@@SabatSch95 the fact that she is still here, alive, day by day living with what happened to her and sharing her story with us, the world. She has the strength to do that and she's so strong to be able to put herself out there because I know many of us wouldn't.
@@deargifty Rape isn't life-threatening in and of itself. That doesn't mean what she had to go through didn't suck... doesn't mean it wouldn't have been incredibly hard to deal with psychologically (especially as a woman). But that also doesn't mean what she went through was comparable to someone who experienced attempted murder. And why is it strong to "put yourself out there"? Again, I just don't see it. She isn't being judged, she isn't facing contempt for coming out. Everyone supports her. It's commendable and healthy, sure. Brave and strong? Absolutely not. Putting your own life on the line to save others, THAT's brave. Enduring and accepting suffering in service of others, THAT's strong. True bravery would be to retaliate and attack the rapist, to make your stand. Obviously, as a woman, that may not be particularly smart, so I don't blame her AT ALL. I'm just saying, this isn't an example of bravery. What you're doing is like saying someone who fell off a building and had to have their leg amputated or something is "strong" and "brave" for going through such an experience. This woman didn't choose to be raped. I really think you need to be more precise with these types of compliments. It almost seems like you're glorifying it to some degree.
@@SabatSch95 he meant as in mentally strong. It doesn't have to be physically strong by doing an action or etc. She's strong to speak out knowing that there's many women out there went through the same thing but never voiced out because of how society will judge them. It is not easy, because people will say you're asking for it if you're just wearing pants and shirt. Yes, I agree to that person, she is mentally strong
@@SabatSch95 ugh my eye balls fell as i read ur comment . Why is being strong always related To others? Why can't we just be strong when we get over something hard in our life ? Or when we take our courage to do something we're now so proud of. To myself, I'm brave because last week i did something for the 1 st time , that i was very anxious about ,I hesitate again and again . But I took my imaginary balls, and did it. To me i'm brave . So to have the strenght To share a deep situation with others is really being strong.
@@MzImperfectCrys it's true from personal experience. But its important to know the difference between personal vulnerability and feeling vulnerable because of someone else
My ex emotionally abused me I’m a guy but some people don’t understand that as a guy it’s hard to come out with this. I hope these women have a blessed life wish them the best 🙏🏽
Ikr?? It's horrible, on one side women have to fight for their rights but the consequence is people not taking seriousely men who go through the same thing, it's endless.. Hope you feel okay now, I'm sorry you went through this 💕
I’m sorry you had to go through that my ex emotionally abused me too. Honestly,it’s something that is hurting them inside which gets projected onto you they take it out on you on the wrong people. ,But at the end of the day karma is real, and trust me they’ll get theirs!🙏🏽❤️stay strong 💪🏽
I think she was trying to make the people listening more comfortable with what she just said. As if by smiling she could convey that she was okay now and they shouldn't worry about her. I really related to her because I do the same thing.
I feel like Jubilee is one of the most underrated RUclips Channels. They've really allowed me to open up my eyes and see the world and I thank you guys for that. I really wish more people knew about your channel
NoFING No hate but what I'm trying to say is they deserve A LOT more attention. They're dong so much good to the world. They do have 3 MIL subs but I really wish they had a lot more. I'm not saying that they're unsuccessful just wish they were more popular.
Bhavneet Ghumman you don't need to "calm down", i don't under that person's comment of saying that to you. i completely agree with you. this is my favorite youtube channel. it makes me feel all the feelings. it opens my eyes to all of the people around the world & their differing experiences. it helps an empath like me feel good about the amount of empathy i hold for others. this channel really is amazing. i'm so grateful it exists ☺️
"The silent mornings when the mirror does not want your name Speak it anyway." This whole video was beautiful, as was the poem. I'll be following this poet's work going forward.
My friend got raped by her tutor she didn't tell her mum until a year later, she didnt tell her dad because she didn't want him to blame her mother because she was in the other room. She was 12-13 he was 27
I remember, when i was younger, i used to read statistics about the amount of women that were sexually assaulted and raped and I used to think "that would never happen to me, and if it did, i wouldn't be scared to tell someone or say no" until I was 13 and I was sexually assaulted by a family member as i slept. Multiple times. I would wake up as he was fondling me and I was too scared to move or tell anyone during the day. At the time i was too young to understand that it was sexual assault. I felt guilty that I couldn't tell anyone. I blamed myself because I was just too scared to move and tell him to stop. Now whenever someone touches me while I'm sleeping I jump up from my bed in fear. It's something that has stuck with me and wherever I hear other people's stories I get very emotional.
Same thing happened to me and to this day I flinch when people touch me and get uncomfortable when they get too close to me. But I did tell my mother after so so many years. And it felt great. It allowed me to deal with it and not keep it inside. I'm still healing to this day but I'm in a loving relationship where I don't flinch, I don't distance myself, I don't put up walls. It takes time to heal and telling a loved one who won't judge you will help. ❣️
I love the concept of having the woman sitting in a room together, symbolizing the way we have to come together and support eachother. Woman, men, other and any and every human, we should never be separated but joined as one. Keep making videos like this because it shows the inner workings of the human mind and it gets us one step closer to loving eachother with every scar and every tear and every heart in us ❤️
I’m so sorry. Just remember that it doesn’t matter if you are a boy or a girl. Your parents should be happy with what they have, an amazing and unique person.
bionicflora, I was I twin. My brother died right after being born and I(a girl) survived. Later on my parents got divorced when I was 7 and they told me that it was my fault and that they wished that I would have been the twin to die.
Same I always ask if they really wanna do it because if they dont REALLY want it my lust is gone right away. Guess they are that desperate for sex they have to abuse someone..
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall Then he ate corn on the cob All the kings horses and all the kings men Prefer BBQ ribs and collard greens instead Hmm... you're right. Poems that don't rhyme are lame.
My cousin, who was a girl, sexually assulted me. She took off her clothes and made me do the same. I never told anyone. I was only 9 and i didnt know what it meant. I didnt even know what sex was. So i look back at it now and realize she took advantage of my childish mind. I was naive. That side of our family was messed up. Incest, paedophilia, and underage smoking, drinking, and doing drugs. We were the ones that stood out. We were clean. But they always tried to change us. We no longer see that side of the family.
Same thing happend to me but i thought the guy was family which he wasnt .... but im just going to say this after the rape i was never right mentally i was maybe 8 or younger but i was sexually fustrated i didnt take it as fear it was pleasing i wasnt normal as a child i wanted to experience sex at a younge age ... sounds so disturbing but thats just how i felt i told my older sister and she told my parents.nothing was ever done.
My cousins and siblings have done the same to me I was really little so like you I was naive and I didn't really get it I'm not apart from them because I've never said anything I'm afraid that people will think it was my fault but I was only 10
Ορέστης why would somebody lie about something that brings them so much pain? Why would you choose not to believe someone who has gone through that? Imagine if that person was your sister, your mother, your friend, you. would you believe them?
My 9th grade english teacher once told me, "No solace for the sympathetic." meaning, their is nobody to comfort the one giving comfort; which derives down to a sad truth: None are willing to help the helper when they only care about being helped, and not being the helper; to take, but never give.
My father killed himself when I was 9. I have never recovered. It has been so hard being a boy growing up without a father. You get way ahead of your years. You start to worry about stuff you shouldn't worry about. I have to try so hard just to keep myself from freaking out in the middle of class. I sometimes just cant pulled myself out of bed in the morning and end up just crying till my next alarm. This is nothing a middle schooler should experience.
Alyesha wise is her name. I’m a poet too and I have to say I could tell she was a spoken word poet (like myself) from the way she spoke whilst reading the secret.
When I was 14, I went to El Salvador with my mother. There, I met my family that I never seen before.. but when my mother was gone, I was molested multiple times by my own cousin and called me many things. I didn't know who to tell, or what to say. I was scared to even tell my mom because she loved him so much and respected him. Once we left, I had lost so much weight. I was 5'6 and weighed 110 lbs. I even began to self mutilate my entire body cause I hated what he had done to me. Once I actually told my mom and he confronted him, he denied it and said something was wrong with me. That I was crazy and making it up. Since then, I had a hard time living. I was depressed, had many panic attacks, and was suicidal cause in my entire life of 20 years I've been molested by many people. I had such a hard time making friends and I couldn't form a relationship. Thankfully, I'm alright now. I learned to move on, keep pushing forward no matter what happened. I'm now about to be married, I have one friend who is my everything, and working my way to getting my bio major. Even now though, I hesitated to even speak about what had happened.
Hi, I wanna say that ur story really touched me and i'm happy to hear that it is getting better. Opening up and dealing with it takes a higher level of courage and is not to be taking lightly. You should reward yourself for stepping up for something so traumatic and being able to live a normal live after it. Hope ur still doing okay till this day!
im so sorry u had to experience this i could never imagine going through such a traumatic experience. just know that it wasnt ur fault and that u didn’t deserve it even though i dont know you i want to let u know thag im proud of you for speaking up about your story and staying strong i love you and hope god blesses you with good in your life ❤️
this needs more likes this is so horrible *EDIT:* this needs more likes because it needs to be seen more, but the attention span of humanity have went down to a fork so sadly people can't be bothered to read it, this could be such a huge inspiration for people who are in the same situation and this needs to be seen
i'm sorry you had to go through that. None of that was your fault. I'm happy for you for being able to overcome that. I hope you're still doing great now.
“And you’re going to have to retrain your mind a bit to see the value, and the beauty in you.” I’ve been emotionally abused my entire life and let me tell you, it effects EVERYTHING and training yourself to see you and the world in a light you’ve never seen before is so hard- sometimes it feels impossible but I know I’ll get there one day. You can too ❤️
Ditto. I am just now, at age 20, starting to feel and express my blooming sexuality after it was stunted by sexual abuse by my father from childhood. It takes a lifetime to heal.
I had to do something like this in a behavioral psychology class. The instructor told us to write something that happened to us that kind of traumatized us, and we put it in something, and everyone read something different. Thats when i realized how fucked up the world was and gave me a new perspective to life. The person sitting next to me could have been the one who wrote they were abused, neglected, molested, raped, etc... i didnt know. And yeah, the stranger sitting next to you in class, in a bus stop, coffee shop, whatever, they may be able to write a novel about all the messed up things in their life. Thats why we should never judge anyone without knowing their full story...
I’ve noticed that the people with the least problems complain the most. The people that have gone through the most are the quietist, because they know they have more to worry about.
Why is rape and molestation so common? I see people saying they were rape/molested. I was abused (mentally and sexually) by none other than my dad. It started when I was around 3. I am 15. Right now, my mom is fighting for her to have full custody of me. This might have been to personal, but I never got to tell anyone. I thought my abuse was normal, and now I can speak out about it.
@@microwave8931 I saw this comment somewhere else on here, but I will still say it. As a 21-year-old male, I am absolutely disgusted by how some men act. Hopefully you have other positive males in your life. And hopefully they can make a bigger impact than your father.
