Any time I got a “professional bra fitting” I came out with a super expensive bra that was unbearably uncomfortable after an hour or two. So I tried using this method you demonstrated and discovered that bra sizes are definitely not standardized. A 36C from one manufacturer with be a totally different size than 36C from another manufacturer. It’s a losing battle.
They also often give you an inaccurate size when they fit you to make sure everyone fits into their smaller range-they don’t want to manufacture a large range of sizes, so cram everyone into the same narrow range. This was especially the case a decade ago when Victoria’s Secret was at its heights.
@missmayflower I understand your frustration. I hv wasted money like you. Later I found a brand which fits me well and stuck with that. Whenever it is on sale I will purchase as comfortable bras are expensive.
Same about me. Recently I went to an expensive lingerie store, where the trying is with the assistance of a shop-lady. I do not know what her qualifications were, but she simply brought me several bras for me to try on. No measurements, just like that. And not much choice for larger breast size (not huge, but just larger than at skinny ladies). So to find a good bra is a difficult task. Seems that designers prefer small breasts, but we are all different.
Thank you Audrey. I'm a single parent (father) and my daughter is maturing to this point so this video has helped a great deal. I'll watch your other videos as well as getting my daughteer to watch them too. I find your presentation very professional and you have a clear and simple way of teaching. Caspian.
Hey i was raised by my single dad! I'm so glad you have the internet to help now. I ended up with some pretty questionable haircuts cuz he didn't know the detangler (go to a stylist, not supercuts!) and some rather horrid clothing options (a time he gave me a free red Marlboro t shirt some smoker gave him redeemed from cigarette coupons, and i paired it with red jeans >_< like a weird crayon). He leveled up from my first period (" i don't know! Just read the box!") to always carying emergency tampons in his car (this was before apps that predicted the start date). Take her to macy's never victoria's secret! The bras are sized wrong and give stretch marks.
I don't know how you do it, Audrey, but you never judge anyone any decision they might make. You give all the options but never judge some as better than others. You are so very thoughtful. Thank you. :) All the best, Susan.
Yeah she is very thoughtful and she talks so well and feels like the best friend or sis you would like to talk to . She must be awesome with her nieces and kids ...they are so lucky
So pleased to hear the reference 'boring style is best' when it comes to a well fitting undergarment. Women tolerate a great deal of nonsense when it comes to lingerie and underwear garments, designed by men who choose not to consider comfort or function over form but focus purely on glamour and sex appeal which translates to "expensive" and "profit margins". When was the last time you saw glamour underwear for men - try never, their focus is support and comfort.
not to mention ridiculous materials. A lot "sexy" underwear is polyester or other synthetic stuff, uncomfortable lace... Especially in case of panties, it's an absolute nightmare for vaginal hygiene. All obgyns will tell you that panties should be 100% cotton or other similar breathable material, otherwise bacterial and yeast infections will occur. Yet still you get all of these adverts of expensive synthetic lingerie, just cuz they are "pretty". young girls are especially gullible.
@@Xia-hu Young girls are always gullible - it is the necessary learning curve to maturity & adulthood. There is one option for breathability -removable pantiliners are a buffer between the clinging non-breathability of synthetics and your sensitive nether regions.
to be fair I do feel pretty and cute while wearing them! obvs I have a lot of 'normal' underwear for my day to day, but if Im going out I like to dress up underneath as well if that makes sense? for no one but myself lol! i wish men had glamour underwear! I totally get what you are saying though, the focus is more so on being attractive than being comfortable.
I love that you were so inclusive with all the different possibilities and options for anyone who might be watching including those who *want* to show, not hide and even right down to those who might prefer to not wear anything underneath at all!
My mother was a professional bra fitter (worked in a high end department store in the foundation’s department). I have always had a properly fitted bra and because of my mother, always had the proper undergarments as well! I was probably the only girl in high school that wore a girdle (that was in the 60s before Spanx hit the market)! My Mom would tell me, “No daughter of mine is going out in public with her fanny a flappin!” And to this day (now 71 years old) I don’t go out with my fanny a flappin’! Good well fitted undergarments are a must! Thank you for this video! And don’t forget the slip under thinner material dresses and skirts!
😮 Oh my goodness, that word means a totally different thing in Australia. I was so shocked when I read that comment and so relieved when I realised that you are from the States.
@Debbie Mize I sincerely meant no offence to you, Debbie, but as Gail commented from England, it means a ladies' front private part 🙄 So completely changed the meaning for me. Have an amazing day 💛
There was a YT video I watched of a woman going to stores for bra fittings in search of the right bra. If memory serves, even with a bra fitting "expert", she still had to go to 4 or 5 stores and try on 4 to 5 bras, all different brands, at each store. She bought a "best of the bunch" bra at each store before she finally found the unicorn and then had to take all the others back. It took the whole weekend for her and the unicorn bra wasn't cheap. UGH. I swear, someone should come up with a bra-fit kit mailing service. You send them your measurments and they send you a box of bras (with different brand names) to try on and you can refine it from there. Lots of women just dont have a whole weekend to spare for bra shopping.
Bra manufacturers must stop thinking that big-busted means “tall”. Very busty women are far more often short, and the bras they try to force on us are too “tall”.
I was fitted by old European bra fitters. It wasn't cheap, I bought one bra. I found their 2 inch smaller band size than I normally wore very uncomfortable though likely more support. But even only hand washing this bra, the underwires poked out their seams after 6 weeks. No refunds, they accused me of using a washer dryer, which i didn't. So if I were rich I'd like to be at a proper fitter with a wide range of brands and styles to find the unicorn bra. Sigh.
In my appointment for a bra fitting I was quite surprised when the bra fitter explained that the measurement is only a guideline. Different brands and styles of bras often mean that you can up or down a size as well as have different cup sizes. She tried me with a various bras. After quite a lengthy session I came home with 3 different bras which fitted perfectly and are so comfortable.
My understanding was that you should get your proper size and wear it at the widest setting so that you can tighten it as the elastic stretches out. I am 28-29" and the tightest setting on a 32 is way to wide and provides virtually no support. I think that if you have a large cup size (bigger than DD), you really do have to get your proper band size, because, exactly as you mentioned, the most support is provided by the proper band fit.
I have a similar underbust to you; mine is 28.5". I've found that 30B is my ideal bra size, and even though its sister size is 32A, I never buy the wrong band size anymore. It's not worth it for me. Sure, that limits my options since most brands start at 32 band sizes, but I'm glad there are enough brands that carry 30 band sizes that it's workable for me. Even with a small cup size, I just don't like going up in the band size, so I echo your overall sentiment. That said, I understand why Audrey would share all the options. I just am agreeing with you as well that I don't like wearing 32 bands myself.
You can buy bras starting from 24 (or have them custom made if you are a midget or some other special circumstance), there is no reason to add sizes. I'm a 30J so it's not like I can just walk into a brick and mortar store and buy a bra anyway, I've been buying my bras online since the mid-00s. I need a more narrow wire than is sold for J cups anywhere globally, anyway, so I find the bra fits as well as it possibly could by getting a small/tight band on purpose and using an extender - the bigger band will tend to have a wider or larger underwire since it will be holding more volume.
Yes! 26D here and have found a few online places, esp. Europe, that carry needed size (or run tight so 28C). Absolutely don't settle for larger band sizes.
I have worked in Sales at a departement store in the past ( 3 years selling Ladies underwear) in Europe. I've learned a few things wenn it comes to Bra fittings. 1= a quick trick to see if a bra is too loose is to check how it looks from the side. A bra is supposed to have a horizontal line while wearing it. The backside does not belong anywhere near your shoulders, in that case it doesn't give you any type of support. 2= A wired bra is supposed to touch your skin in between your breasts ( the wire). If you can place a finger underneeth the middle front of the bra, the cupsize is too small. 3= for some skin tones, Red or blush Pink is also a magic trick to wear under white, in case you can't find a colour that suits you. Just try it out, it doesn't work with everyone. 4= every country ( where it's made) and every Brand have their own system wen it comes to cupsizes. I've learnt just by seeing and feeling how to quickly judge if it has a normal, small or large fit. Therefore know your cupsize wel! Maybe you can test it out at home with a solid shape of some sort of bal. Find one that fits perfectly in your best at home bra. Next time wen you take e leap to find new ones you can save yourself al lot of time to endless fittings. People might look strange, but it works. Just try out the bal in the cup before your going to the dressing room ( i just do it with my fingers, see how far i can push them inside the cup, but that takes a lot of practice to see the difference 😅) I hope this might help someone..
