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  • @AbaNPreach
    @AbaNPreach  10 месяцев назад +967

    These heffas... nooo
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    • @hollister2320
      @hollister2320 10 месяцев назад +114

      I can still save her
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      from my pockets 💀foh

    • @DTreatz
      @DTreatz 10 месяцев назад +12

      *TRP* 💊 always wins.

    • @weebtrashh
      @weebtrashh 10 месяцев назад +6

      did you guys record the raycon ad with the raycon buds mic?

    • @trapG0LD710
      @trapG0LD710 10 месяцев назад +3

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    • @MsCarringtonsYoutube
      @MsCarringtonsYoutube 10 месяцев назад +5

      Apple and peach

  • @itsyaaveragegirl
    @itsyaaveragegirl 10 месяцев назад +7981

    She says dating is dangerous so she rather go on a dinner date…at night…with a person you talk to for 3 days. Instead of going to a coffee shop during the day.

    • @leonted4290
      @leonted4290 10 месяцев назад +578

      Facts! It just doesn't make sense at all and I'm glad the dude was straight forward. She ended up proving why the coffee date was the better option for the dude.

    • @davidbonar5190
      @davidbonar5190 10 месяцев назад

      she's projecting :) she's the dangerous one... hunting useful idiots to leech for supply while poisoning the dating game for everyone

    • @beno1129
      @beno1129 10 месяцев назад +616

      @@TheChannelJ1 Don't tell someone to 'be serious' as if you are making sense. Statistically, such attacks are more likely at happen at night rather than during the day. It's all about improving the odds of safety, that's just common sense.

    • @devilstrider289
      @devilstrider289 10 месяцев назад +218

      ​@TheChannelJ1 lets be real hear. Statistically speaking it's much safer in the day time.

    • @itsyaaveragegirl
      @itsyaaveragegirl 10 месяцев назад +366

      @@TheChannelJ1 let’s not be obtuse now. When it rains and I bring an umbrella I might still get a little wet, but it is better than if I went outside without it. Sure we can’t prevent everything 100% but you do dramatically reduce danger by going out on date during the day. If safety was really a concern a dinner date with a stranger would not have been the move.

  • @jayy5903
    @jayy5903 10 месяцев назад +5085

    In her attempt to shame that man for being “cheap” she showed how smart he actually was. He knew the deal and didn’t want to end up as a free meal. He’s a hero.

    • @spooky4223
      @spooky4223 10 месяцев назад +316

      and she goes on to tell the whole world how she takes advantage of people, now no one hasto deal with her XD (sounds like a win for mankind)

    • @onpoint2292
      @onpoint2292 10 месяцев назад +175

      You only get finessed so many times before you wisen up. Materialistic women act playful to get you to spend money on them, then cut off the act as soon as they have gotten what they want.
      Dinner dates suck in general. Do something active if you can like a walk in the park, going to a museum, an amusement park/ fair, etc. Something that has a shifting environment and plenty of verbal and non-verbal communication.

    • @Axelrun1994
      @Axelrun1994 10 месяцев назад +115

      She's rationalising it, speaking about why would she get high maintenance to go for an 8dollar coffee knowing damn well that the moment she ties him down she's gonna start walking around the house like smeagol.
      No woman I've been with has EVER had the high maintenance look 2 months into the relationship if she feels comfortable. Or what? She expects to be taken out every single day? I don't understand the logic.
      $32 concealer, talking like she's using the whole tube on that one date knowing damn well she gets 30-50 uses out of it but he should pay upwards of 500 dollars for dinner.
      This is the definition of mental delusion.

    • @The-Owl-Bard
      @The-Owl-Bard 10 месяцев назад +53

      He may be "cheap", but she's selfish. She's only thinking about what she wants to do. Not that the guy has to pay for everything and they may never see another date. If the same guy used her logic on dates he had that week, he'd be broke by the weekend.

    • @woodwyrm
      @woodwyrm 10 месяцев назад +12

      🎶 There goes my hero 🎶

  • @MikeOcksmallClips
    @MikeOcksmallClips 7 месяцев назад +440

    She said “a pharmacist, a surgeon, took me on a date” I was expecting her to keep going saying “then an astronaut took me on a date, and then the president wanted to take me on a date”

    • @RmX.
      @RmX. 5 месяцев назад +26

      I bet her schedule is full of peoples professions

    • @elexuswhitaker9401
      @elexuswhitaker9401 5 месяцев назад +4

      Her and lil Joe lol

    • @QuanPookie
      @QuanPookie 4 месяца назад

      If it’s even true. That’s how women like to make themselves feel more important than they actually are.

    • @britlilbit
      @britlilbit 2 месяца назад +3

      Lmao! The last bit sent me 😂

    • @lovelym6565
      @lovelym6565 2 месяца назад +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Agent_Six_
    @Agent_Six_ 8 месяцев назад +337

    19:40 This part of her rant is very telling. It shows that what she thinks of as a happy marriage is:
    - Husband works and plans dates
    - Housekeeper cleans
    - Nanny takes care of the kids
    - Chef cooks the meals
    - She does nothing and walks around malls all day with hubbies credit card.
    ...and you know damn well with all that free time she is going to get bored and cheat on you.

    • @edwardhoffenheim3249
      @edwardhoffenheim3249 5 месяцев назад

      I caught that and hoped they would comment on it. Because if the main thing you provide initially is spending money on yourself what purpose do you serve if you get money and you start using HIS money for all your aesthetic stuff? At that point your no better than a pet.
      If he cheated I can't even fault him because you're not his partner, you're an ornament. And if you have sex with him, congratulations 👏🏿, you're a sentient Fleshlight at best.

    • @MargieM10
      @MargieM10 4 месяца назад +18

      She'll be single with cats at 50 and complaining about men.

    • @johnwilliamson8367
      @johnwilliamson8367 3 месяца назад +6

      If she said all that lmbo most men will be like gtfoh.

    • @Halozocker104
      @Halozocker104 2 месяца назад

      ​@@MargieM10you forgot suckers exist. Bad p*ssy > no p*ssy to them, so that logic doesnt calculate.. when shes 50 and alone shell settle for ANYTHING. Thats usually how this goes.

    • @nerdstorma8427
      @nerdstorma8427 2 месяца назад +13

      And if you in anyway criticize how normalized it's become for these girls to, not want, BUT EXPECT these ENTIRELY one-sided relationships where they only take and never give: you're suddenly an incel. This generation's Women have become some kind of Protected class that's exempt from criticism.

  • @drewferd2720
    @drewferd2720 10 месяцев назад +2972

    She unknowingly proved why coffee dates work. Dude dodged a bullet because he said coffee date. He didn’t even have to go to find out she’s not worth it

    • @pranc236
      @pranc236 10 месяцев назад +124

      She very much is….. also isnt a coffee shop a decently safe place? 🤷‍♂️

    • @Sir.InfinityTGK
      @Sir.InfinityTGK 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@pranc236she’s worth it? The like ratio on your comment may prove that’s a unpopular opinion.

    • @pranc236
      @pranc236 10 месяцев назад +162

      @@Sir.InfinityTGK no, she is proving why coffee dates work.

    • @drewferd2720
      @drewferd2720 10 месяцев назад +46

      @@pranc236 exactly! 9 times out of 10 that’s why men suggest it.

    • @UnknownUser-nu8ny
      @UnknownUser-nu8ny 10 месяцев назад +93

      If she really saw him as her number one option she would’ve went on the coffee date, don’t get it confused. This is why always stick to your guns.

  • @nore5888
    @nore5888 10 месяцев назад +10279

    “I don't like them treating it like an audition” THATS WHAT A DATE IS, AN AUDITION FOR A RELATIONSHIP

    • @Dreweybaby
      @Dreweybaby 10 месяцев назад +334

      When there the ones that want relationships, men are fine alone with 3 vvomen in rotation.. leggo 🚀

    • @d2dar459
      @d2dar459 10 месяцев назад +38

      ​@@Dreweybaby😂

    • @Cor_Gaming
      @Cor_Gaming 10 месяцев назад +556

      She not looking for a relationship that’s the problem

    • @MsCarringtonsYoutube
      @MsCarringtonsYoutube 10 месяцев назад +41

      Exactly

    • @cricket12ish
      @cricket12ish 10 месяцев назад +368

      Exactly why are people so focused on the dinner when they should be focused on being compatible

  • @Lena.nikcole
    @Lena.nikcole 7 месяцев назад +211

    I remembered a guy I met off line told me he rather meet me in person to see if we catch a vibe and if we do, we can do dinner. I was like cool, where shall we meet…he replied his homeboys house. I told him that’s not going to work for me. Either a public place or dinner. He told me again I can meet him at his homeboy’s house. Nope that’s a red flag for me. I understand the concept of getting to know someone before you spend money on them but I’m not about to jeopardize my safety. I quickly blocked him.

    • @makbadgam
      @makbadgam 5 месяцев назад +50

      Him referring to his friends as "homeboys" like it's still 1994 is probably a bad sign 😆

    • @edwardhoffenheim3249
      @edwardhoffenheim3249 5 месяцев назад +65

      That's not "getting to know someone" that's an invitation to danger.

