Laying down with many partners and getting up with their personalities and not cleansing your spirit before trying to start a new relationship will make you crazy!
laying down? ahahahahh more like being smashed left and right by dudes you barely know. girl you already in a relationship with those dudes, you are in a relationship with the neighbourhood lol
When I married my ex. He didn’t even have money to buy me a fake $69 dollar ring. It didn’t matter to me because I loved him and in return he cheated and made babies with other women. So I understand now why people get married for other reasons and not love. I also understand why people just don’t get married.
@@callofdutylegend4518 no one has control of anyone else’s intentions. If I had a crystal ball to know back in my 20’s he was a bum I would not have married him. And will not hold that L as you call it for something a person decided to do. You don’t know anything and before you start trying to give advice learn a few thing about accountability. It was his choices not mines but it was my choice to walk away. You should have thought about it before you made the ridiculous reply smh.
Good message. I’m trying to court my woman to the best of my ability by leading with love and by example of following God first. None of us are perfect like you said but i try my best to be obedient to God.
Sad but true. Men do not have a realistic understanding of women and the expectations of both sides in a relationship - it is very selfish. Their standards are so high - their perfect woman does not exist.
@@jackiemcbride833 and men do everything in their power to gaslight women into thinking they have NO power. Thats why this channel came into existence.
One problem is that men do not have to marry a woman for wife benefits. Women are practically throwing the cat in these mens lap and taking care of men like they are already married. I really think that was one of the ONLY reasons most men married back in the day.
Hmmm, I think this is a misconception. The belief that promiscuity and premarital sex just started in this generation is a big far-fetched assumption. The difference now is that we have social media where these things are publicized. Cohabitation, promiscuity, sex work, children out of wedlocl have always existed
The next step to devotion today is symbolized by either getting a place together, getting tatted up, or knocked up 🤷🏽♀️. Or a babyshower. Wedding/marriage is in hindsight now so there’s no reason for a man to take it to another level by putting a ring on it 💍
It's very tough in the dating market to find who is really for you. Because things are always changing it makes things challenging to really know who is who and who would actually have your back no matter what.
Exactly, it's crazy not really knowing whose being real or pretending, going out of there way to pretend, waste time just to keep u on lock with no real intentions.
I'm 27 let me tell the truth about dating for millennials. Millennial women show more choosing signals to approach men, Women today sometimes older chase men for reasons of attraction. Another reason is that Men rather than whether they are Christian or not don't understand how a Woman thinks in attraction. If a woman is not sexually attracted to you, she will not consider you as a pick unless she's a virgin.. Women want men who are Knowledgeable on what she desires sexually. Men today need to learn to stop getting in friend zones. No man can be a friend with a woman forever unless it's meant to be.
Social media killed this generation. Easier to cheat now. Crazy out here but God is still the same and not changing. His will and plan for my life will go forth.
So many are married and don't wear a wedding ring. And your right, Marriage has moved away from being a Covenant. And more of conditional business arrangements.🤷♂️🤷♀️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♀️
Good men are asking where are the good women and good women are asking where are the good men,it's like they are worlds apart looking for each other ,Lord what is going on🤔🤔
I remeber one of Tony’s old message a lot of men are single because “their looking for someone God has not created & vice versa” I feel like that still applies and also because things in society are changing
I actually said that to a few male friends I know. The woman they’re looking for has not been created yet because they’re usually looking for a perfect looking/acting (to their satisfaction) woman. Neither one of those things will be perfect but they don’t want to accept that.
@@anikluv7732 I've found most want a woman that gives them the most and asks of them the least yet still looks like a princess and is happy all the time yet mysterious and exciting but devoted and loyal.. The laws of this universe don't work that way.
alot of single, virgin and divorced christians seem to idealize the perfect God sent partner but i believe God sends people who are in fact broken, not eventual cheaters but maybe a little broken, and gives us options on wether to marry them
nobody can be "completely whole within themselfs" to get married to the perfect christian partner. God gave us free will. there are christian churches ive been to who try to condemn singles like me into eternal singleness. that mindset that people have to be perfect in Christ for a marriage is BS. we are only perfected in heaven!!!!
@@anikluv7732 the guy I just broke up with told me I’m not the one because I refused to have unprotected sex. The chemistry was there, talking everyday, being caring to him, not even taking his money, I agreed to have sex but yet he broke up because I asked for safe sex!! I mean who does that? The man was 45. They do look for things that will never come by. Sad!!!
Yup. We got to pray. Warfare is real. We must follow the WORD and principles of God regarding marriage because the best person to advice on how a product should work is the manufacturer of said product. Marriage was God's idea and we must follow His principles to achieve success in the area of marriage. God help us all. We are all acting too woke and suspecting one another with our guards to have something real. We must pray, discern, love, trust, forgive, be vulnerable and have the heart of a servant to love.
If my memory serves correctly, a few years back a guy bought his fiancé an engagement ring from Walmart… the whole country was in an uproar. Come to find out… that’s the ring she specifically asked for 🤦🏾♀️ Everybody has too much say in what everybody else chooses to do with their lives. It’s weird
Got our wedding rings at Cash Converters then eloped. My engagement ring was brand new though, I feel I have to justify that, like you say it's weird how people react to this stuff...!
Way too much to say about people who they never met . External comments can ruin you if you let them. That’s why I only give limited access as to what’s going on in my mind/ life.
That scene in Fruitvale Station where Oscar Grant was literally going to steal a ring for his girlfriend, and then he met a white man that told him to do what he did and buy a cheap one now then get her a new expensive ring in the future when he could afford it💔
I don't think men know how to date anymore. You have to take time to get to know somebody and you can't do that if you are in a rush to get to the bedroom. Some men just need to slow their roll and get disciplined in that area. Women too! Folks are not taking time to get to know each other! I agree that it is a business for some folks though but at the end of the day, that does not seem all that gratifying. Love is comforting, business can be exhausting!!!
Thank you Tony for this video. One thing I hear from men I speak with is they’re not financially ready to make the next step. I understand times are hard now but if you’re in your late 20’s and up we should be moving towards steps to being smarter financially and leveling up together. The other issue is men have a lot of options to entertain. I would love for most of us to be getting married and celebrating love often but the fear mongering placed on young men and women is what’s holding us back. I look to older sisters for guidance but often times they tell me “you’re so young, you don’t need marriage now.” Unfortunately due to the way my faith is set up I do need marriage but I won’t settle for someone who doesn’t have anything to provide. No you don’t need 6 figures but you can’t be a leeching hobosexual either. 😂 I need a man to help me, lead me, support me. Trust me a lot of us sisters are out here but you can catch me at Whole Foods, Target, TSA line 😂. I love a good man with morals and principal. Also men deserve the same love.
@Marvelous M It’s possible. Don’t lose hope. HOLD fast to your faith and TRUST God. Start praying for your husband BEFORE you meet him. Prepare yourself to be a wife so that when he meets you he will know that you are wife material not plaything material. There’s a difference. Blessings to you M.
