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My nephews were potty-trained before their 1st birthday. They were very much able to ask for help when they needed to use the potty, and later - use it themselves. They were barely walking at this point, definitely not able to climb safely onto a grown-up toilet. You can only skip the potty if you start toilet-training really late, when the child is physically bigger.
Thank you for this comment! I was wondering! We are potty training a bit later. We started at 6m, had our first catch at 9m! We're using the plastic potty.
Emma, I completely disagree about the potty being counter-productive for toilet-training. On the contrary! I notice that parents often prefer starting with the regular toilet, since it easier for the parents (no need to empty any potty contents after use, of course); however, I think for the child, especially when starting training before the age of two, it is simply far more comfortable to use a potty which is just his or her size. A toddler can set him or herself on a potty without any assistance whatsoever, which isn't the case with a toilet, even one with a step-stool. They do need more assistance with that. I like the fact that the child's feet are firmly planted on the floor, which puts him/her in more of a squatting position, far healthier for emptying the bowel (you've probably heard of the "squatty potty"!) A small child on an adult toilet is arguably less positioned in this optimal way. Also, I love the fact that a toddler can really "take ownership" of the potty. They can move it around and sometimes will actually pee or poo in the potty and bring it to you to "show". I think the potty just encourages more autonomy in this way. And, although some might not see this as a plus, I like the fact that a toddler can really take a good, close look at what they've "produced" in the potty- when my 20-month old has peed, I like to point it out to him and say "pee-pee" while he looks on admiringly! With a toilet, the "product" sort of just gets lost down the bowl, if you see what I mean. It might not be a big deal for us, but to a toddler it just makes the connection so much more real! And that definitely helps with training. Lastly, for those of us starting training earlier than the average (here in Germany they don't start before age two), a potty is essential. It would be totally impractical to perch a one-year old on a big toilet. We started at 6 months with our child, generally following the recommendations in the book "Diaper Free Before Three". Now that he's almost two, using the potty first thing in the morning is just a normal part of the routine! While he's on his potty, I sit on the toilet. He likes the camaraderie! The other nice thing about a potty is you can take it with you if you're away from home (well, at least the small cheap ones, not the big clunky types shaped like cars or whatever). This is practical since a toddler might not feel comfortable sitting on a "strange" toilet, which also may not be so hygienic depending on where you are. Lastly, since the video is about products you'll regret buying: at 4 Euros a piece from Ikea, a potty is one of the cheapest baby gear you'll ever buy! Even if it doesn't work out, it'll hardly break the bank.
She does mention steps/foot stools for the big toilet. But we also like the potty. We'll see if that changes as he gets older and we need to transition to the toilet though. We got a second potty to keep near the living area since we live in a townhouse and there is no toilet on the same floor, only upstairs or downstairs and we'd rather not have that extra fight to go to the potty (which isn't a fight anymore, we just wanted to make things super simple since we started somewhat early) or just in the steps to potty resulting in more accidents since at first the identification of "I need to pee" and "I'm peeing" are really close together. I'm sure there will be more reluctance once we move to the toilet but we can deal with it. There will probably be more reluctance for washing hands (he's a boy and doesn't touch anything, so we've elected to save that battle for later so we can get the actual pottying part down sooner) considering he already fights washing his hands when we come home, but we'll deal with it.
@@EmmaHubbard I was hoping to see what your recommendation is for kids that are too small for the adult toilet? We got a family seat just like the one pictured here, but it seems like my son is just not big enough to sit in the family seat. My son wants to sit on the toilet, but even with a step stool his feet cannot reach the stool when he’s sitting on the toilet seat. He just turned two, but I’m wondering if maybe your recommendation is for older kids? When my son is sitting on the toilet seat, the edge of the toilet hits his calves. If he scoots up, his pee pee isn’t over the seat opening. I’m feeling like I’m doing something wrong, we always find your advice so helpful and have followed your videos for so many things.
Another interesting video, thank you! Not terribly important for the subject of the video, but interesting in how same products are marketed different in different cultures; here in Sweden pull up diapers aren’t seen as a middle step, but as a different style of nappy to be used on babies/children not yet potty trained. We use them at night for our 14 months old, as the elastic makes it comfy and it follows her nighttime rolling around better than a regular nappy (less leaking) 😊 Just interesting how same products are seen differently in different cultures 😀
Adverts on television I think market them as an potty training step, but we definitely started using them early to make diaper changes much easier. No one wants to fight a strong baby/toddler who doesn't want his diaper changed.
I used a floor toilet with my daughter and had no problems. Kept it in the bathroom, never forced her to use it just encouraged her to use it. She used it when she was ready. She was potty train around 2 years old. Then we transitioned to the big toilet with the child seat. Got a portable child seat for on the go. No problems here.
I used a floor toilet chair my daughter Ashley cry she popping pants I’m changing her clothes it’s fine she liked at all because her nippy missy to clan up Ashley is better she not do it or help
Love the video!! At home, with our little one we use the potty as a play item, the same way as a play kitchen works. We pit it out in the bathroom when he was 12 months and let him mimic the motions of going to the bathroom when we go. He loves it. Even makes little pee sounds when he sits on it. He's now 16 months and he'll pull down his pants, pretend to wipe and flush the big toilet when we go about our business. Once he's ready for actual toilet training, family friendly toilet seat all the way!!