    • @mohamedsaid9416
      @mohamedsaid9416 5 месяцев назад

      @@edwardhoffenheim3249what do you think his intentions was?

    • @n_torop
      @n_torop 4 месяца назад +15

      Walking is free. It definitely wasn’t about the money. One thing where I agree with the woman from the video is the danger. Meeting with people you barely know can be dangerous and for that public spaces are definitely a better option than being out in the night

    • @Lena.nikcole
      @Lena.nikcole 3 месяца назад

      @@edwardhoffenheim3249 Exactly!!!

  • @latoyaowens3645
    @latoyaowens3645 4 месяца назад +105

    Men, I feel so sorry that y’all have to deal with this nonsense. My husband took me for wings on my first date and we been married almost 20 years. Guess what? I’ve flown first class, private, great vacations, great neighborhood and far from working 16 hours days. We were 19 years old. I didn’t even know what 5 star restaurants were until my mid 20s. How y’all expecting men to drop $400 on a first date? Make it make sense!!!

    • @andreco8008
      @andreco8008 25 дней назад +4

      No one should expect ANYONE to spend hundreds on someone they don't know. It's crazy.

    • @SWOTHDRA
      @SWOTHDRA 6 дней назад

      Ur a queen, tell that man he better treat you right......or I will 🤣

  • @Ween3
    @Ween3 10 месяцев назад +2410

    Says she’s been on three dates three nights in a row, then in the same breath says it’s dangerous for women on dates due to “men being crazy”. The duality of this woman

    • @BeachLookingGuy
      @BeachLookingGuy 10 месяцев назад +164

      lol yup! you will find this type of contradiction in every point she tries to make. it's almost like she has never thought about what she was going to say for this video and made everything up on the spot.

    • @jice7074
      @jice7074 10 месяцев назад +156

      As soon as something puts her off, she puts them in the "dangerous" category to justify her ridiculous standards.

    • @someone-ji2zb
      @someone-ji2zb 10 месяцев назад +62

      She is probably sleeping with most of these men as well, so not 'that' dangerous then lol

    • @SuperJutah
      @SuperJutah 10 месяцев назад +140

      They claim they’re scared of men and have all these security precautions but then go out on a date without their wallet… make it make sense

    • @thetruth4654
      @thetruth4654 10 месяцев назад +57

      She didn’t really go on dates though, she just wants free dinner.

  • @hshrr7e
    @hshrr7e 9 месяцев назад +1214

    She used safety as a reason to meet up for alcohol instead of caffeine.🤡🤡

    • @Megan6772
      @Megan6772 8 месяцев назад +105

      Exactly. Safer to go out in the daytime to the local coffee shop, no?

    • @crystal.diorrr
      @crystal.diorrr 8 месяцев назад +31

      He offered her both though, cocktail or coffee but she turned down both she sound slow

    • @Megan6772
      @Megan6772 8 месяцев назад +71

      @@crystal.diorrr yep. She she turned down coffee stating that *she likes* to dress up, then turned around and tried to victimize herself for *having to* dress up.

    • @roaldruss4211
      @roaldruss4211 8 месяцев назад +22

      Looks like she just wants free meals and expensive outings with no strings attached...

    • @greuju
      @greuju 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@roaldruss4211no she lets people bust inside for a meal.

  • @Yokasta913
    @Yokasta913 7 месяцев назад +60

    I loved his response about why they should split the check. She is talking about him treating it like an audition, she is offended by it. Yet, she auditioned all weekend. 😂 she did not like him setting boundaries. She is used to being the only one setting boundaries. Spoiled gold digger.

  • @jasonharter4876
    @jasonharter4876 8 месяцев назад +41

    She views her entire life as completely transactional. There is no hope for this woman.

  • @patriciacooper2529
    @patriciacooper2529 10 месяцев назад +2056

    These women are really out here confusing ‘being entitled’ with ‘having standards’. It is not the same!

    • @ChimChimChums
      @ChimChimChums 10 месяцев назад +15

      In America?

    • @stinedange9152
      @stinedange9152 10 месяцев назад

      Yeah that “higher standards” line got me… so rather than drinks and a conversation, you’re selling off 6 hours of your time AND your pussy for a $100 meal? The math ain’t mathing… guess she’s not the opportunist she thinks she is 😏
      Demanding a meal from a man is only an appropriate “standard” to have if you can’t feed yourself.

    • @ClanToreador
      @ClanToreador 10 месяцев назад +128

      @@ChimChimChumsquit the America/American crap, women like this are everywhere. Parents are failing, raise your kids with empathy, hard work, honesty, and humbleness. Period. We would have less entitled people around.

    • @LookitsMarino
      @LookitsMarino 10 месяцев назад +85

      "Pay for my things because I am pretty" is what I hear and its nasty

    • @fabianveerman2811
      @fabianveerman2811 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@LookitsMarinomy time is sale in exchange for goods it's what I hear

  • @The-Owl-Bard
    @The-Owl-Bard 10 месяцев назад +1410

    This woman isn't serious about finding someone. She's just leading men on to finance her nights out.

    • @Allyourneedsmet
      @Allyourneedsmet 10 месяцев назад +22

      Another angle.

    • @petermulinzi1288
      @petermulinzi1288 10 месяцев назад +11

      i mean her approach is clear and good thing if a man does some digging it's easy to see, the issue is those that have same mentality but hide it

    • @benblarney
      @benblarney 10 месяцев назад +52

      ​@@Allyourneedsmetit's not another angle it's facts, she said she sent the guy places where she has been looking out to visit. 😂😂😂. She's basically using men to finance restaurants she'll like to eat at but can't afford to.

    • @jarretedotio
      @jarretedotio 10 месяцев назад +2

      🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

    • @piraat070
      @piraat070 10 месяцев назад +11

      Thats why i go 50/50. I refuse to go Will Smith/simp for them.

  • @funnyfam7305
    @funnyfam7305 8 месяцев назад +141

    As a woman, we dont claim her ignorant reasonings or childish thoughts lol 💯

    • @tw4943
      @tw4943 4 месяца назад +3

      90% of y'all think this way, especially bW

    • @Lets_have_some_sense_
      @Lets_have_some_sense_ 4 месяца назад +17

      ​@@tw4943 here he goes red pilling: we don't do that shit here.
      And 90% of women? It applies just in the West? Or you met other women around the world to reply that?

    • @anitai9269
      @anitai9269 3 месяца назад +1

      @@tw4943you commenting this tells us that u spend 90% of your time online. Go touch some grass sir

    • @fragrantbloom
      @fragrantbloom 3 месяца назад +10

      @tw4943 one woman hurt you and you assume about everyone? I'm a woman and I agree with OP.

    • @mbod2gigi
      @mbod2gigi 2 месяца назад

      ​@@tw494390 percent of YOUR dates/gfs/fwbs etc etc.

  • @Rtz89
    @Rtz89 9 месяцев назад +65

    She was so scared of men and her safety. So she met 4 back to back daily, to subsidize her meal plan.
    She didn't like being auditioned, so she auditioned 4 guys instead. The lack of self awareness and hypocrisy is astounding.

    • @michaelmitchel3471
      @michaelmitchel3471 2 месяца назад +1

      Keep in mind there is nothing in it for her 😁

  • @antiembishop07
    @antiembishop07 10 месяцев назад +5361

    Seeing a woman reject a date because it was cheesecake factory was the bullshit of the week.

    • @Helpmefindthewilltolive
      @Helpmefindthewilltolive 10 месяцев назад +449

      I'm confused, isn't cheesecake Factory considered luxury? It isn't cheap certainly. Could other women explain?

    • @Indicudi
      @Indicudi 10 месяцев назад +520

      @@Helpmefindthewilltolivethe lady said it’s because it’s a chain restaurant smh

    • @wintermintmojo2418
      @wintermintmojo2418 10 месяцев назад +400

      And thats after being an hour late lmao

    • @Brian-yz8dj
      @Brian-yz8dj 10 месяцев назад +148

      I dont think that video was real. It screamed staged.

    • @Helpmefindthewilltolive
      @Helpmefindthewilltolive 10 месяцев назад +130

      ​​@@Indicudibut the avocado rolls, oreo dream supreme, the alfredo chicken.. It's the best..

  • @elenawilliams32
    @elenawilliams32 10 месяцев назад +1264

    This girl is a whole red flag 🚩
    I met my husband having a coffee when I was 17. I'm 53 now and love and adore him dearly. He's shorter than me and so secure in his masculinity... He loves it when I wear heels too. Girls, if you overlook people with stupid criteria like height, how much they'll spend on you etc... You'll miss out on some truly great men.
    Open your eyes, mind and heart.

    • @Twisted86
      @Twisted86 10 месяцев назад +74

      Yeah but back then they made people different, it's a whole different story today.....men aren't men and women aren't women. Honestly I'm good with dying alone because the odds of finding a quality partner is worse than the lottery.