We did something similar in my high school Psychology class. We had to write about our life story and what happened in our lives. The teacher only read them. But there was one lady who's story stood out. The teacher asked if she could share her story. She was one of the preppy girls. She had told us how her dad physically, verbally, mentally abused her, her older sister and her mom. She talked about how her sister was raped by her dad and how she felt jealous how her dad and her sister were so close. She talked about how the mom resented her sister that was being raped. My heart broke that day. It's been 8+ years sense I was in the class and I still remember her face and her story to this day.
1:06 "I'm maybe infertile , it breaks my heart." I'm in the same situation. My fiance wants to have a child of our own. But I couldn't give it to him. The next thing I know he impregnated my sister . that's the moment, I realize that I'm not worth it. I wish everyone will realize that if you can't have a child. Not make you less woman.
If you cannot give birth, it does not change the potential you have on this earth. Everyone one of us has a gift we can give to the world. What separates us from the evil and unjust is how we use our gift. The past cannot be change, but it can be used to strengthen our drive to male the world a better place, and I have the feeling you are one of many who can do that😁
No No, He's the one that's NOT WORTH IT. Holy---i swear. If he can't accept the fact that you can't carry a child, then he's not a keeper. You are still worth it, don't let his actions tell you otherwise.
He does not deserve you, thare are options, adoption, for example, y dont really know about that theme, but i know that he is not worhy of your love and time💟
He's the one that don't deserve you. You have a "rock" in your path that's not a reason to leave you and also not a reason for you to feel unworthy. If you really want to have children you can search and find other ways to make that dream come true. If you're ok without kids then you're also perfect. You're no less woman and you're perfect the way you are. :)
When I was 14 I went to this high school party and I was raped. I woke up in the morning with my panties down and in some random room. I felt sore and I had bruises. I didn’t tell anyone in fear of being rejected. I was under the influence of alcohol. 3 years later I came foward to a teacher and I was interviewed. They told me it was my fault and that I shouldn’t have been drunk. I remember everything up until a point where I passed out. I remember saying no, despite being under the influence. I remember my dad telling me I was lying and that I was attention seeking. It broke me to pieces. Well I didn’t receive justice because of lack of evidence and I couldn’t provide a description of my rapist. I still get glimpses/flashbacks till this day and I just hope one day I can get over this and start to trust men again.
I just want to say that I dont know you, but i love you. You are strong, beautiful, and who ever eventually wins your heart will be very lucky. I say this not knowing what you look like, how you act, or how you live. I say this because you are a human who deserves to be loved properly, who has the bravery to say their story in front of so many people. Stay strong. Always remember that no matter what, you are beautiful and loved.
It's a shame that this has ever happened to anyone, I am so sorry you ever had to endure that kind of pain and turmoil. I see you're taking time to try and move past this and you are certainly stronger for it. As long as you continue to move forward with an even remotely positive outlook, I am sure you will find a good trusting man that will put your mind at ease, at least a little more. You are already worthy and deserving of that kind of good nature, proper care and love. No one should ever tell you otherwise. Please continue to do your best and stay the strong person you already are
i believe you and im so sorry you had to go through this no person should ever have to go through this. i just want to tell you that its NOT your fault and it doesn’t matter if you were under the influence you still said no. i also want to tell you how proud i am of you for finding the courage to share your story and to come forward to your parents even though it didnt go so well, i love you so so much even though i dont know you once again i believe you and im very proud of you❤️
To all those women AND men in the comments sharing your stories.. You're sososo strong and deserve compassion and love. Don't let the inhuman actions of horrible people let you forget that you are beautiful and have the will power of many. Stay strong. You'll get where you long to be one day, give yourself time.
Lol I'm a girl, 18, and go walking outside at night alone way past midnight, that's not to say you should too but good grief, this fear mongering is so debilitating, we deserve freedom too. In certain areas i know not to do it, but it's not applicable everywhere. Women need to just prioritize their safety and take extra precautions, but we don't deserve to live in fear. Screw that.
@@algonzalez6853 yeah because having an actual concern, specially if you live in a unsafe country, is all blamed on the feminists. 🙄 I like how you go through every comment and you leave your feedback trying to cause some unneeded negativity and confrontation. I guess the only one with an actual agenda here is you, which is indeed ironic. 😂
Kenneth Fox I completely agree with you but in today’s society, some people still try demean each other based on someone’s gender. Like if it was some sort of competition, but hopefully one day we’ll all learn that it’s no competition at all. We should all unite and strive forward together.
It's really sad how many women are sexually assaulted/ assaulted in ways. While I am very excited to move out and want to move to the city, I'm also scared to because of stuff like this.
It would seem lots, But that’s just because there are billions of women. In reality, almost all women are never sexually abused. And in fact men are more likely to be raped.
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 man are you for real?? one out of six american women and one out of 33 american men is a victim of attempted or completed rape. that means that sexual assault is not only common, but mostly comitted on women
Lecca Lecca And the one out of 6 is completely false. It’s actually 1 in every 1,250. You could ask random girls on the street, and almost all of them will say they have never been raped.
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 First of all, completed rape is not the one and only kind of sexual assault, second of all, I assume you don't know how to use the internet, because statistics say only 2-10% of accusations are false and that is probably the highest percentage I could find. I do not know why your attitude is so dissenting but at least try to understand that you have to know the facts before you criticize.
When I was like 12, I went to cinema with my friends for the first time and my brother was late to pick me up so everybody left and I was alone waiting for my brother. A man (probably 40-45 years old) tried to talk to me and to follow me. I was so scared and I couldn’t say anything. When I went to car I was so traumatised and cried in the car. When my brother found out he was so angry because I blamed myself and didn’t tell him what happened in the first place. And still, I’m so scared when I’m talking to men that are older than me.
Oh my I do feel you. I mean there is my cousins uncle (not from my family tree) who like compliments me and stuff and sometimes I find it kind of "cute" but some other times I feel weird. I have this weird fuzzy memory of me at age 7? I guess, trying to kiss him on the cheek and then he turns his head and i kiss him on the mouth. Which doesnt mean anything to him, but I just remember it and feel.... weird. I don't know. He didn't do that you know... but doing something like that to another person CAN be traumatic Even when somebody follows you, sht I have been in this situation. And I remember going to different roads of my area, so that he wont know where I live...then he went away when I tried to talk to the baker... Sometimes you have to improvise doing simple yet important things.. Sometimes it's good to talk to the bakers or neighbors 😂
@dev0n james That is not true. No one needs to go through these things. Man are human beings just like you any other women and want to live in harmony and peace. There are also women who abuse and rape. We shouldn't project our anger against a gender but instead against the actual abusers and helping the abused.
nunu nuki i highly agree with what you said. sometimes people think that violence is the solution to everything and that’s not how it should be. people forget who the victims are here and who the rapists are. rapists are the problem. rape has no gender.
@dev0n james You are the most pathetic excuse of a human being i have ever seen. You are the monster here, not men. Do you really want to traumatize every little boy out there ? Beyond pathetic.
I am literally like the guy in the male video that said he was emotional but always had to pretend to be strong. I will admit that I cried during this video, it hit me hard💔
Andrew Michaels Thank you for being honest about it. I really hope our future generations dont shun men for showing deep emotions or expressing them. But I hope that you do take a stand for yourself and start to freely do it for you because once you start doing, who know you could help other men like you who feel the same and that can spread and over time it could become a natural thing for men and not have to feel embarrassed about it. All I know is that when I have sons I want then to express themselves freely, no matter what.❤️:)
Sometimes, it seems as though you can't even be nice to people anymore. A simple kind act of saying " bless you", can bring a stalker and potentially so much more, and that's the sad reality.
I cried the whole video, I feel every woman I was touched, fondled and groped so many times in my life I can't count ، I really don't remember all of them but the first one was when I was only 10 years old 🤢 I grow up believing it's my fault bcz I have an attractive body, I hated it so much and always tried to cover it And I've never told anyone
I hope u can recover from that and live an awesome life u deserve, although it might be tough. I really admire people like u so much coz you are so strong ,bearing all this pain alone
I was holding it together until that poet at the end. I’ve experienced rape, sexual assault and domestic violence. I’m only 22....feel like my life was taken from me...sigh this video made me feel less alone though.
It’s so crazy how in such a short period of time you can be left hurting. How all it takes is one experience to crumble. You shouldn’t have experienced any of this but know that your not alone and with every person who tells you that your feelings are worthless, there’s ten of us who know how you feel and just want to you too keep fighting and get better.
I grew up dealing with an abusive dad and knowing I was something he wanted to disappear, to have never been, or to die so he didn't have to deal with me, and it sucked away at me until I thought I was nothing. I treated myself like nothing. But then I got so desperate to be dead that I realized I had to promise myself- if he wanted me to die so badly I could not just lay down and let myself get buried. To live is the greatest protest. To live is to rebel. I have to live.
I may not be good at psychology or may not be able to fully analyze the situation but I think your father has some trouble. Maybe it was about his past or environment but this is not an excuse. I hope this doesn't affect you more. I had a friend and she did not see herself successful in anything. I convinced her to be more of herself, and now she has great social skills and a great leader who organises parties and events. I hope you find the area where your talents shine.
@@yokedici6432 thank you. I know it was emotional and physical abuse that happened to him that in turn caused him to do so to us. I don't hate him. I am sad for him, for who he was and what he shout have been able to be. But I also know I can never change him and that my goal is to never hurt anyone like I was hurt. I want to become something my kids will admire in some small way.
Idk my deepest secret as a women, I have a fear of men. I'm scared of being sexually abused and raped. I don't want to be hurt by them, by anyone. It's sad that most women feel scared when there alone at night and I'm included. I just don't wann be hurt. I don't want something that is mine taken. My body is my blessing, people should respect that boundary.
I hope that if you ever decide to try to find that special someone for you, they will give you the respect that you, a living being, deserves. It is a right. No one should manipulate your body or abuse you. Stay strong, stranger💪
that’s exactly how i feel too. i was only in second grade when my own grandpa touched me inappropriately everyday. i didn’t know it was wrong until about fourth grade when he did the same thing to another one of my family members. me and my family member never got justice for what he did because he refused to take a lie detector test. i’m terrified of men now, even of my dad. it scares me. i’m afraid that if i turn my back, i’ll be touched again. i’m only fourteen now and those moments that he would touch me when i was only about 7.... they still haunt me. people saw it (except my parents) but decided to do nothing about it. he even called me sexy in front of my grandma and she said “she’s too young” but never discussed it again.
I just want to say as a 15 year old girl who has gone through many of these things all of you women give me hope and inspire me so much as I'm sitting on my bed sobbing talking to each other about your traumas has made me feel not so alone and okay
I was raped by my brother's best friend a week after my father passed away. He threatened me not to tell anyone. And me being the scared, little girl spoke no words about it. I recently told it to my "Friends" and what they said just broke me into pieces..."You might have shown some interest!", "Oh you b*tch! Why did you miss the chance?!", "I wouldve supported the guy." I know I know. It's disgusting. Well it's been years since it happened, and I realized that I had to move on and that hanging on to the past is not gonna bring me any benefit or happiness. I was insecure, antisocial, depressive and many more negative stuff. But some people around me helped me to get out of that depressive hole. They helped me to find myself, face myself and love myself. I cant thank them more. So anyone who is going through this, please talk about it to someone who UNDERSTANDS AND SUPPORTS YOU no matter what. You are strong! *Stand up for yourself*
You should have told your brother about it, not your clout chaser friends. Any brother I know (including me) would have beat the fuck out of their "best friend" if they did that. Clearly the "friends" yall have are not real and should not be so easily trusted.
