Good for you. I finished my doctorate in my 60s. The joy of learning and such a great sense of achievement. I share my new skills to mentor others. Keeps the mind active😊
I graduated HS in 1972 just wishing to be rich or invent something everyone wanted. Now soon to be 70 I look back and I can see that no matter how hard I worked and all the extra hours I put in I never could get out of being middle class. I missed out of our children growing up and I was out of so many pictures my wife took of those time. My advice to young people is that the system is not stack in your favor and at best most of you will just be average so learn to live the moment. Life goes by really fast, and you will leave life as you came in it nude, alone and penniless. So, enjoy every moment as if it was the last time cause it is, because you can't go back.
I am in total agreement with most of what you said. I’m only a few years behind you, 64 years old. The best choice I made in life is accepting JESUS CHRIST as my LORD and SAVIOR!
I'm 60 years old and my wife passed away last year after 30 years of marriage. It's the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I get through by completing her goals, by watching over our now adult children and ensuring they have happy and successful families of their own. Fulfilling a loved ones legacy is a great solace.
That sucks and I truly feel for you. I'm your age and all my friends are gone, plane crashes, motorcycle crashes, strokes, heart attacks, every single one gone all at once too. Even my very closest bud. I deal with it the best I can, by being thankful for all the time I had. We had great times and I've come to understand how much more I had than so many others. It brings a sad smile. But it is a smile!
@@SlowRiderDucati yes that's what I do I try to honor my husbandevery day Sept is hard cuz my dad's death was in 2013 he would have been 105 tomorrow and my husband's death is on the 22 nd it will be 3 yrs since his passing praying for you 🙏
Man to see him hurting hurts me 😔🙏🏾 give him peace oh Lord. Give us all Comfort for everyone who’s healing and hurting silently oh Lord i know you’re there. In your name we pray Amen 🙏🏾
Ultimately if we all feel that way about all other humans, think how awesome our world would be. Selfishness and greed brews contempt for others where as love provides true remedy and purpose ❤
I would also add, "Continuing to care for the person even if you're upset." I see so many people who would watch their spouse drive off a cliff and not bat an eye when they're angry. That's not love. Love is still getting up at 4 AM the morning after an argument and packing your husband's lunch for work because you know he gets low blood sugar and will likely skip breakfast and lunch if you don't. Or bringing your wife lunch home and handing it to her silently because you know she's not ready to talk yet.
My husband is gone for almost 5 years. And I can not get over him dying and it feels as though he left me..if he could still be here, I know he wanted to be. 😊
Indeed, that one was heartbreaking. Within a minute I was tearing up. I'm so glad he succeeded in finding true love though. It's becoming more and more rare these days.
People can’t find peace because they are looking for it which implies it’s missing. You can only seek what you have lost that’s why seeking love itself is not love at all. Love has more to do with letting go than holding on and most don’t realise that. If you can’t life without something you are depended on it , many won’t like to hear this but what most humans are is they are addicted to someone they are not in love since love is the only thing that can’t hurt in this life. It’s just not possible , anything that hurts can’t be love and anything that doesn’t let you be in peace is not love as well. I wish that he can let go of his wife so that he can be in peace out of love for himself since his wife never would want him to suffer.
@@ginosalihbegovic7137 well this man is grieving. Sadly, it cannot be rushed. Learning to let go is something we all ultimately have to learn how to do…it doesn’t make it easy though. My heart goes out to this sweet man along with others that have to endure painful times like these :(
I just moved to Mexico City Im 66 and I met this beautiful, intelligent, educated, wonderful 50 year old woman, and I'm going with my gut feeling on this. I'm not sure what she sees in me , but im going the extra mile this time.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
I feel just like this guy. I was just 50 when my wife died (she was 58). There are so many older, lonely people out there in the world. We just want to have strong friendships and people in our life that we love, just like everyone else. Folks, please reach out to older people and give us a chance. We might surprise you!
@@emgregory528My kids, who are in their early twenties, say yes, I'm old and I'm 51 LOL. But hey, I exercise more than they do, but I guess that's because I have to, right? Most young people don't have to exercise :)
I'm so grateful you released this longer version of this dear man. I was so captivated by him in the small bits of the prior video. If it would ever be possible, I'd love to hear from him in the future. He may have adapted more from the shock of his recent losses and in this space of this adaptation, I'd like to know if his perspectives shifted. He is a treasure, wishing him endless healing and joy 💜
I would love to see that guy in another years time. He's still reeling from loss right now. All of that pain is just under the surface. You can see that in every response. I'm sure his answers will be much more profound when he has time to process. You can tell that he is just a wonderful man. I hope that he gets out there and continues to live life to the fullest. He might have another 30 years to go. Lots of chapters yet to be written.
"Me included I guess"😢 Beautiful interview. I will be 70 next year. In 2002 I lost my dear husband of 21 years to cancer at 47 years of age. He was the man of my dreams, so I have never remarried. The year after he passed away my mom passed away. A year later my dad needed me to live with him, as he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together and then he passed away at 91 years of age. My heart was broken again. So I can very much relate to this man’s thoughts and feelings. Later in life, I also learned to trust my "gut feeling". It is a gift.
