What NOT to Say to a Depressed Loved One

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  • Опубликовано: 13 мар 2016
  • Dr. Byrne shares her advice about what not to say to someone that is or may be depressed. To learn more please visit www.Cognitive-Psychiatry.com

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  • @clichepuff2010
    @clichepuff2010 4 года назад +769

    All my angels watching this video in order to help someone or yourself
    You are AMAZING!!!

    • @mustafabasim7137
      @mustafabasim7137 3 года назад +10

      Genius is ability to recognise the creativity in things...
      You are angel 🌹
      Much love

    • @83-reyakhatun80
      @83-reyakhatun80 3 года назад +7

      Yeah....you are the real angel now

    • @colemanadamson5943
      @colemanadamson5943 3 года назад +1

      All your angels? You're a nutjob.

    • @reitadeux8631
      @reitadeux8631 3 года назад +8

      Idk what to do I feel like he just gets sadder every day

    • @sonakshi-jl6gq
      @sonakshi-jl6gq 3 года назад +2

      @Clichepuff Pink
      Universe 🌌 is sending so much love to you. See.

  • @gracejay924
    @gracejay924 3 года назад +812

    1. Everyone has bad days
    2. This will get better
    3. I understand what you're going thru
    4. You just need to snap out of it
    5. Think about all the good things in your life

    • @dumpydapillow8519
      @dumpydapillow8519 3 года назад +157

      And don’t forget the infamous “But god loves you” bs.

    • @laurielolochou7712
      @laurielolochou7712 3 года назад +13

      Thank you now i know what to say

    • @christenscott1558
      @christenscott1558 3 года назад +52

      I hear all of these often it just pisses me off.

    • @qcompressed1409
      @qcompressed1409 3 года назад +19

      What if you had depression too and do know what they’re going through?

    • @channieszoo4342
      @channieszoo4342 3 года назад +28

      @@qcompressed1409 the emotions that you feel/felt could be completely different from theirs. They probably won’t agree with you saying you understand anyways. You should probably just avoid saying you get it when you might not and they might feel like you don’t.

  • @puzzledtoby
    @puzzledtoby 4 года назад +286

    Watching this because I have depression and want to be there for other people so that they can have what I wish for
    Edit: I didn't expect this to get so much love, thank you for the nice comments ❤️
    Edit 2: im doing better now being honest i was overreacting

    • @quincysmith7480
      @quincysmith7480 4 года назад +7

      Same here

    • @devilqueen2757
      @devilqueen2757 4 года назад +6

      im too❤

    • @clichepuff2010
      @clichepuff2010 4 года назад +7

      You're such an angel dear

    • @dust_za
      @dust_za 3 года назад +4

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @puzzledtoby
      @puzzledtoby 3 года назад +6

      @Valerie Young it's hard to say what exactly but basically someone that they can lean on or trust

  • @awesometd848
    @awesometd848 3 года назад +42

    Sometimes a meaningful hug would really help, no need to say anything.

    • @Domino13334
      @Domino13334 2 года назад +5

      Absolutely! That give you a feeling that the person cares about you and the situation ❤️

    • @voiceofreason2691
      @voiceofreason2691 Год назад +2

      🤝❤️

  • @thesalonicacastro4305
    @thesalonicacastro4305 4 года назад +449

    Thank you for telling me what not to say. My boyfriend is feeling really low right now. 😭

    • @buttercup1596
      @buttercup1596 3 года назад +27

      It'll be ok. Just support amd listen to him

    • @yatniwahyuni9140
      @yatniwahyuni9140 3 года назад +5

      Mine too

    • @priyalbhagwanani3205
      @priyalbhagwanani3205 3 года назад +28

      So nice of u to come look for something to support him. I wish i had someone that made efforts to help me too.

    • @yatniwahyuni9140
      @yatniwahyuni9140 3 года назад +11

      @@priyalbhagwanani3205 everything is gonna be alright love. Pray from far. May God bless u too :)

    • @arathyanil6877
      @arathyanil6877 3 года назад +7

      Can anyone suggest me a way how to support my boyfriend.. i mn i don't know how to do support in this kinda situation.. whatever i do everything seems pointless!!... And i can't afford to leave him hurt.

  • @lunadabaybrandon
    @lunadabaybrandon 3 года назад +89

    1. Everyone has bad days
    2. There’s people who don’t have food
    3. Let it go
    4. Things will get better
    5. Cheer up
    6. It can’t be that bad
    7. What you need is to go through a real tragedy to gain some perspective
    8. You really think you have it bad?
    9. Quit being so Overdramatic
    10. It’s all in your head
    Those are all things I hear a lot. They just really piss me off.

