Why doesn't such a great piece of advice reach millions of ESL learners? Many people speak fast and they have a strong regional accent, which makes them very difficult to understand.
@HidayaateMehbu:b I'm glad you found it useful. I would say it's habitual. It's something we learn as children when developing our speech and language skills from our care givers, family, culture, community etc. We can also use it as a tool to emotionally protect ourselves as we grow up. If we speak fast, then the attention is off us quicker and we can avoid being in the limelight for too long. Often it's not conscious though.
Thank you so much for this video. I am the type of person who does everything fast, walk fast, eat fast, talk fast, do things fast. I am working on being present with intentionIt on everything I do and boy it takes a huge amount of effort to slow down. I will incorporate your tips and meditate on the deeper meaning of why. Again, thank you very much. God bless you.
I know that speaking fast for me comes from a fear of taking up too much space or getting interrupted because when I was a kid I didn't have much room to truly be listened to.
I have this too. I clearly remember the time when I was 9 and I was saying something and my dad told me to “stfu. Nobody wants to listen to you”. I don’t remember if I was talking fast then already because I’d gotten the message I shouldn’t take up space, or if the speed happened afterward. I’ve been practicing all my life and I’ve fallen out of it in the past years and the speed and stumbling over my words has come back. Unfortunately I’m not 9 anymore and it’s made an impact on my life.
Thankyou @Anouska Taylor MAM....very informative and to the point 1). Breathe deeply...calm your nervous system. Belly Breathing. 2). Intensional thinking.....articulation would reduce your speed 3). Use deliberate PAUSES. they would help you to slow down. 4). Match your speaking pace with your walking pace....speak as you walk. 5). Record yourself...listen to audio. 6). Ask yourself why you are speaking fast
Breathing builds cadence. Something that I am always trying to learn It give weight to what was spoken. Such an impt life skill! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you very much for the tips. I've been a mild stutterer my whole life, and I found out that if I speak slower, I stutter less. People often ask me to repeat what I said because I say it way too fast, even I can't understand myself sometimes 😅
I have been a trade instructor for 20 years i still catch myself speaking to fast now and again. I take a few deep breaths as you have described to settle myself down, then i go again.
As a do-everything-fast person I have never heard so many things that resonate with me. Some of these I'd sort of worked out - like the overt articulation - but I still find executing this action faithfully immensely difficult. And for me at least, your psychological observation was spot on. So... I feel slightly less like a crazy person than I did yesterday. Thanks a million.
It is very difficult to do by yourself because usually the pattern is so deeply engrained. If you want some support, you can always book a private session with me. Links under video :-)
you can also incorporate the emphasis on some words in your speech while talking to anyone, in this way you can deliberately able to slow down yourself much smoothly as you are forming your sentence and also putting pauses in beween .
I loved the ending of the video where you delved into the psychology behind speaking fast it was a nice food for thought that will make me more conscious about it in the future when slowing down my speech. great helpful video!
Thank you for this insight. I'm a very fast talker & other 😊things too. I got emotional to why I do this , nerves, as I do feel not heard when talk. I'm short, too, so maybe factor?? I constantly have been told all my life I talk too fast. Bashes at my confidence more. 😢 It's hard to slow down, in my head when others talk spunds so slow. I think get on with it. As of now, 52 is very late to change, but will try my best & use your advice & watch other videos. 😊
It's never too late if you really want to create change. I have worked with many clients much older than you :-) If you'd like any support, please book a session. I'd love to help you.
Thank you because tomorrow is the last day j have to practice for a interview for my Science fair and I will try these tips because my teacher says I talk to fast
Thank you for making this video. Very helpful. On the last point, in meetings, I tend to öften speak fast because I can't think of something spontaneously. How to tackle this ?.
So my suggestion would be to get in touch with the emotion around this e.g. fear, anxiety etc. (there's no right or wrong). It's usually rooted in what others will think of us if we can't think of the "right" thing to say. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is and take some deep belly breaths. This will calm your nervous system and allow yourself to think more clearly and speak slower as a result.