Tanish Upreti of course guys as well, but this episode, being about how women are often treated poorly, sort of takes away the impact. It's not about inequality or treating women higher, it is about trying to seek justice.
@Tanish Upreti stop being so mad that men aren't mentioned everytime everywhere. The whole thing was about women and their struggle to exist. So stop taking even the minimal right just speak about it. It ain't about you or "men" it is about women learn to accept that. It's not always you have to remind people that "men too" in a certain situation when you and I both know that women suffer way more in daily walks of life than any man plus men are always talked more about in any society. Not everything is about them learn to respect that.
When i was in 6th grade, we were doing a project outside our classroom. Our teacher wasnt there. Only my groupmates. Then a 10th grade past by and decided to touch me (lets call him Rain). No one saw what happened. Not even my classmates. I was so scared i didnt tell anybody. After like a week, i told it to my brother but he promised me not to tell anybody about it. But he told it to my mom. Then my mom told it to our guidance counselor. Rain and I was brought to the office. I felt my stomach on the floor cuz my lifetime i always try to do good at school. Rain said to the principal that he didnt even know who i am and i was just putting him in danger. And the principal believed him. The principal suspended me immediately. I was in tears. My whole body was shaking. Nobody believed me except my family. I am still not over that incident until now. A 6th grader shouldnt experience something like this.
It's painful how every girl, if not almost every girl, have history where they were abused, assaulted, threatened or molested and they could not scream for help even if they felt so defenceless. It remains a dark secret and something that they carry as they grow.
Jem Mercader No actually it’s not very girl. It’s that the Media only shows girls with these experiences. In fact men are more likely to be raped and sexually abused/assaulted. Women have lots of things well when compared to men. Also rape percentages of women are like 1 in every couple thousand or so.
Do you have any idea how many women keep quiet about these stories? The numbers you read don’t add up when compared to what we know. Every girl I know has had an experience like this, or at least know someone close who has experienced it. I wish it wasn’t, i wish it was “just the media”, but it isn’t.
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 Uh no? I study principles, and when I came across a peice of information in my notebook it says that MEN are more likely to be victims of murder and abuse. While WOMAN are most likely to be victims of rape. Please do not pull things out of your ass.
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight is that story about rape? do all your male friends have assault/rape stories that they brush off? because that's what we're talking about here
So many people have adapted this idea of a woman’s hardships and struggle is in the past....please send those people this video as the biggest mic drop in the world.
@@algonzalez6853 In America, 1 in 6 women are raped and only 1 in 33 men are raped, but with men it mostly happens when they're children with their family members. A lot of worse things happen to women in 3rd world countries. When women are assaulted they get victim-blamed.
@@cutienerdgirl its really close to 50/50 because they dont count prison cases. And about the third world thing, maybe bring the attention there just as people always tell you to?
“Women’s issues” are everyone’s issues. Creating a world together where everyone feels safe and respected is so important, and these women are so strong for telling their stories! 💓
I think that men and women definitely have to come together for those issues that affect women and those issues that affect men. That’s what feminism is, fighting for the equality of the sexes by rectifying challenges that affect all genders. That being said, since men hold a privileged place in society as compared to women, more progress needs to be made on women’s behalf to give them the same opportunities, representation, and compensation that men receive from society. I think that saying that men’s issues are “all their own” is to ignore the support women throughout society give to men’s professional and personal ventures, even to their own detriment. From my understanding testicular cancer is one of the cancers that causes the least fatalities, which could be the reason for the discrepancy between awareness about testicular cancer and say, breast cancer. That being said, I have seen many women and men together at the forefront of issues like awareness of sexual abuse toward men and involuntary male circumcision.
Matt McRae if you look at my above response to Tyler, you can see that I said that I do. We all need to come together to solve some of the worlds’ biggest issues
@MadDilla ATCQstarr When did she say that she doesn't care about children or poor people? Nice strawman right there, your argument is to personally attack her cause she's a feminist lmao. Your misogyny is showing.
“my parents always wanted a son, but when they found out i was a girl they were very disappointed..” kinda sad that i can relate to that not with my mom but with my dad.. he left after finding out i was a girl,,💩..
@@deadgame2098 I mean..i'm a woman and i was almost about to say the same. I know it's not a compitition, but no matter what gender you are, you will go through hardships that the other gender can't exactly imagine. I'm grateful to be a woman. I'm grateful that i don't have to experience the things my boyfriend does and that i have had certain opportunities due to my gender. But that doesn't mean that women have it easy nor that the pain of a woman is to be taken less serious. As women our biggest strength is our weakness, but it's also our biggest enemy sometimes.
@@sunnyc.612 You almost said the same thing and you're a woman? So what. It would have been just as wrong. You should have just left it as it's not a competition and that's all. Sure, you don't have to go through all the experiences your boyfriend do but you don't even know the OP's experience that she has had a woman. So why speak on it like it is a competition. Women are allowed to have reactions to their pain and hurt without someone minimizing it.
@@amenabushra6541 oh, and if she wasn't a woman what else would she be? If we can agree on the fact that all genders and groups are neglected or judged in some way, then there is no better alternative, and so her feeling (which she are in her full right to have) to begin with wasn't sound.
"you are worthy of love and you will learn how to love again,It will just take time,you are gonna have to heal. And let that take how long its gonna take" Thats beatiful.
i always watch these at night and cry for these people underneath my covers. i couldn’t even imagine one of these things happening to me. these women are so strong, more than they’ll ever know.
i was sexually coerced when i was 14 by my first boyfriend. i didn’t realize until like half a year later after we broke up that what he did, what he said was wrong. he always told me that it was my job because i was his gf & that i owed him bc he did something nice to me. i told one of our mutual friends what i realized and she didnt believe me because he wasnt “that type of guy”. another one of our mutual friends asked if it was okay to date him. i said hes a rapist but its ur choice and she asked “are you sure?” ive been very open to my experience & most people are understanding, but people like this are why so many people are afraid to come out about their assault. i already felt like it was way too long after to tell anyone in authority about it, but after 2(maybe more,, ive forced myself to forget these things) people have denied me, i felt it wasnt important anymore and that it didnt matter. i dealt with my own trauma for 2 years now and it hits me like a missile every time rape comes up.
Can relate... It happened between 30 and 50 times for sure (idk, my memories of this 6 months are very bad). 4 months after he ended the relationship, I talked the first time about it. Now 4 friends and a social worker at my school know about it, but I still have to sit in one class with him. The whole toxic relationship really messed up my psyche...
These beautiful woman have helped me so much with their power to keep moving on helps me to keep going. Thank you so much for this video you are all so unique and beautiful.
I was a very clueless teen who saw the world through untainted eyes. When my classmate told me she was raped by her bf i didnt know how to react or what to say or do. It was the 1st time in my life i was exposed to something heavy like that. That was over a decade ago and obviously if she was to tell me that now, she would get a total different response and all my support. Im not sure why she confided in me as we werent close. It was random during lunch break at school, so i imagine she was probably really desparate to reach out for help, and unfortunately i was the wrong person. My point is if you try to reach out for help and not receive it from certain people, please dont let that stop you from continuing to seek the help and support that you need. Dont automatically assume that your issues are invalid and that people wont care. Sometimes, like in my case, they do care but just dont know what to do, or sometimes they may be struggling with their own issues and cant be strong enough to help you too.
Oh my goodness I can't believe I read this comment. Almost the exact same thing happened to me when I was as school also just over 10 years ago. As children and teenagers we haven't necessarily started to come across issues like this yet so we can handle them really badly when we're confided in. We can't go back and change it, but it's one of those awful, stark lessons which forms us into adults. * I completely echo your sentiment about encouraging people to continue to seek help and speak up if it doesn't go the way that it should the first time, especially for teenagers because there will be people out there who understand and know what to say and do, even if your friends don't.Your friends likely still love you, they just don't know what to do.That was the case for me anyway at 15.
i understand i went through the exact same thing and really did not know how to react to it. Somehow i made up my mind to tell it to another friend who's relative was an activist and involved with an ngo that helps women in the area to speak openly about such topics. As soon as i did my friend confessed that it was a false accusation she made because she just wanted to get back at the guy for breaking up with her. I cannot imagine what wouldve happened if we actually went through with the lie. Stay safe not everyone is honest.
I was sexually assaulted when I was 17. I told my dad a few days later and the first words out of his mouth were. What did you do to make him think you were up for it? You might have led him on without realising it. If that was the view from my own father why would anyone else care? So I swallowed it down and didn’t tell anyone else I saw the man who assaulted me several years later in a shopping centre and I had a panic attack
My niece (who's older then me) took advantage of me when I was 7 while my mother was in the room next door. To this day I haven't told anyone because I'm afraid that no one will believe me because It happened at such a young age and that it will tare my family apart. I have to see her at birthday parties and holidays. I think she thinks I forgot about it. And me and my family go over to her house all the time and I have to act like everythings normal and happy. In reality I want nothing to do with her. I know that my story is nothing compared to some of the things that other people have to go through but please know that you are never alone.
I really think you should tell someone in your family. No one should have to see the face of theor assaulter like you do. I wouldn't wish that upon a single soul
I really dont lnow why you dont have many responds, but i want you to know that your story is as important as the others. You are brave, and ypu deserve the best❤
If you feel the need to let it out to someone I recommend some kind of psychologist who can give you advice. Please don't repress traumas to yourself, it's important to heal from them. Give yourself lots of love and gentleness too.
I know I am a bit late here but please don't compare your pain with others. It's not a competition. It's pain and suffering for you... It's real for you. A person close to me had a similar experience to yours... I am the only person in the world who she told this too... When we again met the relative which had abused her I could hardly bear to look at his face... But she acted completely normal... I realised how strong she is and how strong you are. Keep fighting.
@@djsweaty2890 I know that you responded to this comment 5 months ago, but I just wanted to say thank you for replying. A few days ago I finally told someone (my bestfriend) Its nice to know that I can openly talk to someone about it who I know wont look at me any differently. It was extremely hard to tell someone but I'm so glad I did
Rape culture is such an upsetting epidemic. All people should be safe from these experiences regardless of gender or sexuality. People should NEVER have to go through this and it hurts to know that people don't feel like they can be open about their experiences. All people should have to consent to all sexual activity. Thank you to all of the people involved and the secret keepers. We love you
Plorin it's often very hard to get evidence even when someone is really raped. it ends up being a he said she said and victims often do not get justice. women are afraid of coming out with their stories because of this. no justice and shame from your community
I was sexually assaulted by a security guard when I was 8 years old..I was too young to realise what was happening..now I cry every time I remember what happened.