    • @abramkidane9387
      @abramkidane9387 10 месяцев назад +38

      I love what you shared I really wish I could find a fraction of what you have but ppl are so shallow nowadays 😭

    • @Koro489
      @Koro489 10 месяцев назад +12

      That's so cute

    • @YuhasLol
      @YuhasLol 10 месяцев назад +22

      Right. Like, is she dating men, or the meals?? Holy...

    • @elenawilliams32
      @elenawilliams32 10 месяцев назад +45

      I hear our daughter say similar things about dating nowadays. She's 22 and happy, enjoys her life is 5ft10", fit and healthy and attractive with a contagious smile. She tells me that guys ask her for hook ups the first time they meet! (Not the right way to get a girl to date you 🚩)She'd love a guy to ask her what book she reads.. she loves sci-fi and horror. I know she'd like a boyfriend, someone to go hiking and camping with. So there's lots of great young people like you out there. You'll just have to meet them in a hiking club, 4wd club, mixed basketball etc instead of a dodgy nightclub. Don't give up. Take care from Australia.

  • @Agent_Six_
    @Agent_Six_ 8 месяцев назад +12

    If you're scared of being murdered by your date then don't go on the date. I don't see how going to a restaurant instead of a cafe makes him less of a murderer.

  • @sanelemaziya2498
    @sanelemaziya2498 7 месяцев назад +27

    She must be a graduate student because we are always looking for free food on campus.

  • @kirbyr558
    @kirbyr558 10 месяцев назад +937

    Coffee dates are for finding out if the other person is a psycho. It usually works.

    • @KohaTheEternal
      @KohaTheEternal 10 месяцев назад +52

      Exactly! Thank you for saying this. I went on a coffee date recently, and the dude was a bit too eager. I am glad I had my own car and parted ways with him.

    • @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066
      @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 10 месяцев назад +41

      it's casual, in a public place, inexpensive and SHORT of you're not vibing!!!
      Or could be longer if you're into each other!
      To me it's pretty perfect!

    • @kirbyr558
      @kirbyr558 10 месяцев назад +24

      @@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 Yeah, there is no reason you have to finish after coffee. Go for a walk or something, grab dessert. Time it so you get coffee at like 4pm and decide to get dinner after if you want to. First dates are easy.

    • @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066
      @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 10 месяцев назад +4

      @@kirbyr558 sounds absolutely perfect!

    • @iphykelvin8698
      @iphykelvin8698 10 месяцев назад +2

      All the f time!

  • @nevertoolatewithnat
    @nevertoolatewithnat 10 месяцев назад +873

    During the pandemic I connected with someone online. That same day we decided to take a drive along the beach and listen to music. He bought me a bottle of water and we had the most amazing conversation.
    He invited me to brunch the very next day and the rest is history. Engaged after 1 year. Married in 2.
    If you’re actually looking for love, it can happen over two 50 cent bottles of water.
    Don’t get discouraged by wenches like this. People with this type of mentality are not a reason to give up on dating.

    • @samwallaceart288
      @samwallaceart288 10 месяцев назад +66

      My sister met her man by a random glitch on Facebook. After a year talking over the internet bill, they were each confident enough to travel halfway across the world both ways and stay with each other's families not even going out except to sight-see and introduce each other to friends.
      People who make rules about what dates they can go have a skill issue is what I'm saying

    • @solitary2
      @solitary2 10 месяцев назад +30

      “After a year talking over the internet bill” 😭😭😂😂

    • @njc119
      @njc119 10 месяцев назад +10

      ​@@solitary2what a way to connect, "internet bills" B R U H

    • @noonyabeezniss4911
      @noonyabeezniss4911 10 месяцев назад +7

      "Skill Issue" ahahahahahahahahahahhaha
      Such a great reference m8

    • @joye4632
      @joye4632 10 месяцев назад +29

      Where do they sell 50 cent water? I want to live there 😂

  • @robertlehane9955
    @robertlehane9955 9 месяцев назад +27

    Physical attraction is one thing, but being with someone who has an attitude, entitled and narcissistic is unattractive. The latter outweighs the former. Men put as much effort into dating, if not more than females. She is audtioning men every day of the week but doesn't like being auditioned herself! She has no insight into how she comes across or worse she does!

  • @asarishepard8171
    @asarishepard8171 8 месяцев назад +5

    The " cheap on Christmas" comment got me. Its like even as a casual dater they'll expect a pile of presents around the holiday. You're not engaged, you're not meeting the family so you'll take a small thoughtful gift and like it.

  • @abroadstateofmind5571
    @abroadstateofmind5571 10 месяцев назад +1763

    Met my wife on a Friday and ask her to meet me at Starbucks the next day. We sat and talked for hours!! After I realized I wanted to be with her I took her out to a nicer place every Friday after that and she always showed gratitude. She respected my pockets and never imposed and that’s how I knew she was raised well. These women out here are bums.

    • @clare_jordin
      @clare_jordin 10 месяцев назад +98

      this is how it should be!

    • @heathers7265
      @heathers7265 10 месяцев назад +102

      Yep, only go for women who are happy with the simple things in life. Not gold diggers.

    • @KeWats
      @KeWats 10 месяцев назад +38

      Bro Im with you,My girl a real one.Not on this mess.

    • @labitcoineragt3596
      @labitcoineragt3596 10 месяцев назад +62

      My husband was very chill as well. I didn’t care where we went because all I wanted to do was spend as much time with him as I could. We were both college students and broke. He’s very frugal and smart with his money but as the relationship progressed we did have our little “expensive” dates. I loved just walking around the beach with him, I loved watching the stars, a fantastic date doesn’t even have to cost money. We’re about to be 17 years married! Two kids and a life we never thought or at least it didn’t cross my mind then 😂. And he’s a pharmacist which made it even more hilarious as the girl was telling her pathetic story 😂
      She just missed out on a great guy from what it seems like. Her bad

    • @davighidetti8947
      @davighidetti8947 10 месяцев назад +7

      Yes. What's wrong with that bro just buy some coffee

  • @Alyrulz421
    @Alyrulz421 10 месяцев назад +1410

    The gross part about this is she might actually be running into nice men and ruining their image of women 😢

    • @babiijean11
      @babiijean11 10 месяцев назад +105

      I thought this same thing. Shameful.

    • @undertakerblaise256
      @undertakerblaise256 10 месяцев назад +66

      @@babiijean11it’s already ruined, can’t tell who’s new when everyone looks like a copy of you too.

    • @CaulkMongler
      @CaulkMongler 10 месяцев назад +169

      She says Red Pill men want to get away with cheap behavior, meanwhile she’s spewing forth rhetoric that *creates* more RP men.

    • @josejr.garcia2228
      @josejr.garcia2228 10 месяцев назад +40

      Sad but that’s not what men should be thinking. This is one woman. All you do is not date her. That’s it.

    • @CaulkMongler
      @CaulkMongler 10 месяцев назад +31

      @@josejr.garcia2228 the same can be said about the RP community though, “all you have to do is not dare them”. It doesn’t solve the issue that those kind of narratives are still being pushed and have too good of a grip on pop culture to be ignored.

  • @winston7397
    @winston7397 6 месяцев назад +7

    My happily married ass watching this over lunch: "Damn, streets are crazy"

    • @itsmikeam675
      @itsmikeam675 25 дней назад

      😂😂😂😂
      They really are

  • @Lordofmamas
    @Lordofmamas 4 месяца назад +5

    This is why she’s still single. Thinking you can’t find a decent guy on a coffee date is ridiculous.

  • @e30connoisseur
    @e30connoisseur 10 месяцев назад +681

    It’s funny how she legit proved his point on why coffee dates are good first dates. Not gonna spend $200 on you for you to go out with another dude the next day wtf💀

    • @Transit_my-way
      @Transit_my-way 10 месяцев назад +50

      Exactly

    • @zezeti2246
      @zezeti2246 10 месяцев назад +1

      These ho's just be telling on themselves😂

    • @e30connoisseur
      @e30connoisseur 10 месяцев назад +46

      @@Transit_my-way I’ve always said this, if she cares more about the monetary value of the date than the date itself, you know she’s not the one and you cut her off right there. A girl who is truly interested in getting to know YOU won’t care if it’s a coffee or a 5 star date…

    • @cleanchannel3029
      @cleanchannel3029 10 месяцев назад +14

      I'm sorry but we are supposed to roster date. Why should she just put all our eggs in one basket on one guy? I guarantee you men have multiple dates with women.

    • @fourtwo5619
      @fourtwo5619 10 месяцев назад

      @@cleanchannel3029that’s the point. Don’t spend to much money on a women that might not choose you in the end. I’ve been on plenty of cheap dates and there are a good amount of women who still appreciate them.

  • @rayspace6362
    @rayspace6362 10 месяцев назад +1137

    Also side note as a woman who LOVES makeup. Listen yeah, shits expensive but its so tiresome how these women wanna tell people they spent 250-300$ on makeup, a 100$ dress, used their 600$ Dyson to get their hair done. I know this is petty but those things.. are not a one time use product 😅😅 People who actually use skincare amd makeup often know it takes a while to go through it, so really did it cost 300 $ to get ready? or just a fraction of it. And bitch no one forced you to buy overpriced NARS creamy concealer. It's not like men would take her out and be like, "EW is that a Maybelline base product?? Naaah you broke af. Bye!"
    Be FR you know you buy all those things cuz YOU wanted to and YOU like them. Nothing wrong w that, but stop using ''I put on expensive makeup, perfume and clothes so you should spend 200$ on the first date'' as an excuse. And like Aba said you will never catch these women not looking put together when they're out w family or friends. And then they pay for their own stuff so why do the rules change when its a date? If you cheap and just want men to pay for stuff atleast be honest about that. Stop w the irrational justifications..