    • @barbarasimon6863
      @barbarasimon6863 2 года назад +12

      My sister recently sad that "you have a HUGE problem with your way of thinking" It was really hurtful.... and than my mom and I argued, and she sad "when have you became so sad, you were so happy when you were a child, bring out the old you" (basically this one is sucks) and another often used, when I feel irritated and im not happy "oh here we go again!! Why should you ruin the mornings.. Always!!" damn.... those words makes my heart hurt...im not even kidding..

    • @lunadabaybrandon
      @lunadabaybrandon 2 года назад +2

      @@barbarasimon6863 I feel you. And who was saying all of that about me? P.S. do I know you?

    • @annaburns2865
      @annaburns2865 2 года назад

      I’m really sorry. I have heard some of these and it really hurts me to my core.

    • @taylormatthews4848
      @taylormatthews4848 2 года назад +1

      when when they snap for no reason and you ask them whats WRONG they just yell and say go away, and we try and tell her everythings ok and she should not be affraid to speak but shes just so antisocial and hiding herself. all i want is her to communicate thats ALL.

    • @Ang3la990s
      @Ang3la990s Год назад

      Your comment pisses me off

  • @2listen2u
    @2listen2u 3 года назад +103

    I like to add that number five actually makes me feel worse. "Look at all the good things in your life." makes me feel like it is wrong for me to be depressed despite all the good things, then I feel ashamed, ungrateful and weak.

    • @msaruthra
      @msaruthra 3 года назад +2

      What caused depression

    • @2listen2u
      @2listen2u 2 года назад +5

      @@Sharonamy I would say it makes a big difference if the affirmations are said by yourself, not by others. Like you say when in the deepest of your depression you see everything very grim, positively meant comments from others may be taken negatively. If you are able to say it to yourself you are already on your way of recovery.

    • @taylormatthews4848
      @taylormatthews4848 2 года назад

      @@msaruthra thats a good question i think may help some but idk

    • @hippytrippy1254
      @hippytrippy1254 2 года назад +1

      Hell true

    • @annayra6458
      @annayra6458 Год назад +1

      my dad told me that everything was going good in my life and I had no reason to behave like this two months after my mom died .-.

  • @spaceguy3801
    @spaceguy3801 4 года назад +256

    Thank you:I have a best friend who has depression,and I said one of these because she talks to me about it,but now I will try to not say them anymore.

    • @buttercup1596
      @buttercup1596 3 года назад +7

      You seem like a good friend

    • @YeetisMcGeetis
      @YeetisMcGeetis 3 года назад +1

      Cassie's Vlog oh my I too am depressed so I can tell you it really helps if you tell them that you love them and that you charge about them. Also do any adults know he is cutting? I hope this helps sorry if it was a waste of time.

    • @lxlamayw
      @lxlamayw 3 года назад +2

      @@YeetisMcGeetis they could both be adults x

    • @YeetisMcGeetis
      @YeetisMcGeetis 3 года назад

      @@lxlamayw true

    • @YeetisMcGeetis
      @YeetisMcGeetis 3 года назад

      @@lxlamayw in that case seek a professional

  • @zewu-junloml7137
    @zewu-junloml7137 3 года назад +114

    My sister making me smile when I feel depressed
    And here I am, watching this to help her with her battle. Is this sister goals lmao

    • @lucas1924
      @lucas1924 3 года назад

      Yesssiirrrr

    • @parizagilani6604
      @parizagilani6604 3 года назад +3

      Yes! It is but it’s exactly what I’m going through. I keep trying to help my sister who is depressed but I keep failing which makes me depressed.

    • @sekiro9567
      @sekiro9567 3 года назад

      Lmao

    • @empyerful
      @empyerful 2 года назад

      I’m doing the same right now.

    • @kivibes1079
      @kivibes1079 2 года назад +2

      How she makes you laugh

  • @nickwalsh8445
    @nickwalsh8445 3 года назад +144

    Thank you for that, my parents are very old school and tried helping me through my stages of depression when I was young. They said all the things you just mentioned. To all the parents reading this, know when my parents said those words, it only made me feel worse because I felt that know one understood what I was going thru. If your child is telling you that he or she feels depressed, you need to act quick. You need to get a therapist and you need to talk to your child more. EVERY PARENT SHOULD WATCH THIS

    • @galaxygato9642
      @galaxygato9642 3 года назад +5

      What do I do if someone i talk to online is depressed? What do I do then?

    • @anitac9389
      @anitac9389 2 года назад +4

      Thanks for sharing and I hope you are getting better and out of depression. As a parent, I said all the above to my son, who is suffering depression. Would you please let me know when you were young and depressed, what would you like or wish to hear from your parents?

