I paid for an email coaching and at first I thought I was wasting my money or that I was going to get a short respond that wasn’t really going to help me, but let me tell you that I WAS WRONG. I was in a horrible situation where my boyfriend broke up with me and started dating RIGHT AWAY someone way older than us, I explained everything to coach Craig and he really took the time to give me all the answers I needed at that time. He never told me “yes you’re going to get him back” he was honest about everything and told me how to handle the situation. Happy to say that he was right about everything he said about my relationship and my boyfriend. He came back to me saying how sorry he was and we started watching Craig’s videos to improve our RS. This was one year ago and me and my boyfriend are still in a WAY healthier relationship.
@@CoachCraigKenneth can you record somw video for girls how to get ex back after long period 3years of broke up just seeing causal (sex). Thank you for every video and your wisdom! 💓
Whenever I start to feel hopeless, I tell myself that I have to stop focusing on what he’s doing/not doing and just have faith because the universe works in crazy ways. Walk by faith, not by sight
11 months ago the man I spent 25 years with, up and left. He told me that he was done and I made him miserable. I was shocked and extremely upset. I begged and pleaded for him to stay but he told me nothing I said could make him stay, he was done. We have 3 kids together too. I felt so alone and confused when he left. He wouldn’t even talk to me, it was like I didn’t even exist. How the hell could he of all people do this to me? I spent a month laying in bed crying. I am self employed so thank goodness I didn’t have to get up and go to work everyday cause I wouldn’t have been able to do it. He barely called, maybe once a month to check on the kids, and when he did, he was cold to me. I found out that he had another woman before he even left my house and that just destroyed me. The thought of another woman taking my place made me physically ill. I gave him my life, how could he just walk away from me like that? All I wanted to do was find someone else to help take the pain away but I decided that I just had to go through it. I needed to work on myself and that’s exactly what I did. I’d wake up in the morning and the first thing I’d do was cry and then I’d get up and give life my best. During the time that he was gone, I bought a brand new car, managed to save $20,000 and I bought my first house all by myself. Those are all things that I couldn’t do while I was with him. I was scared to do all this on my own but I did it. Well guess who’s back?? He’s been calling me for about 2 months. He begs me to let him come home. He hates the girl he’s with and realizes that it wasn’t me who made him miserable, it was him doing it. He wants to marry me and spent the rest of his life with me. Guess what else?? I’m all set!! I told him there’s no way in hell I’d ever let him come back after what I went through. That was the deepest pain I’ve ever felt and I had to go through it alone. I’ve decided that I’m very happy being alone and I plan to stay alone for a while. I’ve accomplished quite a bit in the almost year that he’s been gone and I’m not done yet. I’m not done working on myself and I’m not done growing into this new life I’m making. Letting him come back would only send me back to where I was and I don’t want that. The pain after a break up IS DEVASTATING and I know that firsthand, but I also know how beautiful it can be once you get through it. If you’re hurting then let yourself feel the hurt. Remember, the only way out, is through. But most of all, remember that it won’t last forever. Love yourself more than you love the thought of someone that decided they didn’t want to be with you. Words are powerful and never forget what they said when they left. They showed their true colors so pay attention. You deserve the best so don’t settle for less. I will never allow my ex back into my life. I remember begging him to stay and begging him not to leave me. Crying like a baby as I begged. Never again, I’m worth so much more and so are you!! Let them go and work on YOU
Congratulations on the new car and house! You are a role model for others in terms of empowering oneself and making positive changes and improving your lifestyle. Despite such pain, you have been very strong.
Violets thank you! This has not been easy, but it has been so worth it. Him leaving was the best thing that ever could have happened. It was the one thing that I didn’t know I needed and there’s no turning back now :)
Good for you! Do you think he was having a midlife crisis? I've seen this before, they completely ruin their lives and dump everyone who was loyal to them. They act like rebellious teenagers.
It seems to me that there is something every dumper lacks and which is also probably one of the most important factors in successful relationships.....COMMUNICATION. Yet you rarely see forums or RUclips discussions about this. Many dumpers lack that very basic skill and in many cases expect the dumpee to read their mind. Just a thought
S A so true! I think if most people were honest about what they want in a relationship and tried to work on things, it would save so many relationships being broken down and lost. We’re not mind readers and it can be hard to know unless the other person tells us what they really want in the relationship.
I left a girl by choice 2 months ago. She was not happy with my decision but did not fight me over it and gave me the break up. I went out to experience the reasons i left and realized 4 weeks later that i made a major mistake by leaving. In those first 3-4 weeks, i didnt question it. So yes, feelings can change, ive been regretting this for 5 weeks now. Keep your head up and trust the information that these coaches give.
@eye behiding people never change! Unless it's a huge situation in life! They have to see the end in front of ther faces! Its not even logic.. How can I change my my character? All I do is learn and maybe have some new skills here and ther.. But never a mature change
My ex just reached out to me a few days ago saying she misses me terribly after 4 months of NC. She left me for someone else and I'm not letting my guard down without her trying her harder to get my attention than just a text or two. Stay emotionally centred guys! Love yourself before loving someone else
Rip Coach Marget Foley, you were really something else. A true blessing in everyones lives despite not being able to connect with everyone she's helped. She doesn't know just how much of an angel she is ♥♥♥
Listen guys: it does get better over time. It’s been 4 months since my boyfriend broke up with me and I can’t tell you how anxious, heartbroken and desperate I was at the beginning of this process. Not gonna lie, it still hurts and I’m still hoping for the day he reaches out, BUT I’ve been going to therapy, taking care of myself, going out with friends and family and of course watching Craig’s videos daily and holy cow, these things help A LOT. Keep working on yourself, you can’t control what they do or what goes through their mind, you’re gonna have good and bad times during the process but each day that passes you become a better, stronger and more attractive version of yourself. If I get a success story I’ll let you know. DON’T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!
I have a success story. On August 18th my wife left and said we were through, that we were NEVER getting back together. I watched Coach Craig's videos, utilized no contact, and she came back a little over two weeks ago and things have NEVER been better. Thanks Coach Craig, and all of you heart broken out there, have faith-dreams DO come true,
I can honestly tell you that my long distance ex girlfriend exhibited every behavior and stages during the break up Craig and Margaret explained would happen in most cases. We are back together after 4 months. Behaviors...she was cold and wanted to block me. Told me there was no chance. She came back after no contact in an indirect manner. And now she says she loves me, words I thought I would never hear. She told me that my contacting her in the beginning made her angry and definitely delayed her contacting me in the future. She said she dated two guys during the break up but they were not the same as me. She said she thought of me every day and presents I gave her reminded her of me. In closing I would say no contact was the best thing I did to get another chance with her. It gave her time to think and imagine a life without me. No contact was also the hardest thing I have ever done but I wish I would have started it earlier in the break up. Stay strong and watch Coach Craig and Margaret, they truly know how to give your relationship the best chance to be reconciled.
Two months ago i was a wreck and desperate to have him back, now i am taking back my power, embracing my femininity, and have a positive outlook that i will be with an amazing man when God allows it.
You are right, me and my ex just get together again because it was unpleasant situation to me 5 months back. Today he seem as if we just met for the first time in our life. Thank you coach Craig and Margaret, your world help me so much every i started listening to your videos
It definitely does happen. My ex reached out to me after 4 months and again a month later on my birthday but by that stage i’d realised in hindsight the relationship wasn’t healthy and I’d also moved on and met someone else. But hang in there guys and always remember to focus on yourself and grow. You can’t control what your ex does but you can control your own life and make changes in yourself.
Good video. My ex dropped me like a hot potato. Did mean things and tried to be hurtful to me. She made comments on social media that were hurtful. I ignored them and chose to fix myself. She even went as far as getting married 2 months after we split. Still I looked at it like wth ever. Now a few months later, guess who’s making up excuses to contact me? Even came to see me... with out her new spouse. So feelings do change. Often they change into regret and sorrow and the ever famous “oh crap the grass over here is not really greener it is full of dog crap” feeling . So, hang in there if that’s what you feel you should do. Work on YOU. Do the best for yourself. And ignore all the crap from the person who felt they could do better than you. You’re the best they ever had. Eventually they either wake up and realize that or they wallow in the dog crap. Either way, you’re better for the experience. Do YOU.
They come back. I did a lot of failures, like calling in the middle of the night and a lot more. She said never to call her again. But at some point she reached out, about a photo of me and my grandfather that she still had. She came over to my new place. She forgot the photo 3 times in a row. I guess you understand what I am trying to say. Thank you so much Coach, I learned a lot about my Childhood and the pain I was dealing with. There is always hope!
1. Living in the present moment 2. Got myself a new education 3. Watching you guys 4. Meditation every morning and evening I don’t sit and wait for her to come back. But if she does, I’m ready I’ll be fine. And so will you, you’re doing great.
Remember guys and gals Focus on what you want. Focus on what changes you want to make and do what you can to make them happen. We're all in this together and this community is strong. I believe in you all. And Remember most importantly to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
So many people are so focused on their ex instead of the changes. Then when their ex comes back their skill level really hasn’t really improved or they blow it with new people.
