Looking in the Mirror: Accepting That You Might Be the Problem

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  • Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
  • We reveal the moment we had to check ourselves after realizing we were the problem in situations.
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Комментарии • 161

  • @patriceminto5428
    @patriceminto5428 2 года назад +351

    I really don’t wanna see this show go! These messages are always so timely for me. Every single time I need it, you guys are there to put me back on track.

  • @jeffrivera3612
    @jeffrivera3612 2 года назад +118

    Struggling with this right now. Feel like I’m going through a mid life crisis at 29.
    I don’t feel fulfilled in my job, life… in anything. These days I feel like I’m not living, just barely existing.

    • @orlenecharles6590
      @orlenecharles6590 2 года назад +10

      You're still young, I'd go back to school and maybe make a career change. Do something you really want to do.

    • @sandraD3971
      @sandraD3971 2 года назад +7

      Try meditation,it will help you to live in the present,clarity,de stress and give you answers to where you feel unfulfilled. London meditation Centre with Jillian and Michael..are game changers👌🏽

    • @ML-ni1tk
      @ML-ni1tk 2 года назад +23

      if you're a believer, try to pray to God. I write it down, whatever it is that I'm feeling. Like a letter to him. then I read scripture and watch The Real (LOL). It's been helping me and I feel like I'm growing closer to God. I still have challenges (in daily life and spiritually) but I feel like I'm not alone anymore. Most importantly, I know I'm growing a special and personal bond with my creator. Hope this helps you. May God be with you❤

    • @emekaemmanuel5258
      @emekaemmanuel5258 2 года назад +12

      Seek therapy. Depression is real.

    • @oftones
      @oftones 2 года назад +13

      I relate to you so much. 🤍 I'm 22. I drag myself through the days. I try to be positive but it just feels like an exhausting experience.

  • @wayNAY87
    @wayNAY87 2 года назад +118

    I feel like only Loni addressed the question head on - how am I the problem. The question was not “how can I change my situation?”

    • @stacy2816
      @stacy2816 2 года назад +27

      Yes, it's interesting how the rest of the ladies didn't really listen to what was being asked. Many women are like this, they never see themselves as the problem and they surround themselves with other women who tell them they don't have to change a thing because they're so great etc.

    • @hannahhan03
      @hannahhan03 2 года назад +6

      They did address the question which came from changing certain things about themselves to better the situation after realising you are the the problem.

  • @Sara-zu4og
    @Sara-zu4og 2 года назад +43

    Protect your little girl Jeanie. So many kids out there that need protection and don’t get it.

  • @MrLoyalty2me
    @MrLoyalty2me 2 года назад +74

    I have this talk with myself plenty of times and I am still working on it. Thank you ladies for the inspiration!

  • @BleuAutumn101
    @BleuAutumn101 2 года назад +58

    As a mum I am with Jeannie. Your child deserves every safe space possible and its your responsibility to shield them from outside influences that don't have your best interests at heart ❤

  • @MajesticMyronn
    @MajesticMyronn 2 года назад +62

    I think there are people that are prone to being right all the time that when people are giving criticism to how this person they take it as an attack… if you are having issues with multiple people especially people that aren’t looking to have issues with you , but u want them to be the bad guy… there needs to be internalizing and self work to be had ! It doesn’t make u a bad person but the situations u allow to take over ur peace and ur relationship will be the detriment of you in the end

  • @fionaj7340
    @fionaj7340 2 года назад +23

    Adrienne and Jeannie was really on point with their responses. Omg....these ladies take us on a journey each day that really challenges us women to wake up and be our best version of ourselves. Their "realness" is " so real"

  • @moimeself1088
    @moimeself1088 2 года назад +18

    Loni... guuuurl, you look sooooo good in braids .. of every kind! Please scale back on the wigs, and rock more of the braids. I know you do them yourself, but a little help once in a while never hurt anyone. 🤩🥰💕🇿🇦

    • @haryel5058
      @haryel5058 2 года назад +1

      She does 😍😍😍

  • @marianarowles5523
    @marianarowles5523 2 года назад +20

    Hardest battle is against self and accepting I'm not always going to get it right however not giving up is never an option for an individual for a clear end goal. I think the biggest motivator for me is knowing things get better when I'm consistent and realistic about expectation is put on myself

