Should we move back??
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
- Sarah and Jack are home from Hawaii and it's so good to be back together again! We all missed eachother but it honeslty was SO good to be able to spend some one-on-one time with both kids. I feel like Sunny and I are finally best buddies :) In this episode, we go through our thoughts about leaving Hawaii a year ago and how it's been here in Utah. We honestly really miss it there... and now we're not sure what we're going to do.
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Remember the crime and thefts. It has not gone away. Take vacations. Stay. Your children need the experience of their grandparents. And the lessons, love and experiences only grandparents can provide.
Totally agree. One of the reasons you moved is because you kept getting robbed, you can always have seaside vacations for surfing, which is what I think you most miss (the sea and the beach). You have a gorgeous home that took you ages to build and fix up. And amazing grandparents who are always nearby, not even for emergencies, just simply to visit, stay, be there. Just another opinion. I wish you the best always.
I was just going to say this, you kept getting robbed and even left early because you were over it. Also, think long term, you don't know how long your influencer gig will last, even really big influencers like the Bucket List family, their viewership has died off dramatically. If you can pay off a house now, that will help so much in the future when you may have to have a career change.
The crime and thefts were exactly what I was thinking about! It seemed at that time you were ready to move back to Utah.
THEY ALSO HAD THEIR HOUSE BUILT FROM SCRATCH . waste of fucking money
2 electric bikes and Sarah's truck stolen..it's a nice place to visit but moving back..nope
Think about your life in seasons. This is the season to be closer to your family and conveniences. As your kids (and parents) get older, you'll find it might be a better season for you to move back. But for now, embrace your present and love where you are. Gratitude is key! You are very blessed!
Exactly, they are very blessed!
@@iamterbear19out of this world blessed
Family means alot.
My father moved us kids away from family. It's good for your to be near cousins and aunts n uncles as well as gramma n grampa.
Give it at least two years. Nobody says you have to keep up with anyone. Be yourselves, don't worry about what everyone else has.
You're being selfish and acting childish.Its not just the two of you.Grow up.
I agree with those who advise you should stay close to family in Utah. The reasons you chose to move to Utah were valid and good. The challenges with Derik's surgeries have prevented you from settling in and having stability in your new environment. You may not even realize it. Hang in there and allow yourselves and the kids some steadiness in your new home. Give it some time. Pray about it. GOD bless you!
Amen god will only throw at you what is good for u n not more than he knows you can handle this post 100 per cent true talk god n he will help you with your answer n follow plan he will reveal he has for you and your life these guys are believers in god and Jesus christ our saviour anyway and think the families are as well I pray god for you also ask him help you get answer and what he has planned for you amen 🙏
What got me is the boys. They grew up there with the mountains and all the advantages of the activities. We have
Seen for example what a fantastic skier Tanner is. Think boys particularly would be rooted to that home. But both have expressed how they couldn't wait to get out of Utah . Both have said never wanted to leave Hawaii. In fact Tanner cried. Just makes me wonder about the set up in Utah.
Well said, I think that that’s a great idea
@@lindseypluteci8410AMEN and AMEN.
@@bonnieplattner3094Yeah,Tanner Lauren just got back from Hawaii.I get the feeling that they are planning to move back.I think that Derrick and Sarah don’t want to look like they are following them back..
If you go back be aware that it will be different. People change. Not that you can’t be close, but things never stay the same.
This is key
This is the most insightful comment on this video. Things change, people change.. If they go back it won't feel exactly the same as it did before. They are just attached to those memories and that stage of their life... They were younger, didn't have kids at one point then it was just Jack for a while in their original rental. But when Sunny came it changed things. It seems like that is when they started really wanting to be back closer w their family and their content took on a different feel. Ultimately, I think they need to stay in Utah for a while.
Always choose what best for you.
Personally, I’m a grandma, having family near as we get older is good memories for the grandkids. I still remember things I did with my grandpa and grandma that I cherish. Just a thought. Love to watch your channel.
I have so many memories of my great-grandmother and grandmother. Powerful memories that have left a lasting impression on my life. Lessons and opportunities that only they could give. We moved far away when I was 9. Life became less precious and full. I missed them...and missed out. Stay.
They can always visit them and create memories! You don’t have to be close with the family to create enough memories. I think they should think about what’s really best for them as a couple and for they’re happiness and mental health! Memories comes after all this.
Exactly it's all about creating memories with our grandkids. I want my grandkids to have awesome memories of me and everything we've done together. ❤
@shewill8618 good advice.
