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This is definitely the type of video that you can react to after the wedding again! I also already saw the pictures of Rupert Kellgren-Fozard at the wedding and let me tell, inviting children was definitely the right choice. He's so cute!
I was thinking of Rupert as they said that as well 😄
It’s so cute how Shaaba leans into Jamie when she laughs!
It’s an unconscious signal of absolute trust.
Here’s another interesting one. When in a group of people and someone makes a joke and people laugh, observe who they look at first while laughing. That’s the person whose approval they desire. For me, I’ve found myself naturally looking at my Spiritual Father, but didn’t realise I was doing this after reading about that approval seeking and thinking back to all those times in social settings when yeah…. I do look at him with that trustful and hopeful glance
My fiancee & I both have names that can be shortened/lengthened to "Annie", and even though neither of us go by "Annie" in our day-to-day life, I now kind of want to have a moment at our wedding where we're announced as "Mrs & Mrs Annie [Surname]".
Do it! At least at the reception or something. It would be funny and cute :D
for some reason I imagined it as the name of a signature cocktail for the reception😂 do include it somewhere it’s brilliant
I love that sm
I love this so much! congrats on your engagement x
That is awesome, please do it!
I love kids at weddings! They run around in packs like feral animals in formal wear and basically take care of themselves. They have more fun than all the adults combined. And they get to be a part of one of the most important ceremonies in our culture. I was a flower girl in two weddings and they were some of the best childhood memories I had. Sure they can cause a bit of chaos but what is life without a bit of chaos?
"Packs of feral animals in formal wear" 🤣 - That's a pretty good description lol.
I can relate to this so much, both from the child and adult perspective. Last year I attended several weddings (so many family members postponed their weddings bc of covid so i had to deal with 5 weddings in 2-3 months :") ) and let me tell you that I felt so envious of the children running around. I had some responsibilities to attend to during the ceremonies so unfortunately I, an 18 year old, could not run around and scream random gibberish with them
Thu, having kids at our wedding was one of the absolute highlights of our wedding. They encouraged people to dance and the stories that they tell me about it 7 years in and 7 years older is amazing to get their perspective.
I completely agree with you.
My 2nd brother's wedding reception was pretty much stolen by my 1st brother's son, he was 3years old at the time and the most precious, adorable kid. There were steps down into the dining area and my nephew decided it was his stage, so he stood on the steps and sung & danced for us while we were eating. The only one stressing about it was his mum and everyone kept telling her it it was fine. Everybody smiled & laughed, and it was the best wedding I've been to, it totally made the day memorable...that was 25 years ago!
I have only been to one wedding where no kids went (they weren't banned, it was just the couple's friends & family all had either no kids or their kids were grown. The bridesmaid was youngest there at 17. It was dull as dishwater, the whole day was so boring, at the night reception nobody danced, and the whole day people only spoke to those they knew in their little groups. There was just nothing to lighten the mood and it felt more like a funeral than a wedding.
If I ever was to get married (honestly, not likely to happen, but theoretically) I would absolutely want kids there, they really brighten up the day, and get people talking to new people & dancing, etc.
I think kids are really important for weddings. Weddings are family events, it's sad to me when people don't want to think of them as part of the family.
@@stillmagic714 I definitely made mine a family event, but I do get that some families don't have kids in their family and don't want to pay for their friends' kids food. But I definitely feel if you have your cousins or nephews and nieces they should be there.
When I was 2 was the flower girl for one of my aunt's but my mom would probably have liked not having to have me there because the venue was near a pool and was not a kid friendly spot. She had to chase my crazy ass all over the place.
I get both sides but I loved mine :)
My assumption Is that Shaaba was vibe-y with the dancing and Jamie surprised everyone with his moves.
Either an awesome surprise or a dorky surprise
At my wedding ceremony, the local Girl Scouts (AKA Girl Guides) provided childcare as their gift to us. That way, nobody who wanted to attend ended up stuck trying to track down a babysitter. It was sweet.
