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1 thing our body does during the dying process
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In the Chinese culture we call it the “reflection of the lake”.
It is the light of the dying person which shines one last time.
That is a beautifully poetic description. Thank you.
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This a very beautiful description !
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Love this ❤
My mother hadnt remembered who i was for years. The week she died she looked right at me and smiled and said my name.
I remember that happened with President Regan.
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Nancy Regan did the same thing.
❤️Reading this was amazing. I hope you’re doing well. I’m sure your mom loved you very much.
Doing well. Thank you.
I recently experienced "the surge". Last Sunday I heard my elderly neighbor screaming around 11pm. I hesitated to go and check on him because the last time I did think it was an emergency, it was actually someone screaming on his TV; he was watching a movie 😅. I listened for a bit outside his door before walking in his apartment (always kept unlocked in case of emergencies). When I went in he was screaming "get me out of here!" I explained to him that I was not a patient, and no he was not in the hospital, but in fact at home, and he was safe. To calm him down, I got really close to his face, looked him in the eye, and took hold of both his hands, which were ice cold. He had the "death stare" fixated on the ceiling of his apartment. It was so bizarre because upon closing the door to his apartment, and walking towards him, I felt a spiritual "release" in his living room, and a lightness. I'll never be able to fully accurately describe this in words. Upon holding his hands, he immediately came to himself, and was completely coherent, and apologized for inconveniencing me. I told him it wasn't a problem at all to come and check on him. I prayed for peace, and then told him if he wanted to go, that it was ok, and he didn't have to stick around for us "fools." He said, Yea, I think I will!" I noticed he was whitish in color, and had mottling of his feet 😞 so I knew what was coming. I wanted to call 911 because he was short of breath, but he yelled NO! And then just like that his breathing suddenly returned to normal, and his color came back. He told me to pull up a chair, proceeded to tell me that he hadn't eaten in 3 days, wasn't hungry, didn't want to go to the hospital to be checked out because the doctors can never find specifically what was wrong with him, and wished all the doctors would leave him alone, and let him die, he was so tired. So I told him that I hoped he would have a peaceful restful night, and I knew he was tired. I then called his caretaker to come over immediately. Then he said, "Oh hell, hand me a cold fresh ginger ale out of the frig." 😂 Okay. He said he didn't want to get in his bed, but to remain in his recliner so I covered him up, and finally handed him a cup of M&M's as he so persistently demanded 🤭. We argued about 10 minutes over those M&M's until I finally relented, and handed him the cup 🤷. We then had a lovely 30 minute conversation about life, and the fact that sometimes a person just needs a little help, and that's ok, nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. His caretaker arrived around midnight, and then looked at me sideways like, "what's the problem, he looks absolutely fine", in which he did at that point! Around 6 hours later the next caretaker came at his usual shift time. My neighbor had passed away peacefully in his sleep, in his recliner. I was the last person to talk to him. I had lived next door to my neighbor for 4 years, and we would chat for a few minutes in passing, and that was about it, but had gotten very friendly with one another. You just never know how you will be needed in life, and how your presence can make a difference. I'm so glad I had that time with him, and I thank you so much 🌹 ❤️ 🌹 for your informative videos to be able to know what was happening to my neighbor. 🙏 RIP my neighbor with your beautiful azul blue eyes.
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What a gift you got
Thanks for sharing that beautiful story. It’s so nice he had you there for one last chat.
Thank you for your story. Blessings to you and to his soul. May we all find the peace we search for.
@@HawaiiFoodAndFun Yes indeed! Amen! 🙏
A friend's father in law had an epic last rally. For over 10 years he was in a wheel chair w/ limited speaking ability & mobility due to a neurological disease. While sitting out on the porch catching some fresh air, his wheel chair breaks came undone & he rolled off onto a gravel walkway. He sustained serious head injury & had to be taken by ambulance to the ER. While at th hospital, the doctors didn't give him much time. Then the next day he 'woke up' like his normal self. He was talking, joking & laughing with his son & grandkids. He called his sisters who had not heard his voice in over 10 years! They all called it a miracle. Later that day, after his amazing 'rally' he died peacefully in his sleep. What an amazing gift to give his family.
that is so cool. i like t think he let that brake off, or the angel of death his guardian to the other world did it for him. xxx
Somebody tried to kill him
No. No. No
Wow what an amazing story! Thanks for sharing.
Maybe the head injury temporarily gave him blood flow or nervous alterations.
I am an RN. I have seen my share of deaths throughout my career. I knew what to expect during a patients last days. But, when it came to my parents, it hit so differently because I was a daughter at that moment, not a nurse. My daddy was making all of us laugh the day before he passed. He perked up when my son came home from Afghanistan by the Red Cross. My Mum was so happy. She truly believed Daddy would get better, that he would go home.
But, I knew... he died the next day.
My Mum was the same way. She was able to sit up in a chair. She talked about what she was gonna do when she went home. She made people around her laugh. But, I saw it in her eyes when she would look at me. She knew I would understand.
She died in my arms the next morning.
Take a moment to say everything you need to say if you are fortunate enough to be there at that moment.
We had just come home to Napili, HI. My mom stage 4 ovarian cancer age fifty six. She was tired and needed to sleep. After that she wanted me to get her a giant hamburger fries and a diet coke. I asked her are u sure mom. I drove to Lahaina and got it to go. She ate most of it and wanted to walk with my son who was almost 7 and we all walked across the street to the beach. That day she shined she was so beautiful. She watched the ocean and wanted to stay to see the sunset. I worried she would tire out. She died the next day. I miss my mom she was my best friend. ❤
Sounds like a pretty nice last day. Glad you got to enjoy her for a last time.
What a beautiful story I’m so sorry you lost your mom so young. I’m 51 years old. Just found out. I have emphysema. I am a smoker of 41 years. I don’t want my life to end over it at a young age. Yeah, comments, definitely, caught my attention.
What a loving and lovely gift she left you. God Bless. Remember her good day.
