Why A Man CHOOSES One Woman Over ANOTHER
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- Why A Man CHOOSES One Woman Over ANOTHER... In this dating, love, and relationship advice video, I will help you understand men better and explain why a man chooses one woman over another. Take heed to this dating advice for women and ensure you watch the entire video to understand why a man chooses one woman.
This video will help you discover the factors that influence a man's decision to choose one woman over another. I want you to understand men better and how men behave in relationships. This dating advice will help you understand how men think so that you can enhance your dating experiences.
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Excellent feedback because Im in this situation right now.
I like your videos but they are abit too long for my purpose
Oh ok yeah it hurts bad 😞😞😞
Sometimes they go for something less, easier, a good time, no boundaries, no standards, no morals, or no values.
Ooh you're speaking truths! When my ex told me "I feel like I'm not good enough for you" I knew that was time to go... he picked someone less....so he didn't feel inadequate. I never did anything to make him feel that way, he did it to himself. No more low hanging fruit for me.
Preach
Right... exactly 💯
💯💯💯💯💯
The whole truth!🔥
Never stop a man that wants to leave!
Sometimes you just gotta be honest with yourself and see that it could be YOU. I went through this. Five years ago my guy picked another woman. And Ofcourse I thought he did me dirty and I was sad and mad, and thought he was just a narcissist and he would just find some woman who would take his shit. When we don’t see our own faults we tend to think it’s all them. He is still with this woman 5 years later and she is very much a part of his family. He would not commit to me, but he did to her. Now 5 years later I have grown emotionally and have become a better version of myself. The stuff I did back then makes me cringe. I had very anxious attachments, wounds not healed, I unknowingly sabotaged, I wasn’t a good communicator, etc. heck I don’t blame him for choosing her. He didn’t want the drama I brought. I was a pain in the ass. He did the right thing choosing her. I wasn’t healthy. But I didn’t see it back then. God opened my eyes and helped me to transform into a healthy woman who can bring peace to a relationship. ❤
Great comment, this level of accountability we can all learn from!
Same for me too. Although, I am the one that left them first. I listened to the critiques of my last bf and I started healing and working on myself. It was painful but it is worth it! They weren't the best choices anyway, but I had issues too.
True we attend to think they are at fault, but its also our fault for being toxic ourselves
This level of transparency, self accountability, acceptance, and growth is the kind of maturity that makes you vibe differently... and it's beautiful!
same here. now Im married to a Godly man that I deserve as well. I praise God for the realization though that 5 yrs man tried to come back for me but i didnt let him. Im married to my 8 month ex boyfriend/husband and now expecting our first bby..
A MAN REJECTION IS GOD'S PROTECTION!
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It’s EXTREMELY hurtful especially when you know you’re worthy & know what you bring to the table 🤷🏾♀️
Oh say it again sis..
That part.
It is and when I asked him what does he bring to the table he said “Myself”
Men like trash. Let them play in the dumpster. Move on and prosper.
I agree many times when a woman is disregarded, it's not a reflection of their value.👏🏾 But the fact that a man has a new supply. It's painful, but see it as a blessing in disguise ❤️
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girl you better talk about it! count your blessings.
How is that a blessing
@@chantehowe7798 it’s a blessing bc the man disregarded you for another “supply” ( woman) so it’s a blessing to move on and find a man who WONT disregard you for another woman 💁🏽♀️
Exactly
No one chooses anyone “over you” the man made a choice and it’s not a competition. Women, we are not competing against each other, we are the prize…always!
Live your life and stop focusing on external matters, yes. It isn’t that complicated. Men are not complicated, we trivialize things. He’s either the one for you or he isn’t.
I understand your point and it’s valid, but still it’s not about competition, more about being rejected/left by someone you love. The feeling of not being enough even though it’s not a reflection of our value
Yessss
As far as men are concerned, relationships are absolutely a competition, both for them and the women they want. Women have a universal criteria for men to meet, and men do for women as well. It’s best for no one to get hung up on impressing one particular person, but there should always be a conscious effort to self-improve at the things the opposite sex generally wants, so you always have the best options available to pick from.
