REAL Love is to wish the good of the other. That is the first teaching of Jesus Christ. " Love one another as I have loved you". At the end of our life, we will be judged in how much we loved.
He hit the nail when it came to picking the right person and their family, The right partner can lift you to greatness, The wrong family will destroy what you had built
Man this really resonated with me. I’m 65. My wife and I have been married for 40 years. As times ticks by I often think, “I couldn’t love this woman any more than I do.” But my love for her grows. I think about what it will be like for us when one of us is gone. In the last 4 years I have lost my father to leukemia and two sisters to cancer. So yeah, I think about death often. I thank God for this life and this beautiful partner in life.
Good for you. I finished my doctorate in my 60s. The joy of learning and such a great sense of achievement. I share my new skills to mentor others. Keeps the mind active😊
Man to see him hurting hurts me 😔🙏🏾 give him peace oh Lord. Give us all Comfort for everyone who’s healing and hurting silently oh Lord i know you’re there. In your name we pray Amen 🙏🏾
I lost my wife 7 years ago, we loved to travel, just the 2 of us. So I still travel, alone. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her. And I still say goodnight to her every night.
My Wife and I were together for 53 years. She passed 4/24. It comforts me to hear someone else say that they still talk to their deceased Spouse. I thought maybe I wasn't normal. It is a very lonely life.
@@clay1883my husband passed away 27 years ago and there is not one day that I do not talk to him. He is always in my heart and in my thoughts. Every time si prepare a meal that he loved or hear a song or just when I go to bed I talk to him. I am not crazy or depressed . I just believe his soul is with me at all times. He did not go away.
Skip I lost my husband 27 years ago and I do the same. There is not one day that I do not remember him. The pain never goes away although I continue to do everything that we did together. Traveling, having social event but with my family. Never ever I could date another man since he was the first and the only love of my life
My husband is gone for almost 5 years. And I can not get over him dying and it feels as though he left me..if he could still be here, I know he wanted to be. 😊
I graduated HS in 1972 just wishing to be rich or invent something everyone wanted. Now soon to be 70 I look back and I can see that no matter how hard I worked and all the extra hours I put in I never could get out of being middle class. I missed out of our children growing up and I was out of so many pictures my wife took of those time. My advice to young people is that the system is not stack in your favor and at best most of you will just be average so learn to live the moment. Life goes by really fast, and you will leave life as you came in it nude, alone and penniless. So, enjoy every moment as if it was the last time cause it is, because you can't go back.
I am in total agreement with most of what you said. I’m only a few years behind you, 64 years old. The best choice I made in life is accepting JESUS CHRIST as my LORD and SAVIOR!
Indeed, that one was heartbreaking. Within a minute I was tearing up. I'm so glad he succeeded in finding true love though. It's becoming more and more rare these days.
People can’t find peace because they are looking for it which implies it’s missing. You can only seek what you have lost that’s why seeking love itself is not love at all. Love has more to do with letting go than holding on and most don’t realise that. If you can’t life without something you are depended on it , many won’t like to hear this but what most humans are is they are addicted to someone they are not in love since love is the only thing that can’t hurt in this life. It’s just not possible , anything that hurts can’t be love and anything that doesn’t let you be in peace is not love as well. I wish that he can let go of his wife so that he can be in peace out of love for himself since his wife never would want him to suffer.
@@ginosalihbegovic7137 well this man is grieving. Sadly, it cannot be rushed. Learning to let go is something we all ultimately have to learn how to do…it doesn’t make it easy though. My heart goes out to this sweet man along with others that have to endure painful times like these :(
My heart just breaks for this beautiful man who loves his wife so much. He is very insightful, wise and articulate. It is rare to find such an introspective and sensitive man. My husband is like this. His wife was as blessed to have him, as he knows he was to have her. May he be surrounded by loving and patient support. Deep grief is so hard and it takes each of us as long as it takes to get to the point where the intensity changes. No hurry! Sending blessings out into the universe to him and all who are grieving.
I'm 60 years old and my wife passed away last year after 30 years of marriage. It's the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I get through by completing her goals, by watching over our now adult children and ensuring they have happy and successful families of their own. Fulfilling a loved ones legacy is a great solace.
That sucks and I truly feel for you. I'm your age and all my friends are gone, plane crashes, motorcycle crashes, strokes, heart attacks, every single one gone all at once too. Even my very closest bud. I deal with it the best I can, by being thankful for all the time I had. We had great times and I've come to understand how much more I had than so many others. It brings a sad smile. But it is a smile!
@@SlowRiderDucati yes that's what I do I try to honor my husbandevery day Sept is hard cuz my dad's death was in 2013 he would have been 105 tomorrow and my husband's death is on the 22 nd it will be 3 yrs since his passing praying for you 🙏
That gut thing is so incredible! At 56 I’m finally getting to that state where I’m realizing my gut feelings were more important than I gave them credit for.