Speaking of "sweet" -- you two are a wonderful couple. All the best as you continue on your journeys together ❤.
THATS SO MF SWEET?😭😭 why were the girl scouts doing that though like did they just pick a random wedding or were you guys connected to them? im curious frfr
@@ezraat1am770 - It definitely was SWEET ❤. I was a leader for an elementary-age GS troop. I think I mentioned to the leader of the secondary-age (junior high and high school) GS troop that one of my friends was having a difficult time finding a babysitter ... Did either of her daughters babysit? She said she'd do one better -- her troop would provide child care at the church. The girls had training and met all the GS safety standards, including having two adults supervising them. Everyone had a great time.
Thanks for asking.
I actually go to girl guides and I always want to mention girl guides i put in brackets (a.k.a. Girl Scouts) because people always like “what does that mean” and I’ve never seen it the other way around so it’s kind of funny. 😊
Congratulations on the wedding🎉😀🌈🏳️🌈
Okay, but Dr and Dr would have been so cool (completely respect your choice though of course)
I know this sounds kinda terrible, but I can't wait to shove a huge piece of cake 🍰 into my new wife's face. I know the feeling is reciprocated. My partner is an extremely feminine lesbian and I'm a demisexual panromantic that leans more to the girly side as well. So even though it will be funny as hell, we may both cry and laugh hysterically at our hair and make up being ruined. I find there is nothing wrong with being vain on your wedding day. We hired a stylist just for this. To fix us up after.
I can't wait to marry my person. I love her so damn much it physically hurts some times. Don't get me wrong we aren't codependent at all. It just so happens are friendship correlates really will with our partner ship.
congrats! I would love to watch a video about the legal side of marrying as a lgbt couple
In Britain Jamie is recognized as a man, so it would be no different than a cis man marrying a cis woman.
@@rosieg6989 To add, a Gender Recognition Certificate is required for a trans person to be married as their correct gender (note non binary genders aren't legally recognised in the UK yet). This can be quite a lengthy and difficult process! My partner applied over a year ago and still hasn't received his certificate.
@@tomk4522 Yes, but Jamie has, therefore it would be no different than a cis hetero marriage certificate.
Yeah, we went halfway with the kids thing. Family (especially bc a lot of family were traveling) could bring kids. But honestly, if all of our local friends had brought kids it would have taken up way too much space and we would have had to cut the guest list WAY down. Thankfully we knew our friends would have access to childcare.
We are getting married in November. Our reception is a buffet because of all of the kids that are coming. My friends’ kids are considered my additional nieces and nephews, so it would be as special without all of them there!!! But we are live-streaming it on my Instagram for friends and family that can’t make it! And then going to the club for dancing and drinking after dinner! Definitely not conventional, but works best for us!!
I saw your wedding pics on Instagram, you looked so amazing! I'm sooo happy for you both! :D
When it came to having kids (under 18) at our wedding, I come from a huge family and the cost to have them all was prohibitive. We ended up with only our niece and nephews and then an offer was made to anyone with an infant who may not have been able to be separated from their parent. No one seemed to have an issue with it. We also had a strict limit on plus ones as well because we couldn’t afford extra bodies both monetarily and due to pandemic guest caps. It sounds like you guys had an amazing day planned out for exactly your style. From one Covid couple to another congratulations!
Congratulations guys! 🥰 side note, I was really surprised by the "no kids" question, I didn't know it was a thing 😮 maybe it's cultural (I'm Italian, although I've been to weddings in other European countries, too) but I had never heard of a wedding where kids aren't invited specifically 😮 unless you are inviting a single person and not the whole family, if you invite a family or a couple with kids the children are automatically invited. That doesn't mean everyone always brings them, still. I didn't expect that to be a thing 😆
So so so happy for you! Your videos make my day ♥️🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
In the middle of wedding planning at the moment and I am absolutely terrified as a trans man how ‘the legal system’ will treat me. They’ve already been hugely aggressive with pushing me to change my middle name as ‘it’s not masculine enough’ and will affect how others see me when applying for the marriage certificate.