My son completely rejected the family style toilet seat. He would cry and cry whenever I tried to put hi;m on the toilet. We even had the proper step stool and everything to make him comfortable. So I opted for a potty that resembles a toilet. It even has a flushing handle and makes the sound. I put it near the bathroom (because our bathroom is tiny) so he can immediately wash his hands afterwards. But my son will not pee or poo in the potty. He holds it for an extremely long time then randomly goes in his underwear while playing. He can tell me that he has wet himself but he just can’t seem to tell me BEFORE it happens.
My son was absolutely terrified of toilets until he was like 6. He's ADHD and hated the sound of the water. He's almost 13 now, and is fine. But it was a STRUGGLE! Remember, not all advice fits every kid. Don't let someone on RUclips erase your needs. 👍
I had the same problem with my daughter! This is what I did, first I taught her to pee in her diaper while sitting on the potty. Then when she mastered that, I cut a hole in the diaper and said, you see? There’s nothing to be afraid of. She still resisted so I let her run around diaper free and when she cried to put a diaper on, I held a diaper around her while she sat on the potty and let the diaper drop after she finished. She was floored that it was okay to pee in the potty. That “security blanket” feeling of the diaper band around her waist was our biggest obstacle. I really hope this helps you. We quickly transitioned to a big toilet seat. IKEA has very good potties and toilet seats that don’t move and make the experience better. Good luck!
To everyone asking about EC: I do EC with my 6mo, we started at 3 wks old and the 1st time we tried she went on the toilet right away! We've been doing it ever since and she almost only goes poo on the toilet, which is awesome because we also do cloth diapers. People ask why I'd do cloth diapers and say isn't that gross to clean? I tell them it's not thrilling but my baby almost always goes poo on the toilet so I only clean maybe 2 poopy diapers a week if I don't "catch" when she needs to go to the bathroom. We have a little mini floor kid potty but never use it- Emma's right it moves too much, she doesn't like how unstable it is (even w/my extra support), it's useless. I want to get the adult&child seat like Emma showed, since my daughter is now trained to the toilet and won't use any other potty. I've always just held her over the toilet, makes for less/no clean up and then just wipe her with toilet paper- we hardly ever need to use wet wipes! If any of you are interested in EC I'd rec checking out ECPeesy's channel for the basics. Hope this helps!
Our pediatrician recommended using a simple potty without any sound, light or anything that resembles a toy. She said we can locate it somewhere easily accessibe for the first week. After that, always in the bathroom. I dont know how professionals differ so much about the basics.
I agree it is very frustrating when you get different opinions. It is simply because we all specialise in different areas. Generally peds specialise in medical conditions/treatment, OTs specialise in self-care skills (dressing, toileting, brushing teeth, sleep, eating, hand skills, play etc), speech pathologist specialise in expressive and receptive language, play, eating) and other disciplines specialise in different areas.
What do you recommend for those who have to travel and move a lot with a toddler - in many places toilet seats are disgusting and for sure there is no footstep stool or family toilet seat? Also with kindergarten - ours is to start in September but they use potties there or regular toilets, no family seat. How to best navigate in such situation?
Great advice! My daughter is only 5 months old, so we're a ways off from this step, but I love researching & being prepared for what's to come. Thanks Emma!
I have only ever potty trained with the stand alone potty seat and toilet seat reducer. I'm currently potty training baby #4 who is 18 months old. We only have one toilet and with 3 other kids using the toilet its much more practical for her to have her own potty and she is able to go sit on it without my help.
not true. i have never seen anyone fall into the toilet but i was still deathly afraid of falling into the toilet. i was not the easiest baby to toilet train.
My daughter and niece have both called out to me when they were using a standard toilet seat because the seat was too large and they sunk into it and got stuck!
Hi Emma, thank you so much for your great advice. What is your advice for nap time and bed time while potty training? I would think the child still needs to wear a diaper/nappy while they're asleep? I tried to scroll through the comments to see if someone else had already asked this question but there were just so many comments, I couldn't read them all, haha. Sorry if this has already been asked.
Hey! This is a great question. I definitely recommend using a portable reducer ring when you are travelling. I would also recommend that if you visit a particular family member or friend often they have a reducer ring and footrest available. Generally I would recommend toilet training the toddler at home first (which might take a few days to a week if they are ready) and then after they are toilet trained at home they are usually happy to use other toilets.
hello emma love your videos. have a question: how to stop contact napping? 6 month old sleeps in crib at night but refuses to sleep in crib for naps. will wake up within 5 minutes of being put down versus 45+ minutes if held. sometimes will sleep in bed but will wake up 15 min later. dark room, white noise etc nothing works.
Hi! Is your 6 month old needing a sleep prop to fall asleep? So do they need to be fed,rocked, held, use a pacifier to fall asleep? It’s important to note that at night time their sleep pressure is high and their melatonin levels are high so they can transfer more easily for that first long stretch of night sleep. But day naps are guided by sleep pressure and because if this they will wake more easily if you transfer them from your arms to the cot. To get your little one to sleep in a cot for day naps you might need to help your little one fall asleep without a sleep prop.
