Strict vs. Chill Parents - Your Couple Tea EP. 38
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Strict vs. Chill Parents - Your Couple Tea EP. 38
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I think Katie will be the strict parent and josh will be the chill parent ❤️
I think Josh would definitely be a chill but over protective(in a good way) dad🥰
34:00 Josh is definitely killing him..The boy better say his last prayers🤣🤣🤣
I’m so excited for you guys! I’ve found that the hardest part of parenting (have a 17yr old) is knowing you have the answers for them but not being taken seriously and then watching them make mistakes you could of helped them avoid. Unfortunately making mistakes is a part of life I just have to make sure that I am a safe space for my kid so that no matter what happens they can always come to me without judgement.
🖐️ I took my daughters door away once. She was a teen, she got a F in her favorite class (down from an A semester before) because she put zero effort into the class. She had a dance upcoming and I told her that IF she brought home a satisfactory progress report from the teacher, I would allow her to go to the dance. She forgot the progress report therefore, she was told she could not go to the dance.
My daughter proceeded to slam her bedroom door over and over and over and in the midst of her throwing a massive fit, which included screaming and kicking wildly on the floor, I warned her that if she didn’t stop slamming the door I would remove the door. She didn’t listen, I removed the door.
One piece of advice, don’t make threats that you have no intention of following through on.
My daughter brought that grade up to a B, she never failed another class, she learned her lesson and is now an amazing mother.
We still laugh about this incident. Some times you have to. 😂
Baby girl's due date is in 10 days🥺..She's going to be here any day now💞
I think invading a kid's privacy is one of the most awful thing's you can do and makes them dislike you. A kid shouldn't be uncomfortable in their own home. There is no valid reason to not have a door (and I do think they should have a lock, just make it a rule they can't lock you out)
We taught our children that all of us live in the house, thus each of us has responsibilities to live there. If we wanted money for something when young, we asked our parents. I still strongly believe in raising children this way.
Definitely be a parent that your kids feel they can tell you things. I'm 26 and I still feel like I can't tell my parents anything and it has caused so much conflict and resentment almost to the point I don't want to tell them anything. Also, make sure you are supportive of any decisions your child makes that they want to do for a living or want to do as long as it's legal and safe. I don't have that and it really has caused a lot of hurt
I'll be curious in a few years how your views may change. We all go into parenting with such high goals and intentions. Then life hits ya and your exhausted and overwhelmed and you do and say things ya never thought you would! I literally laugh at some of the things I said I would “ never “ do and out of sheer desperation I broke down and gave in. But you guys are going to do great! Jesus as your center and unconditional love is all ya need!
Honestly most kids only want locks if parents don’t respect privacy and or siblings but also when it comes to ur kid respect is not earned bc ur kid would never respect u if u didn’t respect them and that’s where a lot of parents fail think the kid needs to earn their respect no not until the lose it
Katie will be the strict parent and Josh will be chill parent. But both of u guys will be great parents! Can't wait for baby girl!!❤
My parents never removed a door to my room for punishment. I agree that there are better ways get a point across. Just from listening to this podcast I feel you both are on the same page when it comes to discipline. There will be times where you may each think differently about something, but I know you will discuss it and come to a mutual decision. Communication and consistency are key and you both do that very well! So excited for baby girls arrival earthside! Much love 🤍🤍💕🐶
I just started driving and when you guys were talking about how kids will be driving down your road going 60 I payed close attention because I felt like I needed to remind myself of those things and tell myself to be careful while driving down the road
Loved this episode, after listening to you both,
I think you're gonna be just fine when it comes to setting boundaries and discipline, your daughter is going to be a very lucky little girl to have such great parents 💕
Love you guys ❤ can't wait for baby girl
My brother got his door taken away because he would lock his dorm and not open it and sneak people in his bedroom so I think the door punishment is mostly for situations like that were the door will prevent them from doing whatever the bad thing is that they are doing in there room. Not like take door away for getting bad grades or something else unrelated like that.
My door was taken as a teenager for constantly slamming my door!
I asked my father what did we do before they came out with cell phones, things have changed so much!