How you doing Sista? I agree with you.. Men and women are under constant psychological manipulation through media, and it affects how we all perceive each other like you stated. But there is another underlying problem that's more significant. And that is Natural Law has been broken. This is the real reason why dating and mating has become difficult. Provider and Protector is part of a man's biological function; this is not just cliche. Men and women are instinctively wired to look for certain behavior traits in a person to determine if they will be a suitable mate. Femininity, untouched womb, does this woman Need Me and My Provision, and will she make a good Helper as I pursue my purpose is how men generally qualify women to be wives. In black society 80 years ago, many of our parents/grandparents were married for 30+ years ultimately because the woman needed the man's Provision to maintain the home. This was proper alignment with Natural Law because women are designed to survive by getting Provision from Men. Today however, many women Go Around men and obtain Provision through other means. And this has disturbed the Natural Order. Currently It seems we're in a environment, where some women are quick to break relationships because of their ability to sustain themselves without a man's Provision. And some men are choosing to stay single, because the traits that men instinctively look for to qualify a woman to be a wife are more difficult to find. Psychological Manipulation and the disruption of Natural Law are the reasons dating and mating are now tough. I wish you the best of luck!
To me, it comes down to having too many options. You have to be an "intentional buyer". I'd bet money that most of these men aren't searching as seriously as they claim. I'd bet money that they're subconsciously perpetually on the lookout for the 'next best deal'.
Idk, there have always been more women than men in the human population. Men have always had many options but now they even have less options because fewer women are willing settle for the mistreatment just because a man can give you financial security. Women work more now. Idk
@@amariantiquity8543 hmmm I disagree. Im African. Ive lived in a few African countries and North America. While It's true that the west progressed at a faster race as far as women financial and sexual empowerment but Africa is catching on. Women are still more than men statically in number but the factors affecting why less people are getting married are clear. You think USD 50k per annum is a lot of money for African standards but I disagree. Ive traveled back to Africa on many occasions and im always left flabbergasted by how fast you can burn through money there too. Inflation is global now. The dollar can only do so much and would the man keep a fulltime 50k a year job in the US while maintaining a full on marriage with a woman living in Africa? How is that going to work realistically? If he brings her abroad ofcourse that money won't be enough to maintain their household. In as far as there's a good number of people still getting married, divorce rates are also higher now so you've got to ask yourself why.
@@Sandra.-. If everything in the world is going to shit, do you expect men to sit in America and not explore all options of their own biological imperative to multiply and have stable families. If women in the west don't respect good character men, they will go elsewhere, if they have the means, people can say what they want about Americans, but the dollar is still king as long as America still has military power over the world.
Men and women, I highly suggest you do work hard and do not deviate into adultery because you will go into the worst nightmare you'll ever experience in your whole life. I am divorcing right now and the unbeknownst-to-me adulterer that I married is in depression right now. He wrote me another text this week saying that he has regretted what he did and he is deeply depressed. I don't know if it's for him to convince me to go back, but it did not work and it will not work. I'm moving on. I forgave for decades and he took it for granted until I filed for divorce, which has taken more time than I expected and desired but will be finalized hopefully this year. Tony, you hit the nail again.
For me I've absolutely given up on dating or being part of any of those online dating sites. So many players..and people faking who they are. I have my kids so I'm busy raising them up and get my life together for me. 😊🌺💜💕🦋😊🌼🌸
I dont think men are usually thinking how God sees them. Or that its a wise thing to abstain. Even though if they prepare for an event (like boxing or high energy & focus event) in sports , its recommended men abstain. .
As a Christian single woman. I will wait on Boaz...Boass and Bozo can stay away. If I can't do anything without doing it for love....I don't want it. God does not make mistakes 🙏🏾 🙌🏾
When you go searching for love, they seem nowhere to be found, but when you don't, they come into your life at the perfect time. 💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Sometimes we just have to be real with ourselves and why some choose to be single by choice or just single single with no potentials. I had to be real with God and we talked today. I’m single for a few reasons. 1. It’s just not my season. Bottom line. Period. I don’t consider myself unattractive but there are areas I need to work on. And God knows I do. If I’m insecure now, I damn sure will be insecure in a relationship. God don’t send His children to messes. How can I fully love my man and I haven’t gotten to the point I love myself through and through? Once I get to that point, and not care what others may say or think of me, then I won 80% of the battle. 2. Besides #1, another reason is the dating pool for all age groups sucks! Men, as old as their late 40’s, are still chasing easy, fast, and loose booty. That, along with the indoctrination of Kevin Sammuels, has really muddled the dating pool. So much so until both factors have interrupted with what could be a wholesome relationship with a woman that has standards. All women ain’t with the current culture of being “outside”. And the ones who aren’t are labeled as pick mes. Smh. And a lot of good women are passed over for other women who Kevin Sammuels would classify as a “high value” but by EXTERNAL FACTORS ONLY. Lust has an expiration date. Once men get past the physical, the true nature emerges. Megan Good and Lori Harvey’s relationships should’ve taught us all that. This another reason I’m single. #3 For the ones who are truly looking for a wife, they’re still hung up on the physical only. And for the ones who aren’t, they’re either married, engaged, in prison, on the dl, or got a lot of other emotional baggage. Statistically, the numbers in general are not in black women favor. And for the brothas who are truly good men, they are honest with what they want. Many women past the age of 25 will have a child or two. Many don’t want a woman that has ties to another man before he came along. We got to be real with ourselves. At some point, he and the children father have to cross paths. Some may say well my baby dad get along with my bf. How can you be so sure? Men are funny and I’ve been around my brothers and other men in my family too long to know this. He’s a reminder that he’s second place to this woman. Those kids are reminders. There are exceptions. My dad was one because he married my mom with 4 kids that weren’t his. And for the women who don’t have children or got their ish together, he just may not be physically attracted to them. Since booty is easy to come by anyway, why get in a serious relationship or marry??? #4 Some don’t know a genuine person when they meet them tbh. Many are so caught up with physical tangibles (looks and sex for men & money for women), and repeat the same cycle over and over again, from one relationship to the next until when that good man or woman come along, we don’t know how to receive them or act. Ultimately, we’ll run them away. #5 Gen Z and other younger women are being indoctrinated to believe that getting knocked up, having a gender reveal, or moving in with their bf are tokens of devotion vs him putting a ring on it. It’s this standard why many will continue to remain unmarried because the cycle WILL CONTINUE. This is being really real for real 🤷🏽♀️. #6 The lack of mental health awareness and financial security is rarely talked about and done too much damage which is why MANY will stay single or choose to remain single 🎯 Overall, many women and men are also beginning to realize that their worth and value isn’t defined by a relationship status. One commenter said a lot of women are focused on their bag 💰 and traveling 🏝✈️ which is true! 💯 Then there’s some who are single because they’re not honest with themselves and haven’t done an internal or maybe an external inventory of themselves to be marriage or relationship ready. Food for thought along with what Tony said 😎
@@Stormy867 yes they are! It’s sad! I want no part! Idc if I have to stay single longer. And to add insult to injury, this culture and social media seem to demonize those who are single and put too much emphasis on relationship statuses. It’s redundant, it’s old, it’s tiring, and it’s pathetic. No one talks about mental health which is the root of having a healthy relationship. I’m not talking about extreme cases of schizophrenia or depression. What I’m talking about goes under the surface. No one talks about or value taking breaks to be celibate, heal emotionally between relationships, and focus on oneself. We can’t effectively talk about meaningful relationships if individuals’ personal values are all f’cked up and misconstrued. And what saddens me even more is if I were to post this in an open forum, sistas will diss me, disrespect me, and call me a pick me. Black women can’t handle accountability as a whole but yet want to find that “one”. I know God shakes His head.
