There is a quote that is similar to this, “Look at the trees that people throw rocks at and you’ll notice that those are the trees that bear the fruit.”
@@dm.7330 lol people who say that end up bitter, alone, and have an undignified death, with a life full of happy people not knowing or caring you exist and the people above you that you're desperate to be are all laughing at you behind your back. so enjoy that. 👌
@@nataliajedrusik6265 lol now you're backtracking and you feel convicted, bc i didn't argue what was good or bad or right or wrong. I argued that being right or wrong matters - and apparently it does to you! You don't even believe your own shallow mantra lol.🙄
When I left my $15/hour job to pursue my tech career where I now make 6 figures, I started getting less and less “likes” and lots of hater energy. That’s when I learned that people want you to do well in life…but not better than them.
I do agree to a certain extent but I think it's more that people are sad with themselves at the end of the day. Yeah, it might be perceived as jealousy and envy which I'm sure there is plenty of but I've been the person that unfollowed people who were thriving because it made me genuinely sad about my own life in comparison. Now I'm able to be happy for others who are hundreds of steps ahead of me knowing I'm on my own path and my own clock and I think a lot of people just need to learn that lesson.
@@ania5038 Ania this is incredibly self-aware of you. Yes, feeling sad, stuck & defeated about your position in life is a difficult place to be. Other people's successes just points out your lack. It's isn't until you feel positive forward movement in your own life that you can be inspired by other people's story and not sad about your own. I'm happy you learned this valuable lesson.💜
@@MariaLuckyxo Thank you and I just got hired for a permanent position related to the new field I wanted to start in which I've been searching for for ages so I am feeling so grateful right now
Yes, I'd like Shallon to make a video about that too. And how to know when to take a break and when to push ahead. I'm glad Simone took a break and got the help that she needed, as it helped her come back better and stronger than ever ❤
I'm not male but I remember criticizing her back in the day because I just thought it was embarrassing and made America look weaker than it already looks with a senile president and former orange president lol But I also don't know what it's like to be an Olympic athlete or get the twisties so she probably was going through a tough time.
@@ania5038thank you for being honest enough to admit you were one of the critics and revisiting the subject. I understood right away when it happened that she was protecting her health and safety. Those moves are DANGEROUS. The reflexes she employed to land safely from that vault were superhuman. She could have easily been paralyzed for the rest of her life over a medal that probably cost about a hundred bucks to make. Not worth it.
What a roller coaster. I'm so happy you ended with the realization that hate, envy, revenge,...are not the super powers. Self love and respect is what defeats the haters and get you to where you want to be.
I don’t know if anyone has seen this, but on tiktok there’s this girl who makes great food and shares it with her family. Her mom always hate her food. Then her daughter serves her mother burgerking burger (her favourite) and the mother is all «I can’t even taste anything» and when she say it’s a burgerking burger her face just drops. Can you do a vid on when your mother is your biggest hater? I guess it boils down to jealousy, but it would be an interesting take.
I can't imagine having a mother who is a hater that is so effed up my mother died 13 years ago and even though I didn't have a long time with her she was the most supportive loving protective mother God bless you all who have shity moms
@@elizabethmoore3464 Mothers being jealous of their daughters is not that uncommon sadly. Or they live through them so they can «experience» what they never could. I’m blessed with an amazing mother as well, but some of my friends have straight up mean moms who view their daughters as competition. If they get fit, bag a rich husband or get a better education… 😬
Shallon has a very good relationship with her mom s I don’t think this is a topic she could give advice on. A mother wound is so deep and hurts on a primal level. It’s one of those few things you have to experience and survive first hand before giving advice. It would be like a person who was born rich giving financial advice to people born into poverty.
If you woke up this morning and you do not have pain in your body.. and you are not feeling thirst or feeling hunger.. if you take the strength that you have in your body mind and soul and use it to be petty... . To be mean without any reason.. it is vile .. you are blessed with a body that is operating at it's peak and that is what you do with your time.. is be petty I swear it's just the worst.. thanks for another great video ❤
On the woman’s boxing.. she isn’t a man, a genetic advantage because she has more testosterone.. like adhd (which Simone biles has) which helped her get more reps in and have more over all energy is in her favor. We aren’t all the same she is a woman.
Shallon! The Imane Khalif issue needs to be discussed! She was born as a woman she lived as a woman she has a uterus and a vaguna and is able to give birth yet she be treated like a trans just for having high testesterone levels! I find this to be such anti-women hypocrite comments againt the poor girl; we all go theough hormonal imbalances pcos … etc yet the second we slightly dont fit into the stereotypical we get hated on and insulted
I agree and the “feminist” JK rowling who tweeted 10 times about this creating a whole misconception and inciting others to cyberbully the poor girl others jumped too like Elon Musk Jake Paul… Shallon really needs to do her research and address this. Those conservatives and fake feminists think they are protecting women’s rights
Exactly, I don’t believe trans people should compete in the opposite gender’s sports but in the case of Imane, she has some sexual development defects but she is still a woman, and to say she shouldn’t be a woman, is to reinforce gender stereotypes against women and is anti-feminist
It’s like there are no real targets for online bullies (what shallon likes to call chiuhuahuas) so they starter attacking random women that are tall or muscular…
Algerian boxer Imane Khelif was born female, was raised female, and is female. She does have a genetic advantage-a high level of testosterone-that has previously led to her being denied entry into some competitions. However, like all other athletes, she complies with the eligibility and registration rules for the competition, as well as all applicable medical rules established by the Paris 2024 Boxing Unit. This is how sports work. Should we deny tall athletes the chance to play basketball? Besides, it’s not as if she has never been defeated by other women. No one accused her of being trans then. I hope this girl has a great lawyer and sues for defamation.
Also didn't her opponent that dropped out drop out real fast in another Olympics game too? So maybe her opponent just isn't a good fit for boxing and not a reflection of Imane being too strong or whatever. I feel bad for Imane, she was born with all the biological lady parts but since she's tall and looks manly she's getting so much hate. I know a lot of tall, bulky girls that were accused of being men because of their jawlines and lack of curves.😭
Love your concept that being constantly angry is like wearing a weighted vest under all your clothes, people may not see it, but you can feel the extra heaviness.
The Algerian boxer is a biological woman, I would expect you to do more research and know that its literally illegal to be trans there and her father had to show her birth certificate to prove it
They were raised as a female yet have DSD (often called intersex) and XY chromosomes which is why they failed a chromosome test the IBA gave so technically they are not a woman.
From what I read that Algerian boxer Imane Khelif was born a woman. Also Algeria is very conservative, I don’t think any middle eastern country has an open trans athlete representing them
I did gymnastics in high school. It is my absolute favorite thing in the world. I was never anywhere even close to elite (maybe got to level 7 skills? No giants though). But as much as I love it as as hard as I worked at it, being young and attempting to be competitive it was sometimes hard to know you were going to get your butt beat by the same girls who were AMAZING every meet. And even if you improved, so did they. It just wears you down after a while because while you can love something, reality can stare you in the face to tell you “you will never be good enough, no matter how much you love it”. So what do you do? It is a hobby, not a career, right? I kept at it, still Had a blast, and don’t regret a moment or an injury. Even today I try to make sure I never lose some skills that I remember working so hard for! Looking at it from that perspective and the highly competitive nature of the USA national team, I can sort of get Mykayla. She was very good, but never favored. That has got to be really difficult. And it happens to a lot of girls in that level. It sucks. Then you can look at how the code of points is organized and how it favors the currently style of the US gymnasts and maybe they DON’T have to work as hard? They do have to keep up skills and they MUST be strategic though! So maybe a different way of thinking. Either way, many of us never make it to the Olympics, Mykayla shouldn’t have said anything. She can have her own opinion and tell her husband. She is also really lucky that she DID get to go and got silver. I am proud of her for that. Additionally, Simone is VERY good! She made it a career, and that is impressive. But it won’t last forever, and the code will eventually change. So who knows what will happen. Man I love this sport
@@grazielaalmeida8438 she is A golden girl, but watching event finals yesterday and seeing how Simone’s difficulty buffer didn’t save her on beam and floor was interesting. Great Italy won, thag girl had a lovely beam! But man, what a wild day!