While I agree with you, it still is their life and they should do what makes them happy as individuals so they can be happy, present parents. I did grow up right next door to my grandparents and my siblings didn’t so I’ve seen both sides, but like my mom always tells me, life is short for everyone and you should live where and how it makes you happy, even if it’s overseas or hours away. I’m incredibly close to my mom but she constantly tells me that I should follow my heart and be where I am enjoying life. This family should be where is healthy for the minds and hearts
You will never regret raising your children around family. As a mom that has grandchildren out of state…my heart breaks not being able to see them. Visiting friends can be your adventure and something to look forward to. Family first!
If I was you I would not move back right now.
You build a beautiful house and have family living nearby. I hope you know what blessing it is to have all 4 grandparents around to help and make memories. My husband and I will have our first kid soon and both our dads already passed. It makes us really sad that our kids will never have a grandpa, but we are thankful for 2 wonderful grandmas.
In you case I would stay in Utah for now. I assume due to your amazing success here on yt you will be able to afford frequent visits to Hawaii. What a life you guys have, just wonderful!
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Maybe for now while Jack and Sunny are so small you should stay close to family so they can help as they did this time when you left Derik and Sunny and Derik's mom and dad helped. Later when Jack and Sunny are a little older and they need less help ,you could move again.
You only have one family. You are young this stuff is just stuff, of this world. We have been in you situation. That other family generation is so important. Hang in there.
Oh my gosh Sunny’s hair has gotten so much lighter!
If the problem goes deeper than geography remember that your problems go with you regardless of location.
This is time for you to be near your family and for your children to have the memories of grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins. Remember, they won’t be here forever. If you miss the early years, you missed it all.
If your family lives close to you now, those are the memories your children need. You can always visit Hawaii to build those memories.i think your children if older would agree, family means the most. ❤❤❤
No, sometimes being close to the family ruins the relationship, and if the relationship is not good then no need to think about children’s memories, they’ll got more serious issues to deal with other than memories! I hope they can make the right decision, they know better than us!
You don’t need to keep moving. You just haven’t really settled in with so much going on. Get involved with your community. Get your children involved. Find your purpose for where you are at. I think moving back would be too tempting for Derek to do things that would injure himself again. Love you❤❤❤on rainy days get into crafts, paint, music, games, etc.teach the kids to read, dance, etc. Have some fun!
Though, I believe you meant Derik will be tempted to rtn to his dare devil lifestyle
As a kid who went between the mainland and Oahu my entire life - I appreciated being able
To do both.
But family is important to be around. I got to experience best of both worlds .
1. Listen only to Yourselves!
2. Do what You want! Separately and together as a couple 💞
3. Couples Need time apart so props to you both for giving each other space!
❤Yup 💯
You and your brother and sister-in-law should buy a small house together that you guys can share in Hawaii and visit regularly
Hell no. Why would they do that!
This is best option 💯 ❤
@@ihsan7A I agree why on Earth would they do that??? keep your own little family to yourselves, you have your own private conversations and your own way of bringing up your children, you don't need to share that!
I second this! Like a time-share, kinda. Not saying “go buy a time share” but get a house between the two families and share the vacation time in it, separately or together.
Tanner and loren already own a home in Hawaii. Thats where they all stay when they go there often.
Surprised your considering moving back to Hawaii already after you just moved into the house you had built. The nature in Utah is just as amazing and beautiful. There's some gorgeous national parks in Utah you need to take your kids to explore. Both of your families are in Utah and your kid's need to grow up knowing and having and developing relationships with their grandparents, aunts, uncles & cousins. There's more opportunities for all of you in the states you can visit Hawaii when you want.
They got tons of money they can do anything they want they can move back-and-forth for six years buy a house in hot Hawaii and then move back to Utah and then move back to Hawaii and then move back to Utah. They got tons of money thanks to people like you and me and all these people people that make comments and subscribe that’s why these people do it. That’s why everybody does RUclips And Patreon and TikTok and Facebook and blah blah blah blah blah MONEY that is the only reason they do it that is the only reason how do you think they paid for that expensive house and all those bikes that got stolen and all those things that they have it wasn’t their parents that helped them out, it was you and me
I’m so glad you decided to give it some time before moving to Hawaii. You have truly been super busy doing nothing but healing and keeping the kids happy. Sarah has been awesome with the heavy load of caring for a debilitated husband and two wild kids, while Derick has been struggling to be happy while being laid up. Take it easy and enjoy Utah when you’re healed and ready to help.