Same with me! I’m 58 and there were a few times that I trusted the advice of others who I thought were “wiser”, instead of my gut instinct, and how I regret it!
What this man is going through right now is what I am going through. The feeling of dying alone. The feeling of waking up everyday not being about to say good morning to the person you have loved for years. Hitting me hard.
I’m 70 and my life advice for young people is pray with all the energy of heart to feel God’s perfect love for you. If you will do this, your life will be changed forever. You will learn who you really are, what your purpose is here on earth and where you’re going. You will see very clearly that what anyone else thinks about you, is simply their opinion and has no value.
Beautiful advice❤️☝️ If people only took this advice 🙏 Its the best feeling in the world to finally have a personal relationship with God, be at peace and know your purpose. God bless!
I just moved to Mexico City Im 66 and I met this beautiful, intelligent, educated, wonderful 50 year old woman, and I'm going with my gut feeling on this. I'm not sure what she sees in me , but im going the extra mile this time.
His comment on how family can affect our choices and decisions is important to note. Our parents have their own baggage, so to speak. If a parent is not self-aware, their ways,fears, and insecurities are projected towards their children.
You can tell he is a very compassionate and caring man. I have the same relationship with my wife and I am sure I will feel just has he does if she were to pass before me.
I would love to see that guy in another years time. He's still reeling from loss right now. All of that pain is just under the surface. You can see that in every response. I'm sure his answers will be much more profound when he has time to process. You can tell that he is just a wonderful man. I hope that he gets out there and continues to live life to the fullest. He might have another 30 years to go. Lots of chapters yet to be written.
Totally can relate.... Lost my husband 3 days before Christmas 2019 and my Mom followed 4 months later. I see a lot of myself in him, seemed to have been raised very similar and it has taken many years to finally listen to my gut and stop worrying about disappointing others because if you don't learn to do that it's yourself you disappoint in the end.
I feel just like this guy. I was just 50 when my wife died (she was 58). There are so many older, lonely people out there in the world. We just want to have strong friendships and people in our life that we love, just like everyone else. Folks, please reach out to older people and give us a chance. We might surprise you!
@@emgregory528My kids, who are in their early twenties, say yes, I'm old and I'm 51 LOL. But hey, I exercise more than they do, but I guess that's because I have to, right? Most young people don't have to exercise :)
That man is so beautiful!!! The vulnerability that he displayed was so sad and inspiring. The part about his wife that he shared and the pain in his obvious cracking voice was heartbreaking. I am recently divorced and I will never have what he had with his wife and it breaks my heart. I am so inspired by his beautiful honesty. I also thought the part were he talked about the advice he would give to his younger self. I know the obedience issue growing up. I am him in that scenario, and I know how hard it is to find that balance he was talking about. A lot of bad decisions b/c of the obedience mindset. Not saying it's all bad, but it can be. We all need our own mind about us and with life, b/c no one has the same story, the same path in life, and to listen to the gut feeling more than obedience, b/c not everyone in this world has your best intentions at heart!! Thank you for this amazing story, and I pray that God would bring this man comfort for his losses!!! Have a beautiful day everyone!!
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Ultimately if we all feel that way about all other humans, think how awesome our world would be. Selfishness and greed brews contempt for others where as love provides true remedy and purpose ❤
I would also add, "Continuing to care for the person even if you're upset." I see so many people who would watch their spouse drive off a cliff and not bat an eye when they're angry. That's not love. Love is still getting up at 4 AM the morning after an argument and packing your husband's lunch for work because you know he gets low blood sugar and will likely skip breakfast and lunch if you don't. Or bringing your wife lunch home and handing it to her silently because you know she's not ready to talk yet.
So grateful for his honest sharing and insights. Oh, can feel the pain he’s still feeling just under the surface. May we all know a love as profound as the one he had with his wife. I hope he’s able to find a new version of happiness again. ❤
I want to be loved, but we cannot bend over and deprive ourselves of choices in life. That's a great encouragement I received from him. Thank you for saying it out loud.
"Me included I guess"😢 Beautiful interview. I will be 70 next year. In 2002 I lost my dear husband of 21 years to cancer at 47 years of age. He was the man of my dreams, so I have never remarried. The year after he passed away my mom passed away. A year later my dad needed me to live with him, as he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together and then he passed away at 91 years of age. My heart was broken again. So I can very much relate to this man’s thoughts and feelings. Later in life, I also learned to trust my "gut feeling". It is a gift.
Nice interview - good things to heed for a meaningful life. From a 65 yr old 40 years still married to my God-given girl. Grown successful children who have given me beautiful extended family and amazing grandchildren.
Wowza, what wonderful insights this man has! So sorry for your recent losses❤ He’s soooo right about the gut instinct. I began following my gut and things started going right for me. I stopped following my gut and reverted back to my people pleasing self and limited happiness.