When I was 3 I was continously assaulted by these two boys at the the time all I knew is that it felt wrong I told my mom about it but she did nothing I think about it all the time now
My heart goes out to these women and anyone who has been through this type of pain or any pain at all just people in general these are very strong women and you all are so brave for doing this God bless you all and may you all live beautiful lives full of love peace and happiness. Much love!
It breaks my heart to hear these but it reminds me that women are strong, capable of incredible things, and resilient!! I’ve been through a few of them and still struggle with some but I’m proud I’m still fighting and loving watching myself turn into a stronger version of the amazing woman I’ve always been but was told I wasn’t!! 💔💪🏽🦋
The first one made me so upset. There's so much hurt and hatred in this world for things that people can't pick, choose or control. Race, sexual preference, gender the list could go forever and that's really disheartening💔
I was raped by my brother when i was 8 i told my father but he didn't believe it he said "MY SON DOESN'T DO THAT!" thanks god i now live with my mom,but i'm scared that one day i'm gonna return to my father's house... and I'm from Saudi Arabia I know I'm not the first and I'm not last one but i hope this will stop I shouldn't know what "rape" mean in such a young age in Saudi Arabia, there's a lot of sexual assault not only there in a lot of places in the world!
Micah Barnett it doesn’t matter who gets mistreated the most. we should help each other regardless what gender they are :/ because it’s not a competition
feminism really does stand for equality, the term just throws people off. toxic masculinity really doesnt benefit anyone, however feminism literally just means wanting women to b treated equally to men
It makes me SO ANGRY how often women aren’t taken seriously when they share some trauma or open up to someone about a tragedy that happened to them and the person just blame them or tell them to not tell anyone. Because they don’t deserve that, and I just wish I could help them and show them how it’s not their fault but there’s always gonna be someone who gets there first just to tell them that it’s on them. I really hope one day women can live free of all the bad experiences that happen.
CityFanTv -everything man city oh yeah, how they’re told that “aren’t men enough”. People shouldn’t be told to hold their pain or feelings, no matter the gender. And it’s worrying because I’ve seen that even in my family, it’s frustrating!
1:48 For at least 8 years I didn’t know how to say no. Until someone I deeply trusted did it to me, time after time. To everyone out there, no one owns your body, you don’t owe them anything. Loving yourself is the only way out. Stay strong.
And you would never understand what Is being a men. So.. I'm not saing that you dont sufer. We all do. Look at the men video too. And every person has his story to. We all live life at best..
princess foofoo I never want to hear ANYONE call ANYONE weak, none of us will understand what that person is going through or what they have gone through, we are here to help each other, no matter nationality, gender or sexuality. We need to LISTEN to one another
My older brother used to abuse me. It’s so hard too talk about, no one ever understands me and people get mad at me for bringing it up because it’s “negative”. If corners me sometimes and it’s caused major anxiety, I can barely walk by someone my size or bigger without flinching. People would always say man up too him, it’s kinda of hard to fight someone 6’3, 250 pounds, can bench press 350, and has biceps the size of my head, when I was a 5’9 13 year old that was skinny, 110 pounds, and could bench press 80. I can never get it out too anyone and it hurts too sit there and deal with it.
God, that "raped for the first time" section was utterly heartbreaking. Stay strong, everyone and make sure to remember that it is N E V E R the victim´s fault.
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2:44 "when i was raped for the first time" it's shocking to hear it might've been more than once and that just breaks my heart.
magna solanki I cried because it felt like i was speaking to myself.
@@notarea5193 why do u care?
@@notarea5193 thats rude
nura smy I was just trying to give internet support, because she basically said she was speaking to herself
@@notarea5193 the way you said that was just rude
My heart just broke, dropped, and fell into pieces. "When I was raped for the first time." You are so strong, so strong.
How is that being strong? I'm not saying she isn't, I don't know her, but how does THAT make her strong?
@@SabatSch95 the fact that she is still here, alive, day by day living with what happened to her and sharing her story with us, the world. She has the strength to do that and she's so strong to be able to put herself out there because I know many of us wouldn't.
@@deargifty Rape isn't life-threatening in and of itself.
That doesn't mean what she had to go through didn't suck... doesn't mean it wouldn't have been incredibly hard to deal with psychologically (especially as a woman). But that also doesn't mean what she went through was comparable to someone who experienced attempted murder.
And why is it strong to "put yourself out there"? Again, I just don't see it. She isn't being judged, she isn't facing contempt for coming out. Everyone supports her. It's commendable and healthy, sure. Brave and strong? Absolutely not.
Putting your own life on the line to save others, THAT's brave. Enduring and accepting suffering in service of others, THAT's strong.
True bravery would be to retaliate and attack the rapist, to make your stand. Obviously, as a woman, that may not be particularly smart, so I don't blame her AT ALL. I'm just saying, this isn't an example of bravery.
What you're doing is like saying someone who fell off a building and had to have their leg amputated or something is "strong" and "brave" for going through such an experience. This woman didn't choose to be raped. I really think you need to be more precise with these types of compliments. It almost seems like you're glorifying it to some degree.
@@SabatSch95 he meant as in mentally strong. It doesn't have to be physically strong by doing an action or etc. She's strong to speak out knowing that there's many women out there went through the same thing but never voiced out because of how society will judge them. It is not easy, because people will say you're asking for it if you're just wearing pants and shirt. Yes, I agree to that person, she is mentally strong
@@SabatSch95 ugh my eye balls fell as i read ur comment . Why is being strong always related To others? Why can't we just be strong when we get over something hard in our life ? Or when we take our courage to do something we're now so proud of.
To myself, I'm brave because last week i did something for the 1 st time , that i was very anxious about ,I hesitate again and again . But I took my imaginary balls, and did it. To me i'm brave . So to have the strenght To share a deep situation with others is really being strong.
I'm 23 and I've never dated anybody... I'm honestly scared to become vulnerable like that.
WaffleAssassin 21 and same
I personally think vulnerability is a beautiful thing for personal growth.
@@JhozetteAnn Someone said that to me before.
@@MzImperfectCrys it's true from personal experience. But its important to know the difference between personal vulnerability and feeling vulnerable because of someone else
@@JhozetteAnn how can it be beautiful for growth?
The way every single woman can relate to someone is truly scary.
It is. Goes to show what they go through, doesn’t it?
They hand pick each one and give it to someone who will relate with that.
@Zain Al-Shallah Really???
It's really not
@@tristanlj3409 yes, it's terrifying
“When I was raped for the first time...”
Oh my God. That is so sad. My heart breaks for her.
I don't think I can survive one let alone multiple, she's so so strong to be able to survive
Mine too. I really don't get it how can a person do such thing and then blame the victims.
First Of All
Sis, that poem was EVERYTHING.
What’s her insta?
Is it on YT???
Her name is Alyesha Wise. I listen to her spoken word a lot and was surprised to see her in this. She’s awesome ❤️
EVERYTHING
PERIODT.
My ex emotionally abused me I’m a guy but some people don’t understand that as a guy it’s hard to come out with this. I hope these women have a blessed life wish them the best 🙏🏽
Ikr?? It's horrible, on one side women have to fight for their rights but the consequence is people not taking seriousely men who go through the same thing, it's endless.. Hope you feel okay now, I'm sorry you went through this 💕
fuhjrvr
Stop being a beta male
King Lazo what..
I, and hopefully many others, wish you the best too!
I’m sorry you had to go through that my ex emotionally abused me too. Honestly,it’s something that is hurting them inside which gets projected onto you they take it out on you on the wrong people. ,But at the end of the day karma is real, and trust me they’ll get theirs!🙏🏽❤️stay strong 💪🏽
4:08
“...Choked me.. yelled at me, raped me...”
“...”
“..He hurt me. A lot.”
*smiles* :(
When she was giving advice, I got the sense she was also talking to herself. Everything she said stuck w me, wish I could have a conversation w her
I think she was trying to make the people listening more comfortable with what she just said. As if by smiling she could convey that she was okay now and they shouldn't worry about her. I really related to her because I do the same thing.
That looked like a smile of a warrior/survivor...
her smile literally hits me
It’s sad how the people we thought we loved the most that we describe as our “rock” inflict the most pain on us.
I feel like Jubilee is one of the most underrated RUclips Channels. They've really allowed me to open up my eyes and see the world and I thank you guys for that. I really wish more people knew about your channel
Its not underrated wdym
NoFING No hate but what I'm trying to say is they deserve A LOT more attention. They're dong so much good to the world. They do have 3 MIL subs but I really wish they had a lot more. I'm not saying that they're unsuccessful just wish they were more popular.
@@bhavneet5305 calm down..
NoFING Ok?
Bhavneet Ghumman you don't need to "calm down", i don't under that person's comment of saying that to you. i completely agree with you. this is my favorite youtube channel. it makes me feel all the feelings. it opens my eyes to all of the people around the world & their differing experiences. it helps an empath like me feel good about the amount of empathy i hold for others. this channel really is amazing. i'm so grateful it exists ☺️
The woman that said she was married for 13 years had me *SHOOK* . I literally thought she was early 20s
Thanks for all the likes!!
Dane Weaver Thank you! This means a lot. 🖤
Kat E omg you are beautiful
Asians
Yooo me too! And Kat E, you’re beautiful 💛
She was reading someone elses
"The silent mornings when the mirror does not want your name
Speak it anyway."
This whole video was beautiful, as was the poem. I'll be following this poet's work going forward.
What was the poet's name? Or link? Pls and thx
@@metamaeta Her name's Alyesha Wise and the poem she just recited was "A Love Spell to Those I Call Sis"
You should do men reading women's secrets or vice versa.
Yes
Exactly
Omg please.
@@weezer7757 what's your profile based on bud?
10 months later where is this episode already?
I wanna cry cause my mom was raped by a police officer walking from the store nd she didnt get the proper justice.....he was just out of a job
My friend got raped by her tutor she didn't tell her mum until a year later, she didnt tell her dad because she didn't want him to blame her mother because she was in the other room. She was 12-13 he was 27
Strong men too they also get abused a lot just don't show it
Nvm she didn't tell her mum she sees her in the streets everyday chilling with his friends
AppleSas yes. it’s called the blue curtain :(
Mr Nolalife yep just as sad.
"when I was raped for the first time" should never be a sentence said so casually
Leroy Harris should never be a sentence said at all. Horrible
It's my sentence unfortunately😭 and they do blame you for it......
@@lovebug6388 same
wasn't said casually but yeah
It should never be a sentence even thought
I remember, when i was younger, i used to read statistics about the amount of women that were sexually assaulted and raped and I used to think "that would never happen to me, and if it did, i wouldn't be scared to tell someone or say no" until I was 13 and I was sexually assaulted by a family member as i slept. Multiple times. I would wake up as he was fondling me and I was too scared to move or tell anyone during the day. At the time i was too young to understand that it was sexual assault. I felt guilty that I couldn't tell anyone. I blamed myself because I was just too scared to move and tell him to stop. Now whenever someone touches me while I'm sleeping I jump up from my bed in fear. It's something that has stuck with me and wherever I hear other people's stories I get very emotional.