    • @hla0roo
      @hla0roo 10 месяцев назад +60

      Not just that. Any guy worth anything won't just roll up for a date without thinking about his appearance. He won't show up in a tux, but are we saying we don't have standards for men's appearance on dates? She cleans up nicely, and so does he. You gonna demand that he spend bank on top of that? This is just as objectifying as the guy who refuses to go out with anything less than a supermodel.

    • @manumaster1990
      @manumaster1990 10 месяцев назад +30

      makeup is a legalize lie. a western Burqa. is absolutely horrible.

    • @m.poppins4843
      @m.poppins4843 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@manumaster1990 mmh tbh thats an interesting take, never thought of it that way. Gonna meditate on that one.

    • @xshesyourqorqeousxx3
      @xshesyourqorqeousxx3 10 месяцев назад +13

      Hey! Leave Nars out of this 😂

    • @Aspire705
      @Aspire705 10 месяцев назад +5

      Have you met most women? Irrational justifications are kind of their thing.

  • @crankfastle3061
    @crankfastle3061 7 месяцев назад +10

    If you cannot handle me at Starbucks then you don’t deserve me at a reservation for Dorsia

    • @sciencecompliance235
      @sciencecompliance235 3 месяца назад +1

      If you'll excuse me, I need to return some video tapes.

  • @tiamoe9955
    @tiamoe9955 7 месяцев назад +6

    It’s not even that preach she said “places I wanted to try.”
    Basically trying food on someone’s else wallet.
    Plus I don’t even tell them sometimes. The question alone will filter the ladies out.
    “Where would you prefer?”
    Why does the place matter? The only reason we are talking is because we’re on a dating app not a sugar daddy app.

  • @narksdashark7591
    @narksdashark7591 10 месяцев назад +797

    She's literally treating Dinner dates like a Business, She literally sends them a list of restaurants and uses words like Audition.

    • @j0fiz986
      @j0fiz986 10 месяцев назад

      She has a predetermined list of restaurants she wants to go to and is using men to go to each one for free. She is truly disgusting

    • @somesomesomesomereason5055
      @somesomesomesomereason5055 10 месяцев назад +44

      Yeah that’s nuts. If you ain’t trying to meet me for coffee, the gym, drinks or ice cream we good

    • @MusMasi
      @MusMasi 10 месяцев назад +40

      @@somesomesomesomereason5055 the gym is my kind of sacred place, i try to avoid dating women I meet there and I would never take one there on a first date, maybe only a girl friend. Things go south I dont like running into them a lot, also some be crazy and resentful sometimes.

    • @andremotivation6561
      @andremotivation6561 10 месяцев назад

      thats what gold@#$% do

    • @horushyperion76
      @horushyperion76 10 месяцев назад +10

      You know what I actually cool with the restaurants list because then I don't have to try to figure what she like or not and whether she would like the place and decorum.
      I am fine with her doing that thing.

  • @tnsxpm
    @tnsxpm 10 месяцев назад +446

    imagine making a "safety" argument then immediately saying you would rather long encounters at night with strangers than short encounters during regular business hours 💀

    • @joshuaagbettor5610
      @joshuaagbettor5610 10 месяцев назад +75

      And having multiple dates of this kind with different men in the same week. The moment that she goes out with multiple men in such a short time the higher her chances of running into a dangerous man.

    • @josejr.garcia2228
      @josejr.garcia2228 10 месяцев назад +28

      Also, if you’re really worried about a man like that, don’t go on the date.

    • @piraat070
      @piraat070 10 месяцев назад

      She calls men cheap yet begs for fancy dinner dates. You cant make this up. 304s belong in the trash s/o to the good women

    • @tnsxpm
      @tnsxpm 10 месяцев назад +42

      @@joshuaagbettor5610 that part killed me bruh the "it's dangerous" into the "i went out w 3 strangers this week" combo is crazy work

    • @fashionablyrude4339
      @fashionablyrude4339 10 месяцев назад

      This is exactly how I knew she was full of shit and she was lying about this entire encounter. She’s contradicting herself badly. I think women who do this for clout just want a bunch of followers

  • @L0neW0lfMindset-escap3
    @L0neW0lfMindset-escap3 2 месяца назад +3

    she says he makes 150k a yr and cant take her to dinner but the reason that guy she talking abt still got money is bc he dont entertain girls like her, the irony

  • @ccurrie9672
    @ccurrie9672 3 месяца назад +3

    A coffee is good enough to judge if you like someone to take it to dinner and forward. Doesn't take up too much time for either party and is public and casual and safe. She needs to get over herself she is attractive but I doubt she had 5 men chasing her at the same time.

  • @frankvisser4617
    @frankvisser4617 10 месяцев назад +1103

    If she won't accept a coffeedate, that's all I need to know about her.

    • @barefoot_ty
      @barefoot_ty 10 месяцев назад +8

      would you accept a coffee date as the first date ?

    • @nightfighter7452
      @nightfighter7452 10 месяцев назад +199

      ​@tysonhorton977 yes bud, that was the point of them making the comment

    • @kenslycarpel3140
      @kenslycarpel3140 10 месяцев назад +134

      ​@@barefoot_tyI don't see why not. It's a good setting, allows conversation since you won't be focused too much on eating, plus, it's cheap, so if things don't work out, at least you didn't blow over 100 bucks.

    • @OseiTheWarriors
      @OseiTheWarriors 10 месяцев назад +61

      ​@@barefoot_tyYes, it's the first date you don't know if you'll mesh with a person IRL so a simple date is best

    • @Ash_Wen-li
      @Ash_Wen-li 10 месяцев назад +89

      ​@@barefoot_tyYou really thought you had a point here?

  • @JevonMusicGroup
    @JevonMusicGroup 10 месяцев назад +566

    If she was really concerned about her safety, she wouldn't be manipulating men into foodie calls.

    • @Ash_Wen-li
      @Ash_Wen-li 10 месяцев назад +111

      Coffee dates (which are typically during the day) are relatively safe. Way safer than clubbing or going out for dinner at night

    • @adrianchatman5734
      @adrianchatman5734 10 месяцев назад +84

      This.....if she's in such fear for her life, why is she interacting with men any more than necessary? She needs to get the F outta here with this....

    • @fightsportspace7327
      @fightsportspace7327 10 месяцев назад +51

      If she has this much contempt for men, she’s probably better off dating women.
      But we all know she won’t, because women won’t put up with her BS “standards”. And she’ll have to split the bill

    • @AlexanderSkinnerVids
      @AlexanderSkinnerVids 10 месяцев назад +32

      Weaponized victimhood. 😵‍💫

    • @churchhide
      @churchhide 10 месяцев назад +2

      THat Part

  • @Jimjam482
    @Jimjam482 4 месяца назад +3

    As a woman I was never into a coffee date but definitely drink or something light. Casual is the way to go to chat laugh instead of eating. KEEP it casual guys until it’s like the 3rd date and you now really like her and she shows you genuine interest not just a meal plan

  • @Benji-ig6xw
    @Benji-ig6xw 7 месяцев назад +4

    I remember getting called "a loser" coz I asked a girl out to get some coffee was kinda embarrassed but I'm sure I'll meet somebody who wants to grab a coffee and stroll around.

  • @nonamejoe9311
    @nonamejoe9311 10 месяцев назад +728

    She literally proves why you take em out on coffee dates

    • @tomboyraider1015
      @tomboyraider1015 9 месяцев назад +24

      Or literally ANY date for that matter lol

    • @deniseberman8633
      @deniseberman8633 9 месяцев назад

      She’s trying to sound like the voice of reason but here she is still single. Just wants expensive meals at fancy restaurants so she can brag. Boring!

    • @Gia-mg5nx
      @Gia-mg5nx 8 месяцев назад +21

      Coffee is no insult. Many coffee places are more expensive than restaurants. The coffee scene is great. Coffee houses have different settings and themes.

    • @ninairish763
      @ninairish763 6 месяцев назад +5

      Why would anyone just drop a bunch of money on someone they just met? People need to settle down and stop being so needy and greedy from the start.

    • @rattgod
      @rattgod 6 месяцев назад

      @@Gia-mg5nxpersonally for me, a coffee date is wack af sounding and that’s my preference. If men don’t wanna accept that, they’re entitled to that. It’s really not that deep. Move the fuck on, there’s billions of women who are willing to accept that.

  • @afrominded
    @afrominded 10 месяцев назад +1489

    As an introvert, I honestly think coffee dates in public are SO MUCH BETTER! There is less pressure and I feel like you can get some really deep conversations going. Or is it just me? 😂 Like I already hate going out so I just want things to be simple haha

    • @nandemqadi104
      @nandemqadi104 10 месяцев назад +73

      You're not alone!🤝🏾

    • @Guest2022_
      @Guest2022_ 10 месяцев назад +26

      Same that’s three now.