100% Agree he is for you or he is not. Unfortunatly ! Many women can't Understand that and view their female friends or colleagues as the competition/enemy.
I agree. It still hurts especially when the want to break you
I had an ex boyfriend tell me once circumstances shape choices. She was in his town and wasn’t in the same line of work and I guess it was a why he chose her. I was really pissed off for a long time as we were going around and around for 10 years and I felt like he wasted my time but I found someone better and we’ve been married four years now
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I don't mind a man choosing another woman over me because If I don't fit his expections he have the right to leave. Why would I want a man who don't want me or can't offer me the same love. 👉🏼 The problem I have with some men is, when men date women for over a month and waste her time. Treating her like a Queen and making her believe they a couple and he leave.. Get her pregnant and leave, now complain she not good enough anymore. Staying until they find somebody else.
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I mean, apart from the "get her pregnant part" (which, by the way, you need two people for), it does take a bit of time to actually get to know someone. And men might not like what they find, or not like themselves in the relation dynamic.
Factssss
Stephan you just told the whole truth!🔥
I was that woman who got treated like that. He tried to come back and tell me he still loves me being that he was engaged to the last woman he cheated on me with. He tried to get me to come back using his mother’s death for an opportunity. I’m not the one. I don’t go backwards. He cheated on me from the beginning and abused me. Thank GOD I know my worth now and what I deserve.💯
That’s amazing you know your worth and was able to move on i am in a similar situation but need to move on
Just move on…and don’t look back…God closes doors to open new ones….
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@tashwillu, Yes Sir! You have to let GOD help you heal. When I thought I was healed I wasn’t. I finally threw my hands up and gave GOD my life. I pray GOD helps you all the ways you need in JESUS’ mighty name. Thank you, LORD JESUS in advance! All GLORY TO GOD.🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks, Thank you very much! You have taught me so much. I thank GOD for you. You care. I pray THE LORD’S blessings rain down on you abundantly in JESUS’ holy name. Thank you, LORD JESUS in advance! All GLORY TO GOD.🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️
Betty wright said it best in her song... The best girls don't always win.... Sometimes you lose for the better...
Married 33 years and he left the marriage for his Exec Assistant from work. He is CEO. She is my age and has 4 kids.
I still just don’t understand. But have worked very hard to move forward and face my own pain and learn! Be better, more open and value myself.
I pray and trust there is something better for me out there.
Damn....its like the 1st wife do the wrk....while the next woman reap the benefits 😵
That's sad.
You Deserve better & I pray that you have healed or are in the process of healing. Love on yourself and enjoy your life
Sorry to hear this. Wishing you healing and restoration. I pray you look back and think thank God he left because God has given me better xx
There is someone out there for you, my ex left me for his co-worker too and a person I’ve been friends with for 30 plus years is now about to be my husband in June ❤
When men don’t wanna put the effort or time into you then they look for someone who is easy and doesn’t expect much. It makes it easy for them
Absolutely!
God bring me a man that chooses me 🙏🏻
Amen 🙏
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Amen 💯 🙏🏽
The right man
I was with my ex for 12 years and no proposal… he was there during me getting my degree and last year he left me for a co-worker (he works at fed ex) now they live at his momma house because she lost her place… some of his friends and family say he’s miserable but I’ve moved on so his misery isn’t my problem
Looks like he married her because she had a house 😅
@@karrey2706 they aren’t married just shacked up at his momma house
He will choose the woman who gives him more freedom, less expectations, does it hold him accountable for his actions. Men don't cheat for better, they cheat for what's easier. You can give him all your time and attention and energy. But if the other woman isn't making him put in a lot of effort, then that's the one he'll choose. They want eazy and takes less effort
Facts!