Lesly Rodriguez I’m so sorry that had to happen to you 💔i hope you’re okay now, u deserve only good things
Take the thorn out and let the wound heal . Don't blame yourself
Did you tell your family about this person? If not, its time.
Same thing happened to me and to this day I flinch when people touch me and get uncomfortable when they get too close to me. But I did tell my mother after so so many years. And it felt great. It allowed me to deal with it and not keep it inside. I'm still healing to this day but I'm in a loving relationship where I don't flinch, I don't distance myself, I don't put up walls. It takes time to heal and telling a loved one who won't judge you will help. ❣️
@@kippesolo8941 Its their decision to tell people, not yours.
He followed her because she said "bless you?" And then people wonder why women go out in packs.
@Rusty Shackleford They can do what they want. Dude shouldn't have been a fuckin creep.
@@zain6008 I didnt make it anything. It is what it is.
Zain Al-Shallah I’m concerned on how you don’t see this as a issue
@@bimyself274 Every one should have the right to go out with no fear, even if it's 4 PM.......love from italy :)
jack sertal 😊
I love the concept of having the woman sitting in a room together, symbolizing the way we have to come together and support eachother. Woman, men, other and any and every human, we should never be separated but joined as one.
Keep making videos like this because it shows the inner workings of the human mind and it gets us one step closer to loving eachother with every scar and every tear and every heart in us ❤️
I eet cats
Chiemerie Umezinne you are rarted
*"my parents wanted a son"*
unfortunately, i've had to live with that fact drilled into my head too...
bionicflora I hope u don’t let that effect u too much ur a special kind of a girl that God blessed ur fam with. They just don’t see that yet 🖤
I’m so sorry. Just remember that it doesn’t matter if you are a boy or a girl. Your parents should be happy with what they have, an amazing and unique person.
I love you❤️
gypsy lab
bruh does it matter?
bionicflora, I was I twin. My brother died right after being born and I(a girl) survived. Later on my parents got divorced when I was 7 and they told me that it was my fault and that they wished that I would have been the twin to die.
as a guy myself, i'm absolutely disgusted by how men can be, and i respect every woman for what they've been through. stay strong, everyone.
Gosh guys be nice. The comment was harmless and good
Same I always ask if they really wanna do it because if they dont REALLY want it my lust is gone right away. Guess they are that desperate for sex they have to abuse someone..
박 재진 simp on a whole other level
Generic Name completely agree with you
@@liveridge2696 what should he do lmao
The beautiful woman with the orange hair and lepeord print shirt speaks so calmly and gave a wonderful speech. I thank her for making me feel better.
it wasn't her point,and it wasn't a poem.
@@fenecofeneco19 why?
Brah one of us in color blind cause her hair look red
That poem was phenomenal.
MadDilla ATCQstarr if you know anything about poetry, you know not all of it rhymes whatsoever.
MadDilla ATCQstarr just become a poem doesn’t rhyme doesn’t mean it’s boring etc, or isn’t a poem . But I respect your opinion 😁
@MadDilla ATCQstarr not all poems need to rhyme? but okay, i understand if thats just not ur style
I’m looking for the script!
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall
Then he ate corn on the cob
All the kings horses and all the kings men
Prefer BBQ ribs and collard greens instead
Hmm... you're right. Poems that don't rhyme are lame.
My cousin, who was a girl, sexually assulted me. She took off her clothes and made me do the same. I never told anyone. I was only 9 and i didnt know what it meant. I didnt even know what sex was. So i look back at it now and realize she took advantage of my childish mind. I was naive.
That side of our family was messed up. Incest, paedophilia, and underage smoking, drinking, and doing drugs. We were the ones that stood out. We were clean. But they always tried to change us.
We no longer see that side of the family.
Awww poor thing 😔
Stay strong
Same thing happend to me but i thought the guy was family which he wasnt .... but im just going to say this after the rape i was never right mentally i was maybe 8 or younger but i was sexually fustrated i didnt take it as fear it was pleasing i wasnt normal as a child i wanted to experience sex at a younge age ... sounds so disturbing but thats just how i felt i told my older sister and she told my parents.nothing was ever done.
My cousins and siblings have done the same to me I was really little so like you I was naive and I didn't really get it I'm not apart from them because I've never said anything I'm afraid that people will think it was my fault but I was only 10
Sweet ol’ Alabama
Hold up...
“The first time?”
We gotta pray for this woman’s safety 🙏🏿
her 'friends' anit her real friends...you never blame the victim x
Ορέστης why would somebody lie about something that brings them so much pain? Why would you choose not to believe someone who has gone through that?
Imagine if that person was your sister, your mother, your friend, you. would you believe them?
sadly this is the reality for many women
@@Its_Maylay i hope men learn not to rape
FantaMag most women don’t get punished for falsely accusing but the falsely accused men suffer from their lives being destroyed
My 9th grade english teacher once told me, "No solace for the sympathetic." meaning, their is nobody to comfort the one giving comfort; which derives down to a sad truth:
None are willing to help the helper when they only care about being helped, and not being the helper; to take, but never give.
Amazing, I'm writing that down
@Soniya Kabdwal lol same
Which is why you really have to limit how much of yourself you give to others, you can't help everyone and you have to help yourself first.
When she said “the first time I got raped,...” first time... that broke my heart. And those aren’t friends the ones that said those things to her.
My father killed himself when I was 9. I have never recovered. It has been so hard being a boy growing up without a father. You get way ahead of your years. You start to worry about stuff you shouldn't worry about. I have to try so hard just to keep myself from freaking out in the middle of class. I sometimes just cant pulled myself out of bed in the morning and end up just crying till my next alarm. This is nothing a middle schooler should experience.
DarkBoyAssassin you are going to grow up to be a strong person I have faith
DarkBoyAssassin excuse you I am 17 😂
Have you tried going to therapy? It helped me a lot 💖
You are an amazing stong person i appreciate you haven't given up and wish you the best
I’m so sorry ❤️🥀
ok but imma need that womans poetry page or whatever cuz poet to poet that was dope.
Right? Gave me chills.
Alyesha wise is her name. I’m a poet too and I have to say I could tell she was a spoken word poet (like myself) from the way she spoke whilst reading the secret.
Lily Potter Thank you! ❤️❤️
@@lilypotter8303 what's your @?
I loved it!
When I was 14, I went to El Salvador with my mother. There, I met my family that I never seen before.. but when my mother was gone, I was molested multiple times by my own cousin and called me many things. I didn't know who to tell, or what to say. I was scared to even tell my mom because she loved him so much and respected him.
Once we left, I had lost so much weight. I was 5'6 and weighed 110 lbs. I even began to self mutilate my entire body cause I hated what he had done to me. Once I actually told my mom and he confronted him, he denied it and said something was wrong with me. That I was crazy and making it up.
Since then, I had a hard time living. I was depressed, had many panic attacks, and was suicidal cause in my entire life of 20 years I've been molested by many people. I had such a hard time making friends and I couldn't form a relationship.
Thankfully, I'm alright now. I learned to move on, keep pushing forward no matter what happened. I'm now about to be married, I have one friend who is my everything, and working my way to getting my bio major.
Even now though, I hesitated to even speak about what had happened.
Hi, I wanna say that ur story really touched me and i'm happy to hear that it is getting better. Opening up and dealing with it takes a higher level of courage and is not to be taking lightly. You should reward yourself for stepping up for something so traumatic and being able to live a normal live after it. Hope ur still doing okay till this day!
im so sorry u had to experience this i could never imagine going through such a traumatic experience. just know that it wasnt ur fault and that u didn’t deserve it even though i dont know you i want to let u know thag im proud of you for speaking up about your story and staying strong i love you and hope god blesses you with good in your life ❤️
this needs more likes this is so horrible
*EDIT:* this needs more likes because it needs to be seen more, but the attention span of humanity have went down to a fork so sadly people can't be bothered to read it, this could be such a huge inspiration for people who are in the same situation and this needs to be seen
i'm sorry you had to go through that. None of that was your fault. I'm happy for you for being able to overcome that. I hope you're still doing great now.
I love u sis . I know u can and u will . I am supporting u. I am with u
“And you’re going to have to retrain your mind a bit to see the value, and the beauty in you.”
I’ve been emotionally abused my entire life and let me tell you, it effects EVERYTHING and training yourself to see you and the world in a light you’ve never seen before is so hard- sometimes it feels impossible but I know I’ll get there one day. You can too ❤️
I understand, I sincerely hope you do get there one day ❤️
Ditto. I am just now, at age 20, starting to feel and express my blooming sexuality after it was stunted by sexual abuse by my father from childhood. It takes a lifetime to heal.
All females have to go through this horrible situations. It's best to avoid men at all costs.
I had to do something like this in a behavioral psychology class. The instructor told us to write something that happened to us that kind of traumatized us, and we put it in something, and everyone read something different. Thats when i realized how fucked up the world was and gave me a new perspective to life. The person sitting next to me could have been the one who wrote they were abused, neglected, molested, raped, etc... i didnt know. And yeah, the stranger sitting next to you in class, in a bus stop, coffee shop, whatever, they may be able to write a novel about all the messed up things in their life. Thats why we should never judge anyone without knowing their full story...
This is so true!
I’ve noticed that the people with the least problems complain the most. The people that have gone through the most are the quietist, because they know they have more to worry about.
Why is rape and molestation so common? I see people saying they were rape/molested. I was abused (mentally and sexually) by none other than my dad. It started when I was around 3. I am 15. Right now, my mom is fighting for her to have full custody of me.
This might have been to personal, but I never got to tell anyone. I thought my abuse was normal, and now I can speak out about it.
@@microwave8931 I saw this comment somewhere else on here, but I will still say it. As a 21-year-old male, I am absolutely disgusted by how some men act. Hopefully you have other positive males in your life. And hopefully they can make a bigger impact than your father.
We did something similar in my high school Psychology class. We had to write about our life story and what happened in our lives. The teacher only read them. But there was one lady who's story stood out. The teacher asked if she could share her story. She was one of the preppy girls. She had told us how her dad physically, verbally, mentally abused her, her older sister and her mom. She talked about how her sister was raped by her dad and how she felt jealous how her dad and her sister were so close. She talked about how the mom resented her sister that was being raped. My heart broke that day. It's been 8+ years sense I was in the class and I still remember her face and her story to this day.
1:06 "I'm maybe infertile , it breaks my heart." I'm in the same situation. My fiance wants to have a child of our own. But I couldn't give it to him. The next thing I know he impregnated my sister . that's the moment, I realize that I'm not worth it.
I wish everyone will realize that if you can't have a child. Not make you less woman.
If you cannot give birth, it does not change the potential you have on this earth. Everyone one of us has a gift we can give to the world. What separates us from the evil and unjust is how we use our gift. The past cannot be change, but it can be used to strengthen our drive to male the world a better place, and I have the feeling you are one of many who can do that😁
@Noname Garofano I know right? so many orphans who have nowhere to go
No No, He's the one that's NOT WORTH IT. Holy---i swear. If he can't accept the fact that you can't carry a child, then he's not a keeper. You are still worth it, don't let his actions tell you otherwise.
