I think there is this tendency in Buddhist and Taoist practice to want to be kind all the time and never say no to people and as a result, you will inevitably get taken advantage of. This video clarified some questions I've had about Zen and compassion, and the many forms compassion can take. Self-sacrifice may not always be the best way to help someone in need, surrendering to their needs, whatever they may be. Sometimes "NO" is the appropriate response that will help both them and you. Great video Jack! Thank you as always for these teachings.
Absolutely, you need to set boundaries every now and then. Being a good friend is a two-way street. Some folks are just going to wipe their asses with you over and over again until you say enough. As much as possible, where appropriate, go talk to a "higher up" to help resolve the issue, but sometimes you're gonna have to put your own carcass on the line.
what's good about boundaries is that it gives to the person we sat it towards a clear space in life to belong to instead of this jumping around from one personal limit to the other
Wonderful video!!! This is something I am constantly working on as a follow conflict challenged person. Family and sangha are huge boundary lesson machines! This is really important and I thank you so so much. My new favorite video 🙏🏽
You're hilarious. Just stopped at 1:18 to tell you. Started reading Zen Confidential yesterday. Hopping on here to put a face to all the sentences. It's good btw. Funny fresh real. Anyhow I'll carry on the video and the book!
Experience is experience, describing the contents is besides the point - if my experience is experienced as an insoluble problem it is a koan. Perfect for practise. Me helping him/her, me avoiding him/her, may be my present confused thoughts, but these thoughts must not be a barrier for insight into the experience as a whole. We sit with koans, but hold to no solutions. Meanwhile keep dodging the knives.
I think there is this tendency in Buddhist and Taoist practice to want to be kind all the time and never say no to people and as a result, you will inevitably get taken advantage of. This video clarified some questions I've had about Zen and compassion, and the many forms compassion can take. Self-sacrifice may not always be the best way to help someone in need, surrendering to their needs, whatever they may be. Sometimes "NO" is the appropriate response that will help both them and you. Great video Jack! Thank you as always for these teachings.
NO is what we used to say in the Zendo when someone was out of the form, and it's a good lesson! :)
Absolutely, you need to set boundaries every now and then. Being a good friend is a two-way street.
Some folks are just going to wipe their asses with you over and over again until you say enough.
As much as possible, where appropriate, go talk to a "higher up" to help resolve the issue, but sometimes you're gonna have to put your own carcass on the line.
what's good about boundaries is that it gives to the person we sat it towards a clear space in life to belong to instead of this jumping around from one personal limit to the other
Well put, thank you!
Yes setting boundaries. I didn't ever think that being a Buddhist meant being a doormat.
Wonderful video!!! This is something I am constantly working on as a follow conflict challenged person. Family and sangha are huge boundary lesson machines! This is really important and I thank you so so much. My new favorite video 🙏🏽
Thank you Nina-san!!
You and Mr. Warner have a way of accidentally speaking to my circumstances. Thank you, as always.
thank you my friend!
Warner hasn't checked his notions of "truth" and the "absolute" enough. He is caught by Dogen, no, entangled in the Shobogenzo. Its hopeless.
Great video! Thank you!
Thanks Brad, I appreciate that.
You're hilarious. Just stopped at 1:18 to tell you. Started reading Zen Confidential yesterday. Hopping on here to put a face to all the sentences. It's good btw. Funny fresh real. Anyhow I'll carry on the video and the book!
Oh no don't put a face to the sentences...it'll RUIN the sentences!
This video is dense...with wisdom. But in a fun and entertaining way, as per your usual. Thanks!
Thank you my friend!
Experience is experience, describing the contents is besides the point - if my experience is experienced as an insoluble problem it is a koan. Perfect for practise. Me helping him/her, me avoiding him/her, may be my present confused thoughts, but these thoughts must not be a barrier for insight into the experience as a whole. We sit with koans, but hold to no solutions. Meanwhile keep dodging the knives.
Dodge them knives!!! :()
All I could think of with your kitchen story was Disturbed's "Get Down with the Sickness"
YouTubing that one now, thanks my friend.
Super Video thanks❤
Welcome 😊
It's called Idiot Compassion.
could be!