That happened with my dad. He was in New York State and I was in Florida. His nursing home called and told me my dad was actively dying and I needed to fly up immediately. $1000 later I was booked on a flight for the next morning. I arrived in New York, hopped in my rental car and was at the nursing home by noon. The staff took me into a conference room to prepare me for what a was about to see and then I went up. I was outside my dad’s door gathering my courage and went in. What I was expecting was not what I saw… instead of a possibly unconscious man clinging to life, my dad was up, dressed, sitting in his wheel chair having lunch! He looked great and was eating well. He was lucid and in a great mood. I was so confused. The night before they made it sound like
my dad was at death’s door, but in reality he was fully conscious, and so happy to see me. We had the best day! I had lots of meaningful conversations with dad which I video recorded and took lots and lots of pictures of him and us together. Then he began rapidly deteriorating and died soon after. Whether this phenomenon is science or spiritually based, my dad’s rally gave us precious time together before he passed away. I am so grateful for it. It was really really weird how he held on for me and gave us both a bubble of perfectly lucid time together before he succumbed. I continue to be very grateful for that special time together. The best part was how blown away the nurses were witnessing my dad’s epic rally. ❤🙌🏻🙏🏻😇
I got two nice long hugs, pats on the back and air kisses. I'm so lucky! She was dressed in pink and looked carefree and happy, she totally rallied. A week later she was released from her dementia and passed to freedom. My grief is like a wave, crushing sometimes and gentle and kind other times. I miss you Priscilla W Braun. You sparkled! 6/18/34-3/12/23. Pretty sure she's chatting up God right now. She was an ordained presbyterian minister, and worked doing sand play therapy. Her soul is wise, empathetic, intelligent, generous, kind and she was MY ROCKSTAR MOM. ❤
Beautiful words she was so loved by you that’s heart warming ❤
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Thanks for sharing.
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You're very lucky to have had a parent like that. Just know that when you feel grief. Many of us never got anything close to that.
That happened with my nana. We had the best morning. She passed that night! I hold that time so near to my heart. She was the best lady ever ❤
Thank you all for such beautiful stories. I had a big fight with my wife tonight. I will cuddle up to her now and say I love her.
I worked in hospice volunteer management for 13 years....we called this "the gift" for both the family and the patient.💚
I like that much better 😢
I wrote the same before reading your comment. ❤
That is so true!!! I just posted a comment a few minutes ago, and that’s EXACTLY what this was for my family when we lost my mother in law. I love your description!
A gift from God! I have seen it!!!
Thank you for your blessed work, especially in volunteering in hospice💛😇😇
My wife and life partner compressed the final days into under 48 hours. Friday I helped her toilet, clean, dress, breakfasted and took her out for a wander in a wheelchair. That was her last meal, by afternoon she was beginning to transition.
Saturday she drank her last fluids at breakfast, weakened, rallied a while in the afternoon and, early Sunday morning after I administered her comfort meds at 2 am, we held hands, I told her I loved her and she died. Her rally was brief; I will treasure it forever.
May the Lord Jesus give you peace and comfort. Acts 2:37-39 is our only hope after we have shed our mortal bodies.
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I felt the love and pain in every word you wrote. ❤ praying for you.❤❤❤
I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry❤
"the surge" was heartbreaking for me to see with my mom because she really honestly thought she was getting better...but I knew...
Sounds awful and I'm sorry you went through that. I think it would be easier if it didn't happen.. the 'surge' of hope would make the ending so much more heart-breaking. 😔 I hope you're coping well and doing ok. 💞
My mum thought that too.I just wish I knew these things before it happened.
I am sorry for your loss.xx❤
The same with my dad. I was very relieved though since he was suffering for such a long long time.
I am sorry. That has to hurt. I heard that the body does this so they can say goodbye.
Think of this she was really happy and with you for one last time.
So true! My Grandma had this happen, and a hospice nurse told us exactly what this nurse said. Sure enough, she passed 2 days later. 20 years later, when it happened to my dad, I was happy I remembered to enjoy the precious time with him. ❤ He died the next day.
Thank you for taking death away from the 'taboo' subject it's been for too long, and helping people understand the process. I've learnt a lot from your posts, which I pass on to others. ❤
my dads "surge' lasted 3 weeks...it was absolutely amazing. he played his guitar and sang to the hospice nurses. they were Amazed...thank you for these videos❤
Wow! I miss my Dad so much …. God bless you and your family … I bet your Dad is looking down pickin them cords…… my dad played the hell out of his guitar up until it all hit the fan! Because of Covid restrictions my brother and me were not allowed to go into the hospital. See my dad until the following Tuesday after my mom got to see him and they said oh yeah I will see you guys soon. Of course we were going back every single day, but that was the time for us to leave on that Thursday. Whoever couldn’t go in, would sit in the car and just wish and hope for a change the rules. Well we left that day which we were gonna go home eat and go to bed come back the next day, but not even two hours after we left, they called to say he needs to go straight to comfort care and it was just a shock anyways? The last time he played his guitar was about a month before that anyways, it seems like you really cherish your relationship with your father as I did do with mine and for all you out there that have your dad’s? Make damn well sure you appreciate every moment I don’t let them die. Will you have regrets if you are a jerk to them to all those people that might have been..” I hope you don’t mind my word of advice to the masses in this thread lol I’m glad he got to pick his guitar and sing to them nurses;)” Peace
Who cares Why. but how does this happen?
Joytaylor...i don't know how...we just call it a gift...we were given our dad back for a short period...sooo thankful.
A surge that lasts 3 weeks?
@FC-hj9ub yes...he passed away after that...sounds crazy but true.
People need sweet caring nurses like you. You are a blessing
My mom purked up after hanging on by a thread for a 10 days after a devistating stroke. She was going cold on the extremities...but than she came to her sences , spoke , recognised us, comented on the temperature in the room...and kept going to full recovery ! Still alive a year later and kicking ass at 88!