He does not deserve you, thare are options, adoption, for example, y dont really know about that theme, but i know that he is not worhy of your love and time💟
He's the one that don't deserve you. You have a "rock" in your path that's not a reason to leave you and also not a reason for you to feel unworthy. If you really want to have children you can search and find other ways to make that dream come true. If you're ok without kids then you're also perfect. You're no less woman and you're perfect the way you are. :)
When I was 14 I went to this high school party and I was raped. I woke up in the morning with my panties down and in some random room. I felt sore and I had bruises. I didn’t tell anyone in fear of being rejected. I was under the influence of alcohol. 3 years later I came foward to a teacher and I was interviewed. They told me it was my fault and that I shouldn’t have been drunk. I remember everything up until a point where I passed out. I remember saying no, despite being under the influence. I remember my dad telling me I was lying and that I was attention seeking. It broke me to pieces. Well I didn’t receive justice because of lack of evidence and I couldn’t provide a description of my rapist. I still get glimpses/flashbacks till this day and I just hope one day I can get over this and start to trust men again.
I just want to say that I dont know you, but i love you. You are strong, beautiful, and who ever eventually wins your heart will be very lucky.
I say this not knowing what you look like, how you act, or how you live. I say this because you are a human who deserves to be loved properly, who has the bravery to say their story in front of so many people.
Stay strong. Always remember that no matter what, you are beautiful and loved.
Not Here I love you so much. I’m in tears right now, I appreciate you very much❤️❤️
We are out there, the good men, you will just have to notice us, go to places where good men are at, good men typically are not at parties
It's a shame that this has ever happened to anyone, I am so sorry you ever had to endure that kind of pain and turmoil.
I see you're taking time to try and move past this and you are certainly stronger for it. As long as you continue to move forward with an even remotely positive outlook, I am sure you will find a good trusting man that will put your mind at ease, at least a little more.
You are already worthy and deserving of that kind of good nature, proper care and love. No one should ever tell you otherwise.
Please continue to do your best and stay the strong person you already are
i believe you and im so sorry you had to go through this no person should ever have to go through this. i just want to tell you that its NOT your fault and it doesn’t matter if you were under the influence you still said no. i also want to tell you how proud i am of you for finding the courage to share your story and to come forward to your parents even though it didnt go so well, i love you so so much even though i dont know you once again i believe you and im very proud of you❤️
To all those women AND men in the comments sharing your stories..
You're sososo strong and deserve compassion and love.
Don't let the inhuman actions of horrible people let you forget that you are beautiful and have the will power of many.
Stay strong. You'll get where you long to be one day, give yourself time.
0:49 I can relate to this. I feel so unsafe as a girl walking at night. I'm only 13 I shouldn't be scared of going home
Lol I'm a girl, 18, and go walking outside at night alone way past midnight, that's not to say you should too but good grief, this fear mongering is so debilitating, we deserve freedom too. In certain areas i know not to do it, but it's not applicable everywhere. Women need to just prioritize their safety and take extra precautions, but we don't deserve to live in fear. Screw that.
You're sadly the product of feminist victimazation brainwashing
A B carry weapons? That is going to make things worse. You can avoid many confrontations without weapons
@@algonzalez6853 yeah because having an actual concern, specially if you live in a unsafe country, is all blamed on the feminists. 🙄
I like how you go through every comment and you leave your feedback trying to cause some unneeded negativity and confrontation. I guess the only one with an actual agenda here is you, which is indeed ironic. 😂
LJ ok? I’m a guy and I don’t feel safe going out at night either. Men are victims violence more than women
For the men that have only but comforting, positive, honest comments about this. Thank you for supporting us!❤️
That's the way it should be, at the end of the day we're all in this together regardless of our gender.
Kenneth Fox I completely agree with you but in today’s society, some people still try demean each other based on someone’s gender. Like if it was some sort of competition, but hopefully one day we’ll all learn that it’s no competition at all. We should all unite and strive forward together.
@@sickradrat1664 Yeah I can never understand why, we're all going through something and we're all human.
Kenneth Fox yeah :/
Just doing the bare minimum instead of actually preventing rape. Men need to do better.
The women who had red curly hair made me cry as she spoke so softly and so nicely...
It's really sad how many women are sexually assaulted/ assaulted in ways. While I am very excited to move out and want to move to the city, I'm also scared to because of stuff like this.
I’m extremely afraid to live alone in the future.
It would seem lots, But that’s just because there are billions of women. In reality, almost all women are never sexually abused. And in fact men are more likely to be raped.
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 man are you for real?? one out of six american women and one out of 33 american men is a victim of attempted or completed rape. that means that sexual assault is not only common, but mostly comitted on women
Lecca Lecca And the one out of 6 is completely false. It’s actually 1 in every 1,250. You could ask random girls on the street, and almost all of them will say they have never been raped.
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 First of all, completed rape is not the one and only kind of sexual assault, second of all, I assume you don't know how to use the internet, because statistics say only 2-10% of accusations are false and that is probably the highest percentage I could find. I do not know why your attitude is so dissenting but at least try to understand that you have to know the facts before you criticize.
To all the people who try to blame the person who was hurt for hurting...
You need to take a long look in the mirror
WHERE CAN I FIND THESE PEOPLE WHERE CAN I HUG THEM TELL THEM THAT EVERYTHING'S OKAY THIS IS TOO MUCH EMOTION FOR ME
They are all around you
@@ShaliniSingh-js6ch Damn fr? Everyone around me is dead inside.
Maybe your compassion and understanding can help them a little
Why does everyone have the profile pic?!
@@taniabernal8087 Oh well I have this profile pic because this account is supposed to be my producing account and my gimmick is "Cyro the demon"
When I was like 12, I went to cinema with my friends for the first time and my brother was late to pick me up so everybody left and I was alone waiting for my brother. A man (probably 40-45 years old) tried to talk to me and to follow me. I was so scared and I couldn’t say anything. When I went to car I was so traumatised and cried in the car. When my brother found out he was so angry because I blamed myself and didn’t tell him what happened in the first place. And still, I’m so scared when I’m talking to men that are older than me.
Oh my I do feel you. I mean there is my cousins uncle (not from my family tree) who like compliments me and stuff and sometimes I find it kind of "cute" but some other times I feel weird. I have this weird fuzzy memory of me at age 7? I guess, trying to kiss him on the cheek and then he turns his head and i kiss him on the mouth. Which doesnt mean anything to him, but I just remember it and feel.... weird. I don't know. He didn't do that you know... but doing something like that to another person CAN be traumatic
Even when somebody follows you, sht I have been in this situation. And I remember going to different roads of my area, so that he wont know where I live...then he went away when I tried to talk to the baker... Sometimes you have to improvise doing simple yet important things.. Sometimes it's good to talk to the bakers or neighbors 😂
I’m sorry this happened to you :/ but please know you are liked and loved 💗
h e y y y o u oh that happened to me with an older woman a supermarket but I know that most older ladies are nice
CityFanTv -everything man city it’s scary af
I'm sorry this happened to you. Please know that you are loved and none of that was your fault.
it’s heartbreaking that all of us have been through most of the things that these women have shared with us. it’s a scary world. 💔
It is very scary
@dev0n james
That is not true. No one needs to go through these things. Man are human beings just like you any other women and want to live in harmony and peace. There are also women who abuse and rape. We shouldn't project our anger against a gender but instead against the actual abusers and helping the abused.
nunu nuki i highly agree with what you said. sometimes people think that violence is the solution to everything and that’s not how it should be. people forget who the victims are here and who the rapists are. rapists are the problem. rape has no gender.
@dev0n james you are a sad person, i pity you.
@dev0n james You are the most pathetic excuse of a human being i have ever seen. You are the monster here, not men. Do you really want to traumatize every little boy out there ? Beyond pathetic.
That woman with her poem 💓 "I see you sis". I see you too 💞
I am literally like the guy in the male video that said he was emotional but always had to pretend to be strong. I will admit that I cried during this video, it hit me hard💔
Andrew Michaels Thank you for being honest about it. I really hope our future generations dont shun men for showing deep emotions or expressing them. But I hope that you do take a stand for yourself and start to freely do it for you because once you start doing, who know you could help other men like you who feel the same and that can spread and over time it could become a natural thing for men and not have to feel embarrassed about it. All I know is that when I have sons I want then to express themselves freely, no matter what.❤️:)
I want my husband to be emotional
Andrew we need more emotional, empathetic men in this world. Thank God you are one of them!
It’s okay to be emotional. Maybe most guys won’t get it but female friends will.
A wise man once said “I think there is so much masculinity to being vulnerable” and I agree
Sometimes, it seems as though you can't even be nice to people anymore. A simple kind act of saying " bless you", can bring a stalker and potentially so much more, and that's the sad reality.
I stopped being nice to men a long time ago, if it's not necessary I won't interact with men
I cried the whole video, I feel every woman
I was touched, fondled and groped so many times in my life I can't count ،
I really don't remember all of them but the first one was when I was only 10 years old 🤢
I grow up believing it's my fault bcz I have an attractive body, I hated it so much and always tried to cover it
And I've never told anyone
TiaOfJordan Oh my god! Its so sad that young girls are getting raped and groped by that age!
same here groped/ abused from 4-11 then moved away, it is what it is, people are so ignorant in this world hm
I'm so sorry
I hope u can recover from that and live an awesome life u deserve, although it might be tough. I really admire people like u so much coz you are so strong ,bearing all this pain alone
What does fondled mean?
Dear women,
You are so beautiful and strong. I am you and you are me. I hear you.
tracy guerrero dear you you are so beautiful and strong. I am you and you are me, I hear you.
Also, to men too because they also deserve love :)
Corue Yeah in lots of countries more men than women are raped.
I'm screaming but nobody can hear me.
I was holding it together until that poet at the end.
I’ve experienced rape, sexual assault and domestic violence. I’m only 22....feel like my life was taken from me...sigh this video made me feel less alone though.
dominique Nelson You are strong and beautiful. Know that! God Bless you❤️
I hope you get through it.
You are not alone, stay strong you are worthy of having control over your own life!
It’s so crazy how in such a short period of time you can be left hurting. How all it takes is one experience to crumble. You shouldn’t have experienced any of this but know that your not alone and with every person who tells you that your feelings are worthless, there’s ten of us who know how you feel and just want to you too keep fighting and get better.
Same.... I'm only 22 too.. and been through the same.. god bless you sis.. u're Strong
I grew up dealing with an abusive dad and knowing I was something he wanted to disappear, to have never been, or to die so he didn't have to deal with me, and it sucked away at me until I thought I was nothing. I treated myself like nothing. But then I got so desperate to be dead that I realized I had to promise myself- if he wanted me to die so badly I could not just lay down and let myself get buried. To live is the greatest protest. To live is to rebel. I have to live.