To be honest, I don't think you should move back. I think being that you all love Hawaii so much, you'll should invest in or buy a home in Hawaii as a vacation home. Being you still have really good friends in Hawaii, while you're not there they can maintain or check up on your house. While you're not in Hawaii, you can use it as an Airbnb. Just my opinion, but I think this is something You, Sarah, Lo, and Tanner should consider.
AIRBNB is present day game changer. Since most of friends are on Social Media could find someone to hire to assist.
@@bonnieplattner3094 Especially since they could share it with Lo and Tanner. Make a kids bedroom(later with bunk beds) and 2 adult bedrooms with a pull out couch and or Murphy bed in the living room for additional guests.
Got that solved
Local resident, born and raised, as much as we love the aloha…please do not purchase a home in Hawaii. We can’t afford homes because of being outbid by foreigners. Our Ohana is moving to the mainland states because of it. There’s more Hawaiians in the mainland than in our islands. Hawaii might be home, but please do not out bid our locals.
I would write the same.
You do whatever you think will make you the happiest. Your children are still young and it becomes a little more difficult to make those decisions when they are settled at school etc.
Agreed!
Well said !
Agreed.
Because of my husband’s job we had to live most of our lives far away from our families. We visited twice a year, but nothing ever replaces being close by. My husband’s parents are no longer living and my dad passed away. We’ve lost aunts, uncles, cousins and brothers in law. Time with family is more precious than gold. You never know how long you have and making memories with those you love is so important. Please consider this when making your decision.
Sounds like Utah is the place to live and Hawaii a good place to visit based on your list
What about having a home in both places? When it rainy season in Hawaii yall stay in UT and if u can rent it out as air bnb hve an agent or cleaning service clean in-between guests, also do the same thing with ur UT home? Have the best of both worlds!!
Once Derek's health gets back to "normal" you'll be much better. You've really had to deal with his knee recovery for months and months, that wears you out (as you know). It'll get better.
I am truly so sorry for your dilemma! Having to live in that lovely home that you had custom built, having to be near family, enduring the lovely four seasons, maybe planting a garden with the kids this spring, having top notch medical services for the entire family near by, not to mention saving for the best of both worlds....a vacation home in Hawaii that could be income property when you are not there!?😊❤ P.S. Plenty of "keeping up with the Jones' in Hawaii, new surf boards, new electronic bikes, going away from the Island to other places, etc.
If you guys go back to Hawaii, that means leaving Tanner and Lauren, and Sarah and Lauren have their business ventures together. AND you guys are all pretty inseparable. You just moved into your house last year and were so excited about it. Give it time. Let at least a couple of years go by before you make any huge decisions.
Is it possible to have a small place in Hawaii that you own, and possibly offset the cost by having weekly rentals on it when you're not there? You could spend the nice parts of the season in Hawaii and always be able to come back and be around your family in Utah, as well it might be good if you and your brother's family went in on a place in Hawaii such as this. I mean you did move back to Utah for a good reason, so I really wouldn't suggest that you abandon it all together but you could do a little of both. But really think about it because I'm thinking about that video of you right now Sara where you were unpacking everything and you were freaking out about the roaches everywhere coming out of all the boxes. Make sure that you remember all the negatives.
Y'all are doing great!! The kids and healthy happy and having a ball. Enjoy this time, Hawaii is amazing, and if I lived there I seriously don't think I could ever leave, but being close to your family especially now while the kids are young, giving them this time to build core memories with the grandparents and extended family is precious.
I know everyone has their own perspective but I moved from Massachusetts to Utah and couldn't believe how much nature and outdoor activities were right at my fingertips. Campgrounds so close to the Ogden/SLC/Provo area. Driving vacations to Montana and Yellowstone. If you have done that so much as kids that it's boring now, I get it, but the kids would be seeing it with fresh eyes. I moved away from Utah and wish I hadn't.
Guys, the first time I got to know you, Jack was so brand new. I always think about you guys as being in Hawaii, Tanner & Lo too. I know this was huge, this move. I think you are doing the right thing tho to sit down and pro & con the situation. Consider everything you can think of , just like you are doing. It's big, so give it some time and discuss. I sure do love all the Beestons, the big and the small, the fairly odd sisters. Like I've said before, I'm a Nana, 63 and I feel like we are neighbors. Glad you took some time apart, sometimes couples just need that. Also Derik hon, so very glad that knee is healing up, that you are walking around. Be safe, well & happy. 🤗🤗🤗🤗💗💗💗💗
And what happens when your friends move after you go back? What about schools? If and when shtf do u want Hawaii or near home? What made you come home? Cost of living should have been considered before coming back home. Talk to your parents. Grass always looks greener on the other side until you get there and find weeds. What about planting a veggie garden and training kids value of hard work. Consider the limited housing where you were and how your bikes were stolen 2x. Do you have privacy where your at? Wish you 2 the best with ur kids.