Same question as someone else previously asked, Emma, this is really great advice but what about when you are out and about having to use other people's toilets or public toilets? Do you try and use the seat reducer then by taking it with you? Thank you so much for your videos, they are helping a lot!!!
Hi Alison, when out and about you can use portable reducer rings. I do generally find that once the child is toilet trained which can happen in a few days to a week if they are ready, they will be comfortable to use a toilet at the park or shops if you just help support them. But there are portable reducer rings which fold up and go in a nappy/handbag as well.
I always bring the kid seat top because it helps my girl fit the toilet better and feel more secure while sitting on public toilets. It also makes it easier for me because I dont have to hold her up, so I am able to get wipes and undies, etc ready while she goes potty.
My toddler is 17months, and in cloth diapers (which should be giving her a better feeling of dry/wet/poopy than disposable diapers), but she NEVER gives me ANY indication that she needs a diaper change or is uncomfortable in her diaper😭 I just have to be constantly checking her. It concerns me for when we do start potty training
Hi Esther and Sophie! At this age it is really typical for toddlers to not show signs when they need to go or discomfort when they have a dirty nappy. With time they will become more aware and start to show you clear signs, as well as, start to feel uncomfortable with soiled or wet diapers. Generally this happens at around 2 years of age. Goodluck!
I have a 21 month old who's in cloth. At 20 months she started pulling on her diaper when it was wet or soiled, so we figured we'd give it a try. We went pantless and she pretty quickly showed that she wasn't ready (I'm also very pregnant, and didn't have it in me to push through and keep cleaning up her accidents). She's backslid into not sharing that she's dirty in the month since, which feels frustrating, but is also just a part of our process now. 🤷🏼♀️
Try getting her changed sooner or try a few days where u dont mind cleaning up their messes. I did that with mine hes 18months now we did regress because I wasnt consistent with potty training outside the house. But a few days without any type of diapers/nappy's or underwear will give them an idea that they are going. Mine watched the floor get wet and cried because he slipped on his pee😅 cleaned it up and within 2days he started saying pee or poo. Tryi g get back into potty training bcuz id like to use less disposable diapers. Once they pee or poo say the word u want them to say "potty, pee or poo" and then they'll register that. And then with enough practice they'll catch on. Ive read some kids are better to not potty train at all when they arent able to speak well and others that its bad to try and potty train them under 2yr old or 3yr old. Each kid and parent is different. Importance is consistency. And keeping eye out. Im still trying to learn to have potty training outside house. Bcuz I just use diapers to avoid accidents on car seat and just fear of him playing on park n going poo on a slide or something with other kids😅 so yeah. Looking for that. Otherwise think ill keep staying home all day long to practice potty😅😂
also I was thinking to buy skip hop potty which is similar to adult one in design with also flush sound but just smaller to match toddlers size.. will that be okay or shall I go directly for family style toilet seat?
congrats!! we ec, started at 3mo (the earlier the better but postpartum kicked my butt lol). now she's 9 months and crawling and we're trying to teach her to crawl to the potty--ec is great! makes for washing her diapers less often too :) we use a mini potty and a toilet seat reducer, but she's so used to all of it since we started so early the things Emma mentioned haven't been problematic for us yet.
I can't get my almost 3 yr old to go poo in the toliet, we've been potty training for 4 weeks and have no pee accidents anymore but I can't even get him to poo in the bathroom. He'll go pee and then poo in his underwear shortly after. Idk what to do
Hi Ivette! It is really common for toddlers to refuse to do poops in the bathroom. I find the gradual approach works best for these kids. I go through this approach in this video: ruclips.net/video/FuEOVu6U4CI/видео.html Hopefully it helps!
Can I toilet train a 15month old using family style toilet seat ? I will check on dimensions but because it's not in shops in Belgium I will have to go by measurements and judge and order. But otherwise does 15m old baby resist it or it's suitable to try since the beginning of potty training ?
Chand, just use a small potty. A child that age can be far more practically and securely seated on a little potty (4 Euros from Ikea, or, since you're in Belgium, have a look at Carrefour for something similarly cheap). Our 20-month old uses the potty regularly throughout the day now. I started at 6-months (check out the book Diaper Free Before Three). Of course, you can start after age one or 18 months if you prefer. If I remember correctly from when I lived in Brussels, the recommendation back then was to start at 18 months. Children are expected to be (mostly!) toilet-trained by the time they start pre-school ("école maternelle") at 2.5 years.
Wow! That was mind blowing! Very informative, thank you . I actually bought a little potty seat for my infant because i was interested in the elimination communication idea- after watching this would like to know if you would say to avoid elimination communication too?
We used a potty for elimination communication from 7 months to around age 2. My daughter had no trouble transition to a family toilet seat once she was ready to toilet train (around age 2). She does unfortunately still have a fear of public toilets as she’s a covid baby and don’t go out very often.
emma this video is perfect timing! I will be starting the process soon with my girl! what age do you recommend potty training!? my toddler is 18 months. Thanks emma i LOVE your videos💜🙏
So glad this video came at the right time for you! Generally I recommend waiting until your little one is able to do two things. 1. Stay dry for 1 - 2 hours and 2. Does soft formed poops (so isn't constipated). Generally children have the bladder capacity to stay dry for 1 -2 hours by 2 years of age. So generally my recommendation is to wait until your little one is 2 years of age.