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Love this!
Thank you so very much for sharing....❤
Tears of joy!!!!!
Usually 3 days before
This tells us how precious every moment is when life energy is flowing....live every moment with joy, happiness and with gratitude..make most of this lifetime ❤
This is amazing.our bodies know what to do.❤.
Indeed, it is designed that way.
How beautiful this is. The body releases its reserve of hormones for one last moment. What a gift this is.
I was on a hospice care team as a pharmacist, and I always loved hearing the nurses stories about the patients last rallies.
I believe it is a gift from God and proof that He loves us.
Right! Maybe one last chance to repent and accept Christ. Just a thought.
🙏🏼♥️ #Maranatha
Yep all those children with Cancer, he sure cares
It happened with my beloved Gran, in hospital she had perked up unbelievably, smiling, her skin looked smooth & beautiful, cheeks rosy and eyes alight & sparkling, smilingly & alight with joy.......she asked if we could hear the Boy Scouts marching band and the beautiful music....there was nothing...just the empty hospital corridor! She passed away at midnight....To this day, I still carry that last treasured picture in my heart 35 years later ×
@@MayHall-xo4wt That’s so beautiful🥹! I love that😍🥰!
The last thing my mother did on her death bed was sit straight up and said "give me a glass of milk & two ibuprofen so I can go home and raise my little sweetie" *me as I'm the only child* it was bitter sweet
:( I'm so sorry
Maybe she had a failed pregnancy before you
@@denveradventures589 what?? Lol why would you think that? I seriously don’t get that impression
@@BadfishtoooI get why
@@denveradventures589huh? She thought she had just given birth to her only daughter. Is what I gather. Why would you think she had a child that passed? Oh u think go home meant heaven? Go home and take care of that child? But no. No. She meant her only child.
My dad recently passed at 89 after suffering a broken hip. I thank you so much for all of your videos. I have been watching you for a time now and felt very comfortable knowing what I might expect to happen. The hospice company was great as well, making the grieving process much easier for me. You are an angel on earth!
I call it "The Gift". A sweet memory to come back to when in our times of raw grief.
You couldn’t have said it more beautifully.
My brother is currently doing this. He was in a coma this morning, we moved him to hospice, then he woke and decided he wanted to resume chemo (cancer has spread all over his body). I think he is rallying & holding on until his son arrives from Overseas service.
Edit: he died roughly a week later. His son did make it from oversees (thank you US Army for making this happen!).
The Drs were considerate, but let him know chemo would take a little time to schedule & coordinate (there were other patients waiting on chemo). This gave him a sense of calm & control, but he never resumed treatment.
Due to these videos, we all knew with confidence this was expected behavior. Thank you nurse Julie!
I hope he made it. God Bless.
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Is he okay now?
@@toadette9588 the cancer had spread all over his body. By that point it's too late. Chemo can't kill the cancer fast enough. It's like a dam breaking and trying to build a new one before the water destroys a nearby town. There's just not enough time
That surge or the rally, is a gift from God...to be able to have a " normal" moment with your loved one for the last time
I agree , a blessing for all .
It has nothing to do with your so called God.
A gift from God? How about not letting them die in the first place!!!
@@philipketchell8369 Be nice and let people believe what they want! God may not exist to you but to some people God does exist. I am an atheist myself but it's best to still respect people to believe what they believe without protest from us. As long as we are allowed to not believe in God, I see no problem with allowing theists to believe in God as they please. Being an atheist doesn't allow you to be mean to theists. There isn't proof God doesn't exist either so no one really knows for sure. BE NICE!
@@stacyann825death was defeated. This life is a vapor compared to eternity. All of humanity will be restored. This life isn’t it - I promise ❤
This happened with my father three days in a row. He would be unresponsive during the day but at 6:32 PM, he would wake up, was hungry, walked with no assistance, and spoke with such clarity. The first night we sat up together until after midnight as he shared his favorite memories. He went to bed and was unresponsive the next day. He woke up again at 6:32 PM, hungry and wanting to talk privately with each of his children and grandchildren. He shared his love for each and his hopes for their lives. He was again unresponsive the next morning. He woke up at 6:32 that night for the final time. He sat on the porch overlooking the beautiful farm. He cried. He was sad he would no longer be here for us. But then in an instant his tears stopped. He began to smile and mentioned he was going to meet his brother (a brother who died at birth years before my father was born). Dad was ready to go back inside but now needed help to walk. His kissed my mother three times and said, “I hope these will last until I see you again.” He slipped away that night. I’ve never understood the significance of 6:32 but I will always cherish those hours we were granted.
Yes, that 6:32 was quite odd. I wonder why that particular time 3 times
That was so beautiful! Thank you for sharing that precious memory!
I worked with Alzheimer's and dementia elders for 30 years. Sometimes we ask families about certain times and it turns out it was the time they started getting ready for work every day or something similar. A routine time throughout a long period of time in their lives or rather, prominent time to them.
@@ohgawdwow that’s interesting. My father thankfully at the time i type this is alive, but he did have a very close call with heart failure of some description (I’m not fully educated in all the specifics) but oddly enough for a span of maybe close to 2 months, before we knew he had anything wrong with his heart he would start moaning and groaning every morning at 2:30 on the dot after waking him he would insist he’s not in any pain. After a few times of waking him and again him never insisting he was in any actual pain I stopped, and the moaning/groaning would transition into him reliving hard past experiences, and mumbling repeatedly “mama mama mama mama” later he ended up going to hospital in an ambulance not long after and almost died.
@@Jackmonkey66666hghinnv oh honey. That sounds like it was really difficult to watch. You are very strong and courageous to go through that with him. Sounds like he was working through some trauma from his early life. People often go through a reckoning of their lives before they pass. Some folks have a harder time than others. Much love to you and your family 💖
I was with my dad for a week in the hospital. His condition hadn't changed since we arrived. He was intubated and sedated. I told him I was returning to work the next day but I would be back that night. The night I left, he had his surge, which I found out about from the ICU nurse the next morning during my check-in call. He was gone within 12 hours of it. I wish I had known about this then. Thank you so much for helping us understand death.
