It’s honestly really disappointing and makes me sad that in most scenarios they don’t wanna be just friends with a girl, especially being someone with guy friends, it just makes me wonder what their true intentions might be🫠 why do men view women as only worthy of hooking up with or potentially dating?
Because there’s nothing to gain from just being friends with a woman.. even leaving the sex aside tbh.. like what yall gonna do have some coffee and play Xbox? lol is not really conducive to anything so why putting your energy in something that’s not going anywhere?
while it is disappointing 2/3 of the guys said they can’t be friends with a girl, this is was an honest podcast. the whole purpose was to show a glimpse into the kinds of guys in the dating pool these days; this is just reality tbh
@@JasmineAli-fv4ofif this helps put things into perspective a lil, society back then doesn't have male-female friendships. I'm talking bout like ancient times like men and women only interacted for the purpose of seeking a partner. Mixed gender spaces barely existed until recently so male-female friendships are a very modern idea, them saying what's the point is honestly not that strange at all
i think this is only this specific kind of guy perspective. my husband is the opposite of this but that’s because we personally hate traditional roles and i’m non binary so that shit won’t fly with me lmao. interesting but honestly disappointing seeing how many people are so traditional. i mean you do you but wether u wanna believe it or not, those gender roles are patriarchal and rooted in deep misogyny. they’re young tho they think this is how they’re supposed to act. they’ll hopefully get over it
Also, men seeing women only in a sexual way is acc messed up. It’s a learned behavior, not acquired from birth. I don’t doubt it’s hard to change tho, that’s why we need to educate boys better so they dont pick up toxic patterns like this. Friendship is beautiful & it should be an option for anyone w anyone imo. If a crush is involved in any party => communication. Then if one feels comfortable or not to keep the friendship is a case by case personal thing.
This was definitely interesting, to see the men's perspective and diffrent verities of it as well. I liked how everyone was so chill and down to earth too, this was so fun to watch and listen too. Also love you V
i think this is only this specific kind of guy perspective. my husband is the opposite of this but that’s because we personally hate traditional roles and i’m non binary so that shit won’t fly with me lmao. interesting but honestly disappointing seeing how many people are so traditional. i mean you do you but wether u wanna believe it or not, those gender roles are patriarchal and rooted in deep misogyny. they’re young tho they think this is how they’re supposed to act. they’ll hopefully get over it
@@nayi999 I mean it's your opinion and I get where you're coming from. But I think it's a bit extremist to say that being traditional and having gender roles are intertwined with misogyny. Personally, I am a woman and I feel more comfortable with being on the traditional side, and it has nothing to do with my culture or "deep rooted patriarchal rules" it's just a personal preference of how I choose to live my life, and this is coming from a feminist, so do with that what you will but I find it really interesting how living "traditionally" is viewed by our modern society as an oppression for both genders and specifically women, and how these men "will hopefully get over it" and change their lifestyle to fit more into this "free" lifestyle (opposite of traditional ig?) I'm sorry if I came off as rude or anything, I respect your opinion I just wanted to sound mine❤
The “guy has to pay the bill” thing has always felt wrong to me. - it seems to be + of a US cultural thing. Growing up I learned “if u invite me u pay, if I invite u I pay” & it feels + genuine imo… - it unconsciously pushes the idea that it’s better for a woman to rely on a man financially, which I think shouldn’t be automatic/forced like that. - it only works in straight relationships… which goes back to the previous point I made.
SAME I've been confused by this conversation for a while bc ppl never specify who invited who or if they talked before to clarify who's paying and stuff like that
yessss, to me this whole thing about who pays the bill is really weird and a very hetero-normative thing. i'm a lesbian so like.... there's no man here, so what's the “rule” then?? i don't really get it, 50/50 it's the most natural thing for me at least. don't get me wrong, i love when a girl invites me and pays, and i also like inviting my girl and paying, but it's never a “rule” or a “thing” that is expected as it is in a straight relationship.
it’s def not a US thing lmao, in most cultures in the world men are expected to pay. if anything in the US it’s more common for women to split bills w their man, especially in very recent times
It's crazy to me that they never approached a woman with the genuine intention of just being friends, like , because my brother and I played video games(CoD, SSB,FPS,MMOs) together or watched anime growing up, I've always been better at making male friends than female friends . And because of my career now, I spend more time with guys and can see how they simply want to be friends, as well as tell when they want more, when that happens I stay away from them. I've been friends with some of my guy friends for close to 8 years now, and it's purely platonic, and we always appreciate if one of us gets in touch with us. So to hear that they won't have frienships with women because it wont benefit them sexually seems like.... theyre just making women out to be sexual objects honestly. Like what happened to the talking stage??
