AMERICAN IN LONDON DATING WHAT TO EXPECT
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- As an American living in London there’s quite a few adjustments I’ve had to make especially when it comes to dating. This video is me sharing a few of my experiences and thoughts which may give you a better idea of what dating is like in London if you’re thinking of moving or visiting! Change is a great thing and I definitely believe if you have the chance to live abroad you should absolutely take it! Thanks for watching! I hope you enjoy!
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One point about paying for the date. This is because as a British guy it's seen as forward or patronising to assume the woman will be happy to let you pay for her - as payment might be seen as seeking to impose some sort of obligation on her.Similarly a British woman doesn't want to be seen as expecting a man to pay. So a British date will often involve a little 'dance' when the bill comes like this: The man offers to pay. The woman offers to split the bill. The man politely insists. The woman accepts his kind offer (or alternatively can insist on splitting if she is so minded). Honour satisfied all round.
LOL, this is so true!
Yup! Sometimes you get extreme stuff like the woman secretly pays the bill while you're going to the toilet ("using the restroom" to US readers) :p - I've learned to watch out for that one!
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Andy McNish 😂😂😂 yes exactly
OMG I would NOT pay for a date period unless I asked him out. I'm from the Southern U.S. , old school southern U.S and I don't pay the check. I've been to London and want to go again but I didn't know this.
Something is telling me that dating ANYWHERE outside of Los Angeles is better.
Rifle Twist and outside of Pennsylvania lol
And outside of Atlanta!
And outside of South Carolina
LA is horrible America in general is horrible
This is untrue just like many LA stereotypes. Born and raised in LA, and the ones that act weird are actually the transplants that move here for the Hollywood scene. I went to a state university in the SoCal area. And maybe it’s a different time but back then, after college , many friends I know got married(met their future husband/future wives at the university. This was during the mid-1990s. ). And they’re still together to this day!
Approach a man 😶. Personally I do it like this. You see a guy staring at you (means he likes you), decide if you fancy him, if so smile briefly at him like this 😏 & go back to what you were doing. Eventually he’ll come over & say hi, then you say hi. Don’t be thirsty, just friendly & polite. Ok hope that helped. I only split the bill if I go on a date & decide I don’t like the guy or I’m undecided. If I like him & the chemistry is good I’ll let him pay. But it’s just basic manners to offer to split the bill.
But that's not necessarily You approaching Him. That's just you giving him the go ahead to come over with HIS skills. But what if he doesn't come over, what do you do then 🤔
@@rantradio Approach him
I met a British man who was well traveled and communicative. He straight up approached me and asked me for my number and we hit it off quite nicely. He said he loved my U.S. accent and he also knew a lot about American culture but was still down to earth and modest unlike a lot of American men. I liked him a lot.
Something I noticed about flirting in particular is that I like the way English boys flirt better than American guys. It’s very different, American guys tend to be very complimentary and sweet, but sensitive. English guys tend to tease and enjoy good banter, everything is more light hearted and not meant to be taken that seriously. That’s why I like it. By the way, I’m not saying American guys are bad at flirting, it’s just a different style
Melissa Russell that’s very true! Great observation! Unlike American men, they’re more subtle with their flirting.
@@DawnWilsonVideos makes it easier for us to back out when facing rejection lol
@@Simon-hb9rf haha Exactly!
People here don't throw the word LOVE around as it takes the meaning out of the word, if you say it without meaning it, when you do actually mean it it won't have as much meaning, if you get what I mean!
On the class thing, I think British people would have difficulty in putting an American in ‘a class’, partly because the accent wouldn’t be a give away, and your attitudes would reflect your different country base, and therefore not reflect a British experience/class...
London is so different in people and culture
To the rest of England
It’s an international city
Nothing wrong with that
But culture wise different
It's funny, because the Brits are very promiscuous! Sex is not a big deal and this whole "don't kiss on the first date thing" is not an issue here. They're a lot more liberal than Americans. I'm from the Netherlands by the way and I've lived in both countries. I'm biracial too and it's not unusual in the Netherlands either.