The quality has gone down a bit though. Team USA no longer has to face some of their fiercest rivals in gymnastics which are the Russians because they’re banned from competing. They’ve been consistently on the podium and they took the gold on the last Olympics which they were outstanding in. Their absence has left a void that now other teams like Brazil to take the podium which is unheard of. No dig to the Brazilians who work really hard but let’s face it if the Russians had been allowed to compete that podium would’ve looked a lot different
Maybe? Also, I will say the current code of points doesn’t seem to care about form, which used to be really important. I can understand how Mykayla is bitter, I get it, she worked super hard for a goal that was always just out of reach, but she shouldn’t have mouthed off. This happens to a lot of girls in the sport, and it sucks. Also as cool as repeat olympians are, it also means others can probably lay never get to go. At that level I can understand the bitterness.
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw yeah I can understand her bitterness and even though I do think the quality has gone down a bit I’m still not defending her making those comments 😬 it does make her sound petty and it’s just the reality of competing at such an elite level, but Idk, especially her knowing how hard it is to make an Olympic team, how is she so confident to ascertain that she had it harder and worked harder than the current girls? It’s just in bad taste imo but alas she is entitled to her feelings.
@@llehsir girl and you don’t think other countries are abusive to their gymnasts? 😭 don’t go looking too far, our own girls here in America were literally being SA’d by their team doctor, and these girls were still brought out to compete at high level despite that. On top of that the injuries, not allowed to make a peep. McKayla Maroney had a broken toe when she performed that perfect vault in the London Olympics. Have you met the Chinese? Famous for putting out highly skilled artists and athletes and all they go through to achieve that perfection is grueling. Every country has dirt on them when it comes to competing at this elite level, it’s not just the Russians 🥲
I started watching your content when the whole situation with Jordyn Woods and Tristan happened. I was starting my phd and I was 160 pounds. On the 20th of July of this year, I successfully defended my phd thesis and managed to lost 40 pounds. During this whole crazy trip, I was always tuning in for your content. A sister figure for me ❤.
Simone Biles is my Taylor Swift. I watch my 6 year old do gymnastics every Saturday morning and no one in that room is even close to Simone at the same age. She’s truly a goddess among women
I like Simone a lot, but she isn’t my favorite gymnast (that goes to Nastia, Shawn and Sveana, and actually Mohini!) Simone had a lot going for her gene wise, and she worked hard on top of it. She deserves her success, but she isn’t the ONLY one who is good. I think the current code of points also really works in her favor. If it valued dance elements more she would be in a different place (and she might actually push to work on her dance and pointing)
@@KatieLHall-fy1hwSHE IS THE GOAT. Name someoneelse who can achieve what she has and continues to achieve...... I'm waiting................ Still waiting.
@@marcusgraham5084 why is she required to be my favorite gymnast, exactly? I can admire her and appreciate her skills but I was unaware that the COP required her to be the favored gymnast. Please provide me with a new link if you have one! :)
Now that I’m in my 30s, I’ve reevaluate what matters to me when it comes to the people I keep around. One of the things I can’t stand is “unnecessary meanness”. I’m not talking about when someone lays down boundaries or is standing up for themselves. I’m speaking of mean-spiritedness that is unfounded, attacking people who have nothing to give, and haven’t done anything to hurt you. Talking shit about people who are genuinely trying to improve themselves and are excited about things and hobbies.
Kind of repeating your words here, a self-contented woman will not hate on another, haters are lacking and due to the shame, will project their insecurities onto another instead of dealing with their demons and leveling up. As always, you summed it up perfectly Shallon 🩷
Hey Shallon, have you seen the recent Drama going on between MILEY and her dad , how he called her a skank and she said he's DEAD to her, can you cover that por favor? miley hasn't been on the channel since cody simpson days. maybe a topic like how to deal with a toxic dynamic with your Parents ? :)
This is a good foundation to take this discussion deeper. What makes haters worth our energy in the first place? Why spend our night trying to ruin their night when we could just enjoy ourselves - not contingent on anyone else. Maybe thats the goal. Not noticing the haters or the praise for that matter. Hate comment? Didn't notice. Followers dropped. Too busy to keep track. Idk just Keep doing our thing instead of worrying what other ppl think about us at all.
I agree this is the mindset. BUT we are humans and things hurt. They just do, even if (perhaps especially so) when it’s from a loser doing nothing. I’ve spent a lot of time on this particular issue and I think if we try to gaslight ourselves and say it doesn’t matter I don’t care it just makes it worse. Care, hurt, but then move on. Give it 5 minutes on your alarm and then give em the fuck you.
@@shallonlester Thank you for replying! It is true. We are only human and boy, do our egos like to get in the way. Like you said, its important and healthy even to care and move on. What I have trouble understanding is why do we have to give them a f*ck you? Why do we have to give them anything? What if this is an eagle vs pigeons thing? We are the eagles obviously. We don't lose sleep over the opinions of pigeons. What makes them deserving of our time and energy anyway? Why do we care so much about what other people think? Especially pigeons. Like you said, it's exhausting! Isn't doing something for our own sake enough? Aren't we enough? Is being unbothered truly what its all about? They're the chihuahua and we're the great danes. Reacting to their hate means that we're revolving our actions, our precious and time and energy, on them. In a way, we are letting them control us and our emotions. Aren't we better than that? You've always taught us that we are alpha females and as alphas, if we're not taking control of ourselves than who is? Why should we give them that kind of power anyway? (btw this is a Saturday evening well spent - discussing psychology with the queen herself💕💕)
Agree with 90% of this video, but towards the end, I don’t think jealousy has to always equate with hate. I was one of those people who unfollowed Shallons insta after a bikini pics because yes I am jealous. But I also love her, watch all of her videos, admire her and watch Shallontourage videos religiously. I just had to clear my social media feed images that make me constantly critique my own body, I do that enough all day every time I look in the mirror. I’m inspired by Shallons transformation and I think she looks fantastic. Anyways, love Shallon and love her content, and also don’t think all of the women who unfollow do so out spite to the person in the picture.
Honestly Skinner was a hater, this year is where MULTIPLE gymnast returned to the Olympics, SOMETHING SHE COULDNT DO! If “lazy” gymnastics could do it over her what does that say about her.
OHHHH SNAP isn’t that exactly what it comes down to - if it’s so easy why aren’t you doing it?? I had someone chirp me like this when they found out Barack Obama follows me on Twitter. “He follows a lot of people” “Does he follow you??” “No 😞 “ OK THEN
“You’re doing something that is disrupting their idea of possibility.” I’m kind of gobsmacked. I’ve never heard hateration being summed up as well as you did here. I LOVE a great short and succinct sound bite and damnit that is a great one.
This video makes me wanna rant about something that I've experienced over the last year. I love road cycling. It is my passion, it saved me from my eating disorder (because I finally had something that was more important to me), it is my favourite thing in the world. I go on rides all the time. I have cycled half way across the Europe twice, have placed really well in amateur races, have conquered a proud number of alpine mountains passes. Yeah, I'm proud of all of that and it makes me happy. Some men in my family (not my dad. My dad is the best. He is my biggest cheerleader and loves to brag with me in front of his colleagues) who also do road cycling take it really badly. I get ignored and everything I achieved on the bike gets dismissed or is commented on a way that somehow makes it less. It is so frustrating. When I was younger I always thought it was really cheep to play the jealousy card as an explanation for when people hate on you but sometimes it is the only explanation left because anything else doesn't make any sense. I'm not doing anything! I'm just minding my own business! Can I never mention how well I did on a mountain with a bike ever again because it might hurt someone's ego??