God bless him. The fact that he was kind and patient enough to answer this stranger's questions. Even though he is clearly in a lot of pain from losing his wife and mother so recently.
I'm so grateful you released this longer version of this dear man. I was so captivated by him in the small bits of the prior video. If it would ever be possible, I'd love to hear from him in the future. He may have adapted more from the shock of his recent losses and in this space of this adaptation, I'd like to know if his perspectives shifted. He is a treasure, wishing him endless healing and joy 💜
I'd like to requeat you to tell this gentleman to make goals and follow them today. As a person in my 40s i just started learning violin and a lot of people that i am in contact with in these violin learning groups are over 70. Bad or good, you never know when your time comes. So please, set your goals now and work towards them. We see that you are also in good shape and looking much younger. So go for them. I hope we see you not in tears but happy and motivated next time. Thank you for all your good advice. And sorry for your losses.
I listened to this video and i cry because it touch my life and it is also the epitome of my life and am just 33 i don't want such to manifest you the opportunity i never take the risk i never take i simpertize with him just hope that god will give hime peace from with in
Condolences to this lovely man. Your wife picked well. I just turned 70 a few weeks ago and in 2021 I lost so many friends and family. I feel your pain. One day at a time my friend.
This gentleman is only 9 years my senior, but filled with an amazing wisdom! I too have made a decision to live more in the moment since I am burnt out with my overthinking the future. What a true gentleman ❤
I'm 70 now too. My subconscious goal was to live below my means so I could retire "young", although I never thought a lot about it. I retired at 55 after I told my boss some hard truths about how his organization really ran, and he called me a liar to my face. It was the best decision I ever made because my wife died a few years ago and I would not have had that extra time with her if I had worked to 65. Thinking of her and how horrible her disease was to us both still brings me to tears. As Queen Elizabeth said, "Grief is the price we pay for love."
I have almost never listen to my gut feeling until the last 5 years. Now I'm happier and getting caught up on my long term goals (66y/o). It's better this way for me. I think It's important to know that people WILL come and go throughout your life.
Don't you think that living alone is way better than being with someone who doesn't respect and genuinely likes you for you? You know settling instead of choosing? What this man and his late wife have is a blessing that not all individuals will experience in their lifetime. We can just be hopeful that we can also experience what they had but if it won't happen we can just choose to keep pushing and be better coz time won't just stop for anyone.
How wonderful. What that sweet man is referring to is Aristotle's Golden Mean. The beautiful and constructive "sweet spot" in most things in life is found somewhere in the middle of two extremes. Bless him for sharing so much wisdom in the midst of his own pain.
Beautiful....I'm 67....goal setting helps doesn't always have to be career....can be fitness oriented...serious hobby oriented which means the desire to be good at something using free time collectively not watching lots of tv...
Starting at an early age, I listened to older people . . . their reflections and their regrets. At age 30, my wife and I quit our jobs and traveled the world, economy style. We had great adventures and looked forward to more in the future. It was not to be . . . she died. I have no regrets. We took the time to play and have adventures. I had two uncles the same age. One was a multimillionaire and lived in Beverly Hills. One day the wealthy one asked his brother in law how many cruises he had been on. 110 was the response. The wealthy one said "think of the money you would have if you had saved it". The response was: "I think of my memories."
I love this advice, and the outlook you have. I was well on my way to a nice retirement when my ex cheated and I filed for divorce. Lost it all in the litigation and then some. Nothing else could have changed my perspective IMO, and now I view money/finances as something you should absolutely enjoy within your budget. I'm so sorry for your loss as well.
@@andrewmarshall7569 I'm so sorry your ex cheated. Disrespect, unloyalty and untrustworthiness are crushers in a relationship. I am having the same problem and I thought this was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with honestly/the one for me. I'm scared about what comes next. I just bought the journal though!! Not that cheap for a journal but I expect it to be a next-level journal that will support me to achieve some really great goals I have. Have fun and God bless! XX
What your not prepared for in life, is loss, sickness, grief and particularly loneliness. Love and happiness and sharing your life with a special person is the most wonderful thing, as is children. Giving yourself completely to each other is really wonderful. Live for today, love and laugh with all your heart.
This man is one of the luckiest men to ever walk the earth. He clearly spent his life with a remarkable woman, and they clearly had a remarkable marriage. The “Golden Years” aren’t so golden when you lose your partner. Life becomes just putting one foot in front of the other and waiting to die. It truly is the most difficult space to navigate, and what works for one person rarely works for you. We each have to find our own way, so live your best life before it’s too late.
I am so thankful I have my husband. I know neither of us would live long without the other. My in-laws died 3 weeks apart. He couldn't live without her.
Been married for 46 years soon to be 47 and he just retired a week ago 😬 it in itself is going to be an adjustment but I can honestly tell you I could never imagine my life without him we are truly a team ❤️
Trust your gut, be balanced in how you deal with people, try to live more in the moment and strive to have goals in life and be courageous enough to achieve them. Thanks, man. I hope your heart heals and you find your next thing. May your wife’s memory be a blessing
I really connect with this guy, very similar life and values. Although I am the future thinker at 67 and my husband is in the moment, at 70. Been together 35 years.