    • @terhemeniorkoso5886
      @terhemeniorkoso5886 2 года назад

      hey dearly I'm a living testimony of a great Dr Daniel the relationship restorer only healer who fixed back my broken relationship after being separated for months. He can also help you too no matter how worst the case maybe Dr Daniel will put a smile on your face honey within 3days🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀

    • @terhemeniorkoso5886
      @terhemeniorkoso5886 2 года назад

      Whats@pp him now 🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀

    • @terhemeniorkoso5886
      @terhemeniorkoso5886 2 года назад

      ♱2347041271746⏭⏯⏯⏯??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀

  • @jacobroth1415
    @jacobroth1415 3 года назад +20

    I have depression it hasn’t left in 2 weeks it’s been with me my whole life

    • @2ytineshamaraj408
      @2ytineshamaraj408 3 года назад

      This is the same thing thats going on with me. My depression has been with me ever since i was six and it refuses to leave.

    • @CreativeSarah983
      @CreativeSarah983 2 месяца назад

      Awww I’m sorry 🥺🥺 depression has been killing my mental health and all I could do is cry waterfalls from my eyeballs

  • @pedrokoury1352
    @pedrokoury1352 Год назад +2

    My dad just can't bear to see me tired, even. He comes in saying things that I already know and find obvious but can't, at that moment, do. Things like you "have to react", "you have to rationalize it", "when I was depressed, I forced myself to go to the gym". It makes me feel even worse. Well, his mom died of depression after losing her daughter (his sister), so he has clearly developed a trauma of sadness. Which sucks for me.

  • @NT-vf9vt
    @NT-vf9vt 2 года назад +4

    My brother doesn’t want to be around me too much anymore. He said he can’t handle my depression. My heart is broken. We are so close and I don’t understand this.

    • @preparetoholdyourcolour7080
      @preparetoholdyourcolour7080 Год назад

      My sister's told me the same thing i understand your pain mate I'm lucky though if I didn't have my boyfriend and my cats I'd be contemplating suicide NGL do you have anyone else in your life other than your brother?

  • @wilsondassumpcao2089
    @wilsondassumpcao2089 Год назад +2

    "Doctor Phil" said ,on national TV in front of millions, this to a depressed person:"You just need to snap out of it" and received a round of applause from his audience.

  • @007girl9
    @007girl9 3 года назад +6

    I have depression...but I am watching this cause I found a girl on ig who post depression quotes ..and when I talked t her she's depressed and I wana be there for her as much as I can..t make her feel better..cause I know how worthy it is having someone t listen and make u feel better..i dnt have someone t talk to..but at least I wana be there for those who need someone t listen

  • @sithembisomakhanya5910
    @sithembisomakhanya5910 4 года назад +46

    Thank u so much this was really helpful, My friends are going through depression and sometimes I say it with get better but now I know I'm not supposes to say that thank u so much😭

    • @devilqueen2757
      @devilqueen2757 4 года назад +6

      hey there. thanks for supporting your friend. cause I don't have one to help me so. I am kinda happy for your friend. you're a good friend ❤

  • @lxlamayw
    @lxlamayw 3 года назад +46

    even as a person who has struggled with severe suicidal depression (caused by my schizophrenia), i’m scared that i’ll say the wrong thing to my best friend, his depression has got so much worse and i want to be there for him ❤️

    • @Myllkka
      @Myllkka 2 года назад

      I know as a teen we tend to want to help friends with mental health problems, but this can be detrimental to your health if you behave like their 24h therapist.

    • @joanneng6166
      @joanneng6166 Год назад

      God loves you.
      God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)
      Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤
      Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6)
      'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him.
      'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5)
      'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3)
      Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man.
      Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead!
      Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
      God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way.
      'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23).
      'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH!
      Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace.
      Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time.
      But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE!
      I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍
      JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11)
      JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR."
      IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9)
      IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT!
      GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏

  • @JerjerB
    @JerjerB 3 года назад +11

    "You're doing that for a reaction"
    "OK fine, don't do anything about it"
    "Why do you always put me through this"

  • @sheane1977
    @sheane1977 3 года назад +11

    my boyfriend is having depressive episodes again, he lives far, but i really want to help him out and hug him tight rn, he's not replying to my messages but i understand since communicating can be tiring sometimes when youre feeling down but i'm really worried and i want him to know that he's not alone :(( i wish i could just teleport to him and help him feel better

    • @prashantshrestha136
      @prashantshrestha136 2 года назад

      i have same kind of things im dealing with the person im with rn
      any idea how i can deal with it, she has shown less interest chatting with me and im sad for her
      if soo plz tell me it would help us a lot

  • @TinyBabyDuckling
    @TinyBabyDuckling Год назад +3

    Typically the one who isn’t depressed can also feel somewhat guilty or responsible and say something like along the lines of “do I not make you happy”, or “do you not want to be here anymore”. Probably one of the most unhelpful things a loved one can say but very common. The fact is that almost nothing can “make you happy” when your depressed, and nowhere is a place that makes everything better. The best thing you can do for a depressed loved one is show leadership, with actions not words. Run them a bath, plan a meal out, use your vision to plan and arrange things to enable a normal life. A depressed person lacks the vision to decide what they want for breakfast let alone big life solutions, so take care of those small normal life decisions for them

  • @btsismylifeuindianarmy4909
    @btsismylifeuindianarmy4909 3 года назад +20

    I wish my parents, friends and psychiatrist would see this. Everything just sucks😭

    • @voiceofreason2691
      @voiceofreason2691 Год назад +1

      *Everything?* So sorry to hear that!