@@Dana-mb1hd I started my daughter at age 2 and within 2 weeks she was fully potty trained. She actually told me she didn't want pull ups and wanted panties instead😁 You'll do great.
Thank you for this video ❤ my daughter is 20 months and started training her 2 months ago. She can say when she pees or poops but just refuses to use the potty and the small toilet in the house. I have no idea the type of potty I must get or how to encourage her to use the potty
Thank you for this advice. I only keep a clean potty chair in the back of the SUV, in case my toddler needs to go while we're out and about. Normal toilet otherwise.
I think in the middle of the night potty is not that bad🙂 During the day, my 3 year old boy has his own urinal but if he wants a poo, he has to use the toilet🙂
Generally I recommend starting toileting training once the little one is able to stay dry for 1 -2 hours at a time and does soft formed poops. Generally they can stay dry for 1 -2 hours at a time when they are 2 years of age or slightly older.
I use pull up nappies because those are easier for me to put onto my active toddler! Also less leakages. He’s 18 months now. Not sure when is best to start toilet training. Is it usually around age 3?
Hi @Tasmin Warlow I generally recommend starting toileting training when the little one has two skills. 1. Is able to stay dry for 1 - 2 hours 2. Does soft formed poos. Generally kids have the bladder capacity to stay dry for 1 - 2 hours from around 2 years of age. Most parents toilet train between the age of 2 - 3 years. It really depends on when the child is starting to show an interest and you as a parent have time to invest in toilet training.
Hi I have been trying to toilet train my 3.5 year old daughter and the only way she will go on her own is if she’s bare bottom and the floor toilet ! She refuses the big toilet what can I do? I also need her potty trained before September!!
What about positioning tho? Especially for BM? The seat that’s low to the ground positions them in the proper position to help with constipation and BM’s. You can get a stool for the bathroom but it’s hard to have one high enough that’s also removable for when you need to go.
Hi! I do find toddlers can achieve the ideal position for BM when using a child seat (in the family style toilet) and a 2 step footstool. I find the wooden 2 step footstools best as they are more sturdy and stable.
So this is fine if your child's bottom is actually big enough to not slide through the family toliet seat insert. My son is tiny and his bum falls through.
Hi Nicole! You don't want them to be sliding through the toilet seat. Do you have the family style toilet seat where there is a child toilet seat and an adult toilet seat?
@@evelynsenyi if you are able to it might be worth checking if there is another family style toilet seat which has a smaller internal hole for the child seat. You do want your little one to be comfortable and supported while sitting on the toilet so he is comfortable enough to open his bladder or bowel.
Hi Karen! It can be so hard and frustrating at times when they regress. In this video I break down the steps that can help little ones poop in the toilet: ruclips.net/video/FuEOVu6U4CI/видео.html Hopefully it helps!
How on earth can I get a family size toilet installed if i don't own my home lol. And if I'm only gonna live here for a year. Just seems difficult to do as a temporary short term renter
Hi! You actually just unclip the existing seat and clip the new one on. We did this with our first when we were renting and then just clipped the original seat back on when we left 🙂
I use the „pull up pants“ when it‘s too hot to wear a bodysuit underneath a tshirt. They stay better where they should be. from Time to time normal diapers slide down without a bodysuit.
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Thank you Emma for another awesome video, but the link is not working
This link never works for me. 🙁
But Thank you for all of your helpful videos though. They have come in clutch since I don't have any family to learn from. You have been a tremendous help in our household. 💙
The link isn’t working for me either! Love all your videos!❤
My nephews were potty-trained before their 1st birthday. They were very much able to ask for help when they needed to use the potty, and later - use it themselves. They were barely walking at this point, definitely not able to climb safely onto a grown-up toilet. You can only skip the potty if you start toilet-training really late, when the child is physically bigger.
Thank you for this comment! I was wondering! We are potty training a bit later. We started at 6m, had our first catch at 9m! We're using the plastic potty.