    • @Faithandseekerofchrist
      @Faithandseekerofchrist 10 месяцев назад +58

      I feel the same way! If it doesn’t go any further, at least I only spent a couple of dollars! I also pay for my coffee and I am a woman. Going out to eat at a fancy restaurant is a lot of pressure especially on a first date! That is something you do when you are in a relationship and a marriage and even then rare occasions… Take me to any coffee shop or to a fast food restaurant.

    • @lawsattitude1999
      @lawsattitude1999 10 месяцев назад +18

      Yeah. A place with a fair amount of people but it's not too noisy.

    • @sebastianjurado1600
      @sebastianjurado1600 10 месяцев назад +17

      It is even more secure for both of the parties

  • @Dog_in_tree
    @Dog_in_tree 21 день назад +1

    "Talking to you for hours for an $8. There it is. She admits that she's not interested in a relationship, she just wants to be bought. She couldn't have made it any clearer.
    You know what women who expect to be paid for companionship are called?...

  • @snapdragoon1236
    @snapdragoon1236 7 месяцев назад +6

    I hate the implication that men aren’t in danger when they go out with women. For one guns and knives exist so physical prowess is not everything and for two if a woman wants to ruin a man’s life all she has to do is be alone with him for 30 minutes at some point and then claim he raped her and boom youve taken a man’s job, friends, family, pretty much everything except for objects he already owns but socially he’s screwed until he moves across the country and tell a lie is way easier than killing someone

    • @sciencecompliance235
      @sciencecompliance235 3 месяца назад +1

      Men are much more likely to hurt women than women are likely to hurt men. She was wrong about a lot but not necessarily that.

    • @snapdragoon1236
      @snapdragoon1236 3 месяца назад

      @@sciencecompliance235 men are also much more likely to be victims of violent crimes

    • @sciencecompliance235
      @sciencecompliance235 3 месяца назад +1

      @@snapdragoon1236 By other men. Going on a date is riskier for the woman, hands down. I don't know why you would even try to argue otherwise.

    • @snapdragoon1236
      @snapdragoon1236 3 месяца назад +1

      @@sciencecompliance235 bc in e every situation that I have personally witnessed where there is an altercation between a man and a woman the woman hit that man and the man gets in trouble or nothing happens at all to the woman. So I believe that if the number were adjusted to reflect how many how many men don’t report being assaulted and how many women either falsely report men or how many men get blamed for something a woman starts then the numbers would be pretty similar

  • @MyNameIsNotEmail.ItsEmail
    @MyNameIsNotEmail.ItsEmail 10 месяцев назад +573

    Anyone notice that she had a list of restaurants that she "wanted to try"? When I hear of a restaurant that I want to try, I go try it like an adult. Instead of trying to con a stranger into taking me.

    • @reikun86
      @reikun86 10 месяцев назад +33

      I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s been to those places before.

    • @DelrenGaming
      @DelrenGaming 10 месяцев назад +17

      First try spots are reserved for family, friends, or myself. Never have and never will try a spot that neither of us have been to for the first time on a first date.

    • @memebzk5001
      @memebzk5001 10 месяцев назад +4

      I agree, however, let's not act like men don't get up here and shame women for dating themselves. As soon as she takes herself out..they go..."that's what's wrong with females, that never let a man take them out!"

    • @shaquilleedwards8635
      @shaquilleedwards8635 10 месяцев назад +31

      ​@@memebzk5001I can assure you that no male cares if a women goes out by herself lol.

    • @MyNameIsNotEmail.ItsEmail
      @MyNameIsNotEmail.ItsEmail 10 месяцев назад +18

      @@memebzk5001 WTF says that? I have NEVER heard a man say that about a woman feeding herself.

  • @ghostboy929
    @ghostboy929 10 месяцев назад +490

    If you have to throw on $200 worth of makeup on to look good there's a problem.

    • @sarahrean7174
      @sarahrean7174 10 месяцев назад +12

      A huge one how is possible 😮

    • @praetorian3902
      @praetorian3902 10 месяцев назад +3

      Mid lol

    • @MrClbrown33
      @MrClbrown33 10 месяцев назад +38

      Glad you said it. If you have to wear a bunch of makeup and hair and nails and lip plumper, etc.... then you prolly not as beautiful as you think we are. Men have to wear our actual faces out in public, we don't get to hide behind a fake face.

    • @jasminejanelle1228
      @jasminejanelle1228 10 месяцев назад

      😂😂😂

    • @proplayer341
      @proplayer341 10 месяцев назад +1

      Ding ding ding!!

  • @jxjohnson6437
    @jxjohnson6437 7 месяцев назад +5

    She said 1/5 men are crazy that not that dangerous, I will also say this I hate when women especially black woman do this cause they get stereotyped into being single, lonely, and bitter, this makes them seem less attractive to the masses when that’s just not the case

  • @vivii794
    @vivii794 5 месяцев назад +2

    What BS! I'm a swedish, older woman. Both my daughter and son, have spouses that work just as much as them and at home they both do equal tasks. If one was home, taking care of children, then they would rearrange that.

  • @JustinTimeJLew
    @JustinTimeJLew 10 месяцев назад +898

    She is the reason why I tell my bros not to tell women their occupation. As an engineer, you can literally see the silver dollar eyes when you mention it and you just become a meal ticket in their eyes

    • @ChimChimChums
      @ChimChimChums 10 месяцев назад +152

      That's why some people only dates people in their social circles...

    • @rumiesun.
      @rumiesun. 10 месяцев назад +76

      we engineers don't even make that much money :) (bridge engineer here)

    • @vincemack2042
      @vincemack2042 10 месяцев назад +23

      Women love a man in uniform, and it ain't because you look nice. My uniform baggy as hell, but they "know" what I do and I notice the attention.

    • @3arhodes
      @3arhodes 10 месяцев назад +48

      I would think you would want to tell them up front what your occupation is. That ways you'll see the signs and move on faster. Versus getting invested just to find out her true moral character. Being upfront reduces wasting your time. If she not of moral character you move on; till you find someone who is.

    • @kurtbautista2028
      @kurtbautista2028 10 месяцев назад +5

      Too I remember I used to watch you around 2018 during my waves journey. Didn’t know you were an engineer! Good looks.

  • @kermainejelly
    @kermainejelly 10 месяцев назад +345

    We forget the root of dating is. It's not flexing. It's "do I find them compatible and do I wanna spend more time with them?" Coffee is perfect. Hell...a walk is perfect lol

    • @alphaalembe9701
      @alphaalembe9701 8 месяцев назад +12

      I totally agree, my fiancé and I went on a walk and ice cream for our first date. We spoke for hours and really enjoyed each other’s company. The best part, there was no pressure on either of us… from there on, he’s only been taking me to expensive dinners and outings… I think expensive dinners and stuff should be for committed relationships … it’s just more fun when you can chat about that experience later on

  • @dalehoward3704
    @dalehoward3704 6 месяцев назад +3

    Whaaaa? Coffee dates are SAFE in my opinion!!! I agree with you guys❤. As far as the makeup/maintenance thing, you're supposed to do that for YOURSELF❗

  • @brokenwideopen
    @brokenwideopen 2 месяца назад +1

    On the flip side of this, men who lead with money before they have a reason to invest in the relationship are cringe. This weekend I had an older man demanding to know how much I make and asking me and my friends if he knows any women who want a man with a lot of money. In a rural dive bar, no less. Leading with money, wanting access to someone else’s or giving it to someone who is a perfect stranger, just comes off as disingenuous and transactional. If your money is the only “good” quality you possess, I’m running.

  • @a.greywolfe4056
    @a.greywolfe4056 10 месяцев назад +574

    Love how these women try to flex about dating wealthy men but NONE of them are even remotely trying to be in a relationship

    • @GullyFella
      @GullyFella 10 месяцев назад +100

      Dating all these wealthy many but still single? i wonder why

    • @secretceo6491
      @secretceo6491 10 месяцев назад

      RUclips just sent me a survey in regards to your comment. They had a few options to choose from, which included “misappropriate”. I noted that it was “informative”. They out here trying to control the narrative. People need to stop being soft and let the comment section breathe. Keep doing your thing.

    • @audreyagbodjan5338
      @audreyagbodjan5338 10 месяцев назад +15

      Some people see dating as an experience

    • @playitpurple007
      @playitpurple007 10 месяцев назад

      @@audreyagbodjan5338as a cash grab experience

    • @Fontanat
      @Fontanat 10 месяцев назад +9

      They’re coping

  • @quiensabenada
    @quiensabenada 9 месяцев назад +255

    “he makes 130k a year” yea, for him. it’s his money. the entitlement people have towards other peoples money is crazy. looks come and go but character is forever

    • @OffMetaGang
      @OffMetaGang 4 месяца назад

      "people" dont do this.......only women. Men dont even have the option to do this. lmao.