I've heard it many times, before. but by giving space, making changes, being patient and compassionate I've reconnected. As long as I had a valid reason and that I decided it was what I wanted.
I got a new tattoo on my forearm that says "we accept the love we think we deserve" to remind myself everyday that I am worth more than he's willing to give.
Go you!! I have one in Latin that says not all injuries are visible, it comes from a first responder/ptsd background but I’m the same it reminds me of where I’ve been and where I’m headed
True honestly, I ended on worst terms imaginable, bumped into her while she was working yesterday was lighthearted and later that day she hit me with an indirect/direct that spilled into today.
When Margret mentions how if a parent left and never came back it makes it harder to hope things will ever turn around it's so true, I felt so cynical until hearing it articulated like that 🙌
My ex said I had to move on, thinking of him and messaging all the time will not help me to move on. So I stopped right away doing it, I felt ashamed. But after 2 weeks he started asking me how things going and hey you, asking different stuff and trying to recalled our past memories. I'm still so hurt after 4 months but trying my best for myself, hitting the gym all the time and concentrating on my work and listening to coach Craig videos every day. Telling me he will come visit here and asking if i can help him to join the gym. Thanks a lot Craig you made me feel so much better now ❤
Thank you so much for this video ❤️ my fiancé broke off our engagement 4 months ago & my heart still feels shattered. I get up everyday & keep trying to better myself, take it day by day. Living by faith everyday that someday it will all be okay again 🙏🏼
Thank you Craig and Margaret I am back with my partner after 3 months we will be working on our relationship, taking our time , talking and embracing our new future x I did NC and he reached out we have both strong and admitted our faults, emotionally physically hard year we both lost our dads within a month x I started to listen to you Craig in those painful months and you gave me comfort NC dies work if you are to be together xx thank you so much 😊🙏🏽x
Year and a half of no contact. What I have learned? DO NOT BE AN EMOTIONAL TRASHCAN of your ex, work work work on yourself, and eventually you will find someone better, and if you ex reaches out, maybe you will find out you do not want your ex anymore. People do not change, is not that simple, people just become a better version of themselves.
@@IdentityIAm111 nope, humans are beings of habits, I have the same character that made me the guy I am, and always been. I cannot change that, What I have fixed is the way I react to situations of life. Still me
People have patterns. If they screwed you over, they screwed over 10 people before you the exact same way. Their emotions change though, if someone said they want nothing to do with you, chances are they won't feel that way in 3 months if you shared a good bond. If they truly never cared for you or were using you then it's likely there were not real feelings to rekindle anyway. Some people just go around using people, don't get that confused with someone who really cares.
Two months after my breakup, NC worked and my ex called me. I wasn't able to answer. Then 3 months after that, he called again and I reached back through text. Sadly he didn't take that opportunity to keep communication going, maybe he's not ready or maybe he never will contact me again. But I'm adding this comment to shine some light on some people who are still in dispair. Your ex will eventually reach out. Will you get back together? There's no way to know. But thank you Craig and Margaret for all your advice.
@@CoachCraigKenneth I did, Craig, I'm not just here for the cherries on top, you know how much I wanna make this work xx Thank you for all the info, it's worth so much
Dear Craig, you are the best relationship coach. I am from India. My English is not very good, still I have watched your many videos. I am impressed by your way of giving suggestions and of course your smile. I had a romantic relationship since dec 19. After 3 months my partner became mute without telling me any reason. This broke me. Then I had watched your videos. And now I am happy with myself. I am following no contact. During this period I have learnt car driving, which was my dream. I have become very confident and positive. This all only because of you. You are the real hero.
This chanel really helps me I got block from my x over 2 years Just when i like some 1 new They my x secretly stocking me in hidden mode. When they finally know your in to some 1 new that's when they pop up out of no where.. by that time they try to be in your life... is when you lost all feelings Keep it up Craig it really helps me for the past 1 year with your chanel. And for thos who think it wont work it do. 100%
My ex threatened to call the police on me when we broke up. Five months of NC and he reached out to me! Not only did he reach out, he started stalking me. We never got back together though and he finally stopped driving by my house and accidentally running into me. I wouldn't call that a turnaround but his feelings changed drastically from avoidance to high interest, so feelings change all the time but it takes time and patience.
@@plusultra5735 Depends on the person. I didn't think I'd ever hear from him. However, all I wanted to do was talk and he stonewalled me, I escalated the discussion by accusing him of cheating, was swearing and yelling a lot, texting way too much and starting arguments to get a reaction -- this was in about a 24 hour period. He really overracted by threatening me with law enforcement. He didn't have anything, they would have told him to stop wasting their time. At that point I went no contact. I got drunk once and texted some stuff a few weeks after the incident but luckily my phone number was blocked.
@@Andromeda_M31 oh i mean she didn't call the cops or nothing, i just overpursued to the point i got blocked from social media, was a while ago, only thing i heard was a missed call at 6am which she apparently didn't know happened.
Wow the comments down here is insane. Just want to thank Craig and Margaret and everyone in the comments section sharing their success stories! I am going through a breakup at the moment and have been up and down! This is giving me so much hope and inspiration. Been working on myself for over 6 weeks now and needless to say, if I were to choose to be broken up with again, I would. Because the growth and the changes I have made within myself and the realisation of what I need to work on, was WORTH the breakup. Win win situation if you truly work on yourself! I have been binge listening to Craig's podcasts in the car, at work and in the morning and night. I have also bought his workbooks 1-10 and working through them at the moment. I am so determined to be the best, most happiest and strongest person now, mentally and physically! Good luck to everyone who is also going through a breakup. The pain we are all feeling now is a HUGE GIFT if we let it be
This stuff worked! My girlfriend ghosted me. I did no contact and more importantly did not beg or use logic when she said she wanted to be friends. 20 days later no contact she sends a text saying “I hope you are well.” I replied “I am. Thank you. How about grabbing a bite to eat?” She replied “Sure. This weekend?” I then gave her a time and place and she said “sounds good.” If she would have said that time would not work and did not give me an alternate time/date I would have said “Ok, well give me a call when you can.” Date is this Saturday.
I believe that feelings DO CHANGE. There are some feelings that are “phases“, especially the ones that change in weeks or months. These feelings are tricky because they can be impulsive with the trigger of a very significant moment or major event in one’s life. Therefore the result of this change may be drastic but is not deep enough. I believe feelings truly EVOLVE over time especially with years, especially when apart. These types of evolved feelings can trigger an incredible growth and a renewed perception/vision etc.
I just want to say i follow you on Instagram and Twitter, as well as here. I’ve also bought your work book series. I’m obsessed with your videos I learn something every time. I just want to say thank you so much for being my solace every time I need it. It’s always made me feel better. I wish I could video chat with you but I don’t have the money for it. Again thank you for the videos you post with just you and with you and Margaret. You both are amazing !
I m going through tough time and i believe my bf will come back soon. Hope nd positive mindset s very important and we are human beings. Decision nd feelings are not permanent. Thank you Craig and Margaret 💕 From India.
Ah this is so brilliant! My father died in a car accident and the last time I saw him alive we had a fight - I really freak out when people end a relationship and cut me off because to me that's like death. I have recognised this about myself so am aware of my responses and that it's not rational but boy oh boy.
Love you Coach C.K. keep up ur good work. U have helped me and others through our difficult times. It is a great help knowing that you speak exactly on what we are all feeling and going through and what the next steps forward in a turbulent time of confusion and high emotional dysregulation are. The empathy that exudes from both you and Coach M makes me connected to you on a deeper level intellectually and emotionally...Even though you are loved by all Coach, watching your videos feels like you are directly addressing EVERYTHING I have done in my situation from the unattractive behavior, how and why to stop it, the different attachment behavioral styles to keeping strong in your no contact stage...this has guided me and millions of others in our time of loss, confusion and pain. YOU HAVE BEEN THE EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL GUIDE FOR ME IN SUCH A TRANSFORMATIVE PERIOD IN MY LIFE ....That's why I love u. Thank you
My ex broke up with me one day out of the blue. Year together. She said the week before how good we were getting along. I helped her with her sons birthday party as much as I could. Set it up got pizzas for everyone. I even painted a picture of her sons favorite stuffed animal which he and everyone else absolutely loved. Then few days later she was getting her hair done and asked me if I could get the kids off the bus because she couldn’t make it. So I left work early because I was about 30 minutes away and got the kids off the bus. I wanted to be the best man I could be. The next day she said she couldn’t e my girlfriend anymore. I’m a recovering alcoholic of 6 years bought a house and have my head on straight. Been in no contact for 6 months. Just found out she moved away with her toxic ex husband who she divorced a year ago and would always complain about. I’m absolutely blown away. Disgusted is much better way to put it. I think I need a coaching with you.
After 3 months of the break up (She broke up with me) we started kinda speaking and we said to meet up next week for drinks... Do you think its something significant?