You are 💯 right. Of all the thing you listed here . I’m am one of them . The one that they are not attracted too. I come to realize that I probably need to consider going to another country to find my prince. It’s really getting ugly in the US.
I notice too, a lot of women are now told to "boss up" and be that boss of her career, etc. Some of these women are making millions. So the pickings are slim. Nothing wrong with having a good income but there needs to be some balance. If a man doesn't feel needed he'll back off.
Yes, but woman shouldn't stop or downgrade just to please Men's egos while men still get to be grown boys. I do understand your point of men needing to be needed, but men have to make themselves needed in the first.
I would love to have a wife but it depends on what type of woman, culture, and region of the world she’s in. I’m 32 years old with no wife, kids, or any major responsibilities for a reason. I plan to be a expat mechanical engineer so I will not be limited to one spot of the world. Most women I have dated were either feminist or didn’t really love me for me, so I’ve decided to stop and give international women a try. It’s 2022, technology has advanced so much that any single man with a plan can travel, work, and find the love of his life. My father told me as a child “If you have no kids, you will always have the world at your feet.” I took his advice (got lucky 🍀) and now I stay away from women until I am ready.
I think For the most part it was always about business but women didn’t have the financial independence to voice there unhappiness. The history of marriage is based on business and arranged marriages are proven to last longer. Just because it’s business doesn’t mean you don’t love the person but love is not enough. There are definitely other things needed to hold a marriage together. My parents have been married for over 40 yrs and still married. Watching them has not made me desire marriage at all. What keeps most ppl together in the end is the $, kids, or just loyalty and time, emotions are very fickle.
So true, even though my ex had so many other demons. One of his issues was he was continually looking for the next best thing. He wasn’t perfect, I’m not sure why he sought perfection in his men or women….ijs. Thank you “Heavenly Father” for deliverance.🥳🥳
We definitely do have to pray... I remember reading a book about fasting and the individual met someone on a plane who mentioned that she was fasting, but she was fasting for witchcraft. They fast too, and it's for the purpose of increasing demonic activity. The book mentioned how they get together and they pray for leaders/ministers to fall into adultery/fornication, they pray for calamity, among other chaotic things to happen. We have to be mindful of these things and pray against it 🙏🏽
Men only got married when sex wasn’t on tap outside of wedlock and when they had no legal responsibility towards their wife and children. I remember when men used to “go out for cigarettes” and just never come home. Men loved when women couldn’t work outside of the home except as a seamstress or prostitute so that the woman had to suffer thru whatever he wanted to do. “Boys will be boys.” “Midlife Crisis.” It’s never been about love for most men. It’s always been about control and doing whatever he wants.
@@richardmoody3749 the thought process and degenerate tactic is still going on. Check the stats on the BM abandoning his children/women vs other cultures of men
Great insights, Tony! Thank you 🙏🏽 Question: With all the lies and pretending men do to waste women's time just to have sex and leave, how do you actually find a man with character? Even when you keep your legs closed, how do you find a guy who's genuine and has good character? Also, I've never dreamed of marriage, not even as a child. Fancy weddings are nice to look at, but that's about it. The marketing of weddings never captured me. So, I personally don't care about ppl wasting their money on extravagant weddings when their marriage probably won't last as long as a snowball. You gave many examples. Ppl are focused on the wrong thing. The wedding vs the actual marriage are 2 different things. The wedding is the easiest part. The marriage is hard work.
Time. Questions. Observe, then determine. Don't be shy about walking away if they are not in alignment. It's okay...you will save yourself time, money, and heartache. That person is probably better suited for someone else. It's all good.
That second paragraph sounds a lot how my mindset was yet here I am married with one toddler child lol we didn’t have a wedding. Marriage does take work in the sense of making sure you and your spouse are on the same page in life, love, in how you want to raise your kids.
The sad truth is that marriages are business arrangement under the laws of the states. From the state's point of view, love is not a factor in the law. This would be clear to anyone who has ever been through a divorce, been to a divorce hearing, or looked at divorce-related court documents. This is one of the blurry lines between church and state, which are supposed to be separate, that cause men and women a lot of emotional and financial pain.
It’s interesting that the last few marriages I’ve seen the woman met her husband when he was married and living with his wife. One made it her mission to have him although she knew he was married. Marriage is possible but at what cost
Thank you Tony for saying that and speaking on you and your wife’s marriage because I’m the same way. I wanna get married at the court house and a $60 dollar ring doesn’t make me mad at all. You can always upgrade.
At this point, my main requirement in a man is that he uses common sense and I don't even get that. I just focus on taking care of my son and myself because giving guys my time and energy has only proven to be a waste. Not trying to be pessimistic, just stating the unfortunate facts
People also have to remember that there is power in their words. Everybody must try to pray and speak positive things into the atmosphere. This is for anyone who needs it.
Respect, accountability, morals and values have been treated as non factors When are we going to take responsibility for our own actions? Why be concerned with what others do? It's enough trying to manage my own life!
Preach! I keep wondering about a man with all these beautiful, smart, good women around him. Many women want to be with him, or been with him, but he keeps saying he's still looking. Im like who is he looking for???
As almighty God is my witness I compare myself to no one else on this earth, I am me in all my entirety , my colours make me unique ,take me or leave me , No big wedding means a blessed marriage , but for some people I could understand if lavish do’s is what they would want , The journey of discovery between two people money can’t bless, money will blind people , I pray that God will only bless me a man of ambition ,with patience ,humility , grace, and love , or I am accepting of my single grace . Thanks for the information Tony Gaskin bless
As a 24 yr old man of god and med student I’m just so use to being single I don’t know what a real romantic relationship looks like for me. I should start dating 🤔
@@blacandforth I’ve never dated in my life and never been in a relationship. Wouldn’t it be odd to never have such experiences as a 30+ yr old man. I don’t even know how I will be or what I like in a relationship.
@@alexika9981 It WOULD be odd... "but if any man lack wisdom, let him ask of GOD." That's in the book of James. We out here don't know what would be best for you... but if you are a man who knows God, go to Him about when and where to find a mate.
@@alexika9981 It's a good thing you're thinking about it, and much more heartwarming you're here listening to Tony. He offers real and godly advice. Just a side note, while dating do not waste your time on a woman not worth it. Run and don't look back. Love yourself more than anything else and write down the qualities you want in your woman. Remember, you may even find someone who may not really like you like that. Don't feel hurt so doesn't affects your studies. Plan and ready. You're a good focused person, I pray you find the one. Remain blessed 💕
I was dating a guy, that was almost 49, was having finicially going through and I choose to stick by his side and be there for him, but he was mean and hateful..so I told him, you have to choose which you gone be. You can't be broke, nothing to offer someone,, mean and hateful. It makes it easier to walk away when you don't have nothing to offer..Then was keep saying I'm sorry but doing the same thing over n over and canceling every date..I tried to stick by him; but it was time to let that mess go..
Tony GOD is not a man that he should lie. He says men to love your wife as Christ loves the church. Yes we are all human and make mistakes but with Christ help we can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us. We can't keep this marriage together on our own strength but the strength in Christ Jesus 🙏❣️
All the men I know enjoy being single because of either a crazy ex wife or they are like you said flooded with women chasing them and they are having too much fun. I remind them not to stop looking for someone because I also know 2 men who wish they had someone now because they are laid up sick after strokes and now they are lonely and alone.