So I think one question for Jamie is is the process for applying for a GRC difficult? I’ve been told a minimum of 22 weeks, but I really don’t want to be misgendered on the day 🥺
OTHER questions are how did you decide on everything XD I’m feeling so much pressure to come up with creative or fun wedding favours when I just want it to be a day of celebrations, but because weddings are so ‘hyped up’ it’s just a bit overwhelming 😭
Much love to you both 💕 hope your day was incredible, youre both inspirational!
I can understand why you would feel so pressured: I definitely felt pressured by a lot of things when I got married (I was also the first out of all my siblings to get married, which didn't help at all). The thing that I most wish I had been able to keep a grasp on was that it was MY wedding day (mine and my partner's), no one else's. You don't owe society anything when it comes to a wedding. Take what you want, and leave the rest. You don't even need wedding favors if you don't want them! We just did it really simple and gave out little bubble wands that the guest could use when we left the reception, which made for some cute pictures.
As far as middle names go, a lot of them really aren't as gendered as people think they are. My (male) high school band teacher's middle name was Leslie. My given name (Lindsey) used to be a masculine name, along with a lot of other "feminine" names (Ashley, Taylor, etc). I don't know what yours is, but if you like and you think it fits you, then it IS a masculine name! It's yours, you get to own it.
As far as misgendering on the day, make sure your officiant knows your gender, and it should be fine. It doesn't really matter what the legal papers say, as long as the people who are there know who you are.
I don't know anything about the GRC, so I can't help you there, but I would definitely get that ball rolling as soon as possible if it's going to take a long time and be out of your hands.
Congratulations! I also got married this year, but we thought about what we wanted in a wedding and all we came up with was dressing fancily, eating cake, and not catching COVID before the JoCo cruise. So we had a two-minute ceremony, two cheesecakes (most of which were in my spouse’s freezer for months afterwards) and ten guests. Then for our wedding reception we went on the JoCo cruise with hundreds of mutual friends (but we would have done that even if we hadn’t got married.) We’ve had additional wedding-adjacent cake eating parties with other friends and family members since.
I’m so happy for y’all!!! When I was a kid i went to a wedding and was a bridesmaid i was like five and had woken up super early so i rly wanted some chocolate milk so in the middle of the wedding i screamed “I want chocolate moo-moo milk!!!!” and the bride said it made the wedding even better so yeah that’s one of my wedding things
You guys are the cutest and the sweetest. Congratulations! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
The flower thing is not cringe at all! It’s lovely 🥰🥰🥰
Oh and congratulations!
I 100% agree with Shaaba about the hoping you won't meet a new best friend after the wedding...but it's pretty unavoidable. My best friend NOW, I met about 18 mos after my wedding 9.5 years ago. I don't talk to a lot of the people who were very important to me then. I lot changes over a decade.
You're both so sweet to think of us during wedding "crunch time"! We love you and than you so much, and also hope your wedding went wonderfully 😃✨🎉💞
We had my best friend's beautiful baby at our little wedding on the 3rd Sept this year, I loved having him there (He's my godson). He yelled out during the bit where you're supposed to speak up if the couple can't get married and everyone laughed.
I follow shaaba since day one. I watched videos of Jamie very randomly. I am not really a member of LGBTQ so I don't know why YB kept recommend me his videos. But they were interesting then you've started with your vlogs and they were awesome. Love how you guys are, and how you handle situations and so I've watched all your vlogs and kinda knew all the answers :). Congratulations, love you all 4
you two are so cute im so happy for you!! 🎉🥰🥹
I had no kids at my wedding... we looked at our guest list, and only a couple guests HAD kids, so we specifically reached out to them and asked if they could find childcare/whatever; if it would be okay. Didn't put anything official on the invites.
