Sibling Estrangement: Belonging and Excommunication

How to cope with ex-communication in the family?
In some families, a few members may hijack the narrative and impose their own perceptions on others through distortions and lies. A skewed narrative may lead to cutting off those who don’t conform to the family identity. This is a devastating outcome, as humans have a fundamental need to belong. Sibling relationships are particularly vulnerable and competitive, as differences in lifestyles, incomes, and personal beliefs can disturb relationships. When a family member is banished, the shunned and the shunner may be flooded with feelings of shame and guilt. This episode explores ways to cope with excommunication in the family and how to find a place to belong.
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[@annetteselent]

Thank you for this video. My excommunication is going on 8 years now. It is an aggravating thing to lose ground in the healing process by small bits of input from my abusers. My younger sister and mother were very deliberate in cutting me out of all things family. At the beginning they seemed smug and almost cocky about it. Now dad’s health is failing and mom is getting a bit “noodly” and demanding that it’s a child’s duty to take her in when dad passes. 🤷‍♂️. Too bad they shunned for years the daughter that was an RN working in long term care for 32 years. Sister who kinda started it all is now doing the whole “Shame on Annette for not calling the parents”.
Ugh! These are the times I bite my tongue and ignore them all right back.

[@KarenKeating-t2p]

Stay strong Annette ❤️
We are survivors and are not responsible for their choices🙏🤗

[@ambraiezzi5037]

Guys, the intro is so sad and lonely.
I love it very much.
It was such a sweet lullaby during my estrangement.
I was not alone because of you.
And even if now I don't give a damn of the estrangement anymore, I pop up and see you from time to time. My friends.
And what do I think about this now.
That we are normal.
We believed in brotherhood.
We are great brothers and sisters.
This is all that matters.

[@fernschumer186]

The intro serves to remind me that we keep going on our path, with or without siblings. Glad it speaks to you. And yes, you are not alone, and that's why we do this podcast.

[@alicewargacki3543]

Cast out I was homeless for 8 months living in my car. My olders sisters passed away. I miss them so much. I was closer to them than my brothers. My brothers sound angry with me if I ask for any help. They only help me at a certain point. The worst was when I was grieving over the lost of my sisters.