Great tips! As a quite light skinned person, I find that rose and coral colors work great under white clothing, the great part is that you're not wearing "boring tan color" but something fun. It helps my own mood at least 🙂
Yess it was a great advice and finally I understood how to choose a bra well for my thinner, lighter clothes :) your coral choice sounds so cool to me :)
As a fellow small-framed woman I spent years wearing bras with a 30" or 32" band and no matter what I would end up with back pain after wearing them for a while and they never looked right under clothing because the cups would be really flat and it would cause gapping. Recently, I finally decided to gamble on buying a bra online with a smaller band size. I couldn't find my actual band size, 26", but I did find a 28" band from a company that specializes in making smaller sizes. The difference that it made was unbelievable. It's much more comfortable, it doesn't look weird, and no more pain after wearing it for a few hours. I can't recommend to everybody enough to find a bra with the right band size. Going up two or more sizes is just no good.
Audrey, you are so right about properly fitting foundation garments! The right bra is not only comfortable, but can make you look slimmer, your clothes will fit better, and looks neater and stylish. Every department store used to have a fitter in the lingerie section, I don’t know if this is still true. Thanks for a very helpful video!
Some times it’s hard for me to find underwear that’s close to my skin tone, but I found that grey is a great option. I’m probably classified as medium deep skin toned, so I use semi-dark grey undergarments and it blends right in! I’m not sure about the colour theory on this , but it works out great and I can’t see anything under white pants if tops
I wear thirdlove bras and they have a dark brown color that works for me. They also had a dark green color that worked too. Maybe this will help. Maybe not.😊
The color may be different, but if you took a picture in black and white, your skin and underwear would be very similar shades of grey, so the contrast between them in greyscale is very low, which helps it blend in. I also find that grey (in my case a pretty light grey) blends in almost as well as items close to my skin tone in colour.
This video appeared in my feed and I just randomly gave it a try. I really want to leave a comment to tell you that I find your voice very soothing. I could listen to you for hours, your voice has a comforting quality to it. I already knew some of the tips, but the video is great because it's not too long. Still, you had time to go into details about what really matters. Brilliant video. I'm glad i discovered this channel, I'll be looking for more of your content!
I once found a bra that perfect. Most comfortable bra I'd ever had on. I bought ten of them. My husband thought I was crazy when he saw the bill. He just didn't get it.
Same! I was very fortunate that my perfect bra is sold by JCPenney by a very well-known brand and going back every few years to buy my standard 3 in every color works for me! I just gotta wait for a holiday sale to maximize my bang/buck! I would highly recommend that people go to a well-known department store in their area and find their perfect bra there! Chances are it'll still be there in 5/10 years!
I love how accepting and encouraging this video is regarding personal style! Underwear and having details be apparent or not is a personal choice. I love that you emphasized that :) These are all great tips!
I had the very SAME thought! That's the main impression this video left on me after watching it which I thought was very admirable of her. So much so that I felt compelled to make a similar comment---but you very much articulated yours WAY better than I did on mine. 😆
In the UK we have a store called Bravissimo which caters for ladies who need a large cup size. I first went there over 20 years ago and was staggered to be fitted into a 32JJ bra, when I had been wearing 36D! Turns out I have a narrow back with big boobs! What a difference it made to my life. Clothes look better on me and I feel more confident. Although I won't wear spanx or similar, I do believe in good undergarments. Very often wear a slip under a dress and hate to see the outline or colour of bra and knickers!
To me, one of the most important things regarding underwear is, they should be made of cotton. Dermatologists too, recommend that. In Brazil (where I'm from), it's not difficult to find skin tone underwear made of cotton, but in the USA and in Europe (where I live now), especially in Europe it's next to impossible to find the same thing. When you do find a bra made of cotton it's one skin tone and that's it (no different hue available) and they show under clothes with a tight fit due to the seams. It's very frustrating. In an ideal world, the underwear industry will cater to women's needs and stop producing so much unhealthy stuff and white underwear... What's with white underwear, I wonder! On another subject, I would love to hear from you about singing since this is your profession. I heard that it's harder for women than for men to sing using the diaphragm, and I would love to learn how to do this. Thank you for your videos, you are so great!
Diaphragm support is trainable for almost anyone who wants to sing. It's just a muscle and you can do exercises to strengthen it. I look forward to seeing if Ms. Coyne comments here and what she has to say. In the meantime, look for a reputable vocal coach who can help guide you in safe ways to develop your musculature and your voice. I do highly recommend the book Freeing The Natural Voice. It was written for speakers but all the exercises and explanations work for singers, too. Good luck- and happy singing!
True, in Poland this kind of underwear is almost exclusively made of polyamide. I mean, you can find cotton pants in some skin tones, but a bra? If I remember correctly Intimissimi had a line of cotton underwear like this, but they don't make it anymore.
Yes, and this is my present conundrum! I absolutely cannot wear nylon, as it makes me sweat. I cannot believe most bras now are made with microfiber and those rediculous molded foam cups. Cotton bras are almost non-existent these days__I'm just about ready to take a course in how to sew your own undergarments! I never had much to fit into bra cups when I was young. As an adult I went braless for many years until I became pregnant and suddenly had a reason to wear one. Afterward, went back to braless, except for work. Now, pushing 70 and post menopausal, as well as, post pandemic weight gain, trying my darnest to track down a simple cotton bra with a 'little' stretch__a frustratingly daunting experience. Same goes for underwear(panties). So, for the most part, I resolve to going braless under tee shirts unless I decide to wear a different type of top to which I resort to a cheap sport bra or tank top, depending on fabric and style of said top. ONE DAY, I will find what I'm looking for before I die! 😱😛💖🙌😺
I think she has some singing/voice videos on her channel already. Can't remember when or what title, but it should be there somewhere... I know I have seen them.
Omg this is perfect timing! I moved out of my house at 17 and never really got the appropriate training from my mom about how to do undergarments properly. Thank you!
I love how thorough you are on the options, I adore your gracious presentation style, and I appreciate that you even represent the option of choosing not to wear a bra. Thank you.
This is a great video, and it’s awesome that you cover slender women, but there’s not a word about us larger girls. Bra fitting is nightmarish, and most shops don’t carry our sizes. Even worse, plus size shopping is moving totally online, which means trying different shapes and styles means endless trips to the post office to return things that didn’t work. Any insights you might have that could help us would be very welcome indeed!
The most valuable advise i have ever gotten concerning underwear is: only wear underpants made out of cotton and wash it at 60° Celsius (140 Fahrenheit) for hygiene reasons. The material is breathable and so much more healthy! Thank you for the tip with skin-toned underwear under white clothing! :)
I’ve found that the variety in skintone nude shades aren’t always a good match and sometimes getting creative with the color choice can help. I can get a nude match with a pastel pink while I have a friend who I matches well with a peachy color and a very dark skinned friend that found a good match in a dark green (it was the only color that disappeared under her white dress shirt as the dark nudes were too light or orange based and black was too dark.
It was actually from one of your previous videos that I learned to wear nude-colored underwear under sheer clothing, so huge thank you for that. It seems so obvious but I'd wager a lot of people don't know about it just as I didn't. As for strapless bras, I have a tiny bust and have nearly given up on trying to find a strapless bra that doesn't slip down. Granted, I've only ever tried the bandeau styles and not the sticky bras, but what I have tried ALWAYS, without fail, slips down after even just a moderate amount of movement, making me constantly have to adjust. The only way to not have them slip down is to just sit still and not move all day. It's caused so much frustration that I just go without a bra. It's wayyy more comfortable for me and I already tend to go braless as much as I can inside the house anyway, but I'm just afraid of accidentally flashing someone if my strapless top falls down in public. I used to put band-aids over my nips but sometimes the silhouette of the band-aid was visible through my top. I've been wanting to try the reusable nipple pasties but I'm worried their shape will also be visible.
@lurategh, Have no fear! Just saw an ad on YT a couple of days ago for a company who specializes in strapless bras for more petite proportions__start clicking on other ads for undergarments and it will eventually show up in your feed! 🙏💖🙌😺
If you are comfortable going braless, why don't you try taping your strapless top instead? They sell skin-appropriate double tape. No risk of flashing then :)
I didn't have great fitting bras until I learned how to sew my own! The biggest thing I learned to look for in ready-to-wear garments is 1. A wider band for more support (at least 3 hooks wide in the back) and 2. Underwires that match my root tissue. A lot of plunge and pushup bras look great, but dig in at the sides. I definitely think it's good to know the North American bra sizing as a jumping off point, but once you learn what to look for to fit your body, it's ok to ignore the measurements on the tag! I've found Australian bras are much better designed and easier to fit than anything I ever shopped for in the US. Even the cheap ones!