Thank you from a grieving man from losing his best friend and step daughter, don’t have kids of my own but she was my bestie. Hit home with me after loosing a lot, wife and family.
My husband and I celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary yesterday. I'm 72, and he is 77. It creates a mixed feeling. On one hand, it seems so profound that we have been blessed with this much life together. On the other hand, it feels like we were married "yesterday." We have passed through so many stages of life together. I know one day, much like many of the commenters here, that we will be making our last goodbyes. My heart goes out to all of you who have lost your beloved ones.
I know what you mean. My husband & I have been married 56 years. We’ve learned a lot in those years. We were very young (19 & 20) when we eloped. We talk about how lucky we are to have each other & we cherish every day.
There is nothing more beautiful than genuinely good people.
Love this man
this seems true
THE BEST STATEMENT EVER.....LOVE IS WISHING THE BEST FOR ANOTHER PERSON!
Agree! When you do that, regardless of you, and if "the best" includes you, then you know that's love.
To will the good of the other.
I absolutely agree.❤
Yes that really resonated with me.
REAL Love is to wish the good of the other. That is the first teaching of Jesus Christ. " Love one another as I have loved you". At the end of our life, we will be judged in how much we loved.
He hit the nail when it came to picking the right person and their family, The right partner can lift you to greatness, The wrong family will destroy what you had built
That happened to me, but found the right person in my 50s. There's always hope for change
You are correct. The wrong person can destroy you, the right person can lift you above the clouds.
What a lovely man. His grief is still very raw during the interview. I hope he is doing OK and finds supportive friends and companionship 💙
I know how he feels
He's got his cherry red Ferrari
Man this really resonated with me. I’m 65. My wife and I have been married for 40 years. As times ticks by I often think, “I couldn’t love this woman any more than I do.” But my love for her grows. I think about what it will be like for us when one of us is gone. In the last 4 years I have lost my father to leukemia and two sisters to cancer. So yeah, I think about death often.
I thank God for this life and this beautiful partner in life.
I’m 63 and working on my doctorate. It is not too late to achieve a major goal. I have one more semester before I am done. Just do it!
u sound rich. can I borrow 5k?
I love this. Never too old to learn and achieve. Congratulations!
What are you going to do with the doctorate? Get a job?
@@zentex8877 she may or maybe it’s just personal satisfaction to complete a goal. It will be interesting to see if she responds.
Good for you. I finished my doctorate in my 60s. The joy of learning and such a great sense of achievement. I share my new skills to mentor others. Keeps the mind active😊
Married 47 years …i say daily to-my beloved …Im very happy you are here with me we are blessed.……
Man to see him hurting hurts me 😔🙏🏾 give him peace oh Lord. Give us all
Comfort for everyone who’s healing and hurting silently oh Lord i know you’re there. In your name we pray Amen 🙏🏾
Amen! 🙏 ❤
I lost my wife 7 years ago, we loved to travel, just the 2 of us. So I still travel, alone. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her. And I still say goodnight to her every night.
My Wife and I were together for 53 years. She passed 4/24. It comforts me to hear someone else say that they still talk to their deceased Spouse. I thought maybe I wasn't normal. It is a very lonely life.
@@clay1883
I’m sorry for your loss Clay. Skip
@@clay1883my husband passed away 27 years ago and there is not one day that I do not talk to him. He is always in my heart and in my thoughts. Every time si prepare a meal that he loved or hear a song or just when I go to bed I talk to him. I am not crazy or depressed . I just believe his soul is with me at all times. He did not go away.
Skip I lost my husband 27 years ago and I do the same. There is not one day that I do not remember him. The pain never goes away although I continue to do everything that we did together. Traveling, having social event but with my family. Never ever I could date another man since he was the first and the only love of my life
@@Claudette68I am sorry for your loss.
My wife passed away 17 years ago, and my heart still aches for her. There will always be a part of me missing when she passed away.
My husband is gone for almost 5 years. And I can not get over him dying and it feels as though he left me..if he could still be here, I know he wanted to be. 😊
I graduated HS in 1972 just wishing to be rich or invent something everyone wanted. Now soon to be 70 I look back and I can see that no matter how hard I worked and all the extra hours I put in I never could get out of being middle class. I missed out of our children growing up and I was out of so many pictures my wife took of those time. My advice to young people is that the system is not stack in your favor and at best most of you will just be average so learn to live the moment. Life goes by really fast, and you will leave life as you came in it nude, alone and penniless. So, enjoy every moment as if it was the last time cause it is, because you can't go back.
I am in total agreement with most of what you said. I’m only a few years behind you, 64 years old. The best choice I made in life is accepting JESUS CHRIST as my LORD and SAVIOR!