Those are some real messed up people that's one of the reason why men and women staying single cause marriage these days some don.t last longer than the day of the wedding but the life after they realize that they have to do the part of a husband or a wife and they don.t want to be lock down so it.s a day then they drive each other crazy till one walk away
Men or women of God still can make mistakes because we're human, sometimes you think you're marrying the right person and find out later that wasn't the right one, we have to give each other grace... But the reality seems like the whole world is surface level and getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons and the main thing is superficial, shallow reasons, sex, money, good looks, fake bodies, bed warmers... From my experience most people are sleep walking, comfortable in dysfunction!
As Tony has said before, you gotta try the word by the word. It makes no sense to be with someone who is $$ if they have poor character, are dismissive or irresponsible, or even violent.
Thanks for your knowledge Tony. I give God the Highest Praise. Its really sad how humans value money and materials over loyalty, communication and respect.
I would also say that young men will not say this but they are looking for the fit and healthy nice girl especially if he’s into fitness .Health and nutrition isn’t mainstream and I don’t believe that to be an unrealistic standard to have the options’ body to look like young fit girls in other races.
Wow . I was with my ex for 4 years . He wouldn’t marry me . I even said idc how much the ring is I just Loved him … Never happend so now Ive been single ( I left him of course ) . Insecure and low self esteem . But I’m working through it . I would’ve been so happy if he got me a $69 dollar ring 💍
HEY OOOOOO...l caught this when it first hit...smile...THANK YOU so much Coach TG for all that you do...you truly are a GOD sent in regards to HOW you live your life and your WALK...Thank you...*tearfully spoken*...smile❤😊
@17:28 - "my hairline gon', got lines in ma face......I'm Goin' Down...." -- I HOLLERED! you ain't nowhere near "goin' down", Tony now ya MIGHT be able to say that when you reach ya 50s, but right now, i think you're alright, LOL. ......too funny......i know, i know -- you're not tryna be -- which is precisely what makes it so funny. but seriously, thanks for doing what you do, young brotha -- REALLY & TRULY appreciate the gems & lessons you share w/ the masses. ~ b.
I have been wondering about these marriages nowadays...It seems like a lot people are marrying for business and not love. You know what the bible says about the motives of a man's heart. Time will tell eventually and people will be exposed!
Thank God for you cause u really speak the truth....these men oh my God ..... I feel there is just a lot of immaturity tho. Men feel they have so many women to choose from they don't have to settle down, just want to play games.
I believe that a lot of men have found "the one" and instead of choosing that woman they choose to be a player. I see this on a daily. Sadly we women are very desperate and waiting on the man who put us off to the side.
You know you have a genuine partner when they love you even after the hairline is gone lol. Real recognizes Real. Thank for this Tony. My relationship is rocky now but I know I am genuine. If he wants altered and younger beauty, good luck to him. Maybe she stays genuine. I know I have been genuine and that’s what I have to give, plus I do not sit back, but there will always be a better beauty that can put a spell on a man. I can’t control it.
Tonys eyes are pretty in the light 😅 the last guy i was with was divorced he said from a cheater. he ghosted me. i still miss him 6 months later. :( ive been loyal despite he was cheated on i prayed for him to remember only being with me because he was so tormented by the past now i torment my self over losing him 😞
Working on me I just practice not looking at social media as much as possible and when I do engage in it the time is very limited to focused on spending time with my Savior and allowing him to mold me.
Laying down with many partners and getting up with their personalities and not cleansing your spirit before trying to start a new relationship will make you crazy!
Say it again
laying down? ahahahahh more like being smashed left and right by dudes you barely know. girl you already in a relationship with those dudes, you are in a relationship with the neighbourhood lol
When I married my ex. He didn’t even have money to buy me a fake $69 dollar ring. It didn’t matter to me because I loved him and in return he cheated and made babies with other women. So I understand now why people get married for other reasons and not love. I also understand why people just don’t get married.
Yea… no don’t put up with stuff like that cause they going to give you the bare minimum
Yuh women can now afford to take care of themselves financially so they are not allowing the bare minimum from men
OMG! Did I type this.
@@callofdutylegend4518 no one has control of anyone else’s intentions. If I had a crystal ball to know back in my 20’s he was a bum I would not have married him. And will not hold that L as you call it for something a person decided to do. You don’t know anything and before you start trying to give advice learn a few thing about accountability. It was his choices not mines but it was my choice to walk away. You should have thought about it before you made the ridiculous reply smh.
@@obliteratemypussy1 at that time I was young and dumb and I have been in other relationships since then and didn’t tolerate any bs.
Some ppl too judgmental and not vulnerable enough to marry. They hold themselves back seeking perfection in a mate.
Good message. I’m trying to court my woman to the best of my ability by leading with love and by example of following God first. None of us are perfect like you said but i try my best to be obedient to God.
That's all you can do my friend is do your best and strive to be obedient
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@@Cuooer thank you sister
Luke 6:38 As you continue to submit yourself to God, so shall you find a wife that will submit to you. Keep putting the most high first!
As you do your part of being obedient God does the rest.🙏🏾❤️
See that’s why I’m not on social media. I don’t want the media telling me what relationship goals should look like
Many are not " looking " for a wife Tony and this need for a perfect woman looks wise who will " behave " exactly how they want..good luck.
Sad but true. Men do not have a realistic understanding of women and the expectations of both sides in a relationship - it is very selfish. Their standards are so high - their perfect woman does not exist.
Men have ENOUGH DISPOSABLE women at their fingertips("dating" apps ,social media, porn etc)
If women stop giving up the cookie, men would marry. Women has forgotten who they are.
@@jackiemcbride833 men need to stop going around having a sex with women too. It goes both way.
@@sophietanaka9415 The woman is the one with the power to say yes or no.
@@jackiemcbride833 and men do everything in their power to gaslight women into thinking they have NO power. Thats why this channel came into existence.
@@jackiemcbride833 it not about power
One problem is that men do not have to marry a woman for wife benefits. Women are practically throwing the cat in these mens lap and taking care of men like they are already married. I really think that was one of the ONLY reasons most men married back in the day.
Hmmm, I think this is a misconception. The belief that promiscuity and premarital sex just started in this generation is a big far-fetched assumption. The difference now is that we have social media where these things are publicized. Cohabitation, promiscuity, sex work, children out of wedlocl have always existed
100, I just said the same thing. Loose booty 101 is keeping them single.
One of the truest statements I read here 🤧
The next step to devotion today is symbolized by either getting a place together, getting tatted up, or knocked up 🤷🏽♀️. Or a babyshower. Wedding/marriage is in hindsight now so there’s no reason for a man to take it to another level by putting a ring on it 💍
@@terrim8572 sad but true. Its the women's fault why men behave in a shameful fashion.
It's very tough in the dating market to find who is really for you. Because things are always changing it makes things challenging to really know who is who and who would actually have your back no matter what.
Exactly, it's crazy not really knowing whose being real or pretending, going out of there way to pretend, waste time just to keep u on lock with no real intentions.