    • @Mark-se4dr
      @Mark-se4dr 4 месяца назад +6

      What's really funny is they'll have standards for random single guys, but preselected/taken/married guys always get tempted by them for free lol.....funny how that works.

    • @herrpdurrp
      @herrpdurrp 4 месяца назад +3

      Also, imagine if he's playing the field going out on dates 3 times per week like her. And he's gotta pay for $200 dinners every time? That's like a mortgage payment on food.

  • @AthleticEducation
    @AthleticEducation 7 месяцев назад +9

    This reminds me of last year in November when I was staying in Vancouver for work for 6 weeks. I matched with this girl on hinge. And we’re talking and I tell her yea I’m in Vancouver for work. But I asked her out. And she agrees. Day of the date comes, she asks me if I’m picking her up. And I say “no I’ll be walking to the location I sent her cause I’m only in Vancouver for work and I don’t have my car” and she says to me “oh sorry something came up” upon seeing the message I unmatched from hinge and unfollowed her from instagram and removed her from following me.

  • @N_Loco_Parenthesis
    @N_Loco_Parenthesis 25 дней назад +2

    You have to text your friend to let her know you haven't been beheaded?!
    What kind of restaurants is she going to?

  • @davidrichins6495
    @davidrichins6495 9 месяцев назад +276

    The problem is she described three different dates and never once even commented on the most important part of the date, how they got along as people. Shes not looking for a relationship, shes looking for an optimal transaction.

    • @proverbalizer
      @proverbalizer 7 месяцев назад +31

      Bingo. Mentioned their careers, and what they bought her. End of story

    • @MrZBlackneffect
      @MrZBlackneffect 7 месяцев назад +20

      This is not about love, compatibility, connection or any of that... This is about lifestyle, and what man can provide the most extravagant lifestyle. In the minds of women like this, men are not human beings, men are human doings.

    • @Mark-se4dr
      @Mark-se4dr 4 месяца назад +4

      What's really funny is they'll have standards for random single guys, but preselected/taken/married guys always get tempted by them for free lol.....funny how that works.

    • @flowerbloom5782
      @flowerbloom5782 4 месяца назад

      I don’t know how she feels entitled to luxury. I felt so bad when I get someone pay for the meal. I try to pay for meals or at least be extremely grateful or try to pay them back cause treating people like wallets is so dehumanizing. wtf is she on?
      If I can I would love to offer myself to go to place and pay for myself or other person. Just cause I would like to show my gratitude.

    • @hendrixjoe555
      @hendrixjoe555 4 месяца назад

      I'd say free food cause with transaction implies both people are sharing resources.

  • @ihuomaotika2656
    @ihuomaotika2656 10 месяцев назад +466

    Imagine passing up a responsible pharmacist because of a free meal 😂

    • @alexis-marie_9920
      @alexis-marie_9920 10 месяцев назад +77

      imagine passing up free medicine because of a meal 😂

    • @willardmatsaudza3101
      @willardmatsaudza3101 10 месяцев назад +35

      @@alexis-marie_9920bruh that coulda been her plug she coulda made hella bread 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @nickodemusjohnson
      @nickodemusjohnson 10 месяцев назад +2

      ​@alexis-marie_9920 Yoooo great comment!😂

    • @melindaroop1346
      @melindaroop1346 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@alexis-marie_9920😂😂😂 💯

    • @alisalindsey8311
      @alisalindsey8311 10 месяцев назад +18

      Small minds do small things🤷🏾

  • @PrometheusVsLegion
    @PrometheusVsLegion 2 месяца назад +1

    She don't audition. Its offer only.😆

  • @fitzwilliams4215
    @fitzwilliams4215 13 дней назад +1

    She talk about spending on herself to look good for the date like the guy just throws on some t-shirt and slippers and smells like crap 😂

  • @znail4675
    @znail4675 10 месяцев назад +387

    She made a great video explaining why coffee dates are the way to go as not only does it save money, but it also screens out women like her.

    • @coffeehousedialogue5684
      @coffeehousedialogue5684 10 месяцев назад +9

      Right? I ain't spending $200 on a woman I don't even know that well

    • @maltheri9833
      @maltheri9833 10 месяцев назад +6

      ​@@coffeehousedialogue5684Don't spend 200 on any woman. When was th last time you went out and just spent 200 dollars on luxuries for yourself? Guys will often do less for themselves and do the most for women. Always a bad idea

    • @coffeehousedialogue5684
      @coffeehousedialogue5684 10 месяцев назад

      @@maltheri9833 Eh, you know what I mean. It's a little much for a first date. One of the more expensive things I buy for myself is additional books and some hardware (electronic or otherwise) to tinker with. Unless the gal I date is one I am in it with for the long haul and we went out for at least two years, the most expensive place I would go with her is Friday's or Applebee's, and that is months after we make it official. Cheesecake Factory? That would celebrate the third anniversary, if we go there at all.

    • @Seznumerouno
      @Seznumerouno 10 месяцев назад

      ​​@@coffeehousedialogue5684or on someone who will never appreciate it anyway !

  • @kahok5ownage
    @kahok5ownage 10 месяцев назад +316

    I love women that are so upfront like this. It saves me a ton of time and energy.

    • @Nomnomnom165
      @Nomnomnom165 10 месяцев назад +17

      i was gonna comment this as well. This should be encouraged so I don't have to waste my time or money

    • @kahok5ownage
      @kahok5ownage 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@Nomnomnom165 exactly. If this what you want, a transactional relationship, cool. We all set boundaries, this is one of mine. Buh-bye

    • @vl4eva
      @vl4eva 10 месяцев назад +1

      If only they were ALL Alike that

    • @katice3
      @katice3 10 месяцев назад +7

      Shes saving her time and energy too lol

    • @chrisd9229
      @chrisd9229 10 месяцев назад +1

      And money

  • @Jesi-g
    @Jesi-g 8 месяцев назад +2

    15:46 😂 ok, ok, but for me only at a wedding do i want to secure a date😂😅

  • @eleia4521
    @eleia4521 3 месяца назад +3

    I never understood why women in the west expect the men to pay for their hair and nails. That was one of my culture shocks moving from the Philippines to the USA. They would belittle women from our country who marry western men and label them gold diggers or only marrying for money as if they are any different. They are worse.

  • @RileyByrdFlock
    @RileyByrdFlock 9 месяцев назад +223

    A lot of women say "dating" but seem to mean tricking. If the goal is not to find a partner, then you're out there selling yourself for a meal. So live that truth, but dont try dressing it up as something it's not

    • @LifesGood-nu6rd
      @LifesGood-nu6rd 8 месяцев назад +7

      Facts!!!

    • @igbokwenu4934
      @igbokwenu4934 5 месяцев назад +4

      Bingo 🎉🎉🎉

    • @Ireallycantthinkofahandle
      @Ireallycantthinkofahandle 5 месяцев назад +5

      Fucking hell yes! That part. Just own what you really are and deal with the consequences or blessings. I think these kind of people would find more happiness in their lives if they just decide to be honest with them selves first and then go from there. Shit you don’t even have to try to change to be abetter person it would be nice but don’t try to finesse people, lie to them, gaslight them, use them and discard them.

    • @Eshkanama
      @Eshkanama 4 месяца назад +1

      Tell it girl

  • @TheWeebinar
    @TheWeebinar 10 месяцев назад +877

    Not gonna lie, I love it when women say things like this because they're clearly signalling to me that it's time to move on to a different person. Entitlement coupled with unrealistic standards is easily one of the most unsexy and repulsive combinations regardless of gender.

    • @av4781
      @av4781 10 месяцев назад +17

      You just described most men, lol

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv 10 месяцев назад +140

      @@av4781 Maybe only the men that you attract. You should ask yourself why that is.

    • @staywoke6590
      @staywoke6590 10 месяцев назад +57

      ​@Aaron-kj8dv bro I'm saying lmfaooo they never wanna have that conversation though

    • @Butterflyyyxoxo
      @Butterflyyyxoxo 10 месяцев назад +13

      Well perhaps if the men weren't dating women just for their looks then this wouldn't be an issue. Can't have it both ways. If men try to lean on when dating is their wallet no one should be surprised when the women sees men as a wallet. It's an equal exchange.

    • @WolfamongSheep626
      @WolfamongSheep626 10 месяцев назад +51

      The internet has become a place for mainly women to self snitch on themselves because they tend to use it as a diary way more than men. And I love it you can put her in a category before the first date even happens.

  • @michaelmitchel3471
    @michaelmitchel3471 2 месяца назад +1

    Notice how she justifies the place you take her using makeup. She is dressing up for the food, not for you.

  • @SuriR94
    @SuriR94 5 месяцев назад +3

    Lol I'm 29 and I don't even know what a cocktail is

  • @Shiroyashasama
    @Shiroyashasama 10 месяцев назад +456

    I’ll forever be baffled by the men that take woman like this out. If a girl sends me a list of restaurants I’m sending her a list of trash bins in the city

    • @someone-ji2zb
      @someone-ji2zb 10 месяцев назад

      Well the simple answer is sex.
      The sad answer is that most men just want to be married, and the options for a reasonable woman in the west are now low. Not saying men haven't gotten worse as well, but at least men have remained stagnant in regards to what they want to marry. Women have essentially chosen to marry high value or die single.