I’m 2.5 weeks into a break up and the pain is immense . . . Starting to work on myself and seeing a therapist for the first time this week to see why I shut down during tough times and when I say tough I don’t mean anything that couldn’t be worked out via a convo (there was no infidelity or anything even close to that, 98% of our relationship was amazing and 2% was “eh”) but I shut down easily and it was a red flag to her that if I shut down during a point that isn’t that bad, what would happen with bigger issues in the future? I can see where she was coming from. I’m going to do everything I can to be the man that she fell in love with and bring out the potential man that she saw in me. This isn’t the end for her and I. We were brought together for a reason and I know it was to be together forever.
Feelings are only temporary. My ex said we're done. We're separate. Five months later she came back. We've been on dates, texts me everyday, the whole Shabang! I followed coach Kenneth's advice by watching his videos. Worked on myself. Improved my finance, education, and a new outlook on life. We're not 100% but better. And this is our second breakup 😆😆😆
Bryan Arroza no. It was the same amount of time in both breakups. Five months. Both times, I watched coach Craig. I worked on myself and found the strength to fight the urge to call her. I had to respect her decision to leave. And twice the Shit blew back in her face
What about if the split was a mutual decision and then you realise that you have made a mistake 3 months after splitting? You have seen many of the areas where you was going wrong and you also learn that your ex has an Avoidant Attachment and it explains many many things to you and you also see where you were making them worse by your own behaviours....... What does one do in this situation 🤷🏼♂️ all these videos are about couples where one has been dumped by the other
I know feelings change and I believe you and in that. I should just wait until she reaches out Christmas time or our anniversary and not to send any apology/accountability texts, which I did and I shouldn’t have, but a weight felt it got lifted off my shoulders. We broke up 5 months ago and we’ve been together for over 5 years. I miss her so much!
I can understand that person's pain with a breakup. My girlfriend and I were long distance, and day after my dad's 13 year anniversary on the 16th december she wanted a break.. My emotions were very high before she even told me that, and it felt like a kick in the guts for getting me while I was already down. emotionally.
My ex broke up with me like 5 times, every single one he said he was donde with me but he eventually came back, but... he broke up with me once again, 2 months ago, should i expect he will come back this time? probably he wont come back again, i did my best to make it work, but he wasnt there. Even if you work on yourself and the other person doesnt, it wont work if they come back, this time the NC is harder but i will stay away from him, to heal, i should kill hope as soon as possible.
My ex used to do that all the time. In hindsight it's a control tactic until one day (months later) you don't reach out to coddle them, and their stubborness won't allow them to come forward and apologize. Their loss if they can't handle a relationship, they don't deserve one.
I think you should also check out Adrienne Everheart's channel. She gives great advice and guidance with being a feminine woman and how we are better off embracing femininity by having high standards and making the men chase after you. You deserve a man who wont play with your heart and play games. There is a man out there with everything you want, keep your standards high. You deserve a good man
@@Demi.d3mi thank you, ill look for those videos. I really wish i could see what is gonna happen, idk if he will reach out or not, it makes me feel afraid an vulnerable to even think on that possibility but it could happen... thank you again.
I would imagine he will return again or try to get you to respond in some fashion. Something that helped me to cope with this kind of treatment was looking up videos on Narcissists. The channel Inner Integration is pretty good as far as going into that personality type more. It’s pretty manipulative no matter how conscious the other person is of how they do it or not. At first I was sad and pissed off at my ex for seeming to always sabotage things whenever they were going well, but- now I just feel kind of bad for her that intimacy and closeness freaks her out that much. Oh well.
I’m sorry to say I am 100% sure I fall under the never hear from them again camp. Her anger towards my stupid actions where to much, she had given me to many chances and had every right to dump my ass and I truly don’t blame her if her life is just 100% better without me. I lied to much and she deserves better. I will spend the rest of my days trying to make amends to myself for loosing her by my own actions. She won’t reach out and I am trying to accept this every day but it’s so hard to live life minus her enhancing my days. It’s just hollow and empty now. 5 months NC, therapy, work books, new everything and Nothing is helping at all. Everyday is a fresh hell of my own making.
What if during the breakup they said they don't see a future and they are never going to marry you. (This after getting back together). Then 7 months after breakup they say they want nothing to do with you and end up blocking you? And yes, my anxiety got the better of me and I kept texting after they said give it up, I didn't and that's why I was blocked. Ppl plz follow Coach Margaret and Coach Craig's advice to avoid the pain I'm in currently. This seems absolutely hopeless.
Im waiting 3-4 weeks then its time to move on. I put in so much effort with my gf and 2 children. She became very distant and acting strange leading up to the breakup which got my anxiety sky high. I acted like a dick. She used it against me. After a year she has ended it saying she doesnt want to lead me on. Im not a bad guy. She is an avoidant attachment style and i have become anxious through her actions. But am fine now she has left. I am gutted things have turned out this was as i loved her and the kids but feel i was getting taken gor granted. Time to go NC.
I’ve not heard from her once in nearly two years. And it’s been over three since she broke up with me. Why does she still cross my mind? Not every day anymore, but more often than should be the case. I just wish I could forget about her altogether. Obviously she’s forgotten about me. I’m really not sure why she still crosses my mind. It doesn’t make any sense.
Hey Coach! Just recently split with my gf of 2 years, it’s been 3 days of no contact but her parents have been texting me and her father asked if I could/want to go to church with him. Is this appropriate/fair to her? Im in a real pickle... I want this no contact thing to work and not screw it up, does no contact extend to the family? Thank you coach, love your vids, I’m a recent subscriber but you’ve opened my eyes and given me good insight, keep preaching it!!
Day 13 and it really hurts. Almost today I was so close to break no contact. Day 12 (yesterday)I was feeling " omg I am ok, I am not upset and tomorrow I will be better" wow I can't believe how I can be worse than yesterday. I thought I will get better day by day.
I heard from her 2yrs after the divorce, one month prior to her announcing her relationship with a guy she was going out 6 months after she ended our marriage...she reached out a couple of times after as well, I don't know what to make of it anymore..
My ex told me she never wanted to speak to me again, we dated for seven years, and I’ve been working on myself, and I decided to walk away, and let time heal those wounds..... I was in and out of no contact for awhile, made every mistake possible!! Guess what, we spoke yesterday, and today.... I asked her out, and she said.... maybe someday.... but I’m doing what I need to, showing her that I don’t need her, I chose her! She was my everything!! But she left me, and I know that we’re gonna work it out, but you need to help yourself, be better yourself, and they will see and decide....
Watch some of his videos on making them do the work to come to you, especially if they broke up with you. Like the first 3 times they have to ask you out and you make zero effort, this makes them value what they work for.
Andromeda, I watched pretty much all his videos, I went back into no contact yet again, she’ll contact me like she always does, in about 3-4 days, and then it’ll start all over again, she stalks my FB page everyday, and this past Sunday she told me “someday maybe” we can get together.... I’m still doing me, I was desperate before, now I’m kinda like... eh, she’ll come around and when she does, it It might be too late..... I love her deeply, but I don’t need her, I chose her.... she’s either in, or she’s out....
Brother let me tell you, she's coming back and you better be ready. If you're not, she's gone again and you probably won't get another swing at the plate Women hate having their time wasted
Yeah feelings change, but what if your ex you want back is a narcasist and a borderline personality disorder, how do you deal with that one?... any insights how to live with that on your mind
I'm a lil shaken but glad he's doing well. His niece told me he's distancing himself from others but seem alot better. Not as depressed. Just bored. This was a ldr 3 years relationship n broke off with me six months ago. No contact since. What do I do....... That he is still silent. Is there no hope. Been working on myself, my work my art and everything is going well.
My ex and I were very happy, we were head over heels for each other. After a span of three weeks, he got moody and stressed because he was overwhelmed with school and other things going on in his life. It looked like he was having a mini life crisis type of situation. He told me he no longer loved me and couldn't handle our relationship anymore. Do you think its possible to just fall out of love like that in just a couple weeks? Or do you think that he lied to hide how he really felt because he didn't want to look weak and emotional? Is there hope that once his life calms down that he'll realize that it was a rough time and he made that choice rashly, and he'll realize how much he really cares for me?
A month and 3 weeks later she still says she doesn’t see us getting back together and she doesn’t feel that way too,she had this indifferent vibe when we talked last,we dated for 2 years long distance,she said she lost feelings for me and I took her for granted sometimes,I can’t eat or sleep right,have nightmares of her with other people and reliving the moment she broke up with me,is there still hope for me?i just feel stuck please help..
It’s been 7 months and mine just came back around. He’s not saying he wants to get back together the way we were. He seems to be suggesting casual dating. It’s hard but I’m trying to sit back and be patient and see what he does.
My ex didn't say he is never taking me back but i am sure he thinks the grass is greener on the other side and he also said he loves me but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me because he is not emotionally available now
Paulo. Hang in there. It hurts now. I know. Going through it myself. But understand the best day of your life hasn’t happened yet. So what’s right for you. Put a smile on your own face and watch that best day show up. It’ll happen.
