Asking My Wife Questions Guys Are Too Afraid To Ask (Ep.15)
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- Опубликовано: 8 июн 2024
- Asking my wife questions guys are too afraid to ask
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00:00 - Intro
01:10 - Legetarians & Gnomies (so good, no good)
08:11 - Do girls actually like being asked out?
11:35 - How can guys present themselves to make girls feel more comfortable?
14:19 - Let's talk about girls periods
15:36 - How uncomfortable are Tampons?
17:28 - When do you change your pads?
19:43 - Why do girls steal guys food?
22:11 - Can women control their pee stream like men?
25:34 - Dad bods, Jacked, or just fit
28:11 - What common behaviors make guys seem creepy to girls?
32:12 - How do you deal with going through puberty and becoming a woman?
37:32 - Does a man's job change how attractive he is? 
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Gabe is correct in the WILL YOU GIVE ME A HUG question. My guy friends have educated me about this, never let a guy hug you if you are not comfortable, and they told me the same exact reason.
Eugh! Terrifying to tell men no tbh.
@@nia5128don’t take this the wrong way but if you are scared to tell any guy no they should not be in your life. If you see all men this way maybe therapy is the answer. 99+% of guys out there care that your yes is truthful. If you are scared to say no then your yes is not a yes. If I ever heard my one of my sisters was afraid to say no to some guy he would end up in a hospital.
As a guy, can confirm. I never asked for a hug, but as a teenager, anytime a girl did hug me, all I was thinking about was her body touching mine. The brain of a teenager is extremely simple, more so for boys. So yeah, don't think a teenage boy who isn't in a relationship with you is hugging you for any other reason.
I’m Indian so periods are such a taboo thing especially back then, so I wasn’t really allowed to tell my brothers about it but I did it anyways. They all now know everything about the female body because I refuse to leave my brothers uneducated about a woman’s body so he can at least understand how to go about certain situations.
Please don’t take this as rude because I am just a curious young girl…. Why is it so taboo? When an Indian man gets married do they end up being able to hear about it from their wife or is it still taboo? I’ve always thought as an American woman that it’s weird that society talks about it but men or boys don’t really feel comfortable talking about it until their older older… or married. Lol I was 25 when my dad finally was secure to talk about it with me and buy tampons… lmao I’m his youngest out of 3 girls🤣
I think it's cuz it's "girls problem" you know....well in India people think women are impure during periods and bla bla .... anything to put women down...let me tell you now periods are pretty normal and boys do know about them here, at least boys from modern and non-orthodox families.. like my mother would never let me go to temple during periods but she would also never stop me to talk about periods in front of my brother or father rather she would allow me to make my older brother do all the work with period as an excuse..
Just gonna say, that as a girl, I didn't know I had 3 holes either. Only at about 15-16 when I started using tampons, did I ask my mother how I was gonna pee with it in. So Gabe, it's ok, you're not alone😅
Growing up, it was the cat calling at 13-14 that made me realize I was growing into a womanly body. It was the weird looks from male family members like “oh she’s changed” and even weirder ones sometimes too..
Oh, that’s horrible and gross 😢 But sooo relatable
So sad but so true unfortunately. It was kind of traumatic and made me lowkey not like my new body as a woman because it brought on these awful gazes.
Cat crawling is so crazy because I got cat called a TON as a teenager, and in my 20s? Like twice. It's yucky.
Sadly the truth. As a guy, Ik it's weird, so I always try to make any girl comfortable as I can. Just know that a guy will see a body(curves) on a female and he'll asume she's a grown women.
Would love an episode on how you guys celebrate holidays, what traditions you guys have/have had, and talking about thing like Santa, the Easter bunny, etc. with the kids
31:40 I'm a girl and I 100% agree with Gabe on this. Like totally true! its what people kept talking about in our school as well. Guys definitely ask for that
just wanna say i’m a guy and listen to your podcast. love the relationship conversations, mental health and learning about you guys and marriage as i walk with my wife through our marriage!!
Love that!