I have a really small bust and was pushed into expensive gapping bras at fittings. Thank you for your calm and well intentioned advice. Im in my 30s and have never had one fit comfortably. I feel much more well informed. Much appreciated 🙏
I clicked this video for the information, stayed and finished it because of the information AND the soothing voice. Thank you for the advice, it's as if everything I knew was a lie and a new life has opened up to me
I have narrow shoulders and always struggle with the shoulder strap staying up. Now I buy bras that are constructed like the black one in your video. I cut the strap off and resew it an inch closer to the back. That is enough to keep the straps up where they belong. Thanks for your videos!
Your voice is so soothing! I could listen to you speak all day! Life changing information (for me): add about 4 inches to your band size after you calculate your cup size for your true band size. Two inches on each side gives more breathing room and allows for weight gain.
Thank you! I would also add that if you tend to get uncomfortable in underwear, the choice of material makes a great difference. Trying cotton or tencel makes a great difference compared to the polyester materials that are mostly used. I hack for new bra's, when the elastic is still a bit coarse, is wearing them with a thin top or shapewear underneath. that way the material doesn't chafe as much against your skin while the bra molds to your shape. It feels a bit silly to do so, but it really helps.
Audrey, this was excellent. Easy to follow, and I know I will feel more confident now to go shopping for better bras. I am petite but have a much larger bust and wear a minimiser bra most of the time. They are often not very comfortable or very nice to look at! Now, on a mission to buy better performing items, even if they are plain to look at. Many thanks ❤ from Australia.
My mom doesn't like bras, but she is a teacher, so she can't not wear it. So I made her one by combining a comfortable camisole and a pair of bra pads. It gives almost zero support, but is also not restrictive in any way. She loves it.
Watching the video again and realising that it is so amazing, thank you so much for sharing such a valuable information. It makes my life better. I already saved a lot of earth resources and wasted clothes thanks to your advices ❤️
I would love to hear your thoughts on asymmetrical cup sizing. I know this is a common thing, it is definitely not just me! I've struggled with fitting myself comfortably in bras since the beginning, my cup difference is at least one size different. Thanks so much.
Omg this, recently got a bra by measuring exactly how it's mentioned here and matching the chart size, but for some reason when it arrived, one of my boob just didn't fit!
Could you maybe buy a bra that fits the bigger boob, and put an insert in the other side? I’m breastfeeding and I often get one bigger than the other, I have these little pads that I stick in after I’ve breastfed so my bra fits again lol
I just came across your channel. I love the way you both share pro tips and really really emphasize personal choice and comfort. The demonstrations with a range of skin tones and bust types is also appreciated!
Wow, that’s so useful for me ! Thanks so much dear :) I would love it if you could make a video about interior design, how to match colours inside the home space , or some useful tips how to make home cozy
Hi and greetings from Portugal. I just came across your channel with this video because as a 32 DD (I know, right?), it's incredibly difficult for me to find bras that fit well and give me the smooth effect I'm after. I found that getting fitted was a game changer and found the PERFECT strapless bra at 44 years of age. Better late than never. I'm planning on filming a video with underwear hacks for us large busted girls and that's how I came across this video and quite frankly... I'm hooked. Thank you so much for your soothing voice and beautiful content. xoxo
I heard from one rather well-known fashion blogger that the colour of your bra and panties must be one shade darker than your skin tone (for invisible look). And yes, it works perfectly well (for me at least)
That’s what my mom says as well. I protested loudly when she got me dark brown boxer panties since I’m very pale skinned, but they worked SO well, that I was confident enough to snap back “No you can’t” with zero hesitation when a guy (jokingly) said he could see my panty through my pants.
Im 30 and for the past few years have given up on conventional bras and been exclusively wearing sports bras or just tape for special occasions. I did not know how to measure my bra size until this. I always thought I was a 34B and according to this with measurements of 34 and 39... Im a 34DD. Ordering bras right now to see if this is why nothing every fit right!
Excellent video. I appreciate that you are teaching what CAN look best, but that we also need to do what feels good to our bodies. I also believe there are times to do certain things. We should be thinking of others and not just ourselves… especially outside the house.
Thank you, Audrey, this is really interesting. I would like to see a video about things like slips and underskirts. Most dresses and skirts I have seen in the shops are not lined and show every lump and bump, or are even almost see-through in the wrong light, but I don’t want to wear something that looks like Granny’s petticoat!
Great tips. Slips have fallen out of favour, and lined garments are a rare thing these days. But definitely a must have for a great look. A lot of women won't wear jersey type material in a fitted dress because it clings to lumps and bumps, but with the right slip/chemise, they look amazing even on curvier women. Unlined skirts with tights? Annoying until you get a slip. 🙂
I am so glad that I found your channel. The bras that I bought recently only went from small to extra large or higher. I have not gotten the right size yet.
Ma'am your voice is so sweet, smoothing, and calming.. I really wished the video would never get over. Yes, the information was great but I really love your voice. Thank you.
Ive found that the physical measurement the "band size" corresponds to to be completely inconsistent between brands, i measure 32" around the underbust but just went bra shopping and the closest fit i could find was a 36B on the loosest setting, everything else didn't fit around the ribcage
What brand? In a 27” so brands that have bands that’s run small are my favorite. Also, consider a bra band extender, you could get extra stretch life out of a 34 or 32 band if you had to go up to a 36.
I'm so grateful for this video and for your channel, Audrey. I didn't learn it growing up, and this information was challenging to absorb from other resources. You made me realize that I deserve the time and investment to look for something that makes me feel good, even if it is just underwear. You helped me look for something that would make me comfortable and would be visually comfortable, too-because I would not need to adjust or worry if it showed too much. After watching your tips, I researched which underwear would suit me. I found it, and it does make a huge difference in any outfit I wear. Something so mundane made a big difference when I took the time to care about it. Thank you for your work, Audrey! 💖
I have worked in higher end lingerie for years and yes, I do agree on most of your points 😜 And a little pro tip, for a lot of people red works great under white as well.
Interesting about the red. I have very pale skin and find pink works for me. I hate beige and the like, they are “non-colours” to me, but I like the sound of red. I must try it - thanks for the tip.
Perfect timing for me, Audrey. I am now 8 days post-op from having a breast reduction. I was a 34G and won't know my true size for another 3 months. We women are such amazing creatures with the ability to overcome so much and transform into who we want to be. I'm excited to play and experiment with cute dainty bras. I would like your next video to be about embracing sensuality yet still being classy. 😊
@Virginia Hamnett Thanks, Virginia. 😊 Yesterday, I tried on some of my cute clothes and was just blown away by how I now look. I'm so happy! I hope they swell WAY down. 😆
Im in between a G and H... looking to get a reduction, but scared to get under the knife. How was your experience? Do they reshape the breast or can you opt to have a lift along with the reduction? how are you feeling post-op?
Birdseye, my reduction was covered by my insurance. I had a very painful recovery. I stayed in the hospital five days. I wasn’t able to move my arms for two weeks. I had the anchor incision which was also a lift. My plastic surgeon did not used tubes for drainage he did micro sutures. I would suggest to seek various opinions and choose the best surgeon for you. Everybody is different so don’t be scared go for it! Good luck!
@@birdseye_2020 I typed a message and it got deleted, maybe the b-word? lol I was also scared to go under the knife. In fact, I canceled a b reduction surgery in 2018 because I was scared, only to kick myself later. I'm so relieved now to be healing. My Plastic Surgeon used something called Exparel which is a numbing agent that lasts for a few days. I had minimal pain I believe because of this. My procedure was outpatient, so I went home the same day. After one week, I started walking, very slowly at first on my treadmill, and now on my 3rd week, I am walking faster for about 30 minutes at my local park. I don't want you to think I'm minimizing the surgery. It has a long healing process. For example, I cannot lift the weight of a gallon of milk for a total of 4 weeks. I recommend making and freezing many meals in advance especially if you have children. Also, crackers and snacks by your bedside are good in case you get nauseous from the meds. You will have to sleep on your back, so many pillows for both your legs and head are good. I was very fortunate to have an electric bed and a supportive hubby! The lift, I believe is included in the procedure but talk to your dr to make sure. There is also a b reduction support group on Facebook that is wonderful! I used this mantra constantly before the surgery: GUTS OVER FEAR. You can do this!