@eye behiding Definitely focus on yourself, that's the key. It's actually ok to be alone for awhile. Try not to use dating as an excuse to move on because getting into a relationship too quick like that is not good. There's a power in knowing you don't need someone to complete you. Take it easy and love yourself first before you can seek out a commitment.
Craig, what do you think about getting an ex back who left you not because of emotions that were high at the time, but that they made a logical decision based on you two not working after 5 years of arguing over value differences and also wanting km live in different states?
This doesn’t really have anything to do with feelings changing. But more rebounds. We were in a 6 month relationship and never really had a bad relationship. My attachment got the best of me and he felt smothered. Overall we had a decent relationship. He left one day with no warning. Over text. Two days later started talking to this new girl and a week later started dating. They have been dating 2 weeks and both are already saying they love each other. Could this be a rebound? She was cheated on by his best friend barely 2 months earlier. I know there’s no definite answer to this but if it’s a rebound how long could you see this lasting? I’m trying to stay strong cause I love him and miss him a ton. Im trying each day to make myself better and work on my attachment issues. Im adopted and have a big issue with abandonment. And my adoptive family caused me a lot of trauma along with every guy I’ve dated (emotional, physical, mental abuse). I’m going to a therapist about my past trauma, going to the gym, and making new friends. Just trying to change into a happier person. I would love another chance with him which I know won’t happen right now but I’m losing hope each day that I will get that chance.
MJ573 I have looked at them and watched multiple rebound relationship videos. Read multiple articles. But I know from all the videos it sounds like a rebound but we never know for sure. Just wanted everyone’s opinion on what they thought from personal experience.
im just confused... she broke up with me buT wanted to keep the friendshp, and still msgs me, calling me by our endearment's nick. should i ask her to get back together with me?
Ik she will never come back and idk even want her in my life... But it hurts that someone can change in a really short span of time.... I never expected this from her it's kind of shocking for me but i believe in karma One day she will also go through the same pain...
Oh of course exes reach out, recently one of my exes all of a sudden asked me if I could change my schedule so I could study with her, anyways great video as always, since I've found you guys, the nonsense "advices" are gone 😆🔥👌
He reached out after 4 weeks. We had a huge fight (not going in detail, long story) but in that fight he said he misses me and can’t stand the idea of me being with someone else... so I told him how I felt that I still love him. Now he is cold and ignoring. Will no contact work again? Will he reach out again?
Your mistake is blurting out your feelings of you still loving him. Just go back into no contact, and if he reaches out, keep it light and simple, sweet and short. Try to arrange to meet, or go out and just be fun and flirty. Make him remember why he loved you! Do not give anything away in terms of how u feel! Coz maybe he just called to make sure you're not over him, and then he got his satisfaction and ghosted you again
I told to her if you are mad angry at me dont decide to break up with me and like you said coach what she said to me...i walk away ignore her and go to no contact when i post in facebook she call and message me so many times and what she wanted to leave her alone i respect what she want to...i want a longterm relationship if she still rude and mean to me its better to find someone new rather than to treat her like a queen but she treat me like a weak walk away but if she will change sincere to me iam just only human to give another chance
Hi coach Craig, I lied and hide that I still had contact with my ex ex girl friend and went on 2 trips with her and other friends. We didn’t have any feelings for each other, was just close friends. My ex found out and left and said she doesn’t want to ever see me again. She was insanely in love with me tho, she thought I was the perfect guy and we were trying to get marry in the future. Is there still a chance?
Reading the comments I feel like I'm in "good" situation here. My BU was 5 months ago and I'm blocked now on whatsapp only (second time) but before that she was initiating contact via indirect messages to the point where she said "lets meet and see if we enjoy spending time together". We've actually never met after the BU but compared to others here I feel that I got chances.
Im in a hard situation and need need help. Me a and my gf of 7 years broke up 2 weeks ago. We were on and off. She told me she didn’t care anymore. She felt indifferent. She didn’t care about the relationship anymore and she wasn’t mad or upset. She just didn’t care but still care about me. I treated her good and I may be needy and over pursuit her at times but sometimes I show like I was indifferent but inside I care a lot. Not sure what to do. Can feeling really change if someone feel indifferent?
My ex (4.5 months) has sent me a like on Facebook messenger. I think she messed up, but at least it means she's stalking me/reading old conversation. 10 days ago she watched the first story i posted in 3 months about my favourite trumpet player. I guess it's a mistake and thus I shouldn't contact her. And if it was intentional I feel like it's not enough direct to be an indirect/direct approach. I have been really avoidant in the last 6 months of our 5 years relationship, I fear that she's wanting me to take a step in? What are you insight people? Should I break no contact?
PtiDopSax no don’t do it. I made that mistake when I saw my ex-friend watching my stories on Insta. It doesn’t help. It does mean they are interested though. I believe if you keep waiting and don’t reach out they will soon
My ex broke up with me the last week of April of this year. Wanting a break and space. During those next two weeks we saw each other probably once or twice. I never contacted her first. She was the one to contact me. She then went cold. Two weeks later she hits me up asking if I wanted to get something to eat with her. I agreed to it. I feel that we both had a good time during the hours we spent together. She would kinda bring up some old memories. And we laughed. I was cool, calm, and collected the whole time I was with her. At the end when I dropped her off she said she had a great time and that she would hit me up again. I told her to text me when she had got home safe. She did. I then said “Hey if you ever want to hang out again we can chill” maybe I messed up by saying that to her?? It’s been two weeks since I’ve heard from her.
I don’t think I’m ever gonna hear form my ex. I knew it from the beginning and lost all hope long time ago. And I’m saying it not because I’m bitter or still feel bad. No, it’s because I was listening carefully what he was saying about his exs. He has never contacted any of them. He wanted and always regretted but never could bring himself to contact them. Oh well:) too bad for him.
I paid for an email coaching and at first I thought I was wasting my money or that I was going to get a short respond that wasn’t really going to help me, but let me tell you that I WAS WRONG. I was in a horrible situation where my boyfriend broke up with me and started dating RIGHT AWAY someone way older than us, I explained everything to coach Craig and he really took the time to give me all the answers I needed at that time. He never told me “yes you’re going to get him back” he was honest about everything and told me how to handle the situation. Happy to say that he was right about everything he said about my relationship and my boyfriend. He came back to me saying how sorry he was and we started watching Craig’s videos to improve our RS. This was one year ago and me and my boyfriend are still in a WAY healthier relationship.
Thank you for sharing that ❤️💪
@@CoachCraigKenneth can you record somw video for girls how to get ex back after long period 3years of broke up just seeing causal (sex). Thank you for every video and your wisdom! 💓
Kellyn Moscoso so awesome
Wow thank you so much for sharing!!
Love this ❤️
Whenever I start to feel hopeless, I tell myself that I have to stop focusing on what he’s doing/not doing and just have faith because the universe works in crazy ways. Walk by faith, not by sight
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Thank you Adriana...that was very encouraging to me...it hits me right where I'm at!
God works in mysterious ways.🙃
So good!
@@terrisouder4521 ur ex came back?
11 months ago the man I spent 25 years with, up and left. He told me that he was done and I made him miserable. I was shocked and extremely upset. I begged and pleaded for him to stay but he told me nothing I said could make him stay, he was done. We have 3 kids together too. I felt so alone and confused when he left. He wouldn’t even talk to me, it was like I didn’t even exist. How the hell could he of all people do this to me? I spent a month laying in bed crying. I am self employed so thank goodness I didn’t have to get up and go to work everyday cause I wouldn’t have been able to do it. He barely called, maybe once a month to check on the kids, and when he did, he was cold to me. I found out that he had another woman before he even left my house and that just destroyed me. The thought of another woman taking my place made me physically ill. I gave him my life, how could he just walk away from me like that? All I wanted to do was find someone else to help take the pain away but I decided that I just had to go through it. I needed to work on myself and that’s exactly what I did. I’d wake up in the morning and the first thing I’d do was cry and then I’d get up and give life my best. During the time that he was gone, I bought a brand new car, managed to save $20,000 and I bought my first house all by myself. Those are all things that I couldn’t do while I was with him. I was scared to do all this on my own but I did it. Well guess who’s back?? He’s been calling me for about 2 months. He begs me to let him come home. He hates the girl he’s with and realizes that it wasn’t me who made him miserable, it was him doing it. He wants to marry me and spent the rest of his life with me. Guess what else?? I’m all set!! I told him there’s no way in hell I’d ever let him come back after what I went through. That was the deepest pain I’ve ever felt and I had to go through it alone. I’ve decided that I’m very happy being alone and I plan to stay alone for a while. I’ve accomplished quite a bit in the almost year that he’s been gone and I’m not done yet. I’m not done working on myself and I’m not done growing into this new life I’m making. Letting him come back would only send me back to where I was and I don’t want that.