The awkward half smile is so me!😂😭 I do it automatically and then regret it instantly! It's such a weird face😂
ABOUT THE HUG THING : I think it depends on the guy but my boyfriend's "can i have a hug?" is definitely his flirting technique to initiate the first kiss. And when he asked me that on our first date, it was clear for the both of us that "can i get a hug?" was code for "can i kiss you?" PS : I said "no" the first time he asked 🤣
I’m obsessed with the podcast content! I loved your guys vlogs but the podcast form is so good, feels more like we’re involved in the convo and hanging out with you guys! 😊
Unfortunately Gabe is right about the High School guys hugging thing. Young guys need to be taught by their fathers, or other older men how to treat women properly and not think of them in such shallow terms.
Sad but true.
Happens with men of all ages
Yesss!!! Talk about the awkward subjects!! The only way they get less awkward and more normal is if we 👏talk👏about👏it👏. Go you guys for being so honest and wholesome. LOVING this SOOOO MUCH🎉
Wholesome childhood “I just loved Disney channel” Jess and I relate more than I ever thought we would ❤😂 I loved this episode!
Sometimes, i am so jealous of people like Jess, who can proudly say "i had a wholesome childhood". These people seem to me that they start on a very different level than me or other people with weird/full of abuse childhood. I mean our nervous systems are different, we react different as a result of trauma responses, there are so many complexes to unpack once you grow up. I try not to think that way.. but sometimes i just wish i could say that. I wish i didn't have to deal with all these.. every child deserves a wholesome childhood 😔
I had a wholesome childhood too, but I always think about that - what you explained - when I'm with someone who I know has baggage. It changes everything! It's not an excuse to be a crappy person, but it IS a reason for all of us to be gracious and always assuming the best of others. ❤️ I wish you the best in your journey of healing from your childhood and I hope that you receive the love you deserve.
@@elliejohnson8146 aww thank you so much! I am so so happy you had a wholesome childhood!😁
It depends on what you do yourself too whether you had great parents or not great. So I am working on it!! I am on therapy and I am trying to create my inner (and outter as much as i can) stability.
I've never expected to receive kindness and compassion on YT, so you've made my day! I hope you have a great day (and life haha🥳)
Gosh, such a relatable comment 😢
I relate to this so much. I look at my friends who have a wholesome family relationship and feel that going to their parents is a safe space for them. It is hard to grasp that it is such an accessible reality for them, yet not for us. It's horrible to think that once you grow up, you realise you were robbed of a happy and normal childhood, which no kid deserves to go through. But, I feel as though people with these experiences become the best parents because they want to give their children what they didn't have.
You don’t feel tampons when they’re in. However, if you aren’t bleeding a lot and then take it out dry, it hurts really bad. But if you’re bleeding a lot, you can tell, and then it doesn’t hurt to take out. It’s definitely a feeling when you know to take it out but also we know not to leave them in very long so we pay attention to the time. Hope this helps!
Although you do feel them if they aren’t placed right 😊
I’ve experienced the “can I get a hug” in high school only. It always made me feel uncomfortable, more so if we weren’t that close of friends.
I had the same wholesome childhood as Jess! I know exactly what she’s talking about with most of this podcast!
She's completely correct about the food sharing😊
I agree more with Gabe personally haha. If we're going to share it needs to be established before we order 😂
I love when jess and Gabriel go off topic and just banter
Gabe is absolutely right on that hug thing!!!
I love you guys!!! Jess, Gabe is right on the hugging. Every Man's battle will wake you up on how guys are. Not their fault, just how they were wired. That's why I don't give men frontal hugs anymore. I do a side or keep my purse (crossbody) between the both of us
Ohh I cringed so hard remembering one of these incidents! Yikes 😅 there are some guys who don't even say anything and just go in for a hug.
I do this too
Listening to your podcast feels like sitting down with friends after dinner and having a chill conversation. Interesting questions 👍
Gabe is 100% right about the hugging thing. Ive been told by one of my past guy friends that thats why he hugs me and other girls 💀
JESS 🤣🤣🤣 “you brought up this question so we could talk about how jacked you are” 😝 they’re so stinkin cute!
This was a great episode!!