Yup, my last relationship with a guy ... who I “thought” had all eyes for me chose another woman, while we were in the initial stages of falling for each other. It was devastating and unexpected!! I was putting up with more than I’d like to have with him when no other woman was in the picture. They ended up developing a more serious relationship. I’d forgotten about it all after being heartbroken.... and he shows up at my house... 2 years later with the I’m sorry sob story. I told him he had to leave. I won’t entertain the feel sorry for me type. Done.
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I feel like I would've, well, actually * I know I thought things like this when I was younger. At 40, w/ a 2nd kid, a newborn, im already burnt out. On everything & everyone. I wish I never met him. & he has lost in his eyes for everyone. Luckily, kind of glad I can see the humor in everything. Even though he's a pointless spouse. I know he'll be pointless to anyone he comes across too. This ignorant willing intentional side loves that he lusts over her... he's like that w/ everyone! He could prob adhd his way on over to me while texting her & me not even know what he's doing & what do u know. Lust for the 2nd. I mean, on his part. Not mine. Really don't get females who do this. He's so easy, you what? Meanwhile he's physically walking around naked thinking idek or care to know. But yeah weirdo, his shlong just kind of roams around freely around here. anyways, w/ the Mr steal ur man, idk y they think they're catches. U met him married... I wouldn't even doubt he's been looking for his other flings. It doesn't really shock but I'm sure others... somehow, idkw. But yeah, he pulls the same sh on everyone. It's just I was the unlucky to have tried to take him seriously.. or in other words,, awww, u really thought he loved u? Ad the wife, b. Momma, u seriously don't think I hear this bs too? I just unfortunately know better now. But as always, "at least I got cool kid out of it." Which I love my kids but I hate trying to always be the strong 1. The independent 1. The reliable 1. The responsible 1. I'm fn human, there's only so much I can do completely on my own. But I also think these r all his problems. Idrc if I'm not good enough for him. He's not good enough for me. Never has been. Couldn't even be good for his own kid. & w/ that much lack of concern, he could rot in jail/ prison wever for all I care. I'm guilty of telling him idec about his life. But stop draining mine & constantly expecting me to be some cheerleader psychiatrist. I'm really not his mom & he's dead weight to me. If he didn't like what I say, prob change. Or prob just not say sh u don't mean then. But thats def 1 of my many "threats." Don't ever come crying to me about any of that type locked up ish cause I'll leave you there! Get the hell over yourself. If I just focus on my babies futures, I'll get out of this funk. I feel guilty as hell thinking maybe she'd just be better off, ... but second time around, I think I've learned some things. Plus w/ her cute self I just can't. I really just didn't want to struggle w/ her, not at this age, but idc if I hafta be poor. As long as I know I can get assistance then me & her(/s) will be ok. I actually could juggle in more of that chase for a career now. I just hafta get off my ass, funk. My 2nd is so young... she's plenty enough to keep me out of my negative head space anyways. Also, I hate males that prob tell themselves they're more important than the innocents kids (who never asked to even exist) they helped create to bring in this crazy world. I'd say I like to see ppl put a spin on that but oh yeah. Nevermind, they do. Well w/ out looking, I'm sure there's more missing Father's than there is moms. But yet I'm sure that's still the mom's fault. I guess, im more glad I have girls. Less likely to get locked up__. Plus I have mini besties for life & I know ppl say females r difficult but so far, even my teenager & r still pretty close. So that's at least a good start, sign, that I can do this. But Round 2. 😪😓🤕 here we go 🤰 at like freakin 40.
Yep. My mother always would say growing up, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me" Nope, nope, nope. You don't get a second time to hurt my heart.... your loss....
I hope this happens to Terrell Rashawn Weaver
same thing happened to me .. he expected me to still stay after choosing her.. i definitely knew it was gonna happen and was still trying to make it work. it definitely wasn’t worth it and i learned my lesson. always listen to your gut and never ignore the red flags.