    • @danielhall6578
      @danielhall6578 10 месяцев назад +23

      thats a good one there. Imma keep that in mind if that happens to me

    • @Bigpanda0721
      @Bigpanda0721 10 месяцев назад +18

      Nah this was the best response, I’m use this too for sure😂.

    • @sharonlee2270
      @sharonlee2270 10 месяцев назад +14

      Can't stop laughing

    • @Maniahg
      @Maniahg 10 месяцев назад +28

      Not saying she ain't trash, but the guy she was texting did ask her what kinda places she prefers

  • @RaisinBran-ir4iq
    @RaisinBran-ir4iq 9 месяцев назад +263

    The pharmacist was brilliant...he weeded her out without even paying for her coffee!

  • @alejandrogranados7352
    @alejandrogranados7352 9 месяцев назад +2

    Every best interaction has been with women who have suggested coffee of boba “dates” weather it was somebody who turned out to be a friend or more than that, everybody who had suggested a fancy dinner or what have you, ended up being kinda meh and only talked about money or voting things… honestly head/bjs from them aren’t worth the boredom and sense of dread that comes with those people…

  • @toukyang4457
    @toukyang4457 8 месяцев назад +1

    And here she is auditioning 3 other men

  • @MissNancyLondon
    @MissNancyLondon 9 месяцев назад +316

    Girl!! How many hours are you sinking into people you’re meeting with for the first time…? The fact that she has that much free time is in itself a red flag. It screams unemployment.

    • @tobiaslawrence8928
      @tobiaslawrence8928 9 месяцев назад +49

      She has an onlyfans and an IG model. She makes money but she prefers to spend someone else's money.

    • @rasheedgriffith3169
      @rasheedgriffith3169 8 месяцев назад

      I dont think whore is a real job title.

    • @jasoncruz19800
      @jasoncruz19800 6 месяцев назад

      Onlyfans makes her undateble for obvious, basic ethical or monogamous reasons. She's a prostitute then. I once went out for coffee with a OF girl, had sex with her, never called her again. Sorry but they aren't capable of anything beyond sex, due to their own lifestyle choice. And it'll forever be that way

    • @pezchef7577
      @pezchef7577 5 месяцев назад +6

      serious question. what's the difference between these types of self proclaimed high value person and gold diggers? is it a nuance difference?

    • @At0micWh1skey
      @At0micWh1skey 5 месяцев назад +3

      ​@pezchef7577 no they are the same thing disguised.

  • @sonia__green
    @sonia__green 10 месяцев назад +430

    I literally saw this on TikTok and asked if it was fair to expect all of this from men on a first date. I got so much backlash I thought I was the delusional one. Glad to know I wasn't

    • @t.k.1319
      @t.k.1319 10 месяцев назад +101

      That’s because TikTok is a more insulated echo chamber than every other social media platform.

    • @yvettegrier3643
      @yvettegrier3643 9 месяцев назад +17

      You were absolutely on point!

    • @louisxiiii
      @louisxiiii 9 месяцев назад +46

      The real question is what kind of woman would want to spend 1-2 hours at a fancy dinner with someone she doesn't even know she likes? When I was dating, women of worth - intelligent, sincere, positive women who had a good life NEVER wanted to go for dinner, never even for drinks, always coffee/tea, because they didn't want to wste their time.

    • @mcp8063
      @mcp8063 9 месяцев назад +17

      there's hoards of delusional women who rely on exploiting the dating system and men in general to live the way they do, by speaking the truth you threatened their way of life, its like exposing a politician for being corrupt, suddenly they frantically fight back against it

    • @tellesu
      @tellesu 8 месяцев назад +8

      You threatened their free shit pipeline and they hit you with shock and awe

  • @Kholoured
    @Kholoured 5 месяцев назад +1

    100% agree. I prefer low key dates ive soo many men take me somewhere expensive and get upset when i go to leave. They literlly think they are owed. I know pay for my meal and always go somewhere uber popular and crowded during the day. No more night time dinner dates on friday/Saturday night. Nope day time on like a tuesday after wks of talking... and i refuse to let the man pay

  • @LifesGood-nu6rd
    @LifesGood-nu6rd 8 месяцев назад +2

    Homie dodged a bullet

  • @lazyenthusiasm9891
    @lazyenthusiasm9891 10 месяцев назад +407

    I really appreciate these females self reporting like this. It helps us not waste time or money on them.

    • @incogspectator3042
      @incogspectator3042 10 месяцев назад

      E-Except...there are far to many d-dumbasses that still do 😂😆.

    • @T3Enno
      @T3Enno 10 месяцев назад

      which it was the case but she still got took out 3 days in a row

  • @ajtaylor8750
    @ajtaylor8750 10 месяцев назад +936

    She made it seem like being on a date with a man who is a pharmacist is an L. Those men make a great salary, and coffee dates are a way to really gage the woman's interest in you as a man. Sorry that I won't spend a fortune on you when I barely know you.

    • @T.H.E.O.R.Y.
      @T.H.E.O.R.Y. 10 месяцев назад +55

      She meant she expected more from the pharmacist since he was one. She wasn't looking down on him.

    • @Demonsouls1993
      @Demonsouls1993 10 месяцев назад +30

      they dont make the money she wants to take from them she belongs to the streets

    • @mrbruv03
      @mrbruv03 10 месяцев назад +14

      It’s so often that the people who aren’t willing to sacrifice or give the absolute least who want the absolute most. It’s such a shame.

    • @joanacosta5385
      @joanacosta5385 10 месяцев назад +46

      @@T.H.E.O.R.Y. If you based a date on where someone invites you, you'll go to the most fancy places and always will complain to not find someone who really values you. (sorry for my English)

    • @SeamoosesFTW
      @SeamoosesFTW 10 месяцев назад

      The ones spending that high end hooker money on this chick probably ain’t even getting none at the end 😂

  • @kijanamzee1787
    @kijanamzee1787 2 месяца назад +1

    This is a classic example why single women keep other women single

  • @jmiller7895
    @jmiller7895 2 месяца назад

    she plain as hell she had all those dates but sits alone complaining she wasnt good enough for those men

  • @NewtonSparetire
    @NewtonSparetire 10 месяцев назад +150

    Imagine trying to get money out of a stranger and feeling entitled to it.

    • @Andy-xx3tt
      @Andy-xx3tt 8 месяцев назад

      It’s giving hooker tbh. If all she wants is a sugar daddy, then she should just say that. I have more respect for actual hookers, sugar babies, gold diggers, etc. that are *honest* about their expectations than I do for women like her who think they’re entitled to other people’s money but get so offended if you call it out for what it is. She’s pathetic and her ass is either going to be alone forever or trapped in a miserable marriage to someone equally shallow because she clearly values money over all else.

  • @FA_C0N
    @FA_C0N 10 месяцев назад +102

    society: The worst thing a woman can say is no.
    The Woman: *makes a tiktok about you over a coffee date*

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv 10 месяцев назад +17

      (Some) Women: I'm afraid I could get murdered
      The same woman: Let's meet at night in a dark area and then if things don't go my way I'll publicly humiliate you on social media

    • @HARwinsOUTagain
      @HARwinsOUTagain 10 месяцев назад +3

      💯
      Cheesecake Factory dude got his face and inside his own car blasted all over social media.

  • @geoffreythomson5886
    @geoffreythomson5886 5 месяцев назад +1

    thx for the vid. i enjoy the channel greatly.not being in the dating pool any longer,im relieved i dont have to play these games.i feel sorry for the fellas today.seems like such ah mine field of missteps, and judgement.

  • @user-vt9fd1fd5b
    @user-vt9fd1fd5b 4 месяца назад +1

    Aint no need to spend money on a date. Its a date. Youre supposed to be getting to know each other.

  • @carmensoliz7748
    @carmensoliz7748 10 месяцев назад +483

    She is the kind of woman that turn good men into assholes.
    I'm from Mexico, here we are in danger FOR REAL and I can tell you that going on dates with strangers one after the other just to have a good dinner isn't the best way to take care of yourself. Build your relationships from friendship.

    • @MisyeDiVre
      @MisyeDiVre 10 месяцев назад

      How does it make you feel that women like this are the de facto spokespersons for women's issues?

    • @bos3835
      @bos3835 9 месяцев назад +9

      Well said!

    • @kingmelanin7468
      @kingmelanin7468 9 месяцев назад +1

      This is also why your marriage rates are higher, divorce rates lower, and family unions are tighter.
      Although there are safe cities/people in all "3rd world" countries, the risks are too high to be out dating so liberally.
      I mean, 3 dates in 3 days w/ new men??? Bruv, she would be trafficked or decomposed by the time her body was discovered.

  • @dii_ea
    @dii_ea 6 месяцев назад +1

    Train up a child in the way he/she should go: and when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it...