Emma, I completely disagree about the potty being counter-productive for toilet-training. On the contrary! I notice that parents often prefer starting with the regular toilet, since it easier for the parents (no need to empty any potty contents after use, of course); however, I think for the child, especially when starting training before the age of two, it is simply far more comfortable to use a potty which is just his or her size. A toddler can set him or herself on a potty without any assistance whatsoever, which isn't the case with a toilet, even one with a step-stool. They do need more assistance with that. I like the fact that the child's feet are firmly planted on the floor, which puts him/her in more of a squatting position, far healthier for emptying the bowel (you've probably heard of the "squatty potty"!) A small child on an adult toilet is arguably less positioned in this optimal way. Also, I love the fact that a toddler can really "take ownership" of the potty. They can move it around and sometimes will actually pee or poo in the potty and bring it to you to "show". I think the potty just encourages more autonomy in this way. And, although some might not see this as a plus, I like the fact that a toddler can really take a good, close look at what they've "produced" in the potty- when my 20-month old has peed, I like to point it out to him and say "pee-pee" while he looks on admiringly! With a toilet, the "product" sort of just gets lost down the bowl, if you see what I mean. It might not be a big deal for us, but to a toddler it just makes the connection so much more real! And that definitely helps with training. Lastly, for those of us starting training earlier than the average (here in Germany they don't start before age two), a potty is essential. It would be totally impractical to perch a one-year old on a big toilet. We started at 6 months with our child, generally following the recommendations in the book "Diaper Free Before Three". Now that he's almost two, using the potty first thing in the morning is just a normal part of the routine! While he's on his potty, I sit on the toilet. He likes the camaraderie! The other nice thing about a potty is you can take it with you if you're away from home (well, at least the small cheap ones, not the big clunky types shaped like cars or whatever). This is practical since a toddler might not feel comfortable sitting on a "strange" toilet, which also may not be so hygienic depending on where you are. Lastly, since the video is about products you'll regret buying: at 4 Euros a piece from Ikea, a potty is one of the cheapest baby gear you'll ever buy! Even if it doesn't work out, it'll hardly break the bank.
Thanks for sharing your experience! Glad you found an option which works for your family!
She does mention steps/foot stools for the big toilet. But we also like the potty. We'll see if that changes as he gets older and we need to transition to the toilet though. We got a second potty to keep near the living area since we live in a townhouse and there is no toilet on the same floor, only upstairs or downstairs and we'd rather not have that extra fight to go to the potty (which isn't a fight anymore, we just wanted to make things super simple since we started somewhat early) or just in the steps to potty resulting in more accidents since at first the identification of "I need to pee" and "I'm peeing" are really close together. I'm sure there will be more reluctance once we move to the toilet but we can deal with it. There will probably be more reluctance for washing hands (he's a boy and doesn't touch anything, so we've elected to save that battle for later so we can get the actual pottying part down sooner) considering he already fights washing his hands when we come home, but we'll deal with it.
@@EmmaHubbard I was hoping to see what your recommendation is for kids that are too small for the adult toilet? We got a family seat just like the one pictured here, but it seems like my son is just not big enough to sit in the family seat.
My son wants to sit on the toilet, but even with a step stool his feet cannot reach the stool when he’s sitting on the toilet seat. He just turned two, but I’m wondering if maybe your recommendation is for older kids? When my son is sitting on the toilet seat, the edge of the toilet hits his calves. If he scoots up, his pee pee isn’t over the seat opening.
I’m feeling like I’m doing something wrong, we always find your advice so helpful and have followed your videos for so many things.
Thank you for this insight!
Another interesting video, thank you! Not terribly important for the subject of the video, but interesting in how same products are marketed different in different cultures; here in Sweden pull up diapers aren’t seen as a middle step, but as a different style of nappy to be used on babies/children not yet potty trained. We use them at night for our 14 months old, as the elastic makes it comfy and it follows her nighttime rolling around better than a regular nappy (less leaking) 😊
Just interesting how same products are seen differently in different cultures 😀
It's the same in Germany. Additionally some parents prefer the pull up diapers when children are very active during diaper changes.
Adverts on television I think market them as an potty training step, but we definitely started using them early to make diaper changes much easier. No one wants to fight a strong baby/toddler who doesn't want his diaper changed.
Its the same for us. We started using pull ups at daytime when our boy was able to stand at 10 months and resisted to lay down at diaper changes 😅.
I used a floor toilet with my daughter and had no problems. Kept it in the bathroom, never forced her to use it just encouraged her to use it. She used it when she was ready. She was potty train around 2 years old. Then we transitioned to the big toilet with the child seat. Got a portable child seat for on the go. No problems here.
Thanks for sharing!
I used a floor toilet chair my daughter Ashley
cry she popping pants I’m changing her clothes it’s fine she liked at all because her nippy missy to clan up Ashley is better she not do it or help
exactly, offer the option, and let them decide
Love the video!! At home, with our little one we use the potty as a play item, the same way as a play kitchen works. We pit it out in the bathroom when he was 12 months and let him mimic the motions of going to the bathroom when we go. He loves it. Even makes little pee sounds when he sits on it. He's now 16 months and he'll pull down his pants, pretend to wipe and flush the big toilet when we go about our business. Once he's ready for actual toilet training, family friendly toilet seat all the way!!
If he's doing all that, it sounds like he's ready...for using the potty.
@@vanessat9309 we're waiting till he can go 2hours without wetting his diaper, he still wets the diaper about every 45 mins 😊
My son completely rejected the family style toilet seat. He would cry and cry whenever I tried to put hi;m on the toilet. We even had the proper step stool and everything to make him comfortable. So I opted for a potty that resembles a toilet. It even has a flushing handle and makes the sound. I put it near the bathroom (because our bathroom is tiny) so he can immediately wash his hands afterwards. But my son will not pee or poo in the potty. He holds it for an extremely long time then randomly goes in his underwear while playing. He can tell me that he has wet himself but he just can’t seem to tell me BEFORE it happens.
Hi @C Ewe thanks so much for sharing. How old is your little one?
