You Are Doing Enough. Here's Why.
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For the last year and a half I've been on the road with my embroidery frame. I found one particular English holiday rental cottage that I especially love, and it was in that cottage that
I noticed something interesting about the way we approach work and productivity - and where some of that super duper conscientious work ethic might come from.
Come and do some #slowstitching with me... in what could well be described as the birthplace of #fastfashion.
Edited by Sophie Black at @triskellepictures
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** Image credit **
[1] Illustrator T. Allom, Engraver J. Tingle, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons
** Music **
'The Winds of Change' by Francis Wells
'Crucial Calculations' by Gavin Luke
'Never Let Go' by Jakob Ahlbom
(All from Epidemic Sound)
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Hear, hear! And your voice is stronger. It's so lovely to hear.
I was going to say the same thing. I think it's an indication she is finding her way into her true alignment with her joy and purpose.
Way to go Cathy!! Thank you for normalizing NOT cranking out weekly, rushed, conforming, self-sacrificing productivity. 😊
i agree - her happiness is just shining thru her voice, its great to hear her almost real voice!
Dismantling my interalized need to be productive has been a struggle, but it's also been the best thing for my chronic pain and fatigue.
I’m a quilter and I so love the creation and the sewing process. Some quilters do hand sewn quilts that take years from the piecing to the hand stitched quilting. Other of us enjoy the sewing process adrenaline we get when sewing to the finished product. Some of my fellow quilters make up to 40/ year. I believe for each individual it is what they enjoy that drives the their personal pace to complete a project. I believe for each of us it is the joy and the satisfaction of completion of our project that gives us our happiness. Sew enjoy the sewing journey you are personally on.💖💖💖💖💖
Cathy, your voice is sounding so much better! I’m so glad to see you relaxed and content. There is a joy in you that wasn’t there a year ago.
I have been making my own clothes for a while now because what I like doesn’t come in my size (I definitely need to be healthier). I always enjoy the making of something more than the having of the thing.
I was about to comment on Cathy's voice as well! So strong and clear, just wonderful!
I started sewing on another top today to slowly replace my stash of ancient and holey primark tops that have been worn into the ground, and I am so pleased that I'm able to choose the length and fit myself. It feels so satisfying, and the compliments are lovely as well!
As someone chronically ill and disabled, I didn't realize how much of our identity is built on being productive! I had to retrain my brain to not feel guilty resting, which is what I need. Love your videos and bringing us on this adventure❤❤
A lot of golden gems packed into a six minute video. So well articulated! I find it a delicious irony you are working on your exquisite coat in the birthplace of textile manufacturing. You look as beautiful as ever. I always throughly enjoy your videos. Thank you for sharing your brilliance! Hugs from across the pond in Colorado , Valerie 🏞
“Glorious monstrosity of ultimate sustainability” is the greatest sentence I’ve heard today.
Brilliant! And I'm happy to hear your voice comming back...your real voice
My Mom was the sewer. I'm a crocheter (she taught me that as well ). She was the sewer because she made all my clothes from play clothes to school clothes to all my formals for dances and proms and eventually my wedding dress. She was amazing. I sew some but have found my passion is not sewing but crocheting. I love making things for others, but many don't appreciate handmade. I've started making amigumi for my Grandchildren and am happy to say they love my handmade dolls. Recently they have requested handmade things for themselves or to give to their friends. I hope their friends enjoy what I make and that it might instill a love or at least an appreciation of things made with love.
Glad to see & hear you! I work at my projects in a much slower pace. The fact these hands will still do anything is a miracle so for my crochet project of the moment, an inch or two a day is good enough, it's not a race or on a time crunch, the recipients of this year's afghans don't even know they're coming! The world doesn't stop because we aren't pushing ourselves to get things done or be overly productive every day, in fact, we are probably the only ones to notice or care. Take a break, you've earned it.
It is good to hear your voice ❤
I have always liked your content of slow garment making. Over consumerism is creating so much have on the people's and the earth.
Now I'm sobbing....no one on earth knew how much I needed to hear these words today 😞 I shall listen to it on a loop all afternoon I think
I have many words tucked inside but they are not coming out. Just these words will have to do. Thank you for the video. It was lovely to see you again.