I’m 70 and my life advice for young people is pray with all the energy of heart to feel God’s perfect love for you. If you will do this, your life will be changed forever. You will learn who you really are, what your purpose is here on earth and where you’re going. You will see very clearly that what anyone else thinks about you, is simply their opinion and has no value.
Beautiful advice❤️☝️ If people only took this advice 🙏 Its the best feeling in the world to finally have a personal relationship with God, be at peace and know your purpose. God bless!
His comment on how family can affect our choices and decisions is important to note. Our parents have their own baggage, so to speak. If a parent is not self-aware, their ways,fears, and insecurities are projected towards their children.
That gut thing is so incredible! At 56 I’m finally getting to that state where I’m realizing my gut feelings were more important than I gave them credit for.
Totally can relate.... Lost my husband 3 days before Christmas 2019 and my Mom followed 4 months later. I see a lot of myself in him, seemed to have been raised very similar and it has taken many years to finally listen to my gut and stop worrying about disappointing others because if you don't learn to do that it's yourself you disappoint in the end.
You can tell he is a very compassionate and caring man. I have the same relationship with my wife and I am sure I will feel just has he does if she were to pass before me.
This man is one of the luckiest men to ever walk the earth. He clearly spent his life with a remarkable woman, and they clearly had a remarkable marriage. The “Golden Years” aren’t so golden when you lose your partner. Life becomes just putting one foot in front of the other and waiting to die. It truly is the most difficult space to navigate, and what works for one person rarely works for you. We each have to find our own way, so live your best life before it’s too late.
I am so thankful I have my husband. I know neither of us would live long without the other. My in-laws died 3 weeks apart. He couldn't live without her.
Been married for 46 years soon to be 47 and he just retired a week ago 😬 it in itself is going to be an adjustment but I can honestly tell you I could never imagine my life without him we are truly a team ❤️
I knew early on in life about setting goals. My father always said, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail." He was very driven and wanted his kids to be, too. He achieved many things and has trophies, certificates, and degrees. Would you like to know where all his trophies and whatnot have been since his passing? They're in a cold storage facility down the street in boxes. I'm paying a monthly rent fee to hold onto his achievements as I only have room in my small home for some of them. I achieved every single one and more of my goals. The problem was that those goals trumped relationships. Relationships suffer because they have to go on the back burner when you're driven to achieve your goofy career goals. Like this gentleman in the video said, balance is key. You have to live in the moment and only look so far ahead so you don't get stuck. Keep moving forward WITH those you LOVE. Make relationships priority #1! GOD is Love, and HE gives us relationships to sample what it's like to be loved by HIM. Jobs come and go. LOVE is forever.
Starting at an early age, I listened to older people . . . their reflections and their regrets. At age 30, my wife and I quit our jobs and traveled the world, economy style. We had great adventures and looked forward to more in the future. It was not to be . . . she died. I have no regrets. We took the time to play and have adventures. I had two uncles the same age. One was a multimillionaire and lived in Beverly Hills. One day the wealthy one asked his brother in law how many cruises he had been on. 110 was the response. The wealthy one said "think of the money you would have if you had saved it". The response was: "I think of my memories."
I love this advice, and the outlook you have. I was well on my way to a nice retirement when my ex cheated and I filed for divorce. Lost it all in the litigation and then some. Nothing else could have changed my perspective IMO, and now I view money/finances as something you should absolutely enjoy within your budget. I'm so sorry for your loss as well.
@@andrewmarshall7569 I'm so sorry your ex cheated. Disrespect, unloyalty and untrustworthiness are crushers in a relationship. I am having the same problem and I thought this was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with honestly/the one for me. I'm scared about what comes next. I just bought the journal though!! Not that cheap for a journal but I expect it to be a next-level journal that will support me to achieve some really great goals I have. Have fun and God bless! XX
What this man is going through right now is what I am going through. The feeling of dying alone. The feeling of waking up everyday not being about to say good morning to the person you have loved for years. Hitting me hard.
Don't you think that living alone is way better than being with someone who doesn't respect and genuinely likes you for you? You know settling instead of choosing? What this man and his late wife have is a blessing that not all individuals will experience in their lifetime. We can just be hopeful that we can also experience what they had but if it won't happen we can just choose to keep pushing and be better coz time won't just stop for anyone.
For sure! My biggest regret is not spending enough time with my two side pieces, as much as I did my girlfriend. They were neglected and only used for threesomes, when I should have treated them better.
Nice interview - good things to heed for a meaningful life. From a 65 yr old 40 years still married to my God-given girl. Grown successful children who have given me beautiful extended family and amazing grandchildren.
Condolences to this lovely man. Your wife picked well. I just turned 70 a few weeks ago and in 2021 I lost so many friends and family. I feel your pain. One day at a time my friend.
I want to be loved, but we cannot bend over and deprive ourselves of choices in life. That's a great encouragement I received from him. Thank you for saying it out loud.