You guys are so much fun this episode was really fun and definitely TMI but still really funny
Love your guys podcast 😂❤️
Girls can definitely control their stream lol. My mom always told me it was good to practice starting and stopping peeing bc it would build the muscle and control for later after giving birth. 😅
Actually Gabe was right on this topic. It isn’t good to stop and start your stream. I use to do this as exercise also, I can’t remember exactly why but, it is bad for you.
I actually heard it is good for you it tightens the muscles , it’s basically like kegel exercise- which are good if you have a loose pelvic floor or just gave birth - but it’s probably healthier to do kegel exercises when you’re not peeing.
Oh I'm with Gabe on this one. Guys definitely want to feel a girl's body when they ask you for a hug. Its because once you start viewing girls as the opposite sex every touch is a huge deal be it a handshake, a hug or whatever.
Oh my gosh, defenitly would reccomend the salt mensturual cup. (Pinkish one). i prefer pads mostly too unless im swimming then i liked tampons, but i tried the mensturual cup awhile ago and couldnt get it right but watched videos and informational articles, anywho, tried it again in the c formation, and im literally obsessed with it. You cant get toxic shock syndrome from it, can wear it for 12 hours, i only do it during the day, and depending how heavy your flow is you only have to change it like 1-3 times a day, and you just rinse it off with water or unscented soap made for the cup before inserting it again. I also wet it with water before inserting it which helps, but It holds a ton! I thought i would spill it everywhere too but literally easily just pushed down and pulled it out. There sometimes is a weird suction feeling when taking it out but, i didnt leak, or have to worry about it. Then you sanitize it at the end of your cycle and can reuse them. Cant even feel it if its in correctly but theres different kinds deonding if you have a low or high cervix to see how comfortable it is.
Just here to say the cup is amazing (I also thought I would spill everywhere and haven’t yet after a year of using it). It has literally changed my life for the better 😂
The cup is super handy, but is bad for your pelvic floor unfortunately 😢
I loved the convenience of it however I definitely noticed a difference in my pelvic floor so I stopped using it. A big issue was the suction and it not properly breaking.
Gab is totally right about that hug thing 😂
I really love this episode!
"Like a faucet sort of vibe" 😂 I'm dying!!
YOU NEED TO TRY THE CUP!!! Changed my life!
switched to cup about 2 years ago, and it's such a good lifestyle change.
Jess you should definitely give it a try!
Going off the first question, I had a guy come up to me and say “we’re still good for dinner on Thursday at 7 right” and I kindly had to let him know I was married😂 felt so bad, commended him on his confidence but oof 🥴
I feel like the feeling of having a period is hard to explain, it’s not a feeling that guys can physically experience. Normally I don’t feel it but when it comes out a glob I can feel it, it feels so weird.
For me I don’t change my pads if my flow is medium. If it’s heavy I will change it every couple hours.
About the pee streams, I don’t know if we can make it slower, but we can definitely make it stronger by pushing and stop it for a bit by using the muscle called “pelvic floor muscle”, which controls the release of urine, and alsooo, it’s good to do exercises with that muscle like squeezing (which by doing that stops the pee streams) and releasing, so you don’t have problems when you are older by having incontinence because the muscle is weak. But don’t try to stop your pee streams every time and for long, because it’s also not really good if you do it like that
laughing so hard with the period questions omg!!
Loved this episode, so many funny moments
Definitely worth trying a cup or disk! I hated tampons and felt pads were gross and using a cup makes the day easier, and I just change it in the shower. Disks also self empty while you pee!