So happy to hear your lovely voice coming back
I’m an early retiree (a few years ago I had mental health problem so I had to made choices about work and life balance). The struggle with my ‘lack of productivity’ is constant. My parents were small business owner, work was the only activity and was the example I followed for years. Your video speak a lot to me, especially since my great grandfather move from Canada where he have a farm to Massachusetts to work in cotton mills. He had the chance to keep his farm (his eldest son stay and run the farm), he eventually came back to farming. My grandmother married just before he moved to the US and he was not able to give her a wedding gift. When he came back two years later in 1910 he bring back a Singer threadle sewing machine as a wedding gift to his daughter. I still have that machine, seeing you and Bernadette Banner video inspire me to restore the machine and now I use it regularly. I love the sound of it and the slower pace it force me to have.
I an SO glad I found you. What I've heard in the last 6 minutes touches my soul. I have a sign that says "Take Joy" which you can't do if you are rushing. I'm an instant fan and will take in all of your previous videos - not all at once of course. Bless you.
I was just thinking that I haven't seen anything from you in a while, and here you are, and I absolutely agreed with the message in this video.
Oh man. Your opening had me cracking up with laughter because I am taking a slow morning today
Love love love this!!! Thank you for finally saying what we have all been thinking!!! ♡♡ good to hear you Cathy♡♡
I needed this reminder. Thank you. 💖💖
💗Yeah! So often I catch myself on the treadmill of "must provide value" - most of the time it helps just to step off and interrupt the rhythm change the focus. It's good to hear your voice. - A
I have a handy built-in mechanism to remind me to rest. As a result of working myself too hard for a couple of decades, I have had some sort of long-term fatigue for almost 15 years. I was sewing busily on a project for church--which I would like to finish in the next week or so--but about 7 PM today my fatigue warning symptoms kicked in. I immediately realized that if I didn't go lay down ASAP, I would suffer tomorrow and maybe the next day. So... not getting as much done today as I had hoped, but that's ok.
Great video! I love the irony. It really does bring it all into perspective! Thank you!!
Thank you Cathy, I needed to hear this!
Wow your voice is healing even more. 🎉❤ God bless
That was a beautiful life lesson in a beautiful setting. Thank you
Your voice is so improved. I totally agree with your message.
Very inspirational video ... thank you Cathy!
I love your voice! 💜 Take care of yourself! 🌿
Hi Cathy, thank you so much for your effort of taking us along. Im always inspired watching your videos. It gives me the little nudge i need to become productive but in a balanced way. It feels so much more natural than the fast pace of the world. The journey is sometimes more important than the result. I can say I learned so much during your process. Thanks again and take care.
Your hand-sewn garments will last a lifetime, factory-made a couple years. That's what good home made products are. Good to see you.
Enjoying the sound and cadence of your voice. Has it been 3 years working on this coat? Doesn't seem that long to me. Thank you for the pep talk of it takes however long it takes! Here, Here.
I have wondered how you were doing. Nice to hear from you again. 😊
Thank you! I have definitely needed that! ❤
I started my afternoon with watching, on RUclips, the Lost Tower Diaries. Those two women work, and work, and work, and seem utterly unhurried, and the work they are doing must so often be redone because it is largely agricultural. I do this sitting on my sofa. :)
Productive is subjective.. I went back to a childhood thing of lace making - actually I did crap all when i was a kid, but, ive made some stuff and now have a big plan of making a lace net curtain... so, Im documenting my path, plans and experiments on twitch (backed up to youtube) ..
Thank you, dear one.
Good to see you Cathy. i was beginning to wonder if everything in your world was ok. You sound ok and you look great. Such deep thoughts today, I'm sorry you have chronic pain and fatigue. I feel youh. Stau well.
Love the message but what I love even more is hearing Cathy’s strong loud voice (I definitely do not imply that she needs to have that kind of voice, I just know that’s something she’s been working hard towards and I’m happy to see her succeed)
Isn't that the truth!!! Thanks a lot!!!!