    • @joanneng6166
      @joanneng6166 Год назад

      God loves you.
      God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)
      Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤
      Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6)
      'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him.
      'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5)
      'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3)
      Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man.
      Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead!
      Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
      God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way.
      'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23).
      'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH!
      Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace.
      Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time.
      But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE!
      I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍
      JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11)
      JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR."
      IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9)
      IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT!
      GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏

  • @michellearntzen5071
    @michellearntzen5071 2 года назад +4

    This video was so helpful! I have a depressed friend, and I'm glad to know what not to say to him!

  • @qwertystudios3815
    @qwertystudios3815 4 года назад +20

    This is probably helpful to other people. I’ll show this to friends and family. Also, you’re right. I have depression, and you’re very right.

  • @summerpierce3559
    @summerpierce3559 3 года назад

    Thank you for actually knowing what to say and what not to say because I hear this stuff all the time and I just wanna cry

  • @LWDavis58
    @LWDavis58 Год назад

    Having support has gotten me thru the real tough times.
    Even if it is just a person you can talk to.
    Treatment rarely works.

  • @crochetmumster
    @crochetmumster Год назад +2

    Never apologize for your feelings/emotions. How you feel at the time is how you feel, no one else. If someone doesn't respect that, that's on them and move on to help yourself.

  • @ASMinor
    @ASMinor Год назад +2

    I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤

  • @leonorpettus7801
    @leonorpettus7801 3 года назад +1

    Thank you , something new I learn not to say to a depressed person

  • @fateemmassally4903
    @fateemmassally4903 2 года назад +4

    Living in a culture where people don't even understand what depression is about.....
    I don't even know where to start.

  • @kightremin
    @kightremin 3 года назад +5

    Everyone has bad days.
    -My bad day is different from yours.
    This will get better.
    -How do you know?
    I understand what you're going thru.
    -No you don't.
    You just need to snap out of it.
    -You think I'm pretending to be sick?
    Think about all the good things in your life.
    -Noting is good.

  • @kristophergermo1793
    @kristophergermo1793 3 года назад

    Thank you for this🙏🏻🙌🏼 I truly appreciate it

  • @ashleynicholas5413
    @ashleynicholas5413 Год назад +10

    Oh my goodness. My entire family could benefit from this. People have good intentions but I’ve had long term clinical depression concurring with situational depression and most people use the phrases verbatim. Thanks for the message that might help someone else out there suffering from depression might be better encouraged by those that really do mean well

    • @wilsondassumpcao2089
      @wilsondassumpcao2089 Год назад

      I am depressed my entire life and the truth of the matter is that most of the society is still unable to see depression as "real" illness, disease.

  • @7_y1ar
    @7_y1ar 3 года назад +1

    Thank you for the info, now i know what not to tell at myself

  • @user-xl1io2bo1p
    @user-xl1io2bo1p Год назад +2

    Thank you for that video! It really struck a chord with me. It`s an acutest broblem of our time, so I`d like to share some ideas on the issue. When it comes to a deep depression, the major thing to get across is that it is not a person`s deliberate choice to behave in such a way. It is a serious mental condition when a patient simply cannot help feeling frustrated, ashamed, and indifferent all at once. They are just incapable of sweeping aside the desperate thought that there is no way out.
    Hardly could healthy people understand such behavior and often do their best to prevent depressed person from sinking down. Trying to be supportive, they resort to all the suggestions, mentioned above which often come to no good. Though coming with good intention, such attempts might only amplify the toxic thoughts, circling in a depressed mind.
    There is no point criticizing such person or getting overemotional during a conversation, because it tends to make them block out of the world and resist surrounding people willing to lend a helping hand.
    Avoid patronizing comments at all costs. Otherwise a depressed person would simply get protective and shoot down any further arguments, compelling or not.
    The best thing to tackle the problem would be first and foremost to face the fact that it IS a psychological issue that requires special approach. Obviously, a treatment isn`t easy to come by, but what you could do is to make tactful suggestion to talk the problem over together. To struck a chord with them, make hints that in their state it`s worth sizing any opportunity to get out of this hole. They need to realize that one of the most effective and possibly the fastest way to root depression out is to find an occupation, which can help to regain purpose in life. Actually, a job or at least hobby do make a great contribution, as it brings order in life and creates responsibility. Thus, let them keep in mind that instead of endless ruminating on the hopelessness of the situation it`s better to get their act together and rise to the challenge.