A very happy podcast is awesome
As an Aussie I love tampons without applicators and when I was studying abroad in the US I literally couldn’t put a tampon in because they all had applicators and they made it harder for me to put it in. I agree with Jess, it’s so much easier just to put it in yourself
Also story time, this was in regards to guys coming up to you topic. I was in Barnes in noble the other day, looking around, I dropped my keys and this guy that was walking next to me went to pick them up, when I was closer to it, so it was awkward but I was like ok he’s just being nice. And then he said merry Christmas and cute keychain.. a few minutes later I’m in the Bible section, and I see him casually walk up like as if he’s looking in the same section. Within a minute, he addresses me again and says hey I think you’re really pretty and wanted to know if I could get your number. I panicked and didn’t know what to say lol so I said I was dating someone sorry. And then he proceeded to chat with me about well he figured if it was meant to be he would see me again etc.. 😳 at this point I’m trying to politely remove myself from the conversation. I ended up buying the book and left. I then went to target, it was in the same shopping complex. I was in the clothes section and I looked over and I see him! Looking at girls clothes right next to me… I immediately got weirded out and left. I couldn’t tell what was happening, that didn’t feel like a coincidence. He had to have followed me the minute I left Barnes and noble. I understand guys need to shoot their shot and that’s ok but don’t do that guys 😂
Gabe is right with the hug part
Love love your podcast I just wish the intro clip wasn’t so long and choppy. I get that it’s small clips about each topic but I find myself skipping 1-2mins just to get to the beginning of the video lol I’m not hating I truly love the show it’s just a pet peeve, idk if I’m the only one 😅😅
Lovvvee this podcasttt
love you guys
I agree with Gabriel when it comes to the hugs
did anyone else laugh at the way jess says "tattoos" lool
How? I’m Australian so I guess it sounds completely normal to me
@@soullessnight6539 yeah thats why its funny to me. not used to hearing it like that with the accent
Taddoos 😆 obsessed
@@kellycroke3614 exactlyyy lol
Love your channel
JESS TRY A DISC!!! They’re life-changing and so much better than a cup. I am a heavy period girlie too and I only have to empty a couple times a day. In the past, I had to use the giant tampons and change them like every hour. It works like a tampon but it holds more and the best part is there is no more scent and yucky feeling in your undies. I use the lumma and it’s my favorite!! Discs are also better than cups because you can use them during sessy time. They are the best and that is a hill I will die on.
Laughing so hard this whole episode 😂😂
The carnival game is genius 🔥
Love youuu guys
Not a guy but I think you are both right about the hug thing. I think accepting the hug is a cue that they’ve gotten a step further and at the same time their little guy brains are excited for the physical element
My favorite couple ❤ love both of you! I'm a follower since 2016, that's crazy ❤
Jess as a person who feels the exact same way with tampons I also hate the feeling of being in a “blood diaper” try a cup. It’s actually so much better!! Just imagine you’re struggling for money and needing pads or tampons they’re so expensive!!! The cup lasts like a little while and when it’s in I really can’t feel it! I hope it helps!
Gabe’s reaction at flirty guys 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This was great ! 😂
I’m living for the Gnomie comment ahahah its got me giggling
I personally think on the creepy question that two guys can do and say exactly the same thing. One will be deemed cute and the other deemed creepy, and it all depends on whether the girl already has interest in the guy or not. Not sure if I'm explaining it correctly or not.
Edit: I'm an old dude. Hugs have the definite benefit that Gabe stated. Jess is incorrect on this one.
Whilst I agree, guys need to understand and put themselves in the girls shoes. The same would be true if the roles were reversed. If a girl they deem pretty approaches them, they feel like they just entered heaven😂 but, if it is a girl they deem unattractive, would laugh about her to his friends once she left.
BRINGS BACK MEMORIES of Gabe thinking a pad is on the skin....LOLOLO
Gabe is correct about the hugs. I have them do that to me all the time
Gabe passionately explaining his stream game invention is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
Loved this video! so legenarian
"So first of all I don't remove it when I go pee....his look of total disbelief is hilarious
Australia does have applicators 😂 the tampax brand
My girl is so beautiful and happy 😁😁 we could be somewhere turkey this week
In Australia we do have tampon applicators. I don’t know what brand but I have seen them and people in my family use them
You guys are such legendarians🫶🏻
As a guy both of you are correct in regards to hugging girls lol.. Although leaning more towards Jess personally!
I live in Europe. I don’t use tampons anymore but I preferred the ones without the applicator. I think they are made with rayon. So it expands when wet as opposed to the U.S ones which seem to already be expanded in size.