So grateful for his honest sharing and insights. Oh, can feel the pain he’s still feeling just under the surface. May we all know a love as profound as the one he had with his wife. I hope he’s able to find a new version of happiness again. ❤
My husband and I celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary yesterday. I'm 72, and he is 77. It creates a mixed feeling. On one hand, it seems so profound that we have been blessed with this much life together. On the other hand, it feels like we were married "yesterday." We have passed through so many stages of life together. I know one day, much like many of the commenters here, that we will be making our last goodbyes. My heart goes out to all of you who have lost your beloved ones.
I know what you mean. My husband & I have been married 56 years. We’ve learned a lot in those years. We were very young (19 & 20) when we eloped. We talk about how lucky we are to have each other & we cherish every day.
That man is so beautiful!!! The vulnerability that he displayed was so sad and inspiring. The part about his wife that he shared and the pain in his obvious cracking voice was heartbreaking. I am recently divorced and I will never have what he had with his wife and it breaks my heart. I am so inspired by his beautiful honesty. I also thought the part were he talked about the advice he would give to his younger self. I know the obedience issue growing up. I am him in that scenario, and I know how hard it is to find that balance he was talking about. A lot of bad decisions b/c of the obedience mindset. Not saying it's all bad, but it can be. We all need our own mind about us and with life, b/c no one has the same story, the same path in life, and to listen to the gut feeling more than obedience, b/c not everyone in this world has your best intentions at heart!! Thank you for this amazing story, and I pray that God would bring this man comfort for his losses!!! Have a beautiful day everyone!!
I know what it feels like to be with your great match... I do not want to know what it feels like to loose that. We are a strong team. It is never too late to find a good match again...my partner found me when I was 52, never too old! I wish this man happiness.🥰
How wonderful. What that sweet man is referring to is Aristotle's Golden Mean. The beautiful and constructive "sweet spot" in most things in life is found somewhere in the middle of two extremes. Bless him for sharing so much wisdom in the midst of his own pain.
This gentleman is only 9 years my senior, but filled with an amazing wisdom! I too have made a decision to live more in the moment since I am burnt out with my overthinking the future. What a true gentleman ❤
Ahhh.. This man truly loved his his person/partner… I hope he knows how blessed he was to have 30 plus years with her.. Most never get any time with their person..❤️
I have almost never listen to my gut feeling until the last 5 years. Now I'm happier and getting caught up on my long term goals (66y/o). It's better this way for me. I think It's important to know that people WILL come and go throughout your life.
God bless him. The fact that he was kind and patient enough to answer this stranger's questions. Even though he is clearly in a lot of pain from losing his wife and mother so recently.
I listened to this video and i cry because it touch my life and it is also the epitome of my life and am just 33 i don't want such to manifest you the opportunity i never take the risk i never take i simpertize with him just hope that god will give hime peace from with in
I have had to make many hard decisions in my hard life and I go with my gut feeling practically always. I trust myself. I rarely ask others for important advice because what I think is almost always different than theirs and I realize that I am the one that knows all the facts and I am the one that lives the life based on each decision that I make. Chose what you know will make you happy and often this is not the same as what necessarily makes you rich. I will take happy and comfortable over unhappy but rich. Good realtionships and good times with God in your focus makes for a good life.
First of all my sympathy to this lovely man . I am 61& a female version of gim, wete 2 peas in a pod. My parents were so very strict & l was rhe oldest. Always listening but rarely agreeing .It cost me alot. I had no goals except to be happy, travel & raise my son so life is at a crossroads & l am lost, worry constantly. For all those out there, praying the best is yet o come. Sprought, god bless & thank you for your channel.🙏🤗🙏
@@irenekotarac1346 I’m sorry you lost your loved one :( If it’s any consolation, so many of us have this lost feeling and are at a crossroads in our life. You are not alone in your feeling of aloneness :) I’ll be wishing you love, healing and happiness in this next chapter of your life
Very wise insight he has shared. Losing a spouse you loved and shared your life with is one of life’s most difficult experiences to heal through, I see he is greatly hurting from his loss. I have been there too.
I really connect with this guy, very similar life and values. Although I am the future thinker at 67 and my husband is in the moment, at 70. Been together 35 years.
I hope destiny has a miracle for u my friend …. The lost of a loved one is indeed heartaches …. I also miss my parents a lot too …. But I believe in miracles and I hope u find her again to relive another many opportunities together Life is Strange… but … be strong enough to believe what u love ❤
I lost my wife 7 years ago, we loved to travel, just the 2 of us. So I still travel, alone. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her. And I still say goodnight to her every night.
Im 69 years old and have had similar experiences in life. I totally agree and relate to everything he said. I can see that he is a very sweet spirited kind man. There are few in this world and in these times. God bless you both in whats coming for this country.
Beautiful....I'm 67....goal setting helps doesn't always have to be career....can be fitness oriented...serious hobby oriented which means the desire to be good at something using free time collectively not watching lots of tv...
I've been with my wife for 46 years and can't imagine a day without her. She's been by my side since I was 18 and she was 17. When we were married (after a long time dating), I wasn't just marrying the girl I was in love with, I was marrying my best friend. It's the advice I've always given to other people getting married, if they aren't marrying their best friend then they shouldn't be getting married. Life can be both wonderful and hard. It's easy to be married to someone when you're head over heels crazy in love, but it's that deep, meaningful friendship that carries you through those hard times. I have never unfaithful to her nor her with me. It may be easy to cheat on someone based on physical attraction when your relationship with your spouse was based on the same, but nearly impossible to cheat on your best friend.