You nurses are really very special human beings , where would we be without you , thanks to you all. 🎉😊❤
Thank you for explaining this, my mom passed away and I was with her during her surge and she gave me the talk... letting me know that I was going to be ok with out her, WOW so helpful
My mom DID THE SAME thing.. she told me I would be ok
it's what moms do. that is precious
You are so very blessed to have been given that time with her. ❤️❤️😥
We thought my Mom just had the flu. This was early covid times and we were all recovering. I had her come and stay with us, so I could look after her. After 2 days, my Momi got up, cooked a full meal, and demanded we do karaoke. She got tired after a while and laid down, all the while making me sing to her all night. Momi loved my voice. It's like we didn't want our time to end. I crawled into bed with her and we joked and laughed like two girls at a sleepover. 5hrs latter, I was calling the ambulance. Pulmonary embolism is what they said. There was nothing we could have done. I'm sooo grateful for the special time we had, but I still miss my BEST FRIEND. It's been 5 years and I all can't stop crying. 😢😢😢😇😇😇
I feel you’re pain Im sorry for you’re loss..😢🙏❤️ I lost my mom to Covid in 2021..I’m forever 💔
@iippesante4102 My Heart goes out to you! We share a pain, I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Please know that you're beautiful Mothers SPIRIT lives on WITHIN YOU & those she cherished. I'm learning to show my Momi reverence, by doing special things for myself. Treat yourself to good foods, special gifts, and excellent self-care. I hope you have a good family & friends to help you through all of the tough times. I do not have family or good friends to help me through and this has truly slowed my healing... but not prevented it. The emotions never leave. I liken the feelings to waves. In the beginning, the waves come as a tsunami; completely inundating & overwhelming you. Then the transform into huge waves that come and knock you over. Eventually, the waves hit, but they only come waist deep. You can stand, even though you so feel them. It's not that the feelings have gotten smaller... it's that you have GROWN BIGGER, STRONGER, & LESS AFRAID of an all too familiar feeling. I wish you the best on your journey! If you ever need to talk... I'm here. ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥😇😇😇😇😇😇
I'm so sorry for your loss. How beautiful that you got to say good bye to her and spend her last moments with her. I wish I had done that with my father. I miss him so much.
@janetsadeghi1501 I'm so sorry for your loss too! When they are good and caring, they stay next to you like guardian angels. How long has it been dearest?
@@SaronJoy thank you! My father passed away on February 10th, 2021 😢❤️ Yes, when they are good people like your dear mother and my father it can be really hard to let go.
Every time I watch one of your videos, I say to myself "That's my mom !" She had about an hour that was completely lucid. I was sitting by her bedside. All i remember her saying "I know i have given you a hard time and I haven't made this easy. I don't know what I would have done without you."
Wow!!!! I experienced this with my grandmother!!!! I really thought that she would get out of the dark place and be well again. It was the most beautiful moment having to see that and know that we felt an energy from her. We felt the room with her love. The next day she passed. I miss her so much!
She hit the nail on the head. My sister (60) passed in 2018 did exactly what she said. My sister wanted my oldest sister my twin brother and myself to each say a Prayer.
Nurses are " Special Humans" place on earth.
Thank you for caring for our love ones.
My mom died just 14 days ago. Her surge was different because she couldn’t speak or move anymore. So my sister had flown in and my mom was breathing hard and would stop breathing. So I was scared she would pass away before my sister got there, so for four hours I told her to breathe and that my sister was almost there. So I would say breathe Mama, breathe and she would. So my sister got there and I was expecting my mom to stop breathing but she didn’t. Her breathing normalized and she just sat there listening to us talking. The next day when we came to see her, her eyes looked clearer even though before her eyes looked dead-like. But her eyes looked clear and she was watching us and squeezed my sister’s hand. And when my daughter came in, she lurched up and tried to speak to her. An Ah sound came out. The next day she died. It’s been 14 days and I’m still trying to adjust to her being gone.
I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless you. I will keep you and your family in prayer 🙏
Condolences. Your story picked my interest: does your mother condition was somehow related to a neurological damage?
So sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
I’m praying for you and your family stay strong
My sister was just put on hospice Thursday 4/19/23. She had wanted to attend her granddaughters wedding in September. We could see she wasn’t going to make it. She bought her dress two weeks ago. The bride and other granddaughter took her dress and the brides dress to the hospital. They ate pizza , drank, coke and after having a photo shoot 😊watched jeopardy together. A smiling happy lady who had just started hospice that afternoon. Before hospice she was having difficulty breathing and a lot of pain. She passed away the next day. Thank you Hospice for those last happy hours that she had with her granddaughters. ❤
What a sweet and special memory!
Thank you LORD JESUS✝️😇💕
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I have experience in hospice care, and it’s what I got taught in that job that’s helped me cope with the loss of my dog. She was a special dog. She was special needs because of being rescued from an abusive situation. My husband had her from the age of 8 months old. She was a gorgeous little thing- a jack Russell x whippet. Anyway, when her daddy became ill, she was my rock. When I was struggling to deal with her terminal illness, she was my rock. She was my little best mate. Anyway, the day b4 she passed, she was full of life more than normal, and snacking. We had an inkling she was going to pass for 2 weeks. Our family knew and our best friends-nobody else. She was so brave. She passed away in my arms at 3:40am on July the 17th this year, just 15 days b4 she turned 17 years old. I noticed her slow down in the last 10 hours, so me being me, i just made her comfy and gave her a relaxing environment. The window was open so she could feel the breeze, she was in her favourite big red blankie that we always took on her holidays, she had a beautiful rainbow light to look at, and I put her favourite cartoon on the mobile for her to listen to. My mum got to speak to her on the phone and tell her she loved her, and the. She passed sat in my arms in her favourite chair. I just go into nurse mode in a crisis I cope well. In reality, I was falling apart, but I done well and the right things she would have wanted. I started a group on Facebook for people not coping with the loss of an animal family member . It’s been nice to use my experience as a nurse and carer to people who have lost animal family member and who have lost human family members - because I was a hospice nurse for terminal cancer patients. Sorry for babbling on, but I think the info here will help the group I’m to keep watching for signs as some people are pre grieving
Don’t apologise for talking about your beloved dog. Dogs are pure angels and every bit a part of the family as a human child, I only wish every person with a dog cared about them as much as this because they all deserve a safe home that loves them like any other member of the family.