Def gonna start using the word, “legeterian” from now on
you neeeeeeed to try a cuppp!! it changed my whole relationship with my period
As a guy on the hug thing, I think it's more nuanced than that, and I disagree with Gabe in general. I don't really ever ask for hugs from girls. The one time I can think of, in college all the guys would greet each other with a handshake and the girls with a hug. Once I was leaving a room and there was a girl there who I absolutely wasn't interested in, but I said bye to her, then thought better of it, and walked over just for a quick hug. And she sort of chuckled. And based off that chuckle I was like, oh, that hug probably wasn't necessary to complete the goodbye, and maybe somewhat unwanted. So now like, I only hug a girl when she initiates. 95% of hugs, like greeting hugs or goodbye hugs, good guy technique to not be creepy is to do like a side hug, place your sternum solidly on their shoulder bone. Zero breast contact. The very occasional hug where you hug the body is like, a close friend or relative in a really emotional moment you want to cherish in some way. But to Gabe's point I think that's too broad. Sometimes guys will ask for a hug if it's part of a pattern or practice to greet/part with hugs, not because they want to feel you up per say but because they feel indignified by the fact that you didn't think to give them a hug when you walked in, or before you left. Which is also a bad reason to ask for a hug but not solely creepy.
37:33 It's not that women are attracted to the financial status of a man's job, I think it's also what the job IS. Some women will prefer a man who does physical labor through firefighting or construction, others might prefer a man who's a teacher because he works well with kids, others might prefer a man who works hard by leading an organization.
The financial side is a big part of it because men can show themselves to be protector by providing resources to a woman (security), but it's also the personality and work ethic that goes along with the career (hardworking, dedicated, leadership, etc.)
I missed my chance to ask her out, but as a fifteen-year-old boy from Australia i was way too nervous and realistically I think it was funny it never worked cos many years later, they together now, and one of you tubes best couples so things turn out better anyway
This POD was legetarian
Omg Gabe not knowing anything about periods is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
Australia actually has tampons with applicators, not very common but we do have! The brand’s tampax
Gabe talking about hierarchy and women’s attraction to men who can provide- Just tell us you’re a Jordan Peterson fan. We won’t judge you. 😜 haha
I thought this was a super interesting conversation to listen to though. Appreciate the honesty you guys always bring with you. And the fact that you’re not afraid to admit the awkwardness in life. My husband and I were both homeschooled also so it resonates. 😂
Gabe that pee idea is brilliant
can y’all do a Am I The Asshole type podcast and give your opinions on stuff that would be really fun and cool
And the ad before the video started was about periods haha
Also, as far as the “can I get a hug” bit, as a man, I would have to agree with Gabe. Guys say it because they want to feel the woman’s body against theirs. If they wanted to go to the next level they wouldn’t need a hug to do that.
Lol my husband thought that the wings on a pad stuck to a woman's thighs!😂
Jess you have to try menstrual discs they are life changing! I hated tampons and would tolerate pads but found them still so uncomfortable and gross. Now I only use menstrual discs! Try flex cups, they are disposable discs that way you can try and get the feel of it before buying the reusable ones😊
No way 😭 that is so funny I really thought our US high school education health class didn’t fail us
You guys are legetarians!!
This came up while I was watching another video of yours lmao I need to catch up asap
Absolutely agree with gabe about the hug thing. Guys absolutely wanna feel the body lol 🤢
I think you should make merch with "norwah" on it lol
As a girl, we can absolutely control the pee stream 😂
Listening to peeing conversation..for a second i was like what the hell i am Listening rn😂😂
Anyway its always fun to Listen your podcasts ❤
Hearing them talk about periods just reinforces the fact that they are really weird and hard to fully explain. Yet, we just get used to it and keep on doing it for years and years. 🤷🏻♀️
Hey, I am from Germany and we have also Tampons without the applicator. And for all of you who use pads and are not really a fan - try reusable period underwear! It is not like a diaper and is less wet when it is full. Or try Cups or discs. They can stay longer and you have less mess. Also, it is more environmentally friendly and it saves money!
as a 24 year old male, yes high school guys just want any form of physical action they can get, and yes just for a hug that's the reason, gabes right with that, high school boys that is
16:45 I am in Australia, central tablelands to be exact, and you can buy tampons with their applicator, but they’re useless 😅.
I’m a girl and I actually didn’t know we had three holes 😂 I thought our period and our urine came out of the same hole until like 3 months ago 😂
I thought so too before I got my periods