  • @cakermaster1151
    @cakermaster1151 2 года назад +41

    So basically we’re not seeing Monico until she’s old enough to have social media😂

    • @cyrenewilliams4169
      @cyrenewilliams4169 2 года назад +4

      😂😂 this is our fate now

    • @LY-wl3uf
      @LY-wl3uf 2 года назад +19

      No- Jeannie actually said in comments that pics are coming soon and in a live, she said that she recently filmed a hello hunnay video with Monaco.
      She just felt that way at first which is perfectly understandable and is more comfortable with sharing now.
      A lot of ppl don’t want to expose their baby when they’re newborn or only a few months old especially with all the negative and ignorant ass ppl on social media.

    • @omphilemoerane2569
      @omphilemoerane2569 2 года назад +13

      I don't blame her. No one is going to see my child until they are 5 months old.

    • @thatayaonedick1663
      @thatayaonedick1663 2 года назад

      @@cyrenewilliams4169 gurl😂🤷

    • @Myaccount923
      @Myaccount923 2 года назад +3

      Yep this is what I plan to do with my kids.

  • @steph_steph876
    @steph_steph876 2 года назад +10

    This at time is so necessary. Really evaluating what is going on in your life and actively working to make that change. Identifying where the problems are and doing something about it.

  • @k.d.smith726
    @k.d.smith726 2 года назад +17

    This message was definitely for me! I need to take my weight loss journey more seriously.

  • @dreasheart5098
    @dreasheart5098 2 года назад +9

    Yes I love what Loni and Adrienne said..what can I do?

  • @RobertDuncanrobthevoice
    @RobertDuncanrobthevoice 2 года назад +5

    I had to realize that I had to change so I can be happy. Trying to please people and always telling everyone there right and I'm wrong was not working.

  • @hisfavvv
    @hisfavvv 2 года назад +17

    Lol, Jeannie was kinda off topic but used it as a way to say stop asking her to see her child.

    • @C2G2
      @C2G2 2 года назад +4

      No she wasn’t she was right on topic she understood the assignment 😉

  • @calahbutterfly
    @calahbutterfly 2 года назад +9

    I agree w jeannie and A. When i had a baby it was similar. I stopped listening to other ppl and was finally listening to myself. Whats best for my baby and was able to clearly see ppl didnt have the best interests for me.

  • @truthteller816
    @truthteller816 2 года назад +10

    I loved this conversation! I think this is SO IMPORTANT, instead of looking outward and blaming society, we need to look within more and see what WE can do to change what we don’t like in our life.

  • @clove8763
    @clove8763 2 года назад +37

    To Jeanie Jenkins: 👏👏👏 Anything you share with your viewers is a bonus to us, not a requirement! You share when you AND Monaco are absolutely ready and if y'all never ready, then to your sincere fans, that's okay with us too! #YouDontOweAnythingtoAnyone #ESPECIALLYToPeopleYouveNeverMet 👏

  • @sheilacastillo7699
    @sheilacastillo7699 2 года назад +4

    The same conversation Adrian was saying what was really going through her mind and her emotions the same thing I was feeling yesterday and today and his like we read through each others mind

  • @AmiraKrim
    @AmiraKrim 2 года назад +11

    I'm loving the topics you've been discussing lately

  • @YasminYoruba
    @YasminYoruba 2 года назад +13

    I have this talk but finally getting up to do it was the real challenge. I’m happy I did though 🥰

  • @esmeri2380
    @esmeri2380 2 года назад +5

    Jeanine, only shares when she is advertising some product

  • @BRAINSTORMTROOPER11
    @BRAINSTORMTROOPER11 2 года назад

    Jennie...I feel you...I am an extremely sharing person. I have way too much Extraverted energy. I am Private, but I love to share my experiences parenting my kids all of it..the good, the Bad, and the Ugly. I Berly started to get feedback from my kids who are both Scorpios...and they are not having it. I am sad about not sharing them with my intimate following, but the feeling of doing right by their energy is what made me ease up. I ask or show them beforehand, but I wish I could of understood this sooner and checked myself before they did...good for you Jennie for catching that feeling even though you don't mind sharing...our precious Memories our sacred to us and It's all about balance and Understanding.