  • @JonelleRheu
    @JonelleRheu 6 месяцев назад +2

    Not her quoting “as for me and my house” from the Bible on some high standards. Girl bye 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Almsavi
    @Almsavi 10 месяцев назад +218

    She’s basically an unpaid escort. She’s spending all this money on herself to go out with random dudes and making the dude justify her spending habits.
    If money is such an issue for her and women like her maybe they shouldn’t be going out on dates if it’s that financially taxing without them even having to spend a dime on the date itself.

    • @J03LM1
      @J03LM1 10 месяцев назад +8

      Don't believe for a second that she's spending a whole bunch of money. Make up is expensive but they put on the make that they already bought. They're not going out and buying make up specifically for a date.
      You think they go out and buy a whole new set of make up every date??? Lol.
      THEY'RE LYING!!!!

    • @pranc236
      @pranc236 10 месяцев назад +1

      Talking you out of your money is easier in her mind.

    • @paulkaehn6203
      @paulkaehn6203 10 месяцев назад

      I've been with a girl like this. Truth is women like that are SAD as fuck 80% of the time.

    • @pistolpete8231
      @pistolpete8231 10 месяцев назад

      Not "she"
      "They" for a lot of women these days

    • @mera8785
      @mera8785 10 месяцев назад +2

      Shes not unpaid. She gets a fancy dinner 😂

  • @poincianacouponing1622
    @poincianacouponing1622 10 месяцев назад +503

    She is being ridiculous. A coffee date has to be the perfect first date.
    1) You can get up and leave whenever things go left.
    2) Everything is cheap so you can pay for yourself if you choose to cut it short.
    3) it’s a comfortable setting
    4) who doesn’t love cafes?

    • @matthewwilson5019
      @matthewwilson5019 10 месяцев назад +95

      you forgot one thing, with coffee dates you can actually talk and have conversions, while a dinner date its hard as your eating and trying to talk

    • @Ariesphunk
      @Ariesphunk 10 месяцев назад +48

      Not to mention she could still “dress up” or dress casual. Like you said it’s the perfect date. The possibilities are endless.

    • @adamdobrowolski2510
      @adamdobrowolski2510 10 месяцев назад +30

      Cafe is always my go-to for first date. She can get coffee/tea or food. We can talk while we wait in line to order to get a feel for each other. We can pay up front so we can amicably leave if it's not working out. And most importantly, it's a more comfortable environment to get to know each other without some pretense of him spending and/or her putting out.
      It's a first date, after all! But some GOTTA be extra about it.

    • @cahe6161
      @cahe6161 10 месяцев назад +1

      Never understood what people saw in cofee for it's consumption to be so common

    • @taylorlibby7642
      @taylorlibby7642 10 месяцев назад +3

      Dude, I'm left handed. Things always go left for me.

  • @samljer
    @samljer 4 месяца назад

    You may look at coffee dates as an audition, but a 5 star restaurant is seen as a free meal.

  • @KnightlyScarlet
    @KnightlyScarlet 5 месяцев назад +1

    I was just talking about this with someone the other day..... In the US and In Canada/ UK AU.... it seems like the dating pool is very date around.... people date multiple people at once and ask to "go steady"
    I've never understood it... If I choose to date a guy it means I'm interested. I expect to be the only girl on his "dance card" because he's the only one on mine when I make the choice to come to that date. If I'm not, then I will either walk away or talk to him and try to clear up the misunderstanding.
    To make it clear for the over dramatics reading this who have difficulty comprehending. I'm saying it doesn't make sense when women do it either.

  • @mrbruv03
    @mrbruv03 10 месяцев назад +357

    “What’s in it for us” is enough for me to just straight up cut off and block not just any girl out of my life, but people in general. It’s good to look out for yourself don’t get me wrong but there’s a difference between that and only prioritizing yourself. Some of the best advice I can give is to straight up ignore and cut anyone out who is like that.

    • @tobiaslawrence8928
      @tobiaslawrence8928 10 месяцев назад +28

      I bet she's one of those people that post on her socials on "why finding love is hard" or " Love in this generation is backwards" or something like that.😊 Or "men put pressure on women" blah blah blah.

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv 10 месяцев назад +13

      yep, I just put a comment that if your first interaction with someone is them trying to squeeze you for everything they can then how do you expect the rest of your life to go with them? This is where you're supposed to put your best foot forward and she's already exhausting.
      I've had to get rid of guy friends for the same shit. Some people will screw you out of $10 if they can save $1. It's in their DNA, they can't change, they won't change, just take out the trash and don't look back.

    • @av4781
      @av4781 10 месяцев назад

      Why does she says us as if she is speaking for all women, the lion, the witch and the audacity of this B* 🤣

    • @Butterflyyyxoxo
      @Butterflyyyxoxo 10 месяцев назад

      Everyone is what is in it for us. Why would a woman with better offers except a man that isn't on the top of that list?

    • @Maelstrom8
      @Maelstrom8 10 месяцев назад

      This.

  • @ianflanders5096
    @ianflanders5096 10 месяцев назад +314

    "What's in it for us?"
    Uh, love, companionship, stuff like that? Like that isn't valuable to you? This woman is basically admitting that she doesn't value men for anything other than their wallets.

    • @22quietmouse
      @22quietmouse 10 месяцев назад +22

      Don’t worry she’ll be changing her tune in another 10 years. Then she’ll be literally hoing around for that baby to trap a stranger since she couldn’t have one in a committed relationship or better yet marriage

    • @staygoldenmyboyM
      @staygoldenmyboyM 10 месяцев назад +10

      ​@@22quietmouseshe definitely will NOT get the cream of the crop but she will still complain she deserves better.

    • @lamar310
      @lamar310 10 месяцев назад +26

      She told on herself. Notice she went on an expensive date on Saturday with a view. The next day though she went out with another guy. So the guy who did spend big money got no sex and no loyalty...she's a user

    • @kaylas.5176
      @kaylas.5176 10 месяцев назад

      @@lamar310 If a man takes a woman out on an expensive date, does she owe him sex or loyalty? If a woman gives a man sex on the first date, does he owe her money or loyalty? I'm just confused on what correlation you are making and wondered if you could clarify.

    • @killahroundz457
      @killahroundz457 10 месяцев назад +7

      @@kaylas.5176 my thought is the fact that the guy took her on the EXACT 1st date that she was wishing for beautiful dinner with a view and then she immediately went on another date the next day with a different guy. Think about it what did that guy get from this whole scenario, he spent hundreds of dollars just to sit across from her and smell her finger sweat for 2 hours and then go home alone and sulk about his student loans

  • @Infinitespace04
    @Infinitespace04 5 месяцев назад +2

    "So you don't get beheaded"... my God who she dating?

  • @Vickolai
    @Vickolai День назад

    9:20 like is she expecting lobster steak and a baked potato for dinner?

  • @PhantomMite
    @PhantomMite 10 месяцев назад +602

    Fellas, ladies, and my people in between, if you cant appreciate or love someone for spending less on a date and put more thought and care into it, then your relationship aint gonna last.

    • @hdave5668
      @hdave5668 10 месяцев назад +6

      Spoken like a true one 😊

    • @Najobajo
      @Najobajo 10 месяцев назад +9

      Facts. Valuing time spent with that person over what their pockets can do shows true character. When you learn more, then you spend more.

    • @av4781
      @av4781 10 месяцев назад +9

      Tbh as a white woman l I can understand why black women feel neglected and say stuff like that. They don't nearly get as much as we do from men.

    • @Spanluver
      @Spanluver 10 месяцев назад

      Exactly. No girl is going to admit to being a golddigger she justified it in her mind already she’s legit psycho

    • @PhantomMite
      @PhantomMite 10 месяцев назад +4

      @av4781 Before I reply with what i think you said, can you clarify more on what you mean?

  • @Jules_Juliani
    @Jules_Juliani 10 месяцев назад +501

    This is actually really funny. I recently ran into a woman like this, who didn't like coffee dates for the same reason. She wanted to be wined and dined, yet I didn't even know her last name. When I wasn't vibing with her, she attacked my masculinity and my character and blocked me. That was the funniest thing that ever happened.😂

    • @nomadic_orthodox
      @nomadic_orthodox 10 месяцев назад +47

      Good for you, she was insane.

    • @petermulinzi1288
      @petermulinzi1288 10 месяцев назад

      attacking ur masculinity is like basic female manipulation
      they cover that in the first class

    • @jasminemiller1650
      @jasminemiller1650 10 месяцев назад +63

      Coffee dates are fine. The whole point of dating is getting to know the person and trying to feel them out. Apparently, some people seem to forget that.

    • @babiijean11
      @babiijean11 10 месяцев назад +14

      I love simple coffee or free dates! She's too worried about the money instead of actually getting to know you.

    • @BrianDonato
      @BrianDonato 10 месяцев назад +7

      Have had the same thing, multiple times women have took offense for me asking them out to get something casual like sandwiches. Lol. Dodged a bullet, good test.

  • @Robert.Sheard
    @Robert.Sheard 26 дней назад

    New rule. Date #1 will always be a coffee date from now on. If her standards are too high for that, I dodged the bullet.

  • @marleymar8232
    @marleymar8232 7 месяцев назад +1

    They get ready for hours just to get picked up while we over her moving mountains to get shit togther. 😂