I honestly like my partner to have friends of the opposite sex that they don't look at sexually, it adds a whole level of trust that wouldn't have existed before.. and a level of maturity to the relationship.. idk Jealousy shouldn't even really exist in a relationship, like it's somewhat natural but now that I'm in a healthy relationship, Jealousy is non existent.
Same! If my future boyfriend has female friends, and those female friends have their own business and/or their own relationships they’re committed to, I see no problem with it. Just like I’m friends with guys that don’t want to date me. It’s just so many people with trust issues and jealousy these days, it’s hard to see different perspectives 😭
i reallyyy love your podcast, every time i watch it i get so inspired and it really gets me thinking about all sorts of stuff, and i know it may sound corny, but i really feel like im growing just from watching your videos and just thinking about these things, so thank you, keep doing what you love, hope everyone has a great day
0:49 bestie this is incorrect the only way biology plays a factor is in the reproductive systems. It’s not a man vs woman thing either since gender isn’t biological, it’s all about how we’re socialized.
Viet has answered some of these questions on his podcasts and his answers has changed completely(not for the better). I just find it interesting+ it’s kinda weird how his opinions nowadays are more “stereotypical”.
@@kbi1522 I guess what I mean is that his opinion seems to be more gender stereotypical( idk if that makes sense English is not my first language). But then it’s his life so I don’t really care, but I have noticed in some episodes of Under the influence, he says one thing and then after the others talk he agrees with them instead.
Just a few things: 1) Ramon and Viet- Theres no reason to have female friends BESIDES being family, a lesbian, etc. Isnt that misogynistic? To only view relationships with women as purely sexual? Weird as fuck bro. 2) Viet says he isnt looking for commitment and it upfront about it. But in the same breath, he expresses that he spends most nights alone and crying (assuming because he is alone). I dont think theres anything inherently wrong with not wanting commitment, i just think theres always a reason and its just backwards the way he goes about it. 3) Viet also says that “it doesnt matter her body count, but its WHY shes having sex with multiple people” but he has other women that are all in a strictly sexual relationship with him. I just think theres a double standard there. 4) This whole “body count” thing is actually ridiculous. Its 2023 ya’ll 😭. I get it, you dont want any diseases or whatever, but otherwise, frankly, it really isn’t your business and it SHOULDN’T matter in any capacity. Saw this YT comp about feminism and this lady who studied in gender roles/studies said that “the only reason ‘virginity’ and ‘body count’ exist is because men have placed so much importance in their penis that it affects a woman for the rest of her life” and when i tell you i CHOKED- 5) Viet also said that he doesn’t want the girl to “give it up” on the first date because he mentally checks out and there’s no point to get to know her and so on. Okay, but then she lets him hit on, lets say, the 4th date. EITHER WAY, SINCE HE DOESN’T WANT COMMITMENT, IT’LL LITERALLY GO NOWHERE BUT SEX. SO, PROLONGING SEX AND GOING THROUGH A TALKING STAGE… FOR FUCKING WHAT???? I can’t stand this guy lol. Sorry not sorry. I love the different perspectives and i think it creates a healthy space when we can challenge points and give opinions and not feel attacked like on OTHER podcasts lol. More of this please ❤️🔥
This may be overstepping, but if they agree they don’t really want to be just friends with girls and in most cases will keep a girl around in case something changes or would be down to hookup if given the opportunity, being that 2 of these guys were failed talking stages, I wonder how they feel about Vereena. Like do they just now see her as a friend or are they still attracted to her in that way and would be down if she gave them the opportunity🤔
i love fkn vereena i couldn't finish this video. it makes me feel so sad and icky once I hear about the way people think or talk when it stems so much from toxic masculinity. the fact that they are holding back on their answers too.. why does everything have to be so gender stereotypical
You’re right. I’m treating these as my therapy… 😅💞 these podcasts get better each time! Me and my boyfriend are going through so much shit rn so I needed this. Ty 🫶🏽
i was waiting for alex to say something bc he actually has so many friends that are girls and u can tell it’s just platonic but the other two 🤨 WHAT U MEAN WHATS THE POINT???
I love tht you’ve started this Vereena! I’ve been watching you for a few yrs or so and love your journey and transformation 💞 Stay strong girl and keep doing you 🥳
ngl i didnt like this one not cause of you vereena but some of things they were saying was making me sick to my stomach. do they really think like this???
@@tk22_ thank you? Like I’m reading these comments and it’s like? are we watching the same person? Just say you think he’s attractive and go. Shit makes no sense
vee and viet have so much chemistry dude wow. I’ve never even known they talked and from this video alone WOW. He always talks so easily to her and they communicate well. I love them!