  • @dreasheart5098
    @dreasheart5098 2 года назад +11

    Silencing others voices....love that Adrienne

    • @calvinsmith5012
      @calvinsmith5012 2 года назад

      Hello there 👋🌺

    • @robynbrowne1277
      @robynbrowne1277 2 года назад

      yeah but you got a cheap option i don't have money for paris 😩

  • @akindabili4449
    @akindabili4449 2 года назад +6

    I truly agree with you Jeannie 💯keep Monaco away from social media you have taken absolute right step.

  • @maame6224
    @maame6224 2 года назад +1

    Thanks ladies, u r speaking to me! I do need to do some serious changes in my life.😞😞

  • @xaulsanz4511
    @xaulsanz4511 2 года назад

    I stopped myself into many things but it defies the purpose of salivation of sin. Being miserable could be better than adapting into a modem society. A change of heart is important at most. Out of bitterness.

  • @kathleenweinberg6442
    @kathleenweinberg6442 2 года назад +5

    It's always great to take time out for yourself to figure out things and to think things through

  • @rebels42wynn83
    @rebels42wynn83 2 года назад

    I love this video. This is one of the most important discussions that had made me think about my situations and my thoughts. Thank you, Beautiful Goddesses!!!!

  • @alexandraanderson3988
    @alexandraanderson3988 2 года назад

    Oh Wow I'm new to the show this season and I completley miss judged Adrienne thinking that she was like every other girls out there wth a ghetto personality😊 but wow when you here her talk or when I here her talk she be so real and vunerable which seems so honest coming from a real place its like wow.😧

  • @danielsdrumclub3676
    @danielsdrumclub3676 2 года назад +7

    Completely resonate with what Adrienne said!!

  • @Porcelynnn
    @Porcelynnn 2 года назад +3

    Self-awareness and admitting to your toxic traits is important. Very uncomfortable but growth is across the line of comfort. Leave the comfort zone of who you are now to become the better you that you are very much capable of being.

  • @xaulsanz4511
    @xaulsanz4511 2 года назад +3

    A photo album is better than social media.

  • @mandys1038
    @mandys1038 2 года назад +28

    Jeannie definitely changed after having Monaco, like she said she used to share everything but when it came to her daughter she has yet to post anything about her. It is growth and I am glad she is not letting anyone's opinion change that, protect what's yours.

  • @sachamoses9233
    @sachamoses9233 2 года назад +11

    Loni looks gorgeous in those dreads

  • @rythegoddess718
    @rythegoddess718 2 года назад

    I'm sad they're leaving.....

  • @JoJo-jt9cp
    @JoJo-jt9cp 2 года назад

    We can't we keep the real exclusive to RUclips or shop for another network? I need this show!

  • @abenak1309
    @abenak1309 2 года назад +4

    I love your hair Loni xxx❤️

  • @Khurr
    @Khurr 2 года назад +11

    Ok try to follow this thought:
    - have u ever looked into the mirror and accept that you are the problem
    - change is scary but sometimes necessary
    - I don’t have any specific to share on that
    Is anyone seeing that this is the statement of a person who is not willing to admit that they’ve ever considered themself as the problem, or am I tripping here! Last time I checked, the show is called the Real!

  • @sbella44
    @sbella44 2 года назад +2

    I love these ladies.x

  • @alezandradavila2581
    @alezandradavila2581 Год назад

    Yep

  • @emeliaoppong747
    @emeliaoppong747 2 года назад +3

    My kids. When they yell or make noise, I scream to tell them to stop yelling. Loo

  • @shavonh8421
    @shavonh8421 2 года назад +3

    For along time I didn’t want to post my kids on social media because I didn’t want people judging them and they were perfect it was just me being a mother 🐻 so I get it.

  • @BRAINSTORMTROOPER11
    @BRAINSTORMTROOPER11 2 года назад +2

    Accountability, Self Awareness, We all been there, but we shouldn't be perplex when others don't. They may never change, but they can. I also noticed that I always had Accountability, but wasn't aware that folks won't admit to their part in the Mess. Matter of fact, I have watch folks let me hang... because I am the first one take Accountability on my end.

  • @katarinaogilvie6662
    @katarinaogilvie6662 2 года назад

    Wonderful xxxx and Jeannie you’re GLOWING xxxx you all are xxxx

  • @DeeL3
    @DeeL3 2 года назад +1

    Idk, they made good points but at the same time, they didn't really answer the question.