Don’t forget about the people who stole your car and e-bikes!
Twice! (the ebike)
And roaches 😂
Well, they were too careless about their stuff. Left the bikes without a lock, left the car open. That can happen again.
😂😅 good comment i nt put laughing emoji cause I think that funny get them stolen ut the way u put it n come straight out it was funny have good day ❤❤❤
What I mean is laughing 😃 you comment nt fact the stolen that bit not funny it u that was funny saying it xxx
Giving the children stability is important. (Family, schools, and having a place to grow roots) If you have Hawaii as a place to " go to" it will be more special.
I say follow your… ❤ having peace, happiness, and joy in your life will never be regretted.
You are always going somewhere. I think you need your stay put and learn to be grateful for what you have.
They're young, one may not have all the answers, the fact that they open up for this dialog on their channel shouldn't amount to that kind of comment.
I agree! She's never happy
@@Christina-cb7bbis interesting how different people see different things. I think Sarah is a very happy person who has been going through a lot of challenges. I think she's doing well. She's a lovely soul.
@@1stDoNoHarm63 I agree! Being a young wife & mother is very challenging! And it's also the reason she is yawning all the time, because it's exhausting to have little kids. I don't have grandkids yet but I have Great nieces & nephews who can run me into the ground in less than a couple hours & it takes 2 days for me to recover!
You can be grateful for what you have and still long for what you've given up.
I really liked your original plan of eventually having a place in Hawaii as well. It might be some years off but I really believe you guys will get there one day and you won't need to feel so torn.
I think a lot of those questions seem like viewers have noticed that, from the bits of life that we see on RUclips, you just seem more down or depressed since the move. I would think a huge part of that is probably due to surgeries and the inability to move freely and be active like you were in Hawaii. It will be interesting to see if Utah will feel more like home once the leg is healed fully so you both can do more of the things you like to do, both together and separately, without everything feeling so hard, painful and exhausting. It's been an impossible season in life for you and your family and struggling is never fun. I'm hoping this summer can really be a time of healing, fun, playing and growing for your family
You have a beautiful new house and family close by for your kids. You can build a new friend network. Learning contentment is a good thing.
I would stay until the kids get older. Your family is near to help you with the kids.
Grandparents aren't free childcare :/
@jessicahoward9046 no they are not! But look how the parents came to help Derrick when they we're gone.
If you don't have nothing nice to say stay off my replies you old prune!!
You can still visit Hawaii as a family during the summer months and come back to Utah. Utah should be your home base though, especially since Hawaii is so unpredictable!
Body language folks.... very telling.
Derik issues alone haven’t given Utah a fair chance. Sarah imagine doing everything yourself if you had no family around to help. It almost makes it sound like Hawaii is the easier way to parent because of the outdoors. Remember the rainy season and the places you lived and I remember thinking Jack has no space as a toddler to play properly indoors or have play centres cause space was tight. Appreciate having grandparents for the kids while they are around and can enjoy them. You need to except the fact that your life as a couple has changed and will continue to change as the kids grow older. There is something to be said for convenience. Social media success definitely seems to be changing the couples i used to follow.
Utah sucks. Get over it. Maybe try getting outside your little Utah bubble just to see how much it sucks.
@@jarlskane1214 Gee if lousy attitude individuals like you live there perhaps they should leave. Maybe you haven’t experienced enough living yet to make thoughtful, intelligent comments.
GO OR GET OFF THE POT!
Listen - as a nearly 50 year old woman with 2 older children - we did move around a fair bit over the years, and I have to tell you - just follow your heart ❤. There are pros and cons to both places, and honestly your kids are still so tiny, NOW is the time to find where you really want to be, because once the kids are older and more rooted in a school with friends, it will be a lot tougher on them to just pick up and move to a totally different place. You guys having close friends with kids their age that they can grow up with is SO important too, I wish I was able to have given my kids more of that through their growing years. If your heart is pulling you to go back to Hawaii, listen to it and GO for it. A house is just a house, you make a home wherever you live. Trust your gut ❤.
I agree. Jack will soon be at school and more rooted. It will get harter to move then.
I agree. Everyone I know who moved away to the mainland have been trying so hard to come back.
💯 …but we all know their heart is in Hawaii. It’s Mother Earth on full 5D - so healing
Best advice on here
Perfect comment. 👌
Derik & Sarah,
I echo what others are mentioning about staying close to your family unit.