The best position to be in as a woman, is not to choose men who do not fit well with our spirit and choose ourselves instead. That’s the ultimate goal
In a relationship, we should make our goal to give our best friend their best life. Take care and give care. See the excellence people have and nothing else. Our love isn't a prison, so, if they
choose to leave, it wasn't meant to be.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
One way to not allow rejection to impact us is to look back and remember the men that we dated that thought we were the best thing since sliced bread! If a man doesn't want us, it's his loss.
Sometimes, "peace and singleness" is a blessing. Do what you want, when you want to do it, keep all your money for yourself!
Outstanding advice, Stephan! Real truth that we all need to hear.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
It's the keep all your money for yourself for me.
What if no man has ever treated you like that?
@@TheVioletMagic29 Then you spend all your time taking good care of yourself, loving yourself, taking care of your own needs. Be good to you!
Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
If he says you're not worth it. Take it how he meant it.....
Most definitely!
When I tell you every guys from middle/high school onward I was always somebody’s second choice. And I have struggled with this for years. All the tears and depression spells. I’m 24 (25 soon) and I just celebrated my first anniversary ever. I met the man that I was meant for. He sees me as his first choice and he doesn’t want anyone else. I’m so grateful bc I’ve told him about these past situations and he understands it and continues to show me he has me the way I always wanted/dreamed. I had given up on relationships too right when we met. While my exs know it’s wraps, there is no coming back (wasn’t really an option b4 anyways but still). And he and I are planning our lives together and it’s the best thing I’ve ever experienced. Godspeed y’all, Godspeed ❤
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Amen.. may the good riddance continue to last!
Biggest mistake for telling him how other men rejected you. No matter how much you love someone, never reveal this. They may start seeing you differently or question their choice.
Most people want to know the picked the best and that you are a catch even in the eyes of other people. I wish there was a way to undo this. Someday he is likely to use it against you to say he did you a favour, nobody wanted you
Totally agree with you Mel Mel….
@@melmel7011 vulnerability is very important in a relationship. Probably this man is not the kind of person that will get the vulnerability of their partner and use it against them. Besides, this lady must be doing the necessary things to help her heal, so, even when the guy uses that line, she won't be affected by the past things as she will have healed from them. She will have known love and that sort of discourse will be just a weak line for one to use.
Once again Stephan you are sharing the deeper truths. I have learned if someone is willing to let you go, let them go. It just means they were not meant to be in your life. It doesn't matter how much time you invested.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Thank you for being real!
That’s why it’s so important to keep yourselves looking good at all times.. In or out of a relationship
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that 🙏
but also for better or for worse. when ur married u love your partner at their best and worst. there will always be someone better, funnier, prettier etc. love is sacrificial. you sacrifice your own desires for the love of the other person
Yup.. he cheated with a woman that allows him or don’t care he’s with other people.. I have boundaries.. I’m good.. and he see’s her like once maybe twice a week if that..
My ex got with someone else at the end of our relationship & at the time it broke me. Years later I can see they belong together! She’s just as manipulative & full of 💩 as he is lol and I’m so much more happier w/o that headache too. Sometimes it really is the best!
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I no u glad.....we don't realize...them leavin is the blessing 🙏....thank God for deliverance 💃
@@beefaye6861 no kidding! I’m so much happier. And you can’t receive God’s blessing if you’re holding on to something like that
Shitty people deserve other shitty people so it's a win for us. They miss out on us good people and end up with someone just like them and eventually suffer the consequences of it. And they will never get a chance at a good woman like us again.
His rejection is for your protection. Let him go. I've learned what's meant for me will never pass me by and it took me decades to grasp that concept! Furthermore it's a good thing to ask for Divine guidance when either looking for a love or actually entering into a relationship with a person. It can only help the situationship/relationship or whatever ship you're on!😃😇🥰
Sooooo true 👍 when a man FEELS VUNERABLE TO FALL IN LOVE with a MARRIAGE MATERIAL WOMAN They Run 🏃♂️. Sad but True 💯💥. THE STRUGGLE IS REAL !!!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Very interesting 🍵🍵 thank you for this video!!!! This sums up me and my child's father situation...from the roots TO THE toota!!!!