People just need to ask the right questions while dating and if they’re honest then time won’t really matter. You know your red flags and your deal breakers so why not ask them right off rip instead of wasting your time and possibly getting hurt
nah, I'm sorry but i feel like whoever initiates the date should pay. saying that bc a person is a guy they should pay just doesn't seem right. it's honestly kind of off. i think it's fair for someone to pay if they are the one that suggest the date in the first place now don't get ke wrong neither one should be paying full time if this is supposed to be a partnership ya know
i also wanna add that yes this is about men and I get that but it's also not all encompassing if that makes sense. this would only make sense in a heterosexual couple by your standards but what about gay couples where both individuals are guys/me. i think this rhetoric isn't right and only adds onto the pressure put on men to be all providing/ finicially capable. and no I'm not saying men having it harder than women this isn't what I'm getting at I just think this idea of men having to pay is damaging for both parties. (btw I'm nonbinary so)
@@lizzieyourmom4933I have mixed opinions on it. I feel like it says a lot about a guy who doesn’t want to pay on the first date. Also says a lot about a woman who doesn’t offer. But I don’t know, it’s just a thing and I honestly don’t think it’s damaging to feel like the guy should pay. If you’re old enough, it’s not gonna break the bank to pay for a first date
@Sarah De Martin well yea I agree but going forward I definitely don't think it's a man's "job" to pay for every single date or like the bills like one of the guys said. ofc if that's something both parties agree is what they want that's okay but for it to be forced or ig accepted solely bc this person happens to be a man is a little odd.
@@elisabeth4687 Never fall for a man thats looking for the right things to say. Dude in the middle spent the entire video trying his hardest to come off as a good guy just to be liked, wasnt authentic at all.
I think its like when you watch corn it’s mostly ppl you dont know and ppl you most likely you’ll never meet in life and its more sexual type thing, but while liking a thirst trap, they/you most likely know that person irl and want it to make it known that you liked their post and it’s kinda like ur thinking of someone else romantically while ur in a relationship , if that makes sense 😅
viets opinion on like wear whatever u want when ur with me cause ur miine is such a dream fr like hes not insecure hes just like i wanna show off my girl
1:17:35 but didn’t he say earlier that no guy would actually want to be friends with a woman 💀 wut? Make it make sense. He wants to keep her around incase the relationship doesn’t work out he’s got someone to fall on. That’s what it is.
45:45 YELLOW FLAG 💛 Im not going to cheat in my next relationship. My last boyfriend was my first love, but next time I fall for someone I want to start a life with them. I want to have the same values and life goals.
Their thoughts is realistic. I don't agree with most of their comments like not taking high school relationships seriously. The way you take those first relationships kind of dictate your young adulthood of messing around with others. Watching p*rn during the relationships i totally disagree that it shouldn't be watched while in a relationship especially when you are married!! But men are men and most of the time have one thing on their mind.
@@Ineedthetlousellie like understands the woman point of view the most he respects woman he doesn’t except woman to do the most for him like i wouldn’t
1:19:17 no childhood bsf nooo bc i swear its one or two ways. either the man is in love w her & she only sees him as a best friend. or she is in love with him & he just wouldnt wanna date her but he knows he can fall back on her later on in life or he knows he can hit it If the girl is in luv w him, they be possessive, jealous, all of the above. i feel like the girl WILL always be attached emotionally with the man & will always think that she has the upper hand over the girlfriend. If the man is in luv w his girl bsf, then he just wont wanna lose her at all & he wouldn’t say how he feels. bc if he did hed get friend zoned thats why its one sided. but like if they both have feelings for each other then at that point, theyll start dating. but i swear its a one sided love while the other one sees them as a friend.
i think this is only this specific kind of guy perspective. my husband is the opposite of this but that’s because we personally hate traditional roles and i’m non binary so that shit won’t fly with me lmao. interesting but honestly disappointing seeing how many people are so traditional. i mean you do you but wether u wanna believe it or not, those gender roles are patriarchal and rooted in deep misogyny. they’re young tho they think this is how they’re supposed to act. they’ll hopefully get over it
I noticed that people in America do this. lie about little things, such as when they will get to a meeting point. Why. Seriously, why? Can anyone tell me what the point of that is?
