I can relate so much. I’ve grown up being over criticized but had impossible expectations put on me since I was a child. Like my mom expected her child to act like a grown adult when she herself was emotionally immature. I naturally adopted this belief of having to do things perfectly. I also didn’t like working a 9-5, although I pushed myself too hard until I got burned out. I now feel stuck in life, like I really want to do something of my own, have my own business. I’m manifesting that.
I know exactly how you feel. 36 years old with lots of dreams and cant see a way out. My next step is pushing past comfort zones and fear. I'm on the fence but thinking of moving away to start afresh. Sending you lots of love, you've got this and yes having your own space will help lots!
37 here! Glad to know there are other mid- late thirties in the same boat. I do feel the need to shake things up, tired of waiting around for things to happen. Good luck to us! 🍀
Ah, my parents never expected me to do things perfectly, they just told me to never attempt something I was not already good at before I even started, guess how well that went to get out of my comfort zone ! Things are better now but I really stopped focusing on the outcome/results and more on the input (building good foundations for myself, and doing things thinking more about : I'll spend x hours working on this with 0 expectations .. since all it requires is showing up, it's easier to build confidence with the activity, and somehow make things happen out of the blue)
Omg ikr!! It really keeps you stuck inside your comfort zone when you’re lacking the encouragement needed to truly go for what you want, and what you know deep down you’re capable of! You definitely seem to be on the right track though in terms of your mindset towards it all, I love this for you 🙌❤️
This came up and i feel like ive never related this much to anybody! This is me rn at 20 and have been feeling like this for almost 2 years since i graduated highschools and its so hard and i feel like im going crazy. Tried working a 9-5 w my dad for 5 months but ended with me crying, feeling dizzy, on the edge of fainting and so incredibly self concious and overwhelmed. I know i dont want a job like that in the long run but i feel so pressured from people around me and like its the "only" path to take or the right one. Im stuck in an environment that dysregulates my nervous system and are under constant stress and anxiety. I wanna do so much but dont know where to start. Need to move, but dont know where or how, wanna study or live abroad (feel it in my heart) but not sure how, not having any emotional support and i also struggle w getting stuff done. I cab start one thing but then i start another thing and can have 10 stuff going on at once and thoughts spinning in my head. Whats the right thing? And being scared of taking a wrong step and not being able to survive on my own. Thank you for this video! I relate to everything you say and this was comforting
People really underestimate how much overwhelm can keep us so stuck!! I feel you so much on this one and it’s not nice at all 🥺💗 I don’t know if this resonates but I’ve found for myself that something that really throws off my nervous system is actually mixing comfort and work together- it just reminded me when you said you tried working with your dad for 5 months! Idk what your relationship is like with your dad but I know that when I first started working for my boyfriends mums business - mixing the comfort of being around my boyfriend and his family with a high pressure stressful environment just sent my nervous system into a frenzy!!! I still struggle to this day 😂 There’s also the pressure to make your loved ones proud, so working with them can reallly intensify the pressure of the already stressful work environment! so I wouldn’t beat yourself up for finding that particular role difficult because I’d be the exact same in that situation!! The best thing I ever did in terms of my overwhelm was really taking the time to learn about myself and practise nervous system regulation - I know it sounds so simple- but it’s sooo hard to make any kind of decision if you’re coming from a place of a dysregulated nervous system, mixed with confusion of who you truly are and what you want in life! I have found soooo much peace and clarity in the past year from doing this and I wish I’d have known that at 20! You are miles ahead of what you think 💗 simply for having such a good understanding of yourself, your body and how it feels in certain situations!! Trust me, a lot of people do not know their body’s cues so it’s AMAZING that you do! Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a lovely comment 🥹💗
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie wow thank you so much for taking your time and writing such a detailed and helpful answer! For me i have a very complicated relationship w him so i think for me it was the pressure of like people at work knowing i was his daughter but they have no idea how broken and complicated our relationship is at home so i think i felt kinda angry and like i wanted to be seen. I struggle w this a lot since I've been emotionally neglected most of my life and lived w him without really a mom figure cause she´s been absent. So that with the stressful job in its own, social anxiety, and being triggered by being around dad certainly wasn't a great combo. i know i could probably manage a normal job if i have good colleagues but the part of actually applying to jobs in my own city is so hard also cause i feel like I've outgrown it and don't have anything left here really. it´s not like I have a lot of good memories here, some with friends but i never truly felt like i belonged so i wanna move and apply for jobs in another city and i think i hopefully will get to that stage w some help of a psychologist/therapist. Sorry for the long response again and u don't have to apply but i wanna thank u genuinely. I think regulating my nervous system is something i really need to focus on even more and im thankful you commented on it cause i beat myself up a lot for not being able to just apply for jobs here like my friends who already have jobs so i tend to feel behind. Your comment made me feel better and that i shouldn't beat myself up cause i come from a place that none of my friends really do so i shouldn't compare myself too much.