I just began working full-time in retail, and it feels like my body is on constant speed. Gotta bike to and from, and be on my feet all day. When I get home, i cannot remember what my life is about. It seems lately my life has only been about work. And that is so outside my natural self. My natural self is the slow living type, fuelled by having ample of time, silence and stillness. Without this, I cannot take in, process and enjoy. Just a constant moving goal post. And that is NOT all there is to life. So I absolutely hate this time in my life. Just craving that work/life balance insanenly much! My happiest memories and best creative projects and things made happened when I was unemployed...
An excellent reminder, particularly not to buy into the social media lie... though highly ironic timing, as I am feverishly sewing for an amateur theatre musical with only 2 weeks till dress rehearsal... sadly sometimes the slow enjoyment of crafting needs to make way for mass production approach to get my cast costumed.
Yes - slow stitching for the win. ❤🇨🇦
I don’t know if I told you yet, but my 102-year-old grandmother recently died. She was a quilters historian. The funeral home accidentally cremated her body, and had someone else’s body in her casket when we showed up to the funeral.
My condolences to you and your family.
May I suggest wrapping her urn in a large quilt block. My MIL has her urn wrapped in red silk.
Again, my sympathy on this unexpected situation.
Holy crap. I hope they refunded any and all money you'd paid!!! My sincere condolences!!
I love to quilt. I grew up on the farm playing under the quilting frames while my mom, aunt and grandmother worked on quilts made from fabric scraps of the year's sewing project leftovers. Quilts of coordinating color fabric was, in our community's opinion, practically sacrilegious. As an old-school quilter, I have great appreciation for your grandmother's attention to quilting. Did she publish anything or have a website?
Again, my SINCERE condolences. 💛
I appreciate this - just finished repairing a gorgeous Indian-made ... smock ? I think?!
Anyway. Did it as neatly as I could with what I had (away at my parents and I have a feeling most of the thread is poly stuff), and I'm quite proud of my but of quiet, contemplative work ❤
Cathy I am THRILLED to hear you are finding your voice again.
God love you, Cathy, for your immensely important message on slowing down, taking care of yourself, and doing any project correctly and with intention. I wonder if this emphasis on 'productivity' is a relic of the 'more is better' crap that we are force fed from childhood and once we get into adult jobs, the same standard applies: you make more 'things' and you get a fatter paycheck. Production lines are often devoid of creativity, passion, and variability and focus too much (IMHO) on the end result and not on the process. Of course, if your projects and creative items are your source of income, then in order to actually make a living, you do either need to increase volume (increase productivity) or charge more for your item, which depending on the item, can be self-limiting. For example, I would LOVE to sell my quilting goods (quilts, placemats, mug rugs, etc.) but would have to charge a bloody fortune for me to recoup any costs of fabric, time, thread, etc. So the items usually end up as gifts because few people will shell out the money needed for me to break even nevermind make a profit, especially when they can go to Argos and buy something mass-produced and made in a developing country. I'm also not a good enough quilter to sell my items like Angela Walters could command. So, I guess I'll keep sitting at my sewing machine and just be grateful I have the ability/luxury of buying fabric and keeping my 'addiction' going!!! Good to see you looking so well, my friend!! If you ever get to Scotland, drop in for a cuppa and a blether!
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I think there’s no such thing as too much money. People waste millions of dollars every day.
It all depends on what you do with that money, and what is considered a “waste of money.”
"How productive have we been since we last talked?"
*blows raspberry*
ok I lie, I've processed 40 litres of tomatoes from my garden, finished the last foot of flooring in what's to be my craft room and made a hood mockup. But the house still has tomatoes all over at various stages of ripeness and the pots and pans I last used this weekend for tomatoes will probably just hang around on the kitchen floor until maybe Wednesday night when I feel like doing the dishes that don't fit in the dishwasher.
But I'm starting to realize that productivity can be toxic. I live out of the clean laundry heap, only towels get folded, sheets get rolled up and crammed in the linen closet.