@@michaelgonzalez7240 well said.
@@mikebrown9521 24 years behind you, I do agree Jesus gives meaning to life and make it worth living!👌
@@michaelgonzalez7240 this spoke to my 40yr old self. LOUD. Thank you Michael.
Wonderfully said, Sir!
Big hug to this man. Life is hard but also so beautiful, we must cherish the time we are given.
Why must we? Will we “miss it” when its over (presumably not)
gentle soul, wishing him the very best!
I always cry when I see him talk. He’s such a good guy. I hope he’s able to heal and find true peace and happiness in this next stage of his life.
Indeed, that one was heartbreaking. Within a minute I was tearing up. I'm so glad he succeeded in finding true love though. It's becoming more and more rare these days.
People can’t find peace because they are looking for it which implies it’s missing. You can only seek what you have lost that’s why seeking love itself is not love at all. Love has more to do with letting go than holding on and most don’t realise that. If you can’t life without something you are depended on it , many won’t like to hear this but what most humans are is they are addicted to someone they are not in love since love is the only thing that can’t hurt in this life. It’s just not possible , anything that hurts can’t be love and anything that doesn’t let you be in peace is not love as well. I wish that he can let go of his wife so that he can be in peace out of love for himself since his wife never would want him to suffer.
@@charlie5thumbs351so very rare
@@ginosalihbegovic7137 well this man is grieving. Sadly, it cannot be rushed. Learning to let go is something we all ultimately have to learn how to do…it doesn’t make it easy though. My heart goes out to this sweet man along with others that have to endure painful times like these :(
@@ginosalihbegovic7137
Bunch of nonsense
He looks way younger than 70 years such a nice man 😮
I wonder how old you are. I am 69 and to me, this guy looks way older than 70.
No he doesn't, he looks about 76!
Ok Anna my bad😄😄😄@@AnnabelleJARankin
@@sheronjohnson2041 My name is not Anna!
@@AnnabelleJARankin Annabelle JARankin so I shortened it and say Anna.🙄
My heart just breaks for this beautiful man who loves his wife so much. He is very insightful, wise and articulate. It is rare to find such an introspective and sensitive man. My husband is like this. His wife was as blessed to have him, as he knows he was to have her. May he be surrounded by loving and patient support. Deep grief is so hard and it takes each of us as long as it takes to get to the point where the intensity changes. No hurry! Sending blessings out into the universe to him and all who are grieving.
I'm 60 years old and my wife passed away last year after 30 years of marriage. It's the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I get through by completing her goals, by watching over our now adult children and ensuring they have happy and successful families of their own. Fulfilling a loved ones legacy is a great solace.
My heart goes out to you.
That sucks and I truly feel for you. I'm your age and all my friends are gone, plane crashes, motorcycle crashes, strokes, heart attacks, every single one gone all at once too. Even my very closest bud. I deal with it the best I can, by being thankful for all the time I had. We had great times and I've come to understand how much more I had than so many others. It brings a sad smile. But it is a smile!
My one friend has a bad prognosis. Going to love her through it, and help whenever I can.
Cancer sucks
@@SlowRiderDucati yes that's what I do I try to honor my husbandevery day Sept is hard cuz my dad's death was in 2013 he would have been 105 tomorrow and my husband's death is on the 22 nd it will be 3 yrs since his passing praying for you 🙏
@@cujet so sorry
That gut thing is so incredible! At 56 I’m finally getting to that state where I’m realizing my gut feelings were more important than I gave them credit for.
Same with me! I’m 58 and there were a few times that I trusted the advice of others who I thought were “wiser”, instead of my gut instinct, and how I regret it!
On the few occasions I've acted against my gut feeling I've always regretted it.
What this man is going through right now is what I am going through. The feeling of dying alone. The feeling of waking up everyday not being about to say good morning to the person you have loved for years. Hitting me hard.
So true. Also feel like that.
I wish that man had his own channel with advice. 😢
What a beautiful soul. I hope he finds peace and comfort and the very best life has to offer throughout his remaining years.
I’m 70 and my life advice for young people is pray with all the energy of heart to feel God’s perfect love for you. If you will do this, your life will be changed forever. You will learn who you really are, what your purpose is here on earth and where you’re going. You will see very clearly that what anyone else thinks about you, is simply their opinion and has no value.
Beautiful advice❤️☝️ If people only took this advice 🙏 Its the best feeling in the world to finally have a personal relationship with God, be at peace and know your purpose. God bless!
@@mammamia200 Thank you and God bless you too!😇
Agree 100%. . I'm 68 now, started my God journey at 19.
Amen
❤❤❤❤
My heart goes out to this guy. I'm going through a transitional phase and trying to reflect and move forward. Hope I will take the right steps.
I just moved to Mexico City Im 66 and I met this beautiful, intelligent, educated, wonderful 50 year old woman, and I'm going with my gut feeling on this. I'm not sure what she sees in me , but im going the extra mile this time.