The pain after a break up IS DEVASTATING and I know that firsthand, but I also know how beautiful it can be once you get through it. If you’re hurting then let yourself feel the hurt. Remember, the only way out, is through. But most of all, remember that it won’t last forever. Love yourself more than you love the thought of someone that decided they didn’t want to be with you. Words are powerful and never forget what they said when they left. They showed their true colors so pay attention. You deserve the best so don’t settle for less. I will never allow my ex back into my life. I remember begging him to stay and begging him not to leave me. Crying like a baby as I begged. Never again, I’m worth so much more and so are you!! Let them go and work on YOU
Kim Kim ,I agree the pain is unimaginable. Never will I go thru something like that again.
Congratulations on the new car and house! You are a role model for others in terms of empowering oneself and making positive changes and improving your lifestyle. Despite such pain, you have been very strong.
davy boy thank you so much! I’ve never been so proud of myself :)
Violets thank you! This has not been easy, but it has been so worth it. Him leaving was the best thing that ever could have happened. It was the one thing that I didn’t know I needed and there’s no turning back now :)
Good for you! Do you think he was having a midlife crisis? I've seen this before, they completely ruin their lives and dump everyone who was loyal to them. They act like rebellious teenagers.
It seems to me that there is something every dumper lacks and which is also probably one of the most important factors in successful relationships.....COMMUNICATION.
Yet you rarely see forums or RUclips discussions about this.
Many dumpers lack that very basic skill and in many cases expect the dumpee to read their mind. Just a thought
S A so true! I think if most people were honest about what they want in a relationship and tried to work on things, it would save so many relationships being broken down and lost. We’re not mind readers and it can be hard to know unless the other person tells us what they really want in the relationship.
Absolutely, and then they wonder why the person they discarded has so many questions.
Exactly!
Yes my ex gf does,not communicate and expects u to read her mind
Most ingenious reply
I left a girl by choice 2 months ago. She was not happy with my decision but did not fight me over it and gave me the break up. I went out to experience the reasons i left and realized 4 weeks later that i made a major mistake by leaving. In those first 3-4 weeks, i didnt question it. So yes, feelings can change, ive been regretting this for 5 weeks now.
Keep your head up and trust the information that these coaches give.
Jimmy D any update?
Text her
But did you go back?
You gotta reach out to her
Why does nobody ever reply on here? What happened? Did you get back with her or let her know you regretted leaving?
Sometimes people just need time and space to heal, sometimes all it really takes it's time, but feelings do change, people change.
"People change"
How?
@eye behiding people never change! Unless it's a huge situation in life!
They have to see the end in front of ther faces!
Its not even logic.. How can I change my my character?
All I do is learn and maybe have some new skills here and ther..
But never a mature change
I believe, Erika K, I believe. ♡
My ex just reached out to me a few days ago saying she misses me terribly after 4 months of NC. She left me for someone else and I'm not letting my guard down without her trying her harder to get my attention than just a text or two.
Stay emotionally centred guys! Love yourself before loving someone else
Rip Coach Marget Foley, you were really something else. A true blessing in everyones lives despite not being able to connect with everyone she's helped. She doesn't know just how much of an angel she is ♥♥♥
Listen guys: it does get better over time. It’s been 4 months since my boyfriend broke up with me and I can’t tell you how anxious, heartbroken and desperate I was at the beginning of this process. Not gonna lie, it still hurts and I’m still hoping for the day he reaches out, BUT I’ve been going to therapy, taking care of myself, going out with friends and family and of course watching Craig’s videos daily and holy cow, these things help A LOT.
Keep working on yourself, you can’t control what they do or what goes through their mind, you’re gonna have good and bad times during the process but each day that passes you become a better, stronger and more attractive version of yourself.
If I get a success story I’ll let you know.
DON’T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!
Have they reached out to you yet?
any update?
Any news? And how are you now 🙂
Serena updates?
I hope margaret lives another 100 years. The world needs people like her!
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She is now an angel who earned her wings. I so miss her.
I really mourn for her. I hope she is happy where she is. Rest in peace Margaret.
I have a success story. On August 18th my wife left and said we were through, that we were NEVER getting back together. I watched Coach Craig's videos, utilized no contact, and she came back a little over two weeks ago and things have NEVER been better. Thanks Coach Craig, and all of you heart broken out there, have faith-dreams DO come true,
What was the cause of the breakup and for how much time was she gone
@@Luminous.Dynamics he won't answer, they never ever do 🤷🏼♂️
@@TheBaldyheed
Its all good. I dont even remember the reason why I commented on this guys comment
I can honestly tell you that my long distance ex girlfriend exhibited every behavior and stages during the break up Craig and Margaret explained would happen in most cases. We are back together after 4 months. Behaviors...she was cold and wanted to block me. Told me there was no chance. She came back after no contact in an indirect manner. And now she says she loves me, words I thought I would never hear. She told me that my contacting her in the beginning made her angry and definitely delayed her contacting me in the future. She said she dated two guys during the break up but they were not the same as me. She said she thought of me every day and presents I gave her reminded her of me. In closing I would say no contact was the best thing I did to get another chance with her. It gave her time to think and imagine a life without me. No contact was also the hardest thing I have ever done but I wish I would have started it earlier in the break up. Stay strong and watch Coach Craig and Margaret, they truly know how to give your relationship the best chance to be reconciled.
Are you still together ?
Two months ago i was a wreck and desperate to have him back, now i am taking back my power, embracing my femininity, and have a positive outlook that i will be with an amazing man when God allows it.
I got my ex back after 9 months of no contact , Thanks a lot Margaret and Craig , I beleived in you both . you really changed my life.
If you want to send me an email of your story I will share
I did :) , Thank you again Craig
I would like to hear!
it's a long story , and I can't write it here :)
You are right, me and my ex just get together again because it was unpleasant situation to me 5 months back. Today he seem as if we just met for the first time in our life. Thank you coach Craig and Margaret, your world help me so much every i started listening to your videos
It definitely does happen. My ex reached out to me after 4 months and again a month later on my birthday but by that stage i’d realised in hindsight the relationship wasn’t healthy and I’d also moved on and met someone else. But hang in there guys and always remember to focus on yourself and grow. You can’t control what your ex does but you can control your own life and make changes in yourself.
Good video. My ex dropped me like a hot potato. Did mean things and tried to be hurtful to me. She made comments on social media that were hurtful. I ignored them and chose to fix myself. She even went as far as getting married 2 months after we split. Still I looked at it like wth ever. Now a few months later, guess who’s making up excuses to contact me? Even came to see me... with out her new spouse. So feelings do change. Often they change into regret and sorrow and the ever famous “oh crap the grass over here is not really greener it is full of dog crap” feeling . So, hang in there if that’s what you feel you should do. Work on YOU. Do the best for yourself. And ignore all the crap from the person who felt they could do better than you. You’re the best they ever had. Eventually they either wake up and realize that or they wallow in the dog crap. Either way, you’re better for the experience. Do YOU.
They come back. I did a lot of failures, like calling in the middle of the night and a lot more. She said never to call her again. But at some point she reached out, about a photo of me and my grandfather that she still had. She came over to my new place. She forgot the photo 3 times in a row. I guess you understand what I am trying to say. Thank you so much Coach, I learned a lot about my Childhood and the pain I was dealing with. There is always hope!
The only RUclips channel I trust with my heart's well being ❤
Thank you! Be sure to share us with friends and family 🙏
1. Living in the present moment
2. Got myself a new education
3. Watching you guys
4. Meditation every morning and evening
I don’t sit and wait for her to come back. But if she does, I’m ready
I’ll be fine.
And so will you, you’re doing great.
Thanks. I needed this comment today.
Peyton Hall I fon’t know you but I think you’re wonderful. Hope you’ve a great day.
Update?
Remember guys and gals
Focus on what you want. Focus on what changes you want to make and do what you can to make them happen. We're all in this together and this community is strong. I believe in you all. And Remember most importantly to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
So many people are so focused on their ex instead of the changes. Then when their ex comes back their skill level really hasn’t really improved or they blow it with new people.
Thanks
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I've heard it many times, before. but by giving space, making changes, being patient and compassionate I've reconnected. As long as I had a valid reason and that I decided it was what I wanted.
Binge watching! Literally have your videos playing day and night especially when I think of reaching out. No contact!!!!
I got a new tattoo on my forearm that says "we accept the love we think we deserve" to remind myself everyday that I am worth more than he's willing to give.
Go you!! I have one in Latin that says not all injuries are visible, it comes from a first responder/ptsd background but I’m the same it reminds me of where I’ve been and where I’m headed
True honestly, I ended on worst terms imaginable, bumped into her while she was working yesterday was lighthearted and later that day she hit me with an indirect/direct that spilled into today.