Shallon, I love you! I wish we were friends IRL, I have the same snarky cynical sense of humor but I am not as good with my words as you are! ❤ you give such amazing advice!
Imane Khelif was born female, is currently female, and it is illegal in Algeria for her to be transgender even she wanted to be. As one person said perfectly on twitter : “Michael Phelps is literally referred to as a freak of nature because of his disproportionate wingspan, double jointed ankles, lung capacity twice that of an average human, body that produces half the lactic acid of a typical athlete, and he is rightly celebrated for being the greatest male swimmer in history. Meanwhile, female athletes with genetic differences are legally discriminated against and harassed to no end. This is not about "protecting women in sports" - this is about protecting a very specific idea of what a woman is.”
Can envy bring on hate maybe? 44:37 what happened to shallon happened to me. I’ve always been the gym girl, its one of my top priorities in life and the over wgt moms didn’t like my answer when they wanted the easy way out to lose weight and get a nice body and that’s when it happened
"Living well is the best revenge." Yes sis. YES. I had a group of grown women "friends" that treated me terribly, excluded me, gossiped about me...and it took me moving away to realize the reason was: they were all fat, I am a runner, (jealous), I am married to a rich successful man that adores me (they are not), I work and have my own career in addition to being a mom (they have no economic independence or choices and pend their lives talking trash at the park wearing sweatpants with their rotten children). They were just plain and simple jealous losers and it blew my mind because they are all older than 11 and I never thought grown women would collectively stoop to such petty nonsense. Most women don't EVER grow out of the jealous middle school phase and it's pathetic. I have learned to be totally ok with bragging about myself, my kids, my hot hubby that spoils us, and my awesome life because why tf not??? Love you Shal.
really needed to hear this. I’ve attracted a lot of hate in my life, and I could never understand why. I try my best to be kind and do a good job, it made no sense. Even some of my best friends have confessed that they first hated me on sight. I don’t try to antagonize my haters, I just tend to pity them. It must be miserable to be them.
@@wendykama1155 she mentioned it in her other recent video too! So random they bumped into each other in the resort bathroom in Hawaii lol 💜 Shallon said she was really nice and gracious to her fans too. So random!
Shallon…. I ❤ you!! Considering that a lot of us are so out of touch with reality(whether we like to admit it or not) you’re seriously a BREATH OF FRESH AIR!!!!! Every time I finish watching your videos, I feel brought back to earth 😭😭 thank you cause you’re always like.. so right 😂
I'm sorry, but Simones Instagram caption was not as much of an 'own' as people are making it out to be. Mykayla skinner is an idiot, and her comments were way out of line. Every gymnast works incredibly hard and has huge amounts of talent. But she was correct in that, without Russia there to try and defend their Tokyo Gold, Team USA gold was not really in doubt. They just had to have Simone do at least 3 events (she did all 4) and just do their job, and the gold was assured. No matter how much Chellsie Memmel claims otherwise, Simone, being a once in a generation athlete, gave USA a comfortable difficulty score cushion against all other teams. With Russia there and without Simone, THAT competiton would have been more of an accurate reflection of the broader standard of USA gymnastics today (still really truly amazing, but much less dominant and consistent than in previous years).
I remember bringing new forward thinking projects in my working life and i was getting so much hate. Someone told me " no one kicks a dead dog". It helped me keep going and everything was successful. I always remember those words going forward
Same girl. Just keep going don’t let it bring you down. it is likely jealousy and they will stop if you just don’t let it get to you. Definitely stand up when needed but overall these people are trash and hate their lives so they try to hurt others and make them miserable too. Keep shining💗 I just laugh at my hater. She loudly talks about how she hates her life and tries to pick my life apart and drag me down. Now that’s funny😂
Had a similar experience… hateful people try to tear others down instead of building themselves up… record every incident and bring it to HR… not ok to be bullied at your workplace
Just keep thriving. Do what makes you happy do not look sad or miserable at work. Go in there and smile it will hurt them. They don’t want to see you happy. H8rs are never from the people on top always at the bottom and wished to have what you have. My 2 coworkers who don’t like me apparently are triggered cause I have time to go gym and take care of myself .. very petty but that’s all it took for them to be like that. They will literally glare at me up and down it’s very disturbing. It’s not like I’m performing bad at work or anything while they’re getting scolded by other colleagues..
@@elainemcgovern1430 record everything but I'd be very wary of HR. they're out to protect the company, not the employees. they may view you as the problem if you go to them with workplace issues.
Some conservatives are completely overreacting with respect to the Algerian boxer and spreading so much misinformation. From what I can gather online, the conservatives lost their argument when they switched their definition of women to suit them. I’ve seen them cite female anatomy and how you were born as how your sex is defined. In this case, the Algerian boxer was born female. The Algerian boxer just experienced defects in her sexual development that meant she developed masculine traits, the Y chromosome (which usually develops later) and higher testosterone. She is definitely a woman but has some abnormalities with her sexual development which assist her in the pursuit of boxing. One thing I love about Shallon is that she introduced me to both formal and informal fallacies, and two of those that are employed by the conservatives are the shifting the goal posts and the burden of proof fallacies. I don’t find it surprising that those conservatives who originally qualified women by their anatomy are now redefining women by their X or Y chromosomes or testosterone levels when it benefits their narrative. Quite frankly, it makes me look at their logic as flawed and inconsistent, because there are a minority of women (who are not trans) that suffer deficiencies in their biology like this. Does that mean she’s not female though? No, not at all. That’s like saying that women with naturally higher testosterone or abnormally broad shoulders are not women. It should be borne in mind that the Y chromosome develops late in men which means that there can be borderline cases where the chromosome develops in women. As such, is chromosomes enough to qualify someone as one sex or the other in scientific terms? Just some questions to ponder. And to quote Shallon, get curious not furious. Let’s discuss where that line is!
Haters almost ALWAYS look like potatoes. Two of my biggest haters, in fact, looked like potatoes. It’s wild and I don’t think twice about them until they say something terrible and then It gets me thinking about the why. These people are just miserable and try to bring others down. I’m at the point where I just laugh😆 One of the things this hater picked on me for is bringing Starbucks into office each morning. So of course I kept doing it and 4 months later now she is drinking Starbucks😂 She has tried to put me down for everything and then I find her copying the things she tried to oppose and hated so much about me.
Omggg yassss!!!! Mine are coworkers who are over wgt. One likes to make fun of me in front of others, real professional btw and the other is a mean girl and a mom of 3. It’s insane how the least attractive ones are some of the meanest I’ve ever met!
@@Bunny11344absolutely! They’re almost never attractive they’re at the bottom trying to bring us down. My hater does the same, makes fun of me in front of my coworkers and tries to embarrass me. Jokes on her😆
So bougie, I’m 28 and would love to experience a trip with you or meet you in person day. I love your videos and everything about you Shallon! Thank you for inspiring me to become my own woman. Can’t wait to experience my 30s!
OK as a former professional athlete, I can tell you that sports psychology has been a thing for a long time. what hasn't been a thing is the fact that we can read people in their histories of childhood neglect and abuse, and what they do to others and say to others, and how it affects us as athletes
Amen girl the amount of public people who walk back from their opinions is infuriating. Grow your backbones people. It's fine if you change your mind later but don't just 'change your mind' for the sake of political correctness.
Shallon!! Thank you so much for uploading more videos! 💕 I was rewatching some of your older videos. You are the best!! All your topics are always on point 💕✨
as far as the boxing, I would hate to go all the way to the Olympics win, and then have people debating on whether or not I’m a woman just because I’m masculine looking. I mean talk about a hater. The testosterone levels are most likely from roids. Talk about that if you must discuss.
Do we really care about the opinion of someone who has NEVER won an Olympic Gold Medal? Yes, I realize that she has won gold medals at other events; however, the Olympics are at the "top of the food chain"! She doesn't have the "work ethic " to win an Olympic Gold Medal!