I was seeing someone for nearly 6 years and he left me for someone else and it's been 3 years now I won't date,I'm scared it will happen again,glad I found your channel it really helps listening to you ❤️
My ex left me for his cheating ex gf. 2 years later he texted me apologizing and telling me I deserved the world. He asked me if I was in town. I didn’t entertain it, way too much pain caused by him.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
It feels humiliating and even traumatizing. Lately I’ve been having the same dream were I keep revisiting my ex who now lives with another woman.
I was told that men before they break up with you they will always have someone waiting for them. They can't handle being alone after a relationship.
Always
This is what I’m going through now he’s been hurt in past every time we get closer , he runs away so now I know!! Thank You so much!!
My pleasure ❤️
Peace is my number one priority above everything
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The problem we are facing as Women is, we have been programmed/conditioned by society, media, etc to think that the ultimate goal of life is to be in a relationship with a certain Man. I am in Africa and even when people are in family gatherings, they'll crack jokes about who will marry who. We have been duped. The most important thing in this life is YOU, YOU fulfilling purpose and being the best that God has created you to be, reaching destiny and being fulfilled with or without the relationship/marriage.
So beautifully and eloquently said sis! I know first hand that it is 10 times worse in African culture. We need to continue to advocate for change!
Yesss❤
Thanks for this. I’m was in a dating situation where he is taking me for granted. He is unwilling to commit but still wanting to keep me .. this gave me the courage to pull the plug. Much love.
There are a lot people are looking for someone that makes them feel "safe." Meaning safe in the knowledge that they can look at that person knowing they'll never fall in love with that person.
Harsh reality yet so true (hardship relationship) down grade 😖
You're absolutely right!
Or their idea of "safety" and familiarity comes from the neglectful and/or abusive childhood they had. They're more inclined towards a relationship that reminds them of the relationship they have/had with their primary caregiver(s).
@@tanyarawat9700 that too. Either way, toxic environment.
Seeing how my ex talks to the younger... girl, it's like I'm glad I've always been a jaded person. Bc that stuff she desperately wants to believe, I would've prob ended up dead, hurt, w/ a billion more kids,,,, bc even at that age, no damn way. Even younger than her, no damn way. Somexs I wonder, if ppl do have that safe bubble they've always grown in... does that make em more ignorant or gullible 🤔 . Or do they just feel more safe to have less boundaries, & be more stupid. She's got 2 kids, trying to be a creeper to mine, & he's saying he wants more w/ her, while he just had 1 w/ me, afraid of c support obviously not really being all that invested, it's like holy ish bish. I see great things for you. Sarcasm. At the rate she's going she's gonna have a hunded kids by 30 and they'll all be from different dads. Worry about ur own kids!
Prayers for my husband to be mentally physically emotionally spiritually n God fearing a man designed for me from God I pray for good heart spirit healed man let me be healed so we can love n care for each other balance each other out amen
Oh yes the person u love most can hurt u the most...that is factssssssss
You're absolutely right!
Him choosing another because he feels less vulnerable is sooooooo true lol. I'm a deep diver so I think some men just love it at first because they feel they can be so open with me but after I am able to see i to them deeply they get scared. I see the real them and they don't know how to take that.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Right?!!!! I'm an Infj and is too a "deep diver". It's all fun and games until we get to the root cause of their issues😂😂😂.....*sigh*......its a curse and a blessing. But the way I see it is, the right one for us will appreciate our depth and will be willing to stay long after their exposure.
100Percent!