I'm far more gentle with myself when it comes to things I do for fun. I have homework to do before each new project (mending, re-examine or complete a UFO and darn some socks), but I don't rush myself through projects I do for fun unless there's a hard deadline. I'm using my antiwue machine for some construction seams but am going to set the gores by hand and will hand fell everything because that's the part I enjoy. I still have to hem my Victorian Walking Skirt (all machine sewing done on the 1914 hand crank machine) but that got set aside for making swimsuits this summer. It's just hanging to make sure it doesn't stretch. For three or four months. It's fine. I don't need it now anyways, and I did need the swimsuits in July, and I do need this medieval hood I'm working on now for next weekend.
Glad to hear how strong your voice is sounding!
I'm 75 soon to be 76 and I have finally learned that you don't have to scrub a floor on your knees, the earth doesn't stop spinning if the dishes aren't done as soon as you have stopped eating, that a robot sweeper is great to clean up cat hair and if you don't disturb the bookshelf too much the coating of dust doesn't look too bad. Take time to do what you enjoy.
Amen!❤❤❤
Your voice! Y O U R V O I C E!!! I'm litteraly 30 seconds into the video and like... My jaw dropped. I hope this increase in steadiness and volume is (as I think it is) a representation of an improvement of your health (mental and otherwise). If that's the case, I couldn't be happier for you
You have been sorely missed! There is so much to be said for taking your time and working at your own pace. Often, in ways we don't always consider, our end result is much better (i.e. productive) than if we forged forward and exhausted ourselves as we worked.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard your voice above a whisper. It’s so nice to see that you are healing.. Thank you for he’s wonderful videos🥰
You need to go back in the archives and watch some of her old videos. 💕🌞🌵😷
Dear Cathy. I am so happy to hear your voice sounding so strong. It brought tears to my eyes.
Regarding the subject of the video, I found after I retired, I have very loose timelines to most projects. It’s September, and I finished my Halloween dress. I will work on my Christmas dress in October. They are 50s style, not hard, just a tad outside my skill set to keep things interesting. I don’t allow myself to be pressured to get things done too often. I wish I could be 66 forever.
HUZZAH for working at your own pace! Especially with historical costuming, we expect ourselves to do the work of teams of people in a fraction of the time.
My favourite creators are the ones that show the effort and mistakes and the joy of the finished product.
Goodness, you sound so strong ❤
This has largely been what I have been trying to learn this year. My first corset has taken over 6 months (and that's after paying someone to draft a custom fitted pattern). But gradually I have learned to take a "little bit each day" attitude and just be in the moment. To do "something" however seemingly small. Which, funnily enough, has made me more productive overall and has allowed me to take far more joy in my sewing.
Lovely to hear your voice returning and I love your final word - Savour the process, forget about productivity! Right on.
Kathy! ❤
I'm going through exactly this in my craft practice. I want to let go of keeping track of how much time the project is taking. I'm shifting focus to fully occupy myself with enjoying the process of just CREATING and the new skills I'm learning. It feels a bit like being six years old and opening a new box of crayons! Thanks for the affirmation ❤.
I needed this this morning. My 'you ALWAYS have to be productive!' voice has been louder than usual lately. It needs to hush.
Its heen good to hear your knowlege for a long time, but to actually hear your voice gives me insane joy.🎉
i really enjoy cooking. in my twenties a recurring article in a magazine i sporadically perused~ "Thirty Minute Meals" ruined cooking for me for YEARS. (and don't even Mention Jamie Oliver's FIFTEEN minute meals). Luckily i have shucked off the expectations of others (they aren't coming to MY kitchen, are they?). i think the rise of hobby bread making may be, in part, because you CAN"T rush it.......
Just a word to say you are not alone about those 15 minutes meals. 😂❤
@@jezanne 🥰
Such an important point, thank you. As I get older that little voice which asks ‘well what have you done with the day?’ seems to be getting more insistent. Why are we conditioned to feel like oxygen-robbers if we’ve not got ‘enough’ done!?!
I do cosplays but a few years back I had a light bulb moment that making costumes that only get worn a few times a year if that, then just take up space and cost a lot of money was dumb. I was also getting frustrated because I spent all my time making the costumes. I couldn't make nice clothing for daily wear. So I have now moved to only making cosplays where I feel comfortable wearing out, even grocery shopping. There might be bits and bobs not worn like wigs or props or wings, but 90% gets worn other times. Im finding Im choosing more complicated costumes and spending more time making sure it's done right and not rushing than just choosing to hot glue to finish cause who cares.