I'm normally a silent ish subscriber but this door thing got me - I had my door taken away at age 15 by my parents. This was because I wasn't allowed my own privacy. At this point they had already taken my phone, and grounded me for about 6 months due to lying to them about where I was, who I was with, I let people that I didn't know into our home, I was skipping school, I was hanging out with people that were getting me in trouble with the police. I was a very very angry teenager and anything my parents did, didn't help. So they took my door - this meant they could listen to the things I was saying, they could see me in half my bedroom, but also to prove it me that everything will be taken if I didn't fix the way I was acting
About the door thing
My parents would take off my door if I slammed it. I would also have to apologize to the door- I hated it because I had like 0 privacy.
That is epic, apologize to the door 😂😂
@@trinataco4493 YES FR
I don’t think either of you would be too strict but I feel like Katie will be more strict for sure and Josh would be the fun parent and also protective considering he’s gonna be a girl dad! Dads are usually VERY protective of their daughters and with that comes a little bit of strictness but only to protect her from harm and pain
Love y’all’s videos also first y’all with be chill parents
Children who are raised with strict rules may exhibit rebellious behavior and have low self-esteem. They have the potential to become bullies and may experience a lack of self-confidence, depression, anxiety, and even engage in self-harm. It is important for us to raise our children in the proper manner. We should consider the future when they are 18, 20, or older. Do we want them to continue caring for us, participate in family gatherings, and seek our guidance during difficult times?
I do think Katie will be more of the discipliner and a bit more strict. Josh is going to be chill
I had my door taken as a kid, for about 6 months, I’m 20 years old now, and my mom is a narcissist. I can’t even remember what I did it was something very minute and she took away my door, then after I got my door later I got in trouble again and she took my room away for 3 weeks and gave me 3 outfits to wear. Definitely didn’t agree with these punishments I think other methods would have been more effective and they just made me resent her. She locked the room door from the outside so I couldn’t go in and also took away my books as a punishment
3 outfits???That's super extreme🙃
@@Divine1767right!? She doesn’t treat my younger siblings this way either. I think she resented me because I wasn’t planned and she was so young
KATIE!!!!! Stop interrupting joshh so annoying 🤣 my gawwwd
OMG I am 41 years old and my parents were specifically my mother because I came from a divorced family took my daughter away however, it was for a good reason and it taught me a lesson and it was because I would get mad at her and I would slam my bedroom door and she warned me that if I kept slamming my door, I would come home one day and it wouldn’t be there so that was my punishment
I always got threatened to get my door taken away because I would slam it when I was mad!
My parents took my door away bc I slammed it and locked it. My room was on the other side of the house so I still had privacy but they were pissed bc I slammed it and locked them out in the middle of an argument. They also cut the power to my brothers room bc he wouldn’t turn his music down. I got my door back a few days later and my brothers power was only off for the night but we both never did that again.
yup that was me, if i slammed the door that was the treat😂
The door comes off if your child doesn't learn to stop slamming the door when angry
About the removing the door thing... they usually take it away because they slammed it, like one time my mom did that to my door when I was younger because I slammed it
My family also puts the towel on the laundry basket after one use.. just because when we leave the shower we wipe the whole bathtub with it.. and we always have a clean shower.. of course we scrub the bathtub once a week but everyone after the shower cleans it so its nice dry and clean for the next person ✌🏻🌸
My parents took away my door because I would get mad and slam it all the time. I somewhat agree because I no longer slammed my door however I also disagree because it just added on to the anger and they really should have dealt with the root cause of why I was slamming the door.
Josh chill Katie a bit strict but also both really fun
Katie is definitely the strict one lol
My parents took my door away when I was a teenager because my mom and I got into a fight and I slammed the door. So they took it away for atleast a month, maybe longer I don't remember! I personally wouldn't agree with this as the punishment went way farther than the action. I wasn't able to change or anything in my room, or have any privacy at all!
My husband smoked weed as a child and his dad took his door off, just so he couldnt sneek anymore lol
i have a bunch of friends whos parents still take their door off. Its just out of pettiness if im honest,there's no good reason to take someones door 😂
With my kids, they would get a phone once they were doing things alone like home, sports, going to friends houses etc. They have limits on them. However yes we didn’t have them growing up, but everyone had home phones. This is a way for my kids to get a hold of me and viscera. 8 isn’t at that age though.