Ppl also allow outside influences in the relationship more than ever TV & social media gurus
Facts
No one have your back but you. Just remember that. I learned that the hard way..
I'm 27 let me tell the truth about dating for millennials.
Millennial women show more choosing signals to approach men, Women today sometimes older chase men for reasons of attraction.
Another reason is that Men rather than whether they are Christian or not don't understand how a Woman thinks in attraction. If a woman is not sexually attracted to you, she will not consider you as a pick unless she's a virgin..
Women want men who are Knowledgeable on what she desires sexually.
Men today need to learn to stop getting in friend zones. No man can be a friend with a woman forever unless it's meant to be.
"To have a thing swingin between my legs" LOLOL Sorry I spit my water out on that one Tony 🤣
Social media killed this generation. Easier to cheat now. Crazy out here but God is still the same and not changing. His will and plan for my life will go forth.
So many are married and don't wear a wedding ring. And your right, Marriage has moved away from being a Covenant. And more of conditional business arrangements.🤷♂️🤷♀️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♀️
Ppl don’t know how to date so they for sure don’t know how to be in a marriage
@@CoCo-yv3hl That part💯🙌💯
Most definitely married people be cheating
Look for the light mark around the ring finger. Ask questions.
Good men are asking where are the good women and good women are asking where are the good men,it's like they are worlds apart looking for each other ,Lord what is going on🤔🤔
They are missing out connecting to God,who would bring them together.
@@lyrisgreenidge-adams5941 True.
ehhh they can't be that good of a person if they can't find another one....
No the women are asking where are all the bad boys that will cause them the drama that most women crave.
@@paulcooper5748 which side do u belong to? 😃 good or bad
I remeber one of Tony’s old message a lot of men are single because “their looking for someone God has not created & vice versa” I feel like that still applies and also because things in society are changing
I actually said that to a few male friends I know. The woman they’re looking for has not been created yet because they’re usually looking for a perfect looking/acting (to their satisfaction) woman. Neither one of those things will be perfect but they don’t want to accept that.
@@anikluv7732 I've found most want a woman that gives them the most and asks of them the least yet still looks like a princess and is happy all the time yet mysterious and exciting but devoted and loyal.. The laws of this universe don't work that way.
alot of single, virgin and divorced christians seem to idealize the perfect God sent partner but i believe God sends people who are in fact broken, not eventual cheaters but maybe a little broken, and gives us options on wether to marry them
nobody can be "completely whole within themselfs" to get married to the perfect christian partner. God gave us free will. there are christian churches ive been to who try to condemn singles like me into eternal singleness. that mindset that people have to be perfect in Christ for a marriage is BS. we are only perfected in heaven!!!!
@@anikluv7732 the guy I just broke up with told me I’m not the one because I refused to have unprotected sex. The chemistry was there, talking everyday, being caring to him, not even taking his money, I agreed to have sex but yet he broke up because I asked for safe sex!! I mean who does that? The man was 45. They do look for things that will never come by. Sad!!!
Yup. We got to pray. Warfare is real. We must follow the WORD and principles of God regarding marriage because the best person to advice on how a product should work is the manufacturer of said product. Marriage was God's idea and we must follow His principles to achieve success in the area of marriage.
God help us all. We are all acting too woke and suspecting one another with our guards to have something real.
We must pray, discern, love, trust, forgive, be vulnerable and have the heart of a servant to love.
Because sometimes people don't want the responsibility that can come with the reality of the relationship.
If my memory serves correctly, a few years back a guy bought his fiancé an engagement ring from Walmart… the whole country was in an uproar. Come to find out… that’s the ring she specifically asked for 🤦🏾♀️ Everybody has too much say in what everybody else chooses to do with their lives. It’s weird
Got our wedding rings at Cash Converters then eloped. My engagement ring was brand new though, I feel I have to justify that, like you say it's weird how people react to this stuff...!
Way too much to say about people who they never met . External comments can ruin you if you let them. That’s why I only give limited access as to what’s going on in my mind/ life.
Those Walmart rings are beautiful too❤️
@@catrinafarr3402 Yes! They are.
That scene in Fruitvale Station where Oscar Grant was literally going to steal a ring for his girlfriend, and then he met a white man that told him to do what he did and buy a cheap one now then get her a new expensive ring in the future when he could afford it💔
Real Talk! Spend time with the other person and get to know what's important. Watch and Believe what you see...
THIS!!! My Grandparents always said..."pay attention to what their actions tell you, not those candy-coated words!
I don't think men know how to date anymore. You have to take time to get to know somebody and you can't do that if you are in a rush to get to the bedroom. Some men just need to slow their roll and get disciplined in that area. Women too! Folks are not taking time to get to know each other! I agree that it is a business for some folks though but at the end of the day, that does not seem all that gratifying. Love is comforting, business can be exhausting!!!
It boils down to the HEART..... it's deceitful above ALL things who can know it....
Thank you Tony for this video. One thing I hear from men I speak with is they’re not financially ready to make the next step. I understand times are hard now but if you’re in your late 20’s and up we should be moving towards steps to being smarter financially and leveling up together. The other issue is men have a lot of options to entertain. I would love for most of us to be getting married and celebrating love often but the fear mongering placed on young men and women is what’s holding us back. I look to older sisters for guidance but often times they tell me “you’re so young, you don’t need marriage now.” Unfortunately due to the way my faith is set up I do need marriage but I won’t settle for someone who doesn’t have anything to provide. No you don’t need 6 figures but you can’t be a leeching hobosexual either. 😂 I need a man to help me, lead me, support me. Trust me a lot of us sisters are out here but you can catch me at Whole Foods, Target, TSA line 😂. I love a good man with morals and principal. Also men deserve the same love.
@Marvelous M
It’s possible. Don’t lose hope. HOLD fast to your faith and TRUST God. Start praying for your husband BEFORE you meet him. Prepare yourself to be a wife so that when he meets you he will know that you are wife material not plaything material. There’s a difference.
Blessings to you M.
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How you doing Sista? I agree with you.. Men and women are under constant psychological manipulation through media, and it affects how we all perceive each other like you stated. But there is another underlying problem that's more significant. And that is Natural Law has been broken. This is the real reason why dating and mating has become difficult.
Provider and Protector is part of a man's biological function; this is not just cliche. Men and women are instinctively wired to look for certain behavior traits in a person to determine if they will be a suitable mate. Femininity, untouched womb, does this woman Need Me and My Provision, and will she make a good Helper as I pursue my purpose is how men generally qualify women to be wives. In black society 80 years ago, many of our parents/grandparents were married for 30+ years ultimately because the woman needed the man's Provision to maintain the home. This was proper alignment with Natural Law because women are designed to survive by getting Provision from Men. Today however, many women Go Around men and obtain Provision through other means. And this has disturbed the Natural Order.
Currently It seems we're in a environment, where some women are quick to break relationships because of their ability to sustain themselves without a man's Provision. And some men are choosing to stay single, because the traits that men instinctively look for to qualify a woman to be a wife are more difficult to find. Psychological Manipulation and the disruption of Natural Law are the reasons dating and mating are now tough. I wish you the best of luck!
Well spoken, I ache for the younger generation wanting real love.
This is so true. Men have done many options, it’s like there always looking for the next best women.