🤩Your last sentence "easy to cheat when your relationship was based on physical attraction, but nearly impossible to cheat on your best friend" Wow! Brilliant! 🌞
I'd like to requeat you to tell this gentleman to make goals and follow them today. As a person in my 40s i just started learning violin and a lot of people that i am in contact with in these violin learning groups are over 70. Bad or good, you never know when your time comes. So please, set your goals now and work towards them. We see that you are also in good shape and looking much younger. So go for them. I hope we see you not in tears but happy and motivated next time. Thank you for all your good advice. And sorry for your losses.
Giving your late wife a wonderful marriage and being a supportive husband is an amazing achievement. There should be few regrets here. Congratulations, you did not spend most of your time chasing meaningless idols. This world needs more of you and those five people in your life have been watching and learning. Thank you.
I can totally understand the loss and how this man answers all those questions. My partner was instantly killed on the 5th of May 2021 by a city bus driver while she was crossing a pedestrian. I was in depression for ten months day and night, but at the end of it I just had to let her go. ''I understand your pain Sir.''
I’m 63 and working on my doctorate. It is not too late to achieve a major goal. I have one more semester before I am done. Just do it!
u sound rich. can I borrow 5k?
I love this. Never too old to learn and achieve. Congratulations!
What are you going to do with the doctorate? Get a job?
@@zentex8877 she may or maybe it’s just personal satisfaction to complete a goal. It will be interesting to see if she responds.
Good for you. I finished my doctorate in my 60s. The joy of learning and such a great sense of achievement. I share my new skills to mentor others. Keeps the mind active😊
I graduated HS in 1972 just wishing to be rich or invent something everyone wanted. Now soon to be 70 I look back and I can see that no matter how hard I worked and all the extra hours I put in I never could get out of being middle class. I missed out of our children growing up and I was out of so many pictures my wife took of those time. My advice to young people is that the system is not stack in your favor and at best most of you will just be average so learn to live the moment. Life goes by really fast, and you will leave life as you came in it nude, alone and penniless. So, enjoy every moment as if it was the last time cause it is, because you can't go back.
I am in total agreement with most of what you said. I’m only a few years behind you, 64 years old. The best choice I made in life is accepting JESUS CHRIST as my LORD and SAVIOR!
@@michaelgonzalez7240 well said.
@@mikebrown9521 24 years behind you, I do agree Jesus gives meaning to life and make it worth living!👌
@@michaelgonzalez7240 this spoke to my 40yr old self. LOUD. Thank you Michael.
Wonderfully said, Sir!
THE BEST STATEMENT EVER.....LOVE IS WISHING THE BEST FOR ANOTHER PERSON!
Agree! When you do that, regardless of you, and if "the best" includes you, then you know that's love.
To will the good of the other.
I absolutely agree.❤
There is nothing more beautiful than genuinely good people.
Love this man
this seems true
I'm 60 years old and my wife passed away last year after 30 years of marriage. It's the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. I get through by completing her goals, by watching over our now adult children and ensuring they have happy and successful families of their own. Fulfilling a loved ones legacy is a great solace.
My heart goes out to you.
That sucks and I truly feel for you. I'm your age and all my friends are gone, plane crashes, motorcycle crashes, strokes, heart attacks, every single one gone all at once too. Even my very closest bud. I deal with it the best I can, by being thankful for all the time I had. We had great times and I've come to understand how much more I had than so many others. It brings a sad smile. But it is a smile!
My one friend has a bad prognosis. Going to love her through it, and help whenever I can.
Cancer sucks
@@SlowRiderDucati yes that's what I do I try to honor my husbandevery day Sept is hard cuz my dad's death was in 2013 he would have been 105 tomorrow and my husband's death is on the 22 nd it will be 3 yrs since his passing praying for you 🙏
@@cujet so sorry
Married 47 years …i say daily to-my beloved …Im very happy you are here with me we are blessed.……
Man to see him hurting hurts me 😔🙏🏾 give him peace oh Lord. Give us all
Comfort for everyone who’s healing and hurting silently oh Lord i know you’re there. In your name we pray Amen 🙏🏾
What a lovely man. His grief is still very raw during the interview. I hope he is doing OK and finds supportive friends and companionship 💙
"Wishing the best for the other person." Beautiful.
It's such a perfect definition
@@annied3276 the most profound thing i've ever heard
Ultimately if we all feel that way about all other humans, think how awesome our world would be. Selfishness and greed brews contempt for others where as love provides true remedy and purpose ❤
I would also add, "Continuing to care for the person even if you're upset." I see so many people who would watch their spouse drive off a cliff and not bat an eye when they're angry. That's not love. Love is still getting up at 4 AM the morning after an argument and packing your husband's lunch for work because you know he gets low blood sugar and will likely skip breakfast and lunch if you don't. Or bringing your wife lunch home and handing it to her silently because you know she's not ready to talk yet.