Wanna swap pics princess?
i am a black londoner from ghana and this is very true
omg i'm just about to move to london for grad school (been going to college in nyc for the past 4 years)--your videos are so helpful and make me a little less nervous!
This literally came up in my feed today , years later. But I wanted to comment my own experiences 😊. 100% agree and I think all the women in the US can agree that men here are very confident to approach women and sometimes it’s not subtle at all. Whether in college, at work, the grocery store, just touring around a city if you’re by yourself, at the mall, etc, there’s no problem with American guys approaching women even without dating apps lol. Although I’m glad my future husband did the first approaching (I was so oblivious at the time of our first meeting, and we now have 2 beautiful children. 😊) . On the other side of the spectrum, My observations when visiting London in the early 2000s(and who knows it could change now), the guys are more subtle but it’s the eye contact and how you react to that eye contact in a way, that determines if you get chatted up or not(fyi to the Californians who literally smile at everything not knowing what to think lol) . It’s just about cultural differences between the 2 , I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way, it’s just how it is. I think these days though there’s definitely more trans-Atlantic relationships than there were before as more younger people are traveling more.
what part of London do you reside at...because for example places like Hackney, Brixton, Tottenham, Harlesden, Peckham etc are frequented by those assertive, forward males, however those guys are usually the fast lane types lool
Very true! I live in Islington. Some areas definitely have more assertive guys than others but for the most part way more conservative than the states.
@VASTFLYER 232•••••••• man's hungry bruv lol
Exactly, white men tend to be more timid when approaching different races but black men from thoes ends . They have no idea what rejection is .
@@catmoore2443 this 👆🏿
This girl is so beautiful, hope she finds a nice British guy! 👍
Same
Awww, that’s so sweet. Me too!
I plan on going in August for a few days. This video is helpful. I want to meet people, maybe go on a date. I'm from NY btw so I understand the whole hooking up culture although I'm not about that life lol. Good video!
Hiii Dear
Your welcome gorgeous
Hey guys get on the que I'm first.... Lol
If you think London is like that for hook up culture, somewhere like Sweden is like that x10. I won't approach anyone without any contact or signs. Not necessarily out of fear. I just can't see any point. Why would I approach someone just based on looks. So I'd look for eye contact and if that was good and strong enough I would approach. Your own eye contact and facial expressiveness with the camera is amazing. If that was aimed strongly at me and I felt the connection I would have no choice but to approach
keep going on your YT channel girl, you make sense about lots of things some people didn't know obviously & you do a great job !
Thank you for all the videos... I have been thinking about moving from the US to London
I recently met a London girl who came from humble beginnings and has had a "posh" lifestyle in her post-uni life. I live in Miami and understand your hook-up culture reference. Two weeks after meeting we met up in New York City and had an intense weekend. Thank you for all your tips from a California native who is against long-distance dating.
As an Englishman, born and bred, all I have to ask is: WHERE were the beautiful American girls like Dawn when _I_ was young ? Bloody hell........................................
I lived in London my whole life, this is first time I've heard that we get into relationships by hooking up on the first night.
When I took a summer class in London my classmates told me that hooking up is more the way to get into a relationship than traditional dating.
I hear Londoners talk about strangers.Most people were strangers until they get to know each other.Thats how we become acquainted by approaching someone and having a conversation.Once we do that we can get to know each other.
Shut up
Good info. You showed your "American-ness" when you said paying for the date was not your idea of how to express your 'independence'. I got a good laugh out of that one. Thanks! Looking forward to coming to London in the near future.
I've never heard of the woman paying the bill on a date. It's not the done thing up north (Yorkshire), the man pays or splits
That’s really interesting experiences . My couple times visiting London. I guess my experiences were different where I was approached. Definitely during these travels I wasn’t looking for anything and I also had a boyfriend back in CA. I guess it depends as others had different experiences. Even though I’m from LA I’m not into the hooking up culture either.