You might not want to get advice from a younger person or stranger, BUT a good tip to not be nervous is practicing. I know it's repetitive and you've probably heard this a lot before (even I got annoyed when she said to practice speaking slowly, but she's right). As a young actor at first acting was scary for me, but now that I've practiced and gotten used to performing in front of hundreds of people, the crowd doesn't bother me anymore. But some things you can practice doing is do something that makes you feel confident and record yourself and see how you act and stand. Pretending to be confident and looking confident can really help you when you're nervous in a public speaking situation. Also, start talking to small crowds and build up from there. I hope this helps.
Thank you that was very helpful. I feel as if I was constantly under pressure to rush when translating to or from a younger speaker because they tend to speak more fast.
Since you are researching on this topic how about we explore "Large Families are Loud Families".. maybe because growing up you have to compete with a lot of people to get speak
Hi dear professor Thank you so much for your help and advice. I really appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity. All the best. Take care and have a good time. Your follower from Algeria not Nigeria
Yes gestures are very important in speech. I would say it's more useful for emphasis of our words and strengthening their meaning, than slowing down speech, however if it works for you then that's great.
I am trying to understand the finer linings between extremes. like being cocky and being confident.. Very fine line Also speaking too slow may make you sound low in energy.
It's really about learning to vary pace vs. speaking slow or fast. Being able to use the pace to add meaning to words in different situations. Cocky vs. confident - it's more about how we really feel about ourselves. Cockiness is usually coming from a place of insecurity hidden behind a persona of "cocky". Confidence is understated, it's not trying to prove anything to anyone. We connect to our inherent value.
thank you so much i have difficult when i speak with people i was long time when i leaned english alone i can read but i can t understand just little i don t know is my method is not good i m didn t study english at school i learn by myself can you give me an advice please
It sounds like you need some help with conversational English. I'm not an English tutor, but it might be worth seeking out an English language course for adults or even work with someone privately if it's really important to you.
@@anouskavocals thank you for reply me I need to take schedule for learn english everyday but i don t know how I can doing this can you give me an advence please
While I could speak slowly in casual situations I tend to speak fast in formals and presentation as I feel rushed due ti anxiety. Thank you for the tips and I find them useful especially on the breathing technique. I usually find myself short of breath when speaking in tensed situations
Any questions on this topic? Do post them below, I'd love to help.
Why doesn't such a great piece of advice reach millions of ESL learners?
Many people speak fast and they have a strong regional accent, which makes them very difficult to understand.
@@SALESENGLISH2020 Yes I do help quite a few clients where English is a second language. Hopefully they'll find my videos!
@@anouskavocals That's great! All the best.
@HidayaateMehbu:b I'm glad you found it useful. I would say it's habitual. It's something we learn as children when developing our speech and language skills from our care givers, family, culture, community etc. We can also use it as a tool to emotionally protect ourselves as we grow up. If we speak fast, then the attention is off us quicker and we can avoid being in the limelight for too long. Often it's not conscious though.
What tips do you have for stutterers
I stuttered all the time, and still practicing talking slow.
Thank you so much for this video. I am the type of person who does everything fast, walk fast, eat fast, talk fast, do things fast. I am working on being present with intentionIt on everything I do and boy it takes a huge amount of effort to slow down. I will incorporate your tips and meditate on the deeper meaning of why. Again, thank you very much. God bless you.
You're very welcome. I hope the tips help.
😂😂 same here
Hello, I am Turkish and I do not know English. I want to learn what you said in the video.
@@glitchdrummingI'm the saaaame, I do everything at lighting speed 😅😅😢😂
Dude sameeee! I go like 200 miles an hour in everything I do, nice to know I’m not the only one lol
Thank you so much, I do talk fast and people don't understand me while I'm speaking and I do feel embarrassed
Omg me too :(
Hello, I am Turkish and I do not know English. I want to learn what you said in the video.
@@bellamia-susiep.3550 it isn't enjoyable; I became introverted because of it
I know that speaking fast for me comes from a fear of taking up too much space or getting interrupted because when I was a kid I didn't have much room to truly be listened to.
Great awareness :-)
I have this too. I clearly remember the time when I was 9 and I was saying something and my dad told me to “stfu. Nobody wants to listen to you”. I don’t remember if I was talking fast then already because I’d gotten the message I shouldn’t take up space, or if the speed happened afterward.
I’ve been practicing all my life and I’ve fallen out of it in the past years and the speed and stumbling over my words has come back.
Unfortunately I’m not 9 anymore and it’s made an impact on my life.
this is so relatable, any updates?