I may not be good at psychology or may not be able to fully analyze the situation but I think your father has some trouble. Maybe it was about his past or environment but this is not an excuse.
I hope this doesn't affect you more. I had a friend and she did not see herself successful in anything. I convinced her to be more of herself, and now she has great social skills and a great leader who organises parties and events. I hope you find the area where your talents shine.
@@yokedici6432 thank you. I know it was emotional and physical abuse that happened to him that in turn caused him to do so to us. I don't hate him. I am sad for him, for who he was and what he shout have been able to be. But I also know I can never change him and that my goal is to never hurt anyone like I was hurt. I want to become something my kids will admire in some small way.
Thank you for making such an intelligent promise, even if it was out of desperation. I hope you keep rebelling and live long and happily.
i feel u
Now switch it. Have men read women's secrets, and vice versa.
Now that's a pretty good idea. Read and weep kids.
Kbear2097 they already have that
Barque Obama where?
@Melon Sauce Can't find it
When she said " When I was raped the first time" my heart fell
Idk my deepest secret as a women, I have a fear of men. I'm scared of being sexually abused and raped. I don't want to be hurt by them, by anyone. It's sad that most women feel scared when there alone at night and I'm included.
I just don't wann be hurt. I don't want something that is mine taken. My body is my blessing, people should respect that boundary.
I hope that if you ever decide to try to find that special someone for you, they will give you the respect that you, a living being, deserves. It is a right. No one should manipulate your body or abuse you. Stay strong, stranger💪
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that’s exactly how i feel too. i was only in second grade when my own grandpa touched me inappropriately everyday. i didn’t know it was wrong until about fourth grade when he did the same thing to another one of my family members. me and my family member never got justice for what he did because he refused to take a lie detector test. i’m terrified of men now, even of my dad. it scares me. i’m afraid that if i turn my back, i’ll be touched again. i’m only fourteen now and those moments that he would touch me when i was only about 7.... they still haunt me. people saw it (except my parents) but decided to do nothing about it. he even called me sexy in front of my grandma and she said “she’s too young” but never discussed it again.
Not all men are bad
I just want to say as a 15 year old girl who has gone through many of these things all of you women give me hope and inspire me so much as I'm sitting on my bed sobbing talking to each other about your traumas has made me feel not so alone and okay
I dont know you but you are very sweet. Sending a lot of love.
I hope that you are doing well keep going.
Stay strong
I was raped by my brother's best friend a week after my father passed away. He threatened me not to tell anyone. And me being the scared, little girl spoke no words about it. I recently told it to my "Friends" and what they said just broke me into pieces..."You might have shown some interest!", "Oh you b*tch! Why did you miss the chance?!", "I wouldve supported the guy." I know I know. It's disgusting.
Well it's been years since it happened, and I realized that I had to move on and that hanging on to the past is not gonna bring me any benefit or happiness. I was insecure, antisocial, depressive and many more negative stuff. But some people around me helped me to get out of that depressive hole. They helped me to find myself, face myself and love myself. I cant thank them more. So anyone who is going through this, please talk about it to someone who UNDERSTANDS AND SUPPORTS YOU no matter what. You are strong! *Stand up for yourself*
LoveKookie4ever awful friends those were, Christ I don’t know why people even think that, much less say
I hope that you are not frnds with your so-called "Friends"
But i am happy that you spoke up
You should have told your brother about it, not your clout chaser friends. Any brother I know (including me) would have beat the fuck out of their "best friend" if they did that. Clearly the "friends" yall have are not real and should not be so easily trusted.
the girl at 3:50 spoke beautifully, she gave wonderful advice and didn’t even stutter, i can tell she’s an amazing human being from that.
micheal and tootie, she made me cry.
I’m mad af bc i can’t protect all the girls in the world
me too 💚 i wish all girls were strong enough to stand for themselves !
Tanish Upreti of course guys as well, but this episode, being about how women are often treated poorly, sort of takes away the impact. It's not about inequality or treating women higher, it is about trying to seek justice.
@Tanish Upreti stop being so mad that men aren't mentioned everytime everywhere. The whole thing was about women and their struggle to exist. So stop taking even the minimal right just speak about it. It ain't about you or "men" it is about women learn to accept that. It's not always you have to remind people that "men too" in a certain situation when you and I both know that women suffer way more in daily walks of life than any man plus men are always talked more about in any society. Not everything is about them learn to respect that.
Why don't you go say that to everyone talking about women on the men video?
Simp
When i was in 6th grade, we were doing a project outside our classroom. Our teacher wasnt there. Only my groupmates. Then a 10th grade past by and decided to touch me (lets call him Rain). No one saw what happened. Not even my classmates. I was so scared i didnt tell anybody. After like a week, i told it to my brother but he promised me not to tell anybody about it. But he told it to my mom. Then my mom told it to our guidance counselor. Rain and I was brought to the office. I felt my stomach on the floor cuz my lifetime i always try to do good at school. Rain said to the principal that he didnt even know who i am and i was just putting him in danger. And the principal believed him. The principal suspended me immediately. I was in tears. My whole body was shaking. Nobody believed me except my family. I am still not over that incident until now. A 6th grader shouldnt experience something like this.
Oh I'm so sorry you had to go through this in 6th grade I hope you're doing better now.
be grateful for your family (this is not dismissing)
It's painful how every girl, if not almost every girl, have history where they were abused, assaulted, threatened or molested and they could not scream for help even if they felt so defenceless. It remains a dark secret and something that they carry as they grow.
Jem Mercader No actually it’s not very girl. It’s that the Media only shows girls with these experiences. In fact men are more likely to be raped and sexually abused/assaulted. Women have lots of things well when compared to men. Also rape percentages of women are like 1 in every couple thousand or so.
Do you have any idea how many women keep quiet about these stories? The numbers you read don’t add up when compared to what we know. Every girl I know has had an experience like this, or at least know someone close who has experienced it. I wish it wasn’t, i wish it was “just the media”, but it isn’t.
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 Uh no? I study principles, and when I came across a peice of information in my notebook it says that MEN are more likely to be victims of murder and abuse. While WOMAN are most likely to be victims of rape. Please do not pull things out of your ass.
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight is that story about rape? do all your male friends have assault/rape stories that they brush off? because that's what we're talking about here
@@legendary_tortoiseo5553 dont make lies from your ass
*PLOT TWIST=* they read their own secrets.
lil w bruh
I was thinking that, too!
I think that because they all relate to the cards their reading I doubt that’s a coin siren
Coincidence **
I feel like sometimes it's like that too
5:01
That was my breaking point, I broke down crying. Wow, that was just so powerful
I have been raped three times. All in separate instances, different ages, by different people. Rape isn’t a joke. Rape is real.
Oh my god I’m so sorry
How are you doing?? Sending power to you!
hey i love you. and i see you. and i’m so proud of you
So many people have adapted this idea of a woman’s hardships and struggle is in the past....please send those people this video as the biggest mic drop in the world.
It is in the past, all of this happens to men in the same numbers
@@algonzalez6853 In America, 1 in 6 women are raped and only 1 in 33 men are raped, but with men it mostly happens when they're children with their family members. A lot of worse things happen to women in 3rd world countries. When women are assaulted they get victim-blamed.
@@cutienerdgirl let's not argue whose life is harder
@@cutienerdgirl its really close to 50/50 because they dont count prison cases. And about the third world thing, maybe bring the attention there just as people always tell you to?
jerry an agenda that says that rape isn’t ok and is too common? What a terrible plan
i love these types of videos!
@A Formless nope. i dont even know who that is
“Women’s issues” are everyone’s issues. Creating a world together where everyone feels safe and respected is so important, and these women are so strong for telling their stories! 💓
I think that men and women definitely have to come together for those issues that affect women and those issues that affect men. That’s what feminism is, fighting for the equality of the sexes by rectifying challenges that affect all genders. That being said, since men hold a privileged place in society as compared to women, more progress needs to be made on women’s behalf to give them the same opportunities, representation, and compensation that men receive from society. I think that saying that men’s issues are “all their own” is to ignore the support women throughout society give to men’s professional and personal ventures, even to their own detriment. From my understanding testicular cancer is one of the cancers that causes the least fatalities, which could be the reason for the discrepancy between awareness about testicular cancer and say, breast cancer. That being said, I have seen many women and men together at the forefront of issues like awareness of sexual abuse toward men and involuntary male circumcision.
Matt McRae if you look at my above response to Tyler, you can see that I said that I do. We all need to come together to solve some of the worlds’ biggest issues
@MadDilla ATCQstarr When did she say that she doesn't care about children or poor people? Nice strawman right there, your argument is to personally attack her cause she's a feminist lmao. Your misogyny is showing.
@MadDilla ATCQstarr what a half assed troll. 2/10 try better next time bro.
MadDilla ATCQstarr what’s a internet rage?
“You must hv wanted it”
Bro rape is force, how could anyone want that, I know most wouldn’t
*anyone wouldn't
@@aestheticyou. you’d be surprised..
@@aestheticyou. you'd be surprised how many women have rape fetish
@@abdullahbinjahed6900 how many? 1 in a million maybe. Never heard of anyone.
@@user-me8hy8ew4o I've heard it ... especially from women
"On the silent mornings when the mirror does NOT want your name, speak it anyway" 💪💗
“my parents always wanted a son, but when they found out i was a girl they were very disappointed..” kinda sad that i can relate to that not with my mom but with my dad.. he left after finding out i was a girl,,💩..
Im so sorry that happened to you. I just want to give you a hug
hugssss, strong woman
@Future the Toxic Lord your username says it all
It’s like sometimes.. I feel like I don’t want to be a woman anymore because of the amount of disrespect that we get and it breaks my heart
@@deadgame2098 I mean..i'm a woman and i was almost about to say the same. I know it's not a compitition, but no matter what gender you are, you will go through hardships that the other gender can't exactly imagine. I'm grateful to be a woman. I'm grateful that i don't have to experience the things my boyfriend does and that i have had certain opportunities due to my gender. But that doesn't mean that women have it easy nor that the pain of a woman is to be taken less serious.
As women our biggest strength is our weakness, but it's also our biggest enemy sometimes.
@@sunnyc.612 You almost said the same thing and you're a woman? So what. It would have been just as wrong. You should have just left it as it's not a competition and that's all. Sure, you don't have to go through all the experiences your boyfriend do but you don't even know the OP's experience that she has had a woman. So why speak on it like it is a competition. Women are allowed to have reactions to their pain and hurt without someone minimizing it.
Wet vegetables you missed the whole point..
@Wet vegetables she never said they don't,Tyler
@@amenabushra6541 oh, and if she wasn't a woman what else would she be? If we can agree on the fact that all genders and groups are neglected or judged in some way, then there is no better alternative, and so her feeling (which she are in her full right to have) to begin with wasn't sound.
"I was raped.."
No...