@@homebodyzone9884 oh wow I completely understand how that would be so difficult! You’re a lot stronger than you think for even enduring 5 months of that!! ❤️ awww yes, you’d be so surprised how much can change in a year when you dedicate time to healing your nervous system, truly! It absolutely changed my life and the way I view the world so much! It’s the best place to start when you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t know what you want because it’s sooo hard to make good decisions for yourself from a place of dysregulation! I think sometimes the pressure to have it all figured out makes matters even worse for us and just puts us into a freeze state- when really, literally no one has it figured out! We are all just out here not knowing what we’re doing but trying things anyway, just some people hide that better! 😂💗 But yeah, I started when I was 23, so you have plenty of time!! 💗 im rooting for you 🥰
Im 47 disabled and had my siblings walk away from me at the hardest time of my life (which was the best thing to happen to my stress levels) 2 years later then not contacting me when i had breast cancer i had similar childhood to you but with the violence you worried would happen i got life changing chronic illness at 10 years old and as an adult i went from jogging 3 times a week to using walking frame around house i left childhood home asap im telling you this because i think you need to move out of home then you can realise how well you are doing stop applying for jobs you don't want you've moved on from 9 to 5 in an office places you apply to can see that youre to good for these jobs your wasting your time it could take very long time to get your ideal job but you need to cut out your home negativity you're the white sheep in your family obviously like me but they make you feel less than you deserve i think offering people one to one chats is a really good idea can this be your future career? Have you taken course on how to run a business? Maybe course on how to do your taxes? You need distraction from hating your job use it as stepping stone to a brighter future you can do what you want don't believe people that are below you ie your family they're just bullies youre better than them
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry you have had to go through all of that 🥺 you are truly so right, I do need to get out of this house for sureee!! It weighs you down so much more than you’d think being in an emotionally taxing environment! I’m realising that just because I’m used to it, doesn’t mean I have to stay in it! Thank you so much for your lovely comments and wisdom, you are a gem please never forget that 💎❤️
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I can relate so much. I’ve grown up being over criticized but had impossible expectations put on me since I was a child. Like my mom expected her child to act like a grown adult when she herself was emotionally immature. I naturally adopted this belief of having to do things perfectly. I also didn’t like working a 9-5, although I pushed myself too hard until I got burned out. I now feel stuck in life, like I really want to do something of my own, have my own business. I’m manifesting that.
I know exactly how you feel. 36 years old with lots of dreams and cant see a way out. My next step is pushing past comfort zones and fear. I'm on the fence but thinking of moving away to start afresh. Sending you lots of love, you've got this and yes having your own space will help lots!
37 here! Glad to know there are other mid- late thirties in the same boat. I do feel the need to shake things up, tired of waiting around for things to happen. Good luck to us! 🍀
ou're not alone! Every small step counts-keep going, and you'll create the change you desire!
Hope more videos like this from you. Your every video is creativity and inspiring. Your presentation quality is amazing. I appreciate you.
Ah, my parents never expected me to do things perfectly, they just told me to never attempt something I was not already good at before I even started, guess how well that went to get out of my comfort zone !