I got my door taken when I was a freshman in highschool because I slammed my door
I used to not re-use towels at my parents house either , then I lived in an apt without a washer /dryer and that stopped right away lol
removing the door is punishment for slamming it shut on their parents
Which is funny to me bc honestly I know when that kid slams the door it’s bc I made them mad I’d rather them slam a door then hit me cuss me out or any number of things like slamming a door is honestly so innocent and let’s the anger out all in one
My parents took my door off when I wouldn’t stop slamming my door! I didn’t like it and I think it was effective because I stopped slamming my door!
My parents have took my door away because I was hanging out with my friends that are girls and I have my door locked because we were just spending time together and the next day my mom after they left she yelled bc I had the lock on the door and she took the door off this was 3 weeks ago and I don’t agree with it because it takes kids privacy away I got my door took for a year
12:59 Didn't even know that was a punishment..That's just weird😂😂
Parents sometimes would take the door away for their safety if you know what I mean.
My parents took my door off once because I would slam in shut in anger.. but I totally don't agree! I think communication and setting examples is the best form of parenting
My brother once got his door taken off because he slammed it super hard when he was mad at my mom.
Also when I had my phone taken I did get a flip phone with minutes. for emergencies. I will definitely do that will my kid.
I’m 20 and my parents look my door and bed away. But I was also a really bad kid. Taking those things away in my opinion I would say humbled me bc I learned that everything shouldn’t just be handed to you essentially living in a house with parents that had money… but in the long run did it make me learn from the mistakes I did to have the door off absolutely not. I don’t even remember why they did it. (I did get spanked and my phone taken and other reinforcements were tried before which I definitely deserved a lot of the punishments I got. On another note… my mom look soccer and sports away from me and my sister. Which we both are very athletic and loved sports so I feel like when we had to that taken we wouldn’t be able to go see our friends and I’d lose my starting spot because I missed practice that week. We would have to earn our spots back BUT I feel like that pushed me away from my parents. I was always in trouble ALWAYS but my parents were always arguing and were not good together at all. So I was hurt and has resentment of things I’ve heard them say about us and other stuff… in the end I feel like none of the punishments helped. I just did it 10x worse the next time but that’s not for every kid and it doesn’t mean just let it go. But you will have to find what works for y’all!
My parents too my door away because I kept slamming the door when I got in trouble and locking my parents out. After so many times being told they took it
My door was taken off when I slammed the door & locked it and refused to open it. Definitely sucked for the privacy aspect but oh well
My dad did take my door off once as a punishment for having it close when I wasn’t changing. I definitely don’t agree with that as a punishment. But my parents have gotten better at being more understanding of how things are a bit of an invasion of privacy. I think it’s just different with everyone how they see that but personally I don’t agree at all with that as a punishment
They didn't let you close your door unless you were changing?😮
@@minagrujic yep 😐
These are good questions for us new parents😊
It was the comparing the kid to a dog, for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My parents made me do chores and gave me money if I wanted to go out with friends. If I didn’t do chores then I didn’t earn the money to go do stuff if that makes sense
We need an update. With the questions to see what actually came true or not so far lol😅
Hey Katie and josh ❤
14:20 I’ve had my door taken a few time for idk what reason.
I think my parents would only take my door off if I slammed it over and over again than yes but my parents would prob never do that
My brother got his door taken away bcs he was suppose to keep his door open when he had his girlfriend over then one time he had his door closed and my mom when in to go ask what they wanted for supper but when she open the door the were doing the notty stuff and he was 16 thats why they took the door away but only for a week.
my parents removed my door one time because i kept slamming it when i was mad
Love you guys so much!
I think Katie is going to be the strict parent and I think Josh is going to be the chill parent
I’m 17 years old, and my parents beg me to go out with my friend’s bc all I do is go to school, work and the gym
Having my location tracked made me sneaky cause I just hated the feeling of having no freedom. As soon as I turned 18 and didn’t have to share it I went nowhere. Don’t be a helicopter parent all you’re going to do is make a sneaky kid you resents you.