Maybe she sees YOU. ☺️🙏🏽
Prenup
Lucky you! Meant to be ❤
that cool story
You are getting played. Dump that Golddigger.
His comment on how family can affect our choices and decisions is important to note. Our parents have their own baggage, so to speak. If a parent is not self-aware, their ways,fears, and insecurities are projected towards their children.
You can tell he is a very compassionate and caring man. I have the same relationship with my wife and I am sure I will feel just has he does if she were to pass before me.
I would love to see that guy in another years time. He's still reeling from loss right now. All of that pain is just under the surface. You can see that in every response. I'm sure his answers will be much more profound when he has time to process. You can tell that he is just a wonderful man. I hope that he gets out there and continues to live life to the fullest. He might have another 30 years to go. Lots of chapters yet to be written.
My 30year marriage. The best thing ever! Not a single regret.😊
Totally can relate.... Lost my husband 3 days before Christmas 2019 and my Mom followed 4 months later. I see a lot of myself in him, seemed to have been raised very similar and it has taken many years to finally listen to my gut and stop worrying about disappointing others because if you don't learn to do that it's yourself you disappoint in the end.
Truth! 🙏🏻
Bless this nice man. I hope he finds more happiness in his future…. he deserves it.
I feel just like this guy. I was just 50 when my wife died (she was 58). There are so many older, lonely people out there in the world. We just want to have strong friendships and people in our life that we love, just like everyone else. Folks, please reach out to older people and give us a chance. We might surprise you!
50 is old? Sorry about your wife
How old are you now?
Will do sir.
When you move forward surrounded by what you enjoy, they notice and open up.
@@emgregory528My kids, who are in their early twenties, say yes, I'm old and I'm 51 LOL. But hey, I exercise more than they do, but I guess that's because I have to, right? Most young people don't have to exercise :)
Such a beautiful man! I just want to give him a huge hug. Please give him my love from England xxx
That gut feeling is very real too.
That man is so beautiful!!! The vulnerability that he displayed was so sad and inspiring. The part about his wife that he shared and the pain in his obvious cracking voice was heartbreaking. I am recently divorced and I will never have what he had with his wife and it breaks my heart. I am so inspired by his beautiful honesty. I also thought the part were he talked about the advice he would give to his younger self. I know the obedience issue growing up. I am him in that scenario, and I know how hard it is to find that balance he was talking about. A lot of bad decisions b/c of the obedience mindset. Not saying it's all bad, but it can be. We all need our own mind about us and with life, b/c no one has the same story, the same path in life, and to listen to the gut feeling more than obedience, b/c not everyone in this world has your best intentions at heart!! Thank you for this amazing story, and I pray that God would bring this man comfort for his losses!!! Have a beautiful day everyone!!
A lot of us are like this man… enjoy your free time, look up to the sky not down at the ground when you walk. It’s a beautiful world out there.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
May her memory be a blessing.
I just discovered this. I had tears watching and listening. This man still misses his wife . I believe he had good advice.
What a beautiful insight to a man’s inner thoughts and life experiences and advice he would given his younger self and the love he has for his wife ,
I hope he finds someone in his life. He still has a lot of love to give. Blessings.
I want to give him a hug.
"Wishing the best for the other person." Beautiful.
It's such a perfect definition
@@annied3276 the most profound thing i've ever heard
Ultimately if we all feel that way about all other humans, think how awesome our world would be. Selfishness and greed brews contempt for others where as love provides true remedy and purpose ❤
I would also add, "Continuing to care for the person even if you're upset." I see so many people who would watch their spouse drive off a cliff and not bat an eye when they're angry. That's not love. Love is still getting up at 4 AM the morning after an argument and packing your husband's lunch for work because you know he gets low blood sugar and will likely skip breakfast and lunch if you don't. Or bringing your wife lunch home and handing it to her silently because you know she's not ready to talk yet.
Wishing the best for the other person, even if it's not with you 😢💯
I love this man. Wishing you much peace and happiness. ❤
This guy is correct and a beautiful person who can appreciate people for who they are.
Wow, I’m 70 - this guy has done well in the category of wisdom!!! Thanks for sharing!!!
Brilliant! This man has mentally settled his past, what a skill. Hope he finds happiness after his loss.
He is precious ❤thank you sir for telling your truth
He is still wearing his wedding ring even though his wife passed away. It shows how much he still loves her ❤
Lost my husband 5 years ago…still wear my wedding rings. He was my best friend
@@WhatheFIsgoingon You are a wonderful and honorable person. I'm sure your love was strong.
So grateful for his honest sharing and insights. Oh, can feel the pain he’s still feeling just under the surface. May we all know a love as profound as the one he had with his wife. I hope he’s able to find a new version of happiness again. ❤
Bless that man.
