry is if anything happens to us who has our child. If you have a good close family that could take over that’s not too bad. My grandad was more of a father and best friend to me than my own dad. He died at 79. But would have had longer. I had 15 fantastic years with him. Not long I know, but great years. That stays with you. Any good time is good time.

[@isaiah5568]

Trench I’m FKN scared. My wife is pregnant, she’s 38 and I’m 51. I have two beautiful daughters 24 and 21 from my first marriage. My wife and I currently have a 7 yr young daughter and a 5 yr young son. She’s 2 months pregnant and all I can think is will I be healthy enough to see the little ones make it to 30,25, and 19.

[@gynandroidhead]

I have two male colleagues who are 70 and 71 years old and are childhood friends. Both wait after school to take their 6-year-olds home, daughter and great-grandson respectively. Everyone thinks they're the grandfathers, and yes - the younger one is the great-grandfather.

[@fayet3482]

I’m 13 my dad is 65

[@chocolatepeople4424]

I’m 15 my dad is 70 he died a few years ago though..

[@fayet3482]

C͠h͠o͠c͠o͠l͠a͠t͠e͠ p͠e͠o͠p͠l͠e͠ omg I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️💔

[@chocolatepeople4424]

Swaggy Faye it’s fine 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙠𝙨♥️

[@lilbunny4677]

C͠h͠o͠c͠o͠l͠a͠t͠e͠ p͠e͠o͠p͠l͠e͠ sometimes I feel like my parents are old are they ?? My Dad was 32 and my mom was 23 when I was born . Are they old ??

[@Jamjar-iu3ji]

@@lilbunny4677 Nope

[@venusisqueen8993]

Do the babies come out healthy is my question? What are the risk?

[@electroskates2434]

My dad had me in his 70's
I am fine and healthy

[@liveandletlive9660]

@@electroskates2434 god bless you and all kids. Thanks for sharing your health here. People behave so negatively around. It is god who decides about the childs health and not human. Take care

[@good7415]

Just gave birth to a healthy baby boy at the age of 42 and my partner is 70😊😲

[@venusisqueen8993]

@@good7415 congratulations

[@good7415]

@@venusisqueen8993 Thank you 😊

[@kylebridge6579]

I'm gonna be honest to you I'm not married I have no children and I'm 40 years old. Hopefully and prayerfully I become a father before I reach 50. If I have a child who has down syndrome or whatever that's something my parents are gonna have to accept or deal with it. I have a slight disability I have a aphasia and couldn't communication disorder

[@shootingsmilla1239]

My father just turned 70 years old some days ago :D

[@mob9334]

Does anyone think I've missed the boat at 36? I've been married for 3 years and my wife has pcos which means it will be hard to conceive but not impossible, I think of why I didnt settle down earlier in life maybe in my 20's....but I was having too much fun I guess.

[@user-kt6fn8cg2i]

No it's not too late. I got married at 37 husband 34. We had 3 years of infertility. Would've been less if we got help sooner (ivf). We tried iui but didn't work. Tried everything we thought of. Anyways we had our baby when I was 41 and we are both loving being parents!

[@mob9334]

@@user-kt6fn8cg2i that's good to hear, I have also gone down the ivf route and hoping it will be a success.

[@mob9334]

@@user-kt6fn8cg2i thanks

[@user-kt6fn8cg2i]

@@mob9334 I'm so happy to hear this and wishing you much success! We have more embryos so I'll be even older next time haha. It's very life changing having a baby and it is truly amazing/fulfilling. It's worth every effort financially/physically. I pray all your dreams come true!

[@petercoderch589]

The only real advantage is that children of older fathers have longer telomeres. This may or my not confer a longevity advantage(telomere biology is complicated, with longer tel;omeres associated with better immunity, cardiovascular health and healing, but also more cancer). But the quality of a man's sperm declines at 35, and *seriously* declines at 65 or older. When we say "older father" we need to quality "how old". There is a huge difference between "older" as in "35-60", and 70+. Children with fathers in the first age groups have statistically only a small higher risk of developmental disorders. But the sperm of a man who is 75 has a LOT of genetic mutations, and many sequences of the DNA might be flat out missing. The risk is quite real, and significant enough that maybe a man this age shouldn't impregnate a woman by the naturawl method, but should instead have his sperm anlysed in a microscope and have the few that still show the most intact and healthy DNA be selected for implantation. As for extremely old man, say, 95 or older, your time has come and gone. You are just too old. Your sperm is now a soup of deformed and damaged DNA. The risk is just too great.

[@Rtn7789]

@Peter coderch it's fake even a 96 year old fathered a healthy kid in India only thing is that the man should have viable sperm and kid will be as healthy as the man when he was in 20s also reproducing at old age indicate great health but I think the mutations will be caused if the man has any serious health conditions otherwise it is okay for a healthy man to have baby at any age.

[@edgar22452]

@@Rtn7789 Doesn't mean a old man should have a kid

[@Rtn7789]

@@edgar22452 But he can if he wishes too

[@petercoderch589]

@@Rtn7789 No, this is false. The older the man is, the higher the amount of DNA mutations, and the higher the risk of the kid being born with congenital genetic diseases. On the one hand, older dads give their children longer telomeres, which tends to be good - especially for immune health. But on the other hand the kids are born with more mutations to their DNA. Pointing out on 96 year-old that had healthy kids means nothing. I am talking about statistics here.