Im slow so let me text it out. In America after the third or fourth date you do the do with the possibilitie of falling in love and starting a relationship. In London you hook up" Dew the do " continuously then much further down down the line you might be in a relationship and might find love in that person? Hmmmmm Interesting I guess
What a wonderful lady. She is full of wisdom. More women should take her advice.
I'm one of those forward Americans. Let me take you on a date.
This was so insightful. Thank you.
Aww great to hear! Thanks for watching :-)
London does not represent the UK, it's not a snap shot of the UK, what it's like to live here or its people. Next time anyone comes over please travel the country and take your focus off London.
True !!
London is where the intellect is like most capital cities... You probably can't hack it in London
6:55 I'm assuming you just meant if a girl isn't comfortable paying the whole bill. Any date (male or female) that *expects* you to pay for them is hella entitled. I'm all for treating eachother to things but if a girl told me she "wasn't comfortable" splitting the bill and thought I should pay because of my gender then I'm sure as hell not thinking of her as a strong or independent woman at all.
Travalon that's YOUR culture. In the U.S if a guy asks a woman out , it's understood that he is paying. It has very little to do with gender. If you don't want to pay then don't ask anyone out in the U.S. That is OUR culture. Once in a while you will find a woman who will split the check but that usually means she doesn't like you, you're in the friends zone, or she feels like you are coming on too strong and expecting something(sex) so she will pay HER half and bid you farewell. Kiss of death.
If something is 100% dependant on your gender, then you can't really say it has very little to do with gender. Pretty much any sexist attitude, regardless of whom they affect, can be called "culture" through a certain lens. But the idea that someone should behave a certain way just because they're male or female is wholly incompatible with the concept of gender equality.
Travalon what the hell are you talking about? Whomever asks someone on a date PAYS. If a man asks a woman out in the U.S it's understood that HE is paying. It has NOTHING to with gender, he asked he pays bottom line. If you don't like that then don't ask anyone out in the U.S.
Who did you move to the u.k with? Was it scary? Or did you go for school?
Thanks for watching the video! I moved to the UK for grad school alone. It was a little scary but I was really excited for the new adventure! It was way worth it :-)
Dawn Wilson what school if you don't mind answering? ...I was thinking of moving to London this summer just to change the scenery and take a life adventure!!
Shut up... Your chatting shit!
The assertive issue could be because of the parts of London you are in and the clubs etc you socialise in. Growing up in greater London, "chirpsing" was a big thing, guys hollar & spit game...
So basically the London dating culture is trash lmfaoo. Me? Pay for a date? & gotta give up the cat to be taken seriously? No ma'am.
It's not true tbh... That hook up shit is nonsense it's just men want one thing and girls get strung along..
You have the cutest voice :)
Do you miss the culture of the state's sometime?
Hello dawn, I'm currently dating a Brit. I'm thinking of proposing after dating for five lovely months, though im unsure if this would be culturally appropriate...what do you think? Thanks
Aaron Armstrong 5 months ??? That's way too early, but do what you feel mate.
Aaron Armstrong __if you're wondering whether it's culturally appropriate, it's too soon. Clearly, you have a lot to discover about her and the culture. Moving in together is typically seen as a first step in the UK. In general, 5 months is way too early for British women.
They probably broken up now...he ignored your advice and proposed straight away. She said "hell no". He was crushed and left the country in despair. 1 month later she gets married (to another american bloke - #mug). Aaron Armstrong was last seen selling empty soup cans on the subway. He still has the engagement ring..... The End
The hook up bit it's total nonsense... All depends on the person and there own morals so u can't assume
Jason Nerves I’m speaking from my experience and the experience of people I know so it’s not total nonsense. Of course it’s a generalisation but that’s what I observed. Thanks for watching!
I've never had that problem.
Have to visit London again, it's been many years
It's all about hooking up in America
Hello Dawn, are you still dating in the states?
Love your points and video but I need to ask you this…….