As parents yourselves, you know the incredible bond you feel towards your children, well your parents feel the same towards you both, and even though you're grown adults with children of your own, they STILL feel like you're their "babies!" And as they get older, family is even MORE special & sacred. And to not be able to see & experience the love & the milestones of your lives, and their grand children's lives, life truly would be So Much less meaningful to them, and you.
I promise you, if you move full time to Hawaii, once you reach your parents age, you WILL regret having done so, and missing all those super important & bonding memories you could have shared.
You guys are lucky enough to be financially secure, that you can vacation in Hawaii. And maybe an option would be for you guys, & Tanner & Lo, to either buy, or rent a place that's one dwelling, but has two separate living dwellings, and then share the costs. This way you all can have the best of both worlds! You can live in a much more safe, grounded, & family centered full time home life in Utah, and vacation in Hawaii.
You will be thankful as your children get older, to cherish the stability of what Utah, & family offers, and the important memories you will all make & share together.
Your "pro's & con's list", clearly significantly to me, that Utah IS "Home Base". You don't have to sacrifice Hawaii, you can just let it be a fun getaway destination, and part of your joyful experience in your lives.
Much love is wished for your sweet little family. God bless you all!
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You should live where you are the happiest and that your children will also be happy! Blessings ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌊🏄🏻♀️🏄🏼
This comment. 👌 Seems like everyone else is projecting their preferences. Weird.
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Is it possible bordem set in because you were laid up due to injury? Give it some more time. You'll figure it out. There's no rush. Family is everything!!
Keeping up with the Jones' is all in your mind.
I wouldn't make the decision to move again too quickly. The children need to have a stable home life for a while.
Their little they don't know the difference. Once they hit school age is when they need to settle
@@ambermarcum7290Doesn’t matter if they’re ’still little’, they absolutely do know the difference, & it does make a huge impact on them settling.
They have good parents. They will provide a stable home life no matter where they live. Many young children move around. Many parents travel for work.
@@LauraBidingCitizentotally agree! I remember all the way back to being 3 and it was very confusing moving several times!
Ahhhhh~greeeeed!❤
I agree with everyone else, buy a vacation home and rent it when you’re not there. This season of your lives grandparents re so important
What do you mean, stuck in the house?? You are ALWAYS on vacation.
You can always have two homes, one in Hawaii and one in Utah. ❤❤❤
Adjusting to all the newness takes time. You built an incredible home and now you all have so much space for your family and to even grow your daily should you decide. If you’re taking votes, my vote is for Utah, lol.
I moved from the mountains to a very hot and flat state right before Christmas and it’s been tough but I’ve recently started feeling much better about things. There are many pros and cons for my move as well but I wanted to at least give it a full chance so I’d never ask myself what if. I think 3 years is my full commitment. After that, I can reevaluate my situation and options and decide what works best for me. That’s just my reflection and line of thinking though. Happiness is what’s most important. ❤
PROS for Utah: Family, quick access to goods, lots of space, strong support system, different nature filled activities, ease of access to interstate travel, the price of things should be cheaper (and maybe great schools?)
Also, you could always take a trip to CA for some big doses of beach and sun. It’d be cheaper and easier to do that than flying back and forth as a family of four just to visit family in Utah.
Throughout the next year, I’d also talk with your Hawai’i friends whose kids are starting school in the fall and consider whether their school systems / quality of education are comparable to schools in Utah. Access to great education can make all the difference. We are all supportive of whatever decision you come to in your own time - but remember to think long term! ❤
That keeping up with the Jones thing...that's on yall. That's a matter of you deciding you gotta have rather than knowing you don't really need it. No one "has" to keep up with the Jonesboro. And fir grandparents...Hawaii is a hard trip to make and it keeps the kids too far ftom the grandparents.
Seems like there is a lot of grand parents watching this channel.
@@bonnieplattner3094, I’m one of those grandparents. My grandkids are not close in proximity to us and I’m always afraid they won’t have memories of us. The Beestons are adorable and they make me happy.
That's where I thought most of this advise to stay in Utah with family was coming from.
Sarah, you always look tired and run down, I think you’re better off staying close to family at the moment while the children are little and you need help with them, you can always go back for vacations and appreciate the time spent there, but you both shouldn’t be making life changing decisions while Derik is still not 100% recovered from his surgeries, give it more time, I can’t believe I’m actually saying this because I loved our vacations to Hawaii but I guess like everything, it’s different if you’re living there permanently. I’m sure you’ll make the right decision for your family, Love watching your channel. Cheers from Queensland Australia ❤❤
I agree. They travel too much. And Derik had better watch out, he could be lame for the rest of his life. Think people, think.