I want to be loved, but we cannot bend over and deprive ourselves of choices in life. That's a great encouragement I received from him. Thank you for saying it out loud.
I could listen to this chap all day long
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RIP to you’re wife and mother
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"Me included I guess"😢 Beautiful interview. I will be 70 next year. In 2002 I lost my dear husband of 21 years to cancer at 47 years of age. He was the man of my dreams, so I have never remarried. The year after he passed away my mom passed away. A year later my dad needed me to live with him, as he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together and then he passed away at 91 years of age. My heart was broken again. So I can very much relate to this man’s thoughts and feelings. Later in life, I also learned to trust my "gut feeling". It is a gift.
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God bless Sandra. 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
I worked many years as a nurse. One time we had an elderly man who died from a sudden heart attack. The very next day his wife died of a heart attack.
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Why doesn’t he mention his children? Children are a huge part of a complete fulfilling life.
He is deeply grieving the loss of his wife, that will take a lot of time. But a kind and honest man
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Are you happy you made me cry? Bless you sir
I could listen to this conversation for hours.
What a nice man. Wise, courageous, loving, well-spoken. His advises are gold in the voice of a human being.
I love him! Thanks for sharing.
Nice interview - good things to heed for a meaningful life. From a 65 yr old 40 years still married to my God-given girl. Grown successful children who have given me beautiful extended family and amazing grandchildren.
A little over 7 minutes of absolute pure authenticity.
Yessss 👏
Wowza, what wonderful insights this man has! So sorry for your recent losses❤ He’s soooo right about the gut instinct. I began following my gut and things started going right for me. I stopped following my gut and reverted back to my people pleasing self and limited happiness.
Maybe his next step in life is a podcast!! He’s like a zen master. I Love him & don’t even know him.
The honesty that comes with age. You have either done it or you have excepted that you won't. You know longer have time on your side.
Yes, listen to yout gut feeling! I hope this sweet man finds love, kindness and peace 🩷
What a lovely gentleman, so sorry he lost his wife who he is clearly missing very much. Very wise and thoughtful advice ❤
I love this man. So touching
God bless him. The fact that he was kind and patient enough to answer this stranger's questions. Even though he is clearly in a lot of pain from losing his wife and mother so recently.
I'm so grateful you released this longer version of this dear man. I was so captivated by him in the small bits of the prior video. If it would ever be possible, I'd love to hear from him in the future. He may have adapted more from the shock of his recent losses and in this space of this adaptation, I'd like to know if his perspectives shifted. He is a treasure, wishing him endless healing and joy 💜
We hope to stay in touch with him!
Thank you 🩷@@Sprouht
Yes, tell him to start his own RUclips channel of him just talking about stuff. He’s a gem!
I'd like to requeat you to tell this gentleman to make goals and follow them today. As a person in my 40s i just started learning violin and a lot of people that i am in contact with in these violin learning groups are over 70. Bad or good, you never know when your time comes. So please, set your goals now and work towards them. We see that you are also in good shape and looking much younger. So go for them. I hope we see you not in tears but happy and motivated next time. Thank you for all your good advice. And sorry for your losses.
I listened to this video and i cry because it touch my life and it is also the epitome of my life and am just 33 i don't want such to manifest you the opportunity i never take the risk i never take i simpertize with him just hope that god will give hime peace from with in
I love this man. He is so open about his wife and Mother and not many men show such feelings and they should, bless them
Condolences to this lovely man. Your wife picked well. I just turned 70 a few weeks ago and in 2021 I lost so many friends and family. I feel your pain. One day at a time my friend.
Can we please have more people like this wise gent? Sir - you are an inspiration, wherever you may be at this moment.
This gentleman is only 9 years my senior, but filled with an amazing wisdom!
I too have made a decision to live more in the moment since I am burnt out with my overthinking the future.
What a true gentleman ❤
I'm 70 now too. My subconscious goal was to live below my means so I could retire "young", although I never thought a lot about it. I retired at 55 after I told my boss some hard truths about how his organization really ran, and he called me a liar to my face. It was the best decision I ever made because my wife died a few years ago and I would not have had that extra time with her if I had worked to 65. Thinking of her and how horrible her disease was to us both still brings me to tears. As Queen Elizabeth said, "Grief is the price we pay for love."
I really hope the best for this man. He has so much perspectives on his side of life & many will relate to his.
This guys advice is incredible! Please open your ears and listen!
Definitely you included… we can all see and hear the love you have for your wife.😢
what a great man. I love his humility. I wish him the very very best in life.
Live in the moment - That's the best advice.
I have almost never listen to my gut feeling until the last 5 years. Now I'm happier and getting caught up on my long term goals (66y/o). It's better this way for me. I think It's important to know that people WILL come and go throughout your life.
😭😭😭😞 It hurts to hear the sound of loss. It also hurts to know I’m old and will probably be alone forever and I can’t decide which is worse.