"For the first time"
NOO WHAT WHY
"You are worthy of love, and you deserve love"
the poetry is truly beautiful
It’s almost as if they’re reading their own secrets and finally being able to release it
They are reading their own secrets
"you are worthy of love and you will learn how to love again,It will just take time,you are gonna have to heal. And let that take how long its gonna take"
Thats beatiful.
i always watch these at night and cry for these people underneath my covers. i couldn’t even imagine one of these things happening to me. these women are so strong, more than they’ll ever know.
i was sexually coerced when i was 14 by my first boyfriend. i didn’t realize until like half a year later after we broke up that what he did, what he said was wrong. he always told me that it was my job because i was his gf & that i owed him bc he did something nice to me. i told one of our mutual friends what i realized and she didnt believe me because he wasnt “that type of guy”. another one of our mutual friends asked if it was okay to date him. i said hes a rapist but its ur choice and she asked “are you sure?” ive been very open to my experience & most people are understanding, but people like this are why so many people are afraid to come out about their assault. i already felt like it was way too long after to tell anyone in authority about it, but after 2(maybe more,, ive forced myself to forget these things) people have denied me, i felt it wasnt important anymore and that it didnt matter. i dealt with my own trauma for 2 years now and it hits me like a missile every time rape comes up.
sending love to you
Can relate... It happened between 30 and 50 times for sure (idk, my memories of this 6 months are very bad). 4 months after he ended the relationship, I talked the first time about it. Now 4 friends and a social worker at my school know about it, but I still have to sit in one class with him. The whole toxic relationship really messed up my psyche...
I have a friend who is in a very similar situation as you. I hope stuff gets better ❤️
These beautiful woman have helped me so much with their power to keep moving on helps me to keep going. Thank you so much for this video you are all so unique and beautiful.
I was a very clueless teen who saw the world through untainted eyes. When my classmate told me she was raped by her bf i didnt know how to react or what to say or do. It was the 1st time in my life i was exposed to something heavy like that. That was over a decade ago and obviously if she was to tell me that now, she would get a total different response and all my support.
Im not sure why she confided in me as we werent close. It was random during lunch break at school, so i imagine she was probably really desparate to reach out for help, and unfortunately i was the wrong person.
My point is if you try to reach out for help and not receive it from certain people, please dont let that stop you from continuing to seek the help and support that you need. Dont automatically assume that your issues are invalid and that people wont care. Sometimes, like in my case, they do care but just dont know what to do, or sometimes they may be struggling with their own issues and cant be strong enough to help you too.
Oh my goodness I can't believe I read this comment. Almost the exact same thing happened to me when I was as school also just over 10 years ago. As children and teenagers we haven't necessarily started to come across issues like this yet so we can handle them really badly when we're confided in. We can't go back and change it, but it's one of those awful, stark lessons which forms us into adults.
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I completely echo your sentiment about encouraging people to continue to seek help and speak up if it doesn't go the way that it should the first time, especially for teenagers because there will be people out there who understand and know what to say and do, even if your friends don't.Your friends likely still love you, they just don't know what to do.That was the case for me anyway at 15.
i understand i went through the exact same thing and really did not know how to react to it. Somehow i made up my mind to tell it to another friend who's relative was an activist and involved with an ngo that helps women in the area to speak openly about such topics. As soon as i did my friend confessed that it was a false accusation she made because she just wanted to get back at the guy for breaking up with her. I cannot imagine what wouldve happened if we actually went through with the lie. Stay safe not everyone is honest.
I was sexually assaulted when I was 17. I told my dad a few days later and the first words out of his mouth were. What did you do to make him think you were up for it? You might have led him on without realising it. If that was the view from my own father why would anyone else care? So I swallowed it down and didn’t tell anyone else I saw the man who assaulted me several years later in a shopping centre and I had a panic attack
I am sorry that happened to you. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
I'm so sorry that happened to you I wish you the best
My niece (who's older then me) took advantage of me when I was 7 while my mother was in the room next door. To this day I haven't told anyone because I'm afraid that no one will believe me because It happened at such a young age and that it will tare my family apart. I have to see her at birthday parties and holidays. I think she thinks I forgot about it. And me and my family go over to her house all the time and I have to act like everythings normal and happy. In reality I want nothing to do with her. I know that my story is nothing compared to some of the things that other people have to go through but please know that you are never alone.
I really think you should tell someone in your family. No one should have to see the face of theor assaulter like you do. I wouldn't wish that upon a single soul
I really dont lnow why you dont have many responds, but i want you to know that your story is as important as the others. You are brave, and ypu deserve the best❤
If you feel the need to let it out to someone I recommend some kind of psychologist who can give you advice. Please don't repress traumas to yourself, it's important to heal from them. Give yourself lots of love and gentleness too.
I know I am a bit late here but please don't compare your pain with others. It's not a competition. It's pain and suffering for you... It's real for you. A person close to me had a similar experience to yours... I am the only person in the world who she told this too... When we again met the relative which had abused her I could hardly bear to look at his face... But she acted completely normal... I realised how strong she is and how strong you are. Keep fighting.
@@djsweaty2890 I know that you responded to this comment 5 months ago, but I just wanted to say thank you for replying. A few days ago I finally told someone (my bestfriend) Its nice to know that I can openly talk to someone about it who I know wont look at me any differently. It was extremely hard to tell someone but I'm so glad I did
Bend the broken into a blessing... love that ...
For anyone who has been raped / sexually assaulted.. my heart goes out to you. You are strong buddy. It was never your fault.
I feel like jubilee always lays out each card specifically for each person because they always seem to have a connection to the seceret
"For the first time" really caught me off guard. Such a strong women.
Rape culture is such an upsetting epidemic. All people should be safe from these experiences regardless of gender or sexuality. People should NEVER have to go through this and it hurts to know that people don't feel like they can be open about their experiences. All people should have to consent to all sexual activity. Thank you to all of the people involved and the secret keepers. We love you
That Kid in Africa and if you report it or you tell people and they don’t believe you?
Venari.x Well is there any evidence?
Plorin it's often very hard to get evidence even when someone is really raped. it ends up being a he said she said and victims often do not get justice. women are afraid of coming out with their stories because of this. no justice and shame from your community
Eli G. Women are afraid of coming out? Don’t seem like it lately
@@elizabethgarcia171 they literally look at your vagina or hole to collect dna samples and see bruises, it's not that hard
I was sexually assaulted by a security guard when I was 8 years old..I was too young to realise what was happening..now I cry every time I remember what happened.
When I was 3 I was continously assaulted by these two boys at the the time all I knew is that it felt wrong I told my mom about it but she did nothing I think about it all the time now
@@rorymarcel228 I’m sorry 💔
My heart goes out to these women and anyone who has been through this type of pain or any pain at all just people in general these are very strong women and you all are so brave for doing this God bless you all and may you all live beautiful lives full of love peace and happiness. Much love!
this is so so heartbreaking.
i’m glad that they were able to say what they have been containing anonymously
It breaks my heart to hear these but it reminds me that women are strong, capable of incredible things, and resilient!! I’ve been through a few of them and still struggle with some but I’m proud I’m still fighting and loving watching myself turn into a stronger version of the amazing woman I’ve always been but was told I wasn’t!! 💔💪🏽🦋
I'm teaching my daughter to box on god. Ain't no man gon put hands on her😤😤
@Sadness i illegal to learn how to fight...?
@Sadness i nobody has to know :)
Facts
Respect man. All people should know how to defend themselves, this is why I’m so glad my mom put me in karate instead of ballet
I'm telling you now to add her into Jiu-jitsu
The first one made me so upset. There's so much hurt and hatred in this world for things that people can't pick, choose or control. Race, sexual preference, gender the list could go forever and that's really disheartening💔
I was raped by my brother when i was 8 i told my father but he didn't believe it he said "MY SON DOESN'T DO THAT!" thanks god i now live with my mom,but i'm scared that one day i'm gonna return to my father's house...
and I'm from Saudi Arabia
I know I'm not the first and I'm not last one but i hope this will stop I shouldn't know what "rape" mean in such a young age
in Saudi Arabia, there's a lot of sexual assault not only there in a lot of places in the world!
Stay strong❤
I don’t get why we need to have feminism or masculinity. We should be lifting each other up to be who THEY are.
PERIODT.
Micah Barnett it doesn’t matter who gets mistreated the most. we should help each other regardless what gender they are :/ because it’s not a competition
feminism really does stand for equality, the term just throws people off. toxic masculinity really doesnt benefit anyone, however feminism literally just means wanting women to b treated equally to men
sonya pari exactly
@@sonyapari1219 feminism is woman empowerment
Its only promotes equality if woman will benefit from it
It makes me SO ANGRY how often women aren’t taken seriously when they share some trauma or open up to someone about a tragedy that happened to them and the person just blame them or tell them to not tell anyone. Because they don’t deserve that, and I just wish I could help them and show them how it’s not their fault but there’s always gonna be someone who gets there first just to tell them that it’s on them.
I really hope one day women can live free of all the bad experiences that happen.
Diana Andrea Garza R it really happens to men a lot more getting told or man up
CityFanTv -everything man city oh yeah, how they’re told that “aren’t men enough”.
People shouldn’t be told to hold their pain or feelings, no matter the gender.
And it’s worrying because I’ve seen that even in my family, it’s frustrating!
@@dianaandreagarzar312 preach
I agree. It's skummy.
when i hear the word “sis” i think of it as a joke and kinda a funny word. but the poet at the end made it sound so powerful. beautiful words🖤
1:48
For at least 8 years I didn’t know how to say no. Until someone I deeply trusted did it to me, time after time.
To everyone out there, no one owns your body, you don’t owe them anything. Loving yourself is the only way out.
Stay strong.
I never NEVER want to hear men calling women weak again
You will NEVER understand what it's like to be a woman
so don't tell us what its like
And you would never understand what Is being a men. So.. I'm not saing that you dont sufer. We all do. Look at the men video too. And every person has his story to. We all live life at best..
princess foofoo You dont think men are called weak
princess foofoo I never want to hear ANYONE call ANYONE weak, none of us will understand what that person is going through or what they have gone through, we are here to help each other, no matter nationality, gender or sexuality. We need to LISTEN to one another
princess foofoo I mean men are stronger, it’s biology
Princess Foofoo. Your not a woman, your a 🤡
My older brother used to abuse me. It’s so hard too talk about, no one ever understands me and people get mad at me for bringing it up because it’s “negative”. If corners me sometimes and it’s caused major anxiety, I can barely walk by someone my size or bigger without flinching. People would always say man up too him, it’s kinda of hard to fight someone 6’3, 250 pounds, can bench press 350, and has biceps the size of my head, when I was a 5’9 13 year old that was skinny, 110 pounds, and could bench press 80. I can never get it out too anyone and it hurts too sit there and deal with it.
I'm sorry no one took your side. I hope you are safe now and please seek help from school/police if possible
Just know I will always listen to you
This was a really deep and emotional video. Good on ya, Jubilee.
I’m so sorry for anyone going through any similar situations as these women. Remember you are strong and you don’t deserve it, be strong sis🙌🏽
3:32 idk why but this women voice would be perfect in a movie
God, that "raped for the first time" section was utterly heartbreaking. Stay strong, everyone and make sure to remember that it is N E V E R the victim´s fault.