Wherever you guys are happiest and thriving so will your kids!
I’m sure you’ll make the right decision. It’s nice to be with family and I can’t see you going without your best buddies, brother and fam.
HAWAII, you two just light up so much more talking about it. Work hard and move your family out there or get a house in both places and then you can have best of both worlds 🤙
I grew up haole on Maui. My mom moved us there for some of the same reasons you list. But none of that mattered to a little girl getting bullied daily at school. The looks, tensions, and taunts from locals whose lands the US stole. Their children following suit. I place no blame. My mom didn’t know and Hawaiians are rightfully angry. If I could go back in time and change my moms mind, I would. Out of respect to Hawaiians and my shattered self esteem. I still darken my blonde hair to look less haole in my mind. Do what’s best for you of course. Things may have changed, locations vary, and some kids are more resilient than others (especially with two loving parents). Hawaii is captivating and this is just one perspective. I had to share it
Very well expressed.I agree. We left Oahu 30 years ago when we were pregnant with our first child. We always visited and my kids have family there and a strong connection to the islands but I am so glad that they were protected from the chaos of all the tension. It's the surf culture that is missed and that is available in other places.
You’re not wrong. Friends were there with the military, and the kids, now in their twenties, still remember the bullying and have issues as a result.
I’m sorry you were bullied, and I wish you hadn’t been. I’m so sorry for the pain and cruelty you experienced. Your feelings and the lasting impact you felt is so, so valid. No kid should go through that.
I also commend you for acknowledging the harms locals face from rising house and food prices, as well as the lasting harms from being colonised and forcibly assimilated.
I think recognising the hurt to yourself whilst recognising the underlying pain behind the locals’ anger, and yet placing no blame, shows deep insight, maturity, and emotional intelligence on your part. Quite frankly, I’m not certain I’d have been able to do that if it’d happened to me. All this to say, I find your stance and nuance to be admirable indeed.
Yall are awesome!!! Such a normal down-to-earth family…. Love watching the kiddos grow up too. Thanks for sharing!!❤❤
Go back to Hawaii and rent your house out. When its time for Jack to start school, then make the decision of Utah or Hawaii. Home is where the 4 of you are ❤❤❤
100% this. Rent out your house, have your adventure while you’re all young and decide in two years where you’d like the kids to go to school. Your family will always be there for you. You have beautiful friends in Hawaii who also are your family.
Exactly ❤
They will likely home school.
Not good advice. It's crap. It's selfish.
IT GOES BOTH WAYS WITH KIDS. YES YOU SHOULD BE WITH YOUR KID WHEN THE OTHER GOES AWA, A NO BRAINER. ITS NOT ONE SIDED
You guys are crazy... you have it all where you are in utah. This is just craziness.... kids need family. Forget the fun. If you had a real job you would not say half of the things you say. Play this back and listen to what you are saying.
Both of you have been blessed you have a successful youtube. Not too many young couples can be self-employed in today's economy. You have two healthy children and have a beautiful home. You are now close to family. With everything that you have, it's a shock that you still find reason to complain. Fame and money has definitely been a factor to who you are now compared to who you were in the beginning. I always watched because you were a young couple living a wholesome & simple life.
Living a wholesome and simple life in HAWAII. They aren't complaining they are having doubts. It's ok to question your choices we never know what's 100% right for us and they only way to learn and grow is too take risks
I think that being close to family while your children are small is important. I think Hawaii is a good place to visit
Why is it so important! Relationship and wellbeing of the parents is what is really important.
Don't forget 2 or 3 stolen e-bikes and Sarah's pickup truck being stolen right from in front of your house OR how about the police/fire sirens going off all day and night because of the break ins and drugs, etc. Everything looks rosy until you're back where you started from and then you remember all the deeper reasons you wanted to move back to Utah. And don't forget Tanner, Lauren and the girls, not to mention both sets of your parents!
Very true keep up the closer bonds
My advice would be stay close to your parents the children need them in their life
Sometimes people have to remember that you can't have it all. There is not an ideal place to live anywhere in the world. When you have children, you have to think what is best for them. Imo, in your current situation, the best thing for you is to stay with your family. Your children growing up with their grandparents is precious and no place can replace that.
You should be thankful, that’s what you should do! Don’t be so spoiled just because you are a little uncomfortable in a big beautiful house near your family.
Wowww.