Don’t know why, but I love hearing Jamie is the guaranteed cryer ❤ That was my husband 😅 he’s red eyed in so many of the early picture. I hope your day was everything you wanted it to be and more xxx
You mentioned about how you didn't want to meet cool people down the line, and become besties and have not had them at your wedding.... Easy solution to that: have a vow renewal every 5-10 years, and throw another big party!
Other cultures views on children at weddings (and other festivities as well) is so interesting to me bc im mexican n its so normal for us to have kids present at pretty much every festivity like theres something about little kids in formal wear running around a reception hall n playing on the empty dance floor while everyone else is seated waiting for food n later passing out on chairs bc its midnight n they usually go to bed hours earlier that just screams wedding to me also on the topic of drinking its not like a taboo thing for us to drink in front of children n when i started realizing for the first time that that wasnt a universal thing it was a big culture shock bc ive spent my whole life going to kids birthday parties where adults have micheladas n beer with their food n even taking shots sometimes so wanting to get drunk has never been an impediment to bringing kids to a wedding at least in my family like i straight up feel like its a right of passage for mexican kids to see at least one of your parents get blackout drunk at a party
I live in Wisconsin and it is the same for us. Kids are always at weddings and most people don’t care if they drink around kids. Although my own parents didn’t drink around me and my siblings, but that’s just because they were completely sober at that time (& my mom still is now). All of my other non-sober family members drank/ drink around their kids.
Congratulations on your special day and both of you looked so beautiful! 👏🏽
15:50. That's what my parents did when I was a little younger than toddler age at my aunt's wedding. My dad had to stand in another room because I kept crying, but he was there for the majority of the wedding.
When I got older, I went to my cousin's wedding and my brother and I were probably around 5 and 8 at the time. Maybe a bit younger and we were well behaved and sat quietly through the ceremony.
Oh you two cute, wonderful humans! So much Congratulations! again. So glad the day has finally come - and gone - so that you can both now rest that weight and move on to celebrating your lives together! 💜
Omg congratulations! I'm so happy for both of you!
My parents got married super young, 21, and it's one of the only times my mum has seen my dad cry. After more than 20 years of marriage
Congratulations on the wedding!
I totally agree with you on the kids thing. Not only do I find kids a joy to have at weddings and improvement to the overall atmosphere, but also, like you mentioned, it really does prevent people from attending! In my family we have always had kids at all of our weddings, but recently my cousin had a wedding and decided no kids would be allowed. My sister has 2 kids who at the time we both under the age of 3 and that she had to be with or within easy access to pretty much at all times, so it was basically pointless to even invite her b/c there’s no way she could’ve attended. It just kind of feels like “othering” or leaving people out unnecessarily. It turns out that my cousin’s wedding overall had pretty low attendance compared to the amount of people who were invited, so you get in return the vibes you put out I suppose.
I know that one thing that delayed your wedding was the issue of getting some of Shaaba's relatives into the UK because of COVID restrictions. In the end, were you able to get all of the (surviving) people that you wanted to come?
Congratulations! I hope your marriage is as long and as happy as my parents' was (60 years).
I so hope Shaaba decided to get married with pink hair. I think it would look absolutely stunning with her brown skin and dress.
Shaaba is going to make a breathtaking bride. I can't wait for pictures. That is only if you feel comfortable sharing.
I loved having kids at my wedding. They were so much fun on the dance floor!
My wife and I postponed twice because of COVID and had the same with the invites. A few people we’d drifted from didn’t come, but mostly we added/upgraded people… the cost went up a lot!
I want to see everything! I don't have Instagram. Please share pictures. Some of us are older and don't have Instagram. I personally just have RUclips. I have followed you and Jamie forever.