Wishing the best for the other person, even if it's not with you 😢💯
My wife passed away 17 years ago, and my heart still aches for her. There will always be a part of me missing when she passed away.
My husband is gone for almost 5 years. And I can not get over him dying and it feels as though he left me..if he could still be here, I know he wanted to be. 😊
He looks way younger than 70 years such a nice man 😮
I wonder how old you are. I am 69 and to me, this guy looks way older than 70.
No he doesn't, he looks about 76!
Ok Anna my bad😄😄😄@@AnnabelleJARankin
@@sheronjohnson2041 My name is not Anna!
@@AnnabelleJARankin Annabelle JARankin so I shortened it and say Anna.🙄
I always cry when I see him talk. He’s such a good guy. I hope he’s able to heal and find true peace and happiness in this next stage of his life.
Indeed, that one was heartbreaking. Within a minute I was tearing up. I'm so glad he succeeded in finding true love though. It's becoming more and more rare these days.
People can’t find peace because they are looking for it which implies it’s missing. You can only seek what you have lost that’s why seeking love itself is not love at all. Love has more to do with letting go than holding on and most don’t realise that. If you can’t life without something you are depended on it , many won’t like to hear this but what most humans are is they are addicted to someone they are not in love since love is the only thing that can’t hurt in this life. It’s just not possible , anything that hurts can’t be love and anything that doesn’t let you be in peace is not love as well. I wish that he can let go of his wife so that he can be in peace out of love for himself since his wife never would want him to suffer.
@@charlie5thumbs351so very rare
@@ginosalihbegovic7137 well this man is grieving. Sadly, it cannot be rushed. Learning to let go is something we all ultimately have to learn how to do…it doesn’t make it easy though. My heart goes out to this sweet man along with others that have to endure painful times like these :(
@@ginosalihbegovic7137
Bunch of nonsense
I just moved to Mexico City Im 66 and I met this beautiful, intelligent, educated, wonderful 50 year old woman, and I'm going with my gut feeling on this. I'm not sure what she sees in me , but im going the extra mile this time.
Maybe she sees YOU. ☺️🙏🏽
Prenup
Lucky you! Meant to be ❤
that cool story
You are getting played. Dump that Golddigger.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
May her memory be a blessing.
I wish that man had his own channel with advice. 😢
I feel just like this guy. I was just 50 when my wife died (she was 58). There are so many older, lonely people out there in the world. We just want to have strong friendships and people in our life that we love, just like everyone else. Folks, please reach out to older people and give us a chance. We might surprise you!
50 is old? Sorry about your wife
How old are you now?
Will do sir.
When you move forward surrounded by what you enjoy, they notice and open up.
@@emgregory528My kids, who are in their early twenties, say yes, I'm old and I'm 51 LOL. But hey, I exercise more than they do, but I guess that's because I have to, right? Most young people don't have to exercise :)
A little over 7 minutes of absolute pure authenticity.
gentle soul, wishing him the very best!
I'm so grateful you released this longer version of this dear man. I was so captivated by him in the small bits of the prior video. If it would ever be possible, I'd love to hear from him in the future. He may have adapted more from the shock of his recent losses and in this space of this adaptation, I'd like to know if his perspectives shifted. He is a treasure, wishing him endless healing and joy 💜
We hope to stay in touch with him!
Thank you 🩷@@Sprouht
Yes, tell him to start his own RUclips channel of him just talking about stuff. He’s a gem!
I would love to see that guy in another years time. He's still reeling from loss right now. All of that pain is just under the surface. You can see that in every response. I'm sure his answers will be much more profound when he has time to process. You can tell that he is just a wonderful man. I hope that he gets out there and continues to live life to the fullest. He might have another 30 years to go. Lots of chapters yet to be written.
What a beautiful soul. I hope he finds peace and comfort and the very best life has to offer throughout his remaining years.
"Me included I guess"😢 Beautiful interview. I will be 70 next year. In 2002 I lost my dear husband of 21 years to cancer at 47 years of age. He was the man of my dreams, so I have never remarried. The year after he passed away my mom passed away. A year later my dad needed me to live with him, as he had become legally blind. We had 8 1/2 wonderful years together and then he passed away at 91 years of age. My heart was broken again. So I can very much relate to this man’s thoughts and feelings. Later in life, I also learned to trust my "gut feeling". It is a gift.
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God bless Sandra. 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
I worked many years as a nurse. One time we had an elderly man who died from a sudden heart attack. The very next day his wife died of a heart attack.
❤🙏
Why doesn’t he mention his children? Children are a huge part of a complete fulfilling life.
I want to give him a hug.
I’m 70 and my life advice for young people is pray with all the energy of heart to feel God’s perfect love for you. If you will do this, your life will be changed forever. You will learn who you really are, what your purpose is here on earth and where you’re going. You will see very clearly that what anyone else thinks about you, is simply their opinion and has no value.
Beautiful advice❤️☝️ If people only took this advice 🙏 Its the best feeling in the world to finally have a personal relationship with God, be at peace and know your purpose. God bless!