  • @mbalinhlapo9952
    @mbalinhlapo9952 2 года назад +2

    Well the baby is on RUclips now

  • @shomza88
    @shomza88 2 года назад +2

    This conversation wow 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @TEDRACAKES
    @TEDRACAKES 2 года назад +1

    These parents have a problem listening like I get you grown but you can always improve, too ! Like your child loves you and want you to be great, too !

  • @blackshinigami6776
    @blackshinigami6776 2 года назад +2

    It's call accountability don't worry say it but it's kryptonite for many ladies 🤷🏾‍♂️

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    @drizzle1977 2 года назад

    Wait. Hit song. Fireballs. I believe I'm the perfect guy for you and hey who knew?

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  • @Koalatronic
    @Koalatronic 2 года назад +1

    I think apart from Loni, they each went off topic, but that's okay as it was still interesting to hear.

  • @acrwhite
    @acrwhite 2 года назад +2

    Really don’t want this show to end!! It’s conversations like this that I need to hear

  • @queenpiece7063
    @queenpiece7063 2 года назад +1

    Why they show Adrienne as the thumbnail. I caught the shade. Lol😉🤣

  • @SunshineShortiee
    @SunshineShortiee 2 года назад +1

    Jeezy doesn’t post any of children on social media too, he’s a private person while Jeannie in a lot of ways is opposite.

  • @LoveTheEighties
    @LoveTheEighties 2 года назад +1

    Nice enough to give access? Celebrities wouldn't know what to do with themselves if they didn't have the love support and attention of the people. It's your livelihood and what allows all your luxurious life style so don't get ego headed. No one is thinking about asking for the baby the people are respecting the boundaries.

  • @yeyamusic
    @yeyamusic 2 года назад +1

    Jeannie’s hair is so cute!!

  • @preciousmatlapeng9497
    @preciousmatlapeng9497 2 года назад +1

    now Monaco has an instagram😂😂😂

  • @tiamarie6997
    @tiamarie6997 2 года назад

    Omg Jeannie🙄🙄🙄

  • @ShowCrazyRage
    @ShowCrazyRage 2 года назад +2

    Hello 👋

  • @lisaonyia963
    @lisaonyia963 2 года назад

    Gracelle really struggles to be vulnerable

  • @dorothyedwards7225
    @dorothyedwards7225 2 года назад +2

    100% REAL!!!!!!

  • @alexandraanderson3988
    @alexandraanderson3988 4 месяца назад

    Her deep voice 😂😂😂😅😊 for Yeah Garcelle gets me everytime LMAOO 0:35 0:36

  • @miguelmercado5949
    @miguelmercado5949 2 года назад +2

    I’m with you ade! 💯

  • @monde1250
    @monde1250 2 года назад +4

    Adrienne is still blaming others in what she needed to change. She needed to silence other people’s noise
    Adrienne i think the topic is about what you are doing wrong not how others are making your life unhappy

    • @SolarisEclipse55
      @SolarisEclipse55 2 года назад +2

      I think what she is conveying in her message is: what she was doing wrong is listening to other people. People pleasing is a real thing and she is still learning in that area but she had to start somewhere.

  • @Porcelynnn
    @Porcelynnn 2 года назад

    Looking at my credit card statements, I am the problem.

  • @brittneyrenea210
    @brittneyrenea210 2 года назад +1

    💜💜💜💜

  • @ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy
    @ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy 2 года назад +2

    Still can't believe this show is going away.

  • @tiffanychestnut6513
    @tiffanychestnut6513 2 года назад

    Can The Real just move to another network? This show is not done yet!!

  • @inspiringyoutobecompletely9948
    @inspiringyoutobecompletely9948 2 года назад

    Love all theirs colors Loni love your lavender so beautiful 💖

  • @xenio
    @xenio 2 года назад +1

    Real fam, I'm working full time and really wanna focus on my RUclips channel. Can you have a great day career and reach your dreams/ goals at the same time?