@@EmmaHubbard My son is 2.5 years old. He will be 3 in October.
My son was absolutely terrified of toilets until he was like 6. He's ADHD and hated the sound of the water. He's almost 13 now, and is fine. But it was a STRUGGLE! Remember, not all advice fits every kid. Don't let someone on RUclips erase your needs. 👍
I had the same problem with my daughter! This is what I did, first I taught her to pee in her diaper while sitting on the potty. Then when she mastered that, I cut a hole in the diaper and said, you see? There’s nothing to be afraid of. She still resisted so I let her run around diaper free and when she cried to put a diaper on, I held a diaper around her while she sat on the potty and let the diaper drop after she finished. She was floored that it was okay to pee in the potty. That “security blanket” feeling of the diaper band around her waist was our biggest obstacle. I really hope this helps you. We quickly transitioned to a big toilet seat. IKEA has very good potties and toilet seats that don’t move and make the experience better. Good luck!
Feed him a overly ripe banana everytime he does that
To everyone asking about EC: I do EC with my 6mo, we started at 3 wks old and the 1st time we tried she went on the toilet right away! We've been doing it ever since and she almost only goes poo on the toilet, which is awesome because we also do cloth diapers. People ask why I'd do cloth diapers and say isn't that gross to clean? I tell them it's not thrilling but my baby almost always goes poo on the toilet so I only clean maybe 2 poopy diapers a week if I don't "catch" when she needs to go to the bathroom. We have a little mini floor kid potty but never use it- Emma's right it moves too much, she doesn't like how unstable it is (even w/my extra support), it's useless. I want to get the adult&child seat like Emma showed, since my daughter is now trained to the toilet and won't use any other potty. I've always just held her over the toilet, makes for less/no clean up and then just wipe her with toilet paper- we hardly ever need to use wet wipes! If any of you are interested in EC I'd rec checking out ECPeesy's channel for the basics. Hope this helps!
Our pediatrician recommended using a simple potty without any sound, light or anything that resembles a toy. She said we can locate it somewhere easily accessibe for the first week. After that, always in the bathroom. I dont know how professionals differ so much about the basics.
I agree it is very frustrating when you get different opinions. It is simply because we all specialise in different areas. Generally peds specialise in medical conditions/treatment, OTs specialise in self-care skills (dressing, toileting, brushing teeth, sleep, eating, hand skills, play etc), speech pathologist specialise in expressive and receptive language, play, eating) and other disciplines specialise in different areas.
What do you recommend for those who have to travel and move a lot with a toddler - in many places toilet seats are disgusting and for sure there is no footstep stool or family toilet seat? Also with kindergarten - ours is to start in September but they use potties there or regular toilets, no family seat. How to best navigate in such situation?
Great advice! My daughter is only 5 months old, so we're a ways off from this step, but I love researching & being prepared for what's to come. Thanks Emma!
Same here but a month later.
I have only ever potty trained with the stand alone potty seat and toilet seat reducer. I'm currently potty training baby #4 who is 18 months old. We only have one toilet and with 3 other kids using the toilet its much more practical for her to have her own potty and she is able to go sit on it without my help.
Great you've got a system that works!
I agree. I find Emma's antipathy to the potty very strange and have written a long comment about that above.
You look great Emma!!! Thank you for your videos!!! They really help me as a first time mommy!
You are so welcome!
not true. i have never seen anyone fall into the toilet but i was still deathly afraid of falling into the toilet. i was not the easiest baby to toilet train.
My daughter and niece have both called out to me when they were using a standard toilet seat because the seat was too large and they sunk into it and got stuck!
What do you do when you go somewhere there isn’t a combination seat?
Hi Emma, thank you so much for your great advice.
What is your advice for nap time and bed time while potty training? I would think the child still needs to wear a diaper/nappy while they're asleep?
I tried to scroll through the comments to see if someone else had already asked this question but there were just so many comments, I couldn't read them all, haha. Sorry if this has already been asked.
Thanks for this video! what would you recommend for travel if an insert is not recommended? would an insert be okay for EC (elimination communication)
Hey! This is a great question. I definitely recommend using a portable reducer ring when you are travelling.
I would also recommend that if you visit a particular family member or friend often they have a reducer ring and footrest available.
Generally I would recommend toilet training the toddler at home first (which might take a few days to a week if they are ready) and then after they are toilet trained at home they are usually happy to use other toilets.
I have the same question about EC thanks Emma!
hello emma love your videos. have a question: how to stop contact napping? 6 month old sleeps in crib at night but refuses to sleep in crib for naps. will wake up within 5 minutes of being put down versus 45+ minutes if held. sometimes will sleep in bed but will wake up 15 min later. dark room, white noise etc nothing works.
Hi! Is your 6 month old needing a sleep prop to fall asleep? So do they need to be fed,rocked, held, use a pacifier to fall asleep?
It’s important to note that at night time their sleep pressure is high and their melatonin levels are high so they can transfer more easily for that first long stretch of night sleep. But day naps are guided by sleep pressure and because if this they will wake more easily if you transfer them from your arms to the cot. To get your little one to sleep in a cot for day naps you might need to help your little one fall asleep without a sleep prop.