@@mammamia200 Thank you and God bless you too!😇
Agree 100%. . I'm 68 now, started my God journey at 19.
His comment on how family can affect our choices and decisions is important to note. Our parents have their own baggage, so to speak. If a parent is not self-aware, their ways,fears, and insecurities are projected towards their children.
Bless that man.
That gut thing is so incredible! At 56 I’m finally getting to that state where I’m realizing my gut feelings were more important than I gave them credit for.
Totally can relate.... Lost my husband 3 days before Christmas 2019 and my Mom followed 4 months later. I see a lot of myself in him, seemed to have been raised very similar and it has taken many years to finally listen to my gut and stop worrying about disappointing others because if you don't learn to do that it's yourself you disappoint in the end.
Truth! 🙏🏻
That gut feeling is very real too.
Wow, I’m 70 - this guy has done well in the category of wisdom!!! Thanks for sharing!!!
You can tell he is a very compassionate and caring man. I have the same relationship with my wife and I am sure I will feel just has he does if she were to pass before me.
My heart goes out to this guy. I'm going through a transitional phase and trying to reflect and move forward. Hope I will take the right steps.
This man is one of the luckiest men to ever walk the earth. He clearly spent his life with a remarkable woman, and they clearly had a remarkable marriage. The “Golden Years” aren’t so golden when you lose your partner. Life becomes just putting one foot in front of the other and waiting to die. It truly is the most difficult space to navigate, and what works for one person rarely works for you. We each have to find our own way, so live your best life before it’s too late.
You are so right.
Well said.
I am so thankful I have my husband. I know neither of us would live long without the other. My in-laws died 3 weeks apart. He couldn't live without her.
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Same. And the older we get, the closer we come to it.
Been married for 46 years soon to be 47 and he just retired a week ago 😬 it in itself is going to be an adjustment but I can honestly tell you I could never imagine my life without him we are truly a team ❤️
He is precious ❤thank you sir for telling your truth
I hope he finds someone in his life. He still has a lot of love to give. Blessings.
I just discovered this. I had tears watching and listening. This man still misses his wife . I believe he had good advice.
Such a beautiful man! I just want to give him a huge hug. Please give him my love from England xxx
❤❤❤God be with him and give him strength, peace and consolation to carry on with life . Love and happiness to him always !! May God bless him !❤❤❤😥🙏🙏
What a beautiful insight to a man’s inner thoughts and life experiences and advice he would given his younger self and the love he has for his wife ,
I love this man. Wishing you much peace and happiness. ❤
I knew early on in life about setting goals. My father always said, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail." He was very driven and wanted his kids to be, too. He achieved many things and has trophies, certificates, and degrees. Would you like to know where all his trophies and whatnot have been since his passing? They're in a cold storage facility down the street in boxes. I'm paying a monthly rent fee to hold onto his achievements as I only have room in my small home for some of them. I achieved every single one and more of my goals. The problem was that those goals trumped relationships. Relationships suffer because they have to go on the back burner when you're driven to achieve your goofy career goals. Like this gentleman in the video said, balance is key. You have to live in the moment and only look so far ahead so you don't get stuck. Keep moving forward WITH those you LOVE. Make relationships priority #1! GOD is Love, and HE gives us relationships to sample what it's like to be loved by HIM. Jobs come and go. LOVE is forever.
Beautiful. Thank you for that. ❤
Thank u so true❤
Thank you!
So well put, and total truth! Reality hits hard here!
Starting at an early age, I listened to older people . . . their reflections and their regrets. At age 30, my wife and I quit our jobs and traveled the world, economy style. We had great adventures and looked forward to more in the future. It was not to be . . . she died.
I have no regrets. We took the time to play and have adventures.
I had two uncles the same age. One was a multimillionaire and lived in Beverly Hills. One day the wealthy one asked his brother in law how many cruises he had been on. 110 was the response. The wealthy one said "think of the money you would have if you had saved it". The response was: "I think of my memories."
110 cruises and he was the poor one?
Don't collect things, collect experiences. The latter provide the memories and other brother is rich with those.
I love this advice, and the outlook you have. I was well on my way to a nice retirement when my ex cheated and I filed for divorce. Lost it all in the litigation and then some. Nothing else could have changed my perspective IMO, and now I view money/finances as something you should absolutely enjoy within your budget. I'm so sorry for your loss as well.
You are a rare breed my man. Hats off to you. Almost no one listens to older people.
@@andrewmarshall7569 I'm so sorry your ex cheated. Disrespect, unloyalty and untrustworthiness are crushers in a relationship. I am having the same problem and I thought this was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with honestly/the one for me. I'm scared about what comes next. I just bought the journal though!! Not that cheap for a journal but I expect it to be a next-level journal that will support me to achieve some really great goals I have. Have fun and God bless! XX
What this man is going through right now is what I am going through. The feeling of dying alone. The feeling of waking up everyday not being about to say good morning to the person you have loved for years. Hitting me hard.
I love him! Thanks for sharing.
The honesty that comes with age. You have either done it or you have excepted that you won't. You know longer have time on your side.
😭😭😭😞 It hurts to hear the sound of loss. It also hurts to know I’m old and will probably be alone forever and I can’t decide which is worse.