You have the most beautiful voice out there! Thank you for the video, this is the first time I watch your content, but it looks like there is much to learn from you 😊
Thanks for the video and all the tips, Audrey. You have such an elegant and soothing aura, and a very gentle way of communicating ❤. If possible i would like to see a part 2 of the video with advice on different bras for different breast shapes. Have a lovely Sunday.
Wish I knew all these tips 10 years ago 😅 I’ve gained weight lately and have not been able to find any comfortable new bras, going shopping tomorrow with my newfound knowledge. Thanks Audrey!
So grateful for this video! I would appreciate more info on proper fitting and quality shapewear. I feel overwhelmed with all of the options out there 😅. Thank you for all that you do, Audrey! ☺️♥️✨
Thank you, Audrey. This was the most informative video I've been able to find on perfecting my bra color and fit. Thank you for articulating it elegantly. You are deeply appreciated.
support stockings under pants (so long as you are wearing an enclosed shoe) is also a great option to smooth my silhouette. I also like a good support short too under skirts. I found one that supports my thighs and hips more so than my tummy which is great for me. Thanks for the bra fitting tips. I would like to find more styles with a wider band in 32C cup, it would certainly help to smooth things out as I get a bit older.
I learnt about bra fittings from clothes catalogues when in my teens and had no issues finding a comfortable fit. However these days it seems to be a challenge as each manufacturer has a different idea about sizing, same applies to clothes.
My struggle with finding a bra is that when I take a breath in my band size expands almost 3" so most bras that fit properly restrict my breathing significantly. If they are larger band size they are often too wide. Is this something that can be addressed when selecting a size? Or maybe a fabric type?
I think all you can do is get one w/ a very elastic band, wide enough to not cut but not so wide it rolls. Never wash too hot so the elastic stays snappy longer, and accept that it might not be the most "supportive" bra in the world. (Honestly our bodies usually support our boobs quite well, esp if you do some back exercises now and then... Ofc some people have it worse.)
Hello Audrey, This is the first video of your’s I have watched. I found your tips very helpful. My biggest problem with bras is that the straps always fall down. I find the clips meant to keep them up hard to use. Any suggestions? Stephanie
Your information is spot on! I now know how to measure myself with your guidance & thank you. I am small breastfed & always find the right fit doesn't seem to help. Now I hope I can find the right size & the right fit ! Thank you so much. This is very helpful!
Great advice 😊. I have had a pacemaker for years and this most recent pacemaker is on my breast tissue and most bras really affect it. I have some lovely fitting bras but all T-shirt smooth bras hurt as they press onto my pacemaker.
I stopped wearing a bra 8 years ago and it has been the most freeing thing I have ever done when it comes to clothing. Never looked back. Tried a bra a year ago under a dress to look more polished and it was so uncomfortable right after when I put it on. Yes, my bras are properly fitted, it wasn't hurting me or pinching anywhere. Many would think it looks beautiful on me. It just felt so forced, unnatural and too "supported" to have a bra on. That said I'd only wear one when forced to do so, which is not very often. After being without a bra for so many years wearing one make me feel too self-aware as a female, which took me by surprise. Haven't met many males that wear bras or similar and I wonder why? ;) I do wear a sports top when doing sports to prevent my body parts flopping in the air when jumping. Otherwise could care less about how they look. Just a body part with one single purpose, lactation. Ha.
I felt that way when I was in my 20’s, was a ballet dancer, and my B-cup breasts stood up by themselves. As I’ve aged and gained weight, gravity has taken over, and in my 60’s I need to help them as they’ve fallen down and can’t get up w/o help😜
@@luannfeld3983 Appreciate this! So true. I am 39 with three kids (all breastfed, so this experiment going braless started from that). You could use my b-cups as pencil holders, and I still think they look ok. They are there. Lol. 😆I feel, but might be ignorant saying this, so pardon me, if bras work to take of the load from ones shoulders, then go for it, but for the sake of looks, I'd skip them. We are beautiful just the way we are. No need for the vanity to prove it.
Yeah well, my D - checks measurements as told in the video - E cups already jiggle allover the place with every move when they're strapped in. Walking without a bra is impossible. Anything faster than 3km/h (1.8 mph) and I run danger to get hit in the face and knocked out...
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Any time I got a “professional bra fitting” I came out with a super expensive bra that was unbearably uncomfortable after an hour or two. So I tried using this method you demonstrated and discovered that bra sizes are definitely not standardized. A 36C from one manufacturer with be a totally different size than 36C from another manufacturer. It’s a losing battle.
Yes, you are so right. It's a bit of a struggle until you find one that's just right and hope the manufacturer doesn't discontinue the bra.
@@TarynsTime …and they ALWAYS discontinue it, lol.
They also often give you an inaccurate size when they fit you to make sure everyone fits into their smaller range-they don’t want to manufacture a large range of sizes, so cram everyone into the same narrow range. This was especially the case a decade ago when Victoria’s Secret was at its heights.
@missmayflower I understand your frustration. I hv wasted money like you. Later I found a brand which fits me well and stuck with that. Whenever it is on sale I will purchase as comfortable bras are expensive.
Same about me. Recently I went to an expensive lingerie store, where the trying is with the assistance of a shop-lady. I do not know what her qualifications were, but she simply brought me several bras for me to try on. No measurements, just like that. And not much choice for larger breast size (not huge, but just larger than at skinny ladies). So to find a good bra is a difficult task. Seems that designers prefer small breasts, but we are all different.
Thank you Audrey. I'm a single parent (father) and my daughter is maturing to this point so this video has helped a great deal. I'll watch your other videos as well as getting my daughteer to watch them too. I find your presentation very professional and you have a clear and simple way of teaching. Caspian.
Bless you!
You're a great Dad. Keep going!
Hey i was raised by my single dad! I'm so glad you have the internet to help now. I ended up with some pretty questionable haircuts cuz he didn't know the detangler (go to a stylist, not supercuts!) and some rather horrid clothing options (a time he gave me a free red Marlboro t shirt some smoker gave him redeemed from cigarette coupons, and i paired it with red jeans >_< like a weird crayon).
He leveled up from my first period (" i don't know! Just read the box!") to always carying emergency tampons in his car (this was before apps that predicted the start date).
Take her to macy's never victoria's secret! The bras are sized wrong and give stretch marks.
@@awan3 Thank you
@@shamailaahmad211 Thank you
I don't know how you do it, Audrey, but you never judge anyone any decision they might make. You give all the options but never judge some as better than others. You are so very thoughtful. Thank you. :) All the best, Susan.
Completely agree with you ❤
Me too😊
Yes! A pet peeve of mine is when people say your wrong from very subjective things. I like the advice, but never the judgment.
Yeah she is very thoughtful and she talks so well and feels like the best friend or sis you would like to talk to . She must be awesome with her nieces and kids ...they are so lucky
So true. She is also very nice n calm ❤❤ I really enjoy her content 🙏🙏
So pleased to hear the reference 'boring style is best' when it comes to a well fitting undergarment. Women tolerate a great deal of nonsense when it comes to lingerie and underwear garments, designed by men who choose not to consider comfort or function over form but focus purely on glamour and sex appeal which translates to "expensive" and "profit margins". When was the last time you saw glamour underwear for men - try never, their focus is support and comfort.
Yes, I love the lacy stuff but it shows under clothing!
Designed by men? Is this how you push the blame to certain people you despise when you see problems?
not to mention ridiculous materials. A lot "sexy" underwear is polyester or other synthetic stuff, uncomfortable lace... Especially in case of panties, it's an absolute nightmare for vaginal hygiene. All obgyns will tell you that panties should be 100% cotton or other similar breathable material, otherwise bacterial and yeast infections will occur. Yet still you get all of these adverts of expensive synthetic lingerie, just cuz they are "pretty". young girls are especially gullible.
@@Xia-hu Young girls are always gullible - it is the necessary learning curve to maturity & adulthood.