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Bring blesiv back by himself so hes not scared to speak his mind 😂
He looks so nervous the whole time😭😭
You can tell he’s holding back idk that’s the vibe I’m getting right 😂😂😂
@@Taylor.reneerowe lemme see what y’all talm bout😂😂😂😂
@@kamnole5051 I know I was laughing seeing his facial expressions 😂😂😂
He’s being so “Ale” in this video, I can’t🤣
It’s honestly really disappointing and makes me sad that in most scenarios they don’t wanna be just friends with a girl, especially being someone with guy friends, it just makes me wonder what their true intentions might be🫠 why do men view women as only worthy of hooking up with or potentially dating?
Honestly beats me….it is V sad.
Because there’s nothing to gain from just being friends with a woman.. even leaving the sex aside tbh.. like what yall gonna do have some coffee and play Xbox? lol is not really conducive to anything so why putting your energy in something that’s not going anywhere?
They all are so different I love their personalities like you have outspoken Viet and sweet Alex and then chill Ramon like AND THEYRE SO FINE
the way you wrote their names into categories was so fitting like thats a show i would watch LMFAO
YESS THIS
Run the zodiac signs right now
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@@allib6655viet a gemini, ramon a virgo, and blesiv a libra(so him and vareena are rlly compatible)
Ramon’s way of thinking is interesting and I love how he puts his feelings first but also puts others into consideration as well. Loved this!
while it is disappointing 2/3 of the guys said they can’t be friends with a girl, this is was an honest podcast. the whole purpose was to show a glimpse into the kinds of guys in the dating pool these days; this is just reality tbh
like these are failed talking stages for a reason y’all
The reality is so depressing😭😂
"what's the point" was insane
@@JasmineAli-fv4ofif this helps put things into perspective a lil, society back then doesn't have male-female friendships. I'm talking bout like ancient times like men and women only interacted for the purpose of seeking a partner. Mixed gender spaces barely existed until recently so male-female friendships are a very modern idea, them saying what's the point is honestly not that strange at all
i think this is only this specific kind of guy perspective. my husband is the opposite of this but that’s because we personally hate traditional roles and i’m non binary so that shit won’t fly with me lmao. interesting but honestly disappointing seeing how many people are so traditional. i mean you do you but wether u wanna believe it or not, those gender roles are patriarchal and rooted in deep misogyny. they’re young tho they think this is how they’re supposed to act. they’ll hopefully get over it
What I learnt from this video: MEN LOVE MEN. Not women.
Viet laughing everytime Vereena says something is making me melt. And they're lowkey matching too omg
omg i noticed this too
I said that tooo😭 like they both matching definitely meant to be 🧚
Ikkk I fuckss witt ittt
@@antonioperezangel9188 y’all don’t want viet for her, trusttttttt he’s toxic af
Also, men seeing women only in a sexual way is acc messed up.
It’s a learned behavior, not acquired from birth. I don’t doubt it’s hard to change tho, that’s why we need to educate boys better so they dont pick up toxic patterns like this. Friendship is beautiful & it should be an option for anyone w anyone imo.
If a crush is involved in any party => communication. Then if one feels comfortable or not to keep the friendship is a case by case personal thing.
If my man ever expects me to act out porn scenes, he better be ready to act out scenes from the Korean romance shows I watch 😂😂
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HAHA right
Omg best thing I’ve ever heard 😂😭
With pink tax, the wage gap, no menstrual leave… the least a man can do is pay for the dates/be the main provider in the relationship
I was questioning whether I was bi or not but this video made me realise I’m most definitely lesbian
congrats lol
No bc the other comments are complimenting the guys and I don’t see one redeemable one 😩 no hate to the girls who like them but I’m lost 🥲
There are only 2 genders
@@Talia778literally feel like throwing up
The way you guys think Viet is joking about almost going to prison over it 😂😭 11:00
the silence! im dead
Naw this sent me😆
This was definitely interesting, to see the men's perspective and diffrent verities of it as well. I liked how everyone was so chill and down to earth too, this was so fun to watch and listen too. Also love you V
i think this is only this specific kind of guy perspective. my husband is the opposite of this but that’s because we personally hate traditional roles and i’m non binary so that shit won’t fly with me lmao. interesting but honestly disappointing seeing how many people are so traditional. i mean you do you but wether u wanna believe it or not, those gender roles are patriarchal and rooted in deep misogyny. they’re young tho they think this is how they’re supposed to act. they’ll hopefully get over it
@@nayi999 I mean it's your opinion and I get where you're coming from. But I think it's a bit extremist to say that being traditional and having gender roles are intertwined with misogyny. Personally, I am a woman and I feel more comfortable with being on the traditional side, and it has nothing to do with my culture or "deep rooted patriarchal rules" it's just a personal preference of how I choose to live my life, and this is coming from a feminist, so do with that what you will but I find it really interesting how living "traditionally" is viewed by our modern society as an oppression for both genders and specifically women, and how these men "will hopefully get over it" and change their lifestyle to fit more into this "free" lifestyle (opposite of traditional ig?)