  • @beeneyta
    @beeneyta Год назад +2

    the fact that i’ve been depressed for 8 years and have been told all of these things makes me wanna end it all. no one understands.

    • @jolojolo599
      @jolojolo599 4 месяца назад

      Hope you're still here and got better, and that no one can understand you is not completely true. For sure, no one could ever feel the way you do exactly or tell what you're going through in detail. But people still can understand some aspects of life that you're also experiencing and help you with them. So, don't give up yet, there's still hope at the end of the tunnel

  • @RayfieldA
    @RayfieldA 2 года назад +3

    This is helpful but this now arms me with less word ammo on what TO say to a depressed person. Everything NOT to say were all my "go-to's" to try encouraging all the negativeness I am given in depressed conversations!

  • @gunjanagrawal8534
    @gunjanagrawal8534 4 года назад +6

    This is very helpful my friend is going through depression and now I know what not to say so that I don't hurt them

    • @durnel2001
      @durnel2001 3 года назад +1

      You are a good friend 👍

  • @goatedmusic9009
    @goatedmusic9009 3 года назад +8

    Thanks for the video. My girlfriend has pretty bad depression and anxiety. I don’t deal with this stuff as bad and definitely not as often. It is sometimes very hard to communicate with her. This helps out a lot. Thanks again.

    • @marcoschimmenti7705
      @marcoschimmenti7705 2 года назад

      Im living the same situation, and she is currently under medical control so we can't currently meet. I dont really know how to help her but I want to stay near her

  • @idilinda6328
    @idilinda6328 3 года назад +1

    My soul cries for everyone whose also here bc they don’t know if their loved ones words Trumps their real raw emotion..

    • @idilinda6328
      @idilinda6328 3 года назад

      Those words really never help

  • @StardustJcr
    @StardustJcr 2 года назад +14

    I'm having a hard time. My older brother is above 30 years and has been depressed since childhood due to an accident. I've always tried to cheer him up but lately it has gotten worse. He lives at moms house and is isolated. This depression has now been spreaded to my younger brother. Both live in the same household with my dysfunctional parents. They don't want to make changes or take a leap out. I feel like giving up on them now because it is too much for me to bear. I've had my hope up for almost 20 years without any changes

    • @sarahlinebarger4554
      @sarahlinebarger4554 2 года назад +1

      What happened in the accident? It's a difficult thing

    • @noneofyourbuizness
      @noneofyourbuizness 2 года назад +2

      Poor guy..
      Ptsd make you depressed and anxious without knowing why.
      He need to get to the root of the problem .
      He is lucky to have a lovely brother that care for him

    • @StardustJcr
      @StardustJcr 2 года назад +1

      @@noneofyourbuizness yes i am hoping he realizes that he has much to live for and a wake up call. Thank you

    • @preparetoholdyourcolour7080
      @preparetoholdyourcolour7080 Год назад

      I don't mean to be rude but your brother needs to move out, living with toxic dysfunctional parents makes things 10000 times worse in terms of dealing with depression trust me

  • @jennifervistal2468
    @jennifervistal2468 3 года назад +1

    Thanks a lot. This video is very helpful.

  • @alexou2111
    @alexou2111 2 года назад

    I am currently suffering from post travel depression and most people told me those five things. I think this contributes to us going for professionals to seek help because they actually studied that so they would understand.

  • @Unknown-me6ok
    @Unknown-me6ok 3 года назад +3

    Thank u soooo much my girl is dealing with depression🥺I hope I can make her happy I wish it gets better😩

  • @2l84me8
    @2l84me8 11 месяцев назад +1

    “This is all your fault!”
    “How come other people are doing better than you?”
    “You’re doing this to yourself!”
    “God already made you perfect and you’re ruining yourself!”
    Are just some of my personal favorites thrown at me growing up.

  • @armedmariner
    @armedmariner 3 года назад +4

    Big help. Thank you. I have a loved one who has episodes. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong. Thankfully I’m not doing these five things. Although once I did say “snap out of it” and frankly that was ridiculous in 4-5 years of hindsight!

  • @tai7397
    @tai7397 Год назад

    I have a feeling that me friend has severe depression. This has helped a lot for things not to say to her. Thanks!

  • @ytflix4
    @ytflix4 3 года назад +1

    we all are here bcoz we were depressed at somepoint but now want to help others with same situation bcoz we didn't had this someone....

  • @smellymelly6780
    @smellymelly6780 4 года назад +7

    Thank you my friends are going through depression

  • @DalinquentB
    @DalinquentB Год назад

    Your very smart ,your words are helpful...thanks.