There is one option for breathability -removable pantiliners are a buffer between the clinging non-breathability of synthetics and your sensitive nether regions.
to be fair I do feel pretty and cute while wearing them! obvs I have a lot of 'normal' underwear for my day to day, but if Im going out I like to dress up underneath as well if that makes sense? for no one but myself lol! i wish men had glamour underwear! I totally get what you are saying though, the focus is more so on being attractive than being comfortable.
I love that you were so inclusive with all the different possibilities and options for anyone who might be watching including those who *want* to show, not hide and even right down to those who might prefer to not wear anything underneath at all!
You are so articulate and coherent. I came for the knowledge but stayed for your eloquence. Not to mention your voice is so soothing to hear.
Yes so elegant, its just a delight to listen to her graceful voice
I had the same thoughts ❤
100%! Her voice is so pleasant. It's like an angel is telling you how to measure for bras.
My mother was a professional bra fitter (worked in a high end department store in the foundation’s department). I have always had a properly fitted bra and because of my mother, always had the proper undergarments as well! I was probably the only girl in high school that wore a girdle (that was in the 60s before Spanx hit the market)! My Mom would tell me, “No daughter of mine is going out in public with her fanny a flappin!” And to this day (now 71 years old) I don’t go out with my fanny a flappin’!
Good well fitted undergarments are a must! Thank you for this video! And don’t forget the slip under thinner material dresses and skirts!
😮 Oh my goodness, that word means a totally different thing in Australia. I was so shocked when I read that comment and so relieved when I realised that you are from the States.
@@katem3961 yes, I am in the USA, Texas actually (all my life!). To which word are you referring and what does it mean in Australia?
In England and I presume in Australia, the word Fanny refers to the private area in FRONT.
@@gailwilliams5278 😮! In the USA, it is slang for derrière!
@Debbie Mize I sincerely meant no offence to you, Debbie, but as Gail commented from England, it means a ladies' front private part 🙄 So completely changed the meaning for me. Have an amazing day 💛
There was a YT video I watched of a woman going to stores for bra fittings in search of the right bra. If memory serves, even with a bra fitting "expert", she still had to go to 4 or 5 stores and try on 4 to 5 bras, all different brands, at each store. She bought a "best of the bunch" bra at each store before she finally found the unicorn and then had to take all the others back. It took the whole weekend for her and the unicorn bra wasn't cheap. UGH. I swear, someone should come up with a bra-fit kit mailing service. You send them your measurments and they send you a box of bras (with different brand names) to try on and you can refine it from there. Lots of women just dont have a whole weekend to spare for bra shopping.
You are that person! Invent it!
The worst bra fitting I ever got was from a department store fitter! She was so far off. Best fit is in bra stores.
Bra manufacturers must stop thinking that big-busted means “tall”. Very busty women are far more often short, and the bras they try to force on us are too “tall”.
@@lynnebattaglia-triggs1042That explains why I always had to avoid a brand or two because it would always scrape into my armpits.
I was fitted by old European bra fitters. It wasn't cheap, I bought one bra. I found their 2 inch smaller band size than I normally wore very uncomfortable though likely more support. But even only hand washing this bra, the underwires poked out their seams after 6 weeks. No refunds, they accused me of using a washer dryer, which i didn't. So if I were rich I'd like to be at a proper fitter with a wide range of brands and styles to find the unicorn bra. Sigh.
In my appointment for a bra fitting I was quite surprised when the bra fitter explained that the measurement is only a guideline. Different brands and styles of bras often mean that you can up or down a size as well as have different cup sizes. She tried me with a various bras. After quite a lengthy session I came home with 3 different bras which fitted perfectly and are so comfortable.
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Where did you go for you bra fitting?
My understanding was that you should get your proper size and wear it at the widest setting so that you can tighten it as the elastic stretches out. I am 28-29" and the tightest setting on a 32 is way to wide and provides virtually no support. I think that if you have a large cup size (bigger than DD), you really do have to get your proper band size, because, exactly as you mentioned, the most support is provided by the proper band fit.
I have a similar underbust to you; mine is 28.5". I've found that 30B is my ideal bra size, and even though its sister size is 32A, I never buy the wrong band size anymore. It's not worth it for me.
Sure, that limits my options since most brands start at 32 band sizes, but I'm glad there are enough brands that carry 30 band sizes that it's workable for me.
Even with a small cup size, I just don't like going up in the band size, so I echo your overall sentiment. That said, I understand why Audrey would share all the options. I just am agreeing with you as well that I don't like wearing 32 bands myself.
You can buy bras starting from 24 (or have them custom made if you are a midget or some other special circumstance), there is no reason to add sizes. I'm a 30J so it's not like I can just walk into a brick and mortar store and buy a bra anyway, I've been buying my bras online since the mid-00s. I need a more narrow wire than is sold for J cups anywhere globally, anyway, so I find the bra fits as well as it possibly could by getting a small/tight band on purpose and using an extender - the bigger band will tend to have a wider or larger underwire since it will be holding more volume.
Yes! 26D here and have found a few online places, esp. Europe, that carry needed size (or run tight so 28C). Absolutely don't settle for larger band sizes.
Your voice is so soothing. The explanations are simple and clear. The general vibe is caring and accepting... All in all, a great video.
I have worked in Sales at a departement store in the past ( 3 years selling Ladies underwear) in Europe.
I've learned a few things wenn it comes to Bra fittings.
1= a quick trick to see if a bra is too loose is to check how it looks from the side. A bra is supposed to have a horizontal line while wearing it. The backside does not belong anywhere near your shoulders, in that case it doesn't give you any type of support.
2= A wired bra is supposed to touch your skin in between your breasts ( the wire). If you can place a finger underneeth the middle front of the bra, the cupsize is too small.
3= for some skin tones, Red or blush Pink is also a magic trick to wear under white, in case you can't find a colour that suits you. Just try it out, it doesn't work with everyone.
4= every country ( where it's made) and every Brand have their own system wen it comes to cupsizes. I've learnt just by seeing and feeling how to quickly judge if it has a normal, small or large fit. Therefore know your cupsize wel! Maybe you can test it out at home with a solid shape of some sort of bal. Find one that fits perfectly in your best at home bra. Next time wen you take e leap to find new ones you can save yourself al lot of time to endless fittings. People might look strange, but it works. Just try out the bal in the cup before your going to the dressing room ( i just do it with my fingers, see how far i can push them inside the cup, but that takes a lot of practice to see the difference 😅)
I hope this might help someone..
I can wear read under white and I have a light/medium skin tone.. it is so cool how the colour just disappears under the white 😊😍🤭
A discussion on finding well-fitting underwear below the waist could also be useful (what underwear shapes work for what body shapes).
Great tips! As a quite light skinned person, I find that rose and coral colors work great under white clothing, the great part is that you're not wearing "boring tan color" but something fun. It helps my own mood at least 🙂
Yess it was a great advice and finally I understood how to choose a bra well for my thinner, lighter clothes :) your coral choice sounds so cool to me :)
Grey or silver works well under white, too if you're light skinned.
Red works as well under white 😊
As a fellow small-framed woman I spent years wearing bras with a 30" or 32" band and no matter what I would end up with back pain after wearing them for a while and they never looked right under clothing because the cups would be really flat and it would cause gapping. Recently, I finally decided to gamble on buying a bra online with a smaller band size. I couldn't find my actual band size, 26", but I did find a 28" band from a company that specializes in making smaller sizes. The difference that it made was unbelievable. It's much more comfortable, it doesn't look weird, and no more pain after wearing it for a few hours. I can't recommend to everybody enough to find a bra with the right band size. Going up two or more sizes is just no good.
Is the Company called PEPPER ? I don't know why you didn't mention that. If not , please say which company. Also tell them this.
@@corryjookit7818 I don't think Pepper sells small band sizes
For those in the UK, john Lewis has a great selection of 28" bras which go up to cup size F :)
Yes! It is harder to find small band sizes, but it's worth it to find the proper band size and not go up.
Audrey, you are so right about properly fitting foundation garments! The right bra is not only comfortable, but can make you look slimmer, your clothes will fit better, and looks neater and stylish. Every department store used to have a fitter in the lingerie section, I don’t know if this is still true. Thanks for a very helpful video!
Some times it’s hard for me to find underwear that’s close to my skin tone, but I found that grey is a great option. I’m probably classified as medium deep skin toned, so I use semi-dark grey undergarments and it blends right in! I’m not sure about the colour theory on this , but it works out great and I can’t see anything under white pants if tops
I wear thirdlove bras and they have a dark brown color that works for me. They also had a dark green color that worked too. Maybe this will help. Maybe not.😊
Calvin Klein has a new nude collection
Try red or a darker red?