To me, it comes down to having too many options. You have to be an "intentional buyer". I'd bet money that most of these men aren't searching as seriously as they claim. I'd bet money that they're subconsciously perpetually on the lookout for the 'next best deal'.
Boom! No lies told🤷🏾♀️
Idk, there have always been more women than men in the human population. Men have always had many options but now they even have less options because fewer women are willing settle for the mistreatment just because a man can give you financial security. Women work more now. Idk
@@amariantiquity8543 hmmm I disagree. Im African. Ive lived in a few African countries and North America. While It's true that the west progressed at a faster race as far as women financial and sexual empowerment but Africa is catching on. Women are still more than men statically in number but the factors affecting why less people are getting married are clear. You think USD 50k per annum is a lot of money for African standards but I disagree. Ive traveled back to Africa on many occasions and im always left flabbergasted by how fast you can burn through money there too. Inflation is global now. The dollar can only do so much and would the man keep a fulltime 50k a year job in the US while maintaining a full on marriage with a woman living in Africa? How is that going to work realistically? If he brings her abroad ofcourse that money won't be enough to maintain their household. In as far as there's a good number of people still getting married, divorce rates are also higher now so you've got to ask yourself why.
@@Sandra.-. If everything in the world is going to shit, do you expect men to sit in America and not explore all options of their own biological imperative to multiply and have stable families. If women in the west don't respect good character men, they will go elsewhere, if they have the means, people can say what they want about Americans, but the dollar is still king as long as America still has military power over the world.
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Men and women, I highly suggest you do work hard and do not deviate into adultery because you will go into the worst nightmare you'll ever experience in your whole life. I am divorcing right now and the unbeknownst-to-me adulterer that I married is in depression right now. He wrote me another text this week saying that he has regretted what he did and he is deeply depressed. I don't know if it's for him to convince me to go back, but it did not work and it will not work. I'm moving on. I forgave for decades and he took it for granted until I filed for divorce, which has taken more time than I expected and desired but will be finalized hopefully this year. Tony, you hit the nail again.
For me I've absolutely given up on dating or being part of any of those online dating sites. So many players..and people faking who they are. I have my kids so I'm busy raising them up and get my life together for me. 😊🌺💜💕🦋😊🌼🌸
You have kids what did you expect lmao
The ring turned her finger green 😂😂
I dont think men are usually thinking how God sees them. Or that its a wise thing to abstain. Even though if they prepare for an event (like boxing or high energy & focus event) in sports , its recommended men abstain. .
I stay single because I'm too scared to date.
I would take marriage over a wedding in a heart beat 🙏🏾
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AMEN sis...my sentiments exactly...pursue PURPOSE, LOYALTY, LOVE and CHARACTER and then my future husband and l can weather any storm...smile
Yes indeed
Lol when I got married it was me my husband and our two witnesses
As a Christian single woman. I will wait on Boaz...Boass and Bozo can stay away. If I can't do anything without doing it for love....I don't want it. God does not make mistakes 🙏🏾 🙌🏾
😄😄😄 That was so funny and so true!!
Amen sis!!!! I will have to borrow that phrase LOL
@@Luver4lyfe go ahead Sis....we all need be using it...🙌🏾💕
Boaz don’t exist
When you go searching for love, they seem nowhere to be found, but when you don't, they come into your life at the perfect time.
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Sometimes we just have to be real with ourselves and why some choose to be single by choice or just single single with no potentials. I had to be real with God and we talked today. I’m single for a few reasons.
1. It’s just not my season. Bottom line. Period. I don’t consider myself unattractive but there are areas I need to work on. And God knows I do. If I’m insecure now, I damn sure will be insecure in a relationship. God don’t send His children to messes. How can I fully love my man and I haven’t gotten to the point I love myself through and through? Once I get to that point, and not care what others may say or think of me, then I won 80% of the battle.
2. Besides #1, another reason is the dating pool for all age groups sucks! Men, as old as their late 40’s, are still chasing easy, fast, and loose booty. That, along with the indoctrination of Kevin Sammuels, has really muddled the dating pool. So much so until both factors have interrupted with what could be a wholesome relationship with a woman that has standards. All women ain’t with the current culture of being “outside”. And the ones who aren’t are labeled as pick mes. Smh. And a lot of good women are passed over for other women who Kevin Sammuels would classify as a “high value” but by EXTERNAL FACTORS ONLY. Lust has an expiration date. Once men get past the physical, the true nature emerges. Megan Good and Lori Harvey’s relationships should’ve taught us all that. This another reason I’m single.
#3 For the ones who are truly looking for a wife, they’re still hung up on the physical only. And for the ones who aren’t, they’re either married, engaged, in prison, on the dl, or got a lot of other emotional baggage. Statistically, the numbers in general are not in black women favor. And for the brothas who are truly good men, they are honest with what they want. Many women past the age of 25 will have a child or two. Many don’t want a woman that has ties to another man before he came along. We got to be real with ourselves. At some point, he and the children father have to cross paths. Some may say well my baby dad get along with my bf. How can you be so sure? Men are funny and I’ve been around my brothers and other men in my family too long to know this. He’s a reminder that he’s second place to this woman. Those kids are reminders. There are exceptions. My dad was one because he married my mom with 4 kids that weren’t his.
And for the women who don’t have children or got their ish together, he just may not be physically attracted to them. Since booty is easy to come by anyway, why get in a serious relationship or marry???
#4 Some don’t know a genuine person when they meet them tbh. Many are so caught up with physical tangibles (looks and sex for men & money for women), and repeat the same cycle over and over again, from one relationship to the next until when that good man or woman come along, we don’t know how to receive them or act. Ultimately, we’ll run them away.
#5 Gen Z and other younger women are being indoctrinated to believe that getting knocked up, having a gender reveal, or moving in with their bf are tokens of devotion vs him putting a ring on it. It’s this standard why many will continue to remain unmarried because the cycle WILL CONTINUE. This is being really real for real 🤷🏽♀️.
#6 The lack of mental health awareness and financial security is rarely talked about and done too much damage which is why MANY will stay single or choose to remain single 🎯
Overall, many women and men are also beginning to realize that their worth and value isn’t defined by a relationship status. One commenter said a lot of women are focused on their bag 💰 and traveling 🏝✈️ which is true! 💯
Then there’s some who are single because they’re not honest with themselves and haven’t done an internal or maybe an external inventory of themselves to be marriage or relationship ready. Food for thought along with what Tony said 😎
Men also have children out of wedlock and baby mommies as well. It goes both ways, but I agree with your reasons.
Your analysis is so accurate and on point. It’s really getting bad out here. True meaningful relationships are dead.
@@Stormy867 yes they are! It’s sad! I want no part! Idc if I have to stay single longer. And to add insult to injury, this culture and social media seem to demonize those who are single and put too much emphasis on relationship statuses. It’s redundant, it’s old, it’s tiring, and it’s pathetic. No one talks about mental health which is the root of having a healthy relationship. I’m not talking about extreme cases of schizophrenia or depression. What I’m talking about goes under the surface. No one talks about or value taking breaks to be celibate, heal emotionally between relationships, and focus on oneself. We can’t effectively talk about meaningful relationships if individuals’ personal values are all f’cked up and misconstrued.
And what saddens me even more is if I were to post this in an open forum, sistas will diss me, disrespect me, and call me a pick me. Black women can’t handle accountability as a whole but yet want to find that “one”. I know God shakes His head.