Thank you, Shallon! For helping me realize its more that okay to be evil if its to defend my self-expression and freedom to exist in the world the way I choose too! Love you girl!
So Makayla has every right to her opinion as we all do! (I’m kind of shocked Shallon as a fellow Gen X’er you can’t see that )She is in the gymnastics world so Her opinion actually has more weight than ours. Why is it hating? She is seeing a decline in gymnastics ( obviously she wasn’t talking about Simone) and you know what, I am too! Go back and look at old Olympic gymnastics routines from previous eras. Gymnastics now is so technical bordering on boring where every routine almost looks identical to the last beside maybe a little more height or a half a rotation more. My only regret for Makayla is the now required “apology” after you say how you feel and the masses can’t deal with it.
Currently going through something similar, with people literally from primary school (coincidentally we officially only met because she was scooping me out on her crush) we are 25 like my adhd would have erased her & everything but people will create a reality in their head & that saga is never ending. Meanwhile I’m the main character in my head & unbothered to the core & that lore is what fuels them even more!! 😂
Imane Khelif was born a woman, and yet big accounts on social media are spreading lies she's a man. I feel so bad for her. The Italian boxer was simply bad.
@@SV-je8mg She legit has a uterus and is able to give birth. I'm not sure which "international competition" you're talking about cause I'm pretty sure she hasn't been kicked out of the Olympics after the right tests were done to her.
27:49 Omg..I get this look as well and it makes me so uncomfortable. Why are some women like this. In Germany it happens all the time because the women here (for the most part, there are exceptions of course) don’t put a lot of effort into their looks at all.
One of my mother's friends used to snipe at me. It started on the night my mother took me out on my 18th birthday with her friends and my older sister for my first legal drink (uk). My mother and her oldest friend would have been 45 at the time I was 18 and she looked me up and down as i stood there in my black tailored shorts (it was 2003), tank top and high heels- I looked a vision of long legs, tiny waist and big boobs, at 18 I was basically like a happy bouncy ball of sunshine and cleavage WELL THE 45 YEAR OLD HATER FRIEND OF MY MOTHER said in front of everyone- "YOU dont call her 'mam' or we'll never get in anywhere! It wasnt my idea of fun having YOU here!" This was after she'd looked me up and down with a look that was like she had the stink of shit under her nose. I didnt even need my mother, the rest of the group or mu older sister to step in, i was 18 and ready to go! I was taller than her in barefoot never mind in my heels and said "You've had a face like slapped tw*t since you arrived, so stop ruining my birthday" I put the most sarcastic smile on and said "thank you" I have never liked this woman and I wasnt starting adulthood by kissing her bitter old backside either
The Algerian boxer was born FEMALE. She has female DNA, she’s a biological female. She does have a hormonal disorder causing her to have higher testosterone levels than the average woman. I agree 100% women should compete against women, but calling someone a transgender because of a natural difference in hormone levels is so so dangerous. Are we saying women with PCOS for example are not women bc they have higher testosterone levels?
what do you do if you are a hater? When you get burned by an apex predator - is learning and finding your authenticity a good thing to do? As well as - recognizing the haters in your life?
Is it also possible that some of those hundred followers are also in a journey of their own where comparing themselves and the highs and lows of their lives to someone's highlights is not so good for them ? It might not be hate, Shal. Just people knowing they need to focus more on themselves right now. They might be applying the exact advices you give in this video by unfollowing you:) I have times where I can't stand to look at some people's Insta and others where I love to see others thriving ✨ - just to offer some perspective:)
MyKayla called the ENTIRE gymnastics community lazy. In her apology she said not the USA Olympic team, but every gymnast in the world who didn’t have the same coach as her is lazy. Insults thousands of gymnasts and thinks only Simone supporters have an issue with what she said🤦🏽♀️😠😠😠
“Being attacked is a sign that you’re important enough to be a target.” Robert Greene
There is a quote that is similar to this, “Look at the trees that people throw rocks at and you’ll notice that those are the trees that bear the fruit.”
@@dm.7330 but that doesn't mean you're a good person nor deserving of your position
@@freppy06 life doesn’t reward good people love, it rewards strategic people. So whether your good or not that’s insignificant
@@dm.7330 lol people who say that end up bitter, alone, and have an undignified death, with a life full of happy people not knowing or caring you exist and the people above you that you're desperate to be are all laughing at you behind your back. so enjoy that. 👌
@@nataliajedrusik6265 lol now you're backtracking and you feel convicted, bc i didn't argue what was good or bad or right or wrong. I argued that being right or wrong matters - and apparently it does to you! You don't even believe your own shallow mantra lol.🙄
When I left my $15/hour job to pursue my tech career where I now make 6 figures, I started getting less and less “likes” and lots of hater energy.
That’s when I learned that people want you to do well in life…but not better than them.
💯
Yep!! I feel you, congrats on your success!
I do agree to a certain extent but I think it's more that people are sad with themselves at the end of the day. Yeah, it might be perceived as jealousy and envy which I'm sure there is plenty of but I've been the person that unfollowed people who were thriving because it made me genuinely sad about my own life in comparison. Now I'm able to be happy for others who are hundreds of steps ahead of me knowing I'm on my own path and my own clock and I think a lot of people just need to learn that lesson.
@@ania5038 Ania this is incredibly self-aware of you.
Yes, feeling sad, stuck & defeated about your position in life is a difficult place to be.
Other people's successes just points out your lack.
It's isn't until you feel positive forward movement in your own life that you can be inspired by other people's story and not sad about your own.
I'm happy you learned this valuable lesson.💜
@@MariaLuckyxo Thank you and I just got hired for a permanent position related to the new field I wanted to start in which I've been searching for for ages so I am feeling so grateful right now
Ugh im still mad at all the male haters Simone had during her Olympic drop out. They were critical of her then but now said nothing as she won
Of course they are quiet. They are silly uninformed people.
Yes, I'd like Shallon to make a video about that too. And how to know when to take a break and when to push ahead. I'm glad Simone took a break and got the help that she needed, as it helped her come back better and stronger than ever ❤
I'm not male but I remember criticizing her back in the day because I just thought it was embarrassing and made America look weaker than it already looks with a senile president and former orange president lol But I also don't know what it's like to be an Olympic athlete or get the twisties so she probably was going through a tough time.
@@ania5038thank you for being honest enough to admit you were one of the critics and revisiting the subject. I understood right away when it happened that she was protecting her health and safety. Those moves are DANGEROUS. The reflexes she employed to land safely from that vault were superhuman. She could have easily been paralyzed for the rest of her life over a medal that probably cost about a hundred bucks to make. Not worth it.
they said nothing bc she actually tried this time instead of self-absorbedly punking out
"Haters are confused admirers"😂 OMG, I LOVE IT. GENIUS ❤
What a roller coaster. I'm so happy you ended with the realization that hate, envy, revenge,...are not the super powers. Self love and respect is what defeats the haters and get you to where you want to be.
I don’t know if anyone has seen this, but on tiktok there’s this girl who makes great food and shares it with her family. Her mom always hate her food. Then her daughter serves her mother burgerking burger (her favourite) and the mother is all «I can’t even taste anything» and when she say it’s a burgerking burger her face just drops. Can you do a vid on when your mother is your biggest hater? I guess it boils down to jealousy, but it would be an interesting take.
I can't imagine having a mother who is a hater that is so effed up my mother died 13 years ago and even though I didn't have a long time with her she was the most supportive loving protective mother God bless you all who have shity moms
@@elizabethmoore3464 Mothers being jealous of their daughters is not that uncommon sadly. Or they live through them so they can «experience» what they never could. I’m blessed with an amazing mother as well, but some of my friends have straight up mean moms who view their daughters as competition. If they get fit, bag a rich husband or get a better education… 😬
wait, I just left the same comment. My mom is my biggest hater. @shallon help.