It is a gift. My Mom had a last conversation with her oldest grandson less than 24 hours before she died at 91 years. Hours later she could barely talk, but still engage when her youngest son called. I know she so appreciated her last visits with her children and grandchildren. She was the best Mom anyone could wish for.
My dad was confused but I knew it was his time. Seeing him get up and be excited like his old self was bitter sweet
I can't believe this was the highlight of 2023 for me. My poor little sister... I would've given my own life to save hers. Three months since she passed away and I'm so tired of grieving, it's draining my energy and I have no tears left to cry.
🫂🫂🫂🫂 i hope your heart finds moments of peace and hope. I know it's draining and you want to jump out of your body just to avoid this sting. I'm not going to sugarcoat it, it's never gonna go away but you will learn to live with it as there will be moments where your heart will be at peace. Wish you the best🌸
@@akankshajha7250 Thank you so much for your kind words.
@@akankshajha7250 Thank you so much, I appreciate your support. God bless you ❤🙏
just want to say; Look up GRIEF COMES IN WAYS poem, very helpful. Also think what would she have wanred? She would want you to go on enjoying life! A good way to help transition from ft grieving is to do some charitable things in their honor eg a fundraiser walk or donate your time to a charity you know she would like in her honor; our mood improves around social activities so you are helping the charities but it is also helping you and no doubt that's what she would want for you!
Grief is a lifelong process. It has only been a few months since your sister passed away. Give yourself some grace. I am praying for you.
After working as a CNA, I was aware when I saw this two days before my dad died at a nursing home. After being completely bed ridden for two weeks and losing 10 pounds in ten days from not eating, he suddenly desired to sit in a chair for his meal and wolfed down a complete meatloaf dinner with mashed potatoes and beans. My mother thought he had made a turnaround but I had seen it too many times before so I just raised my eyebrows to her like I was pleasantly surprised. I’m glad my experience had prepared me for his death two days later.
I think this is so nice for their loved ones to have another chat, smile, laugh and hug❤
I'm a hospice nurse too, I call it the nesting period. Similar to when a pregnant woman has a flurry of activity right before she gives birth. It's a special time when life comes into the world and goes out of it. I think it helps my families see the dying time as natural and sacred as the birthing time.
it was beautiful to see Mom up and joking . She ate a full meal and had a shake . we laughed and talked . she died 2 days later ... I was tickled and blessed to have that day with her . I love and miss you Mama
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My grandmother did this. She had been sick for a few days or a week. She got up one day feeling great,had a really good day! Went to bed that night and died in her sleep. She always said "you will feel better before you die"
So she was fine and healthy, then sick for only a few days, then she passed?? That’s so fast and probably unexpected, I’m so sorry :(
Happens to women before labor sets in too .
Being born Dying ..
I believe they are
Both entry into a whole new world .
My daughter was 38. She died of a hidden heart condition but struggled all the time wit other health issues. She’d been really extra sick with g.i. Issues for several days. She thought this time was just one more hill to climb. I kept trying to get her to go to the ER, but she refused. But on the Friday before she died she woke up feeling really good we hung out all day laughing over silly things and watching our fav programs. She said: Mom, I feel SO much better, I think I’m turning the corner!
I was so relieved. She died the next day on Saturday when she laid down for a nap. The coroner said she’d actively been bleeding out from her heart into her lungs for at least three days. She ultimately died of exsanguination. How could she have felt so good the day before she died, as she was bleeding to death? So I know this is definitely true.
I'm so sorry :(
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So sad. I'm so very sorry mama.
God that’s awful
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Over the span of my nursing career I have seen this many times. As a women who lost her significant other I experienced it 🕊️❤️🩹
I have seen this with my two pupils. Let me tell you, the energy that the patient has & the great vibes it puts out. Will confuse every loved one around them to believe they will get better. What a phenomenon to witness.🙏
My mother didn't really have a surge, she just seemed more with it than usual. She introduced me as her son, which she hadn't for months due to her dementia. Her last good day made it extremely hard for me to accept her dying the next day. Her good day made me hopeful and optimistic just to have it all snatched away in 24 hours
Hang onto that last good memory you have!! Hugs to you.
My Mother was on Hospice & SHE wanted to make it to her 60th Birthday.. EVERYONE CAME TO SEE HER &.SHOWER HER WITH LOVE.. THEY HAD A CHANCE TO SAY GOODBYE...AT THE END OF THE DAY SHE SAID " I MADE IT TO MY BIRTHDAY SIS" WITH A BIG SMILE ON HER FACE...IT WAS BEAUTIFUL & 2 DAYS LATER SHE PASSED AWAY. THEH HAD ME & MY SISTER BATHE HER , ONE LAST TIME. WE ALSO😅 CUT SMALL , LOCKS OF HER HAIR TO KEEP. I BELIEVE IT IS MUCH BETTER TO PASS AT HOME & NOT BE STUCK IN THE HOSPITAL...SENDING LOVE & LIGHT YOUR WAY. TO POWER YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY OF LOVE & MERCY. 💜💙💚
Wow, this is something I've experienced, when my mamaw was in active stage of dying she was completely out of her head , she was either talking to ppl we didn't see or she was talking to us as if we were those ppl. The night before she died she woke up and started talking to me as if it was a normal day. We had the best conversation that night, it was just she and I, we didnt speak above a whisper and each was able to tell the other how much we loved each other. All my aunts and uncles, many of my cousins and myself were there around the clock , but she waited for the first minute that we were all out of her room and she passed away.