When Margret mentions how if a parent left and never came back it makes it harder to hope things will ever turn around it's so true, I felt so cynical until hearing it articulated like that 🙌
This was huge
My ex said I had to move on, thinking of him and messaging all the time will not help me to move on. So I stopped right away doing it, I felt ashamed. But after 2 weeks he started asking me how things going and hey you, asking different stuff and trying to recalled our past memories. I'm still so hurt after 4 months but trying my best for myself, hitting the gym all the time and concentrating on my work and listening to coach Craig videos every day. Telling me he will come visit here and asking if i can help him to join the gym. Thanks a lot Craig you made me feel so much better now ❤
Thank you so much for this video ❤️ my fiancé broke off our engagement 4 months ago & my heart still feels shattered. I get up everyday & keep trying to better myself, take it day by day. Living by faith everyday that someday it will all be okay again 🙏🏼
Prayers up to you Victoria. Sending positive thoughts your way.
CP thank you so much 🙏🏼
So sorry
Chase Sebastian thank you so much 5 months later & I’m moved on & found someone better ♥️
Oh dang!!
Thank you Craig and Margaret I am back with my partner after 3 months we will be working on our relationship, taking our time , talking and embracing our new future x I did NC and he reached out we have both strong and admitted our faults, emotionally physically hard year we both lost our dads within a month x I started to listen to you Craig in those painful months and you gave me comfort NC dies work if you are to be together xx thank you so much 😊🙏🏽x
Year and a half of no contact. What I have learned? DO NOT BE AN EMOTIONAL TRASHCAN of your ex, work work work on yourself, and eventually you will find someone better, and if you ex reaches out, maybe you will find out you do not want your ex anymore. People do not change, is not that simple, people just become a better version of themselves.
That IS change
@@IdentityIAm111 nope, humans are beings of habits, I have the same character that made me the guy I am, and always been. I cannot change that, What I have fixed is the way I react to situations of life. Still me
People have patterns. If they screwed you over, they screwed over 10 people before you the exact same way. Their emotions change though, if someone said they want nothing to do with you, chances are they won't feel that way in 3 months if you shared a good bond. If they truly never cared for you or were using you then it's likely there were not real feelings to rekindle anyway. Some people just go around using people, don't get that confused with someone who really cares.
Two months after my breakup, NC worked and my ex called me. I wasn't able to answer. Then 3 months after that, he called again and I reached back through text. Sadly he didn't take that opportunity to keep communication going, maybe he's not ready or maybe he never will contact me again. But I'm adding this comment to shine some light on some people who are still in dispair. Your ex will eventually reach out. Will you get back together? There's no way to know. But thank you Craig and Margaret for all your advice.
Por qué Maria?? 😝
Oh Craig and Margaret, I'm praying 😩 ❤️ Thank you for being there
It’s a shame so few people watched our recent video on Borderline personality disorder
@@CoachCraigKenneth I did, Craig, I'm not just here for the cherries on top, you know how much I wanna make this work xx Thank you for all the info, it's worth so much
Dear Craig, you are the best relationship coach. I am from India. My English is not very good, still I have watched your many videos. I am impressed by your way of giving suggestions and of course your smile. I had a romantic relationship since dec 19. After 3 months my partner became mute without telling me any reason. This broke me. Then I had watched your videos. And now I am happy with myself. I am following no contact. During this period I have learnt car driving, which was my dream. I have become very confident and positive. This all only because of you. You are the real hero.
This chanel really helps me
I got block from my x over 2 years
Just when i like some 1 new
They my x secretly stocking me in hidden mode. When they finally know your in to some 1 new that's when they pop up out of no where.. by that time they try to be in your life... is when you lost all feelings
Keep it up Craig it really helps me for the past 1 year with your chanel. And for thos who think it wont work it do. 100%
My ex threatened to call the police on me when we broke up. Five months of NC and he reached out to me! Not only did he reach out, he started stalking me. We never got back together though and he finally stopped driving by my house and accidentally running into me. I wouldn't call that a turnaround but his feelings changed drastically from avoidance to high interest, so feelings change all the time but it takes time and patience.
Do you think women can change their minds if i was in the same situation as u?
@@plusultra5735 Depends on the person. I didn't think I'd ever hear from him. However, all I wanted to do was talk and he stonewalled me, I escalated the discussion by accusing him of cheating, was swearing and yelling a lot, texting way too much and starting arguments to get a reaction -- this was in about a 24 hour period. He really overracted by threatening me with law enforcement. He didn't have anything, they would have told him to stop wasting their time. At that point I went no contact. I got drunk once and texted some stuff a few weeks after the incident but luckily my phone number was blocked.
@@plusultra5735 Really depends what happened for them to call the cops. Some people have zero tolerance for aggression.
@@Andromeda_M31 oh i mean she didn't call the cops or nothing, i just overpursued to the point i got blocked from social media, was a while ago, only thing i heard was a missed call at 6am which she apparently didn't know happened.
@@plusultra5735 yes she could talk to you again after that. I had someone do that to me and we're still friends, after a few months of cooling off.
Wow the comments down here is insane. Just want to thank Craig and Margaret and everyone in the comments section sharing their success stories! I am going through a breakup at the moment and have been up and down! This is giving me so much hope and inspiration. Been working on myself for over 6 weeks now and needless to say, if I were to choose to be broken up with again, I would. Because the growth and the changes I have made within myself and the realisation of what I need to work on, was WORTH the breakup. Win win situation if you truly work on yourself! I have been binge listening to Craig's podcasts in the car, at work and in the morning and night. I have also bought his workbooks 1-10 and working through them at the moment. I am so determined to be the best, most happiest and strongest person now, mentally and physically! Good luck to everyone who is also going through a breakup. The pain we are all feeling now is a HUGE GIFT if we let it be
This stuff worked! My girlfriend ghosted me. I did no contact and more importantly did not beg or use logic when she said she wanted to be friends. 20 days later no contact she sends a text saying “I hope you are well.” I replied “I am. Thank you. How about grabbing a bite to eat?” She replied “Sure. This weekend?” I then gave her a time and place and she said “sounds good.” If she would have said that time would not work and did not give me an alternate time/date I would have said “Ok, well give me a call when you can.” Date is this Saturday.
Hey!! It's a year later 🤣 how did the date go? 🙂
I believe that feelings DO CHANGE. There are some feelings that are “phases“, especially the ones that change in weeks or months. These feelings are tricky because they can be impulsive with the trigger of a very significant moment or major event in one’s life. Therefore the result of this change may be drastic but is not deep enough. I believe feelings truly EVOLVE over time especially with years, especially when apart. These types of evolved feelings can trigger an incredible growth and a renewed perception/vision etc.
Your videos always teach me something and make me feel better - without fail! Thank you, you’re my mood boosters!
Please respect people's wish if they tell you to leave them alone, though. Don't stalk someone.
I just want to say i follow you on Instagram and Twitter, as well as here. I’ve also bought your work book series. I’m obsessed with your videos I learn something every time. I just want to say thank you so much for being my solace every time I need it. It’s always made me feel better. I wish I could video chat with you but I don’t have the money for it. Again thank you for the videos you post with just you and with you and Margaret. You both are amazing !
I m going through tough time and i believe my bf will come back soon.
Hope nd positive mindset s very important and we are human beings.
Decision nd feelings are not permanent.
Thank you Craig and Margaret
💕 From India.
Ah this is so brilliant! My father died in a car accident and the last time I saw him alive we had a fight - I really freak out when people end a relationship and cut me off because to me that's like death. I have recognised this about myself so am aware of my responses and that it's not rational but boy oh boy.
Love you Coach C.K. keep up ur good work. U have helped me and others through our difficult times. It is a great help knowing that you speak exactly on what we are all feeling and going through and what the next steps forward in a turbulent time of confusion and high emotional dysregulation are. The empathy that exudes from both you and Coach M makes me connected to you on a deeper level intellectually and emotionally...Even though you are loved by all Coach, watching your videos feels like you are directly addressing EVERYTHING I have done in my situation from the unattractive behavior, how and why to stop it, the different attachment behavioral styles to keeping strong in your no contact stage...this has guided me and millions of others in our time of loss, confusion and pain. YOU HAVE BEEN THE EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL GUIDE FOR ME IN SUCH A TRANSFORMATIVE PERIOD IN MY LIFE ....That's why I love u. Thank you
My ex broke up with me one day out of the blue. Year together. She said the week before how good we were getting along. I helped her with her sons birthday party as much as I could. Set it up got pizzas for everyone. I even painted a picture of her sons favorite stuffed animal which he and everyone else absolutely loved. Then few days later she was getting her hair done and asked me if I could get the kids off the bus because she couldn’t make it. So I left work early because I was about 30 minutes away and got the kids off the bus. I wanted to be the best man I could be. The next day she said she couldn’t e my girlfriend anymore. I’m a recovering alcoholic of 6 years bought a house and have my head on straight. Been in no contact for 6 months. Just found out she moved away with her toxic ex husband who she divorced a year ago and would always complain about. I’m absolutely blown away. Disgusted is much better way to put it. I think I need a coaching with you.
After 3 months of the break up (She broke up with me) we started kinda speaking and we said to meet up next week for drinks... Do you think its something significant?