We struggle with this because we don't have clarity. Clarity is in alignment and when we don't have it, we align with the wrong men. PERIOD. Many women think they know what they want...I know I did. But truth be told, I was VERY unclear about what I NEEDED in a life partner. I believe when women have 100% clarity in who they authentically are, the life they genuinely want to live, and the exact kind of person they need in order to build and grow, it's SIGNIFICANTLY easier to find someone. This is how it worked for me. We don't realize that clarity creates boundaries as well, and the people who are truly not here for us and our good, end up taking themselves out most of the time. Low quality men will show their true colors, and if we are clear about what we need, we're going to see right through them because they don't have the emotional intelligence and maturity to handle it.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that ❤
I walked away from a man that chose someone else. Instead of fighting her, i Chose myself first, invested and leveled up. All of a sudden he wants me back. Funny how things turn around. My friend told me he FAILED AT REPLACING YOU.
If he believed you were the one for him he wouldn't have walked away from you in the first place! FULL STOP. They will return when they realise the grass wasn't greener on the side.
Sometimes he chooses a woman because she looks like his first love, she triggers his buttons in a trauma bond from childhood, she reminds him of his crush in kindergarten, your energy isn’t polarised with his, you illuminate his insecurities just by being your winner self, he can’t be a hero for you ANY OTHER REASON which has nothing to do with you
This happened to me several time. I was questioning myself as to why I end up not being chosen. I felt depressed and now don't trust anyone.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
You will find the one, the best one. A Rare Gem so to speak 🙂👏
Get to work....GYM!
OMG!! I can so relate to many of the things you said I went through this, and hurt is not the word, I was devastated and when you are going through the fire, you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. But now that I am in a new relationship with an amazing man, I am so grateful that things didn't work out with my ex. It truly was a blessing in disguise. Great advice Stephan!! Thank you! 👍👏🙏
My pleasure ❤️
Just shows you ladies.. right now there are broken men choosing to be in relationships and even marry women who they KNOW that they can keep by never allowing themselves to truly fall for her in an emotionally healthy way. He can screw this woman for years. Give her babies. Present her to friends and families . Build a life with her, well aware the entire time that he will never truly love her to the depth he could like the “the one who got away”. Meanwhile his woman is thinking she found her soul mate, their chemistry and connection is divinely ordained, and she don’t have a clue that’s he is with her because “he can love her less”. Do you all see how futile this all is? It’s like chasing the wind. Humanity is broken. This was prophesied and no one is talking about THAT. There are no guarantees with any of this stuff. Marry for the right reason and it turns out wrong. Marry wrong and it becomes right because both people simply settle. Just stop chasing what doesn’t exist. Get a dog and good friends and pour into yourself. These men are lost. The good ones already married to women they probably don’t love anyway.
👏👏👏 learned this after throwing away 18 years
What you said about 2 women fighting over a man for years that treats neither one right it reminded me of my uncle who’s wife actually shot him. She ended up dying at the dentist and he ended up with another woman who he told he wasn’t going to marry. He only wanted to be married once in life so anyhow she agreed to that and he started messing with his son’s wife’s mother. Those 2 women used to have fist fights in the laundromat over my uncle 😂 so after like 5 years he finally left his side chick and the lady he was with after his wife passed is still with him till this day. He had a stroke and she takes care of him despite the fact he never married her and put her through all that hell. He also never wanted to live with her and after the stroke she accepted him into her home to take care of him.
Folks really be going thru some sh.
The nuggets that you shared are priceless! I love this breakdown and it so factual and real! As always I appreciate you and your content
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I agree there's many broken hearts on both sides. I dated a divorce man and he kept comparing me to hes x and bringing her up, because she cheated on him and left him for another man. The final straw was he was drunk and beat me up calling her name, am not going to go into more details but it was worse. Anyway, I ended it. Am sharing this for those people who are in a toxic relationship with people who don't know how to get over their x. Never carry the burden of their exes. Ended it if they don't go for help in dealing with their past and not taking out on you. Doesn't matter if its male or female. This I've learned can go both ways.