Help! I thought black would be a universal solution that wouldn’t show under white. Is that not true?
The color may be different, but if you took a picture in black and white, your skin and underwear would be very similar shades of grey, so the contrast between them in greyscale is very low, which helps it blend in. I also find that grey (in my case a pretty light grey) blends in almost as well as items close to my skin tone in colour.
This video appeared in my feed and I just randomly gave it a try. I really want to leave a comment to tell you that I find your voice very soothing. I could listen to you for hours, your voice has a comforting quality to it. I already knew some of the tips, but the video is great because it's not too long. Still, you had time to go into details about what really matters. Brilliant video. I'm glad i discovered this channel, I'll be looking for more of your content!
I once found a bra that perfect. Most comfortable bra I'd ever had on. I bought ten of them. My husband thought I was crazy when he saw the bill. He just didn't get it.
Well, if he had a scrotum the size of oranges he would
What brand was it?
@@mabelidove6813 Bali
Same! I was very fortunate that my perfect bra is sold by JCPenney by a very well-known brand and going back every few years to buy my standard 3 in every color works for me! I just gotta wait for a holiday sale to maximize my bang/buck! I would highly recommend that people go to a well-known department store in their area and find their perfect bra there! Chances are it'll still be there in 5/10 years!
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I love how accepting and encouraging this video is regarding personal style! Underwear and having details be apparent or not is a personal choice. I love that you emphasized that :) These are all great tips!
I had the very SAME thought! That's the main impression this video left on me after watching it which I thought was very admirable of her. So much so that I felt compelled to make a similar comment---but you very much articulated yours WAY better than I did on mine. 😆
LOVE your approach here. Being this accepting of what a woman wants to wear and helping us achieve it - that is so elegant to me.
In the UK we have a store called Bravissimo which caters for ladies who need a large cup size. I first went there over 20 years ago and was staggered to be fitted into a 32JJ bra, when I had been wearing 36D! Turns out I have a narrow back with big boobs! What a difference it made to my life. Clothes look better on me and I feel more confident.
Although I won't wear spanx or similar, I do believe in good undergarments. Very often wear a slip under a dress and hate to see the outline or colour of bra and knickers!
I love Bravissimo...first went in my early twenties and have been going for last 15 years. I was wearing a 34C turns out I was a 30FF!
To me, one of the most important things regarding underwear is, they should be made of cotton. Dermatologists too, recommend that. In Brazil (where I'm from), it's not difficult to find skin tone underwear made of cotton, but in the USA and in Europe (where I live now), especially in Europe it's next to impossible to find the same thing. When you do find a bra made of cotton it's one skin tone and that's it (no different hue available) and they show under clothes with a tight fit due to the seams. It's very frustrating. In an ideal world, the underwear industry will cater to women's needs and stop producing so much unhealthy stuff and white underwear... What's with white underwear, I wonder!
On another subject, I would love to hear from you about singing since this is your profession. I heard that it's harder for women than for men to sing using the diaphragm, and I would love to learn how to do this.
Thank you for your videos, you are so great!
Diaphragm support is trainable for almost anyone who wants to sing. It's just a muscle and you can do exercises to strengthen it. I look forward to seeing if Ms. Coyne comments here and what she has to say. In the meantime, look for a reputable vocal coach who can help guide you in safe ways to develop your musculature and your voice. I do highly recommend the book Freeing The Natural Voice. It was written for speakers but all the exercises and explanations work for singers, too. Good luck- and happy singing!
True, in Poland this kind of underwear is almost exclusively made of polyamide. I mean, you can find cotton pants in some skin tones, but a bra? If I remember correctly Intimissimi had a line of cotton underwear like this, but they don't make it anymore.
Yes, and this is my present conundrum! I absolutely cannot wear nylon, as it makes me sweat. I cannot believe most bras now are made with microfiber and those rediculous molded foam cups. Cotton bras are almost non-existent these days__I'm just about ready to take a course in how to sew your own undergarments!
I never had much to fit into bra cups when I was young. As an adult I went braless for many years until I became pregnant and suddenly had a reason to wear one. Afterward, went back to braless, except for work.
Now, pushing 70 and post menopausal, as well as, post pandemic weight gain, trying my darnest to track down a simple cotton bra with a 'little' stretch__a frustratingly daunting experience. Same goes for underwear(panties).
So, for the most part, I resolve to going braless under tee shirts unless I decide to wear a different type of top to which I resort to a cheap sport bra or tank top, depending on fabric and style of said top.
ONE DAY, I will find what I'm looking for before I die! 😱😛💖🙌😺
Intimissimi has a collection of underwear made of cotton, although i'm not sure about colour range!
I think she has some singing/voice videos on her channel already. Can't remember when or what title, but it should be there somewhere... I know I have seen them.
Omg this is perfect timing! I moved out of my house at 17 and never really got the appropriate training from my mom about how to do undergarments properly. Thank you!
Moving out at 17 😂😂
India, moms would come running behind us with a chappal
I love how thorough you are on the options, I adore your gracious presentation style, and I appreciate that you even represent the option of choosing not to wear a bra. Thank you.
This is a great video, and it’s awesome that you cover slender women, but there’s not a word about us larger girls. Bra fitting is nightmarish, and most shops don’t carry our sizes. Even worse, plus size shopping is moving totally online, which means trying different shapes and styles means endless trips to the post office to return things that didn’t work. Any insights you might have that could help us would be very welcome indeed!
The most valuable advise i have ever gotten concerning underwear is: only wear underpants made out of cotton and wash it at 60° Celsius (140 Fahrenheit) for hygiene reasons. The material is breathable and so much more healthy! Thank you for the tip with skin-toned underwear under white clothing! :)
I’ve found that the variety in skintone nude shades aren’t always a good match and sometimes getting creative with the color choice can help. I can get a nude match with a pastel pink while I have a friend who I matches well with a peachy color and a very dark skinned friend that found a good match in a dark green (it was the only color that disappeared under her white dress shirt as the dark nudes were too light or orange based and black was too dark.
It was actually from one of your previous videos that I learned to wear nude-colored underwear under sheer clothing, so huge thank you for that. It seems so obvious but I'd wager a lot of people don't know about it just as I didn't. As for strapless bras, I have a tiny bust and have nearly given up on trying to find a strapless bra that doesn't slip down. Granted, I've only ever tried the bandeau styles and not the sticky bras, but what I have tried ALWAYS, without fail, slips down after even just a moderate amount of movement, making me constantly have to adjust. The only way to not have them slip down is to just sit still and not move all day. It's caused so much frustration that I just go without a bra. It's wayyy more comfortable for me and I already tend to go braless as much as I can inside the house anyway, but I'm just afraid of accidentally flashing someone if my strapless top falls down in public. I used to put band-aids over my nips but sometimes the silhouette of the band-aid was visible through my top. I've been wanting to try the reusable nipple pasties but I'm worried their shape will also be visible.
@lurategh,
Have no fear! Just saw an ad on YT a couple of days ago for a company who specializes in strapless bras for more petite proportions__start clicking on other ads for undergarments and it will eventually show up in your feed! 🙏💖🙌😺
If you are comfortable going braless, why don't you try taping your strapless top instead? They sell skin-appropriate double tape. No risk of flashing then :)
i use medical tape instead of bandaids and put them on my nipples/boobs at an upward to side angle. can’t see the outline of it.
@@Serena-or7sl I've def heard of that and will have to look into it. Thanks!
@@luci4087 Never thought of medical tape! I'll have to try that. Thanks!
I would be interested in learning how to buy the right shape wear. I have never done it before but this video convinced me to try them. Thanks!
To be honest, as someone who isn't too much into fashion the subject matter was nice, but your voice is so soothing and relaxing!
I didn't have great fitting bras until I learned how to sew my own! The biggest thing I learned to look for in ready-to-wear garments is 1. A wider band for more support (at least 3 hooks wide in the back) and 2. Underwires that match my root tissue. A lot of plunge and pushup bras look great, but dig in at the sides. I definitely think it's good to know the North American bra sizing as a jumping off point, but once you learn what to look for to fit your body, it's ok to ignore the measurements on the tag!
I've found Australian bras are much better designed and easier to fit than anything I ever shopped for in the US. Even the cheap ones!