I talk fast because I don’t want to waste other people’s time… I just want to get my point across as quickly as I can. Also, I do everything fast 😅
Yes!! Omg
Sounds like me. My best friend said my voice is different on messenger. She said it's the AI that makes me talk too fast
Thankyou @Anouska Taylor MAM....very informative and to the point
1). Breathe deeply...calm your nervous system. Belly Breathing.
2). Intensional thinking.....articulation would reduce your speed
3). Use deliberate PAUSES. they would help you to slow down.
4). Match your speaking pace with your walking pace....speak as you walk.
5). Record yourself...listen to audio.
6). Ask yourself why you are speaking fast
Breathing builds cadence. Something that I am always trying to learn It give weight to what was spoken. Such an impt life skill! Thank you for sharing!
I tried to speak slowly, but, if someone talks fast I get led into their speed😅
Thank you very much for the tips. I've been a mild stutterer my whole life, and I found out that if I speak slower, I stutter less. People often ask me to repeat what I said because I say it way too fast, even I can't understand myself sometimes 😅
I'm glad you found this useful.
This is me too
Me as well
Excellent video --- helpful, clear, valuable info! thank you!
I have been a trade instructor for 20 years i still catch myself speaking to fast now and again. I take a few deep breaths as you have described to settle myself down, then i go again.
My husband is the youngest of 6 boys, he talks fast because no one would take time to listen, he shows signs of ADHD too.
Yes, that makes so much sense.
The breathing was good, I tend to lose the quality of my voice when speaking because of lack of it
This video was exactly what I needed. Thank you very much Anouska! May God bless you in abundance❤️👍
You're very welcome 🙏
People think that smart people talk fast, but really brilliant people speak slowly.
As a do-everything-fast person I have never heard so many things that resonate with me. Some of these I'd sort of worked out - like the overt articulation - but I still find executing this action faithfully immensely difficult. And for me at least, your psychological observation was spot on. So... I feel slightly less like a crazy person than I did yesterday. Thanks a million.
It is very difficult to do by yourself because usually the pattern is so deeply engrained. If you want some support, you can always book a private session with me. Links under video :-)
you can also incorporate the emphasis on some words in your speech while talking to anyone, in this way you can deliberately able to slow down yourself much smoothly as you are forming your sentence and also putting pauses in beween .
This is extraordinary guidance from an incredible teacher passionate about her art. Lots to learn from you.
Thank you, so pleased you found it useful.
I loved the ending of the video where you delved into the psychology behind speaking fast it was a nice food for thought that will make me more conscious about it in the future when slowing down my speech. great helpful video!
Thank you for this insight. I'm a very fast talker & other 😊things too.
I got emotional to why I do this , nerves, as I do feel not heard when talk. I'm short, too, so maybe factor??
I constantly have been told all my life I talk too fast. Bashes at my confidence more. 😢 It's hard to slow down, in my head when others talk spunds so slow. I think get on with it.
As of now, 52 is very late to change, but will try my best & use your advice & watch other videos. 😊
It's never too late if you really want to create change. I have worked with many clients much older than you :-) If you'd like any support, please book a session. I'd love to help you.
Thank you because tomorrow is the last day j have to practice for a interview for my Science fair and I will try these tips because my teacher says I talk to fast
Thank you for making this video. Very helpful. On the last point, in meetings, I tend to öften speak fast because I can't think of something spontaneously. How to tackle this ?.
So my suggestion would be to get in touch with the emotion around this e.g. fear, anxiety etc. (there's no right or wrong). It's usually rooted in what others will think of us if we can't think of the "right" thing to say.
Allow yourself to feel whatever it is and take some deep belly breaths. This will calm your nervous system and allow yourself to think more clearly and speak slower as a result.
This was super helpful and spot on ! Thank you for your valuable advice :)
Perfect video. That's what I was searching for!
How not to get nervous first of all? Or how can we avoid it?? Can please make video on it. Thanks this was a really great video. Helped me a lot.
Thanks. Yes absolutely, I can talk about that :-)
You might not want to get advice from a younger person or stranger, BUT a good tip to not be nervous is practicing. I know it's repetitive and you've probably heard this a lot before (even I got annoyed when she said to practice speaking slowly, but she's right). As a young actor at first acting was scary for me, but now that I've practiced and gotten used to performing in front of hundreds of people, the crowd doesn't bother me anymore. But some things you can practice doing is do something that makes you feel confident and record yourself and see how you act and stand. Pretending to be confident and looking confident can really help you when you're nervous in a public speaking situation. Also, start talking to small crowds and build up from there. I hope this helps.