Shallon has a very good relationship with her mom s I don’t think this is a topic she could give advice on. A mother wound is so deep and hurts on a primal level. It’s one of those few things you have to experience and survive first hand before giving advice. It would be like a person who was born rich giving financial advice to people born into poverty.
@ettena93 that is the saddest thing I've ever heard.
My two favourite things: new shallon content and gymnastics drama ❤️
Yaaas pop awf LFG the gymnastics tea is piping hot🤸🏼♀️☕️🫖
Sameeee
If you woke up this morning and you do not have pain in your body.. and you are not feeling thirst or feeling hunger.. if you take the strength that you have in your body mind and soul and use it to be petty... . To be mean without any reason.. it is vile .. you are blessed with a body that is operating at it's peak and that is what you do with your time.. is be petty I swear it's just the worst.. thanks for another great video ❤
this made me get tf up and be appreciative of my health
Very true!
On the woman’s boxing.. she isn’t a man, a genetic advantage because she has more testosterone.. like adhd (which Simone biles has) which helped her get more reps in and have more over all energy is in her favor. We aren’t all the same she is a woman.
yesss thank you
He has xy chromasomes. Male
she failed the women's test. gullible sheep.
Yes thank you
@@michellelucas7985 thank God
Can you please do a video on how to move on after a friendship breakup?
YES PLEASE
Shallon! The Imane Khalif issue needs to be discussed! She was born as a woman she lived as a woman she has a uterus and a vaguna and is able to give birth yet she be treated like a trans just for having high testesterone levels! I find this to be such anti-women hypocrite comments againt the poor girl; we all go theough hormonal imbalances pcos … etc yet the second we slightly dont fit into the stereotypical we get hated on and insulted
It’s funny how she’s from Algeria where it’s illegal to be trans. Do people really think they’d send a trans athlete to represent them?!
TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!
I agree and the “feminist” JK rowling who tweeted 10 times about this creating a whole misconception and inciting others to cyberbully the poor girl others jumped too like Elon Musk Jake Paul… Shallon really needs to do her research and address this. Those conservatives and fake feminists think they are protecting women’s rights
Exactly, I don’t believe trans people should compete in the opposite gender’s sports but in the case of Imane, she has some sexual development defects but she is still a woman, and to say she shouldn’t be a woman, is to reinforce gender stereotypes against women and is anti-feminist
It’s like there are no real targets for online bullies (what shallon likes to call chiuhuahuas) so they starter attacking random women that are tall or muscular…
Algerian boxer Imane Khelif was born female, was raised female, and is female. She does have a genetic advantage-a high level of testosterone-that has previously led to her being denied entry into some competitions. However, like all other athletes, she complies with the eligibility and registration rules for the competition, as well as all applicable medical rules established by the Paris 2024 Boxing Unit.
This is how sports work. Should we deny tall athletes the chance to play basketball? Besides, it’s not as if she has never been defeated by other women. No one accused her of being trans then.
I hope this girl has a great lawyer and sues for defamation.
Exactly my thoughts.
Also didn't her opponent that dropped out drop out real fast in another Olympics game too? So maybe her opponent just isn't a good fit for boxing and not a reflection of Imane being too strong or whatever. I feel bad for Imane, she was born with all the biological lady parts but since she's tall and looks manly she's getting so much hate. I know a lot of tall, bulky girls that were accused of being men because of their jawlines and lack of curves.😭
thank you girl tell them
yep
Yessss
Love your concept that being constantly angry is like wearing a weighted vest under all your clothes, people may not see it, but you can feel the extra heaviness.
The Algerian boxer is a biological woman, I would expect you to do more research and know that its literally illegal to be trans there and her father had to show her birth certificate to prove it
exactly
They were raised as a female yet have DSD (often called intersex) and XY chromosomes which is why they failed a chromosome test the IBA gave so technically they are not a woman.
@@Adara007 that's a rumor backed by no evidence.
That has not been proven its just a rumor @Adara007
The Algerian boxer is definitely a man.
From what I read that Algerian boxer Imane Khelif was born a woman. Also Algeria is very conservative, I don’t think any middle eastern country has an open trans athlete representing them
Exactly
She's intersex, they detected xy chromosome in her, so she does have a biological advantage.🤷🏽♀️
Right Algeria is not exactly a bastion of wokeness lmao
Khelif has a Y chromosome, making him a male. It doesn’t matter what his birth certificate says.
Yet he has xy chromasomes. Male
I did gymnastics in high school. It is my absolute favorite thing in the world. I was never anywhere even close to elite (maybe got to level 7 skills? No giants though). But as much as I love it as as hard as I worked at it, being young and attempting to be competitive it was sometimes hard to know you were going to get your butt beat by the same girls who were AMAZING every meet. And even if you improved, so did they. It just wears you down after a while because while you can love something, reality can stare you in the face to tell you “you will never be good enough, no matter how much you love it”.
So what do you do? It is a hobby, not a career, right? I kept at it, still
Had a blast, and don’t regret a moment or an injury. Even today I try to make sure I never lose some skills that I remember working so hard for!
Looking at it from that perspective and the highly competitive nature of the USA national team, I can sort of get Mykayla. She was very good, but never favored. That has got to be really difficult. And it happens to a lot of girls in that level. It sucks. Then you can look at how the code of points is organized and how it favors the currently style of the US gymnasts and maybe they DON’T have to work as hard? They do have to keep up skills and they MUST be strategic though! So maybe a different way of thinking.
Either way, many of us never make it to the Olympics, Mykayla shouldn’t have said anything. She can have her own opinion and tell her husband. She is also really lucky that she DID get to go and got silver. I am proud of her for that.
Additionally, Simone is VERY good! She made it a career, and that is impressive. But it won’t last forever, and the code will eventually change. So who knows what will happen.
Man I love this sport
Loved this insight
It's slowly change, now we have a new name in gym and it's called Rebbeca Andrade.
@@grazielaalmeida8438 she is A golden girl, but watching event finals yesterday and seeing how Simone’s difficulty buffer didn’t save her on beam and floor was interesting. Great Italy won, thag girl had a lovely beam! But man, what a wild day!
The quality has gone down a bit though. Team USA no longer has to face some of their fiercest rivals in gymnastics which are the Russians because they’re banned from competing. They’ve been consistently on the podium and they took the gold on the last Olympics which they were outstanding in. Their absence has left a void that now other teams like Brazil to take the podium which is unheard of. No dig to the Brazilians who work really hard but let’s face it if the Russians had been allowed to compete that podium would’ve looked a lot different
Maybe? Also, I will say the current code of points doesn’t seem to care about form, which used to be really important. I can understand how Mykayla is bitter, I get it, she worked super hard for a goal that was always just out of reach, but she shouldn’t have mouthed off. This happens to a lot of girls in the sport, and it sucks. Also as cool as repeat olympians are, it also means others can probably lay never get to go. At that level I can understand the bitterness.
Facts 💯💯🔥
The Russians are also super abusive to those girls so I’d say the trade for “less quality” for our entertainment is a trade I’m ok with.
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw yeah I can understand her bitterness and even though I do think the quality has gone down a bit I’m still not defending her making those comments 😬 it does make her sound petty and it’s just the reality of competing at such an elite level, but Idk, especially her knowing how hard it is to make an Olympic team, how is she so confident to ascertain that she had it harder and worked harder than the current girls? It’s just in bad taste imo but alas she is entitled to her feelings.