Ive heard that is common for people to wait until the people leave the room.
@@Freeyourself206 also that night we all heard praise and worship music, each thinking the other was playing it but actually nobody was but we all heard it from different rooms.
My dad was on hospice, and he waited for me to leave the room.
I was gone for 7 minutes, and he passed
@kimw1520 I'm sorry. Ifs what they feel is best I suppose. My dad died at home, I had just left and although we didn't know he was going to die it was probably for the best that I didn't see it happen. He went to the bathroom and a blood clot went to his heart
Isn’t this an amazing phenomenon! It gives you those few hours where you know they are conscious and can hear your last words to them. ❤
It’s a beautiful moment that God gave us so that we can tell that loved one how much we love them or ask for forgiveness or anything that is going to bring peace for them and for us, it’s a moment for them to pray, it’s a moment that often brings Closure.
We have a 34 year old family member who is terminally ill with cancer. He was placed on hospice care 3 weeks ago. The last update he weighed 82 pounds. This has been gut wrenching as he has a 6 year old daughter. We’re very close to his end as I type this. I was praying for a miracle but now I’m praying for the lord’s mercy. Someone reading this is probably going through something so I will offer you my prayer of strength, courage and healing.
This happened with my first husband. He was dying of lung cancer and on the Saturday he perked up, got out of bed and even walked and talked and I thought God healed him but he passed away the next morning.
Heartbreaking this happened with my Mom. She demanded off of hospice and to get her exercising and get her vitamins. It was exciting for both of us. We promised to have coffee at the kitchen table the next morning. It never happened. Tears
Oww, god. At least you got to be with her.
Sweet time🎉
My dad had this and it confused my mother so much. She thought he was getting better and would be going home from hospice. Then he died a few days later and she was so bewildered. It really messed with her mind. She had a nervous breakdown after he died at age 54 from cancer and she herself is now a totally different person even 11 years later. My mother I knew is gone. I grieve and mourn for her daily even though I see her 5 days a week. She is just a shadow of who she used to be. It is so hard for me to deal with. I miss her, I miss having a mom. I am only 42 and was just 31 when all of this happened. My mom is now 62 and people would look at her and think she is in her 80’s. I am heartbroken and feel like I lost both of my parents. I help to take care of her even though her mind is different and she is incredibly cruel and mean to me now. Society does not give us the tools to deal with this. When it happens people feel alone and isolated, and usually dont share. Then when it happens to someone else, that person feels alone and like it is only happening to them. So many people suffer in silence. We need to talk more and need funding to deal with our elderly and sick people. As a society we discard them. It’s horrible. We will all be old, or sickly, (unless we have a sudden accident) and we should all make taking care of people in this stage of life a priority as a society.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm about to turn 80 and luckily I am still in pretty good shape, but there is no way to know what is going to happen. It does worry me.
@@Mickju I just want to tell you that a perfect stranger is praying for you. I’m praying for peace and comfort for you. And rejoicing in your good health and praying that you have it for many years yet.
My heart goes out to you
This happened to our Mom who was on hospice. I was her caregiver. She had been in a wheelchair for 3 months, with little speech & could not walk on her own. The Last day she was alive, woke up in the morning, sat up unassisted, got out of bed unassisted, went to the bathroom, used it, then washed her fac unassisted. Walked down the hall unassisted, sat on her couch, told me what she wanted for breakfast, asked what was taking me so long:) (which it wasn't:) Ate unassisted, put jelly on her toast and told me she went to Heaven last night and that everybody there LOVED her!:) Her speech was perfect and she was very very happy!!! She talked joyfully for about an hour.
She looked like she was getting tired, so I asked if she wanted to go sit in her recliner? She said yes. So my son and I, grasped her under her arms & walked her into the living room and while doing so, my Mom LEFT HER BODY!!! While eating, She had kept seeing LIGHTS & said "I hear your Daddy calling me, Can you hear him?" she even made me pick up the telephone to see if I could hear him that way:) She asked if I could see the LIGHTS. Which I couldn't. What a Joyous Exiting she had!!! I miss you Mom! I'm sure you are having a wonderful time in Heaven ❤ Our/my Mom Loved Jesus ❤❤❤
Thank you for your channel:)
BTW: Mom was 83 yrs old.
When I worked on the floor, I saw this play out a few times. My father in law did it too. I always think of it as a gift from God to the family, to see and experience the persons true self one last time.
This happened to my mother. The doctor said well let’s run some more bloodwork and see what happens. She passed away the following day. When I heard that this was going on, I wanted to believe that she was getting better but I knew in my heart what this was and that she was only going to die soon. The same exact thing happened to my aunt before she passed away also. She had Thanksgiving dinner with the family and was laughing and talking and joking at the table. As soon as she was done eating within just a few minutes, my father had to carry her to the room because she started feeding and lost all of her strength to walk. She passed away the next day at 1:30 in the morning such a crazy thing to see happen.
My husband of 24 years died at age 55 in 2021. He had been suffering for five years of severe heart disease and open-heart surgeries. And the week before he died, he began doing things around the house that I didn’t want him doing because it was hard on him and his heart. He started cleaning the garage so that I could be able to park my car my car in there, he dug a small trench on the side of the house to keep the rain away from the foundation, and he went grocery shopping enough for at least a week and a half. I kept trying to get him to stop and breast because he looked tired but he wouldn’t listen to me. He died of cardiac arrest in the emergency room three days later.
I’ve witnessed this so many times with my patients - it’s comforting to their families as well as confusing, as many people think it’s their loved ones actually being healed. In a way it is, they’re preparing to go home. Their final journey 😇
Please Go to Jesus, you will find yourself security of your eternity.