I'm sorry if I came off as rude or anything, I respect your opinion I just wanted to sound mine❤
So you call these specimens are men ?😂😂😂
The “guy has to pay the bill” thing has always felt wrong to me.
- it seems to be + of a US cultural thing. Growing up I learned “if u invite me u pay, if I invite u I pay” & it feels + genuine imo…
- it unconsciously pushes the idea that it’s better for a woman to rely on a man financially, which I think shouldn’t be automatic/forced like that.
- it only works in straight relationships… which goes back to the previous point I made.
Samee
SAME I've been confused by this conversation for a while bc ppl never specify who invited who or if they talked before to clarify who's paying and stuff like that
yessss, to me this whole thing about who pays the bill is really weird and a very hetero-normative thing. i'm a lesbian so like.... there's no man here, so what's the “rule” then?? i don't really get it, 50/50 it's the most natural thing for me at least. don't get me wrong, i love when a girl invites me and pays, and i also like inviting my girl and paying, but it's never a “rule” or a “thing” that is expected as it is in a straight relationship.
it’s def not a US thing lmao, in most cultures in the world men are expected to pay. if anything in the US it’s more common for women to split bills w their man, especially in very recent times
LMFAOAOAOA NOT YOU LURING THEM IN BY ASKING THEM TO GET FOOD 😭😭😭😭
It's crazy to me that they never approached a woman with the genuine intention of just being friends, like , because my brother and I played video games(CoD, SSB,FPS,MMOs) together or watched anime growing up, I've always been better at making male friends than female friends .
And because of my career now, I spend more time with guys and can see how they simply want to be friends, as well as tell when they want more, when that happens I stay away from them.
I've been friends with some of my guy friends for close to 8 years now, and it's purely platonic, and we always appreciate if one of us gets in touch with us.
So to hear that they won't have frienships with women because it wont benefit them sexually seems like.... theyre just making women out to be sexual objects honestly. Like what happened to the talking stage??
I just broke up with my boyfriend and I’m sobbing thank you for this video
ME TOO 😃😃😃😭😭😭😭😭LMAO
I hope you take this as an opportunity to treat yourself with so much love 💞
@@larenaissante tdxiiiiiiiiiiiiiit
mine left:(
oh no... cry it out, don't hold it in. you have to detox from him basically and your body will go through withdrawal side effects literally. :(
I honestly like my partner to have friends of the opposite sex that they don't look at sexually, it adds a whole level of trust that wouldn't have existed before.. and a level of maturity to the relationship.. idk Jealousy shouldn't even really exist in a relationship, like it's somewhat natural but now that I'm in a healthy relationship, Jealousy is non existent.
Same! If my future boyfriend has female friends, and those female friends have their own business and/or their own relationships they’re committed to, I see no problem with it. Just like I’m friends with guys that don’t want to date me. It’s just so many people with trust issues and jealousy these days, it’s hard to see different perspectives 😭
i already listened to this on spotify and loved it, ty for showing men's perspective on these things
What’s the name of the podcast 💕?
@@nxmhle8845 it's called Nobody Makes It Out Alive ^^
Ramon waving the flag like a kid each time is killing me 😭😭
i reallyyy love your podcast, every time i watch it i get so inspired and it really gets me thinking about all sorts of stuff, and i know it may sound corny, but i really feel like im growing just from watching your videos and just thinking about these things, so thank you, keep doing what you love, hope everyone has a great day
Ramon casually zoning out😂😂
so in conclusion in alex only we trust
word
& he ended up cheating on Vereena 😭
alex’s mom raised him right
0:49 bestie this is incorrect the only way biology plays a factor is in the reproductive systems. It’s not a man vs woman thing either since gender isn’t biological, it’s all about how we’re socialized.
real
the mingyu pfp is so real
@@jocelynd6682 purrrrr
@@chesiresays happy gyu day :D
Finally cause
this is such a good video but also so sad. sad knowing guys mostly never wanna be friends
i’m nglll i was a bit too stunned to speak when they were talking ab body counts & said 40-50 … LIKEEE wdymmm 😭
i was looking for this comment 😭 hes too young to realise even 20 is high if yfm
Viet has answered some of these questions on his podcasts and his answers has changed completely(not for the better). I just find it interesting+ it’s kinda weird how his opinions nowadays are more “stereotypical”.
wdym it’s changed not for the better
@@kbi1522 I guess what I mean is that his opinion seems to be more gender stereotypical( idk if that makes sense English is not my first language). But then it’s his life so I don’t really care, but I have noticed in some episodes of Under the influence, he says one thing and then after the others talk he agrees with them instead.