I’m 2.5 weeks into a break up and the pain is immense . . . Starting to work on myself and seeing a therapist for the first time this week to see why I shut down during tough times and when I say tough I don’t mean anything that couldn’t be worked out via a convo (there was no infidelity or anything even close to that, 98% of our relationship was amazing and 2% was “eh”) but I shut down easily and it was a red flag to her that if I shut down during a point that isn’t that bad, what would happen with bigger issues in the future? I can see where she was coming from. I’m going to do everything I can to be the man that she fell in love with and bring out the potential man that she saw in me. This isn’t the end for her and I. We were brought together for a reason and I know it was to be together forever.
Y’all are rockstars!! Thank you
Feelings are only temporary. My ex said we're done. We're separate. Five months later she came back. We've been on dates, texts me everyday, the whole Shabang! I followed coach Kenneth's advice by watching his videos. Worked on myself. Improved my finance, education, and a new outlook on life. We're not 100% but better. And this is our second breakup 😆😆😆
Niles Peel was 5 months longer than the first break up you guys had ?
Bryan Arroza no. It was the same amount of time in both breakups. Five months. Both times, I watched coach Craig. I worked on myself and found the strength to fight the urge to call her. I had to respect her decision to leave. And twice the Shit blew back in her face
What about if the split was a mutual decision and then you realise that you have made a mistake 3 months after splitting? You have seen many of the areas where you was going wrong and you also learn that your ex has an Avoidant Attachment and it explains many many things to you and you also see where you were making them worse by your own behaviours....... What does one do in this situation 🤷🏼♂️ all these videos are about couples where one has been dumped by the other
I know feelings change and I believe you and in that. I should just wait until she reaches out Christmas time or our anniversary and not to send any apology/accountability texts, which I did and I shouldn’t have, but a weight felt it got lifted off my shoulders. We broke up 5 months ago and we’ve been together for over 5 years. I miss her so much!
I can understand that person's pain with a breakup. My girlfriend and I were long distance, and day after my dad's 13 year anniversary on the 16th december she wanted a break.. My emotions were very high before she even told me that, and it felt like a kick in the guts for getting me while I was already down. emotionally.
❤ your videos! Margaret's awesome.
Change is the only permanent thing in the world.
Life is all about moments. One day your ex can be pissed, the next day she's asking u to meet with her. That's called crazy gentlemen.
My ex broke up with me like 5 times, every single one he said he was donde with me but he eventually came back, but... he broke up with me once again, 2 months ago, should i expect he will come back this time? probably he wont come back again, i did my best to make it work, but he wasnt there. Even if you work on yourself and the other person doesnt, it wont work if they come back, this time the NC is harder but i will stay away from him, to heal, i should kill hope as soon as possible.
My ex used to do that all the time. In hindsight it's a control tactic until one day (months later) you don't reach out to coddle them, and their stubborness won't allow them to come forward and apologize. Their loss if they can't handle a relationship, they don't deserve one.
I think you should also check out Adrienne Everheart's channel. She gives great advice and guidance with being a feminine woman and how we are better off embracing femininity by having high standards and making the men chase after you. You deserve a man who wont play with your heart and play games. There is a man out there with everything you want, keep your standards high. You deserve a good man
@@Andromeda_M31 thank you, im at a point of where idk what to do, im working on myself but i feel so afraid of not hearing from him again.... is hard.
@@Demi.d3mi thank you, ill look for those videos. I really wish i could see what is gonna happen, idk if he will reach out or not, it makes me feel afraid an vulnerable to even think on that possibility but it could happen... thank you again.
I would imagine he will return again or try to get you to respond in some fashion. Something that helped me to cope with this kind of treatment was looking up videos on Narcissists. The channel Inner Integration is pretty good as far as going into that personality type more. It’s pretty manipulative no matter how conscious the other person is of how they do it or not. At first I was sad and pissed off at my ex for seeming to always sabotage things whenever they were going well, but- now I just feel kind of bad for her that intimacy and closeness freaks her out that much. Oh well.
I did no contact, no pleading, no begging. My ex never called me back. It's been more than a year now. Just for statistics...
Im sorry
NC still?
@@summerscents8284 Yep:) You?
@@lithop8984 Been 4 months for me. Still healing. Some days are better.
@@summerscents8284 it'll get much better!😉For me it was necessary thing to happen in my life, and brought me a lot of wisdom after all...
Thank you Craig and Margaret
My dad left when I was 4, he never came back, I'm 32 now and that's why I have no hope with my ex returning 😢
I’m sorry to say I am 100% sure I fall under the never hear from them again camp. Her anger towards my stupid actions where to much, she had given me to many chances and had every right to dump my ass and I truly don’t blame her if her life is just 100% better without me. I lied to much and she deserves better. I will spend the rest of my days trying to make amends to myself for loosing her by my own actions. She won’t reach out and I am trying to accept this every day but it’s so hard to live life minus her enhancing my days. It’s just hollow and empty now. 5 months NC, therapy, work books, new everything and Nothing is helping at all. Everyday is a fresh hell of my own making.
What if during the breakup they said they don't see a future and they are never going to marry you. (This after getting back together). Then 7 months after breakup they say they want nothing to do with you and end up blocking you? And yes, my anxiety got the better of me and I kept texting after they said give it up, I didn't and that's why I was blocked. Ppl plz follow Coach Margaret and Coach Craig's advice to avoid the pain I'm in currently. This seems absolutely hopeless.
Im waiting 3-4 weeks then its time to move on. I put in so much effort with my gf and 2 children. She became very distant and acting strange leading up to the breakup which got my anxiety sky high. I acted like a dick. She used it against me. After a year she has ended it saying she doesnt want to lead me on. Im not a bad guy. She is an avoidant attachment style and i have become anxious through her actions. But am fine now she has left. I am gutted things have turned out this was as i loved her and the kids but feel i was getting taken gor granted. Time to go NC.
My ex came back 2 times 🙈 after 1 month, and then after 2 months... And now he left again. I'm starting to think we are better off alone
Great insight as always.
I’ve not heard from her once in nearly two years. And it’s been over three since she broke up with me. Why does she still cross my mind? Not every day anymore, but more often than should be the case. I just wish I could forget about her altogether. Obviously she’s forgotten about me.
I’m really not sure why she still crosses my mind. It doesn’t make any sense.
Hey Coach! Just recently split with my gf of 2 years, it’s been 3 days of no contact but her parents have been texting me and her father asked if I could/want to go to church with him. Is this appropriate/fair to her? Im in a real pickle... I want this no contact thing to work and not screw it up, does no contact extend to the family? Thank you coach, love your vids, I’m a recent subscriber but you’ve opened my eyes and given me good insight, keep preaching it!!
yep. father up and left us when I was 8. but, I do not expect any man to stick around.
Day 13 and it really hurts. Almost today I was so close to break no contact. Day 12 (yesterday)I was feeling " omg I am ok, I am not upset and tomorrow I will be better" wow I can't believe how I can be worse than yesterday. I thought I will get better day by day.
Yes.. I've been there and I'm still there 2.5 months later.. I have bad and really bad days but I hope that better days coming soon..
Coach do you have a video if on no contact we meet someone else then your ex comes back?
I heard from her 2yrs after the divorce, one month prior to her announcing her relationship with a guy she was going out 6 months after she ended our marriage...she reached out a couple of times after as well, I don't know what to make of it anymore..
My ex told me she never wanted to speak to me again, we dated for seven years, and I’ve been working on myself, and I decided to walk away, and let time heal those wounds..... I was in and out of no contact for awhile, made every mistake possible!! Guess what, we spoke yesterday, and today.... I asked her out, and she said.... maybe someday.... but I’m doing what I need to, showing her that I don’t need her, I chose her! She was my everything!! But she left me, and I know that we’re gonna work it out, but you need to help yourself, be better yourself, and they will see and decide....
Nice man. I did all the mistakes too and I was dating mine for 8 years and I’ve been working on myself also. Why did she leave in the first place ?
I have no idea.... she just one day I guess had enough of things being stale....
Watch some of his videos on making them do the work to come to you, especially if they broke up with you. Like the first 3 times they have to ask you out and you make zero effort, this makes them value what they work for.
Andromeda, I watched pretty much all his videos, I went back into no contact yet again, she’ll contact me like she always does, in about 3-4 days, and then it’ll start all over again, she stalks my FB page everyday, and this past Sunday she told me “someday maybe” we can get together.... I’m still doing me, I was desperate before, now I’m kinda like... eh, she’ll come around and when she does, it It might be too late..... I love her deeply, but I don’t need her, I chose her.... she’s either in, or she’s out....
I heard from him but were still not on the path to reconciliation. He moved away
Same situation... 😔 he rather move away than stay with me...
Brother let me tell you, she's coming back and you better be ready. If you're not, she's gone again and you probably won't get another swing at the plate
Women hate having their time wasted
Sometimes people are just not in love, for superficial reasons, appearance-wise, and don't want to say the truth.