My parents took my door away once because I talked back and ran up the stairs and slammed my door. My poor grandma came the weekend and stayed and my room without a door 😂. My parents always said privacy is a privilege. Lesson learned 😂😂
Katie strict and Josh chill
Great video! I have a question. What would you do if your child comes out to you as queer, transgender or non-binary?
I got an allowance but I always put it in our basement because I wanted to save my money and I don't think there is no point in removing a door or putting a lock on your child's door but depending on how you raise them u should put on ur child's door!
Never had my door taken away but have almost gotten it taken away. I didn’t keep my room clean and they threatened to take it away and I don’t think it’s right but I understand where they were coming from. Btw I was around 7 years old
My dad ha
I agree but sadly most schools make you have a c or higher to play in their school league i had to have a b to be able to play hockey for my highschool
When I was in like 4th grade I got my door taken away because I would slam it when I was mad
They had their baby !?????????
Depending on if u can trust ur child!
Love y’all
Hey about door I would if they wear slamming the door
I wish you were my parents 😊😊❤lol
i think josh and katie with both be chill be i think katie will be a little more strict
Temper tantrum resulting in door slamming got my sons door removed.
Would you rather them slam a door or hit you in the moment of anger ? Kids do that to release something in them that they can hardly control themselves bc they’re still developing
@@arielschweitzer7056 this happened 20 years ago and solve the problem, however I see your point
Katie my mom took my door away because I snuck somebody in my window 😂
Shiit just say dam it not damn it 😂
I love your video but I also gotta ask, where did you get your phone case, Katie?! It’s so cute! I love cases that color that are like silicone
Honestly doing an allowance can help teach money management early on
But not like for doing nothin I mean like do a chore list and if they complete it at the end of the week they get 15-20 not to much but it’s something to start with
but what if her grades are going down because the sports she is participating in is overworking her to the point where her performance in her grades is going down?
Time management you gotta teach that and if they love the sport you just gotta help them figure out how they can manage their time better which is difficult with extra sports
I think I’d get my kid a phone once they start going to school but they only have it during that time to call home in case of an emergency but who knows how I’ll feel in a couple years
my mom didn't take the door ,but she did take the door nob and I think its wrong genuinely because people won't give privacy .
I totally agree and think kids should not have electronics. The amount of parents I see as a waitress just set up iPads for all their kids at dinner it's ridiculous it's like just talk to your kids! have conversations like people wonder why the kids don't wanna talk to them and its bcuz, they let them opt out. I'd rather have my kid have a busier schedule with sports than time to just waste on electronics
Fyi lots of kids don't care for sports. I'm one of them anime, manga, art and video games where my hobbies. I just never gave an f about sports or competition my interest did not lie there, please don't force sports onto kids.
@@XMissGX yeah but if they srnt sporty thats fine! They can get into arts, reading, music, etc. i think kids who "like" video games are because there parents didnt care enough to have them be active
A lock yes.
I wish Joshua was my dad lol but like
In my house my parents used to take my brothers door away for slamming it when we were kids, we’re a couple years younger than you guys I’m 19 he’s 23
I was not allowed to make c’s. I made one, and was on restriction for the entire summer. I could only practice on my clarinet, and read encyclopedias. I had to write every day what I learned.
I had the door one taken from me, not for nude photos or doing things I shouldnt of been doing but as simple as slamming the door every time I ran to my room... was more a lesson of if your not going to respect it I'll remove it 😂😂 happened a few times
But lemme guess those times u slammed it it was bc they did something to make u mad or a sibling like better to slam a door then punch someone at least for me 😂
My mom didn’t give me and iPad until I was 12 but she gave me a flip phone at 6 just incase something happened when I was out in the neighborhood with friends and then until I was 13 it was thos like cheap Walmart ones
Don’t blink those teenage years come real fast. Your going to be great parents,just raise them to know the Lord
Or let your kids decide if they want to be religious.
When is her due date please? My memory sucks
September 5th:)
Yeah they plan to raise their kids how their parents raised them when parenting styles and all that have evolved
I got a phone at 11 years old