Many Women Hate Parenthood: A Candid Discussion
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2023
- 🔥 Welcome to another episode of the BTTS Podcast! In today's video, we dive deep into the topic of parenthood and the struggles some women face and how this can affect their children. We'll be having a candid discussion about women who openly share their feelings of hate and regret about becoming parents. 💔
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I'm a female with no kids. Ppl look at me like there's something wrong w/me or like I'm selfish or they ask me if i can't have kids...so much ignorance and societal pressure to have kids.
I grew up seeing all 4 of my sisters & other women in my neighborhood being single mothers, the financial/emotional struggle was tough to watch.
Plus, my mom and dad had 9 kids, and they worried about us 24/7... running the streets, getting on drugs, getting into trouble, keeping food in the house & clothes on our back.
I guess all of these factors helped influence my decision. It's tough out here just taking care of my physical/mental health, paying my bills, dealing with daily stressors, trying to enjoy life, etc. Phew!!
What the main issue is and reoccuring is how she is a single mother. The dad walked out on them. The conversation that should be had is why is it so easy for men to walk out on their flesh and blood and why they leave majority of the time ?
You are correct. However, that's only a part of the conversation that should be had. In many cases both parties involved have not made very good decisions. Men should not be impregnating women and leaving them to raise a child on their own. That absolutely needs to stop. However, there is always two sides of a coin. Women have to be extremely protective of their wombs and be extremely careful who they lay down with because that act can lead to another human life being created. It's just very unfortunate because the person hurt the most would be the child.
If women don't let guys nut in them, they won't get pregnant..also people shouldn't have kids if they don't have support systems. And capitalism makes it hard to have kids in this country. I pay 30% of my income in taxes and I don't get free college, affordable housing and healthcare because I'm American and not European 😢
Just want to clarify that BPD is Borderline Personality Disorder. Some people mix it up, though, and actually mean Bipolar Disorder bc they think that’s the acronym. Either way, dealing with those disorders is really tough. 🙏🏽 (just wanted to help out as a therapist😊)
Thank you for that clarification!
@@bttspodcastYou’re so welcome! 😊
Your wife is right, you can’t really prepare to perfection, you can think that you are prepared and ready and well thought through, but the only way to really know is when something actually happens.
We both have very valid points. I don't think it's about preparing for perfection because nothing is perfect. It's about mitigating as much risk as possible.
This is like my third podcast yall have I’ve heard and my man getting the heat lol. I do agree with the mental health it took me having kids to see I had a problem and wish I would have taken care of it before I had kids. Love this cast also keep it rolling. 🎉
Thank you sooo much! We appreciate the support.
I can see both sides. Like there was a time when I was vehemently against having children because I felt too messed up, I was going through probably undiagnosed depression and anxiety, and in general just feeling lost, also just leaving my religion at the time etc. I didn’t think I would do a good job as a parent. Something switched and now I do want to be a parent. But sometimes I think about it and I do think, could I handle it? But now I feel more positive about it than negative. Yet, I would hope I would continue to feel that way if I do become a parent, because the body and mind are tricky and you can start feeling overwhelmed and with all the burdens that come with motherhood, who knows.
So yeah, you do have to think things through. And I’m also not up for casual sexual relationships for that reason too, because I’ve always been serious about building a real foundation and not just “having fun”
But, I understand the woman in the video saying that it’s so much harder than expected. I follow a RUclipsr that was trying so hard to get pregnant, she was so sad she couldn’t get pregnant, then when she got pregnant she has such bad sickness and vomiting for her entire pregnancy, it’s become like miserable and not the fairytale she thought. Peoples emotions can switch up really quickly when they’re put in the fire, so to speak. Reality hits different
“You don’t. I love you. You do.”😂
We need more people to show the bad parts of parenting instead of all rhe good so people can stop having kids all over the place with whoever. I'm glad the lady in the video said something. Hopefully people can have more honest conversations in the future.
Unfortunately, I do not think that would stop people from having kids all over the place simply because too many people are very reckless when it comes to participating in the activities that lead to the creating of tiny humans.
@@bttspodcast I think it would. As someone who made proper decisions not because of my parents but because I had been shown reality and hardship from people who wanted to lift the lie. And my siblings who were told that their lives wouldn't be complete without a child, shown cute happy moments, and told how children fixed everything. I can say that honest conversations showing reality makes a big difference.
Very powerful conversation! I always enjoy your videos ❤
Thank you Tiffany! We really appreciate you!
I literally had the same breakdown it gets overwhelming. But we gotta keep pushing for these babies im thinking about going back to therapy cause it’s a lot all alone fr I don’t have my mom never did and there dad barely helps I get it
It is definitely hard sis. And we are sorry that you're having to go through this by yourself. We believe therapy helps.
As harsh as it is, I agree with the MH thing - and not all mental health but I mean serious MH. This is coming from a woman who’s suffered her whole life with various serious Mh issues. I do well for myself and have my own house and 2 uni degrees, and paid off car and savings and career etc. BUT it’s a massive struggle everyday to just feel normal and to even just have enough energy to keep myself fit and healthy, and fit in friends because there is constantly thoughts and feelings to fight. So I know there is no way I could ever have kids
Her (1st) problem was that she is doing it alone. Stop acting like parenting is the sole problem. Single parenting is.
I agree and they barely talked about that issue
You're right parenting isn't the sole problem, but many treat parenting whether it's alone or with a significant other as if it's very difficult. Single parents definitely have it worse.
Nope! There were so many videos where women were saying they were single mothers while being married. That's actually worse!
I agree. Being married, taking care of multiple Littles is difficult & stressful... but there are many things in life that are difficult & stressful.... parenting is just one of those things. Single parenting whether married or not is far more difficult for sure. So I do think that is best to prepare before engaging in sex since it may lead to pregnancy. I wish I was better prepared to take care of my kids & manage my home before starting a family.
@beatrizordonez1161 this is actually what I mean when I say I wanna be ready and prepared for a kid, people are like "oh well youll never be fully ready or all perfect" but I just wanna have the bare minimum and bulk of everything. Stable job and a nice safe long term housing with a compatible husband. Those are bare minimum essentials needed to care for a child properly
A child is not i repeat they NOT a goal. Single and child less is the ultimate goal for life
Btw depression whether its post or not is a mental disorder. BPD is a mental disorder. PTSD is a mental disorder. Anxiety is a mental disorder. You can develop mental disorders during and even after pregnancy. Some disorders even come in twos or threes and get misdiagnosed.
It seems as though young lady who sparked the conversation may have known she had BPD prior to becoming a mother.
@@bttspodcast There is help for that. It just adds extra challenges. And it helps, as someone with CPTSD, to truly understand that once you have a kid you have no time to work on you until the kid is older. It becomes all about the kid to the point that you lose yourself. And yes people are told parenting is hard and it like a job but people aren't truly expressing to others the gravity of that reality. I've seen people raise amazing kids while having disorders but only when they had all the facts and took precautions.
Seriously you could do your research, looking at studies and stats to back up your words. It's a social issue and much more. Why to voice yourself to say nothing genuine.
What exactly did you feel was not genuine about the conversation here?
Yes life is hard, know yourself and get on with it.
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