I now love my wardrobe.
It's so cool to hear your voice strong ❤ I remember the strugle. Good for you 🎉🎉🎉 Keep going 💪
Its kind of insane how your videos always seem to drop right when I need them most and you give the advice i needed to hear. Thank you as always!
I started real estate sales person classes in Iowa United States.
You go Girl….. at your own pace of course❤😂
I'm so grateful to have been able to watch you in your vocal journey over the past years. I've had to have throat surgery this summer and it has done terrible things to my voice. When I've been struggling with the long, slow recovery, thinking of you has helped me to cope with it. Thank you.
Ugly crying at 3am cause your working on the same dang thing one, two or however many years later.... Not exactly social media friendly posting the same thing- Yeah, you're not the only one. 😂
I just made peace agsin with the idea if we make the thing and those who love whatever is made will find their way to us.
People must’ve been physically healthier back then. There’s no way I would’ve survived. I could not work that physically hard.
Well, to put into perspective the life expectancy in the early 1800s in England was 40.8 years.
They didn't survive.
That constant voice in the back of my mind saying that you need to be productive in both your work life and your free time. Changing that voice to a softer more polite and kinder self talk was the hardest thing to shut off. And eventually reprogram through therapy.
While the Education system in every country is set up to have a certain schedule. I found that the American school system set my energy levels in a permanent way. I am the most productive from about 8 AM till 3 PM. Which were the hours that I used to cover in school. I’m 41 years old and for some reason have not been able to kick that internal clock.
One of the major things that I have done in my personal journey is to stop setting any form of deadlines. I know that seems really strange or quite odd. Although I noticed that when I would get inspired a week before a medieval event and want to make a brand new dress, I was not honoring my future self. So I started a better regime on planning my sewing projects in detail throughout the year. While using the collection of garments, I already had to either resize them if they no longer fit or do the alterations or mending to make them functional again. Which allows me to be less wasteful.
There was no need to have a new garment every event. Especially now that I’ve been established in my medieval hobby for several decades. The week of the event, I pick out a completed outfit, I already have make sure to try it on in advance. And pre-pack everything before I leave several days before. I never used to do this previously and would leave everything to the last minute and be a horrible procrastinator. Which means that I would also forget some thing that I wanted to bring with me.
Getting back to that kinder self talk, I also needed to learn to be kinder to my future self and avoid unnecessary stress, which would wipe my energy levels . Learning to be a better planner and also learning to be respectful of my time and future stress really change the way I could create. Instead of being a medieval clothing, chaos goblin creating items with only a week deadline. I am making much better long-term clothing that I can wear for a much longer time even if I am creating at a slower pace.
And for those smaller shorter wins, that’s where dolls come into play that allow me to still keep up my sewing skills in between larger projects, but also allow me to work out patterns for future projects in a smaller scale. I do constantly create clothing items, human sized or doll sized. Which allows me to set smaller goals as I am creating a project that still allow a serotonin hit when I reach smaller goals.
In my everyday job, I’m able to use my sewing as a means to keep myself, calm, focused, and on task with my work at home schedule, even though my workday is two hours longer than I am productive on a daily basis. I get a little behind, but I know that I give myself small rewards throughout the day. I am able to finish my shift and still have energy to do household items or other chores instead of needing to sleep right afterwards.
Consequently, with all of this personal development, I changed the standards on my own RUclips channel to downloading a video once a month. And that has been working pretty well for me so far and my stress levels on trying to keep up with making videos for my channel and post for my blog has been much more manageable.