I have a really small bust and was pushed into expensive gapping bras at fittings. Thank you for your calm and well intentioned advice. Im in my 30s and have never had one fit comfortably. I feel much more well informed. Much appreciated 🙏
I clicked this video for the information, stayed and finished it because of the information AND the soothing voice. Thank you for the advice, it's as if everything I knew was a lie and a new life has opened up to me
I have narrow shoulders and always struggle with the shoulder strap staying up. Now I buy bras that are constructed like the black one in your video. I cut the strap off and resew it an inch closer to the back. That is enough to keep the straps up where they belong. Thanks for your videos!
Narrow shoulders, here... and same struggles 😅 Thank you for sharing what you do! I'm going to try it 😃
Such a delicate, friendly and polite way when addressing people! Thank you for the good tips as well!
You’re always so helpful to your fellow women, Audrey ❤️
Your voice is so soothing! I could listen to you speak all day!
Life changing information (for me): add about 4 inches to your band size after you calculate your cup size for your true band size. Two inches on each side gives more breathing room and allows for weight gain.
I just wear sports bras which are probably bad LOL.
Thank you!
I would also add that if you tend to get uncomfortable in underwear, the choice of material makes a great difference. Trying cotton or tencel makes a great difference compared to the polyester materials that are mostly used.
I hack for new bra's, when the elastic is still a bit coarse, is wearing them with a thin top or shapewear underneath. that way the material doesn't chafe as much against your skin while the bra molds to your shape. It feels a bit silly to do so, but it really helps.
That's what we did for corsets too! A layer to keep things clean and comfy
I know someon ho sweated heavily. She did this to prolong the life of her bras.
I love how beautifully you frame your word choices to come across so elegantly and in a nonjudgmental manner! 💕
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Audrey, this was excellent. Easy to follow, and I know I will feel more confident now to go shopping for better bras. I am petite but have a much larger bust and wear a minimiser bra most of the time. They are often not very comfortable or very nice to look at! Now, on a mission to buy better performing items, even if they are plain to look at. Many thanks ❤ from Australia.
This is exactly the video I needed since I recently decided to upgrade my wardrobe from t shirts and jeans to dresses, skirts and blouses!
My mom doesn't like bras, but she is a teacher, so she can't not wear it. So I made her one by combining a comfortable camisole and a pair of bra pads. It gives almost zero support, but is also not restrictive in any way. She loves it.
Watching the video again and realising that it is so amazing, thank you so much for sharing such a valuable information. It makes my life better. I already saved a lot of earth resources and wasted clothes thanks to your advices ❤️
I would love to hear your thoughts on asymmetrical cup sizing.
I know this is a common thing, it is definitely not just me!
I've struggled with fitting myself comfortably in bras since the beginning, my cup difference is at least one size different. Thanks so much.
Omg this, recently got a bra by measuring exactly how it's mentioned here and matching the chart size, but for some reason when it arrived, one of my boob just didn't fit!
Could you maybe buy a bra that fits the bigger boob, and put an insert in the other side?
I’m breastfeeding and I often get one bigger than the other, I have these little pads that I stick in after I’ve breastfed so my bra fits again lol
Yes!! After breast feeding five babies my boobs are so asymmetrical and finding a bra that fits is impossible
I gave up on bras after breastfeeding. I use one of those silicone nipple covers. Just have to make sure you wear a form-fitting shirt or undershirt.
Always measure off the larger breast. Try the abtf calculator @@sejalheart
I just came across your channel. I love the way you both share pro tips and really really emphasize personal choice and comfort. The demonstrations with a range of skin tones and bust types is also appreciated!
Wow, that’s so useful for me ! Thanks so much dear :) I would love it if you could make a video about interior design, how to match colours inside the home space , or some useful tips how to make home cozy
I almost fall asleep watching this lol, not because you are boring, but because your voice... is so calming!
NEEDED THIS, thank you!!! What us women have to wear to please society. Some men need to wear bras too.
Hi and greetings from Portugal. I just came across your channel with this video because as a 32 DD (I know, right?), it's incredibly difficult for me to find bras that fit well and give me the smooth effect I'm after. I found that getting fitted was a game changer and found the PERFECT strapless bra at 44 years of age. Better late than never. I'm planning on filming a video with underwear hacks for us large busted girls and that's how I came across this video and quite frankly... I'm hooked. Thank you so much for your soothing voice and beautiful content. xoxo
I heard from one rather well-known fashion blogger that the colour of your bra and panties must be one shade darker than your skin tone (for invisible look). And yes, it works perfectly well (for me at least)
That’s what my mom says as well. I protested loudly when she got me dark brown boxer panties since I’m very pale skinned, but they worked SO well, that I was confident enough to snap back “No you can’t” with zero hesitation when a guy (jokingly) said he could see my panty through my pants.
This has been so revolutionary! I now understand why my bras never fit right. Can’t wait to find one in my right size! What brands do you recommend?
Im 30 and for the past few years have given up on conventional bras and been exclusively wearing sports bras or just tape for special occasions. I did not know how to measure my bra size until this. I always thought I was a 34B and according to this with measurements of 34 and 39... Im a 34DD. Ordering bras right now to see if this is why nothing every fit right!
Excellent video. I appreciate that you are teaching what CAN look best, but that we also need to do what feels good to our bodies. I also believe there are times to do certain things. We should be thinking of others and not just ourselves… especially outside the house.
Thank you, Audrey, this is really interesting. I would like to see a video about things like slips and underskirts. Most dresses and skirts I have seen in the shops are not lined and show every lump and bump, or are even almost see-through in the wrong light, but I don’t want to wear something that looks like Granny’s petticoat!
Oh this. This is such a great point. Agreed. I have scary memories of my mom's and gran's petticoats.
Totally agree with showing all of the lumps and bumps. I have half slips in a variety of lengths and wearing them makes my skirts look much better.
I have found it difficult to find a full slip. I feel like the young women don’t wear them nowadays but I still want one!
Great tips. Slips have fallen out of favour, and lined garments are a rare thing these days. But definitely a must have for a great look. A lot of women won't wear jersey type material in a fitted dress because it clings to lumps and bumps, but with the right slip/chemise, they look amazing even on curvier women. Unlined skirts with tights? Annoying until you get a slip. 🙂
I made my own silk half slip, ivory and black. They are cut on the bias with elastic waist. Comfortable and light weight.
I am so glad that I found your channel. The bras that I bought recently only went from small to extra large or higher. I have not gotten the right size yet.
This is a real elegant woman right there! No judgment on people's styles whatsoever!❤
The way words come out of your mouth is so perfect and calm…adorable !!
I'm in my late 30s and this is the first time I learned how to get a proper bra size. Thank you!
Ma'am your voice is so sweet, smoothing, and calming.. I really wished the video would never get over. Yes, the information was great but I really love your voice. Thank you.
Ive found that the physical measurement the "band size" corresponds to to be completely inconsistent between brands, i measure 32" around the underbust but just went bra shopping and the closest fit i could find was a 36B on the loosest setting, everything else didn't fit around the ribcage
What brand? In a 27” so brands that have bands that’s run small are my favorite. Also, consider a bra band extender, you could get extra stretch life out of a 34 or 32 band if you had to go up to a 36.
@@colors_in_noise Marks & Spencer's, & I do have extenders which I find very helpful
Well done!!! Really appreciate the practical video that teaches new ideas and reassures us of the standards.
Would love some brand recommendations! I’ve been struggling to find comfortable bras that also fit well.
I'm so grateful for this video and for your channel, Audrey. I didn't learn it growing up, and this information was challenging to absorb from other resources. You made me realize that I deserve the time and investment to look for something that makes me feel good, even if it is just underwear. You helped me look for something that would make me comfortable and would be visually comfortable, too-because I would not need to adjust or worry if it showed too much. After watching your tips, I researched which underwear would suit me. I found it, and it does make a huge difference in any outfit I wear. Something so mundane made a big difference when I took the time to care about it. Thank you for your work, Audrey! 💖
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment! I am so so happy this was helpful! It is my absolute pleasure :) xxxx
I have worked in higher end lingerie for years and yes, I do agree on most of your points 😜 And a little pro tip, for a lot of people red works great under white as well.
Interesting about the red. I have very pale skin and find pink works for me. I hate beige and the like, they are “non-colours” to me, but I like the sound of red. I must try it - thanks for the tip.
Well it’s visible then, no??