Things are better now but I really stopped focusing on the outcome/results and more on the input (building good foundations for myself, and doing things thinking more about : I'll spend x hours working on this with 0 expectations .. since all it requires is showing up, it's easier to build confidence with the activity, and somehow make things happen out of the blue)
Omg ikr!! It really keeps you stuck inside your comfort zone when you’re lacking the encouragement needed to truly go for what you want, and what you know deep down you’re capable of! You definitely seem to be on the right track though in terms of your mindset towards it all, I love this for you 🙌❤️
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This came up and i feel like ive never related this much to anybody! This is me rn at 20 and have been feeling like this for almost 2 years since i graduated highschools and its so hard and i feel like im going crazy. Tried working a 9-5 w my dad for 5 months but ended with me crying, feeling dizzy, on the edge of fainting and so incredibly self concious and overwhelmed. I know i dont want a job like that in the long run but i feel so pressured from people around me and like its the "only" path to take or the right one. Im stuck in an environment that dysregulates my nervous system and are under constant stress and anxiety. I wanna do so much but dont know where to start. Need to move, but dont know where or how, wanna study or live abroad (feel it in my heart) but not sure how, not having any emotional support and i also struggle w getting stuff done. I cab start one thing but then i start another thing and can have 10 stuff going on at once and thoughts spinning in my head. Whats the right thing? And being scared of taking a wrong step and not being able to survive on my own. Thank you for this video! I relate to everything you say and this was comforting
People really underestimate how much overwhelm can keep us so stuck!! I feel you so much on this one and it’s not nice at all 🥺💗 I don’t know if this resonates but I’ve found for myself that something that really throws off my nervous system is actually mixing comfort and work together- it just reminded me when you said you tried working with your dad for 5 months! Idk what your relationship is like with your dad but I know that when I first started working for my boyfriends mums business - mixing the comfort of being around my boyfriend and his family with a high pressure stressful environment just sent my nervous system into a frenzy!!! I still struggle to this day 😂 There’s also the pressure to make your loved ones proud, so working with them can reallly intensify the pressure of the already stressful work environment! so I wouldn’t beat yourself up for finding that particular role difficult because I’d be the exact same in that situation!! The best thing I ever did in terms of my overwhelm was really taking the time to learn about myself and practise nervous system regulation - I know it sounds so simple- but it’s sooo hard to make any kind of decision if you’re coming from a place of a dysregulated nervous system, mixed with confusion of who you truly are and what you want in life! I have found soooo much peace and clarity in the past year from doing this and I wish I’d have known that at 20! You are miles ahead of what you think 💗 simply for having such a good understanding of yourself, your body and how it feels in certain situations!! Trust me, a lot of people do not know their body’s cues so it’s AMAZING that you do! Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a lovely comment 🥹💗
@@voicenotesfromyourbestie wow thank you so much for taking your time and writing such a detailed and helpful answer! For me i have a very complicated relationship w him so i think for me it was the pressure of like people at work knowing i was his daughter but they have no idea how broken and complicated our relationship is at home so i think i felt kinda angry and like i wanted to be seen. I struggle w this a lot since I've been emotionally neglected most of my life and lived w him without really a mom figure cause she´s been absent. So that with the stressful job in its own, social anxiety, and being triggered by being around dad certainly wasn't a great combo. i know i could probably manage a normal job if i have good colleagues but the part of actually applying to jobs in my own city is so hard also cause i feel like I've outgrown it and don't have anything left here really. it´s not like I have a lot of good memories here, some with friends but i never truly felt like i belonged so i wanna move and apply for jobs in another city and i think i hopefully will get to that stage w some help of a psychologist/therapist. Sorry for the long response again and u don't have to apply but i wanna thank u genuinely. I think regulating my nervous system is something i really need to focus on even more and im thankful you commented on it cause i beat myself up a lot for not being able to just apply for jobs here like my friends who already have jobs so i tend to feel behind. Your comment made me feel better and that i shouldn't beat myself up cause i come from a place that none of my friends really do so i shouldn't compare myself too much.
@@homebodyzone9884 oh wow I completely understand how that would be so difficult! You’re a lot stronger than you think for even enduring 5 months of that!! ❤️ awww yes, you’d be so surprised how much can change in a year when you dedicate time to healing your nervous system, truly! It absolutely changed my life and the way I view the world so much! It’s the best place to start when you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t know what you want because it’s sooo hard to make good decisions for yourself from a place of dysregulation! I think sometimes the pressure to have it all figured out makes matters even worse for us and just puts us into a freeze state- when really, literally no one has it figured out! We are all just out here not knowing what we’re doing but trying things anyway, just some people hide that better! 😂💗 But yeah, I started when I was 23, so you have plenty of time!! 💗 im rooting for you 🥰
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Im 47 disabled and had my siblings walk away from me at the hardest time of my life (which was the best thing to happen to my stress levels) 2 years later then not contacting me when i had breast cancer i had similar childhood to you but with the violence you worried would happen i got life changing chronic illness at 10 years old and as an adult i went from jogging 3 times a week to using walking frame around house i left childhood home asap im telling you this because i think you need to move out of home then you can realise how well you are doing stop applying for jobs you don't want you've moved on from 9 to 5 in an office places you apply to can see that youre to good for these jobs your wasting your time it could take very long time to get your ideal job but you need to cut out your home negativity you're the white sheep in your family obviously like me but they make you feel less than you deserve i think offering people one to one chats is a really good idea can this be your future career? Have you taken course on how to run a business? Maybe course on how to do your taxes? You need distraction from hating your job use it as stepping stone to a brighter future you can do what you want don't believe people that are below you ie your family they're just bullies youre better than them
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry you have had to go through all of that 🥺 you are truly so right, I do need to get out of this house for sureee!! It weighs you down so much more than you’d think being in an emotionally taxing environment! I’m realising that just because I’m used to it, doesn’t mean I have to stay in it! Thank you so much for your lovely comments and wisdom, you are a gem please never forget that 💎❤️
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