Don't you think that living alone is way better than being with someone who doesn't respect and genuinely likes you for you? You know settling instead of choosing? What this man and his late wife have is a blessing that not all individuals will experience in their lifetime. We can just be hopeful that we can also experience what they had but if it won't happen we can just choose to keep pushing and be better coz time won't just stop for anyone.
I could listen to this conversation for hours.
"BALANCE"--He nailed it!!!
For sure! My biggest regret is not spending enough time with my two side pieces, as much as I did my girlfriend.
They were neglected and only used for threesomes, when I should have treated them better.
Nice interview - good things to heed for a meaningful life. From a 65 yr old 40 years still married to my God-given girl. Grown successful children who have given me beautiful extended family and amazing grandchildren.
Maybe his next step in life is a podcast!! He’s like a zen master. I Love him & don’t even know him.
Bless this nice man. I hope he finds more happiness in his future…. he deserves it.
Brilliant! This man has mentally settled his past, what a skill. Hope he finds happiness after his loss.
Condolences to this lovely man. Your wife picked well. I just turned 70 a few weeks ago and in 2021 I lost so many friends and family. I feel your pain. One day at a time my friend.
I want to be loved, but we cannot bend over and deprive ourselves of choices in life. That's a great encouragement I received from him. Thank you for saying it out loud.
So grateful for his honest sharing and insights. Oh, can feel the pain he’s still feeling just under the surface. May we all know a love as profound as the one he had with his wife. I hope he’s able to find a new version of happiness again. ❤
My husband and I celebrated our 55th wedding anniversary yesterday. I'm 72, and he is 77. It creates a mixed feeling. On one hand, it seems so profound that we have been blessed with this much life together. On the other hand, it feels like we were married "yesterday." We have passed through so many stages of life together. I know one day, much like many of the commenters here, that we will be making our last goodbyes. My heart goes out to all of you who have lost your beloved ones.
@@tbryan9014 CONGRATULATIONS 🎊
@@wasabe591Thank you❤
I hope you two lovebirds get a couple more decades together
I know what you mean. My husband & I have been married 56 years. We’ve learned a lot in those years. We were very young (19 & 20) when we eloped. We talk about how lucky we are to have each other & we cherish every day.
@@msdixie1 That is so sweet. 💞
That man is so beautiful!!! The vulnerability that he displayed was so sad and inspiring. The part about his wife that he shared and the pain in his obvious cracking voice was heartbreaking. I am recently divorced and I will never have what he had with his wife and it breaks my heart. I am so inspired by his beautiful honesty. I also thought the part were he talked about the advice he would give to his younger self. I know the obedience issue growing up. I am him in that scenario, and I know how hard it is to find that balance he was talking about. A lot of bad decisions b/c of the obedience mindset. Not saying it's all bad, but it can be. We all need our own mind about us and with life, b/c no one has the same story, the same path in life, and to listen to the gut feeling more than obedience, b/c not everyone in this world has your best intentions at heart!! Thank you for this amazing story, and I pray that God would bring this man comfort for his losses!!! Have a beautiful day everyone!!
I know what it feels like to be with your great match... I do not want to know what it feels like to loose that. We are a strong team. It is never too late to find a good match again...my partner found me when I was 52, never too old! I wish this man happiness.🥰
How wonderful. What that sweet man is referring to is Aristotle's Golden Mean. The beautiful and constructive "sweet spot" in most things in life is found somewhere in the middle of two extremes. Bless him for sharing so much wisdom in the midst of his own pain.
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This gentleman is only 9 years my senior, but filled with an amazing wisdom!
I too have made a decision to live more in the moment since I am burnt out with my overthinking the future.
What a true gentleman ❤
This guys advice is incredible! Please open your ears and listen!
What a good man.
Ahhh.. This man truly loved his his person/partner… I hope he knows how blessed he was to have 30 plus years with her.. Most never get any time with their person..❤️
He seemed to have loved her profoundly.
She must have been thankful and content.
He has happiness. This is the major goal he achieved !.
This man is wonderful, he should be a mentor.
He will always be loved by a proud wife!
I love this man. So touching
I have almost never listen to my gut feeling until the last 5 years. Now I'm happier and getting caught up on my long term goals (66y/o). It's better this way for me. I think It's important to know that people WILL come and go throughout your life.
Lots of people do have a hard time realizing about who you surround yourself with creates who you are.
Definitely you included… we can all see and hear the love you have for your wife.😢
Yes, listen to yout gut feeling! I hope this sweet man finds love, kindness and peace 🩷
What a well-spoken, intensely personal yet globally relevant perspective. Touched by his honesty and self reflection. Thank you for posting ❤️
This guy is awesome and deserves much happiness!!! I wish I could buy him dinner and a beer : )
God bless him. The fact that he was kind and patient enough to answer this stranger's questions. Even though he is clearly in a lot of pain from losing his wife and mother so recently.
I listened to this video and i cry because it touch my life and it is also the epitome of my life and am just 33 i don't want such to manifest you the opportunity i never take the risk i never take i simpertize with him just hope that god will give hime peace from with in
Hoping for more prayers than I’m capable of giving for this gentleman.