@@llehsir girl and you don’t think other countries are abusive to their gymnasts? 😭 don’t go looking too far, our own girls here in America were literally being SA’d by their team doctor, and these girls were still brought out to compete at high level despite that. On top of that the injuries, not allowed to make a peep. McKayla Maroney had a broken toe when she performed that perfect vault in the London Olympics. Have you met the Chinese? Famous for putting out highly skilled artists and athletes and all they go through to achieve that perfection is grueling. Every country has dirt on them when it comes to competing at this elite level, it’s not just the Russians 🥲
“Sorry Cankles 🩷” 😭😭😂😂😂
I started watching your content when the whole situation with Jordyn Woods and Tristan happened. I was starting my phd and I was 160 pounds. On the 20th of July of this year, I successfully defended my phd thesis and managed to lost 40 pounds. During this whole crazy trip, I was always tuning in for your content. A sister figure for me ❤.
congratulations! 💕
@@user-ve3oj9re2kthanks!
Heck yeah, congrats on your defense!! You go!!
Love it. I don’t have haters. I have fans in denial.
Simone Biles is my Taylor Swift. I watch my 6 year old do gymnastics every Saturday morning and no one in that room is even close to Simone at the same age. She’s truly a goddess among women
I like Simone a lot, but she isn’t my favorite gymnast (that goes to Nastia, Shawn and Sveana, and actually Mohini!) Simone had a lot going for her gene wise, and she worked hard on top of it. She deserves her success, but she isn’t the ONLY one who is good. I think the current code of points also really works in her favor. If it valued dance elements more she would be in a different place (and she might actually push to work on her dance and pointing)
Why was Gabby Douglas abused but Simone was honored?
@@watermelonlover745WTH are you saying my dude???
@@KatieLHall-fy1hwSHE IS THE GOAT. Name someoneelse who can achieve what she has and continues to achieve...... I'm waiting................ Still waiting.
@@marcusgraham5084 why is she required to be my favorite gymnast, exactly? I can admire her and appreciate her skills but I was unaware that the COP required her to be the favored gymnast. Please provide me with a new link if you have one! :)
Now that I’m in my 30s, I’ve reevaluate what matters to me when it comes to the people I keep around. One of the things I can’t stand is “unnecessary meanness”. I’m not talking about when someone lays down boundaries or is standing up for themselves. I’m speaking of mean-spiritedness that is unfounded, attacking people who have nothing to give, and haven’t done anything to hurt you. Talking shit about people who are genuinely trying to improve themselves and are excited about things and hobbies.
Those my dear are bitter unhappy miserable ppl. Don’t try to understand them just stay away
Kind of repeating your words here, a self-contented woman will not hate on another, haters are lacking and due to the shame, will project their insecurities onto another instead of dealing with their demons and leveling up.
As always, you summed it up perfectly Shallon 🩷
Hey Shallon, have you seen the recent Drama going on between MILEY and her dad , how he called her a skank and she said he's DEAD to her, can you cover that por favor? miley hasn't been on the channel since cody simpson days. maybe a topic like how to deal with a toxic dynamic with your Parents ? :)
This is a good foundation to take this discussion deeper. What makes haters worth our energy in the first place? Why spend our night trying to ruin their night when we could just enjoy ourselves - not contingent on anyone else. Maybe thats the goal. Not noticing the haters or the praise for that matter. Hate comment? Didn't notice. Followers dropped. Too busy to keep track. Idk just Keep doing our thing instead of worrying what other ppl think about us at all.
I agree this is the mindset. BUT we are humans and things hurt. They just do, even if (perhaps especially so) when it’s from a loser doing nothing.
I’ve spent a lot of time on this particular issue and I think if we try to gaslight ourselves and say it doesn’t matter I don’t care it just makes it worse.
Care, hurt, but then move on. Give it 5 minutes on your alarm and then give em the fuck you.
@@shallonlester Thank you for replying! It is true. We are only human and boy, do our egos like to get in the way. Like you said, its important and healthy even to care and move on. What I have trouble understanding is why do we have to give them a f*ck you? Why do we have to give them anything? What if this is an eagle vs pigeons thing? We are the eagles obviously. We don't lose sleep over the opinions of pigeons. What makes them deserving of our time and energy anyway? Why do we care so much about what other people think? Especially pigeons. Like you said, it's exhausting! Isn't doing something for our own sake enough? Aren't we enough? Is being unbothered truly what its all about? They're the chihuahua and we're the great danes. Reacting to their hate means that we're revolving our actions, our precious and time and energy, on them. In a way, we are letting them control us and our emotions. Aren't we better than that? You've always taught us that we are alpha females and as alphas, if we're not taking control of ourselves than who is? Why should we give them that kind of power anyway? (btw this is a Saturday evening well spent - discussing psychology with the queen herself💕💕)
Agree with 90% of this video, but towards the end, I don’t think jealousy has to always equate with hate. I was one of those people who unfollowed Shallons insta after a bikini pics because yes I am jealous. But I also love her, watch all of her videos, admire her and watch Shallontourage videos religiously. I just had to clear my social media feed images that make me constantly critique my own body, I do that enough all day every time I look in the mirror. I’m inspired by Shallons transformation and I think she looks fantastic. Anyways, love Shallon and love her content, and also don’t think all of the women who unfollow do so out spite to the person in the picture.
Honestly Skinner was a hater, this year is where MULTIPLE gymnast returned to the Olympics, SOMETHING SHE COULDNT DO! If “lazy” gymnastics could do it over her what does that say about her.
OHHHH SNAP isn’t that exactly what it comes down to - if it’s so easy why aren’t you doing it??
I had someone chirp me like this when they found out Barack Obama follows me on Twitter.
“He follows a lot of people”
“Does he follow you??”
“No 😞 “
OK THEN
Your analogies are brilliant. I love the example of wearing a weighted vest.
“You’re doing something that is disrupting their idea of possibility.”
I’m kind of gobsmacked. I’ve never heard hateration being summed up as well as you did here. I LOVE a great short and succinct sound bite and damnit that is a great one.
Can you please do a story time about hanging out with Tana ?! I never knew you guys were friends . ❤❤
This video makes me wanna rant about something that I've experienced over the last year. I love road cycling. It is my passion, it saved me from my eating disorder (because I finally had something that was more important to me), it is my favourite thing in the world. I go on rides all the time. I have cycled half way across the Europe twice, have placed really well in amateur races, have conquered a proud number of alpine mountains passes. Yeah, I'm proud of all of that and it makes me happy. Some men in my family (not my dad. My dad is the best. He is my biggest cheerleader and loves to brag with me in front of his colleagues) who also do road cycling take it really badly. I get ignored and everything I achieved on the bike gets dismissed or is commented on a way that somehow makes it less. It is so frustrating. When I was younger I always thought it was really cheep to play the jealousy card as an explanation for when people hate on you but sometimes it is the only explanation left because anything else doesn't make any sense. I'm not doing anything! I'm just minding my own business! Can I never mention how well I did on a mountain with a bike ever again because it might hurt someone's ego??
❤ I’m old as hell; but I wish I had a strong voice like yours when I was working out who I was growing up and how not everyone is kind .
Your delicate features are so enhanced by that style of dress
The US Trials and the Olympics are Mykayla’s hurt locker.
Shallon, you are the sister I never had. You helped me so much with your life saving advice in my darkest days. I am so grateful to you.💕💕💕💕💕
Shallon, I love you! I wish we were friends IRL, I have the same snarky cynical sense of humor but I am not as good with my words as you are! ❤ you give such amazing advice!
We are friends! We just don’t happen to hang out all that often, but it doesn’t mean we’re not connected!
@@shallonlester 💞💞
Imane Khelif was born female, is currently female, and it is illegal in Algeria for her to be transgender even she wanted to be.
As one person said perfectly on twitter :
“Michael Phelps is literally referred to as a freak of nature because of his disproportionate wingspan, double jointed ankles, lung capacity twice that of an average human, body that produces half the lactic acid of a typical athlete, and he is rightly celebrated for being the greatest male swimmer in history. Meanwhile, female athletes with genetic differences are legally discriminated against and harassed to no end.
This is not about "protecting women in sports" - this is about protecting a very specific idea of what a woman is.”