[@Rtn7789]

@@petercoderch589 They are fake statistics ran by feminists how can mutations occur in old age it's impossible no mater how you age your Gene's will not change ever heard a old black man giving birth to a white child?
it's not possible only fertility decreases as man age but it doesn't mean that he will pass some new mutation that is not there in his genes.

[@eisenjeisen6262]

What i heard the woman is the big risk factor after age 35 in having babies is what my Doctors told me and the man shouldn't have any problem fathering babies in older age.

[@jeffersondavid9442]

Eisen J Eisen the sperm quality is not the same at 60
The child can have mental illness it's prouved (not all kids )

[@jeffersondavid9442]

The doctor is wrong even not all the kids are concerned by mental illness

[@rayanaackerman5938]

@@jeffersondavid9442 60 the last time i readed it was 40-43.

[@ma111ma11]

It is not about defects risks it is about they will loose their father early. Anyway, women from 35 - 40 do not have big risk, it is still small risk ( under 1% )

[@user-bq7hh5gr5f]

only because of pregnancy and childbirth, if a woman gives her egg to a surrogate mother, she will also not have any problems

[@kyliejenner8675]

He will call his father papa or grandpa

[@user-hn1bq3sy9b]

Grandpa! my grandpa brother had a daughter at 61, and everyone think is his grand daughter and she call her old dad.

[@jamesstarstalker1669]

I don't want to be called dad or daddy. I wish to be called father or papa in respect and in return I will respect my kid. I don't want a kid until I turn at least 50, maybe older than that. Once I'm 50, 50 will be the new 30.

[@Yasin_2312]

@@jamesstarstalker1669 why do you want to have a child at 50. You are quite selfish

[@gunkmoney]

@@Yasin_2312 I agree, Yasin. I don't see the point in becoming a father at 50.

[@Yasin_2312]

@@gunkmoney exactly I think some people choose to have kids late is for money as you get pension at 65

[@christopher9727]

John 3:16-21
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. 17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. 18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. 21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.

[@finchborat]

It should be illegal to have kids after turning 40.
I'm 29 and I'm taking care of my mom (done it since I was 17) and I said goodbye to my dad 2 months ago.

[@PlumbNutz]

If your parents had had children when they were younger that child would not be you. It's the ultimate miracle to actually be born. Would you rather not exist?

[@finchborat]

@@PlumbNutz I'd rather be born to younger parents. Plus, it would still be me.
Had my parents been 10 yrs younger when I was born, I'm not stuck in the nest not knowing when I'll get out and I get to have my dad for 10 more years.

[@mocho656]

@@finchborat agreed im 13 and my dad is 75 and its been tough on me

[@finchborat]

@@mocho656 Wow.

[@prodsegi]

I mean to be fair, people can die at any age. I got a buddy who’s father passed away at 37 and another who’s dad is 82 and still physically fit.

[@SophiaMcIntire]

I was born when my mother was 42 and my father was 50. Because of this, I was embarrassed of people seeing them and hoped to God that they just assumed that they were my grandparents. Not only that, but I had to live with the burden of worrying if they were gonna die when I was a teen/early adult. I literally have to get my older sister to pretend to be my mom in order to not be embarrassed, and even faced bullying as a consequence of my parents actions. If you choose to have a child at an old age, then you're fucking selfish for having to put your burden onto your child. You're doing nothing but humiliating them, and they'll grow to be irresponsible just like me because you were too old to even care to teach them things.

[@donaldbowler4514]

Sounds like you're immature and blaming it on your parents. My dad was 67 when he had me, my mom was 44. He died when I was 2, and my life has been difficult ever since. My mom wasnt a great parent either, but I joined the military, I'm getting my associate's soon and prepared tonget everything I need in the next few years. Stop blaming your parents.

[@goddessoracle4139]

Sorry you had to experience that horrible childhood, no child should have to worry about losing their parents at a young age nor be robbed of the things a parent is supposed to teach their child growing up, I was the opposite my mom had me early and yeah we struggling a little but its nothing compared to the love, nurturing and time she had to teach me, young parents are truly superhero's.

[@jamesquinn4185]

Stfu how are they selfish they just wanted a child, if your friends bully you because of that they aren’t your friends, I’m not going to pretend I have really old parents as mine were in there early 30s when I was born but I wouldn’t call them selfish if they had me later

[@MarcG7424]

Sounds like your the selfish one. Worried more about what others think than appreciating having two parents that love you. I think they should have been embarrassed by you

[@DisrespectingOpinionsIsSatanic]

You shouldn't be giving any stupid fucking shit about what the fuck do others think about you. To hell with those! Just live your life the way you can want to without letting society’s expectations be a burden on you.

[@Dinohunter59826]

I want to have a kid at age 62 and another kid at age 72.

[@MeMe-qd1xl]

Whyyy your kids wont have you for soo long

[@EVRYMANaKING]

I'm waiting til I'm 92 and then I'll have a dozen.

[@DanielCoronel99]

@@MeMe-qd1xl Yeah if he smokes or drinks a lot. We don't know if he's healthy.

[@Dinohunter59826]

It would be an absolute miracle if I’m able to have a kid at age 32. It really depends on when I’m able to get married.

[@kozscarface1798]

CHILDREN OF OLDER MEN LMAO IS THE WOMAN OLD TOO?? BC NONE OF THIS IS POSSIBLE WITHOUT HER

[@kozscarface1798]

IM THROWING UP