I have had to make many hard decisions in my hard life and I go with my gut feeling practically always. I trust myself. I rarely ask others for important advice because what I think is almost always different than theirs and I realize that I am the one that knows all the facts and I am the one that lives the life based on each decision that I make. Chose what you know will make you happy and often this is not the same as what necessarily makes you rich. I will take happy and comfortable over unhappy but rich. Good realtionships and good times with God in your focus makes for a good life.
First of all my sympathy to this lovely man . I am 61& a female version of gim, wete 2 peas in a pod. My parents were so very strict & l was rhe oldest. Always listening but rarely agreeing .It cost me alot. I had no goals except to be happy, travel & raise my son so life is at a crossroads & l am lost, worry constantly. For all those out there, praying the best is yet o come. Sprought, god bless & thank you for your channel.🙏🤗🙏
@@irenekotarac1346 I’m sorry you lost your loved one :( If it’s any consolation, so many of us have this lost feeling and are at a crossroads in our life. You are not alone in your feeling of aloneness :) I’ll be wishing you love, healing and happiness in this next chapter of your life
Arthur Ashe- "start where you are, use what you have, do what you can" That quote popped into my head. Hope it helps. (It has me)🌞
Live in the moment - That's the best advice.
I really hope the best for this man. He has so much perspectives on his side of life & many will relate to his.
Just love it,keep doing, and keep motivating us 😊 lots of love from Nepal ❤
Very wise insight he has shared. Losing a spouse you loved and shared your life with is one of life’s most difficult experiences to heal through, I see he is greatly hurting from his loss. I have been there too.
He's brilliant. What a gift that advice is.
Lovely man. I feel your sadness and pain.
What a lovely man. I wish him lots of love and life.
I really connect with this guy, very similar life and values. Although I am the future thinker at 67 and my husband is in the moment, at 70. Been together 35 years.
What an absolute sweetheart of a person ☀️ thank you!
😢😢😢 Makes me cry. I can feel his "aloneness".
I hope destiny has a miracle for u my friend …. The lost of a loved one is indeed heartaches ….
I also miss my parents a lot too …. But I believe in miracles and I hope u find her again to relive another many opportunities together
Life is Strange… but … be strong enough to believe what u love ❤
I lost my wife 7 years ago, we loved to travel, just the 2 of us. So I still travel, alone. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her. And I still say goodnight to her every night.
So lovely, may your heart heal and your memories enriched. Hope this interview helped himself as much as the wisdom he shared.
Im 69 years old and have had similar experiences in life. I totally agree and relate to everything he said. I can see that he is a very sweet spirited kind man. There are few in this world and in these times. God bless you both in whats coming for this country.
thank you for sharing this extended version, God bless this man that kindly shared his wisdom, I just want to give him a big hug
I hope you gave him a big hug at the end of the interview. Bless him😥❤
Beautiful....I'm 67....goal setting helps doesn't always have to be career....can be fitness oriented...serious hobby oriented which means the desire to be good at something using free time collectively not watching lots of tv...
Much respect to this guy's wisdom. He's also a great communicator.
I've been with my wife for 46 years and can't imagine a day without her. She's been by my side since I was 18 and she was 17. When we were married (after a long time dating), I wasn't just marrying the girl I was in love with, I was marrying my best friend. It's the advice I've always given to other people getting married, if they aren't marrying their best friend then they shouldn't be getting married. Life can be both wonderful and hard. It's easy to be married to someone when you're head over heels crazy in love, but it's that deep, meaningful friendship that carries you through those hard times. I have never unfaithful to her nor her with me. It may be easy to cheat on someone based on physical attraction when your relationship with your spouse was based on the same, but nearly impossible to cheat on your best friend.
Ditto for the entire content of this comment!👍
🤩Your last sentence "easy to cheat when your relationship was based on physical attraction, but nearly impossible to cheat on your best friend" Wow! Brilliant! 🌞
I'd like to requeat you to tell this gentleman to make goals and follow them today. As a person in my 40s i just started learning violin and a lot of people that i am in contact with in these violin learning groups are over 70. Bad or good, you never know when your time comes. So please, set your goals now and work towards them. We see that you are also in good shape and looking much younger. So go for them. I hope we see you not in tears but happy and motivated next time. Thank you for all your good advice. And sorry for your losses.
Giving your late wife a wonderful marriage and being a supportive husband is an amazing achievement. There should be few regrets here. Congratulations, you did not spend most of your time chasing meaningless idols. This world needs more of you and those five people in your life have been watching and learning. Thank you.
I could talk to the gentleman all day. I love listening to others story's.
I can totally understand the loss and how this man answers all those questions. My partner was instantly killed on the 5th of May 2021 by a city bus driver while she was crossing a pedestrian. I was in depression for ten months day and night, but at the end of it I just had to let her go. ''I understand your pain Sir.''
I understand your pain I was married for 38 yrd yea
Know my husband died of covid miss him. Rip Edward
Condolences💔😢 Love & healing to all hurting❤️🩹
@@nunyabiz- ''I'm grateful, thank you.''