*Romans 3:23*
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
*Romans 6:23*
For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
*John 3:16-18*
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.
I JUST commented about this phenomena on another one of your videos! I also estimate it occurs in maybe 20% of patients and that they usually pass within 24-48hr after that. It’s comforting how hospice nurses from all over the country have seen this.
It’s also something I have “warned” loved ones about, because they often feel like their loved one is “getting better”. I would explain that we don’t understand it fully, but to consider it a GIFT and to cherish every second of it and suggest to stay with them as long as they are in this stage if at all possible, because it doesn’t usually last long. I think the longest I’ve ever seen was about a day and a half, while the shortest was more like an hour or two. I don’t remember ever seeing it happen more than once either (near the end that is), so it is to be treasured like the most valuable present you’ll ever receive!
Agree!
I'm not a hospice nurse but I've seen it several times in my career as a nurse. I call it a gift as well. It's so disheartening trying to explain it's temporary to family members. I'm glad people are becoming more aware of this phenomenon.
God bless you lady for all that you do. Healthcare workers are very special people!
May God continue to bless you!🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
This happened with my husband. I told him to keep his mind opened because I would contact him on the other side. He said he would. Seven months later he has come to me through a light in the internet tower in my bedroom in response to my talks. It doesn’t light up normally. Spirit is now all vibration, energy working with electrical in my case. We are learning to communicate in another form. It brings me joy and peace.
My uncle just passed away and as he was dying he cried out, "I'm sorry Jesus, I am sorry Jesus!" As a follower of Christ, I am elated that he called out and repented before he died. Have you ever heard someone do that before?
My Mom joked with my sister and I even danced with me in her wheel chair. She hadn't talked for awhile. We left and I got the call from her Assisted living facility bout 8hrs later. We had that Special time.🙏
It's the calm before the storm.
I watched my dad die. He saw angels and others that came to welcome him to cross over. I could feel their presence, too.
My mom passed from Alzheimer's. That took years and although she remembered me and my dog, it was heart renching.😢
Same happened with my Dad and Mom … pretty much exact. I know how you feel. Dad couldn’t talk in the end but got very excited about something he was seeing and kept pointing to the wall like he was saying “can’t you see them?” I miss them every day and it’s been almost 12 years.❤️🩹
As a retired nurse, we always called it "The Gift". It is like that one, final opportunity to spend time with those they love and leave behind.
Yup! I lived this with my pops and 2 days later he went in peace. I was so incredibly lucky to have had the opportunity to see him be himself, the man with best sense of humor, one last time. So looking forward to being with him again.
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Thank you for making this series of videos, I had experienced may deaths of loved ones for the past 10-12 years, I had even witnessed a couple of passings
I admire you, you can never get used to see someone dying, but we all going to die and understanding this process is really important to bring comfort and compassion to the patient and loved ones
I thank you for doing this videos, I recently discovered your channel and I’m really impressed for your knowledge and compassion
My father just passed a couple of years ago out of cancer, but one thing he taught me, that the only 100% for sure thing we have when we born is that one day, sooner or later we will die (and I experienced that for 97 seconds due to a brain aneurysm and thankfully the Drs brought me
Back), with an excellent observation, always be happy, learn, be smart and understand that having a happy life will give you so much peace with yourself and loved ones that the rest of your life (as long it may be), will be the best everyday for you and loved ones!! (And YES, you can make people happy!! And that will make us, alive people, happier!! And that’s the whole point!!
With all that, I say again, thank you for your work, knowledge and compassion that you’re teaching us through this work you’re doing, you honestly humble me (a lot) with this, I envy you for all you do because, you can do it and I can’t, but that’s a good envy!! I, personally need to learn a lot from you (let alone all of us mortals!)
Keep doing the good work, and I hope that when the time comes, if I need care, I find someone like you!!
I’m curious did you have a NDE? I have a feeling you had a very knowledgeable one ❤
@@cindyfitzgerald4500 How do you know??? Yes! I have one, a personal one!!
@@jlbarrera I’m sorry I wasn’t trying to offend you. Yes your right it’s a personal one
@@cindyfitzgerald4500 you didn’t offend me at all!!
On the contrary, I really got impressed!! You read between the lines of what I said!
And I thank you for that! We can talk about it any time
@@jlbarrera I’m so relieved to hear I didn’t offend you. For myself when you mentioned you had a embolism and the drs brought you back and so much the things you said told me you have been to the other side and you know much more than you are saying in your comment. I would love to hear about your NDE if you would like to share. I have 2 friends who have been to the other side. One of them 2 years ago was finally able to go back home. She taught me so much and helped me on my awakening. But if you would ever like to talk to me about anything I’m here for you. ♥️
As Healthcare workers, we have seen this many times and understand the process. Most family members do not understand that this isn't an indication of the patients getting well. I enjoy it when this happens.
how they should know? It is up to you to get get them some info
In Ireland we call it the wee lift before death. It's a well known occurrence.
As a hospice chaplain, I believe and tell family its God's gift to remember those last hours, as a happy moment vs sad
This happened with my brother. He woke up. Sat up and said he is so thirsty and has to pee. He got up with me and walked to the bathroom with the nurse. I was so happy for that moment. He thanked me for being there and taking care of him. ❤❤❤ The next day he passed. I was blessed to have him tell me he loved me and everything is ok. ❤️❤️
When my dad was dying, he looked across the room and said "yes, i'm coming" gave me the shivers.
Thank you for doing these!! We were told my dad had a few weeks left (in the nursing home, he was only there for four days) then he just passed quietly. 😢 I was at his bedside the entire night before and when I left in the morning I said I’ll see you later dad! And he smiled, he was so weak, but I had no idea I would lose him a few hours later. For anyone that got to be by their loved one’s side when they passed, you are so lucky and cherish the moment forever! ❤
I was with both of my parents when they passed over 8 years apart. I'm so very thankful I got to be with them.
Thank you for your wisdom❤
My dad got on hospice one morning and passed away that evening.