I wish to date and probably marry a black girl but I don’t know how to from Nigeria ……
No site to meet them, no Instagram page for them.... Most of the existing dating site ain't real to me....... But I really wish to date a black African American female
I'm a brit who lived in states 8 years i agree interracial is not common in the states compared to the uk and if you do see a black man with a non black woman he's over 6 ft skinny and great hair line in the states. I see black men with white woman in uk who's bald and receding and 5 foot 7 and not that attractive. So definitely non black women in states only dating a brother who's super tall and got looks and clout. Now in terms of dating there are differences in states and uk in 2021 I think back when I moved to states it was a hooking up but now its alot of game playing and you have to jump through hoops with a woman even tho she may like you. In uk there is not a system of people abiding by regulations of dating and its more go with the flow. You might find it strange as american because you know yourself you ladies are put higher than men in every day occurrence in the states so in that, you guys have huge egos and don't need a man unless its based on superficial things and makes more money than you. And there is a rule of not kissing on first date is seem as aggressive, in uk women are more open to it if they like you. You ladies in the states in 2021 are more closed of and think of a guy of just a number to the guys you talking on insta and on your phone and that's facts. So its not hooking up the couple is just liking each other and eventually will be boyfriend and girlfriend. Not like america when you both are playing games with each other for 2 months then finally sleep with each other or the guy might get a kiss.
Hi Dawn!
I moved to London a year ago and I have not drive yet on London streets with my Californian driver license and I am curious if we can drive with a US license here
Thanks
Room To Grow Production ® __ you can drive with any foreign license for 12 months from when you became a resident. After that you need it apply for a provisional license and pass the theory and practical driving tests. Unfortunately, it seems like you've already been here a year, so you'll have to do the tests.
What about british ladies wanting to date american men...where do they go in the uk.
Hi Dawn. I hope you are well. How can I contact you directly about a Partner Program? Thank you.
I was once engaged and never told my ex I loved him...😂😂😂
OMG!! 😂 Did you love him?
I;m jay ....you are truly beautiful........:). Love your comments .....!
wow this is 5 years old!!!
Hi,
#1.So are more English women single since guys ask them out less?
#2.Tell me that we have an advantage talking to most of them there with our American accents?
I mean some will like us more I assume?
most british people dont like american accents
I remember playing on a English game server years ago and they would sing USA songs and talk about famous people from my country and many from there are so interested in my country but what you said can be still be true even if what I said is true as well.
Dan Nolan what you said is true Im just talking about accents american accents arnt really that interesting
Well you are just one person so I would like more than just your opinion but I will admit you are right if you are.
There is singers and actors from England that can do an American accent very well granted they can be doing it only for money.
All accents are not equal though from both countries.
Some accents from England I really like and others I wouldnt go out of my way to be in a romantic relationship with a female with an accent from a part I didnt care about or like.I say that based on the accent and dialect not anything against that part of England or them on a personal level.
The American standard accent which I would call a general California accent in other states they do not have the same accent and it is unlikely even you would view them exactly the same.
I have heard accents from Ireland that I really liked and other that I did not like really.
If what you are saying really was true why would the English like music from my country with American singers?
Someone from England could copy the songs and all of you would just listen to that version right?
Dan Nolan whatever I cba arguing go to england no one will be impressed by your accent we hear them everyday on tv and radio go to eastern europe or spain if u want women who will be attracted jst cause your american
Great vid.
This is why it's difficult to date in England
I didn't even see a blk love while there ..... every blk man I saw was with a white woman 90% of the time or alone. I looked at the population & it makes sense, the dating pool has to be shallow HA
@Ripley1156 that's fine, just stating what I witnessed. I didn't say they were ugly women these men were with 🤣
Men split bill with women 50/50 in London? Can someone reply me?
I'm from London and it really depends on the individual. Me and most guys I know will always pay on the first couple of dates. However, I have met guys who always make the woman pay half. This can be for various reasons e.g. they've been on many dates before where they have paid for everything but things never seem to progress past that first date or the women never answer his calls ever again. This leads to a feeling of frustration where he feels like he is waisting money. It can also be because we are living in times where women always brag about being independent and not needing a man. Women nowadays go to work, have careers and sometimes even out earn men. So some men feel that in this day and age it is only fair that the bill should be split 50/50.