@@ellalarsson641 he doesn't know how to be himself or stand on what he says
Ramon trynna secretly hit his nic throughout the vid is killing me lol he's me
Just a few things:
1) Ramon and Viet- Theres no reason to have female friends BESIDES being family, a lesbian, etc. Isnt that misogynistic? To only view relationships with women as purely sexual? Weird as fuck bro.
2) Viet says he isnt looking for commitment and it upfront about it. But in the same breath, he expresses that he spends most nights alone and crying (assuming because he is alone). I dont think theres anything inherently wrong with not wanting commitment, i just think theres always a reason and its just backwards the way he goes about it.
3) Viet also says that “it doesnt matter her body count, but its WHY shes having sex with multiple people” but he has other women that are all in a strictly sexual relationship with him. I just think theres a double standard there.
4) This whole “body count” thing is actually ridiculous. Its 2023 ya’ll 😭. I get it, you dont want any diseases or whatever, but otherwise, frankly, it really isn’t your business and it SHOULDN’T matter in any capacity. Saw this YT comp about feminism and this lady who studied in gender roles/studies said that “the only reason ‘virginity’ and ‘body count’ exist is because men have placed so much importance in their penis that it affects a woman for the rest of her life” and when i tell you i CHOKED-
5) Viet also said that he doesn’t want the girl to “give it up” on the first date because he mentally checks out and there’s no point to get to know her and so on. Okay, but then she lets him hit on, lets say, the 4th date. EITHER WAY, SINCE HE DOESN’T WANT COMMITMENT, IT’LL LITERALLY GO NOWHERE BUT SEX. SO, PROLONGING SEX AND GOING THROUGH A TALKING STAGE… FOR FUCKING WHAT???? I can’t stand this guy lol. Sorry not sorry.
I love the different perspectives and i think it creates a healthy space when we can challenge points and give opinions and not feel attacked like on OTHER podcasts lol. More of this please ❤️🔥
I literally agree with everything you said😩❤ honestly there should be more likes on this comment😭
@@bubblegumlipgloss_9614 thankss, much love to you ❤️
i honestly thought he said all that stuff for vereenas attention
@@cashmoneyhotlines2692 i mean that would create the opposite effect, wouldn’t it? I’m sure Vereena can spot manipulation/toxicity.
yes ty for calling him out
watching this as a lesbian…….. geez straight people are- something!!
Honestly I’m thinking the same thing I don’t know how straight women do it…
These guys are fr not that bad tho there are so many worse ones
@@ally8139 you should never settle for “not that bad”
no literally LMFAO
No fr the questions themselves are already questionable and then most of the answers... Yikes. Esp viets
53:40 The way Ramon was waving the flag to emphasise he doesn't agree and nobody paid attention 🥲💀
That was so cute of him 😭😭😭😭😭
your podcast is so comforting. i can’t explain but it makes me feel safe like im on facetime w friends lol
This may be overstepping, but if they agree they don’t really want to be just friends with girls and in most cases will keep a girl around in case something changes or would be down to hookup if given the opportunity, being that 2 of these guys were failed talking stages, I wonder how they feel about Vereena. Like do they just now see her as a friend or are they still attracted to her in that way and would be down if she gave them the opportunity🤔
I need a part 2 to this but with all girls, just to see their pov on all these topics & statements.
My 100th reason on why I’m a lesbian
viet's mic made me want to die
i love fkn vereena i couldn't finish this video. it makes me feel so sad and icky once I hear about the way people think or talk when it stems so much from toxic masculinity. the fact that they are holding back on their answers too.. why does everything have to be so gender stereotypical
& it doesn't help that you laugh at the fucked up things they say..
yeah it was def a hard watch, not vereena’s fault at all but damn all the boys have questionable mentalities 😭
@@M4R1EEE facts😂😭
literally makes me feel so fuckin gross
yeah same a lot of the things (specifically viet) was saying grossed me out
me watching this while knowing that i’ve ghosted every single guy i’ve ever talked to 😭
same girll😭
You’re right. I’m treating these as my therapy… 😅💞 these podcasts get better each time!