I agree. The house was over a million dollars for a couple so young.
I agree
They’re spoiled because they are considering moving back to where they have been living for years because they tried to move back to be near family to see? Get a life, you sound jealous. Just cuz they want to move doesnt make hem ungrateful. No matter he cost of he house, money doesnt equal happiness
I love how yall take turns spending one on one time with the kids! I love the balance yall have with one another! Such a healthy thing to do
Be happy with what you have and quit complaining.
Well said 👍 I honestly think they'll always be looking for somewhere better.
You don't have to be mean. It's perfectly normal for them to miss home especially if they stayed there for long. The fact that they're missing it doesn't mean they're ungrateful or complaining. There's no reason for you to be this bitter about it. Y'all need to get used to the fact that people are allowed to feel, talk about their feelings, and therefore process their thoughts and emotions. It's called being human.
Explain to me where they’re complaining? They lived there for a long time and decided to move to try it out. Now they’re wondering if they were better as a family back in Hawaii. You sound jealous and bitter. They should do what makes them happy. Wanting to move doesnt equal not being happy with what you have.
Idk there is something off in this relationship…Sara seems off and disengaged
💯 Way to into self these days. I'M OUT....🤦♀️
I’m not feeling it either. She’s always gone and seems bored and disconnected when she’s home.
I’m picking up the same vide. She’s totally disconnected.
She looks tired to me and is doing the best she can
Hopefully she's just tired
Can't wait to see all the Utah activities!
Sarah said..."he is always here on the couch".....she is such a witch.
What if you guys got a house in Hawaii and spent the summers there? That would be super fun and memorable for the kids. You get to see your friends and let the kids play together without feeling like you’re uprooting your kiddos from their school/family etc. once they’re that age.
I love watching you guys and your brother and sister in law but this topic is getting old. Just get a vacation home.
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I really hope Derek makes it through recovery soon. I don’t follow close enough though hope he does not require narcotic/pharmaceutical pain meds still. That can be a scary situation on top of the medical challenges.
Be safe whatever you do. Take great care.
It's totally your decision. Wherever you are happier! Whatever you decide, I support. You have beautiful babies that are well-adjusted and happy. As long as they are with you, that's what matters! 💞💞💞💞
Time for a Pros & Cons list. 😊❤
Idk in my mind Utah is soooooooo much better ! You can always take off to Hawaii for a month at a time, a couple times a year during your favorite times of the year
It is really nice that you two.Are secure in your relationship enough that you could take time apart to decompress.
Soon they will be in school and your entire life changes again. This is when you will make lifelong friends also from teams your kids are on. You are growing up and have had some knocks with your leg! Contentment is the greatest gift you can work on.
Thank you guys for the cool video!! You guys are awesome!! It's always good to see you guys!! Hope everyone is doing well!! I love you guys!! Have a blessed day!!
Follow your hearts. I moved to Hawaii last summer and could not be happier.
Love watching your videos. I would wait a little longer before you make another major decision give Utah a chance like you said you guys haven't really experience everything there yet, it takes time to get use to a big change you guys have a beautiful house now and kids seem happy your family is there to help with the kids when needed . Whatever you do just make sure you really think about it plus Jack will he starting school soon and you will meet other families and it could be a good thing too. But do whatever makes you and the family happy. Look forward to more videos ❤ God bless you all❤
Don't go back! Just visit Hawaii more often when you're missing Hawaii, but don't go back. I remember you had stuff stolen from you, and you guys felt targeted. Best wishes, whatever you decide. 🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤
I feel like your deep heart is in Hawaii..Go by that😊 Whatever you decide will be right at the time you are so young you can make changes frequently as long as you have a good foundation in your family unit, which you have. We will all support your decisions , as you are the best parents. Blessings 😍✌️
Hawaii is fun to visit . I’d never live there . Too humid huge bugs and it’s $$$$!
It needs to be said...people are SOOO overzealous with the pushy advice, criticisms, and virtue signaling bs. You guys are great, you are wonderful humans, you are figuring out life just like THE REST OF US, you're loving parents and a loving couple....remember to ALWAYS block out the noise and listen to God. He will never let you down!!!! I pray for all good things for you and your family ALWAYS. Love, S.❤
Right? People saying they’re ungrateful or spoiled or whatever are clearly jealous, bored people. Since when does someone have to just stay where they are? Life is short and goes quick and people should do whatever makes them happy, even if it means moving somewhere new all the time.