@@palsos123 Well said, but how can your wife respect you if you are splitting Bill's 50/50 with her? Doesn't that sound like digging a grave for yourself?
@@Onechalk Not really. I've actually met a few women who insist on doing everything 50/50. An ex girlfriend of mine would never let me pay for anything. Even when I offered. She was fully dedicated to paying her own way. I even know people in relationships/marriages where when it comes to the finances everything is split 50/50. This is not uncommon.
How do you feel about interracial dating and especially are you ok with dating a White guy?
THIS TIME I AM IN TURKEY ISTANBUL CITY I WANT A LIFE PARTNER AND GOD PROMIS I AM SERIUS
haha. whoever's idea it was to go on the date should pay for it.
Libhongo Langa That’s true I agree. Can’t ask someone out then expect them to pay, that’s rude.
Libhongo Langa Lol!
Do you have a video from a man's prospective??
That's a great idea actually!
You still live in London??
What's your current IG account??
I'm male and past 45 and women seem very man hungry these days. When I was 20 or 30 a guy had to work hard to get a date with a girl.
Dating after 45 is an adventure I don’t know that I’m ready to try. It seems way too perilous.
Love the euphemism, hooking up.
yeah I'm part of the hook up culture
Name something that is popular to do in London
Jay THE U FAMILY Blaze , ignore American tourists
Jay THE U FAMILY Blaze Drink, pubs are the places to go imo 👍.
Jay THE U FAMILY Blaze , be rude
Amongst men.... Have a wank!
Drinking
Walking
Going to the gym
Complaining about the weather
Rolling your eyes at tourists on the underground
Avoiding eye contact or conversation with strangers
Covers 90% of it
Facts 🗣️🗣️
hi
Lol I love how everything thinks we suttin we not 🤣
Not forgetting that things are getting worse for young men trying to get acquainted with girls these days. You are just as likely to be accused of sexual harassment as get rejected.
I am British, no men approach me,l am a good looking woman,l get a lot of smiles,men just staring at me,,cars beeping at me as l walk ,men on building sites,the lot,l don't get a man ask me out,it's tough for me,but when l went to usa ,god women men,in shops,omg your cute,l got it all time,asked out all time over there,but here men are not forward enough for me,l love American men,they are straight up too the point,don't stand there gawping they ask ya out,British men need to learn from usa men
Get over yourself your not that great! Alternatively, do British men a favour and piss off!
@@fadeandbraid8321 she's just sharing her experience, you're the one who needs to piss off
fade and braid your a idiot
@Kevin Burrow Exactly, sounds more lie she's got the "Princess" ego going on here.
You should approach men
I NEED A LIFE PARTNER I AM A HOMEST MEN
Feminism in the UK has destroyed relationships to the point men don’t know what to do aNd prefer the company of other men!
Mac Burrton yess. Homosexuality is the way forward 😂
Samuel115s it’s not funny but I’m dying lmao 😂 I thought the same thing
The first bit yes but the second...
Your on your own bro
@@shantelrscott lets link up
You are so adorable bye
Wow and the Woman pay for the first date and do the do.. Im sure I will visit soon. Hope to cross your path 😊
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I've been in London for four years and I really miss sweet small-town American guys. I am a city girl who likes country boys XD. How can I meet some fellow Americans in the big city?
That’s a great question. One way you can try is meetup.com. They have meet up groups for Americans. Also, just chat with people while you’re out and about especially having after work drinks. There are more Americans around than you think!
Thank you!@@DawnWilsonVideos
Wait, british guys really want ya to pay for the first meal? Wowzers, it’s called effort level not independence gentlemen 😂
Boy dont know where u living guys over here always speak to girls strait up lol the guys u know sound soft 😂
The horrible choppy editing is very distracting. Sorry, but I missed lost of content due to the distraction.
Lol nothing wrong sticking to your race