  • @humanrightsatfirst9163
    @humanrightsatfirst9163 Год назад

    Working with this topic and analysing these so called well ment advices is a great idea, might make life much more easier for those, who suffer from it, 👍 !

  • @virginiomaldonado2746
    @virginiomaldonado2746 3 года назад

    Thanks for the info DR

  • @purpletea7654
    @purpletea7654 3 года назад +4

    I wish everyone who talk to me watched this 😭

  • @ThePureLegend95
    @ThePureLegend95 7 лет назад +13

    Really good advice, thank you!

  • @traciealdrich5109
    @traciealdrich5109 Год назад

    Ty for helping my loved ones understand

  • @samcartwright6338
    @samcartwright6338 2 года назад +2

    Most of these (as a person who constantly struggles on and off with depression) just add on to it. Especially the “think of everything good you have” because it’s not like they are choosing to be that way, and thinking of the good things only makes them dive deeper, cause why would you feel like this with a loving family and nice house etc. One thing every person struggling with depression is trying to answer is “why”. A lot of times following this why question will lead to nihilism which just makes things even worse, cause then you’re questioning your beliefs and morales on top of being in a depressive state. The best thing to do for someone who you might think is depressed is to give them a good day: plan it ahead of time but don’t give them the option to opt out, if they won’t even get out of bed, set up everything for them without being pushy, make it easy for them. Do the things you know they like doing, and give them a type of purpose, no matter how small, so there is some sense of accomplishment. This won’t cure it but it will help.

  • @fbhooky8606
    @fbhooky8606 2 года назад

    I'm here to support her😌

  • @AsdAsdAsfq
    @AsdAsdAsfq 2 года назад

    This really helps thank you so much

  • @blehhhhhh
    @blehhhhhh Год назад

    thank you, i lost my best friend to my ignorance and i don't ever want it to happen again

  • @achingaster1199
    @achingaster1199 3 года назад

    Thank you. Need this.

  • @Lear_Bear
    @Lear_Bear 3 года назад +2

    I just cried till my head a heart hurt so thanks for saying what my family doesn’t bc all they say is “give your burdens to god” :|

  • @_W_74
    @_W_74 2 года назад +2

    Sometimes I can't even talk to anyone like ever, just staying in my room and the bad memories haunts me forever, after some time I feel normal back again but sometimes talking about it it even go worse turning the depression into a deep depression becomes a deep abyss with no ending.

    • @voiceofreason2691
      @voiceofreason2691 Год назад +1

      Maybe you´ve been *not* taIking to the *right* person/peopIe

    • @_W_74
      @_W_74 Год назад +1

      @@voiceofreason2691 True

  • @annaburns2865
    @annaburns2865 2 года назад

    My husband always says the worst thing and then he gets mad at me for reiterating that I am depressed because he doesn’t seem to get it. He doesn’t exactly say “snap out of it.” But that seems to be the implication. Thank you for explaining that probably comes from his childhood when emotions weren’t valued. That was like a 💡moment for me. Because he indeed does seem to be “very harsh and judgmental” towards me and the fact that I have depression. Even though he has depression. But he is bipolar and I have clinical depression so his bipolar depression is different.

  • @jooleeuh6430
    @jooleeuh6430 Год назад +2

    Having a breakdown at the moment. Looking fo a way to explain to my loved ones. This is very true

    • @joanneng6166
      @joanneng6166 Год назад

      God loves you.
      God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)
      Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤
      Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6)
      'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him.
      'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5)
      'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3)
      Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man.
      Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead!
      Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
      God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way.
      'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23).
      'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH!
      Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace.
      Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time.
      But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE!
      I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍
      JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11)
      JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR."
      IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9)
      IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT!
      GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏

  • @mondenkambule8652
    @mondenkambule8652 3 года назад

    Wow. Helpful thanks a lot.

  • @xeinha375
    @xeinha375 Год назад

    Yes this is so helpful

  • @sabasiddiqui429
    @sabasiddiqui429 Год назад

    Thank you Dr. Byrne for this. Could you please share what are the things we should say to a depressed loved one?

  • @WolfQueenLydia
    @WolfQueenLydia Год назад

    This is why instead of saying "I understand" I say "I feel you" "I see you" etc. And when I say it, I feel it in that moment and let my voice speak it in tone. It's saying to them "I acknowledge you, and I'm not going through what you are but I am here."

  • @jamesriggs885
    @jamesriggs885 3 года назад

    It’s when you feel depressed and don’t want to be around but have no reason to feel that way but your mind makes you because you’re so used to it

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  • @griffinbrincat8454
    @griffinbrincat8454 3 года назад +2

    thank you so much you helped me help my best friend

  • @ravenlayug5326
    @ravenlayug5326 Год назад

    Thank you so much ma'am!