You are being lied to. He has xy chromasomes, so every cell in his body is male, and has been from the moment of conception
@@SV-je8mgwhat’s tour source?
Please do Katy Perry next
Katy sucks
Yep she’s up next!
@@shallonlester thanks shallon ! I think us women can all learn from
Her😂🤣
What happened to katy perry?
OMG I've been noticing this since years. People only hate you for things they won't achieve if they don't step up their game
Hate and envy are different, we need a part 2.
Can envy bring on hate maybe? 44:37 what happened to shallon happened to me. I’ve always been the gym girl, its one of my top priorities in life and the over wgt moms didn’t like my answer when they wanted the easy way out to lose weight and get a nice body and that’s when it happened
“FIRST OF ALL, I DO IT AND I’M FUNNY.” Sent me that was hilariously tickling
"Living well is the best revenge." Yes sis. YES. I had a group of grown women "friends" that treated me terribly, excluded me, gossiped about me...and it took me moving away to realize the reason was: they were all fat, I am a runner, (jealous), I am married to a rich successful man that adores me (they are not), I work and have my own career in addition to being a mom (they have no economic independence or choices and pend their lives talking trash at the park wearing sweatpants with their rotten children). They were just plain and simple jealous losers and it blew my mind because they are all older than 11 and I never thought grown women would collectively stoop to such petty nonsense. Most women don't EVER grow out of the jealous middle school phase and it's pathetic. I have learned to be totally ok with bragging about myself, my kids, my hot hubby that spoils us, and my awesome life because why tf not??? Love you Shal.
“We have a timelapse of her incredibly weight gain…”
Absolutely savage lmao
Savaageeee 😂
Sent this to a friend dealing with a hater friend situation and to my teenager who also is dealing with a hater friends.
Ugh tell your daughter to get away from those h8r friends they’re not worth the energy nor will they ever change.
Don’t worry about the hate; it’s just noise from the jellies
really needed to hear this. I’ve attracted a lot of hate in my life, and I could never understand why. I try my best to be kind and do a good job, it made no sense. Even some of my best friends have confessed that they first hated me on sight.
I don’t try to antagonize my haters, I just tend to pity them. It must be miserable to be them.
@shallon I love how u always keep telling everyone that you can do it, u uplift others always
You don't punch down Shallon, and that is admirable. "I welcome their hatred" - FDR. Love the weighted vest analogy!
She does punch down she's always skating trans women
Omg i love that you and Tana met each other 💕!!! I would LOVE if you guys collabed!! Or if you went on her podcast, you'd be such a fantastic fit! 😄
Are they friends? That was such a casual mention lol
@@wendykama1155 she mentioned it in her other recent video too! So random they bumped into each other in the resort bathroom in Hawaii lol 💜 Shallon said she was really nice and gracious to her fans too. So random!
Shallon…. I ❤ you!! Considering that a lot of us are so out of touch with reality(whether we like to admit it or not) you’re seriously a BREATH OF FRESH AIR!!!!!
Every time I finish watching your videos, I feel brought back to earth 😭😭 thank you cause you’re always like.. so right 😂
Love your channel. It’s your job to make celebrities commentaries. I’m learning gems from you. Keep up the good work!❤
Shallon, I am Bulgarian and I've been watching you for a long time. I can't believe you mentioned Bulgarians and know that we exist :D
Hi Bulgaria, from America.
I'm sorry, but Simones Instagram caption was not as much of an 'own' as people are making it out to be.
Mykayla skinner is an idiot, and her comments were way out of line. Every gymnast works incredibly hard and has huge amounts of talent.
But she was correct in that, without Russia there to try and defend their Tokyo Gold, Team USA gold was not really in doubt. They just had to have Simone do at least 3 events (she did all 4) and just do their job, and the gold was assured. No matter how much Chellsie Memmel claims otherwise, Simone, being a once in a generation athlete, gave USA a comfortable difficulty score cushion against all other teams. With Russia there and without Simone, THAT competiton would have been more of an accurate reflection of the broader standard of USA gymnastics today (still really truly amazing, but much less dominant and consistent than in previous years).
Shallon!!! Im so proud! From not knowing what "say it with your chest" to using it with confidence 😂😂
I remember bringing new forward thinking projects in my working life and i was getting so much hate. Someone told me " no one kicks a dead dog". It helped me keep going and everything was successful. I always remember those words going forward
"(Also I am a douche.)" I laughed so hard 😂 No one had better mastered being raw and real on RUclips 👏😂🎉
Yay! USA Gymnasts drama! Thanks Shallon! Hope u enjoyed your vacation!
Dealing with this nightmare at my job not sure how to manage.
Same girl. Just keep going don’t let it bring you down. it is likely jealousy and they will stop if you just don’t let it get to you. Definitely stand up when needed but overall these people are trash and hate their lives so they try to hurt others and make them miserable too. Keep shining💗 I just laugh at my hater. She loudly talks about how she hates her life and tries to pick my life apart and drag me down. Now that’s funny😂
This too shall pass
Had a similar experience… hateful people try to tear others down instead of building themselves up… record every incident and bring it to HR… not ok to be bullied at your workplace
Just keep thriving. Do what makes you happy do not look sad or miserable at work. Go in there and smile it will hurt them. They don’t want to see you happy. H8rs are never from the people on top always at the bottom and wished to have what you have. My 2 coworkers who don’t like me apparently are triggered cause I have time to go gym and take care of myself .. very petty but that’s all it took for them to be like that. They will literally glare at me up and down it’s very disturbing. It’s not like I’m performing bad at work or anything while they’re getting scolded by other colleagues..
@@elainemcgovern1430 record everything but I'd be very wary of HR. they're out to protect the company, not the employees. they may view you as the problem if you go to them with workplace issues.
Some conservatives are completely overreacting with respect to the Algerian boxer and spreading so much misinformation.
From what I can gather online, the conservatives lost their argument when they switched their definition of women to suit them. I’ve seen them cite female anatomy and how you were born as how your sex is defined. In this case, the Algerian boxer was born female. The Algerian boxer just experienced defects in her sexual development that meant she developed masculine traits, the Y chromosome (which usually develops later) and higher testosterone. She is definitely a woman but has some abnormalities with her sexual development which assist her in the pursuit of boxing.
One thing I love about Shallon is that she introduced me to both formal and informal fallacies, and two of those that are employed by the conservatives are the shifting the goal posts and the burden of proof fallacies. I don’t find it surprising that those conservatives who originally qualified women by their anatomy are now redefining women by their X or Y chromosomes or testosterone levels when it benefits their narrative. Quite frankly, it makes me look at their logic as flawed and inconsistent, because there are a minority of women (who are not trans) that suffer deficiencies in their biology like this. Does that mean she’s not female though? No, not at all. That’s like saying that women with naturally higher testosterone or abnormally broad shoulders are not women. It should be borne in mind that the Y chromosome develops late in men which means that there can be borderline cases where the chromosome develops in women. As such, is chromosomes enough to qualify someone as one sex or the other in scientific terms? Just some questions to ponder.
And to quote Shallon, get curious not furious. Let’s discuss where that line is!
The above is the most gaslighty bs I have ever read. Every cell in his body is male, and your hormones don't change your chromasomes ffs
As Frank Sinatra once said - The best revenge is massive success!
I'm loving your content, I really wish well for you Shallon, hope you get all the success you deserve.
Haters almost ALWAYS look like potatoes. Two of my biggest haters, in fact, looked like potatoes. It’s wild and I don’t think twice about them until they say something terrible and then It gets me thinking about the why.
These people are just miserable and try to bring others down. I’m at the point where I just laugh😆
One of the things this hater picked on me for is bringing Starbucks into office each morning. So of course I kept doing it and 4 months later now she is drinking Starbucks😂 She has tried to put me down for everything and then I find her copying the things she tried to oppose and hated so much about me.