I wish you the most beautiful and happy wedding day ever! Sending both of you so much love. 💗
Congratulations on getting married! I hope you guys had a lovely two days and a wonderful honeymoon (if you're having one I'm not sure) and that your lives together are filled with hugs and good memories and friendship and love and joy. Good luck and well wishes to you both 💕🌻🎉☺️✨💐
Edit: typo
Congratulations! I would love to hear about the South Asian/Mauritian (sorry if that’s spelled wrong) stuff I don’t really know anything about that (those?) culture(s) and I’m really curious.
you spelled it right
@@wynnexed thank you for telling me I use speech to text, so I had to hope I said it right
this is so adorable i can't 😭❤
I had so many similar feelings about having to postpone my wedding for 2 years as well! I was so concerned that I had over hyped it in my mind and I was going to be disappointment but it was an amazing day! I am so happy for you two ☺️
YOU GUYS I need you to know how much I LOVED your wedding cake topper!!!! I saw it on your IG story and they nailed Shaaba!! absolutely STUNNING!!!
I'm so happy for both of you! ❤️ I had a really rough day and seeing you two has helped me so much!!
I love the whole name question. My partner and I kept our legal names, and started using hyphenates professionally/casually (we both work in theatre, so stage or union names are very common)
Best wedding cake I ever had was a cheesecake dyed pink. It was so delicious and the colour was so perfect
I'm so excited for you guys! Congratulations, from the bottom of my heart. I'm so happy for you two.
I know nothing about Mandi's or S. Asian traditions. I would LOVE to hear about which traditions you chose to honor and why and maybe some you didnt feel fit your vibe. Thanks for sharing and making us feel a part of your special day
U guys are such teasers!!! I hope the wedding went well! 💞💞💞 🍑 🥔
I really want to see the part of the footage from your dress fitting where you found THE dress!
You two could not be any more adorable! Many blessings to you - may you enjoy many, many happy years together! 💖
We're u afraid the Queen's Death was gonna cause ANOTHER delay - cause I sure was!!!!!
CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding
Congratulations!!! I can't wait to see follow-up videos! I am super interested in the heritage bits. And even more intrigued by the two days! Not commen in my culture and sounds amazing!!🍾🍾💐💐💕💕🎉🎉
So happy for you two! You're adorable and such sweeties. Can't wait to see wedding pics.
We did donuts! We ordered them from a small local business and it was amazing
Congratulations! I hope the wedding was all you wished for and a great weekend overall!
Can I just say I say congrats and also I saw both sets of your wedding outfits and you both looked so so so so so amazing! I hope it was super fun!
Congratulations - may you have a long and happy life together. 🌈
Congrats Shaaba!
OMG OMG OMG Cat Designs on Mehendi is so cute ❤
9:24-9:39 Oh my goodness 😭❤️❤️ ya'll are such an adorable couple ❤❤❤
Congratulations on the wedding! 🎉🎊🥳
I hope you had a wonderful day and am sure you'll have many more ahead ❤
Having watched both this video and Hannah Witton’s latest video realizing THE WEDDING THEY WENT TO WAS YOURS!!!💕💕💕💕💕
We said no kids for the evening only guests (They need to sleep at those times anyway). And some people we where more like. Rather not (small side note those where all younger than 3 and one couple had 3 kids under 3, so that's a lot, especially without other people the kids know around) but they're welcome if you really want/need to take them.
We ended up with 3 kids at our wedding, which included the flowergirl. (and her little brother distributed all the leaves during the ceremony XD) but those had a ton of family to look out for them to. And they knew like half the day guest which also makes it a lot more fun for the kids. (If more would have come I probably should have organized a baby sitter or something XD)
Asian Weddings with a Huge Guest List Is a Lifestyle Choice. #IYKYK
Please do share a video about the different traditions & elements that went into your wedding. It would be wonderful to learn more about those traditions.
What's a mandy? Is that a British or an East Asian thing?
Love you both ! Good Luck & happiness forever to you two !🤗❤
I want to know EVERYTHING about the wedding and your suppliers etc!
A lot of wedding content on RUclips is either not UK based or too “boring” or religious!
My boyfriend and I are a straight cisgender couple not LGBT+ however
We both have very strong feelings about wanting to be LGBT+ friendly at our wedding because we want all our LGBT+ friends and family to be comfortable.