@@EmmaHubbard Yes she rocked to sleep and sometimes will breastfeed before a nap or if she wakes up too early. Thank you!
Off topic but I love your name 🦋
Same question as someone else previously asked, Emma, this is really great advice but what about when you are out and about having to use other people's toilets or public toilets? Do you try and use the seat reducer then by taking it with you?
Thank you so much for your videos, they are helping a lot!!!
Hi Alison, when out and about you can use portable reducer rings. I do generally find that once the child is toilet trained which can happen in a few days to a week if they are ready, they will be comfortable to use a toilet at the park or shops if you just help support them. But there are portable reducer rings which fold up and go in a nappy/handbag as well.
I always bring the kid seat top because it helps my girl fit the toilet better and feel more secure while sitting on public toilets. It also makes it easier for me because I dont have to hold her up, so I am able to get wipes and undies, etc ready while she goes potty.
Hi Emma ☀️ at what age do you typically start toilet training?
My toddler is 17months, and in cloth diapers (which should be giving her a better feeling of dry/wet/poopy than disposable diapers), but she NEVER gives me ANY indication that she needs a diaper change or is uncomfortable in her diaper😭 I just have to be constantly checking her. It concerns me for when we do start potty training
Literally same. But they change so quickly so hopefully soon.
Hi Esther and Sophie! At this age it is really typical for toddlers to not show signs when they need to go or discomfort when they have a dirty nappy. With time they will become more aware and start to show you clear signs, as well as, start to feel uncomfortable with soiled or wet diapers. Generally this happens at around 2 years of age. Goodluck!
Yes exactly same to me 🥲
I have a 21 month old who's in cloth. At 20 months she started pulling on her diaper when it was wet or soiled, so we figured we'd give it a try. We went pantless and she pretty quickly showed that she wasn't ready (I'm also very pregnant, and didn't have it in me to push through and keep cleaning up her accidents). She's backslid into not sharing that she's dirty in the month since, which feels frustrating, but is also just a part of our process now. 🤷🏼♀️
Try getting her changed sooner or try a few days where u dont mind cleaning up their messes. I did that with mine hes 18months now we did regress because I wasnt consistent with potty training outside the house. But a few days without any type of diapers/nappy's or underwear will give them an idea that they are going. Mine watched the floor get wet and cried because he slipped on his pee😅 cleaned it up and within 2days he started saying pee or poo. Tryi g get back into potty training bcuz id like to use less disposable diapers. Once they pee or poo say the word u want them to say "potty, pee or poo" and then they'll register that. And then with enough practice they'll catch on. Ive read some kids are better to not potty train at all when they arent able to speak well and others that its bad to try and potty train them under 2yr old or 3yr old. Each kid and parent is different. Importance is consistency. And keeping eye out. Im still trying to learn to have potty training outside house. Bcuz I just use diapers to avoid accidents on car seat and just fear of him playing on park n going poo on a slide or something with other kids😅 so yeah. Looking for that. Otherwise think ill keep staying home all day long to practice potty😅😂
also I was thinking to buy skip hop potty which is similar to adult one in design with also flush sound but just smaller to match toddlers size.. will that be okay or shall I go directly for family style toilet seat?
Great video, but I don't see the link to the toileting tips and tricks. Maybe it's my browser?
Useful but what to do when the toilet in your house is unable to fit any family style seats????
I'm expecting my first baby and your videos are so helpful! What do you think about elimination communication?
congrats!! we ec, started at 3mo (the earlier the better but postpartum kicked my butt lol). now she's 9 months and crawling and we're trying to teach her to crawl to the potty--ec is great! makes for washing her diapers less often too :)
we use a mini potty and a toilet seat reducer, but she's so used to all of it since we started so early the things Emma mentioned haven't been problematic for us yet.
Emma, are there any potty training courses that you would recommend?
I can't get my almost 3 yr old to go poo in the toliet, we've been potty training for 4 weeks and have no pee accidents anymore but I can't even get him to poo in the bathroom. He'll go pee and then poo in his underwear shortly after. Idk what to do
Hi Ivette! It is really common for toddlers to refuse to do poops in the bathroom. I find the gradual approach works best for these kids. I go through this approach in this video: ruclips.net/video/FuEOVu6U4CI/видео.html
Hopefully it helps!
Can I toilet train a 15month old using family style toilet seat ? I will check on dimensions but because it's not in shops in Belgium I will have to go by measurements and judge and order. But otherwise does 15m old baby resist it or it's suitable to try since the beginning of potty training ?
Chand, just use a small potty. A child that age can be far more practically and securely seated on a little potty (4 Euros from Ikea, or, since you're in Belgium, have a look at Carrefour for something similarly cheap). Our 20-month old uses the potty regularly throughout the day now. I started at 6-months (check out the book Diaper Free Before Three). Of course, you can start after age one or 18 months if you prefer. If I remember correctly from when I lived in Brussels, the recommendation back then was to start at 18 months. Children are expected to be (mostly!) toilet-trained by the time they start pre-school ("école maternelle") at 2.5 years.
Wow! That was mind blowing! Very informative, thank you . I actually bought a little potty seat for my infant because i was interested in the elimination communication idea- after watching this would like to know if you would say to avoid elimination communication too?