  • @shennyboi110
    @shennyboi110 3 года назад +16

    I feel like i’ve been doing some of these :(

    • @homemademovies8364
      @homemademovies8364 3 года назад +2

      You know, it takes an honest and brave person to admit something like this. Lots of love, stay strong, you should be forgiven 😊😊

  • @user-vq2ho5jn7k
    @user-vq2ho5jn7k 3 года назад +1

    I wish people could understand. The things ive told that will forever stick with me by a loved one when i tried to open up...were "cut me a break. I dont want to deal with this." "Comforting you is like comforting a child." "You will never be loved by anyone." They dint get that these stick with us..we dont forget these words..we only remember them even more when we are feeling down

  • @MysteriousPersonn
    @MysteriousPersonn 4 года назад +8

    I am depressed it helped

  • @resolute4665
    @resolute4665 Год назад

    Thank you so much!

  • @hussainjeragh1412
    @hussainjeragh1412 2 года назад

    Who ever watched this vid, i hope u know u have a kind heart

  • @calebhastings3588
    @calebhastings3588 2 года назад +1

    My mom is off and on depressed and there is nothing that I can do about it and it sucks. I've always tried to help her and now laying here in bed I have finally came to the conclusion that there is nothing I can do to save her. She one day realized all of what you said to be true, so she quit taking her anti depression medicine thank God. She got better for a while but the past week she has been locked in her room and something I said kinda pissed her off and it made it worst. Not entirely sure what to do. Guess there is nothing I can do. But pray that she doesn't try to kill herself as she has tried 3 times before. She almost succeeded the third time. I have been entirely stressed my whole life because of it. I love my mom and she will eventually be fine but the docs say it's an illness but I know, and she knows that isn't true. It's life's circumstances. This time however she seems like gone. I'm pretty scared but I've been through it since I was a child. I feel helpless. And slightly hopeless

  • @Versatile668
    @Versatile668 Год назад

    Being diagnosed like literally medically diagnosed depression and everything else I could make them understand it's not something that could be fixed mental breakdowns and traumatic events in my life some of it made me numb some of it didn't I dealt with it most of my life anybody that I ever lived with as a roommate but it's not like we're always suicidal and sad and you know all the time. I hate the way they tried to make us out to look like has nothing to do with drug's or any of that. So many times I was threatening situations that literally i could not comprehend that it just broke my mind. And then years and years of torment and torture psychologically it makes you want to not be attached to anybody anymore for someone to tell you they love you but just to put me through horrendous horrible psychological damage whether that was a short amount of time Or a long extended where they convince you that that's the only way you'll ever be treated just have to accept it because I've experienced that you seen it so much with other people psychological things that I wouldn't do to another person subconsciously unintentionally. And then dealing with the painful being overactive there's things I would like to do but it's too strenuous for my body. Etc okay well I'm not bipolar I'm not schizophrenia and I really wish they would stop with that misconception has nothing at all to do with drugs or alcohol I don't know who keeps thinking that making that out I'm just saying I'm not in recovery from drugs and alcohol I don't know how that's constantly being wrongfully confused with my account none of that is on my medical none of that is on my record none of that.

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  • @miliparmar8737
    @miliparmar8737 3 года назад

    Thank you.... This was really very helpful.... Can you please say what else can I do to help them get out of depression?

  • @Random-yy1ub
    @Random-yy1ub 3 года назад +1

    One of the biggest things I hear is but you have so many people around you who love you and you have so many good things in life how can you be depressed I hate just cause I have a family that they think I'm fine or just cause I have a house to live in and food to eat that my life is perfect

  • @Greyrayin
    @Greyrayin 4 года назад +3

    Thank you

  • @LadylocsAsia
    @LadylocsAsia 3 года назад +1

    I've been depressed for a few years on and off. Never talked to my family about it. I just went into a shell. My 9 year relationship is falling apart. I just want to be alone I don't want to be in a relationship anymore. Too much pressure and expectations that I just can't give. I rather focus on my kids and myself. I'm finally about to get the help that I need. I lost so much weight and it's physically affecting my body. I'm thinking about death alot more (I'm not going to commit) but sometimes thinking about my death is comforting.

  • @nidoqueen106
    @nidoqueen106 Год назад

    2:18 is really helpful, thank you

  • @shadowofthedarkness7321
    @shadowofthedarkness7321 3 года назад +27

    What if we both have depression..?

    • @mikaylakruger1064
      @mikaylakruger1064 3 года назад +3

      This is me! My mom is going through a terrible depression. I know that she is not in a good place right now, but I have failed to be there for her in the ways she needs because I have been too caught up in my own depression. How do you make it up to someone when you've let them down like this? How do I push past my own depression and help her?

  • @fletchergorman1053
    @fletchergorman1053 Год назад

    In a dual teacher home growing up, you get overlooked. You find something you love doing, then seizures stole it. You have been a disappointment ever since. Why does tomorrow bring anything worthwhile.