My Uncle Jim went through this ... what i think is that they finally see where they are going and are at peace and are happy.
I love you, Uncle Jim ♡
Yes, that is a nice way of describing it.
That's how we knew my granddad was about to pass. He'd had a series of strokes that left him nonverbal. All of a sudden he became lucid and verbal. That's when my aunt called my mama and told her "Kippy, you gotta come quick, it's time." We all piled into the car and drove down to say goodbye. Loved him to bits... and I'm not even sure that he really knew my name. I was always just "gurr-al" to him, or "the gurr-al child" when he was referring to me to others. Which was odd, because I had two sisters and a female cousin... but even if he didn't know my name, I loved him fiercely. Still do. Miss you old man.
This is what my grandmother did… perked up and had a great day and was gone the next. It’s amazing 👍👍👍
I saw this rally in my friend on Sunday, she passed away on Tuesday. Lord have mercy.
Wow that is what happened to mom. We all thought she was going to pull out of it and go home. The next early early morning she went the other way. She just stared at me all the time. No mater if I was in front of her, going from one side of her bed to the other, she moved her eyes and or her head toward me. I called my brother and her sister to come in. My mom and me never looked at anything else but each other until she passed away.
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That's intense 😢
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I had that experience with my dad during his rally. He couldn’t speak bc of the ventilator but his eyes locked onto me. I actually started to feel uncomfortable bc I felt he wanted to tell me something that I wasn’t getting. I went home that night and dreamt a vivid dream in which I understood that he had was trying to tell me he was going to pass. The hospital phoned the next morning to say his systems were failing (after having good numbers day before) too fast and he was then actively dying. He lived another 24 hours and passed at the same hour I had woken the day before in sleep paralysis, from the dream in which I finally understood he was going to pass away. But I’ve never heard anyone describe my experience before of my dad’s eyes so locked on mine/me that evening, and following me everywhere I went in the room.
I too love to see the rally. I used to bring my patients whatever they wanted at that time. I think that it's good for the family. Unfortunately, I cannot work any longer...I miss it.
I bet there’s a possibility you canstill play a role in helping hon. Perhaps as a hospice volunteer? Or share your love & wisdom somehow w-others that most definitely need your experience? Blessings 🙏☮️
Years ago, this was called "the swan song". Just before dying, swans were known to revive and sing one last time.
Really; thanks for the historical information. Pretty interesting.
That actually doesn’t happen.
Just went through that with my Mom. She was unable to go down stairs without help. Saturday morning, she came downstairs and we had an amazing chat. 12 hours later, she could no longer speak. I adore that I had one last time to talk to my Mom.
My Mother had the Surge just a day or so after putting her under hospice care and I thought oh my gosh, I just put her under hospice care. She had me help her to her computer, she ate well...we laughed etc. This lasted about 3 days, then aprox 3 days later she died. Of course she knew about a month beforehand that she would be leaving this life and told me so. She was ready, I was ready. She lived with me and died at home the way she wanted to. Our hospice Nurse was fantastic, he was so helpful and caring. I thank all hospice ppl for their compassion and support. I miss Mom, but she is with the love of her life now... my Dad.
My grandma had her surge when she was on hospice, I am thankful I was able to talk to her then. She called me sweetheart (which she hadn’t done in a while because of Alzheimer’s) and told me she loved me tons and tons (which is how she signed her cards for us). She passed away a few days later. I miss her tons and tons.
My mother in law did this apparently. They got her, the food she asked for and had a good few hours. Next day she died. I never knew her but it's a fond memory for my husband.❤️
So did my MIL
Thank you for your videos especially explaining the rally. I worked in a funeral home in college and many families were very confused by the rally and the subsequent passing. It is unfortunate they did not have your guidance.
When my mom died, she had this surge on Mother’s Day surrounded by her husband 6 children and their significant others and numerous grandchildren . It felt like a final gift. She died 4 days later, but for that last Mother’s Day we got to spend it with her, look at old photos, laugh, and she even got to make some
Amends. It was so beautiful! Now Mother’s Day has only good memories for me
This happened to my dad the day and night before he passed. He talked and joked and Reminisced about the past.
You are a calming and comforting woman because you take the anxiety from watching a loved one die. You teach us the phases, behaviors, things to earth for, so when they happen we know and it takes away the
unknown.
God bless your dedication to information and comfort .
I had that with my grandmother. It was healing. I like to think there’s a bit of higher power gifting this event anytime it happens.
its our bodys' chemical 'last hurrah' .. then we are spent.. it truly is a Gift.
My mother did a rally too, I was grateful for it. We had a huge dinner and conversation and she was happy and content, it lasted two days. She got up in the morning and made breakfast for us. We cared for her at home, on the third day she went to hospice and died the following day.
That absolutely happened before my dad passed. I never understood how he all of a sudden "woke up," and then was gone just as fast. But he did have a much needed special moment with my mom, which we are so grateful for.
My father in law did this. We got a call to say he was dying, when we got to the hospital he was sat up happily eating a tin of peaches. Asked us what the hell we had taken the day off work for! He passed the next day.
In traditional Chinese medicine, this is called the false shen.
I saw this with my father. Although I prefer to call it The Angel's visit. It's as though an Angel has touched the person and allowed them to say goodbyes to family and loved ones.
Thank you
This happened with my mother who had dementia...she was normal again,it was like a miracle. She was able to express herself the way she did years ago,she clarified things to me that she wanted after she was gone. It truly was a miracle from God. I will never forget how special it was,unfortunately none of my family members were present to experience it and they don't believe me when I tell them the things she talked about,and say "oh,she was just talking nonsense again,she wasn't in her right mind"....but I know,and have peace of mind that she was very much so in her right mind again.
According to my mother, my father had cancer for a couple years. The weekend before he passed he got the strength to go up to the cabin and enjoy his hobbies one last time.
You are an immense comfort to me at this time in my life. Thank you ❤