I've been left by men a few times n I tell u Stephen it broke me down emotionally soo bad
Stephen you speak volumes
I went through this exact thing last year and I saw that the more I gave him the more I pushed him away because he didn't actually want what I was giving him .I was trying to be in a relationship,he was trying to be sneaky links .I realised with time he didn't value me the way I had thought and it makes so much sense now because I thought by giving him more I'd make him fall harder for me,but he just left me for someone else.When I healed I've found myself attracting men that love me for who I am and it's incredible how everything worked out in the end!❤️
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart of my heart.
You will never truly know how much you have helped me.
Glad I could help 🙏
I agree. It's does not matter on your level of education or income. The man just wants what HE wants, unfortunately it is not YOU! I look at it as a DIVINE BLESSING. Thank you GOD!
This is such a hard conversation to have but is greatly needed.
That's me everytime. Men I date always discard me and trade me for another woman. Months later these men return...
I guess they didn't trade so well 🤷
I am a good woman and I have learned from my mistakes my king is coming
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
Every time I start thinking I might want to try dating again, I come watch one of Stephan's videos to remind myself why I stay single and made the decision to never date again 😁
Before you give up on dating, try changing your focus from dating to learning, and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!
@Stephan Speaks Nah, trust me, I'm good 👍🏾I watch to continue to learn why to stay away.
Best decision
Yea honestly, I don't understand it at this point. It's just mind games. You can't be honest with anyone nowadays.
Get Stephan’s books healing after heartbreak and the Man God has for You. It will help you with a different perspective ❤ hope you find the love that you deserve
God will not let you be overwhelmed with love for anybody who doesn't love you
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Could you explain this?.
I want to say a big thanks to you for this video this has really healed me because I was in this situation I felt so frustrated and used but this video blessed me, I thank God for the wisdom He has imparted in you. More grace💗
I just discovered this channel and am glad I did. I’m currently going through a breakup of like 12 years and we have a young child, he finally called it off like a month ago because he’s miserable about everything in his life…he battles depression and a lot of demons. I ignored the red flags for years even though deep down I knew it wasn’t going to work, a couple of years ago he cheated and I thought we could work through it but clearly we couldn’t because I didn’t feel like I got the effort from him. As of recently, he’s been hanging out with friends and staying out all night getting too drunk to come home (escapism). The problem is we have our young child and still live together so it’s hard to get over him completely when we are essentially in each other’s faces all the time.
A few days ago we had a candid conversation of all of our feelings about the relationship and he proceeded to tell me he was “talking” to someone else. Personally, I wasn’t surprised because it’s his MO to rebound from one relationship to another. I called him out on it and he agreed and says he doesn’t know why he started talking to this chick so soon when he knows he’s not mentally capable to try and date someone else, he says it was just a rebound and he only went on 1 date with her. He says he will always love me but he knows mentally he can’t give me what I want and I deserve better. He says he will always have my back even when we do finally live in different households. Not gonna lie though, even though he has been the toxic man child you describe on this channel, I am struggling with the fact that he’s talking to someone else even though it probably won’t go anywhere because she now knows that he still lives with me for the time being and according to him she wasn’t happy about it, but I think he’s still reaching out to her which hurts.
It does give me some comfort that this new lady is probably just an easy distraction to avoid the hurt he is going through with our breakup. I can’t wait until I can get completely over him and start to heal to find the right man for me.
Sometimes the women was just fine and the man being a narcissist will have no reason at all to go to someone else ..
Can you liberate?
My friend put me onto this channel. And Timeka girl, you don’t miss 💯👏🏼
So true ! The person you love the most can hurt you the most..
Thank you Stephen, This is amazing and eye-opening. I need to understand here whether I should go on. I had 2 small kids n met this young guy in 2010. He took us to his home n we stayed with him till middle of 2011. He was such a lovely person at 19yrs, who never talked that much or argued with me (I was 32yrs). He was drinking too much n I was working in the minesite, I decided to leave as my job n kids was my priority. Around 2018 we met again, by then he had 2 children with his next door neighbor lady which I knew...he took me to the same area n told his woman that she is my first n she has nothing to say. We hung around for some months and I left for another minesite. Now it's 2023 I meet him again and he wants me back for good. He now has 3 kids n tells his woman to shut up n say nothing as am his first. We both are flexible and respect each other. He treats me very well. How do I know he is being real here? I also respect his woman n kids.