  • @theprotectivefreaksystem3331
    @theprotectivefreaksystem3331 4 года назад +3

    Your right I’ve been told more then one of these and it’s not helpful to hear these things.

  • @glorialopez3121
    @glorialopez3121 3 года назад +1

    Don't forget 'don't be sad'

  • @Prettybrowneyes9151
    @Prettybrowneyes9151 3 года назад +6

    I have an older brother that suffers from anxiety and depression. I had tried numerous times to ask them what they need or if the even want to seek some help but I get the same response always that they are okay..What’s draining to me is the more I comfort them as well the more they are comfortable Doing nothing letting me take charge of everything around the house it drains me and my energy sometimes. Idk what else to do.. he hasn’t even been taking care of he’s diet or health and not being able to even get out of the room.. I feel like I’m stuck on a loop

    • @naasihzawawi3167
      @naasihzawawi3167 2 года назад

      I feel u, my gf does the same. So how is it going right now.

  • @virginiomaldonado2746
    @virginiomaldonado2746 3 года назад +1

    Going thru a separation with my wife... 28 years old been together for 6. Had no idea of my wife traumatic upbringing/childhood... 3 years into the relationship providing structure, stability and my love for her and my stepdaughter now 10 kept having issues because she was not used to this. I had no idea my wife had severe depression, PTSD and anxiety until 3 years into the relationship when diagnosed thru my insurance. No matter how much support, love, encouraging I’ve given I have become the enemy and as she describes a verbal abuser and controller... breaks my heart there’s no way to say anything right, good times and then the storm, meds make her feel worst... it’s been a nightmare now as previously done escaping reality and those demons my wife let the household. Cannot deal with any stress etc . I’m about to give up but my love for her keep me somehow persevering...

  • @nervto2398
    @nervto2398 2 года назад +2

    Oh god if someone said the last one I would probably break down crying thinking why am I having a bad decade I’m such a disappointment why am I even breaking down it was just a stupid sentence. Nice vid 👍

  • @JayceBarbeeMusic
    @JayceBarbeeMusic Год назад

    im commenting this now to hopefully one day look back on and realize things can, and will get better. im struggling right now.

  • @felixthecat4584
    @felixthecat4584 Год назад

    Yep. Heard pretty much every one of these. Life still sucks.

  • @AmandaSbarros
    @AmandaSbarros 3 года назад +1

    Thank you, I'm having a hard time, and I needed to know what not to say to myself lol

    • @princessstella6681
      @princessstella6681 3 года назад +2

      I know everything isnt easy
      But i hope ur getting better now❤,
      Always remember ur amazing💕
      We love you😊

    • @AmandaSbarros
      @AmandaSbarros 3 года назад +1

      @@princessstella6681 thank you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @helenarichard
    @helenarichard 2 года назад +1

    To me people always say "you're beautiful, intelligent and probably have a nice family". Excuse me, how does that help me when I am suicidal?

  • @jpc3603
    @jpc3603 2 года назад +3

    Thank you I am currently watching this to try and help my amazing mum. The last point about not pointing out good things about or in the persons life, does anyone with either firsthand, carer or professional experience have any advice on whether it is ok to atleast talk about positive times when the person really enjoyed themselves and you were there with them? Or do you feel this cannot have an uplifting impact at all? Thank you

  • @Killahcop1hunnid
    @Killahcop1hunnid 3 года назад +11

    No it’s 3 years not 3 weeks

  • @jayusgacha6623
    @jayusgacha6623 3 года назад +2

    Searched this cuz I wanna be a psychiatrist my mom gave me the motivation

    • @homemademovies8364
      @homemademovies8364 3 года назад +2

      You sound like you would make a lovely, caring psychiatrist

  • @lang6198
    @lang6198 2 года назад

    I have experienced clinical depression for over 2 years. And i fully recovered without any medication or drugs. I am feeling happy again. The depression helped to to overcome Sociophobia,low esteem, statterinng. And now i am working as a teacher, and feeling really confident and relaxed. Depression causes a lot of symptoms,one of them is numbness, when you feel nothing, before depression took me over, i was terrified of talking with people, but during the depression i had several interviews with my future employers. I was asked to conduct demo lesson with children. And because of numbness i felt nothing, and I seemed to be extremely confident ann i was applied for the position as a teacher. And now, over 3 years, i have been teaching Maths in high school. I wonder, If i hadn't been depressed, would i have became a teacher? I think, i would have chosen to be work quietly in the office, instead of overcoming my biggest fear

    • @simphiwemajozi284
      @simphiwemajozi284 Год назад

      Are you still healed ? Was this mild or severe depression ???

  • @edinburgh1578
    @edinburgh1578 4 дня назад

    "You need to snap out of it!" Oh yea, I've heard that often, along with "get your shit together for Chrissake!"