Yeah feelings change, but what if your ex you want back is a narcasist and a borderline personality disorder, how do you deal with that one?... any insights how to live with that on your mind
I'm a lil shaken but glad he's doing well.
His niece told me he's distancing himself from others but seem alot better. Not as depressed. Just bored. This was a ldr 3 years relationship n broke off with me six months ago.
No contact since. What do I do.......
That he is still silent. Is there no hope. Been working on myself, my work my art and everything is going well.
Thank you for teaching me 😊
My ex and I were very happy, we were head over heels for each other. After a span of three weeks, he got moody and stressed because he was overwhelmed with school and other things going on in his life. It looked like he was having a mini life crisis type of situation. He told me he no longer loved me and couldn't handle our relationship anymore. Do you think its possible to just fall out of love like that in just a couple weeks? Or do you think that he lied to hide how he really felt because he didn't want to look weak and emotional? Is there hope that once his life calms down that he'll realize that it was a rough time and he made that choice rashly, and he'll realize how much he really cares for me?
What happend?
A month and 3 weeks later she still says she doesn’t see us getting back together and she doesn’t feel that way too,she had this indifferent vibe when we talked last,we dated for 2 years long distance,she said she lost feelings for me and I took her for granted sometimes,I can’t eat or sleep right,have nightmares of her with other people and reliving the moment she broke up with me,is there still hope for me?i just feel stuck please help..
Your videos have really helped with my anxiety couch Craig,thank you for existing
It’s been 7 months and mine just came back around. He’s not saying he wants to get back together the way we were. He seems to be suggesting casual dating. It’s hard but I’m trying to sit back and be patient and see what he does.
Sam Hill Every new realationship starts with casual dating. Go slow.
Hope it went well for you
My ex didn't say he is never taking me back but i am sure he thinks the grass is greener on the other side and he also said he loves me but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me because he is not emotionally available now
I feel hopeless right now. I know this is a old video but do yall see this message appear? I need help???
I feel hopeless... Is been 10 months. And I cant move on. Most of the times I feel I cant do it anymore :(
I’m in six months no contact and I’m so hopeless and upset :”(
@eye behiding I beeb trying to do that. Keeping myself busy. But dosent matter what I do. This feeling dont go away. Is consuming my life...
Paulo. Hang in there. It hurts now. I know. Going through it myself. But understand the best day of your life hasn’t happened yet. So what’s right for you. Put a smile on your own face and watch that best day show up. It’ll happen.
@eye behiding Definitely focus on yourself, that's the key. It's actually ok to be alone for awhile. Try not to use dating as an excuse to move on because getting into a relationship too quick like that is not good. There's a power in knowing you don't need someone to complete you. Take it easy and love yourself first before you can seek out a commitment.
Craig, what do you think about getting an ex back who left you not because of emotions that were high at the time, but that they made a logical decision based on you two not working after 5 years of arguing over value differences and also wanting km live in different states?
This doesn’t really have anything to do with feelings changing. But more rebounds. We were in a 6 month relationship and never really had a bad relationship. My attachment got the best of me and he felt smothered. Overall we had a decent relationship. He left one day with no warning. Over text. Two days later started talking to this new girl and a week later started dating. They have been dating 2 weeks and both are already saying they love each other. Could this be a rebound? She was cheated on by his best friend barely 2 months earlier. I know there’s no definite answer to this but if it’s a rebound how long could you see this lasting? I’m trying to stay strong cause I love him and miss him a ton. Im trying each day to make myself better and work on my attachment issues. Im adopted and have a big issue with abandonment. And my adoptive family caused me a lot of trauma along with every guy I’ve dated (emotional, physical, mental abuse). I’m going to a therapist about my past trauma, going to the gym, and making new friends. Just trying to change into a happier person. I would love another chance with him which I know won’t happen right now but I’m losing hope each day that I will get that chance.
Sounds like a rebound alright - look up Craig and Margaret's rebound videos...
MJ573 I have looked at them and watched multiple rebound relationship videos. Read multiple articles. But I know from all the videos it sounds like a rebound but we never know for sure. Just wanted everyone’s opinion on what they thought from personal experience.
@@kassidykilborn5815 Rebound - go no contact
im just confused... she broke up with me buT wanted to keep the friendshp, and still msgs me, calling me by our endearment's nick.
should i ask her to get back together with me?
Ik she will never come back and idk even want her in my life... But it hurts that someone can change in a really short span of time....
I never expected this from her it's kind of shocking for me but i believe in karma One day she will also go through the same pain...
Oh of course exes reach out, recently one of my exes all of a sudden asked me if I could change my schedule so I could study with her, anyways great video as always, since I've found you guys, the nonsense "advices" are gone 😆🔥👌
He reached out after 4 weeks. We had a huge fight (not going in detail, long story) but in that fight he said he misses me and can’t stand the idea of me being with someone else... so I told him how I felt that I still love him. Now he is cold and ignoring. Will no contact work again? Will he reach out again?
Your mistake is blurting out your feelings of you still loving him. Just go back into no contact, and if he reaches out, keep it light and simple, sweet and short. Try to arrange to meet, or go out and just be fun and flirty. Make him remember why he loved you! Do not give anything away in terms of how u feel! Coz maybe he just called to make sure you're not over him, and then he got his satisfaction and ghosted you again
I heard from mine after 5 years-- he left some strokemail on my phone
I told to her if you are mad angry at me dont decide to break up with me and like you said coach what she said to me...i walk away ignore her and go to no contact when i post in facebook she call and message me so many times and what she wanted to leave her alone i respect what she want to...i want a longterm relationship if she still rude and mean to me its better to find someone new rather than to treat her like a queen but she treat me like a weak walk away but if she will change sincere to me iam just only human to give another chance
Hi coach Craig, I lied and hide that I still had contact with my ex ex girl friend and went on 2 trips with her and other friends. We didn’t have any feelings for each other, was just close friends. My ex found out and left and said she doesn’t want to ever see me again. She was insanely in love with me tho, she thought I was the perfect guy and we were trying to get marry in the future. Is there still a chance?
You broke trust. Admit that you shouldn't have hid it and lied and that you understand how's she felt and reacted. Validate her feelings. Best to you.
Reading the comments I feel like I'm in "good" situation here. My BU was 5 months ago and I'm blocked now on whatsapp only (second time) but before that she was initiating contact via indirect messages to the point where she said "lets meet and see if we enjoy spending time together". We've actually never met after the BU but compared to others here I feel that I got chances.
Im in a hard situation and need need help. Me a and my gf of 7 years broke up 2 weeks ago. We were on and off. She told me she didn’t care anymore. She felt indifferent. She didn’t care about the relationship anymore and she wasn’t mad or upset. She just didn’t care but still care about me. I treated her good and I may be needy and over pursuit her at times but sometimes I show like I was indifferent but inside I care a lot. Not sure what to do. Can feeling really change if someone feel indifferent?
My ex (4.5 months) has sent me a like on Facebook messenger. I think she messed up, but at least it means she's stalking me/reading old conversation. 10 days ago she watched the first story i posted in 3 months about my favourite trumpet player.
I guess it's a mistake and thus I shouldn't contact her. And if it was intentional I feel like it's not enough direct to be an indirect/direct approach.
I have been really avoidant in the last 6 months of our 5 years relationship, I fear that she's wanting me to take a step in?
What are you insight people? Should I break no contact?
PtiDopSax no don’t do it. I made that mistake when I saw my ex-friend watching my stories on Insta. It doesn’t help. It does mean they are interested though. I believe if you keep waiting and don’t reach out they will soon
Thanks for your help. I agree watching a story is not strong enough, but what about a like on Facebook Messenger? 👍
Keep your cool.
I am so desperate Craig, the break up just happened last Tuesday. I felt it was forever. And he will just move on without me so easily.
the love chat is also good, he mentions craig often
If someone can chose to walk out of your life... let them walk! If they come back, they were yours. If they don’t they never were.
My ex broke up with me the last week of April of this year. Wanting a break and space. During those next two weeks we saw each other probably once or twice. I never contacted her first. She was the one to contact me. She then went cold. Two weeks later she hits me up asking if I wanted to get something to eat with her. I agreed to it. I feel that we both had a good time during the hours we spent together. She would kinda bring up some old memories. And we laughed. I was cool, calm, and collected the whole time I was with her. At the end when I dropped her off she said she had a great time and that she would hit me up again. I told her to text me when she had got home safe. She did. I then said “Hey if you ever want to hang out again we can chill” maybe I messed up by saying that to her?? It’s been two weeks since I’ve heard from her.
I don’t think I’m ever gonna hear form my ex. I knew it from the beginning and lost all hope long time ago. And I’m saying it not because I’m bitter or still feel bad. No, it’s because I was listening carefully what he was saying about his exs. He has never contacted any of them. He wanted and always regretted but never could bring himself to contact them.
Oh well:) too bad for him.
I'm giving up on her, but also on life. It's too painful.
Any idea if any come back after a year or more apart?