We used a potty for elimination communication from 7 months to around age 2. My daughter had no trouble transition to a family toilet seat once she was ready to toilet train (around age 2). She does unfortunately still have a fear of public toilets as she’s a covid baby and don’t go out very often.
emma this video is perfect timing! I will be starting the process soon with my girl! what age do you recommend potty training!? my toddler is 18 months. Thanks emma i LOVE your videos💜🙏
So glad this video came at the right time for you! Generally I recommend waiting until your little one is able to do two things.
1. Stay dry for 1 - 2 hours and
2. Does soft formed poops (so isn't constipated).
Generally children have the bladder capacity to stay dry for 1 -2 hours by 2 years of age. So generally my recommendation is to wait until your little one is 2 years of age.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you emma! which toilet seat do you recommend?!
@@Dana-mb1hd I started my daughter at age 2 and within 2 weeks she was fully potty trained. She actually told me she didn't want pull ups and wanted panties instead😁 You'll do great.
@@nedlongman4664 thank you i’m hoping so!💜🙏
@@nedlongman4664 that’s awesome!
Thank you for this video ❤ my daughter is 20 months and started training her 2 months ago. She can say when she pees or poops but just refuses to use the potty and the small toilet in the house. I have no idea the type of potty I must get or how to encourage her to use the potty
Thank you for this advice. I only keep a clean potty chair in the back of the SUV, in case my toddler needs to go while we're out and about. Normal toilet otherwise.
I think in the middle of the night potty is not that bad🙂 During the day, my 3 year old boy has his own urinal but if he wants a poo, he has to use the toilet🙂
Great that you worked out a solution that works for your family.
Hi, thank you for the advice. I was wondering when is it recommended to start training a toddler to use a toilet?
Generally I recommend starting toileting training once the little one is able to stay dry for 1 -2 hours at a time and does soft formed poops. Generally they can stay dry for 1 -2 hours at a time when they are 2 years of age or slightly older.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you!
I use pull up nappies because those are easier for me to put onto my active toddler! Also less leakages.
He’s 18 months now. Not sure when is best to start toilet training. Is it usually around age 3?
Hi @Tasmin Warlow I generally recommend starting toileting training when the little one has two skills.
1. Is able to stay dry for 1 - 2 hours
2. Does soft formed poos.
Generally kids have the bladder capacity to stay dry for 1 - 2 hours from around 2 years of age. Most parents toilet train between the age of 2 - 3 years. It really depends on when the child is starting to show an interest and you as a parent have time to invest in toilet training.
2 year old is ready for potty training
Hi I have been trying to toilet train my 3.5 year old daughter and the only way she will go on her own is if she’s bare bottom and the floor toilet ! She refuses the big toilet what can I do? I also need her potty trained before September!!
What about positioning tho? Especially for BM?
The seat that’s low to the ground positions them in the proper position to help with constipation and BM’s.
You can get a stool for the bathroom but it’s hard to have one high enough that’s also removable for when you need to go.
Hi! I do find toddlers can achieve the ideal position for BM when using a child seat (in the family style toilet) and a 2 step footstool. I find the wooden 2 step footstools best as they are more sturdy and stable.
So this is fine if your child's bottom is actually big enough to not slide through the family toliet seat insert. My son is tiny and his bum falls through.
Hi Nicole! You don't want them to be sliding through the toilet seat. Do you have the family style toilet seat where there is a child toilet seat and an adult toilet seat?
@@EmmaHubbard yep! And the little seat is still too big
@@evelynsenyi if you are able to it might be worth checking if there is another family style toilet seat which has a smaller internal hole for the child seat. You do want your little one to be comfortable and supported while sitting on the toilet so he is comfortable enough to open his bladder or bowel.
How do you do this with a baby though?
We cannot get my 3 and a half year old to poop in the toilet. He let's us know now and then to pee but he has regressed to just going in his pull up.
Hi Karen! It can be so hard and frustrating at times when they regress. In this video I break down the steps that can help little ones poop in the toilet: ruclips.net/video/FuEOVu6U4CI/видео.html
Hopefully it helps!
@@EmmaHubbard thank you
Emma thank you for your advice my baby is doing excellent at going to the potty and please make more potty videos thank you.
You’re welcome 😊
At least the Family toilet seat I have is poor.
Hi Kat, not sure what you mean?
How on earth can I get a family size toilet installed if i don't own my home lol. And if I'm only gonna live here for a year. Just seems difficult to do as a temporary short term renter
Hi! You actually just unclip the existing seat and clip the new one on. We did this with our first when we were renting and then just clipped the original seat back on when we left 🙂
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I have very vivid memories of falling in the bowl 🤣
I wish you could show this on TikTok and all the Amazon products you recommend or potty training
😂 nah my son loved his mini toilet.
Glad you found an option that works best for your little one!
my boy hates potty seat, what to do ?
My 3year old baby still train potty. Its hard she always say she afraid.
I use the „pull up pants“ when it‘s too hot to wear a bodysuit underneath a tshirt.
They stay better where they should be. from Time to time normal diapers slide down without a bodysuit.