You are 💯 right. Of all the thing you listed here . I’m am one of them . The one that they are not attracted too. I come to realize that I probably need to consider going to another country to find my prince. It’s really getting ugly in the US.
@@babou5694 Yep. May not have to go to another country, but do expand your options.
I notice too, a lot of women are now told to "boss up" and be that boss of her career, etc. Some of these women are making millions. So the pickings are slim. Nothing wrong with having a good income but there needs to be some balance. If a man doesn't feel needed he'll back off.
Yes, but woman shouldn't stop or downgrade just to please Men's egos while men still get to be grown boys. I do understand your point of men needing to be needed, but men have to make themselves needed in the first.
Men need to understand that they are needed for more than financial reasons.
I would love to have a wife but it depends on what type of woman, culture, and region of the world she’s in. I’m 32 years old with no wife, kids, or any major responsibilities for a reason.
I plan to be a expat mechanical engineer so I will not be limited to one spot of the world. Most women I have dated were either feminist or didn’t really love me for me, so I’ve decided to stop and give international women a try. It’s 2022, technology has advanced so much that any single man with a plan can travel, work, and find the love of his life.
My father told me as a child “If you have no kids, you will always have the world at your feet.” I took his advice (got lucky 🍀) and now I stay away from women until I am ready.
I think For the most part it was always about business but women didn’t have the financial independence to voice there unhappiness. The history of marriage is based on business and arranged marriages are proven to last longer. Just because it’s business doesn’t mean you don’t love the person but love is not enough. There are definitely other things needed to hold a marriage together. My parents have been married for over 40 yrs and still married. Watching them has not made me desire marriage at all. What keeps most ppl together in the end is the $, kids, or just loyalty and time, emotions are very fickle.
Great to hear Tony back on the videos again. 🙏🏼
So true, even though my ex had so many other demons. One of his issues was he was continually looking for the next best thing. He wasn’t perfect, I’m not sure why he sought perfection in his men or women….ijs. Thank you “Heavenly Father” for deliverance.🥳🥳
social media ABSOLUTELY has ruined relationships
Many, many men don’t wear their wedding rings nowadays.
Why?
@@BarbiGirl24 to get with the hotter younger girl~
We definitely do have to pray... I remember reading a book about fasting and the individual met someone on a plane who mentioned that she was fasting, but she was fasting for witchcraft. They fast too, and it's for the purpose of increasing demonic activity. The book mentioned how they get together and they pray for leaders/ministers to fall into adultery/fornication, they pray for calamity, among other chaotic things to happen. We have to be mindful of these things and pray against it 🙏🏽
Men only got married when sex wasn’t on tap outside of wedlock and when they had no legal responsibility towards their wife and children. I remember when men used to “go out for cigarettes” and just never come home. Men loved when women couldn’t work outside of the home except as a seamstress or prostitute so that the woman had to suffer thru whatever he wanted to do. “Boys will be boys.” “Midlife Crisis.” It’s never been about love for most men. It’s always been about control and doing whatever he wants.
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you can write a whole book on this tosca donna
excellent post and as a woman i totally agree
Absolutely
How old is this thought process ?
@@richardmoody3749 the thought process and degenerate tactic is still going on. Check the stats on the BM abandoning his children/women vs other cultures of men
@@richardmoody3749 as old as man himself…
Great insights, Tony! Thank you 🙏🏽
Question: With all the lies and pretending men do to waste women's time just to have sex and leave, how do you actually find a man with character? Even when you keep your legs closed, how do you find a guy who's genuine and has good character?
Also, I've never dreamed of marriage, not even as a child. Fancy weddings are nice to look at, but that's about it. The marketing of weddings never captured me. So, I personally don't care about ppl wasting their money on extravagant weddings when their marriage probably won't last as long as a snowball. You gave many examples. Ppl are focused on the wrong thing. The wedding vs the actual marriage are 2 different things. The wedding is the easiest part. The marriage is hard work.
Time. Questions. Observe, then determine. Don't be shy about walking away if they are not in alignment. It's okay...you will save yourself time, money, and heartache. That person is probably better suited for someone else. It's all good.
@Thirteen Hales Exactly!
maybe marriage just isn't for you. it's not a calling God gives everyone. nothing wrong with that.
That second paragraph sounds a lot how my mindset was yet here I am married with one toddler child lol we didn’t have a wedding. Marriage does take work in the sense of making sure you and your spouse are on the same page in life, love, in how you want to raise your kids.
Sounds like me 💯
The sad truth is that marriages are business arrangement under the laws of the states. From the state's point of view, love is not a factor in the law. This would be clear to anyone who has ever been through a divorce, been to a divorce hearing, or looked at divorce-related court documents. This is one of the blurry lines between church and state, which are supposed to be separate, that cause men and women a lot of emotional and financial pain.
It was the “sis run, he’s trash” for me 🤣🤣🤣
That part had me rolling! 🤣🤣
@@reeree242447 girl me and you both 🤣🤣
It’s because social media made it to where there’s too many options.
Social Media has been a blessing and a curse.....to all relationships. People are not perfect.
It’s interesting that the last few marriages I’ve seen the woman met her husband when he was married and living with his wife. One made it her mission to have him although she knew he was married. Marriage is possible but at what cost
Honestly they say it’s the women. I think it’s the men. They have options and want to explore them.
But if they have these options and not trying to be with one woman, it could be because all these options are not quality
Men and women complain about the exact same things. Word for word. This whole gender war is quite ridiculous
Thank you Tony for saying that and speaking on you and your wife’s marriage because I’m the same way. I wanna get married at the court house and a $60 dollar ring doesn’t make me mad at all. You can always upgrade.
“When my wife first met me I was the IT man, look at me now, looking bad.” 🤣🤣🤣 man I be over here hollering
Good morning, everyone! Tony's on point like always. I'm looking forward to this video! 🙂 grown boys are 🥴😳 but grown men are 🥰🧐
At this point, my main requirement in a man is that he uses common sense and I don't even get that. I just focus on taking care of my son and myself because giving guys my time and energy has only proven to be a waste. Not trying to be pessimistic, just stating the unfortunate facts
“I was Mister It. Look at me now. Looking bad.” The way I hollered! 🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... One thing Tony going to do is cut a JOKE!!!!
People also have to remember that there is power in their words. Everybody must try to pray and speak positive things into the atmosphere. This is for anyone who needs it.
Respect, accountability, morals and values have been treated as non factors When are we going to take responsibility for our own actions? Why be concerned with what others do? It's enough trying to manage my own life!
Preach! I keep wondering about a man with all these beautiful, smart, good women around him. Many women want to be with him, or been with him, but he keeps saying he's still looking. Im like who is he looking for???
As almighty God is my witness I compare myself to no one else on this earth, I am me in all my entirety , my colours make me unique ,take me or leave me ,
No big wedding means a blessed marriage , but for some people I could understand if lavish do’s is what they would want ,
The journey of discovery between two people money can’t bless, money will blind people ,
I pray that God will only bless me a man of ambition ,with patience ,humility , grace, and love , or I am accepting of my single grace .