Don't you think that living alone is way better than being with someone who doesn't respect and genuinely likes you for you? You know settling instead of choosing? What this man and his late wife have is a blessing that not all individuals will experience in their lifetime. We can just be hopeful that we can also experience what they had but if it won't happen we can just choose to keep pushing and be better coz time won't just stop for anyone.
Lovely man. I feel your sadness and pain.
How wonderful. What that sweet man is referring to is Aristotle's Golden Mean. The beautiful and constructive "sweet spot" in most things in life is found somewhere in the middle of two extremes. Bless him for sharing so much wisdom in the midst of his own pain.
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Beautiful....I'm 67....goal setting helps doesn't always have to be career....can be fitness oriented...serious hobby oriented which means the desire to be good at something using free time collectively not watching lots of tv...
Just BE YOU Kind Sir.,., the fact you had a true love is the greatest accomplishment EVER!!
Starting at an early age, I listened to older people . . . their reflections and their regrets. At age 30, my wife and I quit our jobs and traveled the world, economy style. We had great adventures and looked forward to more in the future. It was not to be . . . she died.
I have no regrets. We took the time to play and have adventures.
I had two uncles the same age. One was a multimillionaire and lived in Beverly Hills. One day the wealthy one asked his brother in law how many cruises he had been on. 110 was the response. The wealthy one said "think of the money you would have if you had saved it". The response was: "I think of my memories."
110 cruises and he was the poor one?
Don't collect things, collect experiences. The latter provide the memories and other brother is rich with those.
I love this advice, and the outlook you have. I was well on my way to a nice retirement when my ex cheated and I filed for divorce. Lost it all in the litigation and then some. Nothing else could have changed my perspective IMO, and now I view money/finances as something you should absolutely enjoy within your budget. I'm so sorry for your loss as well.
You are a rare breed my man. Hats off to you. Almost no one listens to older people.
@@andrewmarshall7569 I'm so sorry your ex cheated. Disrespect, unloyalty and untrustworthiness are crushers in a relationship. I am having the same problem and I thought this was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with honestly/the one for me. I'm scared about what comes next. I just bought the journal though!! Not that cheap for a journal but I expect it to be a next-level journal that will support me to achieve some really great goals I have. Have fun and God bless! XX
I cried like a baby watching this. So sad, but what a lucky man he is to have loved so deeply.
He will always be loved by a proud wife!
Just love it,keep doing, and keep motivating us 😊 lots of love from Nepal ❤
What your not prepared for in life, is loss, sickness, grief and particularly loneliness. Love and happiness and sharing your life with a special person is the most wonderful thing, as is children. Giving yourself completely to each other is really wonderful. Live for today, love and laugh with all your heart.
This man is one of the luckiest men to ever walk the earth. He clearly spent his life with a remarkable woman, and they clearly had a remarkable marriage. The “Golden Years” aren’t so golden when you lose your partner. Life becomes just putting one foot in front of the other and waiting to die. It truly is the most difficult space to navigate, and what works for one person rarely works for you. We each have to find our own way, so live your best life before it’s too late.
You are so right.
Well said.
I am so thankful I have my husband. I know neither of us would live long without the other. My in-laws died 3 weeks apart. He couldn't live without her.
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Same. And the older we get, the closer we come to it.
Been married for 46 years soon to be 47 and he just retired a week ago 😬 it in itself is going to be an adjustment but I can honestly tell you I could never imagine my life without him we are truly a team ❤️
Trust your gut, be balanced in how you deal with people, try to live more in the moment and strive to have goals in life and be courageous enough to achieve them.
Thanks, man. I hope your heart heals and you find your next thing. May your wife’s memory be a blessing
I really connect with this guy, very similar life and values. Although I am the future thinker at 67 and my husband is in the moment, at 70. Been together 35 years.
What a lovely man. I wish him lots of love and life.
This man is wonderful, he should be a mentor.
Thank you from a grieving man from losing his best friend and step daughter, don’t have kids of my own but she was my bestie. Hit home with me after loosing a lot, wife and family.
❤❤❤God be with him and give him strength, peace and consolation to carry on with life . Love and happiness to him always !! May God bless him !❤❤❤😥🙏🙏
Thanks!
My husband and I celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary yesterday. I'm 72, and he is 77. It creates a mixed feeling. On one hand, it seems so profound that we have been blessed with this much life together. On the other hand, it feels like we were married "yesterday." We have passed through so many stages of life together. I know one day, much like many of the commenters here, that we will be making our last goodbyes. My heart goes out to all of you who have lost your beloved ones.
@@tbryan9014 CONGRATULATIONS 🎊
@@wasabe591Thank you❤
I hope you two lovebirds get a couple more decades together
I know what you mean. My husband & I have been married 56 years. We’ve learned a lot in those years. We were very young (19 & 20) when we eloped. We talk about how lucky we are to have each other & we cherish every day.
@@msdixie1 That is so sweet. 💞