This video was incredibly helpful! Thank you so much for making it, I truly appreciate it! 💖
Thank you , how to sound more charismatic and also how to manage people who play politics and manipulate the situation always for their own benefit.
Thank you that was very helpful. I feel as if I was constantly under pressure to rush when translating to or from a younger speaker because they tend to speak more fast.
Thanks so much. I must speak slowly to avoid mistakes.
I speak fast and loud.. a tough habit to lose.. people think I am shouting
Yes it does take some consistent practice but you will get there. I will do a video on speaking loud too.
Since you are researching on this topic how about we explore "Large Families are Loud Families".. maybe because growing up you have to compete with a lot of people to get speak
@@hsmmadmunir yes will definitely explore the psychology behind it as well as some practical ways to control volume.
Thank you so much for all the tips..I hope this would really help !!!
Really helpful, i now understand my issue. Thank you very much
it's hard for me to speak slowly and loudly because to me, it already sounds like i'm speaking too slow or too loud (almost like shouting or angry)
Great tips, thank you.
Excellent tips
Hello, I am Turkish and I do not know English. I want to learn what you said in the video.
Hi dear professor
Thank you so much for your help and advice.
I really appreciate your job. I wish you peace and happiness under the sky of prosperity.
All the best.
Take care and have a good time.
Your follower from Algeria not Nigeria
You would make a great teacher.
Your videos are great. I speak fast and loud. Im trying to improve myself 😢
Book a private session if you need some help. It is very challenging to do yourself :-)
Amazing video !!
Very helpful. I’m glad I found your channel
I needed this ❤
Love it ☺️
Me watching this video at speed of 2
Thanks 😊
My son speaks fast and he have a little bit stammering problem, Gets anger quickly . What I should do mam
I put the video on 1.5x. Is it that I don't have patience or just want anything to be fast?
Try and take your time going through the video. The voice doesn't like to be rushed when making changes.
GESTURES? It seems to me that by using our hands and body, we can slow the pace.. thanks
Yes gestures are very important in speech. I would say it's more useful for emphasis of our words and strengthening their meaning, than slowing down speech, however if it works for you then that's great.
Anouska, have you ever heard of the condition of “ dysarthria”? , If so, do you help people with this?
Hi that would require a speech therapist, as it has an underlying medical cause (nervous system damage). That's not something that I would do.
The tips starts at 1.37.
Great
0:55 LOL yes, yes, yes and yes. 🤣🤣
I do everything too fast
My speech is fast and unclear.
How to get rid of this problem?😢😢
Other than going through the exercises in this video, you can also work privately with me, if you want to progress faster.
English is not my mother tongue, but somehow I manage to speak in the language faster than in my mother tongue
Gdamn, even 2 years after bringing the video out you reply to comments! Thx!
I am trying to understand the finer linings between extremes.
like being cocky and being confident.. Very fine line
Also speaking too slow may make you sound low in energy.
It's really about learning to vary pace vs. speaking slow or fast. Being able to use the pace to add meaning to words in different situations.
Cocky vs. confident - it's more about how we really feel about ourselves. Cockiness is usually coming from a place of insecurity hidden behind a persona of "cocky". Confidence is understated, it's not trying to prove anything to anyone. We connect to our inherent value.
thank you so much i have difficult when i speak with people i was long time when i leaned english alone i can read but i can t understand just little i don t know is my method is not good i m didn t study english at school i learn by myself can you give me an advice please
It sounds like you need some help with conversational English. I'm not an English tutor, but it might be worth seeking out an English language course for adults or even work with someone privately if it's really important to you.
@@anouskavocals thank you for reply me I need to take schedule for learn english everyday but i don t know how I can doing this can you give me an advence please
@@faysalchannel6793 as mentioned I'd suggest finding a course or tutor to help you. It's not something that I can help with.
While I could speak slowly in casual situations I tend to speak fast in formals and presentation as I feel rushed due ti anxiety. Thank you for the tips and I find them useful especially on the breathing technique. I usually find myself short of breath when speaking in tensed situations