Me and my boyfriend are going through so much shit rn so I needed this. Ty 🫶🏽
I love you vereena, but this vid makes me fear men 😩
RIGHT SOME OF THE ANSWERS I WAS LIKE ???🫣🫣
right like they view us as so “other”
right ..
no fr... some of these answers.. side eye lol
Girl same🤣😳
ramon is too fine
Tooooo mf fine
they’re all red flags except alex 😭
Tbh some moments were disturbing to watch… they’re working on themselves tho, good for them.
especially viet's answers i was so quick to click off BUT at least he's being honest
Did anyone else catch when Alex said he regrets some failed talking stage and remembered vereena and him had a failed talking stage !
when he said what’s the point of being just friends with women🤨
i caught that too! i was like.. come again? 🧏🏽♀️
@@ziyabhatti3870 that emoji LMAO that was my exact reaction too
very strange
i was waiting for alex to say something bc he actually has so many friends that are girls and u can tell it’s just platonic but the other two 🤨 WHAT U MEAN WHATS THE POINT???
women and men cannot be friends,period.
Is it just me or does the audio switch up drastically here and there throughout the video? it's like inconsistent and a bit distracting :(
It’s viets microphone
Viet makes No sense and ALL sense at the same time I love him and his personality he's so realll
Alex looks so uncomfortable
I would be too if I was sandwiched between 2 misogynists😂
Guy in the middle has my heart
alex 🫶🫶
I love tht you’ve started this Vereena! I’ve been watching you for a few yrs or so and love your journey and transformation 💞 Stay strong girl and keep doing you 🥳
I NEED A PART 2 TO THIS, BEST PODCAST EVER
ngl i didnt like this one not cause of you vereena but some of things they were saying was making me sick to my stomach. do they really think like this???
a lot of the things viet and ramon were saying i was like oh???
ur so realllll, everyone dying for viet but he saying some crazy shit yfmmmm
@@tk22_ I've seen some crazy shit on his Instagram
@@tk22_ thank you? Like I’m reading these comments and it’s like? are we watching the same person? Just say you think he’s attractive and go. Shit makes no sense
Honestly thought i was going crazy with how they’re feening over him in the comments like the guy is acc disgusting
Her giggling like she’s flirting with them makes this hard to watch
Me thinking double digits is a high body count. 💀 When I heard him say 40 😳
alex was falling asleep y'all can't tell me otherwise
just a tip but u should put time stamps in these episodes
vee and viet have so much chemistry dude wow. I’ve never even known they talked and from this video alone WOW. He always talks so easily to her and they communicate well. I love them!
People just need to ask the right questions while dating and if they’re honest then time won’t really matter. You know your red flags and your deal breakers so why not ask them right off rip instead of wasting your time and possibly getting hurt
nah, I'm sorry but i feel like whoever initiates the date should pay. saying that bc a person is a guy they should pay just doesn't seem right. it's honestly kind of off. i think it's fair for someone to pay if they are the one that suggest the date in the first place now don't get ke wrong neither one should be paying full time if this is supposed to be a partnership ya know
i also wanna add that yes this is about men and I get that but it's also not all encompassing if that makes sense. this would only make sense in a heterosexual couple by your standards but what about gay couples where both individuals are guys/me. i think this rhetoric isn't right and only adds onto the pressure put on men to be all providing/ finicially capable. and no I'm not saying men having it harder than women this isn't what I'm getting at I just think this idea of men having to pay is damaging for both parties. (btw I'm nonbinary so)
@@lizzieyourmom4933I have mixed opinions on it. I feel like it says a lot about a guy who doesn’t want to pay on the first date. Also says a lot about a woman who doesn’t offer. But I don’t know, it’s just a thing and I honestly don’t think it’s damaging to feel like the guy should pay. If you’re old enough, it’s not gonna break the bank to pay for a first date
@Sarah De Martin well yea I agree but going forward I definitely don't think it's a man's "job" to pay for every single date or like the bills like one of the guys said. ofc if that's something both parties agree is what they want that's okay but for it to be forced or ig accepted solely bc this person happens to be a man is a little odd.
The one in the middle is definitely more of a MAN than the other two lol
He’s literally the most insecure out of the three and that’s obvious he changes his answer if the others disapprove
@@Ineedthetlousellie true but he still the most respected one
@@elisabeth4687 Never fall for a man thats looking for the right things to say. Dude in the middle spent the entire video trying his hardest to come off as a good guy just to be liked, wasnt authentic at all.