Thanks for the information
Tony Gaskin bless
Afternoon class in session
Very good message! These 2022 expectations are ridiculous. At 49, there's no way I can meet these men's standards. Single for Life 🤷🏾♀️
I'm screaming.......did you think I thought that ring was real 🤣🤣🤣
Lol 😂😂😂, I thought the same
Lol, the Hill Song side chick looks like a tarot card reader. 🤣 😂 😆
As a 24 yr old man of god and med student I’m just so use to being single I don’t know what a real romantic relationship looks like for me. I should start dating 🤔
LOL SAMEEEEEEEEE
Young brother please continue towards your goal on becoming a physician once you've become established then see what the dating pool has to offer.
@@blacandforth I’ve never dated in my life and never been in a relationship. Wouldn’t it be odd to never have such experiences as a 30+ yr old man. I don’t even know how I will be or what I like in a relationship.
@@alexika9981 It WOULD be odd... "but if any man lack wisdom, let him ask of GOD." That's in the book of James. We out here don't know what would be best for you... but if you are a man who knows God, go to Him about when and where to find a mate.
@@alexika9981 It's a good thing you're thinking about it, and much more heartwarming you're here listening to Tony. He offers real and godly advice. Just a side note, while dating do not waste your time on a woman not worth it. Run and don't look back. Love yourself more than anything else and write down the qualities you want in your woman. Remember, you may even find someone who may not really like you like that. Don't feel hurt so doesn't affects your studies. Plan and ready. You're a good focused person, I pray you find the one. Remain blessed 💕
I was dating a guy, that was almost 49, was having finicially going through and I choose to stick by his side and be there for him, but he was mean and hateful..so I told him, you have to choose which you gone be. You can't be broke, nothing to offer someone,, mean and hateful. It makes it easier to walk away when you don't have nothing to offer..Then was keep saying I'm sorry but doing the same thing over n over and canceling every date..I tried to stick by him; but it was time to let that mess go..
Why would you even want to stick by a man who can't offer you anything? Serious question. We (blk women) definitely need to work on our standards.
Tony GOD is not a man that he should lie. He says men to love your wife as Christ loves the church.
Yes we are all human and make mistakes but with Christ help we can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us.
We can't keep this marriage together on our own strength but the strength in Christ Jesus 🙏❣️
Choosing to focus on myself for the 1st time in a very long time… That’s why im staying single.
The Competition is all a fantasy... Not Real Life.. people spend more time preparing for a fantasy life
All the men I know enjoy being single because of either a crazy ex wife or they are like you said flooded with women chasing them and they are having too much fun.
I remind them not to stop looking for someone because I also know 2 men who wish they had someone now because they are laid up sick after strokes and now they are lonely and alone.
ABSOLUTELY NO ONE.
TONY & I cuz WE can FEEL THE NONSENSE 11:40
Those are some real messed up people that's one of the reason why men and women staying single cause marriage these days some don.t last longer than the day of the wedding but the life after they realize that they have to do the part of a husband or a wife and they don.t want to be lock down so it.s a day then they drive each other crazy till one walk away
Men or women of God still can make mistakes because we're human, sometimes you think you're marrying the right person and find out later that wasn't the right one, we have to give each other grace... But the reality seems like the whole world is surface level and getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons and the main thing is superficial, shallow reasons, sex, money, good looks, fake bodies, bed warmers... From my experience most people are sleep walking, comfortable in dysfunction!
As Tony has said before, you gotta try the word by the word. It makes no sense to be with someone who is $$ if they have poor character, are dismissive or irresponsible, or even violent.
Thanks for your knowledge Tony. I give God the Highest Praise. Its really sad how humans value money and materials over loyalty, communication and respect.
I would also say that young men will not say this but they are looking for the fit and healthy nice girl especially if he’s into fitness .Health and nutrition isn’t mainstream and I don’t believe that to be an unrealistic standard to have the options’ body to look like young fit girls in other races.
Wow . I was with my ex for 4 years . He wouldn’t marry me . I even said idc how much the ring is I just Loved him … Never happend so now Ive been single ( I left him of course ) . Insecure and low self esteem . But I’m working through it . I would’ve been so happy if he got me a $69 dollar ring 💍
HEY OOOOOO...l caught this when it first hit...smile...THANK YOU so much Coach TG for all that you do...you truly are a GOD sent in regards to HOW you live your life and your WALK...Thank you...*tearfully spoken*...smile❤😊
Great message…thank you, Tony 🙏🏾
Ma hairline gone …I’m goin down 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 who else don’t like when tony get on himself like that
We got to pray 🙏🏽💜
@17:28 - "my hairline gon', got lines in ma face......I'm Goin' Down...." -- I HOLLERED!
you ain't nowhere near "goin' down", Tony
now ya MIGHT be able to say that when you reach ya 50s,
but right now, i think you're alright, LOL. ......too funny......i know, i know -- you're not tryna be -- which is precisely what makes it so funny.
but seriously, thanks for doing what you do, young brotha -- REALLY & TRULY appreciate the gems & lessons you share w/ the masses. ~ b.
Thank you Tony Gaskins. Smart man for hauling junk, his services will always be needed.
I have been wondering about these marriages nowadays...It seems like a lot people are marrying for business and not love. You know what the bible says about the motives of a man's heart. Time will tell eventually and people will be exposed!
Also don’t look for rings cuz I know slot of married men who do not wear their wedding rings …they later say I don’t believe in them smh 🤦♀️
That was my dosage of daily reality...wow, thank you brother!
I’m just working on me bro going back to school to getting my paper up
I'm 35 and never been in a relationship before and I'm so a use to being single it doesn't bother me
Thank God for you cause u really speak the truth....these men oh my God .....
I feel there is just a lot of immaturity tho. Men feel they have so many women to choose from they don't have to settle down, just want to play games.
God has blessed you Sir. Thank you for this insight with humour
Thankful for this message and clarity, coach Tony! 🙌🏾😎
I believe that a lot of men have found "the one" and instead of choosing that woman they choose to be a player. I see this on a daily. Sadly we women are very desperate and waiting on the man who put us off to the side.
He's back with the messages!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you so much for being REAL!!❤️
"She look like she do tarot cards" 😅
Bro, you had my laughing saying women are getting crazier.... Doc, it's hard out here in these streets... 😂😂
Dudes be making some of these women crazy. When a woman is emotionally driven and a man manipulates that......crazy.
You know you have a genuine partner when they love you even after the hairline is gone lol. Real recognizes Real. Thank for this Tony. My relationship is rocky now but I know I am genuine. If he wants altered and younger beauty, good luck to him. Maybe she stays genuine. I know I have been genuine and that’s what I have to give, plus I do not sit back, but there will always be a better beauty that can put a spell on a man. I can’t control it.
14:40 PRRRRRRRREACH TONY!!!! 👏
Tonys eyes are pretty in the light 😅
the last guy i was with was divorced he said from a cheater. he ghosted me. i still miss him 6 months later. :( ive been loyal despite he was cheated on i prayed for him to remember only being with me because he was so tormented by the past now i torment my self over losing him 😞
This is real talk. Blessing!!!
The intention for marriage and marriage certificate is way more important then the ceremony and engagement ring
You The Truth! And We all Love you for it!
Tony on the road videos! I'm liking this!
Working on me I just practice not looking at social media as much as possible and when I do engage in it the time is very limited to focused on spending time with my Savior and allowing him to mold me.