I’ve been to weddings before that have had super strong cis het vibes which has given me the ick and made me feel super weird.
Although we are a cis het couple we don’t want to give off any kind of sexist or homophobic undertones that might make people uncomfortable.
We think anyone who isn’t LGBT+ friendly is just a c**t basically 😅
We’re not even engaged yet BUT I have had hints from him that a proposal is coming by the end of this year eeeek!
Even if it doesn’t happen before 2023, I know I’ll be with him forever and marry him eventually so yeah, any tips or advice welcome!
Congratulations!!! 👏👏👏
It's only the most important day of your life **so far**! Hopefully you'll have many years together with more milestone days.
Congrats on the wedding!!
I incorporated children into my wedding; ring batter, flower girl, guest book attendent, etc. It was very child inclusive
I’ve never heard of smashing cakes! sounds odd. Congratulations to you both❤️🇨🇦
Omg, I am SO excited for both of you!!! ❤️❤️❤️
My aunt had a 2 or 3 month old baby at my mom's wedding and he started crying during the ceremony. It got worse during my mom's vows so my aunt got up to leave and my mom stopped mid-vows to call her back and tell her It's okay, she mustn't go 😂😂😂
I'm kinda sad, my Kids were were not at my Wedding, because we did not have them jet...😆
Congratulations!! I hope it was an amazing day!
Cake exists outside of the constraints of tradition - it is simply delicious ❤
Congratulations! 🎉
Congrats on your wedding!! Love you both! 😍❤
Excuse me, but you have always bickered. It's normal and really kind of sweet that you haven't shown us the escalations we all do. Assumptions - go. Weeping? I cry at even internet weddings so when you post it I'll be bawling through two hankies. Well the suppliers could possibly see you both on YT, so best to be up front so you can reject as needed. I'm so glad you trimmed your guest wedding, I did too - under 100. Shaaba blush rose is not cringe at all, it's sweet. Haggis and hummus? ok then. What no speak? I only just believe in the no see, but really not even that. You do You. O please don't just Instagram, please YT. I'm old, I don't do Insta. Introducing our newly married couple, (Insert what makes you comfortable). I think that the pandemic actually gave you more time to make the wedding what you two actually want for it and who attends. Intimacy with your guests is really important. (I really can't wait to see what video you show us.) Kids - I had my wedding later at night so the kids were already in bed. It saved us because of the drinking and also the small space where we had our wedding. There was some babysitter sharing among the friends for the smaller children. You are already married. You have waited so long for this. So have we. Congratulations, we love you and wish you all the best. (Now show us some video!heheheh)
It would have been extremely weird if y'all had done the garter belt removal tradition 🤔
I'd rather have a unruly kid than a completely drunk adult as a guest...
Is it weird that this makes me excited for my wedding despite being a single teenager and miles off from that?
IM SCOTTISH LOL I didn't know u/ur parents were too
Congratulations to you both
Asian, specifically brown weddings are 1000+ guests lol! 400 is a sin lol!
I’m eating cake while watching this video which feels very on theme
Bloody hell, our wedding day had my family. Mum, Step-dad, sisters and partners, niece 17yrs, niece 1yr and nephews 9yrs and 7yrs, including us 12 people so going on British average microscopic size.
WAIT, THERE WAS CRAZY GOLF AT THE WEDDING?! I want to know more. I need to see pictures. I HAVE TO KNOW. 😂
Imagine if there’s a ‘4 Weddings and a Funeral’ type Best Man Speech which makes everyone awkward lol
My parents refused to be listed as Mr and Mrs Dad’s Name on my wedding invitation in 1993. My father is a white man born in 1932 and yet somehow he became a raging feminist. I personally refused to do the garter thing or the bouquet throw at my cishet wedding.
I hope you get this Shaaba! I don’t know if you can moderate your ads but there was a super transphobic me before this video. 😢
I provided childcare during the ceremony at our wedding, but the kids were free to join in the reception.