Omggg yassss!!!! Mine are coworkers who are over wgt. One likes to make fun of me in front of others, real professional btw and the other is a mean girl and a mom of 3. It’s insane how the least attractive ones are some of the meanest I’ve ever met!
@@Bunny11344absolutely! They’re almost never attractive they’re at the bottom trying to bring us down. My hater does the same, makes fun of me in front of my coworkers and tries to embarrass me. Jokes on her😆
Am I the only shalligator who is dying to see Shallon making a rant collab with HRH Collection?
So bougie, I’m 28 and would love to experience a trip with you or meet you in person day. I love your videos and everything about you Shallon! Thank you for inspiring me to become my own woman. Can’t wait to experience my 30s!
Totally agree. Skinner should’ve stood by her words. She’s allowed to have an opinion.
OK as a former professional athlete, I can tell you that sports psychology has been a thing for a long time. what hasn't been a thing is the fact that we can read people in their histories of childhood neglect and abuse, and what they do to others and say to others, and how it affects us as athletes
Shallon you’ve done it again👏🏼
Male dna should not compete against female dna. End of story.
Does this apply to the work place?
Child care?
Cleaning up the house?
Driving?
Intellect?
Or does it just apply to running around a track in circles?
This is in relation to the Olympic boxing match that Shallon referenced.
Men shouldn’t compete with us in those areas no because we are far superior. Physically it’s the opposite.
@@shallonlester I agree with Shallon that trans women shouldn't automatically be allowed in female sports but the player in question is not trans
There were no men in the women's Olympics games.. But y'all believe whatever suits you..
What’s worst is haters that have control in your life
Wow Shallon , you are a lot like Taylor! She has a song called “ Better than Revenge “🤣
Did anyone else notice the amount of contradictions in this video or is it just me. I love Shallon but dang…
YESSSS! I DID IT!!!🎉
Gold medal 🥇
pernicious.... damn girl, my vocabulary is constantly expanding from binge watching you 😂🙃the fake domain name...genius idea mwahah
i just dont agree with your dinner table scenario. i personally would leave it alone and enjoy my night 🤷🏻♀️
I love that shallon and Tana are friends my two personalities 😂
Amen girl the amount of public people who walk back from their opinions is infuriating. Grow your backbones people. It's fine if you change your mind later but don't just 'change your mind' for the sake of political correctness.
I think if people want to make their opinions public, they should be prepared for the possibility they will be wrong in public!
Lord. Please 🙏 protect this beautiful woman and her Shallon-gators🎉
Shallon!! Thank you so much for uploading more videos! 💕 I was rewatching some of your older videos. You are the best!! All your topics are always on point 💕✨
as far as the boxing, I would hate to go all the way to the Olympics win, and then have people debating on whether or not I’m a woman just because I’m masculine looking. I mean talk about a hater. The testosterone levels are most likely from roids. Talk about that if you must discuss.
Then why did the international boxing association test his dna and find out he has xy chromosomes and kick him out??
@@SV-je8mg you obviously didn’t even read my comment
Do we really care about the opinion of someone who has NEVER won an Olympic Gold Medal? Yes, I realize that she has won gold medals at other events; however, the Olympics are at the "top of the food chain"! She doesn't have the "work ethic " to win an Olympic Gold Medal!
Thank you, Shallon! For helping me realize its more that okay to be evil if its to defend my self-expression and freedom to exist in the world the way I choose too! Love you girl!
So Makayla has every right to her opinion as we all do! (I’m kind of shocked Shallon as a fellow Gen X’er you can’t see that )She is in the gymnastics world so Her opinion actually has more weight than ours. Why is it hating? She is seeing a decline in gymnastics ( obviously she wasn’t talking about Simone) and you know what, I am too! Go back and look at old Olympic gymnastics routines from previous eras. Gymnastics now is so technical bordering on boring where every routine almost looks identical to the last beside maybe a little more height or a half a rotation more. My only regret for Makayla is the now required “apology” after you say how you feel and the masses can’t deal with it.
My number one therapist ❤
Currently going through something similar, with people literally from primary school (coincidentally we officially only met because she was scooping me out on her crush) we are 25 like my adhd would have erased her & everything but people will create a reality in their head & that saga is never ending. Meanwhile I’m the main character in my head & unbothered to the core & that lore is what fuels them even more!! 😂
I love you Shallon ❤
You are my bible Shallon. Thank you.
Imane Khelif was born a woman, and yet big accounts on social media are spreading lies she's a man. I feel so bad for her. The Italian boxer was simply bad.
Xy chromasomes make one male. No getting around that! He was kicked out of international competition because they tested his genetics
@@SV-je8mg She legit has a uterus and is able to give birth. I'm not sure which "international competition" you're talking about cause I'm pretty sure she hasn't been kicked out of the Olympics after the right tests were done to her.
27:49 Omg..I get this look as well and it makes me so uncomfortable. Why are some women like this. In Germany it happens all the time because the women here (for the most part, there are exceptions of course) don’t put a lot of effort into their looks at all.
Ya I got that at work too. I was like woah… what’s that about 😂 why are u so angry just cause you’re over wgt and unhappy
We need a video of the new Cardi B divorce/pregnancy drama.
Nah that sh** boring
I wished you made a video on her husband’s interview
Just followed u on instagram lol. You look amazing! I’m 42 and I get it girl! Shine bright!
One of your best videos!! ❤❤❤
One of my mother's friends used to snipe at me. It started on the night my mother took me out on my 18th birthday with her friends and my older sister for my first legal drink (uk).
My mother and her oldest friend would have been 45 at the time I was 18 and she looked me up and down as i stood there in my black tailored shorts (it was 2003), tank top and high heels- I looked a vision of long legs, tiny waist and big boobs, at 18 I was basically like a happy bouncy ball of sunshine and cleavage WELL THE 45 YEAR OLD HATER FRIEND OF MY MOTHER said in front of everyone-
"YOU dont call her 'mam' or we'll never get in anywhere! It wasnt my idea of fun having YOU here!"
This was after she'd looked me up and down with a look that was like she had the stink of shit under her nose.
I didnt even need my mother, the rest of the group or mu older sister to step in, i was 18 and ready to go!
I was taller than her in barefoot never mind in my heels and said
"You've had a face like slapped tw*t since you arrived, so stop ruining my birthday" I put the most sarcastic smile on and said "thank you"
I have never liked this woman and I wasnt starting adulthood by kissing her bitter old backside either
The Algerian boxer was born FEMALE. She has female DNA, she’s a biological female. She does have a hormonal disorder causing her to have higher testosterone levels than the average woman. I agree 100% women should compete against women, but calling someone a transgender because of a natural difference in hormone levels is so so dangerous. Are we saying women with PCOS for example are not women bc they have higher testosterone levels?
He has xy chromosomes as evidenced by a sex testing
Women with naturally high testosterone levels aren’t the same as men
We don't have women's sports anymore. We now have men's and men's light
We have women's sports. Just because some women can't perform on that level.....lol
@canesugar911 you mean they can't compete with men? Exactly what I am saying
Sentient potato- love that
Love You Shallon!!!
what do you do if you are a hater? When you get burned by an apex predator - is learning and finding your authenticity a good thing to do? As well as - recognizing the haters in your life?
Is it also possible that some of those hundred followers are also in a journey of their own where comparing themselves and the highs and lows of their lives to someone's highlights is not so good for them ? It might not be hate, Shal. Just people knowing they need to focus more on themselves right now. They might be applying the exact advices you give in this video by unfollowing you:)
I have times where I can't stand to look at some people's Insta and others where I love to see others thriving ✨
- just to offer some perspective:)
MyKayla called the ENTIRE gymnastics community lazy. In her apology she said not the USA Olympic team, but every gymnast in the world who didn’t have the same coach as her is lazy. Insults thousands of gymnasts and thinks only Simone supporters have an issue with what she said🤦🏽♀️😠😠😠