Keep up the great work Cathy this velvet coat is going to be worth all of the time and effort you put into it in the end and I know you already know that .
people are always shocked when I explain the history behind the public school system being promoted and subsidized by industrialists very specifically to train children from an early age to be more suitable for factory labor in a way their pre-industrial revolution parents were never able to be conditioned to. it's ... a very uncomfortable reality to have to acknowledge that schools weren't designed under the fundamental idea of making education accessible or people smarter, but rather conditioning children's behavior for the highly structured and rigorous nature of factory labor, with just enough reading, writing, and arithmetic to be able to function on the factory floor effectively. and we're still using those same structures today 200 years later for no good reason other than it's how it's been done for the past 200 years.
of course, once we can accept that historical purpose of public education, perhaps we can finally address the shortcomings of that structure and begin to make institutional education about education and development instead of behavioral patterning for a labor lifestyle that doesn't exist in most major economies, and shouldn't exist in any economy.
At 4:18 it appears there's a hole in your thimble. Did you make it on purpose for ventilation?
Learned to use a thimble very recently and loving it but my finger does get almost sweaty in there sometimes
Couldn't agree more! ✨
Your voice! 😊❤🎉
And thanks for the needed reminder!
😂 Strangely relevant to my life. I don't post but I do want to make ALL THE THINGS!!! Can I make a request for a video of just embroidery? Doesn't have to have voiceover or perfect stitching. I just want to watch the progress.
It's so Nice to just have a chat with you Kathy! And yes, I am loving Slowing Down and doing things Properly!
Well said, I've wanted to make a walking suit but i don't think it will work for me, i have a massive hernia (5"x8")I'm only size 12 uk, so I'm going to make something else, something with flounces and lace, ❤
If you want to weigh how much productivity you have achieved just by getting your voice back, you have climbed Mount Everest. You deserve a cup of coffee and a nap.🥰 every day🍒wow! I love your voice, and I love the panels too❤️
I love this message, Cathy. "Productivity to what end?"
Very wise words. I watched today a video from the 60s from a cook explainig to the ladies (and only them 🙄) how to cook Wiener Schnitzel. The video was about 30 minutes long. Nowadays it would have to fit in a 30 seconds Tik Tok video ….
your videos have been accompanying me during my own long process... I only stitch occationally, but I have been working on an impossible monster of a non-fiction book. And the way you approach sewing has always translated well into my writing process... Last week I sent my first letter to a publisher, offering my slightly monsterous manuscript. It is done! 'only' publishing to worry about! your experience and knowledge about creative processes is helpful for a lot more people than you might think.
i fell ill about 3 yrs ago, with ME(also known as chronic fatigue syndrome), i still emotionally beat myself, when i cannot do anything, then collapse for a week after a day at my pre- illness levels of accomplishment
Well Stated. I'm glad to see you doing better. Me, I sew at my own speed on my own projects... someday I will get video equipment to show what I make to the world beyond the faires I attend in fancy dress.
Thank you so much. Today I am flat on my back because I have been running myself ragged for the last month and my body just shut down today forcing me to take a break. It is a timely message for me to remind me to focus on that which I did complete and not waste time and energy beating myself up for all that I had on my ambitious to do list that just didn’t get done.
Glad youve been learning more about British colonialism. Im starting to be able to internalize what you say more, now that its getting put into context. Thank you for being able and willing to learn more
i've been very productive at work but my own creative endeavors have fallen by the wayside, but i'm getting back into it now because i need the outlet! i need the wind-down from having to have my professional brain on. but i'm not putting timelines on my own creative endeavors because i don't want any pressure on them.
They got me pretty goop on the mythical standard size. Like they scanned my body and have it in AI. When I order clothes online, they’re perfect.
This was just what I needed to hear today, after pushing myself too hard and ending up flat on my back in pain. Thank you.
Thank you for these thoughts in the video. I have been very sad about the glacial progress I've been making on my projects, and this has solidified my own thoughts: making clothes that fit, because the previous ones no longer do, should not be hurried because there's no reassurance that the body changes (to my "old lady" body) have stabilized. Mending and making adjustments for the waist that is disappearing, while researching more decrepitude-friendly styles, will need to tide me over until 'the ice breaks' on this front. Slowing down is not the same as failing, or stopping altogether. Other endeavors can take up any slack.
I agree, we have forgotten how to relax because it has been bred into us that we have to always be working. I feel guilty when I am at home if I am not working on something. There is nothing wrong with doing things the slow way. I need to remember that!
You sound amazing! Keep it up!
So good to hear your voice ❤
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