@@Deelitee for since odd reason is not visible, get a red that's as bright as your skin tone though.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 that is sooo interesting!!! I’m all curious now. :)
I have enjoyed watching this more than I thought. Most non-judgmental video about clothing and underwear I’ve seen in a while. Thank you ! ❤🙏🏻
Perfect timing for me, Audrey. I am now 8 days post-op from having a breast reduction. I was a 34G and won't know my true size for another 3 months. We women are such amazing creatures with the ability to overcome so much and transform into who we want to be. I'm excited to play and experiment with cute dainty bras. I would like your next video to be about embracing sensuality yet still being classy. 😊
I feel your pain. I was a 36G and now a 36D. It will probably take a full year before you find out your new size. The swelling takes time.
@Virginia Hamnett Thanks, Virginia. 😊 Yesterday, I tried on some of my cute clothes and was just blown away by how I now look. I'm so happy! I hope they swell WAY down. 😆
Im in between a G and H... looking to get a reduction, but scared to get under the knife. How was your experience? Do they reshape the breast or can you opt to have a lift along with the reduction? how are you feeling post-op?
Birdseye, my reduction was covered by my insurance. I had a very painful recovery. I stayed in the hospital five days. I wasn’t able to move my arms for two weeks. I had the anchor incision which was also a lift. My plastic surgeon did not used tubes for drainage he did micro sutures. I would suggest to seek various opinions and choose the best surgeon for you. Everybody is different so don’t be scared go for it! Good luck!
@@birdseye_2020 I typed a message and it got deleted, maybe the b-word? lol I was also scared to go under the knife. In fact, I canceled a b reduction surgery in 2018 because I was scared, only to kick myself later. I'm so relieved now to be healing. My Plastic Surgeon used something called Exparel which is a numbing agent that lasts for a few days. I had minimal pain I believe because of this. My procedure was outpatient, so I went home the same day. After one week, I started walking, very slowly at first on my treadmill, and now on my 3rd week, I am walking faster for about 30 minutes at my local park. I don't want you to think I'm minimizing the surgery. It has a long healing process. For example, I cannot lift the weight of a gallon of milk for a total of 4 weeks. I recommend making and freezing many meals in advance especially if you have children. Also, crackers and snacks by your bedside are good in case you get nauseous from the meds. You will have to sleep on your back, so many pillows for both your legs and head are good. I was very fortunate to have an electric bed and a supportive hubby! The lift, I believe is included in the procedure but talk to your dr to make sure. There is also a b reduction support group on Facebook that is wonderful! I used this mantra constantly before the surgery: GUTS OVER FEAR. You can do this!
You have the most beautiful voice out there! Thank you for the video, this is the first time I watch your content, but it looks like there is much to learn from you 😊
You got a new subscriber. So informative and pleasant delivery. Also not many creators have content that relates to small framed ladies!⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
What a lovely presentation, what a lovely presenter. So concise, so well spoken.
Thanks for the video and all the tips, Audrey. You have such an elegant and soothing aura, and a very gentle way of communicating ❤. If possible i would like to see a part 2 of the video with advice on different bras for different breast shapes. Have a lovely Sunday.
You approach this topic with such grace and expertise, thank you so much for sharing!
Wish I knew all these tips 10 years ago 😅 I’ve gained weight lately and have not been able to find any comfortable new bras, going shopping tomorrow with my newfound knowledge. Thanks Audrey!
So grateful for this video! I would appreciate more info on proper fitting and quality shapewear. I feel overwhelmed with all of the options out there 😅. Thank you for all that you do, Audrey! ☺️♥️✨
Very nice video. Audrey could you please talk about your favourite underwear brands for achieving this??😊
I love the way you talk very precise, respectful and open minded.
Excellent video. Great, concise, and practical information. ❤
Thank you, Audrey. This was the most informative video I've been able to find on perfecting my bra color and fit. Thank you for articulating it elegantly. You are deeply appreciated.
Such a good video! I rarely hear someone explaining fashion so well and with so much competence.
Thank you for putting yourself out there!
Your voice is so soothing, and thanks so much for these detailed guides.
support stockings under pants (so long as you are wearing an enclosed shoe) is also a great option to smooth my silhouette. I also like a good support short too under skirts. I found one that supports my thighs and hips more so than my tummy which is great for me. Thanks for the bra fitting tips. I would like to find more styles with a wider band in 32C cup, it would certainly help to smooth things out as I get a bit older.
I feel like I've just had a very important maturing lesson from Mom, so soothing, comfortable and must known. Thank you so much for the video!
I learnt about bra fittings from clothes catalogues when in my teens and had no issues finding a comfortable fit. However these days it seems to be a challenge as each manufacturer has a different idea about sizing, same applies to clothes.
Her voice and her presence is so calming!!!
Wonderfully clear and precise presentation!
Your voice is so calming I almost fell asleep watching this video 😊❤
My struggle with finding a bra is that when I take a breath in my band size expands almost 3" so most bras that fit properly restrict my breathing significantly. If they are larger band size they are often too wide. Is this something that can be addressed when selecting a size? Or maybe a fabric type?
I think all you can do is get one w/ a very elastic band, wide enough to not cut but not so wide it rolls. Never wash too hot so the elastic stays snappy longer, and accept that it might not be the most "supportive" bra in the world.
(Honestly our bodies usually support our boobs quite well, esp if you do some back exercises now and then... Ofc some people have it worse.)
The abrathatfits method does take this into account! Google it
What a great and informative video. You radiate such elegance and kindness and it's a delight to watch. I wish you all the best!
Hello Audrey, This is the first video of your’s I have watched. I found your tips very helpful. My biggest problem with bras is that the straps always fall down. I find the clips meant to keep them up hard to use. Any suggestions? Stephanie
I use a front closure bra so the straps don’t fall off my shoulder
very helpful and informational video, Audrey. also the validation for not wearing a bra at the end is💯
I stopped using bra with the wire. Now my days goes by without hurting myself
As always, excellent content!
This is the very best video on undergarments that I’ve seen!
Hi, can you make a video on backpacks for uni/work that don't ruin your outfit but still are practical. Tysm
Your information is spot on! I now know how to measure myself with your guidance & thank you. I am small breastfed & always find the right fit doesn't seem to help. Now I hope I can find the right size & the right fit ! Thank you so much. This is very helpful!
First video which I saw on your channel was related to bra only. From there I learned to wear skin coloured bra with white shirt instead of white bra
Great advice 😊. I have had a pacemaker for years and this most recent pacemaker is on my breast tissue and most bras really affect it. I have some lovely fitting bras but all T-shirt smooth bras hurt as they press onto my pacemaker.
I love the belt!!! Where did you buy it?
Thank you! It's from Shashi :)
@@AudreyCoynewhat’s Shashi?
The way you articulate this information is amazing , and very informative video.. amazing skill of presentation you have ; keep it up! Thanku😊
I stopped wearing a bra 8 years ago and it has been the most freeing thing I have ever done when it comes to clothing. Never looked back. Tried a bra a year ago under a dress to look more polished and it was so uncomfortable right after when I put it on. Yes, my bras are properly fitted, it wasn't hurting me or pinching anywhere. Many would think it looks beautiful on me. It just felt so forced, unnatural and too "supported" to have a bra on. That said I'd only wear one when forced to do so, which is not very often. After being without a bra for so many years wearing one make me feel too self-aware as a female, which took me by surprise. Haven't met many males that wear bras or similar and I wonder why? ;) I do wear a sports top when doing sports to prevent my body parts flopping in the air when jumping. Otherwise could care less about how they look. Just a body part with one single purpose, lactation. Ha.
I felt that way when I was in my 20’s, was a ballet dancer, and my B-cup breasts stood up by themselves. As I’ve aged and gained weight, gravity has taken over, and in my 60’s I need to help them as they’ve fallen down and can’t get up w/o help😜
Good for you
@@luannfeld3983 Appreciate this! So true. I am 39 with three kids (all breastfed, so this experiment going braless started from that). You could use my b-cups as pencil holders, and I still think they look ok. They are there. Lol. 😆I feel, but might be ignorant saying this, so pardon me, if bras work to take of the load from ones shoulders, then go for it, but for the sake of looks, I'd skip them. We are beautiful just the way we are. No need for the vanity to prove it.
@@lauraward2413 Feels normal
Yeah well, my D - checks measurements as told in the video - E cups already jiggle allover the place with every move when they're strapped in. Walking without a bra is impossible. Anything faster than 3km/h (1.8 mph) and I run danger to get hit in the face and knocked out...