As someone who grew up with family far away. I never saw my grandparents or aunts and uncles so I had zero relationship with them. The most I saw my family was at funerals. Then I lost both my parents when I was relatively young both to sudden deaths mom at 19 car accident and dad at 26 heart attack. Please cherish your kids getting to be with their grandparents. It something even at 31 years old I wish my parents would have prioritized to this day. I prioritize it with my son and the in laws that we live close to. I am obsessed with Hawaii my husband and I went there 4 years in a row for a months at a time. But our perspective shifted once we had our son was born we prioritize time with family over everything else from truly understanding that people can be taken at any time.
STAY IN UTAH!! STAY WITH YOUR FAMILY & ALL THE CONVENIENCES IN UTAH 🎉🎉
Keep Hawaii as your vacation place!! Lots of cons there... especially theft & LONG DRIVES to stores you go to. You can go often so you won't miss IT SO much!!
Love you guys 😍😍
Here's a suggestion ... Why don't you all be "Young Snow Birds" Spend Hawaii off season in Utah (Christmas with grand parents). If you have a basement fix it up & rent out for income, or approach your brother about living in his basement. Share a house with your brother & his family in Hawaii. Have friends/family constently check on property when you aren't there or have a friend stay there. Somethig to think about because you & your brother's family are both torn. That way you get the best of both worlds. Wishing you well. ♡
I love your family so much you guys are so sweet
My son and I lived away from my family for his 14 years, only visiting 3 or 4 times a year. We just moved back to my hometown. When I see how much closer my niece (same age as my son) is to my parents and extended family, how much he missed out on, my heart breaks. He will never have those deep connections he should have with family. Stay put, give it some time. Your children deserve family, they cannot be replaced, and the missed time and experiences cannot be replaced. Yes, you do have a "chosen family" in Hawaii, that is fabulous for all, but the familial bonds run deep. They are fortunate to even have grandparents!
Sending prayers and love in what ever you decide to do
“To thine own self be true.”
Don’t listen to what anyone else has to say, follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you and your family.
There is a really no wrong choice here so that’s why you have to do what you feel is best for you.
Ok. I'm speaking as an old lady here, with a lot of mistakes and experiences behind me. I've lived in 4 states. All for good reasons. It seems to me that you are going through the indecision phase of your lives in terms of where you need to settle. The hard truth is - there is no magic formula for knowing which choice is "'best"". They are just different. And with each choice you will have to give up enormous joys and lifestyle possibilities that you can't have in the other place. It isn't a choice of ""Which is BETTER?" It's a choice of what can you give up and not be heartbroken when you are twenty years from now. What will you say ""I wish we had..." about? It's like when you choose a life partner to marry. SURE, there are always other choices in the future. But you jump off the cliff, make up your mind, and then you commit. Right? This is the same thing: You can move back and forth, back and forth, and I would be concerned that you are always chasing what you will never find - because you will always see the grass you left as greener. Right? So . . . with all that being said, I would suggest simply these questions: Do you want your kids to grow up without family around? Because my parents moved us across the country away from grandparents when I was 5. It changed me forever and not for the better. My mom told me just a few years ago, to my astonishment, that ""We never should have taken you from your grandparents."" (I am now 63.) Friends are never going to be what family is. NEVER. When you are so young, friends are everything. But as you age, you change, friends change in unexpected ways, and they drift away. They do not have the bonds that family does to you. And they just never will.... that group of friends will change, and some will not be there in the future... Secondly - think about this: Who will you BECOME in this place or that place? What things will be open possibilities to your growth and what will not? Also, who will your kids become? Because they will become different people depending on where you raise them. (I believe you are Mormon? As an example - they will not have a big Mormon family or church or community in Hawaii. Right? So how do you raise them as Christians, if that is important to you, in Hawaii? It will take more work and more planning is all.... Things like that example are what you need to consider. It isn't about which place is rainier, or more sporty, or more fun. It's about who you can become as you age and grow, and who your kids WILL become as they grow in one place as opposed to another.
Best of luck!! Pray on it.... you'll make the right decision.
There are a lot of Mormons in Hawaii. I live in Hawaii and there are so many religions. People here are so open minded to accept ALL people.
You all are doing fine! Healthy, happy kiddos, great friendships and relationships. You both have things you like to do together with friends and apart! Keep doing YOU!
I say go what makes you truly happy 😊 when your happy your children are happier as well. A lot of prayers for your family 🙏 God Bless 💕
why did you plan and build a brand new expensive home in utah if you knew you didn’t want to leave hawaii
Imagine what people who work real jobs go through.
Life is so short, do what feels right for your family, those that love you will come along for the chapter and be there for many others