  • @ColiCoa
    @ColiCoa 2 года назад

    Baby Monaco has brought out the grown grown in her mommy. You can feel, hear and see the unconditional love she has for her baby girl. Yes #mamabear protect her innocence from social media as long as you can. Watch your phones when she turns 2 though. She gone be saying “Hello Hunnay” to the Mai Fam on live one day and taking selfies and dialing contacts lol. My grand baby did it to her mama. Toddlers are tech savvy these days😂😂😂

  • @EbonyLoveandMarriage
    @EbonyLoveandMarriage 2 года назад

    Jeanie had A GIRL??

  • @irakaye
    @irakaye Год назад

    I love Loni! What she said. 💯

  • @hollaatthekid1796
    @hollaatthekid1796 2 года назад

    I love when celebs and RUclipsrs draw a line in the sand and let us know what is off limits. Good for you all! Live your lives. Enjoy your baby and your privacy.

  • @robynbrowne1277
    @robynbrowne1277 2 года назад

    just to add on what Jeannie said with posting her daughter. Not only is she fragile and you must protect her from things but other moms also. Moms think they know everything about babies when they have one and will be quick to judge you on you choose to raise and take care of your child. be careful about posting her on social media cause people be scary especially moms

  • @danaboo88
    @danaboo88 2 года назад

    I absolutely respect and admire Jeannie’s decision not to share her daughter. I truly get it. But oohhh I just have to say I just want to see how beautiful she is because I am so happy for her and Jeezy! But again it’s all good mama bear- you protect your little human as much as you want and it’s not up to me or anyone else to dictate how she is shown to the world- it’s up to you and most importantly her. I bet she’s gorgeous! 💜

  • @lindaantebi955
    @lindaantebi955 2 года назад

    Only Loni answered the question

  • @LalaActingAndBeauty
    @LalaActingAndBeauty 2 года назад

    I believe Adrienne doesn’t care about those things anymore because what she truly wants is difficult at the moment for her. I believe she just wants to be a mommy and nothing else matters right now and may not ever matter to her anymore. And that’s ok. And I may be wrong but I’m just guessing

  • @ericaleach1110
    @ericaleach1110 2 года назад

    Good for Jeannie deciding not to share Monaco with the world. Social media has made it where people want to see everything about a person's life and while I do think it's polite to share that the baby is healthy (as Jeannie did), beyond that hide or share as much or as little as you want

  • @chewchew4270
    @chewchew4270 2 года назад

    This is the REALEST show!!!!!!!!!

  • @saint-harrington
    @saint-harrington 2 года назад

    Didn't they talk about this last week ? When did you realized u were the problem ? It has been repetitive for quite some time and seasons

  • @bennysmiley
    @bennysmiley 2 года назад

    Why did I feel Garcelle was talking to my spirit !?!?

  • @salfra4476
    @salfra4476 2 года назад

    It's so scary how much we all can relate to this but in different ways also I think alot of us will feel like this because we always want to make ourselves better

  • @ahischak
    @ahischak 2 года назад

    Okay but Jeannie can you dm me a pic of Monaco pleaaaaaaassse I won’t share it it anyone! 😂

  • @karengutloff2004
    @karengutloff2004 2 года назад

    O.K. so now I forgive Jeannie for not sharing a picture of Monocao. I get it.

  • @jonnydavis6066
    @jonnydavis6066 2 года назад

    Women never take the accountability for anything 🙊

  • @jonnydavis6066
    @jonnydavis6066 2 года назад

    Now Jeannie wanna talk about her kids like Tamera used to🙊

  • @ToniaAlex13
    @ToniaAlex13 Год назад

    Yes, I do it all the time!

  • @thegirltee838
    @thegirltee838 2 года назад

    I'm gonna guys

  • @sheky3138
    @sheky3138 2 года назад +1

    First!

  • @annareyes6840
    @annareyes6840 2 года назад

    When this show was on the top to now being canceled 😢😢😭

  • @elizabethitota
    @elizabethitota 2 года назад

    This darker hair on Jeannie🔥🔥🔥

  • @JackGeezy
    @JackGeezy 2 года назад +1

    😴😴😴😴😴

  • @margrethehakizimana3865
    @margrethehakizimana3865 2 года назад

    ❤️

  • @CrispyFriedPickles
    @CrispyFriedPickles 2 года назад

    Loni looks amazing!

  • @Cherrykisser
    @Cherrykisser 2 года назад +2

    Please don't end this show

  • @azraprinceza
    @azraprinceza 2 года назад +2

    I love love this show. Y’all are amazing ladies!