Viet-“ I like a girl that looks like she hasn’t slept for 3 days ( SAYY MF LESS lemme add that to my notes)
I’m confused on the watching p0rn in moderation is okay but not liking “thirst traps” like, in my opinion, it’s contradictory
I think its like when you watch corn it’s mostly ppl you dont know and ppl you most likely you’ll never meet in life and its more sexual type thing, but while liking a thirst trap, they/you most likely know that person irl and want it to make it known that you liked their post and it’s kinda like ur thinking of someone else romantically while ur in a relationship , if that makes sense 😅
28:50 when he was givin alex the vape back in secret 😭😭
The way Ramon put something in Alex’s pocket lmaooo
Them all playing and being distracted with the flags is so funny to me 😭💀
pls have them on again. This was so good and entertaining to watch!
viets opinion on like wear whatever u want when ur with me cause ur miine is such a dream fr like hes not insecure hes just like i wanna show off my girl
I think I’m put off men forever 💗
i wouldn't recommend for anyone to date any of these men lmfaooo
29:19 A walking red flag, Jesus save us!
omg ty, someone sees it, idk i dont realy like viet
YES, he´s talking about women like their worth relies on s3x...
He’s making sense though this how men think if you like it or not. Wait until marriage people 🤷🏻♀️
This episode is giving Lauren Hill - Doo Wop (that thing) outro extended
Me talking back to this podcast like I'm apart of it also
When y’all said high count I thought like 10 but damn 50 phew
“if she looks half dead i’m in there” 😭😭
1:17:35 but didn’t he say earlier that no guy would actually want to be friends with a woman 💀 wut? Make it make sense. He wants to keep her around incase the relationship doesn’t work out he’s got someone to fall on. That’s what it is.
This was so good I watched every minute 😭😭😭
45:45 YELLOW FLAG 💛
Im not going to cheat in my next relationship. My last boyfriend was my first love, but next time I fall for someone I want to start a life with them. I want to have the same values and life goals.
Why do men😭😭 like truly
I love the fact the statement for therapy was all green flags because I personally love therapy
My faveeee has posted once againnnnn!💗
"HE?!" let me find out vietttttt
I DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE HER FAILED TALKING STAGES
Their thoughts is realistic.
I don't agree with most of their comments like not taking high school relationships seriously. The way you take those first relationships kind of dictate your young adulthood of messing around with others. Watching p*rn during the relationships i totally disagree that it shouldn't be watched while in a relationship especially when you are married!! But men are men and most of the time have one thing on their mind.
I'M SO EXCITED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO 😂😂😂 YASSS VEREENA W ALL THIS CONTENT
Yes finally someone who can afford 🎤 for each guest
viet has the mindset i search for
I’m so scared for you
@@Ineedthetlousellie lol why
@@Ineedthetlousellie like understands the woman point of view the most he respects woman he doesn’t except woman to do the most for him like i wouldn’t
Oh no I’m worried
@@alipopanna3704 you should hear what he says on UTI 😭
1:19:17 no childhood bsf nooo bc i swear its one or two ways.
either the man is in love w her & she only sees him as a best friend. or she is in love with him & he just wouldnt wanna date her but he knows he can fall back on her later on in life or he knows he can hit it
If the girl is in luv w him, they be possessive, jealous, all of the above. i feel like the girl WILL always be attached emotionally with the man & will always think that she has the upper hand over the girlfriend.
If the man is in luv w his girl bsf, then he just wont wanna lose her at all & he wouldn’t say how he feels. bc if he did hed get friend zoned thats why its one sided.
but like if they both have feelings for each other then at that point, theyll start dating. but i swear its a one sided love while the other one sees them as a friend.
They broke their backs trying to not get canceled 😭
My thoughts exactly, like they’re mentally preparing their answers 😂
LMFAOOO exactly my thoughts. also bc they knew vareena already, they were trying to kiss her ass so hard that they started contradicting themselves😭
not alex* alex is cool
Some questions I wish we heard what Ramon had to say 😫
“My failed talking stages”
1:20:00 bruh men do not be seeing women as a human bruh GahhhhhhhhhhhGAGSAHSGHAJOIFIPS
I love theses episodes !!! but why didn’t she make a separate channel to post theses 😭
probably cuz it’ll get more views here a lot of channels do that as well
34:21 the abuser trying to play the victim PREACH
i think this is only this specific kind of guy perspective. my husband is the opposite of this but that’s because we personally hate traditional roles and i’m non binary so that shit won’t fly with me lmao. interesting but honestly disappointing seeing how many people are so traditional. i mean you do you but wether u wanna believe it or not, those gender roles are patriarchal and rooted in deep misogyny. they’re young tho they think this is how they’re supposed to act. they’ll hopefully get over it
Hell nah I don’t want guys looking at my split ends🤣🤣
Man, straight ppl.
ISTG
I noticed that people in America do this. lie about little things, such as when they will get to a meeting point. Why. Seriously, why? Can anyone tell me what the point of that is?
Ooo, this was so good! You gotta do one with women!
Oh my god, i love Viet i watch the Under the Influence podcast too xoxox!