Reposting on my Facebook page I just learned something new thank u boo!!!
This is so true. I just want to cry tears of relief...
You've said it all Stephan so truth this is very powerful exactly what am going through!!!
I really needed this! I’ve known these things for years but hearing it from you really impacted me! Thank you ❤
Thank you friend.. I needed to hear this.
Stephan you hit the nail on the head, this happen to me, my so called friend was the other woman he chose . He was not best for me anyway.
Thank you for keeping up this important work and for your beautiful honesty. I've learned so much and I keep watching to keep myself on the right track while dating ❤️
i used to not like your content before but i am starting to admire it now
Well said Stephan totally agree with you
I am impressed by your wisdom, you nail it again and again. Makes my heart happy. I actually had to link to on of your videos in my dating profile, I hope you don't mind 🙈
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Thank you so much for these clarifications Stephan
My pleasure ❤️
You nailed it perfectly.Thankyou.🙏
Thank you for posting this.
My pleasure ❤️
That first reason is very sad! People should get it together life is too short to pass up beautiful connections based on being “safe” smh.
This was a really good video. I identified and have experienced some of your points. Thank you!
Your insight on relationships is amazing
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Every time Stephan opens his mouth wisdom just flows out, EVERY TIME!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️
Thank you Stephan for always sharing wise videos that not just heal but save lives. God bless you🙏🏽
My pleasure ❤️
I'm angry because I'm finally at that place in life where I'm good w being single. It seems to work best for me. Now, I'm angry because I feel like at any moment I'm going to fall head over heals for someone, and I honestly want no part in any of it anymore. I don't want to negotiate and share anymore, I want to stay single. I remember all I ever wanted was a fairytale love story, but realized way too late that shit doesn't exist.. at least not for me. So be it Lord, so be it, but plzzzz keep all love very far away, thank you, but no thank you ❤
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you, truly. God bless ❤️
Sound advice very good Stephan love your videos! I've bought all your books and I'm sure I will enjoy reading them, keep the good work coming you're very inspirational xx
I have never agreed with you about anything as much as I agree with this video. And the bonus reason just blew my mind!!! So on point, so on point.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I appreciate this video. It really helped me put my last relationship into perspective.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Thank u so much.. I have clarity now
You are spot on! I am laughing/crying over here.
I don’t like a competition, so they can have at her. ✔️
Thank you for this valuable information. I wondered for five years why he left me for someone he loved less…both times. When we were young adults and again when we reconnected after 35 years. It doesn’t make it any easier to accept but at least now I understand.
Wonderful message here.🥰💜💜💜
I am greatful for your talk .It explains alot of things that we most People go through n its an eye opener to some of us 🤗😥
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
This is really interesting and insightful.
Thank you.. grateful to have listened to this 🙏 ❤️
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I agree also ! Very balanced comments 🙏🏻🌹✨🙏🏻thank you 🙏🏻
My pleasure ❤️
Whatever your trying to convey is well received.
That makes so much sense. Thank you. I was really confused about That's
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Thank you so much I so needed to hear this, the past couple of years no matter who i date always ends up choosing another women over me and it's always a women whom they so called do not like. example women who twerk all the time or who are disrespectful to them and curse them out or cause scenes etc... and i be so confused because i do everything to please them in what they want, unfortunely i was raised to be submissive to a man no matter which im learning that not every man deserves all of me . and fighting over a man is something i will not do
Since I been watching you I’ve been in touch with my feminine energy like never before,been getting lots of attention from men I can feel them looking however no matches yet.Thank you for all these helpful videos.❤